Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting the Priesthood and the Auxiliaries of the Relief Society, Young Women, and Primary

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Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting The Priesthood and the Auxiliaries of the Relief Society, Young Women, and Primary

JANUARY 10, 2004

THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SAINTS Published by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Salt Lake City, Utah

Challenges Facing the Family ...... 1 President James E. Faust

The Doctrinal Foundation of the Auxiliaries ...... 5 Elder Richard G. Scott

The Purposes of the Auxiliaries ...... 9 Bonnie D. Parkin Susan W. Tanner Coleen K. Menlove

The Priesthood and the Auxiliaries ...... 16 Elder Dallin H. Oaks

Standing Strong and Immovable ...... 20 President Gordon B. Hinckley PRESIDENT JAMES E. FAUST to this decline are young people Second Counselor in the First Presidency delaying marriage, increases in the proportion of adult population who have never married, and an increase in cohabitation.3 The marriage rates Challenges Facing in four reported South American countries have dramatically declined in the past decade, and in most the Family European countries they have also dramatically decreased for several decades.4 Studies, however, show that Latter-day Saints are more likely to marry than people in the general population and also that men who marry generally live longer and are more healthy and happy than those who do not.5 righteous living are the church and At the heart of a happy family is the family. complete devotion of both parents The family relationship of father, to each other. In terms of sexual mother, and children is the oldest intimacy, the Lord’s law is abstinence and most enduring institution in the before marriage and fidelity after- world. It has survived all differences ward. As stated in “The Family: A of time, geography, and culture. Proclamation to the World,” “The Because marriage between a man sacred powers of procreation are to and a woman is a natural state that be employed only between man and is ordained of God, the Prophet woman, lawfully wedded as husband Joseph taught that “marriage was an and wife.” 6 institution of heaven, instituted in Unfortunately, marriage is becom- the Garden of Eden; [and] that it was ing less valued. Cohabitation is now necessary [that] it should be solem- widely accepted in many places as an nized by the authority of the everlast- alternative to marriage. Cohabitation 1 ing Priesthood.” It is a moral is often seen as a trial marriage, with imperative. little commitment. The Disintegration of Families By all odds, marriage is the most Since 1960, in the United States important decision of mortal life. I should like to speak today on there has been a 760 percent increase One should not get married just to in unmarried couples living together, challenges facing the family. In recent get married. Mature preparation is times, society has been plagued with amounting to 3.8 million couples in required to take on the important 7 a cancer. I speak of the disintegration the year 2000. Most cohabitations responsibilities inherent in this sacred end without marriage and are rela- of many of our homes and families. relationship. Marriage also requires Confusion and disorder are all too tively short. Statistics show that faith—faith in oneself, faith in one’s cohabiting couples are much more common in society, but we must not marriage partner, and faith in the permit them to destroy our families. likely to break up than are married Lord. It also requires total commit- 8 In every country there is a general couples. ment by both parties. The statistics of some representa- breakdown of the moral fabric of The first event in establishing a society that confronts the sacred fam- tive countries indicate that the per- family is to get married! The reluc- centage of divorce is also increasing. ily institutions with new challenges. tance for some to marry seems to be You are all aware of this because it Experts project that about half of the increasing worldwide. Between 1970 women in the United States will have engulfs us. Governments exercise and 2001, the marriage rate in the less and less moral authority. So the a marriage dissolve some time in United States declined from 76.5 to their life.9 Another alarming statistic principal institutions which foster 45.6.2 The major factors contributing

JANUARY 2004 1 is that out-of-wedlock births have love thy wife with all thy heart, and they hear the prayers of their parents increased by 158 percent.10 shalt cleave unto her and none else” and older siblings. Also disturbing is the shift in atti- (D&C 42:22). My own heart and mind were cap- tude about the purpose of marriage. Any promise made by a man and tured as a young boy by my grand- More and more young people view a woman in a marriage ceremony— father’s prayers. His large family knelt marriage “as a couples relationship, especially a temple sealing—has the morning and night before meals. At designed to fulfill the emotional dignity of one of the most important the time, I thought his prayers were needs of adults, rather than an insti- covenants we can make. Sacred far too long! He had much to pray tution for bringing up children.” covenants must always be honored. about. He was a farmer and rancher. The pursuit of such “soul-mate rela- The challenges facing families today It was during the Great Depression, tionship[s] may [well] weaken mar- are many and great. Our family rela- and there was a terrible drought in riage as an institution for rearing tionships need every protection that the land. His animals were starving. children.” 11 can be instituted, and keeping sacred He had many mouths to feed. But his Another disturbing challenge to covenants is a powerful defense. prayers were so fervent and his faith the family is that children are becom- Nehemiah of the Old Testament so great, I was convinced that the ing less valued. In many parts of the was building a wall with “no breach Lord would provide and that all world, people are having fewer chil- left therein” to protect Jerusalem would be well. It ultimately proved dren. Abortion is probably the clear- (Nehemiah 6:1). His enemies to be so. Individual prayer and family est sign that couples do not want entreated him to come down from prayer are indispensable to personal children. An estimated one-quarter the wall because they wanted to do and family happiness. of all pregnancies worldwide end by him mischief. Nehemiah stayed on induced abortion. The rates range the wall and said, “I cannot come from a high of almost 50 percent down [from the wall]: why should in Europe to about 15 percent in the work cease?” (v. 3). Africa.12 We cannot build walls of brick Complete trust in each other and stone around our families, but greatly enriches a marriage. Nothing we must constantly put safeguards devastates that core of mutual trust around them to protect them. These like infidelity. Adultery is never justi- safeguards will be a protection. May fied. Occasionally marriages survive I mention three ways to protect and this destructive experience and strengthen our families. Family Home Evening families are preserved, but to do so The second safeguard is weekly requires the aggrieved partner to give family home evening. Family home unreserved love great enough to for- evening is for all of us no matter what give and forget. It requires the errant stage of life we are in. Sister Faust partner to want desperately to repent, and I find that family home evening humbly seek forgiveness, and actually is different for us than it used to be forsake evil. with our children and grandchildren around us. Most of the time now we Safeguarding Our Families study the scriptures together. A few Loyalty to our companion should weeks ago in our family home not be merely physical but mental Family Prayer evening, we read our patriarchal and spiritual as well. Flirtations are One of these is family prayer. The blessings, trying to understand what never harmless, and jealousy has no Spirit of the Lord is invited into the work we might yet have to accom- place in a marriage. Marriage partners home through prayer and harmony plish. We found we still have addi- must avoid the very appearance of in the home. Parents need to teach tional work to do. evil by shunning any questionable their children that they are children Some families have moved away contact with any person to whom of God and that they should pray to from this important meeting. We they are not married. Virtue is the Him daily. Praying together as a family should do all we can to free up strong glue that holds marriage is a bonding experience. Younger Monday evenings from any other together. Said the Lord, “Thou shalt children can learn how to pray as competing activities. Like glue, family

2 home evening bonds us together as routine continued from her child- must be taught the Lord’s plan of hap- families. Lessons should be instruc- hood into adult life. piness for His children. This means tive and involve family members in a As she looks back, this young that they need to have a knowledge relaxed atmosphere which includes woman now realizes that this time that God loves them, that we lived an expression of love. of family scripture study formed an with Him before the world was, and In our family home evenings important pattern which she and her that each of us can return to Him we should try to involve everyone, brothers and sisters continue to fol- through the mission of His Son, Jesus except infants, in some way. Small low in their own families. During Christ. Also, to meet the challenges of children can participate by singing these study times, she slowly but life, our children need to have an songs. Older children can be assigned surely gained a testimony of the education. to prepare and teach all or part of the gospel. During these formative years, Parents should administer disci- lesson. Other family members can she also formed a special eternal pline through love and righteousness. help the younger children prepare. bond with her parents and with each Children cannot be forced into obedi- All should be invited to ask questions of her brothers and sisters. ence. As President Hinckley has said, arising from their own gospel study Personal and family scripture study “There is need for discipline with or from the lesson. is a lifetime process. Children may families. But discipline with severity, Family home evening is also a struggle a little with some of the discipline with cruelty, inevitably time for calendaring family activities language of the scriptures, and so leads not to correction, but rather to so that everyone knows what is parents and older siblings should take resentment and bitterness. It cures expected of them. It is a time when time to discuss and explain some of nothing and only aggravates the misunderstandings can be ironed out. the more difficult passages. They problem. It is self-defeating.” 13 Our It is also a time to encourage family should explain their relevance to best method for correcting children members to enhance their talents some of their current circumstances. when they have done wrong is by and seek new skills. Gospel study habits may take years firmness, love, patience, kindness, to establish firmly in families—they persuasion, and reason. do not just happen. Study habits help In my opinion, members of the form a protective wall for families to Church have the most effective cure rely on and help them bond together. for society’s decaying family life. It is for men, women, and children to The Responsibilities of Parents honor and respect the divine roles Recently Sister Faust and I met our of both fathers and mothers in the newest great-grandchild. I held her in home. In doing so, mutual respect my arms for the first time. I realized and appreciation among the mem- that this dear little girl has so many bers of the Church will be fostered Family and Personal Scripture Study things that she must learn to cope by the righteousness found there. The third basic is family and per- with so that she can be happy in life. I recognize that there are some single sonal scripture study. This requires The best place for children to learn parents raising children, so I would some planning and discipline on the that which is most important is in the repeat the wise counsel offered by part of the parents and all of the chil- home because home is where the Elder John B. Dickson. He wrote, dren. We must help our children by most love is found. By command- “When the ideal home situation with strengthening their faith and under- ment, parents are to teach their chil- father and mother is not in place, standing. dren “the doctrine of repentance, then we must do the best we can One young lady, recently married faith in Christ the Son of the living to offer priesthood and organization in the temple, spoke of the value of God, and of . . . the gift of the Holy support; but we must not displace scripture study in her family when Ghost” (D&C 68:25). parents in their preeminent role.” 14 she was growing up. Her mother To meet the challenges of life, our I also recognize that sometimes it used to ring a large cowbell at 5:00 children must have testimonies of the is necessary for women to work away a.m. daily to awaken the family for Savior as the Redeemer of the world. from the home in order to provide for scripture study. She felt grumpy and They need to be taught that one day the family. At the press conference on thought that this daily exercise was a they will be accountable to the Lord March 13, 1995, when the new First waste of time, but, nonetheless, the for their actions in this life. They also Presidency was announced, reporters

JANUARY 2004 3 asked about working mothers. Presi- the children, and the children to the Notes dent Hinckley responded: fathers, lest the whole earth be smit- 1. History of the Church, 2:320. “Do the best you can, and remem- ten with a curse” (D&C 110:15; see 2. Based on data from the U.S. Census Bureau (number of marriages per 1,000 ber that the greatest assets you have also Malachi 4:6). This sealing power unmarried women age 15 and older), in this world are those children whom bestowed by Elijah reveals itself in figure 1 in the National Marriage Project, “Social Indicators of Marital Health and you have brought into the world and family relationships, in attributes Wellbeing: Trends of the Past Four for whose nurture and care you are and virtues developed in a nurturing Decades,” The State of Our Unions, 2003: The Social Health of Marriage in responsible.” environment, and in loving service. America (annual report, 2003), 21. While there are many fathers who We must strengthen Elijah’s mis- 3. National Marriage Project, “Social are closely involved in the rearing sion of turning the hearts of the Indicators,” 20–21. 4. United Nations, Demographic Yearbook of their children, a growing number fathers and the children to each 2000 (2002), table 23. See also previous of men are “disengaged or entirely other. The ordinances of the temple years. absent” in their children’s lives. Men become dynamic and productive of 5. See Tim B. Heaton and Kristen L. Goodman, “Religion and Family Forma- who father children out of wedlock good only as they reveal themselves tion,” Review of Religious Research, June or cohabit rather than marrying are in our daily lives. These are the cords 1985, 343–59; Elizabeth VanDenBerghe, “Religion and the Abundant Life,” Ensign, much less likely than married men that bind families together, and the Oct. 1994, 32–45; Linda J.Waite and to provide the ongoing and constant priesthood advances their develop- Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage nurture and support that children (2000). ment. 6. Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102. 15 require. I strongly urge fathers, husbands, 7. Arlene F. Saluter, Current Population wives, and children to honor and Reports, Series P-20, No. 450, Marital The Power of the Priesthood Status and Living Arrangements: March revere the blessings of the priest- 1990 (1991), table N (439,000 unmar- God has wisely established a guid- hood. By so doing they can help cure ried couple households in 1960); Jason Fields, Current Population Reports, ing authority for the most important some of the cancer that plagues our Series P-20, No. 537, America’s Families institutions in the world. This guiding society and seeps into our families. and Living Arrangements: March 2000 I hope and pray that fathers can be (2001), 12 (3.8 million unmarried authority is the priesthood. The couple households in 2000; actual priesthood provides blessings from taught to magnify their priesthood number of unmarried couples may God for all members at the hands of callings as family patriarchs and that be much higher). 8. National Marriage Project, “Social the servants He has designated. This the sisters will be blessed in their Indicators,” 25. authority of the priesthood can bless most important role—motherhood— 9. Rose M. Kreider and Jason Fields, all members through the ministra- and that together they will experi- Current Population Reports, Series P-70, No. 80, Number, Timing, and Duration tions of home teachers, quorum ence the rewards promised by our of Marriages and Divorces: 1996 (2001), presidents, bishops, fathers, and all Heavenly Father, and this I say in the 17–18; see also National Marriage Project, “Social Indicators,” 23–24, 25. other righteous brethren who are name of Jesus Christ, amen. 10. National Center for Health Statistics, charged with the administration of National Vital Statistics Reports, Births: Final Data for 2002, Dec. 17, 2002, the affairs of the kingdom of God. table C; National Center for Health Priesthood is the righteous power Statistics, Nonmarital Childbearing in and influence by which boys are the United States, 1940–99, Oct. 18, 2000, table 1. (Data from 1973–2001.) taught in their youth and throughout 11. David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe their lives to honor chastity, to be Whitehead, “Marriage and Children: Coming Together Again?” in The State honest and industrious, and to of Our Unions 2003: The Social Health develop respect for and stand in of Marriage in America, National Marriage Project (annual report, 2003), defense of womanhood. Priesthood 10–11. is a restraining influence. Girls are 12. Stanley K. Henshaw and others, “The taught that they can fulfill many of Incidence of Abortion Worldwide,” International Family Planning their desires through its influence Perspectives, Supplement, Jan. 1999, and the power to bless. table 1. 13. Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley (1997), The great sealing keys restored 418. by Elijah, spoken of by Malachi, are 14. “Lead Me, Guide Me,” Ensign, Sept. invoked through the priesthood. 2003, 17. 15. Popenoe and Whitehead, “Marriage and In righteous families they operate Children,” 9. “to turn the hearts of the fathers to

4 ELDER RICHARD G. SCOTT priesthood line is the means provided Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles by the Lord to support the family. The scriptures and approved materials are provided to instruct individuals and families in the ways of God. One The Doctrinal Foundation example of such materials is the new study guide for the Melchizedek Priesthood and Relief Society for this of the Auxiliaries year on the teachings of President Heber J. Grant.

leaders in the auxiliary organization where you live. Where needed, they will help you adjust your activities to be consistent with your local condi- The Church auxiliaries are orga- tions and resources. nized to assist the individual, the There are five Church auxiliary family, and the priesthood in realizing organizations: Young Men, Sunday divine expectations. However, the School, Relief Society, Young Women, activity of each must be correlated and Primary. This message is directed carefully with the other auxiliaries to you of the Relief Society, Young so that order may be maintained and Women, and Primary. The other two revealed doctrine kept pure.3 This will be emphasized in future broad- coordination is best accomplished casts. under priesthood leadership in stake What is the role of an auxiliary and ward councils. organization? In answering that question, it is essential to remember that In Support of Home and Family “the family is ordained of God” and is President Kimball taught: The Role of the Auxiliaries “central to the Creator’s plan for the “The mission of the Church to eternal destiny of His children.” 1 The its members is to make available the My message is based on this mar- fundamental role and purpose of the principles, programs, and priesthood velous message about marriage, fam- auxiliary organizations of the Church by which they can prepare them- ily, and the home that President Faust is to help “plant and make grow . . . selves for exaltation. Our success, has given us so clearly. a testimony of [Jesus] Christ and of individually and as a Church, will I have been assigned the privilege the Gospel.” Auxiliaries can also teach largely be determined by how faith- of discussing with you the doctrine of the divine mission of Joseph Smith fully we focus on living the gospel in and principles by which auxiliary and of the Restoration of the Church the home. Only as we see clearly the organizations of the Church function of Jesus Christ. This effort will aid responsibilities of each individual and and how they relate to the priest- families and individuals “to order the role of families and homes can we hood line. To provide a solid foun- their lives in accordance with the properly understand that priesthood dation, this message is based upon laws and principles of the restored quorums and auxiliary organizations, statements of several Presidents of Gospel” under the direction of the even wards and stakes, exist primarily the Church, many of which are holy priesthood.2 to help members live the gospel in quoted directly. This counsel is given The family and the home are the home. Then we can understand to help you serve effectively under the foundation of the righteous life. that people are more important than the guidance of your priesthood The priesthood is the power and the programs, and that Church programs

JANUARY 2004 5 should always support and never tragic thing. . . . Ours should be a continue to be the foundation of the detract from gospel-centered family scious every day effort . . . to reinforce Church auxiliary work. activities. . . . and to strengthen the homes which “Our commitment to home- are our Heavenly Father’s first line Callings in Wards and Stakes centered gospel living should of defense.” 7 How are auxiliary organizations become the clear message of every President Hinckley has taught: governed? I will describe the general priesthood and auxiliary program, “We must work at our responsibil- principles of governance. Later in the reducing, where necessary, some ity as parents as if everything in life broadcast, one way of applying these of the optional activities that may counted on it, because in fact every- principles will be demonstrated. detract from proper focus on the thing in life does count on it. All auxiliary organizations operate family and the home.” 4 “If we fail in our homes, we fail in under the direct presidency and At a crucial earlier time in Church our lives. . . . Pray for guidance, for supervision of stake and ward priest- history, Elder Harold B. Lee was help, for direction, and then follow hood authorities, who carry the ulti- assigned the daunting task of corre- the whisperings of the Spirit to guide mate responsibility for the work of lating what then were many diverse you in the most serious of all respon- these organizations.11 By divine direc- facets of the overall Church organiza- sibilities, for the consequences of tion, stake presidents and bishops tion into its present unified form. your leadership in your home will hold the keys of making callings in The insights he gained through be eternal and everlasting.” 8 the respective organizations over that sacred assignment are most help- In a general conference message which they preside and of giving ful to us today. In a conference mes- in 1906, President Joseph F. Smith guidance to those organizations. sage, President Lee gave this valuable taught: “We expect to see the day . . . They hold the keys of receiving con- counsel: when every council of the Priesthood firming revelation as to who should “The home is the basis of a righ- . . . will understand its duty, will be called, and they are responsible teous life. . . . Priesthood programs assume its own responsibility, will for the calling, sustaining, and setting operate in support of the home; the magnify its calling . . . to the utter- apart of officers and teachers. auxiliary programs render valuable most. . . . When that day shall come, Specifically, stake presidents assistance. . . . [There is an] urgency there will not be so much necessity are responsible for all Melchizedek of impressing the importance of bet- for work that is now being done by Priesthood callings. Those callings ter teaching and greater parental the auxiliary organizations, because it include high priests and elders quo- responsibility in the home. Much of will be done by the regular quorums rum officers, clerks, and executive what we do organizationally, then, is of the Priesthood.” 9 secretary. Stake presidents are also scaffolding, as we seek to build the Later, President Harold B. Lee responsible for the calling of stake individual, and we must not mistake made this clarifying explanation: auxiliary officers. Bishops are respon- the scaffolding for the soul.” 5 “There has been some misunder- sible for all Aaronic Priesthood call- President Lee also emphasized: standing about that statement [of ings and for the calling of all ward “Priesthood leaders . . . are to President Joseph F. Smith]. This did auxiliary officers. strengthen the Church—to see that not mean that we would eliminate Each auxiliary president is asked all Church members do their duty the auxiliaries heretofore established, to recommend, after prayerful con- and that the auxiliaries do their but it meant that we would increase sideration, individuals to serve as utmost to do what that word . . . the responsibility of the priesthood counselors. When a presidency has implies. An auxiliary is to be an aid quorums in strengthening these exist- been approved and called, recom- to the priesthood in watching over ing organizations by becoming more mendations for other officers, such the Church and also an aid to the involved in order to give priesthood as secretaries or teachers in a specific home, under the direction and . . . emphasis to every phase of the Lord’s organization, should be made after cooperation [of] the priesthood.” 6 work.” 10 prayerful evaluation by the full auxil- President Lee further declared that These principles stated by former iary presidency. Church programs should strengthen Presidents of the Church govern the Because of the keys they hold, the home: “If there should ever come auxiliary organizations of the Church. stake presidents and bishops can a time where . . . [Church] efforts They have been reiterated by subse- receive confirming revelation to pro- should be so inclusive as to take all quent First Presidencies. They con- ceed with such callings in accordance the time of the child . . . it would be a with the fifth article of faith.

6 This inspired pattern maintains How to Serve do not preside over their correspond- order in the kingdom. It allows infor- How should you serve? Follow the ing field officers. mation not available to auxiliary offi- example of the auxiliary organizations The general Church auxiliary officers who recommend candidates at Church headquarters. They serve cers maintain occasional contact with to be considered in seeking confir- under the direction of their assigned the field and make sure that the mation whether a call should be General Authority priesthood officers. materials they develop for worldwide extended or not. A stake president or They meet together frequently to use are relevant, meet the needs of bishop has the keys of the Church in avoid duplication of effort, to simplify the corresponding auxiliary organiza- Israel and therefore knows of worthi- the guidance given, and to ensure tion, and focus on strengthening the ness issues or other sensitive family that their materials are consistent family in the home. concerns that are not public knowl- with doctrine and Church policies. Follow the example of these edge. Thus, an auxiliary president Excellent examples of how these headquarters organizations. As stake should seek the guidance of the Lord cooperative efforts reduce the bur- auxiliary officers, you will want to as to who should be recommended dens on the membership of the inform the stake presidency of your to specific positions while recogniz- Church are the recently published basic plans before they are imple- ing that it is only a recommendation. Faith in God program for boys and mented. Likewise at the ward level, While the stake president or girls, prepared by the Primary, and you should share with the bishopric bishop often receives a confirmation the Duty to God and Young Women your plans before they are carried that the individual recommended Personal Progress programs currently out. It is vitally important that auxil- should be called, that is not always in use throughout the world. iary officers participate actively and the case. Each recommendation will Extraordinary effort was focused effectively in the stake or ward coun- be carefully evaluated, recognizing on these materials to make sure that cil in which they function. that it has been conscientiously con- they were simple, clear, and appli- Stake presidencies and bishoprics, sidered and prayerfully identified. cable around the world. They were you should periodically meet sepa- A stake president or bishop will worked on cooperatively with other rately with each auxiliary presidency normally consult closely with auxiliary headquarters auxiliaries. The other under your guidance to understand leaders on individuals recommended organizations have developed their and thereby be able to give inspired to ensure that the full picture of an materials in a similar way. When final- counsel and direction to their work. organization’s needs is obtained ized, their efforts are reviewed and This investment of time will before he prayerfully seeks confirma- approved by the First Presidency and strengthen the valuable support that tion of a calling. Then he will hold a the Quorum of the Twelve. each auxiliary organization can give worthiness interview and discussion to bless the families and individuals with the individual prior to extending in the local stakes and wards. a call to serve. Stake presidents and bishops, Simplifying the Work when you call a new presidency of In the past the First Presidency has an auxiliary organization, give them warned: “The work of the Church, in guidance and vision to orient their all fields, is standing in grave danger service. Meet with your counselors, of being regimented down to the and develop a statement of direction minutest detail. The result of that that you hope that they will follow to will be that not only will all initiative fulfill their assignment and to meet Auxiliary officers are presided over be crushed out but that all opportu- local needs. Share this vision with the by their corresponding priesthood nity for the working of the spirit will new presidency. Ask them to prepare leaders at every level of Church gov- be eliminated. The Church has not a plan for its implementation. A mem- ernment—at headquarters and at the been built on that principle. In all ber of the presidency or bishopric stake and ward levels. The general their work, the Auxiliaries must not should meet with them periodically officers of the auxiliary organizations only give opportunity for initiative, to give further guidance and help at Church headquarters have occa- but . . . must encourage it.” 12 them resolve any challenges they sional contact with the stake and May I give you a word of caution may have. ward officers they assist. These head- as you plan your activities. Make sure quarters auxiliary officers, however, that the essential needs are met, but

JANUARY 2004 7 do not go overboard in creating so Fellow workers in the kingdom of many good things to do that the God on earth, we love you. We pray essential ones are not accomplished. for you. We pray that you will be I will share an example. Recently an inspired and will find success and enthusiastic stake Relief Society presi- profound joy in fulfilling your sacred dency decided to take advantage of assignments. the worldwide women’s meeting In the name of Jesus Christ, amen. broadcast from Church headquarters. On the day of the conference, they Notes organized a four-hour training session 1. “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102. for the ward Relief Society presiden- 2. “Memorandum of Suggestions,” Mar. 29, cies, then had a formal, sit-down 1940, 2. dinner which, of course, those local 3. See First Presidency letter, Dec. 7, 1990. 4. “Living the Gospel in the Home,” Relief Society presidents prepared, Ensign, May 1978, 101. served, and cleaned up. By the time 5. In Conference Report, Oct. 1967, 107; or the Relief Society broadcast was Improvement Era, Jan. 1968, 31. 6. The Teachings of Harold B. Lee, comp. received, those sisters’ minds were Clyde J. Williams (1996), 263. full to overflowing. They could not 7. “Primary Fundamentals for Primary Workers and Parents,” Children’s Friend, have gained the maximum benefit Aug. 1950, 342. from that carefully prepared broad- 8. In Conference Report, Oct. 2002, cast. Remember, don’t magnify the 109–10; or Ensign, Nov. 2002, 100. 9. In Conference Report, Apr. 1906, 3. work to be done—simplify it. 10. Teachings of Harold B. Lee, 263. Have you received a recent calling 11. See First Presidency letter, Jan. 13, 1923. and feel overwhelmed? Remember 12. “Memorandum of Suggestions,” Mar. 29, how easy it sounded when someone 1940, 4. described how to play a piano or to swim? Then when you tried to do that, or any other challenging task, how complicated it seemed. Remember how as you persisted it became more comfortable and much easier to manage? As you diligently serve, the Lord will help you in like manner with your new calling. There is an irrigation analogy normally used in the Church of “getting the water to the end of the row.” However, at stake and ward levels, it would be far better for you priesthood leaders and auxiliary officers to simply “let it rain” from heaven. Your sacred callings give you the divine right to inspiration. Confidently seek it. Wherever you live in the world, in the smallest branch or the largest ward, a struggling district or a fully organized stake, you have the right to be guided in fulfilling your inspired assignment to best meet the needs of those you serve.

8 BONNIE D. PARKIN of the priesthood. We really do see Relief Society General President the Lord’s hand in what we do, and we bear testimony that it works. SUSAN W. TANNER Sister Menlove Young Women General President It does work. What a privilege it is to be doing our part. I can’t help COLEEN K. MENLOVE but think of President Hinckley’s Primary General President statement in our recent conference, “We are all working as one in a great cause.” 1 Sister Parkin The Purposes Today we want to show you three short vignettes, and then we want to of the Auxiliaries discuss them. The first one demon- strates receiving a call from the Lord through a priesthood leader, the second shows an auxiliary presidency meeting, and the third represents reporting back to a priesthood leader. Then we want to take just a minute or two and talk about those clips and what we learn from them and how we can serve the Lord in better ways. Sister Tanner Let’s watch this first one together, and you will see a bishop extending a call to a sister. While you’re watching, observe several things. Watch how the bishop addresses the needs of the family and the concerns of the sister, and then notice what part revelation plays in that calling.

Unity of Purpose Sister Menlove Vignette 1— In Primary we help children A Calling to Serve Sister Parkin develop testimonies of Jesus Christ. What a blessing for Sister Tanner, Sister Menlove, and me, Sister Parkin, Sister Tanner to be here with you today. Sister And in Young Women we prepare Coleen Menlove is the general presi- the young women to come unto dent of the Primary. Sister Susan Jesus Christ. Tanner is the general president Sister Parkin of Young Women. Relief Society is all about helping All of us in the Church are called women and families come unto Jesus to serve the Lord, no matter where Christ. We want all to feel the love of we live. We each have a sacred assign- Jesus Christ in their lives. Bishop Barker ment to help families and individuals Sister Tanner Hello, Sister Jensen. come unto Jesus Christ. That’s our I’m grateful that we are so unified Sister Jensen mission. In just a couple of words, in our purposes, and I’m also very Hi, Bishop. let’s talk about the objectives of grateful that we have the privilege of Bishop Barker Primary, Young Women, and Relief serving together under the direction Society. Hello, Brother Jensen.

JANUARY 2004 9 Thank you for coming. Please tell Bishop Barker Think about recommending women me, how is your family? I can appreciate your concern. You who have life skills they could share, Sister Jensen actually have—in your own home. whose testimonies and experiences I think we’re doing great. Jenny Every time I see you interact with would help young women transition seems to be loving life, like any 15- Jenny, I see a mother who is guided into womanhood. And then let’s talk year-old should, and Grant has transi- by the Lord. You’ve done a wonderful about it. tioned to a new school and has made job, and you will be a wonderful As soon as we have extended all some new friends, so we’re feeling example to the young women here in the calls to your counselors, we better about his direction. Our mis- our ward, especially as they transition would like to set you apart as a presi- sionary is doing well. He writes that from youth to womanhood. dency. Brother Jensen, you would be he is enjoying his mission. Japanese Sister Jensen invited to be with us. And before you is a hard language, but he’s working Well, I have a testimony of Jesus leave tonight, I’d like to give you hard at it. Christ and His work, and I do love some materials that you are going to need. I am sure you have lots of Bishop Barker the young women. I’d be happy to questions going through your mind. I’m sure he’s a wonderful mission- accept this call, but I have to admit ary. You’re both raising a wonderful I’m really overwhelmed. Sister Jensen family, and you’re a great strength Bishop Barker I do. in our ward. You’re a faithful sister, and I know Bishop Barker Sister Jensen, I appreciated the that He will be with you. Brother This will help you. I’m going to temple recommend interview we had Jensen, will you support your wife have my counselor Brother Franks last week. I’m grateful that you’re a as she serves as the president of the get in communication with you. He worthy temple recommend holder Young Women organization here in will have regular monthly meetings and that things are in order in your our ward? with you. He will be able to go over home. I want to thank you for all that Brother Jensen any questions that you may have. you’ve done as the compassionate Bishop, I’ve been very grateful Thank you for your time. service leader in the Relief Society. to Marcie for all the support she has Discussion— You, Sister Jensen, have been a great given me; I’d be delighted to support Elements of the Calling blessing in the lives of many sisters her in this calling. in our ward. Bishop Barker Sister Tanner You know, it’s interesting. You’ve That’s wonderful. That brought back memories. been in my mind lately, and it’s There is something sacred and never become very clear to me what the Sister Jensen to be forgotten about a call to serve Lord now wants you to do—and that Bishop, what’s your biggest con- the Lord. is to bless the lives of some of the cern for the young women in our Let’s look at some of the key younger sisters in our ward. ward? elements of this interview. First, the As a bishopric we presented your Bishop Barker bishop was warm, caring, and loving. name to the Lord, and He has con- That’s a great question. I am really It was really obvious that he knew firmed our initial feeling that you, concerned about the youth being these people and loved them; he Sister Jensen, should be the new committed to living God’s standards. respected their commitment to the Young Women president in the ward. As you and your presidency begin gospel. Second, he had prepared The reason I invited you both here meeting together, I would like you beforehand by holding a worthiness today is to extend this call to you to to make this a high priority. Consider interview and ensuring that Sister serve as the president of the Young how you can help parents teach Jensen’s family circumstances permit- Women organization in our ward. youth gospel standards. ted her to serve. He emphasized the I want you to know that this is a Sister Jensen family, just like President Faust has call from the Lord. What about counselors? taught us today. He asked about the Sister Jensen Bishop Barker children. He commended Sister Oh my, Bishop. I’ve never worked I would like you to recommend a Jensen’s commitment in her home with the young women before. few sisters who would work well with when he said, “You’re raising a great you and with the young women. family.” All our families are imperfect, but I think this new president came

10 away feeling hope and confidence in of the Church. He said, “We cannot have been.” And you come away say- her responsibility of raising a family. let them fall through the cracks.” And ing, “Yes! I can do that.” I remember when I was called, my then I knew what it was he wanted Sister Parkin husband, John, reaffirmed his love me to accomplish. It’s that direction, Now let’s look at the next vignette, for me and his support for me in my that vision, and that guidance that is about a Relief Society presidency calling. He was saying that to a priest- important to an auxiliary officer. meeting. Let’s watch what the sisters hood leader, but it was so important Sister Menlove do to make this meeting effective. for me, his wife, to hear. I was impressed by the direction Sister Menlove given by the bishop. When I was Vignette 2— It is so important to feel the sup- called to serve in the Primary, I Presidency Meeting port of family. And there’s one more received direction from one of my point. The bishop made sure that priesthood leaders to represent the Sister Jensen had the necessary hand- prophet, his teachings, and his revela- books and materials and arranged for tions to the leaders and the children a regular meeting between her and of the Church. I feel such a sacred a bishopric counselor. responsibility to fulfill that assign- Sister Parkin ment. It is important that you get the Sister Parkin handbook. And then that regular I think everyone who receives a meeting time needs to be there. call believes he or she doesn’t have Sister Call Remember, too, the great value of the skills to do it. Every one of us Thank you, Sister Yamada, for that stake auxiliary leaders and auxiliary feels like that. I specifically remember beautiful prayer. The Spirit touched presidencies. They can help train the that when President Hinckley called me deeply as you spoke. new ward presidency so that they can me, he said, “I want you to know that Sister Jenkins, you have the scrip- do the work that needs to go forward. the Brethren have confidence in you. ture thought today. What stood out the very most in We all agree that the Lord has called Sister Jenkins my mind about what we just saw was you, and He will help you do this.” I do. I know that as a presidency when the bishop said, “The Lord has To know that the Lord has called you we have talked about unity and work- prepared you for this in your home.” makes all the difference in the service ing as one. When I was studying my What we do in our homes and in the that you give. As President Monson scriptures this morning, I came Church to invite the Spirit, to teach often says, “Whom the Lord calls, the across something that Father Lehi the gospel, and to live the standards Lord qualifies.” 2 said. It struck me deeply, and I influences the lives of generations to Sister Menlove thought, “I have got to share this come. This work we are doing is all That is so true. When you know with you.” He said, “Be determined about redeeming God’s children. It is that the Lord has called you, then you in one mind and in one heart, united about parents. It is about families. It know He will continue to inspire you in all things” (2 Nephi 1:21). It made is about widows, single sisters, youth, and He will help you succeed. such an impression on me. I liked the and converts. Sister Tanner emphasis on “determined” and on Sister Tanner That’s right. That interview was “united” and on being of one mind We really are called to serve each also important because it established and of one heart. Sometimes I person. When we receive a call, it is a trust between the bishop and the choose my own way, and it draws me vital to voice acceptance of the call new president. When you feel that away from being of one mind and and then receive direction and vision the Lord has confidence in you and one heart, but I want you to know, from a priesthood leader. I know I your priesthood leader has confi- Sister Call, that I’ve made it my goal felt so overwhelmed and unequal to dence in you and your family is to support you all the way because I my call to the Young Women presi- supporting you, then you can go know that you support our bishop. dency, but I did say, “I have a testi- forward. That way we can all be knit together mony, and I can work hard.” We know what President Hinckley and have unity and love within our President Hinckley gave me clear says, “Do the best you can.” And then presidency and with our sisters. direction. He was obviously very he says, “Be a little better than you concerned about the young women

JANUARY 2004 11 Sister Call some of these things with them. They and encourage me because they Thank you for those tender will think I am really up to speed. know that this is the Lord’s work. thoughts. When we are unified, the Sister Call Sister Parkin Lord can work miracles through us. Sister Yamada. It makes such a difference in a I appreciate the support the three of Sister Yamada presidency meeting that before you you give me. I trust you. I trust your I could give the committee a list of start to address all the challenges and judgment and your inspiration. all the mothers who have daughters issues, you have a prayer together. The most pressing issue on today’s in Young Women, and mothers and Prayer brings a unity and a love, agenda is discussing the bishop’s daughters can participate together. because if you listen to a sister pray, directive—how we can help parents I really believe you know her heart Sister Call teach moral standards to our youth. differently. Reading a verse of scrip- Great ideas. I think we’re getting Sister Barber, I know you’ve been ture and applying it to the work there. I will take these ideas to the working on this. invites the Spirit in a presidency bishop when I have my regular meet- Sister Barber meeting. And the Spirit guides you. ing this month. We’ve got to keep in Our committee for home, family, In our presidency we are also study- mind ways, as President Hinckley and personal enrichment has really ing the words of the prophet from asked us in October conference, to come up with some great ideas. The the general conference. We know that help lighten the load of our bishop.5 first one is that they want to have the if we keep the words of the prophet Let’s always keep that in mind. Primary leaders teach some of the in front of us, we’ll be able to do Before we conclude, I have a Relief Society sisters what they call what we need to do. So first we pre- simple request. When you go home “My Gospel Standards.” Here’s one pare spiritually, and very often we go today, will you thank your families? of them: “I will dress modestly to to the handbook. It’s a guide for us. Thank them for their support. And show respect for Heavenly Father thank them from me. Tell them that Sister Tanner and myself.” 3 in evening prayers in our home, my We do the same in our meeting. We thought about maybe having husband and I pray for all of you. When you start with a prayer and a a class where the sisters teach the scripture, you invite the Spirit. We young girls how to make a skirt. We Discussion— trust in the Lord then, and we trust in thought that would be a really good Trust, Unity, and the Spirit each other. By inviting that Spirit, we idea. Another one of the ideas that will receive the vision and the inspira- Sister Parkin the committee suggested was to tion to know where it is that we need In any presidency there needs to invite some of the young women to to go. discuss their Personal Progress plans. be unity and trust. You need to coun- Sister Parkin I read through the Personal sel together, and you need to feel the I remember President Hinckley Progress book, and I came across the Spirit of the Lord with what you do. saying to me, “I want you to recom- Choice and Accountability value. In You need to follow the direction of mend counselors who are women of here it says, “List in your journal each priesthood leaders, and you need faith, and I want unity in your presi- standard of righteous behavior the to focus on helping families. All these dency.” Every time I sit with my coun- [For the Strength of Youth] pamphlet things were at work in this meeting. selors I feel such a reassurance. The outlines, and record why it is impor- Sister Menlove Lord called these women, and I value tant to live those standards.” 4 I love your thought about families. their counsel. We strive to make all We could have a great panel dis- When we were called as a new presi- our decisions together, with the help cussion with some of the sisters and dency, we talked about sharing our of the Lord. There is sacred power in the young women about television, experiences with our families when- presidencies. You’ve felt it; I’ve felt it. music, books, and other media. ever possible. Our family has enjoyed Sister Menlove Sister Call an abundance of blessings as a result There is. And that’s the pattern Sister Jenkins. of my calling, including a greater understanding that prayers are we follow when we meet with priest- Sister Jenkins answered. Our family has prayed and hood leaders as well. We share our You know, I think that’s a great fasted for me and for the work that thoughts and our recommendations idea, because when my grandchildren I’ve been asked to do. They support with priesthood leaders just as coun- come over I’ll have a knowledge of selors assist a president. what they’re learning and can discuss

12 Sister Parkin It is so important that the informa- family are moving, which means we You noticed that the presidency tion discussed in that private, individ- need a new nursery leader. We have worked from an agenda, just a simple ual room where you’re together in been thinking of two sisters—Maria list of items to be discussed. The that meeting stays there. It is that Hernandez and Gloria Gonzalez. agenda created order, and it moved attitude, “Your name is safe in my We think that either of them would them through the meeting. That home.” Keeping confidences builds be a good choice. When we prayed, needs to happen. An agenda helps unity, and it builds trust. We have to we felt good about them both. you stay focused, and it helps you use keep focused on our purpose to help Brother Torres that time wisely. Time is so important individuals come unto Jesus Christ. They are good sisters. I’ll write to us. And I love the part where you Sister Menlove down their names and share these leave with action items. You know There is one more vignette, and it recommendations in our bishopric what you’re going to do. You’ve got is in Spanish. It’s a Primary presidency meeting this week. I will call you back an assignment. Therefore, go and do. reporting back to their priesthood and let you know what the bishop Sister Menlove leader. Watch for the accountability thinks. And sisters and brothers need to and the willingness to help the bishop. Sister Vasquez use the existing programs, tools, and Thank you. It is so important for Vignette 3— resources provided by the Church. the children—particularly the little Counseling Together We don’t need to go out and create ones—that all the teachers be called. another program. With new families moving in, we also Sister Parkin have an updated list of children who You’re right. In Relief Society, for are preparing for baptism. We have a example, we have home, family, and copy for the bishopric. Also, we personal enrichment. We have visiting would like to invite you to come to teaching. We have Sunday lessons. sharing time one of these Sundays. We have welfare. We just need to use Our subject is why we live gospel what’s already in place to follow the standards and how they help us direction of priesthood leaders. feel joy and peace. Sister Tanner Sister Vasquez Brother Torres That’s right. We’ve got great pro- My counselors and I really appreci- Certainly. I should be able to come grams that assist us. ated meeting with the bishopric last on the third Sunday. I would also like I was reading in the recent confer- month. Now we have a few things we to visit briefly the 8-to-11-year-old ence edition of the Ensign. It was the would like to discuss with you. First, class. talk President Hinckley gave at the we’re very excited about what hap- Sister Vasquez priesthood session when he invited pened in Primary last Sunday. Alicia That would be wonderful. It is so “every member of the Church to do Gonzalez spoke, and her mother, helpful when a member of the bish- all that he or she can to lift the bur- Angela, came to hear her. We hadn’t opric visits; many of the children den under which our bishops and seen Angela in church for a long time. don’t have priesthood leadership in 6 branch presidents labor.” She had tears in her eyes as she lis- their homes. Your little Jose and I think some of the ways that we tened. I think she felt something. Marcia will be excited too. can do that is to communicate with It is so clear to me that children Brother Torres them and report our progress. I espe- can reach their parents spiritually in I’ll make sure it’s okay with the cially love that President Hinckley a way no one else can. bishop, but I think you can count mentioned that we thank our priest- Brother Torres on me. hood leaders and pray for them. Thank you. I’ll tell the bishop. He Sister Vasquez Sister Parkin will be very excited. He may want to We’ve been thinking about the I just want to bring up one more share it with the family’s home teach- bishop’s request for us to help par- thing that I think is really important ers and Angela’s visiting teachers. ents teach moral values. What if we as you work in presidencies. In a Sister Vasquez focus on “My Gospel Standards” with presidency you need to keep confi- Thank you. You are probably the older Primary children? We can dences. Indiscretions can ruin lives. aware that Sister Benites and her teach them that living these stan-

JANUARY 2004 13 dards will prepare them to live the time. They have prayed and they Today we’ve highlighted some of principles in the For the Strength of have planned. The sisters came pre- the essentials of serving in the auxil- Youth pamphlet. pared. They were ready with recom- iaries. Think about some of the things Would it be possible to ask mendations. we’ve talked about. We’ve talked home teachers and visiting teachers Sister Tanner about trust. We’ve talked about unity, to reinforce the standard, “I will only Yes, and I also think they under- accountability, and joy. We’ve talked read and watch things that are pleas- stood the order of the Church. The about assisting priesthood leaders in 7 ing to Heavenly Father”? As you presidency makes recommendations helping families and individuals come know, the media is such a challenge with names for callings, and they unto Jesus Christ. This work is about for children today. trust the Lord will confirm to the love for each other and, most of all, Brother Torres bishopric whom He has prepared love for the Lord. Being with you That’s a great idea. I’ll bring it up to serve in that calling. today has been such a blessing for us. We live and we serve all over the in our next ward council, and you can Sister Menlove world, and yet we are all united in the be ready to share the idea in that I also appreciated how the bish- gospel of Jesus Christ. It is extraordi- meeting. opric member planned to visit nary. Now we’d just like to close with Sister Vasquez Primary. That shows his love for the our testimonies. Sister Menlove. I will. Thank you. children, and it shows the importance of that auxiliary in the Church. Sister Menlove Discussion— He has been there before, you can A call to serve is a sacred trust Reporting and Accountability tell, and he is interested in what is from the Lord. It is an opportunity to feel the Savior’s love in greater Sister Menlove happening with the 11-year-olds. depth—His love for us and His love A regular meeting with a priest- There is joy in knowing that you for those we serve. My family has hood leader is an opportunity to aren’t serving alone. We are helping been so blessed by priesthood and account for what we’ve been asked priesthood leaders and parents— auxiliary leaders who love the Lord. to do. especially parents—teach children the gospel. I have felt such great joy as I have Sister Parkin witnessed your love for the children I love that the Primary president The Blessings of a Calling and their families. I am grateful for started out with a success story. Just the desires of your hearts that all, Sister Tanner last week we met with our priesthood including children, come to know What I like about all these leader, and we shared one of our that we have a loving Heavenly Father vignettes is I feel like they have little miracles with him. I think it who hears and answers our prayers shown the right way to do things in brought him renewed strength. I saw and that Jesus Christ is our Savior the Church. When we are out train- him respond to it, and it was really and Redeemer. ing, often people will ask us ques- joyous to watch. We are assisting him, I know that His gospel was tions. And when we respond, we ask and he is so invested in what we are restored through the Prophet Joseph questions back. We say, “Have you doing in this great work. Smith and that the heavens are open prayed and taken it to the Lord? Sister Tanner and that we have a living prophet What do your priesthood leaders Exactly. I think a priesthood leader today, President Gordon B. Hinckley. counsel you to do? What does the is entitled to know about successes I know this to be true. I know this handbook tell you?” These are three because he loves these people too through a witness of the Holy Spirit, sure guides to success as we strive and is working for them. When we in the name of Jesus Christ, amen. to serve the Lord. share these with him, it is one of the Sister Tanner Sister Parkin ways we assist him. It works. I am so grateful for the privilege When you serve, you are promised Sister Menlove of assisting the priesthood in the blessings, and I want you to know It does work. And the interaction wonderful work of strengthening that I’ve experienced those blessings. with this Primary presidency and the families and helping them come unto I testify of them. I’ve experienced bishopric member shows a great deal Christ. It is such a blessing for me to them. I know that they are real. My of mutual respect. You can tell that see the Lord’s hand in all that we do family has been blessed because of they worked together often. In this and to know that He loves and cares my calling. meeting they aren’t going to waste for each of us individually. I know the

14 Lord calls us to serve and He magni- Notes fies us in that service, no matter how 1. In Conference Report, Oct. 2003, 85; or weak and simple we may feel we are. Ensign, Nov. 2003, 82. 2. In Conference Report, Apr. 1996, 62; or It is a rich blessing to watch young Ensign, May 1996, 44. women grow and progress into wom- 3. Faith in God for Boys (2003), 22; anhood, prepared to fulfill their most or Faith in God for Girls (2003), 22. 4. Young Women Personal Progress (2001), sacred roles in their homes and fam- 41. ilies. I know that families are “central 5. In Conference Report, Oct. 2003, 65; or Ensign, Nov. 2003, 60. to the Creator’s plan for the eternal 6. In Conference Report, Oct. 2003, 65. 8 destiny of His children.” 7. Faith in God for Boys, 22; or Faith in I know that Jesus Christ lives, that God for Girls, 22. 8. “The Family: A Proclamation to the He loves us, and that we have His World,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102. restored gospel upon the earth today with apostles and prophets and all the priesthood keys to seal families to each other and to the Lord. I testify of these things in the name of Jesus Christ, amen. Sister Parkin We serve in three separate auxiliaries, but we love serving together. We love each other. I have a testimony of the power of a prophet of God, President Gordon B. Hinckley. I am thankful for him, for his love, and for all priesthood leaders who have shown confidence in the sisters in this Church. As we have talked about the work of auxiliaries, I have thought so much about how the Lord loves the women of His Church. I believe He loves their willingness to serve in any capacity; they desire simply to serve Him. If I could have only one thing happen for the women of the Church, it would be that they know that the Lord loves them and that they feel His love in their lives daily. I personally have felt the Lord’s love in my life, and I am so thankful for that. I testify of my Savior, Jesus Christ. I know He lives. I have felt His guidance, and I have felt the peace that He promises to every one of us. I testify of these things in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, amen.

JANUARY 2004 15 ELDER DALLIN H. OAKS God’s purpose to bring to pass the Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles eternal life of His children (see Moses 1:39). Third, the Latter-day Saint family and the Church both draw their nour- The Priesthood ishment and their direction from our Lord Jesus Christ. The Savior taught, “I am the vine, ye are the branches: and the Auxiliaries He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing” ( John 15:5).

audience of priesthood and auxiliary leaders. My associates are a stake president, Raul Edgardo Vicencio, of our Makati Stake; a bishop, Michael Ramirez, from our Cainta Stake; a Relief Society president, Filipina Fernandez, from our Pasay Stake; a Young Women president, Liza Enciso, from our Quezon City South Stake; Here is a branch, which I gathered and a Primary president, Grace Teh, on my way to this meeting. What hap- from our Antipolo Stake. Thanks to pens to this branch now that it has all of you for your presence here and been separated from the main vine? for your wonderful service. Obviously, it will die. It certainly can- Our subject is the priesthood and not bear fruit. As Jesus taught: “Abide the auxiliaries, but we cannot speak in me, and I in you. As the branch of either of these subjects without cannot bear fruit of itself, except it speaking also of the family. We will abide in the vine; no more can ye, be making frequent reference to the except ye abide in me” ( John 15:4 ). Fundamental Principles family, which is both the foundation If the Church of Jesus Christ and Greetings from the Republic of the and the intended beneficiary of the family are to bear fruit, they must Philippines, where we are working the work of the priesthood and abide in our Savior, Jesus Christ. The to establish the Church in the only the auxiliaries. same is true of each of their mem- Christian nation in Asia. Because of We begin by affirming three funda- bers. This means that all of us must rapid growth, we have over 200,000 mental doctrinal principles. First, keep His commandments and follow first-generation members of the both the Church and the eternal fam- His teachings and His appointed Church and many new and inexperi- ily are presided over by priesthood servants. enced leaders. In this circumstance, authority. The government and the we must focus on fundamental prin- procedures of the Church and the The Origins of Three Auxiliaries ciples of Church doctrine and gov- family are different, but the founda- The First Presidency has told us: ernment. tion of authority—the priesthood— “The family and the home are the As I speak of these fundamentals, is the same. foundation of the righteous life. . . . I am joined by five of our Philippine Second, the Church organization The Church auxiliaries are organized leaders, whom I have asked to be my and the family organization support to assist the individual, the family, and immediate audience. Each of them one another. Each is independent in the priesthood in realizing divine represents thousands of others with its own sphere, but each has the expectations.” 1 similar responsibilities in this great same mission—to help accomplish

16 Let us look at the origin and Parents and Church Leaders Priesthood quorums and Relief mission of each of these three The scriptures command us to “put Societies do this primarily by teach- auxiliaries. on the whole armour of God, that ing parents, “exhorting them to . . . The Relief Society was organized [we] may be able to stand against the attend to all family duties,” the Lord by the Prophet Joseph Smith in wiles of the devil” (Ephesians 6:11). said in a revelation (D&C 20:51; see Nauvoo in 1842. Some leading Modern revelation describes this also v. 47). women of Nauvoo proposed a writ- armor as including the covering of The Young Women and the ten constitution, but the Prophet truth, the breastplate of righteous- Primary strengthen the family and the said he would give them “something ness, the shield of faith, and the hel- home principally by teaching youth better”—he would organize them met of salvation (see D&C 27:16–18). and children and by leading them in “under the priesthood after the Children and youth must be fitted appropriate activities. pattern of the priesthood.”2 out with that armor. Like parents, Church leaders and This organization would be for The sacred duty of fitting children teachers are under the Lord’s com- spiritual purposes, “not only to and youth with the armor of God is mand to teach from the scriptures, relieve the poor, but to save souls.” 3 given to fathers and mothers and “in the which is the fulness of the The Prophet said, “The organization other family members, assisted by gospel” (D&C 42:12). This divine of the Church . . . was never perfect the priesthood and auxiliary organi- mission can be accomplished only until the women were organized.” 4 zations of the Church. if auxiliary leaders and teachers seek The organization of the Relief Society and follow priesthood direction and gave women an official capacity in the Directed by Priesthood Authority if priesthood leaders provide leader- Church and helped prepare them for In performing their vital tasks, ship, understanding, and support great responsibilities to come, includ- the Relief Society, the Young Women, for auxiliary programs. ing working in the temple and teach- the Primary, and the quorums of the ing the gospel. Aaronic Priesthood work under the Application of Principles What we now call Young Women direction of priesthood authority. Now let us speak of some practical was organized by President Brigham Many years ago the First Presidency application of these principles to the Young about 30 years later to give declared, “We wish . . . to have it varying conditions of a worldwide young women increased opportuni- clearly understood that all auxiliary Church. ties to learn the gospel and develop associations operate under the direct In the Church Handbook of greater strength to keep the com- presidency and supervision of stake Instructions, stake presidents and mandments and reject the destructive and ward priesthood authorities, who bishops are directed to meet regu- ways of the world. The new organiza- carry the ultimate responsibility for larly with their Relief Society presi- tion soon became known by a name the work of these organizations.” 5 dents.6 Their assigned counselors are that stated its purpose: the Young This means that all who work in directed to meet regularly with the Women’s Mutual Improvement the auxiliary organizations must have presidents of the Young Women and Association. hands placed upon their heads to Primary.7 Brethren, the duty to meet About 10 years later, under give them the authority to lead and regularly means more than meeting President John Taylor, the necessity teach in the kingdom of God. It also once a year. to teach children the gospel was rec- means that the priesthood authorities Similarly, the bishopric is directed ognized in the organization of what who preside over the auxiliary organi- to meet with all three of these auxil- was called the Primary Association. zations must direct and supervise iary presidents at least monthly in the At about this same time, the needs their work. Stake presidents and bish- ward council meeting. There the of young men to learn the gospel, to ops and branch presidents must not bishopric instructs them on doctrine serve, and to prepare for the Melchiz- just turn the work of the auxiliaries and duties. There the priesthood and edek Priesthood caused them to over to auxiliary leaders and teachers auxiliary leaders counsel together on begin to be ordained and organized to do whatever they choose to do. how to improve gospel instruction into quorums of the Aaronic Priest- The work of the auxiliaries, like the and activities in the ward and how hood. work of quorums and other Church to strengthen individuals and families organizations, is to strengthen the spiritually.8 family and the home, as Elder Scott If priesthood leaders do not meet reminded us earlier. Melchizedek with auxiliary leaders, or if priesthood

JANUARY 2004 17 leaders do not adequately direct and roaming around a shopping mall resources of time and transportation supervise auxiliary programs, the or chattering in the chapel. That for Church activities. These resource- teachings or activities of the auxil- kind of Mutual activity does not rich locations are not free from oppo- iaries can depart from what the Lord measure up to the standard of sition, however, because in these has commanded. The same devia- inspired teaching and activities locations many outside opportunities tions can occur if auxiliary leaders are planned with a purpose. compete for the attention of our not faithful in following the direction 5. I have seen some teachers in members. In other locations our of their priesthood leaders. Relief Society and priesthood members work long hours six days a For example, I have observed classes teaching their own hob- week, or they can barely afford to pay deviations like the following, either bies or preoccupations instead the cost of public transportation to here in the Philippines or in other of the subjects designated by an Church meetings. In these locations places in the world: inspired curriculum for these there may be few competing opportu- 1. I have heard auxiliary leaders classes. nities, but the shortage of resources grieve that their bishops or 6. Without firm and inspired priest- makes midweek meetings and activi- branch presidents never meet hood direction, any Church ties difficult or impossible. with them. This failure violates organization (or activity) can Our Church auxiliaries have the fundamental directions to be turned into a personal posses- greater flexibility on organizations “meet regularly,” which I quoted sion to fill the needs or gratify and programs than priesthood just a moment ago. It is impera- the pride or vain ambition (see organizations. For example, the scrip- tive that priesthood leaders hold D&C 121:37) of its officers and tures give no latitude to deviate from those regular meetings with the teachers. This is what the Apostle priesthood ordinances (like the sacra- auxiliary leaders, as we have just Paul cautioned against when he ment or the temple) or to depart seen modeled in the vignette the told the Roman Saints to avoid from priesthood organizations like general presidents discussed. those who “cause[d] divisions and quorums and branches, wards, and Auxiliary presidents should also offences contrary to the doctrine stakes. Similarly, there is no latitude be invited to ward councils, which which [they] have learned.” Even in the requirement of marriage of a should be held at least monthly. though such persons use “good man and a woman to provide the 2. I have also heard auxiliary officers words and fair speeches,” he cau- government of the family. These grieve that their priesthood lead- tioned, they “deceive the hearts priesthood ordinances and organiza- ers do not call or set apart auxil- of the simple” and “serve not our tions must be uniform worldwide. iary officers and teachers. “They Lord Jesus Christ, but their own In contrast, the auxiliaries that don’t care about us,” is the im- belly” (Romans 16:17–18). support these priesthood organiza- pression given. It is imperative tions are more flexible in how they that priesthood leaders are dili- Adapted to Circumstances are organized and in which activities gent in calling the needed auxil- The organization and work of our they carry out to provide their sup- iary leaders, as we have just seen Church auxiliaries are defined in the port. Their flexibility, of course, must modeled in the other video Church Handbook of Instructions. be exercised under the direction of vignette the sisters discussed. Let us consider how these handbook their priesthood leaders. 3. I have seen Primary children directions are to be applied. Elder L. Tom Perry gave us a good placed in a single room for Sunday The full auxiliary organizations and example of this a year ago in the first morning treats and entertainment. the full auxiliary programs outlined in worldwide leadership training meet- That is not Primary. Primary is the handbook are the ideal. However, ing. His instructions about flexibility teaching children the gospel with in a worldwide Church, including in organizations and activities apply music and spiritual messages and some branches and wards here in the with particular force to the auxiliaries. the loving spiritual stimulation of Philippines, there are circumstances You remember his teaching us that sharing time. where only part of this can be done. priesthood leaders should take an 4. Young Women and Aaronic Priest- We must remember that circum- inventory of the needs of the mem- hood holders might be offered stances and resources are very differ- bers and the number of active leaders nothing but weekly boredom in a ent in different parts of the world. in a unit—ward or branch. Then, he classroom or unplanned midweek For example, in some locations said, “build your program based on activities like playing basketball or our Church members have many the leadership available and the

18 needs of your members. . . . Grow Notes only as fast as the size and maturity 1. First Presidency letter, Dec. 7, 1990. of your unit permit.” 9 This teaching 2. In Jill Mulvay Derr and others, Women of Covenant: The Story of Relief Society has been of great benefit to us here (1992), 27. in the Philippines. As it is understood 3. History of the Church, 5:25. and applied, I am sure it will be of 4. In Derr, Women of Covenant, 41. 5. First Presidency letter, Jan. 13, 1923. great benefit in many other locations 6. See Church Handbook of Instructions, where there are small and struggling Book 2: Priesthood and Auxiliary branches and wards. Leaders (1998), 194, 196. 7. See Church Handbook of Instructions, President Hinckley has given us Book 2, 216, 229–30, 231. the basic principle to guide all of us 8. See Church Handbook of Instructions, in the many different circumstances Book 2, 317. 9. “Basic Unit Program,” Worldwide Leader- we face: “Do the best that you can. ship Training Meeting, Jan. 2003, 9. That is all we ask of you,” he said. 10. American Fork, Utah, regional confer- “Do the best that you can. The Lord ence, Aug. 25, 2002. doesn’t expect you to do more than that. Just do the very best you can.”10 Brothers and sisters, the priesthood of God is the foundation of authority in the Church and the family. This authority governs and serves both men and women. The scriptures teach that the man is not without the woman nor the woman without the man in the Lord (see 1 Corinthians 11:11). So it is in the Church and in the family. We must move forward, hand-in-hand, working together in the great mission of our Heavenly Father, to bring to pass the eternal life of man. I testify of the truth of these things and of the divinity of our Savior, Jesus Christ, whose Atonement and whose authority make it all possible, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

JANUARY 2004 19 PRESIDENT GORDON B. HINCKLEY But we shall not be alone. I am President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints confident that there are millions of people throughout the world who grieve over the evil they see about them. They love the virtuous, the Standing Strong good, and the uplifting. They too will raise their voices and give of their strength to the preservation of those and Immovable values which are worthy of mainte- nance and cultivation.

A Bright Hope It is so tremendously important that the women of the Church stand strong and immovable for that which is correct and proper under the plan dropping everywhere. Nothing seems of the Lord. I am convinced there to be sacred any more. is no other organization anywhere As President Faust has indicated, to match the Relief Society of this the family appears to be falling apart. Church. It has a membership of The traditional family is under heavy more than five million women across attack. I do not know that things the earth. If they will be united and were worse in the times of Sodom speak with one voice, their strength and Gomorrah. At that season, will be incalculable. Abraham bargained with the Lord We call upon the women of the to save these cities for the sake of the Church to stand together for righ- righteous. Notwithstanding his pleas, teousness. They must begin in their things were so bad that Jehovah own homes. They can teach it in their decreed their destruction. They and classes. They can voice it in their their wicked inhabitants were annihi- communities. lated. We see similar conditions today. They must be the teachers and They prevail all across the world. the guardians of their daughters. I think our Father must weep as He Those daughters must be taught in Stemming the Tide looks down upon His wayward sons the Primary and in the classes of the and daughters. My beloved brethren and sisters, Young Women of the values of The In the Church we are working very this has been a very interesting and Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day hard to stem the tide of this evil. But a very important meeting. It has dealt Saints. When you save a girl, you save it is an uphill battle, and we some- essentially with the work of the auxil- generations. She will grow in strength times wonder whether we are making iary organizations led by the women. and righteousness. She will marry in any headway. But we are succeeding As has been indicated, there are, of the house of the Lord. She will teach in a substantial way. We see so many course, two other auxiliary organi- her children the ways of truth. They of our youth who are faithful and true zations—the Young Men and the will walk in her paths and will simi- and who look to us for encourage- Sunday School. These will be dealt larly teach their children. Wonderful ment and direction. with at another time. grandmothers will be there to lend We must not give up. We must not But this present emphasis on the encouragement. become discouraged. We must never work of the Relief Society, the Young I see this as the one bright shining surrender to the forces of evil. We Women, and the Primary is timely hope in a world that is marching can and must maintain the standards and very much needed. toward self-destruction. for which this Church has stood since No one need tell you that we are To you stake presidents and it was organized. There is a better living in a very difficult season in the bishops, we plead with you to give way than the way of the world. If it history of the world. Standards are encouragement and help in every means standing alone, we must do it.

20 possible way to the women and We frequently speak of our wives God bless you is my humble the girls of your stakes and wards. as the better half. It is essentially true. prayer as I express my love, in the They need your priesthood backing. They are the creators of life. They are sacred name of Jesus Christ, amen. They need your leadership and coun- the nurturers of children. They are sel. Help them in every way that you the teachers of young women. They Note can, and while doing so you will help are our indispensable companions. 1. Heber J. Grant, Gospel Standards, comp. G. Homer Durham (1941), 151. yourselves. They are our co-workers in building For instance, it is imperative that the kingdom of God. How great is bishops work closely with Relief their role, how marvelous their con- Society presidents in administering tribution. How they add to the luster Church welfare. This is normally of life. accomplished in the monthly ward welfare committee meeting or, on Prayer and Work occasion, in the ward council meet- We have a greater challenge ing. But emergencies arise, or there than we realize. As Paul declared, may be circumstances where greater “We wrestle not against flesh and confidentiality is required, in which blood, but against principalities, case the bishop and the Relief Society against powers, against the rulers president should consult together. of the darkness of this world, against Wherever there is material need in spiritual wickedness in high places” a family, the Relief Society president (Ephesians 6:12). is best qualified to go into the home Never lose sight of the great and assess the family’s needs. reassuring power of the Atonement of the Savior to lift and save. Through The Strength of Women that Atonement comes forgiveness We frequently speak of the strength for past offenses and strength for of the priesthood, and properly so. righteous living. But we must never lose sight of the I have been quoted as saying, strength of the women. It is mothers “Do the best you can.” But I want who set the tone of the home. It is to emphasize that it be the very best. mothers who most directly affect the We are too prone to be satisfied with lives of their children. It is mothers mediocre performance. We are capa- who teach infants to pray, who read ble of doing so much better. to them choice and beautiful litera- Brethren and sisters, we must get ture from the scriptures and other on our knees and plead with the Lord sources. It is mothers who nurture for help and strength and direction. them and bring them up in the ways We must then stand on our feet and of the Lord. Their influence is para- move forward. mount. I am absolutely confident that President Heber J. Grant went so heaven will smile upon us. The Lord far as to say, “Without the devotion will hear and answer our prayers if we and absolute testimony of the living will commit ourselves, giving our very God in the hearts of our mothers this best to this work. Church would die.” 1 I pray for you. I plead with heaven The writer of Proverbs said, “Train in your behalf. I thank you one and up a child in the way he should go: all for all you are doing and pray that and when he is old, he will not you may have the strength to do depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). more as we face the great, almost It is a true saying that “as the twig overwhelming challenge that comes is bent, so the tree is inclined.” with life in our time.

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