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This Year, Resolve to Imitate Mary

s we begin a New Year, many of us make resolu- tions. Often, they revolve around the need to lose weight and to exercise more frequently. Obvious- ly, these intentions are to be encouraged, since weA are Temples of the Holy Spirit who must remain strong in body, soul and spirit.

Yet I believe we have the opportunity to is lacking in our lives but rather on the consider another resolution for the New abundant blessings that are in our midst Year: to strive each day to imitate Mary each and every day. May we express our Mother in our daily lives. thanks to the Lord our God, the Source In honor of Mary, The Church begins the New Year with of every good gift. we must renew the Solemnity of Mary, Mother of God. Like Mary, may we understand the We are reminded that out of His great importance of being with Jesus rather our commitment love for us, Jesus gave us an incredible than allowing our lives to be inordinately to demonstrate gift: the ability to call His Mother our about doing. May we treasure the time our respect for Mother. As we reflect upon Mary’s life, to be still and silent in the presence of we focus on her example and her “yes” the Word made Flesh. May we be sure life through to God’s holy will. Our willingness to to begin and to conclude each day with prayer, witness imitate her response leads us ever closer prayer. and service. to her Son. Like Mary at the foot of the cross, Throughout January, we celebrate Re- may we find courage as we embrace the spect Life Month. We honor Mary as the sufferings of her Son, ever assured of One who carried Jesus in her womb. We His power and victory over anything the seek her intercession that all children in world has to offer us. In inviting us to the womb may be protected and that our unite our sufferings to His, Jesus offers great nation will no longer consider the us incredible opportunities to grow in child in the womb a “choice” but always a holiness. life to be revered and celebrated. Like Mary, may we in our particular In honor of Mary, we must renew vocations bring forth God’s very pres- our commitment to demonstrate our ence in the world through the integrity respect for life through prayer, witness and holiness of our lives. In this month and service on behalf of all the weak that we also celebrate Vocations Aware- and vulnerable in society. This is also the ness Week, please pray that our Dio- month that we celebrate Migration Week. cese will be blessed with more priests Please include in your prayer “Justice and an increase of vocations to Conse- for Immigrants” and kindly refer to the crated Life. USCCB web site for resources that may Make your New Year resolution: to enhance this important initiative. imitate Mary. Do so day by day. Ask for There are many other ways we can imi- her powerful intercession and pray for tate Mary in our lives. With God’s grace, the divine assistance of her Son. may we resolve to do so especially as we May the Lord bless you and keep you. begin this New Year. May His face shine upon you and be Like Mary, may we rejoice in the great- gracious to you throughout this New Year ness of the Lord and not focus on what and always!

NC Catholics 2 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org Liturgical Calendar: The Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of God Jan. 1 inside this issue inside what you’ll get out of this issue

from the Bishop 2 This Year, Resolve to Imitate Mary – Bishop Michael F. Burbidge

marriage matters 10 She says: “He wants my email password – that’s private!” He says: “What is she keeping secret?” What do they do? – Tom and Jo Anne Fogle

in exile Father Thomas 12 Maturity in Relationships and F. Price Prayer – Father Ronald Rolheiser, O.M.I. from the editor North Carolina’s 13 Another Beginning – Rich Reece saint of the month Apostle to the World 14 How do we know God? St. Paul the Martyr voices in our church 15 Crashing the Parade – Msgr. Thomas Hadden

15 “Amarás Marás al Inmigrante Como a Tí Mismo”s (Lev. 19, 34) – Padre Carlos N. Arce el hispano Católico 16 ¡Ya que usted lo Obispo el hispano 20 pregunta! 21 Burbidge 22 Católico Madurez en las ¡Qué grande es el El Padre Thomas relaciones amorosas y Amor de Dios para con F. Price: Apóstol de en la oración Nosotros! Carolina del Norte para – Padre Ronald Rolheiser, O.M.I. – Obispo Michael F. Burbidge el mundo parish profile – Por el Padre James F. Garneau, Ph.D. 30 Not a Place, But a People Holy infant, Durham

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Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge Three Women Religious PUBLISHER Frank Morock Celebrate Jubilees DIRECToR oF CoMMUNICATIoNS Jan./Feb. 2011 • Vol. 8 : Issue 1 Richard Reece hree women religious of the Diocese of Ra- therapy and spiritual direction EDIToR IN CHIEF leigh will celebrate anniversaries of religious practice. Anjanette Wiley Sister is sustained in her ADVERTISING MANAGER profession on Saturday, February 5 at Our commitment by the Eucha- Bishop Michael F. Burbidge Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Raleigh: Msgr. Thomas Hadden rist, prayer, nature, creative Darcy Holley Sister Christine Gellings, IHM, a member of activities, spiritual reading and Father Carlos Arce Tthe Sister Servants of the Immaculate Heart of Mary, and being in dialogue with other Father Ronald Rolheiser, O.M.I. Anjanette Wiley women and men who share CoNTRIBUTING WRITERS Ms. Joanne DeGidio and Ms. Echo Lewis, vowed members her faith journey. She would Lettie Banda of Madonna House, a Society for Apostolic Life. A Mass of encourage women exploring TRANSLAToR Thanksgiving and Appreciation for women religious will Denmark Photo & Video (cover) the life of a vowed religious CoNTRIBUTING PHoToGRAPHERS be offered by Bishop Michael F. Burbidge at 11 a.m. Sister to reflect on the aspect

FAITH Catholic of the Gospel that draws them, Sister Sister is a licensed clinical to explore where they see that Rev. Dwight Ezop CHAIRMAN Christine social worker and spiritual aspect of the Gospel being Patrick M. O’Brien Gellings, director who integrates her lived most faithfully, and finally PRESIDENT AND CHIEF EXECUTIVE oFFICER IHM – 50 knowledge of spirituality and to discern if they too are being Elizabeth Martin Solsburg Years a psychology to guide clients to called to live that aspect of the EDIToRIAL DIRECToR member of deeper levels of human free- Gospel in a community that Jillane Job the Sister dom. The call of the Gospel to shares that call. EDIToRIAL ASSISTANT Servants heal the broken hearted, to lib- Patrick Dally ART DIRECToR of the Immaculate Heart erate captives, and to be with Ms. Joanne Lynne Ridenour of Mary others as they journey to new DeGidio, GRAPHIC DESIGNER/WEB MASTER places of truth and freedom MHA – 50 Janna Stellwag Sister Chris Gellings in their lives speaks to her Years a Abby Wieber GRAPHIC DESIGNERS is a member of the Sister experience and expresses the Member of Servants of the Immaculate mission of her community. the Madon- Derek Melot PRooFREADING Heart of Mary, headquartered Sister grew up admiring the na House Jennifer Baron in Monroe, Mich. The Sisters faith of her grandmother, es- Apostolate Rachelle Garbarine are Catholic women bound to- pecially her love of the Eucha- CoNTRIBUTING WRITERS gether in faith, serving God as rist. Having the IHM sisters in Ms. Joanne DeGidio, a InnerWorkings PRINT MANAGEMENT disciples of Jesus. They follow high school led her to choose member of Madonna House

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NC Catholics 4 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org St. Raymond Peñafort, priest January 7 | Feast of the Baptism of the Lord Jan. 9 | St. Hilary, bishop and doctor of the Church Msgr. John Wall Celebrates when enrolled at Georgetown University Referring to one of the Gospel read- Golden Jubilee in Washington, writing to then Diocese ings of the Mass, Msgr. Wall said, “I know of Raleigh Bishop Vincent S. Waters. He that the way the laity received me has Msgr. John Wall, Pastor of the said when he received a brought joy in my life.” He University of North Carolina Newman return letter he hid it under concluded, “It’s all about Center Parish, celebrated his 50th his mattress not wanting doing what God asks. I’m year of Priesthood with a Mass Friday others to know what he glad He asked me, through evening, December 10th at St. Michael was contemplating. the Church fifty years ago, the Archangel Church in Cary. Msgr. Msgr. Wall noted that to become a priest and for Wall was joined by the Most Reverend through the years, his de- your acceptance of me in Michael F. Burbidge, priests of the sire was always to serve in that vocation.” Diocese, family and friends. North Carolina and he got In his remarks at the end “For me, a Catholic Priest celebrating his wish. In his fifty years, of Mass, Bishop Burbidge fifty years of Priesthood,” Msgr. Wall said he has served as pastor noted that the two most im- at the beginning of his homily, “it can’t of numerous parishes, portant qualities in a priest get any better than this.” He talked about served in Diocesan offices and as well are holiness and joy. “Knowing that,” the growing up in North Carolina when the as campus minister of four universities; Bishop said, “it’s no surprise that so many Catholic population was few in number. Wake Forest, Duke, North Carolina State are here tonight to express gratitude for He began thinking of the Priesthood and now UNC-Chapel Hill. the Priesthood of Monsignor Wall.”

gardens and asking herself listening house on the plains ten years. Bishop Goss- Echo and her companions why she was overstaying her of western Canada. She man asked the Madonna live on the generosity of planned time and working so continues to be sustained House Community to send the people who offer them hard. Gradually she realized by community meals and women to Raleigh thirty-two food, clothing and assis- that if she really wanted to conversations with visitors, years ago to be a house of tance with other necessities live the Gospel and not just even more importantly by the “Prayer and Listening” for of life. Echo, a convert to philosophize about it, this was community’s day of quiet each the Diocese. The Madonna Catholicism, was attracted the place to do it. week when each member House community is made to the Madonna House by She describes Madonna prays in solitude, knowing that up of laywomen, laymen and the simple lifestyle, living House as a community the others are praying as well. priests, canonically referred by begging and among the called to live the “Nazareth If someone feels called to to as an “ecclesial com- poor. “It is where I discov- life,” called to love one experience Christian com- munity.” They make prom- ered my faith.” another in a way that would munity life, she says, they are ises of poverty, chastity and All ministry flows from the extend beyond their own welcome to “come and see obedience and aspire to live Madonna House commu- community and bring others Madonna House in Comb- in dependence on God in nity life, whether it is from a into it. The Madonna House ermere, Ontario and live our the model of St. Francis of house with a soup kitchen community tries to do this life with us for a week or even Assisi. The first line of their and clothing room or the by living simply, praying a year. Many young people mandate is, “Arise – go! more contemplative house together and trying to live come for a time during our Sell all your possessions … of prayer and listening. the Gospel in an authentic annual summer program.” give it directly, personally to Echo has done both and way. Joanne was attracted the poor.” Raleigh seemed they are equally honored by the atmosphere in the Ms. Echo a good fit for Madonna and loved. She is sustained community created by Lewis, House since it was a mis- by prayer, both private and the charismatic Catherine MHA – 40 sionary Diocese and had no in community, meals in Doherty, the foundress of Years a community with the main common with guests, and Madonna House. Joanne Member ministry of praying for the by the people who come says Catherine was on fire of the Bishop, priests and people to have someone listen to the Spirit and deeply in love Madonna of the Diocese. In addition them. To a woman attracted with the Lord, whom she House to their frequent daily prayer, to this way of life, Echo uncompromisingly pro- Apostolate their chief service is to be recommends coming to claimed with her life. present for and listening to a Madonna House com- One of Joanne’s most Ms. Echo Lewis has the people who come to munity and sharing the life treasured times was the 23 been a member of Madonna their door – to offer them for a time to see “what God years spent in a poustinia/ House in Raleigh for the last “hospitality of the heart.” has to say.”

St. Hilary, bishop and doctor of the Church Jan. 13 |St. Anthony of Egypt , abbot Jan. 17 | St. Fabian, pope and martyr Jan. 20 | St. Agnes, virgin and martyr Jan. 21 | St. Vincent, deacon and martyr Jan. 22 local news

Bishop Celebrates Feast of Immaculate Conception as Novena Concludes

On December 8, the universal Catholic Church celebrated the Solemnity of the Immaculate Concep- tion. The Feast Day is uniquely Catholic. Left to right, Fr. Martin Restrepo, Fr. Fernando Torres, It marks Mary’s con- Fr. Thomas Tully, Msgr. Matthew Hendrick. ception, without sin, Philip Johnson which was officially Silver Jubilarians Celebrate Mass established as dogma in 1854 by Pope Pius IX in his at St. Thomas More Papal Bull Ineffabilis Dei. The Papal document explains that Mary was conceived free of the stain of original sin On Monday, December 6th, five priests who have since she was to serve as the pure vessel for God- served or are serving in the Diocese of Raleigh celebrated made-flesh. 25th anniversaries of Ordination. The jubilarians are Mon- December 8 is a Holy Day of Obligation for Catholics signor Matthew Hendrick, retired; Monsignor Phillip Leach, worldwide. In the Diocese of Raleigh, the Most Rever- retired (unable to attend); Father Thomas Tully, Pastor of end Michael F. Burbidge celebrated the Solemnity with Holy Family Parish in Hillsborough; Father Fernando Tor- Mass at Cardinal Gibbons High School in Raleigh. In his res, Pastor of St. Bernadette Church in Fuquay-Varina; and homily, Bishop Burbidge spoke of Mary accepting God’s Father Martin Restrepo, Parochial Vicar of Maria, Reina de request “to do something mysterious and far greater las Americas Parish in Mt. Olive. than she ever imagined,” and that “through the grace of A bilingual Mass of thanksgiving was offered at Saint the Holy Spirit, she said ‘yes’ to God’s will.” Thomas More Catholic Church in Chapel Hill. Father Tully Bishop Burbidge spoke to the students about Di- was the principal celebrant and delivered the homily in ocesan seminarian Phillip Johnson, who has been English and Spanish; Msgr. Hendrick, Father Torres and diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. The Bishop Father Restrepo were principal concelebrants. The Most noted how December 8 is the final day of a nine-day Reverend Michael F. Burbidge presided and numerous prayer Novena for Philip that the Bishop requested of priests of the Diocese were in attendance. all Catholics in the Diocese that would culminate on the In his homily, Father Tully noted that the five jubilar- Feast of the Immaculate Conception. ians represented 125 years and some 46,000 days of “We have prayed for Philip through the intercession of priestly service. That service would not be possible, he Mary asking Our Lord Jesus to bless Him with amazing said, without “the support of the people of God, the grace graces, and Philip asked me to thank each one of you,” of the sacraments and the urgency of the call from the Bishop Burbidge said, adding that while Philip has not Holy Spirit.” received a physical cure at this point, “God has already “It is always with a deep sense of gratitude and humil- responded to our prayers.” The Bishop said Philip has ity that any of us can talk about the Priesthood,” he said. grown “stronger in his faith, reflecting serenity, courage “Because of Jesus, our imperfections can be brought to and perseverance, while inspiring and helping others perfection. Through our dependent obedience to God who are struggling. He has never lost hope,” the Bishop we can become agents of the possible, the graceful and said, “and renews his ‘yes’ to the Lord each day, ready the holy.” to accept whatever God asks of him. In God’s will, we In brief remarks at the end of Mass, Bishop Burbidge always find our peace!” spoke of the gratitude of the Diocese and its people for the Following the homily, Sr. Laura Downing, a faculty priestly service of the five men. “We thank you,” he said, member at Cardinal Gibbons High School, renewed her “and pray that Our Lord Jesus will continue to bless you vows to religious life as a Sister of Immaculate Heart and help you to be dedicated and holy priests.” of Mary. At the conclusion of Mass, Bishop Burbidge A reception in St. Thomas More’s newly constructed asked the 1,200 students and faculty to join him in the Friends and Family Hall followed the Mass. Novena prayer for Philip.

NC Catholics 6 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org St. Francis De Sales, bishop and doctor of the Church Jan. 24 | Feast of St. Paul, apostle Diocese Celebrates our Lady of Guadalupe Feast Day

n December 12, Catholic churches throughout the Western Hemisphere celebrated the Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe. In what began primarily as Oa religious feast day in Mexico, the day is now cele- brated in countries throughout Latin America and in the United States. In 1945, Pope Pius XII proclaimed Our Lady of Guadalupe “Queen of Mexico” and “Empress of the Americas,” a position re-affirmed by Pope John Paul II and Pope Benedict XVI.

In the Diocese of Raleigh, worshipers The feast of Our Lady gathered at more than 30 churches to of Guadalupe commemo- celebrate the feast. The Most Reverend rates the appearance of Michael F. Burbidge made a pastoral visit Mary to Juan Diego, a to Sacred Heart Church in Whiteville, poor Mexican laborer, on NC, and joined hundreds who gathered Dec. 9, 1531. When Mary to process around the church grounds appeared, she identified and participate in a prayerful reenact- herself as the Mother of the ment of the apparitions and miracle at True God, Creator of all Guadalupe. A meal in the parish hall things, and asked Juan Di- followed. Although heavy rain ham- ego to request the Bishop pered attendance at some celebrations, of Mexico to build a church especially in the Triangle, hundreds of on the site of the apparition. Hispanic faithful from the St, Bernadette The Bishop at first hesi- Parish and the surrounding area also tated, telling Juan Diego he would like to to Juan Diego, sending him to the top of joined in prayer, singing and a procession see a sign from the Virgin Mary. the hill to gather an assortment of roses on Sunday afternoon. Three days later, she again appeared miraculously blooming in mid-December. Juan Diego placed the flowers inside his tilma, a poor quality cactus cloth, and went back to the Bishop. Standing before The Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge, him, Juan Diego opened his garment. As Bishop of Raleigh, cordially invites and warmly encourages all the roses fell to the floor, they revealed an image of the Holy Mother on the the Diocesan faithful to demonstrate their respect tilma. for human life at these events: The Bishop was convinced, and built the first sanctuary in 1533. The cur- Saturday, January 15, 2011 rent Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe • Mass for Life, 8 a.m. at St. Joseph’s Catholic Church in Raleigh was built in Mexico City in 1976. • LML Pro-life Rally for High School Teens, 10:30 – 12:30 a.m. According to a web site dedicated to at Cathedral School Hall, Raleigh Our Lady of Guadalupe, an estimated • Raleigh Rally and March for Life, 1 p.m. Nash Square, Raleigh 10 million people visit the site every year, making it the most popular Mar- Monday, January 24, 2011 ian shrine in the world. Juan Diego was •Mass and March for Life, 11:30 a.m. – 4 p.m. in Washington D.C. canonized a saint by Pope John Paul II in 2002, with his feast day celebrated December 9.

Feast of St. Paul, apostle Jan. 25 | Ss. Timothy and Titus, bishops Jan. 26 | St. Angela Merici, virgin Jan. 27 | St. Thomas Aquinas, priest and doctor of the church Jan. 28 | St. John Bosco, priest Jan.31 local news

St. Mary, Mt. olive, Breaks Ground for New Church

On November 20, the Most Rev- erend Michael F. Burbidge and mem- bers of St. Mary Parish in Mt. Olive, NC, broke ground for a new church. The church will be the first build- ing funded, in part, by the Diocesan Home Mission Society, which Bishop Burbidge established in 2007 to support the construction and furnish- ing of mission churches and chapels in the mission areas of the Diocese of Raleigh. The Home Mission Society places special emphasis on building church- es and chapels in areas where the St. Catherine of Siena parishioners, because of economic Youth Gather to Serve circumstance, are not able to fund the construction of sacred worship space Approximately 150 youth and in the traditional manner of capital campaigns, bank loans, and parish savings. 40 adult volunteers gathered on the The Society will fund 25 percent of the estimated $1.2 million total cost of the first annual Youth Service Day at St. new church. Catherine of Siena in Wake Forest. The new building is overdue. The current church seats 85 people. St. Mary Their goal: to give back to their parish was formed in 1916 as a mission of St. Mary in Goldsboro. Its little wooden and community. chapel looked like many others in North Carolina towns of the time. In 1947 it The group began the day by joining was burned, allegedly by the Ku Klux Klan to protest the wedding there of two for prayer in the sanctuary. The stu- African-Americans. Parishioners immediately rebuilt their church in brick, but dents were then assigned to service some charred timbers from the original structure remain. stations on campus and throughout Over the years, responsibility for the mission was switched to Newton Grove the neighborhood. In the neighbor- and then to Clinton. In 1998, St. Mary became a parish in its own right, reflect- hood, the teens went door to door, ing the recognition by the Diocese of a profound demographic change in the asking neighbors if they needed yard area. Migrant workers, who had populated the area seasonally for many years, work. They worked on 15 neighbor- were more and more becoming immigrants, settling permanently with their ing homes, raking leaves and washing families in the counties of Duplin, Wayne, Samson and Lenoir. windows. The administrators and pastors of St. Mary saw the evangelization of this new In addition to cleaning up St. population as an urgent necessity. Through their efforts, the parish at one point Catherine campus and the rectory supported three missions of its own. grounds, the group assembled 150 The new church, which will rest on 14 acres of land off Highway 117, will bags of traditional Thanksgiving food, seat nearly 300 people. Stained glass windows have been recovered from the gift certificates and homemade cards old St. Thomas More Church in Chapel Hill. An important feature of the new for the Brown Bag ministry. church will be that it is entirely devoted to worship space. “Our people are in The youth ministry sponsors eight love with the sacred ambience of their little chapel,” Fr. James Garneau, Pastor “woodcut families” who live in Youngs- of St. Mary, said. “They don’t want a multi-purpose building.” Fr. Garneau be- ville and Franklinton. The group cuts, lieves the new church will be important in establishing “a strong, clear presence chops and delivers a supply of fire- of Jesus Christ in the community; a strong church where people can receive wood to these families each month. Jesus and take Him home and proclaim Him.” On Saturday, they delivered four The groundbreaking ceremony took place on the Solemnity of Christ the King. truckloads of wood and Thanksgiving Bishop Burbidge began the day by celebrating Mass at St. Mary in English at meals to those families. “Many kids I the current church, then celebrating a second Mass in Spanish at the Mount spoke with asked if we could do this Olive College chapel, followed by the groundbreaking ceremony. Fr. Garneau again next week,” said Tim Ligowski, was the concelebrant for both Masses and homilist at the Spanish Mass. On Director of High School Youth. “They weekends, St. Mary celebrates two English Masses and three Spanish Masses. truly stepped up and showed their true The 10:30am Sunday Mass in Spanish is held at the Mt. Olive College Chapel Christian colors. I couldn’t be more to accommodate the large congregation. proud of them all!”

NC Catholics 8 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org Feast of the Presentation of the Lord Feb. 2 | St. Blaise, bishop and martyr; St. Ansgar, bishop area. By the mid-‘90s, the old church building was clearly inadequate. The building couldn’t even be sold, so it was donated to the local fire depart- ment for a training exercise. In 1997, then-pastor Fr. Douglas Reed held two services: one as articles were removed from the church and another before the church was burned. Con- St. Stanislaus and the Catholic Extension Society, struction of a new church had already Dedicates New the by then 18 families in the commu- begun, and the building was dedicated Administration Building nity had acquired land and a church. by Bishop Gossman on December St. Stanislaus remained a mis- 13, 1998. On Saturday, December 11, the sion of St. Mary until 1933, when it Father Ryszard Kolodziej, Pastor of Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge became a parish under the care (by St. Stanislaus, expressed his gratitude blessed and dedicated a new Parish 1935) of the Conventual Franciscan to the Bishop and to all the parish- Administration Building on the cam- Friars of Immaculate Conception ioners celebrating the long awaited pus of St. Stanislaus Catholic Church Province. Over the next three de- addition to the parish facilities. The in Castle Hayne, NC. cades, the Franciscans and their Sis- decision to undertake the construction The Catholic community of St. ters from Syracuse, NY, cared for St. was made at a town meeting three Stanislaus is more than a century old. Stanislaus, bringing a rectory, parish years ago, and ground was broken for It began with three Polish immigrant hall, convent and school, and in 1951 the project last February. families who arrived in 1907 to start an Army chapel from Camp Davis in “The parish is growing,” Fr. Ryszard vegetable farms. Those founding Holly Ridge, which Bishop Vincent said, “and we needed to manage a families and many of their descen- Waters dedicated as the new church. larger population, add more modern dants rest today in a small cemetery The school closed in 1962, but office equipment and work procedures. on the parish grounds. At first, Mass Franciscan friars would continue as This new building also enhances the was celebrated in their homes by a pastors for many years. Meanwhile beauty of the St. Stanislaus campus. priest who traveled from St. Mary in Castle Hayne, and St. Stanislaus, “This happened through the gener- Wilmington. By 1916, though, with continued to grow as retirees and new osity and prayer of many people, and help from a development company businesses discovered the Wilmington we give thanks to God.”

The St. Therese, Wrights- ville Beach, Youth Group entered a boat in the 2010 NC Holiday Flotilla. Scott Morrison, one of the group’s adult leaders, offered his boat for the project. The theme chosen was “Christ is Born” with youth on the boat acting in a living Nativity.

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St. Blaise, bishop and martyr; St. Ansgar, bishop Feb. 3 | St. Agatha, virgin and martyr Feb. 5 | Blessed Pius IX, pope Feb. 7 | St. Jerome Emiliani, priest; St. Josephine Bakhita, virgin Feb. 8 | St. Scholastica, virgin Feb. 10 marriage matters

“He wants my email password – that’s private!”

Sandy says: Sam has been bugging me to give him the password to my email account. I often chat with friends via email about things in their lives I’m sure they’d rather Sam not read. And I do believe I should be able to have some privacy. My refusal to give him access to my email is caus- ing a rift between us. “What is she keeping secret?”

Sam says: We’re married – and so we share everything. That’s my philosophy. Does Sandy not trust me to keep her friends’ secrets? I’m not planning to sit and read her email every night; I just don’t think we should be locking each other out of parts of our lives.

Maybe the first question asked should be, “Is this He said the only instance where privacy is demanded, or are there other areas? For example, do Sam She said and Sandy open postal mail and packages addressed to each other, or is that considered what do they do? private? Do they have individual bank ac- counts, individual credit cards, etc.? If email is the only “privacy” issue and the other areas are shared, we and slow to become angry…” Sharing can understand why Sam is confused with the inconsistency your deepest thoughts and feelings in the rules. with each other requires each to listen To start, Sam and Sandy should talk about the feelings without interruption. involved. How does Sandy feel about Sam’s request? How After listening, gently paraphrase does Sam feel when Sandy does not wish to share it? Then back what you heard and, if needed, each of them should answer the question, why do I feel that let the one speaking clarify any way? It appears that trust is at the root of this issue. If Sandy misperceptions. Then switch roles and has Sam’s email password, then it would be appropriate for repeat the process until both people Sam to have hers – if you trust each other, why does it mat- understand the other’s feelings. During ter? the process, Sandy and Sam should be On the surface, it appears that Sam does not trust Sandy; mindful of the respect and honesty owed he needs to know her every detail about her life. Likewise, to each other. They will experience a it appears that Sandy does not trust Sam with the conversa- deeper level of trust in their relationship tions she has with her friends. It looks like there is a lot of and discover their communication skills distrust going on in Sam and Sandy’s relationship. One way will improve on other topics as well. to successfully discover the root of the problem is to ap- We believe the lack of trust is a result proach it together and to do so prayerfully. Take a lead from of some deeper issue that is not being dealt Scripture, James 1:19-20: “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, with; the email is only a manifestation of the deeper

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How do I keep my friends How can I find from putting me my birth mother on Facebook without hurting my real mom?

ne of my friends keeps I was adopted when I was just a baby and raised in tagging my photo on a wonderful family. Although I consider my adoptive Facebook. I don’t want my parents to be my real parents, I would like to meet the picture all over the Internet woman who gave birth to me. I have so many questions. O– how can I get her to stop without Q: However, my adoptive mother seems apprehensive damaging our friendship? about the idea of me meeting my birth mother. Is it wrong for me to do this? If not, how can I minimize the hurt to my adoptive mother? The unauthorized publication of photos in the different social networks of the Internet When I was little, I would ask my Grandma Esta to tell me her is becoming more and more a concern for “whole name.” Orphaned early in life, she was adopted by her many people. Many people believe it is a mother’s best friend, who changed her first and last names. matter of common courtesy and common Her story was heart-tugging, but she ended up in just the right sense to request permission before publishing A:family, with just the right name. Your desire to know about your own story is any information about another person online. natural; you and your mom may be able to provide emotional support for one All social networks in the Internet have another since you don’t know where the answers to the questions will lead. privacy policies to be followed by its members and that are enforced by the social Reasons behind apprehension. As children reach the end of the teen years network organization. So, first of all, you and enter young adulthood, parents need to do a lot of letting go. They say should familiarize yourself with Facebook’s goodbyes at college or help children adjust to real jobs. A sig- privacy policies. nificant person enters your life and they watch you fall in love. After that, you will be ready to sit down Parents feel a sense of satisfaction launching children into the with your friend, not only to discuss your world, but also a sense of loss that they are not needed in the feelings regarding your photos being same way. Your desire to seek the woman who gave birth to exposed in the Internet, but also to firmly you adds another layer of change during this time of request that she move your photos to a transition. private category. I don’t believe that your friendship will be Mom will always be Mom. There are some damaged by doing so, but if it happens, things in life that go without saying – but why not remember that you have the right to have say them anyway? Your mom carried you in her your personal integrity respected, and heart through all the minor events in your life (“No, having unauthorized photos of yourself you can’t see that movie or you’ll have bad dreams published on the Internet falls into that all night!) and the major traumas (“Mom will be right category. there when you wake up after Dr. Jones fixes that – Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a psychologist and family counselor. broken bone.”) One way to minimize the chance for hurt is to focus on what the two of you share.

problem in their relationship. It might be Don’t become too preoccupied. Remember to best if both Sandy and Sam were to reflect on devote time to your parents while you are searching the real reason this has become an issue and for your birth mother. Continue your family rituals and then share it with each other. Is it that Sandy favorite activities. Keeping your mom in the loop will is afraid Sam will not approve of the discus- be of mutual benefit; she may be able to provide use- sion Sandy is having with her friends? Is Sam ful information regarding specific details of your birth afraid Sandy is keeping secrets or talking and will feel less apprehensive about the process. about their relationship out of school? Sam Whatever the outcome of your quest to find your birth and Sandy would best serve each other out mother, you have your mom, who will be there for you of love and consideration by reflecting on the with the memories of your childhood stored in her heart, trust as it relates to their relationship; email is following the example of Our Blessed Mother: “She kept only the medium, trust is the heart. all these things, pondering them in her heart.” (Luke 2:19) T. Gennara T. T. Gennara T.

– Tom and Jo Anne Fogle help prepare couples for marriage. – Dr. Cathleen McGreal is a psychology professor and certified spiritual advisor.

St. Cyril, monk and St. Methodius, bishop Feb. 14 The seven founders of the Order of Servites, religious Feb. 17 | St. Peter Damian, bishop and doctor of the Church Feb. 21 | The Chair of St. Peter, apostle Feb. 22 in exile

Maturity in Relationships and Prayer – Father Ronald Rolheiser, O.M.I. everal years ago, a friend shared this story with me: sense of God. My friend, beyond being Raised a Roman Catholic and essentially faithful in go- upset with what he felt was ing to church and in trying to live an honest moral life, an over-simplistic bit of ad- he found himself, in his mid-forties, plagued by doubts, vice, protested that the big- gest part of his problem was unableS to pray, and unable (when he was honest with himself) to precisely that he couldn’t even believe in the existence of God. pray, that he couldn’t talk to a God whom he didn’t Anxious about this and looking for spiritual guidance, he believe existed: How can I pray when I no longer believe went to see a Jesuit priest who had a reputation as a spiri- that there is a God? tual director. He anticipated the usual counsel about dark The Jesuit persisted: “Just do it! Show up and sit in nights of the soul and how these are given to us to purify silent prayer for half an hour a day, even if you feel like our faith and, already familiar with that literature, he wasn’t you are talking to a wall. It’s the only practical advice I expecting much. Certainly he wasn’t expecting the advice can give you.” he received. Despite his skepticism, my friend took the Jesuit’s advice His Jesuit guide didn’t try to engage him in any deep and faithfully sat in silent prayer for half an hour a day for theological reflections on doubt and dark nights of faith. six months and, by the end of that time, his sense of God Instead, like Elisha to Naaman, the Syrian leper, he gave my had returned, as had his sense of prayer. friend a counsel that sounded so simplistic that it triggered This story, I believe, highlights something important: irritation rather than hope: The Jesuit simply told him: Our sense of God’s existence is very much linked to fidelity Make a promise to yourself to sit in silent prayer for a half to prayer. However, and this is the catch-22, it is hard to an hour a day for the next six months. I promise you that if sustain a life of prayer precisely because our sense of God is you are faithful to that you will, by that time, recover your often weak. Simply put, it is not easy to pray. We have easy

NC Catholics 12 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org St. Polycarp, bishop and martyr Feb. 23 from the editor words about prayer, but we struggle to sustain, long term, real prayer in our lives. Prayer is easy only for beginners and for those who are already saints. During all the long years in between, it is difficult. Why? Because prayer has Another Beginning the same inner dynamics as love and love is sweet only in its initial stage, when we first fall in love, nother year. Another chance to take better care of and again its final, mature stage. In between, love our bodies and souls – right? While I’m making is hard work, dogged fidelity, and needs willful resolutions, though, I’m going to keep something commitment beyond what is normally provided by in mind that I read in December. Pope Benedict our emotions and our imagination. XVI granted a series of interviews to journalist Pete Prayer works in the same way. Initially when ASeewald, and they were published as a book: Light of the World: we first begin to pray, like someone young and in The Pope, the Church and the Signs of the Times (Ignatius Press 2010, www. love, we tend to have a period of fervor, of pas- lightoftheworldbook.com). sion, a time when our emotions and our imagina- tions help give us a sense that God exists and that One of the questions the in- God hears our prayers. But as we grow deeper terviewer asked the Holy Father and more mature in our relationship to God, just was this: “Has your faith changed as in a relationship to someone we love, reality since you became Pope?” begins to dispel an illusion. It’s not that we become The Pope answered: “As Pope disillusioned with God, but rather that we come one has even more cause to pray to realize that so many of the warm thoughts and and to entrust oneself entirely feelings we believed were about God were really to God. For I see very well that about ourselves. Disillusionment is a good thing. almost everything I have to do is It’s the dispelling of an illusion. What we thought something I myself cannot do at was prayer was partly a spell of enchantment about all. That fact forces me to place ourselves. myself in the Lord’s hands and say When that disillusionment sets in, and this a to Him: ‘You do it, if You want it!’ maturing moment in our lives, it is easy to believe In this sense prayer and contact that we were deluded about the other, the person with God are now even more necessary and self-evident than before.” we had fallen in love with or, in the case of prayer, I see very well that almost everything I have to do is something I my- God. The easy response then is to back away, to self cannot do at all. I want to hang that up somewhere as a reminder. quit, to see the whole thing as having been an illu- That conviction surely must have been shared by Father Thomas sion, a false start. In the spiritual life, that’s usually Price, the co-founder of the Maryknoll Society, the first native-born when we stop praying. Diocesan priest in North Carolina, and the subject of this month’s But it the opposite is called for. What we need to cover story (page 16). His impressive legacy came out of an even do then is to show up, just as we did before, minus more impressive devotion to the Lord, to Our Lady and, as you’ll the warm thoughts and feelings, bored, uncertain, read, to St. Bernadette of Lourdes, whose visions of Mary occurred and stripped of our enchantment about ourselves. just two years before Thomas Price was born. The deeper we go in relationships and in prayer, As 2011 begins, I also take special inspiration from these words the more unsure of ourselves we become, and recited each morning in the Liturgy of the Hours. I hope they this is the beginning of maturity: It’s when I say, I describe the coming year for all our readers: don’t know how to love and I don’t know how to pray, that I first begin to understand what love and In the tender compassion of our Lord prayer actually are. the dawn from on high shall break upon us, Hence, there is no better advice than that given to shine on those who dwell in darkness by this Jesuit priest to my friend who thought him- and the shadow of death, self an atheist: Just show up! Sit in humility and and to guide our feet into the way of peace. silence long enough so that you can begin to hear Canticle of Zecharia, Luke 1: 78-79. someone else, not yourself. – Rich Reece is editor of NC Catholics Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser, theologian, teacher, and award-winning author, is President Thanks for your letters and emails and kind sug- of the Oblate School of Theology in San Antonio, gestions. You can reach me at 715 Nazareth Street, Raleigh, TX. He can be contacted through his website NC 27606 or [email protected]. www.ronrolheiser.com. saint of the month How do we know God? St. Paul the Martyr Festividad de San Pablo el Mártir

Feast: Jan. 25 (Conversion of St. Paul) banquete: 25 de enero (Conversión de San Pablo)

Who was St. Paul? ¿Quién fue Pablo? Prior to his famous conversion, St. Paul, or Saul, was a distin- Antes de su famosa conversión, San Pablo, o Saúl, fue un guished Pharisee, lawyer and rabbi. He was aggressive, assertive, distinguido fariseo, abogado y rabino. Él era dinámico, asertivo, learned, dominant and full of authority. For example, the crowd dominante y lleno de autoridad. Por ejemplo, la multitud que ape- who stoned Stephen first looked to his approval and then laid their dreó a Stephen primero buscó su aprobación y luego tendieron sus cloaks at his feet in (Acts 7:58.) capas a sus pies en Actos 7:58. More importantly, St. Paul himself believed that because he knew Aun más importante, Pablo mismo creía que porque él conocía las the law, or the Torah, he “knew” God. He was convinced that he leyes, o el Torá, él «conocía» a Dios. Él estaba convencido de que él was the instrument of God’s will through his persecution of followers era el instrumento de la voluntad de Dios por medio de su perse- of “the Way” – and no one was more committed to this cución de los seguidores de «El Camino», y nadie work than he. estaba más comprometido con su trabajo que él. All this changed on the road to Damascus. First and Todo esto cambió en el camino a Damasco foremost, St. Paul encountered a Person. He encoun- Primera y principalmente, Pablo se enfrentó a una tered the Truth. The great revelation that day was con- persona. Se enfrentó a la Verdad. La gran revelación tained in the simple question Jesus asked, “Why are you ese día provino de una simple pregunta que Jesús persecuting Me?” hizo: «¿Por qué me estás persiguiendo?» Notice Jesus did not ask St. Paul why he was perse- Tenga presente que Jesús no le preguntó a Pablo cuting Jesus’ followers or people. He asked, “Why are por qué él estaba persiguiendo a los seguidores o a you persecuting Me?” At that moment, Christ revealed la gente de Jesús. El preguntó: «¿Por qué me estás Himself to St. Paul as a communion. St. Paul realized persiguiendo?» En ese momento Cristo le reveló a that Christ was not separate from his people, but was Pablo a sí mismo, reveló a Dios, ante Dios como una present, among and within them. Truly, the scales fell off as St. Paul comunión. Pablo se dio cuenta que Cristo no estaba separado de su then spent the next three years studying and living in Christian com- gente, sino que estaba presente, entre y con ellos. Ciertamente se le munity. cayeron las escamas puesto que Pablo pasó los siguientes tres años estudiando y viviendo en la comunidad Cristiana. How did St. Paul’s life change? St. Paul’s conversion did not change his commitment to ¿Cómo cambió la vida de Pablo? doing God’s work. God was still his top priority, but he now un- La conversión de Pablo no cambió su compromiso con obrar derstood God differently through Christ. He learned that Christ, para Dios. Dios aún era su primera prioridad, pero él ahora entendía rather than the law, is the key to “knowing” God. The choice St. a Dios de manera diferente por medio de Cristo. Él aprendió que Paul faced was no longer whether or not to comply with the law, Cristo es clave para «conocer» a Dios en lugar de la ley. La elección but whether or not to live in communion with God through com- que Pablo tenía ya no era si cumplir o no con la ley, sino si vivir o no munion with the Church. en comunión con Dios por medio de la comunión con su vecino. St. Paul himself describes this state of communion in Philippians San Pablo mismo describe este estado de comunión en Fili- 2:2 as a state of “being of the same mind, with the same love, united penses 2:2 como un estado de «tener la misma mente, el mismo in heart, thinking one thing.” This, in turn, is possible only through hav- amor, unidos de corazón, pensando en una cosa.» Esto, a su vez, ing the attitude of Christ so that the mind of Christ can well up within es posible sólo a través de la imitación de la actitud de Cristo para us and carry us into communion with the Trinity through the power of que la mente de Cristo pueda desbordarse en nosotros y llevarnos the Holy Spirit. a la comunión con la Trinidad a través del poder del Espíritu Santo.

How does this change our lives? ¿Cómo esto cambia nuestras vidas? St. Paul’s life and ministry were efforts to remain in this com- La vida y el ministerio de San Pablo pasa a ser entonces munion. This can clearly be seen in his many letters manifested el tratar de permanecer en esta comunión. Esto se puede ver by his aversion for all that breaks communion and harmony within claramente en sus muchas epístolas manifestadas por su aversión the body of Christ the Church. It is to this same life of communion por todo lo que interrumpe la comunión y harmonía con el cuerpo that we are all called by this same Jesus Christ, who is the same de Cristo en la Iglesia. Es por esta misma vida de comunión que yesterday, today, and tomorrow. somos llamados por ese mismo Jesucristo, quien es el mismo de – Doug Culp ayer, hoy y mañana.

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pastor’s perspective la naturaleza de nuestra fe “Amarás Marás Crashing al Inmigrante Como the Parade a Tí Mismo” (Lev. 19, 34)

ecently St. Joseph Parish had its annual n junio del 2004, la Conferencia de los Obispos celebration of the Feast of St. Martin De Católicos de Estados Unidos (USCCB) decidió Porres. Msgr. Williams sent me a copy hacer una prioridad el proyecto de la Reforma of a picture which included Father Otis Migratoria Integral, con especial énfasis en la Carl. He was a Dominican assigned to St. legalización. La USCCB diseñó así la Campaña MonicaR for some years. Father Carl was well known in EJusticia para los Inmigrantes: Una Jornada de Esperanza para the African American Community because he visited the unir y movilizar una creciente red de instituciones católicas, homes of students and parishioners. individuos y otras personas de buena fe en apoyo a la Reforma Migratoria Integral y a un programa amplio de legalización. Su On one occasion he was objetivo es maximizar la influencia de la Iglesia sobre este tema, injured on the play- coherente con los principios bíblicos. Sus objetivos principales ground and had someone son: educar al público acerca de la enseñanza de la Iglesia sobre take him to St. Agnes la migración y los inmigrantes; promover políticas para una Hospital. These were the reforma positiva de inmigración; promulgar reformas legislati- days of segregation, and vas y administrativas basados en los principios articulados por St. Agnes was a black los obispos; y organizar redes para ayudar a los inmigrantes hospital. When the police calificados a obtener los beneficios de las reformas. got wind of this, they came to the hospital and En el 2003, los obispos tried to force Father Carl de Estados Unidos y to transfer to Rex, but he México emitieron la carta refused. pastoral Ya No Somos Father Carl was well Extranjeros: Juntos en el versed in music, and he formed a band from the students of St Camino de la Esperanza. Monica. I was a drummer in the band, and he would lead us En ella pidieron una “glo- as we marched around the neighborhood for practice. In those balización de la solidari- days, while black people could be present for city parades, dad” y una revisión del black bands were never invited to participate, not in the Christ- sistema de inmigración mas parade or any other parade. estadounidense. Además For one inaugural parade of the State Governor, however, esbozaron varios crite- Father Carl decided our band should be included. He instruct- rios para la Reforma del ed our parents to assemble a little early along a block between sistema de inmigración Fayetteville and Wilmington Streets. Our band stood in forma- estadounidense: una amplia legalización de los indocumenta- tion behind the adults. As Father Carl saw the Governor and dos de todas las nacionalidades; la Reforma de nuestro sistema his entourage approach, he gave the parents the signal to move de inmigración basada en la familia y en el empleo; abandonar aside and let the band fall in. la estrategia de aplicación del “bloqueo” de la frontera; y restau- We marched out, performing as never before. And the rar las protecciones procesales para los inmigrantes. governor and his entourage stopped until our entire band had Los obispos reconocen que deben abordarse las condiciones joined the parade. que obligan a las personas a abandonar sus países por la deses- Our band soon became regular invitees to parades. When peración y la falta de oportunidades. Por lo tanto, la Campaña World War II started, a number of the band members joined Católica para la Reforma Migratoria colabora con la Campaña various military bands. Others went on to major in music and Católica contra la Pobreza Global. Ambas están relacionadas become teachers of music. integralmente ya que una aborda los derechos y necesidades de Father Carl was a great inspiration for those he knew and los migrantes en Estados Unidos, mientras que la otra atiende served. As Black History Month approaches, it’s good to re- los derechos y necesidades de las personas que viven en sus member people like him, people whose genuine love saw the países de origen. injustice wrought by the prejudice of their time, and who did Participemos activamente en esta Campaña para vivir solidar- what they could to overcome it. iamente con los empobrecidos y poder decir “Padre Nuestro”.

– Msgr. Thomas P. Hadden – Padre Carlos N. Arce, Vicario para los Hispanos NC Catholics 16 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org One hundred years ago this September, a founda- tion was established which would forever link North Carolina, one of the least Catholic regions of the coun- try at the time, with the spiritual destiny of millions of people around the world. A priest and native-son from Wilmington, North Carolina, then working in Raleigh, became an instrument in the hands of God that fur- thered and deepened the presence of the Catholic Church in Asia, Africa, and South America. From the shores of the Cape Fear River, a missionary impulse spread which continues to shine the light of the Gospel throughout the world. cover story

n September 1910, while at an international Eucharis- included the entire state), and about a tic Congress (a gathering for prayer and study on the dozen Benedictine priests, all monks mystery of the Holy Eucharist) in Montreal, Canada, the of Belmont Abbey. In order to provide for ecclesiastical leadership, Rome had first native-born priest from North Carolina, Fr. Thomas named the Abbot of Belmont to be the IFrederick Price, joined forces with a Boston-born and bred Vicar Apostolic. In light of this respon- priest, Fr. James A. Walsh, in a resolution to form the first sibility and of his evident holiness, Ab- mission-sending society of priests from the United States. Until bot Leo Haid was eventually ordained that time, the United States had always been the recipient of a Bishop. But tensions often existed missionary labors. Having secured the support of Cardinal between the secular priests and the reli- gious priests and their abbot, who had Gibbons, the Archbishop of Baltimore and an old friend of Fr. responsibility for them all, as well as for Price and his family, and of the Archbishop of Boston, William the young Belmont Abbey College. O’Connell, a former seminary classmate of Fr. Price, the two Fr. Price was ever inspired by the mission-minded priests received the support of the nation’s idea of converting all of North Carolina archbishops at their annual meeting in Washington, D.C., on to Catholicism, despite the fact that April 27, 1911. And on June 29, 1911, in Rome, they obtained at the time only 800 people identi- fied themselves as Catholic within the the approval of the Congregation for the Propagation of the entire state. He began his priestly work Faith (an organization created by the papacy to direct the uni- in Wilmington, was soon transferred versal missionary efforts of the Catholic Church). And so, the to Ashville, and in 1887, was named Catholic Foreign Mission Society of America, known through- pastor of St. Paul Church in New Bern, out the world as Maryknoll, was born. with its seventeen missions in an area of over three hundred square miles. As a native Tar Heel, he was not hesitant Price was born in Wilmington, N.C., hit the Hatteras shoals at Pamlico to share his Catholic Faith with his on August 19, 1860, just prior to the Sound, and began to break up and fellow citizens. He remained at the task start of the Civil War. His mother, Cla- sink. Price, who did not know how to of evangelizing Eastern North Carolina rissa Bond, had been a Methodist but swim, cried out in prayer to God. Years from New Bern for nine years, at which was received into the full communion later, he recounted that he then saw a time, in 1896, he asked his Bishop for of the Catholic Church at the age of woman, whom he recognized as the permission to start a magazine and eighteen. As a result of her conversion, Virgin Mary, standing in the air above begin missionary activity on an even she was dispossessed and disinherited the storm-tossed waves. She calmly greater scale throughout the state. by her family, and was subsequently pointed to a large plank from the ship’s Given permission, but no money, welcomed to live with a local Catholic deck, which was floating beside him. the son of an editor began to publish family. His father, Alfred Lanier Price, He grabbed onto it, at which point Truth magazine, in Raleigh, in 1897. editor of the Wilmington Daily Journal the apparition vanished. Six hours There were some 17,000 subscribers and an Episcopalian, became a Catholic later, he was washed up at Plymouth, by 1905, from throughout the country. later in his life. Clarissa and Alfred Price NC, where he was nursed back to Defending the Catholic Faith during had ten children, two of whom became health. He returned home, until the a time of virulent anti-Catholicism Sisters of Mercy. Thomas Frederick, next semester, when he travelled, by throughout the nation, Price also known as Fred, was their sixth child, land, to St. Charles College Seminary travelled throughout the state as an and was attracted to the priesthood at outside of Baltimore. During the years itinerant preacher. Encountering the an early age. The family lived next to of study and formation, all noted the poverty of the time and a great number St. Thomas Church, where Clarissa and intense devotion that Fred had for the of orphans, he decided to establish an the children attended daily Mass. Fred’s Holy Mother of God, but only one orphanage, and bought property in vocation to the priesthood was encour- classmate, William O’Connell, ever his own name, without his Bishop’s aged by the first Vicar Apostolic (a kind learned the story of his encounter with permission, in the midst of a small of missionary bishop) to North Caro- her. Price was ordained a priest for African American community just west lina, Bishop James Gibbons. service in the Vicariate Apostolic of of downtown Raleigh. He called his When Fred set off for the seminary North Carolina On June 20, 1886, six orphanage Nazareth. One of his own in Baltimore in 1876, at the age of months after his mother’s death. sisters and four other Sisters of Mercy sixteen, he nearly lost his life. The At the time of his ordination, there from Belmont, NC, were assigned to steam packer, Rebecca Clyde, which were only about 8 other secular priests assist him in his labors for the children carried the new seminarian, was sur- who had been ordained for the vi- in 1899. And to support the effort prised by a sudden and violent storm, cariate (a mission territory, which then financially, he established another

By Father James F. Garneau, Ph.D. NC Catholics 18 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org ued his practice of writing a daily letter to the Blessed Virgin Mary, 3,087 of Fr. Price was ever inspired by the idea of converting all which have survived. He requested that after his death his heart be buried of North Carolina to Catholicism, despite the fact in Nevers, near the tomb of his spiri- tual friend, where it is found today. There were also struggles between the visions of Price and Walsh, for shortly that at the time only 800 people identified themselves after having begun the work of form- as Catholic within the entire state. ing the new missionary society, which had begun by looking primarily to China, Fr. Price favored the inclusion magazine, The Orphan Boy (in 1903). point, in 1910, when Price began talks of the Philippines and Latin America On the same property, this extremely in Montreal with Walsh, who was at among Maryknoll’s mission fields. disorganized man, often in arrears with the time the Diocesan director for the (These regions would eventually be regard to bills due, and behind in all Society of the Propagation of the Faith part of Maryknoll’s work, but only manner of administration, established, in Boston. Together, they hoped to after Fr. Price’s death.) This differ- in 1901, a training center for seminar- establish a missionary seminary, whose ence nearly led to Price’s withdrawal ians and priests, Regina Apostolorum purpose was no longer to evangelize from the Society in 1914 and again in (Queen of Apostles), in order to pre- only North Carolina, but the world. 1916. However, he choose to remain pare men for the arduous task of mis- When Price and Walsh went to Rome on both occasions, and spent his time sionary work in North Carolina. It was to seek papal approval for their new “preaching the missions” primarily in evidently Price’s hope to have a form missionary society, Price made two parishes of the Midwest and East, as of common life among the priests and visits to Lourdes, in France, where he well as in providing conferences and seminarians he was recruiting for this found himself drawn to what might spiritual direction to the seminarians work, and for Price to function as a be described as a “mystical marriage” in the Maryknoll Seminary that had kind of superior, with authority to as- to St. Bernadette, the visionary of been established on the Hudson River sign particular ministry to each mem- Lourdes. As a sign of this union, after in New York. In 1918 Price departed ber. Haid would have none of this, and making a visit to her tomb, he began to for China with the first group of so a certain distance between the men wear a silver wedding band which he Maryknoll missionaries who had continued and deepened. It was at this wore until his death. He also contin- been assigned to work in Yeungkong, China. While he quickly grew to love the Chinese people and his new ministry, he soon died of an infected appendix, in Hong Kong, on September 12, 1919, the feast of the Holy Name of Mary. His body was brought back to New York and he is buried beside the re- mains of the co- founder, Bishop James A. Walsh, in the crypt of the chapel at Maryknoll. ¡Ya que usted lo pregunta!

Madurez en las relaciones amorosas y en la oración – Padre Ronald Rolheiser, O.M.I.

ace algunos años, un amigo mío compartió con- relación con Dios, exactamente igual que en la relación amorosa con alguien migo esta historia: Criado como católico romano a quien amamos, la realidad comienza a y básicamente fiel en ir a la misa dominical y en disipar una ilusión. No es que nos desi- tratar de vivir una vida moral honesta, se encon- lusionemos de Dios, sino más bien que llegamos a darnos cuenta de que muchos Htró, hacia sus cuarenta y cinco años, atormentado de dudas, de los pensamientos y sentimientos incapaz de orar, y (siendo honesto consigo mismo) ni siquiera fervorosos que creíamos se centraban en podía creer en la existencia de Dios. Dios en realidad se centraban en nosotros mismos. La desilusión es algo bueno. Es Preocupado por esto, y para buscar hora cada día, durante seis meses y, al disipar una ilusión. Lo que pensábamos consejo espiritual, fue a ver a un sacerdote final de ese tiempo, su sentido de Dios que era oración era en parte un hechizo jesuita, renombrado director espiritual. había reaparecido, así como su sentido de sobre nosotros mismos. Mi amigo esperaba la reflexión habitual la oración. Cuando empieza este desencanto -y sobre las noches oscuras del alma y cómo Creo que esta historia resalta algo éste es un momento de maduración en éstas se nos dan para purificar nuestra fe my importante: Nuestro sentido de la nuestras vidas- es fácil creer que nos hici- y, conocedor ya de esa literatura espiritual, existencia de Dios está muy ligado a la mos ilusiones con respecto al otro, la per- no esperaba mucho fruto de la consulta. fidelidad a la oración. Sin embargo -y ésta sona de la que nos habíamos enamorado Ciertamente no esperaba el consejo que es la paradoja-, es difícil mantener una o, en el caso de la oración, con respecto recibió. vida de oración, precisamente porque a Dios mismo. Entonces la reacción más Su consejero jesuita de ningún modo nuestro sentido de Dios con frecuencia es cómoda es retirarse, abandonar, mirar trató de entablar profundas reflexiones débil. Digámoslo sencillamente: orar no todo el proceso como si hubiera sido una teológicas sobre la duda espiritual y las es fácil. Es fácil hablar sobre la oración, pura ilusión, un mal comienzo. En la noches oscuras de la fe. En su lugar, como pero tenemos que luchar para mantener, vida espiritual, es entonces normalmente hizo Eliseo con Naamán, el leproso sirio, a largo plazo, una oración real y auténtica cuando dejamos de orar. le dio a mi amigo un consejo que sonaba en nuestra vida. Pero lo que se requiere es precisamente tan simplista que provocó en él irritación La oración resulta fácil solamente a los lo contrario. Lo que debemos hacer, más que esperanza: El jesuita le dijo: “Pro- principiantes o a los ya santos. Durante entonces, es acudir a la oración, exacta- métete a ti mismo quedarte en oración todos esos largos años intermedios, la mente como lo hicimos anteriormente, silenciosa media hora cada día, durante oración es difícil. ¿Por qué? Porque se pero sin los pensamientos y sentimientos los próximos seis meses. Te prometo que, rige por las mismas dinámicas interiores rebosantes de fervor; llenos de dudas, si eres fiel a eso, para entonces recobrarás que el amor, y el amor es agradable y aburridos y despojados de nuestro tu sentido de Dios”. dulce solamente en su fase inicial, cuando encanto sobre nosotros mismos. Cuanto Mi amigo, además de sentirse disgus- nos enamoramos por primera vez; y, más profundizamos en las relaciones tado -ya que pensó que el consejo era de nuevo, en su fase madura y final. En amorosas y en la oración, nos volvemos demasiado simplista-, protestó que la el tiempo intermedio, el amor supone más inseguros de nosotros mismos, y esto parte más relevante de su problema era trabajo arduo, fidelidad tenaz, y necesita es el comienzo de la madurez: Es precisa- precisamente el no poder orar, que no un compromiso deliberado por encima mente al reconocer que “no sé cómo amar podía hablar a un Dios en cuya existencia de lo que normalmente proveen nuestras y no sé cómo orar”, cuando comienzo en no creía: ¿Cómo puedo orar cuando ya no emociones y nuestra imaginación. primer lugar a entender en qué consiste creo ni que haya Dios? La oración funciona de la misma realmente el amor y la oración. El jesuita insistió: “¡Hazlo, sin más! manera. Inicialmente, cuando comenza- Por tanto, no hay mejor consejo que el Preséntate, y quédate en oración silen- mos a orar por primera vez, como ocurre dado por el sacerdote jesuita a mi amigo, ciosa media hora cada día, aun cuando a cualquier joven enamorado, tendemos a que se consideraba ateo: “¡Acude a orar, te parezca que estás hablando a un muro. gozar de un período de fervor, de pasión, sin más! ¡Siéntate y quédate con humil- Es el único consejo práctico que puedo un período en el que nuestras emociones dad y en un silencio suficientemente darte”. e imaginaciones nos ayudan a sentir que largo, de forma que puedas oír al Otro, no A pesar de su escepticismo, mi amigo Dios existe y de que Dios escucha nuestra a ti mismo!” siguió el consejo del jesuita y se sentó oración. Pero, conforme vamos profun- fielmente en oración silenciosa, media dizando y madurando más en nuestra – Traducción: Carmelo Astiz, cmf

NC Catholics 20 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org Obispo Burbidge

Este Año, Haz el Propósito de Imitar a María

l comenzar un Año Nuevo, muchos de no- de la santidad de nuestras vidas. En este mes, que también celebramos la sotros hacemos un propósito. A menudo, gi- Semana Nacional de Vocaciones, les ran en torno a la necesidad de bajar de peso pido por favor, que oren para que y hacer ejercicio con más frecuencia. Obvia- nuestra diócesis sea bendecida con más sacerdotes y por el aumento de Amente estas intenciones deben fomentarse, puesto que las vocaciones a la Vida Consagrada. somos Templos del Espíritu Santo, que debe seguir siendo Haz tú propósito este Año Nuevo: fuerte en cuerpo, alma y espíritu. imitar a María. Hazlo día a día. Pide por su poderosa intercesión y ora por la ayuda de la divina gracia de Sin embargo, creo que tenemos la Unidos) para recursos que puedan su Hijo. oportunidad de considerar de hacer mejorar esta importante iniciativa. Que el Señor te bendiga y te guarde. otro propósito para el Año Nuevo: Hay muchas otras maneras como ¡Que Su rostro brille sobre ti y que sea esforzarse cada día a imitar a María podemos imitar a María en nuestras bondadoso a lo largo de este Año Nuevo nuestra Madre en nuestra vida diaria. vidas. Con la gracia de Dios, que y siempre! La Iglesia comienza el Año Nuevo podamos hacer tales propósitos con la solemnidad de María, Madre especialmente al comenzar éste Año de Dios. Nos recuerda que por Su Nuevo. gran amor por nosotros, Jesús nos Como María, que podamos rego- dio un regalo increíble: la capacidad cijarnos en la grandeza del Señor de llamar a Su Madre nuestra Madre. y no enfocarnos en lo que falta en Al reflexionar sobre la vida de María, nuestras vidas, sino más bien en las nos centramos en su ejemplo y su bendiciones abundantes que están “Sí” a la santa voluntad de Dios. en medio de nosotros cada día. Que Nuestro deseo de imitarla nos acerca podamos expresar agradecimiento al En honor a María, cada vez más a su Hijo. Señor nuestro Dios, la fuente de todo debemos renovar A lo largo de este mes de enero, lo bueno. celebramos el mes de Respeto a la Como María, que podamos nuestro compromiso Vida. Honramos a María como la entender la importancia de estar para demostrar mujer que llevó a Jesús en su vientre. con Jesús, en lugar de permitir que nuestro respeto a la Buscamos su intercesión para que nuestras vidas sean excesivamente todos los bebés en el vientre estén en hacer. Apreciemos el tiempo para vida a través de la protegidos y para que nuestra gran estar tranquilos en la presencia de la oración, el testimonio nación ya no considere al bebé en Palabra hecha Carne. Asegurémonos y el servicio en favor el vientre como una “elección” sino de empezar y terminar cada día con como una vida para ser venerada y una oración. de todos los débiles celebrada. Como María al pie de la cruz, que y vulnerables en la En honor a María, debemos podamos encontrar valor al abrazar sociedad. renovar nuestro compromiso para los sufrimientos de su Hijo, siempre demostrar nuestro respeto a la vida seguro de Su poder y victoria por a través de la oración, el testimonio encima de todo lo que nos ofrece el y el servicio en favor de todos los mundo. Invitándonos a unir nuestro débiles y vulnerables en la sociedad. sufrimiento al de Él, Jesús nos brinda Este es también el mes en que cel- oportunidades increíbles para crecer ebramos la Semana de la Migración. en santidad. Por favor, incluya en su oración “Jus- Al igual que María, nosotros, en ticia para los inmigrantes” y consulte nuestra vocación particular traiga- el sitio Web de USCCB (Conferencia mos la presencia misma de Dios al de Obispos Católicos de los Estados mundo a través de la integridad y el hispano Católico El Padre Thomas F. Price: Apóstol de Carolina del Norte para el mundo La sociedad de Maryknoll, co-fundador por nuestro hijo nativo diocesano, celebra su centenario

En Septiembre de 1910, en la plena comunión de la en un Congreso Internacional Iglesia Católica a la edad de Eucarístico (una reunión de 18 años. Como resultado oración y de estudio sobre el de su conversión, ella fue misterio de la Santa Eucaristía) desposeída de la herencia por en Montreal, Canadá, el su familia y fue posteriormente primer sacerdote nativo de bienvenida a vivir con una Carolina del Norte, el Padre familia católica local. Su padre, Thomas Frederick Price, unió Alfred Lanier Price, editor del fuerzas con un sacerdote diario del Wilmington Daily nacido y criado en Boston, Journal y un Episcopal, se el Padre James A. Walsh, en convirtieron en católicos más una resolución para formar la tarde. Clarissa y Alfred Price primera sociedad misionera tuvieron diez hijos, dos de de sacerdotes de Estados los cuales se convirtieron en Unidos. Hasta ese momento, Hermanas de la Misericordia. los Estados Unidos siempre Thomas Frederick, conocido habían sido receptores de como Fred, fue el sexto hijo trabajos misioneros. Tras y atraído al sacerdocio a una haber asegurado el apoyo del edad temprana. La familia Cardenal Gibbons, Arzobispo vivió junto a la Iglesia de St de Baltimore y un viejo Thomas, donde Clarissa y amigo del Padre Price, de su los niños asistieron a la misa familia y del Arzobispo de diariamente. La vocación Boston, William O’Connell, de Fred al sacerdocio fue un ex-compañero seminarista alentada por el primer Vicario del Padre Price, recibieron el Apostólico (una especie de apoyo de los arzobispos en la obispo misionero) de Carolina reunión anual en Washington, del Norte, el Obispo James ste mes de Septiembre hace cien D.C., el 27 de abril de 1911. Gibbons. años, una fundación fue estab- Y el 29 de junio de 1911, Cuando Fred partió para en Roma, obtuvieron la el seminario en Baltimore lecida vinculándose para siempre aprobación de la Congregación en 1876, a los dieciséis años con Carolina del Norte, una de para la Propagación de la Fe de edad, casi pierde su vida. Elas regiones menos católicas del país en ese (una organización creada El barco de vapor, Rebecca por el papado para dirigir Clyde, que llevaba al nuevo tiempo, con el destino espiritual de millones los esfuerzos de misioneros seminarista, fue sorprendido de personas en todo el mundo. Un sacerdote universales de la Iglesia por una repentina y violenta y un hijo nativo de Wilmington, Carolina Católica). Y, por tanto, tormenta, golpeó los bancos la Sociedad de Misiones de arena de Hatteras en del Norte, que trabajaba en aquel entonces Extranjeras Católica de Pamlico Sound y comenzó en Raleigh, se convirtió en un instrumento América, conocida en todo a romperse y a hundirse. El en las manos de Dios que promovió y pro- el mundo como Maryknoll, Padre Price, que no sabía nació. nadar, lloraba y oraba a Dios. fundizó la presencia de la Iglesia Católica El Padre Price nació en Años más tarde, él relató en Asia, África y América del Sur. Desde las Wilmington, NC, el 19 de que vio a una mujer, a quien orillas del río de Cape Fear, un impulso mis- agosto de 1860, poco antes identificó como la Virgen de comenzar la Guerra Civil. María, que estaba de pie en ionero se extendió y continúa brillando la luz Su madre, Clarissa Bond, fue el aire por encima de las olas del Evangelio en todo el mundo. metodista pero fue recibida que arrojaba la tormenta. Ella

NC Catholics 22 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org Por el Padre James F. Garneau, Ph.D. con calma señaló un tablón en ese momento sólo 800 En la misma propiedad, cuales sobrevivieron. Pidió de la cubierta del buque, que personas se identificaban como este hombre desorganizado, que después de su muerte flotaba junto a él. Se agarro del católicos en todo el Estado. atrasándose a menudo enterraran su corazón en tablón y en ese momento se Comenzó su labor sacerdotal con sus pagos, y con todo Nevers, cerca de la tumba de desvaneció la aparición. Seis en Wilmington, pronto fue tipo de administración, su amigo espiritual, donde se horas más tarde, fue llevado a transferido a Ashville y en estableció en 1901 un encuentra hoy en día. Plymouth, Carolina del Norte, 1887 fue nombrado párroco centro de formación para los También hubo luchas donde cuidaron de su salud. de la Iglesia de St. Paul en seminaristas y sacerdotes, entre la visión de Price y Volvió a casa, hasta el próximo New Bern, con las diecisiete Regina Apostolorum (Reina Walsh, poco después de semestre, cuando viajó por misiones en un área de de los Apóstoles), con el fin haber comenzado la labor tierra al seminario St. Charles más de trescientas millas de preparar a hombres para de formación de la nueva fuera de Baltimore. Durante los cuadradas. Como un nativo la ardua tarea del trabajo sociedad misionera, que años de estudio y formación, de Tar Heel, no se reusó a misionero en Carolina del había comenzado mirando todos señalaron la intensa compartir su fe católica con sus Norte. Era evidente el deseo principalmente a China, devoción que Fred tenía a la conciudadanos. Permaneció de Price de tener una forma el Padre Price favoreció la Santa Madre de Dios, pero en la tarea evangelizadora en de vida común entre los inclusión de las Filipinas sólo un compañero de clase, la parte Este de Carolina del sacerdotes y seminaristas que y de América Latina entre William O’Connell, conocía Norte de New Bern durante estaba reclutando para esta los campos de la misión de la historia de su encuentro nueve años, momento en que, labor, y para Price funcionar Maryknoll. (Estas regiones con ella. Price fue ordenado en 1896, pidió a su obispo como un superior, con eventualmente serían parte sacerdote para el servicio el permiso para iniciar una autoridad para asignar un del trabajo de Maryknoll, pero del Vicariato Apostólico de revista y comenzar la actividad ministerio particular a cada sólo después de la muerte del Carolina del Norte el 20 de misionera en una escala aún miembro. Haid no tendría Padre Price). Esta diferencia junio de 1886, seis meses más grande en todo el Estado. nada de esto, y tal distancia casi condujo a la retirada del después de la muerte de su Otorgado el permiso, entre los hombres continúo Padre Price de la sociedad en madre. pero sin dinero, el hijo del y se profundizó. Fue hasta 1914 y de nuevo en 1916. Sin En el momento de su editor comenzó a publicar la ese punto en 1910, cuando embargo, optó por permanecer ordenación, sólo había ocho revista Truth, en Raleigh, en Price comenzó pláticas en en ambas ocasiones y pasó sacerdotes seculares ordenados 1897. Había algunos 17.000 Montreal con Walsh, quien su tiempo “predicando las para el Vicariato (un territorio suscriptores en 1905 de todo en ese tiempo era el director misiones”, principalmente de misión, que entonces el país. Defendiendo la Fe diocesano para la Sociedad en las parroquias del Medio incluía todo el Estado) y cerca Católica durante un tiempo del de la Propagación de la Fe oeste y el Este, también de una docena de sacerdotes anti-catolicismo virulento en en Boston. Juntos, deseaban ofreciendo conferencias y benedictinos, todos monjes toda la nación, Price también establecer un seminario dirección espiritual a los de la Abadía de Belmont. Para viajó a todo el Estado como misionero, el propósito era de seminaristas en el seminario poder brindar un liderazgo un predicador itinerante. no solo evangelizar Carolina de de Maryknoll que se había eclesiástico, Roma había Encontrando la pobreza de la Norte, sino todo el mundo. establecido en el río Hudson nombrado al Abad de Belmont época y un gran número de Cuando Price y Walsh en Nueva York. En 1918, como Vicario Apostólico. A huérfanos, decidió establecer fueron a Roma para solicitar el Padre Price partió para la luz de esta responsabilidad un orfanato y compró la la aprobación papal para su China con el primer grupo y de su santidad evidente, el propiedad a su nombre, sin nueva sociedad misionera, de misioneros de Maryknoll, abad Leo Haid eventualmente el permiso de su obispo, Price realizó dos visitas a que había sido asignado fue ordenado obispo. Pero las en medio de una pequeña Lourdes, en Francia, donde para trabajar en Yeungkong, tensiones a menudo existían comunidad afroamericana encontró una señal a lo que China. Rápidamente creció su entre los sacerdotes seculares justo al oeste del centro de podría ser descrito como un amor por el pueblo de China y los sacerdotes religiosos Raleigh. Él llamó al orfanato “matrimonio místico” con y su nuevo Ministerio, pero con su abad, quien tenía la Nazareth. Una de sus propias St Bernadette, la visionaria pronto murió de un apéndice responsabilidad de todos hermanas y otras cuatro de Lourdes. Como signo infectado, en Hong Kong, el ellos, así como de la joven Hermanas de la Misericordia de esta unión, después de 12 de septiembre de 1919, en Universidad de la Abadía de de Belmont, Carolina del hacer una visita a su tumba, la fiesta del Sagrado Nombre Belmont. Norte, fueron asignadas para comenzó a usar una banda de María. Su cuerpo fue El Padre Price siempre asistirle en sus labores para de color plateado hasta que llevado de vuelta a Nueva York fue inspirado por la idea de los niños en 1899. Y para murió. También continúo su y fue enterrado al lado de los convertir a todo Carolina apoyar el esfuerzo financiero, práctica de escribir una carta restos del co-fundador, obispo del Norte al catolicismo, estableció otra revista, The diariamente a la Santísima James A. Walsh, en la cripta a pesar del hecho de que Orphan Boy (en 1903). Virgen María, 3.087 de los de la capilla de Maryknoll. community

Quo Vadis Group, January the Office of Vocations meetings will begin in Sacred things to do: 18, February 8, 7 p.m. for more information at Heart Cathedral with Adoration – 9 p.m. at Sacred Heart 919.832.6279. of the Blessed Sacrament at 7 Cathedral, 219 Edenton pm followed by Benediction. The Third option, January Streeet, Raleigh, NC 27613. Vocations Prayer Group At 8 pm the group will move 12, February 23, 7 p.m. – 9 High school aged boys are for Women, January 10, to the Office of Vocations for p.m. at St. Francis of Assisi, invited to attend the Quo February 7, 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. fellowship and discussions. 11401 Leesville Road, Vadis Group, which meets at Sacred Heart Cathedral, Meetings should end by 9 pm. Raleigh, NC. The Third Option once a month, usually on 219 Edenton Street, Raleigh, Contact Fr. Ned Shlesinger, is a skilled-based group a Tuesday evening. Quo N.C. 27603. Single Catholic [email protected]. program that helps individuals Vadis provides a fraternal women between the ages of or couples build stronger, more environment and an 17-45 who are committed to New Bern Deanery fulfilling marriages. All sessions opportunity to gather for praying for vocations, growing Vocation Celebration, are at the LaVerna Center fellowship, prayer and a in holiness while in the midst January 21, 7 p.m. -9 unless noted. There is no discussion on discernment of the world, and discerning p.m., Annunciation Catholic charge. The discussion topic for and vocations. Dinner is the call of Christ are invited to Church, 246 E. Main Street, January 12th is “Appreciating provided. Next group January the Vocations Prayer Group Havelock, NC 28532. A Personality Differences.” 18, 2011. Please contact for Women. Thursday evening Holy Hour for Vocations

Students Invited to Participate in State Pro-Life Events

The Catholic Diocese of Raleigh will participate with other pro-life advocates on Saturday, January 15, for the Annual Rally for Life in Raleigh. The event will take place at Nash Square on the corner of Hargett and McDowell Streets in the state capital at 1:00 pm. Earlier in the day, the Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge will celebrate the annual Mass for Life at St. Joseph Catholic Church in Raleigh at 8:00 a.m. That will be followed by a new event for high school students and parish youth groups called “Love My Life (LML).” LML will take place at Sacred Heart Cathedral School Hall from 10:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m., featuring music, food, guest speakers and musicians. Bishop Burbidge will address the students. The students will be invited to participate in the afternoon rally, which will feature headline speakers and a procession through downtown Raleigh from Nash Square to the State Legislative Building. For more information on the “Love My Life” event or other pro-life events, contact Jackie Bonk, Office of Pro-Life, 919.645.4438 or [email protected].

NC Catholics 24 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org with a reception immediately following. The Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge will Upcoming events at Avila Retreat Center preside. Please join us as we pray for an increase in vocations to the Priesthood 711 Mason Road, Durham. 27712. To register or for more infor- and Religious Life. mation, call 919.477.1285.

Priesthood Discernment Rediscovering the Practice of Praying Together, Group, January 15, February Tuesday, January 18, 2011, 9:30 a.m. – 2 p.m. Presenter: Rev. 19, 9 a.m. – 1 p.m. at Sacred Heart Cathedral, 219 Edenton James Banks, Pastor of Peace Evangelical Presbyterian Church Street, Raleigh, N.C. 27603. in Durham and author of The Lost Art of Praying Together and Adult Catholic men between other works on prayer. Donation: $30 (includes lunch). the ages of 17-48 discerning a possible call to Priesthood Psalms & Compassion, February 4-5, Fri. 7 p.m. - Sat. 4 p.m. Fr. Timothy Brown was are invited to the Priesthood Discernment Group meetings diagnosed with colon cancer. During this time – before, throughout and after his surgery, he held on the third Saturday of longed for a book of prayer that focused on healing. He found what he was looking for in the each month. If you are just Book of Psalms. His book Psalms and Compassion was born out of his experience with can- beginning to contemplate a cer. Presenter: Fr. Timothy Brown, S.J., is an associate professor of law and social responsibil- vocation or are more serious ity, and the co-director of the Center for Values and Services at Loyola College in Maryland. about a call to priesthood please consider attending He is the author of Setting Hearts on Fire: A Spirituality for Leaders. Donation: $80 this group. The Priesthood Discernment Group provides a fraternal environment in which to discuss your discernment of a possible call to Priesthood Find Bishop Burbidge on Twitter with other men who are also examining the call. The group Interested in receiving Twitter messages from Bishop Michael F. Burbidge? Sign up to discusses issues central to receive Tweets from him. The Bishop will use Twitter to offer regular spiritual reflections, the call and does so within the items of interest and Diocesan updates. context of prayer, presentations, and discussion. The morning begins with Mass. Coffee and Visit the following link to sign up for your own Twitter account or to view the Bishop’s doughnuts will be available in page: http://twitter.com/BishopBurbidge. the Office of Vocations (two doors down from the Cathedral) after Mass. Morning Prayer, with God. Retreat team is provide a second study day as Reading of Children’s a discussion/presentation made up of past Searchers needed. For more information Names from Project Rachel, about discernment/Priesthood, who model leadership, faith contact Sr. Joan Jurski, OSF, January !5, 7:30 a.m. at St. Daytime Prayer, and lunch sharing, and ministry with their at 919.821.9751 or Jurski@ Joseph’s Catholic Church, follow. For more information peers. Adults in youth ministry raldioc.org. Raleigh. To be followed by the contact the Vocations Office, also attend and participate Respect Life Mass celebrated 919.832.6279. in Search. Searches usually SAVE THE DATE! 9th by Bishop Burbidge. fill up quickly, so sign-up for Annual Ignited By Truth Religious Sisters’ Jubilee the earliest date possible Catholic Conference, Mardi Gras 2011. Sacred Mass, February 5, 11 a.m. – to ensure yourself a space. February 25-26, 2011 at Heart Cathedral AAMEN 1 p.m. at Our Lady of Lourdes Contact 919.821.9770. the NC State Fairgrounds, Chapter will present Mardi Catholic Church, Raleigh. The Raleigh. “Bringing to light Gras 2011, Saturday, March Most Reverend Michael F. Justice for Immigrants the truth of the teachings 5, 2011, 6 – 10 p.m. in the Burbidge will celebrate Mass Study Day, February 24, of the Catholic Church and School Hall. Plan to join us in Appreciation for the Women 10 a.m. – 3 p.m. at Our igniting in our hearts a love for family fun, good music Religious of the Diocese and Lady of Lourdes Catholic for our Faith.” Speakers and authentic New Orleans especially honoring those Church, Raleigh. The Diocese include Matthew Kelly, cuisine. A King of the Parade celebrating Jubilee Years. will sponsor a study day for Author of Rediscovering will be crowned and prizes will Pastoral Administrators, parish Catholicism, and Dr. Brant be awarded for best costume. SEARCH #162, February staff and parish leaders. The Pitre, Professor of Sacred Tickets will be available following 11-13, Short Journey Center, day is intended to provide Scripture at Notre Dame weekend Mass beginning 2323 Smithfield Road, a deeper understanding of Seminary in Louisiana. January. Tickets are $10/ Smithfield, NC 27577. why we, as Catholics, are Bishop Michael F. Burbidge adults and $5/children six to Search is a weekend retreat concerned about immigration. will be the Celebrant eleven. For information, call the for 11th – 12th grade youth. It will also address the myths and Homilist at the vigil parish office 919.832.6030 Activities encourage self- surrounding immigration and Mass. More speakers and and leave a message or discovery and reflections on immigrants. The Justice for details coming soon! www. email Jennifer Deloatch: relationships with others and Immigrants Committee will IgnitedByTruth.com. [email protected]. Annual Financial Report

January 2011

Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ: The Diocese of Raleigh remains financially stable, and the Diocese ended the year with a small surplus from its day-to- Each year at this time, I write to report on the finances of day operations. The surplus was enhanced by unrestricted the Diocese and to provide some statistical information that estate proceeds that came to the Diocese during the fiscal year indicates the health of our local Diocesan church. As we and by unrealized gains on investments and endowments. reflect upon this past year, we are beginning to see parish giving improve across the Diocese. We also realize that it has With the advice and recommendations from the Diocesan been a challenging economic time for some of our parish- Finance Council, we continue to take steps to prudently ioners. Please know that we continue to work proactively manage the finances of the Diocese. Those steps include 1) to ensure that Diocesan finances are stable and well actively investing surplus short term Diocesan and par- positioned for the future. The Diocese of Raleigh ish funds into insured or the safest financial in- continues to experience many blessings, some struments; 2) maintaining liquidity to provide of which will be summarized in this letter. for parish loans that have been approved I continue to give special thanks for the but not yet drawn and for parish loan re- faithful Priestly service to the people by quests expected to be made in the coming the priests of our Diocese. I also express years; 3) working closely with an invest- gratitude for the dedicated service of our ment committee of Catholic investment deacons, consecrated religious, pastoral professionals which advises the Diocesan administrators, and laity. God has blessed Finance Council on the investments in us with our seminarians and with the men its endowments and pension plans and preparing for service as Deacons. We are which continues to implement strategies enriched by the diversity embodied in the in diversifying Diocesan investments; 4) Catholic faithful in our Diocese. We are also continuing to implement a plan to provide more blessed by the many faithful in our Diocese who live, funding to the priest pension plan in order to keep practice, and share their Catholic values with great zeal. its funding ratios at a prudent level; 5) implementing, begin- ning January 2011, a new retirement plan for lay employees, Through the sharing of time, talent, and treasure by our which will continue to provide retirement benefits for eligible parishioners, the Diocese of Raleigh has received the gifts parish, school and Diocesan staff while containing costs for of resources to be used wisely and prudently to advance parish and schools, and 6) continuing our program of parish the mission of the Church. I convey my deep appreciation and school audits and internal control reviews. for these gifts so generously shared. As your Bishop, I am entrusted with ensuring the proper stewardship of all of our Virtually all of our Diocesan expenditures are in support of resources, including our financial resources. As part of that parishes or parish ministry in some form or fashion – from stewardship, I present this letter regarding the finances of the the expenditures for pastoral ministry, to the support from Diocese of Raleigh for the fiscal year ended June 30, 2010. the Diocese of Raleigh for our local Catholic Charities, to the grants given to parishes and charitable institutions, to the Diocesan Finances parish loan and insurance fund. All of our resources come, in some manner, from parishioners, either from gifts to the The independent accounting firm of Williams, Overman, Bishop’s Annual Appeal (gifts which continue to be the larg- Pierce and Company LLP audits the finances of the Diocese of est single source of income for Diocesan ministries), parish Raleigh annually. Those financial statements can be found on the assessments, fees for services provided, or wills, bequests or diocesan website at www.dioceseofraleigh.org/who/diocese/audit/ other planned gifts. Therefore, as stewards of those resources, so that all parishioners can have access to them. Those without we are accountable to you, our parishioners. access to a computer who would like a hard copy of the financial statements, or those who have questions on the audited financial We have challenges to meet in the coming years. Those statements, can contact Mr. Russell C. Elmayan, Diocesan Chief challenges continue to be 1) operating with a balanced Financial Officer, at 919-821-9703 or at 715 Nazareth Street, budget while providing necessary ministry and adminis- Raleigh, NC 27606. As in past years, the audit report is ac- trative services, 2) protecting the Diocesan assets during companied by an unqualified opinion. This indicates that the these economic times, 3) continuing to provide retirement auditors believe that the financial statements fairly and accurately benefits to eligible lay employees without negatively impact- present the financial picture at the Diocese. It is our policy to op- ing finances at parishes and tuition at Catholic Schools, 4) erate within our means and to operate with a balanced budget. adequately funding the costs of pensions and post-retirement

NC Catholics 26 Jan./Feb. 2011 | www.DioceseofRaleigh.org | www.NCCatholics.org medical costs for priests, 5) helping to fund the construction facilities to serve the people of God, during the fiscal year of mission churches where the parishioners are unable at the ended June 2010, there were eighteen parishes in the present time to pay for the construction of facilities, and 6) planning, design, or construction phase for new facilities to having access to capital so that all parishes can borrow the meet the needs of our expanding Catholic population. funds necessary to construct needed facilities if they show the ability to repay construction loans. All of these challenges • As of November 2010, 13,756 clergy, employees, and continue to be addressed in a planned and prudent manner leadership volunteers have been screened as part of our on- with the consultation of the Council of Priests and the Dioc- going commitment to the protection of children and young esan Finance Council. people and to provide a safe environment in our schools, parishes and ministries. Our Diocese continues to provide Diocesan Growth and Initiatives training to over 2,000 people annually in recognizing and reporting child abuse and neglect. In addition to our financial prudence amidst challenging times, there are many signs that our Diocese is healthy and • The Diocese of Raleigh Home Mission Society contin- vibrant: ues to secure funding to help support the construction of mission churches and chapels in parts of the Diocese • The registered Catholic population of the Diocese stands where the Catholic population is growing but where the at 214,066, which is 28% higher than just ten years ago. parishioners are not financially able at this time to pay for This growth does not include an estimated number of over the buildings needed to accommodate the growing popu- 200,000 Hispanic parishioners. lation. The first grant of $300,000 was approved to assist in the construction of a mission parish church and it is • Catholics comprise 4.6% of the population in an area expected to be disbursed before the end of the current where the Catholic population was below 1% of the popu- fiscal year. lation just two generations ago. • A Pro-Life Office was started this fiscal year. It will focus • In the last year in our Diocese, there were over 6,118 bap- on protecting the sacredness of life, especially the unborn tisms (vs. 4,261 in 2000), 4,706 first communions (vs. 2,878 and all whose lives are threatened. Education will also be in 2000), and over 2,000 confirmations (vs. 1,470 in 2000). provided on Catholic Church teaching on issues such as embryonic stem cell research, euthanasia, and the death • Our Catholic Schools are currently educating over 8,984 penalty. At the same time, this will allow our Peace and students. Pope John Paul II High School opened in Green- Justice Office to enhance its efforts to address just immi- ville in the fall of 2010. gration, hunger, homelessness, and parish social ministry.

• Over 30,000 children and adults are actively involved in God continues to richly bless the Diocese of Raleigh, and we faith formation programs in parishes across the Diocese. are privileged to be His instruments.

• Responding to our call as disciples of Jesus to serve all, In Appreciation especially the least among us, in the past year Catholic Charities served over 58,000 people, regardless of religious I thank the dedicated members of our Diocesan Finance affiliation or station in life. Council for their steadfast service and excellent advice. Our thirteen-member Council meets monthly and comes from • The Diocese continues to enhance its efforts to communi- parishes across the Diocese. It is composed of three priests cate among its parishioners, via the NC Catholics maga- and ten lay professionals who graciously give their time and zine, the Diocesan website, Catholic Voice North Carolina, expertise in service of the Church. and new social media tools such as Facebook and Twitter. I am grateful to God for sending me to be your Bishop, and • As of June 2010, the Diocesan Deposit and Loan program I thank you for the countless ways you support me and our had 91 loans totaling over $46 million to parishes through- Diocese. I extend my gratitude for all of you and for the Dio- out the Diocese in support of construction of new schools, cese of Raleigh, and I assure you of my continued prayers. churches, and education buildings. Parishes in the Diocese of Raleigh have over $46 million on deposit in 440 savings Sincerely in Christ, accounts with the Diocese. In addition, even in these tight credit markets, the Diocese has secured outside financ- ing from banks in order to provide funding for loans to be made to parishes in the near future. Most Reverend Michael F. Burbidge • Even after two decades of unprecedented expansion of Bishop of Raleigh local news

Migrant Families Focus of 2011 National Migration Week them. As the face of the local church- es continues to change, the availability Renewing Hope, Seeking Justice Archbishop Gomez, who is chair- of materials explaining the plea and was the primary theme for the 2011 man of the United States Confer- celebrating the contributions of im- National Migration Week, to be held ence of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) migrants and refugees is becoming January 2-8 in parishes and Dioceses Committee on Migration, stressed the increasingly important. They provide around the country. need to work for economic and social an important educational resource Following the lead of Pope Bene- development in sending countries so that can be used throughout the year dict XVI, who has focused on migrant that people won’t be forced to migrate by individuals, families, schools and families in his 2011 World Day of in order to sustain or find a better life parishes to learn about the complex Migrants and Refugees message, the for their families. issues surrounding migration. U.S. Catholic Bishops focused this “The Bishops of the United States, In conjunction with The Catholic year’s National Migration Week mes- in their pastoral letter Strangers No University of America, USCCB will sage also on the family by highlighting Longer, called on the United States to develop a new educational website the stresses and strains that migration work in solidarity with the international that will focus on the important role has on families and the effects that community to help raise the standard that the Catholic Church has played economic underdevelopment has in of living, uphold human rights and in the area of refugee resettlement for this process. implement complementary political in- nearly seven decades. The site is ex- “Systemic poverty, economic instabil- stitutions in the underdeveloped world pected to be operational in the spring ity and a lack of viable employment are so that people can have the chance to and will be hosted at http://libraries. fundamental, root causes of unregu- prosper in their homelands,” Arch- cua.edu/achrcua/packets.html where lated migration,” said Archbishop José bishop Gomez said. other resources are already posted. Gomez, coadjutor Archbishop of Los Domestically, other steps can be These resources are directed to assist Angeles. “Given the economic inequali- taken to help regulate illegal immigra- teachers, directors of religious educa- ties that separate the developed from tion, such as Congress developing tion and others interested in migration the developing nations, and the impor- policies that provide legal avenues of and refugee issues. tant role that these differences play in entry for low-skilled workers that better In a letter to the faithful, Bishop migration patterns, the Catholic Bishops match fluctuations in the marketplace. Burbidge expressed the hope that have repeatedly stressed that an open- The observance of National Migra- “our observance of 2011 Migration door immigration policy is not a solution tion Week began over a quarter Week renew our commitment to seek to the problem of illegal immigration. century ago by the Bishops to provide further formation in our Catholic faith International economic development is Catholics with an opportunity to take and how it may strengthen our nation a crucial component in the management stock of the wide diversity in the by giving renewed hope and justice of migration patterns.” Church and the ministries serving for migrants.”

Diocese Preparing for April Pilgrimage from various cultures, walks of life, Parish and Diocesan organizations worshiping Christ and honoring His Blessed Diocesan faithful are already making plans for the Mother.” second Diocesan Pilgrimage to the Basilica of the National Father Justin Kerber, C.P., V.F. and Father John McGee, Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington D.C. O.S.F.S. are serving as co-chairs of the 2011 Pilgrimage They will gather in Washington on Saturday, April 2, for a Planning Committee, assisted by Sr. Rose Marie Adams, I.H.M. day of prayer, culminating in the Diocesan Pilgrimage Mass and Ms. Holly Stringer. The committee is coordinating travel offered at the Shrine by the Most Reverend Michael F. Bur- plans and hotel arrangements with buses leaving from various bidge, Bishop of Raleigh. parishes throughout the Diocese on Friday, April 1. The first pilgrimage, in 2008, drew some 1500 Catholics A new feature of this year’s pilgrimage is the Tour of Faith on from the Diocese and filled the upper church of the Basilica. Saturday morning. Msgr. Vito A. Buonanno, Associate Rector Nearly 400 departed Friday night on buses, spending the night of the Basilica, will give a talk explaining the various features in a hotel outside Washington. of the Basilica, in order to inform and enhance the tour of the In a letter to the faithful of the Diocese of Raleigh, Bishop church which follows. Burbidge noted how the Diocese was placed under the Bishop Burbidge’s letter announcing the pilgrimage, trip patronage of our Holy Mother by Bishop Vincent S. Waters, details, pilgrimage schedule and registration is available on the third Bishop of the Diocese. “The upcoming Pilgrimage will Diocesan Web site, accessed through the Diocesan Pilgrim- be a witness to our faith as we gather around the Shrine of age button on the left side of the home page. On the web Our Blessed Lady and pray together for our Diocese, for page, you will also find a list of Frequently Asked Questions our nation and for peace,” Bishop Burbidge wrote. “Once (FAQ’s) and the link to information on the Basilica of the again,” Bishop Burbidge said, “I envision people of all ages, National Shrine. The deadline for registration is February 21.

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parish profile

Not a Place, But a People Holy infant, Durham

church’s new altar, ambo and credence table were created out of wood pre- served from the old church. Due to its location, Holy Infant has a transient membership and thus a fairly high turnover rate. “It is part of the dynamic we have to deal with in order to maintain our vitality,” said Blaine Short, Parish Administrator and parishioner for eighteen years. “It’s a challenge but also a blessing to us be- cause it brings us a lot of really talented people from all over the country.” Fr. Joseph T. Brennan, OSFS, current Pastor of Holy Infant, added, “We need to ituated between Research Triangle recognize ways to address growth issues and yet keep the sense of community and intimacy that is so important here.” Park (RTP), UNC-Chapel Hill In 2004, the parish introduced HI-Life, an intergenerational, and Duke University, Holy Infant life-long faith formation program. Its whole-catechesis approach Catholic Church embraces its focuses on one theme a year and offers faith formation for all Sdiverse and changing community. ages. Several ministries have been born out of HI-Life. Just Faith, a ministry devoted to learning and implementing Church social teaching, came to Holy Infant as an offshoot of the HI-Life year In 1970, Msgr. James E. McSweeney, pastor of Immaculate devoted to social justice. “It’s a community builder,” says Fr. Bren- Conception in Durham, anticipated the influx of northern- nan. “We’ve learned and grown as a parish since HI-Life began.” ers as companies began to relocate to RTP. He proposed a Stewardship and ecumenical efforts are hallmarks of Holy new parish on 15 acres of land the Diocese had originally Infant. There is a high level of participation in social justice intended for a high school. With a gener- activities in the parish and outreach into ous donation, the proposal became reality the community. “I am so impressed by how people embrace and take their and Holy Infant was dedicated on Octo- the Diocese of ber 4th, 1970. Fr. Edward J. Friel, of faith seriously here,” said Brennan. the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales of Raleigh “Becoming involved enriches your faith the Wilmington, DE-Philadelphia Province, experience.” was named the first pastor. The Oblates have served Holy Infant for all Holy Infant grew steadily but faced a crisis Holy Infant of its forty years. “Salesian spirituality is what in 1981. During a summer storm, lightning Catholic makes Holy Infant unique,” said Fr. Brennan. struck the church building, causing a fire that Church With that spirit, Holy Infant is a parish where damaged the roof and destroyed the altar. the laity are strongly committed to the mission 5000 Southpark of Holy infant and to assisting their pastor. The following morning, the pastor celebrated Drive Mass outside and explained to parishioners Durham, NC “With this great commitment of the com- that “the church is the people, not the build- 27713 munity,” Fr. Brennan continued, recalling the ing.” Bishop F. Joseph Gossman re-dedicated words of an earlier pastor, “Holy Infant is not the renovated Holy Infant the next year. The 919.544.7135 a place but a people.”

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