The Violence of Heteronormative Language Towards the Queer Community by Jessica King
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The Violence of Heteronormative Language Towards the Queer Community by Jessica King Introduction of expression (signs) that are interpreted The old adage goes, “Sticks and stones may break as evidence of a subject’s sex, gender and my bones, but words can never hurt me;” however, sexuality (the signified). Further, one’s most people know this to be untrue.. Words have identity in one category is linked to one’s the unique power to create reality: they can be used identity in another… Evidence of a body’s both to empower and create change, and to form gender is taken as evidence of the body’s sex stereotypes and breed mistrust. More sinister uses of and sexuality as well (3-4). language include directly doing violence to others, or indirectly supporting violent societal structures Many American (and, more broadly, Western) through the normalization of the marginalization of cultural institutions are based on heteronormative some groups. assumptions—they are so pervasive as to not even One social group particularly vulnerable to be noticeable in daily life. One of the reasons that the violent effects of heteronormativity is the heteronormativity has such a strong influence on lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning/ how our culture behaves and constructs itself is that queer, intersex, and asexual/aromantic, (LGBTQIA) the language we use to create reality is inherently or queer, community—though the violent heteronormative. effects of heteronormativity are far-reaching.1 This The English language itself creates the expectation article examines several different examples of that sex ought to be on a binary through the use heteronormative violence towards the LGBTQIA of “he” or “she” to describe human beings. This community through language: heteronormative usage leaves no room for other options and makes violence inherent in the structure of the English it difficult for English speakers to conceive of any language, the erasure of asexuals and bisexuals, middle ground. While this is of little consequence to and the violence of misgendering transgender cisgender individuals—those whose assigned gender people. The article will also address the effects of based on their biological sex at birth matches their heteronormative language towards the cisgender gender identity—there are enormous consequences heterosexual community, which in many ways for gender non-conformists. Some people identify parallels the effects on the LGBTQIA community; as agender (without a gender), as genderfluid (their however, the article’s main focus will be on the queer gender identity is mutable and might change over community. a period of time) or as transgender (their gender identity is not the same as their assigned gender based The Limitations of the English Language on their biological sex at birth). With the English According to Katrina Kimport, heteronormativity is: language as it is, these individuals are limited in their ability to express their identity. In circumstances The institutionalized expectation that where one is unsure of a subject’s gender, modern bodies are constructed into oppositionally English dictates that one should write “he or she” situated (sexual and social) categories… It is (Cruz 215) premised on the assumption that sex, gender, Such language limits and excludes other and sexuality are fixed and immutable. It identities and is a form of heteronormative violence, assumes an a priori existence of sex, gender forcing everyone necessarily into the gender binary. and sexuality that induces particular forms These limitations take away autonomy from the Aisthesis 17 Volume 7, 2016 The Violence of Heteronormative Language Towards the Queer Community individual to decide how they would like to present Myers’ study of children’s television programming to the world and how they think about their own revealed that this problem is extensive. It found that identity. The ability to express a gender outside of ideas of compulsory heterosexuality were presented heteronormative standards enables an individual to rapid-fire in a space of between 20 and 30 minutes. The defy gender roles with ease; after all, why conform most sinister aspect of compulsory heterosexuality to the roles and standards of a gender you do not revealed by the study is the presentation of violent identify with? Using “he or she” does not allow for ideas of women as weak beings to be preyed on the full expression of some individuals’ identity, and of men as natural predators. One character on and thus limits their potential to self-actualize. a children’s television show describes approaching Furthermore, the use of the gender-neutral “them” is women with the following metaphor: “When the often not accepted in formal writing in place of “his lions are out hunting gazelles, they don’t attack the or her.” strong healthy ones. Oh no. They attack the weak Though some alternatives have been offered— ones. The ones crying and eating ice cream” (135). for instance zie and hir (“Need” 1)—these are By putting the language of violence in the forms of not commonplace. The alternative to linguistically jokes, not only is heteronormativity enforced, but assuming a person’s gender, as the English language also the social norms that arise from such language stands right now, is to call someone an “it,” a title are trivialized and normalized. By joking about the usually reserved for the non-human, especially hunting of women and the jeering at boys who fail to inanimate objects, as we will generally assign animals live up to masculine standards, media tells children genders. Addressing someone in such a way is equally “This behavior is what is normal and acceptable.” as violent and disrespectful as assuming someone’s Kristin Myers and Laura Raymond’s 2010 study gender; the implication of using these words is that demonstrates that elementary girls are also aware of those who do not conform to heteronormative heteronormative pressures and create heteronormative gender expectations are less than human. If our spaces and roles amongst themselves. In their study, language does not allow for divergent identities, Myers and Raymond found that the girls used words how can we expect society to accept or respect such such as “appropriate,” as well as “gay” and “lesbian” identities? pejoratively to police each other’s behavior in a way similar to the media norms described above. Heteronormative Violence in Media and Towards The use of the word “appropriate” is indicative of the Heterosexual Cisgender Community how our culture creates femininity in opposition to Aside from the gendered limitations of the masculinity. English language, there also exist very obvious ways The cultural use of the word “appropriate” is of doing violence through words that embody and violent in that it can delegitimize or stigmatize encourage violence. As Kristin Myers points out girls’ feelings or desires, especially if those break in her 2012 study, a common form of humor that with heteronormativity—for example, homosexual appears early in the cultural life of an individual feelings or desires or a desire for sex that is considered via media directed at children is the presentation of uncharacteristic of someone performing femininity males in feminized ways. properly. Discussions of what is “appropriate” is Such a presentation leads to “fag talk;” that is, insults closely related to slut-shaming, a form of violence based on the degradation of males by calling them in which women who have a number of sexual females or homosexuals. This language by extension partners deemed too high are mocked and degraded. is also degrading to women and the queer community. The discussion of “appropriate” is violent on the The use of words like “fag,” “pussy,” “gay,” and “girl” individual level, but also has consequences as far- to police boys’ gender performances both explicitly reaching as the political discussion of birth control and implicitly encourages sexism and homophobia, and abortion. Beginning at a young age, women and what Myers calls “compulsory heterosexuality” are told what are “appropriate” ways to conduct (127). This language simultaneously creates, reifies and themselves, particularly sexually (where women are indicates heteronormativity in American culture. expected to be chaste and men are encouraged to be Aisthesis 18 Volume 7, 2016 The Violence of Heteronormative Language Towards the Queer Community sexually predatory), which creates an environment the idea of sex. Sex distinctions are inherently tied where rape is allowable and, I would argue, encouraged to sexual orientation, and both heterosexuals and through the language used to teach young girls and homosexuals benefit from having labels. The label of boys. By bringing the conversation around to whether heterosexual, for instance, is useful in a court of law. women’s actions, dress, et cetera were “appropriate,” Yoshino’s study finds that in sexual harassment suits our culture takes the onus of blame for violence away involving two males, if one can present his behavior from the perpetrators and places it on the victim. as homosocial (read: just “horseplay” or “boys being Similarly, the use of violent words like “crush,” “hit boys”), rather than homoerotic, he is unlikely to face on” and “mine” to describe romantic relationships punishment (49). By destabilizing the distinctions with others exemplify violence that is condoned in between hetero- and homosexuals, bisexual visibility society, and which promote a culture of violence, in law would eliminate this exception. This often against women, as women are expected to example is interesting because it is an instance of conform to someone else’s prescribed standards of heteronormative language (the language used to behavior (Myers and Raymond 176-8). These words describe cisgender heterosexual men’s violence create relationship dynamics that use physically towards one another as playful and in good fun, even violent words to describe romantic feelings towards though the other individual feels harmed) that erases another, and then a dynamic of ownership after a bisexuals harming not bisexuals, but heterosexuals.