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Seen from the 7IQMREV] MW %WWSGMEXI long as the man enlisted someone standpoint of the resurrection, these results signaled 4VSJIWWSVSJ to look “after her” and to provide that a time was approaching when the “last enemy to be (MWGMTPIWLMTERH*EQMP]1MRMWXV]EX “custodial care.” The television host defeated” would rend my father’s spirit from his $esh 8LI7SYXLIVR&ETXMWX8LISPSKMGEP 7IQMREV][LIVILIGSSVHMREXIW defended his declaration by de!ning (1 Cor 15:26) until that future moment when the risen JEQMP]QMRMWXV]TVSKVEQWERH such diseases as “a walking death” Christ returns for his own. IHMXWThe Journal of Family Ministry. wherein the diseased person is already At that point, my mother made a decision. Not 4VIZMSYWP]LIWIVZIHWM\XIIR]IEVW EWETEWXSV]SYXLQMRMWXIVERH “gone.” Appealing to the husband’s yet knowing if her husband’s body would persist many GLMPHVIR´WQMRMWXIV%VIGMTMIRXSJ need for “some kind of companion- months or a few weeks, or what pain might mark his XLI&EOIV&SSO,SYWI%[EVHJSV ship,” the host declared that forbid- !nal hours, she chose that she would care for him to the 8LISPSKMGEP7XYHMIWXLI2%4') 7GLSPEWXMG6IGSKRMXMSR%[EVH ding such a divorce was “the last end. If necessary, she would do this alone. She chose to ERHXLI6IXEMPIVW´'LSMGI thing” he would do.1 walk this path without question or hesitation. From her %[EVHJSVLMWFSSOChristian History I was not exactly in unbiased cir- perspective, nothing less could uphold the vows that she Made Easy8MQSXL]LEWEYXLSVIH cumstances when I first heard this had a%rmed nearly six decades earlier, when she herself SVGSRXVMFYXIHXSX[IRX]FSSOW 8MQSXL]PMZIWMR7X1EXXLI[W[MXL news. I was sitting beside a dying man was barely sixteen: “For better or for worse.” “In sickness LMW[MJI6E]ERRERHHEYKLXIVW in my parents’ living room. "e dying and in health.” “Until death do us part.” ,ERRELERH7O]PEV,IIRNS]WLMOMRK man was my father. In this way, my mother, my wife and I, some siblings, TPE]MRKKEQIW[MXLLMWJEQMP]ERH HVMROMRK*VIRGLTVIWWIHGSJJII8LI Less than a month earlier, the phy- and a niece began a journey alongside my father down .SRIWJEQMP]MWMRZSPZIHMRGLMPHVIR´W sician’s assistant had clicked through a that long dark hallway marked “Death.” He would not QMRMWXV]EXXLIIEWXGEQTYWSJ half-dozen scans of my father’s cranial die in a sterile cell amid a conglomeration of medical 7SNSYVR'SQQYRMX]'LYVGL cavity. An undetected tumor in his le# experts. He would pass from this life among all the earthy oddities of home, surrounded by a community a particular bene!t, the contract may be renegotiated. of amateurs—”amateurs” both in the modern meaning If marriage were a contractual agreement, the end of of “non-experts” and in the etymological sense of those reciprocity might rightly mark the death of the rela- who do what they do out of love. tionship. But marriage is not a contract. Marriage is a And so, I watched as a country pastor who previ- covenant. In covenants, persons do not simply agree ously devoured multiple books every week became regarding a set of abstract obligations; they give them- incapable of assessing whether his newspaper was right- selves to one another in loyal love. Covenants persist side up. Calloused !ngers that had turned raw lumber far past the capacity for reciprocity. Covenants bind into furniture and shaped simple chords on the neck people together in lasting communities of spirit and of a guitar now clenched into gristly knots. Sentences $esh, sweat and blood. once spoken with an inescapable Ozarks twang disin- And so, when God chose to cut a covenant with tegrated into unaccented grunts and !nally into silent, Abraham, he commanded the patriarch to hew five liquid stares. creatures in two, and God bound himself to Abra- It was during these weeks of waiting and watching ham by passing between these halved haunches and that I first heard the religious broadcaster’s advice. I heads (Gen 15:7–21). Although the descendants of readily recognize the distinctions between the relatively- the patriarch failed to ful!ll their part of this covenant rapid course of brain cancer and the slower processes (Jer 11:10), God’s faithfulness never faltered. Before of such diseases as Alzheimer’s and dementia. And yet, it was all over, God went so far as to establish a new this sense that one is dealing with a soul that is already covenant by means of the broken and bleeding body of gone remains quite similar. By this point, my father’s his only Son (Luke 22:20). "is new covenant stretches existence no longer even quali!ed as “a walking death.” far beyond Abraham’s descendants to embrace all who Walking had given way to a wheelchair, and wheeling a will !nd their rest in Abraham’s cruci!ed o&spring (Gal chair was quickly giving way to li#ing and turning, feed- 3:15–18; Eph 2:11–14). ing and diapering. Marriage is a divinely-designed picture of this cov- enant that God the Father established through his Son '3286%'836'3:)2%28# (Eph 5:25–33). And thus, for the Christian, marriage When the religious broadcaster allowed for divorce in can never be a contract negotiated for the sake of mutual such circumstances, his unspoken assumption seems bene!t. Marriage is a covenant witnessed in the context to have been that, once a terminal illness has stolen of community, then consummated by the giving of two every possibility of companionship from a spouse, bodies as gi#s to one another. “With my body, I thee the vow to remain together until “death do us part” wed,” the older liturgy declared, and this wedding of has been ful!lled. “Death” is thus de!ned in terms of bodies does not end when one partner loses the capacity the dying partner’s potential for a reciprocal relation- for companionship. ship. When all such potential has ceased, “death” has What marks the finalization of the marriage vow already occurred.