AN INDEPENDENT VOICE FOR THE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES OUT October 18, 2013 | Volume XI, Issue 11 Danish gay LGBT History Month pioneer Axel Axgil With so many things going on in October – Past, present gay rights organiza- Breast Cancer Awareness, Hispanic Heri- tion. After Denmark tage Month, National Coming Out Day – it and future became the first only seems feting that it should also be nation to legalize LGBT History Month. same-sex domestic partnerships, he and As far back as man or woman can re- his partner, Eigil Eskildsen, were the first member there has been an LGBT person couple to register. Born Axel Lundahl-Mad- making strides for the community. Doc- sen, he came out in the 1940s after meet- tors, lawyers, activists, and the list goes ing Eigil. The two men would later adopt on. Very proud people, some not as well the surname “Axgil” – a combination of known as others because of the times they Eigil and Axel – to acknowledge their com- lived in, but it seems that in the present mitment to one another. Inspired in 1948 day we are finding out more and more by the United Nations’ adoption of the about the history of the LGBT community. Universal Declaration of Human Rights, Let’s take a walk back in time and see Axgil cofounded Forbundet af 48 (F-48), just who some of these people are: Europe’s first gay rights organization. Axel Axgil was a Danish gay activist The couple also founded Vennen (“The and cofounder of Europe’s first postwar —continued on page 5 Sitcom is a Welcome Change for Justina Machado BY GRE GG S HA PIRO to portray her? mom so that she could go to work. I waited Even if you don’t know Justina Machado Justina Machado : I didn’t read the until my stepdad came home from work and by name, you probably recognize her as script, I read the sides (condensed script) he would take over. I loved it. I’ve always Vanessa from Six Feet Under or Stephanie first. I thought it was amazing. She was loved taking care of little babies. I don’t from Private Practice . Maybe you recent- funny. It also had to do with her being a have so much patience now that I’m older ly say her on the The Fosters , the series well-written character. I like that. It just fit [laughs]. But I loved it when I was younger . about the lesbian foster moms or as Pedro well. I read it and I automatically got it, I GS: Do you think Lisette would feel Zamora’s sister Milly in the biopic Pedro. understood it. This is the person I want to differently about the situation if it was The minute you see her or hear her voice, play. It was just that simple her daughter who was pregnant as op- she will be familiar to you. With her new GS: Lisette isnʼt just a mother, sheʼs posed to her son being the father? NBC sitcom Welcome to The Family, in also about to become a grandmother, JM : Wow, that’s a really good question. which she plays Lisette, the mother of col- and a young one at that. How are your I would hope that it wouldn’t be any differ- lege bound father-to-be Junior, Machado maternal instincts? ent because, male or female, they’re still 18 steps fully into the limelight. The series al- JM : I don’t have maternal instincts. I years old. You still worry about the rest of lows her to be funny and show off her funny don’t have any kids [laughs]. I am the old- their life ahead of them. I’m trying not to put side for a change, something she enjoys. est of five children. There’s quite an age myself in it (the answer) and think of what Justina spoke with me about Welcome to gap. With one of my brothers there is only Lisette would do. I know how Justina would The Family in advance of Hispanic Heri- a year. But with my sister there is 14 years. feel but I’m thinking that Lisette would be tage Month. I also have twin brothers and there are 17 for it and would feel the same way, the way Gregg Shapiro: Justina, you are years between us. I went to Lane Tech High she is with Junior. This is what the situation playing Lisette in the new NBC sitcom School (in Chicago). When I was a senior is, this is what you’ve chosen to do, I can’t Welcome to The Family . What was it my mother gave birth to the twins. I used do anything about that, you’re 18 years old, Justina Machado about that character that made you want to come home after school and relieve my —continued on page 4 NEWS // LOCAL

it’s a rehouse, use your imagination. I Dousing the Flames don’t want people to think they say deroga- tory things – not at all – but terms people BY S TEVE C HA RI NG “I’m up there two Gay firefighter might use that might be politically incor- Brian Cox, an openly gay man in the Lau- to three days a rect were avoided and they would rephrase Co-Publishers rel Volunteer Fire Department, was quick to week and sleep earns respect things when I’m around to make it politically Jim Becker • Jim Williams point out he chose this profession not be- in for an overnight correct. I didn’t want them to change how [email protected] cause he wanted to slide down poles or play almost every Fri- from colleagues, they speak or how they talked just because Executive Editor with big hoses, as he put it. It wasn’t because day. I nd myself I was there.” Jim Becker [email protected] he knew life members of the re department being there for 24 and it’s mutual Brian cites an example. “So one night on Managing Editor and they pushed him into it. The Laurel resi- to 36 hours at a duty crew, I noticed it was happening again. [email protected] dent bluntly admitted that he had a lot of free time some days Someone said something and immediately Director of Marketing & Production time with no real hobby that he enjoyed, so and it’s like it was nothing.” addressed me making sure I didn’t take of- Mary Taylor he gured it couldn’t hurt to check it out and When they aren’t running calls they train, fense to it. I responded by telling them to [email protected] see what it was about. wash the apparatus, and train again, and ‘Grow a pair and get over it.’ People are go- Leather Columnist It took a while to be processed given the then eat, and then train more. “It’s hard work; ing to say what they are going to say and talk Rodney Burger required paperwork and a physical exam, it’s not just a hang-out and we take it seri- they way they are going to talk. I’m not going Contributing Writers Joey Amato • Sharon Brackett • Rodney Burger • but on March 4 of this year Brian nally was ously. It’s really made me have more respect to be offended by rehouse talk. As soon as Joshua Buchbinder • Steve Charing • Jeffrey Claggett • voted in. It wasn’t long before he received for our rst responders, EMTs, and reght - I said that I think about half the jaws dropped Jeffrey Clouser • Wayne Curtis • Woody Derricks • his Baptism by re, so to speak. “I came up ers. You don’t realize all Denise R. Duarte • Chuck Duncan • Michael Farley • to the oor and a few start - Jon Fairbanks • Gerry Fisher • Bruce Garrett • Jeff Hammerberg • [on duty] the Wednesday after I got voted they do until you are one.” ed cracking up. I think I got Dr. Eva Hersh • Shirli Hughes • Michelle Lanchester, Esq. • in and we had a big re in the 100 block As a gay man in an through to them with that Dana LaRocca • Jessica Lemmo • Jay Loane • Rev. Meredith Moise • Bill Palmer • Gregg Shapiro of Main Street in Laurel. It ended up being environment such as a and since, it’s been like I’m an impressive two-alarm re,” Brian said. rehouse, one would Graphics just another guy. Amy Ray • Joe Velasquez “Normally people that were as new as I was think there would be some “I think I’ve also dis- Cartoonist are expected to sit on the sidelines and just sparks and concerns pelled some rumors and Bruce Garrett (Brucegarrett.com) watch. I decided I couldn’t and ended up about tting in. “That has misconceptions about the Photographers pulling and racking hose, helping clean up been the most surpris- gay community along the Aaron Antonio • Bruce Garrett • Daniel McGarrity • Jay W Photos and a few other things. I think that gained me ing part for me and I think way. The atmosphere is ba- Web Editor a lot of respect starting out.” for the other members as sically this: when you have Anja Saine [email protected] He was not about to be idle. If he was go- well,” Brian points out. to put your life on the line Managed Web Services ing to get into this, he wanted to make sure “It’s been an educational and you have to rely on the The Fusio Group he did it all the way. “From that night on, af- experience, I’ll admit. I guy or girl next to you to get 866-322-7498, Thefusiogroup.com ter seeing the re and everything that was was under the impression out alive, you don’t care who National Advertising Rep Rivendell Media happening on the re ground I was hooked. I that the re department they love or what they do in 908-232-2021 knew this was what I wanted to do.” was a bunch of hard-ass the bedroom, you care that Founders Since then Brian’s burning desire was guys that hung out there, they are trained to do the Jim Becker • Joe Berg • Mike Chase • to get through all the training and learn as worked out, and talked job, and that they have your Lee Mooney (1959-2007) • Jim Williams much as he could as fast as he could. He about re all day. Wrong! back when shit hits the fan.” is attending EMT classes now with a lot to It’s a real family, dysfunc- His boyfriend of two Baltimore OUTloud PO Box 4887 Baltimore, MD 21211 learn and should have his full re training tional and full of drama, years, Daniel, has been 410-244-6780 completed by this coming spring. but a family nonetheless.” very supportive of Brian and Baltimoreoutloud.com As much as Brian enjoys the excitement Brian made no attempt Brian Cox dressed for success his new line of work. “He is of being a reghter, he also gets pleasure to conceal his sexual ori- always asking about what Additional Information Baltimore OUTloud is published every other Friday by Pride from the camaraderie that’s associated with entation. “They thought, walking in, that I I’m doing and what I’m training on. He has Media, Ltd. in Baltimore, Maryland. Readers comments and it. “I’m the type of person who likes to be was straight,” he explains. “I didn’t hide it, been a major supporter and that has made unsolicited materials are welcomed and may be sent to: editor@ baltimoreoutloud.com. All materials appearing in this newspaper around people,” Brian states. “The rehouse and when asked if I had a girlfriend, I said being a volunteer easier. I have heard from are the property of Pride Media, Ltd. and may not be reproduced gives me that.” At his regular job performing no, I have a boyfriend. It took a couple peo- a lot of guys that volunteering takes a lot of without the written permission of the editor. IT Security work for the National Park Ser- ple by surprise and I think I caused a few time, and it does. It can stress a relationship vice, Brian sits in a cubicle all day at work, double-takes. I’m not amboyant and I don’t quite a bit and because Daniel has been so where the most human interaction he gets is wear daisy dukes to the rehouse or what - supportive, it’s made being a volunteer easier calling someone out in the eld. ever the gay stereotype is today. I think it since I do spend a lot of time up there.” “I love working with people so this [re - was, for some, a little surprising that a gay Brian’s efforts have paid off. On October ghter work] is my release, my fun time, my guy could keep up. But when I proved myself 12 at their annual banquet, he received the time to decompress from work. The people and showed that I’m just like the other guys, “Laurel Volunteer Fire Department Chief’s at the rehouse are great and when riding on it seemed like the gay thing went out the win- Award” in appreciation of his dedicated ser- EMS calls, you get to talk with the patients, dow. It’s not an issue and no one seems to vice, commitment and performance. do some good for the community, and help care.” Brian Cox is enjoying his time at the re The opinions expressed in Baltimore OUTloud are solely those of the writers unless otherwise indicated and do not necessarily them. It’s rewarding and an adrenaline rush Brian still hears some conversations department and nds it fullling to him as reflect the views of Pride Media, Ltd., and the staff. especially when you are rolling down the that may not be “politically correct” but that a person. “It’s a great place and has been © 2013 – All rights reserved road with the lights and sirens on.” doesn’t bother him. “I could tell that people an eye opening experience. I have learned Chair of the Board of Trustees – Jim Becker After only ve months on the job at Sta - would change how they talked and what some life skills and built relationships that I President – Jim Williams tion No. 10 in Laurel, Brian was nominated they said when I was in the room,” he notes hope will last and endure the test of time. It’s Secretary and Treasurer – Mike Chase for and received the Member of the Month with amusement. “People will call things like a second family and I’m proud to be a award. “That was a real boost,” he says. ‘gay’ or say ‘that’s so gay’ or other things... part of something so great.” t 2 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM NEWS // LOCAL Chrissy Jo Photography Baltimore LGBT History at Prime Timers DBA Memories by Design John Wood, Ph.D., tensions between a history teacher gay men and les- at the McDonogh bians, the impact School, will be of AIDS, and the the guest speaker professionalization SPECIALIZING IN: at the Prime Tim- of the rights cam- ers of Baltimore paign during the eddings monthly meeting 1980s. and pot luck din- Also, there will Events ner on November be a silent auction 10. It will take of treasures donat- place at St. Mark’s ed by Prime Timers Children's Photos Lutheran Church, Dr. John Wood speaking at the Village members and a live St. Paul andW 20th Learning Place in June credit: Steve Charing auction of two origi- Engagement Sessions Streets at 6:30 nal art pictures of p.m. male nudes. Dr. Wood will share his master’s thesis Prime Timers is a social/support orga- Senior’s Portraits research into the “Baltimore Gay Commu- nization of mature gay men, and those who nity, The Early Years.” The period saw the admire them. For information call 410-252- And More growth of pride in gay and lesbian identity, 7239 or visit Ptbalto.org. t

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BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 3 NEWS // LOCAL Police Commissioner Meets with LGBT Community

BY S TEVE C HA RI NG handling of Baltimore City Police s a m e - s e x Commissioner An- domestic vio- thony W. Batts along lence situa- with several officers tions between from the department s a m e - s e x met with members couples, the of the LGBT com- procedures in munity on October place to deal 10 at the Waxter with profiling Center. The meeting complaints, was arranged by the crime in the department’s LGBT Commissioner Batts speaking at the forum area and Advisory Council and credit: Aaron Antonio the success FreeState Legal. so far of the The forum, which “Public En- was scheduled as part of Baltimore Black emy No. 1” campaign. The police touted Pride’s weeklong celebration, was aimed statistics indicating a decline in violent and at opening lines of communications and to property crime from the previous year. improve relations between the department “Unfortunately, there were more police and LGBT folks. and city officials there than actually com- It also focused on alleged hate crimes munity members and stakeholders,” ac- as well as undue profiling and harassment tivist Rev. Meredith Moise commented on by police that targets community members. the surprisingly low turnout. “It is great to In addition, the manner and tone in which see the Commissioner and his staff reach- police officers have spoken to members of ing out to the Baltimore LGBT community. the public was also discussed. However, we, as a community, need to “We’re here to be open, we’re here to show up and be present for these events. A engage, we’re here to be part of the com- relationship is a two-way street. Hopefully munity – all parts of the community,” Batts more folks will show up to the next event.” said. The commissioner, who spoke of Others saw this meeting as a good growing up with a gay uncle, saw the high- first step. “The forum was the first of its profile beating of a gay man Kenni Shaw kind in Baltimore, that I am aware of, and last Christmas as the catalyst to improve we are grateful that Commissioner Batts communication. This led to the establish- took the time to specifically address the ment of the LGBT Advisory Council. concerns of Baltimore’s LGBT commu- Shaw and his supporters strongly be- nity,” Aaron Merki, co-chair of the LGBT lieve the attack outside a corner store in Advisory Council told Baltimore OUT- East Baltimore was a hate crime given loud . “It was a productive, open dialogue, Shaw’s sexual orientation and the fact that and we look forward to continuing our no robbery was committed. Batts indicated conversations with Commissioner Batts that the police have not reached the con- to improve relations between police and clusion that it was a hate crime and no the LGBT community. There is still a lot of such charges were filed. work to be done. This was only the begin- Other issues addressed included the ning.” t Exceed Your Expectations Guill PHOTOGRAPHY & V IDEO

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LGBT HI ST ORY her extended family moved to Red Cloud, Cather received a Pulitzer Prize “mother of the blues,” was MO NTH Nebraska. During adolescence, Cather was for her novel One of Ours. She re- one of the earliest known – continued from page 1 known for her masculine style of dress and ceived honorary degrees from the American blues singers and referred to herself as “Willie.” She grew up University of Michigan, Columbia, recording artists listening to the stories and Yale, and became Vito Russo was a gay Friend”), a gay magazine. In 1989, after of immigrants and was the rst woman to receive rights activist, a lm his - years of lobbying by the Axgils, Denmark fascinated by the people an honorary degree from torian and an author best became the first nation to recognize same- and the nature of prai- Princeton. known for his book, The sex domestic partnerships. The law gave rie life. This experience An activist, Holocaust Celluloid Closet , a ground- same-sex couples most of the rights and would inspire much of survivor and a Pulitzer breaking chronicle of gays obligations of marriage, excluding the right her novel My Antonia, prize-winning author, South African and lesbians in lm. to adopt a child. In 2012, as a result of the published in 1918. After just to name a few of the activist Simon Nkoli Most of these people groundwork laid by Axgil, Denmark legal- one of her essays was many that helped make we know from the news, ized same-sex marriage. published in the Lincoln LGBT history. But let’s look at the talk shows, theatre, and fashion. But where Gad Beck was a Holocaust survivor Journal , Cather decided present. There are so many well is the future coming from? New doors are who helped gays and Jews escape the Na- to pursue writing. Hav- known people like: opening for the LGBT communities and zis. He was born in ing earned her degree, Elio Di Rupo is the prime 2013 started it off with a bang right here in Berlin to a Jewish she relocated to Pitts- minister of Belgium and head of Maryland on January 1, with Maryland’s rst father and a Prot- burgh, Pennsylvania. the Socialist gay weddings. Laws are being estant mother who She worked for news- Party. He is passed to give the same right converted to Juda- papers and magazines, Belgian prime minister the rst open - to LGBT couples as the straight ism. In 1943, Beck and began publishing Elio Di Rupo ly gay man to couples. Where is the future and his father were her poetry and short sto- lead a nation. coming from... us we are the fu- Holocaust survivor seized by the Nazis. ries. Her work caught the attention of famed Simon Nkoli was ture. We can change the laws, Gad Beck The gentile wives editor S.S. McClure, who hired her for Mc- a South African anti- we can change the way the protested and con- Clureʼs magazine. She moved to New York apartheid, gay rights LGBT communities are looked vinced the Nazis to release the prisoners. and became acquainted with many promi- and AIDS activist. He at by others we are change... Beck joined an underground movement to nent writers. By 1908, Cather was one of is recognized as the we are the future. There is a help Jews escape to Switzerland. He re- the most inuential editors in the country. founder of South Af- old song with a great line in it: lied on non-Jewish gays to help hide the By the 1920s, Cather was considered one rica’s black gay move- Teach your children well their Jews. Beck led a Zionist group called “Chug of the leading American novelists. In 1922, ment. fatherʼs hell will slowly go by, Chaluzi” (Circle of Pio- Nathan Lane is I think it’s time to say goodbye neers). The organization an award-winning lm, to the old, remember the his- helped shelter, feed, and television and theater tory makers learn from their Author transport Jews to safety. In actor. He has received Hip-hop’s rst lady, teaching but now it’s your turn Willa three Emmys, two Tony Queen Latifah to make history. What will they 1945, he was betrayed by a Cather Jewish spy for the Gestapo Awards and a Screen say 50 years from now about and sent to a holding camp Actors’ Guild Award. your history makers in the LGBT communi- in Berlin. He was freed John Lawrence and Tyron Garner ties? t when the Allies defeated were defendants in the landmark Supreme Some of this article is adapted from the Nazis. In 2000, Beck’s Court case Lawrence v. Texas in which content from Equalityforum.com autobiography, An Under- laws prohibiting same-sex sodomy were ground Life: Memoirs of declared unconstitutional. The a Gay Jew in Nazi Berlin, 2003 decision, based on the Lawrence v. was published. In 2006, right to privacy, legalized con- Kansas litigants the lm The Story of Gad sensual same-sex intimacy. John Lawrence Beck was released. Beck Anderson Cooper is an and Tyron Garner was featured in “Paragraph award-winning news anchor, 175,” an HBO documentary author and talk-show host. about gay Holocaust survi- Known as hip-hop’s rst vors. Beck is survived by lady, Queen Latifah is an ac- Julius Laufer, his partner of claimed entertainer in music, 35 years. lm and television. Willa Cather was a Pu- Jason Wu is a fashion de- litzer Prize-winning author signer who became an over- and one of the most promi- night sensation when the rst nent American writers of lady, Michelle Obama, wore one the early 20th century. She of his gowns to the inaugural is best known for her nov- ball in 2009. els O Pioneers! and My An- José Sarria was a drag per- tonia. Born in Back Creek former, singer and activist. He Valley, Virginia, Cather was was the rst openly gay man in the oldest of seven chil- the world to run for public ofce. dren. At age ten, she and Ma Rainey , called the

BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 5 NEWS // LOCAL Equality MD Announces Performers for Gala Baltimore Shines at Singer / songwriter SONiA to Miss Gay America 2014 perform at gala

BY S TEVE C HA RI NG porters in a special way,” David A. Vigno- Equality Maryland announced a list of per- lo, the event’s co-chair and member of formers from across Maryland who will be the Equality Maryland Foundation board entertaining at their 25th anniversary gala of directors, told Baltimore OUTloud . “Our on October 27. Singer J.J. Nolis, songwrit- 25th Anniversary Gala and Brunch will not er/artist Steven Gellman, executive direc- only include an afternoon of great food, tor of Maryland Citizens for the Arts John some of the best LGBT entertainment in Schratweiser, popular group New Wave Maryland, and an exciting silent auction, Singers, soul singer Jonathan Gilmore, but will enable Equality Maryland to con- Baltimore native songwriter/artist SONiA, tinue its mission for the next 25 years and LAST WEEK THE BEST OF THE BEST girls – they did a wonderful job. St. Louis world music band Raa Djarsi, and vocalist beyond!” were in St. Louis, Missouri, at the Millen- received Baltimore with open arms," Bow- Lacey Liszt are scheduled to perform. Adam May, National Correspondent for nium Hotel to crown the next Miss Gay ers said. Aside from acknowledging Equality “America Tonight” on Al Jazeera America America 2014, after four very long days of in- Miss Gay Maryland Araya Sparxx is our Maryland’s 25 years of advocacy, the gala and Derek Valcourt, Emmy award-winning terviews, talent shows, and on-stage Q&As. reigning symbol of excellence, and Truly will also honor the work and achievements reporter for WJZ-TV will co-emcee the Among the contestants was a well- Fabu and Tatiyanna Voche were among of state senator Rich Madaleno (D-Mont- gala. known group from the Maryland area, lead the many contestants. gomery County). The event will run from 11 Individual tickets are $100 each, and by Charles L. Bowers, owner of Miss Gay Congratulations to Jessica Jade, Miss a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Lord Baltimore Hotel, Maryland newlyweds can receive a new- Maryland. "I'm very proud of the Baltimore Gay America 2014. t 20 W. Baltimore Street, Baltimore. lywed package for $170 including special “As we continue to expand and build recognition for newlywed status. For more on our past successes, we wanted to information and to purchase tickets, visit celebrate our 25th anniversary with the www.equalitymaryland.org/25th-anniver- Maryland LGBT community and our sup- sary-celebration-tickets. t Ford’s Theater to Honor National Coming Out Day and Matthew Shepard

This Friday, October 18 in Wash- the First Congressional United ington, D.C., Ford’s Theater will Church of Christ. The candlelight hold a fundraiser and candlelight vigil will take place at approxi- vigil to honor National Coming mately 10:15 p.m. – immediately Out Day and the 15th anniver- following the performance – on sary of Matthew Shepard’s pass- the sidewalk outside of Ford’s ing. Theater. Ford’s Theater will donate Matthew’s father, Dennis all of the proceeds from Friday’s Shepard, will deliver remarks performance of The Laramie and Rev. Dwayne Johnson of the Project to the Matthew Shepard Founda- Metropolitan Community Church of Wash- Miss Gay Maryland (reigning) Araya Sparxx and formers with Charles L. Bowers at the tion. ington will lead an interfaith moment of si- Miss Gay America pageant. Sabrina White and Diamond are in attendance but unable to Due to the government shutdown, lence. Members of the Gay Men’s Chorus be in this photo. Also here are Mark Hughes, Michael Jason Collins, Truly Fabu, Araya the performance will be held at 7:30 at of Washington will also perform. t Sparxx, Charles Bowers, Tatiyanna Voche, Sue Nami, and Chi Chi Ray Colby. 6 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM NEWS // NATION AL NJ High Court Will Hear Marriage Equality Case COMMAND MC

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BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 7 BEYO ND TH E BELTWA Y compiled by Jim Becker ist at the South Station Cinema, the first a lion, a wolf, a horse, caring nothing for gay porn movie house in Boston, and af- his usually immaculate appearance.” Alas, ter Glad Day bookstore closed in 2000, after Oscar Wilde’s trial for “gross indecen- John Mitzel, gay he opened Calamus, one of the few LGBT cy” (having same-sex relations) the boys’ bookstore owner & bookstores left in the country. As an au- mother Constance took them to Switzer- thor, Mitzel published several books: Last land and they did not see him again. activist, dies Gleamings, A Witch Hunt Foiled: The Bos- In the modern era, out LGBT parents ton Sex Scandal, Doubly Crost, Inferno go back well over half a century, as Daniel Boston, Massachusetts – Nationally re- Heights, and Some Poems . A memorial Winunwe Rivers’ new book, Radical Rela- nowned bookstore owner and activist John service was held at Calamus Bookstore tions: Lesbian Mothers, Gay Fathers, and Mitzel died in his sleep on October 4, from last Saturday. You can see his Fag Rag in- their Children in the United States since complications resulting from cancer treat- terviews at Vimeo.com/fagrag/videos (Bay the Second World War makes clear. And ments. Mitzel owned and operated Cala- Windows – Sue OʼCarroll at Baywindows. the term “gayby boom” is already over two mus Bookstore and previously managed com) [ In “ A Witch Hunt Foiled,” Mitzel decades old, dating to at least March 1990, the now closed Glad Day Bookshop, both chronicled the Boston- Boise Committee, Artegus Konyale Madden when Newsweek reported, “a new genera- in Boston. A native of Cincinnati, he arrived a group organized by radical gay men in tion of gay parents has produced the first- in Boston in 1965, after his mother insti- Boston in 1978, that successfully fought services at the Potter’s House of Dallas ever ‘gayby boom.’” That means that many tutionalized him a vicious homophobic attack by the Bos- regularly. The Rev. Carmarion Anderson, of the children from that boom are them- to cure him of ton district attorney on gay men who had who is also trans, said she met Madden selves now adults – while many of the first his homosexual- consensual sex with teenage youth. Mit- about 10 years ago through a mutual fam- generation of out parents are becoming ity, and became zel was also a regular contributor to The ily member. She said she had a passion grandparents. (Bay Windows – Dana Ru- a fixture in the Guide, an internationally distributed gay for living free and was a spiritual person, dolph at Baywindows.com) Boston LGBT travel magazine with a radical sexual lib- often saying that “living her ‘truth’ was the and radical com- eration bent. J. B.] appropriate way to display the Love of munities for over Christ provided to humanity.” (Dallas Voice 40 years. He is – Anna Waugh at Dallasvoice.com) one of the found- Remembering the ers of the tradi- tion of queer rad- No arrest in murder ‘good ole’ days’ in John Mitzel ical publications. of trans woman in LGBT history: Phoenix The fall after Who was the first the Stonewall Riots in 1969, Mitzel attend- small Texas town Phoenix, Arizona – Phoenix Police called ed Boston University and connected with gay parent? it the “Fruit Loop” or “the circuit” while the other gay and lesbian students who were Savannah, Texas – Investigators with the small corner park at Second Street and active in the early gay rights groups. In an Denton County Sheriff’s Office have few Philadelphia, Pennsylvania – As this Roosevelt was dubbed “Ho Row.” The interview posted on Vimeo.com, Mitzel and answers about the death of transgender year’s LGBT History Month gets into full downtown area from Roosevelt to Portland the others decided to publish a newspaper woman Artegus Konyale Madden. Mad- swing, I find myself wondering, “Who was and from First to Third streets was once in 1971, Lavender Vision. The publication den, 34, was found dead in her home on the world’s first known LGBT parent?” To a notorious pick-up location populated day was targeted and produced by both men Hayden Lane in Savannah Estates by the best of my knowledge, she was the and night by male “hustlers” – in and out of and women, but the women wanted to pub- friends on September 1. Savannah is a Greek poet Sappho, whose island home of drag, according to Marshall Shore, the self- lish a newspaper for and by women only. small town east of Denton. Her death was Lesbos gave us the term “lesbian.” Sap- proclaimed “Unofficial Arizona HIPstorian.” Mitzel and the men responded in kind. ruled a homicide by the Tarrant County pho seems to have had a daughter named The area’s infamous history includes col- Fag Rag, named by Mitzel, hit the streets Medical Examiner’s Office, which covers “Cleis” – meaning we can trace LGBT par- orful stories that could have disappeared quarterly starting in 1971 and published for Denton County. She was killed in her liv- ents back to about 600 BCE. That’s worth after the neighborhood was “cleaned up” about 10 years. ing room with the cause of death a gunshot repeating: 600 BC! I know – it’s anach - before the 1996 Super Bowl XXX. Mitzel was associated with many firsts wound to the neck. Her death was one of ronistic to apply modern identity terms to The people who remember those – he was one of the organizers of Boston’s four September homicides in the country historical figures. And the existence of her days are becoming fewer. Shore was so first gay pride march; he was a projection- that affected the female minority transgen- daughter is only attested through a few intrigued he has developed a presenta- der community. Over half of the anti-LGBT fragments, making it far from certain. Still, tion called the Fruit Loop Run, which he murders are of trans-women. Sappho is such an important icon of LGBT said “will explore, document and celebrate Investigators are not releasing much history that I think we can at the very least our queer history.” The October 18 event These news notes have been compiled, information surrounding the incident. No view her as the symbolic first LGBT parent. also will serve as the kick off for a project with permission, from the online version motive or suspect information has been Knowing our roots is important for us, – Tales of the Rainbow Cactus – intended of various newspapers and other web made public. The lead investigator on the our children, and the continuing fight for to capture the stories of the LGBT commu- sites. We than k these publications for case has not returned numerous calls over equality. The right-wing often tries to make nity, Shore said. The run will begin at the allowing us to bring you their news sto- several weeks. Denton County Sheriff’s LGBT parents seem like a new and untest- Dressing Room, 220 E. Roosevelt Street, ries. Usually the reports have been sig- Office spokeswoman Sandi Brackeen said ed phenomenon, but there are surprising and will trace a route that passes the plac- nicantly edited and you can read the she didn’t know if the case was a hate glimpses of us throughout history. Oscar es where members of the community used full story by going to the web site men- crime. She said officials are not releasing Wilde, for example, was a father of two to congregate, Shore said. That puts the tioned following the item. Comments any information about the case because it boys, and apparently a loving one. His son location just a couple of doors down from are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker is still under investigation. Vyvyan, in his book Son of Oscar Wilde , the old 307 Lounge and just a block east and not of Baltimore oUtlo Ud or Pride Madden grew up in Longview and at- wrote, “he was a hero to us both. . . . a real and south of Cruisin’ on Central, two bars Media. tended the University of Texas at Arlington, companion to us.... He would go down on that also attracted the crowd to the area. according to her obituary. She attended all fours on the nursery floor, being in turn “I had only been to the 307 once before 8 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM BEYO ND TH E BELTWA Y it closed down,” Shore said. “I’ve been to ma City Theatre Company plans to present regulation.” least once, while the White Horse stayed Cruisin’ Central many times. Both remind- The Most Fabulous Story Ever Told at the The notice, which hilariously refers to in its original location. Both were likely ed me of New York City-style bars with a Civic Center. As the press material states, a port-a-potty as a “masturbation facility,” gay-friendly speakeasies during Prohibi- diverse mix.” the play “ponders what the world would be claims that there have been several cases tion. Meanwhile, the oldest extant gay bar “The Fruit Loop Run provides an op- like had God made Adam and Steve and of illness in the region due to exposure to in New York City is the Candle Bar, which portunity for the LGBT community to learn Jane and Mabel, not Adam and Eve.” The bodily fluids. That sounded a little scientifi- opened in April 1966. Julius in New York a little of its past, Shore said, “[a]s Roo- Civic Center said it does not censor shows cally fishy to me, so I reached out to the City opened in the 1800s, but harassed sevelt becomes more gentrified, we need and will host the production. (Dallas Voice Navy Corpsman who was my medic when gay customers until the Mattachine Soci- to keep the tales/history of our queer roots – David Taffet at Dallasvoice.com) I was deployed to Helmand province in ety organized a “sip-in” there in 1966. (Gay visible, so that they do not get swept un- 2011. He called it malarkey. “Unless they’re Peopleʼs Chronicle – Anthony Glassman at der the proverbial rug.” Shore, who came getting semen in an open wound, there’s gaypeopleschronicle.com) [ Leonʼs is the to Phoenix 14 years ago, added he hopes no way,” said Petty Officer 2nd Class Eric oldest gay bar in Baltimore. It was gay to make the event an annual one. A former Dodson, a Corpsman with 2nd Marine Di- friendly in the early 1960s and completely librarian, he used a variety of sources to vision in Camp Lejeune, N.C. “There’s no gay by 1965 or 1966. – J. B] build his knowledge of the area. Shore’s transdermal infection passable through presentations are history-based tours with semen, at least to my knowledge.” (The a twist. His focus is on the weird, the won- Business Insider – Brian Jones at http:// derful, the obscure and the semi-forgotten www.businessinsider.com/military-crack- people, places and events. (Echo Maga- ing-down-on-masturbation-in-afghanistan- Lebanon bans zine – at Echomag.com) 2013-10#ixzz2hd5 LYWPY) French film for gay content

Oklahoma theater Cleveland gay bar Beirut, Lebanon – Lebanon has censored a French film depicting homosexuality and loses funds for holds 60th year a local short film about the tradition of tem- presenting gay play with same owner porary marriage among some Shiite Mus- lims, film festival organizers said. The Bei- Oklahoma City, Oklahoma – An Okla- ‘Don’t masturbate,’ Cleveland, OH – One of the oldest gay rut International Film Festival said it had homa City theater company is under at- bars in the country, and perhaps the old- been informed by censors that it could not tack because it will present a play by gay Marines told in est with the same owner, has celebrated screen ʻLʼinconnu du lacʼ (Stranger by the playwright Paul Rudnick in December. Afghanistan its 60th anniversary. The Paradise Inn, Lake), a thriller by Alain Guiraudie about State Rep. Dan Fisher belongs to a group owned for all six decades of its existence two men who fall in love after meeting at a called “Patriot Pastors.” As a result of his Helmand Province, Afghanistan – An im- by Evelyn Kinsey, marked that milestone cruising spot for gay men along the shore efforts, the theater company has already age making the rounds on Facebook gave on Saturday, October 12, with a tremen- of a lake. The other film is “I Offered You lost $5,000 in funding from the Oklahoma us a chuckle – it’s a notice posted in a port- dous party. At 60, it is not only the oldest Pleasure,” by 26-year-old Lebanese direc- Arts Council. a-potty on Camp Leatherneck in Helmand gay bar in Cleveland, but likely the oldest tor Farah Shaer. It deals with the contro- Another member of the group is Steve province, Afghanistan, and it sends a clear single-owner gay bar in the nation. versial subject of temporary marriage, or Kern, husband of state Rep. Sally Kern, message to the troops deployed there: “I’m from a small town in Ohio, you’ve “pleasure marriage,” a tradition among the notorious homophobe in the Oklahoma Stop playing with yourself, or else. probably never heard of it,” Kinsey said. some Shiites that opponents view as an House. Rep. Kern blamed Dallas Voice for The notice threatens anyone in vio- “Augusta. And my grandmother owned excuse for sex outside of conventional “bashing” her. And if you haven’t already lation of this silly rule with legal action, a tavern before Prohibition, and I always wedlock, otherwise forbidden by Islam. had enough of Sally Kern in Oklahoma specifically under Article 92 of the Uni- had the idea of wanting one, but my family A security official said the censorship state government, her husband has an- form Code of Military Justice. Affection- didn’t drink so I came to Cleveland.” The board, which is attached to the interior nounced that he is running for state Sen- ately dubbed the “catch-all” by Marines, Paradise Inn started as a simple neighbor- ministry, had concluded the two films did ate. Article 92 allows the military to prosecute hood bar, but some time in that first de- “not meet its criteria” and that the minis- Despite the loss of funding, the Oklaho- its troops for “failure to obey an order or cade, the clientele started to shift, possibly ter would make a final decision on them. because Kinsey herself is lesbian. Nowa- Despite unbridled access to media via the days, the older gentlemen in the neighbor- Internet and the widespread pirating of hood will swing through during the day for DVDs, censors in multi-sectarian Lebanon a beer, and by the late afternoon, the LGBT ban all artistic works they believe incite customers start filling the place. “You’ve sectarian strife, undermine morals or state got to have a place to go,” she posited. “In authority, or which further “Israeli propa- some ways, it went very fast, but I guess ganda.” when you enjoy what you’re doing, that’s Lebanon also respects a region-wide what happens,” she said. “I enjoyed it more boycott of the Israeli arts enforced by the when I drank. I haven’t drank (sic) in 40 Arab League. Earlier this year, Beirut cen- years.” “It’s a lot of hard work, I’ll tell you sored Lebanese director Ziad Doueiri’s that,” she continued. award-winning film “The Attack” because it The tavern reputed to be the oldest gay was partly shot in Tel Aviv with Israeli ac- bar in the country is the White Horse in tors. t (News Daily at http://www.news- Oakland, California, which turned 80 ear- daily.com/article/1345d635bea16ffe3a0c8f lier this year. The same year, Lafitte in New 94ce7884be/lebanon-censors-french-film- FLAMIN’ IN THE NAVY IN FLAMIN’

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BY JE N CO LL ETTA which also includes such items as a handwrit- Fryer’s thought process. knowledge, the ‘truth,’” Fryer wrote. Philadelphia Gay News ten draft of the U.S. Constitution and William In places, where Fryer had initially writ- He nished his address by speaking di - With a stroke of a pen 40 years ago, LGBT Penn’s 1682 deed with the Delaware Indians, ten in past tense, he changed the words to rectly to his fellow LGBT psychiatrists, an in- people were “cured.” Fryer’s speech stood out as a natural t. present tense, perhaps as a means to com- formal club he dubbed “The GayPA,” urging In 1973, the American Psychiatric “The history of gay rights in America is municate the ongoing impact of antigay them to speak out against anti-LGBT com- Association made the groundbreaking move an emerging history, and it’s an exciting, sentiments, and he also modied singu - ments from their colleagues, to remain objec- of declassifying homosexuality as a mental emerging history,” said Rachel Moloshok, lar rst-person pronouns to plural, seeming - tive when treating LGBT patients and to “pull disorder, after a lengthy campaign by such your courage up by your bootstraps and dis- activists as Frank Kameny, Barbara Gittings cover ways in which you as homosexual psy- and Kay Lahusen. chiatrists can be appropriately involved in But, one of the key factors thought to have movements which attempt to change the at- spurred the policy change was a speech at titudes of both homosexuals and heterosexu- the 1972 APA convention in Philadelphia – in als toward homosexuality.” which “Dr. H. Anonymous,” clad in a mask, Throughout the online exhibit, viewers wig, baggy clothes and using a voice-altering can zoom in on documents, scroll across microphone, became the rst gay American them and read histories about the context of psychiatrist to speak publicly about his sexu- each piece. al orientation. “We think primary-source documents Now, 40 years after the APA’s decision, like this speech, where you can look direct- Dr. Anonymous’ seminal speech continues to ly at the words as they were written, are really open eyes. valuable,” Moloshok said. The original copy of the speech has In addition to Fryer’s speech, the initia- been digitized and included on the Historical tive also includes an original brochure of Society of Pennsylvania’s new Preserving the 1968 Annual Reminder at Philadelphia’s American Freedom website, launched in Independence Hall, one of the nation’s earli- September, which highlights 50 historic doc- est LGBT-rights demonstrations. uments that examine the tenets of American And many of Fryer’s other papers have freedom. been digitized in HSP’s online database The speech was discovered among the and are available for view in person at the more-than 200 boxes donated to HSP by archives. the sister of Dr. John Fryer, the man behind Echevarria did caution that HSP had to put Dr. Anonymous’ mask. Fryer was a Temple certain restrictions on some of his papers that University professor and one of the founders included patient information. But, other per- of the Philadelphia AIDS Task Force. Upon sonal documents include entries from his diary his 2003 death, his sister donated his papers from the day after the APA speech, letters be- to HSP. tween him and Kameny and correspondence In 2011, as the collection was be- with the APA when some association leaders ing processed as part of a civic-engage- attempted to reinstate antigay policies. ment project – an effort supported by the “We also have a very rich collection re- National Historical Publications and Records garding the history of AIDS in Philadelphia,” Commission – Willhem Echevarria, HSP cat- Echevarria said. “He was really the rst psy - aloguer who was then an archival processor, chiatrist who treated patients with AIDS. made the surprising discovery. There’s a lot of information about the epidem- “We were of course aware of Fryer’s ic hitting Philadelphia, very rich information.” speech to the APA but when we were pro- Moloshok noted that the Preserving cessing it, we weren’t aware the actual American Freedom project gives viewers – handwritten speech was in the collection,” whom she envisioned to be everyone from Echevarria said. “So when I found it, that was students of all ages to anyone with a passion a big moment. You love those moments when for history, politics or civil rights – a slice of you can nd something historically important the wealth of historical artifacts HSP houses. that’s right there in front of you.” Draft of famous speech “These are just 50 documents of the thou- HSP houses thousands of documents at sands and thousands we have,” she said. its Philadelphia headquarters, and functions Preserving American Freedom project man- ly to emphasize that he was not alone in his “This hints at the depth and breadth of the not as a museum, but as a library and ar- ager. “And this document is very ground- petition. content we have in our collections. I do hope chives; researchers, educators and anyone breaking; it speaks to the need for the free- The speech itself details the myriad pres- it’ll inspire people to dig deeper, start asking with a knack for history can come in and pe- dom of gay men and women to live openly, sures that LGBTs working in the psych eld more questions and do more research.” ruse the collections in person. About 77,000 freely and honestly without being stigmatized faced keeping their personal and private lives To view the Preserving American of its documents are preserved in a digital da- as mentally ill.” separate, including the threat of persecution Freedom project, visit Digitalhistory.hsp.org/ tabase to promote wider viewing. The nine-page speech was written in from employers to which they were loyal. preserving-american-freedom and, for the When HSP was compiling selections felt-tip marker on yellow legal paper and in- “Many of us work 20 hours daily to pro- entire speech, see Digitalhistory.hsp.org/ for the Preserving American Freedom proj- cludes a number of scratched-out words and tect institutions who would literally chew us up node/7484. To learn more about HSP or view ect, which is funded by Bank of America and rephrasings, allowing the viewer to follow and spit us out if they know, or chose to ac- the full digital database, visit Hsp.org. t

10 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM jerks who seethed with hatred. This horror Jimenez claimed that Shepard and at least felt by ordinary citizens enabled the law one of his killers (McKinney) had been oc- that President Obama strongly favored to casional sexual partners. Of course, many be passed in Congress. Fortunately, it was people have discounted Jimenez’s version accomplished before the Tea Party crack- citing McKinney’s earlier “gay panic” de- OUT pots were voted in the following year. fense. Spoken This 15th anniversary of the murder Seizing an opportunity to rail against Steve Charing was supposed to be a poignant remem- gays, radio host and Fox News contribu- brance of the tragedy, a reflection on the tor Sandy Rios on October 12 spoke at the hatred and violence that LGBT people Values Voter Summit in Washington spout- have faced and continues to face at the ing anti-gay rhetoric. She regurgitated the Tarnishing hands of virulent and ignorant haters. And right-wing myth contained in Jimenez’s yet, we note that not all of society has fully book by labeling Shepard’s murder “a total the Memory embraced tolerance of gays or the facts of fraud” and that the murder was being used history for that matter. In the latter case, it by liberals to foster acceptance of gay peo- of Matthew is simply denial, and it’s used for political ple by society. purposes. There have been some reports that Shepard Earlier in the month, while presenting Matthew Shepard credit: NPR Matthew Shepard had been involved with The Laramie Project – a widely produced drugs and that he may have known McK- play about Matthew Shepard – at the Uni- inney. However, none of that was brought It’s been 15 years since the brutal murder versity of Mississippi (better known as up at the trial. I will continue to go with the of Matthew Shepard, a gay 21-year-old “Ole Miss” in the sports vernacular), some Murder of Matthew Shepard by Stephen police investigators and prosecutors that college student. For those who do not re- 20 athletes who were required to take a Jimenez. He was the producer of the ABC Shepard’s brutal murder was an act of hate call this seminal event in the LGBT rights theater course, heckled the actors, call- News program 20/20 segment that aired in based on his sexuality and I won’t allow re- movement, Shepard was in the Fireside ing them “fags” or “faggots” and insulting 2004 that claimed that Shepard’s murder visionists or right wing extremists besmirch Lounge in Laramie, Wyoming, on the night their body types. This was an act of disre- was not because of his sexual orientation his memory. t of October 6-7 when he met two young spect that was characterized by a faculty but rather a drug-related robbery that went To read more about discrediting men, Aaron McKinney and Russell Hen- member as “borderline hate speech.” The violent. Jimenezʼs version of history, visit Me- derson. Apparently, Shepard told these heckling was ironically disheartening given The book revived and amplified those diamatters.org/blog/2013/10/02/debunk- men he was gay, and needing a ride, they what The Laramie Project is all about. claims, which are contrary to the generally ing-stephen-jimenezs-effort-to-de-gay- offered to drive him home. “I was disappointed to see that a num- accepted version of events. Additionally, mat/196229 McKinney and Henderson left the bar ber of Ole Miss football players and others with Shepard, robbed, pistol whipped and in the audience decided to interrupt a per- tortured him at a field on the edge of town, formance of the play using anti-gay slurs,” and left him to die, tied up to a fence. He Judy Shepard told Queerty . “Using hate- was so badly battered and bloodied that filled words to interrupt a play about anti- the person who discovered Shepard 18 gay hate is a sad irony that only reminds hours later, Aaron Kreifels, a cyclist, at first me of the work we at the Matthew Shepard thought he was a Halloween scarecrow. Foundation and each of us as individuals He died on October 12 , never regaining must undertake to help stop hate.” consciousness. Though a single apology represent- The belief was that this murder took ing the students did not come off as sin- place because of Shepard’s being gay. cere, driving one of the actors to tears, the McKinney at one point even used a “gay school has taken steps to rectify the situa- panic” defense during the subsequent trial tion. The Chancellor and Athletics Director asserting that he had been so shocked by issued a joint statement pledging that the Shepard’s alleged sexual advances, he individuals involved will be “held account- was somehow not culpable. Both convict- able.” They concluded by saying: “On be- ed killers are serving life sentences. half of our 22,000 students, our faculty, We do not have to look too hard to find and our staff, we apologize.” a silver lining through the dark clouds of Officials see this incident as a learning hatred, bloodshed and death: this heinous experience. “We will be engaging our stu- crime led to the passage of the Matthew dent-athletes with leaders on the subject Shepard and James Byrd, Jr., Hate Crimes of individuality and tolerance, so we can Prevention Act that was signed into law further enforce life lessons and develop in 2009 by President Obama. In addi- them to their fullest potential,” they said in tion, many locales around the U.S. also a statement. expanded hate-crime statutes to include Ole Miss has just celebrated LGBTQ sexual orientation. month and held a Pride celebration as well. The needed legislation was accom- The reaction to the incident and the mea- plished mainly through the tireless work of sures taken should not to be shrugged off Shepard’s parents, Judy and Dennis, as given the university’s less than stellar his- well as by LGBT organizations and activ- tory with civil rights. ists. The rest of society saw the image of Another stain on Matthew Shepard’s this fragile-looking young man and imag- memory was the release last month of ining his being beaten senseless by two The Book of Matt: Hidden Truths About the BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 11 TH INK ING OUTL OUD

somehow embarrassed or ruined their REAL TRANS TALK: Carousels lives, feel the need to assertively kick their trans spouse to the curb, sometimes after and Funhouse Mirrors decades of marriage resulting in fractured Rational families and estranged children. Workers BY VANN MI CHA EL point just yet. “Hermaphrodite!” they taunt - T-hought with years of exceptional service tossed Our future is in our youth! Young people ed. At that time I did not have the ability to Sharon Brackett out like yesterday’s garbage. Arguably with possess the innocence to see life in its protect myself and I really felt alone, one the destruction of so many support sys- most natural state; therefore, they embody saying that helped me cope was, ‘sticks tems during transition it is a wonder that the necessary hope to over come life’s and stones may break my bones...’ What Solitary as many make it as they do. Transitioning challenges. Trans Youth are definitely one an untruth! The words cut deeper than I may be the most difficult journey possible of the vital keys to moving the transgen- was willing to admit or entertain; afterall I Confinement for a human being. der movement forward. Mykell Hatcher- had to survive and there was no room to Trans women sometimes seek support McLaurin, a senior at the University of allow myself to fully feel the pain. Last month we lost a local community from other trans women. They form friend- Maryland, College Park campus, is an The pressure grew too great and dur- member by her own hand. I knew her, but ships, some last, some don’t. On rare oc- excellent example of the youthful keys. At ing my eighth grade year I attempted to not well. A week ago there was another casions some blossom into relationships, such a young age he has made major con- conform to social norms and expectations report, this time from California, that a most do not. And so while walking this road tributions to the local and national trans by changing the way I dressed. I am sure physician, near my age, had decided to you often wake up one day and realize you community. Real Trans Talk recently re- this sent a mixed message to some and end things for herself. I did not know her are really quite alone. And it can weigh counted his early journey as a trans youth. confirmed others belief or denial; every- either; however, I did know some aspects heavy on the soul. And then you read an I grew up with my mom and older sis- thing I was going through was just a phase of her journey. As I have said in the past, article about how so-and-so killed them- ter in Baltimore City. My dad passed away and the girl has now emerged. Little did each transition road is different. Different selves. And one thing I am certain of is that when I was very young. Looking back I they know I was just trying to find peace; a timings in a lifetime, different family situ- most of them who do so were so very ter- realized that I was too young to fully un- place where I felt comfortable. Trans Youth ations, different work situations, different ribly alone when it happened. derstand what I felt in elemen- struggles oft times are mis- social situations. As I usually And so this begs tary school, but I simply knew labeled as the rebellious tell others, I can only tell you the question why are I was different. We are explor- teenager, or as a phase, of my experience, your mile- things like this? And ing ourselves in relation to the leading to our existence be- age may vary. But in many what should “we” do world, and figuring out the mes- ing invalidated, our voices cases I can tell you that often, about it? Our small sages being conveyed from my unheard and our needs un- too often, that journey is ex- “T” community tries to environment whether verbal or met. I felt like I had to wear perienced alone. And that is a support each other as nonverbal. If someone were to fitted clothing and act like I problem. best we can. We have look at my childhood from the was interested in a guy to An observation I have very few resources to outside it appeared very easy going, how- prove a point. I was a young person of col- made about trans women is do that. Some of us ever there was an internal struggle. or who was being identified as female, en- that for many of us the transi- stick together in small Elementary school is where I felt my tering high school, intrinsically attracted to tion leads to isolation and in collectives to try and first inclination that something was differ- self-identified female persons, living within many cases deep, damaging make sure the others ent about me. In my social groups I did not a community that outwardly does not sup- and permanent loss. Loss of family and do not falter. I, for instance, have a “posse” truly fit; there was a small voice informing port same-gender-loving people and I was spouse for some, employment for others, of persons that I sometimes can “tap” when me that ‘something’ was not quite right. only about 14 or 15 years of age. social standing and economic solvency for I feel I need support, and they also tap me. Nonetheless, I continued to hang out and My internal struggle, to no surprise many and not uncommonly, in some in- If it were not for this modest confederation progress socially until I entered the upper only grew once I entered City College High stances a combination of all of these. I’ve I would fear for the outcome of some of us. echelon of elementary school, fourth and School. Maintaining a ‘femme’ image dur- heard some who are not trans say, “Well The solution I think is we need to have fifth grade. I now had a best friend and ing my freshman year, I encountered one what did you expect?” I remember my ex roots beyond only being trans. I know developed an attraction toward her; yet of my first public anxiety meltdowns. I ac- offering me the quip “Isn’t that what you many of us try, and we get rejected. But these feelings were forbidden. My obser- tually had to change into my gym uniform wanted, a whole new life?” I thought about I would pose to you dear reader (who is vations showed me that girls were not sup- in the girls locker room. I recall thinking, it and said, “No, I want the life I have, just likely not trans, and might not even be part posed to like girls. Only exposed to males “How can I do this?” I didn’t want anyone with the freedom to be myself every single of the LGBT community). Do you have a and females sharing intimate spaces as to see my body and it was not due to the day. To be authentic .” Alas, for some out person in your life who is trans? Have you couples and I was being identified as a assumed female body image issues. I did there, “authentic” is uncomfortable, unfath- invited them to dinner or a movie recently? female so ‘logically’ my natural attraction not wish to see nor display a body that did omable and unacceptable. Have you asked them to come over and must be flawed. The weird twist was that not reflect my internal sense of gender. “Men” who have “chosen” to be women watch the game or join in a celebration? I was attracted to her not as a girl but as Eventually, I found myself in a corner in the are not “OK” in our male privileged society. Dropped by with a bottle, unannounced, someone else. I liked her in the way that isolated part of the locker room crouching Mind you, I have never met a single trans just because? boys liked girls but I was being identified behind a stack of unused desks safely pre- woman who “chose” to be trans; they just If you found them even remotely at- as a girl! Forced to stuff my feelings, we paring for gym. simply “are.” For many of us the choice is tractive have you considered asking them continued to be friends until the fateful fifth I found myself in isolation, all that mat- to live an honest life or “take a dirt nap.” I on a date? Or better yet, just give them a grade year; we parted because it was time tered was getting good grades, at least I know. I, like 41% of my trans siblings, had call and tell them you care about them and to move on to middle school. knew how to do that right. I did not want to faced this and had opted for dirt nap at one believe them to be important in your life? The degrading verbal harassment deal with gender, gender identity or sexual point. Fortunately, I failed. When you do these things you are asking started during my seventh grade year. My orientation. Overwhelmed, I stuffed my emo- What many do not see is the abject them to come out of Solitary Confinement classmates heckled me saying, “You want tions again. Misunderstood and unheard I isolation that can impact a trans woman. and spend some time with you. It could to be a man!” I denied the accusations, but really didn’t know where or who to turn to. Spouses who have decided that the trans make a huge difference and would be in- it was obvious that my peers were sensing The bigger question was how will I make person has somehow deceived them, credibly human for you to do so. t something within me that I could not pin- through high school without losing it? t 12 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM QUAL ITY OF LIFE Obamacare and HIV decreasing day length do to keep our moods from falling in the fall? HIV-positive and ready to sign up? Hold on a Minute Need to Hibernate BY JO HN PELL ER treatment. But medications and doctors are Open Wide Dear Bear, October 1 marked a massive win for gay men expensive. ask Dr Eva People with your symptoms often have and other men who have sex with men. Yes, Even with insurance, HIV medications Dr Eva Hersh Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of we’re talking about the intersection of health can cost up to $300 a month. Many people depression that is triggered by decreasing day insurance marketplaces and the LGBT com- who are living with HIV need nancial assis - length. One in every 5 people has some de- munity. tance from the AIDS Drug Assistance Pro- SAD: Shorter gree of SAD. It occurs in both men and wom- Nearly 500,000 gay, bisexual, and other gram (ADAP) to afford life-saving medica- en, and is more common in women. men who have sex with men are living with tions now, and that will still be the case with Days, Lower Each person who suffers from SAD has HIV. This makes health care reform vital. The health reform. their own personal pattern of symptoms and U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Pre- However, ADAP ofcials in every state Moods individual timing of when the problem starts vention (CDC) reported that gay men or other need time to review the new plans, which, like and ends. Each person’s pattern repeats in a men who have sex with men comprise 56 per- the general public, they received on October Dear Dr. Eva, similar way every year. Most people with SAD cent of people living with HIV. 1. Once they determine which ones they can Every year, I seem to have a big loss of en- notice low mood and fatigue starting in Oc- Before October 1, people with HIV were cover nancially, your opportunity to select ergy and more low/sad moods as the days get tober or November, although for some it can discriminated against in the private health in- the best plan for you – at the lowest cost – shorter. It usually starts in October or Novem- start as early as August or as late as Decem- surance market because they were labeled greatly increases. Not every state ADAP ber. It gets harder and harder to get out of bed, ber. Most people with SAD will start to feel bet- with a preexisting condition. But with the will be able to cover health reform plans, so to the point that I am late to work. It’s harder ter by March or April. opening of new insurance marketplaces, that check with your state. for me to deal with people in normal day-to- SAD can be part of chronic depression: practice has fallen to the wayside. Medications : When you examine poten- day interactions. I cry much more easily than that is, a person who has some degree of Medicaid and comprehensive private cov- tial plans, ask yourself: are my HIV medica- usual. A lot of the people around me also seem depression year-round becomes more de- erage through health insurance marketplaces tions and other prescription drugs covered, to be feeling bad and are commenting on the pressed and generally “slowed down” during will revolutionize health care access for a and how much will it cost to ll them? shorter days. Other than migrate South in the late fall and winter. Often, though, people with major segment of the LGBT population: gay People with HIV rarely have the option winters, what can those of us affected by the SAD have no symptoms of depression the rest men – and other men who have sex with men to switch medications, since drug regimens of the year. Some SAD symptoms resemble – and who are living with HIV. are individually tailored to each person’s par- other types of depression: low energy, de- But hold on. ticular strain of HIV. So make sure your drugs creased ability to concentrate, sad feelings, Seriously, wait. are covered by your new insurance plan and Managing and irritability. SAD is like hibernation in some It’s tempting to jump into health reform nd out if there are medical criteria you must ways: just like bears preparing for a long winter and sign up for coverage. But if you have HIV, meet before obtaining the drug. Many health Winter Depression / sleep, people with SAD crave carbohydrates, resist the urge to be among the rst to enroll. plans list HIV medications as specialty drugs, S.A.D. sleep more, and exercise less. SAD can also October 1, 2013, was important, but it meaning you may face high out-of-pocket lead to other symptoms that occur in all forms wasn’t paramount. December 15 matters costs to purchase them. • Light therapy: sit in front of a bright of depression: withdrawal from others, hope- more. You must enroll in a health insurance Providers : Make sure your health care light for at least 20 continuous minutes lessness, and loss of enjoyment in one’s fa- plan by then to begin coverage the rst day providers are in-network for the plan you’re twice daily, once between 6 and 8 AM vorite activities. it’s available: January 1, 2014. selecting. You have probably worked hard to and once between 6 and 8 PM. The most effective treatment for SAD is If you’re living with HIV, there are three nd providers that meet your needs, which • Exercise is a natural antidepres- light therapy. This does not mean turning on things you need to get right when selecting a translates to better HIV care. If your current sant. Gentle exercise four times a week all the lights in the house, although that can health plan: ADAP, medications, and provid- providers are not in-network, your visit might will help. help somewhat. Light therapy requires a light ers. not be covered at all, or you could face much • Physical warmth and comfort are source producing 10,000 lumens. Fluorescent ADA P: HIV is treatable, and people who higher costs to see them. Switching doctors important: wear soft clothes, get mas- bulbs produce far more lumens of light per watt receive treatment have an opportunity to jeopardizes your wellbeing and undermines sages, and hug your friends often. than incandescent bulbs. 10,000 lumens is the live long, full, productive lives if they have the benet of being with a doctor you know • Sleep: It’s helpful to get 30-60 min- quantity of light produced by four four-foot 40- adequate access to early, comprehensive and trust. utes more sleep nightly than you need in watt uorescent bulbs. A 10,000 lumen light Select a plan that includes a high number summer, but sleeping more than that can source about the size of a computer screen, of your health care professionals in network, worsen the problem. containing 4 very high-intensity small uores - including your HIV doctor, other specialists, • Be careful about giving in to food cent bulbs, can be found in stores or online for mental health or substance use providers, cravings-gaining weight may make you less than $150 with a little searching. One can not seem to work any better than uorescents. and pharmacists. feel worse. also buy two $20 shop lights and stand them Because SAD and the Thanksgiving / As with every step in the human rights • Cut yourself some slack-don’t take up vertically against a wall for a although much Christmas / New Year’s holidays occur at the movement, ending discriminatory practices on extra projects now, do less where you less portable effect. Light therapy is simple: sit same time of year, SAD can be confused with isn’t easy. We understand that enrolling in can. facing the light about an arm’s length away, for “holiday blues,” but the two conditions are not health insurance without facing judgment is • Decrease your work week: during 30 minutes starting before 7 a.m. If possible, related. A person with holiday blues has un- a major victory for men with HIV in the LGBT the shortest days, take a day of leave do a second treatment 12 hours later. The happy or conicted feelings, or painful memo - community, but savor this win with patience. from work every week or two. morning treatment seems to be most critical for ries, about the holidays, and SAD sufferers do Make sure you get in the right plan when • If SAD symptoms are still trouble- the treatment to be effective. Light treatment not. In holiday blues, there are no hibernation- the time is right. Health reform can only im- t some despite using these methods, con- gives the brain a message that the day length like symptoms. prove your life if you enroll in the plan that’s sider antidepressant medication. t is over 12 hours, which counteracts SAD. It’s Eva Hersh is a Baltimore family physician. best for you. t the intensity of light, not the spectrum, which Send your comments and questions to her by The author is vice president of policy for is the key to treatment. Full-spectrum bulbs do email at [email protected]. the AID S Foundation of Chicago

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Patient model. Pill shown is not actual size. What is COMPLERA? Who should not take COMPLERA? Do not take COMPLERA if you have ever taken other anti-HIV medicines. ® COMPLERA is a prescription HIV medicine that is used as a complete regimen COMPLERA may change the effect of other medicines and may cause serious side to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never taken HIV medicines before and who have effects. Your healthcare provider may change your other medicines or change their doses. an amount of HIV in their blood (this is called “viral load”) that is no more than Do not take COMPLERA if you also take these medicines: 100,000 copies/mL. COMPLERA contains 3 medicines – rilpivirine, emtricitabine • anti-seizure medicines: carbamazepine (Carbatrol, Equetro, Tegretol, Tegretol-XR, and tenofovir disoproxil fumarate. It is not known if COMPLERA is safe and effective Teril, Epitol); oxcarbazepine (Trileptal), phenobarbital (Luminal), phenytoin (Dilantin, in children under the age of 18 years. Dilantin-125, Phenytek) COMPLERA ® does not cure HIV-1 infection or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and • anti-tuberculosis medicines: rifabutin (Mycobutin), rifampin (Rifater, Rifamate, decrease HIV-related illnesses you must keep taking COMPLERA. Avoid doing things Rimactane, Rifadin) and rifapentine (Priftin) that can spread HIV-1 to others: always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower • proton pump inhibitors for stomach or intestinal problems: esomeprazole the chance of sexual contact with body
uids; never reuse or share needles or other (Nexium, Vimovo), lansoprazole (Prevacid), dexlansoprazole (Dexilant), omeprazole items that have body
uids on them, do not share personal items that may contain (Prilosec), pantoprazole sodium (Protonix), rabeprazole (Aciphex) bodily
uids. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to reduce • more than 1 dose of the steroid medicine dexamethasone or dexamethasone the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. sodium phosphate • St. John’s wort ( Hypericum perforatum ) IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION If you are taking COMPLERA you should not take other HIV medicines or other What is the most important information you should know about COMPLERA? medicines containing tenofovir (Viread, Truvada, Stribild or Atripla); other medicines ® COMPLERA can cause serious side effects: containing emtricitabine or lamivudine (Emtriva, Combivir, Epivir, Epivir-HBV, Epzicom, • Build-up of an acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical Trizivir, Atripla, Stribild or Truvada); rilpivirine (Edurant) or adefovir (Hepsera). emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis include feeling very weak or tired, unusual (not normal) muscle pain, trouble breathing, stomach pain with nausea or vomiting, In addition, tell your healthcare provider if you are taking the following feeling cold, especially in your arms and legs, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or a medications because they may interfere with how COMPLERA works and may fast or irregular heartbeat. cause side effects: • Serious liver problems. The liver may become large (hepatomegaly) and fatty • certain antacid medicines containing aluminum, magnesium hydroxide, or calcium (steatosis). Symptoms of liver problems include your skin or the white part of your carbonate (examples: Rolaids, TUMS). These medicines must be taken at least eyes turns yellow (jaundice), dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored bowel movements 2 hours before or 4 hours after COMPLERA. (stools), loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach pain. • medicines to block stomach acid including cimetidine (Tagamet), famotidine • You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or serious liver problems if you are (Pepcid), nizatidine (Axid), or ranitidine HCL (Zantac). These medicines must be female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking COMPLERA for a long time. taken at least 12 hours before or 4 hours after COMPLERA. In some cases, these serious conditions have led to death. Call your healthcare • any of these medicines: clarithromycin (Biaxin); erythromycin (E-Mycin, Eryc, provider right away if you have any symptoms of these conditions. Ery-Tab, PCE, Pediazole, Ilosone),
uconazole (Di
ucan), itraconazole (Sporanox), • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you also have HBV and stop taking ketoconazole (Nizoral) methadone (Dolophine); posaconazole (Noxa l), telithromycin COMPLERA, your hepatitis may suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking COMPLERA (Ketek) or voriconazole (Vfend). without  rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to monitor your • medicines that are eliminated by the kidneys like acyclovir (Zovirax), cidofovir (Vistide), health. COMPLERA is not approved for the treatment of HBV. ganciclovir (Cytovene IV, Vitrasert), valacyclovir (Valtrex) and valganciclovir (Valcyte).

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These are not all the medicines that may cause problems if you take The most common side effects reported with COMPLERA are trouble sleeping COMPLERA. Tell your healthcare provider about all prescription and (insomnia), abnormal dreams, headache, dizziness, diarrhea, nausea, rash, nonprescription medicines, vitamins, or herbal supplements you are tiredness, and depression. Some side effects also reported include vomiting, stomach taking or plan to take. pain or discomfort, skin discoloration (small spots or freckles) and pain. Before taking COMPLERA, tell your healthcare provider if you: This is not a complete list of side effects. Tell your healthcare provider or pharmacist • Have liver problems, including hepatitis B or C virus infection, or have if you notice any side effects while taking COMPLERA, and call your healthcare abnormal liver tests provider for medical advice about side effects. • Have kidney problems • Have ever had a mental health problem You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the • Have bone problems FDA. Visit http://www.fda.gov/medwatch or call 1-800-FDA-1088. • Are pregnant or planning to become pregnant. It is not known if COMPLERA Additional Information about taking COMPLERA: can harm your unborn child • Always take COMPLERA exactly as your healthcare provider tells you to take it. • Are breastfeeding: Women with HIV should not breastfeed because they can • Take COMPLERA with food. Taking COMPLERA with food is important to help get the pass HIV through their milk to the baby. Also, COMPLERA may pass through right amount of medicine in your body. (A protein drink does not replace food. If your breast milk and could cause harm to the baby healthcare provider stops COMPLERA, make certain you understand how to take your COMPLERA can cause additional serious side effects: new medicine and whether you need to take your new medicine with a meal.) • New or worsening kidney problems, including kidney failure. If you have had kidney problems, or take other medicines that may cause kidney problems, your Stay under the care of your healthcare provider during treatment with COMPLERA healthcare provider may need to do regular blood tests. and see your healthcare provider regularly. • Depression or mood changes. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you Please see Brief Summary of full Prescribing Information with important warnings on have any of the following symptoms: feeling sad or hopeless, feeling anxious or the following pages. restless, have thoughts of hurting yourself (suicide) or have tried to hurt yourself. • Changes in liver enzymes: People who have had hepatitis B or C, or who have had changes in their liver function tests in the past may have an increased risk for liver problems while taking COMPLERA. Some people without prior liver disease may also be at risk. Your healthcare provider may need to check your liver enzymes before and during treatment with COMPLERA. • Bone problems can happen in some people who take COMPLERA. Bone problems include bone pain, softening or thinning (which may lead to fractures). Your healthcare provider may need to do additional tests to check your bones. • Changes in body fat can happen in people taking HIV medicine. • Changes in your immune system. Your immune system may get stronger and begin to  ght infections that have been hidden in your body for a long time. Tell your healthcare provider if you start having new symptoms after Learn more at www. COMPLERA .com starting COMPLERA.

BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 17 Brief Summary of full Prescribing Information • Worsening of Hepatitis B infection. If you have hepatitis B virus (HB V) COMPLERA ® (kom-PLEH-rah) in fection a n d ta ke COMP LERA, you r HB V m a y g et worse ( a re-u p ) if you stop ta kin g COMP LERA. A “ a re-u p ” is wh en you r HB V in fection su d d en ly retu rn s (emtricitabine, rilpivirine, tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) tablets in a worse way than before. COMPLERA is not approved for the treatm ent of Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, please see HB V, so you m ust discuss your HB V with your healthcare provider. the full Prescribing Information including Patient Information. – Do n ot let you r COMP LERA ru n ou t. Re
ll you r p rescrip tion or ta lk to you r What is COMPLERA? healthcare provider before your COMPLERA is all gone. – Do n ot stop ta kin g COMP LERA with ou t
rst ta lkin g to you r h ea lth ca re • COMPLERA is a prescription HIV (Hum an Im m unode
ciency Virus) m edicine that is used to treat HIV-1 in adults p rovid er. – – wh o h a ve never taken HIV m edicines before, and If you stop taking COMPLERA, your healthcare provider will need to check your health often and do blood tests regularly to check your HB V infection. – who have an am ount of HIV in their blood (this is called ‘viral load’) that Tell your healthcare provider about any new or unusual sym ptom s you m ay is no m ore than 100,000 copies/m L. Your healthcare provider will m easure h a ve a fter you stop ta kin g COMP LERA. your viral load. Who should not take COMPLERA? (HIV is the virus that causes AIDS (Acquired Im m unode
ciency Syndrom e)). Do not take COMPLERA if: • COMP LERA con ta in s 3 m ed icin es – rilp ivirin e, em tricita b in e, ten ofovir • your HIV infection has been previously treated with HIV m edicines. disoproxil fum arate – com bined in one tablet. It is a com plete regim en to treat HIV-1 infection and should not be used with other HIV m edicines. • you are taking any of the following m edicines:

• It is not known if COMPLERA is safe and effective in children under the age – anti-seizure medicines: carbam azepine (Carbatrol, Equetro, Tegretol, of 18 yea rs old . Teg retol-XR, Teril, Ep itol); oxca rb a zep in e (Trilep ta l); p h en ob a rb ita l (Lu m in a l); p h en ytoin (Dila n tin , Dila n tin -125, P h en ytek) • COMPLERA does not cure HIV infection or AIDS. You m ust stay on continuous therapy to control HIV infection and decrease HIV-related illnesses. – anti-tuberculosis (anti-TB) medicines: rifabutin (Mycobutin); rifam pin (Rifater, Rifam ate, Rim actane, Rifadin); rifapentine (Priftin) • Ask your healthcare provider if you have any questions about how to prevent passing HIV to other people. Do not share or re-use needles or other – proton pump inhibitor (PPI) m edicine for certain stom ach or intestinal injection equipm ent, and do not share personal item s that can have blood or problem s: esom eprazole (Nexium , Vim ovo); lansoprazole (Prevacid); body  uids on them , like toothbrushes and razor blades. Always practice safer dexlansoprazole (Dexilant); om eprazole (Prilosec, Zegerid); pantoprazole sex by using a latex or polyurethane condom to lower the chance of sexual sodium (Protonix); rabeprazole (Aciphex) contact with sem en, vaginal  uids or blood. – m ore than 1 dose of the steroid m edicine dexam ethasone or dexam ethasone sodium phosphate What is the most important information I should know about COMPLERA? – St. Jo h n ’s wo rt ( Hypericum perforatum ) COMPLERA can cause serious side effects, including: • • Build-up of an acid in your blood (lactic acidosis). Lactic acidosis can If you take COMPLERA, you should not take: happen in som e people who take COMPLERA or sim ilar (nucleoside analogs) – Other m edicines that contain tenofovir (Atripla, Stribild, Truvada, Viread) m edicines. Lactic acidosis is a serious m edical em ergency that can lead to – Other m edicines that contain em tricitabine or lam ivudine (Com bivir, death. Lactic acidosis can be hard to identify early, because the sym ptom s Em triva , Ep ivir o r Ep ivir-HB V, Ep zic o m , Trizivir, Atrip la , Tru va d a , Strib ild ) could seem like sym ptom s of other health problem s. Call your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the following symptoms which could – rilp ivirin e (Ed u ra n t) be signs of lactic acidosis: – a d efovir (Hep sera ) – feel very wea k or tired What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking COMPLERA? – have unusual (not norm al) m uscle pain Before you take COMPLERA, tell your healthcare provider if you: – have trouble breathing • have or had liver problem s, including hepatitis B or C virus infection, kidney – have stom ach pain with nausea (feeling sick to your stom ach) or vom iting problem s, m ental health problem or bone problem s – feel cold, especially in your arm s and legs • are pregnant or plan to becom e pregnant. It is not known if COMPLERA can harm your unborn child. – feel dizzy or lightheaded Pregnancy Registry. There is a pregnancy registry for wom en who take – have a fast or irregular heartbeat antiviral m edicines during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect • Severe liver problems. Severe liver problem s can happen in people who take inform ation about the health of you and your baby. Talk to your healthcare COMPLERA. In som e cases, these liver problem s can lead to death. Your provider about how you can take part in this registry. liver m ay becom e large (hepatom egaly) and you m ay develop fat in your liver • are breast-feeding or plan to breast-feed. You should not breastfeed if you (stea tosis). Call your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the have HIV because of the risk of passing HIV to your baby. Do not breastfeed following symptoms of liver problems: if you are taking COMPLERA. At least two of the m edicines contained in – your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow (jaundice) COMPLERA can be passed to your baby in your breast m ilk. We do not know whether this could harm your baby. Talk to your healthcare provider about the – dark “tea-colored” urine best way to feed your baby. – light-colored bowel m ovem ents (stools) Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including – loss of appetite for several days or longer prescription and nonprescription m edicines, vitam ins, and herbal supplem ents. – nausea • COMPLERA may affect the way other medicines work, and other medicines may affect how COMPLERA works, and may cause serious side effects. If – stom ach pain you ta ke certa in m ed icin es with COMP LERA, th e a m ou n t of COMP LERA in you r • You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if body m ay be too low and it m ay not work to help control your HIV infection. you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking COMPLERA The HIV virus in your body m ay becom e resistant to COMPLERA or other HIV for a long time. m edicines that are like it.

18 t BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM Especially tell your healthcare provider if you take: The m ost com m on side effects of COMPLERA include: • an antacid m edicine that contains alum inum , m agnesium hydroxide, or • trouble sleeping (insom nia) calcium carbonate. If you take an antacid during treatm ent with COMPLERA, take the antacid at least 2 hours before or at least 4 hours after you • abnorm al dream s t a ke COMP LERA. • headache • a m edicine to block the acid in your stom ach, including cim etidine • d izzin ess (Ta g a m e t ), f a m o t i d i n e (P e p c i d ), n i za t i d i n e (Axi d ), o r r a n i t i d i n e h y d r o c h l o r i d e • diarrhea (Zantac). If you take one of these m edicines during treatm ent with COMP LERA, ta ke th e a cid b locker at least 12 hours before or at least 4 hours • nausea after y o u t a ke COMP LERA. • rash • any of these m edicines (if taken by m outh or injection): • tiredness – clarithrom ycin (B iaxin) • depression – eryth rom ycin (E-Mycin , Eryc, Ery-Ta b , P CE, P ed ia zole, Iloson e) Additional com m on side effects include: –  u con a zole (Di u ca n ) • vom iting – itra con a zole (Sp ora n ox) • stom ach pain or discom fort – ketocon a zole (Nizora l) • skin discoloration (sm all spots or freckles) – m ethadone (Dolophine) • pain – p osa con a zole (Noxa
l) Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers you or that – telith rom ycin (Ketek) does not go away. – voricon a zole (Vfen d ) These are not all the possible side effects of COMPLERA. For m ore inform ation, ask your healthcare provider or pharm acist. • m edicines that are elim inated by the kidney, including acyclovir (Zovirax), cid ofovir (Vistid e), g a n ciclovir (Cytoven e IV, Vitra sert), va la cyclovir (Va ltrex), Call your doctor for m edical advice about side effects. You m ay report side a n d va lg a n ciclovir (Va lcyte) e f f e c t s t o F DA a t 1-800-F DA-1088 (1-800-332-1088).

What are the possible side effects of COMPLERA? How should I take COMPLERA? COMPLERA can cause serious side effects, including: • Stay under the care of your healthcare provider during treatment with COMPLERA. • See “What is the most important information I should know about COMPLERA?” • Take COMPLERA exactly as your healthcare provider tells you to take it.

• New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure, can happen in • Always take COMPLERA with food. Ta kin g COMP LERA with food is im p orta n t som e people who take COMPLERA. Your healthcare provider should do blood to help get the right am ount of m edicine in your body. A protein drink is not tests to check your kidneys before starting treatm ent with COMPLERA. If you a substitute for food. If your healthcare provider decides to stop COMPLERA have had kidney problem s in the past or need to take another m edicine that and you are switched to new m edicines to treat HIV that includes rilpivirine can cause kidney problem s, your healthcare provider m ay need to do blood tablets, the rilpivirine tablets should be taken only with a m eal. tests to check your kidneys during your treatm ent with COMPLERA. • Do n ot ch a n g e you r d ose or stop ta kin g COMP LERA with ou t
rst ta lkin g with • Depression or mood changes. Tell your healthcare provider right away if your healthcare provider. See your healthcare provider regularly while taking you have any of the following symptoms: COMP LERA. – feeling sad or hopeless • If you m iss a dose of COMPLERA within 12 hours of the tim e you usually take it, ta ke you r d ose of COMP LERA with food as soon as possible. Then, take your – feeling anxious or restless next dose of COMPLERA at the regularly scheduled tim e. If you m iss a dose – have thoughts of hurting yourself (suicide) or have tried to hurt yourself of COMPLERA by m ore than 12 hours of the tim e you usually take it, wait and then take the next dose of COMPLERA at the regularly scheduled tim e. • Change in liver enzymes. People with a history of hepatitis B or C virus infection or who have certain liver enzym e changes m ay have an increased • Do not take m ore than your prescribed dose to m ake up for a m issed dose. risk of developing new or worsening liver problem s during treatm ent This Brief Sum m ary sum m arizes the m ost im portant inform ation about wi t h COMP LERA. Li ve r p r o b l e m s c a n a l s o h a p p e n d u r i n g t r e a t m e n t wi t h COMPLERA. If you would like m ore inform ation, talk with your healthcare COMP LERA i n p e o p l e wi t h o u t a h i s t o r y o f l i ve r d i s e a s e . Yo u r h e a l t h c a r e provider. You can also ask your healthcare provider or pharm acist for provider m ay need to do tests to check your liver enzym es before and during inform ation about COMPLERA that is written for health professionals, or call t r e a t m e n t wi t h COMP LERA. 1-800-445-3235 o r g o t o www. COMP LERA. c o m • Bone problems can happen in som e people who take COMPLERA. B one I s s u e d : Ju n e 2013 problem s include bone pain, softening or thinning (which m ay lead to fractures). Your healthcare provider m ay need to do additional tests to check your bones.

• Changes in body fat can happen in people taking HIV m edicine. These changes m ay include increased am ount of fat in the upper back and neck (“buffalo hum p”), breast, and around the m ain part of your body (trunk). Loss of fat from the legs, arm s and face m ay also happen. The cause and long term health effect of these conditions are not known.

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They are notified by ground the sea- ble images that only stoked the public con- control that a Russian satellite has been soned pro- sciousness. Through space shuttles and hit with a missile (turns out the Russians f e s s i o n a l space stations to Hubble telescopes and blew up their own failed bird) but the debris who does Explorers and Voyagers, we’ve continued should pose them no threat. Until it sets off what he to romanticize what a trip to outer space a chain reaction that begins taking out oth- can to keep would be like. (NBC has even just greenlit er satellites and sends a huge debris cloud her calm in a TV competition show that will send the orbiting the earth and knocking out all a bad situ- winner to space aboard a Virgin Galactic communication with the people below. The ation, but ship.) shuttle is ordered to get out of the area, but once he’s Countless movies have shown us the Stone takes too long to get unharnessed gone (not re- thrills and perils of outer space – it really and the shuttle is destroyed, leaving her ally a spoil- is an inhospitable place – and now director and Kowalski the lone survivors floating er), she’s Alfonso Cuarón and stars Sandra Bullock hundreds of miles above earth. Their one on her own and George Clooney show us how truly hope is getting to the ISS before the de- and her only experience flying a ship was film happen silently, despite what the trail- dangerous being in outer space can be in bris field comes around again in about 90 in a simulator… and she always crashed. ers have promised. Cuarón wisely begins Gravity . 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by Future Bible Heroes, the trio led by prolic queer song - writer Stephin Merrit (The Magnetic Fields, The 6th and The iMusic: The Gayest Sounds Gothic Archies) and featuring Claudia Gonson and Christo- BY GRE GG S HA PIRO to throw a party like nobody’s pher Ewen. Closer in mood and spirit to FBH’s dark debut Mosaic (Jannklose.com), the third full-length business (the aptly named title Memories of Love than to its stellar sophomore effort Eternal disc by Jann Klose, sounds like the interna- tune, the sexy “Security,” funky Youth , Partygoing is anything but a party and might even tional gay singer/songwriter’s breakthrough oor-burner “Before You Die” give some party guests a cause to pause. The party gets off album. Klose opens the disc with two songs, and the pop pleasure of “Not to a slow start, although “A Drink Is Just The Thing” is an ef- “Make It Better” and “Know What’s Right,” in Alone”). The album’s real treats fective lubricant. “Let’s Go To Sleep (and Never Come Back)” which he sings in his most political voice, ex- are all the way at the end, where not only picks up the pace, but also give Merritt a chance to pressing his desire for global LGBT equality. Brooks and the Uptown Sound show off his gift for wordplay. “A New Kind of Town” is pleas- Klose also has a knack for writing memorable venture into exciting sonic ter- antly bouncy and the album’s centerpiece “Living, Loving, love songs, exemplied here by “Still” and ritory on “Control” and “These Partygoing” is a name-dropping electro delight. “Keep Your “On And On.” Lucky for listeners “Four Leaf Things.” Children in a Coma” and the Giorgio Moroder-esque “Dig- Clover” is a perfect pop gem. Klose ddles Kevin Newhall has been on ging My Own Grave” combine dancing with laughing, while around with his country side on “Beautiful quite an artistic journey. From “Drink Nothing But Champagne” is the toast of the town. One,” featuring Carrie Newcomer. He closes his former days as a CCM (con- Jay Spears makes his eagerly-awaited return with We the disc with an exquisite a cappella rendition temporary Christian music) per- Are All Born Lucky (Jayspears.com). Known for his distinc- of Tim Buckley’s “Song To The Siren,” which Jann Klose former to the present as an out tive and humorous perspective, Spears sets the tone with also functions as a reminder that Klose can credit: Laura Keen and proud queer musician, Ne- the earth-shaking opener “When The Big One Hits,” sing- be seen in the Jeff Buckley biopic Greetings from Tim Buck- whall has his say on If I Had My Way with Words (Kevin- ing about “histrionics over plate tectonics.” With “Guy In The ley . newhall.com). The irresistible “Today’s The Day” expresses Sky,” Spears has crafted an atheist anthem that will have What sets JC Brooks & The Uptown Sound apart from sentiments to which many listeners will be able to relate, non-believers testifying, while “Meat” should send the veg- retro-soul-revivalists such as Sharon Jones & The Dap Kings doing so with a touch of humor. “Dear Jonathan” is a heart- ans running. The “Drive Time” rap wraps up SoCal trafc and (get well soon, Miss Sharon!) and Fitz & The Tantrums (sorry breaking musical letter to an ex that is sure to make more “Revolution” is a call to arms. We’re all lucky to have Spears your new disc is such a disappointment!)? JC Brooks, of than a few eyes water. “Easy Chair” is a current events up- back in action. course! It’s all there for your ears on Howl (Bloodshot). The date set to music. Newhall adds strings to “I’m Afraid” and Nude (Theirrepressibles.com) the second disc by UK openly gay lead vocalist and acclaimed actor Jayson Brooks “Familiar Tune,” and strips things down for the personal bio chamber pop act The Irrepressibles is every bit as gorgeous brings the drama when necessary (“River,” “Married For A of “Dust.” as the best music made by Sigur Rós or Antony & The John- Week,” the hot heartache of “Cold”). He also knows how Partygoing is an ironic title for the third full-length disc —continued on page 23

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Cody’s family. Eileen and Sally attempt drama White Frog (Wolfe), teen brothers IM US IC: T HE G AYE ST to vilify Joey. He is no longer welcome at Nick (Booboo Stewart) and Chaz (Harry SO UNDS In the Family – continued from page 22 Thanksgiving as he was in the past (there Shum, Jr.) are as close as they can be. is a weird, Southern racial vibe flashback Older Chaz is always there for the younger The lives of two gay dads in Tennessee to when Cody introduced Joey to his fam- Nick, who has Asperger’s. But then trag- – school teacher Cody (Trevor St. John) ily). The day after dropping Chip off to edy strikes and Chaz dies suddenly. sons. Led by “nouveau international gay and contractor/carpenter Joey (gay writer/ spend the holiday with Cody’s family, he Nick and Chaz’s religious parents Irene music icon” Jamie McDermott, coming off a director Patrick Wang) – and their six-year- learns that he’s been duped and that Ei- (Joan Chen) and Oliver (out actor BD recent YouTube censorship run-in (see the old son Chip (young scene stealer Sebas- leen never planned to return him to Joey. Wong) don’t value Nick as much as they “Two Men In Love” video), The Irrepress- tian Banes), take a serious hit when Cody She even files a restraining order. did Chaz and their treatment of him alter- ibles are, in a word, irrepressible. Nude is a is involved in a fatal car accident in Wang’s In The Family subtly morphs again into nates between overcompensation and ne- 2011 masterwork In the Family . a custody drama as powerful as Kramer glect. They struggle with the loss of Chaz The limbo in which Joey finds himself vs. Kramer . Joey’s friends Anne (Elisa in their own ways. at the hospital following Cody’s accident Davis), Helen (Zoe Winters) and Gloria Nick, who relied on Chaz, particularly is horrific. He is treated disrespectfully team up to support him. Gloria introduces when it came to social interaction, be- by nurses who act as if he’s from another Joey to her lawyer Charlie (Matthew Bos- gins hanging out with Doug (Tyler Posey), planet. When he supplies Cody’s correct ton), who bluntly tells Joey that he has no Randy (Gregg Sulkin) and other friends of medical information after Cody’s sister Ei- case, that no judge will “legitimize that kind Chaz’s. He becomes a part of their regular leen (Kelly McAndrew) gives it incorrectly, of stuff.” Retired lawyer Paul (Brian Mur- poker game, and it’s there that he begins to learn more about his brother. For instance, Chaz was active at a community center for troubled youth and even donated $20,000 of his poker winnings to the space. As Nick learns more about Chaz, there Jay Spears are things revealed to him that he doesn’t understand or agree with. At the top of that thing of beauty from dazzling arrangements list is Chaz’s being gay and in a relation- and performances of “Pale Sweet Healing,” ship with Randy. Nothing helps Nick. Not “New World” and the aforementioned “Two therapy sessions with Dr. King (Amy Hill); Men In Love.” When McDermott and the not heart to hearts with Miss Lee (Talu- band cut loose, as they do on the high-ying lah Riley), the lesbian drama teacher who “Arrow,” the salty “Tears” and smooth sailing runs the community center; not parental “Ship,” you know you are hearing something intervention. Ultimately, it’s an unexpected special and wonderful. encounter with a homeless man that sets The Random Hubiak wasn’t kidding Nick straight, allowing him to gain access when he called his latest disc Memoirs of a to Chaz’s laptop video diary and a mes- Manwhore: The Reeling Waltz of a Drunken he is looked at with suspicion and doubt. ray), the husband of Joey’s wealthy client sage meant just for him. Lothario (Therandomhubiak.fourfour.com). As Cody’s mother Sally (Park Overall), Marge (Susan Kellermann), takes a liking White Frog leaps in a few different di- Musical inuences ranging from Tom Waits Eileen and her husband Dave (Peter Her- to Joey and offers to come out of retire- rections, trying to make statements about to Elton John to Ben Folds and Regina Spe- mann) are brought in to see Cody, Joey ment to take his case. gay teens, Asperger’s Syndrome, Asian ktor all come through loud and clear. But and Chip are excluded. One nurse does Heart-wrenching to the very last scene, families, male friendships, and more. It is The Random Hubiak’s lyrics are what sets attempt to bend the rules to allow Joey to In the Family is a remarkable movie in the more successful with some of the subjects him apart from his inuences, particularly on fill out papers for patient visitation, but by way that it makes a potentially divisive than others, but on the whole it is worth standout tracks such as “Happy To Be Your then it’s too late and Cody is dead. subject immediately relatable. It has a sim- watching for its message of acceptance Whore,” “Hip Little City” (hear Elton John?) From this point on, In the Family be- ilar (although less humorous) spirit to Big and endurance. DVD bonus material in- “Hotel by The River,” “The Trick” (hear Billy comes an incredibly effective film about Eden. Wang’s attention to detail is remark- cludes a “making of” featurette. t Joel?) and “Car In The Rain.” t loss and grief. Joey’s numbness is palat- able. The film never feels anything but au- able. The post-funeral mail sorting scene, thentic and organic, intimate and honest. for example, is enough to elicit tears from Nothing here is surprising or out of place. viewers. But he also knows that as a father Characters speak and behave the way he must rise to the occasion for Chip. Be- people you know do. We believe it when ginning here, Wang incorporates extended we discover that Joey is the kind of father flashbacks, starting with when Joey met who makes one-of-a-kind toys for his kid; married Cody and his pregnant wife Re- when Anne sneaks a call in to Joey so he becca (Julia Motyka). can hear Chip playing in the background; Back in the present, Joey is muddling as Joey and Cody bond over a Chip Taylor through his days. Gloria (Elaine Bromka), CD, leading to their first kiss. who taught with Cody (and will be a valu- When people ask why gay marriage is able ally later), reaches out him. When so important, just show them In The Fam- Joey meets with Eileen and Dave he is told ily . DVD special features include a second that, in spite of thinking otherwise, Cody disc of video essays by Wang, H.P. Mendo- had an old will (pre-dating Joey), in which za and Kevin B. Lee, a behind the scenes Eileen was named executor. There is a video, a booklet of essays and more. sudden shift in the Joey’s relationship with In gay filmmaker Quentin Lee’s family BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 23 LIVE LY AR TS

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BY WOO DY DERRI CKS year term. With a permanent loan, you’re While mortgage rates have increased from paying the same rate and monthly pay- earlier this year, they are still quite low by ment for the entire loan term. historic norms. According to BankRate. When selecting a permanent loan, you com, current rates for 30-year mortgages can typically choose from a 15 or 30-year are 4.53% nationally (rates posted online period to pay off your mortgage. The 15- as of 9/17/2013). While you may have a year loan often has a lower interest rate low rate on your current mortgage, you than the 30-year loan and allows you to may want to consider evaluating your re- pay off the mortgage in half the time. The finance options soon, as these rates may drawback to this term is that your monthly not last much longer. payment will be higher than it would for a How do I know if a refinance makes 30-year. sense for me? There are several reasons I often recommend to my clients that why someone would want to refinance they go with the 30-year unless their cur- their mortgage. The first, and most com- rent loan only has 20 years or less remain- mon, is to reduce your monthly payment. ing. This is due to the size of their monthly Even with the fees paid to your lender, a mortgage obligation and is especially true large enough decrease in your interest rate of interest rates where the 15 and 30-year could reduce your monthly mortgage pay- loans are comparable. You can pay down ment. That reduction could then be used a 30-year loan faster by making larger for paying off other debt, saving for the payments, but you can’t scale back your future, or to increase your monthly dispos- payments on a 15-year mortgage if you able income. go through a financial crisis (disability, di- Another popular reason for refinancing vorce, loss of employment, etc). is to shorten the term of your loan. You may What should I watch out for? While be five or ten years into a 30-year mort- rates may be low, refinancing isn’t for ev- gage and find that a refinance could keep eryone. Make sure that you’re carefully your payment the same while allowing you evaluating what makes sense for you. First, to pay off your mortgage in 15 years. Often as you compare rates, make sure you’re fo- 15-year interest rates will be lower than cused on APR not the “rate.” The interest those offered for 30-year mortgages which rate only shows the base rate that you’re could allow you to dramatically reduce the paying for the loan. APR is the annual per- interest you’re paying to the bank. centage rate. APR shows you your total If you took out an “ARM” or interest- cost for the loan. This includes any fees only loan, your mortgage could be ready that may have been assessed during your to reset to a new interest rate and monthly renance. The APR is the more accurate payment. Even if interest rates are lower measurement of your cost. today than when you took out the loan, the Second, remember that when you re- interest rate could still increase on your finance, you’re likely extending the term loan. The obvious impact of this would be of your mortgage. You may have already an increase in your monthly mortgage pay- paid on your mortgage for five or more ment. Also, you may decide that you want years, so spreading the balance of your to lock-in these low interest rates rather mortgage over a new 30-year time frame than finding yourself at the mercy of po- may cost you. Even if you reduce your tential rate increases over the next 20-25 monthly payments today, you may be in- years. If you refinance, you’ll lock-in to- creasing the total interest that you’ll pay day’s rates and likely either reduce your over the life of your loan. payment or the time required to pay off Third, determine how long you plan to your mortgage (as described above). stay at your current residence. If you plan What type and term of loan should I to move in a few years, the cost to refi- choose? If you decide to refinance, you’ll nance may outweigh the benefit of obtain- have the option of selecting an ARM or ing a lower interest rate. After you decide permanent loan and the length of the loan. how long you’ll stay at your home, you can With an ARM, you have a certain amount compare the mortgage balance for your of time (usually three, five, or seven years) current loan against the estimated balance Tiffany S. Franc [email protected] 410-832-5450 with a locked-in, lower interest rate. After of the new loan. You can then determine H elen M. Smith [email protected] 410-339-5789 the locked-in period ends, the rate then which loan is more advantageous for you. resets annually for the balance of the 30- Remember that times have changed

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BALT IMORE OUTL OUD OCTO BER 18, 2013 • BAL TIMOREO UT LO UD.COM t 27 these invitations. vember 2 at the The month of November starts off with Club Hippo. The the Mr. Maryland Leather 2014 Contest doors open at 1 and COMMAND MC’s Anniversary Week- p.m. There will end. This year it is the 25th anniversary for also be a silent Leather the Corps of Men Making a Noticeable Dif- auction. On Sat- Line ference and the celebration starts at 7pm urday evening Rodney Burger on Friday, No- from 6pm-8pm vember 1 with an COMMAND MC opening cocktail will host a 25th Say ‘ Yes ’ to party at the Wyn- anniversary din- dham Peabody ner at The Roof- November ! Court Hotel put top at the top of on by Mr. Mary- the Wyndham land Leather ti- Peabody Court Hotel followed by a vic- persons.), the Leather Leadership Confer- I am always grateful when readers come tleholders. Cock- tory party for Mr. Maryland Leather 2014 ence, the Leather Archives and Museum, up to me to tell me that they have read my tail parties by the at Leon’s Leather Lounge. The complete and the William Way Center (Philadel- column. Some readers even comment that ShipMates Club schedule also includes additional cocktail phia’s LGBT Community Center). A pre- although they are not a part of the leath- of Baltimore parties, a breakfast on Saturday morning, event dinner is also planned at I-Candy er community and have never attended a and the Beltway a brunch on Sunday, and a play space. and an after party hosted by the Keystone leather-related event, they are still curious Bears are next Admission to the full weekend is $115. Ad- boys of Leather will be held at the Bike about the leather community and enjoy on the sched- mission to the contest only is $20 and a Stop. Check out Plpn.org for more details learning about it. Coming up in our area in ule. At 10pm the pass to the contest plus the cocktail par- and to order tickets. November are several big leather events festivities move ties and play space may be purchased for On Saturday, November 16 the great and one does not have to be a member of over to the 2nd $40. Visit Commandmc.org to purchase guys from the Empire City, M.C. in New York a leather club or even involved in the leath- floor of Grand Mr. Maryland Leather passes or to get a hotel room at the rate of City will be coming down to the D.C. Eagle er community to attend. These events will Central Station $126 a night. This should be a big leather to host a bar night from 9pm-2am. They are be a wonderful opportunity to experience for the official weekend in Baltimore and will bring lots a fun bunch of leather men so venture down the brotherhood and sisterhood found in “Meet and Greet” party with an introduc- of leather men and the leather community. Plus they will be tion of judges and contestants for the Mr. women from out of lots of fun! What do you have planned for Maryland Leather 2014 Contest. The con- town. Come on out November? You may want to say “yes” to test will be held at 2 p.m. on Saturday, No- and show them why Baltimore is called “Charm City.” You will to say “yes” to these hot leather folks and if you make your reserva- tions soon you will not have to worry when someone yells, “Get a room!” You will already have one. On the follow- ing weekend there is a ShipMate Bar night to D.C. to say hello. I have also been in- on Friday, November 8 starting at 9pm a formed that on the following weekend Mr. the Triple L / Leon’s in Baltimore and on Triple L / Leon’s Leatherman 2013 Pup Billy Saturday, November 9 the party moves plans to host a benet at the Triple L on Fri - up north to the “City of Brotherly Love” for day, November 22 starting at 8 p.m. Philadelphia Leather Pride Night. 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fort” when trying to meet men, and I’m glad fer this column as “sorting out sex and re- might not need as much of it as you think that my client pointed me to the site. Both ar- lationship” food for thought for my discreet, in order to nd a great relationship. Take a ticles seemed to emphasize the difculty that masculine gay and bi black brothers: good, hard look at a lot of those straight guys discreet, masculine gay and bi men of color Do your best to be clear about the differ- around you; they’ve got some softness about Getting have when trying to meet one another, and ence between hook-up culture and family- them, and they’re doing just ne. they acknowledged that “feminine, ‘out’ guys” and-community culture. Both are ne; I’m not Don’t conate masculinity with bravery. Unstuck didn’t have as many problems perceiving and judging either. Just understand how operat- Be clear on the mechanics of sexually Gerry Fisher operating within the sexual playing eld. ing in hook-up mode can interfere with your transmitted diseases. It’s what you do, not First, let me tip my hat to the skill the writ- attempts to build relationship, family, and where you do it. It’s possible to go to bath- ers have in conveying some basic themes community. houses and play parties with some regular- that are very important with regard to social- Similarly, be clear on the difference ity and risk nothing more than crabs. It’s also Love Across Race izing and nding partners. They emphasize between “nding love” and “building your possible to date someone 3 or 4 times, have boosting basic social skills, avoiding the ap- home.” There are a lot of people whom I love unprotected sex during a love making ses- I was meeting with a black, gay-male client pearance of being too needy or pushy, and but I’d never want to buy a home or raise chil- sion, and come down with some nasty STDs. recently, and he asked me my thoughts about using methods for overcoming hesitancy and dren with them. When I lived in Boston, I played in the the challenges of meeting “discreet, mascu- moving into action. Great stuff! The more discreet you are, the harder it LGBT basketball league there. I remember line” men. Trying to understand the ques- Having said that, the articles often felt is to nd someone with whom to build your having a conversation with a friend about the tion before addressing the question, I said, muddled to me, and I think the reason for home. Think it through in your mind about lack of black guys in our league. He replied “Do you mean closeted men?” I don’t recall that is that they fell into the same trap affect- what a long-term relationship often requires: that he knew of a team of discreet gay and where our conversation went from there. ing gay and bi men across race: they were living together, merging your nances, hang - bi black men who preferred to play in the city Months later, my client sent an email with conating sex and relationship. “Getting to ing with mutual friends, and meeting each league. a link to a website entitled Cypher Avenue , know someone” and “seduction” felt oddly other’s family. Being discreet will always Thanks to my client, I was reminded that and he said that it would help me to under- and unnecessarily intertwined in the writ- push against activities needed to form family, group identities like race can create very dif- stand better some of the issues faced by gay ing. Although the authors do a terric job of and vice versa. ferent paths for gay and bi men. At the same and bi men of color. According to its About describing levels of gay comfort, they don’t When you meet your compatible part- time, let’s not kid ourselves about how dis- page, Cypher Avenue is dedicated to gay really mention the vital connection between ner, you won’t have to “seduce” him. On the cretion limits and hurts us all. Finally, as a and bisexual men who love hip hop culture, the goal of meeting – hook up? Casual dat- one hand, be careful with the emphasis that masculine man myself, let’s all keep working geek culture, pop culture, and open-minded ing? LTR? – and how that goal affects your Cypher Avenue places on seduction. On the on the progress needed to join our brave, conversations. approach. other hand, heed the Cypher Avenue advice more feminine brothers who have always I read a few articles – one about picking As much as Cypher Avenue did a good about being direct and “real.” been our ag bearers. t up guys, and one about “levels of gay com- job of boosting my cultural competence, I of- Don’t take masculinity too seriously; you More at Baltimorelifecoachgerry.com.

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