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CELEBRATING LGBTQIA+ PRIDE

JUNE 2021

MARIN LGBTQ+ YOUTH ON THEIR ELEMENTARY LOCAL SCHOOL EXPERIENCE YOUTH! NEWSLETTER CONTENTS

PLAY GROWING UP LGBTQ+ IN MARIN... 1

LGBTQ+ TERMINOLOGY...... 2

RAISING AWARENESS...... 3 MARIN PARENT REFLECTS ON HER VISIBILITY & INCLUSIVITY...... 4 CHILD'S ELEMENTARY SCHOOL EXPERIENCE INPUT FROM PARENTS...... 5 What would have been helpful? CULTURE...... 6 ''...having more PLAY information .... so that kids can HISTORICAL FIGURES...... 7 grow up knowing that LGBTQ+ RESOURCES...... 8 LOCAL people are just another AUTHOR! wonderful part of our society.' LGBTQ+ TERMINOLOGY

G E N D E R KID FRIENDLY EXPLANATION OF & : When your gender identity (how you feel in your heart) is the same as what doctors/midwives assigned to you when you were born. PLAY : A way of seeing gender as two distinct and opposite groups, girl and boy. LOCAL GENDER EXPANSIVE: When people feel that the YOUTH! traditional ways of being a 'boy' or 'girl' do not fit for them. GENDER EXPRESSION: How we show our gender identity to the world. Some common ways we express our gender are through clothes, style and the pronouns we use. MORE VOCABULARY FROM GENDER IDENTITY: How you feel about yourself in your heart. Boy, girl, both or neither. GENDER SPECTRUM : An umbrella term that refers to people who are born with bodies that are "The vocabulary of gender naturally different from what is traditionally continues to evolve and considered strictly male or . there is not universal NON-BINARY: People who do not feel like agreement about the the words 'girl' or boy' fits. Sometimes they definitions of many terms. use they/them/theirs pronouns. We offer them as a TRANSGENDER: When your gender identity starting place for is different than what was assigned to you dialogue and when you were born. understanding..."

WHO YOU LOVE❤ G E N E R A L BISEXUAL: When people have romantic LGBTQIA: , , bisexual, love for more than one gender transgender, , intersex and GAY: When people have romantic asexual. love for people of the same gender QUEER: People use this word as a HETEROSEXUAL: When women have way to identify with and romantic love only for men and men celebrate people with divergent have romantic love only for women gender identities and all the LESBIAN: When women have romantic ways people have romantic love love for women for others. It's a term that has PANSEXUAL: When people have been reclaimed and embraced by romantic love for all genders. many in the community. When used in a derogatory way, it can ASEXUAL: When people have little to be a slur. no attraction to others RAISING AWARENESS

D I D Y O U K N O W ? ONLY 1 I N 3 LGBTQ+ YOUTH LIVE IN A SUPPORTIVE HOME

4 8 % OF LGBTQ+ YOUTH ENGAGED IN SELF HARM IN THE LAST 12 MONTHS ( > 6 0 % FOR TRANS YOUTH)

8 6 % SAID THAT RECENT POLITICS HAVE NEGATIVELY IMPACTED THEIR WELL-BEING

LGBTQ+ YOUTH MAKE UP 4 0 % OF HOMELESS YOUTH READ MORE FROM

Family acceptance LGBTQ+ YOUTH OF COLOR ARE dramatically improves AT GREATER RISK THAN THEIR LGBTQ+ youth's well-being WHITE COUNTERPARTS

LGBTQ+ VISIBILITY & INCLUSION: WHY ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS?

Attitudes toward LGBTQ+ people develop at very young ages, often mostly formed by media and peer input Gender identity typically starts developing in children around 3 years old Queer adults report feeling different from their peers at very young ages, long before puberty. Puberty typically begins between ages 10-13.

FOR PARENTS: "(As parents) we aren’t here to IS MY CHILD TOO make strangers comfortable with our children, we’re here to make our YOUNG TO LEARN PLAY child comfortable with themselves. ABOUT BEING GAY? That’s all part of healthily launching our children into adulthood." -Lori Duron WHAT DOES LGBTQ+ VISIBILTY & INCLUSIVITY LOOK LIKE? ALL COLORS, TOYS, CLOTHES AND HAIRSTYLES ARE FOR EVERYONE! One of the most impactful things BY AGES 5-7 elementary schools can do is drive MANY the message home that there are CHILDREN no 'girl' colors or 'boy' toys. These HAVE are the ways that young kids DEVELOPED AN EXPERIMENT: express themselves and everyone 'GIRL TOYS' AND 'BOY TOYS' benefits from all genders getting RIGID GENDER equal access to self expression! STEREOTYPES - READ MORE RESEARCH SHOWS GENDER STEREOTYPES ARE HARMFUL FOR ALL CHILDREN (NOT JUST LGBTQ+) ALL FAMILIES WELCOME Families with two VISIBILITY moms, two dads or another non- The best visibility traditional LGBTQ+ happens when there household often do are real life examples HRC: WELCOMING not feel welcome in a of LGBTQ+ individuals school community. happily living life on LGBTQ+ FAMILIES campus. But other Using inclusive language on school efforts such as forms, using language with students that hanging a rainbow does not assume mom+dad at home, flag or displaying and reading books that celebrate prominent imagery LGBTQ+ families are a few of the things and messages of you can do to make your school more support go a long way welcoming. Read more. 9 STEPS TO TAKE too.

CURRICULUM POLICY

LGBTQ+ curriculum Adopting policies that lay varies widely from TEACH PRIDE, REACH WIDE! out specifics on how your TK-5th grades. SPAHR CENTER'S TOOLKIT school provides support Staples across all can be a beacon for ages include reading FOR LGBTQ+ INCLUSIVE LGBTQ+ kids and their stories that include families. LGBTQ+ topics and SCHOOLS Check out the template characters, from GLSEN that RVC used capitalizing on The Spahr Center recently to adopt its Transgender LGBTQ+ teachable developed an LGBTQ+ toolkit Policy that has been moments and with developmentally helping families for 2+ emphasizing appropriate curriculum for ALL years. important societal ages. CLICK! contributions from the LGBTQ+ Reach out to Spahr for more community. support!

INPUT FROM PARENTS

RVC TEACHER ALUM FROM DURON'S MS. ERIKA! '12 THINGS EVERY GENDER Erika Smith was a 2/3 and NONCONFORMING CHILD TK/K/1 RVC teacher before her retirement in 2020. WANTS YOU TO KNOW' ... 'If you are confused and can't quite tell if I'm a boy or a girl, just know that I am a person.' 'Sometimes I notice that my gender (expansiveness) makes Miles at Erika with her you uncomfortable. I'm not husband, David, and 3 years trying to make you child, Miles, at a old  uncomfortable, I'm trying to PRIDE event. make myself comfortable.' Ms. ERIKA 'My gender (expansiveness) is a way of expressing myself, a way READ ALOUD! of being true to myself, to the way my heart beats and my PLAY blood flows.' 'It's silly when you think, say, or NOT QUITE feel that colors, clothes, and/or NARWAHL toys are for one gender.' 'Just because I'm gender (expansive) doesn't mean that I'll grow up to be LGBTQ+.' 10 TIPS FOR PARENTS OF 'Bullies aren't just at school; GAY KIDS sometimes they are at home too. Home should be the place 1.Don't ignore it where I feel the safest and the 2.Do ask questions most loved. If that is not the case, something is wrong and I 3.Don't say 'I always knew' need help.' READ FULL LIST 4.Do talk about telling others 5.Don't assume 6.Do talk about safety PLAY 7.Don't ask them first ON RAISING A 8.Do be mindful of gender TRANSGENDER 9.Don't place blame CHILD IN THE 10.Do tell them you love them BLACK READ THE ARTICLE COMMUNITY CULTURE

TWO SPIRIT QUEER ARTIST COCO LAYNE: EXPLORES GENDER PRESENTATION Two Spirit is a & SOCIETAL TREATMENT Pan-American Indian term used by American Indian people who identify outside the binary gender roles of male and female.

The Two-Spirit Society of Denver says, “Two-Spirit refers to another WARPAINT IS ABOUT HOW FAR LAYNE HAS TO 'TRAVEL' FROM WHAT MAKES believed to be common among most, if HER COMFORTABLE IN ORDER TO MAKE not all first peoples of Turtle Island (North SOCIETY COMFORTABLE America), one that had a proper and accepted place within Native societies. This acceptance was rooted in the spiritual teachings that say all life is sacred.”

In many American Indian tribes, the Two- Spirit members held important roles such as healer, regalia maker, caretaker, visionary, or leader. Each tribe had their own views on gender and recognized gender diversity in their own way. Two- Spirit is a term respectfully reserved for American Indian peoples.

MA-NEE CHABY'S PLAY TWO SPIRIT STORY ANNUAL BAAITS: TWO STORY HOUR: SPIRIT POWWOW IN SF PLAY WHAT IS IT? WHERE IS IT?

PLAY TWO SPIRIT, + READING LISTS AN ANIMATED OVERVIEW HISTORICAL FIGURES

S I N C E A N C I E N T T I M E S . . . Evidence of LGBTQ+ people's existence dates back to ancient times, across continents and cultures. Gay and lesbian relationships are well documented around the world: ancient Egypt, Persia and South Pacific just to name a few. Transgender identities are also documented since time immemorial all 15 LGBT LOVE STORIES FROM around the world including ancient India, Rome and many Indigenous tribes in the US. ANCIENT GREECE AND ROME

PHYLLIS LYON MARSHA P. JOHNSON & SYLVIA RIVERA With her partner Del Martin, Phyllis Lyon founded The in 1955, the first lesbian civil and political HISTORIC 2008 rights organization with a national presence in MARRIAGE the US. Lyon and Del Martin were the first lesbian or gay couple to marry in the US, taking place in 2004 in before being voided months later. In 2008, they were REMEMBERING JOHNSON AND RIVERA again the first to wed after legalized marriage for all couples. Trans activists Marsha P. Johnson and Slyvia Rivera are credited with pushing the modern LGBTQ+ civil rights movement to the mainstream starting with the Stonewall Riot of Harvey Milk 1969. was an American Being trans and having Latina and politician and Black identities made them extremely the first vulnerable. They were discriminated openly gay against, even within the LGBTQ+ elected official community, and their contributions to in the history progress have been largely dismissed. of California, 40 YEARS AFTER HIS where he was Even today, trans women of color elected to the experience alarming levels ASSASSINATION, MILK'S San Francisco persecution and . They LEGACY STILL LIVES ON Board of are often considered the most Supervisors. vulnerable subgroup of modern society. RESOURCES

LOCAL ADULT BOOKS

CLICK THE The spahr CENTER BOOKS TO LEARN MORE! Marin's LGBTQ+ center with services for youth/adults, schools and family support GENDER SPECTRUM LOCAL World-renowned nonprofit AUTHOR! in the East Bay that works to create gender inclusive environments for youth OLDER KID BOOKS CLICK! PODCASTS

HOW TO BE A GIRL: DAILY LIFE WITH MY TRANS DAUGHTER KID BOOKS

BBC: RAISING TRANS KIDS AROUND THE WORLD BORN READY GRANDAD'S CAMPER PLAY FILMS (YOUNG ADULT+) PLAY

PLAY MY SHADOW IS PINK

PLAY 'DISCLOSURE' PLAY Hollywood's THE WAY HE PRIDE: THE STORY portrayal of LOOKS: OF HARVEY MILK trans people AND THE PRIDE FLAG and impact on A FILM ABOUT American YOUNG LOVE culture CELEBRITIES

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