On the Road to Healing #1
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pay what you " credits, etc. contributors: on tWe /?oao/ to wea/tn^: basi I clias matthew mullinni.x matthew campbell . jeff ott chris dixon sam pullen =<rhis project started from the conversations, friendships, dedica- tion and work that many of us have shared together. oujHvork with this "zinc is embedded deeply into the fabric of our lives. for more copies of this "zinc, calf the men"s center (360)866-6000 ,\ 6480 or write to: - - planting seeds press ~~ p.o.box 33368 austin, tx 78764 Hey 3kothe? HOW DOES IT FEEL TO STAMP ALONE * 7 " '. NEXT TO SO MANY OTHERS . How DOES XT FEEL TO STAND UP TALL, 7 WHEN YOU RE BREAKING^POWN INSIDE ' • "FEMXNXSTS LONG FOR MEN TO HEAL... Us 'HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE THE ONE - "pkeAm or A worlp full or men who coulp be passion WHO LET S YOURSELF DOWN7 - * ATE. LOVERS, GROUNPEP IN THEIR OWN BOPIES, CAPABLE HOW DOES IT FEEL ^ 7 THE SORROW , OF PROroUNP , LOVES ANP-.,PEEP SORROWS,; strong ALLIES Or WOMEN, SENSITIVE NURTURERS, rEARLESS PEFENPERS X HEARD A CRY ONE NIGHT br ALL 'PEOPLE^sXiBERATION , UNBOUNP BY STIFLING X THOUGHT IT CAME FROM FAR AWAY. CONVENTION YET RESPECTFUL Or THEXR OWN ANP OTH- T HEARD A CRY ONE NIGHT IT CAME FROM PEEP INSIDE MYSELF. ERS BOUNPARIES, .SERIOUS WXTHOUT BEING HUMORLESS, X TRIED TO MA<E IT SEEM LKE EVERYTHING W.AS ALL RIGHT. 'f : PULL, STABLE .WITHOUT BEING PISCIPLXNEP WITHOUT X^ Pretend X m All right when X m hurting deep inside. BEING RlGlP, SWEET WITHOUT BEING SPINELESS, PROUP What would feel 7 WITHOUT BEING INSUFFERABLY .EGOTISTICAL, riERCE it like if we let go of all the pain we feel 7 What would it feel lke to cry again \ WITHOUT BEING VIOLENT, WILp" WITHOUT BEING, WELL, xf x need support from someone, x want to come toyoj - ASSHOLES." can we try to feel love again? " \ ? ::: - 'v:'; . - ; fff r . stArhawk Hey brother, . , FROM HEK'ESSAY^A MEN S MOVEMENT X CouLP TRUST* 7 - " :'- can yoj tell me where the pain is -: cause x want to be there in finding it. :. Hey BROTHER What do yoj feel when you don't say a thing7 'cause 1 m dying to know if yoj feel what i feel. (A SONG) BY BASIL ELIAS. 59 t7 -ft"*..- Hey. WELCOME.... X r.'EC't-EL- To Put TOGETHER Men's Work is whAt we cAn PO. As MEN To'" ThIS 7.-INE PECAuSE WAnTEL- TO COMPILE MY IPEAS CHALLENGE SEVISM X Aw.- POWER IN OUR LIVES Anp COMMun; ~ m.AnY Arouni- ties. The AlonG With The IL-eAS OF men me. X term men's woRt hAs typically seen a WAnT Et-" US TO HAVE A SPACE To SHOW .OUR PROCESSES" SO TERM TO EVCLUI.-E WOMEN FROM CERTAIN HINDS OF WORfc this - I've been working on zine since we C.OXJ.-- s->Are What we 'ye Gone ThrouGh to present MANY PEOPLE I'EEM MASCULINE CLE. CONSTRUCTION . C.E.O March 1998 and it is now January 1999. For the L*Nt between our hurt As men Ani.- the oppression of A company. etc.Y Also. mAny people in this of Women.' We WAnTei.- to EXPLORE These IPEAS IN An SOCIETY CONSir.-ER CHALLENGING a while I was struggling with how much I SEVISM Am." POWER To EFFORT TO CONTINUE ThE L-iALoG'JE BETWEEN MEN ANt- women's woRt. However, we Are should edit the individual works and the en- Asserting here that WOMEN APOjT SEVISM. RAPE. SEVuAL ASSAULT AnP ABUSE. Lite Anti -racism woRt being the top of white tire" content of this zine, thus transforming The l.INC BETWEEN MENS HURT Ani? The PEOPl.E. CHALLENGING SEVISM AnIv PROMOTING HEALThY this zine into the beginning works of a book. OPPRESSION OF WOMEN IS VITAL. PECAuSE THIS IS ThE LIYES IS NOT ONLY THE TOP OF WOMEN. IT IS MFn's WOf-fL I finally decided to leave a lot of it how it is ThREAi' ThAT TIES 'JS TOGETHER IN The cycle of This chapter will «q.p with the "what to X t.-o now and to print it as such, because that is the VIOLENCE HISTORICALLY, The POWER C.-YnAmicS BETWEEN questions. true elements of writing a zine- unpolished MEN AnP WOMEN HAYE CONTRIBUTED' TO ThE CYCLE OF Getting to Know Yourself is an important with the attempt to instigate" dfttlogue. Yia.ENCE WhICH FOTh OPPRESSES women Am- tEEPs step in healing yoursel.f and the world, as public hurtinG men Once we ActNowi.EiGE this linc. we c.An enemy sAY "Xf you ion't know Yourself Then You're With that in mind, I present to you CONTINUE OUR WORt TO HEAL OJRSELYES ANI THE WCQ.l • IN nobody.' These questions Are a be&inninG toward this- booklet. 1 hope that it transforms your WHICH WE LIVE. self-awAreness. Xf yoj tAue the time to Answer life it with as has mine. ' in ., This zine is lAye; out rive chapters. These questions, then X commend your pedic.ation tc closing I want to take ' Before time Growing 'J? I'W.e. ChAnGinG Ways. Item's Work. The process of self -awareness And. self-loye. here to thank all the contributors, editors, and Getting to Know Yourself, ami.' Sq.ectei^ Resources. Finally, the selectep resources will. leAd general supporters of this project because These chapters present a process which most men in YOJ To MORE INFORMATION RELATED To MANY topics This ZInE hAyE Be&un To work. Throj&h ThemsELyes. COYEREP IN THIS ZINE. TAtE WhAT YOU LEARN FROM HE ,'i.£ without you it would not look as it does or - Growing 'jp male, we leArn traits Associ AND EVPAUD^WASP TO MORE RESOURCES-AnI- M.ORE be printed at all. - ATE!" WITH mAnhOOI- WE LEARN WhAT IT MEANS TO "BE A cnowlecOe Ani;- A Greater understanding. mAh.' Recognizing these traits n.As pecome a first One last note before X end this introp-jc With dedication, step in The roAl- to healinG As men. we h.Ave the TION. ONE CHAPTER ThAT WAS NOT INCI.UPED BUT is basil elias. choice to see our socialization As it effects our EXTREMELY RELEyAnT IS ON ThE POLITICAL REPERCUSSIO liyes. We h.Aye the choice to nurture the positive OF SEVISM And SEVuAL VIOLENCE. X SUGGEST ThAT YoW And healthy qualities of our socialization As well REAP MANY OF Th£ Boots IN The RESOURCE LIST To As to c«anGe the negative Anc- detrimental aspects Further research This topic. This zine wojlp be OF OUR SOCIALIZATION. ThIS CHAPTER SHEPS LI&hT ON NOTHING TF X HAP NOT LEARNEP ABOUT HOW SEVISM AND Get in touch with Any contributors, orues: more copies of this mAnY men's EVPeriehces with Growing up- MALE. SEVuAL VIOLENCE EFFECTS THE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE. zine. Give us "eeufAc^. pxAtse. concern, critiques, etc. fy Ch.AnGInG WAYS represents the stories of TnANt YOU FOR ATTAINING ThIS ZINE. Xf Yr v : wstttnG to the following A^- men confronting their pasts These stories repre" h.Ave AnY COMMENTS. PLEASE FEEL'" Free To write . - sent The turning points which h.Ave been crucial for t-'SESS. this zine is one uol men to see how seVism is manifested in their liyes lAs throuGh the ^tl. write AN! - TO TO ThESE WAYS OF BEING. q\jb-V»<\ Aev-o^ TcTTG^ PE&IN CHALLENGE for wholesale rAtescfor 5 or CnAN&ItvG WAYS IS A REPRESENTATION OF nAtlNG A mose-cofies). COMMITMENT To HEALING. 1 1 Introduction Men to End Sexual Assault P.O.Box 681 Cambridge, MA 02 1 39 Growing Up Male- 5 (617)492: S306\ writings on socialization and manhood. " Real Men "It's Good to Be the King" by Jeff Ott . 6 P.O.Box 1769 "Talking About Qur Lives" 7 Brook line, MA 02146 "Men's Issues on Body Image" by Matthew Campbell 16 (617)422-1650 "Reflections on my Gender" by Chris Dixon 22 D.C. Men Against Rape "Twenty Years Later" by Matthew Mullinix 23 c/o Washington Peace Center "The Making of Man" Pullen 26 A by Sam 2111 Florida Ave NW Washington D.C. 20008 (202) 882-5898 Changing Ways- 3 re-defining manhood. Men Against Domestic Violence "Turning Point" fry basil 32 32 West Anapamu St. #348 Santa Barbara, CA 93 1 0 "My Resistance to Feminism" 35 (805) 563-2651 Men's Work- 39 The Men's Health Network P.O.Box 770 The work we can do to end sexism in our lives and communities. Washington D.C. 20044-0770 "Men's Work" by basil 40 (202)543-6461 "A (Pro) Feminist Men's Movement" by basil 41 X Oakland Men's Project "Standing Up -to Say "No More"" 43 440 Grand Avenue Suite 320 "Men Have the Choice to" 44 Oakland, CA 94610 "Personal Goals to Ending Sexism" 45 Selected Resources- H. 53 < More sources for further understanding of topics covered in this zine. Afterward 58 Some Wcl) Resources: -http://fcminisi.comypro.htm -http://www.cs.utk.edu/ hartley /sainfoPage.html -httpi'/idcali.st.corn/wounded-healer/allies.htrnl -http://www.ibd.nrc.ca/mansfield.feminism . *<^roVinq up Mbit* Two Places to get a lot of Zines (Send $1 for a catalog to) wrvf»n<?x on xQctaf'tzAtwn anal ftanWocM. 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