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LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] FRED LYNCH ~ [email protected] LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] Christy Smith is shown inside her business, The Plant Lady’s Corner, in downtown Cape Girardeau. Becky Brown places cookies on a Katelin Robinson, owner of Glassroots in Cape Girardeau, poses for a photo. cooling rack to ready them for decorating.

where it’s at with job creation, so I think more owners to the Missouri Procurement Technical According to PURSUING and more people in general are looking to start Assistance Centers around the state. their own business, and then that’s translating to “While the PTAC office is in St. Louis, our the U.S. Census an increased opportunity in particular for wom- small business development center here on cam- en to start their own business,” Jones says. pus can help connect those women-owned busi- Bureau, the number AMBITIONS While women-owned businesses are on the nesses to the PTAC process,” Jones says. of women-owned rise, they tend to remain small. The EDA University Center also assists en- In 2012, only 15.9 percent of the fe- trepreneurial development through LaunchU, a businesses in the Local entrepreneurs are part of a growing male-owned businesses in Cape Girardeau six-week training course that guides participants County had paid employees, compared to 34.9 in developing a feasibility plan to start a small U.S. has increased trend toward female-owned businesses percent of the male-owned businesses. That’s business. by 74 percent also the case on the national level, where wom- Since the program was introduced as Opera- es not only in Southeast Missouri, but around the and being able to do your own thing for yourself en-owned businesses account for 14 percent of tion JumpStart in 2006, more than 8,000 people By Jeff Breer from 1997 to nation. and kind of wanting to take that chance and fol- the workers among privately held companies and have enrolled among the 150 affiliates nation- According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the lowing through with something you want to do, 12 percent of revenues. wide. The number of women participating grew 2015, with women- Becky Brown, Katelin Robinson and Christy number of women-owned businesses in the U.S. instead of being at home or working for some- According to the American Express 2015 from 50 percent that first year to 59 percent in Smith have several things in common. owned businesses has increased by 74 percent from 1997 to 2015, body else,” Smith says. State Women-Owned Business report, wom- 2011. All are college educated to a degree, but none with women-owned businesses now accounting As of 2012, 30.6 percent of privately held busi- en-owned firms received only 4 percent of all In 2016, 16 of the 26 participants (61.5 per- obtained a degree. now accounting for 31 percent of all privately held businesses. nesses in Cape Girardeau County were owned by commercial loans and only 5 percent of govern- cent) that attended the sessions in Southeast But that has not prevented all three from own- In Cape Girardeau County, there was a growth women, which was an increase from 24.6 percent ment contracts. Missouri, held in the spring and fall, were wom- for 31 percent of ing their own businesses in Cape Girardeau. rate of 70 percent from 1997 to 2012, when wom- in 2007 and 23 percent in 1997. Jones says the EDA University Center, es- en. Brown runs a bakery operation, Cakes Reani- all privately held en-owned businesses grew from 1,238 to 2,112, Crystal Jones, the director of the Economic tablished with a grant from the U.S. Economic Brown attended the spring classes in Sikeston, mated, from her home; Robinson owns a novelty according to the U.S. Census Bureau’s Survey of and Business Engagement Center at Southeast Development Administration to stimulate and Missouri, where eight of the 10 participants were tobacco store, Glassroots; and Smith has been businesses. Business Owners. That was well above the over- Missouri State University, says there has been an support entrepreneurial growth in the region, women. nursing a tropical-plant store, The Plant Lady’s all 26.4 percent growth rate in businesses during increased focus on entrepreneurship in general, assists area businesses — including small, disad- “It was exciting,” Brown said. “I felt like it was, Corner, for more than a decade. that period in Cape Girardeau County. but especially among women. vantaged and women-owned firms — in getting I don’t know, invigorating as a woman to see oth- While the three arrived as proprietors at differ- “I do see a lot more women doing it, but I “With the times and the way they are chang- certified to compete for government contracts on er women that all were pursuing their ambitions. ent times and in varying fashion, they are among think it’s just a matter of being more independent ing, people are realizing small businesses are the local, state and federal levels by connecting a growing trend toward women-owned business- Continued on next page

8 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 9 It was very supportive for everyone.” Continued from page 9 Through the LaunchU program, which makes a number Transform your Event from PURSUING AMBITIONS of sources available at classes, including lawyers and ac- countants, participants create and tweak business ideas into Ordinary to Extraordinary a Small Business Administration-approved feasibility plan. Through taking the class, Jones says some enlightened For All your participants learn their plan is not practical and elect not to pursue an endeavor, while others emerge with a solid plan Special Occasion that can help them overcome financial hurdles. Rental Needs! “It’s investment-ready, so you can take that plan to your bank, and it’s going to have everything that your banker is Complete Line looking for, as far as financial statements, your marketing of Wedding analysis, all that information that your banker really needs Accessories to see before he or she can make a decision to fund your business,” Jones says. Theme Parties At the end of the LaunchU session, participants pitch their business idea to a panel of judges in a competition FRED LYNCH ~ [email protected] Elegant for grants. Becky Brown pulls straight lines in the almond royal icing on a to Rustic Brown won the start-up assistance services for her idea cookie to create the finished design. Receptions to get her business out of her house and into a food truck, a 1987 Chevy step van she purchased and is repurposing. Carnival The package included valuable marketing assistance for her Supplies and business, which she originally licensed out of necessity to Financing has not stood Equipment provide a cake for a friend’s wedding at an upscale venue in their way. They find a way, in 2012. 1914 Independence Brown also works part-time as a server at a local restau- “ Cape Girardeau whether it’s using their own rant and has used her earnings to invest in the truck, which 332-7186 she views as a bridge to bigger dreams. collateral and finances to fund it. “To have an actual building would be amazing,” Brown They can do it. Once they set their says. “That’s the plan.” Robinson and Smith both operate brick-and-mortar mind to it, they do it. stores and went about the process on their own. LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] Robinson opened her first business venture in November Christy Smith is shown inside The Plant Lady’s Corner in downtown Cape of 2015 after spending about six months putting together a A biology major, she was a year away from graduating when she Girardeau. 70-page business plan, which included financials and pro- had her first daughter and needed to work. She found employment jections. She had helped her parents open Cup ’n’ Cork in at The Plant Lady’s Corner, which she later bought. 2005, and with that experience and the help of an investor, She says when it comes to the business side, she’s fortunate her she got things off the ground for Glassroots. father was an accountant, but she also calls on her non-biology “All the female business owners I know are all really driv- classes on a regular basis. en,” Robinson says. “Financing has not stood in their way. “Regardless of whether I’m watering plants or playing in dirt, I They find a way, whether it’s using their own collateral and still use all the things I learned in my business classes,” Smith says. finances to fund it. They can do it. Once they set their mind “When I sit here and do my paperwork, when I deal with the taxes to it, they do it.” and deal with the payroll, buying and purchasing.” Robinson says her industry is male-dominant, which is Self-owned businesses allow for flexibility of hours but call for most apparent when she goes to product shows that feature long hours on many days. such attractions as bikini-clad women. She’s found support “It’s a really rewarding thing and a humbling experience,” Rob- in her industry from another female owner in Alabama, inson says. “I would hope that everyone that wants to open their however. own business can and will, but definitely look into the Small Busi- “She’s been a huge help, just asking questions,” Robinson ness Administration; use the resources that are out there.” says. “Not knowing, and I can pick up the phone and call Robinson says she got online and read every article available be- her any time, and she’ll walk me through it or help me out.” fore she started her business plan. She was aware of the LaunchU It’s part of a sense of support women owners often share program offered by Southeast but did not take it, although she’s with one another. Robinson enhances the ambience of her not ruling it out in the future. store with plants purchased from Smith’s shop. “I do have ‘Business for Dummies,’ which I resort to frequent- Smith also provides care for plants inside homes and of- ly,” Robinson says with a laugh. “And I do intend to take that class fices, as well as keeping up flowerbeds and planting in the LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] — if nothing else, to brush up and maybe give me some insight to spring and summer. Vegan soap by Bayou Soap Co. is available at Glassroots in Cape Girardeau. issues or obstacles I haven’t found an answer for yet.”

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hhheww’ ... I was able to take a deep breath and kind of chill out. So ever since then I’ve been getting the acupuncture done.” With lights dimmed and soothing music play- ing, he would be covered with a warm blanket and rest for about 30 minutes before the removal of the needles. A couple doors down, 73-year-old Shirley Bentley, also of Cape Girardeau, waited for treat- ment. Her maladies ranging from chronic aller- gies to fibromyalgia, she sometimes seeks con- ventional chiropractic adjustments, but on this day she eagerly awaits Heisserer and a fresh set of sterile needles. “The chiropractic is kind of in spots, but the acupuncture is like the whole body,” Bentley says before her treatment. “It’s all over, so I think that’s why it’s good the way it is. Most time a little bit of both, but sometimes it’s like I don’t need the acupuncture. Sometimes I just need the acupuncture.” On this particular day she is there for treat- LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] ment of her sinuses, and soon she is talking and Dr. Anne Heisserer, DC, performs acupuncture on Shirley Bentley. smiling with multiple needles in her cheeks, forehead and scalp. “It really helps, and if you have a headache or Heisserer said about 80 percent of her patients anything, it’s a good thing for that,” Bentley says. are female, and about 30 to 40 percent of her LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] She also experiences sporadic widespread pain It really patients have acupuncture treatment. She says Dr. Anne Heisserer, DC, performs acupuncture on Shirley Bentley. throughout her body, one of the symptoms of fi- women generally are more open to the treatment bromyalgia, when the weather turns cold. helps, and if you than men. While insurance plans usually do not cov- “ “Seriously, they don’t have the needle phobia have a headache er the cost of acupuncture, which is considered as much as men,” Heisserer said. “Seriously, if I’m alternative treatment or self-maintenance, much or anything, it’s GETTING TO in a room and I even bring it up to some of these like massage therapy, it is a preferred treatment guys, and they’re like, ‘No, you’re not poking me for some like Coad and Bentley, who both try a good thing for with a needle. ... Some of them will say ‘voodoo,’ to avoid medication unless absolutely necessary. but most of them will say ‘I’m scared of needles.’ that. THE POINT Chiropractic adjustments have gained trac- That’s their biggest thing, but they’re teeny, tiny, tion in the medical field and often are covered little-bitty needles. They’re not injecting any- by insurance, but Heisserer said many insurers Local individuals look to acupuncture, thing. I mean, I can’t even tell you how skinny take the stance that acupuncture is “not clinically ” these things are. It’s not like a syringe they’re proven” in the scientific community. alternative methods for healing putting in your vein and sucking blood out so it However, according to the National Insti- has a hole in the middle to do so.” ably talks as Heisserer performs a form of Chinese anywhere, and my ears started ringing through tute of Health (NIH), part of the Department By Jeff Breer Heisserer pursued her profession after receiv- medicine that traces back more than 2,000 years. this.” of Health and Human Services (HHS) and the ing chiropractic treatment following her experi- Coad has become comfortable with the treat- Coad came to see Heisserer, a chiropractor, to second largest supporter of research and devel- Dr. Anne Heisserer talks freely with her patient ence in an automobile accident in her early 20s. ment, something he has been receiving on a deal with an ongoing neck condition he sustained opment in the federal government, acupuncture as she glides about her business, first inserting She received her degree from the Logan Uni- weekly basis for the past three months to address in high school, thinking an adjustment might help is an effective treatment for muscle, bone and needles into his toes, feet, arms, ears and forehead versity College of Chiropractic in Chesterfield, insomnia, tinnitus and anxiety, conditions he as- with the high and low frequency squelching that nerve pain, addictions and weight loss, as well as before finishing with the scalp. Missouri, in December of 1996. Although she sociated with a 30-pound weight loss over the had replaced some of his hearing. digestive, circulatory and respiratory conditions. As much as the pins piercing the skin catch had never had acupuncture performed on her, summmer. “So she adjusted my neck, and she said, ‘I can “Most people, when they come in here, they one’s fascination, the absence of reaction is just as she was intrigued by the treatment and special- “I think I got my body chemistry off a little do something for the ringing in your ears and say, ‘Acupuncture is my last resort,’” Heisserer noticeable. ized in it during her three and a half years at the bit because I was struggling with sleeping,” Coad probably help relax you,’” Coad says. “I was full says. “They’ve already tried everything else. This There is no pain. There is no blood. school. says. “It’s almost like I couldn’t sleep at night, and of paranoia and struggling. She did the acupunc- helps so much stuff. You literally can treat any- Her unflinching patient, 56-year-old Tim I was a guy that could sleep pretty much anytime, ture, and at that moment I felt kind of ‘Whhhh- thing.” Continued on page 16 Coad of Cape Girardeau, is relaxed and comfort-

12 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 13 health & fitness / kitchen not rely solely on refined white sugar. For baked goods, lessen sugar By Brandpoint and add vanilla or cinnamon to intensify sweetness. For glazes, try alternatives like maple syrup or fruit purees. Creamy sauces, cookies, casseroles and cakes — as temperatures drop, it’s natural to crave favorite comfort foods. However, it’s easy to BREADING: overindulge on rich dishes and decadent desserts, especially if you’re Classic comfort foods often require breading. For a healthy alterna- hosting a gathering of friends and family. How can you enjoy amazing tive to traditional white bread crumbs, try whole-grain bread crumbs, foods while bumping up the health quotient? rolled oats or crushed bran cereal (or a mixture of them all). “Remember, when you’re cooking or baking, you’re in control. With a few smart ingredient substitutions and food swaps, you and your FLOUR: guests can enjoy favorite dishes and get more vitamins and nutrients,” Rather than using entirely all-purpose refined white flour for rec- says Lyssie Lakatos. ipes, try swapping half of the amount with whole-wheat flour. You’ll Lyssie Lakatos and Tammy Lakatos Shames, both registered dieti- still get the desired consistency out of baked goods, but you’ll be eat- tians, are known as “The Nutrition Twins.” Together, they share their ing more whole grains. favorite strategies for cooking healthier, including clever ingredient swaps you won’t even detect in the finished dish. LETTUCE: EGGS: Iceberg lettuce is a popular option for salads and recipes, but to get more important vitamins (and more flavor), use arugula, collard When baking, eggs are a common ingredient, but not all eggs are greens, spinach, kale or watercress instead. Insider tip: try buying a created equal. Opt for Eggland’s Best eggs, locally-sourced eggs that bag of mixed greens to enjoy a variety of nutrient-dense alternatives. come from hens fed an all-vegetarian diet consisting of healthy grains, canola oil and supplements like alfalfa and vitamin E. As a result, they STUFFED SWEET POTATOES have 10 times more vitamin E, five times more vitamin D, three times Want to start your day out with an indulgent, satisfying breakfast more vitamin B12, two times more omega-3s, 38 percent more lutein that features some of these smart cooking ideas? This recipe serves as and 25 percent less saturated fat compared to ordinary eggs. a great breakfast and has vitamin-packed eggs, sweet potatoes and SOUR CREAM: turkey bacon. • 2 eggs (large) Swap full-fat sour cream for plain Greek yogurt in recipes, dips, • 2 sweet potatoes sauces and garnishes. Plain Greek yogurt tastes surprisingly similar to • 2 strips turkey bacon sour cream but offers higher levels of protein. • 1/4 cup shredded cheddar cheese BUTTER IN COOKING: • 1 1/2 teaspoon salt • 1/2 teaspoon pepper Cooking smart means choosing healthier fats and using them in • 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil moderation. Instead of butter, try olive oil. While 1 tablespoon of but- Directions: ter has about 7 grams of saturated fat, olive oil only has 2 grams of Preheat your oven to 400 degrees. saturated fat. Wash and scrub your sweet potatoes. Place on a baking sheet, pierce BUTTER IN BAKING: each potato a few times with a fork and drizzle with extra virgin olive oil. Place in the oven and roast for 45 minutes. Oil can cause baked goods to get soggy, so a better butter alterna- When sweet potatoes are finished, slice them in half lengthwise tive is applesauce or pumpkin puree for half of the called-for amount. and let them cool. The addition of applesauce or pumpkin puree reduces the fat content Scoop a bit of “meat” out from the sweet potatoes to make room while keeping baked goods moist and delicious. for the filling. BACON: In a small nonstick skillet over medium heat, place two strips of turkey bacon. Cook until bacon begins to brown and crisp up. Bacon adds flavor to any dish, but a ton of fat. To get the flavor Place a napkin on top of a small plate. When bacon is finished, boost of bacon without the excess fat, try using Canadian bacon, lean place onto napkin to let grease soak out. prosciutto or turkey bacon. Whether beside scrambled eggs for break- Rinse the skillet and place back on the burner over medium heat. Stock photos fast or crumbled into a casserole, these tasty alternatives will satisfy. Place eggs in skillet and cook on medium-low for about 3 minutes. SALT: Be sure not to overcook these eggs as they will continue cooking after removed from heat, and will be placed into the oven later on. Use less salt and add herbs to recipes to get succulent flavor. Break eggs into four equal parts. Place each into the hollow parts of Whether fresh or dried, herbs satisfy the palate and add beauty to HEALTHY COOKING the sweet potatoes. Sprinkle each with salt and pepper. any dish. Have fun mixing and matching herbs to customize a recipe Break bacon apart with your hands into small pieces. Sprinkle over perfectly to your taste. Ingredient substitutions and smart food swaps the eggs. SUGAR: Sprinkle cheese over top. Set your oven to broil on high. Place pota- toes in the oven and broil for three minutes or until cheese is melted. All those amazing glazes and desserts require sugar, but you need

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26 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/fl ourish www.semissourian.com/fl ourish spring 2017 | Flourish 27 women’s summit thing I do. shared her words as I would share anything, nev- features / Working with young people has been one of er expecting the response that I received, never my greatest joys, as well as one one of my great- expecting it to grow to something more than a est responsibilities/challenges. The privilege of Facebook status. But people began saying they teaching English language arts to seventh-grade wanted a particular quote on a T-shirt or a coffee students for almost two decades, until I resigned mug, and some said that I needed to write a book in October of 2013, is still so much a part of me or that she reminded them of an aunt or grand- that when I meet people and am asked what I mother. Then I started hearing she was a “Black “do,” teaching remains the first thing that comes Max,” alluding to the popular Maxine character to mind. I have to remind myself that I am no of Hallmark fame. longer in the classroom. I do still get the oppor- I eventually took the demand for more #Aun- tunity, as a motivational speaker, to go to schools GLENN LANDBERG ~ [email protected] tAlma to heart and hired my first illustrator, who Adrienne Ross signs a copy of her first book, and speak to youth, so the teacher in me is still created one image of her. People began buying “#AuntAlma: Raisin a Little Hell Heaven on very much alive. And while I was teaching and Earth” for a customer at Barnes & Noble items with particular quotes on them. Elysia coaching in the public school setting, the moti- Friday, July 22. The book is a collection of King, my illustrator, was very busy at the time vational speaker was very much alive in my ap- quotations from Ross’ aunt along with colorful and could not take the project where I wanted to illustrations. proach. So it all just flows together. I absolutely take it, so I hired another illustrator, John Mor- love communication — effective communica- gan, and the mission continued because, by then, tion! I have loved to write for as long as I can I had caught the vision. Mind you, my aunt had remember, though I never thought I’d be doing Working with no idea any of this was going on. I unveiled it some of the kinds of writing that I do now. God to her one evening in New York — along with has blessed me to be multifaceted, and his gifts young people has been pictures of people with their #AuntAlma para- have served me well in many areas. “ phernalia and videos they made telling her how I am passionate about youth because they are one of my greatest much her words made them laugh or encouraged so open once one has gained their trust. I look joys, as well as one them. When the suggestions that I write a book at my opportunities to be with them as a win- continued, I gathered more quotes. Even now, dow to having a positive influence on them — to one of my greatest I keep a pen handy when I talk to her on the help facilitate their character development and phone because she’s always dropping something help them grow, while they keep me young and responsibilities/ funny — not trying to at all; she’s just being her- help me grow. They are impressionable, and once challenges. self. I don’t let her know I’m taking notes because you have their heart, you have a treasure money I want her to be her authentic self. I want her as cannot buy. Former students contact me and tell she is, not as a scripted character. FRED LYNCH ~ [email protected] me how my class changed their lives or how I It’s been a joy to help make people laugh Adrienne Ross poses for a photo with her book, “#AuntAlma: Raisin’ a Little Hell Heaven on Earth,” on Wednesday, July 6, in Cape Girardeau. helped them get through a tough time; it’s some- through her. This project is a tribute to her and thing I wouldn’t change for anything. One thing pieces to a puzzle God began to put together cements her legacy, yes, but almost as important, I often say is that “people don’t care how much years before. it makes people laugh, and we need more laugh- you know until they know how much you care.” I I still don’t fully know why I’m here, especially ter. In 2016, I began jokingly calling it the “Make have found that to be true with youth especially. since my full-time job as an editor for Breitbart America Laugh Again” campaign. I consider my Once they know you truly care, you can get on News Network is online and can be done any- #AuntAlma work part of my motivational work MEET ADRIENNE ROSS where. Though I do not have all the answers of because it’s hard to be motivated if you cannot their case when need be, and they’ll receive it. 2017 Flourish Women’s Summit speaker Why? Because they trust that you have their best why I’m here, I see things coming together here laugh, so I help make that happen. interests at heart. that were not in place in New York. It’s all still Interview by Logan Young Ross has been making good use of her time in the Hudson City School District, which is about unfolding — and again, I’m assured it’s a God- Flourish: Speaking of books, you wrote a the area. two and a half hours from New York City, and I Flourish: You’ve been in the area for a few thing. column about “To Kill a Mockingbird” and New York native Adrienne Ross has lived in Read on as Adrienne shares more about her taught there for more than 17 years. years now. What motivated you to make such political correctness recently. Why does this Cape Girardeau for the past three years and al- background, lessons she’s learned and her hilar- a big change and move to Southeast Missouri? Flourish: You recently published a book book in particular resonate with you so much? ready has had a lasting effect on the community. ious Aunt Alma. For more, join the Southeast Flourish: From looking at your bio it would Adrienne: After three years, I still struggle about your Aunt Alma. Tell me about that pro- Adrienne: I consider “To Kill a Mockingbird” With an 18-year career as an educator in New Missourian on May 4 for the 2017 Flourish seem you wear and have worn many hats with answering that question. My best way of cess and why spreading Alma’s humor and wis- the greatest novel I have ever read. I taught it York under her belt, Ross decided to uproot and Women’s Summit. throughout your life. Please tell me about your answering remains the same: My move here dom is important to you. for many years, and my students loved it. Former move to Southeast Missouri to forge a new path, various roles over the years and what they have was a “God-thing.” I have friends like family Adrienne: Aunt Alma is one of the adults students still mention it when I run into them. It a decision she considers a “God-thing.” Now a Flourish: Please tell me about yourself and meant to you. Of those roles, which are you here whom I met through political involvement. who helped raise my siblings and me. I had never is a combination of beautiful language, life les- writer and motivational speaker, Ross uses her where you’re from. most passionate about, and why? I spent the last four or five summers here be- had plans to write a book about her, but others sons and side-splitting humor. It tackles racism words to motivate and help improve the lives of Adrienne Ross: I am originally from New Adrienne: Notable hats would be teacher, fore making the move, able to do so because, dropped that seed in me. My aunt has always had in a real and emotional way, and teaches us that others on a broader scale. Add this in with her York. I was raised in New York City and Long coach, editor, writer, author and speaker. It’s dif- as a teacher, I had summers off. I felt drawn to such a rich sense of humor, as do I. She’s so fun- we don’t always get what we want, but we can contribution to the editorial board at the South- Island. After going upstate to college, however, ficult to narrow down what I am most passionate the area, and it was just a confirmation of what ny — even funnier when she’s not trying to be. surely try — even when we know ahead of time east Missourian, her job as a copy editor for I never returned to that area to live myself, al- about, as they are all very much intertwined. My God had planted in my heart years before I knew So the #AuntAlma journey began when I started the battle will be lost. Breitbart News Network and her publishing of though my family remains there. I spent my en- true passion is my faith in Christ, which drives anyone in Missouri or even where to locate it on sharing on Facebook things she would say during a book featuring her Aunt Alma, and you’ll see tire teaching career in Hudson, New York, for everything I do — and manifests itself in every- a map. The friendship and the open door were our conversations. That’s why I use the hashtag. I Continued on page 33

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‘A LIFE- CHANGING ADVENTURE’ Area native Kristen Dippold discusses trials and triumphs of hiking the Appalachian Trail

Submitted photo Kristen Dippold lounges on McAfee Knob on Catawba Mountain in Catawba, Virginia, last May.

By Tyler Graef She quickly discovered in herself and her com- panions what she had seen in that fi rst hiker she It will Kristen Dippold of Th ebes, Illinois, fi rst met a met. Th e sense of excitement and energy. through-hiker while on a trail near her college in “Th ere’s so much energy in the beginning,” she change your life Georgia. He was a stranger, obviously, but there says. “You’re camping with 100 people around. “ was something else about him she didn’t recog- But as you keep going, you start to get into the in the best way nize. swing of things ... And somewhere in Virginia, possible. It will “How full of life he was,” she recalled. “How the novelty of hiking wears off .” full of energy.” She says through-hikers call it the “Virginia also ruin your When he mentioned the Appalachian Trail it Blues,” and she had them, too. Th e hiking is phys- rang a bell, she says, but she didn’t know much ically easier, she says, but it marks the fi rst real life in the best more about it. psychological hurdle. way possible. If “I started researching it around 2013,” she says. “You’ve gone four, fi ve, six hundred miles and “Th at spring semester within a few months I had you start thinking, ‘I still have 1,500 to go,’” she that makes any decided to do it.” says. “It comes down to mental toughness. It starts She graduated in 2015 — having studied to get old.” sense. outdoor leadership — and hit the trail with her Harpers Ferry, West Virginia, is the halfway friend Diane Duff ard. point. “In the beginning, I thought I knew what I was “Well, the psychological halfway point at least,” doing,” Dippold says. “I had done some backpack- she says. “Th at’s when the enormity of the trail ” ing trips before, but you still have a lot to learn ... hit me.” Submitted photo Submitted photo Kristen Dippold is shown on Sept. 6 at the Diane Duffard (left) and Kristen Dippold take a break from hiking during their trek Continued on page 32 it’s six months of backpacking.” peak of Katahdin, the northern end of the on the Appalachian Trail. Appalachian Trail.

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The bottom line is that there are a pleth- Christian, I want to love and encourage like ora of nuggets in the book, and you’re being Christ, obviously. But I listen to various pub- enriched by them before you even realize it. lic speakers and preachers and learn from Every person should read the book, not just them — Priscilla Shirer, Les Brown, for ex- watch the Academy Award-winning film. ample. I love Maya Angelou’s poetry. Read the book! Then there are people I know and speak to regularly — family and personal friends Flourish: Our May 4 Flourish Women’s and pastors, who model faith, perseverance Summit is quickly approaching! Could you and hard work. I’ve had respect for various give us an idea of what you’ll be sharing people in various arenas: speaking, preach- with attendees? What do you hope women ing, writing, politics, sports and so on. I also will learn from hearing your story? watch YouTube videos of random, everyday Adrienne: I do not have my full focus yet, people sharing how they have accomplished but I do know that I want to share my story what they have or giving advice on a par- about persevering, overcoming odds and liv- ticular subject that interests me — anything ing by faith. My life story includes all those to gain more insight. My brain is always ab- things. I want women to know that there is sorbing — probably too much! a calling on their lives and that true success It is important to have people from whom is tapping into that calling. I want to share we learn because if we’re not growing, we’re with them ways to identify their calling. I dying. I read in a local pastor’s book that we want them to know that risks are often in- need five kinds of people in our lives: Some Submitted photo Submitted photo Kristen Dippold takes on the Mahoosic Notch, “the most difficult or fun mile on the Appalachian Trail,” last August in Maine. Diane Duffard and Kristen Dippold strike a silly volved, but the risks are worth it. My experi- encourage us, some discourage us (when we pose at the New Hampshire-Maine state line ence coming from the projects of the Bronx need to be discouraged from something), in August. to where I am today testifies to that. some guide us, some mentor us and some celebrate us. Continued from page 30 Flourish: As the owner of your own ‘A LIFE- their breath,” she says. “There’s a tension in the communications company, what is your Flourish: What’s next for you? air.” best advice for aspiring women in the Adrienne: Good question! I believe more CHANGING The self-reflection Dippold had been doing workforce? opportunities to speak and write will open ADVENTURE’ the whole time on and off took a different tone, Adrienne: My “communications compa- up, and I look forward to that, in addition she says. ny” is simply a DBA I started to do motiva- to authoring more books. So much remains “You learn about yourself more,” she says. tional speaking. It is nowhere where I want to be seen, but I believe God has a plan and Only one in four hikers finish the full Appa- “Trail life is so simple. Real life is not ... the night it to be, but I believe I am on my way. My that I will continue to see things unfold that lachian Trail, but Dippold says whoever’s left by before you summit, there’s a sigh of relief. That best advice for women is to trust God. He will enable me to be a blessing and a source Harpers Ferry is most likely going to finish — if sense of community returns.” gives us purpose. Without purpose, noth- of inspiration to others. they don’t get injured. She says one of her favorite parts of the trip ing matters, and therefore, nothing usually It’s only a few miles to cross the portion of the was watching her companions approach the sum- happens. I also advise women to identify Flourish: Last question — What is your Submitted photo trail through West Virginia, and only a few days mit marker. Some cry. Some laugh. Some scream, what they are passionate about and let it fuel favorite quote from Aunt Alma? Kristen Dippold stops to pose for a selfie while hiking on Mount Washington in New to get through the Maryland leg. But Pennsylva- kiss, anything. them. It is also vital to be open to learning. Adrienne: So many quotes are out there, Hampshire last August. nia, Dippold says, is rough. It’s rocky and rainy “It’s just a life-changing adventure,” she says. Being a lifelong learner and a hard worker and every conversation with her brings more and hilly. “People can’t understand what you’ve been will pay off immensely. One valuable lesson quotes! I think, however, I would say that “A lot of people hate it,” she says. “A lot of peo- through.” is a lesson that someone spoke to me before one of my most beloved is “Ain’t nobody ple get hurt. Rocks, blisters, twisted ankles. The For anyone who’s ever considered such an un- I finished my book: “Finish what you start.” I in heaven raisin’ hell.” It’s not the funniest rain makes the rock slippery.” dertaking, Dippold says to go for it. was a good starter, but not a completer. Now, necessarily, but it jumps out at me because But by the time she hit Vermont, she says, she’d “It will change your life in the best way pos- the first book is out there, and I have two there is so much in that quote. It speaks of found a “trail family”; the free-associative bands sible. It will also ruin your life in the best way others in the works, with plans to publish faith and how we comport ourselves, and the of hikers who start sticking together, sharing possible,” she says. “If that makes any sense.” them prior to the Women’s Summit. implications of both — without spelling out costs and so on. It began to sink in that the trail You’ll return clearer, stronger and weirded out any of that; it’s all inherent in the quote itself. was nearing its end. by supermarkets and running water. And if you Flourish: Who is your mentor or role It does tickle me also because my aunt raises “Maine — everybody’s excited to be there,” she can’t bring yourself to hike, volunteer, she says. model, and why? Also, why is it important a little hell here and there (and everywhere!), says. Serve others. Slow down and actually talk to to have that kind of person in one’s life? but she’s convinced she does not! The quote Some don’t want it to end. Others want to whomever you’re talking to. Adrienne: I learn from many people. One was so popular, I made it the foundation of Submitted photo speed up and hit their goal. “Look at things with gratitude,” she says. might say I am a compilation of many. It’s the first #AuntAlma book title, “#AuntAl- Kristen Dippold walks along a wooden pathway along the Appalachian Trail. “The last 100 miles, its like everyone’s holding “That’ll help.” hard to pin down one specific mentor. As a ma: Raisin’ a Little Hell Heaven on Earth.”

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step is to address the violence. By Tyler Graef Another SNAP member Edna Patterson says she moved here in 1978 and raised her Felice Roberson lost her son to gun vio- kids in Cape. She says she felt compelled to lence in Cape Girardeau in November 2015. get involved after reading about crime in the Quinton David Combs had been at an out- newspaper. door party on the 500 block of South Fred- “It is so senseless and this is my town,” she erick Street when someone started shooting. says. “I wanted to get involved for that rea- She says that while it’s hard knowing her son.” son’s killer hasn’t answered for the crime yet, SNAP now holds meetings the last Tues- it’s almost harder to accept the fact that none day of each month to discuss how best to serve of the scores of people who were there during their community. Sometimes it’s as simple as the shooting came forward to name the per- lobbying for a broken streetlight to be fixed. petrator to police. Other times, it’s organizing an event. She says “That hurt,” she says. “I did not even know Cape Girardeau Police Lt. Brad Smith, who that that element existed until it happened to regularly attends their meetings, helps SNAP me.” work with law enforcement. About a year ago, she was one of the “They’ve been a great support to us, really; founders of an outreach and advocacy group our hats go off to them. People were afraid to called Stop Needless Acts of Violence, Please open up,” she says. “But that’s what it took to (SNAP) designed to help foster constructive get people to open up.” dialogue about crime in her community. Cape resident Kaye Hood had been in- “When we looked at doing that march, we volved in outreach through her church for found 16 killings in a 2.7-mile radius from about 15 years, but she says her prayers be- 2000 to the present,” she says. came more focused after getting involved Most of those, she says, were unsolved like with SNAP, almost by accident. She saw a that of her son. For Roberson, her drive was with them. Felice Roberson, left, and Pam Robinson, group of SNAP volunteers from her car one founders of Stop Needless Acts of Violence, personal. But others in the community like Patterson says that while the march was day and decided to investigate. Please (SNAP) stand together on South Millie Coney joined because they sensed a heartening, consistency will be the key to “I stopped and rolled down my window Middle Street in Cape Girardeau on Feb. 25, ® dangerous shift in their neighborhoods. meaningful change. 2016. The mothers are taking a stand against and said, ‘What are y’all doing?’” she says. “I was born and raised in Cape,” Coney “If people would volunteer two or three times violence in their neighborhood. Roberson’s She was soon volunteering right alongside son, Quinton Davis Combs, was shot and says. “Everybody knows my mom and dad. a month it would drastically make a difference, them. The group’s largest outreach event so killed on South Frederick Street on Nov. 15, I thought SNAP looked like a great oppor- Boys and Girls Club or things like that,” she far was its prayer march last summer. Hun- 2015. Robinson’s son, Zatrun Twiggs, and tunity because it’s a community I care about says. another man, Detavian Richardson, were dreds showed up, much to their surprise, and these are things that hit hard.” Roberson agrees, encouraging people to vol- shot and killed while sitting in a car on South No-Closing-Cost Option Roberson says. Middle Street on Aug. 3, 2014. She says that the problem has a combina- unteer or attend SNAP meetings, which are Capaha Bank Mortgage Services makes applying for a “It was amazing, how many people came LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] tion of causes, from lack of resources to keep posted to the group’s Facebook page. home loan easier than ever. Apply online in minutes out to show their support,” she says. from practically anywhere at CapahaBank.com. adolescents out of trouble to a decline in con- “We know that change is not going to hap- She says she also appreciated Police Chief Enter the promo code SMARTER and save flict resolution skill instruction at school and pen right this second,” she says. “But if we start 800.872.4944 Wes Blair and his family marching along $100 on your origination fee! at home. But the first and most important walking side by side, it will.”

34 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 35 mudrooms By Melissa Rayworth fall and winter nights, the mudroom’s a great living / Associated Press place to put at least one light on a timer. Include lightbulbs such as LEDs that illumi- Mudrooms have been a staple of large hous- nate with no delay to create “a bright place to es, especially in climates with plenty of rain and walk into that you feel safe,” says Fishburne. snow. But increasingly, a mudroom has become a Lighting also can beautify this otherwise very design essential even for apartment dwellers and practical space: Yip points out that a ceiling fix- those with small homes. ture can be “really stylish, really delicate and really “Just like the kitchen has become so central to fragile,” but remain protected from damage be- how everybody uses their home and lives their cause it’s hung out of reach. lives, a mudroom has become an expectation,” INFUSING YOUR STYLE says designer Vern Yip, an HGTV host and au- thor of the new book “Vern Yip’s Design Wise” Other items that can “visually soften the space” (Running Press). and express your style include artwork (safely Interior designer Bennett Leifer agrees, and framed) and window treatments that don’t ex- often helps clients in New York City apartments tend to the floor, Yip says. create a proper mudroom. Leifer adds flooring to that list: Mudrooms “People try and find space where they can do (The Home Depot/Home Decorators Collection via AP) need durable, water-friendly flooring, but are This undated photo provided by The Home great places to try bold colors or favorite patterns. that, whether they have a large family or whether Depot shows a padded bench inside a home He suggests FLOR carpet squares, which come it’s just for themselves,” Leifer says. with organized storage underneath. Benches Here are some tips for designing a functional, like this help keep a mudroom organized and in a range of designs and are easily washable or durable and even stylish mudroom, even in the offer space for putting on or taking off shoes. replaceable, or woven vinyl floor covering from smallest of homes: the Swedish company Bolon. And don’t forget the ceiling: Consider dreamy ANALYZE HOW YOU Just like the kitchen cloud wallpaper or other whimsical styles, Leif- REALLY COME AND GO er says, or go sophisticated with a high-end wall “Think about how your family uses the space,” “has become so central covering from Cole and Sons. The cost may be says Yip, and be honest about how much clutter to how everybody uses surprisingly reasonable if your mudroom isn’t you’re likely to create. People often want to see large. themselves as neater than they are, which leads their home and lives OTHER PARTICULARS them to create a mudroom entrance that is soon chaotic. their lives, a mudroom Will this be a family communication center? If Will everyone take their shoes off there each has become an so, include cork boards or magnetic boards, and day, for instance, or only when they’re wet or perhaps a countertop or small desk where you can muddy? expectation. fill out school forms. “We run an Asian household,” Yip says. “Take Pets? Many pet owners include a pet bed or off your shoes when you come in the door.” dog crate in the mudroom, and a spot for hanging So his mudroom includes ample shoe storage, small or awkward spaces. He’s seen Manhattan leashes. plus a spot to sit while putting shoes on. apartment dwellers build around a garbage chute Yip suggests one more useful addition: a sink Lots of sports equipment means more large or wall soffit in the service entrance to turn that and vanity. storage. And those who’ll want to charge the space into a mudroom. Built-ins also offer stabil- ONE WALL CAN BE ENOUGH whole family’s digital devices for easy grabbing ity: Unlike freestanding furniture, they can’t be when everyone leaves the house in the morning knocked over by kids rushing by with backpacks. If you don’t have a mudroom or foyer space, The Home Depot/Home Decorators Collection via AP should put in counter space or shelves with plenty Open lockers and cubbies are popular, mim- these ideas can be pared down into an area just a This undated photo provided by The Home Depot shows a cabinet serving as storage in the foyer of a home. One portion of an open foyer can few feet wide along one wall. function as a mudroom with help from a cabinet, like the one shown here, that combines closed storage, hanging space, shelving and seating. of power strips or electrical outlets nearby. icking the style of an athletic locker room, but In your design, Yip advises, include about 10 to Yip reminds clients that closed storage and hooks Start by delineating that section of wall visu- 15 percent more storage than you expect to need. tucked away behind doors will help keep your ally with paint, wallpaper or tile. Or add board- mudroom from looking cluttered. and-batten paneling halfway up the wall, Fish- YOUR BEST DROP ZONE However you design your storage, delineate burne says. ASK A DESIGNER The mudroom is your daily “drop zone,” says one vertical space for each family member. Once the area is marked, assign a narrow space designer Sarah Fishburne, director of trend and within it for each family member. Add hooks and design for The Home Depot. So choose the mix LIGHTING a bench with cubbies or baskets underneath. Designing a functional yet stylish mudroom of closed storage, hooks, shelves and countertops Mudrooms should be lit like kitchens, with Above, add a shelving unit with additional that serves your needs. plenty of overhead and task light, Fishburne says. cubbies. Then hang a rectangle of galvanized steel Custom, built-in storage is popular in mud- This may be the first place a skinned knee gets (make sure it’s magnetized) for each person to rooms, but there are also many units available in a attention or the last place searched at night for a tack up items, plus a bit of chalkboard or white- range of styles and prices. missing textbook. board paint around it for jotting down notes or Leifer points out that built-ins can work well in And because you might come home on dark appointments.

36 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 37 living / vacation By Sarah Skidmore Sell GETTING Associated Press It’s summer time and the living is ... not so easy for some. AWAY American workers have been taking less and less vacation over the past 15 years. A study by Project: Time Off found that in 2015, more than half of American workers Why you should take a left vacation time unused. vacation and how to do it If you are among this unlucky group, con- sider our tips on why you should take a break and how to do it.

RECOGNIZE THE PERKS: Vacation is a chance to rest your mind and your body from the demands of work. Doug Walker, manager of HR Services at Insperity said these psychological and phys- iological perks can help an employee feel refreshed and more inspired at work and at home. However, he is quick to point out that a stressful vacation, such as one fi lled with work emails, may end up leaving a worker depleted. He suggests taking a real break that has no work duties or very limited ones, and allows for some tranquility. “It’s in stillness that life’s sediment settles and the murkiness becomes clear,” Walker said.

CONSIDER THE HURDLE: Th e United States is the only developed country that does not require employers to provide vacation time, according to the Cen- ter for Economic and Policy Research. But workers are often entitled to days off that they simply aren’t taking. Project: Time Off found 658 million days went unused last year among those sur- veyed, the highest ever since the travel in- dustry group began measuring it. Of those, 222 million days are simply lost — they are days that cannot be rolled over, paid out or banked for any other benefi t. Employees cite a variety of reasons for forgoing vacation time — they worry about returning to a mountain of work or feel no one else can do their job. Some cannot aff ord it and others simply want to show their com- plete dedication. But Walker points out there are very few true emergencies at work and that in most cases someone else can handle it or a prob- lem that arises can wait till you return. And

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40 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 41 stepfamilies By Lori Trepasso sistency, communication and a positive attitude.” age appropriate / Crowley points out that co-parenting is hard, Kids need Blended families, which are defined as families but that parents need to separate any negative consisting of a couple and their children from feelings from their behavior. “to know what to current and previous marriages or relationships, “Don’t speak negatively about the other parent are becoming more and more common. And, in (to your child),” says Crowley. “Stay ‘kid focused’ expect at each these families, kids often travel from one parent’s when they are with you and make it about their home,” says home to the other. But, how do you keep things feelings, not yours.” consistent for the child, and what do you do if Crowley also warns against putting the child Gina Crowley, things don’t seem to be going well? Local ex- in the middle of parents’ disagreements. perts can provide tips on how to help things run “Never use your child as a messenger,” she says. a counselor smoothly in blended families, and suggestions for “Keep the issues that you have with the other at the Family what to do when things don’t. parent to yourself.” “Kids need to know what to expect at each Keys shares that faith has been a major com- Counseling home,” says Gina Crowley, a counselor at the ponent in helping her blended family flourish. Family Counseling Center in Cape. “Remember, “Christ as the center of our family is the key,” Center in Cape. they are living in two different worlds, mom’s she says. “Next comes communication, clear and “Remember, they world and dad’s world.” often between all parties. The times when we Jennie Buck, who along with her husband, have had difficulties have typically been due to are living in two Mike, has four children ranging in age from 4 to lack of communicating important events/feel- 14 in their blended family, shares this. ings/assumptions. We pray about our decisions different worlds, “We have a set of rules that we follow in our with our children ... and we pray for our children’s mom’s world household to create consistency,” she says. “We parents/stepparents as well ...” encourage our children to always follow the rules Crowley says parents need to take action if and dad’s world. given, whether it be the rules at our house, at a they notice a child’s behavior in a blended family friend’s house, or at their other parent’s house.” is declining. ” Crowley also suggests doing a calming activity, “Try to make [the transitions] smooth for especially with younger children, when they first the kids, but if you notice that their behavior is arrive at a parent’s home. changing, talk to the other parent about what “Kids can be wild when they first arrive,” says you can do to make it better and easier for your Crowley. “Try doing a calm activity with them kids. The rules don’t have to be the same at both WHEN EVERY when they first arrive, like coloring. Talk with houses, but they need to be consistent at each them and allow them to get used to [you] again. household.” MOMENT Don’t just take off somewhere with them when Keys points out that each child in a blend- HAS TO BE Photo by White Horse Photography Submitted photo they first arrive. Have some rituals that you do ed family has a different personality, and each Mike and Jennie Buck pose for a family photo with their four Mandy and Billy Keys’ children, Chloe Keys (left), Kennedy Keys and one may need to be handled differently when it PERFECT... children, Austin, Alexa, Connor and Cole. Skylar Deimund, pose for a photo. together and work at making their time with you enjoyable.” comes to expectations and discipline. Communication between all parents and chil- “We have also learned that we can’t parent City of dren involved is key. 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42 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 43 parenting parenting age appropriate / / age appropriate EPIC 7 tips for parenting a Ordinary time SCHOOLS By Brooke Clubbs Jackson Middle School child with ADHD Nell Holcomb R-IV A couple of Decembers ago, after we started the Notre Dame Regional month with a Christmas party for my mom’s side of By Shannon Anderson day. This usually works best if you provide your High School and the family in my hometown of Kankakee, Illinois, child some “free time” to do a physical activity my Uncle Denny sent me a Facebook message. He St. Mary Parenting a child with Attention-Deficit/Hy- before starting homework each evening. And, had given my son Eli a ride, along with his grand- Cathedral School peractivity Disorder (ADHD) is one of the more sorry kids, video games don’t count as physical sons, at one point during the festivities, and they had challenging, yet rewarding jobs a parent can face. activity. CONGRATULATIONS! I often hear parents tell me they literally dread discussed the upcoming holiday. Eli had told him, “Yeah, I am really excited about Christmas, and then the phone ringing during school hours. And I TIP NO. 3: CHOOSE REASONABLE I’ll have my birthday in March. After that, I don’t understand where they’re coming from. AND EFFECTIVE CONSEQUENCES. EPIC is a coalition know what I’ll look forward to. I’m sure my mom It’s not fun getting a weekly (or even daily) Parenting a child with ADHD can be reward- will think of something.” working to phone call from your kid’s teacher informing you ing, but it can also be very frustrating. Parents About Shannon I do like to make things special. In addition to support a healthy of one negative behavior after another. So if you get tired of asking, begging, pleading about the Shannon Anderson is a licensed profes- marking major holidays and birthdays, we celebrate feel “traumatized” when the caller ID shows your exact same things over and over again. And it sional counselor and a national certified community the Super Bowl, Valentine’s Day, Mardi Gras, Saint child’s school, you may find some of the tips be- seems like your child just refuses to listen. I fre- counselor and owner and clinical director of Tender Hearts Child Therapy Center in Patrick’s Day and many others with at least a little while preventing low very helpful. quently work with stressed parents in exactly this Cape Girardeau. fanfare, even if it is as simple as a football-shaped About Brooke situation. youth substance dessert or a King Cake. We have themed parties for Brooke Hildebrand Clubbs is an in- TIP NO. 1: ALWAYS STAY CALM. Remember that consequences have a basic set structor of communication studies and TV shows, like “Hamilton’s America” on PBS, and abuse in Cape Remember that you getting out of control will of rules you need to follow for them to work ef- Role play different situations and help your director of health communication at read books, like “Martin’s Big Words,” to honor his- Southeast Missouri State University. She Girardeau County. only make matters worse for your child. It’s easy fectively. They need to be given swiftly, be specif- child learn to apply these steps to make the toric days. (literally) runs around Jackson, where to get frustrated when you get negative report ic and have a time limit versus being open-end- most informed decision in a given situation. You Through the EPIC But I also love Ordinary Time. she lives with one husband, three kids after negative report from the teacher. But yell- ed. Parents who are highly frustrated often give can be creative and just discuss some example and two dogs. She credits a lot of her In the Catholic Church, Ordinary Time is the Schools Project ing or arguing with your child won’t help and big consequences for really long periods of time situations with older kids and help them work writing style to her Uncle Denny. His period from the Ephiphany (end of the Christmas work can be found at daily-journal. only makes things worse. Stay in control and di- in the hope that this will finally cause the child through different options. EPIC recognizes season) to Ash Wednesday (start of Lent) and from com. Hers can be found at rectly give consequences for your child’s negative to stop making poor choices. The problem is, this the Pentecost (end of the Easter season) to the first brookehclubbs.wordpress.com. local schools behavior. Using straightforward consequences type of consequence is hard to follow through TIP NO. 6: BUILD SELF-ESTEEM. Sunday of Advent. The United States Conference has a much bigger impact than yelling and rep- with. And when you don’t follow through, your It’s also important to remember that kids who demonstrate of Catholic Bishops states, “Christmas Time and emergency vet with my brother-in-law. She had rimanding. Trust me, if the yelling and threaten- child sees you as a pushover and will continue to struggling with ADHD are used to getting in outstanding efforts Easter Time highlight the central mysteries of the recently taken some flack from a few friends who ing approach worked, your child would already break the rules until you change your approach. trouble. A lot. And, over time, this does im- Paschal Mystery, namely, the incarnation, death on thought she shouldn’t have found out her baby’s sex to prevent youth be a perfect rule follower, right? pact self-esteem in a negative way. Make sure the cross, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus Christ, during her 20-week ultrasound. As she wondered TIP NO. 4: BE CONSISTENT. you take every opportunity to build your child’s substance abuse. and the descent of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost. The whether their suddenly ill dog would survive, Krista TIP NO. 2: PROVIDE STRUCTURE. If you always give consequences that are im- self-esteem in a healthy way. Sundays and weeks of Ordinary Time, on the other commented to Chad, “And people say there aren’t Children struggling with ADHD need struc- possible for you to follow through with, you’re hand, take us through the life of Christ. This is the enough surprises in life.” ture. Structure in terms of daily routine, home- making your job as a parent much harder than it TIP NO. 7: FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE. time of conversion. This is living the life of Christ.” There’s definitely something to be said for things work time, anything you can think of that lends needs to be. Consistency is key. If you want your Last, but not least, always remember to catch Whether you are Catholic or not, the “ordinary being plain and boring. itself to a routine. Children with ADHD often child to listen and respect you as a parent, you your child “being good.” Children with ADHD time” can seem a little plain and boring compared So, as we eke out these last dark winter days of Ja- struggle in the mornings before school and in absolutely have to show him that you mean what frequently hear about what they’ve done wrong to the glitter and drama of the holidays. But just as nu-Feb, I’ll try to do my best not to wish time away the evenings after school. And at school, typical- you say and you will always follow through when or the mistakes they’ve made. But it’s also im- Catholics are exhorted to use this time to focus on and to appreciate my ordinary time. I hope you will, ly some of the biggest problem times are lunch, you give a consequence. If your follow through portant to catch them making positive choices the day-to-day living with Christ, all of us could be too. recess for younger kids and other unstructured is weak, you will have to continue re-addressing and reinforce the positive behaviors. Remember, reminded to embrace this “ordinary time” to savor “Our lives are made activity time. the same behaviors over and over ... and over. what you focus on, you get more of. what is special in our everyday. It might be drink- In these small hours And it’s no coincidence that these are the I hope you find these seven tips helpful when ing a cup of coffee while watching the sun rise or These little wonders most challenging times for a child with ADHD. TIP NO. 5: TEACH SELF-CONTROL. parenting a child with ADHD. Please share the putting on our fuzzy socks when we get home from These twists and turns of fate Facebook.com/epicprevention So what can you do to help? For starters, create There are several easy, fun ways to teach article with other parents you think would ben- work. It could be taking a moment to write down Time falls away a morning and evening routine that you follow self-control skills to a child. For younger kids, efit. Trust me, any child struggling with ADHD that funny thing our kid just said or send a letter to a But these small hours as consistently as possible. Have your child help you can work together and make a stop sign out will thank you! And, as always, I’d love to hear For more information family member we don’t get to talk to often enough. These small hours still remain” you create morning and evening schedules that of paper and use a popsicle stick for a handle. your feedback. I’m also reminded of when my sister, six months — Rob Thomas, “Little Wonders” from “Meet on how your school can cover the main activities during both times. Also, Then use the stop sign to practice the “Stop – Just email me at shannona@tenderheartschil- pregnant with my nephew, was sitting at the the Robinsons” become an EPIC School try using a set schedule for homework time each Think – Options – Price” (STOP) technique. dtherapycenter.com. contact Natalie at (573) 587-1921 44 Flourish | spring 2017 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish spring 2017 | Flourish 45 Continued from page 39 VACATION Special promotion section taking a break can make you a better worker. things we L VE “It’s important to remind yourself of that,” Walker said.

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American workers Maurice Berger, does not aren’t engaged because they are burnt out have been taking less and less vacation over the past 15 years. A study by Project: simply “mask” undesirable or they aren’t effective because they are Time Off found that in 2015, more than half of American workers left vacation time odor molecules, but rather burnt out, they need a break.” unused. But experts say that vacation is a chance to rest your mind and your body from the demands of work. destroys them, leaving the Vines 2 Wines excursions are the answer for a unique, tasteful, air purified. educational and fun alternative to a traditional office party, bridal Meanwhile, the room shower or outing with friends. Whether you are looking for an exclusive is gently scented with group experience such as business team building, book club, dinner unparalleled long-lasting club or wine club, or want to be part of several planned excursions ON THE HORIZON fragrance created by French master perfumers. 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Travel Inc. in Cape Girardeau, says is, next to New York City, the enter- she sees several trends moving for- tainment center of the U.S., and now Deer Creek Doggie Day Camp classes ward in 2017. there are so many spas and fine din- “I’d say a lot of people are excited ing options, too, that it’s a great place Deer Creek Doggie Day about traveling to Cuba right now,” Perfect Fit Bra Boutique’s Curvy Kate Camp is now offering to go if you’re looking for luxury at a Smoothie bra she says. “For so long, travel there great price.” dog training classes! wasn’t possible, then about a year ago The most important thing to keep From one-on-one to when it did open, there were so many in mind, Sandgren says, is that 2017 We are loving the Curvy group, puppy to adult, restrictions and it was so expensive will be a busy year, so plan far ahead. Kate Smoothie because we have plenty of that a lot of people didn’t go. But now, “We recommend booking nine it is a molded T-shirt bra options for your furry I think there’s curiosity about it, and months out,” she says. “That way you that gives the perfect lift. family member. And prices are a lot more affordable since can get a better rate and be sure you’ll The smoothie bra offers a join us from 9 a.m. to so many airlines are going there now. get what you might want. Hotels, smooth, seem-free finish noon Saturday, Feb. 18, Cuba is hot, hot, hot right now.” cruise lines, airplanes do sell out of that comes in a wide at 2039 Cape La Croix Sandgren says Italy is another pop- what you might want.” range of sizes to meet Road in Cape Girardeau ular destination. She says some airlines have a policy a variety needs. Perfect for a Mardi Gras Open “We’re seeing a lot of foodie-type to refund customers if rates drop be- Fit Bra Boutique proudly House! 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