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Avoiding and Transforming Power Struggles Ø Remember that you are an adult and can take the first steps out of this situation Ø Realize that this is about power, not about the topic you are arguing about Ø Realize that the power struggle may be you or the other person’s only way of knowing and showing that you or she are important – find another, more effective way to express that need to be important Ø Use the conflict as a way of knowing each other’s feelings and thoughts and fears Ø Check to see if you and the other person really have time for this Ø Realize that the power struggle may be about previous bad experiences, not about the topic Ø Take “no” as a negotiating point, not a red flag Ø Help the other person to save face during the power struggle Ø Sidestep – offer an alternative at the beginning of the power struggle Ø Keep your voice neutral and your tone low Ø Avoid known trigger topics during the power struggle Ø You don’t always have to win – accept that and move on Ø Let others have the last word Ø Use conflict and negotiation skills – get training in these Ø Move away from the audience – don’t let your kids see you engaged in a power struggle Ø Sit down – make your body lower than the other person’s – it will diffuse the tension Ø Don’t get drawn into one if either of you is tired Ø Listen to the other person Ø Don’t moralize, sermonize, or use put downs Ø Listen to yourself, monitor your own behaviour Ø Ask the other person for ideas on how to resolve the problem Ø As soon as the other person moves the slightest bit toward compromise, you do the same Brenda McCreight Ph.D. workshops 2008 http://www.LifeSpanCounselling.com.

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