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have to keep reminding my- he early 1950s was an es- t is easy to speak before a By Cynthia Zalisky self that not everyone thinks By Sarah Newcomb pecially terrible time for crowd that is on your side. It Ithe way I do. Not everyone TJews in the Soviet Union, Itakes a lot of courage to go has the same confi dence I have. a period fi lled with terror and into the “lion’s den” and speak in ike many of you, I am still I don’t have a shy bone in my am a grateful member of Al- dread. With a maniacal tyrant front of a hostile crowd. reeling from the horrifi c body and I actually love public Anon, celebrating my four- leading the country, Joseph Sta- Mona Charem was selected to Levents that erupted at the speaking. Situations that often Iyear anniversary. For those lin’s infamous “Doctors’ Plot” be part of a panel on “The Left’s CONTINUED ON P. 21 CONTINUED ON P. 49 CONTINUED ON P. 47 CONTINUED ON P. 7 CONTINUED ON P. 20 SEE PAGE 39 SEE PAGE

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The Doctors’ Plot CONTINUED FROM P. 1 tion. His face was afl ame due to the government would be hold- his elevated state of attachment ing elections. The Rebbe Rash- was at its peak, and Russia’s Jew- to Hashem. As soon as he con- ab (the fi fth Lubavitcher Rebbe) ish physicians were disappear- cluded his ma’amar (talk), his sent word to the chasidim that ing rapidly. People were being face resumed its natural color. they were to participate in the purged left and right, never to The gathering continued voting process. There was one be heard from again. Around the for the next few hours, during particular chasid who was com- world, Jews wept and pleaded which the Rebbe gave several in- pletely removed from worldly ‘Hoo-rah! Hoo-rah!’ Taking his not understand the signifi cance for Divine salvation but there formal talks, chasidic melodies affairs; to him, the political are- cue from those around him, he of what had just occurred. The was none yet in sight. were sung, and numerous glass- na was foreign territory. likewise cried out, ‘Hoo-rah! Rebbe looked around at the The year was 1953. In the es were hoisted in l’chaim. “Nonetheless, having received Hoo-rah! Hoo-rah!’” large gathering as he said the Crown Heights section of Brook- It was late at night – almost an explicit instruction from the The chasidim back in 1953 word “Hoo-rah!” Swept up by lyn, New York, a large crowd of dawn, in fact – when an unusual Rebbe, he set out to fulfi ll the Brooklyn were in awe of the spec- the powerful emotion that fi lled Jews had gathered to celebrate the air, the crowd spontaneously the festive and joyful holiday rose to its feet and began copy- of Purim with the Lubavitcher The chasidim could barely believe what was happening. ing the Rebbe’s chant, shouting, Rebbe, R’ Menachem Mendel The Rebbe had never delivered two discourses at the same gathering! “Hoo-rah! Hoo-rah! Hoo-rah!” Schneerson zt”l. Many of the three times. participants at the Rebbe’s table After this strange preamble, had themselves just recently es- thing occurred. For the second command. With a sense of awe tacle before them: as he uttered things quieted down and R’ Me- caped from behind the Iron Cur- time that evening, the Rebbe’s and reverence he immersed these words, the Lubavitcher nachem Mendel delivered his tain. A good number had person- holy face began to radiate and himself in a mikvah, donned Rebbe’s face burned with a holy second ma’amar of the night, a ally suffered the wrath of Stalin’s shine with that special solem- his gartel, and set out for the fi re! They were astounded; they long and detailed understanding tyranny, wasting away for years nity and earnestness that meant polling booth. Of course, when realized that more was going on in Russian prisons. Still, many that he was preparing to deliver he got there, he had no idea than meets the eye, but they did CONTINUED ON P. 22 such chasidim could not forget another ma’amar. The chasidim what he was expected to do, but their oppressed brethren across could barely believe what was some of the more worldly cha- Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” the sea. happening. The Rebbe had never sidim helped him cast his vote. book series, fi lled with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, includ- That year, at the annual Purim delivered two discourses at the Adjusting his gartel, the chasid ing the brand new “Torah Tavlin Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. gathering, the Rebbe delivered a same gathering! did what everyone else was do- You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his book, “Heroes of Spirit,” lengthy chasidic discourse. The The room was still. No one ing. When the votes were cast, containing one hundred fascinating stories on the Holocaust. They are Rebbe spoke for a very long time uttered a sound. The Rebbe be- smiles broke out all around, a fantastic gifts, available in all Judaica bookstores and online at http:// and, as he did, his countenance gan to speak: “After the Czar fell bottle was passed from hand to israelbookshoppublications.com. To receive Rabbi Hoffman’s weekly underwent a visible transforma- in Russia, it was announced that hand, and everyone cried out “Torah Tavlin” sheet on the parsha, e-mail [email protected]

Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 7 RRabbi’sabbi’s MMusingsusings & Amusings Rabbi Dani Staum Wake Up And Smell The Hamantashen n case you are afraid that the honor and respect conferred upon rabbis goes Ito their heads, rest assured that rabbis have built-in “humility-promoters.” They are called sermon-snoozers. Most of them seem to sit in the front row. I should add that many rabbis have oth- er humility-builders as well, which include, but are not limited to, the shul president, a bored board of directors, and salary discus- sions. I personally am blessed not to know of such humility-builders in our shul. A rabbinical colleague related that he in the opposite manner during shul speech- feels there is great purpose served in the es. Through the m’chitzah, he could tell that fi ve-minute speech he delivers on Friday the women are locked in, listening to every evenings, following Kabalas Shabbos. In his word. words, “Either my congregants hear a nice He added that he always wanted to have Torah thought based on the parshah, which the women sit up front during the drashah, they can repeat at their Shabbos tables, or while the men more comfortably dozed off they get a brief power nap, which gives behind the m’chitzah. them energy so that they not fall asleep on Over time I have come to learn that not their family during their Shabbos meal.” everyone who appears to be sleeping truly It’s fascinating that everyone seems to is. There are individuals who listen with feel tired on Friday night during the short their eyes closed. The majority of sleepers speech, no matter if it’s 5 p.m. during the really want to try to listen at the beginning, winter, or 8 p.m. during the summer. even as fatigue gets the better of them. I remember one particular Friday night When they get home, if anyone at their when I was speaking in a certain shul to a Shabbos table asks what the rabbi spoke relatively small crowd, and I was pretty sure about, they’ll answer, “about 20 minutes” that the entire audience had dozed off. I was or “about the parshah,” and then quickly tempted to test it out by interjecting some change the topic.

Inspiration knocks periodically, but we must be willing to open the door to allow it in

gibberish, to see if the assemblage would Before the miracles of Purim occurred, continue their subconscious head-bobbing the Jewish people seemed to have slipped and nodding. But I wasn’t sure if one par- into a national spiritual fatigue. It wasn’t ticular person was listening, despite the fact that they weren’t serving G-d or performing that his eyes were closed, so I desisted. the mitzvos; it was more that they were do- Rabbi Zev Leff recounts that on one oc- ing so on autopilot, as a matter of obligation casion, a congregant approached him on and emotionless rote. Sunday morning to tell him that the rabbi’s The Purim miracle served to jumpstart Shabbos sermon had kept him up all night the nation emotionally. It reignited their on Motzaei Shabbos. collective inner spark and brought back a Rabbi Leff continued that before he had feeling of pride to be the bearers of the To- a chance to start feeling impressed with the rah. poignancy of his own words, the man ex- Shlomo HaMelech states in Shir plained that he always has a hard time fall- HaShirim: “I am asleep, but my heart is ing asleep at night when he slept during the awake. The voice of my beloved is knocking. day. The sermon had provided him with just Open for me, my sister, my friend, my dove, that opportunity. my perfect one...” My rebbe, Rabbi Berel Wein, relates that Inspiration knocks periodically, but we he once had a congregant who consistently must be willing to open the door to allow slept through his drashos. As soon as Rabbi it in. That is accomplished by rousing our- Wein mounted the podium, the man closed selves from our stupor, so that we can emo- his eyes and slept until the drashah ended. tionally internalize the inspiration. [I fi nd it encouraging to know that even a Such is what occurred at the time of Pu- noted and talented speaker like Rabbi Wein rim. It’s a holiday that celebrates our spiritu- has snoozers.] al rejuvenation and infuses every Jew with Then, one Shabbos, Rabbi Wein walked a sense of joy and pride in being part of the up at the pulpit to make a brief announce- Chosen Nation. ment, and then went back to his seat. That Purim doesn’t call out to us to wake up; week the man slept through Musaf. Rabbi it sweeps us off our feet in a frenzy of joy Wein added that the man was angry at him and unity. afterwards, because he was convinced that It’s a holiday that brings with it a spiritu- he did it on purpose. al awakening. Therein lies the source of its A rabbi once told me that, in his experi- intense joy and celebration. ence, it seems that women seem to behave May we all attain it.

Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead, as well as a rebbe and guidance counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Teaneck, New Jersey, and Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Wind- sor, and a Division Head at Camp Dora Golding. He can be reached at: [email protected]. Look- ing for “instant inspiration” on the parshah in under fi ve minutes? Follow him on Torahanytime.com. Looking for “instant inspiration” on the parshah in under fi ve minutes? Follow him on Torahany- time.com.

8 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 9 TThehe SShmuzhmuz On The Parshah R’ Ben Tzion Shafier The Other System Of T’fi lah “Hashem said, ‘I shall make all My good- can carry the day. Teach them to call out How T’filah Works The answer to this question is that there ness pass before you, and I shall call out the Thirteen Attributes of Hashem’s mercy. The answer to this question lies in under- are different systems to davening, each with the Name Hashem before you; I shall By their mentioning My compassion, I will standing how prayer works. providing a separate mechanism through show favor when I choose to show favor, answer them.” From an objective standpoint, one of which t’fi lah works. and I shall show mercy when I choose to This Rashi is very diffi cult to understand. the most basic questions that a person can show mercy.” Hashem is teaching Moshe a system for ask himself is: “Why daven? I accept that #1 – The Growth System – Sh’mos 33:19 the Jews to save themselves when things Hashem is more merciful and loving than The fi rst system of davening is the ***** are very bleak. Clearly, we are dealing with any creation. I accept that Hashem loves me “growth system.” By davening, I change. By he Jewish people had worshiped the reaching out to my Creator, I reach a differ- golden calf, and Moshe Rabbeinu pe- ent perspective and understanding, and the Ttitioned Hashem to save them in the Man can and will slip. It is almost inevitable. For that reason, t’fi lah makes me into a different person. merit of the Avos. Rashi explains that not Hashem, in His infinite mercy, created a failsafe plan Before I davened, I might not have deserved only was he successful in his mission, he what I was asking for. Now, after months also found great favor in Hashem’s eyes. and months of begging, beseeching, and im- Hashem then said to him that He was a serious moment in history, a time when ten thousand times more than any human ploring, I have changed. The person stand- going to reveal one of the great secrets of klal Yisrael has fallen so low that even their being is capable of, and that Hashem only ing at the beginning of this process didn’t Creation: “You prayed to Me in the merit of prayers and the merit of the Avos aren’t suf- wants what is best for me. So why do I need deserve what he was asking for, but through the Avos because you assumed that this is fi cient to save them. If the prayers of the to daven? If what I am davening for were the t’fi lah I grew, and I am now worthy of the most powerful merit in existence. You Jewish nation aren’t enough, and even the in my best interests, Hashem would have what I asked for. This is the fi rst system of should know that if the Jews ever sin, and merit of the Avos have been used up, how granted it to me. If Hashem didn’t grant it, it davening, where davening changes me. the merit of their fathers isn’t suffi cient to could simply saying thirteen words change must be that it isn’t for my best interests. If save them, there is another method that the judgment? so, why pray?” The Other System of T’filah There is another system of t’fi lah. Hashem created the world with the attri- butes of Din (Justice) and Rachamim (Mercy) in a fi ne balance. Din is proper. Din is truth. Din, however is very demanding. It allows no room for error and no room for having a bad day. You are responsible for what you did. If Din alone were in operation, very few if any people would exist. Rachamim miti- gates Din. You have to understand where the person is coming from. What he was go- ing through. Both Din and Rachamim are at work; both are in a fi ne balance. Hashem created man and put him in a place where there are many things that pull at him. Life is a fi erce battle, with every situ- ation hand-crafted to challenge man. This situation is fraught with danger. Man can and will slip. It is almost inevita- ble. For that reason, Hashem, in His infi nite mercy, created a failsafe plan. If all else fails, pull this lever and you will be safe. It isn’t based on changing the person praying, or on the merits of others. It is al- most a safety hatch that Hashem created, which changes the system of judgment. It moves the slide-rule from the midah of jus- tice to the midah of mercy. I don’t change, what I did, doesn’t change – the system of judgment changes. This seems to be the answer to the ques- tion. It was as if Hashem was saying to Moshe, “If it ever turns out that the Jewish nation fails and there is no hope left, when even the merit of their fathers is no longer suffi cient, I want you to know that there is another system. It isn’t based on them or the merit of any person; it is based on the mer- cy of Hashem. Say these words, and it will move the system of judgment from strict justice to mercy. Understanding how davening works is essential for us to appreciate its impact and how much it can affect our lives and the lives of those whom we care about.

Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Yeshiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Ye- shiva’s request, he stopped teaching to de- vote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

10 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 11 FFinanciallyinancially Forward Gerald Harris Dividends: Something For Nothing f you’ve been following the market middle-aged couples need help paying col- you know that rising interest rates lege tuition and for simchos, and seniors Ihas become one of the big stories out want to supplement their Social Security there. On July 4, 2016, the yield on the 10- and pensions, which often don’t cover year bond was 1.37 percent, the lowest ever. their needs. If the trend toward higher in- But by February 22, the yield had increased terest rates continues there will be many to 2.91 percent, more than double the low. new opportunities, and this sector will cer- Higher yields are prompting investors to tainly be getting a lot more attention. take a fresh look at dividend-paying stocks. This idea sounds great on paper: Inves- Safety First tors buy stock in a company with solid fun- Unfortunately, nothing is simple damentals, sit back and collect dividends, on Wall Street, and this applies to divi- usually higher than anything a bank offers. dend-paying stocks, too. The heightened This means there are two ways investors volatility in the market in the past few can profi t: if the price of the shares goes weeks means increased risk, because if an higher, and from the dividend the compa- investor unexpectedly has to sell shares ny pays. when the price is down he or she may be Dividends appeal to investors in many forced to take a big loss. Also, just because walks of life; young parents want extra in- a company pays a dividend today there is come to pay bills of their growing families, no guarantee that it will continue to do so – because its fortunes may change. Gener- al Electric, once a darling on Wall Street, is experiencing a serious fi nancial crunch, and last November it had to cut the divi- dend; this drove the price of the stock down sharply. Nevertheless, the perception that com- panies that pay dividends are safer than those that don’t has support. “In chop- py and volatile market conditions, div- idend-paying stocks typically perform better than their counterparts,” says John H. Foard III, president and CEO of Foard Wealth Management. Companies that pay dividends come in a wide variety of styles and fl avors, offer- ing investors a large universe of ideas from which they can choose. Some investors opt for companies that have a long history of paying dividends, while others focus their interest on companies that have been rais- ing them in recent years. There are compa- nies that pay dividends in stock, and still others that offer dividend reinvestment plans (DRIPs). These plans allow anyone who owns at least one share to purchase additional stock directly from the compa- ny, sometimes for slightly lower than the market price and almost always without having to pay any commissions. Champs And Aristocrats Stocks included in the S&P 500 that have increased their dividends for 25 consecu- tive years are called dividend aristocrats; those that have increased their dividends for 25 consecutive years, regardless of their size, are called dividend champions. Many of the companies that have achieved these ratings pay dividends with a yield of 2 percent plus, some pay 3 per- cent plus, and the yields of a few are much higher. While 2 percent and even 3 percent may not seem very much, they are never- theless noticeably above those offered by most banks. 24/7WallSt.com points out that “even if the Federal Reserve raises the federal funds rate three times this year, we will still be way below what is normal.” As a generality, companies that antici- pate lots of potential growth ahead plow their profi ts back into the company, while those that have become or are “maturing,” reaching a point where their growth curve

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Gerald Harris is a fi nancial and fea- ture writer. Gerald can be reached at ger- [email protected]

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Michigan man attempting to use a smoke bomb to evict some skunks Afrom the crawlspace of his home ended up lighting the house on fi re, au- thorities said. always get only this time, things ended a Firefi ghters were called to a home after little differently.” a resident attempted to use a smoke bomb Vela Figueroa said he had only partial- to chase skunks out of the crawlspace in ly scratched the ticket when he asked the his house. clerk to scan it to see if it was a winner. The fl ames had spread from the crawl- “He told me it was a big winner and we space to the fi rst fl oor of the house by the all got back in the car and headed to work. time fi refi ghters arrived. Everyone was happy for me, but we had to “We suggest citizens hire pest control get to work,” Vela Figueroa said. professionals, however if one is an abso- The big winner said he is considering us- lute die-hard do-it-yourselfer, please read ing his jackpot to buy a house and possibly and understand the directions and warn- start his own business. ing labels before applying an incendiary [smoke bomb] to your home or garage,” the fi re chief said. Luxury Designer’s The fi re had been burning for about 15 minutes before the man called 911. Clear Plastic Shopping Bag “Fire can double in size every 30 seconds at a slow rate. Doing basic math, he let the Selling For $590 fi re grow approximately 30 times the origi- nal size,” the chief said. He said the fi re eventually spread to the attic. “The house was a complete loss, the occupant lost most [of] his possessions, the structure was severely damaged, fi re burned through the fl oor and the roof, several access holes were cut to fully extin- guish the fi re,” he said. The ultimate fate of the skunks was un- known, but no carcasses were found at the n upscale pop-up shop in Seattle is scene. drawing attention for one particu- The man was not the fi rst to have a pest Alar item and its unusual price tag - a control attempt go horribly wrong; an Ohio clear plastic shopping bag for $590. man attempting to use rubbing alcohol to The plastic shopping bag, made by cloth- get rid of bedbugs infesting his couch acci- ing brand Celine, was fi rst spotted on the dentally sparked a fi re with a cigarette. runway during the Paris Spring/Summer 2018 fashion week in January and the plas- tic bags are now being sold at the Celine x Man Trained Work Nordstrom pop-up store in Seattle. The clear plastic bag bears the name of Replacement Before Cashing the clothing brand, as well as a warning in multiple languages that it poses a suffoca- In Lottery Ticket tion danger to babies and young children. New York state man had a good The bag is drawing attention not just for reason for waiting over a month to its unusual status as a luxury item, but for Acash in his massive lottery prize - he its luxury price tag - $590. didn’t want to disappoint his employer. The pop-up shop is scheduled to operate Prep cook Luis Vela Figueroa said he until May 29. scored a top prize on the $2,500 A Week For Life scratch-off game - earning him a minimum guaranteed payout of $2.5 mil- Man Chugs lion - but he waited a month before collect- ing his prize because he didn’t want to let Bottle Of Ketchup To Set down his employer. Vela Figueroa said he didn’t want to ask Guinness World Record for any time off since he knew he would be n Indian man who holds several quitting soon. Guinness World Records has an- “I want to continue working just long Aother title to his name after suck- enough to train my replacement,” he said. ing down a bottle of ketchup in under 30 The cook said he actually purchased his seconds. winning ticket during a commute to work. The man, whose Guinness accomplish- “I carpool to work. We sometimes stop ments include fi tting 88 grapes in his for something to eat on the way. This par- mouth at the same time and eating 9.5 ticular morning, I got an orange juice and ounces of peanut butter in 60 seconds, an egg sandwich,” he said. “I always get a ticket when we stop and this is the one I CONTINUED ON P. 16

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can Jersey Cattle Association. Martha is the youngest cow and the having a mid-road trampoline session. seventh of her breed to receive the desig- A woman posted a video showing the nation. scene she witnessed while driving last Fri- “She’s considered the best in the world,” day. CONTINUED FROM P. 14 Jim Ostrom, co-owner of the cow, said. She said she was on her way to work “About four years ago, somebody called when “traffi c started to slow for no reason.” used a glass bottle and a drinking straw compensation and disability insurance. me and said, ‘you should really look at this She said she soon came to suspect that to fi nish off 14 ounces of ketchup in 25.37 A grand jury indicted the driver on cow,’ and we bought her,” Ostrom said. someone was in the road. seconds, earning him another spot in the charges of insurance fraud, workers’ com- “She looked like, just a nice, good cow, but “I looked closer and witnessed three Guinness Book of World Records. pensation fraud, misleading a police inves- really, quite frankly, nothing extreme.” guys jumping on the trampoline without a “I am doing this record to prove myself tigation, and perjury. He said his opinion of Martha changed care in the world,” she said. as best in this amazing world in this partic- Prosecutors say the driver reported as she went on to win competition after The video shows three men jumping on ular record fi eld,” he said. the man pulled him out of a trolley and competition. The judges rating the cows the trampoline in the middle of the road. A video shared by the record-keeping punched him repeatedly. The attacker wore look at factors including udder system, Their identities and motives for the stunt organization shows the man downing the a mask and carried a plastic pumpkin. legs, and bone structure. were unknown. bottle of ketchup - which he had to fi nish Authorities say they lifted fi ngerprints “She almost screams, ‘look at me!’ And at least 95 percent of to qualify for the re- from the pumpkin left behind at the scene so the judges always remark how she’s so cord - and immediately going into a cough- to fi nd the man and that he said the driver powerful in the ring,” Ostrom said. Lobster Emoji ing fi t. paid him for the phony attack. He said Martha is a singular animal. The man’s previous records also include “I have said it before and I’ll say again, Gets Two More Legs fastest time to peel and eat a grapefruit and Martha is a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ cow. I could most oranges peeled and eaten in three Farm Boasts spend the rest of my life trying to fi nd an Following Design Complaints minutes. animal as amazing as her, and I wouldn’t fter an outcry, the organization that Rare ‘Perfect’ Cow succeed,” Ostrom said. controls the release of emojis has Wisconsin dairy company is her- Aadded two more legs to the forth- Trolley Driver Paid Man alding the accomplishments of a coming lobster emoji to make it correct. $2K To Attack Him On Job Acow certifi ed as one of only a small Men Hold Up Traffic With Soon after the organization released handful in the world to be considered “per- proposed images of 157 new emojis to be Massachusetts trolley driver paid fect.” Mid-Road Trampoline Session made available this year, Maine residents a man $2,000 to attack him while Musqie Iatola Martha, a 6-year-old Jersey surprised driver in a California city took umbrage at the lobster emoji’s eight Awearing a Halloween mask so the cow, was rated last week as EX-97, the high- captured video of the bizarre hazard driver could fraudulently collect workers’ est rating given to a bovine by the Ameri- Aslowing down traffi c - three men CONTINUED ON P. 67

16 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 The NORPAC Mission To Washington: An Exhilarating Day That Should Not Be Missed By Rabbi Haim Jachter that had he been endowed with the author- children each eagerly await their reaching ity, he would have made an addition to the the age at which they can join me in the he rush/emotional high of the NOR- Al Cheit (confessional) list for American NORPAC mission. Each year they insist on PAC Mission to Washington is in- Jews to recite on Yom Kippur. “For the sin coming. They grasp the message. Tcomparable. This thrilling sensation of remaining silent while our brothers suf- On the positive side, however, year after draws more than a thousand people year fered and perished in Europe during World year we hear of Mordechai’s political activ- after year to devote a day to directly ad- War II.” He compared American Jews, in- ism, both proactive and reactive. Unlike our dress nearly every member of Congress to cluding himself, to Joseph’s brothers who story under Egyptian bondage, where until help build the thriving American-Israeli al- saw their brother’s anguish and did noth- Moses arrived on the scene we passively ac- liance. Yes, the day begins early and ends ing. What shame. quiesced to the brutal state bondage, Mor- late, but the elation and sense of duty and Dr. Yoram Hazony poignantly notes in dechai and Esther adroitly applied pressure mission accomplished is what makes it all his celebrated work “The Dawn: Political and together with God saved our people portion of the mission is the initial meet- worth it and then some. It is what has mo- Teachings of the Book of Esther”: from annihilation. Rav Soloveitchik himself ing of the day when political leaders from tivated this author to join nearly every mis- “The story of the destruction of the noted that in regard to the State of Israel, both major parties address the attendees. A sion since 1997. Jewish people in Europe in our own time American Jewry has improved and followed large crowd broadcasts deep and wide sup- A historical perspective is necessary to is characterized by the utter lack of polit- the model of Megillat Esther’s political ac- port for the American-Israeli alliance. truly perceive the profound meaning of ical pressure on the German regime and tivism on behalf of the State of Israel. NORPAC is strictly bipartisan and issues the mission. In 1940, a group of New York its allies to cease their atrocities. Even in The lessons are stark and apparent. Jew- addressed are consensus topics such as for- Jews petitioned New York Senator Robert the free countries, the activities of the Jews ish political activism is essential for Jewish eign aid for Israel and development of an- Wagner Sr. to introduce a congressional to bring pressure on the German regime survival. As Mordechai and Esther knew ti-missile defense. All ages, from the young- bill that would admit 10,000 Jewish chil- and its allies to bring pressure upon their very well, we have no alternative. est to the oldest, are necessary to make an dren yearly into the United States, beyond governments were minimal—while the From its humble beginnings in the impact. Youngsters’ attendance is critical to the restrictive immigration quotas. Senator Germans themselves were ferocious in lob- mid-1990s, the NORPAC annual mission to the mission’s success. When young adults Wagner readily agreed. His acquiescence bying foreign governments to the ends of Washington has enabled thousands of Jews join the mission, politicians see continuity was not surprising considering this was a the earth to destroy those Jews under their to follow in the footsteps of Mordechai and receive a message that the Jewish peo- request coming from his constituents. The control. And when one side applies pres- and Esther to speak truth to power and ad- ple will be broadcasting for many years and efforts of Senator Wagner, though, were for sure to attain the execution of a policy, and vocate for the strengthening of the Amer- decades to come. naught. The bill did not even make it out this policy meets with no resistance from ican-Israeli relationship. Make no mistake It feels so good to have the opportunity of committee. Jewish powerlessness at its the other side, the results are foregone.” about it: anti-Israel lobbyists are ferocious- to speak to members of the House and Sen- nadir. The price for the lack of Jewish polit- As a teenager, I asked my parents what ly working to destroy the Jewish state in ate. It feels empowering to walk the halls ical organization, to put it very starkly, was they did to help Jews during the Holocaust. every possible venue. We are the front-line of Congress and be greeted with a warm 50,000 dead Jewish children. My parents were in their early 20s during soldiers in the battle for American support welcome at congressional offi ces. You are Lest one think I exaggerate, permit me the early 1940s. My parents were ashamed for Israel. no longer a bystander to the great events to quote Rabbi Yosef Dov Soloveitchik. It to say they did nothing. I could see the ter- The effort cannot be left to a select few of the day; you are a part of making things is well known among students of Rabbi rible discomfort in their faces. I promised as in the time of Megillat Esther. In a de- happen. You can make a difference. Soloveitchik that he was ultra-conservative myself I would never place myself in that mocracy, numbers mean everything. The Our Israeli brothers and sisters make about the siddur and tefi llah. Yet, Rabbi position of having to admit to my children greater the numbers of attendees at the considerable sacrifi ces for the well-being Soloveitchik stated publicly, to a crowd of that I remained silent when the Jewish mission, the greater the impact on politi- hundreds at Yeshiva University’s Furst Hall, people were in grave danger. Thank G-d, my cians. To a great extent, the most important CONTINUED ON P. 29

Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 17 Saving Our Lost Relatives: Campus To Be Dedicated In Memory Of Harav Ravitz Zt”L At Shuvu 27th Annual Dinner wenty-seven years ago, Hagaon dishe children and parents are begging ber at Ohr Somayach in Jerusalem, and he Harav Avrohom Pam zt”l founded for a Jewish education, we have no choice therefore had a very special place in his TShuvu to bring Russian children but to say “yes” even when the budget heart for Shuvu. He often stated, “Shuvu then arriving in Israel their heritage; to screams “no.” is the single most important kiruv initia- bring back the relatives we were losing. “Can we live with ourselves,” he asked tive in Eretz Yisrael since the State was After a decade of incredible success, while literally crying, “if we say no? Will founded.” b’siyata Dishmaya, Rav Pam felt the time it not haunt us for the rest of our lives?!” Rav Ravitz’s assistance to Shuvu was had come to include the students’ fami- We are one nation. One family. And we both fi nancial, securing government lies as well. These efforts, too, met with must save our relatives! funding, and also supporting Shuvu in great success. With his passion for the network he many of its confrontations with munici- Success breeds success, and Shuvu’s now heads, the Dayan emphasizes the palities that fought the organization. reputation for excellence spread far be- need for expansion, and indeed Shuvu’s Most famous was his fi ght against the yond the Russian immigrant community. Co-Chairmen R’ Avrohom Biderman and municipality of Kfar Saba and its mayor. Soon, Israeli parents staring reach- R’ Yossi Hoch report that Shuvu plans to At the time, Rav Ravitz served as Chair- ing out to Shuvu’s director, Rav Chaim IY”H open several new schools this com- man of the Knesset’s Education Commit- Michoel Gutterman, begging that their ing September. tee, and one of the steps he took to show children too be allowed in. Grabbing this The need - and the interest - is there! support for Shuvu’s struggle was to move unique chinuch opportunity, Rav Pam A recent survey commissioned by Shu- the location of the committee’s weekly quickly agreed and gave it his brachah. vu shows clearly that over 50% of secular meeting to the Shuvu school in Kfar Saba. With time, immigrant children from families in Israel are interested in send- Rav Ravitz’ legacy lives on through other countries joined as well, and, as is ing their children to a school like Shuvu, the tens of thousands of Shuvu children well known, the recent infl ux of immi- where their children would receive a Jew- who grew in Torah thanks to his vital as- grants from France has brought with it of incredible individuals! The extraordi- ish education! sistance, and Shuvu considers it a true burgeoning enrollment in Shuvu schools. narily devoted Shuvu teachers and staff Shuvu’s upcoming 27th Annual Dinner zechus to have its large campus in Petach Today, Shuvu has Baruch Hashem members will stop at nothing to achieve will be marking several notable dedica- Tikva carry his name. grown to be an educational powerhouse, their goal – to bring back as many lost ne- tions. The Shuvu Petach Tikva School Additional dedications at the upcom- a chinuch empire spanning the length shamos as possible. Campus will be dedicated l’ilui nishmas ing Shuvu Dinner include classrooms and breadth of Eretz Yisroel, with 74 mos- There is no simple way to describe Harav Avrohom Ravitz z”l, formerly the dedicated by Mr. and Mrs. Abe Belsky of dos in 19 cities from Akko in the north, Shuvu’s impact. head of Degel HaTorah and chairman of Lawrence, and Mr. and Mrs. Dov Schech- to Be’er Sheva in the south. Programs in- Just one year ago, at Shuvu’s 26th Annu- the Knesset’s Finance Committee. Rav ter of Brooklyn. The Dinner Chairman clude kindergartens, elementary schools, al Dinner, Dayan Yonason Abraham shlita Ravitz’ assistance to Shuvu over the years, this year will be Yisroel Blumenfrucht of junior high schools, high schools, and a was installed as nasi of the Shuvu move- at many crucial junctures, was critical in Kew Gardens Hills, and the Journal Chair- kollel – besides the afternoon programs, ment. In this short time, he has worked allowing the young network to develop men will be Shaul Kuperwasser of Lake- Shabbatons, Seminars, weekly lectures intensively to energize Shuvu and carry and grow. wood and Shmuel Rimmer of Brooklyn. and more and more and more. Some on the mission of the late Rosh Yeshiva, It was Rav Ravitz who provided the The dinner is a key function in en- 15,000 children and family members are to do everything to reach as many Yidden fi rst special Knesset allocation for Shu- abling Shuvu’s future expansion. So many touched annually by Shuvu’s kiruv pro- as possible - to realize “Vechol Bonayich vu. Before joining the Knesset, Rav Ravitz more children and their families – our grams! Limudei Hashem.” To save our family! had been a powerful force for harbotzas relatives! – are waiting for us. We simply And behind these programs is a staff As Harav Pam used to say, when Yid- Torah and kiruv as a leading faculty mem- cannot let them down.

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Standing Up CONTINUED FROM P. 1 name is a disgrace. Her grandfather is rac- ist and a Nazi. She claims that she stands Treatment of Women” at the CPAC (Con- for him. And the fact that CPAC invited servative Political Action Committee) con- her is a disgrace.” ference. Ms. Charem was booed and then left Ms. Charem is Jewish and the author of the conference with three security guards. two books, Useful Idiots: How Liberals Got CNN recently had a forum because of It Wrong in the Cold War and Still Blame the Parkland school shooting in Florida. America First (2003) and Do-Gooders: How The audience was packed with students, Liberals Hurt Those They Claim to Help faculty, and family from the school. As (and the Rest of Us) (2005). She was invited expected, the crowd was pro-gun control with the expectation that she would join and against the National Rifl e Associa- the crowd at the conference and bash the The shooting at the Parkland school liberals in how they treat women. To the has galvanized public action to support shock of the crowd and the fellow panel- The shooting at the Parkland school has galvanized public action gun control more than other shootings ists, she said: to support gun control more than other shootings where more people were killed. Also, in “I’m disappointed in people on our side this shooting, unlike other shootings, for being hypocrites about harassers and there is an argument that if law enforce- abusers of women who are in our party, tion. The NRA sent a representative, Dana states failing to register with the National ment had done its job based on the exist- who are sitting in the White House, who Loesch, to answer questions and present Instant Background Check System (NICS) ing laws, the shooting could have been brag about their extramarital affairs, who their view. Not surprisingly, she was sub- a list of those who because of convictions prevented or fewer people would have brag about mistreating women. And be- ject to boos and catcalls from the audi- or other legal grounds are not allowed to been killed. cause he happens to have an R [Repub- ence. buy a weapon. She blamed the FBI and lo- The difference here is the student lican] after his name, we look the other It was a brilliant move, having her cal police for not doing anything to try to body. The school is made up of middle- way. We don’t complain. This is a party represent the NRA. As his speech before make sure that the shooter Nikolas Cruz and upper-class students who are very that was ready to endorse – the Repub- CPAC proved, it would have been a disas- did not have a weapon, even though they bright and motivated. The New York anal- lican party endorsed – Roy Moore for ter for the NRA if Wayne LaPierre, NRA were aware of claims that he had made ogy would be if the shooting had hap- the Senate in the state of Alabama even executive vice president, had appeared threats. pened at Bronx High School of Science, though he was a credibly accused molest- for the organization. Ms. Loesch present- The most charged discussion was be- Stuyvesant High School, or Townsend er. You cannot claim that you stand for ed the NRA’s position the best she could. tween Ms. Loesch and Broward County Harris High School. women and put up with that.” She fi rst showed empathy to those who Sheriff Scott Israel. It showed the country “There was quite an interesting person died, and then argued that the shooting that law enforcement supports gun control. CONTINUED ON P. 22 who was on this stage the other day. Her would have been avoided if the current name is Marion Le Pen… And the Le Pen laws were followed. She blamed the Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected]

20 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 AAss I See It Cynthia Zalisky We Have To Do Something About Guns In This Country CONTINUED FROM P. 1 that the status quo remains. How many kor- banos (sacrifi ces) do we need to have before Florida high school on Wednesday, February sanity reins in and we have a conscientious 14. As a working mother, I had always had attempt to make our society safer? the comforting feeling that I could go about After this dreadful incident, it is pretty my business during the day without wor- apparent that we need new gun laws. But rying, because my kids were safe in school. one thing that can be counted on, though, But parents and children are no longer feel- is that throughout the American election ing secure. We must do everything in our cycles the overwhelming infl uence of the power to make sure our children are safe. I country’s powerful gun lobby will prevail. am a proponent of cameras and metal de- Money talks; it’s as simple as that. tectors in the schools. I do understand that In the wake of the shooting, Broward some people’s feathers may be ruffl ed by County Sheriff Scott Israel (who happens to that perceived intrusion in one’s privacy, be Jewish, although he married a Christian but children’s lives are too precious for us woman) called out local lawmakers at a vigil to be concerned about that as a culture. It to push for new gun laws or the elected offi - is a small sacrifi ce to be made to keep our cials will not get elected. “If you’re an elect- schools properly secure. ed offi cial and you want to keep things the As reported, there had been some dis- How many korbanos do we need to have before sanity reins in and way they are, and not do things differently, turbing red fl ags that went up about this if you want to keep the gun laws as they are killer (he doesn’t deserve to have his name we have a conscientious attempt to make our society safer? now, you will not get reelected in Broward promulgated) that should have been ad- County.” The vigil drew 1,000 people, and dressed prior to that fateful day; and had students with behavioral problems. De- Every time we have an incident like the attendees at one point began chanting “no that transpired, maybe 17 innocent lives spite all this, this guy was able to legally Florida shooting, there is a growing senti- more guns.” Sheriff Israel also told reporters would have been spared. Unbelievably, the purchase the AR-15 [semi-automatic assault ment to try to pass laws to prevent it from that people being treated for mental illness police responded to the shooter’s home 39 rifl e – editor] he used in the mass shooting. happening again. People get angry for a shouldn’t be allowed to purchase fi rearms. times over a seven-year period; he was also That’s Chelm! It is hard to fathom that these couple of weeks and then life goes back to President Trump has given indication expelled from school last year for having violent details were not noticed in this age normal and nothing gets done. The National that he would support a drive to fi x the bullets in his backpack. In fact, he was in- of computer technology. With that kind of Rifl e Association and the other gun lovers inadequacies in the background check sys- structed not come back with that knapsack. history, he should have been a person of in- prevent any serious consideration of legally tem. After that, the next step might be to The killer had scores of run-ins with the terest with the authorities and never been controlling weapons. The NRA contributes law. He suffered from mental health issues permitted to purchase a gun. In fact, I don’t millions of dollars to politicians to ensure CONTINUED ON P. 22 including ADHD and OCD. He sought treat- think he should have been allowed to walk ment at Henderson Mental Health Clinic the streets by himself, let alone own fi re- Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted and had previously attended a school for arms. at [email protected]

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CONTINUED FROM P. 21 tack. It requires citizens to serve in the mil- CONTINUED FROM P. 7 Rebbe’s gathering. It was further noted itary but has much stricter gun laws than that in Hebrew, the words “hoo rah” (hu support Senator Diane Feinstein’s bill to in the US. And these laws limit violence. of the meaning of Purim. ra) mean “he is evil”! ban bump stocks [President Trump already Israel has a lower gun-related homicide In 1953, the fourth day of March coin- Jews throughout the Soviet Union indicated that he would support banning rate. That’s not because it is an intrinsi- cided with the 17th day of Adar. On that breathed a collective sigh of relief, them]. These devices helped the Las Vegas cally peaceful society; rather, it is because fateful day, the Russian state radio in tempered, of course, by a realistic ap- shooter make his weapon into a rapid fi re it only allows one to own a handgun and Moscow made the startling announce- prehension of the future. No one, how- one, which killed more people. President not a semi-automatic rifl e capable of rapid ment that two days previously, in the ever, could have imagined in his wild- Trump also seems amenable to raising the fi re. There are also limits on the amount wee hours of the morning, the Supreme est dreams a more miraculous end to age requirement when one would be eligi- of ammunition one can purchase. Many Leader Joseph Stalin had fallen gravely Stalin’s reign of terror. At long last the ble to purchase certain weapons, running US states grant gun permits liberally, but ill and had lost consciousness. The next “Doctors’ Plot” was over, and countless into loggerheads with the gun lobby. It’s a Israel limits gun permits to people who morning, 18 Adar, the whole truth was fi - prisoners were set free. In the wake positive start. meet strict requirements of residency, oc- nally revealed: Stalin was dead. The bru- of Stalin’s death, the oppressive atmo- Former Governor Mike Huckabee cupation, or army rank. Gun owners must tal dictator had collapsed the very night sphere in the Soviet Union lightened to thinks that the US should take its cue from review their permits every year and imme- – and based on accounts, almost at the a large degree, and so ended one of the Israel. He tweeted, “Just waking up in Israel diately report any change of eligibility sta- exact time – that the chasidim in Crown grimmest chapters in the annals of Rus- to news of heartbreaking school shooting tus to the Israeli government. The Israeli Heights were shouting “hoo-rah” at the sian Jewish history. in Florida. I’m reminded that Israel pretty government has even restricted fi rearm much eliminated it by placing trained peo- access of current soldiers when off duty ple strategically (in the schools) to spot the on weekends as part of a successful pre- common thread – not the weapon, but a vention program that has halved fi rearm Standing Up person with intent.” Most of the teachers suicide. are former members of the IDF and are This recent attack has created a great CONTINUED FROM P. 20 Although I do not agree with the NRA’s trained to use weapons. Furthermore, by deal of outcry and anger, especially among position on gun control, they are a le- living in the country that is constantly un- the young. The students who survived the The students understand the power gitimate organization that represents der the threat of terrorism, teachers are on Florida massacre are channeling their of the media, especially social media, to the views of millions of individuals. The constant alert and instructed as to how to pain and anguish into political activism. whip up support. They had walkouts and claims by those who are withdrawing their protect their students. The youngsters are determined to make a got CNN to have a forum. The students discounts that it is improper to support an Some prominent commentators took difference this time. Feeling traumatized have put many politicians, including Flor- advocacy organization rings hollow espe- issue with Huckabee’s analysis by saying and vulnerable, they are staging walkouts ida Senator Marco Rubio and Governor cially since they still provide discounts to it isn’t tight security that protects Israel from class, making their feelings known Rick Scott, both Republicans, on the de- organizations such as AARP (American As- from mass shootings, but laws that careful- in Tallahassee [Florida’s state capital], and fensive. sociation of Retired Person), which is also ly control who can own and carry a gun. coordinating a nationwide “March for Companies are fl eeing the NRA in an advocacy group. Unlike the Unites States, Israel considers Our Lives” event on Saturday, March 24, droves. United Airlines, Delta Airlines, Na- It is important to hear both sides of an ownership of guns a privilege, not a right – in the nation’s capital and in cities across tional Car Rental, Hertz Car Rental, and issue. Unfortunately, in our polarized soci- as we have under the Second Amendment. the country. Maybe these young people MetLife have stopped giving discounts to ety, being presented with both sides is be- In Israel, one must undergo extensive men- can achieve what we adults have not NRA members. The students learned from coming less and less common. Therefore, tal and physical tests before being allowed been able to do until now. I support these the LGBT activists that the best way to si- we must acknowledge those who have the to purchase a gun. students wholeheartedly and wish them lence your opponents is to put pressure on courage to take a contrary position before Israel exists under constant threat of at- much success. businesses that deal with them. a group that has a one-sided view.

22 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 HHookedooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS Is The Purpose Of Life To Give Life Purpose? ver get complimented on your amaz- there. Think for a bit and then tell me what ber the other two. Ha. Or as my other dear ing Purim costume, which feels kind of life you would love to have in one neighbor said: A stockbroker urged him to Egreat...but, oh, you weren’t wear- sentence. buy a stock that would triple in value every ing one? Geez. Or you hide the mishloach If you look closely, you may see a pattern year. He told him: “At my age, I don’t even manos candy on the top shelf of your cup- emerging. And, yes, our lives do have an un- buy green bananas.” board, and then watch your three-year-old derlying meaning, whether we are aware of Trust me when I say there is surely a suddenly become an architect? Indeed, it’s it or not. Something that really stirs your common thread running through your that time of the year again. So what’s your spirit is a clue. And there are many other days and certainly on life. Give up on Purim theme? Everything orange because hints. If you haven’t yet, it may be time to your life. Perhaps logic.” “Orange” you glad it’s Purim? Okay, maybe collect all those dots and start connecting you’re driven by an You might have not. How about “Gone Nuts?” serving up them. Your theme is the motivation that innate need to cre- an unquenchable every kinda nut you can fi nd and some Nut- drives you throughout your life. ate something beau- thirst for knowl- ter Butters just for the heck of it. What do Knowing this will certainly give you an tiful. Music or art edge and yearn to you mean you don’t have a theme? inkling as to why you react to certain situ- moves you to the study and learn – Think quick. What’s your motto? Do you ations the way you do. If you’re anything core of your being. It could be that you are nourishing your inquisitive mind. Or, sad happen to have a theme song? Hmmm… like me, you’re the mushy type. Friendship, practical and feel utterly fulfi lled accom- to say, but you could just fi nd yourself to Well, why are you here on this earth? What caring, love, and the pursuit of intimacy plishing tasks and “getting ‘er done.” You’re be a fault fi nder and whiner, never seeing are you meant to be doing in this life? How are way on the top of the list. You may be energetic, enthusiastic, and actually excel the good in anything at all. If there aint no would you even know? It may be high time up for challenges, seeking self-mastery, when you are under stress. Then again, you melodrama, you will create it. Think about to ponder the things you value the most and achievements in some fi eld. Or devot- may a warrior – the one who fi ghts battles your days: Does time fl y or drag? in the world and why. What are some of ing yourself to infl uencing others and the for “Truth, Justice, and the American way” If you’re having a hard time fi nding the things you love: favorite books, movies, world. – always on the front lines to correct injus- theme of your entire life, how about choos- music? What kind of websites do you Once you fi gure out your motif or tices and ready to “fi ght the good fi ght.” ing one just for the coming year. Compas- browse often? And no, eBay an Amazon themes, ponder how they infl uence your You could feel a deep calling to heal the sion, connection, redemption, love. After don’t count. decisions and even goals. We all use cer- world and try to improve the lives of others all, your life is a book – so feel free to divide Our lives are a play, and guess who the tain expressions that reveal the things we – and fi nd yourself on a lifetime quest for it up into chapters. Take your time, sweet script writer, director, and main character fi nd most important in life, and we may your spiritual center. You empathize deep- friends, and remember on your journey to is? If you fi nd yourself relating heavily to not even know it. Like my neighbor used ly with people and wish to ease the pain. always take the scenic route. the guy or girl in the book you just read to say: “You can live to be a 100 if you give Remember what they say: “If logic tells May the sounds of laughter keep your or the show you just watched, who is al- up everything that makes you want to live you that life is meaningless, don’t give up spirits high on Purim – and always. ways seeking approval from others, you to be a 100.” may have stumbled on a precious insight What will everyone be saying about Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She about yourself. Your life needs to be about you at your 100th birthday party? Well, you works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week something. What you need is a plot, the know when you get old, the fi rst thing that and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- direction you’re headed, and a plan to get goes is your memory…and I can’t remem- book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

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24 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 T’fi lin #2 HHalachicalachic Highlights (For p’sak halachah, please ask your own rav.) Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. Accidentally Touch T’fi lin Before Talis Question: If you accidentally touch your III. T’filin vs. Talis Sh’eiris Yosef who creatively suggests a solu- the rule brought in Rav Shimon Eider’s t’fi lin before your talis in the morning, do The Shulchan Aruch (25:1) paskens that tion to our problem. If you accidentally sefer on t’fi lin. you need to put on your t’fi lin fi rst? you should place the t’fi lin deeper in your touch your t’fi lin fi rst, you should be mei- Nevertheless, certain Acharonim limit Short Answer: Yes. According to most bag than your talis, so that you do not “pass siach daas (remove your focus) from the this rule to where the t’fi lin and talis are opinions, you must put on your t’fi lin fi rst. over” the t’fi lin when you fi rst put on the mitzvah and think of something else so both in front of you. Thus, the sefer MiBeis Explanation: talis in the morning. However, according to that you can then start anew – and fi rst put Yisrael (1:3) and Migdal Tzofi m (p. 47) rule the Magen Avraham (25:1), simply touching on the talis. that when the talis and t’fi lin are in sepa- I. Rule of Ein Maavirin – your t’fi lin fi rst is not a problem (and you rate rooms, one may pass by the room with Not Passing Over Mitzvos can still fi rst put on your talis) if the t’fi lin VI. Limitation of the Sh’eiris Yosef the t’fi lin in order to reach the room with The Gemara (Yoma 33a-33b), when dis- are still in their boxes. (See the Machatzis The Sh’eiris Yosef’s solution, albeit cre- the talis. cussing the order of the morning service in HaShekel who explains the proof of the ative, only works according to one opinion the Beis HaMikdash, rules that the kohen Magen Avraham). The Shulchan Aruch HaR- of Tosafos (in Yoma, ibid) that Ein Maavirin VIII. Extension to Sefer Torah fi rst cleans the ashes before he prepares the av follows this Magen Avraham. only applies by two different mitzvos, pre- Although here we do not follow the Menorah because of the principle of Ein Nevertheless, the Mishnah B’rurah (3 sumably because by passing over one mitz- Magen Avraham’s distinction between Maavirin al HaMitzvos – that one should and 4, and the Biur Halachah) lists numer- vah, you are degrading the other mitzvah. whether the t’fi lin are still in the boxes or not pass over a mitzvah. Since the kohen ous Acharonim that pasken against the Ma- Accordingly, you are permitted to be meisi- not, this distinction is followed in anoth- reaches the ashes fi rst, he should not ig- gen Avraham, and rules that even if you do ach daas from the t’fi lin, because refraining er case. On days when two Torah scrolls nore this mitzvah and perform a different not actually hold the t’fi lin, simply passing from fi nishing a mitzvah (here, t’fi lin) is not are removed from the aron ha’kodesh and mitzvah. your hand over the t’fi lin would be a vio- a violation of Ein Maavirin, as you are not a mistake is found in the fi rst Torah, the lation of this principle of Ein Maavirin. choosing to immediately perform a second Kerem Eliezer quotes Acharonim who rule II. Connection to Order of the Shel Rosh Indeed, even if your t’fi lin and talis are in mitzvah instead. that one should replace the fi rst Torah and Shel Yad of T’filin different rooms in your house where you However, according to the other opin- with a new third Torah, instead of the sec- The Gemara subsequently connects this are praying, you should not walk through ion of Tosafos (ibid), even passing over ond Torah that was already removed from concept to t’fi lin. According to the under- the room with the t’fi lin to get to your talis! one part of a mitzvah to perform a second the aron. What about the fear that you are standing of Tosafos, the Gemara is saying It would thus seem that if you acciden- part of the same mitzvah (or to perform a “passing over” the second Torah? Not a that when a person returns his t’fi lin into tally touch your t’fi lin fi rst, whether you non-mitzvah) is a violation of Ein Maavirin. problem, writes the Kerem Eliezer, because the t’fi lin bag, he should fi rst place the Shel put on the t’fi lin fi rst is a dispute between Accordingly, you would not be able to be the second Torah is still in its “box” – i.e. its Rosh (head phylactery) into the bag, and the Mishnah B’rurah (t’fi lin fi rst) and Magen meisiach daas (remove your focus) and stop mantle/cover – and thus according to the then the Shel Yad (arm phylactery), so that Avraham (talis fi rst). Yet, there are other fac- performing the mitzvah of t’fi lin once it Magen Avraham there is no violation of Ein next morning he reaches the Shel Yad fi rst tors involved. was already started. Maavirin. (i.e., because it was placed last into the bag), ***** and thus does not need to “pass over” any IV. Kabbalistic Approach VII. Practical Application Next week’s topic: When you do not mitzvah. The Arizal (quoted in Shulchan HaMaare- The normative p’sak appears to follow have t’fi lin, is it better to daven without t’fi - Indeed, the Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chay- ches) is of the opinion that you should nev- the rule of the Mishnah B’rurah: requiring lin together with a minyan and wear your im 25:6) and the Mishnah B’rurah (3) pasken er break from the proper order – talis, then you to put on the t’fi lin fi rst when you friend’s t’fi lin after davening, or is it better like this Tosafos, but note that even if you t’fi lin – no matter which one is touched fi rst. touch them or pass by them fi rst. This is to wait and daven with t’fi lin by yourself? accidentally touch the Shel Rosh fi rst, you should nevertheless fi rst put on the Shel V. Creative Approach of the Sh’eiris Yosef Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. is Assistant to the Rabbi at the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills and a Yad based on its precedence in the p’sukim. The Shulchan HaMaareches brings the practicing litigation attorney. Questions? Comments? Email [email protected].

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Ahavah Rabah 4 Bitachon: Strength and Eternity

Avinu Malkeinu, ba’avur Avoseinu the Torah to Yisrael was that they should Hashem’s involvement in literally every say “Thank you, Hashem: I know that this is she’batchu b’cha place trust in Hashem…because the es- aspect of our lives, sweet and bitter, we for my training and benefi t” – that is a ful- Our Father, our King, for the sake of our sence of it all is the complete trust. are fulfi lling the mitzvah of Bitachon. fi llment of those same mitzvos on an even forefathers who trusted in You… The Sifsei Chaim explains this state- The mitzvos of Emunah and Yichud higher level because it is more challenging. ment to mean that the purpose of all avo- Hashem mandate that we believe all is Throughout our day, every day, we ***** das Hashem is to perfect our bitachon in coming from Hashem. He is the One and have the opportunity to “connect” with hen we said “Naaseh v’nishma” Hashem. We were given the treasured gift Only source for all the events in our lives Hashem through these foundational and at Har Sinai, we were exhibit- of Torah in the z’chus of our bitachon, hav- on a minute-to-minute basis. When we ap- fundamental mitzvos. The more frequent- Wing our bitachon that whatever ing accepted it without asking any ques- ply that to specifi c events, large and small, ly and deeply we open our eyes to Hash- is contained in the Torah is for our ben- em’s presence in our lives, the more Hash- efi t. That is why we accepted the Torah em will open our minds and hearts to feel before even knowing exactly what we When we get that parking spot in an overcrowded lot His presence, and the closer we will come were committing ourselves to. It was right in front of the door, and we say “Thank you, Hashem” – to fulfi lling our purpose in life. in this merit of bitachon that we were zocheh to receive the Torah. [Sifsei Chaim that is a fulfillment of the mitzvos of Emunah, As part of our new Mitzvah Series, daily of Rav Chaim Friedlander; Rav Yeruchom Yichud Hashem, Bitachon, and more recordings of less than two minutes each Levovitz, the Mashgiach of Mir] day are available. Sign up by sending an Both Rabbeinu Yonah and the Vilna email to [email protected] and put Gaon on Mishlei (22:19) state that the pur- tions. However, only through the Torah that is bitachon. When we get that parking the word “Subscribe” in the Subject line. In pose of Hashem giving us the Torah was can we perfect our bitachon and pass it spot in an overcrowded parking lot that addition, we now have a daily one-minute so that we could place our trust and re- on to future generations. is right in front of the door, and we say recording on Tefi lah and we are starting liance in Hashem (bitachon) and to pass “Thank you, Hashem” – that is a fulfi llment Shemoneh Esrei now. that bitachon on to our children and later Integrating Mitzvos into Our Daily Lives of the mitzvos of Emunah, Yichud Hashem, To access Audio, Video, and Archives generations (see how the Gaon learns the To delve into the depths of the mitzvah Bitachon, and more. When we don’t get a of previous Tefi lah segments, please visit p’sukim in T’hilim 78:5-7). In the translated of Bitachon is beyond our scope. What we spot and have to walk two blocks, and we www.WeeklyTefi lahFocus.com. words of the Vilna Gaon: can say is that bitachon is the practical ap- …and the main reason for the giving of plication of emunah. When we recognize You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

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Navigating The Medical System Lecture On Eye Disease By Susie Garber function, and then he spoke about glau- and he explained that cataracts affect the eye that is worse. There is research coma, which involves pressure in the eye the lens of the eye, which focuses light being done with animal trials to try to n Tuesday evening, February 6, that causes damage to the optic nerve. onto the retina. A cataract means, he fi nd ways to prevent cataracts from pro- Dr. Sirikishan Ramkishan Shetty, This can cause damage to peripheral vi- explained, that the lens is cloudy. This gressing Oa board-certifi ed ophthalmologist sion, he explained. Normal pressure is 10- is the leading cause of blindness in the Dr. Shetty then spoke about age-relat- at NewYork-Presbyterian Queens Eye 21, so anything above that is abnormal. world in people above age 40. “Everyone ed macular degeneration, a disease that Center, presented a detailed lecture on “Vision loss from glaucoma,” he stated, who lives long enough,” he stated, “will affects the macula, which is the central eye disease on behalf of Navigating the “is permanent.” He advised that early de- develop cataracts.” He also added some part of the retina. Risk factors include: Medical System Lecture Series at Congre- tection and treatment are the keys to pre- encouraging information about cata- older age, being a woman or being Cauca- gation Etz Chaim. venting vision loss from glaucoma. racts: It is almost never an emergency sian, family history, smoking, any cardio- Dr. Shetty shared why he chose this He then taught that, in the early stag- and not all cataracts need to be treated, vascular disease, and obesity. The main type of medical specialty. “I was drawn es, a person loses the edge of vision and because in some cases the cataracts will ways to prevent it is to not smoke and to into ophthalmology during medical the vision fi eld slowly grows smaller and not worsen. Symptoms include blurry vi- stay healthy. Treatment for this involves school. I did a clinical rotation in ophthal- smaller until it could be lost completely. sion and bright lights causing a glare or injections into the eye that may need to mology and saw patients who had under- He listed the risk factors, which include: halo. Some people complain of double be repeated every few months. gone cataract surgery. I saw how happy old age; African American, Asian, or Latin vision with cataracts. Cataracts do not The lecture was followed by a lively patients were with the results and how decent; family history; injury to the eye; cause pain or fl ashing lights or fl oating question-and-answer session. One com- the improved vision could be life-chang- and prior eye surgery. It is diagnosed, he spots. The blurriness of cataracts remains munity member asked if there were ways ing,” he stated. “As overall health and the explained, with an eye exam, checking the same during the day. It isn’t like a in terms of nutrition to prevent eye dis- fi eld of medicine are improving, so is the eye pressure, a peripheral vision test, and blurriness that comes and goes. Also, he ease. age of our population. As people live lon- scans. These tests are then repeated to added that cataracts can occur in combi- Dr. Shetty then shared some foods and ger, they are more at risk for several eye monitor progression of the disease. nation with other eye problems. vitamins that are good for overall eye disorders.” Dr. Shetty feels passionate He then explained that the treatment He then spoke about treatment in de- health: about his work as an ophthalmologist. goal is to lower eye pressure, and this in- tail. “Treatment of cataracts,” he taught, • Foods containing Omega-3 fatty ac- “I thought that it was such an honor to volves draining the fl uid inside the eye. “is only necessary if they are causing a ids (fi sh, nuts, fl axseeds, chia seeds, eggs, help maintain and restore vision…There- It is usually treated with eye drops and problem.” Treatment today is surgery Brussels sprouts, spinach) fore, I felt it was the right path for me, there are also many types of laser treat- that involves removing the diseased • Foods containing vitamin A (eggs, and I’m glad I made the choice to pursue ments that may be used as well. “Treat- lens and replacing it with an artifi cial carrots, spinach, liver, sweet potatoes) ophthalmology,” he said. His passion for ing glaucoma will not improve vision,” lens. He shared how cataract surgery has • Foods containing vitamin C (citrus his fi eld showed through as he shared he shared, “but the goal is to prevent progressed. “Today, surgery no longer in- fruits, strawberries, mangos, broccoli, his knowledge with the large audience further vision loss.” Surgery is used as a cludes stitches and the incision is small- bell pepper) of community members. treatment when other treatments do not er.” The surgery, he stated, takes 10-45 • Foods containing lutein and zeaxan- Dr. Shetty began the lecture by ex- work. minutes under local anesthesia. General- thin (spinach, kale, Swiss chard, collard plaining the parts of the eye and their He then spoke about cataract surgery, ly, the ophthalmologist operates fi rst on greens, Brussels sprouts). OHEL Bais Ezra Children Enjoy Broadway Show And More On Autism Family Day hile many were getting ready to watch the Super Bowl on WSunday, February 4, OHEL Bais Ezra was bringing the joy of theater to over 100 individuals diagnosed with autism and their families, at a special showing of the hit musical Wicked on Broadway. This program was made possible thanks to generous funding received from the NY City Council and The De- partment of Mental Health and Mental Hygiene, and was coordinated under the auspices of the Theater Development Fund (TDF). The TDF sponsors the Au- tism Theater Initiative, which develops autism-friendly shows for those diag- nosed on the spectrum. Along with the OHEL Bais Ezra staff, TDF staff provided any necessary assis- tance to individuals and families, to help yse Appelbaum added, “For many fami- ensure a most enjoyable experience for lies it’s a rare occasion to go to a Broad- all. way show, especially for those with a With the music playing a bit quieter family member with an Autism Spec- than usual, and the theater allowing peo- trum Disorder diagnosis who may have a ple to walk around during the show, and diffi cult time sitting still, or being quiet tolerating more noise than usual, the for an entire Broadway show. Watching show began. Families were mesmerized the families get a day to feel like any oth- by the experience, being at a show with er family at a Broadway show, and not their families and having the opportuni- being judged by those around them or ty to do what many families do all the having to worry what their family mem- time – have a family outing together, go- ber is doing, was such an amazing expe- ing to a community-based event. rience.” After a delicious lunch, everyone re- One parent summarized the day: “It ceived custom headphones, anxiety-re- was a dream come true! I don’t really go lief toys, hats, bags, and more, to ensure out with my son often, and this was un- everyone was able to enjoy the show in believable, from the lunch to the trans- its entirety. portation to the bags – I didn’t have to OHEL Bais Ezra Area Coordinator Al- worry about a thing.”

28 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 RRecentecent Happenings Elisha Wiesel, Goldman Sachs CIO, Speaks To Yeshiva University Students n Wednesday, February 14, Yeshiva solution doggedly; and that hopefuls must cian equal in status to the traders and other University students studying fi - continue their learning beyond their for- fi nancial people in the company. But more Onance and computer science gath- mal education. “We have never lived in a importantly, “how I raise my children is the ered on YU’s Wilf Campus for a Q&A ses- better time to learn anything,” Wiesel not- best way for me to honor my father – that sion with Elisha Wiesel, chief information ed, “and there is no barrier to fi nding a way will be my true legacy.” offi cer of Goldman Sachs. The talk was to learn what you want to learn.” Wiesel was impressed with the students hosted by Judah Diament, program direc- In response to a question about how the he met, calling them “quality individuals.” about his own career, as well as what the tor of undergraduate data science and pro- legacy of his father, writer, activist, and Ho- He also emphasized the need for computer fi rm looks for in new hires, is an excellent fessor and co-chair of computer science at locaust survivor Elie Wiesel, has infl uenced science programs to focus on the skills stu- way to help the students understand what Yeshiva College. his career, he spoke movingly about how dents need to succeed as individuals and as they need to do in college while giving Wiesel spoke to students about his he believes that his father’s greatest skill team members, saying that “good comput- them a perspective on what to expect in 23-year tenure building the information was “listening to people closely and making er science programs get their students to a tech career.” He added that “Elisha Wie- architecture that Goldman uses to man- them feel like a human being.” He wanted code (especially collaboratively) and build sel’s visit is another example of YU’s com- age its businesses. Goldman has created a his legacy at Goldman to refl ect that he did things in addition to learning theory.” mitment to giving our computer science technological structure, he explained, that the same thing for the people who worked Diament was pleased with the event. students the guidance and industry knowl- both centralizes information and systems for him by making the profession of techni- “Hearing a talented technology leader talk edge to succeed.” management while distributing to every Goldman employee the means to query that information to assess risk, gain, and prediction in very fi ne-grained ways. However, as he pointed out, this simple description does not capture the dynamic back-and-forth that happens between what he called “the technicians in the core of- fi ce and the traders on the fl oor.” Technol- ogists must learn the core practices of the Goldman businesses they serve, in order to deliver the services the businesses need; at the same time, the businesses must be conversant enough with the technology so that they not only know what can be done but also know what to ask for in terms of improvements. Before taking questions, he concluded his talk by saying that “the best approach for us in fi nding solutions to our challeng- es is to embed smart people with certain skill sets into a problem, provide them with the means to identify the problem, and then let them dig as deep as they can to fi nd the solution.” Many students were understandably interested in fi nding out what skills they would need to work for companies such as Goldman Sachs. Wiesel said that everyone should learn to code to some degree; that information workers must have what he called “lateral skills,” character aspects such as an excited curiosity about the world and a passionate desire to pursue a problem’s The NORPAC Mission To Washington: An Exhilarating Day That Should Not Be Missed CONTINUED FROM P. 17

of the Jewish state. Most signifi cantly, of course, is the multi-year service in the Is- rael Defense Forces with a few weeks of reserve duty each year. We are asked to sacrifi ce one day and join the NORPAC mission to help Israel. One day spent on the bus with good friends and making more good friends along the way. Good food and good conversation and the ex- citement of seven hours on Capitol Hill. The Annual NORPAC Mission to Washington. It is the least we can do for our people. Join us this year and every year. If you live within a fi ve-hour driv- ing distance to Washington, D.C., you should be there.

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n anticipation of Purim, the Bais Yaakov Academy of Queens (BYQ) Isixth grade students organized and prepared mishloach manos as a chesed project! The girls were given a challenge with a budget to work within, and the need to produce as many mishloach ma- nos as possible. Working with local fl y- ers for the planning, the prices of items they saw had a percent discount, so the young planners applied their percents skills to real life! The students in each class voted on the best plan, the order was placed, and the girls prepared their packages. This unit was a springboard to learn about percentages and how to take the percent of a discount. This “backwards learning” was fun and educational. Mrs. Lindell, their math teacher who planned the unit with Mrs. Rahmani, BYQ’s math coach, both said, “It is critical to make math meaningful. The girls learned how they can use their math skills to shop, plan, and help others.” Many of the girls expressed this con- nection of math to real life challenges and articulated how math can be used in their lives: “The unit was a mix of learning and a mitzvah,” said Avigayil. “We learned how to shop properly in the future,” said Yehudit. “We can use percents to save money,” said Devorah. As always, BYQ students put their hearts and souls into the project as ev- idenced by the seriousness with which the girls weighed their options and ex- pressed their creativity as they decorated the packages. The packages were packed up and placed in the offi ces of Mrs. Berg- man and Mrs. Reisbaum. As they waited for delivery, staff and students entering BYQ’s principal and assistant principal offi ces expressed admiration for the beautiful packages. Some of the staff, who are involved with chesed organiza- tions, asked if they could deliver them to their organizations, too! Rabbi Gewirtz, dean of Bais Yaakov of Queens, Mrs. Bergman, and Mrs. Reisbaum expressed their hakaras ha’tov to the girls and their teachers for all their hard work and the mitzvos that would spread simchah on Purim. The girls were thrilled to learn that their mitzvah increased exponen- tially as the mishloach manos made their way to hospitals and nursing homes.

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Annual Melaveh Malkah at Yeshivat Ohr Haiim ast Motza’ei Shabbath, Yeshivat Ohr for dessert, and spectacular dancing, which Haiim held their Annual Mother- really brought everybody together in a fun LDaughter Melaveh Malkah. More and spirited way. than 100 girls, mothers, grandmothers, and Rabbi Mordechai Kashani, YOH Princi- aunts gathered for an incredible evening of pal, provided an important and moving ruach and friendship. message to everyone present about Torah Held at Congregation Shaare Tova, the education for girls, and set the tone for a program featured amazing musical and dra- meaningful event. The evening concluded matic presentations by students in grades with a raffl e of more than 40 great prizes! 4-7, magnifi cent centerpieces made by the Kudos to all the morot for their hard girls in honor of their mothers, delicious work in preparing the girls. We can’t wait food and yummy ice cream and brownies till next year! HANC High School Boys’ Torah Bowl Team Finish Season 12-0

n Tuesday, February 13, the HANC tion is made for freshman Moshe Wieder, Boys Torah Bowl team traveled to who scored his fi rst points of the season. OFlatbush for the last four games of Thank you to the coach, Rabbi Chrein, for the regular season. all his efforts and support in working with Behind the leadership of Jonah our amazing team. Rocheeld, HANC defeated HAFTR, North HANC has earned a bye to the fi nal Shore, Flatbush, and Magen David to fi nish round of the playoffs, taking place next the season undefeated at 12-0. Special men- month. YTM Preschool Kicks Off Adar With Grand Purim Masquerade

urim is in the air at Yeshiva Tiferes were treated to a special story with an age- Moshe’s Preschool. On Rosh Chodesh appropriate lesson by Rabbi Bookson. The PAdar, the boys, together with their boys then enjoyed Chodesh Adar music moros and Rabbi Bookson and Morah Ahu- and dancing in their costumes. The mas- va enjoyed an amazing Rosh Chodesh Adar querade was a great culmination of a week mesibah and Purim masquerade. The boys that included the Pre-1A Alef-Beis Siyum.

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YCQ Makes Mishloach Manos To Distribute To Holocaust Survivors

o help students at the Yeshiva of Central Queens (YCQ) understand Tthe full meaning and importance of Purim, Rabbi Nafi Orlofsky, of the Gift of Unity organization, and rebbe at HANC High School, visited a group of YCQ second graders to lead a hands-on activity teach- ing the students the importance of giving. On Thursday, February 22, class 2-204 had a mishloach manos letter-writing activity. The Gift of Unity organization aims at providing opportunities for uniting Jews all around the world. Its purpose is to give a “gift,” to enable one Jew to feel recognized and cared for by another. The mishloach manos packages will be distributed through Project Lead, an organization that distrib- utes to those in need. The letters from the students at YCQ will be given to Holocaust survivors to help them celebrate the holiday of Purim. Rabbi Orlofsky shared informa- tion with the children about Purim and the importance of helping the less fortunate; this was followed by students writing mes- sages on cards they designed themselves. Prior to the visit, the students were taught a lesson on how to properly write and address a letter by their teacher, Mrs. Michal Fuchs. The idea behind programs like this and other ongoing chesed programs at YCQ is that the younger we begin to teach chil- dren about the importance of giving, the more it will become a matter of practice and habit as they develop into adults.

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An SKA Chanukah Party In February

t’s Purim time, but for the 10-2 students Fishbein. of the Stella K. Abraham High School The girls delighted in the beautifully set Ifor Girls it seemed like Chanukah! table and happily savored the homemade Every year, SKA’s Chanukah Auction food and baked goods that Morah Rikki offers a unique variety of faculty prizes prepared. All agreed, however, that the to bid on; the offerings range from Shab- highlight of the morning was the time the bos invitations, restaurant and ice cream group spent with Mrs. Fishbein discussing parlor excursions, and even hand-knit the themes of “Who am I without a mask” scarves! Last week, Sophomore Chaviva and the role of the Jewish woman. Salzberg redeemed her winning bid and Knowing their teacher’s profi ciency in took her class to a breakfast party at the the culinary arts, the students of SKA’s 12-H home of SKA’s Ivrit teacher, Morah Rikki class ran to pick up the leftovers! Midreshet Shalhevet Mothers And Daughters Night Out

By Nava Yastrab, MSH ’19 The choir, led by juniors Maayan Sandows- ki and Eliana Hirsch, represents students hursday, February 15, marked the an- from ninth through twelfth grade. The nual Midreshet Shalhevet Mother- audience was blown away by their beau- TDaughter Dinner. The ballroom over- tiful melodies and fl awless harmonies. fl owed as both current and prospective MSH Class of 2016 alumnus Shoshie Kop- students and their mothers joined together pel came in as a special consultant to help for a wonderful night out. The evening be- bring the already impressive choir to a new gan with a fun LED-lit photo booth in the level, and played the keyboard to accompa- lobby. Mothers and daughters had a blast ny them. Following the performance, Mrs. as they struck pose after pose with and Eisenman took the fl oor to share some in- without props. As everyone made her way sight on Megillas Esther with an interactive into the ballroom for a delicious dinner, shiur about the secrets of the Megillah and they were greeted by the beautiful decor, how to uncover them. After a trailer with highlighted by the unique, handmade table sneak peeks of the upcoming Midreshet centerpieces created by the ninth grade art Shalhevet production of Mary Poppins, class under the guidance of their teacher, which the students have been working on Mrs. Miriam Norowitz. since September, the night concluded with Everyone got to eat, talk, and watch a delicious dessert, and the girls got to take videos and photos of Shalhevet memories. home a night full of fun and memories. The program started with Menahelet Mrs Midreshet Shalhevet is truly proud to part- Eisenman touting the recent accomplish- ner with such a committed parent body in ments of the many MSH clubs and teams. educating our talmidos.

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Silverstein Hebrew Academy Welcomes Great Neck Estates Police Department ffi cers from the Great Neck Estates Police Department re- Ocently visited the Silverstein Hebrew Academy (SHA) to talk with students about safety, using several “hands-on” activities and experiences to highlight the safety themes being discussed in classes. This event was coordinated by the school as part of a unit on community helpers, teaching students to recognize and feel safe around law enforcement offi cers, fi re- fi ghters, doctors, dentists, and other professionals. The interpersonal les- son refl ects the SHA’s commitment to providing students with unique and inspiring opportunities to engage fully with their academic lessons and prepare them for real-life experiences. During the visit, police offi cers taught students basic safety precau- tions, and they let students try on Kevlar vests and police helmets. Stu- dents also had the opportunity to ask the offi cers questions about what it is like working in law enforcement and how they should react in potentially unsafe situations. For more information on the Sil- verstein Hebrew Academy in Great Neck, please visit www.shagn.org.

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Bnos Malka Holds 22nd Annual Dinner

nos Malka Academy held its 22nd An- The Parents of the Year award was pre- with the family spanning 25 years. “I had A highlight of the evening was when nual Dinner this past week, honor- sented to Michael & Irina Kimyagarov. the pleasure of teaching two of the Bloch Mordechai Striks, a parent of two gradu- Bing four outstanding awardees. Rab- They, too, are a family that has shown an children, when I was a rebbe at Yeshiva Har ates, read a letter he had sent this year to bi Michael Weichselbaum, the Menahel, unwavering commitment to Bnos Malka. Torah and more recently teaching their the Board of Directors. His impassioned remarked, “I look forward to this evening Beyond Mrs. Kimyagarov volunteering for granddaughters, Shifra, Chava Leah, and letter described how he had taken Rabbi every year. It’s a time when we celebrate years to teach the Math Olympiad in the Ahuva. It is an outstanding family commit- Weichselbaum, the administration, and our advances in education, we recognize school, the family continues to send their ted to Torah and the community.” faculty for granted during his ten years in the contributions of our honorees, and daughters to Bnos Malka even after mov- Finally, the school presented the Ed- the school. The contrast he has witnessed spend time with our parent body.” ing to the Five Towns. As Mrs. Kimyagarov ucator of the Year award to Morah Eileen compelled him to share his feelings on The Guests of Honor this year were Rab- said, “Our daughters never considered at- Cohen. Her reputation as an exemplary what he now sees so clearly as the unique bi Zvi & Aviva Gluck. “Most people may be tending another school, not even for an teacher of the Kindergarten class has made qualities of Bnos Malka. “It should be the more familiar with the Glucks from their instant.” her an admired member of the faculty and model for all institutions.” tireless work for the community and in The school had the pleasure of recog- a beloved morah to children throughout In addition to receiving recognition particular with Amudim; however, they nizing the support of Dr. Sana and Rhonda Kew Gardens Hills. Her compassion and from the school, the honorees were also have been deeply involved in our school Bloch as the Grandparents of the Year. Rab- gratitude make her an exceptional choice presented with a proclamation from Coun- for nearly a decade.” bi Weichselbaum has had a relationship to receive this year’s award. cilman Rory Lancman.

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Celebrating What Young Israel Means To You By Farley Weiss the forefront of numerous important is- with Rabbi Mordechai Willig, the longtime agogues were devastated by the storm, and sues for our member shuls and for the Jew- spiritual leader of the Young Israel of Riv- our Executive Director Rabbi Marc Volk President of the National Council ish people as a whole. We embrace Jewish erdale, which provide a unique forum in traveled to Texas to stand together with the of Young Israel communal needs and often take a leading which pulpit rabbis from across the Unit- community as it began the long and ardu- role in tackling the important issues that ed States can discuss and share best prac- ous task of rebuilding. hen the National Council of face the broader Jewish community. We tices. Further, the leadership of our branch We recently organized regional confer- Young Israel holds its Gala Din- proudly provide an array of religious, edu- synagogues regularly receives pertinent ences in New York and South Florida for Wner on Thursday, March 15, at Ter- cational, Zionistic, social, and communal and vital information from our Division of Young Israel shuls. We are involved in an race on the Park in Flushing, Queens, it will programming for our member synagogues Rabbinic Services, including weekly divrei anti-BDS initiative aimed at helping Jewish be an exciting multi-faceted celebration. and their affi liated families. Torah. and other pro-Israel students on college We will pay tribute to a host of worthy Our Division of Rabbinic Services pro- In the wake of Hurricane Harvey, the Na- campuses who are constantly faced with a honorees, including current and former vides invaluable assistance to shuls with tional Council of Young Israel raised over barrage of criticism directed at Israel. We government offi cials, and several visionar- rabbinic searches and rabbinic contracts, $100,000 to help members of Houston’s ies and activists who embody the values in addition to organizing bi-weekly calls Jewish community, whose homes and syn- CONTINUED ON P. 44 and core mission of the National Council of Young Israel. Our esteemed honorees have contributed to both the security of Is- rael and the enhancement of Judaism, and some have helped improve their shuls and communities in signifi cant ways. We will have the opportunity to hear from scintillating speakers such as former White House Communications Director Anthony Scaramucci, a staunch supporter of the Jewish State who visited Israel in No- vember 2017. “I know that this is G-d’s land for G-d’s Chosen People,” Scaramucci not- ed during his recent trip. “I know that the State of Israel will exist today and forever in the future, and it’s important for any- body who believes in the concept of liberty and anybody in the West who believes in the individual spirit, to protect the State of Israel.” One of the other featured guest speakers is Congressman Ron DeSantis of Florida, Chairman of the National Security Subcom- mittee, and a member of the Foreign Affairs and Judiciary Committees, who has been a strong advocate for the relocation of the American Embassy in Israel to Jerusalem. We will also hear from Stuart Force, the fa- ther of Taylor Force, whose tragic death led to the landmark legislative effort to defund the Palestinian Authority until it publicly denounces terrorism, works to end violent terrorist acts, and terminates the abhorrent practice of giving stipends for terrorists. Another big component of the celebra- tion will be the opportunity to mark 70 years of the State of Israel and laud the United States’ declaration of the recogni- tion of Jerusalem as the eternal capital of Israel. The recognition of Jerusalem is an is- sue that the National Council of Young Isra- el has actively supported from its infancy, and we are proud of our advocacy efforts that resulted in the president’s pronounce- ment. In advance of the announcement, we were the only Jewish organization to spearhead a coordinated call-in campaign to the White House to support Jerusalem’s recognition. Acknowledging the heroism of our brethren in Israel and recognizing the central role that the Jewish State and its capital, Jerusalem, plays in our lives is incredibly important, and the opportunity to do so in a communal setting is special. The Gala Dinner will also enable us to celebrate the entity that is the National Council of Young Israel and the approxi- mately 25,000 member families and over 100 branch synagogues that comprise this wonderful organization. It has been a plea- sure and privilege for me to get a fi rst-hand look at the impact that the National Coun- cil of Young Israel has had, and continues to have, on American Jewry and the State of Israel. Throughout the past 106 years, the Na- tional Council of Young Israel has been at

Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 43 UUpcomingpcoming Events March 11 Yeshiva University Pre-Pesach Event Commemorates Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik’s 25th Yahrzeit Shabbatons in Teaneck and the Five Towns on March 10 feature scholars sharing the Rav’s Torah

n Sunday, March 11, Yeshiva Uni- by several of the Rav’s most distinguished zeit is about more than just highlighting Rabbi Dr. Jacob J. Schacter, University versity’s Rabbi Isaac Elchanan students. Rabbi Menachem Genack, rosh the seminal role he played at our yeshi- Professor of Jewish History and Jewish OTheological Seminary (RIETS) will yeshivah at RIETS and CEO of OU Kosher, vah and in the American Jewish commu- Thought, and senior scholar at the CJF; present a special Pre-Pesach Yom Iyun in will discuss “Hallel at the Seder.” Rabbi nity. It’s about studying his Torah and and Dr. David Shatz, Ronald P. Stanton commemoration of the 25th yahrzeit of Aharon Rakeffet-Rothkoff, a rosh mesiv- about learning as a further merit for his University Professor of Philosophy, Eth- Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, a founda- ta at YU’s Israel Kollel, will deliver a shi- n’shamah.” ics, and Religious Thought, among others, tional Jewish thinker, scholar, and com- ur on the Haggadah and the Rav’s art of The program is open to both men and on topics ranging from the Rav’s approach munal leader whose infl uence continues teaching Torah. Rabbi Hershel Schachter, women and complimentary parking is to prayer to his perspective on the prob- to shape the world’s Torah learning. The the Nathan and Vivian Fink Distinguished available. For more information, please lem of evil. program, presented in conjunction with Professorial Chair in Talmud, and rosh ye- email [email protected] or call “The impact of Rav Soloveitchik’s Torah the Abraham Arbesfeld Kollel Yom Rishon shivah at RIETS, will share insights from 212-960-5400, ext. 6171. and leadership continues to inspire and and the Minnie Arbesfeld Midreshet Yom the Rav into the Haggadah. In addition, RIETS will host shiurim transform our communities,” said Rabbi Rishon, will take place on YU’s Wilf Cam- “Rabbi Soloveitchik is synonymous focused on the Rav’s teachings in shuls Yaakov Glasser, the David Mitzner Dean pus in Furst Hall, Room 501, at 500 West with Yeshiva University and RIETS,” said across the Five Towns and Teaneck, New of YU’s Center for the Jewish Future (CJF). 185th Street, New York, NY, at 9:30 a.m. Rabbi Menachem Penner, Max and Mari- Jersey, on March 10. These shiurim will “The upcoming programs to commemo- Participants will learn the Torah of Rav on Grill Dean of RIETS. “The goal of our feature celebrated YU personalities, in- rate his 25th yahrzeit are a fi tting tribute to Soloveitchik on Pesach from classes given many commemorations of the Rav’s yahr- cluding President Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman; his infl uence and greatness.”

good time on Shabbos morning. We made a combination of both, there is much to Celebrating What Young Israel Means To You available to our branch synagogues critical celebrate at our upcoming Gala Dinner. security information in order to enhance It is my sincere hope that you will join CONTINUED FROM P. 43 synagogues a High Holiday booklet that safety measures at our shuls. Shuls in the us for what is certain to be a memorable explains the prayer services for our mem- Young Israel network can take advantage evening, and participate in this grand cel- are a primary sponsor of the annual Israel bers who are in the beginning stages of of the opportunity to hear from unique ebration of the National Council of Young Day Concert in Central Park, which is or- learning more about Judaism, and which and compelling speakers in conjunction Israel, the State of Israel, our exemplary ganized by NCYI First Vice President Dr. included more advanced articles on the with our Young Israel Speakers Bureau. honorees, and the branch synagogues that Joseph Frager. Now in its 25th year, the con- t’fi los for our more learned members. Each Whether it is the National Council of are the backbone of our organization. cert, which draws approximately 20,000 week we provide our shuls with “Parshah Young Israel’s advocacy on important re- people, highlights many key issues per- Nation,” which includes questions, an- gional and global issues impacting the ***** taining to the State of Israel. swers, and games for youth programming Jewish community and Israel, the multi- For information and reservations, visit The National Council of Young Israel purposes, to ensure that our younger chil- tude of programs and services that it of- www.YoungIsraelDinner2018.com or email prepared and made available to its branch dren can simultaneously learn and have a fers to its branch synagogues, or perhaps [email protected].

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46 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 RReal-Lifeeal-Life Reflections Sarah Newcomb Drinking And Alcohol On Purim: A View From The Other Side CONTINUED FROM P. 1 differ? We just never know. My daughter advice on raising her sons, asking how I and I walked passed a dead squirrel today got a son like Yosef. I told her to love them. who do not know what Al-Anon is, I have on the way to shul. I told her that squir- Deeply. Wrap her arms around them. Talk been affected by someone else’s drinking. rel had no idea it was his last day. I was to them about everything. Be present. Build I crawled into that fi rst meeting in despair, somewhere the other day where someone their confi dence. Find their talents. And, my family broken up, thinking I was to asked about me, “Is she always smiling and of course, pray. We must do this for our blame. I quickly learned that not only was laughing that easily?” The answer is yes. children, spouses, and ourselves. Hashem I not to blame, but that I was powerless I am joyful and grateful. And I cry some- orchestrates every move in our lives. Each over anybody else’s actions and recovery as times. I feel deeply. I have seen heroes in person we encounter in any given day is well. I learned that addiction is an illness. recovery having attended hundreds of AA there to teach us something. Seize the op- I learned about acceptance, surrender, and meetings in support of alcoholics. They are portunities. A song just came on: “Crying at detachment. In the program they tell us to the ones who work hard. They live the 12 the top of my lungs and no one’s listening, “keep coming back.” I have missed maybe steps. Step 1 is hard. It is about surrender I thought you’d always be there – I almost a handful of meetings in four years. I keep and admitting/accepting powerlessness. believed you.” Oy. The word “almost” made coming back and I always will. Staying This is the key to successful recovery. We me cry. Almost is limiting. Sometimes we power is important for growth in any area, must fi rst give up the control, or rather the want to trust people. So badly. We must including relationships and marriage. The illusion of control, and hand it over to a take chances and not hold back. Even if reason meetings work is because everyone higher power. we get hurt. This is part of living fully. At is in the same boat. We feel instantly under- Step 2 tells us that a higher power or the end of the day G-d is always listening stood and accepted when walking into any G-d can heal. This understanding was crit- preciate the person right in front of us and and will always be there. I know this 100 meeting room, no matter how diverse the ical to my recovery. Understanding my part someone else did. The parents of the kids percent. group. Everyone yearns to feel accepted. and G-d’s part. I had to learn not to enable. in the school shooting in Florida had many I attended a shiur this week where I I am stepping out of my hat of anonym- We cannot save the world. So many people stories of things they wished they’d done heard that in Adar things can turn upside ity now because Purim is approaching, and need me. I get calls daily for help in various or said. My grandson was back at a slide down in a moment. From A-Z. While I do I am concerned about the overuse of alco- ways. I try to fi nd balance and practice ex- where he had broken his leg prior. I waited have a get, I am having unnecessary diffi - hol and especially when given to children. treme self-care fi rst when this happens and to see if he would get back on. He looked at culty on cooperation fi nalizing the civil I saw a video from Amudim called “The it becomes overwhelming or draining. We me with fear in his eyes. I touched him and divorce. I have a court date in a few days. Kiddush Club.” I have heard warnings from need our own mission statement. Some- encouraged him to do it. He went down the I pray it is the last one. Please pray for me, rabbis and Hatzolah. In Alcoholics Anon- times people ask, “What do you do?” mean- slide with caution. His smile and triumph friends. On Shabbos, as I walked around ymous (AA) meetings, it’s explained that ing for work. Is this what we have been made the whole trip worthwhile. and was greeted warmly by so many I was some people have an “allergy,” meaning reduced to? It dare not defi ne us. Addicts I got a message from the iTunes app, touched. Someone recognized me from they are sensitive to alcohol and cannot can recover if they truly work the 12 steps. “What are you waiting for?” Indeed. We these articles and invited me to their seu- stop or limit its use. Since we have no way Sobriety is not enough. The behaviors of an who are not addicts must empower our- dah. Another said they were truly glad to of knowing who those people are, it is es- addict include manipulation, distortion of selves, which is all we really ultimately can see me and I knew they meant it. I walked pecially wise for children to be protected. the truth, and blaming others. In the pro- do anyhow. The most painful book I ever past someone who I stood up to a year ago President Trump has stated publicly that gram we are told to make a gratitude list. read is called Blackout: Remembering the and felt empowered, realizing how much I he never used alcohol because his brother Often. I do this. Gratitude to others and to Things We Drank to Forget. Women are the and my daughter have grown since then. A died from alcoholism. I got drunk once at G-d. I don’t believe anybody just wakes up heroes of Purim. Whenever tragedies occur rebbetzin lovingly guided me on an import- a party while in college. I blacked out and and feels “ready” for anything, especially involving terrorists or school shooters I ant matter. Surrounded by family, friends, woke up in a friend’s house, not sure how change. We must seek help. Hitting rock wonder where the mothers are. Someone neighbors, fellow shul-goers and chavrusos, I got there. I never did it again. Blackouts bottom is a personal experience. Some asked, “Where is the love?” Indeed. Our I am blessed. Yet I admit I still feel the void are scary, and many crimes and tragedies respond to fear of loss. Some experience president said our response to this tragedy of not having a forever partner, especially occur during this time. It is a slippery slope tragedy. and others can be found in love. My fellow on Shabbos and yamim tovim. Let’s unite to play with substances, to use things in Procrastination is a choice also. I had writer Ariel Dori wrote about this in his and be there for each other. Pray for each order to become numb. I get high on life – put myself in a self-imposed dating break, beautiful article. Love can absolutely turn other. Each person is missing something, music, exercise, touch, love, learning Torah, feeling not ready. I was told, “Don’t wait things around. I have been a recipient of struggling somehow. A friend always asks attending simchos, celebrating Shabbos, too long.” Set a limit. Time goes by and we this and I hope a provider of it as well. before minyan what he should pray for on helping others, writing these articles, and don’t get it back. A rebbetzin told me today: I had a meaningful conversation with a my behalf. We will all get what we need at family time. I realize I am very lucky to fi nd You are vibrant, wholehearted, affection- wise rabbi about that topic and he agreed the right time. This is the time of miracles. satisfaction this way. ate, courageous, and easy to love. She said that love is healing. A friend asked me for Believe it. 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Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 47 48 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 DDatingating Today Goldy Krantz Know Your Worth CONTINUED FROM P. 1 offensive thing a shadchan said to you?” to say that “I was good enough for myself.” lying if I didn’t tell you that I fi nd myself Shadchanim also tell you what the person Truthfully, I can say that I never let the singing that song sometimes. We all need make others run for the hills, I face head they had set you up with thought of you – words of a shadchan affect me to the point a boost of confi dence now and then, and on. I love a good challenge. That’s just who without thinking, “This will do her (or him) of crying or depression. I knew who and this is what I do when someone may try to I am. But I wasn’t born this way. no good; I shouldn’t say it.” I remember one what I was. I loved myself and I knew that dim my shine and not accept me for who When I was younger, I was teased a lot. shadchan saying, “He said you dress like a I would fi nd someone out there to love me I am. I guess it’s a rite of passage while growing Flatbush girl. He doesn’t like it. Can you go as well. It may sound nerdy, but at times I I think it is very important, even es- up. What was said to me isn’t important, buy some new clothes?” without thinking. look into the mirror and recite, “You have sential, for people (married and single) but how it made me feel is. I wasn’t con- I said, “Can you pay for my new wardrobe?” a beautiful n’shamah. You are the way to know who they are and to know their fi dent in who I was. Maybe the other kids Another time I was told, “He doesn’t think Hashem made you and Hashem loves you worth. Yes, they should love themselves were right about me. But when I went you have the look he wants for a wife.” just the way you are.” It was something I and be the type of person that they want home, I went home to a very strong, sup- What does that even mean? had heard on a class trip when we went to be. They shouldn’t let others dictate portive, and loving family unit. I learned I have seen too many Facebook posts to visit a rebbe (I can’t really remember how they should look, behave, or dress. that I will feel bad because of the actions mentioning weight. Shadchanim tell girls who it was). I thought it was a joke to say I’m not saying that suggestions should and words of others only if I allow what to lose weight. I’m sure they may say it to that into the mirror, but the more you do be rejected. If what is being suggested was done or said to affect me. If I was hap- doesn’t go against who and what you are py with myself and loved myself, then it and what you believe in, then why not? wouldn’t matter what anyone said to me. I am sad to say that the shidduch world As I mentioned earlier, shadchanim do Soon my confi dence blossomed and it was can be as cruel as the modeling world at times want to help. They may have the wrong only then that I was able to feel confi dent approach and do it without tact, not real- and self-assured in my own skin. I am the izing how sharp their words really are and only one who can dictate how I feel. Yes, men, but men haven’t commented about something, the more you come to believe how strong the sting feels. I want people of course I don’t like it if someone hurls the weight issue on Facebook posts, so I in it. By repeating the mantra, it came to to stand up for themselves if they feel that the occasional insult my way by criticizing don’t know. Women are told, “Guys want be my truth. No one was able to take away they are being told to change too much my wardrobe or opinion, but I don’t take it skinny girls.” Other times, personal ap- who I was. about who they are, if the change means to heart and internalize it. I live my life. I pearance is mentioned. “You have to be I’m not a big fan of Bette Midler, but that they won’t be true to themselves or am the only one to hand over the power to more put together. You look like a mess there is a song I like that she sings called simply if they don’t want to change any- others and have them affect how I feel by – you’ll only attract the same type of per- “I’m Beautiful.” It’s a song about all the thing. You can have the feeling of, “This is reacting to their words and actions. I don’t son. Is that what you really want?” There criticism one [she] received in life, but who I really am. Take it or leave it.” I’m not give them the power. Like Heman cried are those who have been told to get dental she doesn’t let the naysayers get to her saying that you won’t run into obstacles; out in every episode, “I have the power!” work and to undergo surgery to “fi x that because she loves herself. Some of the but as long as you are happy with yourself People entering the modeling and act- nose.” Yes, I truly believe that shadchanim lyrics are: “I’m not too short, I’m not too and what you are doing, that should be ing industry are entering into a (fake) uni- have the best of intentions at heart. But tall, I’m not too big, I’m not too small. Ooh, the only thing that counts in the long run. verse where they are willingly giving per- some can use a little help in their delivery. don’t lemme start lovin’ myself! Ooh, don’t Don’t give others the power to dictate how mission to others to judge every molecule Men and women can be crushed when lemme start lovin’ myself!.. I’m beautiful, you feel about yourself! of their being under a microscope. Agents, something they have no power over is be- I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful!” I would be Hatzlachah to you all. casting directors, and designers will pass ing blamed for their singlehood. It’s not judgment on them without giving them someone’s fault if he or she was born with or their words a second thought, then “off a big nose, has a gap in the front teeth, or you go” out of that audition or open-call is a little overweight (could be a thyroid or and into another offi ce where you are giv- genetic issue). I have read too many posts ing permission to someone else to do the from people who were crushed by what same thing. “He’s not muscular enough.” they were told. Strangers then send them Or “Look at her nose, it’s hideous.” Or “Hugs” and words of support. “She’s a size four? No, no. I need a size zero The shadchanim may think they are for this.” Or “His voice is too nasal for the helping out the single by telling them part” Or “She is too short and will never be what they think the single should work hired.” You see where I’m going with this? on. But once the single leaves the face-to- Someone who knowingly enters that type face meeting with them, the shadchanim of life, giving someone else the power to move on and continue with life while say that individuals aren’t perfect for a the single hears the biting words of the part or a magazine shoot better have a full shadchanim over and over in their minds. tank of self-confi dence and self-esteem Words from a shadchan can destroy peo- or the industry will eat them alive. Some ple if they don’t have the strong founda- people with “imperfections” (gap between tion of who they are to begin with. teeth, eyes not being perfectly symmetri- I’m sorry to say that I read a post a few cal, etc.) have a strong backbone and keep months ago of how a young lady devel- pursuing their goal or dream without let- oped an eating disorder after being told by ting the naysayers get to them. But thou- several shadchanim that she had to lose sands of others run for home after being weight. She posted that she can’t place told time and again that they aren’t good blame solely on the shadchanim, but she enough for whatever they were audition- only wished that she loved herself enough ing for. People can be destroyed listening to say, “I’m not fat; maybe I can lose ten to constant criticism of their appearance. pounds, but I’m okay.” This woman is in I am sad to say that the shidduch world therapy and now she has the label of “she can be as cruel as the modeling world at had an eating disorder” and not “she can times. A single doesn’t enter the shidduch lose a pound or two.” That is a rare case, world thinking that he or she will get I agree, but she wrote that she never real- picked apart and told to change. How many ly thought of her weight until she started times have shadchanim told girls to lose dating. She said that she was a size 8, but weight or to get a makeover if they want an 8 in the real world translated to a size to attract the “right guy”? Just speak with 16 in the shidduch world. She said that in a a young woman who you know is in the period of four months, three shadchanim parshah and she can probably tell you of a had brought up her weight in conver- comment or two that a shadchan has said sation, and that got the ball rolling that to her. Look at Facebook: Some posts are eventually turned into a snowball. She fi lled with, “What was the rudest or most said that she never had the wherewithal

Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy Gone? She can be contacted at [email protected].

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By Sergey Kadinsky dy Grosz who has been a friend of the Friedman family going back many years,” n his visit to Israel last week, Queens said Serle. “In elementary school, David pro- Jewish Link co-publisher Yaakov Serle tected her brother from bullies.” Oconnected organizations that hosted Shortly after his appointment as Ambas- tours and meetings with important indi- sador after a very close vote of approval in viduals and toured places in the headlines. the Senate, Friedman was invited to a meet- Among these was the National Council of ing with State Department offi cials. As he Young Israel, which hosted a meeting with told to Serle, the longtime diplomats and U.S. Ambassador to Israel David Friedman. policy analysts were “not all positive ” on the “Dr. Joseph Frager arranged the meeting, Cin- promised embassy move to Jerusalem. “But

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David Friedman is a great negotiator. He secular calendar date marking 70 years since answered every question beautifully,” said the independence of modern Israel. It will Serle. Vice President Mike Pence expressed be located within existing U.S.-owned build- positive thoughts on it. “The decision was ings in the Arnona neighborhood, with an then made to go ahead with it,” said Serle. expansion planned in the near future. Serle Prior to his appointment as the top Amer- notes that in his diplomatic role, Friedman ican diplomat in Israel, Friedman had no made attempts to meet with Palestinian of- political experience, aside from his pro-Is- fi cials such as chief negotiator Saeb Erekat. rael advocacy and longtime role as Donald “He did meet with the Arabs and they’re very Trump’s bankruptcy attorney. Friedman diffi cult to talk to,” said Serle. credited Rabbi Druk with the path on which In a separate interview that week with he was headed. “Friedman told him that he Fox News Channel host Pete Hegseth, Fried- wanted to make aliyah. The rabbi told him man described the meeting on the embassy to stay, make money, and wait five years. He move. “The president asks the right ques- was told ‘you will be very busy,’” said Serle. tions and brings out the best in their think- “He prophesied and it happened.” ing,” said Friedman. “It may come down to A day after Serle’s meeting with Ambas- a matter of courage. He saw this as an Amer- sador Friedman, the date of the Jerusalem ican interest, as a promise he had made to embassy was announced for May 14th, the the American people.”

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By Sergey Kadinsky ty professional. They did a decent job. I didn’t think that I would say that.” n the same week that I was visit- Rosenthal’s colleague, Marcos Crespo ing family in Israel and Queens of the Bronx, said in a statement that the OJewish Link columnist Dr. Joseph protest was an example of the tensions Frager had his solidarity tour of the coun- between opinions in the region. “As Amer- try, new members of the New York State icans, we realize the complexities of the Assembly were also in the country on a Middle East and felt it important to get all tour sponsored by the Jewish Community relevant perspectives.” Relations Council of New York. It was not Prior to Ramallah, the JCRC tour visit- without incident, as its participants were ed the Tel Aviv Stock Exchange and small confronted by a hostile crowd during a business incubators, and met with mem- visit to the Palestinian-controlled city of bers of the Knesset. For Rosenthal, meet- Ramallah. “They were not interested in ing Michael Oren and Yehuda Glick stuck talking,” said Queens Assemblyman Dan- out in particular, as both made aliyah from iel Rosenthal. A USUS ddelegationelegation iiss eevacuatedvacuated bbyy PPalestinianalestinian ppoliceolice aafterfter ttheyhey wwereere aattackedttacked bbyy PPalestinianalestinian the United States. “I was impressed by his Since 1982, the JCRC has been leading personal story,” Rosenthal said of Glick. pprotestersrotesters iinn RRamallahamallah tours of Israel for local lawmakers, pro- “He was very uplifting and very sweet.” viding an informative and evenhanded entered the building and the Palestinian bus unharmed. We do not know why the Rosenthal also met Zionist Union chief perspective of the country. This means Authority police was called,” said Rosen- meeting was targeted or who misled the Avi Gabbay, the leading opposition law- meeting with Knesset members of the thal. Following President Donald Trump’s demonstrators to think that they were US maker. “He spoke about his family’s aliyah ruling coalition as well as the opposition, declaration on December 6 that recog- government offi cials.” from Morocco and his vision for Israel.” with Arab communities and with the Pal- nized Jerusalem as the Israeli capital, an- As protesters rushed inside the offi ce Rosenthal had been to Israel before, as estinians. In the latter, the group intend- ti-American demonstrations have picked building, PA police set up a perimeter a yeshivah student, but last week was his ed to see Dr. Khalil Shikaki in Ramallah. A up across areas controlled by the Palestin- around it, keeping the Assembly delega- fi rst as a member of the New York State political science professor and respected ian Authority (PA), at the encouragement tion locked inside for an hour while they Assembly. Although foreign policy is a pollster, he runs the Palestinian Center of Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas. established control. “Riot police and an ar- federal matter, on the state level the rela- for Policy and Survey Research, which “The visitors and the center were never mored van arrived, and we were escorted tionship with Israel concerns the state’s monitors the views of Palestinian Arabs. under any physical threat,” Shikaki tweet- into the vans,” said Rosenthal. Along the pension fund investment, as well as co- “When people outside found out that ed. “Palestinian police showed up imme- way, eggs and vegetables were lobbed at operation on technology, business, and he was meeting with Americans, they diately and escorted the group to their the tour participants. “The PA was pret- culture, among other things.

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By Sergey Kadinsky spectable collection of art and sculptures. It was certainly not a hilltop caravan that n the historic homeland of the Jew- often appears in the news as representative ish people, it is common for visitors of Jewish settlers. “We are seeing a change Ito bump into their friends, classmates, in the US, our big sister, but we can create and neighbors unexpectedly. My visit to Is- historical change,” said Dagan. rael last week overlapped with Dr. Joseph Looking at Hegseth and knowing that Frager’s solidarity mission to the country President Trump watches his show, Dagan that involved meeting local leaders and vis- made a direct appeal for understanding. iting important sites. “Most of the people who work at the State Between my vacation plans and my Department are from the Obama adminis- meeting friends and relatives, I could not tration. They must know what is happen- devote my time to the mission’s visit to Bet ing on the ground. The big enemy of Judea El, the meeting with US Ambassador David and Samaria is ignorance.” Friedman, or the dinner at the King David With the murders of Rabbi Itamar Ben- Hotel. But there was one item on the itin- Gal and Rabbi Raziel Shevach still fresh on erary that I would not miss for anything: his mind, Dagan suggested inviting their a pilgrimage to the kever of Yehoshua bin widows to the White House to meet with Nun. “Initially it was supposed to be Kev- President Trump or Vice President Mike er Yosef, but plans changed and we will be Pence in a demonstration of solidarity going to the tomb of Yehoshua,” Dr. Frag- against terrorism. Such a meeting would er said to the 13 other participants on the certainly shine a light on the dangers that guided tour. Jews in Samaria face from their prospec- tive “peace partners.” The idea is not far- Guest of Honor fetched, as it brings up memories of Avital LL-R:-R: YossiYossi Dagan,Dagan, MayorMayor ooff SShomron,homron, YYaakovaakov SSerle,erle, SSergeyergey KKadinksyadinksy The bus departed from the opulent King Sharansky meeting President Ronald Rea- David Hotel, where some of the mission’s gan to discuss her husband languishing in guests were staying, and heading to what a Soviet prison camp. appeared as a totally opposite type of At the same time, Dagan was also cau- place: a hostile Arab village deep inside Sa- tious about Trump’s support for Israel, not- maria. The guests of honor on the bus were ing that with his recognition of Jerusalem Pete Hegseth and his wife Jennifer Rauchet. as the Israeli capital, concessions in other Hegseth is a veteran of the wars in Afghan- places may be expected from Israel. “The istan and Iraq, and an outspoken political Trump administration is still stopping new conservative who appears on Fox News buildings from being built. It is the same Channel as its weekend Fox and Friends co- mindset.” Dagan spoke of an alternative host. Rauchet is a former producer at the peace plan that would create more indus- station, and both have a good relationship trial zones to employ Arabs and Jews, with with President Donald Trump, who hosted a good economy serving as a deterrent to the pair at the White House last October. terrorism. “The environment that he’s developed Having last visited Shomron in 2006, is fortuitous for Israel,” said Hegseth of I asked Dagan about Shavei Shomron, Trump. “Israel has a chance to continue to where an elderly American couple hosted assert its sovereignty.” An opponent of Pal- me for Shabbat. “There is a new bypass estinian statehood, Hegseth spoke of the road that avoids Nebi Elias and connects two-state solution as a “falsehood.” Con- to Kedumim, Karnei Shomron, and Alfei cerning Trump’s personal attacks against Menashe. It speeds up the commute and certain news outlets and individuals, avoids dangerous villages.” On my last visit, Hegseth applauded his bluntness. “It’s the there was no bypass road and Israeli buses moment we live in. He is beholden to no sped through Arab villages with haste to one but the truth. He did not hesitate to avoid confrontation. AActivistsctivists KenKen AbromowitzAbromowitz ((yellowyellow ssweater)weater) aandnd CCindyindy GGroszrosz ((baseballbaseball ccap)ap) push back the false narrative.” Our bus turned north at Shaar Shechem, Site of the Stabbing passing by the Jerusalem Light Rail. Aboard Outside of Ariel, halfway to Kifl Harith, the sleek streetcars one could see chareidi, the tour group disembarked at a gas sta- secular, and Muslim passengers sharing the tion and walked down the road for a few same cars. Hegseth spoke of the Light Rail yards to a bus shelter. A pile of stones, as an example of coexistence. “It solidifi es topped by an Israeli fl ag, stood in memory the reality.” of Rabbi Ben-Gal at the site of his murder. Dagan took out his phone to show securi- Dinner with Yossi Dagan ty camera footage from a nearby lamppost. An hour into the trip the bus entered the Throughout Jerusalem and other Israeli cit- city of Ariel, which has been described by ies, there are small plaques at sites where Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu as the Jews were killed. A dozen soldiers joined capital of Samaria. With nearly 20,000 resi- us to quickly go over the rules of visiting dents, it is the largest Jewish community in Kever Yehoshua. this region. Political leaders and diplomats regard Ariel as a “consensus settlement,” Kever Yehoshua one destined to remain within Israel after Prior to entering Kifl Harith, the sol- the fi nal borders are drawn. Ilan and Anat diers entered ahead of us to make sure it Tzafrir welcomed the mission to their spa- was safe. We then boarded vans with win- cious home, where Samaria Regional Coun- dows thick enough to fl y into space, or dive cil Mayor Yossi Dagan provided a briefi ng deep underwater. The village was entirely on the region. dark with the exception of the green lamps After living for a few years in the New lighting the minaret. “Is there a curfew be- Jersey seaside town of Margate, the couple cause of our visit?” I asked Yonatan, a Kfi r returned to Israel and chose Ariel for its Brigade member from Modiin. “No, they affordability, scenery, and open space. Af- ter 15 years, their home has amassed a re- CONTINUED ON P. 67 DDr.r. JoeJoe FragerFrager nnextext ttoo aanti-Semiticnti-Semitic ggraffitiraffiti

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n the same day that I was returning with my family from a whirlwind Owork-vacation in Israel, Queens Jew- ish Link Senior Consultant and Chazaq Operations Manager Yaniv Meirov was fl y- ing in the opposite direction as part of an Orthodox Jewish delegation headed to the Knesset for two days of lobbying. Billed as the Am Echad Mission, the Agudath Israel of America-sponsored trip brought leading American Orthodox activ- ists to the Knesset to argue against chang- ing the status quo at the Western Wall in Jerusalem, the holiest site of worship in Judaism since the end of the Second Jew- ish Commonwealth in 70 CE. The mission was organized to counter similar lobbying efforts by Reform and Conservative leaders aiming to create an egalitarian prayer space at the Kosel. “While we have only love and concern for all Jews, and pass no judgment on any- one regarding religious observance, the claims made by heterodox Jewish groups TThehe AmAm EchadEchad delegationdelegation wwithith PPrimerime MMinisterinister NNetanyahuetanyahu and federations are simply untrue,” said mission co-chair Dr. Irving Lebovics, Presi- WWithith RabbiRabbi SShmuelhmuel RRabinovich,abinovich, dent of Agudath Israel of California. “These RRavav ofof tthehe KKotelotel groups, whose numbers and dedication to Israel decrease every year, do not represent relating to a Knesset proposal to recognize the Orthodox community, the fastest grow- non-Orthodox conversions to Judaism. In ing and most vibrant segment of American both examples, Agudath Israel of America Jewry.” is making the case that historical continu- In its pitch to Prime Minister Netanya- ity is the best guarantee of a united Jewish hu and President Reuven Rivlin, Am Echad identity and long-term survival. A report participants highlighted the American drafted by Am Echad noted that a compro- Orthodox connection to Israel as strong, mise egalitarian prayer space had been con- consistent, and vital to the country’s econ- structed at Robinson’s Arch in the archeo- omy. “Many of us have children who live logical park next to the Kosel and it has not in Israel, and the number of Orthodox Jews seen much usage from its advocates and making aliyah from America continues to their constituents. rise,” said mission co-chair Shlomo Wer- Other local participants in the mission diger. “We send our children to study in include Brooklyn Agudah activists Leon Israeli schools, often for many years. We Goldenberg and Chaskel Bennett. Having support Israeli institutions, provide mil- such voices present in the Knesset helps lions of dollars to the Israeli economy in to counter those of local liberals, who have charitable contributions, travel frequently YYanivaniv MMeiroveirov aandnd AAshkenazishkenazi CChiefhief RRabbiabbi ooff IIsraelsrael DDavidavid LLauau made headlines for acts of civil disobedi- to Israel, buy Israeli products, invest in Is- ence at the Kosel. Their love for Israel is raeli properties and are strongly devoted to On their fi rst day in Jerusalem, the mis- Torah Judaism party, which represents the genuine, even as they seek to reshape the the security of the State of Israel.” sion met with Finance Minister Moshe chareidi sector, and Chief Ashkenazi Rabbi country in line with their vision. So while Meirov exemplifi es this connection, Kahlon, Regional Cooperation Minister David Lau. On its second day, the group many Orthodox synagogues may have the having family members in Israel, and not- Tzachi Hanegbi, Justice Minister Ayelet met with President Rivlin, Tourism Minis- Israeli fl ag fl ying by the aron kodesh, or the ing that many students of Chazaq programs Shaked, Diaspora Affairs Minister Nafta- ter Yariv Levin, and Jerusalem Mayor Nir Hatikvah printed in siddurim, the proof is go on to study in Israel, visiting the country li Bennett, and coalition whip MK David Barkat, among others. in the numbers: Aliyah, tourism, invest- multiple times, contributing to pro-Israel Amsalem. The group received an enthusias- The two-day mission is the fi rst for Am ments, the gap-year in Israel – so much of it causes, and with a few making aliyah. tic welcome from members of the United Echad in nearly two decades, its last visit comes from American Orthodox Jews.

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By Susie Garber ter The Six-Day War, when the grown children of Kfar Etzion uring Presidents’ Week, pioneers returned to Kfar Etzion I had the privilege to and recalled the story of what Dtake a trip to Kibbutz happened to their parents in Kfar Etzion, a hilly area located 1948. The video fl ashes back to in the Gush near Beth Lechem, the time when these grown chil- two miles east of the Jerusalem- dren were toddlers and babies, Hebron Road. Expecting a typical happily living with their parents educational museum, I was un- in Kfar Etzion. The sun shines on prepared for the deeply moving the hills as everyone is working experience that opened my eyes the land and building a beauti- to what happened in Israel be- ful community. Some of these fore and during 1948 and taught original pioneers were Holocaust me to appreciate the sacrifi ces of survivors who had recently es- those pioneers who came to the caped the horrors of Europe. Gush before Israel was declared There is a poignant scene when a state. This museum impresses two Holocaust survivors decide the audience with the enormous to marry and they plant trees on privilege and gift of Eretz Yisrael. Tu BiSh’vat together. The chasan My close friend, who lives nearby confi des his hopes to his kallah: in Rosh Tzurim, urged us to see “It was my dream to plant a tree the exhibit. “Everyone must see in the Holy Land and now I am it,” she said. After going there, I doing it.” They were so grateful have to agree. for this miracle of living in Israel Our museum experience be- and helping to build the land. gan on Sunday morning, Febru- Another pioneer tells his friend ary 18, when we traveled through how he hopes to build agricultur- a thick fog, up the winding al equipment, while another man streets leading to Gush Etzion. speaks about teaching. Amazingly, though it was still The video goes on to depict winter, beautiful purple and yel- what happened in 1947 when low wild fl owers dotted the area. the United Nations passed a res- Those fl owers bloomed proudly, olution that excluded the Gush unabashed by strong winds, just region from the borders of Israel. as the people of Gush Etzion The people in the Gush, which stood, and still stand, proud and included 30 settlements, accept- resolute in the face of danger. ed the Jewish Agency’s plan for We stepped into a room dis- them to stay, even though they A bbunkerunker aatt tthehe mmuseumuseum playing photographs of the early were in imminent danger from Kfar Etzion pioneers of 1943 as the surrounding enemy Arabs they worked to create a commu- who were determined to drive nity. There were photos of them the Jews into the sea. working the land, spending time Next, the video shows how with their families, and caring for the people at Kfar Etzion pre- their babies and toddlers. After pared for war. They decided that looking at the photos, the audi- the women and children should ence entered a room with rows evacuate to Jerusalem for safety, of seats and a large video screen. which resulted in arguing and The audience had to move to confusion. Ultimately, by early a new location for each of three January, most of the women and segments of the video. Moving all of the children of Gush Etzion from room to room to view the were transported to Jerusalem next part of the story of Kfar while the men, along with sol- Etzion added to the audience’s diers of the Haganah, prepared growing sense of uncertainty and for war. dread mirroring the feelings of The last segment of the video the pioneers of Kfar Etzion. is diffi cult to view. The audience The video began by describing is seated in the actual area where and enacting the fi rst few failed the Kfar Etzion pioneers fought attempts by Jewish people to set- valiantly against the vicious Arab TThehe ffloorloor ttoo cceilingeiling sscreencreen aatt tthehe mmuseumuseum tle the Gush, both in 1927 and in attackers. The Gush defenders 1935. Both times, the Jews were obstructed the Arabs on their these defenseless people until, of the government to resettle in Kfar great-grandchildren run towards forced to leave. way to attacking Jerusalem, so the 151 residents, only 4 survived. Etzion. Mr. Yochanan Ben-Yaakov, them. The screen fi lls with these Using actors and actresses play- the Arabs continually attacked. During the siege, when com- who was a three-year-old child many Jewish people who now ing the parts of real people, the Thirty-fi ve members of the Haga- municating with Jerusalem, the during the battle in Kfar Etzion in live in the Gush and in Kfar Etzi- video reenacts the third attempt nah who came to help with the residents of Kfar Etzion referred 1948, lost both his parents during on. It’s breathtaking to see this by Jewish people to settle the battle were ambushed and killed to Kfar Etzion with the code the battle. He shared his feelings reality, knowing what came be- Gush in 1943, when a small group on the way by Arabs. They are name “Queen.” On that awful about coming back to Kfar Etzion fore. The Arabs tried to stop the of idealistic Jewish pioneers remembered as “The 35” (or the day of surrender, the sad message in 1967: “I always knew I would re- Jewish people, but ultimately, came to settle in Kfar Etzion. The “Convoy of 35”). came through to Jerusalem: “The turn. It was what I was taught and they couldn’t. The message of isolated area was surrounded by The video depicts how the res- Queen has fallen.” it was how I was raised.” this story is clear. Hashem will al- hostile Arabs, yet these Jews cou- idents of Kfar Etzion held off the In the ruins of Kfar Etzion, the The last scene in the video ways keep His promise to us, no rageously decided to settle there. Arab attackers for ten days, until Jordanians built an army camp. shows the real children of Kfar matter what travails we suffer. Several other kibbutzim formed on May 14, when the residents The Gush area did not return to Etzion, who are now great-grand- If those original Kfar Etzion in the area, so by 1947, the Jewish ran out of ammunition and the the Jewish people until after the parents, standing in today’s pioneers were still alive today, population rose to 457. Arabs attacked full-force. Kfar Six-Day War. At that time, the chil- settled, beautiful Gush with here is the message they would The second segment of the Etzion residents surrendered, but dren of the original Kfar Etzion pi- their arms outstretched as their send to Jerusalem and to the video takes place in 1967, af- Arabs continued to shoot and kill oneers obtained permission from children, grandchildren, and world: “The Queen has risen.”

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By Sergey Kadinsky Palace Hotel. The Arabic inscriptions hint- ed at its builder, the notorious Haj Amin ast week, our home was quiet as we Al-Husseini and his Supreme Muslim were on vacation in Israel. It was not Council. During the early years of Israel, it Lour intended destination but one functioned as a government offi ce building that was long overdue. After nearly two before falling into disrepair. It reopened as years without a fl ight away from home, a hotel in 2014, hosting famous guests, in- we initially thought about a warm, tropical cluding the New York State Assembly dele- destination for mid-February. My Puerto Ri- gation that visited Israel last week. can coworkers recommended that we wait Across King David Street, the Mamilla another year before visiting their island. Mall was under construction after nearly We looked to Cancun, but all of the con- 40 years of delays and debates about its necting fl ights to this Mexican resort city design. Like Woodbury Commons, it is a would have meant spending three to fi ve mall with the look of a pedestrian street. As hours in Dallas or Nashville, which is im- before, parking in the center of Jerusalem practical when traveling with two infants. is tight and now requires an app to pay for We then turned south to Aruba and the spots. For this foreigner, the four-story TThehe KKadinskyadinsky ffmailymaily ooff AAshdodshdod Curaçao and found the fl ights to be near- garage below the mall provides easy park- ly as expensive as to Europe. So we looked ing within a short distance of the Old City, across the ocean, but the weather in Spain, the city center, and the chareidi neighbor- Italy, and Greece isn’t so warm in Febru- hoods to the north. ary. It was then that we turned our globe On my last visit, I dodged traffi c while a bit farther east to Israel. “If we are going crossing Jaffa Road. This time the street ap- to spend so much for a fl ight, let’s make it pears peaceful. The streetcars and pedestri- Israel. Besides, it’s easy to keep kosher, and ans appear to coexist, and inside the street- you’ve wanted to go there more than any- cars, passengers from all backgrounds and where else,” my wife Keren noted. walks of life sit in the same cars. An added bonus of visiting Israel is my To the north of Damascus Gate, near the recent discovery of the Kadinsky family edge of Meah Shearim, I reunited with Rab- of Ashdod. My last name is a rare one, and bi Chaim Isaac Flink and his wife Elishe- when I stumble upon a Kadinsky on social va. Residents of Kew Gardens remember media, I begin asking questions. Leonid him for hosting dozens of people at their Kadinsky is a cousin of my grandfather Shabbos table, and talmidim of Madreigas Mikhail. Unfortunately my grandfather HaAdam know him for his Torah knowl- died when I was 11, and his father David edge. Some of our readers remember his died when he was an infant, so I do not wife for their miracle births to two sons know much about my paternal roots. After at a later age. The pride of their Jerusalem nearly a year of Skype conversations, I had home is the same as in Kew Gardens: the the opportunity to meet the Kadinsky fam- bookshelf. “We couldn’t take them all with ily of Israel. us,” said Mrs. Flink. “Many of our s’farim were donated to Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim.” A New Jerusalem Their neighborhood is a crowded place, but MMifletzetifletzet ssculptureculpture ooff JJerusalem-erusalem- iidealdeal fforor ttoddleroddler ttouristsourists Having last visited Jerusalem in 2006, I in this crowd is a community where neigh- noticed many changes on the city’s land- bors support each other with the sense of scape upon arrival: more highway tunnels an extended family. and overpasses, Mamilla Mall, the light We rented our apartment within a rail, the Waldorf-Astoria Hotel, the Chords ten-minute walk to Emek Refaim. This Bridge, the Train Track Park, and the new street is perhaps the most “American” of underground train station under construc- Jerusalem’s streets, with its pizza shops, ca- tion. fes, and sizable population of Anglo olim, On my last stay in the country, as a Me- the catch-all term describing Jews from dia Fellow for The Israel Project, I lived in the Gesher Hostel behind the abandoned CONTINUED ON P. 57

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CONTINUED FROM P. 56 the United States, Canada, and other En- glish-speaking nations. At the Emek Learn- ing Center, the shiurim and daf yomi were delivered in English. With Purim in mind, this second-fl oor shtiebel held a learning night for men on Maseches Megillah. Rabbi Azarya Berzon, the Rosh Kollel, provided much chizuk to the participants and I felt fulfi lled. Anyone can be a tourist in Jerusalem, but to learn Torah in this city carries extra meaning. Al- though he made aliyah nearly 40 years ago, he worked in Queens for a few years as the Rosh Mesivta at the Beis Medrash L’Talmud at Lander College for Men. “I was succeed- ed by Rabbi Shmuel Marcus, who is most deserving for this position,” said Rabbi Ber- zon. A block to the south of Emek Refaim Street, the Train Track Park functions as the High Line of Jerusalem – a former rail- way transformed into a linear green space. FFromrom thethe VVietnamietnam WWarar ttoo ffightingighting IIsrael’ssrael’s The track was preserved in place with a A busbus sshelterhelter ttransformedransformed iintonto a bbookook ggemachemach. NoteNote tthehe sstandardtandard bbusus ssignageignage wwars:ars: anan AAmericanmerican vveteraneteran iinn EEmekmek RRefaimefaim boardwalk between the rails. Although this park is in a quiet corner of Jerusalem, it glish-speaking tourists. Here, it is helpful to appeared busy, with people following the know Hebrew, or perhaps Russian. unused tracks on their way home and to Seeing my last name in Hebrew on an work. apartment door, I thought about aliyah and how two branches of the same family orig- Judean Hills inated in Belarus but then had such differ- With our children in mind, we did not ent fates half a world from each other. wish to spend too much time on the road, Born in Gomel, Belarus, my grandfa- so Eilat and Tzfat, among other places, ther’s cousin Leonid is 25 years his junior, were out of the question. The farthest that and unfortunately he did not take an inter- we had traveled was Ashdod. On the way est in family history when he was young. there, we took the scenic Route 386 that He could not tell us much about our roots, winds its way through the Judean Hills, but noted that he has a brother in Ashdod, reminiscent of the diffi cult road to Jerusa- a cousin in Beer Sheva, another cousin in lem before Highway One took its present Aachen, Germany, and another cousin in form. The thickly forested terrain of Unit- Chelyabinsk, a Siberian city. They are ei- ed States Independence Park reminded ther Kadinsky or descended from someone us of the Catskills. The park’s name was with this last name. I felt the world open- bestowed in 1976 on the bicentennial of ing up in learning about relatives I’ve never Israel’s staunchest ally. Between Jerusalem known. With little history to discuss, we and Beit Shemesh, this park is heavily used talked about his experience in Israel. by American olim who hike, bike, jog, and The Kadinsky family made aliyah in picnic. 1990. “We did not have relatives in America to sponsor us, and Israel was our only op- Kadinsky of Ashdod tion,” said Leonid Kadinsky. His wife Nina Ashdod, on the other hand, has the look added that while there wasn’t too much an- of a typical Russian city, with tall apart- ti-Semitism in Belarus, Gomel was down- ment towers on superblocks, but very small wind from Chernobyl, and it showed in the elevators and bedrooms. On its streets, one health of its residents. Like many Soviet is more likely to hear Russian than English, olim, they worked in factories and other TThehe authorauthor sstandstands pproudlyroudly aatt MMitzpeitzpe YYericho,ericho, and likewise in nearby Ashkelon. The city blue-collar jobs that did not match their ed- aacrosscross thethe fformerormer GGreenreen LLine.ine. AAccordingccording ttoo has an art museum and waterfront prom- IInn thethe OldOld CityCity tthere’shere’s a pplaygroundlayground nnamedamed tthehe UN,UN, thisthis pphotohoto iiss iinn vviolationiolation ooff ““interna-interna- enade, but it doesn’t see too many En- CONTINUED ON P. 59 aafterfter KirkKirk DDouglasouglas ttionalional law.”law.”

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Perfect Dishes For In Between Purim And Pesach t’s funny; until this point in my life I never realized next four weeks can be for anyone making Pesach. By the moving on: yes, there is a purpose to this article. How can how close Purim and Pesach are to each other. Maybe way, since when is there such a thing as a short week or a we make these coming weeks fl y by and create simple, Iit’s because as a kid the preparation for Pesach was long week?! Every week has seven days, and every day has easy, healthy recipes that won’t need you to bring in extra never part of my brain space? Or maybe I wasn’t cooking 24 hours, and every hour has 60 minutes, and every minute chametz while you are trying to clean out the old? then and now I am? Or maybe time seemed longer as a has 60 seconds. So, no matter how you slice it, the week is In the next few weeks I will be sharing healthy, glu- kid? Or maybe I just didn’t think too much into it? No mat- the exact same amount of time. Yet, somehow, some weeks ten-free recipes that are perfect for the time between Pu- ter the reason, it just never dawned on me how short the can feel like decades long and others just fl y by. Anyway, rim and Pesach. Gluten-Free Muhamara Sauce Served With Roasted Beets And Kohlrabi

hinking of healthy, exciting, new, ½ teaspoon sea salt and delicious vegetable dishes are ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper Talways the most diffi cult part to planning a menu. On most balabustas’ Directions menus there is a variation of a potato side Preheat an oven to 450 degrees. dish and a kugel side dish, and then some In a medium-size mixing bowl add more kugel and potatoes. When plan- kohlrabi wedges, 1 tablespoon grape-seed ning a menu, start with something new oil, 1 tablespoon minced garlic, and a and different. Muhamara is a versatile pinch of salt and pepper. Toss till kohlrabi Middle Eastern condiment made from is well coated. Place kohlrabi onto a well- roasted red peppers, walnuts, pomegran- greased baking sheet, using only a third of ate molasses, and breadcrumbs. This ver- the baking sheet. In a fl at layer, make sure sion uses quinoa fl akes instead of bread it is well spaced in order to get color. crumbs to create a fabulous gluten-free Using the same bowl, mix the golden dip or spread. beet wedges with oil, garlic, salt, and pep- Makes 6 servings per, and place on the same baking sheet alongside the kohlrabi, using the next 1/3 Ingredients section of the baking sheet. Root Vegetables Repeat with the purple beets, fi lling the 1 large kohlrabi knob, peeled and cut third section of the same baking sheet. into ¼-inch wedges Bake in the preheated oven until 1 large golden beet, peeled and cut into browned, 15 to 20 minutes, stirring occa- ¼-inch wedges sionally in order to brown evenly. 1 large purple beet, peeled and cut into ¼-inch wedges Muhamara Sauce: 3 tablespoons grape-seed oil In a food processor with an S-blade 3 tablespoons minced garlic puree the roasted peppers and garlic un- Salt and pepper, to taste til the garlic is very fi nely chopped. Add the walnuts and pulse until fi nely ground. Muhamara Sauce Transfer the puree to a medium bowl and, (Yields about 1 cup) with a spatula, mix in the quinoa fl akes, oil, pomegranate molasses, salt, and cay- 1 (12-ounce) jar roasted red bell peppers, enne pepper. (The sauce can be prepared drained up to four days in advance; cover and re- Bracha Serle works as a private chef specializing in healthy cooking such as gluten-free, dairy- 1 large garlic clove frigerate.) free, sugar-free, nut-free, and other dietary restrictions or allergies. She also does end-product mar- 1/3 cup walnuts keting for kosher food companies and supermarkets, teaching consumers how to use new food ½ cup quinoa fl akes Assemble: products on a daily basis. Bracha gives clean-eating healthy cooking classes and demonstrations. 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil Place vegetable wedges on a platter, You can check out her work on Instagram @shesthechef and can be reached via email at serle. 1 tablespoon pomegranate molasses drizzle with muhamara sauce, and serve. [email protected].

posed to religious coercion. serve, one should speak to a rabbi and re- My Family Reunion And New Things In Israel quest a list of hechsherim. An Extra Day On the drive back to the airport, signs CONTINUED FROM P. 57 said Leonid. In Israel, one should expect to see a fa- for the terminals are clear, but not for the Aside from the Hamas threat, the Ka- miliar face either living here or visiting. On car rental returns. Although one picks up ucation and experience. They made sacri- dinsky family also expressed concern our week in Jerusalem, Queens Jewish Link the rental car in the terminal garage, it is fi ces for their children, knowing that they about Shabbat legislation. “A few weeks columnist Dr. Joseph Frager and co-pub- dropped off at a parking lot farther away, would do better in their careers, having ago, hundreds of Ashdod residents were lisher Yaakov Serle were on a solidarity with a shuttle van taking visitors to the grown up in Israel. in the streets,” said Nina Kadinsky. They mission, and my friend Assemblyman terminal. We missed our fl ight and booked Although secular, my uncle Leonid pro- were protesting a new law passed by the Daniel Rosenthal was visiting the Tel Aviv the next best option for twelve hours later. vided a kosher spread that put the nearest Knesset, granting the interior minister the Stock Exchange and members of the Knes- With no place to lie down outside the ter- kosher restaurant to shame. “Everything power to override city bylaws allowing set as part of an Assembly delegation. They minal’s security zone, we are thankful to is wrapped so you can see the hechsher,” mini-markets to open on Shabbat. “We are were happy to connect us to their trips Lina Nikelshpur-Yosef, her husband Shay, he reassured me. We toasted to each oth- not against religion, but you can’t coerce and share their stories. and son Omri for hosting us at their Or Ye- er’s health and to more reunions. With his someone into observance. It is enough that There are a few notes of caution that huda home. Lina is a childhood classmate grandchildren in the army, I asked for his buses do not run on Shabbat,” said Nina. should be said about visiting Israel. Al- of Keren’s, both having learned about their take on the political situation. “Concern- When asked which political party best though there is an offi cial rabbinate, its Jewish heritage at the Beis Aharon School ing the settlements, we absolutely oppose represents them, the couple said Israel hechsher comes in regular and m’hadrin in Pinsk, Belarus. Being in the closest town any further withdrawals. Look at what Beiteinu, led by Defense Minister Avigdor forms, alongside dozens of other hechsher- to the airport, it was a good way to wrap happened after Gush Katif was evacuated,” Lieberman – hawkish on security and op- im. So while kashrus appears easy to ob- up our historic family trip.

Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 59 Style Myths DDebunkedebunked Meira E. Schneider-Atik Must-Haves For Moms Myth: If you’re a mom, it’s okay to dress any way you please, even ratty. Truth: You need to look good. ast week I wrote about the impor- tance of moms having an organized Lwardrobe fi lled only with clothes that fi t and fl atter. Now, we get into the specifi cs. From me, you get the truth. What should moms have in their ward- robes? You need a minimum of about four week- day skirts that are appropriate for your bot- tom half. Denim and khaki are both great because these fabrics tend to be structured, and that works across the board. These are also likely machine-washable, which is cru- cial. The last thing you need is to be spend- ing a lot of time and money at the dry clean- ers. Of course, the A-line shape is always best, but straight is fi ne if it fl atters you and if there’s a small slit to make walking easier. JBTK (just below the knee) is a universally fl attering length, but it’s okay to go past the calf if you like that length. Beware that a longer length doesn’t work on everyone, so try it fi rst. And avoid wearing skirts that fall past the ankle; you need to be able to move without tripping and without hems drag- ging in the dirt. You need a minimum of two tops for each skirt. For the warmer months, you or a colored skirt (both of which are fi ne, by your hair’s natural texture and movement, need either T-shirts or button-downs. For the way). Color will fl atter your face (even now’s the time. The last thing you need is to cooler months you need shells and over- if you’re not wearing makeup) and will give waste time straightening your curls or curl- tops. Your summer tops can work for the you an energy boost. ing your straight hair. Make sure it’s cut and cooler months if you layer them. All of these While you should never go overboard styled to frame and fl atter your face. tops need to fi t you without being too tight. with accessories, you do need some. I If you do cover your hair, stick with soft While a shell may fi t tighter if and only if recommend earrings; they bring atten- hats, berets, and mitpachot. Snoods and pre- you’re wearing it as a shell, you may prefer tion to your face and they don’t get in the tieds are fi ne for casual errands, but I still a slightly looser fi t so that you can wear way. Don’t wear anything too long or big, don’t recommend them because they’re not the shell as a T-shirt by itself in the warmer though. Not only are those not fl attering, fl attering. I don’t recommend wearing a months. but you want to avoid grabbing. It is okay to sheitel unless you’re doing something that You may have a hard time fi nding tops add sturdy bracelets if you like. Try to avoid calls for looking a bit more dressy, but if you that fi t properly, especially if you are nurs- necklaces or draped oblong scarves – unless do wear one, keep it simple. ing, and even more if you are larger on top you’re doing something special without Never ever leave your home without jewel neck or boatneck. Flat shoes are okay to start. Only buy tops that fi t the largest your children. brushing your teeth, washing your face, and as long as they have at least ½ inch of lift. parts of you – and have the rest taken in to For the weekdays, it’s very important to applying lip balm and light moisturizer with Softer head coverings can work, but avoid fi t you. If you are nursing, I recommend us- have shoes that are nice but still practical. SPF. If your skin needs more than that, go snoods and pre-tieds. ing button-downs and cardigans with shells; It’s okay to wear sneakers if you’re just go- with it. For most casual days, you don’t need The second is the Confi dent Power-Mom I used those when I was nursing and they ing on errands or taking your children to makeup, but there will be times when you look. This is for school interviews and for made things a lot easier. the playground. Go with black; they tend to do need it. A basic face will work just fi ne; meetings with special needs providers. While neutrals are a great base, you need look less beat-up. But comfortable fl ats are even out your skin, use concealer as need- Overall, it’s similar to the All-Around Con- to always add a pop of color somewhere. It great too, as long as they have some lift and ed, defi ne your eyes, and add subtle color to fi dent Mom look, but it’s darker and more could be in your top, shell, overtop, head cushioning to support your feet. cheeks and lips. structured. Same neutral base, but this time, cover, or accessories. No matter what, you Whether you cover your hair or not, Two overall outfi ts will have to go into dark is best. Some amount of structure is must have some color near your face even make time to shower, wash your hair, and your look book. necessary, such as a jacket. Make sure you if you decide to wear brightly colored shoes care for it properly. If you haven’t embraced One of these is the All-Around Confi dent have that iris color near your face; while you Mom look. This is an outfi t that you can want to command respect, you also want wear to open houses, school plays, and reg- cooperation, so you don’t want to go too ular parent-teacher meetings. It’s a neutral dramatic with your colors. base (which can be dark or light), with a col- Remember that if you don’t take of your- or from your irises near your face. It can be self, you cannot take care of those around structured or reasonably soft, depending on you. Dressing nicely and looking great can your body type. You want a look that directs really go a long way. I know this sounds a bit people to look you in the eye (hence the iris diffi cult, but it really isn’t. I’m an Ima too; I color), thus commanding respect, but that know. Feel good. isn’t too aggressive. For your iris-colored gar- ment, wear as high a neckline as you can. L’ilui neshamot HaRav Moshe Noach ben If you have a turtleneck neck, now is the Yosef Lev (Zaidie Atik), Devora bat Avraham time to wear a turtleneck. If you don’t have (Bubby Shapiro), and Avraham ben HaRav a turtleneck neck (like most of us), go with a Moshe Aaron HaLevi (Uncle Abe).

Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and fashion writer/blogger and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and money, all within tznius guidelines, and she’ll add to that with custom-de- signed jewelry. Read more about her ideas on her blog- www.truetzniutistruebeauty.word- press.com. She also has a YouTube channel, “Look Your Best in Mitpachot,” where she does head-wrapping tutorials, and she is also available for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

60 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 Vol. VII No. 9 (#251) • March 1, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 61 BBeautyeauty Briefs Risselle Naimark Different Strokes For Beautiful Folks lthough Purim is a great day for donning a costume and sporting creative makeup, it only comes out Aonce a year. By the time you read this article, Purim will be over and Pesach is drawing near. All clowning aside, it’s time to brush up on your beauty skills and learn how to create those seamless looks with the help of your makeup brushes. Flawless Foundation Liquid foundation brush: Add a bit of foundation di- rectly onto the center of a synthetic foundation brush or the back of your hand. Begin at the middle of the face and work your way outward and downward. You can also buff the foundation by using circular motions with the brush as you lightly blend to perfect the coverage. Mineral foundation brush: Place a bit of mineral loose powder into the jar lid. Next, swirl the brush lightly into the powder and tap off the excess. Buff the powder foun- dation into the skin with a circular motion, starting at the Eye shadow brush: Sweep eye shadow across the eye- center of the face and working outward. lids using a light shade to highlight the browbone and in- Crease brush: Start your application at the outer corners How to Achieve Three Looks From One Blush Brush ner corners of the eyes – for a more open-eyed look. of the eyes. Then sweep the color inward along the creases. Blush application: Use the center of the cheek brush to You can also pat or stamp color directly into the creases, apply the color directly to the apples of your cheeks, hold- before blending to diffuse lines. ing the brush at a 45-degree angle and blending upward. Smudger liner: Use short strokes to softly smudge eye- Contour: Put your thumb on the top of the brush fer- liner onto the top lash line. Then wrap the color around rule, gently compressing the bristles with your fi ngers. the outer third of the lower lash line for a smoky effect. With a light grip, apply a darker powder foundation in the If you love makeup, you can master top makeup tech- hollows of the cheeks, at the jawline, and the sides of your niques with your brushes. Different strokes can create nose. Then release your grip and use the elongated top beautiful folks with a quick sweep of the hand. bristles to blend well. Highlight: Use the longer bristles of the brush to apply Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Art- highlighter to the top of the cheekbones, bridge of the ist and Skincare Consultant. She carries an extensive line nose, and middle of the forehead for some luminosity. of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging products. Enchanting Eyes Risselle is also available for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, make- Various eye brushes can create endless eye possibilities up lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be reached with a few light strokes. at 718 263-5517.

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Across 1. Participant in the Second Plague 30. “Fiddler on the Roof” 53. Complicated, as a breakup 5. Isaac’s sacrificial replacement matchmaker 55. Goes on the run 8. Balaam’s talked 32. Rabbi or Doctor, e.g. 57. Angsty rock genre 14. Vegas alternative 34. Shabbat afternoon “activity” 58. Sign of the tribe of Benjamin 15. Historical period 35. Santa ___ winds 60. Aug. or Sept., e.g. 16. Grande on the radio 37. Like some characters in 61. Vinyl records, for short 17. Eleazar Maccabee was tragically Spielberg’s “Ready Player One”, 62. Explain the meaning of “life”? crushed by one for short 65. Largest kosher animal 19. Like some windows and glasses 38. Jezebel was eaten by them 67. Those who graduated Brandeis, 20. “That when Isaac was old, and 39. Insect that could be kosher now his eyes were ___” (Gen. 27:1) 42. They’re essential to Rosh 68. “I’ll take that as ___” 21. Ending for imp or stamp Hashana 69. Assistant 22. Den-mate of Daniel, once 44. Call ___ night (end the Seder) 70. Solomon acquired too many of 23. Genetic link between many 45. Actor Mineo of “Exodus” these Jewish priests 46. Tefillin limb 71. Animal best known for being tref 24. “Here, I’ll do that” 47. Former “Today” co-anchor Matt 72. “...swift like the ___” (Pirkei Avot 26. Fibbing 49. Pose for another portrait 5:20) DIFFERENCES? 10 CAN YOU SPOT

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CONTINUED FROM P. 52 and swastikas. Yonatan did not speak Ar- mission participant Ken Abramowitz. “This lates the works of Rabbi Eliezer Melamed. abic, so his Bedouin comrade translated. is the frontier of western civilization.” If the Arabic graffi ti did not have Par- are all asleep because they wake up very “Next to the swastikas, it describes Jews Dr. Frager prayed by the wall facing the shas Sh’lach in mind, the name of this early for sunrise prayers.” as m’raglim,” he said, unable to come up tomb and spoke of the importance of Sa- village is certainly derived from Tanach. “Why isn’t there violence now that with the appropriate English word. What maria in Jewish history. “The parts of Israel In Sefer Yehoshua, it is known as Timnas we’re here? All the windows are closed an irony. Do the Muslim residents of Kifl that Joshua conquered carry k’dushah be- Cheres, signifying an extra portion. It ap- shut,” I asked. Yonatan replied that the Harith know the parshah well enough to cause of his closeness to Moses.” pears again in the Talmud, in the tractate residents know that if there is trouble, use it as a mockery against Jews? “The On our drive out of the village, the Bava Basra, where “cheres” is translated as there will be action taken. Having the visit other scribbles here are written in sup- only building with lights on was a bak- “earthenware,” in reference to fruits in the at night helps minimize the likelihood of port of the Fatah party.” ery preparing laffa for the coming day. “It area being as dry as earthenware prior to violence. Nearly 30 soldiers guarded the 14 The tomb is comprised of an open-air was once possible for Jews to visit Kever the arrival of Joshua. mission participants – two armed guards entrance lobby, a square chamber, and Yehoshua during the day, a time when we The tomb did not have any mezuzos, for each visitor. then an inner room that has a wall facing shopped in Ramallah and other cities,” said siddurim, or other items associated with In the center of the village, we visi- the tomb. Near the top of the wall is a small Yonatan Behar, who made aliyah in 1984. a Jewish place of worship. That the light tors disembarked the vans to fi nd Kever opening where worshippers could place Originally a resident of Jackson Heights, he bulb in the tomb room was working was Yehoshua covered with Arabic graffi ti candles. “It is an honor to be here,” said now lives in Har Bracha, where he trans- dayeinu for us.

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