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" " The Essential 6 R’s of Bullying Prevention " ! The!National!School!Safety!Center!tells!us!that!school!bullying!is! our!most!under8rated!school!problem.!Research!shows!that!over! 160,000!students!each!day!skip!school!because!of!peer!cruelty.! The!best!way!to!reduce!bullying!is!not!with!a!packaged!program,! posters! or! a! one8time! assembly! but! with! homegrown,! data8 driven!efforts!by!a!staff!that!applies!only!proven!practices.! ! ! These!handouts!are!designed!to!accompany!Dr.!Borba’s!training! “The! Essential! 6! R’s! of! Bullying! Prevention.”! A! twenty8minute! condensed! version! of! the! training! is! available! for! view! on! the! homepage!of!Dr.!Borba’s!website,!http://www.micheleborba.com.!The!six8hour!session!(or!longer! for! a! train! the! trainer! model)! will! provide! you! with! everything! your! site! needs! to! stop! bullying! including:!a!research8driven!framework!and!solution8based!strategies!for!ending!peer!cruelty!and! mobilizing!student!compassion!culled!from!latest!research!findings.! ! ! You!will!learn!the!Six!Proven!Essential!R’s!That!Reduce!Bullying,!and!view!dozens!of!actual!examples! of!how!many!schools!worldwide!are!implementing!those!practices.!Specific!tools!to!help!the!bully,! the!bullied,!as!well!as!bystanders,!will!be!taught!and!dozens!of!no#cost!examples!to!reduce!the!cycle! of!youth!violence!will!be!offered.!Participants!are!encouraged!to!attend!the!session!as!a!team!to! maximize!their!planning!time.!During!the!training!each!participant!or!team!will!learn!to:! ! Create!an!emotionally!safe!(and!violence8free)!learning!climate% Identify!your!“hot8spot”!or!place!where!bullying!is!most!prevalent!and!reduce!it% Identify!the!elements!of!a!strong!anti8bullying!policy% Apply!Strategies!to!bully8proof!students!so!they!are!less!likely!to!be!victimized% Enlist!the!support!of!bystanders!and!teach!them!how!to!report!and!respond!to!bullying% Introduce!your!new!school8wide!bully!proofing!rules!to!students!and!parents! % Identify!your!bullies,!the!bullied,!and!your!bystanders% Apply!the!six!essential!steps!(the!6Rs)!to!reduce!bullying!based!on!proven,!solid!research% Teach!critical!habits!that!nurture!empathy,!and!increase!respectful!peer!relationships% Evaluate!your!bully8prevention!program!so!it!is!effective! % Walk!out!the!door!with!a!plan!to!reduce!bullying!at!your!school!within!24!hours!and!the! steps!you’ll!take!as!a!site!to!continue!to!implement!bullying!prevention.! % ©2012%Dr.%Michele%Borba%http://www.micheleborba.com! ! ! ! 0" ! !!!!!!!! Dr. Michele Borba Dr.%Michele%Borba%is%an%internationally%recognized%expert%and%author%on%children,%teens,%parents,% bullying% and% moral% development.! Her! work! aims! to! help! strengthen! children’s! character! and! resilience,! build! strong! families,! create! compassionate! and! just! school! cultures,! and! reduce! peer! cruelty.!Her!practical,!research8based!advice!is!culled!from!a!career!of!working!with!over!one!million! parents!and!educators!worldwide.!Dr.!Borba’s!strategies!to!mobilize!student!bystanders!to!reduce! peer! cruelty! were! featured! on! Dateline! and! NBC’s! Nightly! News.! She! appeared! as! the! bullying! expert!in!the!documentary,!“Bullied!to!Silence”!and!is!on!the!advisory!board!for!the!film!“BULLY.”! Her! proposal,! “Ending! School! Violence! and! Bullying”! (SB1667)! was! signed! into! California! law! in! 2002.!Her!thirty8year!career!has!been!devoted!to!developing!a!framework!to!strengthen!children’s! character! and! build! moral! school! climates.! Her! best8selling! book,! Building! Moral! Intelligence! and! her! Character! Builders! program! for! young! children! (Respect,! Responsibility,! Caring,! and! Peace8 Making)!are!used!in!hundreds!of!schools!and!organizations!worldwide.!She!served!as!a!consultant! for! the! Center! Resource! Group! for! Character! Education! and! Civic! Engagement! for! the! U.S.! Department!of!Education!and!is!on!the!board!for!Character!Education!Partnerships.!Dr.!Borba!is!an! NBC!TODAY!show!contributor!in!parenting!and!educational!issues!and!serves!as!the!World!Goodwill! Ambassador!for!the!One!Laptop!per!Child!Project.! ! ! For%more%about%Dr.%Borba’s%work%visit%her%website:%http//:www.micheleborba.com.!Her!blog,!Dr.! Borba’s!Reality!Check!contains!over!40!articles!on!bullying!and!character!development!and!can!be! used!to!accompany!this!training.!Many!administrators!use!those!blog!posts!for!parent!education.! You! have! permission! to! use! the! articles! in! your! newsletters! for! parents! or! staff! as! long! as! the! copyright!information,!author,!title!and!hyperlink![http://www.micheleborba.com]!remains!intact.! ! ! To%contract%Dr.%Borba%to%conduct%a%training,%workshop,%or%keynote!for!your!organization,!school!or! parent!session!email:[email protected].!You!can!also!follow!Dr.!Borba!on!twitter!@MicheleBorba! where!she!sends!out!daily!tweets!relating!to!late8breaking!news,!research!and!new!blog!post!links! related!to!parenting,!education,!bullying!and!character!education.! ! ! ! Dr.%Borba’s%books!are!available!on!online,!local!bookstores!or!directly!from!her!publisher!(all!Jossey8 Bass/Wiley).!Top!titles!that!address!bullying,!victimization!and!creating!respectful!climates!include:! ! Nobody%Likes%Me:%Everybody%Hates%Me:%The%Top%25%Friendship%Problems%and%How%to%Teach% Them% % Building%Moral%Intelligence:%The%Seven%Essential%Virtues%That%Teach%Kids%to%Do%the%Right%Thing% The%Big%Book%of%Parenting%Solutions:%101%Answers%to%Your%Everyday%Challenges%and%Wildest% Worries% Don’t%Give%Me%That%Attitude:%25%Rude,%Selfish,%Insensitive%Things%Kids%Do%and%How%to%Stop% Them% No%More%Misbehavin’:%38%Difficult%Behaviors%and%How%to%Stop%Them% % 12%Simple%Secrets%Real%Moms%Know:%Getting%Back%to%Basics%and%Raising%Happy,%Healthy%Kids% ! ©2012%Dr.%Michele%Borba%http://www.micheleborba.com! ! ! ! 1" ! !!!!!!!! The$6$Essential$R’s$of$Bullying$Prevention$ Table of Contents " $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ About!Dr.!Michele!Borba!……………………………………………………………………………………1! ! Table!of!Contents!……………………………………………………………………………………………….2! ! An!Overview!to!Bullying8Prevention……………………………………………………………………3! ! The"6"R’s"to"Reduce"Bullying"&"Create"Respectful"Learning"Climates"………….."4" ! 1st!R!8!RULES:!Establish!An!Anti8Bullying!Policy!………………………………………………….!5! ! ! Create!a!Bullying!Prevention!Committee!or!Anti8Bullying!Task!Force……………..!6! Assess!Bullying!at!Your!Site!Frequently:!Use!Your!Data!to!Plan!for!Prevention!13! ! 2nd!R!–!RECOGNIZE:!Teach!Stakeholders!to!Identify!Bullying………………………………16! ! 3rd!R!–!REPORT:!Create!Procedures!to!Report!Bullying……………………………………….18! ! 4th!R!–!RESPOND:!Teach!Witnesses!How!to!Respond!to!Bullying……………………….!20! ! ! Adult!Witness!Responses………………………………………………………………………………!20! ! Student!Witness!Reponses…………………………………………………………………………….21! ! 5th!R!–!REFUSE:!Teach!Bully8Proofing!Strategies!to!Reduce!Victimization…………..23! ! 6th!R!–!REPLACE:!Replace!Bully’s!Aggression!with!Acceptable!Skills……………………26! ! Resources!on!Bullying!Prevention!for!Students!and!Adults………………………………..28! ! References…………………………………………………………………………………………………………31! ! $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ % % ©2012%Dr.%Michele%Borba%http://www.micheleborba.com! ! ! ! 2" ! !!!!!!!! 12 The$6$Essential$R’s$of$Bullying$Prevention$ An Overview to Bullying-Prevention " Did%you%know%that%160,000%students%skip%school%EACH%DAY%due%to%peer%cruelty?% Bullying%is%learned. ! " Studies! find! that! 160,000 1 ! American! A)study%in%the%Journal)of)the) students!skip!school!every+day!because!they!fear!being!attacked!or! American)Medical)Association) intimidated! by! other! students.! Some! reports! show! that! bullying! is! showed)the)seriousness)of) starting! at! younger! ages! and! is! far! more! frequent! and! aggressive! bullying)in)schools.)The)survey)of) than!before.!The!problem!is!also!international:!bullying!now!affects! 15,686)students)in)Grades)6) one!in!five2! children!worldwide.!The!exact!prevalence!of!bullying!is! through)10)across)the)U.S.)found) difficult! to! determine! since! definitions! and! methodologies! vary! in! almost)30%)of)pupils)report) frequent)involvement)in)bullying.$ studies,!but!we!do!know!that!bullying!is!common!and!destructive.! Bullying!is!so!common!and!so!serious!that!the!U.S.!National!School! Safety! Center3! warns! that! peer! victimization! has! become! the! “most! enduring! and! underrated! problem!in!American!schools.”! ! “Bullying)is)a)pattern)of)repeated) If!a!student!is!bullied!it!means!that!peers!are!intentionally+ causing!her!pain.!Bullying!is!a!repeated!willful,!cruel!act! aggressive)behavior,)with)negative) with!a!malicious!intent!by!the!powerful!over!the! intent,)directed)from)one)child)to) powerless.!It!is!always!unjustified!harm88stronger!students! another)where)there)is)a)power) abusing!weaker!students!a!student!can!“attack”!her!victim! imbalance.”) verbally,!physically,!or!relationally.!Cyber8bullying,!which! \%Dr.%Dan%Olweus,%Norway% typically!happens!outside!of!school,!is!becoming!an! increasingly!significant!issue.!But!whatever!the!means,!make!no!mistake:!cruel+habits+should+never+ be+allowed.! ! ! Bullying!is!clearly!toxic!to!any!school!climate,!but!also!can!have!disastrous!negative!consequences! on! students.! Repeated! victimization! can! increase! a! child’s! risk! for! depression,! self8injurious! behavior,! eating! disorders,! and! suicidal! ideation.4! The! damage! of! bullying! can! endure.! Research! finds! that! bullied! children! often! have! later! difficulties! with! trust! and! intimacy! issues! as! well! as! establishing!friendly!relationships!in!adulthood.5! Most!troubling!is!that!bullying!can!be!deadly:!all!