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A Practical Christian Ministry for Parental Grief and Loss Southeastern University FireScholars Doctor of Ministry (DMin) Barnett College of Ministry & Theology Spring 2021 A PRACTICAL CHRISTIAN MINISTRY FOR PARENTAL GRIEF AND LOSS DonnaGillian Bailey Southeastern University - Lakeland, [email protected] Follow this and additional works at: https://firescholars.seu.edu/dmin Part of the Christianity Commons, and the Practical Theology Commons Recommended Citation Bailey, DonnaGillian, "A PRACTICAL CHRISTIAN MINISTRY FOR PARENTAL GRIEF AND LOSS" (2021). Doctor of Ministry (DMin). 17. https://firescholars.seu.edu/dmin/17 This Dissertation is brought to you for free and open access by the Barnett College of Ministry & Theology at FireScholars. It has been accepted for inclusion in Doctor of Ministry (DMin) by an authorized administrator of FireScholars. For more information, please contact [email protected]. A PRACTICAL CHRISTIAN MINISTRY FOR PARENTAL GRIEF AND LOSS A PROJECT DISSERTATION SUBMITTED TO THE FACULTY OF THE SCHOOL OF DIVINITY IN THE BARNETT COLLEGE OF MINISTRY AND THEOLOGY AT SOUTHEASTERN UNIVERSITY IN PARTIAL FULFILMENT OF THE REQUIREMENTS FOR THE DEGREE OF DOCTOR OF MINISTRY BY DONNA GILLIAN BAILEY 2021 ii Copyright © 2021 by Gillian Bailey All rights reserved Table of Contents ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ............................................................................................................. x ABSTRACT .................................................................................................................................... xi CHAPTER ONE: INTRODUCTION .......................................................................................... 3 Statement of the Problem ............................................................................................................. 3 Relationship to Ministry ............................................................................................................... 7 Statement of Limitations ............................................................................................................ 10 Contextual Scope ....................................................................................................................... 11 Terminology Defined ................................................................................................................. 12 Suffering ................................................................................................................................ 13 Pain ........................................................................................................................................ 14 Crisis ...................................................................................................................................... 15 Trauma ................................................................................................................................... 16 Loss ........................................................................................................................................ 16 Mourning ............................................................................................................................... 17 Lament ................................................................................................................................... 17 Hope ....................................................................................................................................... 19 Comfort .................................................................................................................................. 20 Intended Research ...................................................................................................................... 21 Project Goals and Objectives .................................................................................................... 22 CHAPTER TWO: THE PROJECT IN PERSPECTIVE ............................................................... 24 Historical ................................................................................................................................... 25 Parental Grief and Suffering in Contemporary Literature ........................................................ 29 Death ...................................................................................................................................... 30 Grief ....................................................................................................................................... 31 The Stigma of Grief ............................................................................................................... 34 Processing Grief ..................................................................................................................... 36 Emotional "Stages" of Grief .................................................................................................. 43 Death of a Child ......................................................................................................................... 62 Hope in Contemporary Literature ............................................................................................. 70 Coping with Grief .................................................................................................................. 73 A New Normal for the Grieving ................................................................................................. 77 Religion and Healing ................................................................................................................. 78 Conclusion ................................................................................................................................. 81 CHAPTER THREE: THEOLOGICAL AND BIBLICAL DIMENSIONS ................................... 83 Introduction ............................................................................................................................... 83 Adam and Eve: Disobedience Resulting in Suffering and the Promise of Redemption ............. 89 Hagar: Finding Hope in Suffering ............................................................................................. 92 Joseph: God's Favor During Human Suffering ......................................................................... 94 Job: Remain Faithful while Suffering ........................................................................................ 95 Hannah: Finding Peace in Suffering ....................................................................................... 100 Rizpah: Finding God Through Laments .................................................................................. 101 Habakkuk: God's Sovereignty in Suffering .............................................................................. 101 Jesus, The Suffering Servant .................................................................................................... 104 Jesus' Suffering ........................................................................................................................ 109 Paul: Pressing on despite his Suffering ................................................................................... 113 Summary .................................................................................................................................. 117 CHAPTER FOUR ........................................................................................................................ 118 Introduction ............................................................................................................................. 118 Theology of Suffering and Grief .............................................................................................. 118 The origin of suffering ......................................................................................................... 118 God Understands Human Suffering and Grief ........................................................................ 121 Suffering Brings Growth .......................................................................................................... 126 Theology of Hope and Comfort ................................................................................................ 129 Summary .................................................................................................................................. 137 CHAPTER FIVE: PROJECT APPLICATION ........................................................................... 139 Synthesis of the Research into Practical Ministry ................................................................... 139 The grieving family .............................................................................................................. 141 Understanding the unseen impacts of grief. ......................................................................... 144 The Circle of Love, a long-term support circle. ................................................................... 146 Creating and hosting support groups. .................................................................................. 147 Creating Effective Ministry Teams ...................................................................................... 148 Self-Care .............................................................................................................................. 149 Anticipated Outcomes 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