Editorial.Qxd (Page 2)
Total Page:16
File Type:pdf, Size:1020Kb
SUNDAY, AUGUST 9, 2020 DAILY EXCELSIOR, JAMMU daily Excelsior Established 1965 A story of a lockdown marriage Founder Editor S.D. Rohmetra Anita Kanwal Slathia from my well wisher and my support system, my more methodical with the essential skill of priori- ness as the auspicious time mentioned by my priest dear MOM. Whenever she called me, I was ever tizing. was that all these rituals were supposed to be per- Reservation of professional ockdown marriage, ever heard of this term ready with a pen and a diary. This became my daily Next came the listing part which kept changing formed before twelve at noon.The ceremonies before? Wow, what a name I have coined to planner, a special Gift from my dear sister proved many a times. Here again the mobile assisted me to went smooth and Almighty in the form of my well- Lthis marriage, a unique and entirely a new to be blessing. search for the phone numbers whom to contact and wishers were a great support. seats for Ladakh paradigm for all of us. At this juncture of time I had no other alterna- finally a lady for preparation of the food was One of the most important part of a marriage Do you know when and how this came into tive on which I had my future planned day to day. arranged. As she came as a God's messenger, she are the guests. It was a again a challenge. We t may be recalled that following the doing away existence? A very interesting and a unique experi- It was a brand new one, a pen nicely placed in one was as perfect in preparing meals we could never wished all our near and dears to be present in the with the 'special status' of the erstwhile state ence. Lets take you to a strange journey during my of its holders. Though it was a beautiful diary, I have got any better person. I was so jeopardized, most precious moment of our life. Then again my daughter's marriage and why I have called it a of Jammu and Kashmir by abolition of Article receive from her every year but what was special that every fourth day I checked on her whether she tiny companion, my phone came to my assistance. I lockdown marriage. about it that this one was heading me towards a would not back out, as I had no other option at this One by one I started sending messages to all my 370 last year on August 5, the state was bifurcat- We are kept updated through the channels and challenge and I knew that a month's time was not point of time. We had already booked the items friends and relatives, making various lists of both ed into two Union Territories of Jammu and News bulletins about this information about sufficient for such a God gifted moment in my which were required to be rented for the, cere- family and friends and checking the guest list and Kashmir and Ladakh. Prior to that constitution- COVID-19, looming all around us. Our angel's life. The pre-planning evaporated in a short monies. Now again it were to be checked back. As making sure to talk to them, finding for the phone Government declared a Junta curfew, country fol- al arrangement Ladakh was sharing, as a part span. Our house became the venue thus replacing these were available in our neighborhood, we were numbers which had changed, keeping a check of lowed it religiously in a way, trying to be a part of the marriage hall. I was nervous to the extent that a bit relieved. not to miss anybody. Here again we missed visiting of the state , seats requirements in profession- this strange happening. On the other hand, we, the sleepless nights became a norm. The fact that According to the customs of our region, eleven each of them and privilege of handing over the al colleges in Jammu and Kashmir in respect of occupied with the last minute preparations for our now it all had to be more precise and with mini- days prior to the Wedding day, the mother of the invitation cards. After the telephonic conversations the aspiring students from the region . Since now daughter's marriage. and with the feedback, I was relieved and under- As a result, the social and cultural scenario had it is a separate UT but has no Medical College or stood the true meaning of "nears and dears" all of a great impact. This was a strange occurrence that them were a great support and boosted my morale. an Engineering College to cater to the require- even the most sensitive issues of visiting religious Many of them even gave me advices and helpful ments of the students of the twin districts of Leh places, attending marriage functions were post- suggestions. On that day I thanked God for provid- poned or cancelled. This made everybody to pon- ing me with such a solid support system in the and Kargil in Ladakh , an arrangement, therefore, der over the seriousness of the viral disease which had to be carved out to accommodate the aspi- form of my friends and relatives. had taken a huge form in Italy, but its origin was The next important step towards the proper rant candidates in the existing availability of pro- from Wuhan, China. The curfew imposed by our proceeding was the permission of the Government fessional seats in Jammu and Kashmir. Government was a kind of precautionary measure authorities. We could culminate the marriage ritu- and thoughtful step towards the spread of this epi- als with not more than 15 -16 relatives in all from Accordingly, a decision taken in this respect demic called as COVID 19. recently at a review meeting of the Advisory both the families. The norms were to be strictly In the midst of chaos all around, according to adhered during this pandemic times. There was a Committee chaired by the Chief Secretary of pro- the consent of everybody in the family, we finally written permission sought and a letter of consent viding seats to Ladakhi students subject to a max- decided to perform the wedding ceremony of our was handed over to us so that we should adhere to daughter. Now the point was, how to plan it into imum of 4 percent for the academic year 2020-21 all the precautions to be taken during the gathering. entirely different scenario. So we fastened our seat So at the time of the arrival of the BARATIS, we is the right decision as there were no other belts and looked into various options and ways to followed a unique custom which was the demand immediate alternatives . In other words, 4 per find all the resources available for us. We were left of the time and it was to make each one sanitise cent seats would be reserved exclusively for stu- with one month but with lockdown it all appeared their hands. It was a gesture to make everybody as a challenge now. The reason of our anxiety was dents of Ladakh in Medical and Engineering col- feel safe and secure during the function. how the things would be arranged. All shops mar- Right from the greeting of the Barat, photo ses- leges in the UT of Jammu and Kashmir. It may ket-places, marriage Halls, beauty parlors and sions, dinner, ceremonies and rituals to the VIDAII further be noted that government of India, in this almost everything essential for a marriage ceremo- went off so smooth as it was a dream passing by. connection, had constituted an Advisory ny was remote in time or space. So now we had to Every guest present was a support and enjoyed look for the alternatives to almost everything. The dancing and merry making that made me feel as if Committee and had asked it to submit its rec- most important was the-manpower- the challeng- every moment was auspicious planned from the ommendations . ing aspect which created a void. Worsening the sit- HEAVEN itself. While this decision of the UT government uation was that the transport system was complete- Finally, time to make arrangements for the deserves to be noted with satisfaction , it must ly shut down with the aim to check the pandemic. VIDAII. An emptiness struck deep inside which Right from the beginning, challenges were created a void both within me and in my home. surely have removed the apprehensions in waiting head on. First was whether the marriage malistic resources. bride is supposed to perform certain rituals in Tears came out rolling from nowhere and the the minds of the students of Leh and Kargil dis- should be solemnized or not. Mind boggling dis- Most important was the consent of a priest, which a handful of black pulses, whole black gram whole day I kept hiding in my room so that no one tricts for the immediate academic year of 2020- cussions took place. Some came up with the opin- who would be ready to solemnize the marriage cer- and whole wheat seeds were supposed to be could stop me from this very strange amalgamation ion that without relatives and friends the marriage 21 . The decision of reserving seats for UT emony and rituals. With God's grace, it was washed and kept in the Sun. Each cereal to be tied of feelings which was difficult for me to handle at is incomplete while others suggested that as every- that juncture of time.