May 24, 2019 | Volume XVII, Issue 2 Taking Steps Against HIV by Aaron Cahall Community Partners

May 24, 2019 | Volume XVII, Issue 2 Taking Steps Against HIV By Aaron Cahall community partners. AIDS Walk Chase Brexton Health Care With the event right Are you ready to walk and rock to bring around the corner, we & Music HIV and AIDS in Baltimore to zero? asked Clare Elliott, de- In just two weeks, the Baltimore AIDS velopment manager for Festival set Walk & Music Festival 2019 will take over Chase Brexton Health for June 9th Power Plant Live for a day of activities, Care, to share a little music, food, and fun in support of HIV bit more about how the event will help end and AIDS education, prevention, testing HIV and AIDS in Baltimore, and what’s and treatment programs of Chase Brex- new this year. ton Health Care and its How will proceeds from the event be used? Funds raised by the Baltimore AIDS Cult classic Walk & Music Festival will fund Chase – John Brexton’s new HIV medication delivery Keeping Waters service. This new service allows pa- the pace – credit: Greg AIDS Walk Gorman tients living or working near our centers 2018 to receive their prescriptions at no ad- —continued on page 4

By Ed Gunts In his in- Filmmaker John Waters calls his terview with 1988 movie Hairspray “the gift that Meyers, keeps on giving,” because it has had Waters, 73, so many versions. said he doesn’tMister mind being labeled a cult Know it But there’s one version that has director, even though not everyone would version.” yet to see the light of day. say that’s good. “I can’t believe “I want to do the porn version,” “In Hollywood, it’s the worst thing that Pecker wasn’t dirty he revealed recently. “Pubic Hair- you can ever say, because to them ‘cult’ enough for you,” spray!” means two smart people like it and Meyers all Waters, who is based in Balti- it lost every penny. Which is true in John Waters replied. more, went on NBC’s “Late Night my movies.” Meyers wanted to know with Seth Meyers” show to kick off Waters said he didn’t tell studios kicks off how Waters pulled off one a nationwide tour to promote his he wanted to make cult movies. nationwide scene in Pecker, in which he new book, Mr. Know-It-All: The “I never went in and said I want got rats to have sex a certain Tarnished Wisdom of a Filth El- to make a cult movie,” he said. “I al- tour for part way. der. ways had to lie and say, Everybody “I know how to get them to The book, his ninth, is part in America is going to love this mov- advice book, have oral sex. You put peanut advice book, part memoir, part ie! And they believed it sometimes. I part memoir butter on there,” Waters said. recap of his last seven films, and failed upwards.” “But I wanted the missionary part celebrity tell-all, with anec- Waters wanted to make sure position. They wouldn’t do it dotes about many of the stars Meyers didn’t mispronounce the sexually and I thought, what do we have to put on, he’s worked with over the years. suggestive title of his 1998 movie, Pecker. like Ben or Willard, show them rat movies? Farrar, Straus, and Giroux is It’s “Pecker, Pecker. I thought you said Rat porn?” the publisher. Packer,” he corrected. “That’s the porn —continued on page 3 Co-Publishers Jim Becker • Jim Williams [email protected]

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2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // local Getting to Know Our 2019 Pride Grand Marshals woman named to that post. In addition to Mister Know it all being named by the Maryland Daily Record By Richard Finger as one of Maryland’s “Top 100 Women” in —continued from page 1 It was “so pitiful,” he said. “It was one Recently, I had the pleasure of meeting 1998, 2000, and 2009, and being enshrined Finally, he said, prop master Brook set with six folding chairs, and she told me Senator Mary Washington at a Maryland in their “Circle of Excellence,” Delegate Yeaton “took ’em and shook ’em” and he that I was the only person that sold not one LGBT Chamber of Commerce Champions McIntosh has been honored by the Wom- got the shot he wanted. thing. I was pushing the video of ‘Des- event. Mary was gracious, taking time to en’s Law Waters recalled a time perate Living,’ my lesbi- snap pictures with our table group. I am Center and when he was in kindergar- an political melodrama. now pleased to inform the ten and talked to his mother Not one person bought readers that Mary is one about an unnamed student in one.” of our Grand Marshals. his class. “Well, hopefully we’ll More about Senator “I used to come home do better with the book Mary Washington: She is and I said, there’s this weird tonight,” Meyers offered. an advocate for Maryland’s little kid in my class and “Hopefully,” Waters re- 43rd District as a legislator, he only draws with black peated. professor, ally, public poli- crayons,” Waters relates. Over the next several cy leader, and trail-blazer. “I talked about him so weeks, Waters will make In 2010, she made much my mother asked a dozen stops on his book history becoming the first the teacher and she said, tour, including locations openly LGBT African-Amer- Pride Grand That’s your son. So I was in New York, Philadelphia, ican elected official in Mary- Marshal State creating characters for Washington, Chicago, Se- land – and only the second Senator Mary myself as I was young.” attle, San Francisco, Los such state legislator in the Pride Grand Washington He also remembered Angeles, and New England. Marshal Delegate country. As a current state a disappointing appear- In Baltimore, he had a book Maggie McIntosh senator and over her two- awarded the Dorothy Beat- ance he made on a show signing scheduled at Atomic terms as a member of the ty Memorial Service Award that the late comedienne Joan Rivers had Books (3620 Falls Road) on t Maryland House of Delegates, she has for her work on behalf of expanding legal on the Home Shopping Network. May 25th. distinguished herself as a leader fighting rights and protections for all women and for affordable access to water, protecting their families. In 2015 she was named an families at risk of losing their homes to Admiral of the Chesapeake, the highest unfair tax sales and foreclosures, making honor a governor can give a Maryland res- sure Baltimore city schools get the fair and ident for their contributions to our natural equitable funding they deserve and helping environment. unaccompanied homeless youth get the Delegate McIntosh has been at the fore- services and support they need. front of legislative and political action to ex- NEW EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITY! Senator Washington has also played a pand LGBTQ rights in Maryland. She is the leading role in legislative work to establish first openly LGBTQ member of the Maryland New outdoor resort opening this summer located north of marriage equality, prevent discrimination General Assembly. She has helped lead on Romney, Hampshire Co. West Virginia. against transgender Marylanders, eliminate legislation to enact marriage equality and to We need the following positions filled within the next four the death penalty, and implement the Mary- protect Marylanders from discrimination on to six weeks. Many of these positions will be year round! land DREAM Act. the basis of sexual orientation and gender In Annapolis, Senator Washington identity. In 2013, she was honored by the serves as senate chair of both the Joint Mautner Project for her leadership on the Restaurant: Bakers, Bartenders, Bar-backs, Bus & cleaning staff, Committee on Homelessness and the Joint Question 6 campaign to secure marriage Dish/Pot washers, Food prep & Line cooks, Committee on Children Youth and Fami- equality. Delegate McIntosh is a resident lies. She served as deputy majority whip in of the Tuscany-Canterbury neighborhood Floor managers, Host & Wait staff. 2015-16 and on the Unaccompanied Home- in North Baltimore, where she lives with Outside Help: Activities attendant, Groundskeepers, less Youth Task Force in 2013-14. Senator her wife, Diane Stollenwerk, and Labrador Horse tenders, Facility maintenance staff. Washington is also a member of Women retrievers, Myrtle and Olive. In addition to Legislators of Maryland and the Legislative enjoying her district and her colleagues, Black Caucus of Maryland and an Associate Maggie loves to travel, kayak, and bike with Please complete the job application at the following link Member of the Latino Legislative Caucus. family and friends. and we will get back to you! Our second Grand Marshal is Maggie Come join Mary, Maggie, and a host of https://rainbowcountryresorts.com/job-application McIntosh who represents Baltimore City’s other folks on the 15th, as we proudly take 43rd Legislative District in the Maryland to the streets promoting unity. t Come grow with us!!! House of Delegates where she serves as chair of the Appropriations Committee. Previously, she chaired the Environmental Matters Committee from 2003 through 2015 and from 2001-03 was the House Majori- ty Leader. Delegate McIntosh was the first baltimoreoutloud.com

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Select Chase Brexton Health Care patients deemed most in need may be eligible for digital breast cancer screenings through a mobile mammography van to be located at the Chase Brexton Mount Vernon Center on September 28th. The screenings are provided in partnership with Lackawan- na Mobile X-Ray and the Susan G. Komen Foundation. Breast cancer is the second most common cancer in women, and mammograms are capable of finding it up to three years before it can be felt. The Center for Disease Control recommends mammograms every two years for women age 50 and older who are at average risk for breast cancer. The staff of Chase Brexton encour- ages their patients to remember that early detection saves lives! Any patient who feels they may quality should contact their Chase Brexton provider or call 410-837- 2050 for more info. t news // local

ring role. The event is free and open to people City Hall to Honor Trivia Night, What else is new this year? of all ages. The event will be alcohol- In a word: everything! We have a new free and light refreshments will be served. Trans Leadership June 4th venue, Power Plant Live, right in the heart Please note that a valid picture ID is required of downtown Baltimore. Our two-mile walk for entry into City Hall. For more info, contact The Baltimore City Office of LGBTQ Affairs Baltimore Men’s Chorus and Charm City route loops around the Inner Harbor before Jabari Lyles, LGBTQ Affairs Liaison, in the and the Baltimore City LGBTQ Commis- Trivia invite you to join them on June 4th returning to Power Plant Live for a music mayor’s office at [email protected]. t sion invite you to join them at Baltimore from 7 to 10 pm at Mother’s Federal Hill festival featuring three terrific performanc- City Hall (100 Holliday Street, Baltimore) Grille (1113 South Charles Street, Balti- es by “The Voice” semi-finalist Davon on Thursday, May 30th from 6 to 8 pm as more) for the “Great Big LGBTQ+ Trivia Fleming, the band Nelly’s Echo, and sing- they host a special reception to kick off Night.” This fundraising event will benefit er-songwriter Shelby Blondell. We’re offer- Pride month. The event’s theme, “Honor- B & Dee Pride the Baltimore Men’s Chorus, celebrating ing attendees breakfast and lunch, and we ing Trans Leadership,” urges the city and its 35th anniversary. have a Kids’ Zone as well as a VIP area. Celebration, The event will include drink specials, Why was it important to include the food, and some surprises. The trivia will U=U Maryland campaign as a pillar of June 1st have an LGBTQ bent but with something this year’s event? U=U is an international campaign Join B & Dee’s Baltimore Love on June 1st spreading the scientific consensus that for “Celebrating You!,” its fourth annual Pride Undetectable = Untransmittable—a per- celebration event. The group provides sup- son who is HIV-positive but is in treatment port for the homeless or unstably housed in and has an undetectable viral load is not Baltimore. This year it has partnered with capable of transmitting the disease sexu- nearly 30 community groups.The event runs ally. This is an enormous development for 2 to 8 pm at the Ynot Lot (4 West North Av- people living with HIV, and here in Balti- its citizens to recognize the contributions enue, Baltimore) and offers free food, com- more, the U=U Maryland campaign was that transgender people have made to the munity vendors, and live entertainment. This formed in partnership with the Baltimore LGBT movement. year’s entertainment will include Queen of for everyone. Organizers hope to see This year marks fifty years since the Comedy Shawnna Alexander as emcee, per- teams of people across the LGBTQ spec- Stonewall Riots, in which trans and gen- formances by local drag performers, and the trum, along with community allies. You can der-nonconforming people played a star- Epic Premier Marching Band. The organiz- register as an individual for $10, or a team ers are seeking donations of food, supplies of up to six people can register for $50. or money to help make the event a success. Tickets are available at Bit.ly/30yxJoP. For more info about the event, visit the Face- For more info on the event and how to con- t tribute, visit Bit.ly/30AfAqw. t book event page at Bit.ly/2WUbpne. Discussion with City Taking Steps Health Department Against HIV AIDS Action Baltimore invites you to join it for an important discussion with represen- —continued from page 1 tatives of the Baltimore City Health Depart- ditional charge at their home or place of ment (BCHD) on how to end the HIV epi- work. Ensuring that our patients can get City Health Department to make sure that demic in Baltimore. The event will be held their medications easily and consistently message is heard loud and clear in Charm on Wednesday, May 29th from 6:30 to 8 is a critical part of helping them maintain City and beyond. The AIDS Walk & Music pm at the Waxter Center (1000 Cathedral adherence to their treatment. We expect Festival is a fantastic chance to help boost • ArchitecturAlly-stunning Street, Baltimore). The BCHD is in the pro- to deliver more than 5,000 prescriptions that message even farther. wedding venue • cess of reexamining and adapting its strat- annually, and funds raised by the event Where can individuals sign up? • indOOR & OuTdOOR wedding egies to end the epidemic in Baltimore and will ensure the costs of doing so are not Visit BaltimoreAIDSwalk.org today is interested in community input. They want passed on to our patients. CeReMOnieS, ReCePTiOnS, to sign up, register your team, and invite to hear your experiences, new ideas, and What is the Community Partner Pro- friends and family to help you reach your And eLOPeMenTS • recommendations. Dinner will be provid- gram? fundraising goals. The website also has • OveR 30 SAMe-Sex weddingS ed. RSVP to [email protected] to ensure We recognize that there are a lot of full details on incentives for top fundrais- proper planning. Call AIDS Action Baltimore great organizations across Baltimore do- ers, a toolkit to get you started, and FAQs SinCe 2013 • t at 410-837-2437 for more information. ing important work to end HIV and AIDS, about the day of the event. We hope to see Follow us on Instagram and Facebook at and we felt that the AIDS Walk should sup- you at Power Plant Live on June 9th! t ChaseCourtWeddingVenue port their work as well. By signing up as a To register for the Baltimore AIDS Walk 410-727-1112 • chasecourt.com community partner, local HIV service or- & Music Festival 2019 or for more informa- 1112 Saint Paul Street, Baltimore, MD ganizations will be able to keep half of the tion, visit BaltimoreAIDSwalk.org. Owned and Operated by David Egan, proceeds their team raises. Our nine com- wedding columnist for BaltimoreOUTloud. baltimoreoutloud.com munity partners prove that this event is truly a citywide effort to combat HIV and AIDS. 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway

compiled by Jim Becker freedom and women’s rights. of Child Sex Abuse, which was ordered by The bill faces likely defeat in the Sen- the state government. The two research- ate where Democrats do not have the ers wanted to do a preliminary study on votes for passage. On May 13th a se- sexual violence in the context of the so- US House passes nior aide to President Trump said he was called paedosexual movement in Berlin ... against the bill, signaling veto even if the the researchers pointed out the materials LGBT anti- Senate were to pass it. Nevertheless, the mentioned above. These materials have overwhelming support in the House was a now been made available to the appropri- discrimination historic event because it marked the first ate investigative authorities, as the own- time the legislation had gotten a full vote in ership of child pornography is explicitly bill Congress. In an emotional speech, Hoyer illegal. ... Unfortunately, we can expect said, “It’s a shame that the House is not Transition at Morehouse hostility from circles who would like to as- Washington, DC – US House Speak- full and the gallery not packed with people sociate homosexuality with paedosexual er and Baltimore native Nancy Pelosi has because this is an historic day.” Rep. John not be eligible for admission at Morehouse. crimes and seize this opportunity to attack delivered on her promise to pass legisla- Lewis, one of the great Civil Rights icons We will also continue to use gendered lan- the museum. We will meet these hostilities tion banning LGBT discrimination. On May in American history spoke with eloquence guage that reflects our identity as a men’s with calmness and care. We believe that 17th, Rep. Jerry Nadler, who had chaired and passion. “Today is May 17th. On May college. openness is the most important and proper the debate called the vote for HR5, also 17th, 1954 the Supreme Court ruled on The statement continues, “This admis- way to deal with these issues and that we known as the Equality Act by saying, “I Brown versus Topeka Board of Educa- sions policy affects students who transi- will only emerge stronger from it.” now commend the bill to the House and tion. I remember that day,” Lewis said, his tion while enrolled at Morehouse. Once David Thorstad, an early gay activist voice rising. “I was 17 years old. I thought I admitted, every student will receive the and co-author of The Early Homosexual would be attending desegregated schools. individualized support that is an essential Rights Movement (1864 – 1935), said of It never happened for me. Today we have part of the Morehouse experience. Howev- the museum’s cooperation with the author- the opportunity to cast this vote and set all er, all students are expected to continue ities, “This shows how downhill the mu- of our people free.” The floor erupted into to self-identify as men throughout their spontaneous applause. matriculation at Morehouse. If, during a (Philadelphia Gay News – Victoria student’s time at Morehouse, a student Brownworth at Epgn.com/news/break- transitions from a man to a woman, that ing-news/14674-equality-act-passes) student will no longer be eligible to matric- ulate at Morehouse.” (Morehouse College Press Release at Morehouse.edu/gender- identity) House Speaker Nancy Pelosi Morehouse

the House to history.” So ended the four- College will hour debate on the House floor on the most LGBT museum important civil rights legislation since the admit transmen 1964 Civil Rights Act and the 1990 Ameri- turns over some LGBT museum collaborates with cops cans with Disabilities Act. The bill will pro- Atlanta – Morehouse College, a his- tect LGBTQ Americans from discrimination torically black all-men’s school in Atlanta of its archive to seum has gone since its founders retired on the basis of sexual orientation and gen- founded in 1867, has announced that it a few years ago. I wonder if these putz- der identity in employment, housing, public will start admitting transgender students the police es consider chapbooks of nudes by Adolf accommodations, public education, feder- who identify as men in 2020. The policy Brand and from Der Eigene to qualify as al funding, credit, and the jury system. Pe- was announced in a news release from the Berlin – The Schwules Museum, a illegal porn too. The statement reeks of ig- losi was smiling and beaming as she re- school. The policy also said that students museum and research center that opened norance, hostility, stupidity, and an inability counted the struggle for passage and said, that transition from male to female can- in 1985 and was the first museum in the to see clearly. Turning over archival mate- “Tolerance – that’s a condescending word not continue at the school unless they are world dedicated to gay history, has turned rials to the police would be criminal.’ (The to me. Respect. That’s what we need.” granted a hardship exception. over some of its archives to the police. The Schwules Museum at Schwulesmuseum. In its current form, the bill was first in- In the press release the school said, museum explained this controversial act de/presse/?lang=en) troduced in 2015. It is sponsored by Repre- “Since its founding in 1867, Morehouse Col- in a statement: “[On Friday, March 29th] —continued on page 8 sentatives David Cicilline (D-RI) and Brian lege’s mission has been to develop men we handed over to police some presum- Fitzpatrick (R-PA) in the House and Sen- with disciplined minds who will lead lives ably relevant criminal materials from our ators Jeff Merkley (D-OR), Susan Collins of leadership and service. Every aspect archive that were unopened until recently. These news notes have been compiled, (R-ME), Tammy Baldwin (D-WI) and Cory of this unique college is, and always will ... Like many other archives and museums, with permission, from the online version Booker (D-NJ) in the Senate. In a sweep- be, designed to prepare our graduates to we often don’t have adequate resources to of various newspapers and other web sites. We thank these publications for ing assent from the Democratic Party, the flourish and make a positive impact in their register all of the items that we receive. As allowing us to bring you their news sto- bill passed 236 to 173. Eight Republicans, communities and the world. In furtherance a result, parts of our collection remain un- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- including the bill’s co-sponsor, Brian Fitz- of our mission, tradition, and values as a catalogued for long stretches of time. nificantly edited and you can read the patrick (R-PA), joined 228 Democrats in men’s college, and in recognition of our “The investigation of paedosexual full story by going to the web site men- passing the legislation. House Majority changing world and evolving understand- trends in the history of queer movements tioned following the item. Comments Leader Steny Hoyer (D-MD) called it one ing of gender identity, Morehouse will now is a major concern for us, this much is are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker of the most historic bills in American his- consider for admission applicants who live clear. In the fall of 2018, we gave archival and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride and self-identify as men, regardless of the access to two researchers from the Inde- tory. Most of the Republicans who spoke, Media. claimed the bill would harm both religious sex assigned to them at birth. Women will pendent Commission for the Investigation

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—continued from page 5 Gilead says it Man sues Two LGBT Texas senate will provide free parents for Military suspends rules PrEP for 200,000 damages after organizations to advance Americans they tossed his merge LGBTQ bias bill

Foster City, California – Gilead, the porn Washington, DC – Two LGBT military Austin, Texas – On May 9th, openly pharmaceutical giant that patented Truva- non-profits – the American Military Partner As- gay Democratic state Rep. Julie Johnson, da, said on May 9th that it would provide Grand Haven, Michigan – The Detroit sociation (AMPA) and OutServeSLDN – have through strategic use of a parliamentary tac- up to 2.4 million bottles of Truvada annual- Free Press reports that an Indiana-based announced that they are combining forces by tic managed to stop HB 3172, Tarrant Coun- ly for the next 11 years, “free of charge” to man is seeking $87,000 in damages after merging to form the nation’s largest non-profit ty Republican state Rep. Matt Krause’s an- Americans taking the drug for PrEP, under his parents from Grand Haven destroyed organization dedicated to education, advoca- ti-LGBT “religious refusal” bill. HB 3172 would an “agreement” with the Trump adminis- his large pornography collection, accord- cy, and support for LGBTQ service members, have allowed anyone claiming a “sincere- tration. In other words, Gilead will provide ing to a lawsuit filed in the Southern Divi- military spouses, veterans, family members ly-held” religious belief to freely discriminate free meds to 200,000 people in the US sion of the US District Court for the West- and allies – the Modern Military Association against LGBT people – and anyone else they for more than a decade. In a separate an- ern District of Michigan. An Ottawa County of America (MMAA). OutServeSLDN Execu- didn’t like – and get away with it. But Texas nouncement, Gilead also confirmed that it Sheriff’s Office Case Report from February tive Director and Navy veteran Andy Blevins Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick is so desperate to hate will lift the patent on Truvada for PrEP one 2018 included in the lawsuit says a depu- will lead MMMA as executive director. LGBT Texans that on May 13th, he made a year early, in September 2020, allowing a ty was dispatched to a report of destroyed “I’m both humbled and honored to lead the Senate committee suspend its rules so that generic version onto the market in the US. property. The man told the deputy he was he could force through SB 1978, the Senate’s However, activists are skeptical about “kicked out” of his parent’s house in August companion bill to HB 3172, the measure also the timing of the agreement, which came 2017 after a domestic incident and noticed known as the “Save Chick-Fil-A” bill. just a week after the US Justice Depart- some of his items were missing when they Equality Texas issued a statement noting ment announced a federal investigation delivered some of his stuff to his home in that the Senate State Affairs Committee had into alleged price gouging by Gilead. Gil- Indiana. He indicated to the deputy that he “suspended their own rules and passed SB ead’s May 9th press release also recon- was told his parents destroyed his belong- Modern Military Association of America at this 1978 with no testimony taken. SB 1978 is a firmed the company’s plans to transition ings and that all the items “were all to do challenging moment in the fight for LGBTQ broad sweeping discriminatory bill.” Saman- PrEP patients to a new PrEP drug, Des- with pornographic material,” and the man military equality,” said Blevins. “While we’ve tha Smoot, Equality Texas’s executive direc- said he wanted to press charges. A sup- made tremendous progress over the years tor, said, “[Texas Values President] Jonathon plemental report included by the sheriff’s as a community, much of that progress is now Saenz and Dan Patrick still don’t understand department said the man’s warrant was being threatened and rolled back – especial- that a majority of Texans want equal rights denied by the prosecutor because of lack ly for our transgender service members who for LGBTQ people, not discrimination. In of evidence. now face an unconscionable transgender the final days of the session, we hope state In an email exchange included in the military ban. We’re committed to doing every- leaders will return to the position they held on lawsuit, the man’s father wrote to him say- thing within our power to stand up for all of January 8th, that this session would not focus ing: “We counted 12 moving boxes full of our modern military and veteran families and attacks on the LGBTQ community. We urge pornography plus two boxes of ‘sex toys’ ensure they have a powerful voice in Wash- a continued focus on the bread and butter is- as you call them. We began that day the ington and beyond.” Added American Military sues facing Texans,” The Resource Center’s process of destroying them and it took Partner Association founder and past presi- Advocacy team said. quite a while to do so. ... I did you a big dent Stephen Peters, “For nearly a decade, Meanwhile, Texas US Sen. John Cornyn favor by getting rid of all this stuff for you.” the American Military Partner Association has sent out a fundraising letter playing on Also included in the suit are lists com- has been on the front lines fighting for our na- the fears of the religious right-wing to try and covy, which would maintain the company’s piled by the man of items he is missing. tion’s modern military spouses and their fam- put dollars in his own campaign coffers. He lucrative patent over PrEP medications for Detailed are the names and estimated ilies. Now, we’re doubling down in our fight wrote in part, “The war on Chick-Fil-A con- many years to come. prices of over 400 VHS tapes, more than for fairness and equality by joining forces tinues. Around the country – even right here HIV researcher Dr. Rochelle Walensky 1,600 DVDs (including multiple copies of with OutServeSLDN. The Modern Military As- in San Antonio, Texas – liberal local govern- told the New York Times that “the real cost some titles), 160-plus CDs, and 70 sex sociation of America will be a powerhouse of ments are targeting the popular restaurant of Truvada is about $60 a year. If you re- toys. In the list included in the lawsuit, the community advocates and a united voice for for their Christian values. They are taking ally wanted to cover everybody, you’d cut man alleges the items lost are valued at the LGBTQ military and veteran community.” votes to shutter its doors. ... The liberals the price to everyone. If I put on my cyn- more than $28,000, and would cost a little The MMAA has launched at a challenging aren’t talking about zoning issues, they’re ical hat, I think this is the way they make over $40,000 to replace. He also is seek- moment for the LGBTQ military community not worried about economics… their issue sure they grow the market for Descovy. It ing damages. The man is seeking more as the Trump-Pence administration rolls back with Chick-Fil-A is about one thing and one will promote the idea that Descovy is bet- than double the estimated replacement progress by implementing a transgender mil- thing and one thing only: stopping the spread ter – and I’m not sure that’s a dialogue figure he listed in documents included in itary ban. Just last month, the discriminatory of good, Christian values. Stop the war on we want to present.” Descovy, introduced the suit. (Detroit Free Press – Alesanna Si- ban went into effect. With 81 chapters locat- Chick-Fil-A. … I need you to join with me to earlier this year, is supposed to have few- acon at Freep.com/story/news/local/michi- ed throughout the world, the organization will defend the freedom of religion, and to stop er side effects than Truvada, but it will be gan/2019/04/14/man-suing-parents-throw- facilitate opportunities for fellowship and ca- the extreme left! – Senator John Cornyn” t much more expensive. (Seattle Gay News ing-away-porn-collection/3469585002) maraderie for individuals and families located (Dallas Voice – at Dallasvoice.com/senate- – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org/sgnnews47_20/ at both stateside and overseas military bases. suspends-rules-to-allow-committee-to- page1.cfm) (Q Notes Online – Lainey Millen at Goqnotes. pass-anti-lgbt-bill-cornyn-uses-chick-fil-a- com/62900/lgbtq-military-orgs-merge) in-fundraising-letter)

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ing to bring a recovery high school to the DC area. John is working tirelessly to get Hearts and Ears Inc. Fit this school open and to save young people from years of misery and despair caused LGBTQIA+ Wellness & Recovery Center for by active addiction. Life The goals of the schools are Joshua H. Buchbinder 1) To educate all available and eligible Hearts & Ears, Inc. is a non-profit organization for Gay, students who are in recovery from sub- Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and stance use disorder or co-occurring dis- Questioning, and Gender Non-Conforming individuals orders such as depression, anxiety, and Learning to attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. with behavioral health issues and concerns. 2) To meet state requirements for Recover awarding a secondary school diploma. And 3) To support students in working a 611 Park Avenue Suite A, Baltimore, Maryland 21201 • 410-523-1694 As a fitness professional I’ve had the priv- strong program of recovery. [email protected] • heartsandears.org ilege of helping many people change their The environment that Phoenix will pro- lives for the better. For many changing vide will allow students to have the edu- their body isn’t the biggest hurdle, chang- cational, social, athletic, and extra-curric- ing their life is literally life and death. Our ular opportunities afforded to students in company is privileged to work traditional schools without the with an amazing organization Striving to pressures of drugs and alco- that is trying to change the lives hol. It is so important for stu- of young people and to help open a high dents with substance issues to them stay clean, sober, and get clean and then not have to alive. school for return to the place where they The Phoenix Foundation of were using or getting drugs. Maryland is a non-profit organi- substance- My company, B-Strong zation striving to open a recov- Athletics, is hosting a fund- ery based high school in 2020. dependent raiser to support the Phoenix Recovery high schools are Foundation on June 29th. The secondary schools designed youth “Strength ’n’ Sobriety Tourna- specifically for students in re- ment” will be a strength en- covery from substance use disorder or de- durance event challenging the participants pendence. The schools provide support for bodies and minds. Individuals or teams students and their families. When a young of five can register to compete and 100% person struggles with substance use it of the proceeds will be going to the foun- wreaks havoc on the lives of loved ones. dation. To sign up or donate The school assists fam- go to Eventbrite. ilies by teaching them com/e/strength-n-so- how to support their briety-tick- loved and help them ets-5979040872 or maintain a recovery life- find us on Facebook style. The school’s staff at B-Strong Athletics range from administra- and go to our events tors to educators to men- page. tal health professionals Overdoses con- and are often in recovery tinue to rise in Mary- themselves. land and across the I recently spoke with country. Anything the president of the foun- we can do to help dation, John Edmonds. save lives and the John is an alumnus of the lives of our children nation’s oldest recovery is vital. We look high school which sadly forward to seeing closed years ago. From his enroll- you at the event and remember – Be you, ment at the Phoenix School in Montgom- be more, be strong! t ery County, Maryland, John has been in Joshua Buchbinder, MS, is the co-own- recovery since July 5th, 1989. Clean and er of B-Strong Athletics. He has been sober since the age of 17, John has been coaching, training, and teaching in the fit- fortunate enough to share his experience, ness industry for over 20 years. He and his strength, and hope across the US and wife, Elyse, are regular contributors to Bal- Canada. Recently, he served on the Board timore OUTloud and are dedicated to im- of Association of Recovery and Education proving the lives of others through health of Greater Washington (AREGW) attempt- and wellness. BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 9 quality of life // Health and Wellness

sleep can help as well. had known for several years over social As far as why you are not on the top media and a few coincidences blossomed doses of your blood pressure medications, into an exciting beginning. Yet there are often the highest approved dose of a med- Ask others whose partner has become ill and Open Wide icine often doesn’t lower blood pressure the situation has upended what was a bal- any better than a lower dose does. Higher Dr. J anced connection. I also believe that the ask Dr Eva doses also cause more side effects than atmosphere outside of our circle, socially Dr Eva Hersh lower doses. Most people with high blood Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. and politically, have a bearing in the life pressure need two or more medicines to we live, sometimes as a dark cloud, other control their blood pressure. times as an uplifting element. Questions Using blood pressure medicines that Living a Less As we grow up, there is an imagined work in different ways is more effective picture of what life will be like, at age 20, than using a single type of medicine. Than Perfect 30, and later. Time concept shifts as we About Blood Blood pressure is the amount of pressure get older. Remember how summer vaca- that flowing blood produces as it presses Life tion seemed like four months long? Disap- Pressure Meds against the walls of arteries. To lower the pointments settle in. That promotion pressure, you can: Imagine yourself maybe 10 to 15 And you thought was in the bag fails to Dear Dr. Eva, 1) Decrease the amount of fluid in years ago. Even five years will materialize. Your loved one does not Doctors and nurses have told me over the the blood with “fluid pills,” diuretics such do it. Did you think your life today loving it remember the anniversary. You lose a years that my blood pressure is high. Be- as hydrochlorothiazide, HCTZ. would be the way it is? If you had friend, a parent, or a relative you were cause I felt fine, I didn’t want to take med- 2) Slow down the heart rate or de- set goals back then, are they a reality or fond of. That nirvana of the long-await- icine for it, but eventually family members crease the force of the heart pump (heart- on the way to be so? Or have they evolved ed trip turns out to be quite convinced me to get treated to prevent beat) so that less blood is pumped each or changed completely? Are you where strokes (my father had one.) I am now minute. Beta blockers and some calcium you thought you would be? taking three different blood pressure pills. channel blockers have that effect. We not only change When I looked up the medicines, it 3) Relax the muscles in artery walls within, in terms of val- looks like I am not on the top dose so the arteries open wider, lowering the ues, beliefs and expecta- of any of them. Why not increase pressure. Medicines called calcium tions, but there are exter- a medicine to the top dose channel blockers (CCBs), angio- nal changes in the culture, before adding another one? tensin converting enzyme inhibi- the society and the world Even better, why not just use tors (ACEs), and angiotensin re- and they all affect our lives one medicine that really works ceptor blockers (ARBs) all work in one way or another. Who in the first place? by relaxing the blood vessels, could’ve predicted that both RJ but each type of medicine has Marriage Equality, and now a different way of doing it. the Equality Act (just a few Dear RJ, People are most likely to days ago!) would pass? Yes, I understand your frus- be able to keep taking med- there was work being done to stressful. tration. It does seem as if icine if it is taken just once a make them real but nonethe- How do you maintain your mental bal- it should be possible to day and doesn’t cause side less, each obstacle took a swipe at the ance in the middle of these arrows coming control blood pressure effects. Taking three medicines hope and the determination. at you and feel a sense of contentment with just one medicine. together once a day is easier to On the relationship front, just last and positivity? We are biologically set (The medical term for manage than taking one kind of week, a friend found love in someone she up to be alert to all threats and negative high blood pressure is medicine three times a day. events that aim at our physical and emo- hypertension.) Many peo- tional being. But we also have that exqui- ple with high blood pressure Dear Dr. Eva, site organ called the brain that is capable can be treated with a single I am taking a medicine Some other examples of medicines of not only fending off mental danger, fear medicine at first. Like oth- called carvedilol to treat used for more than one condition: and anxiety, but also focusing on posi- er chronic conditions, high my blood pressure. I re- • Viagra is used both for erectile dys- tivity and all that is going right. Whatev- blood pressure gets worse cently found out that a friend function and for an unusual condition er you have to deal with, do you think: “I over time. Unless a person is taking the same medicine, but called pulmonary hypertension can deal with this. It may be hard, but I can make major changes in he thinks it’s for congestive heart • Spironolactone is a diuretic (water have been through worse and I survived.” factors that contribute to failure. I haven’t been told that I pill) used for heart failure which is also At times, we have to convey and repeat high blood pressure, more Not too hard, have congestive heart failure. Is used for hair loss in women with male-pat- this thought not only to ourselves but also medicines must be added not too fast my friend correct? tern hair loss to those we love. In that sense of faith in to keep blood pressure at Concerned • Some antidepressants are helpful for one’s self, also lie kindness, compassion, a safe level, below 140/90. Some lifestyle chronic pain and gratitude towards others and towards and habit changes that help lower blood Dear Concerned, • The beta blocker propranolol, orig- ourselves. t pressure are: stopping smoking, decreas- You are both right. Some medicines, in- inally used for high blood pressure, also “Life is not easy for any of us. But what ing or stopping alcohol, losing weight (as cluding the beta blocker carvedilol, can be controls some kinds of tremors and re- of that? We must have perseverance and little as ten pounds), decreasing salt and used for more than one condition. Carvedilol lieves certain types of anxiety, such as above all confidence in ourselves. We salty foods, and moderate exercise (30 can be used to lower blood pressure and performance anxiety (“stage fright.”) must believe that we are gifted for some- minutes of brisk walking, swimming or bik- also to treat heart failure. The dose for con- • Several different types of seizure thing, and that this thing, at whatever cost, ing at least three days a week.) Decreas- gestive heart failure is usually lower than the medicines are also effective as mood sta- must be attained.” – Marie Curie ing emotional stress and getting enough dose needed to lower blood pressure. bilizers, especially in bipolar disorder. t 10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com T:9.875” T:9.6”

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spire you, and when you’re ready to dance, foam rolling and active and static stretch- go ahead and embody and emulate their con- es. Foam rolling, or self-myofascial re- The In fidence! lease, helps remove adhesion’s or knots and 2) Embody your ideal self. Envi- while improving blood flow and reducing sion where you want yourself to be, confi- YouFit soreness. Stretching will improve your Out dence-wise. How does that person move? flexibility or range of motion on exercises. Andre Shakti What do they say? When you’re ready to Here Foam rolling plus yoga is the perfect com- dance, channel that ideal self and let them bination for your recovery day! loose! 2) Stay lightly active. Light or low inten- 3) Embrace exactly who you are, right sity aerobic exercise is proven to speed up The Joy of Pole now. Instead of allowing your fear of embar- Rest, Refuel, recovery faster than total relaxation. Even rassment to dominate you, go ahead and lean though you feel like you’ve earned a full Dancing into the awkward! Awkwardness, silliness Recover day off, your body will be in a much bet- and laughter are humanizing, endearing, and ter place if you keep it moving. The small Dear Andre, totally hot. I love when people giving me a Recovery days can mean a lot of differ- increase in heart rate makes it easier for I’m a trans woman in my early 40s and dance let their true personality shine through. ent things depending on who you ask. To your body to hydrate itself, deliver vital I’m dating the guy of my dreams. The sex- Wear comfortable clothing that won’t some it means snuggling up with a blanket nutrients to your muscles, and energizes ual chemistry is out of control, and recently get caught on your partner. No dangling and watching TV. For others it your day. The most important he told me that he’d been fantasizing jewelry, belts, beaded is taking time to relax and step You earned a part is not to exercise too hard about me giving him a lapdance be- Bring the strip skirts, or other sharp edges away from the normal routine. – if you’re breaking a sweat it’s fore we fell into bed. I’m definitely not (and keep in mind, sequins However, to stay consistent and break ... relax too much. Meeting up with a opposed to the idea, but I’ve never giv- club to your scratch!). And if you’re wor- on track to achieve your fitness friend for a walk, taking a dip en anyone a sexy dance before and I ried about removing your and wellness goals, the best wisely in the pool, or doing a quickie have no idea where to start! Help! bedroom! clothes in a fluid way, squash kind of recovery is active recov- home yoga flow will having you Sincerely, your anxiety by making your ery. This type of recovery allows feeling rejuvenated and recov- Patricia L. partner do it! I do this a lot your body to heal after the hard work you ered the next day. with difficult bra clasps. In- put in during your workouts. 3) Have some fun! Exer- credit: Dear Patricia, stead of fiddling with it, I’ll plop on my part- Here are three tips that will help any- cise is a great way to distract jessicalophoto You came to the right girl! I’ve been strip- ner’s lap and instruct them to do it for me. one get the most out of their recovery day. your mind from daily ping professionally (and privately!) for the Bonus points for telling him he’s only allowed 1) Enhance your mobility. Improving better part of 12 years. I’d love to give you to use his mouth... your fitness level without improving or at some of my finest pointers. Know your body’s capabilities and least maintaining mobility will limit your Scrap everything you think you know limitations. It’s easy for us to get disconnect- long-term results and health. Mobility is about “who” gives lap dances. Pop culture ed from our body and forget what it realistical- key to having good form on exercises and would have us believe that only a select few ly can and can’t do. Both insecurity and ego avoiding injuries. The best way to train of us deserve to give sexy dances (namely can lead to us trying to practice every Insta- your mobility is through a combination of thin, white, long-haired, cis- gram or Youtube dance move we see, and gendered, young, able-bod- this impulse ied, stereotypically attractive can very easily femmes). Additionally, you lead to injury. apparently always need to The better you experience over quicker. Resist this urge! The be wearing lingerie and sev- know your body slower you go, the more sensual your dance en-inch heels. Don’t believe (inside and out), will be and the more self-assured you’ll ap- that nonsense! Lap dancing the more con- pear. I usually approach the dance in three is for every body. Your part- nected to it you’ll stages: ner already thinks you’re feel. Develop 1) Heightening anticipation. Pick two smokin’ hot; Believe him. As your own dance or three parts of your body that you like and soon as you start to doubt style! You only focus on showing yourself off to your partner, yourself, remind yourself that you deserve get one body, so not allowing him to make contact with you stress, to dance sexily whenever and however you protect it. I also recommend using a sturdy just yet (don’t be afraid to make him sit on but it’s not healthy to train hard every day. want, and that no matter what/how you do, backed chair without arms! his hands!). By finding an active hobby you’ll still be your boyfriend is going to feel like a winner! Practice, practice, practice! Once 2) Tease and control. Your boyfriend able to give your mind the break it needs. Also, lap dancing barefooted is highly under- you’ve selected music to dance to and an isn’t allowed to touch you, but you can touch Try replacing your exercise endorphins rated. outfit to wear, I definitely recommend doing him! Alternate between caressing him or with laughs, smiles, and adventures. Try Find your confidence.In terms of boost- some test runs alone in your room before the lightly grinding on him and pulling away. May- out a new hobby, such as photography, ing self esteem, I encourage folks to first big event! If you want to specifically work on be start cheating your clothes off, gradually pottery, kombucha brewing, or whatever and foremost be patient and kind with them- your rhythm, I always wait until the house is showing off more and more skin. has interested you lately. Recovery is as selves. Achieving true confidence is a lifelong empty before putting on some music with a 3) Home run. Now you can get into the much physical as it is mental, make sure endeavor; it’s part of the human experience. strong beat. Then I practice doing mundane filthy stuff! Put your boobs in his face, straddle you’re truly giving yourself a complete re- Before your dance, if you need a little confi- tasks (Grocery shopping! Exercising! Mop- him, kneel in front of him, give him a good ol’ covery. dence boost, you can do one of three things: ping the floor!) to the beat of the music! booty motorboat, instruct him to rip all your Visit your local Youfit Health Clubs to 1) Embody your favorite stripper. Is Don’t rush through it; stretch out ev- remaining clothes off, whatever’s your flavor! discover new ways to work out in a com- there someone whose unapologetic swag ery single moment. When we’re nervous, Most importantly, have fun! fortable environment to take full advantage always floors you? 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MB: It’s been beloved to me [laughs]. the series? I have such a personal connection to it. I MB: I didn’t really think about that too think for many of us that saw it in the be- much. Before we started, I went back and Being Mouse ginning, or came to the books in the 70s, read all of the books. I tried to let Mouse 80s, 90s and beyond, is that they really jump off the page. Let Armistead give By Gregg Shapiro the few actors reprising their roles. In June struck a chord that wasn’t being struck. me Mouse through the books [laughs]. A recent internet meme featured Har- of 2019, Netflix presents the return of the These LGBTQ characters finding family I think maybe one of the reasons I didn’t ry Potter series author J.K. Rowling be- series, also starring Linney and Dukakis, and living a wonderful, joyful life, with all give it much thought is that two decades moaning the difficulty of killing off so many which opens with the occasion of Anna’s the trials and tribulations of their every- have gone in between. A lot has hap- characters, with Game 90th birthday and brings day lives. Fully fleshed out, real charac- pened. Mouse still has the same spirit, of Thrones series au- characters, old and new, ters that were experiencing joy and pain. he’s still essentially the same guy, but thor George R.R. Martin An interview with together once again. Hand- A trans character, like Anna Madrigal, he’s transformed in terms of all the stuff calling her “adorable” Murray Bartlett of some, out, Australian actor that was not a tragic figure. She’s a wise, he’s gone through. I felt like, as hap- in response. Gay writer Murray Bartlett is the third benevolent, compassionate, wonderful Armistead Maupin has Tales of the City actor to assume the role of inspiring woman. I think it was more in common with Michael “Mouse” Tolliver, groundbreaking at the time, and Rowling and Martin than you might expect. and he is sensational in the role. He effort- I think it’s still groundbreaking in Maupin, like Rowling and Martin, is the au- lessly brings everything we’ve ever loved that we’re still kind of at the be- thor of a popular book series. about Michael to life in the most vivid and ginning of LGBTQ representation In Maupin’s case, it’s the beloved queer honest way. I spoke with him shortly before on television and on film. Being Tales of The City sequence, which began the June series debut. part of that wave and being part of in 1978 and concluded in 2014. As in the Gregg Shapiro: Murray, what was it this beautiful world that Armistead case of Rowling and Martin, Maupin popu- about the character of Michael “Mouse” created that is so compassionate lated his books with a wide assortment of Tolliver in Tales of The City that made and human and full of love; I feel characters, some loveable and some de- you want to portray him? like we need more of that in the spicable. Also, over the years, Maupin has Murray Bartlett: I love the Tales of the world always, and especially now. killed off characters, a creative quality that City books. I have a huge affection for all It feels like such a privilege to be he shares with Rowling and Martin. Last, of the characters, including Michael, from part of that. but not least, the Tales of the the 1990s. I guess GS: Did you have an opportu- City books, like what I love about him, nity to meet and talk with Armi- those of Rowl- particularly now, is that stead during the Netflix produc- ing’s and Mar- he has been through tion? tin’s, have made a lot. He went through MB: Yes, absolutely! I had done the leap from the AIDS crisis and this show, Looking, for HBO a few the page to the thought he was go- years ago and we were shooting in screen. In 1993, ing to die and lost a San Francisco. Tales of the City was PBS presented the lot of the people that very much a kind of mascot. The first launch of the Tales he loved. He faced night we arrived, me and a few of of the City series his own mortality. the other actors watched (the earlier Murray starring Olympia He went through a version of) Tales of the City. We met Bartlett Dukakis as Anna hugely challenging up with Armistead a few times. He be- Madrigal, the leg- and transformative came like our godfather. He was very endary trans land- time and he’s man- sweet and generous. I had a little bit lord of 28 Barbary aged to keep this of a connection with him. He came and pens after a couple of de- Lane, and Laura beautiful kind of spent time with us on set (while making the cades, you are a kind of reformed charac- Linney as Mary Ann buoyant spirit that new Tales of the City). He’s the spirit of his ter in a lot of ways. I felt like I didn’t have Singleton, the naive he has, this boyish books. He’s the personification of that. A to be too concerned about what had come young woman from spirit. I really love beautiful, compassionate, wonderful man. before and just go back to the books and Ohio who was for- that about him. It’s It was great for all of us to have him on set get the essence of him and run with it. ever changed when difficult to do that. I at times. GS: What was it like to work with she relocated to San think a lot of peo- Laura Linney and Olympia Dukakis? Francisco. ple become cyni- “We met up with MB: Just, you know, magical [laughs]. While the ground- cal and jaded. He’s Complete joy and very surreal. Especially breaking series was definitely come Armistead a few times. initially, because, I think I’d seen Olympia well-received by critics through a little He became like our in things before, particularly Moonstruck. and fans of the books, damaged [laughs] But I don’t think I’d seen Laura before I boosting both Linney’s and he’s definite- godfather. He’s the watched Tales of the City. I have a strong and Dukakis’s careers, ly got some bag- association with those women and those the raciness of the ma- gage but that buoyant spirit is still intact, spirit of his books.” characters in Tales of the City, so it was terial didn’t sit well with conservatives con- and I really love that. very surreal being onset the first few times trolling the PBS purse-strings. More Tales GS: What does being part of such GS: What were the challenges and with them. They are those characters to of the City and Further Tales of the City a beloved series, including both the rewards of stepping into the role of Mi- me. I was a little nervous because I admire aired on Showtime in 1998 and 2001, re- previous TV productions on PBS and chael aka “Mouse,” a role played by two them so much and they’re such fantastic spectively, with Linney and Dukakis among Showtime, mean to you? other actors in previous iterations of actors. You want to bring your best. So,

14 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com Lively Arts // celebrity interview there’s a little bit of really good points completely intertwined with my initial im- credible diversity of expression, all these nerves that come and they both need pressions of San Francisco. I recognized wonderful characters and people. But a with that. But they’re to listen to each a lot of the elements of Tales of the City in lot of those people aren’t so gracious and so other because they San Francisco in terms millionaires [laughs] lovely. There was have a lot to learn of community and and they can’t afford to something about from each other. the sense of fam- live there anymore. It’s the fact that they All the stuff that the ily and a sense this interesting thing are those characters older generation of belonging. A that San Francisco is to me, and because went through was place where peo- going through now. they are such great epic. It’s very im- ple could come How much of the old actresses, the scene portant for young- and find those spirit can stay alive in starts and you just go er queer people to things. Apart from this new, expensive for the ride. They’re understand what the fact that it’s phase. so wonderful to work has come before. just a gorgeous GS: In Tales of with and those strong The older per- city [laughs]. I was the City, Michael associations of those spective comes there recently and had Mary Ann, and characters just kicked from a place that everywhere you in Looking, Dom in for me. is worth under- turn there’s a beau- had Doris. Do you GS: In the new standing. Like- tiful view. There’s have a female best version of Tales of wise, the young- something about the friend like Mary the City, Michael is er generation. spirit of San Fran- Ann or Doris in in a relationship with We’re moving cisco. This latest your life? Ben (Charlie Barnett), forward in terms iteration of Tales of MB: Yes, abso- a man much younger of gender iden- the City addresses lutely! I have sev- that he is. This aspect tity and second this new generation eral. t of their relationship gender identity of the techie wave comes up repeatedly, and sexual identity and how we can ex- coming in. One of but never more than during the scene press ourselves. Riding a wave into, hope- the beautiful things at the dinner party thrown by Michael’s fully, more openness. That has enormous about San Francisco ex, Harrison (Matthew Risch), where value. We’re at a very delicate stage of that I loved is this in- Ben is given a gay history lesson. As a navigating through that and we need to gay man yourself, how did that be very sensitive. The older generation, at scene make you feel? least in that episode, can tend to gloss MB: I haven’t seen over that a little bit. I the show yet, but I love love the way the that episode. I think writer and our it’s so beautifully writ- team did such a ten, mostly because beautiful job of June 14 - June 30; Mainstage it doesn’t a present straddling those a good and bad. It two perspectives, Disaster! throws out the two allowing you to see perspectives of the both of them with- Earthquakes, tidal waves, infernos and the older and younger out telling you what unforgettable songs of the '70s take center generation, and it to think about it stage in Broadway's side-splitting homage does such a beau- GS: You men- to classic disaster films. tiful job of not tioned the HBO letting you take series Looking in June 15 - June 30; Cabaret sides. You agree which you played and disagree with Dom, which like both [laughs]. I Tales of the City, Sylvia think that that is was also set in San Greg brings home a dog he found in the park, or that a beautiful way Francisco. Can you has found him, bearing the name "Sylvia" on her to approach a please say something name tag. A street-smart mixture of Lab and Poodle, fiery issue and about that city means Sylvia becomes a major bone of contention between conversation. to you? husband and wife. To show both MB: I adore San perspectives Francisco. I came to San 7201 Rossville Blvd. and let peo- Francisco from Austra- Call the box ofﬁce at ple make up lia for the first time in the 443-840-ARTS(2787), or visit their own minds. It also shows 90s for a visit. I think it how complex it is. I feel like I understand was 1994. The guy I was www.ccbcmd.edu/arts where the older generation comes from, staying with had the first season of Tales For further details but I also understand where the younger of the City on VHS [laughs] and he let me or to purchase tickets generation comes from. They both have watch them. I fell in love with it. But it was BALTIMORE OUTLOUD MAY 24, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 15 Lively Arts // BETWEEN THE COVERS

Frank and revealing, I M: A Memoir cartels, insurgent groups, and the Colom- (Flatiron Books, 2019) by fashion designer bian government, Like This Afternoon Further Reading and talk show host turned cabaret perform- Forever (Kaylie Jones Books / Akashic) By Gregg Shapiro Liberation Front (Rattling Good Yarns, er Isaac Mizrahi traces the gay Brooklyn by Colombian-born gay writer Jaime Man- Stonewall stories – Arriving just in time 2019), a thorough and enlightening explo- native from his sheltered religious upbring- rique, centers on the “visceral love story” for the Stonewall 50 festivities, We Are ration of the publications read and pub- ing through his coming out at the height of of Lucas and Ignacio. Everywhere: Protest, Power, and Pride lished by young, queer radicals in the “tur- the AIDS epidemic and his stellar rise to Mostly Dead Things (Tin House Books, in the History of Queer Liberation (Ten bulent 1960s.” fame and stardom. 2019), the debut novel by queer writer Kris- Speed Press, 2019) by Matthew Riemer Almost everything you need to know Long Live the Tribe of Fatherless ten Arnett, introduces us to Jessa, forced and Leighton Brown, tells a multitude about the paperback edition Going Into Girls (Bloomsbury, 2019), the debut mem- to take over her family’s dying taxidermy of stories of the LGBTQ Town: A Love Letter to New York oir by literary essayist T Kira Madden, is business following her father’s suicide, as community in words and (Bloomsbury, 2017/2019), by be- the brutally honest and personal story of her other family members barely hold it to- pictures, from 1868 to the Pride and loved New Yorker cartoonist Roz her life as a biracial, queer teen living in gether as their lives unravel. present day. Chast, can be found in the title. In Boca Raton, Florida, with parents caught For her second historical novel, The Updated and featur- Stonewall nine illustrated chapters, Brook- in an ongoing struggle with alcohol and Flight Portfolio (Knopf, 2019), Julie Or- ing a new introduction, lyn-native Chast celebrates Man- drug addictions. ringer gives readers a meticulously re- Charles Kaiser’s land- reading list hattan in all its glory, serving as a A powerful collaboration, as well as a searched fiction portrait of Varian Fry, an mark book The Gay Me- reminder that it’s a special place “compelling act of resistance,” between American gay man credited with saving tropolis (Grove Press, 2019 shared by gay and straight people trans writer and musician Vivek Shraya the lives (and works) of creative geniuses 1997 / 2019), featuring alike. and illustrator Ness Lee, Death Threat condemned by the Nazis, including Marc the additional subtitle 50 Getting personal – In A Body (Arsenal Pulp Press, 2019) presents the Chagall, Hannah Arendt, Marcel Duchamp Years After Stonewall, is in the O: Performances and Sto- harrowing story of Shraya’s electronic en- and André Breton. even more essential reading than ever in ries (University of Wisconsin Press, 2019) counter with a hate mail-sending strang- Prolific gay poet/writer/editor/publisher light of the observance of the 50th anniver- celebrated performance artists and ac- er, in which she found her thoughts and Raymond Luczak pays tribute to Djuna sary of the Stonewall riots. tivist Tim Miller, renowned for being one dreams possessed by the sender’s threats. Barnes’s 1936 book Nightwood with his The Stonewall riots figure prominent- of the “NEA Four,” compiles prose pieces In her inclusive and accessible book new novel Flannelwood (Red Hen Press, ly in historian and journalist St. Sukie and performance scripts, as well as pho- Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for 2019), in which barista and failed poet Bill de la Croix’s new book Out of the Un- tographs, in this volume that also includes Better Relationships, Sex, and Dating meets and spends a passion-filled winter derground: Homosexuals, The Radical a foreword by Southern Illinois University (Microcosm, 2019), Faith G. Harper, PhD with disabled factory employee James only Press, and the Rise and Fall of the Gay professor Craig Gingrich-Philbrook. includes chapters such as “Sexuality, Re- to have the relationship end abruptly in the ligion and Spirituality,” “Changing Bodies, spring, leading Bill on a quest for answers. MAY 22 - JULY 28 Sexual Disorders, and Other Fuckitude,” Pan’s Ex: Queer Sex Poetry (Qom- “Exploring Your Sexual Identity,” “Sexing municate Publishing, 2019), edited by Yourself” and “Date Like a Grownup.” Sage Kalmus, is a slim, pocket-sized erot- Charting the fascinating, amusing and ic poetry anthology featuring the work of uplifting story of activist and trans person- Kenneth Pobo, Sean Patrick Mulroy, Marie ality Gigi Gorgeous in her own words and Hartung, David Meischen, Anthony DiPiet- pictures, He Said, She Said (Harmony ro and Raven Sky, among others. Books, 2019) details how she went from Show biz – You didn’t know it, but “gawky Canadian teen” Gregory to become Drag: Combing Through the Big Wigs of the documentarian, YouTube sensation Show Business (Rizzoli, 2019) by Frank and out lesbian that she is today. DeCaro, with a foreword by Bruce Vilanch, Lynn Breedlove, author of Godspeed is the book you’ve been waiting for all and the Lammy Award-winning Lynnee your gay life. A coffee table book suitable Breedlove’s One Freak Show, as well for more than coffee talk (Mike Meyers as queercore musician (remember Tribe as Linda Richman even gets a mention), 8?), returns to the printed page with 45 DeCaro’s thoroughly researched and very 410-730-8311 Thought Crimes: New Writing (Manic D colorful tome, illustrates that “drag in show TobysDinnerTheatre.com Press, 2019), is part poetry, part prayer business … goes back a lot further than the first season of Drag Race,” as it takes Due to the nature of theatrical bookings, and all personal memoir. all shows and dates are subject to change. Creative concepts – Previously pub- us from ancient Greece into the 21st cen- lished by Rescue Press, the newly reis- tury. sued Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal In their book Riverdish: The Unau- Girl (Vintage, 2017 / 2019), the debut nov- thorized Case Files of Riverdale (Dey el by educator and editor Andrea Lawlor, Street, 2019), Riverdish podcast creators is about “shapeshifter” Paul, who wildly Ryan Bloomquist & Samantha Gold in- oscillates from “Riot Grrrl to leather cub” vite you to “hold on to your milkshake” as and from “Women’s Studies major to trade” they reveal how the setting of the popu- while traversing Iowa City, Boystown, lar (and very queer) TV series Riverdale, Provincetown, and San Francisco. known as the “town with pep,” became no- Inspired by the last 50 years of the torious as a “great place to get away with devastation done to the Amazon, Indian it all.” t AUGUST 1 - SEPTEMBER 8 communities, and homesteaders by drug Read more at Baltimoreoutloud.com.

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let and dance performances. You’ll see performers twist and flex their bodies in mind-blowing positions. Also, the city has Fantastic Fort Wayne the Arena Dinner Theatre, a small community theatre that offers experienced and by David Placher novice actors’ opportunities to perform. Since Reno’s motto is “The Big- Fort Wayne biz Fort Wayne has wonderful and unfor- gest Little City in the World,” central gettable exhibits. The Fort Wayne Muse- Fort Wayne’s should be “The um of the Art is a place with both traveling Most Inaccessible Accessible and permanent exhibits. A recent exhibit Arts City in the World.” Fort detailed black and white photos of San Wayne is a hidden treasure in a Francisco’s homeless elders showed their conservative state. It’s tucked in glassy eyes, dirty and old wrinkled clothes, northeastern Indiana and its lo- and visible physical disabilities. Next to cation makes it an inconvenient the pictures is their names and stories pass-through destination for crammed onto index-sized cards. There are travelers going to Chicago, De- other photographs that capture abandoned troit, or Indianapolis: Fort Wayne factory towns where life once thrived. Near is on the way to nowhere. Its air- that museum is Artlink. It is a gallery for port is small and offers few di- emerging artists and art forms. It provides rect flights. But ie palace and vaudeville house. In 1972, locals with opportunities to display their ed treasures. It also touches on the historic Indian’s if you can figure the Embassy Theatre barely escaped a works. Castle Gallery is a three-story his- struggles and treatment that many in the Afri- out how to get developer’s plan to demolish it. A group of toric mansion that is transformed into a can-American community faced in the north- hidden gay there, you’ll be dedicated locals raised enough place that displays ern Indiana area. Unlike an east coast city, surprised be- money and saved the Embassy beautiful paintings of Fort Wayne lacks a diverse population, so gem of cause the city Theatre, thereby also preserv- all types. It’s run by this museum is very important to Fort Wayne has a flourishing ing part of the city’s history. In a family, so it’s not to show differences. culture and arts community. 1975 the Embassy Theatre was unusual to see their Fort Wayne has a decent-sized LGBT It offers artists placed on the National Register family’s pet collie lie community, some of whose members be- architecture opportunities to of Historic Places. Close by is on the entrance rug. long to a decades-old tight-knit LGBT show off their tal- the Civic Theatre. It is located Fort Wayne pre- group. In 1986, a group was formed to as- ents and it offers the public opportunities in the heart of the city’s arts serves its history. sist locals living with HIV. Over time, the to see several art shows each year. district. It shows local talents in The Historic Old Fort group grew to become the Positive Re- Fort Wayne loves theatre. The Embas- major performances that include is a reconstruction of source Center. Each year, it sponsors an sy Theatre is a famous mid-sized theatre Mama Mia, Sweeney Todd, and Chitty Chit- a historic fort with living history exhibits and AIDS walk. Also, like many other cities, its that hosts many popular traveling Broad- ty Bang Bang. Across the street is the Auer demonstrations. Local volunteers wear cos- LGBT gay bar scene is dwindling as most way shows. It opened in 1928 as a mov- Center for Arts and Culture. It hosts bal- tumes that resemble what soldiers wore when bars become more accepting. After Dark is the area had an active fort. The Fort Wayne the city’s last gay bar, a two-story venue History Center is located in the old city hall with a dance floor, video bar, stage for drag building and it maintains a collection of more queen performances, and a basement bar than 26,000 artifacts, documents, and pho- to socialize. There is a Fort Wayne Pride. tographs of the area. In the basement is the So if you’re into arts, interested in show- city’s famous old jail that remains intact for ing off your work, or just want to explore visitors to see how people were treated upon somewhere cool, Fort Wayne is the place. t being arrested. The city’s Firefighters Museum is located in the old firehouse and it is filled with old firetrucks, man- ual water pumps, and old firefighter gear. These displays show the evolution of firefighting equipment and how dan- gerous fighting fires is no matter what equipment is used. The African-African American Historical Racing off to a AIDS Walk Society Museum 1942 blaze – at – Small-town preserves local ar- the Firefighters camaraderie ticles and collect- Museum

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By Brian George Hose We’re on a roll at Hagerstown Hopes and we’re excited to tell you all about what 13th, and we’re planning a bigger, better meets the needs of young people in our we’ve been up to! Earlier in the month we Pride festival than last year! We’re still fi- community. Creating a youth program participated in Washington County Gives, nalizing a few details, and we think every- hasn’t been easy. There have been count- a day of giving and fundraising for nonprof- one will be pleased with what we’ve got in less details to attend to, including the cre- its in Washington County. The bad news store for you. We’ll be partnering with Bea- ation of policies to ensure the safety and is that we’re still awaiting a final total of con House to provide a kid-friendly area, privacy of queer and questioning youth. funds raised. The good news is that the de- complete with activities, games, and art Our board of directors recently approved lay is due to the sponsoring organization’s projects. There will be food, vendors, and the policies needed to begin our youth tivities for the local LGBTQ community as calculations of matching funds, as well as some top-notch entertainment all day long. program and we’re looking forward to our well as the wider community we call home. cash prizes awarded for a variety of cri- We’ll be beginning Pride with our Pride first meeting in June. It’s a great way to bring people together teria. As of now, we believe we’ve raised Kickoff Night Out at the Gourmet Goat on While we were developing the model and to provide opportunities that aren’t at least $3,000. We had some of the most June 27th from 5 to 9 pm. Come see us, for our youth group, we realized that we available in our area. We hope that these generous donors of any of the dozens of get a tour of our Pride venue, and get an needed activities that would be fun, ben- contributions will make our community a organizations participating and we thank inside scoop on what we’re planning. We eficial, and that encourage young people better place for everyone. We’re working everyone for your donations. We want you hope to see you there. to work together and socialize. After all, on funding for some larger projects, so to know that your money will be put to good We’re also happy to announce that please stay tuned for details. use, and we think you’ll be as happy as we we’re making significant progress in our “One of the best We’re also grateful to have many op- are about our upcoming work. youth outreach. We’ve been working for portunities to participate in and give back Hagerstown Pride is scheduled for July months to create a youth program that ways to bring people to the community. We’ve been working together is to provide with Shepherd University to create inclusive and empowering programs and activ- a common goal. So, ities for the fall. We’ll be working with both students and faculty to provide information while we worked on about our community, as well as participat- laying the foundation ing in a panel discussion about advocacy. It’s exciting to have the opportunity to for a youth group, we reach countless people and contribute to creating inclusive and affirming spaces in also quietly began neighboring communities. working on a plan for There’s always something going on at Hagerstown Hopes. Our work is meant to The Keystone Gay Rodeo Association is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt arts outreach that can build and strengthen our community, and we can’t do that without you. We now have non-pro t organization whose purpose is to promote the be used for our youth a monthly newsletter that you can sign up country and western lifestyle and rodeo type events within group, as well as adults for via our website: HagerstownHopesMD. org The newsletter includes upcoming the LGBT community and their allies. in our community.” events and ways to get involved. Please Do you enjoy any of the following activities? feel free to reach out to us with ideas, sug- one of the best ways to bring people to- gestions, and feedback so that we can bet- •Social Events including country music and dancing. gether is to provide a common goal. So, ter serve you. t •Meeting new people and making new friends. while we worked on laying the foundation for a youth group, we •Helping other community organizations by volunteering and also quietly be- raising much needed funds. gan working on •Trail riding, open horse shows, a plan for arts outreach that rodeos and other horse related events. can be used for our youth group, as well as adults If so, then KSGRA membership may in our community. be for you. To join visit our website We’ve got some at ksgra.org great plans for projects and ac-

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us, thereby reinforcing a number of nega- Because while my sideburns and timbre tive stereotypes. After all, anyone can be disguise it well, there is still very much a HIV-positive, regardless of who they sleep uterus inside of me. For myself and every Brian’s with. This policy, which clearly is in need of Asher’s other transmasculine or enby person who revision, serves to exclude and only harms has not undergone a hysterectomy, we are Brain those in need of a life-saving transfusion. World just as much affected by these draconian Brian George Hose If anyone can be HIV-positive, shouldn’t Asher Kennedy rulings. In a way that is unique to our pre- processes and policies be updated to max- dicament, finding safe reproductive care imize the number of eligible donors need- was already an extra hurdle, because after Problematic ed to save lives? A Call for you go through the (exhaustingly arduous) We’re also seeing exclusion in conver- process to change your gender marker; in- Policies sations and policies surrounding abortion. Cameraderie surance companies get slightly perplexed The word “woman” is often used in these by a man needing to get a pap smear, or Sometimes being busy is a good problem policies, referring to those seeking abor- in Combat see a gynaecologist at all. Making it ille- to have. I say this because the last few tion services. It seems that policymakers gal to practice most aspects of their field months for me and the gang at Hager- have forgotten (or don’t know) that trans This week, in its ever-growing battle to is not going to make things any easier for stown Hopes have been nothing but busy. men can (and do) become pregnant. keep American social progress back as me when I have to uncomfortably wait for Now that we’ve established a presence in There’s an extra, more insidious layer many centuries as possible, Alabama my name to be called amongst all of the the community, we’ve been asked to par- to this issue because by only using the passed the most sweeping abortion ban in confused pregnant women staring at me in ticipate in, contribute to, and partner with word “woman,” policy makers reinforce the country, to date. Heartbeat bills have the lobby. In the boiling rage and contempt more organizations than I can think of the gender binary and completely disre- now been passed in four states, with an- for those who are issuing these rulings that without making a list and scrolling through gard gender identity and gender expres- other one waiting the signature of its gov- are affront to the lives they wish to protect; my ever-growing inbox of emails. At a cer- sion. They’re saying that trans men aren’t ernor. There are two states who have had we need to make sure that we are not ex- tain point I realized that the world really “real” men because they have a uterus (or their versions of the law struck down by cluding anyone who now has their health is changing quickly and that we no longer “duderus,” one of my new favorite affirming federal courts, and one that was struck and safety at risk to people who don’t have to ask to be included because oth- words). I can’t help but think this is inten- down by the state court. There are three know what a uterus even is. ers want to include us. This is great news tional. After all, a lot of effort has gone into states with similar bills This is not a because it means that our work is, well, creating trans-excluding policies; it makes having passed half- matter of pro-life working. The world is becoming more in- sense that trans men would be excluded way through their versus pro-choice, clusive, more accepting, and more affirm- from policies that also affect them, espe- respective state nor does it have ing of differences. cially when these policies are created houses. That is over literally a shred That’s why I’m concerned by straight, cisgender men who a fifth of states that to do with some- about recent events. I’d got- don’t even know how preg- have or have tried to one’s personal ten so swept up in the warm nancy works. all but eliminate Roe religious beliefs. glow of acceptance and The primary v. Wade from the This is a matter of inclusion that I maybe purpose of pol- lawbooks. The sen- control. Of losing overestimated how well icy is to regu- ators in these states control over liter- we are actually regard- late and control have not shied away ally one aspect of ed by society. Now I’m behavior. As from the fact, having the comfort zone second-guessing our community openly been gab- of the elite and myself because, knows, policy bing about the Pav- their response to while individual can also be used lovian-response they it. Every time we attitudes may be to discriminate, have when someone move the needle changing, we’re segregate, and lim- mentions overturning of social equality and progress an inch still being adversely it our rights. That’s the 45-year-old law. forward, we will get a brutish response. affected by a number because policies are This is not a partisan issue. This is There is fear in not being able to carry of problematic policies that always a reflection of not an issue. Without legal abortion and one’s self through life with the breeze of exclude and even ignore mem- values, and values have a contraceptive care, people will die. These being rich, white, heterosexual and a cis- bers of our community. We’re mak- way of changing over time. This states are also, un-coincidentally, the gender man; and just about every person ing progress, but the work is far from over. puts our community in a paradoxical po- same states with both the lowest amount who reads this will understand the hurdles It started with a news article about a lo- sition: we have achieved partial, but not of obgyns per population as well as having of not being multiple of those labels. Polic- cal blood bank. Their supply of life-saving full, equality for our community. We have the highest occurrences of people dying ing someone’s body is against the idea of blood is dangerously low and donors are won many battles to be included in policy, during labour and delivery. These are not liberty and anything that is going to lead to needed. The problem is that an antiquated and these victories deserve to be celebrat- new facts or trends. Pro-life groups have the pain, suffering and death of citizens is policy does not allow men who have had ed. That doesn’t mean the work is over, been chipping away at reproductive health tyranny in the most basic definition. It is up sex with men to donate blood. Technical- though. Until all policies are inclusive of in general, with the mindset having always to all of those who have uteruses and as ly donation is possible, but it requires a all members of our community and reflect been towards outlawing a person’s ability I like call mine, “duderuses.” No one else year of celibacy. The concern, of course, our rights, needs, and personal autonomy, to have bodily autonomy the second some- is going to fight for our safety and security, is that men who have had sex with men we must remain vigilant. We must do the one realises they have a uterus. and we are going to need to stand along- may be HIV-positive and spread the vi- work. Let’s get busy. t While the outrage at what is happen- side each other if we are going to ensure rus to the recipient of a blood transfusion. ing with a person’s right to choose is com- the liberty of our own organs. t The problem is that this policy stigmatizes pletely justified and overtly logical, what men who have sex with men and excludes is hurtful is calling this a war on women.

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to remember to hold their to get our attention. we honestly just don’t like. Nyet! tongues, they sometimes Two to three year olds And, our job as parents is to teach our forget. Those are the words do it when they recog- children how to navigate a world where the that Kassa latches onto nize that they can do rules don’t make sense. Our job as parents Parenting and remembers above all things on their own. is to teach our children how to express OUTloud others. Middle school aged their opinions in calm and intelligent ways Rev. Kelly Crenshaw But, it’s the outright kids are notorious for so that the weird rules might be changed defiance that is defining their desire to control one day. And, what better place to start her right now. Before this, their worlds. They aren’t than with us? Kassa was the type of child little kids anymore, but So, when Kassa starts to throw her tan- ... who listened to reason. If they just don’t have the trum, we calmly remind her that she needs NO! we explained why we want- wisdom to act like adults. to use her words to tell us why she’s so Our dear little angel has hit a milestone. ed her to do something, And, then senioritis hits upset. If she wants to wave bye to me as Normally, we’d be so proud. We’d post then she was quick to go just a few years later. I head to the office, then she needs to let it on Facebook and tell our friends. But, along. Now, she says “NO!” Our 18 year olds set off us know that, not just throw a fit when we this one has a different ring to it. Finally, just to say no. on whatever path they’ve tell her to go inside. Usually, with a bit of at three-and-a-half years of age, our little “Kassa, it’s time for chosen to make their discussion, we can all end up on the same sweetheart has become defiant. your bath.” “NO!” “You can own way in the world – side of the argument. She will agree to Kassandra has had the benefit of grow- have your dessert after or at least that’s how we take her bath, or go to bed, or wash her ing up with lots of older siblings. She has bathtime.” “NO!” “You can envision it. But, they get hands, or leave the playground. And, we lots of playmates and, unfortunately for put on your favorite unicorn to take responsibility for will agree to go back tomorrow, or give her her, a group of teens and young adults who jammies.” “NO!” their own decisions at dessert, or let her wear her favorite shirt, are always ready to remind And, heaven that point. or have an extra story before bed. her when she needs to fol- ... Just to forbid anyone try to carry her to Imagine what it would be like to have to We’re teaching her the art of compro- low the rules. Now, in the the bathroom. You’d think the follow rules that make no sense to you. Oh mise and negotiation. And, in my experi- past couple of weeks, Kas- say no world was ending. “Mommy!” wait! We have rules like that, don’t we? We ence, there are many adults who could use sa realizes that she doesn’t And, if she gets free, she runs to have to follow rules about working, driving the same lessons. Give you kids a head like the rules. me. Even natural consequences like falling our cars, owning our houses, going to the start. t She has also learned an impressive vo- when she climbs up on a bathroom counter store, or walking through town. We have to cabulary from her older siblings. She un- or trips when running through the woods follow rules that don’t make sense or that derstands much more than most children are not strong enough deterrents right now. her age, simply by being exposed to it. She Eventually, she will agree that we are is a like an only child in that regard. She probably right and she needs a bath or to spends her days with adults, so she uses slow down or to stay on the floor, but she the words she most frequently hears. You makes it clear that it’s going to be on her know where this is going, right? My teens timeline, not ours. and young adults, like many teens and All kids go through stages where con- young adults, choose to use words that trol is their ultimate desire. Infants do it aren’t necessarily appropriate for a little when they first discover mobility, but can’t person to use. And, even though they try do everything they want to do, so they cry

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After a cocktail hour, Highwaymen TNT President Nelson Bennett welcomed the group and thanked everyone for coming out in full formal leather on what turned out Leaving Mt. Vernon to be the hottest day so far this year. Pri- Leather or to dinner, he presented a few awards, Succumbing to the Siren song of suburbia Line including an award to ONYX Mid-Atlantic Rodney Burger (which was recognized for its continued After 13 years of living in “The Gayborhood,” Don Mullins is moving to Baltimore support of the Highwaymen TNT) and an County. He arrived in October 2006 after spending many years involved in ex-gay honorary “Trash of the Year 2018” award ministry, and coming out in summer 2002. “As we all sifted through life post 9/11, to my dear friend and ONYX member Der- I realized I was living a provisional life and not really embracing who I was,” he Highwaymen rick Otter Starr. The Highwaymen TNT said, “After months of wrestling with it, I concluded that I was gay, it was never Member of the Year Award, the club’s high- going to change, and I might as well make peace with it.” est honor, was presented to longtime club He appeared in Spotlighter’s Theatre pro- TNT member Adrian Medina. duction of Angels In America As they have for many years, the High- in 2006 as well as doing annual Toast 41 Years waymen TNT call the DC Eagle their home readings of works by Edgar Allan bar and can be found behind the club Poe at Westminster Hall & Burying On Sunday, May 19th leaders of the area’s bar every second Thursday of the month Ground, where Poe is buried. leather community and members of area starting at 9 pm for their popular jockstrap Don joined ShipMates Club leather clubs gathered at the District Chop- night. Be sure to stick around until 11:30 and spent several years participat- house and Brewery in downtown Washing- for the Hot Jock Contest. The club is also ing in charitable fundraisers such ton, DC, to celebrate the 41st anniversa- well-known for their Impact Heroes Fetish as “Daddy Christmas,” which ben- ry of the Highwaymen TNT. The intimate Ball held each January on the Friday night efited Moveable Feast and others. dinner party was held on the lower level of Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend. Learn He also appeared as his drag of the bustling restaurant in a space that more about the Highwaymen TNT by going persona “Polly Propylene, Like the was once the original vault of the Second to their website at Highwaymentnt.com or Plastic Dear” at Pride, Divapalooza, National Bank. The Highwaymen TNT club follow them on Facebook at: Highwaymen Club Hippo, and Leon’s. “I had a lot was founded in our nation’s capital in May TNT of Washington, DC. Thank you, High- of fun, but eventually the late hours 1978 with eight founding members and a waymen TNT, for 41 years of trashy fun! and high heels were too much.” platform of diversity and fun. Some of the The Highwaymen TNT’s anniversary “I feel lucky,” he muses “to have founding members had been members of was the third anniversary celebration I’ve been here before the closing of so other leather clubs but wanted to start a attended in two months, but I’m already many venues. I feel like I got to really looking forward to anoth- experience what I had missed in my er milestone celebration. 20s & 30s.” Christmas wouldn’t be As he packs and prepares to Christmas in Baltimore’s move to a more suburban setting he Transitions – leather community with- says one song captures the mix of out the annual 12 Days Don Mullins makes emotions. “Closing Time” by Semi Sonic in 1998 he laughs a new move of Christmas extrava- and sings, “Every new beginning comes from some other ganza show put on by beginning’s end.” t Hooker and Boys. This Baltimore-based club of hardworking leather folks will celebrate 20 years of service on Sunday, August 25th at 1 pm at the Clifton Pleasure Club (2803 Grindon Avenue, Baltimore). Hooker and Boys promises an afternoon of “food, fun, frol- ic, and fundraising.” I wouldn’t think of missing the 12 Days of Christ- LivelyLively ARTSARTS isis thethe placeplace toto bebe Highwaymen TNT mas show and there is new club that was a better fit for them. – High explosives? Nah, ‘Trash ’n’ no way I’m going to miss forfor allall youryour theatricaltheatrical needsneeds Not wanting to identify as a motorcy- travel’ out on toasting 20 years cle club (MC) as many of the leather of Hooker and Boys. The CallCall MaryMary atat 410-802-1310410-802-1310 oror clubs had done, they called their club event is being held as part Highwaymen TNT with the “TNT” standing of the popular Mid-Atlantic Leather Woman [email protected]@baltimoreoutloud.com for “trash ’n’ travel.” They describe their and Leather Woman Bootblack Weekend. group as a “trashy and fun bunch who love I’m sure it will be another historic gathering to travel.” of the area’s leather community. t toto getget thethe latestlatest dealsdeals

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