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VOICE OF JUDEA לוק הדוהי Volume 60, No. 3 January/February 2013 Tevet/Shevat/Adar 5773 TU B’SHEVAT SEDER SUNDAY, JANUARY27th 11:30 AM – 1:00 PM JOIN FAMILY CONNECTION IN THE CELEBRATION OF THE TREES SOFER ON SITE VISIT JANUARY 27TH & 28TH JOIN US IN THE MITZVAH OF WRITING A TORAH PURIM MEGILLAH READING SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 23RD, 2013 CELEBRATE THE TRIUMPH OF THE JEWISH PEOPLE OVER THE EVIL HAMEN SAVE THE DATES GREATEST GENERATION – SUNDAY, JANUARY 13, 2:00-4:00 PM IMMIGRATION IN AMERICA WITH PROFESSOR MICHAEL D’INNOCENZO GREATEST GENERATION – SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 10, 2:00-4:00 PM AN ENCHANTING AFTERNOON WITH PROFESSOR JAMES J KOLB SHABBAT ACROSS AMERICA – FRIDAY, MARCH 1, 2013 THERE WILL BE A LIVE KLEZMER BAND DURING SERVICES SO MARK YOUR CALENDARS FOR A MAGICAL, UPLIFTING EVENING PURIM CARNIVAL SUNDAY MARCH 3, 2013 9:30 -11:30AM SOCIAL ACTION KOSHER FOOD PACKING EVENT WRJ SOUP TASTING CONTEST OUR ANNUAL 2ND NIGHT SEDER TUESDAY, MARCH 26TH at 5:30 PM For additional January and February events, Please refer to the temple calendar in this bulletin. You can also check the website, www.Temple - Judea.com TEMPLE NEWS Temple Judea of Manhasset Schedule of Friday Night Services Affiliated with the Union of Reform Judaism th 333 Searingtown Road | Manhasset, NY 11030 January 4 tel. (516) 621-8049 Junior Shabbat Service: 7:00 PM Torah Portion: Shemot www.Temple-Judea.com th January 11 Todd Chizner…………………...…...……......Rabbi 4th Grade Family Shabbat Abbe Sher………...…….…........……….......Cantor Service: 7:30 PM Abner L. Bergman, z”l.....…..................Rabbi Emeritus Torah Portion: Va' era Eugene J. Lipsey………………..............….Rabbi Emeritus th Richard Berman………………...............…Cantor Emeritus January 18 Maxine Peresechensky……..................Executive Director Martin Luther King Ellen Gastwirth……………..……….…........Educator Shabbat Service: 8:00 PM Torah Portion: Bo Steven Goldberg.…………….……….………President th January 25 TEMPLE JUDEA BULLETIN New Member Shabbat Published Five Times Annually Service: 8:00 PM Alan Rothenberg...…………………...…….. Editor Torah Portion: Beshallach [email protected] st Temple Judea is Handicapped Accessible February 1 Shabbat Service: 8:00 PM Torah Portion: Yitro th February 8 Condolences to Jaime Horowitz on the loss of her Shabbat Service: 8:00 PM Torah Portion: Mishpatim beloved step-brother, Paul Sheffel. th February 15 Condolences to Richard Heyman on the loss of his Shabbat Service: 8:00 PM beloved father, Miles Heyman. Torah Portion: Terumah nd February 22 Condolences to Randi Kahn on the loss of her Shabbat Service: 8:00 PM beloved mother and father, Barbara and Robert Torah Portion: Tetzaveh Greenberg. Condolences to Allan Burstein on the loss of his beloved father, Irving. Condolences to Jeanie Schatzberg on the loss of her father, Jerome Burnett. Condolences to Cantor Abbe Sher on the loss of her father, Gerald Paul Sher. Mazel Tov to Kathi and Steven Kafka on the birth of their granddaughter, Madison Abby Friedlander, daughter of Lauren and Joel Friedlander. Mazel Tov to Ron and Lesley Steinberg on the engagement of their son Eric to Mandy Goldsmith 2 TEMPLE NEWS From the Rabbi…………. What are your favorite Torah stories? Mine are the ones that create questions, which then lead to answers, which then lead to learning. Take for example one of my favorites, the story of Jacob’s ladder. In the story, Jacob falls asleep and has a dream. In his dream he envisions a ladder stretched between the heavens and the earth. He sees angels going up and going down on the ladder. At first glance this is an imaginative fantasy. But this is in the Torah; therefore it has layers of meaning. Think about all the questions this raises. What does the ladder represent? Who are the angels? Why are the angels first going up and then coming down, and not the other way around? When searching for the answers, we can and should study what those who have come before us wondered. Once we learn from our ancestors, it is important to use our own intellects to come to our own conclusions, be it theirs or our own. We can and should make our own guesses about what each story hopes to teach us. How do you see this story’s deeper meaning? In the way I see it, the whole story is about using faith to make our greatest advancements in learning. If we look carefully at the wording in Hebrew, we see that the ladder, which symbolizes the Torah, is secure in the heavens but not on the solid ground of the earth: it is towards the earth, near the earth, but not touching it. The heavens symbolize knowledge, enlightenment, and God. How to get to this ethereal place? We, who are like the angels in the dream, have to take the first step. And that first step is no ordinary step; it is a leap up to the first rung on to a ladder that does not feel secure. It is the hardest step. But isn’t this just like learning Torah? In order to learn Torah we study with a teacher. That means we are making time for this, going to Temple, signing up for a class, etc. It takes a leap. But there is more. We know when we arrive in that ‘class’ we must make ourselves vulnerable and reveal we did not know something and that we need to learn something new. However, once we take that first step, we feel a great sense of purpose and even a new found security – not in the stability of the ground but in the magnificence of the heavens. I would like to invite you to take such a leap. On January 27th and January 28th our sofer, scribe, will be returning to Temple Judea to help us write and learn about our own torah. If you have not filled in a letter, this would be a good time to call the office and put your name down. In the process of filling in the letter you will learn about Torah and about yourself. You will also have other opportunities to take classes and study. Most of all, I want to help you find a story that you connect with. I want to help you see how our ancestors understood that story and then help you find your own understanding. Rabbi Todd Chizner 3 TEMPLE NEWS Cantor’s Song Jewish tradition commands us to perform the mitzvah of chesed, acts of lovingkindness. Forms of chesed include: inviting guests into one's home, helping to meet the needs of the bride before her wedding, and honoring the dead by attending a funeral. More relevant to the themes of pastoral care is that Judaism requires the mitzvah of Bikur Cholim, visiting the sick and of Nicham Avelim, comforting the mourner. In contrast to the chesed of tzedakah, (giving charity), Bikur Cholim and Nicham Avelim do not involve the giving of one's possessions, but rather the giving of one's self. The Torah expects us to give comfort to one another. Just as God visits the sick and comforts mourners, so must all Jews. In an early chapter of the Torah, God appears to Abraham, and then Abraham is visited by three men identified as angels. The Talmud relates that this visit occurs on the third day after Abraham's circumcision and that God’s visit was for the purpose of visiting the sick. The reason for God’s appearance was not to reveal specific content, which is typical of their time together, but to be with Abraham as he recovers. Through Bikur Cholim, God was not delivering a message, teaching a concept or even curing an illness. God simply appears to be with Abraham and to offer the healing gift of relationship. If the chesed of Bikur Cholim is centered on building a relationship of healing, what suffering is it meant to relieve? It is important to identify suffering rather than pain as the operative issue here because the distinction between the two is critical. Pain is a neurological phenomenon; it can be quantified and measured. Although each person may have a different tolerance for pain, it is essentially an objective reality, open to scientific measurement. Suffering is a response to pain; it results from the emotional and spiritual meaning that the pain has in one's life. Medicine treats pain; caregiving responds to suffering. One can endure the pain caused by wounds that are healing, but similar levels of pain related to an incurable disease may be unbearable. Childbirth may produce pain similar to a gallbladder attack, yet it is felt entirely differently. It is the meaning that one attaches to the pain that differs, and so does the level of suffering. The suffering that is at the core of illness and loss is estrangement. When ill, one becomes estranged from the key components of life and even a healthy sense of self. In Jewish tradition, the sick person is given a title, Choleh. Similarly, one who is bereaved is not only living an experience, but has a new description, Avel. This is not to brand or label the sick or grieving, but to acknowledge their sense of "otherness". In illness, the sick are estranged from their community. They may be hospitalized or kept at home, separated from their jobs, their synagogues, their clubs; they lose their places as participants in their community's life. Illness estranges one from family. Even when the family is present, the sick feel alone, their role is compromised. Finally, and most devastatingly, prolonged illness causes estrangement from one's self. The sick lose a relationship to the person they have been. The estrangement of the suffering and the sense of alienation from community and self are at the center of despair, sadness and fear that the caregiver encounters at the bedside.