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Maid of Honor's Checklist 's Checklist

Helps the select ’ attire Helps Assist the Maid of Honor as requested address invitations and place cards Attends as Attend as many prenuptial events as possible many prenuptial events as possible Organizes Possibly host or co-host a party or shower (optional) bridesmaids’ gift to the bride. Assist the bride with errands Usually gives an individual gift to the couple Contribute to bridesmaids’ gift to the bride. Usually Is expected to attend the rehearsal and is included gives an individual gift to the couple at the Are expected to attend the rehearsal and are Walks in processional and recessional included at the rehearsal dinner Holds the groom’s wedding ring Helps Arrive at dressing site promptly with the bride’s gown Walk in processional and recessional Arranges the bride’s veil and train before the Possibly participate in receiving line processional and recessional Dance with ushers and single male Makes sure the bride’s gown is “picture perfect” guests throughout the day Help gather guests for the , cake cutting, Holds the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony and bouquet toss Witnesses the signing of the certificate Participate in bouquet toss, if single Stands in the receiving line Pays for own wedding attire and transportation to Keeps the bride on schedule the wedding Helps the bride change into her going away clothes Takes care of the bride’s gown and accessories after the reception Pays for own wedding attire and transportation to the wedding

Best Man's Checklist Head Usher's Checklist

Organizes a pre-wedding party for the groom Expected to attend the rehearsal and is included Coordinates the ushers’ gift to the groom. at the rehearsal dinner Usually gives an individual gift to the couple Receives any lists of guests who are to be seated in Is expected to attend the rehearsal and is included a specific pew and is aware of the importance in the rehearsal dinner and sequence of seating special guests, such Gets the groom dressed and to the ceremony as the mothers and grandmothers of the bride on time and groom Makes sure the groom has the Makes sure that programs, if used, are handed with him to guests when they are seated Delivers any payment to Officiant, sexton, Checks that all ushers are dressed properly and and ceremony musician(s), as prearranged wearing their boutonnieres on the left side, Enters the sanctuary with the groom stem down Takes care of and holds the bride’s wedding ring Makes sure that the ushers know how to Makes sure all ushers are properly attired and in usher: how to greet guests, how to offer an arm place on time to a single woman guest, and how to precede Walks in the recessional a couple to their seats Witnesses the signing of the marriage certificate Helps gather the wedding party for photographs either Drives the bride and groom to reception, if no driver before or after the ceremony and ensures that is hired transportation arrangements have been made for Helps welcome guests at reception all members of the wedding party Offers first toast to bride and groom at reception to and from the ceremony Dances with the bride, maid of honor, mothers, Completes entire Groomsmen and Ushers Checklist, and single female guests as needed Helps the groom get ready for the Gathers up and takes care of groom’s wedding clothes after he changes Has a car ready for the bride and groom to leave the reception or perhaps drives them to their next destination

Groomsmen & Usher's Checklist Mother of the Bride's Checklist

Participate in party for the groom, if there is one Hosts an party (the bride’s family Contribute to the ushers’ gift to the groom. traditionally gets the first opportunity) Usually gives an individual gift to the couple Helps couple to decide on sites or assists Expected to attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal in making other big planning decisions dinner Usually contributes to the wedding budget Review any special seating situations with the head Assists the bride in putting together the family’s usher before the ceremony begins guest list Greets guests as they arrive Offers suggestions for special family or ethnic Seat the eldest women first if a group of guests ceremony traditions arrive simultaneously May help bride to shop for wedding gown and Ask guests whether they are to be seated on the accessories bride’s side or the groom’s side Chooses own wedding day outfit (may consult Offer their right arm to female guests (with the with mother of the groom about formality) guest’s escort walking behind) or ask couples Along with the maid of honor and bridesmaids, to follow behind (leading couple to their seat) may plan and host Walk to the left side of a male guest On wedding day help bride to get ready Hand each guest a program when each guest May accompany daughter and husband has taken their seat to ceremony Walk in recessional with husband following are seated and before the processional begins wedding party Know the order of seating per tradition such as Greet guests in receiving line special guests, grandmothers of the bride May be announced along with husband and groom, and bride’s mother last Sits in an honored place at parent’s table Remove pew ribbons, one row at a time, after the May host a post-wedding brunch) ceremony Close windows and check pews for programs or articles left behind after the ceremony Are prepared to direct guests to the reception site (having extra maps available, if used) Dance with bridesmaids and other guests at the reception Look after elderly relatives or friends Participate in ceremony, if there is one, and encourage other single men to participate Coordinate return of rented apparel with head usher or best man

Put aisle runner in place after guests.

Father of the Bride's Checklist Mother of the Groom's Checklist

Hosts an engagement party (the bride’s family Contacts the mother of the bride if the families traditionally gets the first opportunity) are not acquainted (or plans a celebration Helps couple to decide on sites or assists if you have met) in making other big planning decisions Attends (first) engagement party if the bride's Usually contributes to the wedding budget family hosts one May select hotel for out of town guests and Along with husband, may host an additional reserve a block of reduced rate rooms engagement party for the groom’s side Rents own formalwear (work with couple of the family to coordinate with wedding party) Usually contributes to wedding budget Helps pick up out-of-town guests from airport. May help couple decide on sites and/or make May also arrange transportation to and from other big planning decisions the wedding/reception Helps group to put together family’s guest list Typically travels to ceremony with the bride Offers suggestions for special family or ethnic Walks daughter down the aisle ceremony traditions Gives the bride away during the ceremony May help bride shop for her wedding gown Escorts the mother of the bride out following Chooses own wedding day outfit (may consult the wedding party with mother of the bride about formality) Greets guests in the receiving line Along with husband, plans and hosts the May be announced with wife at reception rehearsal dinner May make a welcoming speech Escorted out following the wedding party Sits in an honored place at the parent’s table and the bride’s parents Toasts the after the best man makes Greets guests in the receiving line his speech and the groom responds May be announced along with husband Dances with the bride at the May take care of vendor balances at the end Sits in an honored place at the parent’s table of the reception Does mother-son dance with groom Attends post wedding brunch (if held)

Should get ready with groom and Should help get the bride get ready on groomsmen on wedding day. wedding day.

Mother of the Groom's Checklist Father of the Groom's Checklist

Contacts the mother of the bride if the families are Attends (first) engagement party, if the bride's family not acquainted (or plans a celebration if you hosts one have met) Along with wife, may host an additional engagement Attends (first) engagement party if the bride's family party for groom’s side of the family hosts one Along with wife, may contribute to the wedding Along with husband, may host an additional budget engagement party for the groom’s side of the May help couple decide on sites and/or make other family big planning decisions Usually contributes to wedding budget Rents own formalwear (after talking with couple to May help couple decide on sites and/or make other coordinate with wedding party); attends fittings big planning decisions as needed Helps group to put together family’s guest list Offers Along with wife, plans rehearsal dinner suggestions for special family or ethnic May travel to ceremony with the groom and the ceremony traditions best man May help bride shop for her wedding gown May escort wife to her sear right before the mother Chooses own wedding day outfit (may consult with of the bride is seated mother of the bride about formality) Escorts mother of the groom out after wedding party Along with husband, plans and hosts the rehearsal and bride’s parents dinner Greets guests in the receiving Escorted out following the wedding party and the line bride’s parents May be announced with wife Greets guests in the receiving line May make a welcoming speech May be announced along with husband at the Sits at an honored place at the parent’s table wedding reception May toast the newlyweds Sits in an honored place at the parent’s table May settle final bills with wedding vendors Does mother-son dance with groom Attends Attends or hosts post-wedding brunch post wedding brunch (if held) Should get ready with groom on wedding day. Should get ready with bride on wedding day.

Flower Girl's Checklist Ring Bearer's Checklist

Dress and accessories should be paid for by her His attire should be paid for by his family family Attends the rehearsal although he usually does not Attends the rehearsal although she usually does attend the rehearsal dinner not attend the rehearsal dinner He immediately precedes the in the In the processional, walks alone directly before the processional bride and her father Carries either the actual rings or a facsimile of the Often scatters petals from a basket she holds, rings (often a practical idea), on a white although this is sometimes too overwhelming velvet or satin cushion. If the rings are genuine, a responsibility for a young girl to manage in they should be fastened to the cushion with a front of a large group of people. It is usually very thin thread or placed over a firmly fixed easier for her to carry either a small basket hatpin. The best man takes the rings from of flowers or a tiny nosegay of flowers similar the cushion at the right moment to those carried to those carried by the Walks with the flower girl in the recessional, directly bridesmaids behind the bride and groom In the recessional, walks with the ring bearer, The parents of the ring bearer to look after the directly behind the couple him, to oversee checking his appearance, The parents of the flower girl(s), to look after her making sure he is present for formal pictures, appearance and making sure she is present for helping him manage his food at the reception, formal pictures, helping her manage her food at the reception, and escorting her to the ladies room. and escorting him to the men’s room.