John Waters Over on Their Ing the First Interview John Waters Did Mother

November 22, 2019 | Volume XVII, Issue 13

take place, followed by a bration is special to me because we Comemmorating World AIDS Day 2019 non-denominational pro- are honoring and recognizing our very gram and a celebratory own POWER Project team,” Williamson By Aaron Cahall ton Health Care and one of the event’s brunch. said. “Members of the team have dedi- Chase Brexton Health Care organizers. “To remind folks that All attendees will enjoy a free brunch cated their lives to testing for HIV, en- Join Chase Brexton Health Care and its the disease is still around & receive a World AIDS Day t-shirt. suring the community is educated, aware community partners on World AIDS Day, and the importance of rou- The event is free, but registration is of prevention, and has linkage to care. Sunday, December tine testing. It’s required at Tinyurl.com/WorldAids- Having completed over 80 community 1st, for “A Celebration ‘A celebration of also an oppor- DayBaltimore. testing events, the team is elite and one- of Perseverance,” tunity to cel- Celebrated each year since of-a-kind.” t a memorial march perseverance’ ebrate with 1988, World AIDS through Mount Ver- our thrives Day is dedicated non, followed by a prayer breakfast. and honor those we’ve to raising aware- The event will honor those we’ve lost.” ness of the AIDS lost, rejoice with our long-term thrives, The celebration be- pandemic caused and celebrate how far we’ve come to gins with a Memo- by the spread of support one another, improve health rial March from HIV infection, care, and get closer to an end to the HIV Chase Brexton’s the contin- epidemic. Mount Vernon ued need for “World AIDS Day is important be- Center (1111 North testing and cause it gives us the opportunity to ed- Charles Street) to treatment, and ucate the community on the importance 830 Guilford Ave- remembering of HIV testing and prevention,” said To- nue, where a reading those who lived nya Williamson, project coordinator for of names of our loved bravely with the the POWER (Protecting Ourselves With ones memorialized on disease. Every Resource) Project of Chase Brex- the Chase Brexton Wall of Courage will “This year, the cele-

Christmas Greetings from

‘Many people on the Christmas tour have told me similar stories about the tree falling John Waters over on their ing the first interview John Waters did mother. It By Gregg Shapiro happens a lot. There are almost too many words for the 2019 Christmas tour and I hope I Usually liquor from which to choose to describe lived up to the challenge. or the dog is John Waters. Groundbreaking Gregg Shapiro: One of the first involved.’ things I think of when it comes to you, – John Waters filmmaker, actor, writer, racon- teur, and artist are just a few that John Waters, and Christmas, is Dawn credits: photo – Greg come to mind. In De- Davenport’s Christmas melt- Gorman graphic – Kagan cember every year, Wa- So dire a down in 1974’s Female Trou- McLeod ters is a torchbearer and ble. Did you or anyone you flag waver of Christmas in the holiday as know ever have a Christmas way that only he can do it. His Christmas morning like that? “A John Waters Christmas” John Waters: Actually, I show and tour is the stuff of needs a know someone that was arrest- legends and laughs, and the ed Christmas morning and the 2019 edition is sure to be dousing with tree was knocked over when no exception. Additionally, cold Waters the police came. That hap- Waters’ recently published pened after I shot the scene. book, Mr. Know-It-All (FSG, 2019), It wasn’t a fan or anything. Many peo- an entertaining and informative mem- ple on the Christmas tour, through the oir crossed with a how-to, would also years, have told me similar stories about make for an ideal Christmas gift. the tree falling over on their mother. It I was given the honor of conduct- —continued on page 17 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // local

Backbar Specials will be featured from ‘Municipal Equality 5 pm to closing including half off select wine and Anthem Beer and $6 cheese or vegan Index’ – B’more cheese pizza (tax included). Specials are dine-in only and only available in the back Earns Top Score bar. For more info visit Bit.ly/335koEh. t

Leaving aside economic justice for a moment, the Human Rights Campaign’s Mu- nicipal Equality Index (MEI) examines how MCC Thanksgiving inclusive municipal laws, policies, and services are of LGBTQ people who live Dinner

Congregants of the Metropolitan Commu- nity Church of Baltimore (401 West Mon- ument Street) invite you to join them for a “Thanksgiving Feast and Fellowship” on Sunday, November 24th from 10 am to 1 pm. More at Bit.ly/330mRzW. t

‘Queer Day Hike’ November 24th

“As queer and trans people we’re used and work there. Cities are rated based on to taking ownership over the changes we non-discrimination laws, the municipality want to see,” say organizers of the Venture as an employer, municipal services, law Out Project. Throughout the fall, the Ven- enforcement, and the city leadership’s pub- ture Out Project they will be hosting Queer lic position on equality. Day Hikes dedicated to picking up trash While a score of 100 means Baltimore and making our outdoor spaces a little bet- is ahead of hundreds of cities across the country, there’s still plenty of work to do. t

Backbar Movies: Hedwig and the Angry Inch ter. As an outdoor organization and as peo- Paulie Gee’s Backbar at Paulie Gee’s in ple dedicated to taking care of our natural Hamden (3535 Chestnut Avenue, Balti- world, they believe it’s their job to take care more) invites you to the next installment of the trails they use. of “Backbar Movies” on Tuesday, Novem- Join them on their next hike on Sunday, November 24th on the Cascade Falls Loop Trail. The elevation gain is 377 feet and the hike distance is three miles, on ancestral lands of the Piscataway Tribe. They will meet at 9 am to carpool at the 33rd Street Farmers Market. If you are interested in carpooling contact Hallie Herz at hallie. [email protected]. You can also meet up at the trailhead in Elkridge, Maryland at 9:45 am. There is parking on the side of ber 26th from 8 to 10 pm for a screening the road. of Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Enjoy the They always pack out more than they event voted Baltimore magazine’s 2019 pack in and hope to encourage those “Best Movie Night” where they pay for around them to do the same, making part the movie, and you get to enjoy it and eat of the world around us a little better than cheap food! they found it. For more info and exact GPS Hedwig and the Angry Inch is the story coordinates visit Bit.ly/35jVJxE. t of an East German emigrant and victim of a botched sex-change operation living in a trailer in Kansas. The 2001 film is James Cameron Mitchell’s film adaptation of the off-Broadway rock theatre hit by the same name and tells the story of the “internation- ally ignored” rock singer and her search for stardom and love. —continued on page 4

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 3 news // local ‘Guess Who’s Baltimore Men’s Coming to Dinner?’ Chorus: November

On Thursday, November 28th from 1 to 5 30th Concert pm, members of Joy Baltimore invite you to celebrate with them (at 6 East Lafay- As the Baltimore Men’s Chorus gears up ette Avenue, Baltimore) as they host their for its winter concert next month, they are third annual “Oh Give Thanks” event, with presenting a special free “preview” event to the theme “Guess Who’s Coming to Din- give you a taste of their plans for “Women’s ner?” The event is billed as a Thanksgiv- Works: A Winter Celebration of Female ing celebration for the homeless, LGBTQ Composers.” Join them on Saturday, No- A memorial service will be held youth, elders, the displaced, students in school who can’t get home for the holi- for Jim Williams on Saturday, day, or others in the community with no December 7th at Brown Memorial vember 30th from 5 to 6:30 pm at St. Atha- Park Avenue Presbyterian Church nasius Catholic Church / St. Rose of Lima Catholic Church (4708 Prudence Street, Baltimore). beginning at 11 am Join Maryland’s longest running LGBTQ performing arts organization for a program filled with music by women com- place to go. The event will include free posers, arrangers, and authors. In celebra- Brown Memorial food, fun, music, entertainment, DJ, action of their 35th anniversary they are mak- cess to resources and giveaways. Space ing tickets to all their winter performances 1316 Park Avenue, Baltimore is limited, so reserve soon. To reserve a totally free, with donations welcome at the spot, for more info, or if you would like door or online. to volunteer or be an event sponsor vis- To reserve your free tickets or for more it Bit.ly/344duAD, call 443-522-8553, or info visit Bit.ly/2XstSIG. t – news com- email [email protected]. t piled by Bill Redmond-Palmer

Bradley Grant Memorial Service and Life Celebration

Saturday, November 23rd, beginning at noon

St. Matthew’s Catholic Church 5401 Loch Raven Boulevard, Baltimore

Luncheon celebration –1:30 pm at Acropolis Restaurant (4718 Eastern Avenue, Baltimore) –

Parking is allowed in the Wells Fargo lot after 1 pm. For the lunch please RSVP by November 16th to [email protected] with “Bradley Grant Celebration” in the subject line. Also, please designate your choice of a chicken or crab cake platter. If you have any photos you would like included in the DVD please email them to [email protected]

4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway

compiled by Jim Becker There were a couple of really good improvements and coming up with new to their better angels. Those who work “drag names” suggested: “Em Peach” ideas to advance and improve testing,” on issues of poverty and homelessness, Drag queen and “Miss Trial.” The Daily Mail pub- Good says. “The ‘Getting to Zero’ initia- which disproportionately affect LGBT lished a different photo with the caption, tive aims to reach a point where there youth, dismiss him as an impervious joins crowd “Drag queen Pissi Myles, from Asbury are zero new HIV infections and is antici- economic elitist who has largely turned a Park, New Jersey, was on Capitol Hill pated to be achieved sometime between blind eye to New York’s record homeless to watch Wednesday in the hallway of the Long- the years 2020 and 2030. population and an inadequate shelter worth building as people awaited the ar- “We have a prevention strategy for system.” When Bloomberg was mayor of impeachment rival of the first two witnesses to testify negative results, and we have a preven- New York, in one of his first acts as may- before the House Intelligence Commit- tion strategy for positive results,” says or, he signed a 2002 transgender rights hearings tee.” And according to her own website, Good. “Being that we’ve come this far in “Pissi Myles is an accomplished drag co- evolution in terms of testing, treatment, Washington, DC – The nation’s cap- median, singer, and hostess from Asbury and prevention, I feel we’re moving ever Billionaire Bloomsberg ital, Twitter, and probably the whole in- Park, New Jersey. She’s performed at so close to not only getting to zero new ternet was all abuzz November 13th as the legendary Wigstock and has been infections but also finding a cure for HIV the official impeachment hearings began featured in Billboard, Cosmopolitan, Mic, altogether,” he says. If an individual in Congress. But the real question on Huffington Post, RuPaul’s “What’s the T has a confirmed positive result, an HIV everyone’s mind seems to be, “So, who Podcast,” and more!” I still don’t know antiviral medication regimen is begun is the ‘Lady in Red’”? NBC News corre- why Pissi was there on Capitol Hill this immediately – with the goal of lowering spondent Heidi Przybyla tweeted out a morning, but considering the rumors the individual’s viral load to zero or un- photo of a statuesque blonde drag queen about Trump and Russian hotel rooms, detectable. According to Good, when an wearing a very short red dress and very I think her name is appropriate. (Dallas individual has an undetectable viral load, high red pumps apparently getting ready Voice – Tammye Nash at Dallasvoice. “there is a zero% chance for that individ- to go in to watch the hearing. She wrote, com/lady-in-red-drag-queen-on-capitol- ual to pass the virus to another person “Just arrived for #ImpeachmentHearings. hill-for-impeachment-hearings) through sexual contact.” In the case of bill into law. He also donated hundreds Someone did ask me last night if there’s a negative result, depending on the indi- of thousands of dollars to successful anything in DC that surprises me any- vidual’s level of risk regarding his or her marriage equality campaigns in Maine, more. @JohnBrabender.” potential for HIV infection, a medication Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington Improved HIV known as PrEP (pre-exposure prophylax- state. is) is often prescribed. One of the most However, in a Washington Post Femme très common forms of this type of medication column published November 11th, gay mystérieuse! testing helps is called Truvada and is taken once daily African-American journalist Jonathan goal of zero to prevent the infection of HIV when and Capehart said Bloomberg has no hope of if an individual is exposed to the virus. being the Democratic nominee due to his transmission With these two strategies for both posi- backing of “stop and frisk,” that dispro- tive and negative results, Good says that portionately targeted black and Hispanic Rock Hill, South Carolina – Over the UNAIDS vision of “getting to zero” is men. “If African-Americans are the foun- the years, there’ve been many advance- growing closer and closer every day. (Q dation of the Democratic Party and no ments and improvements made in HIV Notes Online – Mykah Buff at goqnotes. candidate will win the nomination with- (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) test- com/64281/evolution-of-hiv-testing) out their support,” Bloomberg’s defense ing. Early tests developed in the 1980s, of “stop and frisk” when he was mayor such as the Western blot test, can take “will make his candidacy a nonstarter for months for an infected individual to test them,” Capehart observed. (Seattle Gay positive. The OraQuick oral swab rapid Former News – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org/sgn- test developed later has a similar win- news47_46/page3.cfm) dow. The combination test (also known NYC mayor as the fourth generation test) used today, is now considered the recommended Bloomberg: standard of testing by the Centers for Only 50% of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). friend of LGBT The detection window period for the ear- voters are lier tests is 90 days, whereas the combi- people? nation test has a window period of only ready for a gay two weeks. Seattle – What could the LGBT com- Telluss Good, lead community health munity expect from Michael Bloomberg, president educator for HIV and STI (sexuality the billionaire former mayor of New York, transmitted infections) testing and pre- if he finally decides to take the plunge Washington, DC – Gay Star News vention at Affinity Health Center in Rock and run for the Democratic presidential reports that openly gay Democratic pres- Hill, South Carolina, has been working in nomination in earnest? While all the idential hopeful, Pete Buttigieg, could be HIV testing and prevention since 2008 leading Democratic candidates have al- facing a disadvantage as a new Politico/ and says that advancements in testing, ready released detailed plans designed Morning Consult poll reveals that only as well as strategies to address both to attract LGBT voters, Bloomberg hasn’t half of voters believe that they are ready There were some guesses: Rudy Gi- positive and negative results, are bring- even decided if he’s in or out of the race. for a gay or lesbian president. In the na- uliani? (who did indeed get dolled up in ing us closer to “getting to zero.” All he can be judged on is his record – tional tracking poll, one of the questions blonde drag for a comedy skit with Trump “Getting to zero” is an initiative de- and that is spotty. asked was if they were ready for a pres- some years ago), Lindsey Graham com- veloped and coined by the Joint United “Like so many things in life, where you ident who is gay or lesbian. The results ing out in style? I’m gonna say I don’t Nations Programme on HIV and AIDS stand on Bloomberg’s contribution to the showed that only 33% of people said think it’s any of those guys, because I (UNAIDS), the leading advocate for ac- LGBT movement depends on where you “yes, definitely” and 17% “yes, probably,” don’t think any of them could look that celerated, comprehensive and coordinat- sit,” reporter Kerry Eleveld wrote in the while 13% said they were “probably not” good or walk that well in heels. And to ed global action on the HIV/AIDS pan- Advocate in 2013. “Those who champi- ready for a gay/lesbian president and whomever suggested it was “Trump in demic. “These advances and changes in oned the 2011 marriage equality push 24% said “definitely not.” The remaining disguise?” – Girl, please! No way he testing have been developed by the CDC, consider him a hero for helping per- 13% said that they had no opinion on the could pull off that dress and those shoes! and they’re always working on making suade state Senate Republicans to listen —continued on page 10

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 IMPORTANT FACTS FOR BIKTARVY® This is only a brief summary of important information about BIKTARVY and does not replace (bik-TAR-vee) talking to your healthcare provider about your condition and your treatment.

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8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com VoiceVoice ofof thethe CenterCenter Sunday, December 1 World AIDS Day 2019 Calendar of Events Friday, November 22nd World AIDS Day is held on the 1st been made in HIV treat- Trans/GNC Job Readiness Workshop Breaking Bread Project 6:30-10:00pm December each year and is an op- ment, there are laws to (MA)Marijuana Anonymous: 7:00 - 8:00pm portunity for people worldwide to protect people living with Saturday, November 23rd unite in the fight against HIV, show HIV and we understand so (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous: 6:00 - 8:00pm their support for people living with much more about the con- Sunday, November 24th HIV and to commemorate people (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11am – 1pm dition. Despite this, people Gentle Mindful Yoga: 3:30pm – 4:45pm who have died. World AIDS Day was do not know the facts about Monday, November 25th the first ever global health day, held how to protect themselves Tuesday, November 26th for the first time in 1988. and others, and stigma and Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 – 5:00pm Globally there are an estimated discrimination remain a re- Teen Art Group 5:30-7:30pm 34 million people who have the virus. ality for many people living New Volunteer Orientation 6:30-7:30pm Wednesday, November 27th Despite the virus only being identified with the condition. Vogue Night with STAR TRACK in 1984, more than 35 million people World AIDS Day is im- (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: have died of HIV or AIDS, making it portant because it reminds the pub- to raise money, increase awareness, 7:00 - 8:00pm The Mankind Project: 7:00 - 9:15pm one of the most destructive pandem- lic and government that HIV has not fight prejudice and improve educa- Thursday, November 28th ics in history. gone away – there is still a vital need tion. CLOSED Today, scientific advances have Friday, November 29th (MA) Marijuana Anonymous: 7:00-8:00pm Saturday, November 30th (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous: 6:00-8:00pm Sunday, December 1st (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11:00am – 1:00pm Gentle Mindful Yoga 3:30 – 4:45pm Monday, December 2nd Elder Coffee Hour 12:00-1:00pm Tuesday, December 3rd Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00-5:00 pm (HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia) Teen Art Group 5:30pm – 7:30pm Poetry Workshop 6:30 – 8:30pm SILhouette: 7:30 - 9:30pm Wednesday, December 4th HIV/STI Testing with STAR TRACK: 6:30 – 8:30pm (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: 7:00-8:00pm Trans Baltimore 7:00-9:00pm The Mankind Project – 7:00 – 9:15pm Thursday, December 5th Free & Confidential Testing: 2– 5:00pm (HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia) Friday, December 6th Trans/GNC Job Readiness Workshop: 2-4:00pm Breaking Bread Project 6-8:00pm (MA) Marijuana Anonymous: 7-8:00pm Saturday, December 7th (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous - 6:00-8:00pm

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 9 beyond the beltway —continued from page 5 matter. When voters were asked if they showed up at City Hall Plaza. One of the dates for organ transplantation, and federal a recipient also living with well-controlled thought that the country was ready for a two Boston participants claimed he was law prohibited HIV-exposed organs from HIV. This procedure was performed under gay/lesbian president, the numbers de- kicked out of his home as a teen and was being transplanted to anyone in any circum- a specialized clinical protocol. Learn more creased even more, with only 40% say- fired from his job because he was straight. stance. The old policies were implemented about organ donation and sign up to being “definitely” or “probably.” And they The two organizers complained about before HIV could be effectively treated come an organ donor at OrganDonor.gov. weren’t any more optimistic when asked fees the city was charging, along with and when organ transplantation itself was Read more about the HOPE in Action Mul- if they thought that their neighbors were the permit that would have amounted to not as safe and effective as it is today The ticenter Kidney Study and the HOPE in Ac- ready as only 26% voted “definitely” or about $12,000. They were shocked to HOPE Act permits transplant teams with an tion Multicenter Liver Study at niaidnews@ “probably.” learn from Jayla Wilkerson, a city attor- approved research protocol to transplant niaid.nih.gov. (National Institute of Allergies The Politico/Morning Consult poll ney and trans activist, that a proposed kidneys and livers from donors with HIV to and Infectious Diseases at niaidnews@ni- trans march had to be canceled because appropriate candidates with well-controlled aid.nih.gov) they were going to be charged the ex- HIV and end-stage organ failure. People act same fees. Reacting to a statement with HIV are at a higher risk for kidney and by Richenberger on Facebook that cit- liver disease than their HIV-negative peers ies that are run by Democrats don’t wel- because of co-infections like viral hepati- Survey finds come free speech, Wilkerson suggested tis and long-term damage to organs from Dallas’s LGBT community stage a Pride HIV itself. For a person living with HIV who many US parade in her city and see just how wel- needs a transplant, this means they may coming they are. not wait as long for a transplant if an organ Christians are One of the straight Pride people from a donor with HIV is available. It also yelled insults at the transgender attend- pro-choice Leading in Iowa – Pete Buttigieg ees saying, “We know there are only two genders.” He also said, “I’m part of the Colorado Springs, Colorado – The oppressed majority.” When two of the pro- majority of US Christians say they are “pro- questioned 1,997 registered voters be- testers got too close to the Straight Pride choice,” according to a new survey by the re- tween October 25th and 28th and has a crowd of two, police separated them, search firm Magid. The survey, based on on- margin of 2% for a sample error. Morn- ending the arguing. Some individuals line interviews with 1,000 adults nationwide ing Consult’s vice president, Tyler Sin- approached the straight pride duo to talk, aged 18 to 69, was commissioned by Save clair, told Politico that Buttigieg’s sexu- one at a time, which changed no one’s the Storks, a self-proclaimed “pro-life” organi- ality “may be an issue for some voters minds and prolonged the pair’s visit to zation located in Colorado Springs, Colorado. as he remains in contention for the 2020 City Hall Plaza. The Boston visitors, pre- According to the survey, 25% of all re- Democratic presidential nomination.” sumably from the group Super Happy Fun A meaty treat inside? spondents identify themselves as “pro-life,” “Notably, 58% of Republicans, 32% of in- America that staged the Boston Straight in other words opposed to legal abortion. dependents and 22% of Democrats say Pride event this past summer, said this In contrast, 40% identified as “pro-choice,” they aren’t ready for a gay or lesbian wasn’t the parade. They promised that means that people with HIV may now sign and 29% of respondents said they were president. The comparative figures not one would be held in Dallas next year. up to become organ donors and potentially “neither or a mix of both,” while 7% said ready for a female president are 36% of That’s good that this wasn’t the parade, give the gift of life when they pass away. they “don’t know.” When broken down by Republicans, 15% of independents and because there were no floats, no march- All new medical procedures need to religious background, 47% of self-identified 8% of Democrats.” ing bands, no beads, no super happy fun. be rigorously tested for safety and efficacy evangelicals, 33% of mainline Protestants, Other topics brought up in the poll And next year, if Richenberger just brings before they are widely implemented, and and 27% of Catholics identified themselves didn’t fare as badly. 73% of respondents a friend from East Texas, participation will this is no exception. Since the enactment as “pro-life.” As well, 30% of evangelicals, answered “yes definitely” or “proba- double. (Dallas Voice – David Taffet at of the HOPE Act, many transplant centers 33% of Catholics, and 26% of mainline bly” when asked if they were ready for dallasvoice.com/straight-pride-attracts-a- in the United States are assessing trans- Protestants said they were “neither or a mix a female president and 65% also voted crowd-of-2) plant- and HIV-related outcomes after of both.” Only 18% of evangelical respon- “yes definitely” or “probably” in relation transplantation between people with HIV to dents identified themselves as “pro-choice,” to being ready for a Hispanic president. establish safety and efficacy for recipients while 34% of Catholics and 36% of main- Other polls asking questions surround- over the long term. In 2017 and 2018, NIH line Protestants said the same thing. ing a gay/lesbian president have been People with launched the HOPE in Action studies – a Although the plurality of respondents completed and have provided different Multicenter Kidney Study and a Multicenter that participated in the survey identified results to the ones found by Politico / HIV can become Liver Study. Both study teams are chaired as “pro-choice,” only 27% said they think Morning Consult poll. (Gay Star News – by investigators at Johns Hopkins Universi- abortion should be legal in all cases, while Liam Bond at Gaystarnews.com/article/ organ donors ty. Researchers will follow all recipients for 14% of all respondents said that abortion only-half-of-voters-are-ready-for-a-gay- up to four years to monitor the success of should be illegal in all cases. Some 34% of president-according-to-poll) NIAID says the transplant, and the health and quality of self-identified pro-life respondents said they life of participants. In a landmark case this think abortion should be illegal in all cas- Washington, DC – Organ donation March, surgeons at Johns Hopkins Univer- es, while 52% said it should illegal in most saves lives. Tragically, many patients are sity successfully transplanted a kidney from cases. Some 10% of pro-life respondents Straight Pride waiting for a life-saving transplant, and a living donor with well-controlled HIV into said abortion should be legal in most cases there are not enough people registering as and 4% said abortion should be legal in all Dallas gets a organ donors. As a result, 20 people die cases. Of the 40% of respondents who said each day waiting for a transplant – includ- they were pro-choice, 52% believe that crowd of two ing people living with HIV, who are more These news notes have been compiled, abortion should be legal in all cases, while likely than HIV-negative people to develop with permission, from the online version 36% said it should be legal in most cases. of various newspapers and other web Dallas – Pride events always attract end-stage kidney and liver disease. The Strikingly, given the vocal opposition of the sites. We thank these publications for out-of-town crowds, and the November HOPE Act of 2013 allows for research into Catholic hierarchy to abortion, only 16% of allowing us to bring you their news sto- 16th Straight Pride at Dallas City Hall Pla- organ transplantation from one person with ries. Usually the reports have been sig- Catholics believe that abortion should be za was no exception. All two of the partic- HIV to another, ultimately benefitting all nificantly edited and you can read the illegal in most cases. As well, 18% of main- ipants were here from Boston. Not even people waiting for transplants by increas- full story by going to the web site men- line Protestants agree, and 38% of Catho- Teresa Stephens Richenberger from ing the number of people eligible to become tioned following the item. Comments lics said abortion should be legal in most Liberty City, Texas, the local organizer organ donors. are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker cases, while 28% of mainline Protestants t with Protecting Our Next Generation, ap- At the height of the AIDS crisis, people and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride said the same thing. (Seattle Gay News peared at the event. About 20 protesters with HIV were not considered good candi- Media. – Mike Andrew at sgn.org/sgnnews47_46/ page15.cfm) 10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com thinking outloud quality of life

ing or emotion and chemistry or sexual if you live in Anne Arundel County. You desire. Can one feel passion for another can send Cpl. Koch LGBTQ-affirming re- as desire but not love? Alternately, can Disrupting sources. If you know of a homeless shel- Ask one love another without desire? This ter, churches, or other affirming com- is a really tough area of relationships to munity services that are safe for us let Dr. J explore. Bias him know at [email protected] You Johanna M. Dolan Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. On one hand, there are couples could also just send him an email wel- whose main channel of interaction is coming him to the role and thanking him desire or sexual encounters. They don’t for being willing to serve the community necessarily want to enjoy each other’s Outwardly in this way. It’s a pretty badass move. Do We Need company. At times, they even admit to If you don’t live in Anne Arundel not liking the person as a companion. Affirming County but you want an LGBTQ liai- Passion in a Then there are others who say they son take note that the corporal’s posi- “love” the partner but have no sexual de- “The assumption is negative unless you tion came about because Anne Arundel Relationship? sire. It’s a wonderful world when the love are outwardly affirming.” – Tom Koerber residents asked for support. Find out and the passion coexist! Alas, there are Now, you may already know this. Then who you need to talk to and make the Who can deny the joy in connecting with obstacles like daily irritations, illnesses, again you may not. Cpl. Robert Koch ask. The worst thing that can happen is another and experiencing the height of interferences of fatigue, travel, family is- joined the growing list of Maryland LGBTQ you’re told “No.” The best thing that can emotion, the passionate encounters and sues and aging. Physical limitations can liaisons throughout our state in happen is that you even that peaceful time after the peak? take their toll on the desire. April. He joins pro- shatter the myth Dictionary definitions of passion in- How to deal with issue of passion or fessionals like Jabari that we’re all do- clude: “Any pow- its lack? Tem- Lyles of the Baltimore ing fine because erful or compel- perament is City Mayor’s Office; we’re being quiet. ling emotion or defined as the Lt. Becky Fetcher of Join me next feeling, as love natural predis- the Hagerstown police time and see how or hate. Strong position of a per- department; Sommer this has started amorous feel- son. It is what Gray of Sinai / Life- to evolve in oth- ing or desire; we are born bridge Health – just to er areas of Anne love; ardor. An with and what name a few. Arundel County instance or expe- we have to learn In Cpl. Koch’s own and what you can do to ex- rience of strong to make the words – directly from the Anne Arundel pand the conversation right in your own love or sexual de- most of. Some county police department’s official press t neighborhood. sire.” So, there is people like the release, “As a member of the LGBTQ a mixing of feel- extremes in community myself, I feel honored and ex- life and some cited to be the LGBTQ liaison.... As liai- prefer an even son, my responsibilities will be responding keel existence. to the questions / concerns of the citizens, Federal Hill & SOBO When you have couples with similar attending community functions, acquiring Goes Doggone Wild This Holiday Season relevant training for officers, recruiting temperament, even when likes and dis- new officers, and establishing a support likes differ, it seems easier to find that system. The top priority is to make sure BENEFITTING DOG RESCUE OF MD comfort zone of compatibility. It is when the LGBTQ community and the public in Saturday November 30th at The Rowan Tree Tavern you have partners of dissimilar emotion- general know that the police department al terrain that the comfort zone becomes 1633 S. Charles St. challenging, though not impossible. As in is here to protect and serve all residents No need to enter Bar, use the rear side entrance without judgement or prejudice.” all relationship paths, bumps in the road Cpl. Koch has been a member of the require first a deep look inside and ask- force since 2012. He is currently assigned ing oneself just how important this con- to the Eastern District. Since taking his nection is to you. If it is, to what extent do position and working to bring himself up you accept the responsibility of changing to speed Cpl. Koch has been a presence your own ways and making it work more at the training academy, introducing him- smoothly? Or is your ego wanting con- self and his new role to his fellow officers. trol and expecting the other to do all the He has manned a booth at the inaugural changing? That latter approach just does Annapolis Pride, marched in the Annapo- not lead to a better place. Sure there lis Pride parade, and has been making the are partnerships where one controls the rounds, introducing himself at places that other, not only in the personal sphere serve us in the County. but even in the professional world. But Since 1962, LGBTQ liaisons have sooner or later, human nature seeks served a vital function between the com- some kind of equal footing, some place munity and the organizations they work where there is that comfort zone of men- for. In a nutshell, a liaison is both the tal homeostasis. Otherwise, that kind of spokesperson for the company / organi- Santa will have his photographer in town dependency and control fosters feelings zation on all things related to the commu- Bring your 4 legged buddies or any pet (for safety, cats in carriers of resentment that surely do not lead to nity as well as an advocate for LGBTQ please), the kids, the whole family and get your Holiday photo taken. passion or love. t people with the organizations they serve. $5.00 donation for one, $10.00 for three. My mission in life is not merely to In other words, they have a lot on their Home Made Doggie Treats • Human Treats Eggnog Shooters survive, but to thrive; and to do so with plate at all times. Their positions are cre- Basket of Cheer Ra e (winner pulled New Years Eve) some passion, some compassion, some ated both proactively and reactively. Cpl. humor, and some style. Koch’s position came about because Free Door Prizes and much more – Maya Anne Arundel county citizens wanted an So that Santa is fully prepared (not a required but welcome) Kindly Angelou LGBTQ Liaison. RSVP to [email protected] Here’s where you can get involved in

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only nicotine, anyone who vapes THC or swallowed as a vitamin supplement and Dear Addicted, JB, and Vitamin Lady, nicotine can get sick. is also safe when applied to the skin. Un- As more people are getting sick and The chemical vitamin E acetate has like the stomach, the lungs cannot break dying from vaping complications, we’re been found in the lungs of everyone with down oils, so when vitamin E acetate is Open Wide also getting a better idea of what causes vaping-related dis- inhaled it can block and damage ask Dr Eva the illness. There have now been small airways, injuring the lungs. Dr Eva Hersh 2,200 documented cases in the What’s happening now with va- US, with 42 deaths. Vaping-relat- ping among youth is very similar to ed lung damage is appearing in the history of marketing cigarettes Update on other countries as well. The num- to young people. As recently as the bers are expected to keep rising 1960s, cigarettes were thought to as the disease is recognized and be safe and were even recommend- Vaping reported more often. ed to suppress appetite and “calm This condition occurs main- the nerves.” (Cigarettes only relax Dear Dr. Eva, ly in male teenagers and young a person who is already addicted Since most vaping dis- men. Sixty-five percent to nicotine. People who aren’t used ease has been linked to of people affected have to it get jumpy and irritable.) After THC products, does that Not the been age 18-34, and the massive evidence of the health mean it’s safe to vape nico- solution 14% are under 18. Sev- risks of smoking became too huge tine without THC? enty percent are male. to deny, adults were less likely to Addicted to vaping to tobacco This probably reflects start smoking. Cigarette advertis- the age and sex of the ing then shifted to kids. Do you re- Dear Dr. Eva, addiction group most likely to vape, ease who has had bronchoscopy, the member Joe Camel? Candy cigarettes? Have they found out yet not any special vulnerability procedure used to identify lung contents. Advertising and social pressure re- what causes lung damage from vaping? among males or among young people. Vitamin E is an oil-based vitamin found sulted in a big jump in smoking among My son is still vaping. Almost 90% of people with vap- in many foods, including cereals, meat, teenagers. Eventually, public health JB ing-related lung damage used vaping fruits, and vegetables. It is also sold as campaigns and bans on advertising to- solutions containing THC. Thirty-four a dietary supplement and is an ingredi- bacco to children made smoking seem Dear Dr. Eva, percent vaped only THC and never nic- ent in many cosmetics, especially skin less cool. Ever-smoking rates among I saw on the news that vitamin E in otine. Just 11% reported they used only creams. Vitamin E acetate is a modified high school students dropped from 20% vaping liquid is causing the lung disease. nicotine-containing products, and never form of vitamin E oil used in vaping flu- in 2011 to 9% today. Now, only 4% of I take vitamin E as an antioxidant. Is it THC. This shows that although people ids to dilute THC oil and as a thickener. students smoke one or more cigarettes dangerous? Should I stop? people who vape THC are much more It isn’t usually used in nicotine vaping daily. As youth smoking decreased, va- Vitamin Lady likely to get sick than people who vape fluid. Vitamin E acetate is safe when ping advertising appeared. Many of the companies selling vaping equipment and Sat. November 30, 10p.m. fluids are owned by American tobacco companies. Between 2011 and 2015, rates of vaping among high school students increased from 5% to 16%. Vaping companies focused in on these and even younger target users with child-friendly flavors like bubblegum, koolaid, gummy bears, papa smurf, curious George, and unicorn poop. The only value that the medical community ever saw in vaping was as a tool to help people quit smoking. It’s never Friday December 20, been shown to be safe for long-term use. Besides the epidemic of vaping-related 9p.m. - 12a.m. Fri. December 6, 10p.m. Shawnna's Chicken Box: lung injury, there are other reasons to believe vaping is dangerous. Tissue from A SILLY SHOW the mouths of chronic vapers has abnor- • ArchitecturAlly-stunning malities in genetic material, a sign of risk wedding venue • for oral cancer. Vaping is not an effective way to stop • indOOr & OutdOOr smoking cigarettes. It is as addictive as cigarettes. There are other, effective wedding cereMOnies, ways to quit smoking. The most effective Sat. 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involves removing the scar and reattach- ing the skin; essentially a “do-over” for Scar Prevention & Treatment the healing process. Surgical scar revi- sion doesn’t remove the scar completely; by Dr. Ciro Martins • Stop smoking at least • Apply silicone gel it adjusts the scar to reduce visibility by Q: “What can I do to make the scars three weeks prior to your sur- A sheets as soon as the incision making it blend in more with your skin. from my upcoming transition less no- gery, for tobacco reduces the closes (about ten to 14 days Different types of scars require differ- ticeable?” amount of oxygen that reaches discussion post-op) to keep it hydrated ent treatments. To ensure you receive the A: I’m glad you asked because there the skin and can impede heal- with Dr. Ciro and soften the scar tissue. right treatment and care, it’s important to is quite a lot you can do to minimize scar- ing. • Gently massage your consult with a reputable board-certified ring after transitioning. Gender reassign- • Avoid anything toxic Martins scars to break down the physician. Successful scar repair re- ment often requires multiple surgeries to to the liver – alcohol, acet- bands of collagen that attach quires a deep understanding of medical alter the appearance and function of ex- aminophen and other select of Belcara to underlying tissue. and aesthetic conditions, proper training, isting sexual characteristics. These “top” medicines – for about a month Scars can take up to extensive experience, and advanced and “bottom” procedures are all major before surgery because you’ll Health twelve months to heal com- technological resources. Remember, surgeries that involve incisions and the need your liver to be as healthy pletely, so you need to be treatment results appear gradually over inevitable scars can be upsetting. Fortu- as possible to help expel toxins patient. Once they’ve healed, you may time, and multiple treatments might be nately, there are proactive changes you decide your scars need further interven- necessary. Patience and diligence are can make, as well as, Dr. Ciro tion. Luckily, there are many treatment necessary as you strive to gain your de- many scar repair treat- Martins options that can help, including: sired appearance so you can finally en- ment options, to reduce • Injectables – Dermal Fillers such joy the body you were meant to enjoy. the appearance of surgi- as Juvederm or Restylane to fill in con- Good luck! t cal scars and allow you cave areas. Dr. Ciro Martins is a recognized lead- to fully enjoy your new • Dermabrasion / microdermabra- er in medical dermatology, infectious dis- dream body. sion – Removes the top layers of skin eases of the skin, autoimmune skin dis- Scars are fibrous tis- and scar tissue. sues that replace normal orders, tropical dermatology, and overall • Microneedling – Uses tiny fine skin after an injury. They skin wellness. As a specialist in the pre- are a natural part of the needles that stimulate the production of vention, diagnosis, and treatment of skin body’s healing process. healthy collagen to improve the scar’s cancer. Board-certified by the American There are several dif- tone and texture. Board of Dermatology and the Brazil- ferent types of surgical • Laser therapy – Removes layers of ian Society of Dermatology, Dr. Martins scars including: skin in targeted areas to improve a scar’s trained at both the University of Sao • Cicatrix – flat and elasticity, texture, tone, and color to bet- Paulo School of Medicine and the Johns slightly off color, usually ter match the surrounding skin. Hopkins School of Medicine. Dr. Martins fades over time • Cortisone injections – A steroid can be contacted at Belcara Health in • Hypertrophic scar injection that softens skin and helps to Baltimore, Maryland by calling 410-296- – slightly raised along the shrink hard scars. 0414 or visiting Belcarahealth.com. incision, may fade with • Surgery – Surgical scar removal time • Keloid – significantly raised beyond the incision site and will not fade without treatment. • Contracture scar – occurs when the new skin becomes tighter and thick- er than your skin, sometimes limiting movement. The appearance of your surgical scars from your anesthesia and pain medica- depends upon many unique factors. tions. Skin tone and genetics play a role in After surgery, it is imperative to fol- how your scars form. People at greater low your surgeon’s recovery instructions risk for more significant scarring are those exactly. Most likely you will be advised with darker skin tones and a family history to: of scarring. How you heal also depends • Keep your incisions clean and upon your medical history, current phys- covered ical condition, lifestyle habits, and your • Wear compression garments for level of compliance with your pre-op and supportive pressure post-op instructions. • Avoid any tension on the inci- Before surgery, there are many proac- sion that could pull it apart, delay heal- tive lifestyle changes you can make to im- ing, and possibly increase the size of prove your surgical results and minimize your scar scarring, including: • Continue to eat well, drink a lot • Eating a well-balanced, nutritious of water, and take micronutrient supple- diet – high in protein, fiber, and antioxi- ments. dant-rich fruits and vegetables, and min- • Avoid tobacco and alcohol for as imal sugar to prevent inflammation – will long as possible. give your body the nutrients and fuel it • Protect your scars from sunlight needs. for at least 12 to 18 months following • Taking micronutrient supplements surgery, for the sun’s ultraviolet rays can – such as vitamin c, milk thistle, coenzyme quickly make them more pronounced q10, zinc, probiotics, and IV therapy. (hyperpigmentation). BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 13 quality of life // Health and Wellness Don’t let SAD leave The Risks & Rewards of Anal Sex Winter Blues By Dudley Seth Danoff, MD bottom (and less likely to result in injury) you feeling All gay men have lots of anal sex and are than thrusting motions. Remember to use By Jason Addison • A lack of ener- experts at it, right? Not necessarily – many plenty of lubricant to avoid damaging the How many of you have already been gy or lethargy left in the guys are intimidated by penetrative sex due lining of the rectum. If you use a toy or affected by the changing seasons? Al- • Overuse or to safety concerns, nervousness about po- prostate massager, ensure that it is clean; though winter has not officially set in, I misuse of drugs dark tential pain, or insecurity. The good news is sheathing it in a condom is also a good think we can all agree that this season and/or alcohol that these worries can be cured with a little way to keep the recipient of anal sex safe. can have both a positive and negative • Increased ap- education. Anal sex does carry certain risks Be forewarned that receiving pressure impact on our moods. For some, the sea- petite or weight gain, or decreased ap- that you need to be aware of, but when on your prostate can sometimes make you sonal changes can have a profound im- petite and weight loss done safely and correctly, it can provide feel like you need to go to the bathroom. pact on their moods, which could stem If you are someone with a history of a great pleasure to both partners. Don’t be alarmed – this is just a sensation from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). mood disorder, or a known family histo- Anal sex presents a greater risk for bot- caused by the stimulation that may take What is Seasonal ry, make sure that you toms than for tops. This is not a myth – it is getting used to. Affective Disorder? are paying attention to based purely on anatomy. The lining of the Now that you’re armed with knowl- SAD is a type of any seasonal changes anus is very delicate and easily mood disorder that af- to your mood, if any. It injured or ruptured, fects around five per- may be worth check- putting the bottom cent of the country’s ing in with your health- at risk of infections, total population each care provider more viral particles, and year. As a psychia- often to get ahead of debris entering the trist at Sheppard Pratt any seasonal impacts bloodstream. This is Health System who as well. If appropriate, why practicing safe specializes in mood dis- your doctor may make sex is so important. orders, I have seen the some changes to your Condoms may cramp your style, and yes, impact SAD has when medicine or prescribe sex feels a lot bet- left untreated, which can some alternate ther- ter without them. But cause problems at work, apies, like light ther- Jason both your health and school, home or with re- apy. Addison your partner’s are at lationships. There are also some oth- stake. You can love Although fall and winter tend to be er proactive ways to manage sex even with latex – the most common times of year for the SAD, including getting plenty occurrence of SAD, with colder tempera- you just have to do it of exercise and eating healthier! Daily with caution and care. tures and less light, this mood disorder exercise not only helps fight SAD symp- can occur at any time of the year. It is of- Unprotected anal toms, but depression as well. Going out- sex has long been ten dependent on the individual as well. side for some fresh air and walk or jog Certain times of the year impact people blamed for anal can- with friends is a great way to socialize differently. While the holidays may be a cer. In reality, the true and get moving in the cold. A healthy time of great joy and celebration for some, cause of anal cancer is diet is another way to deal with SAD. it could also be a time of loss and sor- condylomata acumina- Although the holidays can make eating row for others. This time period can also ta – or, in everyday lan- healthy difficult, try and eat as many be stressful for some, especially when it guage, genital or anal fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean comes to juggling responsibilities, visits, warts. Anal sex does proteins as possible. Although eating and travel. Students in particular may not cause cancer in heavier foods high in fat and carbohy- edge, anal sex will hopefully seem less feel more stress during this time with the and of itself, but doing it without prophylac- crunch of final exams and the close of the drates may feel comforting in the cold, tic protection carries the risk of developing intimidating. Next time you decide to go healthier diets actually put people at a anal warts, which can then degenerate and all the way with a special someone, just semester. t Some common symptoms of SAD in- lower risk of depression. become cancerous. Unsexy as it sounds, relax and remember that it’s not rocket sci- clude: Dr. Jason Addison serves as the any couple that engages in anal sex should ence – the same principles apply to anal • Extreme sadness or fits of crying service chief of the young adult unit for get periodic, meticulous anal sex as to every healthy • Inability to find joy in activities you Sheppard Pratt Health System. examinations to make sure sexual relationship: Be normally would enjoy everything’s kosher down kind and gentle to one there. If an anal wart is iden- another. Do to your tified, it should be promptly re- partner what you would moved with a laser or another have your partner do to extractive treatment. you. Be giving and open Hearts and Ears Inc. Now that the safety issues and positive in your re- have been addressed, it’s time lationship. And above all LGBTQIA+ Wellness & Recovery Center to discuss the fun part: pros- else, love thy partner. t tate stimulation. The prostate Dudley Seth Danoff, is a sexually sensitive organ MD, FACS, is presi- Hearts & Ears, Inc. is a non-profit organization for Gay, located directly underneath dent and founder of the Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and the bladder and next to the Cedars-Sinai Medical rectum wall. As such, it’s often Center Tower Urology Questioning, and Gender Non-Conforming individuals referred to as the male G-spot Group in Los Angeles, a with behavioral health issues and concerns. or the P-spot. Gentleness is Diplomate of the Ameri- the key to good anal sex – the can Board of Urology, a prostate is very sensitive, so Fellow of the American light to medium pressure is College of Surgeons, 611 Park Avenue Suite A, Baltimore, Maryland 21201 • 410-523-1694 usually enough to create intense feelings of and author of The Ultimate Guide to Male pleasure. Repetitive massaging or circular [email protected] • heartsandears.org Sexual Health. motions tend to be more enjoyable for the

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Baltimore Ethical Society Grace United Methodist Church 2521 Saint Paul St. Baltimore, MD 5407 North Charles Street 21218 Baltimore, MD 21210 [email protected] 410-433-6650. baltimoreethicalsociety.org graceunitedmethodist.org

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Congregation Beit Tikvah Memorial Episcopal Church Contact st. Bernadette Parish 5802 Roland Avenue 1407 Bolton Street Deacon Fred Passauer Baltimore MD 21210 Baltimore MD 21217 801 Stevenson Road 410-464-9402. beittikvah.org 410-669-0220 Parish Administrator Severn, Maryland 21144-2299 memorialepiscopal.org 410-969-2783 410-969-2783 Emmanuel Episcopal Church 811 Cathedral Street New Light MCC Baltimore, MD 21201 40 W. Church Street 410-685-1130. emmanueldown- Hagerstown MD 21740 Chevrei Tzedek Congregation town.org 301-797-5698 newlightmcc.com 3101 Fallstaﬀ Road, First and Franklin Street. Baltimore, MD 21209 Presbyterian Church The Church of the Advent 210 W. Madison Street 1301 South Charles Street [email protected] Baltimore MD 21201-4693 Baltimore, MD 21230 www.chevreitzedek.org 410-728-5545. firstfranklin.org 410-539-7804 (443) 992-7485 advent-baltimore.org First Unitarian Church of RABBI RORY KATZ Baltimore Veritas United JTS Gladstein Fellow 1 West Hamilton Street. Church of Christ Baltimore MD 21201 22 N Mulberry Street., Suite 113 410-685-2330. firstunitarian.net Hagerstown, MD 21740 An informal, Welcoming, Participatory, Conservative Jewish Community 240- 310-6891 veritashagerstown.com

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 15 Lively Arts // qmusic Wonderful 2019¡20 SEASON Christmas Time : By Gregg Shapiro Moonlight, Mistletoe & You (Concord) Originally released in 1994 and reissued in is the first holiday album by Grammy-win- THE SNOWMAN an expanded CD edition in 2018, Wonder- ning modern blues musician Keb’ Mo’. Half SAT, DEC 7, 11 AM • TICKETS FROM $15 ful Christmas Time (UMe), Diana Ross’s of the ten songs, including the title cut, A snowman comes to life and takes a young boy on a trip to only solo Christmas album makes a holiday the delightful and humorous “Christmas the North Pole in this enchanting ﬁlm with live orchestra! return in a limited edition, translucent red Is Annoying,” and the lovely “One More vinyl double LP set. Bracketing the album Year with You” (co-written with Beth Niel- HANDEL MESSIAH with songs by her 60s-era music contem- sen Chapman). Mo’ also goes the more traditional blues route on songs such as SAT, DEC 7, 3 PM • SUN, DEC 8, 3 PM poraries, Paul McCartney (the title track) and John Lennon (“Happy Xmas War is Koko Taylor’s “Merry, Merry Christmas,” TICKETS FROM $25* Over”), Ross mixes gospel (“His Eye Is Theodore Edwards’ “Santa Claus, Santa Edward Polochick leads the Orchestra and the BSO On The Sparrow” and “Go Tell It On The Claus, and Charley Jordan’s “Santa Claus Symphonic Chorale in this holiday favorite. Mountain”) with traditional (“The First Noel,” Blues.” The duet with Melissa Manchester “Ave Maria,” “Amazing Grace”) and popular on Irving Berlin’s “I’ve Got My Love to Keep VIENNA BOYS CHOIR (“The Christmas Song,” “White Christmas,” Me Warm” is a warmhearted and wonderful THU, DEC 12, 7:30 PM • TICKETS FROM $25* “Winter Wonderland”) songs of the season touch. MANUEL HUBER, CONDUCTOR wrapped up in sumptuous arrangements. In advance of the release of its proper The Vienna Boys Choir will ﬁll the Meyerhoff Symphony She even includes a couple of unexpected 2020 debut album, The Imaginaries, hus- Hall with angelic charm and pure sounds in a program treats such as her covers of Bacharach and band and wife musical duo Shane Henry featuring Austrian folk songs, classical masterpieces and David’s “What The World Needs Now” and and Maggie McClure, have released the popular holiday music. Stevie Wonder’s “Overjoyed.” holiday full-length Hometown Christmas

The BSO is not performing on this program. ARTISTS Like the Ross Christmas album, Mariah (Imaginariesband.com), a combination of Carey’s first holiday album was released 25 two previous holiday EPs and new songs. CIRQUE NUTCRACKER years ago. Newly reissued in an expanded Interwoven amongst the pleasantly ren- PHOTO: LUKAS BECK double-disc deluxe 25th anniversary edi- dered cover versions of “Christmas Time FRI, DEC 13, 8 PM • SAT, DEC 14, 3 PM tion, Merry Christmas (Columbia /Epic / SUN, DEC 15, 3 PM • TICKETS FROM $35* Legacy) is mainly remembered for launch- Troupe Vertigo’s acrobats, jugglers and high-flying ing the first new Christmas song to achieve aerialists join the BSO for this spectacular twist on classic status at the end of the 20th century. Tchaikovsky’s holiday classic. “All I Want For Christmas Is You,” co-written by Carey and Walter Afanasieff, with GOSPEL CHRISTMAS its Phil Spector and Beach Boys musical CECE WINANS references has become an essential part THU, DEC 19, 8 PM • FRI, DEC 20, 8 PM of the modern Christmas music songbook. The other two Carey / Afanasieff originals, TICKETS FROM $45 “Miss You Most at Christmas Time” and “Je- Twelve-time Grammy® Award-winner CeCe Winans sus Born On This Day,” are acceptable, but joins the BSO and the Morgan State University Choir for a rousing program of gospel and holiday favorites. can’t hold an electric candle to “All I Want…” The remaining numbers are relatively faith- ful renditions of standard Christmas songs. HOLIDAY SPECTACULAR The sole diversion, a misguided club mix SAT, DEC 21, 3 PM • SAT, DEC 21, 8 PM medley of “Joy to the World” – both the TICKETS FROM $35* traditional and the Hoyt Axton-penned pop Broadway musical director Andy Einhorn leads the BSO song that was a hit for Three Dog Night – is Merry and the Baltimore Choral Arts Society in an exciting new a bit unsettling. The 18-track second disc Is Here,” “White Christmas,” Mariah holiday program highlighted by the ever-popular includes rare remixes and live tracks, all “Baby, It’s Cold Outside,” and a tap-dancing Santas and an audience sing-along. The previously unreleased. rocking rendition of “Up on the Meyerhoff Symphony Hall lobby becomes a winter Indie pop chanteuse Molly Burch takes Housetop,” are memorable originals includ- wonderland with pre-concert performances, a family a less over-the-top approach to holiday mu- ing the cover cut, “First Thing on My Christ- photo spot and cookies and ornaments for sale. sic than Mariah Carey on The Molly Burch mas List,” “Happiest of Holidays,” and “Kiss Christmas Album (Captured Tracks). for Christmas. *KIDS 12 & UNDER 50% OFF To begin with, her selection of Christmas It must be written somewhere that you PRESENTING OFFICIAL AIRLINE SUPPORTING OFFICIAL EDUCATION SPONSOR: OF THE BSO: SPONSORS: PARTNER OF THE BSO: tunes covers couldn’t be more pleasing to can’t have Christmas music without jazz. the ear. Burch’s readings of The Mamas & Danish-American saxophonist Michael the Papas’ “Snowqueen of Texas,” “Hard Lington fills the bill with A Foreign Affair Give the gift of music this holiday season with a Candy Christmas” from The Best Little Christmas (Copenhagen Music). Ling- Whorehouse in Texas, George Michael’s ton is joined by a holiday buffet of musical BSO gift certiﬁcate! Available at BSOMUSIC.ORG/GIFT “Last Christmas” (featuring gay actor John guests including gay sax man Dave Koz Early and comedian Kate Berlant), Bruce on the medley of “Winter Wonderland / Let Cockburn’s “The Coldest Night of the Year” it Snow,” country music legend Vince Gill JOSEPH MEYERHOFF SYMPHONY HALL (a duet with Jesse Woods) and Abba’s on “This Christmas,” smooth jazz guitar- BSOMUSIC.ORG | 410.783.8000 “Happy New Year,” speak volumes about ist Russ Freeman on “Oh Holy Night” and her excellent taste in music. Burch originals trumpeter Rick Braun on “Silent Night.” t EXCLUSIVE DISCOUNTS FOR GROUPS OF 10+! 410.783.8170 “New Year Love” and “Holiday Dreaming” fit in perfectly with the other material.

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ried after a first date of seeing one of my ever do. All the subjects about novelty movies or being at the Christmas show. records were about tragedy in some way. John Waters Now they come to the John Waters Sum- The closest might be the parody lyr- mer Camp every year. I think it would be ics of “Weird” Al. —continued from page 1 turn on the Christmas lights in the city. a romantic date. Yes, but that happens a lot. Usually liquor or the dog He and I came out to the song “Santa One of my favor- “I think of all the was a long time ago. is involved. Claus is a Black Man” and we turned on ite sections of Mr. I’m trying to think of How much of that scene in Female the lights. Know-It-All is “I Got novelty records that a current one. And if Trouble would you consider to be inspi- 2019 will be the second Christmas Rhythm,” in which there is one, my as- ration for your annual “A John Waters with Trump in the White House. Does you talk about your I wrote about (in Mr. sistants are in trou- Christmas” show? he come up as a topic in your Christmas favorite music. I’m Know-It-All) were ble because part of I don’t know that it has too much to show? so glad you wrote the young ones’ job do with it. I think it has more effect ear- He does because we’re always about Buchanan about car accidents. is to be a youth spy lier, in the 70s and 80s, when I had my talking about coal. He’s even ruined the and Goodman’s and tell me things. big Christmas party, that I still have. We word bad. Even bad little boys can’t be “Flying Saucer” 45 You’d never have that I describe Mr. purposely gave each other gifts that we proud of being bad anymore. Yes, he on Luniverse Re- today. All the teen Know-It-All to my would hate. We used to throw them out does come up in it. It’s pretty impossible cords. I have a copy friends as a mem- the window, which I think was rather irre- not to have some political gifts in mind that was part of my suicide songs! Are oir crossed with a sponsible because I lived on the seventh when you’re talking about Christmas. mother’s record col- how to. What was floor [laughs]. I think it was more a case Warm and snowless cities – such as lection. Do you think you kidding me? That the impetus for writ- of “How dare you give me this present!” I West Palm Beach, San Diego, and Tuc- the days of novelty would be the most ing the book in this think it inspired that. son – are among the places you’re per- recordings such as fashion? Your 2004 album A John Waters forming “A John Waters Christmas Show.” this are a thing of politically incorrect Because I want- Are you the kind of the past or could you could ever do. ed to share my ne- person who needs there be a revival? gotiation skills that to have snow on the That was the first All the subjects about I had somehow de- ground to get in the song that samples, veloped over the Christmas spirit? really. It was such novelty records were last 50 years so that No, not at all. a huge influence about tragedy in some you, too, could fail I’ve had Christmas on me because in upwards. You, too, in foreign coun- “Flying Saucer” they way.” can be fucked up tries. I kind of like told a story using and triumph. You, extreme weather. other people’s lyrics too, can never have My favorite Christ- without the original meaning. That’s ex- to get a real job. mas view used actly what I have done in the soundtrack Finally, the music world recently lost to be in LA, on a to every one of my movies. I use snippets one of the greats, Ric Ocasek of the hot day when it’s of songs as the narration, to build the Cars. Ric played a “beatnik cat” in 1988’s Christmas, in front story and spin it together better. There Hairspray. Do you have any memories of of the Scientology hasn’t been a great novelty record Ric that you’d like to share? Center, which has that I know of in a while. I remember Ric! He Christmas lights “Valley Girl” was a great John was from Baltimore! He around from the one and there were lat- Waters was a beatnik, proba- credit: Greg city [laughs]. It er ones – “Baby’s Got Gorman bly. The first thing I ever was such a bizarre Back.” But I can’t think of wanted to be was a beat- sight and I always one recently that swept nik. We’re the same age. liked that. the nation. I challenge He was lovely. He came In your new anybody, no matter for the day. He got along book, Mr. Know- what their musical taste very well with Pia Zadora. It-All, you make is, to be able to identify He came to the premiere mention of your correctly and talk about (of Hairspray) in Balti- annual Christ- each one of the Top more, I remember, with mas party (page Ten on Billboard’s 200 (wife) Paulina (Porizkova). 84), as well as chart. It’s so splintered! I’m not sure I have ever the “A John Wa- There’s no one genre. seen him since. I think ters Christmas” It used to be that ev- when we had the big 30- show (page 150). erybody in the country year reunion (in 2018) of What’s the best could sing the Top Ten Hairspray at the Academy way to let the no matter what decade of Arts and Sciences in LA, readers know you’re in. I would say I tried to get him to come. that tickets to that would be impossi- He was very favorable credit: “A John Waters ble to today. I think of about it and said to send Christmas is one of my all-time favorite Kagan Christmas” would make a per- all the novelty records his love to everybody, but holiday albums. Do you include any of McLeod fect winter holiday gift? that I wrote about (in he didn’t come. I’m not sure the songs on the album in your holiday I’m right in the middle of Mr. Know-It-All) were if he was ill for a long time show of the same name? rewriting the whole show. about car accidents. or not at the end, but that I think sometimes the theatres play It’s almost completely different every You’d never have could have been the reason. it as people are coming in (from the lob- year. I think it’s a good gift! If you have that today. All the I was always a fan. He was a by). The last time I did something pub- a first date for “A John Waters Christ- teen suicide songs! gentleman and a music leg- licly with it was when the mayor of Balti- mas,” you’re either going to get married Are you kidding me? end. I’m really privileged that more was Mayor (Martin) O’Malley, who or they’re never going to speak to you That would be the he was in that movie. I think later became the governor. Every year again. It’s hit or miss. I’ve met many peo- most politically in- people remember that scene they have the big ceremony where they ple that have told me that they got mar- correct you could well. t

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time that we can see young Salvador de- divorcing his wife, Federico reaches out to veloping his attraction to members of his Salvador, the one and only man with whom gender. he had a sexual relationship. They have a Glory, Hallelujah! Pain and Glory is also a movie about touching reunion, even sharing a passion- By Gregg Shapiro has lost his reason for living. chance. For instance, Addiction, Alberto’s ate goodbye kiss. Another bit of happen- Even if you love Oscar-winning gay film- Just when he is about to give up, Sal- adaptation of Salvador’s story is playing stance occurs when Salvador’s manager maker (Pedro) Almodóvar (and who vador learns from actress Zulema (Almodó- to packed houses. One night, an audience Mercedes (Nora Navas) shows him an in- doesn’t?), you have to admit that his out- var regular Cecilia Roth) that there vitation to a gallery opening fea- put in the 2010s (I’m So Excited! anyone?) is interest in a 30th anniversary turing Eduardo’s drawing of young has been less than stellar. Especially when screening of his acclaimed movie Salvador reading a book. The compared to Volver (2006), All About My Sabor. This leads Salvador to re- various coincidences have a pos- Mother (1999), or Women on the Verge of a connect with the movie’s male star itive impact on Salvador, resulting Nervous Breakdown (1988). Alberto (Asier Etxeandia), whose in nothing less than a surprising With Pain and Glory (Sony Pictures life revolves around smoking hero- happy ending. Classics), Almodóvar has not only returned in. Salvador and Alberto, who had Banderas is outstanding, to his former glory, but exceeded it, as well. a tempestuous working relationship down to his spiky Almodóvar-es- An intimate and personal amalgamation of (due in part to Alberto’s drug use), que hair and scruff. There’s not several of the elements we have come to make peace with each other. As a false note in his performance expect from an Almodóvar film (including a means of numbing his physical which ranks as one of his most a singing Penelope Cruz), Pain and Glory agony, Salvador begins smoking Oscar-worthy. Cruz is also won- strikes the perfect balance between drama heroin with Alberto. As you might derful, as is longtime Almodóvar and comedy in ways that are unique to the expect, this has a negative impact on Sal- actress Julieta Serrano as the elderly Ja- writer / director in his marvelous portrait of vador’s life. Alberto, on the other hand, member happens to be Federico (Leonardo cinta. gay writer / director Salvador (Antonio Ban- takes advantage of Salvador’s weakened Sbaraglia), the person about whom Salva- Rating: A-minus. t deras). state, logs onto his computer, and finds a dor wrote the original story. In the midst of Flowing smoothly back and forth in piece of Salvador’s writing that he wants to time, from the present day where Salvador adapt into a one-man show. suffers from an array of debilitating physical Further glimpses into Salvador’s child- ailments so painful that he has lost his pas- hood reveal that he often gave in to other’s sion for filmmaking to the past where young whims, particularly those of his mother. On Salvador (Asier Flores) is doted on by his one such occasion, Salvador becomes the Land of the Lost devoted and hard-working mother Jacinta tutor of construction worker Eduardo (the By Gregg Shapiro Little Rock took off with hot hippie musi- (Cruz). Through these time transitions we muy guapo César Vicente) in exchange for Time sure flies when you’re trying to cian Berkeley (Avan Jogia) and headed watch Salvador develop from a bright. tal- work that needs to be done on the family’s outrun the undead! It’s been ten years for Graceland. On the road again, in a ented and precocious boy into a man who catacomb residence. It is also during this since we first went to Zombieland with humiliating Pontiac Trans Sport, Talla- apocalypse survivors Columbus (Jesse hassee, Columbus, Wichita, and new- Eisenberg), Tallahassee (Woody Har- bie Madison head for Memphis, battling OPENING NOVEMBER 8 relson), Wichita (Emma Stone) and her zombies along the way and going for the kid sister Little Rock (Abigail Breslin). As ZKOTY (Zombie Kill of the Year). Along you might imagine, things have changed the way, Madison takes sick in what is in the sequel Zombieland: Double Tap thought to be a zombie transformation (Sony / Columbia). For one, the zombies and Columbus is tasked with putting her have evolved. They run the gamut from out of her misery. Homers (named for Homer Simpson for As luck would have it, Little Rock and being stupid) to Ninjas (known for their Berkeley aren’t at Graceland when they stealth). A new iteration, nicknamed get there, but neither is Graceland. At the T-800 by Columbus for their Termi- the nearby Hound Dog Hotel, which dou- nator-like determination and near inde- bles as an Elvis shrine, they meet pro- structibility, is also roaming the earth. prietor Nevada (Rosario Dawson), who Some things have stayed the same. tells them that Little Rock and Berkeley Columbus and Wichita are still an item. didn’t stay long and are headed to a com- Tallahassee is still the de facto ringlead- mune known as Babylon. Before they hit er. But Little Rock has done the most the road again, they meet Albuquerque growing up and longs to leave the nest (Luke Wilson) and Flagstaff (Thomas and seek out peers her own age. Middleditch), who are essentially west- The first stop on the fearless four- ern versions of Tallahassee and Colum- some’s road trip is the White House. bus, respectively. This segment contains Once there, they settle into their version some of the funniest scenes in the mov- of domesticity. But change is in the air. ie. Wichita turns down Columbus’ marriage Suffice to say, Zombieland: Dou- proposal (made with the Hope Diamond, ble Tap has almost as many surprises no less) and then splits with Little Rock. as it does zombies (and that’s a lot). Thinking some retail therapy might be Revealing anything more would be tan- the cure, Columbus and Tallahassee tamount to spoiler treason. Almost as head for what remains of a shopping inventive and funny as its predecessor, mall. 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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 19 out in the valley Remembrance, Solidarity and Strength: Hagerstown Hopes and TDoR By Asher Kennedy November 20th is a day that is known ears, I had this enormous ball of plans. to transgender folks across the world. Due to my schedule, TDOR actually was et. Walking and shivering from where It is our solemn memorial to those who the first event that I was able to attend I parked to the square, and I was al- have lost their lives for the strength and outside of a board meeting and attend- ready blown away. There was a crowd conviction to live their lives authentical- ing a local Rotary meeting around Hal- of about 20 people, a couple of which I ly. Transgender Day of Remembrance is loween. It was also my first event back in knew from Hopes, but the rest were just not a joyous day, but its reverence Hagerstown after mov- community members, here to support, and a supportive spousal/partner group to the trans community ing to the Eastern Pan- well, me. Within five minutes the crowd that meets at the same time within less transcends our individu- handle of West Virgin- had doubled. Those that I had not met than a year. Not just a safe space, but a al comforts. Transgender ia in 2010 for college. from the board ran up to me, wrapping network of safety nets. A group that be- Day of Remembrance I had no idea what to me in hugs. Someone gave me a coat to lieves in strength in numbers as strongly also happens to be the expect. My little ol’ wear. Jeff gave me a paper and let me as it does in building bridges. Transgen- day that I realized I had hometown – the same know I was going to speak the names of der folks are not a niche, but a core as- found my home with Hag- town that I avoided out those we had lost over the year. Usually set and responsibility. Our people threw erstown Hopes. of the fear of not pass- nervous about public speaking, I felt a the first bricks that kicked off the last fif- Two months prior, I ing, or running into calm sincerity that wasn’t with me when ty years, and in our corner of Western had received a phone call someone from high I had walked up only 30 minutes prior. I Maryland, we are not just celebrated, we from the board president, Jeff Rohrer, school – hosting an official proclamation felt loved. I felt included. I felt valued by are carried and embraced when we need that I had been chosen to join a group and vigil for the most solemn day of the something far bigger than me as a single be. that I (erroneously) saw as benefitting year to a community that had historically, individual. When I read the names of those lost only the LGB sections of our great com- been ignored by mainstream society. My voice cracked more than once this year, what gets me through it is the munity. Idealistic and wet behind the It was cold, and I did not have a jack- as I read the names. I felt tears stream names of all the people I have met since down my face when I was finished, while joining Hopes. Our strength is our love we shared a moment of silence. But it and support, and we would love to share was after the candles and the memori- it with each and every one of you. t al, when we were just standing there. A

dozen-and-a-half individuals of all facets of life, social class, race, religion, orien- Queen and King of tations, and genders; and I wish I knew who put their arm around me, but their Hagerstown Pride! touch was akin to setting of a roaring fire Join us Friday, November 29th to crown the from within me. I was home. next Queen and King of Hagerstown Pride! Hagerstown Hopes is not just a fam- Butch Kelly and Chasity Vain have done an ily to me, but to every trans and enby amazing job representing Hagerstown Pride. person that loses their own by claiming The pageant will happen at The Lodge at their identity. From a sprinkling of less 9:30 pm. than ten, to a force of almost 60 strong

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love affair with gravy that I couldn’t begin names and the stories and thoughts that to explain, plus, if I don’t have to cook or went into them. I love every second of clean up everything, that is the best way watching someone try on names until ’ Asher’s to enjoy a feast by my standards. I just Winters they find the one that fits, and they say, don’t have any special traditions or rules Wonderland “Yes. This is mine now.” World about the festivities themselves. As long Evey Winters To give someone your name – that’s Asher Kennedy as there is a plate of food for me at some a gift. It’s a shortcut to you and you say, point, I am a happy man. “Here I am. This is me.” It’s like giving Thanksgiving is about being thankful A Phone Number someone the phone number to your Guilt and for what we have. And I have a pleth- soul. And just like when you give your ora. I have three decades of memories to digits to someone, there’s vulnerability My Soul Empty Places of delicious meals past with a variety of in that. You don’t want them to misuse it, people. I have loved ones, and friends Changing one’s name takes a lot of ef- take it wrong, or forget it, right? Thanksgiving is a weird holiday. We and a career, a home, a future. I have fort, anguish, work, and patience. So And it matters because every time stopped getting together as an extend- things I never thought I would have be- why do we do it? Why are names so someone calls up my old name, that ed family before I was eight. Then until I fore I transitioned. But what I am the important to us as transgen- dead name, that says something. was almost finished with high school, my most thankful for, is something that I find der people? Over the last few Maybe they don’t realize that name parents, siblings, and occasionally my myself having pangs of guilt over. I am years, but particularly the last Name doesn’t go to me any more, or it grandmother would go thankful I am here. I am thank- few months, I’ve lived the ex- was just a force of habit? It can be to Shoney’s for the buf- ful my name wasn’t read from perience of crafting a name for game benign in that way. But too many fet. My mother worked at A trans a list on Wednesday. myself and then wearing it into times it’s an act of hubris, an at- Wal-Mart, and she obvi- I just walked away for a few the world. And sometimes I ask tempt to define my identity on their ously didn’t want to cook Thanksgiving minutes after typing that, be- myself why I am going through own terms. They’re saying they for a demanding family cause the guilt is real, and typ- all this stress. own my identity. of varied tastes before ing it out just made it so much They say that to name a thing is to And that is why this dead-naming hits being screamed at by customers who bigger. I don’t feel guilty for being alive. own it. My dead name was given to me so hard for a transgender person, right? couldn’t find the TV or toy they “need- I am glad to be alive, as someone who by people who cared for me, enforced by We’ve lived that our entire lives and ed.” When I was home for Thanksgiving had a suicide routine, being alive is an people and systems that had authority when someone refuses to use our real break from college, we went to Cracker absolute honor that I am forever grate- over me. So I wore it out of a sense of name – a name we nurtured and craft- Barrel as a family, and now as an adult, ful for. What I feel guilty about is every duty, resignation, and guilt at first, then ed for ourselves – when both my wife and I single name that habit and fear. they refuse to come work jobs that keep was read this week I feel about my to us on our own us from having the is someone who dead name the way terms using the gift day free to fill with doesn’t get to have Ralphie felt about we gave them, that turkey naps and turkey with their that pink bunny out- feels violent. Be- pigskin snaps. family, or friends, or fit in A Christmas cause it is. Don’t get me wish vegan options Story – if I’d been I’m so proud wrong, I will, and were better than given the option, I’d of my trans sib- have, and will roasted cabbage have worn literal- lings for having the continue to make or cauliflower. That ly anything else. It strength to take full-spread turkey those names aren’t felt like every time their own names, dinners at random people who died I heard that name I and for reclaiming points during the peacefully in their was being mocked. themselves. And if year because noth- beds at the end of a life well spent, they By naming me that way others had de- you’re a cisgender person, I hope when ing tastes better than a mouth stuffed are people who died in fear, and an- clared ownership over me. My identity a trans person gives you their name that to capacity with as many salty savory guish, and terror. For existing. For do- started with them and they told me what you treat it with the honor and respect things plus cranberry sauce. The past ing nothing more than I do when I get it was. that it deserves both as a way to reach two years, we have spent the day with dressed and leave my house to go to To be transgender is to be assigned. this person and talk to them, but for the my best friend’s family. They consider work, or visit a friend, or catch a movie, It’s to be assigned a gender, assigned a radical art that it is. t me another son, and my best friend has a name, and assigned roles and identities to exist in a public world because we all that aren’t yours. At least at first. But as have that inalienable right. you come into being transgender, and While I’m sitting at the table of a fam- out as a person, you reclaim yourself one ily who’s welcomed me into their home, centimeter at a time. You sift through the I will be thinking of those who don’t get piles of identity forced on you and dis- that opportunity. Not just those who have card the parts that don’t belong. And lost their families for living their truths, somewhere in these piles of experience but those who won’t ever get a chance and learning that you’ve accumulated to reconcile, or start their own. Each and over the years, you find your name. every empty plate at every holiday meal, And so, you take this name and we not by choice, but because of someone wear it. Naming ourselves is a radical else’s senseless violence. Because their act because it flips the script – and the lives were snuffed out by the hatred that entire table that the script was resting says I don’t deserve a right to be here. on – about identity. Taking a name for Because for every day that I get to wake ourselves says, “I own me now.” Most up and go out into the world, I am failing people never question their given names those who fought for me to have that op- and identities, and here we are with the portunity if I forget them, and what their lives, and the sacrifices of such, have audacity to put that down and declare t ourselves anew. given me. And the names we find are stunning. I love my name. I love my trans friends’

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planning, favors, and invitations. Costs you’re using a professional caterer. rect. I’m going to give you very different Getting the that are related but are usually not in- Your guest list decisions affect the advice! Expect that everyone you invite cluded in the wedding budget per se time and effort involved in everything will say yes. If you create your guest list Wedding include clothing, gifts, the rehearsal din- related to your guests, from sending in- with care, your acceptance rate should ner, rings, and other jewelry. vitations to the length of the reception. be much higher than that large sample You Want Honeymoons are generally not in- In a less tangible but equally important suggests. David Egan cluded in the wedding budget. Keeping way, your guest list affects the energy or, Who will you invite? That’s a big the two separate will keep you from trad- if you prefer, the feel of your ceremony question! My best advice and the advice ing off the honeymoon money for the and, to an even greater extent, that I most frequently offer wedding money and vice versa. your reception. comes from Judith Martin, Congrats, Couples’ total wedding spending In general, more aka “Miss Manners”: In- varies widely. For example, a wedding guests mean vite the people you love You’re Engaged! ceremony and reception for 100 guests more of every- and who love you. It’s re- might cost a couple thousand dollars for thing! It’s a major ally that simple! Where do you need to start with your a simple backyard affair. That same size driver of your bud- Once you have your wedding planning? Based on my expe- of wedding at Chase Court, the venue I get. guest list complete, give rience working with thousands of own in Baltimore, commonly costs Your guest list or take ten or so people, couples, the two most important between $15,000 and $25,000. is the number of you have an expected things to know – two things you Now The average wedding in Baltimore, people you plan guest count. Do your have to know before you spend taking into account all sizes and to invite to your very best to make it as a dime – are how many people what? shapes, costs about $37,000. Your wedding. It’s not real as possible. you plan to invite, and how much guest count has a lot to do with that the number that As you might guess, money you have available to spend. Ev- final number, as we’ll see shortly. actually attend. these two parameters, ery aspect of your wedding planning is You absolutely need to know from You won’t know your budget and your related to those two things: your budget the start how much you can spend, with- how many people guest list, are intercon- and your anticipated guest count. in a range of a couple of thousand dol- accept your invita- tion until 30 days nected. My counsel is to decide who you Your budget – Your budget rep- lars. That’s close enough at this point. before your wedding and, until your wed- want at your wedding and then see what resents the total amount of money you Your guest list – The size and com- ding day, how many actually attend. All that buys with the budget you’ve set. t have to spend for absolutely everything. position of your guest list has significant of your major decisions will have been David L. Egan is the proprietor That includes your venue, catering, pho- impact on your wedding. Your guest list af- made by then. and steward of the castle at Chase Court, tography, entertainment, decorating, offi- fects the choice of size, style, and location You may have heard that 20% of a wedding and event venue in downtown ciant, ceremony music, and cake. Other of your venue. The number of guests also guests decline. That average, over some Baltimore. Visit Chasecourt.com, and fol- things you might choose to include are determines the cost of food, drink, and ca- unknown thousands of weddings, can be low ChaseCourtWeddingVenue on Insta- transportation, videography, wedding tering staff, which is charged per person if misleading – and may not even be cor- gram and Facebook. Happy Thanksgiving from all of us at Baltimore OUTloud

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Nov. 30 Very Merry Holiday Drag Brunch Come celebrate the holiday season with M’Ara Diamond, Victoria Blair, An- gelica Lize, Krystal Nova, Shawnna Alexander and Victoria Bohmore! at Rams Head on Stage in Annapolis. Saturday, November 30. Ticket sales benefit Annapolis Pride and this is an event you won’t want to miss! Doors open at 11:30am, performances begin at 12:30pm sharp.

Nov. 29 – Dec. 1 Kennedy Krieger Institute’s 30th Annual Festival of Trees

Dec. 7 Skating with Santa at the Inner Harbor Ice Rink Santa will be at the Inner Harbor Ice Rink for skating and photos. Rink ad- mission is required to skate with Santa. For more information or to see our pricing and hours and other winter events go to waterfrontpartnership.org/ waterfront-fun/inner-harbor-ice-rink.

Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington, DC presents The Holiday Show Not only is Santa coming to town, but Festival of Trees is coming to town The Holiday Show will be presented on Saturday, December 7, 2019 at for the 30th year in a row! From Friday, November 29 to Sunday, December 1, the elves from the Kennedy Krieger Institute will transform the Maryland 8:00pm, Saturday, December 14, 2019 at 3:00pm (ASL) and 8:00pm, State Fairgrounds, 2200 York Rd, Lutherville-Timonium, MD into a winter and Sunday, December 14, 2019 at 3:00pm (ASL) at the Lincoln Theatre, wonderland complete with decorated trees, a gingerbread town, shopping, located at 1215 U Street NW, Washington, DC. Tickets range from $25 to holiday activities and entertainment for children of all ages. $65 and can be purchased by calling 877-435-9849 or online at gmcw.org.

Dec. 1, 2019 – Jan. 10, 2020 Special: Handel Messiah Couture Trees at Edward Polochick conductor and harpsichord leads the BSO Symphonic Lord Baltimore Hotel Chorale in this holiday favorite, Handel’s Messiah, featuring the iconic “Hal- Lord Baltimore Hotel’s annual Cou- lelujah” Chorus. Sat, Dec 7, at 3 pm and Sun, Dec 8, at 3 pm at the Joseph ture Tree Competition returns this Meyerhoff Symphony Hall. Tickets can be purchased through the BSO Ticket holiday season. The hotel will dis- Office at 410.783.8000 or 877.BSO.1444, or online at BSOmusic.org play ~25 trees throughout the lobby and mezzanine level for families and Dec. 8 guests to enjoy from December 1, Tiffany Series Holiday Concert 2019 through January 10, 2020. Sunday, December 8th at 3 pm at Brown Memorial Presbyterian Church, 1320 Park Avenue, Dec. 3 Organist Michael Britt will perform Christmas with Choral Arts a medley of popular holiday songs The Baltimore Basilica will be hosting on Tuesday, December 3 at 7:30 pm then we’ll all get to sing our favorite holiday choral favorites in the historic and inspiring setting of The Baltimore holiday songs, surrounded by Tiffany Basilica continuing a 36-year tradition. Explore the Christmas spirit with the stained glass windows and the beau- Emmy award-winning Christmas with Choral Arts, and listen to the chorus tiful sounds of the church’s famous and orchestra. Music Director Anthony Blake Clark guides the chorus and au- 1931 Skinner organ. dience in a lively program Tickets are $20 and are available of holiday works, making online at: browndowntown.org/cur- the classic songs you know rent-season, and also at the door. and love come alive. This Children and students get FREE ad- concert will be broadcast mission. Free parking in the school on WMAR/ABC2 on Christ- lot on the 100 block of Mosher Street mas Eve and Day, as well and shuttle service to the church will as on 88.1 WYPR Radio be available. For more information, and 91.5FM, WBJC Radio. please call 410-523-1542 or email: Parking available in Frank- TiffanySeries.BrownMemorial@ lin Street garage. gmail.com Tickets: $25 - $76

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 25 out & ABOUT // David’s Thoughts Retirement Income BARCELONA | with a Sprinkle of Sitges Rules of Thumb that sits in the city center. During the by David Placher day, tourists flock there to see its history. Barcelona is an amaz- The quarter has the Roman and Medie- ing city filled with famous val walls and the remains of the Roman places, breathtaking temple. The Palau Reial Major, a complex sights, and great food. It’s of buildings, was built from 1359 to 1362. Spain’s second largest The Cathedral of the Holy Cross and city (Madrid is first), it is Saint Eulalia (aka Barcelona Cathedral) located in the Catalonia was constructed from the thirteen to the region, and it is the Cata- fifteenth centuries. At night, however, the lan capital. Its population quarter’s mysterious alleyways and en- identity is divided: many chanting square transform into areas that identify as Catalan rather offer rowdy parties, dive bars, and cock- than Spanish. The city is tail lounges. The quarters contain some welcoming to the LGBT of the city’s best restaurants and nightlife. community and it pro- Plaza-palooza But the party is not just in the Gothic Parrots Pub, serves coffee, cocktails, motes freedom, respect, Quarter. The main LGBT area is the Exi- and desserts. On certain nights it has live and tolerance. In 2014 the ample district, (aka Gaixample). The Pla- music performances. The Montroig Cafe Catalan parliament passed an anti-ho- mum height of 564 feet. The interior has ta Bar is a unique bar that offers a sun is a bar and restaurant with spacious mophobia act which punish those who five aisles and large columns that reach terrace to sip cocktails and meet locals. and shaded space on its terrace. It’s not attack members of the LGBT community over 140 feet. Its stained-glass windows It is always a cocktail-fueled time when known for its food, but for the crowds it with heavy fines, in addition to its other provide captivating light that enhances its on the terrace. The BoysBar BCN is a attracts. Sitges also has LGBT events laws that punish by incarceration. With beauty. small bar that offers a cozy environment throughout the summer months: Pride Barcelona’s reputation as one of the most The popular Montjuic Castle sits on with current music hits played in the back- (June 3rd, 2020) and Sitges Bears Week progressive cities in Europe, it truly is a Montjuic hill. The cable car ride and the ground. The Moon is a Caribbean-themed (September 4th to 13th, 2020) where safe city for tourists castle’s location offer bar that offers to just be tourists. stunning views of the a taste of the The Basilica de city. The castle started Caribbean cul- la Sagrada Familia as a fort in 1640, but ture. Although (aka Sagrada Fa- with the erection of bas- some may milia) is a popular tions and battlements think a Carib- designation; people it became a castle 50 bean-themed flock there to see this years later. The Mont- gay bar in architectural marvel juic Castle is infamous Barcelona is as its construction in Catalan history crazy, others finally finishes. Its books because it was may think it is construction started used as a place where genius. It pro- in 1882 and it was political prisoners were vides some- designed by Antoni imprisoned, tortured, thing different Gaudi (1852-1926). and executed during for the locals Gaudi mixed Gothic the Spanish Civil War and tourists. and curvilinear Art (1936 to 1939). Today Barcelona Nouveau forms in the castle is a military shouldn’t be Love his architectural and museum and artifacts your only stop the light engineering style. from the region are dis- in the area. Gaudi dedicated his life to the building placed and a cozy cafe is available inside. Sitges is a coastal town backed by the people from all over the world attend until he was killed by a tram in 1926. It is There is a drawbridge over (what was once Parc Natural del Garraf Mountains, and it these events. So if you are planning in- scheduled to be complete in 2026, exactly a moat) a well-groomed lawn with beautify is only about 50 miles southwest of Bar- ternational travel in the summer, remem- 100 years since Gaudi’s death. When the flowers that leads to the entrance. celona. It is filled with places that cater to ber it is better in Barcelona and even sex- basilica is complete, it will have a maxi- The Gothic Quarter is a historic area the LGBT community. There is no better ier in Sitges. t place to start an eve- Sitges – waving ning than in the heart the colors of Sitges; its town square Place Indu- stria. There are gay bars and restaurants on all sides. The Par- rots Pub has been serving the LGBT community for over 30 years. It is a popular bar where people start the night. The seats face toward the square, so you get to see the beautiful faces coming and go- Barcelona’s your ing. The Central Bar, oyster from this located across from hotel roof deck 26 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com YOUR MONEY // REAL ESTATE

Retirement Income the fees on your investments, increasing or financial advisor to determine what is the risk you’re taking, or by looking to appropriate for your situation. improve upon the quality of the invest- Investing in stocks is subject to risk Rules of Thumb ments in your portfolio. If you’re able to including possible loss of principal. increase your net return, you’re likely to Increasing the risk on your invest- By Woody Derricks ment balance as income. For example, if see a larger investment base from which ments could increase your potential for If you’re casually wondering if you’re on you need $40,000 per year to meet the you can take income during retirement. investment loss. the right track for retirement, you can balance of your income, then you’ll want Contact us to discuss how we help Taking a specific percentage as in- use some simple math to to start retirement with at least $1 our clients with retirement planning and come from your portfolio does not elim- help determine how you’re million of total investments. portfolio optimization strategies. inate the risk that your money could run t doing. Normally, I’m not a What you can out. fan of rules of thumb be- do if you don’t have As a Registered cause so many variables enough saved – Investment Advisor are at play and retirement is You have several (RIA), Partnership so personalized. That said, this options if your invest- Wealth Management can give you some idea of what ment balance isn’t on is committed to pro- you’ll need for retirement track. First, you can viding its clients with income. spend less now or in financial planning How to determine retirement. Lowering and wealth manage- your income needs – the amount of income ment services to help Take an estimate of you need reduces the them work towards your total expenses size of the investment port- their financial goals. and modify those for folio required to meet those Partnership Wealth changes you expect expenses. Management has a in retirement (such as Second, you can save long history of work- more travel, fewer commuting expenses, more. If you increase your ing with the LGBT greater healthcare costs, etc.). After you monthly or annual contribu- community. Among get that total, subtract your estimated tions to your investment ac- the many services income from Social Security, pensions, counts, you could have more offered are financial and any other income streams you might available to help meet your The opinions planning and estate planning strategies receive. What’s left is the amount of in- income goals in retirement. voiced in this material are for informa- for gay and lesbian couples. Financial come you’ll need from your investments. Third, you can look for ways to in- tional purposes only and are not intend- planning is an important part of prepar- Generally, we suggest taking no crease your net return on investment. ed to provide specific advice to any in- ing for the future. More at Partnership- more than 4% per year from your invest- This can be accomplished by reducing dividual. Consult your legal, tax, and/ wm.com.

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LGBT events were welcoming and accessible to the deaf Sir Kevin community. In the fight for di- Lowery versity in the leather communi- Leather ty another crusader has fallen. Line I have known Kevin for Rodney Burger many years and would see him often. He was a member the leather club BLADeaf (Bal- timore Leather Association of Another the Deaf) and for a short time wrote a leather column for the Baltimore Gay Life newspa- Crusader Falls per under the name Sir K. He taught sign language classes This has not been an easy year for the at the GLCCB (now the Pride 2013 the Mid-Atlantic leather community. It’s not Center of Maryland). He was also the sign first day that same-sex marriage enough that we’re living in a divided na- language interpreter for countless LGBT was legal in Maryland.) It seemed tion, but many of the same prejudices have events. At the Mr. Maryland Leather 2019 odd that Kevin wasn’t there. spilled over into our community. People are contest he was onstage all afternoon as Dave explained that he met treated rudely based on race, gender, gen- the ASL interpreter. I saw him onstage at Kevin in September 1997 when der expression, their disabilities, or even Frederick Pride in June. In April 2017 he they were both in the Baltimore which leather club one belongs to or which invited me to his home for lunch and we Men’s Chorus. (Kevin was also bar one visits. Just when you think that sat outside on a beautiful spring day while a member of the Handel Choir of things could not get worse, in the last few he proudly told me about the Mid-Atlantic Baltimore.) They quickly became months the leather community has lost sev- Deaf & Interpreter Fund (MADIF), which friends and would often go to the eral of the few leather folks who dedicated he founded to not only make sure that piano bar at the Club Hippo. He their leather journey to working to make the LGBT events had interpreters, but also also knew Kevin’s partner Tom- community better. I recently wrote about my to ensure that those skilled persons were my, who passed away in 2006. Af- dear friend Vern Stewart who fought to make compensated. ter leaving the chorus, they went sure that persons of color had representa- On a recent cold November day, I re- their separate ways. In 2008 at tion in leather contest. On November 10th turned to Kevin’s home to sit down with his the Mid-Atlantic leather community lost Sir boy Dave “Pug” Spellman and his husband “Kevin would want Kevin Lowery who worked to make sure that Joey. (They were married on January 1st, to be remembered as a good man who helped people in distress. He was at his best in those situations. He would also want to be remembered for the creation of bar nights. Recently Kevin learned that New employmeNt opportuNity! he had liver cancer, and after treatment MADIF and for the at Johns Hopkins was sent home. He New outdoor resort opening this summer located north of passed away peacefully in his sleep only Romney, Hampshire Co. West Virginia. three years he served two weeks after his diagnosis. I asked Dave how he thought Kevin We need the following positions filled within the next four as the organization’s would like to be remembered. He said, to six weeks. Many of these positions will be year round! president.” “He would want to be remembered as a good man who helped people in distress. Restaurant: Bakers, Bartenders, Bar-backs, the ShipMates Club of Baltimore’s anni- He was at his best in those situations. He versary dinner Dave ran into Kevin, who would also want to be remembered for Bus & cleaning staff, Dish/Pot washers, was in full leather and had been sashed the creation of MADIF and for the three Food prep & Line cooks, Maryland LeatherSIR 2008. He looked years he served as the organization’s Floor managers, Host & Wait staff. very different from those days in the cho- president.” (You can donate and learn rus where he once appeared in a “Three more about MADIF by visiting: Midatlan- outside Help: Activities attendant, Groundskeepers, Divas” event singing numbers from Hello ticinterpreterfund.org.) Sir Kevin Lowery Horse tenders, Facility maintenance staff. Dolly! Dave said he went up to him and was truly a leather man who worked hard whispered, “Don’t forget that one person to make the leather community a better Please complete the job application at the following link in the room remembers you from when place for everyone. I am deeply saddened you were Dolly Levi.” to report that another leather crusader and we will get back to you! They quickly reconnected and in time has fallen. As the holiday season begins, https://rainbowcountryresorts.com/job-application realized that they had romantic feelings my wish is that we all work harder to be Come grow with us!!! for each other, and a poly family was kinder to each other, show some leather formed. Dave, who was awarded the ti- fellowship, and become someone who tle of Mid-Atlantic Community Bootblack works to help make the leather commu- 2008, along with Kevin and Joey could nity a welcoming place for everyone. t be found at countless leather events and 28 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 22, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 29 410-539-4850 227227 W.W. ChaseChase StSt

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