DECEMBER 8, 2018 --- 30 KISLEV 5779 SHABBAT ROSH CHODESH --- SHABBAT CHANUKAH PARSHAT MIKETZ SHABBAT MATTERS

Friday December 7 Shabbat, December 8 Torah Reading: Maftir: 6 Chanukah candles before Shabbat 7:30 am Hashkama Minyan 4:10 pm Mincha Bereshit 41:1-44:17 Bamidbar 7:42-47 4:20 pm Candle Lighting 8:15 am Chumash-Rashi Shiur with 4:30 pm Bnei Akiva Groups Hertz P. 155 Hertz P. 598 4:30 pm Musical Kabbalat Shabbat: Melech Halberstadt 5:23 pm Shabbat Ends Stone P. 222 Stone P. 768 Chanukah Edition 9:00 am Shacharit: Sharp Sanctuary & 7 Chanukah candles after Havdalah Shevii --- Haftorah: 4:30 pm Mincha (Sharp Sanctuary) Downstairs Minyan Rosh Chodesh: Zechariah Friday December 14 10:00 am Youth Programs 6:30 pm Parent-Child Learning Bamidbar, 28:10-15 2:14-4:7 4:20 pm Candle Lighting 10:00 am Teen Minyan Hertz, P. 695 Hertz P. 987 4:30 pm Mincha Stone, P. 890 Stone P. 1210

TODAH RABAH to the sponsors: MAZAL TOV AND OTHER MEMBERS MATTERS • CONGREGATIONAL Mazal Tov to Sam & Micki Mizrahi on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter, EdenEden. Excited brother is KIDDUSH: EthanEthan. Proud grandparents are Naomi & Allan Cracower and Ziba & Sami Mizrahi. Thrilled great-grandmother is Mamani. Jamie Golombek and Tali • Mazal Tov to Jamie Golombek and Tali Harel Golombek on the Bar Mitzvah of their son, JakeJake. Harel Golombek in honour Excited siblings are Sarah and IsaacIsaac. Proud grandparents are Harvey & Lisa GolombekGolombek and Hana of the Bar Mitzvah of their & Gavriel Harel. Thrilled great-grandmother is Mali Hersh. son, Jake • Mazal Tov to JeH & Nicole Toledano on the engagement of their 2 nd daughter, Eve, to Yisroel Miller, son of Sam & Anita Miller. Thrilled siblings are Ashley (Jeremy) and Jacob Toledano, Jerry & Helen Grad in Yechiel & Noa, Yitzy & Devorah, Devorah and Leah Miller. commemoration of the yahrzeit of Helen’s parents, Bernard & Sally Gruszko z”l SHAAREI SHOMAYIM UPCOMING PROGRAMS Harold & Gili Rosen in • Friday, December 7, 4:30-5:30 pm - Musical Kabbalat Shabbat: Chanukah Edition! commemoration of the • Sunday, December 9, 9:30 am - Chanukah & Chessed On The Go! yahrzeit of Gili’s mother, • Sunday, December 9, 10:00 am - Young Families' ChanukahChanukah Sing NN’’ Bake. Zipora Meir z”l • Tuesdays, 8:00pm - Parshat Hashavua Shiur with Rabbi Elliott DiamondDiamond. • Wednesday, December 12, 8:00 pm - Personal Growth Shiur with Rabbi Elihu AbbeAbbe. Gary & Fern Orzech in • Monday, December 17, 7:30 pm - Medical Ethics with Rabbi Mordechai TorczynerTorczyner. commemoration of the • Friday, January 11, 5:00-6:00 pm - Musical Kabbalat Shabbat: Winter FunFun! yahrzeit of Gary’s father, • Motzei Shabbat, January 12, 7:15 pm - KidsKids’’ BingoBingo. Register at Marcus Orzech z”l shaareishomayim.shulcloud.com/form/KidsBingo. Fred & Linda Waks in • Shabbat, January 19, 9:30 am - Pray & Learn with Dr. Elliott MalametMalamet, on the topic “Can I Save the commemoration of the World? Charity and the Big Picture.” yahrzeit of Fred’s parents, Henry & Sylvia Waks z”l HASHKAMA MINYAN: Brian & Robbie Schwartz and family in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Brian’s father, Ephraim ben Noach z”l BREAKFAST: Monday Dec. 10, 2 nd Minyan Tito & Viviane Massouda in commemoration of the yahrzeits of Tito’s sisters, Aimee Lichaa z”l and Shoshana Levy z”l Tuesday Dec. 11, 2 nd Minyan DECEMBER 9, 2018 Marla Orbach and family in commemoration of the yahrzeit of their husband and father, Jacob Orbach z”l TORAH MATTERS: DATE DAVENING TIMES SHIURIM AND LECTURES Sunday, December 9 8:30 am Shacharit 7:30 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Strauchler 1 Tevet 4:25 pm Mincha 9:30 am Chanukah & Chessed On The Go II Rosh Chodesh 8 candles after dark 10:00 am Young Families' Chanukah Sing N’ Bake 777ththth Day of Chanukah Monday, December 10 6:55 / 7:45 am Shacharit 6:10 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Strauchler 2 Tevet 4:25 pm Mincha 9:30 am Nevi’im Acharonim Shiur with Rabbi Strauchler 888ththth Day of Chanukah Tuesday, December 11 7:00 / 7:45 am Shacharit 6:15 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Strauchler 3 Tevet 4:25 pm Mincha 9:30 am The Birth of Moral Selfhood Shiur with Dr. Zolty 1:30 pm Yeshayah Shiur with Rabbi Torczyner 8:00 pm Parshat Hashavua Shiur with Rabbi Diamond Wednesday, December 12 7:00 / 7:45 am Shacharit 6:15 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Shore 4 Tevet 4:25 pm Mincha 8:00 pm Personal Growth Shiur with Rabbi Abbe

Thursday, December 13 6:55 / 7:45 am Shacharit 6:10 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Shore 5 Tevet 4:25 pm Mincha

Friday, December 14 7:00 / 7:45 am Shacharit 6:15 am Talmud Shiur with Rabbi Strauchler 6 Tevet 4:20 pm Candle Lighting 4:30 pm Mincha Kriyat Shema should be recited after 5:21 pm this week. PARSHA MATTERS - by Rabbi Elihu Abbe THE VALUE OF EMPATHIC LISTENING “There are people who protest that empathic listening takes too much time. It may take a little more time initially but it saves so much time downstream. The most eKcient thing you can do if you’re a doctor and want to prescribe a wise treatment is to make an accurate diagnosis. You can’t say, ‘I’m in too much of a hurry. I don’t have time to make a diagnosis. Just take this treatment.’” (Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly E@ective People , p. 264) Pharaoh saw two frightening dreams. The verse tells us that “he called together all of his wise men and related his dream to them, and nobody interpreted them to Pharaoh.” (41:8) Rashi explains that the wise men did suggest an interpretation for Pharaoh’s dream (that Pharaoh would have seven daughters who would pass away), but Pharaoh was not satisfied with their interpretation. The wise men and magicians of Egypt were very talented. Why were they unable to successfully interpret Pharaoh’s dream? Both the Kli Yakar and the Or Hachaim note that the verse begins by referring to a singular dream, and ends by referring to both dreams. Perhaps we can suggest that Pharaoh intended to relate both dreams, but was cut short by his wise men. Imagine the situation. These wise men are being honoured with the privilege of standing before the most powerful world leader who is seeking their wisdom and expertise. As soon as Pharaoh relates the first dream, they jump at the opportunity to demonstrate their wisdom, oblivious to the fact that Pharaoh has more to say. Only having heard the dream of the cows, they are unaware of the agricultural component of the dreams. They therefore suggest an interpretation that is unrelated to the true agricultural meaning. When Pharaoh calls in Yosef, he says “I have dreamt a dream.” (41:15) He didn’t tell Yosef that he was planning on sharing two dreams. Yet, after describing the first dream, he immediately proceeds to relate the second dream. Perhaps this is because after relating the first dream, Yosef did not reply. There was a pause of understanding. A pause of empathy. Pharaoh felt heard. He then continued to relate the second dream. Yosef, now aware of the agricultural content of the dreams, with Hashem’s help, was successful in interpreting them accurately. Why did Yosef have the patience to listen to both dreams, while the wise men immediately interrupted to demonstrate their wisdom? When Pharaoh calls the wise men, the Torah tells us that Pharaoh was very agitated. His heart was pounding. Nonetheless, the wise men make no mention of Pharaoh’s suHering. Perhaps they don’t even notice. Yosef, however, says “Elokim will answer for the peace of Pharaoh.” He is aware of Pharaoh’s pain, and he begins by comforting him. Feeling empathy for another person is so essential. With empathy we can have the patience to listen patiently and deeply. Only then can we truly be helpful.

MATTERS Stay and Play Shaar Chadash Shaar Yafo Shaar Aryeh Youth Programs (Ages 0 - 3) (Ages 2 - 5) (Grade 1 - 2) (Grade 3 - 5) 11101000::::000000 aaamammm tttotooo 11121222::::000000 pppmpmmm Room 101 Room 102 Room 103 Room 105 קול קורא We, the Rabbonim of the Greater Toronto Area (GTA), would like to communicate our position regarding the vaccination/immunization of children in our community. Halacha relies upon the opinion of physicians and public health authorities concerning matters of health. The consensus of medical evi- dence supports the vaccination of children in accordance with the established childhood immunization schedule, in order to protect them from illness and disease. Accordingly, the position of major Poskim , including those of our community, supports the vaccina- tion of children according to the Ontario Publicly Funded Immunization Schedule. We hereby state that there is a halachic obligation on parents to vaccinate their healthy children on the timetable recommended by their pediatrician and/or family physician.

Rabbi Yoir Adler, Shoavai Mayim Rabbi Yisroel Muller, Kollel Bais Avrohom Rabbi Mordechai Scheiner, Kollel Ohr Yosef Rabbi Yisroel Landa, Beth Chabad Israeli Dovid Rabbi Yossel Kanofsky, Kehillat Shaarei Rabbi Amram Assayag, Sephardic Kehila Rabbi Binyomin Greenbaum, Tehillah Torah Centre L’Dovid Rabbi Dovid Schochet, Chabad Lubavitch Rabbi Rafi Lipner, Shaarei Tefila Rabbi Kalman Ochs, Toras Emes Rabbi Mendel Kaplan, Chabad Flamingo Rabbi Messod Azoulay, Magen David Rabbi Charles Grysman, Zichron Yisroel Rabbi Raphael Shmulewitz, Tiferes Yaakov Rabbi Moshe M. Lowy, Agudas Yisroel Rabbi Yehuda Oppenheimer, Marlee Shul Rabbi Uri Kaufman, Agudas Yisroel Anshei Rabbi Avraham Bartfeld, Bais Dov Yosef Rabbi Ovadia Haboucha, Kol Torah Kielce Rabbi Shlomo N. Mandel, JEP Rabbi Yoseph Oziel, Petah Tikva Rabbi Chaim Strauchler, Shaarei Shomayim Rabbi Yisroel Bollag, Kollel Oholei Yom Tov Rabbi Yaakov Hassan, Kollel Yismach Moshe Rabbi Yaakov Kaufman, Tehilos Yisroel Rabbi Yossi Michalowitz, Westmount Shul Rabbi Dovid Pam, Zichron Shneur Rabbi Mordechai Torczyner, YU Kollel Rabbi Chanoch Ehrentreu, Kollel Toronto Rabbi Yaakov M. Hirschman, Kollel Toronto Rabbi Daniel Korobkin, BAYT Rabbi Yirmiya Milevsky, Bnai Torah Rabbi Avram Rothman, Thornhill Rabbi Yehoshua Weber, Machzikei Hadas Rabbi Yacov Felder, Shomrai Shabbos Community Shul Rabbi Chaim D. Kulik, Zichron Yitzchak Rabbi Shlomo Miller, Kollel Toronto Rabbi Mordechai Kanner, Bais Hamedrash Rabbi Eliyahu Zrihen, Keter Torah Rabbi Yehoshua Fuhrer, Bobov Kol Yaakov

Please note that the Shaarei Shomayim board has passed a new vaccination policy: All youth and teens attending Shaarei Shomayim programs or services, whether on or o@ our facility, must be fully vaccinated according to federal and provincial medical standards in order to participate in any of our programs or services. The only exception to this policy being for those children who have provided a written note from a medical doctor stating that they cannot be vaccinated for medical reasons. By having your child attend, you are explicitly acknowledging compliance with this policy.

The ccceceeennnnttttrrrreeee mmmemeeecccchhhhiiiittttzzzzaaaa will be in use this Shabbat. It will be used on the following Shabbatot: January 12, February 9, March 16 and March 23. YAHRZEITS DATE YAHRZEITS BEING OBSERVED Shabbat, December 8 Maurice Black, father of Harvey Black Frank Schwartz, father of Brian Schwartz 30 Kislev Gretel Held, mother of Steven Held Henry Waks, father of Fred Waks Sunday, December 9 Shoshana Levy, sister of Tito Massouda 1 Tevet Monday, December 10 2 Tevet Tuesday, December 11 Ephraim Newman, father of Samuel Newman Sylvia Waks, mother of Fred Waks 3 Tevet Jacob Orbach, husband of Marla Orbach and father of Dara Orbach Wednesday, December 12 Charles Berman, father of Jerry Berman Marcus Orzech, father of Gary Orzech 4 Tevet Herbert Handler, husband of Sandra Handler and brother of Lorraine Hanser Thursday, December 13 Ruth Ackerman, mother of Sidney Ackerman and Julius Buxbaum, brother of Arnold Buxbaum 5 Tevet Rosalyn Fine Gladys Petrook, mother of Howard Petrook Irving Isaac Begun, father of Dov Begun Friday, December 14 Clara Candel, wife of Max Candel Mania Nayman, sister of Sol Nayman 6 Tevet Cynthia Feiglin, mother of David Feiglin Joseph Sananes, father of Renee Spiegel Joseph Greenberg, father of Ricki Ekstein Elva Starkman, mother of Donna Starkman-ShiH Yitzchak Hakimi, father of Farokh Hakimi Jacob Theodore Sydney, father of Joyce Rifkind Zipora Meir, mother of Gili Rosen SECURITY MATTERS At Shaarei Shomayim, security is very important. Our security team is working hard to come up with security solutions that will be announced and implemented in the following weeks. Please keep an eye for any security changes. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact the security committee co-chairs, Eric Ohayon and David Elharar. • Only the north (parking lot) entrance will be in regular use for entry into the building, including on Friday evenings. The south (Glencairn Avenue) doors will only be in use for Shabbat morning and Shabbat day Mincha/Maariv. The west entrance has now been designated as an emergency exit only and should not be used for entry or exit from the building. • We need your help! Please take a minute to electronically sign the petition for increased security fundingfunding.funding It has been initiated by Mike Colle, and is directed to the House of Commons. To read the text and sign, please go to petitions.ourcommons.ca/en/Petition/Details?Petition=e-1947 . COMMUNITY MATTERS • Wednesday, December 19 - Toronto Hatzalah and Toronto Eruv 242424-24 ---hourhour Fundraising CampaignCampaign, to raise funds required for the these organizations to remain operational. • Tuesday, December 25, 9:00 am-10:00 pm - YU Torah MiTzionMiTzion’MiTzion ’’’ss Ten Heroes & Ten Villains: The Power Players of TTanachanachanach. Yeshivat Or Chaim, 159 Almore Ave. Free, men and women welcome. For information call 416-783-6960 or email [email protected]. • Mondays, January 7-28, 7:30 pm - Judaism & ChristianityChristianity at the Cross Roads: Part 22. With Rabbi Eli Cohen. A Jews for Judaism & Shaarei Shomayim Program. At Shaarei Shomayim. Free admission. Register at 416-789-0020 or [email protected]. • Baycrest Brain Healthy Aging Project: Free Memory Training ProgramsPrograms. If you are 60-85 years of age, experiencing changes with memory and/or thinking skills; and able to identify everyday life activities that you want/need to do, but are having trouble with - you may be eligible to participate in this research study. Contact 416-785-2500 ext. 3377.

Shaarei Shomayim members will be organizing a KosherKosher Trip to Greece from May 20-June 2, 2019 . For information on the itinerary and costs, please contact Mickey Ostro at 416-567-8944. REFUAH SHLEIMAH z

Pinchas Tzvi ben Basya, Yita Hentcha bat Shoshana, Rachmiel ben Dvorah (Randall Craig), Geula Liba Yehudit bat Gittel Tzipra, Leah bat Sarah, Hesha Channah bat Bayla, Michael Mordechai Avraham ben Hinda Rifka, Yishai ben Tzipora, Sura Blima bat Sheindel, Eliyahu ben Ryejah, Yakov Israel ben Carmella, Miriam bat Chaya, Yitzchak ben Chaya Raizel, Eliyahu Yom Tov ben Leah, Leah bat Masha, Oved ben Regina, Asher Anshel ben Rachel, Ophira bat Raanana, Shlomo Shraga ben Esther, Zvi ben Golda, Yehuda Yosef ben Miriam Yocheved, Elyakim ben Meril, Yosef ben Esther, Rachel bat Leah.

We would like to acknowledge your milestones! Please let us know when there is a birth, Bar/Bat mitzvah, graduation, engagement, aufruf, wedding, significant birthday/anniversary, community recognition, illness, bereavement, or unveiling. Call or email Miriam in the shul oKce at 416-789-3213 or [email protected] or donate online at Shomayim.org/donate.

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