Mom in the Middle, Can Not Bring Daughter and Husband Together DEAR ABBY: I Was Recently Mar- Want to Tell Them Who Did It
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The Goodland Star-News / Friday, September 1, 2006 5 Mom in the middle, can not bring daughter and husband together DEAR ABBY: I was recently mar- want to tell them who did it. I really coming a young woman, and sharing transsexual. Your friend needs under- BRENDA IN AUSTIN, TEXAS ried. I have a daughter, “Courtney,” abigail need some advice. — HURTING IN a bed with her father could be too standing, not isolation. DEAR BRENDA: The type of par- from a previous relationship. Things van buren HAYWARD, CALIF. stimulating, for both of them. If he has By all means he should see a psy- ties you have described are more for were great before the wedding. We DEAR HURTING: Pick up the further doubts about this, he should chiatrist — one who specializes in adults than for children. It is more even included Courtney in the plan- phone and call the Rape, Abuse and consult his daughter’s pediatrician. gender disorders. He should have important that your little girl be able ning. Afterward, however, things Incest National Network (RAINN). DEAR ABBY: About a month ago, counseling if he wants to take this to enjoy her birthday with some of dear abby turned sour. • The toll-free number is (800) 656- I was shocked out of my shoes. My where it is heading, and also to cope HER friends than it be a command Courtney kept causing problems 4673. Counselors there will guide you longtime friend, “Orville,” told me he with the loss of his friends. It would performance for your sisters. Please with my husband, and they both wasn’t healthy for either of you. Be- to specialized services that can help had bought $280 worth of women’s be a kindness to tell him that. consider this next year, because I looked to me to work it out. I felt like fore leaving your husband, it would you. clothes. He went on to describe how DEAR ABBY: We always have a don’t think you are being fair to your I was being torn in two. No matter have been better to try family coun- Their entire focus is on helping the “great” it feels to wear them. He says large birthday party for my 8-year-old daughter. what I said to either of them, or if I just seling to determine if a licensed pro- victims of sexual assault. No one will he has been a cross-dresser since boy- daughter every year. We hold the party DEAR ABBY: I have a problem. I left the room to force them to work it fessional could improve the level of “force” you to reveal anything you hood when he started wearing his later in the evening when we know have been having this recurring dream out without me, things only got worse. communication, tolerance and under- don’t want to. sister’s clothes. When she found out, people can come if it falls on a week- that I am getting married to my boy- I left my husband over this. I was standing between the “combatants.” However, after counseling, you she continued dressing him up and he day because of work. friend of four years, and every time I stressed out. Everyone was telling me DEAR ABBY: I am a 17-year-old may decide to tell the authorities what loved it. My sister returned to college this have the dream, I end up backing out I should not let my daughter dictate female who lives in a large family. was done to you in order to prevent Orville says he’s a woman trapped year, and I knew she could not come of the wedding. In other words, I al- what was going on in my life. But I’m There are two brothers, two sisters, your uncle from raping and assaulting in a man’s body — something about because she had a class that evening. ways panic and run away. What does not going to force my child to live in three cousins, one aunt, two uncles, other vulnerable family members or brain lobes. I saw it once in the news- So I asked my husband if we should this dream mean? — DREAMER IN a home where she does not feel love my parents and both my grandparents neighbors. I’m keeping my fingers paper, but didn’t read it because I have the party on another day or on the BIRCHLEAF, VA. and does not want to be. Did I make living here — so things are very open. crossed that you will. wasn’t interested. weekend. He said, “No, we’re having DEAR DREAMER: I’m no expert the right decision? I still love my hus- When I was 5, one of my uncles DEAR ABBY: A friend of mine is Orville has told a lot of his friends it on her birthday in the evening, and in dreams, but to me, your dream band, but I must look out for what is started molesting me. It lasted for a single father with a 12-year-old and now he is isolated. I don’t go over if they can’t come, they can see her at means that on some level you’re not best for my daughter. — SECOND eight years. After I was 6 or 7, the daughter. The mother is no longer in- there either, because I don’t want to a later date.” He said, what if they fully committed to marrying your THOUGHTS IN BLUE SPRINGS, other uncle began raping me almost volved in their lives. hear it. (He even said I should try it.) can’t come on the weekend either? So boyfriend. Pay attention to it because MO. daily, and it went on for the next eight I am concerned because the 12- We are in our 60s, and I think Orville the party stayed the same. that’s something that you should ex- DEAR SECOND THOUGHTS: years. year-old sleeps in the same bed as her is headed for trouble. I just can’t be- Football started that night for my amine with both eyes open, in the Of course you have to look out for I told my parents about the moles- father. Although he claims nothing is lieve he is gay. I am heterosexual other sister and her son, and my clear light of day. what is best for your child. Although tation, and we went to the police. But going on, I believe — and have stated (when I get the chance). Does he need husband’s sister had to work late. I Dear Abby is written by Abigail you may have done the right thing in because they didn’t do anything about — that it is not a good idea. What do a shrink? Please advise. — feel like a heel! I agree that I don’t Van Buren, also known as Jeanne leaving, however, I think you left too the molestation, I didn’t tell them you think? I think it would help him SHOCKED IN OKEECHOBEE, want my daughter’s party to be a week Phillips, and was founded by her soon. about the everyday rape. to hear someone else’s opinion. — FLA. or two after her birthday, and I don’t mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Courtney had never had to share her It has been three years since it JANE IN BURLINGAME, CALIF. DEAR SHOCKED: Feeling that want to combine mine with hers, since Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. mother’s love and attention with any- stopped happening, and my uncle has DEAR JANE: I agree the girl is too one is trapped in the body of someone they are two days apart. What do you Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. one before. She was fighting for total told me he is sorry. I feel I need some- old to be sleeping with her dad. A 12- of the opposite sex does not make the think about this? Couldn’t they miss possession of her parent, which one to talk to about this, but I don’t year-old girl is well on her way to be- person “gay.” It means he or she is a one event to come to a party? — SATURDAY EVENING SEPTEMBER 2, 2006 SUNDAY EVENING SEPTEMBER 3, 2006 6PM 6:30 7PM 7:30 8PM 8:30 9PM 9:30 10PM 10:30 6PM 6:30 7PM 7:30 8PM 8:30 9PM 9:30 10PM 10:30 E S E = Eagle Cable S = S&T Telephone E S E = Eagle Cable S = S&T Telephone Cold Case Files: Crimes “The Riverman” (‘04, Drama) Bruce Greenwood. 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