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President of where we live –when we can live completely Obama is not living up to his free. But, politics is a game after all. If Obama By: Jason Lydon/TRT Columnist organization in Wpromises he made to the LGBT had waived his rainbow flag mighty and high on must say that the past few weeks have made Dorchester that “de- community. I beg to differ. Not only has Capitol Hill, my guess is we wouldn’t even have it very difficult to focus on any one thing. velops and strength- this President’s administration done achieved what we have today. IThere are revolutions happening globally in ens the power of more for the LGBT community than any We have to be realistic with how expedient ways we have not seen in generations. The up- youth to work to- other President’s in the history of this na- our rights are able to be attained. I am not happy rising in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, and the growing wards building a inions tion, he is unwavering in his support of it, with how treacherous the road is either. It should campaigns in Jordan, Syria, Algeria, and else- just society.” These where are all part of a people’s movement to young people are p regardless of how “vocal” he is. not be that way. However, like with the failed Since his inception, President Obama economy, which was doomed long before Presi- draw great inspiration from. Right here in the fighting for jobs be- o has repealed the discriminatory ban on United States people are occupying the State cause it gives them dent Obama ever took office, the President does a deep sense of gays to serve openly in the military (DADT), he not have a magic wand to make it all go away; he House in Wisconsin, demanding their rights as Jason Lydon has extended hospital visitation rights to same- human beings be respected. This is an unprec- independence, put- doesn’t even hold that type of power without the ting money in their pocket that they can make sex couples regardless of their marital status, cooperation from Congress and other members edented moment and as LGBTQ folks we are in the thick of it as well. We are in all of this choices about. It gives them workplace experi- he has granted federal employment benefits to of government. same-sex coupled government employees and because we are part of all of these communities, ence that they can take with them for the rest of Before casting stones and pointing fingers at globally, nationally, and locally. their lives. One young person explained to me most recently, has declared Section 3 of the De- our “friend” in the White House, we have to re- fense of Marriage Act unconstitutional as it de- On February 24th I had the opportunity to that having a job gives him a great opportunity member that we are indeed breaking through the take part in a Massachusetts struggle for justice. to better himself. These are the things young scribes marriage as only between one man and chains that have entrapped our community for one woman – not a bad track record for someone Young people in the Commonwealth are orga- people are striving for. Ruby Reyes, Co-Ex- sworn in just over 2 years ago. decades, even if that means one link at a time. nizing together to pressure the Patrick Adminis- ecutive Director of The City School explained, I get it. I am just as eager as the next person who tration to take a stand in support of youth jobs. “Today young people are needed to help finan- is waiting for their day to wipe away the face of Nicole Lashomb These young people are pushing to restore and cially support their families yet young people bigotry from the nation, our nation. I am waiting *Nicole Lashomb is the Editor-in-Chief of replace funding to two youth jobs line items, the do not qualify for unemployment.” These youth for the day that my wife and I can travel through- The Rainbow Times, holds a Bachelor’s degree School to Career program and Summer Works need to bring home paychecks to help keep out the United States without the fear of being from SUNY Potsdam, and an MBA from Maryl- program. Well over a thousand youth, along the family budget going. The economy we are without our health care proxy and power of attor- hurst University. Send your Letters to the Edi- with their adult allies, converged on that State living in today forces many adults into unem- ney; when we can adopt a child without worry- tor to [email protected]. House to show that the $8 million in youth jobs ployment and underemployment, this reality money would be spent to save their lives. These requires a large response from our government, programs could produce 2,700 jobs for young including the funding of youth jobs. Queeries: Spilling to Grandma & Web Hookups people, specifically young people who have less The push for youth jobs directly impacts By: Steven Petrow*/Special for TRT you’re reminding me of what dating and hook- access to other resources. GLBTQ young people. Thanks to the data avail- As I stood outside the State House I spoke able through the Youth Risk Behavior Survey “Desperately Seeking Sex Online” ups were like for me when I first started playing around. Before I give you any advice, let me with three youth and an adult staff person from See Voices on page 4 Q: I need a bit of advice on my sex just say two things. First off, it’s great that you The City School, a youth-led adult supported life. I’m 24 and my main goal at the mo- know what you’re looking for – in this case, ment is to have fun and sleep around. sex. Less risk of wasting other people’s time, I’m not bad looking but I’m no model. let alone your own. Second, if some guys aren’t Letters to the Editor The Rainbow Times Here’s the problem: Ever since I came turned on to you because you’re “sweet and in- 351 Pleasant St., #322 out eight years ago, I feel like an odd- Dear Editor, Northampton, MA 01060 advice nocent,” believe me they are going to be many ball on the scene as I don’t know how to more who just love those qualities in you. I live in Nashua, NH for now and absolute- www.therainbowtimesnews.com approach guys with the intention of it leading To get to the nitty gritty, I think there are ly love reading The Rainvbow Times. I was to sex. My friends say I look very sweet and in- wondering if at some point you’d be adding [email protected] some other things you’re likely overlooking. [email protected] nocent and they think it can put guys off. I am Hooking up online is all about first impressions New Hampshire onto the list of states that on Gaydar and other sex websites that are only and that’s why you need to pay such close you cover. Keep up the good work! Phone: 413.282.8881, 617.444.9618 about hooking up, but I struggle about what to attention to your screen name, profile, and —Jean Crosby, Nashua, NH or Fax: 888-442-2421 write and most of the messages I send go unan- Dear Jean, photos that you post (and you must post pix). 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See Letters on page 4 cannot be reproduced at all without TRT’s consent. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 •  Beware: These are the Anti-LGBT groups in New England—our gayborhoods) By: Joe Siegel/TRT Reporter with same-sex attraction and we encourage the “homosexual agenda” in schools. mer one adult commission member was arrested The civil rights progress achieved by healing of individuals who wish to change their “MFI will continue to work to eliminate tax- for soliciting homosexual sex from a minor.” the LGBT community in the New Eng- choice of lifestyle through the work of Exodus payer funding for groups such as the state’s The group also wants to repeal an anti-bully- land states has met with opposition from International, Love Won Independent Commis- ing law, passed last year. a variety of organizations billing them- Out and Parents and sion on Gay and Lesbian “It was written primarily by political activists selves as “pro-family.” Friends of Ex-Gays and Youth that seek to normal- – particularly from homosexual groups –who These organizations do what they can Gays. MFI strongly op- ize homosexuality in the included their special-interest programs in the to influence legislators into sponsoring poses any efforts by po- eyes of school children. bill. Much of it is from the GLSEN website,” ex- bills which promote their conserva- litical activists to normal- Organizations and pro- plains Mass Resistance. tive agenda. They have worked to keep ize homosexual behavior moters of these programs Another bill - “An Act Regarding Parental marriage as a union between a man and and all attempts to equate continue to use the guise Notification and Consent,” amends the current woman only, as well as to curtail fund- homosexuality with im- of ‘suicide prevention’ parental notification law written by Parents’ ing for abortions, and to keep sex educa- mutable characteristics and ‘diversity’ training to Rights Coalition (now MassResistance), ex- tion and promotion of condom use out of such as skin color, or gain support for the fund- panding upon it and modernizing it to address public schools. the “gay rights” move- ing, and demonize those current conditions. In the Bay State, the main anti-LGBT ment with the civil rights who question the wisdom Explains Mass Resistance: “It will effectively organization is the Massachusetts Fam- movement.” of encouraging behavior stop their agenda in the schools by giving par- ily Institute. MFI was founded in 1991 Among the bills that that is dangerous and po- ents the right to decide what their children are and bills itself as “a non-partisan pub- MFI is vowing to oppose tentially deadly.” introduced to regarding sexual perversions. It lic policy organization dedicated to include a transgender Another “pro-family” is very specific rather than vague, and changes strengthening families in Massachusetts rights bill, which MFI group is Mass Resistance, the current ‘opt out’ to ‘opt-in’ - like every other dismissively brands as a which has filed bills elective in the schools. Right now, ‘sexuality’ is in the limelight the in and affirming the Judeo-Christian values upon which it is based.” “Bathroom Bill.” for the 2011 legislative the only opt-out subject in school curriculums. MFI boats on its web site – www.mafamily. “The homosexual spe- session which include The homosexual groups like that because it org – that it has been a proactive, public voice cial interest groups have eliminating the Commis- makes it difficult, intimidating, and embarrass- on issues including educating families and chil- pledged once again to de- sion on Gay, Lesbian, Bi- ing for parents and kids.” dren about the dangers of unsafe Internet use, vote significant resources Photo: The Hartford Courant/Shana Sureck sexual, and Transgender Among the accomplishments the group boasts preventing sexual abuse of children, restricting to a bill that would nor- Peter Wolfgang of the Family Institute Youth. about are: the passage of the Parental Notifica- gambling throughout the state, and strengthen- malize transvestism or of Connecticut, whose organization According to Mass tion Law, the successful fight “to stop danger- ing, protecting, and preserving marriage be- so-called ‘transgender- attempted unsuccessfully to amend the Resistance’s website: ous bills filed in the Mass. Legislature for: man- tween a man and a woman. ism.’ If adopted, this bill state Constitution to prevent same-gender “Many of these ‘Com- datory sexuality and homosexuality education The organization’s opposition to marriage be- would allow virtually couples from marrying in Connecticut. mission’ activities are in schools; decriminalization of bestiality and tween same-gender couples is explained in the anyone, regardless of sex, extremely graphic, ex- sodomy; and legalization of homosexual ‘mar- following paragraph: to enter single-sex bathrooms and locker rooms plicit, and dangerous, and often include other riage’ through statute.” “In keeping with the Judeo-Christian values including public schools. It would also add the homosexual, transgender, and even sadomas- The Family Policy Council, based in Maine, that our society was founded upon, MFI believes vague term ‘gender identity or expression’ to the ochist activists mingling with kids. There is no was instrumental in repealing marriage rights for that all sex outside of heterosexual marriage is hate crimes law.” oversight to this commission, and their activities same-sex couples in that state in 2009. MFI also objects to comprehensive sex educa- over the last few years have outraged parents detrimental to families and that includes homo- See Beware on page 21 sexuality. Our compassion is for those struggling tion in public schools, in addition to funding for and even public officials. In addition, last sum-  • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Faith, Family, and God: Women driven out by male power hunger & insecurities Voices from page 2 By: Paul P. Jesep*/TRT Columnist find a gender neutral pronoun (his/her/he/she) in “leaders,” deter you from the spiritual growth and in Massachusetts we are able to see the dis- ower and control are some of the referring to Perfect Goodness. Often is read “God awakening that brings you closer to Infinite Love. parities in health between gay, lesbian, bisex- most socially, spiritually, emotion- the Father” or references to the Creator as “His Moving closer to the holy will empower you to ual youth and their heterosexual peers. GLB ally, and intellectually corrupting covenant” or “He said to them.” embrace a higher truth while providing you the young people are over four times more likely P to have skipped school in the past month forces since human existence. These twin There are many names for God. They include: opportunity to better the world. evils have been especially used by men to El, Adon, Yahweh, Yeshua, Elohim, Creator, because of feeling unsafe and over twice as Jehovah, Almighty, Emmanuel, Holy Light, Su- *Paul is an author, attorney, and a seminary likely to have been injured or threatened with repress women. In doing so, everyone has trained, ordained priest in greater Albany, NY. been denied the guidance, benefits, and preme One, Alpha and Omega, Giver of Life, a weapon at school when compared to peers. Maker of All Good, Governor of the Universe, His book Crucifying Jesus and Secularizing As we are pushing for changes on the school contributions of women as religious lead- America – the Republic of Faith without Wisdom, ers and spiritual teachers. and the list goes on. level and increasing the safety of young I’ve never thought of the One Who Cannot is available on Amazon.com. He may be reached GLBTQ people during the school day we Women were priests and deacons in at [email protected]. the Christian church for the first several Be Named as a father or mother figure. If I did also need to make it so they can go to work hundred years of its history. There were then it limits my faith journey and most impor- so that rather than simply telling them, “It women apostles that travelled with Je- tant projects personal limitations on Holy Silence. Letters from page 2 Gets Better,” we can support them making sus. Mary Magdalene, wrongly labeled Moses asked Holy Mysticism what is the Divine Dear Editor, their own lives better now! Too often youth a prostitute by men of the early church, Author’s name and the response was: “I am that The story written by Joe Siegel about the are referred to as the leaders of our future, wrote a beautiful gospel that never made I am.” Another translation is: “I-shall-be that I- CT Supreme court was excellent. His story but they are leaders of today. The voices of it into the final version of the Bible. The shall-be.” In my opinion, this suggests that a male really allowed me to understand the impor- young people need to shape our struggle for men made sure of it. Although only frag- hierarchy whether in organized religion or else- tance of this ruling on gay parents. We are GLBTQ liberation. One of the ways adults ments of a copy have survived, it still pro- where cannot be justified because Infinite Knowl- lucky in CT and New England. can be allies is by supporting youth jobs and vides much timeless wisdom and insight. edge transcends gender. —Sherri Rosado, Hartford, CT being sure youth get access to the resources As the Christian church developed Anytime I write about God I do so in a gender they need to make life better today. Youth male insecurity marginalized women so neutral manner. I don’t alternate between God and Dear Editor, leadership is there and it simply needs adults in the name of god of name the in successfully that they were completely Goddess. God is God. Just. Eternal. Infinite. Mys- Good coverage on the Alex Morse story. to listen and take action in solidarity with pushed out of the hierarchy. Although much has tery. Omnipotent. He is someone with lots of passion and de- their vision of a better world. I felt honored changed in the last fifty years, there is still more No human being has the ability or even the po- sire to help Holyoke. He is also inclusive and to be part of the rally on February 24th and work to be done to accord women in several faith tential to grasp Divine Timelessness. Theologians, he was clear about it in his campaign speech. the work is not over, I implore others to join traditions the respect and equality they deserve as philosophers, and religious leaders all attempt to As a Mayor so young, however, I think he’ll me in standing with the young people who religious leaders and spiritual teachers. It is neces- establish guides to help the individual journey to- encounter what ageism can do to a young gay are demanding funding for youth jobs, fund- sary because it is the ethical and moral thing to ward the holy. It’s an effort to foster a personal man’s campaign. I think he should be older to ing that will save the lives of young people. do. Just as important there is the enormous ben- spiritual awakening that expands throughout life. run for this bold position, but I support him efit those on a faith journey will receive from the In the Gospel of Mary Magdalene the apostle nonetheless. I believe he can bring change guidance of women. writes, “For the seed of true humanity exists with- and I was glad to see the story by Tynan The dominant male role in overseeing several in you. Follow it! Those who search for it will Power, which also shed some light about who been religions and denominations within faith tradi- find it.” She told the faithful to “clothe ourselves Morse is and his family’s working class back- there? tions understandably has distanced many women with perfect humanity.” This perfect humanity is ground. Only someone with such knowledge from a close relationship with a higher power. a journey toward God, revelation, and enlighten- and who is pro-diversity can truly understand on that. Overtime, God has wrongly become “father” and ment. Don’t let religious politics, defined in part what Holyoke needs. paternalistic. This stems in part from the failure to by gender or the hypocrisy of those identified as —Angelo Medina, Holyoke, MA therainbowtimes www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 •  Award-Winning LGBT Films in Noho March 5 and April 2 northampton, MA—From pas- will be fantastic to watch it on the big screen in sionate lesbian romance to a gay man its entirety,” says Jaime Michaels, executive pro- coming out to his beloved grandmother ducer/director of Out! For Reel. to two girls falling in love in the Middle Donkey Girl, a charming short film tells the East, to a teenage girl seeking her birth evocative story of two teenage girls in the Middle mother, Out! For Reel LGBT Film Se- East, who begin to fall in love with each other. ries is presenting an outstanding variety The April 2 screening presents Off And Run- of LGBT films for their March and April ning, the story of Avery, a African American screenings. teenage girl who, adopted by On Saturday, March white Jewish lesbian parents, 5, lesbian romance decides to contact her birth is the focus of two mother. She is propelled into beautifully produced, an exploration of race, iden- award-winning films: tity, and family. This is an in- When Night Is Fall- spiring, uplifting story that is ing (uncensored ver- suitable for the whole family

western ma western sion) and Donkey to watch. Girl (short film). The screen- Second Guessing Grandma, ing is at the Academy of Mu- is a charming short film about sic Theater, Northampton, Photo: courtesy When night is falling a twenty-something Jewish at 7pm. An After Party with Passion fueled When Night is Falling gay man who finally comes DJ Jodi follows 9 pm -12:30 am at Page’s Loft, out to his beloved grandmother against his moth- Clarion Hotel, Northampton. er’s desire to protect her from the truth. On Saturday, April 2, Out! For Reel co-pres- Advance tickets for the March and April ents with the Pioneer Valley Jewish Film Festi- screenings and the After Party are available on- val two inspiring films about family and identity: line: www.OutForReel.org. Off And Running and Second Guessing Grand- Tickets for When Night Is Falling: $11 ad- ma. The screening is at the Wright Hall, Smith vance, $14 door, $9 students with ID (Student College, Northampton, at 8:15 pm. tickets are available only at the Academy box When Night Is Falling (Uncensored Version), office.) After Party tickets are available only on- whose love scenes were edited due to censorship line. Combo film and party tickets: $17. by the U.S. film ratings board in 1995, tells the Ticket Outlets for When Night Is Falling: story of two women who live very differently State Street Fruit Store, Northampton, Food For lives, one is a college professor and one is a per- Thought Books, Amherst, and World Eye Book- former, who accidentally meet and passionately shop, Greenfield, Academy Box Office (box -of fall in love. fice fee applies). “The cinematography in When Night Is Falling Tickets for Off And Running: $9 Advance/ is beautiful, the story is compelling, and the love Door, $7 Seniors & Students (Door only). Ad- scenes between the women are some of the most vance tickets available online only. aesthetically beautiful love scenes ever filmed. It For more information: www.OutForReel.org. Youth LGBT leaders sought for Congressional internships Washington, DC—The Gay & Lesbian ers and influential leaders who can change their Leadership Institute announced last month a pro- communities and our world,” according to the gram to bring five outstanding college students program Web site. to Washington, D.C., this summer to participate Following the summer program, students will in the Victory Congressional apply their learning during the Internship. fall semester and, in December, This competitive leadership will attend GLLI’s annual in- program will place college ternational conference for three undergraduates in Congres- days of training, skills build- sional internships with mem- ing, networking and discussion bers of the LGBT Equality alongside hundreds of openly Caucus. They’ll also have ac- LGBT leaders in government, cess to leadership develop- politics, advocacy, business ment opportunities provided and community organizations. by GLLI and will be required to participate in a community service project while in D.C. To learn more about the VCI program or to “The VCI program will prepare young LG- begin an application, visit www.glli.org/vci. All BTQ people to become informed decision-mak- applications are due by March 7, 2011.

therainbowtimesnews.com  • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com APA publishes latest research on gay Radical Spirituality reveals itself in area and lesbian parents and their children groups’ staging of Lesbian Tent Revival NORTHAMPTON, MA—Stigma, Social Dr. Goldberg’s landmark 2010 book Lesbian By: Tynan Power/TRT Reporter A show by an articulate, passionate radical Context, and Mental Health: Lesbian and Gay and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research NORTHAMPTON, MA—On February 19, feminist draws a sure audience to Gage’s shows, Couples Across The Transition to Adoptive Par- on the Family Life Cycle, also published by the women of Northampton welcomed prolific les- but Gage doesn’t just preach to the choir. enthood, groundbreaking new research about American Psychological Association, was the bian-feminist author, playwright and performer “Who comes to Lesbian Tent Revivals? All gay adoptive parents by Dr. Abbie E. Goldberg, first full-length analysis of the research on gay Carolyn Gage in her hit show “The Lesbian kinds of folks,” Gage said. “Sure, the (lesbian has been published in the Journal of Counseling parenting, summarizing research data on the Tent Revival.” feminist) ‘choir’ is there, but so are the sick, the Psychology by the American Psychological As- subject from the 1970’s to the present. That re- “The show was a fabulous success!” said depressed, the desperate, the downtrodden, the sociation in February, 2011. search was consistent in suggesting that the out- Mary McClintock, one of the event’s organizers. overwhelmed, the curious, the skeptical, Dr. Goldberg’s new work, co-authored with comes and well-being of children raised by gay “One hundred women had dinner and discus- the doubting, and the challenging.” JuliAnna Z. Smith at The Center for Research and lesbian parents were no different than those sion (with Gage). About “Younger women are especially on Families at The University of Massachusetts/ of children raised by heterosexual parents. two hundred attended the revived. They have Amherst, is the first study to examine changes Research for Stigma, Social Context, and Revival and many stayed been starving in the in depression and anxiety across the first year of Mental Health: Lesbian and Gay Couples Across after for dessert and more patriarchal, perpetra- adoptive parenthood in same-sex couples. Nine- The Transition to Adoptive Parenthood was conversation.” tor-identified desert of ty same-sex couples (52 lesbian couples and 38 funded by grants from the Eunice Kennedy An informal group of post-modern theory,” gay male couples) were studied and profiled at Shriver National Institute of Child Health & Hu- organizers calling them- Gage said. “The Tent three separate times during their first year of man Development; the Wayne F. Placek award, selves “Gather the Revival is about con- adoptive parenthood. from the American Psychological Foundation; Lesbians” teamed up nection—deep, radical Dr. Goldberg’s research indicates that, among the Williams Institute at the University of Cali- to create the event. connecting. It’s about same-sex couples raising adoptive children dur- fornia Los Angeles School of Law; the Society “Carolyn was re- putting lesbians back ing the first year those who lived in states with for the Psychological Study of Social Issues; and ally impressed with together, connecting anti-gay laws and social attitudes had more men- the Lesbian Health Fund, awarded by the Gay how well produced us with our roots, tal health issues than those who lived in states and Lesbian Medical Association. it was,” McClintock with our history, that provide a more supportive legal and social said. with each other, environment towards gay parenting and parents. Abbie E. Goldberg, PhD, is an Assistant Pro- Gage, who has lived Photo: courtesy carolyn gage with our memories, In addition, same-sex couples who reported fessor in the Department of Psychology at Clark in Portland, Maine, Playwright and performer, Carolyn Gage and with our potential higher perceived workplace support, higher University in Worcester, MA. Her research has for 13 years, is no stranger to Northampton. as a community defined by primary commit- family support and more gay-friendly neigh- examined the transition to parenthood in di- “I performed The Second Coming of Joan of ment to women.” borhoods reported better mental health than verse families, including lesbian-parent families Arc at Thorne’s Market about six years ago, and Building community based on a primary those who reported poor workplace, family, and and adoptive-parent families. In particular, her then I came back and performed again at the commitment to women is different from build- neighborhood support. work has focused on how families’ relationships University of Massachusetts in Amherst,” she ing queer community, according to Gage. The full article, Stigma, Social Context, and and identities change across the transition to said. “I love the area, and, of course, it’s sup- “In the words of poet and author Susan Haw- Mental Health: Lesbian and Gay Couples Across parenthood, and how gender and sexual orien- posed to be Planet Lesbian.” thorne, “Queer” has become so inclusive; it The Transition to Adoptive Parenthood, is tation figure into individuals’ adjustment and The Lesbian Tent Revival intentionally draws doesn’t allow the space for lesbians to exist.’ available in PDF format on Dr. Goldberg’s experience of parenthood. In addition, she has on an evangelical religious style of preaching a This is definitely what I am seeing when I tour website: http://www.clarku.edu/faculty/gold- also studied the experiences of adults raised by saving message. to college campuses. The men are all gay and berg/publications.html lesbian, gay, and bisexual parents. “There is a lot of power in organized religion,” very proud of it, but the women are nearly Gage said. “I saw in the South of my childhood all ‘queer’ or ‘curious’ or ‘bisexual’ or ‘poly- how the Southern Baptist Church became the morphously perverse’ or ‘gay women.’ Where center, as well as a spiritual support, for the Civ- are the lesbians?” Gage explained. il Rights Movement. And, then, of course, there “My experience of queer theory is that it is are the evangelical tent revivals. It occurred to self-referential and that it gets off the synaptic me that radical lesbian-feminism had saved my bus ten stops before the end of the line,” she life. I felt, literally, as if a great light had shone said. on my world and suddenly all kinds of things Gage is committed to fostering radical were illuminated. So I actually do feel evangeli- spirituality. cal, or zealous, about lesbian-feminism.” “We need our lesbian history, our bold les- “Lesbians are in sore need of a revival,” Gage bian archetypes, our wild lesbian cultures. This said. “Our identity has been labeled a ‘label,’ is what I try to bring to the Tent Revival. I want which effectively dismisses centuries of fasci- to provide a space for the creation of a radical nating history and invigoratingly anti-patriar- feminist spirituality,” Gage said. “The Tent chal culture. So this is what the Tent Revival is Revival is creating a global ‘Sisterhood of the all about: reviving, bringing back to life.” Sacred Synapse,’ because it is a tenet of the Re- “And,” she added, “Tent revivals are fun!” vival that radical thinking is a sacrament. It’s “Carolyn is a brilliant thinker, performer, and not optional. It’s a sacred duty.” activist,” McClintock said of Gage’s appeal. “Using skillful delivery of profound thoughts For more information about Carolyn Gage, and humor, Carolyn’s Lesbian Tent Reviv- visit www.carolyngage.com. To get involved in al builds lesbian community and provokes planning future lesbian-centered events in the thought, laughter, and conversation about im- Northampton area, call 877-925-2999 or email portant radical feminist topics.” [email protected]. therainbowtimesnews.com

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therainbowtimesnews.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 •   • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com David Kato: His murder not the first, and sadly, he’ll surely not be the last Boston Pride organizes memorial vigil, seeks to raise awareness of intenational hate crimes By: William Urich*/Special for TRT with a march on the Ugandan Embassy across went indoors to Club Café for a viewing of the for. When his struggle has become our struggle, On Thursday night, February 10, the street from the United Nations building the Current Vanguard TV documentary “Mission- we celebrate David’s life in a manner for which 2011, a candlelit vigil was held in a very week before. There was no glitz, no headlin- aries of Hate,” which chronicles the develop- he would be proud. Make David proud, every- frigid downtown Boston, Massachu- ing speakers, no chanting and no walk to any- ment of the Bahati bill and describes in frighten- one. Pick up David’s hammer, your hammer, setts to raise awareness thing Ugandan. However, it was ing detail what the situation for GLBTI people and continue to build on his work. We must of David Kato’s murder. a grassroots move on the part of in Uganda is like. work together, and turn David’s hammer into a David was an out and local Pride organizers, complete My speech at the vigil expressed our sorrow, gavel, and bring it down on injustice wherever proud human rights activ- with bull horns, to use their voice and what I believe David would have wanted. it may be.” ist in a very homophobic in the community to do what “We are gathered here in anger, fear and sadness Uganda, bludgeoned to Prides should be doing all over to mourn David’s murder. But David would not * Vice President, InterPride, the International death at his home in Kam- the world: raise awareness of the want such sorrow and mourning connected with Association of GLBTI Pride Coordinators and pala on January 26th with horrors GLBTI people in other his passing. Rather, I believe that David would Chair of the InterPride Committee on Interna- repeated hammer blows to parts of the world face every sin- want us to pick up our ‘own’ hammers to build tional GLBTI Human and Civil Rights. his skull. Just weeks after gle day. It was reminiscent of the on the work he so cherished, and ultimately died winning a landmark law- early days of Pride activism and eastern ma eastern suit against a newspaper serves to remind us all that our Queeries from page 2 though being in a relationship with an oppo- work in the global struggle for that published his photo and those BangUBud, SexyStoner, and Jeff11X7 put site-sex partner means you’re don’t have to) of other GLBTI activists with equality is far from over. Boston and that you’re so considerate of their feel- Pride is to be commended for their it on the line. For you, I might suggest: Nas- their addresses under the caption, tynNice – or some other handle that suggests ings. Most of the time, respect begets respect “HANG THEM!,” David’s tragic efforts, as they set an example for (if not acceptance). Of course, coming out to Photo: Sherri Rase all Pride organizers everywhere. there’s more to you than meets the eye. Then, loss has sent all Ugandan homo- you also need to be clear in your profile about one’s family as bi – or gay or transgender for sexuals into hiding and is a hor- William Urich A resident of Springfield, Mas- that matter – is often a big step and telling your sachusetts, Fundamentalist mis- what you want. Here are some highly specific rifying foreshadowing of what is ones I found online: “I’m most attracted to religious relatives could put your knickers in to come. sionary Dr. Scott Lively’s name was referenced a twist (it would make me want to reach for by the shivering group. The “Kill the Gays” bill younger, masculine bottoms.” “Definitely not David’s murder took place in the wake of a vanilla type of guy” or “Poz seeks same.” an Ativan.) a frightening growth of anti-gay expression is largely attributed to Lively’s visit to Uganda Before you sit down and talk with them, I in 2009, during which he gave workshops and One of the great advantages of hooking up throughout Christian Uganda. The “Kill the online is the ability to put out there what you suggest doing some research into your grand- Gays” bill, authored by MP David Bahati and speeches to the Ugandan people teaching them parents’ likely beliefs on this subject so that of the evils of the homosexual agenda to rape want – and, often, get it. spurred on by U.S.–based evangelicals is still Next: Your photos. Sometimes I visit sex you can be prepared. Certainly, not all reli- pending in the Ugandan Parliament and expect- their adolescents and recruit their children into gious folk are homophobic, especially when it homosexuality. Dr. Lively has also written the pickup sites and I see a handsome guy but he ed to pass later this month. looks like he just came from work. You need comes to a family member. But if that’s what The vigil was organized by members of the book, “The Pink Swastika,” which puts forth you’re facing, take aim against that much- the proposition that homosexuals were respon- to show some skin! Or he’s a perfect ecto- Boston Pride Committee. It was a small gather- morph and has unwisely chosen BigMuscle. quoted Leviticus argument against homo- ing, not as large as the one organized by Hu- sible for the Holocaust. sexuality: “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, Immediately following the vigil, participants com as his hookup site. Choose a site that’s man Rights groups in NYC, which culminated going to work for who you are and who you’re as with womankind: it is abomination,” which seeking. Last point: You need to be explicit in is frequently translated by Christian funda- your photos although it’s your choice whether mentalists to: “Homosexuality is absolutely that extends to full-frontal nudity; remember forbidden, for it is an enormous sin.” A good what you put up online stays online – poten- reply to this argument is to point out that Le- tially forever. viticus also says that shaving and eating pork Finally: Bear in mind that many – if not most are abominations – and supports the idea of – guys don’t get responses back. Don’t take it owning slaves. to heart; it’s simply the way of the Internet. Whichever way the discussion goes, I would definitely be careful to avoid getting “Grandma, I’m bi” into an argument. Fights generally produce Q: I’m a bi woman, and my current boy- more fire than light. Do your best to remain friend knows it – and it’s not a big deal to him. patient and respectful, speak from your heart, My grandparents however, don’t know yet and be prepared to walk away if necessary. and I want to tell them. They’re very loving And definitely don’t expect to actually change but deeply religious. However, they deserve to your grandparents’ views on bisexuality - at know the truth since they took ten years rais- least not right away. ing me when they didn’t have to. How do I tell them that I like men and women equally *Steven Petrow is the author of the forth- without worrying about how they’ll react to coming book, Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay As affordable as the news? & Lesbian Manners (www.gaymanners.com). Internet Dating with the personal A: I think it’s great that you want to share To ask him your personal question: ask@gay- touch of a Matchmaker your truth with your grandparents (even manners.com. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 •  10 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Dr. Ken Mayer to be honored in April by Fenway Health at The Men’s Event By: Joe Siegel/TRT Reporter study, which showed that high-risk individuals Dr. Kenneth H. Mayer will be honored by who took a single daily anti-HIV pill dramati- Fenway Health with this year’s Congressman cally lowered their risk of HIV infection. The Gerry E. Studds Award, which will be given at approach, known as pre-exposure prophylaxis The Men’s Event on April 9. (PrEP), has the potential to lower The award, named in honor of the HIV infection rates worldwide, sav- late Congressman, is presented to ing millions of lives. individuals of integrity and selfless- In addition to his work at Fenway, ness who embody the spirit of ser- Mayer has been the Director of the vice and provide positive leadership Brown University AIDS Program for the LGBT community. Studds in Rhode Island and Professor of represented southeastern Massa- Medicine and Community Health chusetts in the U.S. Congress from at Brown University. He is in- 1973 to 1997 and became the first volved in HIV/AIDS research pro- openly gay Member of Congress grams around the world, including in 1983 when he proudly acknowl- most notably with Humsafar Trust edged his sexual orientation stand- in Mumbai and YRG Care and the ing on the congressional floor. TB Research Center in Chennai, “Ken is being honored for his India. He has co-edited 5 schol- lifetime of work to improve the Photo: Fenway Health arly texts (including “The Fenway health of the LGBT commu- Dr. Kenneth H. Mayer Guide to LGBT Health) and more nity,” said Philip Finch, Fenway than 450 peer-reviewed papers, and Health’s Vice-President of Communications has served on the national boards of and Development. the Gay Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA), Finch noted that Mayer helped discover some the HIV Medicine Association (HIVMA), the of the first cases of HIV in New England in the Foundation for AIDS Research (amFAR), and mid-1980s. is currently a member of the Governing Council “(Mayer) was sort of the guy who was a of the International AIDS Society. groundbreaking scientist in New England to help ensure that (HIV patients) had access to fair The 2011 Men’s Event will be held on Satur- treatment, had access to trial drugs and experi- day, April 9 from 6 p.m. to 1 a.m. at the Boston mental treatment programs during the early days Marriott Copley Place. It is a black-tie fundrais- of HIV and managed to save dozens and dozens er for Fenway Health that brings together more of lives,” Finch noted. than 1,300 gay, transgender and bisexual men, Mayer is Medical Research Director and Co- their friends and supporters for a night of dinner Chair of The Fenway Institute and led the Fen- and dancing. More information is available at way team involved in the groundbreaking iPrex www.mensevent.org. Young Leaders Council celebrates one-year anniversary On Tuesday, February 22, more than 125 people gathered at the Ames Hotel to celebrate the one-year anniversary of the Young Leaders Council (YLC). Among the special guests was Sheriff Andrea Cabral, who reminded attendees that young people have immense power when they come together and decide to make a difference. The YLC is an initia- tive of Fenway Health to engage Fenway supporters in their 20s and 30s. Through special events and other programs, YLC members raise funds, learn more about Fenway’s work, and of course socialize and network. In its first year, theYL C has grown to 92 members, pledging more Suffolk County Sheriff Andrea Cabral addresses the than $45,000 for Fenway’s programs crowd at Fenway’s Young Leaders Council anniver- and services. sary celebration on February 22. Photo: Sam Schwartz www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 11 Public forum engages black community, LGBT people of color for common cause The struggle for LGBT equal rights is a pursuit beyond any perceived racial divides By: Chuck Colbert/TRT Reporter NBJC is a civil-rights organization dedicated of the LGBT community, but also to be express- churches regarding homosexuality”? The headline for a recent public forum was as to empowering African-American lesbian, gay, ly incorporated in the black community.” “It’s unfortunate,” said Rev. Walker, “and not provocative as it was unsettling. bisexual, and transgender people. For audience members and panelists alike, just in the black community. It’s exacerbated in Even the event’s keynote speaker acknowl- Panelists included Darnell Williams, president HIV/AIDS and the black churches were key is- the black church” insofar as “the history of Chris- The Rainbow Times will proudly design and edged that the title “Aren’t I Black Too? ‘Dis- of the Urban League sues of concern. tianity has fueled anti-sexual rhetoric, anti-sexu- turbed me.’” of Eastern Massachu- “What must be done al condemnation, and anti-sexual pleasure.” But produce 3 of New England’s Major Pride Guides The question refers to a common experience setts; longtime gay ac- to end HIV” among he added, “That’s not Christianity.” among LGBT people of color, that of having tivist and Nobel Peace people of color? asked A woman in the audience pressed Walker fur- this year: The Boston Pride Guide, to choose between racial identity and sexual Prize nominee Mandy moderator Parker. ther about creating safe spaces for LGBT youth. orientation. Carter; the Rev. Mi- “Denial kills” and “Within the Church there is a divide between And yet Sharon Lettman-Hicks, executive chael Walker, minis- “truth telling is scary” sensuality and spirituality,” he replied. “Not Noho Pride Guide, and The CT Pride Guide. director of the National Black Justice Coalition ter of Messiah Baptist said project director only do we not have a place for LGBT chil- (NBJC), left no doubt about the answer. Church in Brockton; Perkins. “But based dren to talk about sex, we don’t have a place for For more information, and to both reserve your space “No one should have to ask that question to Ben Perkins, project on my work and a lot anyone to talk about sex. I would welcome this themselves or to their community” she told a director at the Fenway of public health re- conversation.” & secure preferred placement, please contact TRT at Institute; and Christo- search, it all suggests Roxbury resident Soledad Boyd pressed even gathering of more than 125 people on Saturday pher Goodwin, a stu- that denial and secrecy further. TheRainbowTimesNews.com or call 617-444-9618 or 413-282-8881. afternoon, Feb. 19, at First Church in the Rox- dent and LGBTQ ac- are a breeding ground “Would you be willing to go to the Black bury neighborhood of Boston. Photo: chuck colbert tivist. Dr. Kim Parker, Attendees line up at an open microphone dur- for HIV, so we are go- Ministerial Alliance, Gene Rivers, Gil Thomp- Lettman-Hicks was clear on another an educator in the New- ing to have to get real son, Ray Hammond, and Willie Dickerson, who point. The fight for racial and economic justice ton Public Schools, ing Hispanic Black Gay Caucus public forum at and get honest about managed to drive down Blue Hill Avenue to the 41st 30th includes LGBT equality. “All of us grew up served as moderator. First Church in Roxbury. sexual practices.” State House to say gay marriage is a threat to the and live in a world where being gay in America, Just how do gay people of color experience At Fenway, “Research team meets with black black community,” and along the way, “passed especially black America was and is considered the dilemma of double identity? men, some of whom have never told a soul about the all the violence, all the homelessness, and all to be taboo,” she said. “Black America invented “Are you LGBT in the sense of being black, their sexual practices. The fact that we ask ques- the decrepit buildings to speak out against us?” ‘don’t asks, don’t tell’ so far as I can tell.’” or are you black first or gay first?” explained -Co tions about their lives and behavior is the first Boyd was referring to the outspoken opposi- The line drew spirited applause. rey Yarbrough, HBGC’s executive. time someone has expressed an interest,” he tion marriage-equality advocates faced from “The problem is often described as fear, but Furthermore, “The black LGBT commu- said, adding, “That’s the beginning of the jour- some black pastors as lawmakers, from 2003 to fear of what?” she continued. “Do you think you nity is so invisible, particularly in Boston,” he ney for some of the men. Truth happens.” 2007, considered a constitutional amendment to can catch being gay? It’s time to have a real con- added. “If you are a part of the LGBT commu- High rates of other sexually transmitted dis- ban same-sex marriage. 30th versation in America about our hypocrisy and nity, you almost think that being gay is being ease are also problematic. “Let me be clear,” “I’ve only been out a few years,” she said ignorance of sexuality.” white.” In a word, being gay is “synonymous” said executive director Lettman-Hicks, “African afterwards, when asked what prompted her The occasion of Lettman-Hicks remarks was with being white, Yarbrough said. American young ladies have the highest teenage question. “It was difficult for me to come out Additionally for your convenience, our Pride Guide self-pay a two-hour panel discussion exploring race and “By having the event, we were hoping to STD rate, and I can guarantee they did not get in Grove Hill in the heart of Roxbury’s black homophobia. The Hispanic Black Gay Coalition tackle that stereotype,” he said. “Gay people of [STD’s] from black lesbians.” churches,’ she said. “I am tired of hearing the & self-explanatory advertising form is available online at: (HBGC), a local non-profit organization, spon- color do exist in Boston. We have a growing The moderator also asked about religion. hate perpetuated: ‘Love the sinner, but hate the sored the event. community and have a desire not only to be part “Why do you think hostility exists in black sin.’ What is this?” http://www.therainbowtimesmass.com/prideform.html

To register, or for more information: www.truecolors.org 860.232.0050 12 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Celebrate your Transness!!! Celebrate who you are!!! Say it with me, “I’m me and I’m proud!!!” By: Deja Nicole Greenlaw*/TRT Columnist I was in deep de- future be like? Maybe I should just pack it in and had a third “choice” and this third choice did few weeks ago while on Face- nial and heavily take my troubles with me to the grave so that no not repulse me, partly because it didn’t come book, my good friend Ethan and closeted for the first one would ever know? I began thinking those from the medical community. It came from the AI were trading comments about 50 years of my life. I dreadful thoughts of taking my life. community itself! I was intrigued with the word some silly subject and we were crack- knew that I was dif- Somehow I got through high school and two “transgender,” which means “crossing gender.” ing each other up. All of a sudden my ferent from everyone years of community college. I did well, honor This made perfect sense to me! I even discov- cell rang and it was Ethan. He wanted that I knew but I also roll, Dean’s List and all, but I was still search- ered via the internet that there were actually to chat with me for a bit. Ethan and I knew that I had to ing for some answer in private by myself. I re- people who felt as I did! I no longer felt alone! always have fun together as we are sim- keep it on the down fused to allow myself to be labeled as either of This started me on my road to happiness! ilar in a lot of ways particularly in the low for fears of being those awful “T” words. Then suddenly, a girl I first found dozens, then hundreds, of sites way that we approach this thing called socially ostracized came into my life and I was thrown in a new di- of transgender girls or Tgirls as we were called life. We agree on many issues and we and possibly being rection. We immediately bonded and we were back then. I looked at their photos. I read their both have a crazy sense of humor. We Deja Nicole Greenlaw subject to shock ther- married within a couple of years. We had three words. I followed their life as the time passed. I spend a lot of time laughing about the apy to “straighten me children, the house, cars, etc. There was also felt a connection to this growing T Community. world and ourselves! out.” So I pushed, pushed, pushed my thoughts the much more Then September He invited me to be on his internet and feelings way deep down inside my soul important bond of 11, 2001 came and

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H H H H H H Traveling along the path to a greater understanding - The first of two installments H H H HH By: Lorelei Erisis*/TRT Columnist fully figure out just what or who exactly we less than a single bians and gay men. There was even a period herHHoHes Dear Lorelei, are. There can be a lot of starts and stops. A percent of what I can when I felt like I was about the only “straight I have (a question) that I am asked all the plethora of identities we may try on until we pull up on Google boy” in my circle of friends! “Aww, isn’t he time by straight and gay people. “I have read can accept ourselves. I know I certainly did. now in five minutes. cute! He likes girls!!” and heard that transgender people are con- I’ve mentioned before that I “knew” I was a The only time I A number of women I dated over the years fused. That many like Chaz Bono first thought woman for about as far back as I have thoughts. ever went to a thera- even met me while I was dressed in “girl drag!” he was a lesbian and now he is transgender. That doesn’t mean I understood exactly what pist, he told me it was Many of them dated me partly because of my Isn’t there a risk that a transgender person may was going on. I may have known in my heart of a phase and it would gender flexibility. Heck, I even had a close lesbi- want to ‘switch’ back?” hearts that I was female, but everyone around pass. Not much help an friend, who had only ever dated women, who Lorelei, I am sure you have heard this ques- me was treating me like a boy. there. decided to see “what boys were like” with me. tion before. And I am shocked every time I hear I had a boy name, I wore boy clothes, and I So, I was left to fig- That really should have been a clue. it and I know what to say to the people that ask even had boy parts. So how could I possibly be ure out who and what Also around this time I was given a big stack it, but we need to think about the proactive ap- a girl? It made no sense. Lorelei Erisis I was, alone, with of “Forced Feminization” type magazines by a proach of this. Although my parents were good, progressive, what few scraps of friend, whose former roommate had left them —Tom Lang hippie types and they never really imposed a lot examples I could glean. When I was teenager, behind when he split rather surreptitiously. of gender roles on me; never forced me to play I figured maybe I was gay. I liked musicals and They blew my mind; especially the ads for I’m glad you asked this question Tom. It’s sports or be rough; gender roles were, nonethe- was a pretty snappy dresser. But then I realized “feminizing hormone supplements” in the back. certainly not an easy one and it is definitely one less, pretty hard to ignore. I was primarily attracted to women, guys, not I fantasized endlessly about ordering them, but that can be thorny to bring up. At home I remember spending every spare so much. So no go there. could never quite work up the courage. The basic problem with this question is that, moment I could get alone, sneaking into my I was still sneaking any chance I got to get all After a while I decided my identity was as a really it’s a much more complex thing they are Mom’s room and getting all dressed up like a dressed up. I still wanted more than anything to straight Drag Queen! I always had kind of an asking than most folks who ask it actually re- girl. I would stare out the widows of the school be a girl, though I was more and more terrified over the top presentation, whether it was in girl alize. Many of us can take years and years to bus and fantasize about magically trading plac- to admit that part even to myself. or boy mode. And I knew by now that Theatre es with the girls walking by. I So, I decided I must be a transvestite, or was going to be my life. I loved performing! wanted to be a girl. I often felt a cross dresser, or what was the difference But, even this was never quite right. For one like a girl. But, I was also savvy again?! (I know, I know, I’m speaking of then thing, I can’t stand Barbara Streisand and I’d enough or intimidated enough not now. No need for those cards and letters!) much rather listen to The Dead Milkmen than I suppose, to think I needed to But, the more I came into myself, the less I fit Madonna. Also, I’m not so crazy about se- keep my feelings a secret. the popular (and often false) image of the lone- quins. And yeah, I’m a terrible dancer. Despite There was no internet, few ly cross dresser, hiding myself from the world. having worked as a nightclub cage dancer for books that I could find, and al- I was going out “en femme” more and more a stint in Boston as well as a singing, dancing most no media presence for often and although I would still get all dressed waitress, who was I? transgender people. I found up by myself, alone in my room, almost every- Come back next month to read the rest!! what there was to find, I was a one who knew me, knew that I liked to play voracious reader and consumer with gender. *Lorelei Erisis, former Miss Trans New Eng- of media. Everything I found in I also moved to Northampton when I was 18 land, can be contacted at: loreleierisis@ther- years of searching represented and so many of my closest friends were les- ainbowtimesmass.com. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 13 Trans man’s view: A Singular (Trans) Experience Four ways to improve the state’s anti-bullying law By: Tynan Power*/TRT Columnist we hear to all people who share a particular By: Carly Burton*/Special for TRT put that student at risk within the home environ- n the last issue identity, but so we can understand the breadth The state’s new anti-bullying law is a tremen- ment. Research has shown that youth who ex- of The Rainbow and complexity of the human experience. dous step forward in keeping students safer in perience rejection by their families when they ITimes local ac- In taking on this column, it is my hope to por- our schools. But there are several ways to im- reveal their sexual orientation are more than tivist Bet Power tray some of that breadth and complexity. Some prove the law so that students who need help get eight times as likely to have attempted suicide suggested that it of what I hope to share will be my own perspec- it in the quickest, most efficient way possible. and nearly six times as vulnerable to severe might be time for tive—a perspective that is intentionally left out depression as those whose parents respond the paper to add a of my reporting. However, I am only one per- Identify those who are most at risk positively. The consequences of familial rejec- column by a trans son. I have one example of an FTM experience. The law currently states that schools “may tion are at cross purposes with the intent of the man—a female- There are a thousand aspects of my perspective establish separate discrimination or harassment Commonwealth’s anti-bullying protections, and to-male (FTM) that make it uniquely mine. I can speak as a 40- policies that include categories of students.” This great care is required to determine when parent year-old who transitioned at 30, but not as a 20- notification is safe and appropriate.

hoto: glenn koetzner glenn hoto: transgender person. isn’t sufficient to address the specific challenges p As he pointed out, year-old transitioning in college or eschewing of LGBT youth, youth with LGBT parents, and there are two columns written by trans transition in favor of gender-neutral pronouns other students who are proven to be more at risk Fund the program trans man trans women—male-to-female (MTF) trans- and breaking down the gender binary. I move for harassment and bullying. The law should be As it stands, the state’s anti-bullying law is gender people—but the experiences and issues through society as an English-speaking white amended to include a non-inclusive list of cat- an unfunded mandate on the Commonwealth’s faced by FTMs and MTFs are quite different. man with two university degrees, yet I lived egories of students who are at a disproportion- cities and towns, which are currently struggling I agree. Bet mentioned a number of differ- through my early formative years as a woman ate risk of being bullied. The inclusion of this with tightened municipal budgets. The statute ences, but I’ll add one more: we have different and I am the biological mother—a term many language would reflect a greater focus on bul- requires that the anti-bullying plan include an relationships to the other groups in the LGBTQ FTM parents would never claim—of two near- lying prevention by acknowledging the fact that important provision for ongoing professional de- community. MTFs and FTMs may share in the ly grown sons. I’m a religious, feminist, dis- certain students with actual or perceived differ- velopment to build the skills of all staff members struggle for transgender rights, but what we abled, bleeding-heart liberal whose ethics are ences are more at risk. According to the 2009 in combating bullying, and it requires a robust embrace and what we leave behind is often vegan, but whose eating habits haven’t caught national climate survey by the Gay and Lesbian list of what should be included in the profes- very different. up. There are many people I can’t speak for— Straight Education Network, more than 84.6 sional development offerings for each district. Sometimes when transgender people cou- and so I hope to let them speak for themselves, percent of the almost 10,000 students surveyed The Department of Elementary and Secondary rageously share their experiences, educating here, as well. Whenever possible, I hope to stated that they had been verbally harassed at Education has put forth $1 million to help school LGB allies and the general public, putting draw on other voices to reflect viewpoints that school because of their sexual orientation. districts fund this professional development their lives on stage or under a microscope—I differ from my own in transition status, age, work until June of 2011. But once this funding find that even as I applaud and learn from race, class, religion, dis/ability, sexual orienta- Put safeguards in place so students aren’t in- is depleted, there are no monies attached to the them, I feel like my own experience has been tion or politics. advertently outed legislation to help school districts pay for profes- misrepresented. Each of us can only tell one story: our own. The coming out process for LGBT students is sional development. A bullying prevention fund Then I remember something important: rep- Yet that doesn’t make sharing my story mere very individual and personal. Though students needs to be created that would pay for school resenting me is not their job. Instead, when I irrelevant navel-gazing that only matters to me. may be out to friends and peers at school, they districts’ professional development programs feel misrepresented, that’s my cue to get out As Frederick Buechner, the American writer may not be out to their family. Parents should be for teachers and staff. there and represent myself. As I see it, we are and theologian, said: notified when a student has been bullied based all responsible for sharing our own unique and My story is important not because it is mine... on sexual orientation or gender identity or ex- Measure results and make improvements personal truth. We are also all responsible for but because if I tell it anything like right, the pression, but a student’s privacy interests also The statute requires periodic review school truly listening to each other for those unique and See Trans Man on page 19 should be taken into consideration. Revealing a See Improving Law on page 19 personal truths—not so we can generalize what student’s status to his/her parent/guardian may 14 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com President Obama, Justice Department back off ‘Defense of Marriage Act’ By: Chuck Colbert/TRT Reporter concluded” that “classifications based on sexual case, Gill v. Office of Personnel Management, “We brought our case based on a firm con- In a surprising and significant legal orientation should be subject to a more height- Tauro ruled that DOMA violated equal protec- viction that to achieve equality for all married turnaround, President Obama has deter- ened standard of scrutiny,” the attorney general tions embedded in the due process clause of the couples in Massachusetts, we need to ensure that mined that part of the Defense of Mar- wrote, referring to their view that DOMA should Fifth Amendment insofar as to “disadvantage a all citizens enjoy the same rights and protections riage Act, DOMA, is unconstitutional, be held to a careful legal standard of review. group of which it disapproves,” as reported by under the Constitution,” Coakley said during handing gay-rights activists a big win. “The president has also concluded that Sec- Keen News Service. an afternoon press conference on Feb. 23. The The news came on Wednesday, Feb. tion 3 of DOMA, as applied to legally married Both cases are on appeal in the First Circuit, determination, she said, “Means that DOMA 23, in a letter from Attorney General Eric same-sex couples, fails to meet that standard but the Department of Justice will not be defend- has been declared discriminatory and unconsti- Holder informing Republican Speaker and is therefore unconstitutional,” Holder’s let- ing DOMA in court. But Congress could mount tutional by a federal judge, the Department of of the House John Boehner that the De- ter continued. “Given that conclusion, the presi- a defense. Justice, and the President of the United States.” dent has instructed the Department not to defend Right away, gay-rights lawyers and state of- The attorney general said that if Congress de- .e. news .e. partment of Justice will no longer defend in court Section 3 of the 1996 law that the statute in such cases. I fully concur with the ficials in Massachusetts haled the president’s cides not to defend the law, Judge Tauro’s deci-

N denies married same-sex couples federal president’s determination.” move. sion would be “the final decision,” adding, “as a recognition. Two pending lawsuits in the New York-based Anthony D. Romero, Executive Director of practical matter in Massachusetts that would be “After careful consideration, including a re- Second Circuit — Pedersen v. OPM, filed by the ACLU, praised the president in a statement the end of it.” view of my recommendation, the president has Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, and for doing “the right thing,” and for propelling It is not yet clear what Congress intends to do. Windsor v. United States, “gay rights into the 21st century where it be- To date, House Speaker Boehner’s office has filed by the ACLU — longs. Government finally recognizes what we not said if Republicans plan to defend DOMA. gave the White House knew 14 years ago — that the so-called ‘De- But a spokesperson for the Speaker, Michael an opportunity for the fense of Marriage Act’ is a gross violation of Steel, said in a statement, “While Americans turnabout. the Constitution’s guarantee of equal protection want Washington to focus on creating jobs and In the Second Circuit, before the law. DOMA betrays core American cutting spending, the president will have to ex- the court has not ruled values of fairness, justice and dignity for all, and plain why he thinks now is the appropriate time one way or the other has no place in America.” to stir up a controversial issue that sharply di- to the proper level of Mary Bonauto, civil rights director for Gay vides the nation.” constitutional scrutiny & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, which suc- U.S. Republican Senator Scott Brown also that applies to anti-gay cessfully litigated the Gill lawsuit, also issued a criticized the president. “We can’t have presi- discrimination. statement. “It is extraordinarily significant that dents deciding what laws are constitutional But in July, 2009, in the Department of Justice recognizes what we and what laws are not,” he said in a statement. Boston, U.S. District have been saying for years in our litigation,” “That is a function of the judicial branch, not the Judge Joseph Tauro she said. “Laws that distinguish between people executive.” ruled in one case, Com- based on sexual orientation are more likely to Social conservatives assailed the president, monwealth v. Depart- reflect prejudice against gay people than good too, and pressed Boehner to defend DOMA. ment of Human Services public policy.” As Kris Mineau, president of the local anti-gay that DOMA violated Massachusetts Attorney General Martha Massachusetts Family Institute, explained, “We states’ powers granted Coakley, whose civil rights division success- them under the Tenth fully litigated the Commonwealth lawsuit, said To continue reading this story, please visit Amendment of the U.S. that she was “very pleased” with the president us online at: www.therainbowtimesmass. Constitution. In another and Justice department’s determination. com/2011/03032011/doma. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 15 1/3 of Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender individuals in CT Transgender Conference to be held in April Connecticut have experienced Domestic Violence By: Joe Siegel/TRT Reporter cording to Jerimarie Liesegang,Director of the The Fifth Annual Transgender Lives: The In- Connecticut TransAdvocacy Coalition. A recent survey of over 350 gay, bisexual and hotline services for GLBT victims throughout tersection of Health and Law Conference will be “They really work together. My access to medi- transgender (GBT) individuals in Connecticut Southern New England, including Connecticut, held on Saturday, April 30 from 8 a.m. until 5 p.m. cal care may depend on my legal rights,” said showed that 33% had experienced domestic and to connect with domestic violence service at the UConn Health Center in Farmington, Ct. Liesegang. “For the trans community, legal and violence. This percentage roughly equals the providers to raise awareness and provide tech- This year’s speakers include Dr. William Howe health are not separate entities.” range of prevalence rates most often cited for nical assistance and support. GMDVP is collab- from the Connecticut Department of Education, The Connecticut TransAdvocacy Coalition, heterosexual women experiencing domestic orating with the Connecticut Coalition Against who will discuss the department’s role in support- CTAC, aims to make the state a safe and tolerant violence (25% – 35%). Domestic Violence in July to provide training ing transgender rights, Dr. Ilja Hulinsky, who will place for the Trans and gender nonconforming in- Additionally, the survey on GLBT domestic violence discuss medical treatment for transgender patients, dividual through education, social advocacy and found that 50% of GBT in- for Connecticut advocates. and Michael Munson, who will lead a workshop activism. dividuals were unaware that Sponsors of this year’s conference include CT Connecticut’s domestic vio- About GMDVP: about Anti-Transgender Hate Crimes and Sexual Assaults. Outreach Society, Hartford Gay and Lesbian lence laws apply to their GBT GMDVP provides crisis Health Collective, Twenty Club, the Ct TransAd- relationships and 77% were intervention, support and re- Other subjects will include peer support in the trans community, eliminating trans health insur- vocacy Coalition, and the University of Connecti- unable to name a resource that sources for victims and sur- cut Health Center. they could turn to for help if vivors of domestic violence. ance exclusions, working with transgender clients, they were a victim. Only 2% considered the po- The organization focuses on gay, bisexual and transition-related health care, safer sexual prac- Please register by April 15th. If you require in- lice or district attorney’s offices as a resource Transgender domestic violence, but works tices, and facial feminization surgery. terpretation services, please register by March 15. they would reach out to for help. with anyone who is without services, regard- There will also be discussions on transgender General Registration is $25, $50 for NASW/CT The survey was conducted in 2010 by the less of sexual orientation or gender identity. law issues and transgender legislation featuring CEU registration (National Association of Social Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project (GM- GMDVP’s programs include education, policy members of Lambda Legal and CT Equality. Workers/Ct), though no one will be turned away DVP) at Hartford Gay Pride. GMDVP has advocacy, and direct services which include This conference attracts several hundred people due to registration cost. conducted surveys of the GBT community in a 24-hour emergency hotline, an emergency from throughout the New England area and is The UCONN Health Center is located at 263 Massachusetts for 14 years and in Connecticut 3-bedroom safe-home, legal representation, represented by members of the trans community, Farmington Avenue, Farmington, CT. for the past four years. Notably in Connecticut, counseling, safety planning, and first/last allies, service providers, medical professionals, over the past four years the statistics have re- month’s rent program. GMDVP provides full educators and lawyers. For more information call CTAC at mained constant. services throughout Massachusetts and hotline Until the formation of Transgender Lives, there 860.983.8139, email: conference@transgender- In December 2010, the Verizon Foundation services in Rhode Island and Connecticut. 24- hadn’t been a forum to discuss transgender health lives.org or visit the web site at www.transgender- awarded a $25,000 grant to support GMDVP’s Hour Hotline: 1-800-832-1901. and legal issues in the New England region, ac- lives.org. register now to secure your spot! The Rainbow Times will proudly Design and Produce 41st 30th the Noho, Boston, and Connecticut Pride Guides this year. Rate cards and registration form are available at 30th www.therainbowtimesmass.com/prideform. WOW! DO WE HAVE A SEASON FOR YOU WOW! WOW! @ THE FAC! WOW! The UMASS Fine Arts Center WOW! WOW!BRINGING WORLD ARTISTS TO THE VALLEY FOR 36 YEARS!

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And, More than 2,500 LGBTQ youth and their al- Lives of LGBT Muslims with queer Muslim activ- reen is Good! I encourage you readers to do the same thing. lies will gather at the University of Connecticut ist Faisal Alim; Coming Out Bi in a Gay/Straight E v e r y - I’m going green in my kitchen by adding a big on March 11 and 12 for the True Colors XVIII World, a workshop by A.J. Walkley, author of one’s going batch of greens to my boiled dinner. That’s right QUEER GREER, which tells G Conference. green these days. greens – those dark, green leafy things in bundles The two-day event will the tale of a high school girl Concerns for our at the supermarket. For some reason, outside of feature speakers and over coming to terms with her bi- planet’s health have the American south, people are scared of greens. 125 workshops concerning sexuality when she falls for motivated us to recy- Well, trust me those beautiful collard, kale and ower issues regarding LGBTQ a boy and a girl at the same p cle more and waste Swiss chard leaves aren’t just for decorating youth. time, and Supporting Care- less, to conserve our party trays, they’re delicious and so good for us. True Colors was founded givers of Young Children precious resources Our prehistoric ancestors ate pounds of them ev- who identify as Transgen- ery day, and no wonder because greens are one in 1992 by Executive Di- rachel hoto: and reduce our car- rector Robin Mchaelen, der or Gender Variant with p bon footprints. Gov- of nature’s most powerfully nutritious foods. who was studying for her Nancy Meyer-Lustman, ernment, businesses and organizations are Greens are rich in minerals (iron, calcium, po- Master’s degree in So- Ph.D., a New Haven-based all involved; we have new environmental tassium and magnesium), vitamins (K, C, E and cial Work at the UCONN clinician who has worked policies, new earth friendly products and many of the Bs), phytonutrients (beta-carotene, School of Social Work. with many families of trans- new programs promoting education and lutein and zeaxanthin) and fiber and they contain The organization provides Photo: Glenn Koetzner gender and gender non-con- involvement on behalf of Mom Nature. almost no carbs. Best of all, they cost very little counseling and services for LGBTQ youth enjoying the moment at forming children. And, now we’re about to enjoy our green – a great value, you can get a big bunch queer youth, including a True Color’s 2010 conference. The True Colors confer- greenest holiday of the year – no, I don’t for just a couple of dollars. So, join me and go mentoring program, Youth ence provides an opportu- gusto! mucho mean Earth Day, it’s St. Patty’s Day greens this St. Patty’s Day! Leadership development with LGBTI youth and nity “to see healthy LGBTQ teens”, said Kamora ¡ – the wearing of the green, green sham- Oh, and one more thing – just so you’ll know, allies in Gay/Straight Alliances and other youth Harrington, the Mentoring Program Director for rocks, green leprechauns and GREEN BEER! St. Patrick’s Day falls on Thursday this year … groups and advocacy work with legislators. True Colors. I’m only a wee bit Irish, but I’m still a whale of and only queers wear green on Thursdays. ; ) Mchaelen organized the first “Children From The event brings together not only queer youth, a lot angry that we LGBTers aren’t welcome to Until next time – ¡Mucho Gusto!, ¡Muchas the Shadows” (CFS) conference - Children From but their straight allies as well. participate in the parade. When that ruling came Gracias! y ¡Buen Provecho! the Shadows: Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Youth LGBT teens who have attended past confer- down in 1995 I was so upset; I stopped celebrat- At Risk. The University of Connecticut, School ences have described the experience as “life- ing this really cool holiday. *Have questions? Need a recipe? Want to sug- of Social Work approved the idea of creating a changing,” said Harrington, adding “the e-mails Well, no more! This year, as my own personal gest a topic? Contact me: [email protected] conference about LGBT youth and the risks asso- and letters we get are amazing.” act of Irish pride, green activism and gay defi- or www.muchogusto.com. ciated with sexual minority status. The Connecti- Harrington explained that the youth-run work- cut State Department of Children and Families shops “give kids a chance to share their voice.” gave their support as well as The Department of The True Colors web site features testimoni- Lee Daniels turns his eyes toward Bradley Cooper Education, Mental Health and Addiction Servic- als from past attendees, including T.H, age 13: es. Both Connecticut Teachers Unions came on “I had no idea that there were so many gay youth By: Romeo San Vicente* /Special for TRT anyone think it’s possible to have it both ways? board, as did more than 30 grassroots community just like me in Connecticut. I’m so happy being Lee Daniels eyes Will it ride the outside edge of insulting, like the organizations. here.” Bradley Cooper way Ashley Fink’s character Lauren Zizes gets The first conference, held in March 1994, at- O.M., age 15, said: “This is my first year and What movie will to be powerful an the butt of fat jokes? Will the tracted 160 teachers, social service and mental I can’t tell you how good it makes me feel. The Lee Daniels (Pre- show simply abandon the character and her sto- health care providers, and 90 LGBT youth. staff here is so helpful and kind!” cious) make next? It ry lines when the next sensational musical guest This year’s conference will feature author and The conference attracts youth from Rhode Island, seems like he has a star comes along? Can politically outspoken consultant Robyn Ochs, who is the editor of the Massachusetts, and New York. Harrington said it new potential proj- Kathy Griffin play a sympathetic right-winger Bisexual Resource Guide. is “the largest event of its kind in the country.” ect every few weeks. without smirking? And, more to the point, how The conference serves to empower queer youth, Will it be Selma like long before Sarah Palin takes to the Internet with as well as educate them about the we keep hearing? a video explaining how offended she is? importance of doing work on behalf The Butler? That of LGBT issues, Harrington noted. remake of Fellini’s Tilda’s Thai debut? The new leaders of tomorrow Nights of Cabiria? Well, the answer is That tiny sound you just barely heard was the are being created at events like maybe “none of the above” if The Pa- collective swoon and sigh of art film fans who True Colors 18, and will put them perboy happens. Based on Pete Dexter’s very much want the following project to hurry in a position to help their LGBT 1995 novel, it’s a crime thriller about up and become real: hyper-acclaimed gay Thai elders in the future. two brothers pulled into filmmaker Apichatpong Weeras- “They will be taking care of the investigation of a rural ethakul, whose latest film Uncle us,” Harrington added. sheriff’s murder and it’s Boonmee Who Can Recall His set to star I Am Number Past Lives won the Palme d’Or at To register for True Colors Four’s hot young thing Cannes and is currently in a hand- XVIII, go to www.ourTrueCol- Alex Pettyfer. Word is that ful of U.S. arthouse cinemas, is Daniels is already reading working on his next film,Mekong

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dee Vergara. Of course, what water, the catastrophic flooding Precious fans want to know is if which is blamed on Chinese dams there’s a part for Gabourey Sidibe and diseases spread by industrial- in all this, because given the fleet- scale pig farming.” Of course, if ing nature of deals and shelved that’s the case then expect those projects, literally anything can still Photo: New Line Cinema themes to be dealt with obliquely; happen at this point. So stay tuned Bardley Cooper Weerasethakul is infamous for for further speculation. plotlines that feel baffling right down to the closing credits. But who cares, re- Griffin’sGlee ful Tea Party ally, because if Swinton winds up taking part It wouldn’t be a proper week of entertainment it’ll get the visionary director seen by even more news if the Glee PR machine didn’t have some sets of confused eyes. And in the movie business kind of announcement. And this week’s flash that’s how you win. is the addition of a new right-wing character to the cast. A Tea Party-loving, homeschooling, Lesbian directors are all right Sarah Palin type. Played by Kathy Griffin. Now, Everything’s coming up deals for two les- contrast that casting announcement with creator bian directors. One of them is hot off an Oscar- Ryan Murphy’s stated intention to make this See Hollywood on page 22 character part of the show’s inclusive vibe. Does

follow us ... twitter.com/therainbowtimes www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 17 18 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 19 Life After A-List: Reichen Lehmkuhl candidly on Book Marks: Delicious LGBT books reality regrets, DADT, and a mimicking ex in Bass offer up some spice and much bite! By: Chris Azzopardi/Special for TRT be. …We signed up for this and we understand By: Richard Labonte*/Special for TRT After charming readers in recent years with a Some people had a hard time sitting through what they’re going to do. I wish I could just tell Angels and Manners, by Cynn Chadwick. By- series of winsomely eccentric, gay-centric ro- The A-List: New York, Logo’s tawdry teledoc people, “That’s not the way it is.” But you look water Books, 300 pages, $14.95 paper. mances (50 Reasons to Say Goodbye, Sleight of about a gay gaggle that got eye-roll reactions even more stupid sticking up for yourself, so Carrie Angel is a working-class mother scrap- Hand), Alexander expands his storytelling reach from viewers who couldn’t completely look I’ve learned to just let it go. ing by in Section 8 housing while apprenticing with an engaging twist – the character missing away. Imagine starring in it. CA: You said you’re surprised by some of the for her carpentry license, dueling with her de- a boyfriend is female ad executive CC, adored Reichen Lehmkuhl, who became the show’s reactions, but you also said you knew what you manding and emotionally abusive ex-husband by colorful gay pals while yearning for an ap- punching bag for nasty names, looks back with were getting into. Do you have regrets about do- for custody of her two teenage sons (one a feisty parently unobtainable Mr. Right. The title is regret that you didn’t see him like you should ing the show? Would you do a second season? queer boy), and trying quite misleading; this is have. But he’s learned to get on with his life RL: Umm... I don’t know. They haven’t even to contain her fiery tem- no mystery. Rather, it’s and focus his attention on the future – one that said yet if there will be a second season, so we per. Jen Manners is a a sly reversal of your includes a film based on his first book (a follow- haven’t really thought about it yet. I think that more hoity-toity woman typical gay romance, up to 2006’s Here’s What We’ll Say: Growing there are definitely some regrets. There are mo- – but, in the aftermath focusing on a straight Up, Coming Out, and the U.S. Air Force is in ments when I think, “Wow, we shouldn’t have of an ugly divorce, she’s character – an endearing the works) and exploring other av- even given them that.” A show can forced to move onto Car- blend of youthful Aun- enues of his bottomless ambition make you look like you’re hitting rie’s subsidized housing tie Mame (she’s nearing as a political activist, model, musi- on someone in a club, but the ed- block with her aggrieved 40) and self-doubting cian and jeweler (seriously: he has iting doesn’t let you see that it’s daughter, selling jewelry Bridget Jones – who falls his own line). your friend of 13 years. (Laughs) to get by. Lower-class for a man who, distress- In a recent chat with Lehmkuhl, Suddenly, you’re hitting on some- and upper-class don’t ingly, seems as gay as the the 37-year-old got personal about one in the club because you’re blend well at first, but male friends with whom his hurt feelings, how the repeal of having a conversation and saying eventually the two women bond – a friendship he parties. The British “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” affected it’s too bad someone’s leaving the forged in part through the three teens – in this author’s six previous books were written pri- him, his book-turned-movie, and next day. That’s terrible, and it’s in-touch-with-the-times novel about home fore- marily for a queer audience, and gay readers will his take on ex-boyfriend Lance hard. closures, government cutbacks and a degrading no doubt relish the queer content of this well- Bass seemingly copying his Even doing my song (“Up to the downward economic spiral. Carrie and Jen both written seventh. It’s a slight stretch to compare career. Sky,” a DADT protest tune), the start out straight, but they aren’t destined to fall Alexander’s fiction to that of, say, Armistead show showed the one moment in love – the lesbian twist involves a third wom- Maupin – but this slyly commercial novel could Chris Azzopardi: A:You were where I really screwed up, and an. Instead, Chadwick’s expertly constructed share the crossover appeal, to straight readers, of called lots of nasty names for your anyone who’s a singer screws up. novel (she was once a master carpenter) focuses Maupin’s work. behavior on The A-List: New York. They took that and ran it over and on the process of women learning to discover How do you feel about the way over and over, and it ruined any their strengths and to trust themselves. *Richard Labonte has been reading, editing, Logo cast you? credibility that I had to sing or to selling, and writing about queer literature since Reichen Lehmkuhl: It hurts. If Reichen Lehmkuhl, the have a song or to try to do some- The Case of the Missing Boyfriend, by Nick Al- the mid-’70s. He can be reached in care of this it didn’t hurt, I think there’d be former Air Force captain thing good. You see the tragic part, exander. BigFib Books, 364 pages, $15.95 paper. publication or at [email protected]. something wrong with me. I see and star of Logo’s and that’s it. myself differently. Clearly when I “A-List: New York.” Had I known it was going to be look at my life I see myself being so negative, I wouldn’t have done raised in a trailer park and breaking into a suc- any of that on camera. I would’ve kept it as a cessful military career, serving my country and very private part of my life and just released a graduating from the Air Force Academy. song on my own, because now a lot of people After getting out and writing a book that sticks won’t even download the song. They’re judging up for our entire community and cries out for it based on what they saw on the TV show. help from everyone to get rid of a policy that’s CA: Would you like to continue to pursue music? going to help a lot of other anti-gay policies fall, RL: Um, yeah. I think I’d love to record more to see anyone in the community turn around songs. I play the guitar all the time. I’ve been and call me a douche bag, it just makes me say, playing the guitar since I was 7, but the show “Wow.” I watch A-List with different eyes, I’m makes it look like I am 7. (Laughs) If I did re- sure. I guess if I were watching the show from cord more songs, I would never ever do it on those people’s eyes, maybe I would think I was the show. It was a humiliating experience for a douche bag, too. me when I set out for it to be really great project CA: How is it balancing serious stances on is- from the heart and to make a difference. sues like DADT and then doing a reality show To continue reading this story, please visit like A-List? us online at: www.therainbowtimesmass.com/ RL: (Laughs) It’s really hard, because with a 2011/03032011/reichen. show like A-List the cameras are on us for five months – 3,600 hours over the summer just of me – and you probably saw, over 10 episodes, Improving Law from page 13 maybe three hours. Imagine what they can do. districts to determine whether they are in I tell people, “Don’t talk to me about editing compliance with this act. However, the legis- until you’ve done a reality TV show, because lation is not specific as to what this evaluation you don’t know what you’re talking about.” Out will entail. The statute should be amended to of 3,600 hours, you take three hours of that and be more specific about how school districts you make a person whatever you want them to will be evaluated. For example, the legislation could require the Department of Elementary and Secondary Education to develop survey Trans Man from page 13 instruments for distribution to a variety of chances are you will recognize that in many stakeholders including students, parents, ad- ways it is yours. ministrators, staff, and other experts to gauge I hope that you recognize something true how effective the plan is in the anti-bullying here in this column. I invite your questions, efforts of that particular school district. comments and concerns. With these changes, the Commonwealth’s commitment to ending bullying in our schools *Tynan Power is a parent, a writer, a would be enormously strengthened. progressive Muslim leader, an interfaith or- ganizer, a (very slow) runner, mostly a big *Carly Burton is the Director of Public goof, sometimes taken too seriously, loving, Policy and Political Affairs for MassEqual- gentle, FTM, queer-cultured, a pen geek, of- ity. This column was adapted from testimony ten dehydrated, full of wanderlust. He also Burton gave at a February 17 public hearing happens to be a transgender man. Tynan can held by Attorney General Martha Coakley’s be reached at [email protected]. Commission on Bullying Prevention. 20 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com A Rhode Island Gay priest’s life story circles back on itself, again embracing the church By: Joe Siegel/TRT Reporter was something he wasn’t suited for. The semi- ings about their relationships and “ask me to as Facebook. He doesn’t want to draw people Reverend David Martins is the pastor narians were monitored closely by the priests. pray for friends,” Martins explained. from other churches, preferring to attract people of Saint Therese Old Catholic Church in There was no privacy. When he isn’t preaching from the pulpit, who may have felt alienated from religion in downtown Providence. “You live in a fish bowl,” Martins explained, Martins serves as an general and are seeking The church is not affiliated with the noting the priests would listen in on their stu- OUTspoken Coordina- a welcoming place to Catholic Diocese of dents’ conversations. tor for Youth Pride, Inc. “They all look the same pray. Providence. It is a part Martins experienced what (YPI), the state’s larg- to me, which is nice because “I would love to see of the North American he called a constant state of est organization which the parish grow,” Mar- Catholic Church and paranoia. The pressure be- serves the needs for they all look the same to God,” tins said. “I couldn’t be is an LGBT-friendly came overbearing. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, said Martins of his diverse happier with it.” ri news ri congregation. “I couldn’t take it any- Transgender, Queer, Saint Therese Parish gath- more,” Martins said. “It felt and Questioning youth. congregation. For more infor- ers in the chapel on the first very liberating to leave.” “The kids are great,” mation about Saint floor of Mathewson Looking back, Martin be- Martins said. “It’s a great position.” Therese Old Catholic Church, go to the church St. Church. The 80-member lieves his mistake was enter- Martins is trying to get the word out about web site at www.saintthereseocc.org or call congregation is a mix of gays ing the seminary at too young Saint Therese through social media sites such 401-263-4296. and straights. The church also an age. He needed more time welcomes homeless people to to live his life and experience come and worship. the world before making such “They all look the same to a serious commitment. NOM-Rhode Island launches radio campaign me, which is nice because Martins eventually landed By: Joe Siegel/TRT Reporter said that 80 percent of Rhode Islanders wanted they all look the same to a job as a bartender in Provi- The Rhode Island chapter of the National Or- to vote on the issue. God,” said Martins of his di- dence and became very close ganization for Marriage (NOM) is taking aim at However, a poll commissioned in 2010 verse congregation. to the LGBT community. Governor Lincoln Chafee’s support for same- by Marriage Equality Rhode Island (MERI) Martins, who is gay, grew Photo: joe siegel Martins enjoyed the so- sex marriage in a new radio advertisement. found that 59 percent of respondents favored up as a Catholic. David Martins cializing with other gays but Two bills have been introduced which would allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry. Martins went to Catho- eventually became disillu- allow gay and lesbian couples to exchange In his Inaugural address last month, Chafee lic school as a child, was involved in parish sioned with the experience and wanted some- marriage vows. The House Judiciary will hear urged legislators to pass a marriage equality youth groups and even served as an altar server. thing else in his life. He also wanted to quit testimony on the bill next bill soon. Former Gover- His father is a Deacon in the Roman Catholic drinking, which had become a serious problem. Wednesday. nor Don Carcieri, whose Church. “I felt empty inside,” Martins noted. “I want- The 30 second ad fea- ... a poll commissioned in two terms in office ended Martins realized that he wanted to become a ed to make a difference.” tures a man and a woman in January, was an outspo- priest so, fresh out of high school, he joined a Martins decided to embrace the Catholic discussing Chafee’s at- 2010 by Marriage Equality ken opponent of same-sex seminary. Church again. tempt to “redefine” mar- Rhode Island (MERI) marriage. Carcieri even At the time, Martins knew he was attracted to “Once you’ve had a faith experience, it al- riage instead of tackling endorsed the efforts of other men. Some of the priests knew it too, but ways stays with you,” Martins noted the state’s economic found that 59 percent NOM to prevent gays and “it almost didn’t matter,” Martins noted, since Being a pastor has been very rewarding for problems. lesbians from getting mar- all seminarians were called on to be celibate. Martins. “I don’t want legisla- of respondents favored ried in the state. However, seminary life at Providence College The congregation members share their feel- tors messing with mar- allowing gay and lesbian NOM spent in excess of riage,” says the woman. $100,000 on the television “Marriage brings men and couples to marry. advertisement. They are top 10 best seller videos women together to help also encouraging support- Courtesy: wolfevideo.com ensure that as many children as possible are ers to e-mail their state representatives in an ef- raised by a mom and a dad. And kids need a fort to put the same-sex marriage on a ballot. mom and a dad.” State Rep. Jon Brien (D-Woonsocket) has Lesbian Top 10 The ad ends with the man saying that the announced plans to file legislation which 1. Elena Undone same-sex marriage issue should be placed on would allow the issue to be decided by voters, a ballot for the voters to decide. not the General Assembly. 2. A Marine Story Last month, NOM paid for a 30-second tele- The legislation would ask voters in the 2012 3. Room in Rome vision ad which also took aim at Chafee’s sup- election to approve or reject a constitutional port for marriage rights for same-sex couples. amendment specifying that “only marriage 4. Nicole Conn Romance Pack “Lincoln Chafee got just 36% of the vote in between a man and a woman is valid or recog- 5. Bloomington the recent election, and fewer popular votes nized in the State of Rhode Island.” than the Cool Moose Party’s candidate for Brien said he believes the issue of what con- 6. The Four-Faced Liar Lieutenant Governor,” said Christopher Plante, stitutes a marriage is very important because the union “serves as a societal cornerstone.” 7. My Normal Executive Director of NOM-RI. “Our message is that getting 36% of the vote is no mandate “The people are the sovereign rulers in 8. The Kids Are All Right to redefine the institution of marriage for all of Rhode Island, not the politicians, and putting Rhode Island society.” the issue on the ballot for the people to decide 9. The Real L Word - Last year, NOM commissioned a poll which is the right thing to do,” Brien added. Complete First Season 10. And Then Came Lola

Gay Top 10 1. Undertow (Contracorriente) 2. Role/Play 3. Prayers for Bobby 4. Plan B 5. Howl 6. Pornography: A Thriller 7. Is It Just Me? 8. David’s Birthday 9. Handsome Harry 10. Vampire Boys www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 21 MassEquality newest initiative aims to help schools in anti-bullying prevention By: Chuck Colbert/TRT Reporter bisexual, and transgender parents,” she said. of protections such as gender, religion, sexual Executive director Suffrendini, for exam- Two hundred people turned out on Feb. 19, Massachusetts has one of the nation’s stron- orientation and gender identity or expression ple, told the gathering of her experience. “I as the state’s largest gay-rights and lobbying gest anti-bullying laws, providing broad pro- put everyone on notice for who is protected, was called ‘Tom Boy’ to my face and ‘dyke’ organization rolled out the color red—ruby, tections against harmful behaviors. Suffrendini explained. behind my back,” she said. crimson, scarlet, lipstick, and cherry. The occa- The law defines bullying as repeated acts that “Without enumerated characteristics school Another person spoke of being bullied for sion was MassEquality’s Red Party, the group’s cause physical or emotional harm, places stu- officials might not know they need to protect coming out bisexual: “People kept calling me signature fundraiser. This year marked the sec- dents “in reasonable fear of harm,’’ or create LGBT kids, or teachers might not feel comfort- names like ‘dyke’ and ‘fag.’ I’ve been bul- ond annual celebration, held an “unwelcoming or hostile able standing up for LGBT lied for how I look. When I at The Estate, a nightclub environment at school for an- youth because they don’t told my mother I was bi, she located in Boston’s Theatre other person.’’ want to bring gay issues into didn’t believe it.” District neighborhood. It prohibits bullying on the school by doing so,” she “If it’s happening Julie Goodridge, treasurer Altogether, a host of indi- school grounds, on school added. of the MassEquality Edu- vidual and corporate sponsors buses, at school-sponsored Last fall more a dozen in Cambridge, cation Fund, discussed her raised $75,000, with proceeds activities, and through elec- teenage boys committed sui- daughter’s bullying, starting going to fund a new MassE- tronic communication like cide after reportedly experi- we know that it in nursery school for hav- quality initiative that would e-mail or social networking encing peer harassment for ing two moms. “Two years provide support to schools media. being gay or being perceived is happening in ago, a classmate called her across the Commonwealth The law requires that every to be gay. a ‘fucking homo freak’ on in implementing the state’s school employee report inci- Perhaps the most widely our cities and Annie’s Facebook page,” anti-bullying law, passed last dents of suspected bullying covered incident was the which is minor compared spring by the Legislature. and that principals investigate death of Tyler Clementi, towns across to the abuse kids like Carl The new initiative adds an- each case. It also requires an 18-year-old freshman at Walker-Hoover endured,” schools, both public and Rutgers University. There, Julie said. other policy piece to MassE- Photo: Kirk J. Miller the state.” quality’s expanded mission private, to develop compre- roommates secretly video- “I know that school yards of making the state the best Kara Suffrendini, MassEquality’s hensive bullying prevention, taped Clementi and another and school environments can place for LGBT people to live Executive Director intervention and notification male during an intimate sexual encounter. A be very rough places for kids who identify as “from cradle to grave.” plans and to publish them in day later, after they had posted it on the Inter- LGBT and for kids whose parents identify that “What we are looking to do is fund a posi- student handbooks. net, Clementi, jumped from the George Wash- way,” said Sue Hyde, a mother of two, who tion for someone to be responsible for working In addition, the law provides for training of ington Bridge. also serves on the MassEquality Education with school districts, helping to ensure that the teachers and students on how to identify, pre- Fortunately, none of the most recent teen sui- Fund’s board of directors. policies put in place are, at a minimum, in com- vent, and manage incidents of bullying cides occurred in Massachusetts. But two years “My kids were not subject to the fierce and pliance with what the law requires,” explained But for all its strengths, however, the anti- ago, 11-year-old Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover relentless bullying and taunting that we hear Kara Suffrendini, MassEquality’s executive bullying measure lacks enumerated character- of Springfield hanged himself after enduring about,” she explained. “They certainly ex- director. istics of protections for types of students most bullying at school, including daily taunts of be- perienced, in grades K - 8, a variety of ways “We want to provide technical assistance for likely to experience bullying. ing gay, despite his mother’s pleas to the school that their family was disparaged and spoke educators, helping them to craft the best poli- “Our law only prohibits conduct, not particu- to address the problem. about in unkind ways. This was in the City of cies that we know of and to ensure that poli- lar kinds of bullying,” Suffrendini said. During a short program at the Red Party and Cambridge. If it’s happening in Cambridge, cies put into place are successful in protecting Why is listing specific categories so impor- afterwards, several people discussed LGBT-re- we know that it is happening in our cities and LGBT youth and children with lesbian, gay, tant? Anti-bullying laws that name categories lated bullying in highly personal terms. towns across the state.”

Beware from page 3 teract the hateful propaganda spread by groups Last March, the organization issued a press such as the Massachusetts Family Institute. Immigration Equality announces a new record release which included the following: “It is one The battle to protect marriage rights in the Bay thing if homosexuals want to live quietly in their State has been a top priority of Mass Equality. number of asylum victories achieved in 2010 homes and their private clubs; after all, it is a “As the years go by since marriage equality Organization, and its Pro Bono partners, secure a free country. But the homosexual activists want become the law of the land in Massachusetts, we to force their will on us, influence our families continue to witness how equal marriage is good safe haven for individuals suffering persecution for families, the community, and the economy, by redefining the blessed institution of marriage PRNewswire-USNewswire—Immigration home country, disowned by their families and for the rest of us, fool the educators and the kids and hurts no one,” said Kara Suffredini, Execu- tive Director of Mass Equality. Equality, a national organization that helps ob- ostracized by society. By offering them safe in our schools with the slogan: “it is everybody’s tain asylum for individuals persecuted in their haven, the United States is not only saving their business”. Suffredini said that the predictions made by groups like the Massachusetts Family Institute home country based on their sexual orientation, lives, but benefitting from the talent, skills and The Family Institute of Connecticut has also gender identity or HIV-status, announced today service these asylees bring to our country. We taken a leading role in opposing marriage rights and Mass Resistance about what marriage would bring are “not only flat wrong, but nothing more that its legal and pro bono teams won a record are proud, and honored, to help them begin life for same-gender couples. The organization sup- 101 cases in 2010. An overwhelming number anew here in their adopted homeland.” ported amending the United States Constitution than fear mongering.” Still, the financial contributions these groups of those wins – 38 – were for clients from the Since the mid-1990s, the United States has to restrict the definition of marriage to be a union Caribbean, with 28 of those for individuals recognized persecution due to sexual orienta- between a man and a woman only. make to political candidates who are opposed to any type of pro-LGBT legislation make them a from Jamaica. Other cases included 24 asylum tion and gender identity as a basis for seeking The FIC also attempted unsuccessfully to seekers from Central and South America; 16 asylum. In the past five years, Immigration amend the state Constitution to prevent same- powerful force to be reckoned with. from Eastern Europe (including seven Russian Equality and its partner law firms have rep- gender couples from marrying in Connecticut. “In 2010, we bucked the Tea Party Express clients); nine from the African continent and resented more than 500 LGBT people fleeing New Hampshire’s Cornerstone Action and and elected another supermajority of pro-LGBT five from the Middle East. persecution abroad. Clients have hailed from Cornerstone Policy Research have also devoted lawmakers,” Suffredini added. “And voter by Immigration Equality maintains the largest some of the most notoriously homophobic themselves to opposing any type of LGBT civil voter, election by election, that’s what we’ll con- pro bono network of attorneys – in addition countries in the world, including Uganda, Syr- rights legislation. tinue to do to promote family values that value to its in-house legal staff – dedicated solely to ia, Egypt and elsewhere. Cornerstone’s vision is “to create an environ- all families in Massachusetts.” securing asylum for lesbian, gay, bisexual and “Every day, we hear from vulnerable LGBT ment in which strong families—the foundation Lee Swislow, the Executive Director of Gay transgender asylum seekers. Firms provid- people who desperately need legal help and have of our society—can lead New Hampshire into a and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD), ing pro bono representation for Immigration nowhere else to turn,” said Victoria Neilson, new era of prosperity and strength.” said the anti-LGBT organizations still have a lot Equality clients include Dewey & LeBoeuf; Immigration Equality’s legal director. “Our The Executive Director of Cornerstone is Kevin of power. Jones Day; Kirkland and Ellis; Latham Wat- in-house legal staff maintains an average open Smith, a former NH State Representative. Smith “They may be losing their influence among kins; Ropes and Gray; Skadden; Weill Got- case load of more than 100 cases at any given earned the Christian Coalition’s “Pro-Family” some segments of the population, but among shal; and White & Case. In addition to the 2010 time. It is our generous network of pro bono House Member of the Year honor in 1998. others I think they still have a lot of influence wins announced today, the organization has 97 firms, which donate so much time and energy In Rhode Island, the state chapter of the Na- and they’re fighting us hard,” Swislow noted. additional cases, filed in2 010, which are await- to our clients that make the breadth of our work tional Organization for Marriage (NOM) has Swislow says the LGBT community should ing a ruling, as well as several cases filed prior possible. With their help, we are able to tackle flooded the radio and television airwaves with focus their energies on promoting a positive to 2010. some of the most complicated, heart-wrenching ads in an attempt to stop a same-sex marriage message, instead of worrying about the “pro- “For too many lesbian, gay, bisexual and cases and ensure that we help as many people bill from being passed. family” groups’ misleading messages. transgender people, the world remains a dan- as possible.” Recently, it was revealed that NOM was ly- “We know the most important thing any gerous place,” said Rachel B. Tiven, the group’s ing in its mailers to Ocean State voters when it (LGBT person) can do is to be out and talk with executive director. “In many cases, the clients For more information on asylum for LGBT claimed that very young children in Massachu- their family and friends about their lives,” Swis- who turn to Immigration Equality for help are people, or to join Immigration Equality’s pro setts were being taught about gay marriage. low said. “Our message is about our basic hu- literally running for their lives. They have been bono network of attorneys, visit www.immigra- Several LGBT organizations continue to coun- manity, fairness, and equality.” mistreated and beaten by authorities in their tionequality.org. 22 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Pioneering Heroes for a whole town: Polly Bixby and Karen Grzesik By: Tynan Power/TRT Reporter “You’re either part of the solution, or part of got involved, as well. accepting.” Polly Bixby and Karen Grzesik didn’t the problem,” Bixby recalls. “If someone name “People weren’t complacent,” Bixby says. Many of their friendships are based more on set out to become pioneers in the Mas- calls you or calls someone else a name, you “Now they are complacent.” common interests, they say, and less on shared sachusetts schools. When the two gym have to confront them. If you don’t, you’re part “Things can take generations to change,” Bix- identity. teachers helped establish one of the of the problem.” by says. “But then you have to be vigilant.” “I don’t believe gays, lesbians, bisexuals, state’s first Gay Straight Alliances, they Bixby started treating slurs and insults as Thirty to forty students would show up for transgender people or heterosexuals should live followed the lead of determined students opportunities to challenge homophobia. Then the GSA meetings. in isolation. We live in

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first met, neither was out H as a lesbian. H tion for the time they devoted to contest. They won a sity of Massachusetts, H “In the 70’s,” Grzesik H the GSA. rainbow flag, which as a role model and H says, “You didn’t ‘come H For the students, two key events was kept in the school inspiration.

curtain call curtain H out.’” H served as catalysts. A girl from office and brought out “She gave me cour- H H Athol had been badly beaten at a for special events. age,” Bixby says, “and Especially in Orange, Massachu- H H setts, an industrial town north of the herHHHoHeHs bus stop because she was perceived “Dr. Zak instructed she inspired me with Quabbin Reservoir. to be a lesbian. At the same time, Mahar the custodial staff to the message that this is When Bixby realized she was a lesbian, she students participating in a regional student put up three flag poles,” Photo: tynan power important.” was married to a man and had two children. She council advisory meeting in Boston were talk- Grzesik recalls. Karen Grzesik and Polly Bixby at home in The two also say already knew Grzesik as a colleague and her ing about the need for safe space for gays and Thereafter, the rain- Orange, MA. they are each other’s children’s teacher. They eventually fell in love. lesbians in schools. bow flag flew along- inspiration. Today, they’ve been together almost 30 years. Bixby is careful to note that at the time public side the American flag and the state flag. After “Polly has given me the strength to deal with The early days weren’t easy, though. discussion centered around gay and lesbian stu- a new building was constructed for the school, things I couldn’t have dealt with alone,” Grze- They were ‘outed’ at work by a local man dents; bisexuality was starting to be part of the the flag poles were removed. Today, all three sik says. who saw them together and spread rumors, ac- conversation and transgender came later. flags hang in the school library. “Karen has been a major supporter,” Bixby cording to Bixby. The students chose to call their new GSA In 2007, the two women received an unfore- adds. “The faculty was good about it,” Bixby re- “Save Our Students” or “SOS.” seen honor. The school’s two gyms were named Over time, their support for each other has calls, “One day, the vice principal came up to “Back then, we couldn’t even use the words. after them, in a ceremony honoring the retired nurtured a whole town. me, put his arm around me and said ‘We love It was like [gay] was a dirty word,” Bixby re- teachers’ contributions to Mahar over careers “I treat being lesbian as normal,” Bixby says. you anyway.’” calls. “GSAs were all called something else. In that spanned more than 30 years each. Her message for people who don’t see it that The school often treated them like any mar- North Adams, they were ‘A Bunch of Grapes.’ “We were in the right place at the right time,” way is simple: “Get over it.” ried couple, putting them on “early bird” duty Even though the group was officially called Bixby says of the honor. “If it was 10 years later “It’s easy for me to say that, at 70. I’ve built a together instead of on separate days. ‘SOS,’” Bixby says she always made sure to or 10 years earlier, it wouldn’t have been our reputation,” she says. “But we have to be careful A turning point came when they began taking use the word “gay.” names on that building.” not to put that [gay] 14 or 15-year-old in danger.” graduate classes in the social justice program Bixby and Grzesik weren’t alone in their ef- “It’s such an honor to have a facility like that “Sometimes,” she says, “they’re not ready to at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. forts. Teachers in the high school and the middle named after you,” Grzesik says. “You know, hold hands.” In one memorable class, they heard a powerful school helped and the support of the administra- that was my life down there [at the school]. “Then,” Grzesik adds, “we have to hold their message that has stayed with them. tion, under Dr. Francis Zak, was crucial. Parents It’s nice that this town has grown to be that hands.”

Hollywood from page 16 Creep of the Week: Springfield authorS cott Lively - claims Nazis were all gay nominated success story. The other one By: D’Anne Witkowski/Special for TRT Americans, who were presented as experts on ho- wait to catch the images and spin the propaganda brushed up against Academy Award acclaim I don’t know if you’ve been paying attention to mosexuality. The visitors discussed how to make that is even now poisoning the gullible against the a few years ago. And both of them have high what’s been going on in Uganda lately, but you gay people straight, how gay men often sodom- Ugandans,” he writes. profile projects lined up. Lisa Cholodenko, should know that it’s really, really bad for gays ized teenage boys” and how gays are evil and want Wait, what? People who are horrified by the “kill whose The Kids Are All Right is the movie there. Like, get-murdered-with-a-hammer bad. to destroy marriage and replace it with free-for-all the gays” bill are all a bunch of suckers? Right. to beat in the Best Actress race, is taking on Gay rights advocate David Kato was killed last orgies. And, yes. The “gay media” just loves it when gays the film adaptation of Tom Perrotta’s novel month after his photo appeared on the cover of A month later the “kill the gays” bill was get murdered. Anything for a good story. Building The Abstinence Teacher. In the same vein as Ugandan tabloid “Rolling Stone” (not to be con- introduced. the gay revolution one body bag at a time. Perrotta’s earlier stories, Election and Little fused with the American music magazine) that Coincidence? Well, no. “These very media have rushed eagerly to judge Children, it will mine anxiety in suburbia proclaimed in huge block letters across its cover: And while Lively has said he doesn’t support (Kato’s murder) a hate crime and to blame those, when a New Jersey sex education teacher has “100 Pictures of Uganda’s Top Homos Leak.” like me, who have spoken against homosexu- to battle local conservative forces that would Next to the headline is a little yellow banner ality in Uganda,” Lively continues. “It is the seek to silence her curriculum. Meanwhile, reading, “Hang them.” In a Feb. 5 rant, Lively claims that central (but patently false) narrative of the left tough-minded Boys Don’t Cry filmmaker Kato wasn’t hung, but he was beaten to “Uganda is being murdered” by a that all criticism of homosexuality leads inevi- Kimberly Peirce has set up The Knife at Uni- death with a hammer. The cops say it was just tably to violence and murder.” versal, a true crime drama about an L.A. gang a robbery. But gay advocates in Uganda aren’t Western-led “army of agitators ... Um, no. All criticism of homosexuality member-turned-FBI-informant whose life is buying it. Considering the level of anti-gay doesn’t “inevitably to violence and murder.” in constant danger. No casts or start dates for hatred in Uganda - the country is considering who now seek to re-homosexualize Duh. The kid who calls you a dyke in gym either of these projects, but details are sure to a bill that would call for the execution of gays Ugandan culture” and the only logical class because you tagged him out in dodge come soon enough. - you can hardly blame them for not taking the ball doesn’t “inevitably” punch you in the police’s word for it. response to such an attack is violence. face, nor does your grandmother “inevitably” *Romeo San Vicente thinks abstinence is hilar- According to a statement by Val Kalende, stab you and your partner to death after refus- ious. He can be reached care of this publication chairwoman of gay rights group Freedom and the “kill” part, he does think that making homo- ing to come to your commitment ceremony. or at [email protected]. Roam Uganda, “David’s death is a result of the sexuality illegal is a “step in the right direction” But what’s happening in Uganda goes beyond hatred planted in Uganda by U.S. evangelicals in for Uganda. “criticism of homosexuality.” LGBT Ugandans 2009. The Ugandan government and the so-called After Kato’s murder, Lively went on the defen- are the subject of constant harassment and state- U.S. evangelicals must take responsibility for sive, denying any culpability and basically saying sanctioned violence. That Lively holds up a coun- David’s blood.” that Kato’s murder was no big deal in light of the try that is seriously considering a law to literally TRT Heroes One of those “U.S. evangelicals” Kalende is real murder in Uganda: the murder of the whole kill gay people just for being gay as an example Know someone referring to is Scott Lively, president of Abid- country by gay activists. of a place where people can respectfully disagree In a Feb. 5 rant, Lively claims that “Uganda is about homosexuality shows a serious, and danger- who works for the LGBT community ing Truth Ministries and the author of a book and who gives endlessly that claims the Nazis were all gay. Back in 2009 being murdered” by a Western-led “army of agita- ous, disconnect with reality. Lively and two other American evangelical Chris- tors ... who now seek to re-homosexualize Ugan- and selflessly to everyone? tians went around Uganda giving talks about dan culture” and the only logical response to such *D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since Nominate them to be homosexuality. an attack is violence. 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe our next TRT Hero! According to The New York Times, “thousands “And that is, of course, the strategy: the agents it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the of Ugandans, including police officers, teach- provocateur are goading unsophisticated natives world she reviews rock ‘n’ roll shows in Detroit Please send your nominations to: ers and national politicians, listened raptly to the into over-reacting, while the ‘gay’ media lie in with her twin sister. [email protected] www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • 23 Mi serenata LGBT cubana y el entendimiento cubano de nuestra comunidad Por: Wilfred W. Labiosa*/Columnista de TRT as planifican una Jornada en contra de la homo- ser humano como se debe tratar. Gracias a Sil- Quiero darles las gracias a todos/as mis com- egreso a fobia a través de todo el año y mi presentación verio pude conocer otra cara de la comunidad pañero/as de viaje, ¡qué grupo más chévere! A Cuba, esta fue la primera actividad del 2011. Esta Jornada, LGBT. En este lugar la comunidad de hombres los grupos LGBT que conocí, les exhorto a que Rvez no sólo durante el mes de Mayo, tiene su marcha y even- gay y transgéneros coordinaron una noche in- sigan su camino y que sigan siendo tan cálidos para trabajar en tos especiales—los que consideramos acá como volvidable para el grupo de personas con quien ya que el calor humano que sentí fue inolvidable. situaciones humani- Orgullo/Pride. El título de mi presentación fue: viajaba y en especial para Oz y yo. ¡Qué bellas Les doy las gracias por haberme aceptado en sus tarias pero tam- “Conversatorio sobre Teoría Queer: un lente personas son todo/as! Esta comunidad es unida, grupos y por haberme dado la oportunidad de bién para aprender diferente para entender nuestra comunidad.” es gay y están orgullo- seguir construyendo en- En este conversatorio incluí el documental de sos/as de quienes son. laces entre la comunidad

ess y compartir más H con la comunidad Mizery y le obsequié libros de Johny Díaz y la ¡Los familiares, madres, Latina LGBT de Estados ric ric E LGBT. Esta vez película hecha en mi patria Puerto Rico, “Manu- vecinos, y otro/as vi- Unidos y Cuba. Gracias ela y Manuel”. nieron a compartir una a Camilo, Roque, Silve-

hoto: hoto: me uno al grupo del p CENESEX llamado En esta conversación pude abordar “los sig- noche de musica, com- rio, Yosley, Jose Luis, Grupo HxD (Hombres por La Diversi- nificados de “lo queer”, en contraposición a las pañerismo y amistad! Papito, Mercedes, Mari- dad) y sus facilitadores. Además regreso categorizaciones que clasifican a los seres huma- Puerto Rico y Cuba ela, Carmela, y a todos/ para saborear mi “serenata cubana” nos basados en la orientación sexual y la identi- son similares pero cu- as los que compartieron compuesta de comida, arte, musica, dad de género. También incluí brevemente a los ando se habla de dere- conmigo. ¡Gracias les latin vision latin sonidos y la gentileza de la gente. Este es teóricos más destacados que formularon las bas- chos de la comunidad envío al personal de un viaje con tantas expectativas, y todas ¡gracias es de esta proposición y su aplicación en la actu- LGBT, ¡Cuba nos gana la Fundación Ludwig, a Yemaya, Elegua y a la Caridad del Cobre, se alidad. Resalté así mismo el papel transgresor de por mucho! La musica, Photo: Wilfred Labiosa CENESEX y Mejunge! hicieron realidad! “lo queer” frente a todo enfoque normalizador comida, el calor huma- La delegación con miembros de la comu- A todos/as les digo que Yo añoraba compartir con individuos de la de la sexualidad humana (CENESEX, 2011)”. no, la bebida, y el idi- nidad LGBT de Villa Clara en el Mejunge; sigan su visión de traer a comunidad LGBT en Cuba y en este viaje pude El “Mejunge” es un centro de reunion, club oma son similares, pero Pescador en la Habana, Cuba. Cuba el derecho a la li- hacerlo en Habana y Santa Clara. Pude tener nocturno, bar, restaurante, y galería de arte, abi- en términos de entender bre libertad de expresión un “conversatorio” con la comunidad LGBT. erto por más de 25 años en el pueblo de Santa la política LGBT y el liderazgo son totalmente sexual y de género. ¡Les felicito y espero verlo/ Gracias a mis “hermanos” Roque y Camilo Clara en la provincia de Villa Clara. Las perso- opuestos. En vez de ellos/as hablar sobre las as pronto! ¡Qué siga la Jornada del 2011! nas de toda índole, incluyendo universatarios, diferencias usan las semejanzas para trabajar pude conocer a lo/as líderes de las comunidades Para más informacion de este grupo y la Jor- LGBT Cubana en Santa Clara y Habana. Conocí musicos, dragas, adolescentes, personas de ter- juntos/as, para incrementar la igualdad y soli- cera edad y de la comunidad GLBT, vienen a daridad del movimiento LGBT en Cuba. Debe- nada visita: www.cenesex.sld.cu/webs/diversi- a personas ilustres cubanas que se esforzaron, dad/diversidad.htm sufrieron y siguen trabajando con y por la comu- este local para participar de conciertos, exposi- mos de aprender de ellos/as para poder encontrar nidad LGBT Cubana. ¡Qué lindas las personas ciones de arte, su cafecito y para bailar. Cuando nuestra fortaleza. A los líderes en Puerto Rico de *Escrito por Wilfred Labiosa, activista y tra- (y líderes) como lo son Silverio, Mariela, Roque se entra por las puertas del Mejunge se siente la la comunidad LGBT les invito a que visiten a bajador social en el area de Massachusetts. unidad y la alegria. Su gerente, Silverio, es una Cuba para que aprendan todos/as de su Jornada y Camilo! To read this article in English, please visit: Pude compartir una tarde tan amena con ex- persona increíble que trata a todo/as por igual. en contra de la Homofobia/Transfobia. Debe- El ayuda a esos desanparado/as, a la comunidad mos reconozer que mucho se puede aprender de www.therainbowtimesmass.com/2011/03032011/ celentes preguntas y conversaciones con miem- latinvision. bros de los grupos LGBT del CENESEX. Ello/ LGBT, al estudiante y al viajero. El trata a todo/a la historia y movimiento LGBT Cubano. The OutField: Dallas serves up a gay Super Bowl read us online @ therainbowtimesnews.com By: Dan Woog* /Special for TRT diversity. He mentions the 225-voice Turtle Creek ow cold was Chorale, and the 4,000-member Cathedral of Hope. it in Dal- Selig is not a big sports fan. But he and his part- Hlas during ner spent the night before the Super Bowl on Cedar this month’s Super Springs Road, and had a great time. Bowl? “I watched one Super Bowl, and said that the So cold that rev- guys with blue asses were cuter than the ones with elers at the Cedar red asses,” he laughs. “But I went Saturday night orts Springs Super Street to support my community. I’m supportive of any- thing that helps the gay community, this neighbor-

p Party kept ducking into bars and clubs – hood, or all of Dallas.” even though DJs, live The Super Street Party “was not necessarily s bands, beer booths, a sports event,” Selig says. “It was a block party food vendors and to-die-for swimmer themed around the Super Bowl.” He expected q Michael Holtz (the emcee) beckoned on more Steelers and Green Bay jerseys, but notes he a long block of the Oak Lawn neighborhood that might have missed them underneath so many lay- was closed to traffic. ers of warm clothing. It was so cold that all the hot bodies – belonging Scott Whittall is president of the Cedar Springs to Dallas residents and tourists alike – were bun- Merchants Association. He’s also a big football dled up. There was not a steely ab or bare quad in fan (“I went to the University of Oklahoma!” he sight. The only six-packs were the liquid kind. explains). He owns Buli Café, which sponsors a Still, organizers were thrilled. The Cedar Springs softball team that three years ago went to the Gay Merchant Association – a primarily LGBT organi- World Series. “Nearly every business on this road zation, located in the heart of Dallas’ “gay mecca” sponsors at least one sports team,” he says. – threw a Super Bowl street party, and everyone Cedar Springs Road even boasts a gay sports came. bar: Woody’s. Dallas’ gay sports scene was well represented. Whittall saw the Super Street Party as a way to There were softball teams, rugby teams and bowl- draw sports fans together – and show off the neigh- ing leagues. The Texas Gay Rodeo Association borhood to out-of-towners in for the game. Many was there; so were groups with clever names like gay football fans had booked hotels nearby. Different Strokes (golf) and DIVA (Dallas In- “Why should there be only straight parties out dependent Volleyball Association). They set up there?” Whittall wondered before the event. “We tables near the Bud Light main stage, passing out know how to throw a big old, loud crazy party. information and hoping to attract members. We’re going to close the street down and show ev- Cedar Springs/Oak Lawn is 20 miles from erybody how the LGBT community parties.” Cowboy Stadium. Sometimes pro football and the The event was in the works for a year – with plen- LGBT community seem thousands of miles apart. ty of support from straight folks. “The city wrapped But on Super Bowl eve, the entire Metroplex – gay their arms around us,” Whittall says. “The visitors and straight – wanted to strut its stuff to the world. and convention bureau said, ‘Yeah, go ahead and And the weather be damned. close the street down and have a party.’” Though originally from New York, John Selig spent the last 25 years in Dallas. He’s proud of his To continue reading this story, please visit adopted city’s large LGBT community – and its us online at: www.therainbowtimesmass.com/ 2011/03032011/qsports. 24 • March 3, 2011 - April 6, 2011 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com