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A GUIDE TO Adoption & Orphan Care Russell D. Moore, Editor GUIDE BOOK NO. oo. 2 A GUIDE TO Adoption & Orphan Care A Guide to Adoption and Orphan Care: Guide Book No. 002 Copyright © 2012 by SBTS Press. SBTS Press c/o Communications 2825 Lexington Ave. Louisville, KY 40280 SBTS Press is a division of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publisher, except as provided by United States copyright law. Printed in the United States of America. Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ISBN: 978-0615619194 A GUIDE TO Adoption & Orphan Care Russell D. Moore, Editor GUIDE BOOK NO. oo. 2 A GUIDE TO ADOPTION AND ORPHAN CARE Table of Contents Biblical and Theological Foundations 8 Abba Changes Everything: Why every Christian is called to rescue orphans by Russell D. Moore 13 A Picture of Adoption: Adoption and orphan care in Scripture and Christian thought by Timothy Paul Jones 26 Our Paper Pregnancy: God, the gospel and the global cause of Christ by David A. Gundersen For Parents 34 Don’t You Already Have Kids? Adding to your existing family through adoption by Randy Stinson 38 Adoption Road Map: Navigating the often winding road of adoption by Dan Dumas 49 Should We Sterilize Ourselves? A false dichotomy in a right-minded question by Russell D. Moore For Pastors 56 From Church Pews to Church Plants: Adoption culture and the world mission by Jeremy Haskins 64 Orphan Care Ministry: Becoming an adoption-friendly church by Kimber Graves 70 Disrupted Adoptions: A new challenge for the church by Randy Stinson 76 Orphan Care Isn’t Charity: Spiritual warfare in adoption and orphan care by Russell D. Moore Resources 83 Resources for Adoption and Orphan Care Contributors A GUIDE TO ADOPTION AND ORPHAN CARE Biblical & Theological Foundations Abba Changes Everything Why every Christian is called to rescue orphans By Russell D. Moore he creepiest sound I have ever heard was nothing at all. My wife, Maria, and I stood in the hallway of an orphanage somewhere Tin the former Soviet Union, on the first of two trips required for our petition to adopt. Orphanage staff led us down a hallway to greet the two one-year-olds we hoped would become our sons. The horror wasn’t the squalor and the stench, although we at times stifled the urge to vomit and weep. The horror was the quiet of it all. The place was more silent than a funeral home by night. 8 A Guide To Adoption & Orphan Care I stopped and pulled on Maria’s elbow. “Why is it so quiet? The I was struck, place is filled with babies.” Both of maybe for the us compared the stillness with the buzz and punctuated squeals that first time, by the came from our church nursery back home. Here, if we listened force of the Abba carefully enough, we could hear babies rocking themselves back cry passages and forth, the crib slats gently bumping against the walls. These in the New children did not cry, because Testament, ones infants eventually learn to stop crying if no one ever responds to I had memorized their calls for food, for comfort, for love. No one ever responded to in Vacation these children. So they stopped. The silence continued as we Bible School. entered the boys’ room. Little Sergei (now Timothy) smiled at We had to tell the boys goodbye, us, dancing up and down while as by law we had to return to the holding the side of his crib. Little United States and wait for the Maxim (now Benjamin) stood legal paperwork to be completed straight at attention, regal and before returning to pick them czar-like. But neither boy made up for good. After hugging and a sound. We read them books kissing them, we walked out into filled with words they couldn’t the quiet hallway as Maria shook understand, about saying with tears. goodnight to the moon and cows And that’s when we heard jumping over the same. But there the scream. were no cries, no squeals, no Little Maxim fell back in his groans. Every day we left at the crib and let out a guttural yell. It appointed time in the same way seemed he knew, maybe for the we entered: in silence. first time, that he would be heard. On the last day of the trip, On some primal level, he knew Maria and I arrived at the moment he had a father and mother now. we had dreaded since the minute I will never forget how the hairs we received our adoption referral. on my arms stood up as I heard Biblical & Theological Foundations 9 the yell. I was struck, maybe for the first time, by the force of the Abba cry passages in the New Testament, ones I had memorized in Vacation Bible School. And I was surprised by how little I had gotten it until now. Families, the Bible tells us, Gospel and mission reflect something eternally true When someone learns that I’m about God. It is God’s fatherhood going to speak at their church after which every family in heaven about adoption, typically the first and on earth is named (Eph question is, “So will you be talking 3:14-15). We know what human about the doctrine of adoption or, parenting should look like based you know, real adoption?” That’s a on our Father’s behavior toward hard question, because I cannot us. The reverse is also true. We see address one without addressing something of God’s fatherhood in the other. We cannot master one our relationship with our human aspect and then move to the fathers. Jesus tells us that our other, from the vertical aspect of fathers’ provision and discipline adoption to the horizontal aspect, show us God’s active love toward or vice versa. us (Matt 7:9-11; Heb 12:5-17). The same principle is at work in adoption. Adoption is, on Without the one hand, gospel. Our identity and inheritance are grounded missional aspect, in our adoption in Christ. Adoption is also mission. In the doctrine of this, our adoption spurs us to join Christ in advocating for adoption too the poor, the marginalized, the abandoned and the fatherless. easily becomes Without the theological aspect, mere metaphor, the growing Christian emphasis on orphan care too often seems just another way like one more cause-wristband for compassionate conservative to say “saved.” evangelicals to wear until the 10 A Guide To Adoption & Orphan Care trend dies down. Without the Gethsemane (Heb 5:7; Mark missional aspect, the doctrine 14:36). Similarly, the doctrine of adoption too easily becomes of adoption shows us that we mere metaphor, just another “groan” with the creation itself way to say “saved.” “as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our No natural-born bodies” (Rom 8:23). It is the children of God scream of the crucified. Little Maxim’s scream changed The gospel of adoption everything – more, I think, than challenges us, first of all, to did the judge’s verdict and the recognize ourselves as spiritual notarized paperwork. It was the orphans. The gospel compels us moment, in his recognizing that to see our fallen universe – and he would be heard, that he went our own egocentric kingdoms from being an orphan to being therein – as not the way it’s a son. It was also the moment supposed to be. I became a father in fact, if not With our evangelistic emphasis in law. We both recognized that on the sinner’s prayer, evangelicals something was wrong, because ought to recognize this more than suddenly, life as it had been we often do. “Everyone who calls seemed terribly disordered. on the name of the Lord will be Up to that time, I had read the saved” (Rom 10:13), we rightly Abba cry passages in Romans insist. But we rarely feel how and Galatians the same way I desperate – and how liberating had heard them preached: as a – the call is. We assume it’s a gurgle of familiarity, the spiritual cry only at the beginning of the equivalent of an infant cooing Christian walk, not through the “Papa” or “Daddy.” Relational ongoing work of the Spirit. We intimacy is surely present in the grow complacent in the present texts – hence Paul’s choice of such age, too comfortable to cry out a personal word as “Abba” – but for a Father we can sense only this definitely isn’t sentimental. by faith. After all, Scripture tells us that The Abba cry of our adoption Jesus’ Spirit lets our hearts cry defines who we are and to “Abba, Father!” (Gal 4:6). Jesus what family we belong. That’s cries “Abba, Father” as he screams why Scripture’s witness to “with loud cries and tears” for the doctrine of adoption has deliverance in the Garden of everything to do with church Biblical & Theological Foundations 11 but he was an Iraqi Gentile before Scripture’s he joined the household of God. witness to the We Christians receive newcomers because, in Christ, we have been doctrine of received. Our identity and our inheritance are found in Christ, adoption has or they are not found at all.