w ENTERTAINMENT Laramie In I iiis JsMti • Shipping Dock Theatre presents a production of Tbe S«ctlMlA Laramie Prq/ect. BiH Pritdiard runs for Council 3 PageBI Newsfronts. « -4 Interview: Joe Grabarz.. 6 Gay youth speaks out...» ».... 10 Gay male domestic viotence 11 Makingthe Scene; 14

Saction B Entertainment: Laramie Proiect.„.. I Columnists « .5 Gay Groups 12 Community Center News 14 Classifieds — -.... 15 Febmary 2001 Calendar 18 A Publication of the Gay Aiiiance of the Genesae Valley Brighton looks at World AIDS Day event at Strong NewsFronts • LOCAL AND STATE protection for gays int'l Womens Day event Teachers, stiidents, parents speak to school b€Mrd set for MCC March i 0 By Melora Mlfler By Michele Kemnitzer and dent gay'Straight altiance. Like the Each year since 1910, women have Susan Jordan Brighton Family Alliance, they are joined together to celebrate In­ The Brighton Family Alliance for seeking changes in the district policy ternational Women*s Day, a day an Inclusive Schooi Environment, to ensure the recognition and pro­ dedicated to the fight for equal calling for a''gay-inclusive** nondis­ tection of students who are gay or rights for ail women in ail coun­ crimination policy in Brighton pub­ iesbian, are perceived as gay or les­ tries. This year a coalition of con­ lic schools, presented arguments bian, or are from ^milies with same cerned women has planned a day in December and January before sex parents. Adding sexual orienta­ of workshops, discussion and en­ Above: Mayor Bill Johnson speaks at the Nov. 30 dinner marking the the Brighton school board. The tion to the poticy. they argued, would tertainment on Saturday, March Harvey Stein photographic exhibit, "Faces of AIDS," which opened on board declined to make an imme­ publicly communicate the district*s 10» at Monroe Community Col­ Dec. I. The event benefited the Strong AIDS Clinic and AIDS Rochester. diate decision^ citing legal and fi­ acknowledgment and support ofgay lege. and lesbian students and their ^mi- Over 240 attended the dinner at the UR Medical Center. For more nancial concems. "Getting Food to che Table: lies. coverage of local World AIDS Day events, see pages A3 and A14. With board approval, Brighton Women's Work" was chosen as would be first aniong Rochester's Trilby Dejung, also speaking for chis year*5 chenne, because liter­ suburban school districts to in­ the Brighton Family Alliance, noted Sweetheart Ball to be ally from che sources of food, the clude sexual onentation and gen- that she transferred her son to a planting, picking, and processing. pilvata schooi b«cau«e che Brighton i.J' dfr kjantlty ip ¥hi|lr nQndlycrimi*^ to the shopping, cooking and plac­ fwdon policies. School District wasn't fully commit­ ing food on ttte table, women are According co information com­ ted to being inclusive ofgay faimilies. largely responsible. Women work piled by the Brighton Family Alli­ The board said on Dec. i 2 that its Om^lpftrovnamlci«: faMrt: the M IM^OGeeda WiB s^>porc AlUance in all kinds of |obs and conditions ance, the Rochester City School decision is pending further review, ISaijf AKanee wilt celebrate the programaimd mttntlcm^ such aa the CO supporc chemselves and co sus­ District, as well as schools in including the evaluation of ali finan­ VdEandne waason v^ its Sweet- Strer, l^olly Panner, sug­ ^flhist^*'.0A Robert Gelder, ex* sat^^ittiovi of havingsupported the issues. gested limiting the policy to the representing the Brighton Famity lcum» iSreccor. **But )^hif x^ woric of the Gay Alliance In our "Getting Food co che Table: student body if including staff mem­ Alliance, argued that amendments means excludes ln<&vlduab who convrnmlty," ta^ Rob Geider. Women's Work** will cake place bers proves to be too expensive. to the Brighton district polky are woukl ySm to ioln friends lor a Admission to che dance oniy Is Saturday, March 10. ac Monroe "imperative,** because "high Dejung urged the board to con­ iprttt avenifi^ of entenainment $12 ^ advance and $t5 at the Community College, BrighCon schools are typically the most ho­ sider a universal policy, inclusive of and m^MTknent.'^ - door. Dinoor and dbmce tickets Campus, beginning ac 9 a.m. More mophobic places in America.** both students and personnel. She Th* Bafl will b«gin v^Mt dNiner iypg^^etA admisskHi) are $4S per details witl appear in che March Students perceived as gay, she cited ocher local empbyers, like at 4 pjntf Allowed at S p.m. lay p<»^on fnr GAGV members, and Empty Qoset contended, are at greater risk for Xerox and the University of Roch­ ifiific^ taaQI selection of fevor* $55 per person for non-members. assault, premature sexual activity ester, who currently offer domestic lee d»nce times from tha *t$0$ . Dlm>«c«nd dance ddcets at the Gliclc named to social and teen suicide. partner benefits. IHowever, she also tlirom^ tb» *9Qi. &nc«e Aggy Cc^ iev^ are $80 kir GAGV services committee Also present at the board meet­ stressed that even a limited policy, OufMt WfH preskte over thefesdvih ntembers, and $90 ior non^mem*^ Openly lesbian state protecting only students, wouki be ing were spokespeople for Stu­ iAm^> wfikh wili tekdude a silent bers. TMs paekafa Inciudes cwo Assemblymember Deborah Glick a critical step forward. auctkm x4 desirable Itamt.and dents for a Tolerant Community, " Rati ccMitifMMMl on p^ 3 was appointed as chair of the the Brighton school district stu­ Brighton continued on p* 10 r'i'i"iV'»'in'iili'ii'i1'>i'i;i;i New York State Assembiy*s So­ cial Services Committee on Jan. 8. giving: think about United Way this Mact Foreman, executive di­ rector of the Empire Scate Pride By Rob Gelder we feel it necessary to let you know thing chey have done for cheir own to stop and think before they par­ Agenda, said that Glick*s appoint­ For most of us in the non-profit iiow some aspects of the campaign organization and empbyees) chey ticipate in the campaign this year. ment is good news for ali New community, the upcoming United work. will noc require chac of che agencies * Consider malting your dona­ Yorkers. "Ms. Glkk is a tireless Way campaign means a graat deal. * if you designate an agency to chey fund. tion directly to the agency of your and faarless advocate for chose in It is through United Way that we receive your donations, that agency * You are not able to designace choice. Many agencies wouid wel­ need, a vigilant watchdog over are able to receive support from receives only 88 percent of your CO more than one agency at a time. come your direct donation even government waste, and some­ many of our donors woridng at contributkm, with 12 percent going * if you choose to negatively on a monthly basis if it woukl nr^ake one vAKt understands the diffi­ area businesses and corporations. to United Way overhead. designate an agency (e.g., the it easier to give. Some are able to culties feced by so many service These donations are imporcant to *This 12 percant supports United Otetiana Coundl of tha Boy Scouts) sat up a pledge similar to your providers across the state," Fore­ tha Gay Alliance because they en­ Way, even though chey continue to than you relinquish your right to Unitad Way pledge and even ac­ man said. ''Without a doubt, she able us to provida valuable pro­ fund the Boy Scouts who openly say what agency will benefit from cept EFT or credit card donations. ^11 use this post as a bully pulpit grams to the community and to discriminate based on saxual orien­ your donation. It could possil>ly go * Consider designating your CO bring about positive diarge in operate our community center. tation. The Unitad Way feeb since to another afancy that doesn't sup­ Unitad Way gifc to a specific agency che delivefy of sociai services. But as much as v^ ask your there are no k>cal, state, or federal port your vahies. continuad and increased support. bws that mandate inclusion (some­ Therefore, we are asking donors United Wmy continuod on p. 3 NewabrioCi cont. on p. 10 A2 T« V iq^i^ir^ ^^^^feb^^^^^^W^^S -^^ fcggg^'^._i^^l»-.^i^..a^S^.^^^ ..- :,.. .-5- ;- T ii n ^M'M^^^^^^ A3l nor WiR we be a forum for er^olf^dit- LETTEBS TO THE EDITOR: putes becween IndMduats. We reserve Ball continuod from p. I Tha opinions of columniftts, editorial wHt> the rigiit to edit for space and claric)f. We dckets and a personal message in the pro­ mr% and odver contributing writers are will princ anonymous letters If che name titeir owm and do noc necetsarity reflect and phone number are provided to the gram. Dinner and dance tickets at the dw coliecilve atdtude of the Gay Alliance Editor; confklentialftx wiit be respected. Sweetheart level are $ 125 for GAGV mem­ Perspectives of the Genesee Vallex or tfie Entpcx Closec Sul>mlsslons are due by the ISth of the bers, and f ISO for non-members. The We wUl print letters at the editor's discre­ month at: Sweetheart level includes two tickets, a tion and on a spece avaUable basis.We wHI The Empty Cksset, 179 Adantk Ave. personal message in the program, one song viewpoints that matter not print personal attacks on Individuals, Rochescer NY 14607-1255 request, one rose, and a 4x6 photo. At the •is •, . r ^^"^ Valentine level, GAGV nmmber tickets are ^^^^^ x>"^' ^^v TN*^N^»^^. ^ \, $175 per person for members, and $200 Looking back & getting for non-members. This includes two tick­ Riewsfronts ets, a personal message in the program, one • LOCAL AND STATE NEWS song request, one rose, a bottie of cham­ ready for the future pagne, a box of Godiva chocolates, and an AiDS Day quilt display at Brociq>ort The O word 8x10 photo. Bill Pritchard From Our Executive Director \ Black tie attire is not required. For more information about the dinner, the dance, Bill Pritchard declares By Rob Gelder, executive director healthy and vibrant future. This fall we in­ ticket locations, the auction, the progranns City Council candidacy It is very difficult to believe that I am now stalled a new phone system that better en­ of the Gay Alliance, or all of the above, cal! celebrating my one-year anniversary as the ables us to respK>nd to individuals contacting (716)244-8640. By Susan Jordan 1 executive director of the Gay Alliance. Why the Alliance. We've also installed a new donor Pledging to bring a new voice and a new perspec­ United V^^ay continued from p. I ld, It*s a dirty word, according to Urvashi Vaid's preface to Chttit^j^^- PttMc Polky it seems just like yesterday that I was moving management software system to track contri­ tive to City Hafl, Bill Pritchard, a longtime Demo­ Issues Affectit^ Gay, Leslnatt, Bisexttai and Tratugetuter Eltkrs, issued last November. across councry complete with frozen wind­ butions and support provided by community and don't let your donation go "unre­ cratic Party and ^y activist, announced his can­ O"People lie ai>out it," Vaid wrote. "Others ignore or avoid diose who arc old. Youth shield washer fluid, (You don't need anti­ members throughout the region. We have stricted." Unrestricted fiinds can support didacy for Rochester City Council on Jan. 25. ff is a virtue, but old age is just plain sad, so wc are told." freeze in your washer fluid when you live in a tedesigncd our website and have selected a homophobic organizations. nominated, Pritchard will be running as an at- The report was compiled by thc National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Insdtute and temperate climate like Seatde — trust me, 1 new logo. * Encourage your friends and colleagues large Council member. NGLTF's Aging Initiadve. Two years of re- elders. Thc report urg^ lgbt otganizations na- found out thc hard way). Looking to the new year, wc have much to also to give directiy or to designate the gift Pritchard, 37, Director of Development for search on aging issues in the Igbt community tionwide to startconsidering the possibilities of I managed to arrive and get somewhat do and accomplish. At the same time as wc The Gay Alliance relies on the support of the College of Liberal Arts at RIT, totd the Etrtpty Chset that the two main focuses of his campaign went into the 145-page report, which summa- founding retirement communities of some settied as my life was wrapping up in Seatde ready thc Alliance to be strong and active in individuals and businesses throughout the region to make its work possible. will be quality of life issues and the "brain drain" rizes social science information on gay elders, lund, vt^ere gay elders need not vanish into through thc sale ofmy house. Ofcourse my the community, we continue to be confronted that he says is pulling more and more young reviews state and federal policies, and makes the nursing home closet, fearing homophobic luck would have it that I returned to thc area by institurions within the community that * Ifyou choose to donate directiy to the professionals away from the city. He afso would recommendations for improving gay elders' abuse by caregivers and/or fanuly memt>ers. during the year that Rochester beat out Syra­ perpetuate homophobia and the GAGV, please call us at (716)244-8640 press for a city civil rights ordinance including lives through policy change and advocacy. (See Gay elders are invisible, Littie is known cuse and Buffalo for snowfall. I didn't even marginalization ofour friends and neighbors. with any questions. Ifyou choose to desig­ sexual orierKation. Opinion, page A8). about them because of what the report calls have time to dust off my skis. Therefore, the GAGV will continue to work nate to the Gay Alliance through United Way, please use our agency code of I 135. The report estimates that there are one to "thc widespread failiue of goverxunental and I'm amazed at how quickly the time flew. I to uplift our commmiity, so that no matter if Pritchard saki that he is currently working three milUon gay U.S. residents aged 65 and academic researchers" to ask thc right ques­ can remember distinctly my first day at the you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, * Take a stand. Let*s face it -— money witii the Party committee system, and drumming older. These figures are expected to rise in the tions. The report adds, "Very littie literature Aiiiance with Kim Brumber, board presi­ straight, out or still in the closet. Latino, talks and your decisions about how your up support for his campaign, prior to the Demo­ next few decades, as the huge baby boomer examines the lives of glbt old people... Most dent, and getting settied into the job. I have African-American, Asian, etc., you will be a donations are used are a ^ery important cratic Party convention in May, when five candi­ generation enters old age. It should not come studies heavily over-represent white gay men leamed SO much over the past 12 months, part ofa community that supports and values way to get that message across. dates for City Council will be chosen. Duffy as a surprise that gay elders face homophobia firom urban areas with middle or upper in­ and I want to personally thank each and every you. As a point of clarification, the Gay Alli­ Palmer is his campaign manager. and institutionalized heterosexism in the heaitii comes, and under-represent women, peopie person who has made my arrival to Rochester Finally, we are busy with last minute prepa­ ance supports all youth and making their Pritchard said. "I've been pretty active in both care and nursing home industries, and in fed­ of color, low income people, or residents of and die Alliance a wonderful experience. rations for the annual Sweetheart Ball and lives better. We do that through our own the gay and straight communities for a number of eral and state laws that favor married hetero­ suburban and rural regions." It's because Rochestcr has such a wonder­ Auction. See thc article and ad in this issue. youth programs. However, we do feet it is years, both in politics and in the community. I have a great interest in v/hat happens in Roches­ sexuals and treat gay families as "unreal." Nor The report offers recommendations, in­ ful glbt community, committed to furthering There isn't much time left, so please reserve our duty to advocate for inclusion of queer A 144-square-foot quilt crafted by Kodak employees (top)was added to theAIDS ter. IVe been on the City Planning Commission should It come as a suiprise that elders also face cluding more governmental research on gay die well-being and inclusion of all pf us into your space by calling 244-8640. We thaiik you youth in other youth programs within our Memorial Quilt displayed at SUNY Brockportduring World AiDS Day for four years now, and have seen a range of social isolation and ageism within their own elders; amending the Older Americans Act to our greater community, that the Alliance can for your help! community. commemorations. The Arthur Ashe panel was anrK>ng those from the nationaJ Quilt. issues come before the Commission. It*s time, I gay community. include gay elders and prohibit discrimination exist and thrive. There is much more to be done, and we Let's have a great 2001 and we thank you think, for a generational change. I firmly believe OT\ gay issues, which he includes under Gay people, like our heterosexual counter­ in services; legal recognition ofgay families, We have spent the better part of 2000 hope you will be here with us all the way. We for your supporc to focus on quality oftife issues, including that City Council should experience greater "quality of life," Pritchard believes that a parts, have grown up in a society that worships and equal access to Social Security l>enefits changing and implementing new systems at will continue to need your support, your a civil rights bill for the city of Rochester." turnover among elected officials. That's not to better job could be done in educating the youth, and heaps contempt on the elderiy. Our for panners and children; reduction of dis­ die Alliance to build the infrastructure to guidance, and your involvement in 2001. Pritchard wants to advocate for all of say theyVe not doing a good job, but nobody has police and fire departments on gay/lesbian values are skewed by Madison Avenue's profit- crimination in nursing homes and senior hous­ carry us forward, and upon which to build a Thanics for the read. Rochester's neighborhoods. "We've paid a lock on important issues." issues and people with AfDS, in addition to based obsession with perfect young lx>dies. ing, and acknowledgement, support and re­ The Gay Alliance of the a lot of attention to the High Falls area. Pritchard attributes xhe **brain drain'* to a lack passing anti-discrimination protection that Oider people are depicted on TV and else­ spect for its elders from the Igbt community. as iionorary President of thc Boy Scouts Park Ave. the East End, etc., but what I From Our Readers Genesee Valley wishes to of job opportunities here, and the perception would include gays. "We've got to get a civil where as buffoons, or pathetic victims, or both, One ofthe many tilings European-Ameri­ despite their organization's blatant and deeply about the rest ofthe city? What about the express our deep grief at thc that Rochester is ^'a dreary and conservative rights ordinance passed." he said. "Let's do as in "I've fallen and I can't get up." cans can leam from Native Americans is that hurtfiil discrimination against us and others Northeast, or the 19th ward? I will not Carbon copy: final city" — a stereotype he says he disagrees with. ic If elected. I will make that tegislation my There is an element of denial involved, as very respect. In most Indian societies,includ­ like us. tragic death of Paul Pape on rest until the 19th ward is getting the *1 am running as a member of that young profes­ first priority. I'd start on day one working my well as cruelty, when we tum away from older ing the Six Nations of our own area, older By refusing to step down as Honorary Jan. 27. same attention as other neighborhoods appeal to Clinton on sional group, and want to bring greater attention heart out to get that passed." people: a sort of "whistling in thc graveyard". people are honored as the guardians o£ cul­ President of an organization that perpetuates are getting." We send our to the benefits available to the 20s-to-30s age Pritchard's experience includes being Forget facelifts and hair transplants: the only tural traditions, who pass on the ancient sur­ Boy Scouts policy homophobia, you lend your personal pres­ A major concem for Pritchard is stop­ sympathies and thoughts to group." he said. ping urban sprawl, which he says causes leader of the 23rd Legislative Districc four way we can really avoid aging is by premature vival and spiritual knowledge and the sense of Nov. 18,2000 ty and that of your office to this hateful his fatnily and frtends. He hopes to bring a new perspective to City higher taxes and increased expenses for years on the Planning Committee, and com­ death, which as an aitemative leaves a lot to be identity that young people need. We in the Thc Honorable William J. Clinton prejudice. Indeed, it is particularly disap­ Paul's kindness, humor and Council. "Look at the progress made under infrastructure."Wc should plan as a re­ munity experience that he says has given him desired. Whether we plan to grow older grace­ lgbt cotnmunity could benefit by honotii^ President pointing to us that you are unwilling to sepa­ Mayor Johnson," he said. "Mayor Ryan did a good knowledge of social and neighborhood is­ fully and gendy, or kicking and screaming, it those who have struggled before us, so that rate yourself from the Boy Scouts because the generosity made him loved gion," he said, "and treat folks in the Thc White House job in running the city in hard times, during the sues. He has worked at AIDS Rochester and makes sense to create support structures for when we ourselves are elders, our own lega­ bigotry embodied in this position flagrantiy towns and the city as neighbors. Mayor 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW by an of us. Reagan years when government tumed away Action for a Bette. Community, and within our elders, and, ultimately, for ourselves. cies as gay survivors can be passed on, and we contradicts the support you have expressed Johnson is a catalyst for the discussion of Washington. DC 20500 See the March Empty Closet from the cities. But think ofthe innovative things the lgbt community has served as head ofthe The NGLTF report lists various groups that can receive the honor wc have eamed. for respecting the rights of lesbian^ gay, bi­ the issues, t want to bring the same Dear Mr. President: for tributes to and memories Bill Johnson has done. Tm running for the ideas GAGV board and the now-defunct Political already exist, such as SAGE (Senior Action in Aging can t>e hard, and, indeed, often sad. sexual and transgendered people to be treated caliber of discussion to City Council, so At a meeting ofgay, lesbian, bisexual and that haven't been thought of yet, the initiatives Caucus. To volunteer for or donate to Bill a Gay Environment), in N.Y.C; Gay and Les­ As entertainer Buddy Big Mountain puts it, fiudy. of Paul. the Mayor has partners on the Council as transgendered officials held this weekend in that haven't been taken yet, and to bring a Pritchard's campaign, call 442-9893. bian Outreach to Elders in San Francisco, and being an elder just means that all the people he goes out to raise the alarm on urban Arizona, those in attendance expressed their Wc therefore write to urge you as strongly renewed sense of energy to the Council. I want the Renaissance Transgendered Assocation in who icnew you when you were young and sprawl." Locai/state news continued on p. iO sorrow at your decision to continue to serve Letters continued on p« 11 Wayne. Pa. The Golden Threads group is a crazy are gone. Equally sad is the fragmenta­ strong Old Lesbian organization. But these tion of our community, as fear and superficial iii groups are few and available only to a small values cut us off from our gay heritage and our confidential GAGV Membership includes an Empty Closet segment of the growing population of gay from our still-vital and inspiring elders. A Publication of thc Gay Alliance Y subscnption mailed to your home eleven times a year in a plain of thc Genesee Valley manila cnvekqgi#I|ipq^ eec^e 7*f Btt^ Gmi^ please IT^AduiocAve.-RoclMuerNY 14607-1255 check this box: Q I The Empty Closet Editor-in^hief Susan Jordan For More InfoniUKiort CaU: (716)244-9030 Layout Editor Brad Pease person or orpuiiziaon m articlei i* mx an irtdicition of the •cvnal nr Subscribe! afTecuonal orientation of that pcrton of thc memben of that cwj^niiation Ror funher infonnation, please write to the Hir.pry fZkwct, 170 Athintie NEW YCRK STATF S Ackcniunc pobcy: Thc l-^mpty Cloaet doca not print advcmxemenu that the Gay Alliance of the Genesee YaUey! Ave.. 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In Tompltins County, N.Y.. the United ''Lambda deab dalty with the legal system's question in a very simpfo bshkxL k b truly -People for the American Way, Empire The Lambda ij<^ Defense and Education Onjan. 10, the Pride Agenda called upon Way Is scheduled to cut off funding for the blllbility and die effects of bias on court unfortunate diat It has, so 1^. taken two State Pride Agenda Fund. Inc lias called the exc»cution of a re­ N.Y. Senators Charles Schumer and Hillary BSA in June 2002. In Oregon, Wells Fargo decisions." said Lambda Executive Director years of cosdy Ihjgation to make thb point tarded and mentalty III African American les­ Rodham Qincon to question Ashcroft cfosely Bank and Portiand General Electric have Kevin M. Cathcart ^'With this experience, we about a bw that has been in pbce for 0v«r Boy Scouts lose iMan an example of how lesbian, gay. non- durir^ his confirmation hearings on his ability directed their local United Way not to oppose die death penalty as a harsh and seven years." white. mentaHy disabled and poor people to impartially enforce existing laws and regu- some supporters irreversible use of govemment power." Goins hopes that the verdict WiH signal a share $617,000 in corporate donations frequently db tMit receive Justice in the courts. btions afiecdt^ gay and lesbian dvil rights. The Boy Scouu of America (BSA) has with the area's BSA ch;^>ter. Joann Bell, Oklahoma ACLU executive di­ change for gender-different individuab. Newsfronts Pieople for the American Way has issued a slowty but continuousty lost support across Wanda Jean AHen. put to death in Okb* rector, commented on Jan. 12, "It took the Judge Stonebumer. writing the unani­ In Providence. R.I., a Cub Scout pack • NATIONALAND INTERNATIONAL NENA^S home on Jan. 11, was tried in 1989 for the report on Ashcrofk^s record, entided •The the country, due to Its Supreme Court- and Boy Scout troop announced they wW state of Oklahoma 21 minutes to kill Wanda mous opinion of die Court, wrote; **The murder of her partner. During her trial, the Outright drop-in center in Buriington and are CiseAgdnsttheConfirmation of John Ashcroft validated policy of discriminadon against defy the national ban on gay members and Jean, but diose of us wiio liave worked for statute prohil>its discrimination on the ba­ prosecutor Invoiced stereotypes of lesbbns. Vt. youth group to not brought into schools. as Attomey General of the Unhed States." gay Scouts and leaden. years on her beiialf know diat the state began sis of the inconsistency between anatomy scoutmasters, and ki Taunton. Mass.. the Her own bwyer had never tried a capftal case The Department of Education says it sup­ The report kxiks at Ashcroft*s record as Onjan. 5, leaders of Reform judadsm, the killing her a long time a|^. Though she was and self-image. West denied Goins use of Unfon Congregational Church voted bet l>elbre» amd fiad neither coH:ounsel, nttKHirces lose state funding ports Outr^c's woric, but pubiic confusion lunfor senator from Missouri over the past six brgest Jewish movement ki North America, convicted of murder, she was executed be­ the women's restroom in disregard of lier November to evict a Scout troop that had -for investjgators, nor expert witnesses. Years A Vermont youth outreach group WiH lose about what is said in sdiools and what h noc years, and condud«KS that he has consistently encouraged rabbis and congregations to cause of wfio she was: a mentalty impaired, undisputed female seif-lmage. The district met at their church. after the trial, it was leamed that Allen*s IQ its state funding, as part of the baddash has put the group's public mission in danger. A placed itis extremist political views before the se^er ties with the BSA because its policy In Tucson, Ariz., the mayor and ei^ African American, impoverisiied Jesbian. No court agreed with West and heki that, as a was onty BO. and thst she suffered severe matter of bw, anatomy afone makes Goins against the civS union law. Department spokesperson said, ''We believe interests and rights of the people. He has is "inconsistent with our values." council unanimousty decided to stoppub* reasonal>le person can view Wanda Jean's mental Wness and retardation due to several a man and that iier self-image is irrelevant Outright Vermont^ basftd in Burlinpon. Oixor^f^ does good woric We wactt to ieam danonstrated tack of r^pect fbr the rights of The Los Angeles City Council has voted lie fonding of the Boy Scouts, and ta^md trial transcripts and not realize tiiat multiple heed traumas. She was the first woman put to to die issue of restroom use. The district has been workingfor i i years to reach out from them, not compete." women, gays, people of cofor and the poor, as to sever ties with the BSA, induding police the city's contribution of fl^ZnMon aiV' biases, including anti-gay stereotypes, deter­ «leadi by die state of Oklahoma in nearty 98 court held tiiat Goins can onty use the to lesbian and gKjt youth in schools, its Keith Bston. executive director of Outright, weU as a br rt^ agenda which includes involvement with the BSA's Expforer Pro­ nuaily to the local United Way. if it mined her sentence." years. women's restroom by demonstrating **safe schools** iniUaiive also addi esses said in November that he does not understand amending die Consdtution to open the way gram, because LA. city law prohibits reb­ keeps funding the BSA. -Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, Lambda Legal Director Ruth E Harlow said anatomy consistent with self-image. Tiie harassment based on race, relgfon. and why, if the scate approves of Outr^^'s work, for what People fbr the American Way calls tionships with organizations diat discrimi­ School districts that have taken action Inc.; ACLU Lesbian & Gay Rights Project that Allen's case was similar to those of many MHRA. however, does not require an other factors. Now the Vermonc Depart- i they are now duplicating dve service, "disastrous politica! and ideologicat mischief." nate. The New York City public school include Minneapolis, Minn., which in Oc­ Ashcroft hzs consistently opposed choice on death row, particubrty those who are employee to eliminate an inconsbtency nrtent of Educatkan has announced that it j Efcston was fired in late December, when he system and other sdiooi districts iiave tober dropped sponsorsiilp of troops and Minn, court rules for and all reproductive rigiits for women; affir­ peopie of cofor, mentalty disabled, or unable between self-image and anatomy; it pro­ wM t^e on the fonoions Ouni|^ has j became upset by news that Outright's school ended assocbtions with the BSA. In North barred the BSA from distributing promo­ mative action; a national drunk driving stan­ to pay for adequate leg»l defense. Two other transgendered fennale tects the empfoyee from discrimination petfcjiuwid, and the agmcy -ewB lose the ; programs were being discontinued because of Carolina, the Chapel Hill-Carboro School tional material. dard, and k^isbtion meant to end workpbce cases on Lambda's docket involve similar mis­ On Nov. 21 die Minnesota Court of Appeals liased on such an inconsistency. There is no SI 2.000 dewienafted for it in die stace bud- j d»e fonding shortfolL An angry phone call to Board unanimously voted on Jan. 11 to cut In Brovtord Co., Florida, the school discrimination against gays and others. He its ties to local Scout troops; they currentiy conduct. issued an opinion reversing a trial court ruling evidence to support a conclusion that em­ get. which has come under fire from iio- | Education Commtssk^ner David Woik was board voted unanimously in November to opposes the indusion of gays and lesi^ans in meet on school property. In the case of Ofdcens v. Arizona, Lambda is that a transgendered female did not suffer ptoyees whose self-image conflicts with mophobic conservaoves. ! ruled "appropriate." The Outrigtit board stop allowing Scouts to meet in school hate crimes laws and ss a dependable alty of big trying to help a gay nian on death row obtain from a hostile work place environment when anatomical male or female features are Rj^ghcwing haEte gro^jfis working agiinst \ s»dthat"phiiosophkal differences" with Elston United Way chapters across the country buildings. The BSA then sued them. tobacco, gun manubcturers, ti^ National Rifle an new and unbiased triai. It has recentty come her employer prohibited her from using the likely to be voyeurs or commit inappropri­ civ€unK>Rs have been accusing Outright of I aho contributed to his firing. are also v^thdrawing support from the In December, less than two weeks after Assocbtion and the iiomophobic Ciiristian to light that the judge who sentenced Gregory women's restroom. ate acts." '>ecTtaar^''sChoo*chadrentohomosexu- j -Out m the Mttutttams; Riionda SmitKThe BSA. Over 25 chapters have dedared that the N.Y.C school board's decision, the Coalition. Further, Ashcroft distorted and Scott Dickens to death vtras at the same time The ruling in Coitvt v. West Group is the first aity. One hate group dkl a nttss maiiirtg WtxsNngtxm Bhde thcy will no longer allow funds to go to the Greater New York Councils of Boy Scouts As for Ms. Goins specificatty, Stonebumer misrepresented the record of a highty quali­ writing vitriolic hate letters to his own gay appelbte opinion involving a transgendered fuse before the elections, quoting from C#.j^v»vi krA«a#C #%WtfaK BSA due to its discrimination; they have of America — thc nation's brgest council, added, "There is no evidence of any mis­ safer sex brochures ft claimed were being ^^U"" OI^WS OVCr fied A&ican American Missouri Supreme Court son, saying things like, "I hope you die in prison person claiming unlawful employment discrimi­ either cut off discretionary funding to agen­ with al>out 150,000 youth members and conduct, questionable motivation or doubt judge, Ronnie White, and misled colleagues in like alt the rest of your b|S^c fHends." nation pursuant to the 1993 amendments to distributed in schoob. Ashcroft appointment cies tiiat discriminate, or given donors the 16,500 adutt volunteers — said diat it was about Goins's true self-identity." the Senate in order to sabotage White's nomi­ Lambda has also filed an amicus brief on the Minnesota Human Rights Act. Outright says that its work in schools option of excluding contributions from calling on its national leaders for a "timety Minnesota was the first state to include President George W. Bush's choice for Attor­ nation to a federal district court. Ashcroft aiso beiialf of Calvin Burdine, a gay man v/hose Said Bloomington attomey Joni Thome, v^o consists only of tolerance and anti-harass­ agencies whose policies they disagree with, review" of the "currrent nationally pre­ transgendered people in statewide prohi­ ney General. John Ashcroft. has come In for sponsored seven attempts in six years to or have shifted Boy Scout funding to the lawyer slept through most of his murder trial. represents Ms. Goins, "This case is about a ment education, and assistance vdien re­ scribed membership standards." bition against employment discrimination strong criticism from dvil nghts groups, in­ diange the Constitution, induding a radical BSA*s "Learning for Life" program in the The prosecutor urged the jury to sentence person who consistentty identifies as a woman based on sexual orientation. Over 25 cities^ quested in starting school gay/straight alli­ -Peter Freiburg, Inga Sorenson and ances. The safer sex brochures and "con­ cluding the National Gay and Ljesbian Task 1996 attempt to change die Founding Fathers' public schools, which does not have dis- Burdine to death, catting him a danger to being denied the ability to use the women's including Minneapolis and St. Paul, include Rhonda Smith, The Washitigtott Blade; troversial" materials are available at the Force and the Empire State Pride Agenda, society based on a 1971 conviction for con­ restroom at her work place. This question transgendered people in their anti-discrimi­ GLAAD; Jack Bradigan Spula, City sensual sodomy, and suggesting that since about which restroom a transgendered per­ nation ordinances. > % IT'S UNITED WAY CAMPAIGN TIME—ACT NOW I

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By Susan Jotdan ofthe rules of decorum that govern how legis­ The Empire State Pride Agenda has named lators behave towards each other. 3'"^ Annual Sweetheart Ball & Joseph S. Grabarz,Jr. Deputy Executive Direc­ When I came out, it was front page, banner tor, replacing Tim Sweeney, who had served headline news in every paper and the lead story since 1996. Grabarz took up his post on Dec. 8. on ail four network channds in the state. I A native of Bridgeport, Ct., Grabatz was remember watching the news, and one net­ elected to the Connecticut General Assembly work had sent a live camera and reporter to the Silent Auction in 1987 and 1989, and was that sute's first supermarket down the block from my home, openly gay elected official. During tiiis time he interviewing the people ^»^o came out of the sponsored and sucessfuUy fought for statutes store about me. The first person who came out that banned discrimination based on sexual was an older white man who said. "I don't want orientation in employment, housing, educa­ a represenutivc who isn't a man or a woman." tion and credit (the third in the country); re­ The second was a younger woman with some Joe Graliarz quired collection of hate crime statistics; in­ children who said, "I guess it's OK ifhe doesn't ties fbr thc coming year? creased penalties for hate crimes, and ordered vote on children's issues.'* The third was an in more stable times. Thc Republican Party, JG: We're looking at a number of bills an< a study of teen suicide. dderiy African American woman, who said, thc Conservative Party and tlie Democratic requests for funding. We work with leaders ol "Joe Grabarz? He's gs]^ Well, good for himi" Party as wdl are all looking to hold on and Grabarz was later Executive Direaor for thc prevent losses in particular areas. If thc Re­ the Assembly to get funding for lgbt organiza^ 'i- Connecticut Civil Liberties Union, where his I got hundreds of lettets every week from publican Party in particular is looking to reach tions around the sute and well look to sec th; achievements induded passage of a second people saying Fd made somedung positive out to a broader constituency, one of those is funding increased. WeTl look for more sun parent adoption statute; defeat of same sex happen in their lives, or else thc opposite, that the gay and lesbian community. departments to recognize gays in their re­ marriage bans in both houses ofthe l^slature; I was destroying Westem dvilization.... The The third reason is that this past election quests for sute funding. securing of funding for LGBT health clinics; Nett^ Yttrk Ttmes ran a picture of me kissing my cydc in pan proves that the gay and lesbian This year or the next we hope to pass th< the banning of anri-gay discrimination in pri­ then parmer at the press conference, and ap­ \ \ constituency is more sophisticated now and Dignity for All Students Act, to protect ga] vate clubs, and the passage ofthe country's first parendy it was the first time the Times had run can play the endorsement game in a way tiiey students from harassment in their schools. W< law outbwing police profiling based on sexual a picture of two men kissing.... Back in the 'SOs, haven't in the past. Gays have a stronger rela­ think we might have a chance this year widi ai orientation^ coming out was tiie one ofthe most powerful tionship and history of commitment than pre­ insurance reform biU which would indude things you could do; now we have more access Matt Foreman, executive director ofthe Pride viously. Thcy have proven thdr worth in vol­ domestic parmers in medical leave issues, an< to govemment and there are moie^things you Agenda, said, "Joe has an extraordinary 15-ycar unteering for campaigns, writing checks, etc. hopefully would address some bereavemeni can do. history of acomplishment as an dected official, That all adds up in time, and now may have issues, like medical dedsion maidng and con­ a munidpal administrator, a lobbyist and a 1 recdved death threats fiudy r^ulariy. Af­ reached die critical mass to move the bill more trol of the body. Probably more frequenti] defender of civil rights. No one in thc entire ter one ofthe more serious ones. l>ecause I was dian in the past. than we realize, the parmcr^s fimily takes con­ country can match iiis legislative record on an dected officiai the FBI got involved, and I Fourtii, political opinion has changed dra­ trol of the body andthe parmer doesn't get t< behalf of equal rights for lesbians and gay men. was protected around die dock by sute police. Bring your sweetheart or meet a sweetheart matically. New Yorkers and Americans in gen­ make decisions or even get thdr partner*! He is the ideal person to lead the fight to fmally My house was spray-painted, my car head­ eral overwhclmingjy support gay and lesbian ashes if they are cremated. We'd like to >vin a non-discrimination law in New York lights smashed, my tires slashed, and thc Blue civil rights as an issue of fairness. That hasn't to broach the discussion of gay and lesbii Sute." Berets, a group devoted to wiiat thcy believe n f*fj -•••< f"'':' alu^ys been thc case. rdationship issues. the Virgin Mary wishes, read the rosary in a Foreman added that ESPA is "deeply in­ EC: How will passage of SONDA effect What we hope doesn't come up is debted" to Tim Sweeney "for his extraordinary drde outside my office windows. Reiigious SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 10, 2001 thc lives ofthe average gay tnan or leabian? "DOMA" for New York. We've been elicvc wiU be nized. wide campaigns. thc Iccy factors in overcoming thc Repub­ way equal to what thcy experienced, but they EC: What ate ackmc ofyour other priori-. felt my being openly gay gave them a connec­ lican opposition wiiich has biodced any tion that was positive. form ofgay rig^u legislation for the past 30 Ticket Information Other Tasty Tidbits In addition, in thc Connecticut legislature, years? although it is a littie smaller than New York's, JG: I think there ace a number of key factors. Dinner/Dance Tickets * legislators don't get to know each other very The first is that l^sktors last year enacted ^ Ail Proceeds benefit the t. well personally. My l>eing out gave my col­ hace crimes legisbtion, and in almost every $55 per person fbr non-GAGV members (available at ticket locations) Gay Aiiiance of the Genesee Vaiiey. leagues, whether they agreed with me politi­ sute that has passed a rights sutute. hate $45 per person fbr GAGV members (avaiiabie at the GAGV) cally or not, a sense of protectivencss about me, crimes immediately preceded it. L^sbtors Anonymous HIV Testing ir Black Tie attire is not required. have overcome their rductance to vote for and a sense of knowing me. It gave me an Now avaUable at ttte Cupid Level Tickets (Dinner/Dance/Love Note) * opportunity to use that to the benefit of my sometiiing with "sexual orienution," and the $90 per coupie fbr non-GAGV members (avaiiabie at the GAGV) ir DJ wili be playing your favorite constituents. world hasn't fallen apart. They find thcit con­ Gay Aiiiance of the Genesee Vaiiey dance tunes from the 1960's stituents are more interested in the environ­ $80 per couple fbr GAGV members (avaiiabie at the GAGV) Another thing tremendously helpful to the 179 Atlantic Ave through the 1990's. gay community was that because the sute gay ment, the economy and so on, and support for * A selection of vegetarian & non-vegetarian dinners avaiiabie community wasn't that well organized, other gay righu will not prevent them from being re- WHEN: February 21, March 21, ApHI 18 ^ A photographer will be available to politicians looked to me as a way of connecting dected.... 12PM-4PM Dance Only tiatels to thc gay community. That gave me sometiiing Thc second factor is that tlic political atmo­ OptkMi ot 9itlw ona or blood fating $12 per person in advance capture your special evening to bargain with. One legisbtor had stood up sphere in New York rebting to thc balance in pictures. evcrv- year for 15 years to say he didn't know any between major political parties is morc volatile Call for an appointmant or Infonnation: $15 per person at the door gay people. Because I was in the Chamber, he now than it has been. It's been my experience HotUiM: 1.800.M2.9063 TDD: 716.423.8120 could no longer say that. It changed the entire that a politicaUy volatile atmosphese ccsutu in tone ofthe debate on the gay rights bill, because legislation diat doesn't necessarily get passed .•-'-. t;- • v-it'Mi .'.••T(rt7.TWtr^i**!^*j*'VA'^ «(".••»•**'••«• r',--^ • •. ^^j.J.UH't. '• .-U.' aJftfclgtfV: .^Wr^tUK. 'iiA td>'^tA^\ii.i.>ff:>'^\K- •.lIMIl.MilH li,-l«

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/4U EAST AVE • /^ 3 / ' 4 b M H w w w I i t t I e t h e a t r <» c I) m lifMRlit * * _,PINION From painter-tumed-filmtnalter Sunday, febuan 1 f Julimn Schnabsl, f."' mm. the stoey oi Imtm gay Cubem^poot • •--''.• Homophobia limits quality of life and novalimi Roinaldo Anmoa... M/'ss Kachel presents for glbt elders •*, ^'V^ "MisN € ly By Elizabeth Toledo and Scan Cahill in the taxation of pensions and 401 (k) plans. A nursing assistant who enters a room witiiout This costs GLBT seniors hundreds of millions knocking sees two elderiy male residents en­ of dollars each year in lost benefits that hetero­ ilpstgiite: Ne:vv >t;ri< Mil gaging in oral sex. The two are separated imme­ sexuals uke for granted, like Sociai Security IMlXSi diately after the assistant notifies her supervi­ survivor benefits, spousal benefits, and the sor. Within a day, one man is transferred to a pension income ofa deceased parmer. This is psychiatric ward and placed in four-point re­ particularly unfair since, without legal recogni­ simis straints. A conimunity health board, holds that tion of same-sex marriage, GLBT workers pay the transfer was a warranted response to "devi­ higher income taxes, on average, than straight ant behavior." people. This episode, reported in a 1995 article in *GLBT seniors may have particular :-;:'y,.-y.yy::l;~-K: Contemporary Long Term Care, would not caregiving needs, as they may be less likely to surprise anyone familiar with the experiences have children than heterosexual seniors, and of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender may be estranged from their l&milies of origin. 'V .^ (GLBT) elders. In a society that desexualizes Some surveys indicate that gay and lesbian older people in general, the compjounding in­ elders are more likely to live alone than hetero­ *» fluence ofHomophobia fbsters a hostile envi­ sexual elders. ronment for GLBT seniors. *Even such basic rights as hospital visiu- Homophobia and neglect appear widespread don, or the choice to reside and die in the same in nursing homes. In a recent survey of nursing nursing home as one's parmer, are denied to 'Entoy 'Befom Night Fmlle' as a gnat movm, and am a home social workers, more than half said their same-sex couples. caMtrmtton of ona man'a apMtual and artisdc fortttuda" coworkers were intolerant or condemning of *GLBT elders face particular health risks, Pauf Tatar, CMItf homosexuality among residents, while most and may be less likely to have insurance. Dis­ other respondents avoided answering the ques­ ease prevention strategies often ignore older "A apatttOading traatmant that contirmm painter Julian tion. Other studies repon that the staff in one gay and lesbian people, and HIV/AIDS drug Schnabal aa a director of tha firat rank" nursing home refused to bathe a resident be­ trials don't include older participants. Jan Stuart NEWSDAY cause they did not want to touch "the lesbian," •Homophobic and heterosexist services and and a home care assisUnt threatened to "out" policies are ofi:en exacerbated by the ageism "AbaolutalY ona of tha beat filmm of tha year." a gay client if he reported her negligent care. and social isolation that elders often face within Oava WhMa, IFUM ^ GLBT seniors also experience homophobia the GLBT community itself. GLBT media in senior services and health care. Forty-six and activists often ignore old pieople and their "Bardam'a parformanca im aimply mhattaring." percent of Neu' York sute's Area Agencies on concerns, and social institutions tend to be Kan Fox, TV GUUX ^ Aging (AAA) - the regional entities that dis­ age-segregated. Ageism permeates our lan­ tribute federal fimds for senior services - re­ guage, as in the characterization of older hang­ port that openly gay and lesbian seniors would outs as "wrinkle rooms." not be welcome at senior centers in their areas, "Most of the gay and lesbian organizations according to a 1994 study. Only 19 percent of go about their plans, totally insensitive, and '^•^ the lesbian and gay seniors interviewed had without thinking (they) exclude us," says 77- any involvement with their local senior center. year-old Vera Martin, a founding leader of Old A 1994 survey of physicians and medical stu­ Lesbians Organizing for Change. "We have a dents found that half reported witnessing col­ lot to share. Our life experiences can be a map leagues provide reduced care or deny care to for those coming behind us." TIL patients because of their sexual orienution, Activists like Martin have created several and 88 f>crcent reported hearing colleagues gay-specific service organizations for GLBT make disparaging remarks about gay and les­ elders. Senior Action in a Gay Envirorunent, bian patients. Pride Senior Network, Gay Sc Lesbian Out­ ^-r ^ASi^^- Ricky Martin GLBT baby boomers — "out" for most of reach to Elders, and others provide services to TIL GLBT elders and have pushed groups like ^->^S;"T T*tl- \\?- 3am3^ntha Mumba their lives — are increasingly unwilling to re­ "W^ treat to thc closet when they encounter ho­ NGLTF to do meaningfiil work on aging v^7 ^ J'JS^/^V<.' Krletint^ W ^ population, currendy estimated at one to three To support these efforts, the GLBT com­ r/L IO LYNCHBURG L.: rADBS $3 million people, will increase to a projected $4- munity must examine its own ageism, value its rVi??l7r'S'i?-N."T V\*^\\ ^N- Destiny^e' Child >* 6 million by 2030. However, the population is older members, and recognize their unique severely understudied, and we can only esti­ concerns. GLBT activists must address aging mate the population's size because most re­ issues, and also demand that the needs of >>Nitf V\?T- \V-- Oet^elah Morgan search does not ask about sexual orienution or GLBT seniors be incorporated into the work ^'SAXAJO BAR RBVUM'' gender identity. of mainstream aging organizations. These findings are included in a ground­ Engaging aging policy is not just the right UP • 3$5 * $2 COOR*S LITE breaking study released last month by the Policy thing to do. It's aiso in our self-interest. After Institute of the National Gay and Lesbian all, with luck well all be old and gray someday. « Task Force, titied "Outing Age: Public Policy Eli^betb Toledo is tbe exeattive director of the **WirH DJHECTOR Issues Affecting Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Natiotial Gay and Lesbiatt Task Fone attd Sean lOP • $2 CORONA'S, $2 TEQUILA Transgender Elders." CMll is the research director at the NCL TF Policy

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VC^th the help of those groups are less deservir^** she said munity would be tokl v4ien the board had more than foundation. I told her and without asking to see my pass working late thc night before. And there was a tency between your opposition to homophobic with the intervention of the local police. psychotherapy, Mark took responsibility for readied a decision. She added ttiat con­ she said I was faking it and to go to her office. Shenker noted that tfie increase in insur­ My whole life kids have made fun o f me, so lecture to be heard ifyou had gone out partying pre^dicc and your position as Honorary Presi­ At their first interview, Mark proceeded his own actions. Much ofhis aggression was cerned indivkluals might have another op­ Since I really needed to go to the nurse 1 ance costs wouM probably be one percenc 1 thought 1 was used to it When some ofmy too late. dent of one ofdie most expliddy homophobic to tell Sam (and the therapist) that he did not linked to physical and emotional abuse in his portunity to address the board. didn't go with her. She grabbed me by my arm "The rebtivety small cost will reap ma|or teachers started saying inappropriate things, Mom would always make you get up any­ groups in our country, and to resign the post "batter" Sam. The problem was that Sam is life. (which got bruised from it), and because 1 was rewards*** sfie said. By adding sexual orienta­ 1 became uncomfortable. I decided, though, way. While you were half-asleep (and if you Picase do not let ooe ofyour last opportunities simply a wimp. Mark adamandy postured Martin Kantor, a psychiatrist who has writ­ so frustrated I swore at her. She called secu­ don the district would become a model of Sweetheart deal I was not going to stop wearing makeup and were young enough) mom would wash you up, as President to strike a blow against prejudice go that he was merely demonstrating his mas­ ten a book on the development of homopho­ rity and I was dragged to the counselor's Inclusivfty, while at tfie same dme teaching bc someone I'm not, just to make life in one and you thought she was going to scrub your unfulfilled, culinity, and that Sam did not know what it bia and gay bashing, believes that internal­ students about tolerance. w^ay easier. office where I fell apart. Once I was a litde was to be a "man". Sam was told, "You face right offl Then she would make you dress Sincerdy, ized homophobia plays a large part in the Cara CaivelH, motfier of two, one of wfiom A couple of weeks into the school year, my calmer the nurse came and dhecked my blood better get use to it. It's what happens in the in your best clothes. You know the ones. They Tatnmy Baldwin conflicts in male-male intimate relationships. is a first grader in a district school, asked tfiat school counselor told me there was another sugar (I'm diabedc). Thc results were 200 gay worid." were the ones you could not go out and play in. Bamey Frank Homophobia in gay men is self-hatred. When gay student that wanted to start an after- points higher than normal, which explained the board consider changing the policy. She After all that, you would all pile into the ArtFdttnan The couple's dialogue in this initial ses­ that self-hatred is not consdous or under­ noted, as an example of tfie benefits of school support group. She asked if 1 was why I didn't feel well and proved I wasn't stood by the man, it will be projected or family car and go to this beautiful place where Dave Kaplan sion is fairiy typical of abusive relationships. inclusion, that she formerly could not get interested and, ofcourse, I said yes. Because faking it. I was suspended for five days for displaced onto others. you had to leam. It was as if you were back in Richard Gordon Domestic violence in gay male rdationships coverage under her partner's health insur­ this is a suburban high school and everyone that. evolves primarily from the men's issues school but thc weekend had not yet ended. Jeff Prang Unfortunately, many men find themselves ance policy at the Umversity of Rocfiester. is not out of the doset (at least at school), My mother had to have another meedng, around power and control. It is an attempt This place, ofcourse, was Sunday school, and Larty Foncster locked into an episodic cyde of abuse with Now that the University fias changed its there were just thc two of us in the su|^>ort and the school advised her they didn't think I by one parmer to use ill^timate power and leamitig was fim and exdting. Cathy Wocribttd their parmer. The abuse is sddom an every­ policy, Cah^dli said, **Our whole famity is group. My Mom and I had a niecting with the was a good fit in their school. They said I coercion over the other. It can include physi­ I went to church every Sunday and enjoyed BiUUnien day occurrence. It may emerge once or twice covered, and it's a good feeling." principal and discussed announcing the group would bc tutored and papers wouid be sent to cal and sexual abuse, isolation, psychologi­ it! It was fun learning about the Bible. Oh, the Christine Kehoe per year. Violence does not have to indude The next speaker was ICate Sussman, fac­ to the whole school like thc other school agencies who would review my case and have cal and emotional abuse, direats and intimi­ learning that was to bc had, and the best pan Ed Murray physical violence Victims often find diem­ ulty advisor to Students for a Tolerant Com­ gn>ups and clubs are, and he refused. My me go there for schooling. My mother was dation, economic atmse and property de­ sdves saying to themselves, "I must have, in was, you did not even know you were learning. Mike Pisatoru munity. *'Many of our students and staff feel Mom argued with him until he agreed to put enraged! She told thetn they should all be struction. some way or another, been the cause of thc I continued to go to church every Sunday Mike Nelson unsafe,** she said. "My students with two up flyers, but he never did. About a month ashamed of themselves as I was not the only even as I grew up. I even spent three years at a Anniae D. Packer Island and Letellier detail thc scope of vioicnce."Theabusif^ partner supports these moms... or two dads... don't feel safe. Gay later the group was ended. gay kid in school. She also said it would be local Christian college. I was very active in my Steve Martin abuse in mak couples in didr book. Men bdiefi, and often feds that die victim is the One of the valuable antiques which will be I was picked on by the other kids in thc impossible for anyone to concentrate when and lesbian students who hear 25 anti-gay church and my faith. I had even started a Dan Baker Wbo Beat Ote Mett VPl)o Lotfe Tbem. The au­ reason for die abusing partner's unhappi­ slurs a day don't feel safe. Gay staff who want included in the silent auction at the GAGVs schooi. My counseior said anytime someone they are constandy harassed. This meeting thors illustrate the abuse differences be­ musical Bible study group at college. Then one Bruce P. WilUams ness. Sweetheart Ball on Feb. 10. See you there! said anything to me to go straight to the was on Nov. 29. They said I would hear from tween male-female couples and male to display pictures of their partners don't feel day I found conflict in my heart. I had realized Evelyn MantiUa Most men want to deny or to minimize the Glick continued from p* I principal. Every time I went to the principal, the transp>ortation department by that Friday. couples. Male coi^les are more Iikdy to use safe. We want a healthier climate where I was "Gay"! And thus die batde started. As in Allan Spear abuse. Men seen in psychotherapy will ini­ he didn't do anything. One time a student My Mom had to call them again and again homophobia as a weapon of partner con­ issues can be discussed openly.** "We salute Speaker Sih^er for recognizing all batdes something must give and indeed Jetemy D. AndKMiy tially say, "It's not that bad," "He goes off made a comment in front of a teacher and until, five weeics later, I finally went to the trol. Some of these unique issues are: Sussman read from the Brighton mission Assemblymember Glide's skills and appoint­ something gave in this one also. I walked away GregPettia every once in a while. It's scary, but it's over even then nothing was done. tutoring center. statement, vision statement and and-discrimi­ ing her to this important leadership posi­ fix>m my church. I could not be both a Chris­ Thomaa Duane * Threatening to "out" the victim to in a day or two." Others say, "I shoukln't Another incident involved a fellow stu­ This whole thing has really hurt me. I miss nation polky, and said, "There is one remain­ tion," Foreman continued. "Among many tian and gay. I can't just stop being gay. So I Scott Dibble friends, fiunily, employer, or church. have bothered him," or "He screams and dent telling me that someone in our class was being in school, yet 1 am afraid when I am throws diir^^ but I know he doesn't mean ing vulnerable minority. It's time to expand other distinctions, Ms. Glide was the first must leave school and my religion, ending that TimMaitks * Convincing the victim tliat due to per­ lesbian elected to the State Assembly, and is gay. I said he was cute and immediately was there. I had gum thrown at me and was it." the policy. It's the right thing to do.** part of my Ufe. I spent the next few years in Philip Reed vasive sodetal homophobia, the criminal Rebecca Rosenfeld, a student who is a a leading spokesperson for our statewide sent to the vice principal's office fbr sexual mocked and threatened all the time. justice system will not be sympathetic to conflict over all this, then it simply was pushed Margo Fraaier Violence tears at the heart of any intimate member of Students for a Tolerant Commu­ community. This appointment is another harassment. My Mom waStaltedatwicniltand ' Until I started tutoring, I slept all day and complaints ofgay parmer violence. to the back of my mind and forgotten. Jadde Biakupald relationship. For a couple to sustain inti­ reaffirmation of the Assembly majority's they told her thcy would involve thH police if watched TV all night. This has really de­ nity, said that she had gone on the school TV Several years went by. I bciicve it was 10 or Peter Schott * Portraying the victim as being less dian macy, there must be a sense of safety and support for the gay and lesbian community." it continued. My Mom asked them how often pressed me. I wonder ifl will ever feel com­ a man and maintaining that rape is not an trust. For intimacy to grow, there must bc channel and asked for support and letters so before my past started to catch up to me. Kevin Downing this happens with heterosexual students. Thc fortable in this worid. Why can't people im- offense in a gay rdationship. mutuality. Mutuality can not exist in an envi­ from students. She then presented the let­ -Empire State fVide Agenda Suddenly I felt like a big part of mc was miss­ vice principal said very often, but my Mom derscand I did not choose to bc gay? Al­ State/local news ccmtinued from p. 3 ronment of manipulation and hostility. It ters to the board. ing. But wait, this can't be happening. Remem­ * Trying to convince the victim that hc is didn't believe it would be treated the same though I'm proud ofwhom I am, who would takes time, effort and support for an indi­ Ed Klorman, a Brighton graduate wfio is a AIDS Day report ber, I'm gay. I can't have God too! What to do, less than a man and deserving of die abuse. way. ask for this treatment? 39 gay groups to get vidual or a couple to come to a point of co-founder of Students for a Tolerant Com­ what to do? I can't go back to thc church I grew In the case of Mark and Sam, Sam needed card for N.Y.S. In November, my father was in thc hospi­ In closing, if you are ever at a sporting understanding the myths that support the munity, said that he was impressed by the up in and loved, they wouid not accept me state funding for 2001 to overcome his own victimization. Sam support for the group which he found among Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund tal having brain surgery for a tumor. The day event at Olympia and hear diis cheer, it's mc began to realize that these were not just violence, and stopping the violence. now. But where do I go? Thirty-nkie igbt groups throughout New York the Brighton administration and community. has published its annual WoHd AIDS Day of his surgery, I was worried and 1 had my thcy are talking about: I dedded I had to find a way to let God back State will receive a total of $2.5 million In "We need to protect staff and faculty too," Report Card, which includes several indi­ head down on my desk in dass and was "Olympia Olympia what's your pride? Church, said he is best remembered for his in. I went to the local Metropolitan Commu­ funding from the State in the comkig year, for Rev. Jim Rice, co- he said. He added that he knows from expe­ viduab from New York State. crying. My ceacher forcefully lifted my head S.A.M is G.A.Y1" commitment to justice and his alxlity to work nity Church. I met some great people there and non-HIV health and human services. The Gay rience the sense of confinement felt by dos­ In the area of Prevention, Edward Egan, with peopfe of varying l»ckgrounds, espe­ and prospective lgbt parents, such as infor­ Pride Agenda. realized that I was feeling comfortable. I started Alliance of the Genesee Valley and MOCHA founder of GRAIN, eted gay teachers, since he himself was a Archblsfiop of New York, receives an F for daliy international studenu and refugees. mation on foster parenting, adopdon tlirough No one spoke against the bHI during testi­ to think maybe I could be gay and have God (Men of Color Health Awarenesss) Project Scoutmaster who had to keep silent about his recommendation tfiat N.Y. school stu­ dies at age 73 She said. "He vios so good with people, the Department of Social Services, interna­ mony preceding die Dec 12 vote, unlike in too. Due to my work schedule I could only are two area organizations which have re- his orientation. When asked by a Scout how dents "try decency, try diastity, try Westem peopfe of all cultures and reUgfons." tional adopdon. second parent adopcfon, Westchester County, where a similar suc­ attend the Sunday evening service, which was ceh^ funding. By Mefora Miller to define **&mily", Klorman said, he was at a Civilhaition, or wait for AIDS to put an end donor insemination, surrogacy, infertfiity in cessful effbrt ki 1999 was opposed bItteHy by very different from what I grew up in. It was a The Gay Alliance witl again receive $95,000. tt was his towering presence and his power- loss: "ts a funUy with two fuhers or two to us all.** Brighton supervisor lesbcartt who ¥^ish to conceive, and more. conservadves led by the Ardidiocese of song and praise service. With my work sched­ which Is targeted for the TASS (Teen Advo­ fot spirit which made the Reverend James motfiers a femnUy?*' Lambda comments, 'V^tth controversial Formore infermadon, contact Claudia E New York, ki Nassau County, by contrast, ule I worked every other Sunday and would cacy and Support Servtees) Program and the Rice stand out as a dedicated leadcM- and He concluded, "Teachers can*t perform to ties to the relfgkMJs right, the new leader of asks partner benefits StaHman, Profect Director, at the Ferre kisti­ the dfocese of RockviUe Center dkl not arrive late. Thc Sundays I was off I found it GAGVs youdi services. The MOCHA (Men activist in the Rochester community. full abHity unless they are free to be diem- New York's 14 miltkxi Roman Catholkrs Brighton Supervisor Sandra Frankel has pro­ tute kic 124 Front S^ Binghamton NY become invoh^. difficult to get there, because I was living at of Cofor Health Awareness) Project has been Jim's kiterests led him in many directions, selves.** may be a bigger barrier tfian his predecessor posed that the town extend benefiu to 13905; (607)724-4308; -Empire State Pride Agenda home taking care of my terminally ill father. I awarded $41.660. The grants will be adminis­ and he was often seen at Native American David Okkio. a Brighton resident and to HIV prevention efforts — even as tfie lesbian and giy partners of town empk>yees. LesGayFaniBk|f@aoLcom; www.ferre.org. was not in a place where I wanted to tell my tered by the N.Y.S. [department of Health. festivals and evenu, or in tfie quiet of the teacfier, sakl, "We value and respect our city's poorest AIDS padents condnue to Gay man attacked The policy woukl ft>e based on the city of parents that I was going to a gay church. They The fonding comes fi-om an appropriation Local History Department at the Rochester youngsters and support tfie notkwi tliat all flock to his fiospitals." Nassau Co. passes Rochester's Domestic Partner law, adopted would not be accepting of this. So after a few from Sute Assembly Speaker Sheklon Sih^er Public Library. kids shoukJ grow up to be capable adults, In the same area. N.Y.S. legislators Dick and robbed Jan. 15 kl 1994. anti-discrimination short months I stopped going to church. (D-Manhattan) and the Assembly Majority For 35 years Jim dkl outreach work with happy to be who tfiey are. It seems so right Gottfried and James Lack get an A for spon­ By Suaan Jordan Tlie policy would also cover unmarried It would bc another five years or so before I Conference. The Empire Sute Pride Founda­ the Presi>ycery of the Genesee Valley. He to take steps to protect lesbian and giy soring "iegisbdon that made the state the A Rochester man was attacked and robl>ed in heterosexual couples. law including gays would step back inside the Metropolitan Com­ tion, the nonpartisan researdi, educadon and moved here as a pastor kl t965tohelpl>ring students, staff and families.** eighth in tfie country to deregulate the sale the VFW paridng lot at 54 Su Union Sc, next Frankd has said that she wiH present the On Dec IZ tfie f^lassau County h^siature munity Church. A few years after my father advocacy arm ofthe Pride Agenda, in conjunc­ tfie community togedier after Rochester's Okino said that if correcdy implemented, ami possession of syringes." Lamixla calls door to Muther's, In die early hours of ^. proposed legislation to the Town Board Hi pessed a blH outlawing discrimination based passed, I knew I had to find a way to fill thc tion with the New York State Lesbian. Gay, race riou. He supported FIGHT Ui iu everyone woukJ benefit from specific and- Gottfried and Lack ''true heroes in the fight 15. the next few months. She said that she is on sexual orientadon ki employment, hous­ void. It was not until my parmer and i were Bisexual and Transgender Health and Human suuggkts toward social equality by helping discriminatkMi policies. He asked, ''Do we agakist AIDS." The vicdm sakl thata man in a car puied in confident that sfie has the support of the kig and pubUc accomodations. The 1>III passed together for a couple of years that that void Servkes Network, led efforts to estaiblish the to form Friends of FIGHT. He helped neigh- want to leave it to cfiance tfiat people aren't In the area of discrimination, dvil rights behkid hkn and Mocked Mm d^ he had community. with the suport of all nkie Republicans and all would be filled. We both had been brought up historic fiindkig, which began ki 1998. l>orhood associations such as Edgerton, discriminated against on the basis of sexual and the law, journalist Mark Sdioofc got an gotten into his car, at about 12:30 am. The It is not known how many of Brighton's 10 Democrats in the leglsiature. in thc church and we both had something A report released ki January bythe Pride 19th ward. Maplewood and South East get orientatk>n? We're talking about proOiCtkMi A for his Puiitzer-pHze-winning series on assailant opened the vk;dm's au- door and 145 fuiltime and 96 part time employees wHI Nassau, the second favgest f^ew York missing in us. Together we started trying on Agenda sutes that New York Sute is buikik^ scarted He worked on Central American against unfair treatment by people wfio don*t "AIDS: die Agony of Afrka" for the VMige puHed hkn ouc Tliey atryggM* md the vic­ seek to take advantage of the new law. coun^ outside New York Qty, is now the churches. Some of them had the belief that you a successful partnership with state lesbian and Issues and was master of ceremonies in the understand tfiose wfio are differenc" Voke. tim sustakiedamlnorpuncttfl^ wound tt» the Brighton afready has an Equal Empfoyment fifth jurisdktion kl tfie stace to oifhr bask dvU could believe whar you wanted. In others there gay sodal services organizations. New York Peace Condr^ent of the Mennorial Day The final speaker was Jason Fensler, a -Lambda L«^ Defense and Education Fund leg. The anadcer cocric the vkakn'a vvaMec and Opportunity polky banning discrimkiation rights protections to lesbians and py men. was no one our age to connect with. So we Stole end tfie Letbiaa Goy. BiMamef end hrada for sewarai years. Brighton High freshman and member of Stu­ fled agikist gay people. Sandra Frankel has said The bM also adds protections based on age Hie ^vkdm^vvmt Jnto MudMr% ^Miera a decided to gh'c MCC a try. Here wc found a f fonigenocfvff uimmuni^ rrafees of e i ui uiei- kidie I900s,jkn helped form the Greatar dents for a Tolerant Communiiy. fHe sakl, "I Family Conference that the extension of i>enefiu to same sex and dtabiliqr to the secdons of the bw which church made up of all age groups. Here we sf^p documenu the history of the State fund* Rochester AIDS Interfaith Network have friends wlio are homosexual, and whtfe femilies Is an natural extension of the current in Ithaca March 31 dkf not previousiy kidude them connect with people like oursdves. Here were to)g Initiadve. which has resulted Inyanu of (GRAIN), to offer spkitual support and tfiey seem to be strong people, I fear what made an ATM Mdidraw»al, but dM not policy. A Lesbian and G^ Iwiiiy Buiklir^ Confer­ 'We are 0iRiAed that the Nassau lig^ people who wete gay and letting God in. over $5.5 milHon to aHeviate and-gay discrimi­ comfort to peopfe with HIV/AIDS. He was will happen to diem, t have had to lie to* the afsaHant in the area at the dme. -Matt Leir^png, Oemocrat & Chronide ence is scheduled for March 31 in Ithaca. ture has recognizfd chatty men and leshbins Open Arms Metropoliun Community nadon kl heahh and sociai services. also a dedicated vokmtaer at AIDS Roches­ protect them frxxn being Harassed or hurc The offlcar on the scene found che brohen Tne daylong cotwtmttcs^ ww faacure a deserve the same protecdons against dls- Church is a small chufch and you get to know For a copy of the report, contact Sheila ter, accordk^ to Michael Beatty of ARI. 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•!•••—• •_„ •;_ -Jl- -y^-J iweniwii J*: ^ M e E » 3' iS v^ T » ft ^« If. iH^^^y.fe-#:^^-^^ P3' I Laramie continuad from p. Bl Book review; sexuaUy by two or more women—comes to more dynamic movements and suggestive narra­ aUy an asset, since it requires thc viewer to has been influenced by German experimental tnind.) tives. It is interesting, for example, to chart the "read" these images within thc context oi theatrical director Erwin Piscator, wlv> con­ Out on Video: different factk>ns of the gay community have ironic, naive-soundii^manner, just as inman^ 20th century artists; Two of Taschen's recent offerings dem­ progress of George Platt Lynes, whose eariy other images in the book. Thinking histori­ ceived of theater as a "living document" sotne sort of representation (save for lesbians 1960s cartoon themes. The theme actuaUy onstrate the pubUsher's versatiUty and com­ idealized images of boys bathing in water trans­ caUy is essential here. Kaufman told interviewer Sandra F. Si^el Meet Queer Duck^ —I hope Icebox gets a lesbian-based series on has a strong resemblance to that of Ttf Cat» the male nude mitment to difference. A remarkable buy for forms into psychologicaUy-shaded portraits of Kari Vixkithet^% Art ofthe 20tb Centutyls also that his work draws from Piscator's concept of Openly Gator & soon). Tdevision seems so squeamish that the Pretty appropriate, since Queer Duck is as By Tony Leuazi its price, David Leddick's Tbe Mak Nude is a men (alone or interacting with each other) in a remarkable buy for the price. Spanning the "thc Uvingnewspaper."Just as GrossImiefmifyis mere presence ofa leather fetishist as a regular much a wis^l^uy as the Hanna Barbers fdtne. Leddick, David, m Mak Nude. New York: near-800 page tome charting the history of domestic interiors. What's more. The Mak Nude previous decade and its enormously varied based on the transcripts of Wilde's trials, every their friends online on this series seetns damn near like a revda-- Be^^nnix^ this mond), MUte Retss and Xedi Taschen, 1999. $29.99 (paper) the male nude in photography, beginning aUows the reader to study the fetishes of various artists — from Rothko to Grandma Moses — word of Laramie Profect comes from the inter­ ByLewOjeda don. That also goes for having a queer who Feinbefg wiU be presenting more episodes. Ruhrberg, Karl, et al. Art ofthe 20th Century. with underground images from the mid-19th rime periods: many ofthe photographs from the - this book intends to give the erudite a views with Laramie residents, the transcripts Queer Ehtdi (wwwacebox.com). Writer Mike enjoys a good drink. It's great news for aU us fans who've been New York: Taschen: 2000. 29.99 (paper). century and ending with highly commercial­ 40s and SOs show men dotming cowboy hats. panoramic view of contemporary art. Queer of the trials of Shepard's IdUers, Aaron Reiss; director/animator. Xeth Feinberg; It's the sense of fearlessness that is the anxiously awaiting new ones. If you haven't Most connoisseurs of visual art are famiUar ized photographs from the Bruce Wel>ers of Sitnilady, construction workers appear in the late artists are not overlooked here, including, McKinney and RusseU Henderson, and other voices:JmJ. BuUock, BiUy West, Kevin Michad strongest asset of Queer Duck, Reiss and checked this out, you're missing agreat ku^h with Taschen, a contemporary pubUshing com­ today. 70s images. among a host of others, those associated with documents. Richardson; theme by RuPaul Charies. Feinbetg have taken Icebox's tenet of aUow­ riot, but you wiU need a relativdy fast com­ pany responsible for some ofthe most impres­ Each of Tbe Mak Nude's six chapters seg­ Perhaps most interesting, however, is the over­ Warhol's Pop Art Movement WhUe the "Everything in the play is out of people's The funniest gay entettainment of 2000 ing an uncensored voice to creative artists and puter to best enjoy it By the way, both these sive an reproductions in book form today. ments a semi-flxed stage in the historical aU move photographers have taken towards pho­ sexuaUty ofthe artist is not always addressed, mouths," says Shipping Dock Theater founder was not on the big screen or the smaU screen. have added genuine charm and savage wit A guys dso have another great toon on the site Taschen's catalog extends, however, far be­ development of the art form and thc culture tographing the part instead of the whole. In the such marters are not always relevant in this and artistic director Barbara Biddy. "It's aU It was actuaUy on your stttmlkst screen — the great example is the episode "Oh, Christ!" in caUed Hard Drinkitt' UmoltL, the misadven­ yond "best-of imprints for famed names in from which it has emerged. Thc eariy chap­ earUer portions of TheMakNude^ men are almost book's context. tures of the great president who couldn't ters reveal images that bear a strong affinity real. I don't like to caU it a play." computer one, that is. No comedy had more which Queer Duck gets Iddnapped by a the canon of Westem Art. invariably photographed in their entirety. In later Art ofthe 20th Century is essentiaUy an aca­ control his drinking or his temper. (Calm Kau^an's work is in the tradidon of both satirical bite than a great Utde animated series "fonner gay" church acting in coUusion with Those interested in the historical develop­ with classical subjects and forms. Many of sections, body parts can be either featured over a demic book concerned with the historical down, it's only a cartoon.) the Greek playwrights and Gennan dramatist caUed ^^er Duck. This cartoon, part of a the Ducitstein parents. An upcoming choral ment of homoerotic images can find a number the models (some vasdy different than today's "whole" image or a photographer can crop his development of artistic ideas and representa­ Bertholt Brecht, Biddy says. coUection of works on a website caUed Ice­ concert by the church is tumed x^ide down An ImageOut movie note: last year's festi­ of interesting tides in their backUst (In 1997, standard s of "hot") don chitons or togas; subject into parts: a muscled back, a bent Imee, a tions. It docs not serve as a poUtical outing for In Greek drama, the murder takes place box, makes Wili e^ Grace whimper by com­ by our rebeUious frietid. val presented as one of its features the film for example, Taschen released a stunning three- others wear laurds. Almost aU of them are man's arms straining towards the sun. Whether queer persons, even when such artists are offstage and the outcome is known from the parison. There are even more direct tatgets: the epi­ Beau Trasfoilf an examination of repressed volume reprint of Physique Pictorial, which positioned in ciassicai poses that hint at sculp­ this selective process aUows the viewer to study discussed. In fact, despite the vast differences tural effects. In the early sections, major beginning, she says, but the play gives the i^teer Duck foUows the adventures of our sode "Queer Doc" sUces and dices Dr. You- sexuaUty among the French Foreign Legion. charted not only the unusual history of that certain aspects ofa nude more carefuUy in isola­ in the style, presentation, and scope of these names such as Wilhelm von Gloeden and conimunity an opportunity for self-examina­ rainbow-shirted feathered fnend as he deals Icnow-who, fighting back and giving that idiot Despite the lukewarm audience reception, pubUcation but the shifting trends in erotic tion or "reduces" the subject to objectification two tides, Taschen's foremost concem for GugUelmo Pluschow are given vast repre­ tion. And in thc Brechtian model, the conven­ with Ufe as part ofthe Duckstein family. His a black eye. And just wait untU you find out the movie recently won Best FUm in the tastes over four decades in 20th-century depends on the photograph and the viewer's the visual artifact prevaUs. Rather than pander sentation, alongside less-knovwi names — tions of theater are expK>sed so that audience parents hate the idea of his beix^ queer, but how she gets that. Villa^ Voice'^AtC), Critics PoU. It had great America. The pubUshers are also responsible interpretation. Whatever the case, Leddick does to a glutted market of "gay" coffee-table books, even anonymous photographers. meml>ers can't simply relax, distance them­ he finds some solace with his pals: his main Jm J. BuUock is perfecdy cast as Queer cinematography, but I felt a lot of the Blm for some ofthe morc subversive titles in erotic not artempt to judge or moraUze these images. pickup Ihe Mak Nude ot Art ofthe 20th Century. selves, and watch a story unfolding. squeeze Openly Gator (an alligator, of course), Duck. His flamlx>yant voice captures the right was pretty empty. I guess it was aU those hot imagery. Eric Stanton's For the Man Who Knows As the chapters progress, men are photo­ Instead, each image is accompanied by a bare You're bound to find something in either to This tradition says to the audience, **Wc're the Paul Lynde-mimicldng, leather dad Bi­ tone for thc comedy. In fact, it's thanks to him sweaty bodies. His Station — a coUection of drawings where graphed in a wider-range of contexts. The minimum of text: the photographer, the tide, and please your sensibiUties. watching an artificial piece," Biddy says. polar Bear, and the \^cent Price-sounding that "oh, my gay stars!" might be the next gay You can read the rest ofmy movie review single men are brutaUy dominated sociaUy and early portraits of static poses give way to date. The brevity in textual information is actu­ *'You're able co deal more directiy with what­ Oscar WUdeCat catch phrase. RuPaul Chades, singing with a on my website located at: ever the play's putting forward." This series is the first that I've seen where "male" voice, presents the theme song with an conununity. webtv.nei/trashkatjrw. Biddy says that l^ramie Prq^ct is an ideal LAKE AVENUE BAPTIST drama for Shipping Dock, "a theater of sociai Shipping Dock staged the play. aU that would be poUticaUy correct enough to Center, 2495 Main St., Suite 425, Buffalo. Park­ CHURCH change" that has produced plays dealing with She hopes that she and the cast and crew wiU perform! Needless to say, those "concerts" ing and entrance are on Halbert St For reser­ gay and lesbian and women's issues, abortion, be able to hold discussions after performances were highly-charged poUtical events attended vations caU (716)879-0935. Tickets arc $14 and A WELCOMING AND AFFIRMING apartheid, the poUtics of cancer, the environ­ of Laramie Project and that viewers wiU have by just a handful ofthe most radical segments $12. CONGREGATION ment, racism, and other controversial topics. thdr own conversations about the play's con­ ofour community. Now we can have a holiday InvHes You "Our mission is to make a difference," the struction and themes — hatred, prejudice, rdi­ concert with traditional music from Judeo- New nnusical revue director says. "We try to do things that don't gious beUef and fundamentalism, sexuaUty, Christian traditions with a Utde gay humor just reflect, but effect some kind of change. We class, and cotnmunity. (some of it actuaUy mocldng poUticd correct­ includes Quilt ballad hope people v^ come and be changed for the "Kaufman saw (Shepard's murder) as... some­ ness) thrown in. Something for everyone. Portraits, a musical revue by local songwriter better." thing from which a cofisdous piece of theater Comparing this to the old days, dus concert Mark Alan DeWaters, wiU be presented by the Miles Greater Rochester Repenory Company on Such changes occur in the play's characters, m^t be made." was a lot more fun! I found myself wondering place lo bc March 2 and 3. S^usic !Rpom & (B(B(l*Etnporwtn Biddy adds, mentioning Jedadiah Schultz, a The Laramie Project runs fntm Feb. 9 to March just how I should fed about this swing ofthe heterosexual University of Wyotning student 3, ttfitb sbotus on Fridays and Satttrdays at 8p.m, and poUtical pendulum and the general loss of fioetrmits defHcts a series of personality vi­ who performs a scene from Angels in .Amtetica Sundays at 3 p.m. Tickets are $16; $14 far stutkitts poUtical consciousness in our community. gnettes, and wiU feature the baUad "NAACES," for an audition because it's a powerful piece of and seniors. OpeHif^meek0ndticketsttr9$14 and$12. Unfortunatdy, I know that it does not mean a tribute to the AIDS QuUt The show wiU be HAVE YOU GOT CABIN FEVER YET? drama, although he agrees with his conserva­ SbippingDock Theater is at 151 St. PaulBhfd For that our problems have aU gone away and we performed at thc Stardust Ballrootn, Edgerton SUNDAY MORNING WORSHIP SERVICE tive reiigious parents that homosexuality is a information^ call 232-2250. can now get on with Ufe as equals. Oh I know, Community Center, 41 Backus St, and wiU 10:00 AM MILESTONES HAS THE ANSWER... sin. A year later he acts in thc entire play, and I should lighten up. begin at 7:30 p.m. on both days. 11:00 AM SUNDAY: A TIME FOR Tickets are $12 for adults and $7 for seniors when his mother objects, he teUs her, "Mom, When I was a music Ubrarian (oh my God, FELLOWSHIP AND COFFEK Women's Chorus and students. Group rates arc available. For 1 just played a murderer tonight. And you was it 20 years ago already?) I recaU a male co­ information and reservations, caU (*/!6)624- didn't seem to have a problem with that." impresses with worker, trying to be supportive, showing me a 11:15 AM: YOUTH AND ADULT CLASSES. 8360. Performing in such a "heavy play" also holiday concert volume of folk songs which embodied the FEATURING A CLASS THAT READS & changes the cast, Biddy says, presenting them oppression ofwomen over the centuries, and DISCUSSES GAY LIBERATION THEOLOGY EARLY tVENL NG KARAOKE with some chaUenges as actors. "I warn the By Karen Hagberg saying, "Here's a book that might interest Tret Fure to sing at cast: they have to play their characters, not At neariy 50 voices strong, thc largest ever you." I became reaUy angry, and threw the 12 Comers on Feb. 3 CHILDCARE & SUNDAY SCHOOL FOR view them as monsters. These quote-unquote Rochester Women's Community Chorus f>er- book back at him, saying, "It's YOU who need CHILDREN ARE AVAILABLE WeU-known lesbian singer-songwriter Tret Fure EACH Sc EVERY rH0R5DAY monsters are aU over the place. It could be their formed a rousing hoUday program on Dec. 2 to to read this book! I know this stuff already, next-door neighbor... It could be you. a fuU house at the Lake Avenue Baptist Church. and I'm tired of aU this angerf wiU perform at the 12 Comers Coffeehouse on Feb. 3,as part of her solo national tour. INFORMAL SUNDAY AFTERNOON "In other words, we can't comment on these Most of us can recaU RWCC programs con­ Remembering that incident, I have con­ The Coffeehouse is in the 12 Comers Presby­ WORSHIP^ 12:30 PM characters. It's up to the audience. That's the sisting of just a handful of voices with just one cluded that we fteed to have a fun concert; that FROM6-I0PM terian Church FeUowship HaU, 1200 Winton whole Brechtian thing too, to let people malce person on some parts. The growth of this effecnve poUtics is not preaching to the con­ FIRST SUNDAY OF EACH MONTH: Rd. The performance begins at 8 p.m. Tickets up their own minds." otganization, under the leadership of its direc­ verted aU the time. I thankfiiUy found that I 10:00 AM OPEN CO^USAUNION (storting Februory Ist) are $12. To have tickets held at the door, caU (NO 12:30 SERVICE) TTie ensemble of four men and four women tor of 14 years. Deb Wachspress, is very im­ could guUtiessly enjoy and appreciate the tra­ 637-5246 and leave your name and the number has to play more than 60 characters, all of pressive. As 1 sat in the audience, I had fantasies ditional spirit of the season projected in this of tickets needed. LAKE AVENUE BAPTIST CHURCH IS whom arc real people. Two ofthe actors, Jerry of hundreds ofwomen singing together. Why festive event. not? The words "Mormon" and "Tabernacle" Refreshments wiU be served. The Coffee­ LOCATED WHERE JONES AND AMBROSE Jones and Sammy Urzetta, also p>erformed in Getring back to the concert, some of the STREETS MEET LAKE AVENUE. ABOUT even crossed my mind! house is a non-profit musical venue showcas­ HOSTED BY Shipping Dock's production of Gross Intlecency humorous touches worked better than others, ONE HALF MILE NORTH OF THE KODAK Although the chorus members arc not pro­ ing tocal and national musicians every Saturday last season. and some of the solo work was on a higher OFFICE BUILDING, fessional musicians, a high-quaUty performance night. MEG GEHMAN OF MEG & THE CLAMS Shipping Dock is among the first theater plane than others, but it was aU clearly done in FORMORE INFORMATION CAU 456-5765 companies in the country to stage I^aratttie resulted through the enthusiastic direction of a sincere and open atmosphere. There is some­ & Project. Tlie play debuted a year ago in Denver Ms. Wachspress and the highly skiUed accom­ thing special about a space in which peopie TAKE THE PLUNGE! (with some ofthe Laratnie interviewees in the paniments of Howard KUbury and his assis­ fed good about performitig in front of others. CoMe Worship With Us! audience) and went on to a three-month run tant, Jim Meyers. (Next time a venue with a AU of the performers can be proud of a job BUILDING ACCESSIBLE t AUDIO LOOP ELISE OF BLACK EYED ROSIE off-Broadway, cut short only by a movie offer good piano would be a welcome improvement. weU done. AVAILABLE. from HBO. Kaufman was awarded time last Or, the place was OK, viiiy not bring one in?) So tune in for next spring, when the chorus summer to develop the film script at Robert I personaUy appreciated the acoustic sound wiU join forces with thc comedy troupe, Hcnioi V ir !>i Artc-r Redford's Sundance Institute in Utah. The with no resort to electronics, except for using a Estrofest. How big wiU the chorus be by then? There will be great food & drink specials! play, meanwhile, "went home" to Laramie for microphone for a few solo numbers. Plan to see and hear for yoursdf. Or join thc Prof ess ion illy In­ Come have fun in a relaxed atmosphere! a week at the end of 2000, and has been The repenoire sung by the RWCC over the choms now so you may rehearse with them st Uled performed in Boca Raton, F^la., and other U.S. years has constituted a micro-iustory of les­ for this exciting performance. I, for one, am Coftimitrntnt Ctrtmony Photos cities. It wiU be staged in June in PhUadelphia bian-feminist politics. In the first incarnation looking forward to it CaU 234-4441 for more Oniy ,16 V. 9 ' and later this spring in Sydney, Australia. of the chorus over 20 years ago (when it was information! Friday, Feb 2 Happy Hour w/ ''Womyn's"), it would have been impossible to Biddy says synchronicity often has a role in Contkig Up continuad from previous what plays she chooses to produce, and this get aU members to agree to sing Christmas Meg & the Clams one was no exception — she'd had no idea that songs which mentioned the "baby Jesus" or P»«* cable music network MTV would bc airing "Christ the King" or even "Santa Claus"! As a The play wUl run on Feb. 9,10,11,16,17. MariceqaacaiiAaU programming on hate crimes and that three member of the chorus in those days, I recaU 18. On Fridays and Saturdays it wiU be pre­ 475-1900 Graaca films about Shepard's kUUng would be in pro­ that our "rehearsds" consisted tnosdy of meet­ sented at 8 p.m., and on Sundays at 4 p.m., at And CosiMi hNTtroits 821-1888 duction or airing on television around the time ings in which we tried to find any repertoire at HaUwaUs Bbck n' Blue Theatre, Tri Main DBbNaybor870-1117 0 1

Gtxywing Up the Bear in the liood. Yesterday I found a black widow spider by Eric BeUmann right outside the laundry room. It had an enor­ mous beUy, sporting the teUtde red hour^ass. :#il I immediately thought of "Chariotte's Web," Lost boys the first red book I ever read. Charione dies **Whatever became of is a passing thought, a and kajiUions of her babies are bom in the question without answer. You meet, know spring. This was tiny comfort to WUbur the briefly, perhaps Uke tbe company of someone, pig, her best friend, whom she greeted by and then, Ufe beii^ what it is, he moves on. We PAND YOUR MIND spinning the world "Sdutations" in her web. •••»>^»>- iw«lini.i.n,.,.i. Uve in a wretchedly mobUe culture; only the duU She left no message for me, so I kiUed that remain motionless. Browsing old snapshots, Gulfle to Columns chUd dead. I'm doing my best to adjust to life thumbing through hoUday cards, memories of among critters, because they were here first, H**w*»> *•*»<•*.*»»«.»*•*•*»*• »»*W*» ' interrupted stories pop up. And you wonder. but I don't know if I can cope with that many < J**.**¥*»**J*M « •••,*»J*fc****»*fc»*« Whatever became ofhim? v»*unun0t UwiSww**'"**.***'**.*^^*^^*^^**.^^..***^^ black widows. It's aU fun and games untU In the order they passed through my Ufe: Oft Ouanr Htt^Uhu^^^^...^^..*.^*.^ spring comes and Kirk's in his sUpp>ers and hair A. is the son of a good friend. When he was curlers, wielding a can of Raid and a pdpable 10 he was my student in a kids' recreation sense of panic. But I wiU continue to adapt

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V ;^-*^, ff'-- mom saved. Mom evolved into a single parent, '5^ <.-% ?> ' 4 •" i- V -• ./•• There arc too many to count But as I'm lying <^ p'' not without some stress, and her three kids *. t^ ' '•' > - in bed, I clutch the super-sized piUow thac's scattered across the map, returning at least better than a man because piUows don't snore once a year. Thanksgiving or Christmas. Mom Now he's in Texas. Comes home once a turkeys could fly, anyway? but not enough because piUows don't kiss the Ukes massive gatherings and loves to fiU her year for what I figure is 36 hours, just long If I were just visiting, staying in, say, a bed smaU ofyour back. I Ue in bed and imagine aU house with neighbors and friends, and so, now enough to mail Christmas cards that arrive 24 and breakfast, I'd write chatty postcards to those crickets fighting, screaming at each other and then, 1 get to see the kids, induding A., hours after he has left. For aU my efforts I friends back in thc city. They'd look at the in languages I've never even heard of. And I upon whom apparendy I made a good impres­ cannot connect with him again. postmark whUe dining in their breakfast nook drift off to sleep. sion way back when. He always asks about me, He's just tumed 40 and etnaUcd me that he and say, "Where?" I'd teU them about how Kirk Read Uves in Northern Califomia imd can be I'm told, and untkrstatttis^ which is significant, has taken up photography and, whUe stiU single, there's a volcano right across die lake but it seen at ttfttfttfJemenos.net/kirkread and heard at since this is a household where some things are is happy. hasn't gone off for a whUe, 10,000 years to be tifttfttf.Gcrtbc.com rarely talked about. C. was an engineering student at thc coUcge exact, wljich isn't long in terms of nature, but After coUege A. moved to San Francisco, where I worked. He had (briefly) blue hair and isn't that charming? Isn't that cute? Isn't that Conundrums where he landed a great job and found an OK Uked to rock climb. A modem kid. Very cool. rustic? apartment and, yes, had a girlfriend, but only, I He dealt in cars. Honest Had a specid Ucense I left thc eviction crisis and sidewdk parking now spec»Uate, in passing. Hc is over 30 now. to seU used cars. Once he told me that eariier of San Francisco for thc boonies. I'm so used By Ove Overmeyer Should I say aU that again? He is single, 30 plus, in the day he'd driven to Long Island and to being luUed to sleep by city sounds that I'm bought an old VW for parts. C. Uked to test and Uves in San Francisco. He is tired of the having insomnia. Once you get used to people Tlie Grammys: too hip to hop wisecracks and insists hc does not Uke Judy Ufe. He hung out at the newest punk bars in screaming at their dogs in five languages, you Gariand. When I visit, I lean back at the dining NYC, and as best I could teU didn't get dong kinda get fond of chaos. I have aU these oogy The Grammys' leap on the carousel of hate that room table and Usten to him klatch with his too weU widi his folks. He had a pal^ a man boogy touchy fedy friends who have been goes *round and 'round shouldn't come as mom over the color of the new drapes or a who, he confided matter-of-facdy, no-big- giving me advice on how I can sleep better. much ofa shock to diose of you with a steady favorite recipe for green beans. He reports ded, was gay. This man (how did thcy meet?) And I've been trying. NaturaUy, I went for thc pulse. "The MarshaU Mathers LP," authored spotting Armistad Maupin who reaUy does Uve was just a ftiend (should I beUeve this?) who phannaceuticais first by the gay-bashing, misogynist, bleach-blond, Uved in Gramercy Park (hmm, rich) ri^t next nearby. (I read Taks first, gave the series to Tylenol PM made a dent but the next day I pasty-faced Utde twerp who caUs himself to a buUding that exploded. Bad boUer. In his Mom who passed them along to A.) When felt Uke I'd been in a fist-fig^t Fist-fights, by Eminem, is probably one of the most repug­ senior year C. interned at megacorp on the Mom imi ts, he ukes her to see a local produc­ the way, aren't aU that hard to come by here. nant coUections of sound ever recorded. Island where he rock climbed thc stairweUs at tion of Charles Busch's "Beach Blanket Bingo." You find the right meth-head and shoot his Thc dbum has sold miUions, and he has night and casuaUy mentioned that he'd had What's going on here? I suggest to my friend Utde woman a glance and you've bought your­ been nominated for four Grammys. The tnost time, because hc was near the city, to sf>end a that her kid nught be gay. ActuaUy I torment self a brawl. unbeUevabie choice is the prestigious dbum of few days with this fiiend. Before he di«d. Oh. her that he might be a major queen. She groans. I tried Melatonin. It's what you're supposed thc year award. Ek>es controversy seU? Humph. The kids* private Uves are none ofher business. C. modeled for pain ring classes at my school. to take at mid-Ufe and supposedly it brings Want a taste? On the song, "KiU You," for Can it be he hasn't figured it out yet^ Maybe he Then he worked for mc. Later, he'd just drop vivid dreams. I've dated so many men at mid- example, he suggests: "Fuck that, take drugs, rape sluts, make fun of gay dubs;" on "Just hasn't found the capacity to confront himsdf. in to visit. Once when I visited NYC for Ufe that I figured it would work on me by Don't Give a Fuck," he jocularly recaUs how Or us. Or mayhc I'm completely off. Hard to HaUoween he met me at thc Newark airpon osmosis. It was speed for me. I popped two at he "went to gym in the eighth grade, raped the teU with kids th^e days. and drove me, in a marvelously junky VW, to 10 p.m. and by 3 a.m. I'd done three loads of women's swim team;" whUe on "Role Model," B. was my trainer during a year of extended my hotel and, before hc sped off, handed me laundry and painted a bookshelf with purple he cheerily reminds his fresh-faced Usteners: madness when I went to a gym three times a a bag, a gift of pUfered erasers and paper dips, gUtter. "art suppUes," which hc had taken from his "FoUow me and do exacdy what the song says week. WeU, not exacdy my trainer — I didn't That's when I resorted to the woo woo shit intern job. I loved having him as a chum. — smoke weed take piUs, drop out of school, pay him—but he worked there setting weights, I tried yoga. It hurt. I don't reaUy need to be a kiU people, and drink." Is this guy's brdn and either because he was bored or because I C. modded for a famous photographer in tree, anyway. damaged or what? (It seems, though, hc did was "different" hc hung around, Uked to tnake NYC. Just answered an ad posted at NYU. I tried meditation. Everyone says you just spend five days in a coma after receiving a blow Great pix. Naked with his nidng bike. Then he 'Jose your eyes and let the noise spin around conversation, and he was, you know, the kind to the head in a fight as a teenager.) First told me he was going to be pubUshed in until it gets quiet Hey, it's Northern CaUfomia. of guy every gay man wishes were his friend; a Amendment or not, I do respect his right to "Inches" or some other skin mag. I found the I thought I should at least give it a whirl. I guy with a ready smUe, an easy-going marmer. free speech. However, there has to be some mag. Yikes, there was C. with a hard-on and dosed my eyes and thought about 14 voicemaUs, And, need it be said, blessed widi a body loaded sort of measurement of accountabiUty when pulling his cheeks apart and 1 thought yes, 143 emaUs, three biUs, eig^t letters, nine dead­ with muscle. Faced with thb, the gay man, this deaUng with such radicd content damn it, I just knew the gujrs posing for tnags lines, two dying friends, three speeding tickets, one at least, concocts a covert strategy; I wiU Michad Greene, president of the Nationd were straight Later I wondered was there such change of address, Radiohead's new dbum, the tnake him my friend. Don't even try to second- Academy of Recording Arts and Sciences a thing as straight-for-now? new Martin Atnis book, my sister's birthday, guess my ploys. He wasn't exacdy easy but I (^ARAS), home to the Grammy, is quick to C moved to San Francisco. He'd caU once and my cat's enormous poops. You know what? was highly modvaeed. defend their decision-making. **There is rac­ every six mondis for a year or two; then die calb The hitch was he was a deqply committed It's never gonna get quiet here. My head is like ism and homophobia in this country, and it's stopped. IVe tried to track him down via a CathoUc, having attended Jevuk'run second­ a DJ's booth. an artists' responsibiUty (sic) sometimes to Yahoo Search. Found him. Hc dkin't answer. ary school and coUege. He spoke of his '"per­ My Unde Timmy sdd I was bdng visited by throw things Uke that in our face in a way that Maybe It's an abandoned emaU address. Some­ sonal reladonship widi Mary" and he didn't s[Hrits and that they'd been xiidi me for a long it infuriates everybody," he recendy told the times you just never know. mean anybody we know. On die odier hand, he time. I said don't they know the one about Washir^ton Post. made it dear he ftidced any ^ who was wiU- houseguests and fish? PersonaUy, I find it particulariy interesting if^. Get dte pietOfc? just ai conftuiogas any Correction At his suggestion I started buming sage to that he threw "racism" in the mix when de­ straight man could be. My hero. Th« firsc paragniph of Eric's column purify the spa<:e. Smudging. That's what the fending the white rapper, since the topic has We went to die movies. He was a major in tho ONMU-Jan. laauo should iiovo crunchies cdl it It made my room smeU Uke a nothing to do with the "MarshaU Mathers LF' triadilete and I went to see him compete in rood, ''Mantuittati ts hihoo.^ not Grateful Dead parking lot and I vowed right controversy. This dbum is stricdy an anti- triathdons. Then — it always cods—he went *t&hoor then and there that no matter how desperate or woman, anti-gay thing. Greene, one of the to medical school, interned at a b% deal hospi­ open minded I became, patchouU oil was out of industry's more doquent darlings when it tal and opted for a practice in apocttmecBcaiML Out of order the question. I don't get it I like badiing. And comes to the powerful role music plays in Oh yeah, I skipped two litde team. Cote he shampoo is just fine with me. today's society, talks of music's great tradition phoned, late in tlie evcnif^ just back io town By Kkk Read The other night the neighbors said a bear of rebellion and oppression. Puh-lease! Oo ftom a school tmak. Coukl he drop by? It was SlMMteM in Iifr|"i^ was in their yard eating ftuit off tlie trees. Now, you dunk parents are more i^MCt over his foul- len-durty. Too fatte, I haggled. Did I mentkm County the phrase ''bear eating fhut" holds an initid mouthed lyrics and violent themes — or be­ that Fm really dikk-4iMded? apped to me, but to my taste, ttiis was neidber cause flieir impresdonable elementary school So dus is tiie ddag. I moved out of San Pisn- ^ right kind of bear nor tlie dght kind of feutt child came home distressed after bdng tire* AyearUcerl sawUnaittM^inhiscaritttbe daoo for a quieaei; rustic life. Whkdi means parit. The park. Whcie pwpte go to get blow As if Uttle lizards weren't enough to bsak out ksdy moclecd as a "faggot'* by hu Eminem- nnd CEidcelB, tiMEk^a fiyii^ oftto my roof and my urlMin princess ass, now Fve got Smokey worsh^)ping classmates? jobs. That's how Ufe's stomach aches arc made all sorts of odier cute rued accents. Who knew Get a load of this. In a Nationd Public Radio people being sexudiy victimized whUe \fi a "K- the controversid rapper. The music television Changea in ndiat we will aUow compa- get treated within a few weeks of the event, we interview with Terry Gross, Eminem stated Hole," because dicy arc unable to move or Reasons for Hope icon is StiU reding after pumping up the rapper's nieatotcat can save the pan of our immune system that (singii^, "My words arc Uke a dagger with a defend themsdves. In addition, K use has a image whUe at die same time trying to distance Sometimes companies want to copy the hot fights HIV. jagged edge. I'U stab you in the head vi4iether proven connection to amnesia, high Wood By David Scondrasy Search itself ftom his raw message of hate. After new drug, wasting money, time and our bodies you're a fsg or a les. Had homo sex, hermaph, {Mtessure, impaired tnotor skiBs, and some­ This means we tn^t avoid having to use tnonths of consternation, some of die music for a Cure —just to increase profits, instead of doing the or a trans.... (unintelligible) pants or dress. Hey antivirals aU the time for the rest ofour lives. chanad's executives commissioned a study times fetd respiratory problems. There is also Wake up hard woric of devdoping a better drug, leas Changea in how vre uae'drugs CPA fags, the answer's yes. Homophobic? No. and found that 90 percent of dKsr viewers feh some data to show that K has some acktictive toxic or not cross resisunt You're just heterophobic, staring at my jeans, We need tnoie attention on doctor-super­ disctimtnation was a huge sodetd problem. properues* It is time to wake up. watchingmy genitds...." (Source: Terry Gross, If we see a trid of a copycat drug, we need to vised drug holidays. Our bodies need a break Q^it^rf After airing Eminem videos neady 1,000 times What can you do to protect yoursdf? Thc Rettw: R^per Eminem's netu CD, "Tbe Marshall The drugs aren't good enough. shut it down. If it's a new, non cross resistant, from the poisons* and we already know ways last year, MTV has now publidy stated, "He is first choice is, ofcourse, to NOT use diis drug. Mathers LP"', Fn»h Air (NPR), July 13,2000). They don't woric for hdf the people that get lesa toxic drug, we need to speed it up. to do this safely. For us, it saves our bodies. not an artist we want to get behind." (Scmrce: There arc, however, some oprions to make use We must detnand changes in when and how Whether or not you bdieve Eminem when thera, and they come at a high price when they For poor countries, it makes drug therapies Sakm Nettts: Eminem's Latest Outrage, by Eric of K at least a jS£«6(r safier do work. he says he has no red hatred towaid women we can get expcrimcntd drugs. tnore affordable. Complete Income Tax Service Boehlert,Jan. 8.2001.) 1. Don't mix. K should NEVER be used at I understand that we are tired. We want to and gay people, that rap is mosdy braggadodo, If our cocktails stop workii^ we need access Changea in our attitude As a result, MTV, in partnership with the thc same time as any other depressant take a break from "acting up." Let's feee it, •Pre year-end planning for lowest legal tax then explain vAij he fdt it tiecessary to threaten to any drug "in die pipeUne" right away. We Medidnes give us breathing space. Let's use Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Net- such as downers, dcohol, GHB, or sedatives. to shoot two odier rappers who caUed him we're grateful that we don't have to go to a need a nationd program riiat aUows a doctor it to push for better drugs. •Form preparation for Federal arid all states wc^ (GLSEN), aired last month a made-for- Z Less is more. A Utde bit of K goes a long gay? (Source: TbeSp^taior. •'Your ChUdren Are funerd every week. Some of us are back to and patient to pick and choose fixwn aU drugs N^thout some change, we wiU continue to •Electronic filing (Federal and NYS) TV film about the death of Matdiew Shepard. way. The more you use, the more Ukdy in the pipeline. Rap Victims", James DeUngpole, Dec. 30, work. Some arc pumping iron in thc gym. Life have therapies for HIV diat the poor cannot This show was part of a larger, year-long Take you are to have some nasty side effects. •Corporate, Partnerstilp and Trust retums 2000.) As weU as this pending court case, he seems back co normd again. Right now, these so-caUed ^'ccmipassionate afford and the rich cannot survive. a Stand Agdnst Discrimination campaign MTV 3. Stick ttfitbfriends . Based on what wc know StiU has two others — fbr pistol whipping a The antivirds we take give us a new lease on us^" prt>grams are set up by the companies, Dattid Scottdras, longfime cotttmuniiy aetittist ttttd •Business advisory services has undertaken. This effbrt optimisticaUy dem­ about ''K-Holes" and K's potentid as man who supposedly kissed his wife, and an­ Ufe. But the lease has some fine print each with different rules and regulations, cre- educator, is the founder of Search ForA Cure. Ifyou onstrates die feet diat there stiU is hope, integ­ a ••date rape drug," it is best to only use this • Estate planning other for being sued by his mother for 110 We would like to ^nore the warnings that atiog confiision. The result: people die because hem que^ions, ortueuMtikg to contaa Search ForA rity, and a sense of responsibiUty in this craay dni^ when you arc with people you reaUy know miUion after aUeging that she takes even more are everywhere—painful joints, skyrocketing thcy can't get through che bureaucratic maze. Cure, write to 34 Edg^ Road #/, Bostott, MA mixed-up wodd of oios. and trust (and preferably are not usir^ at the drugs than he does. (I wonder what dieir house cholesterol levds, diabetes, running to the bath­ Changes in how we teat HIV 02115 orcttUSeetrth ForA Cure ^(617)536-2474 same time). is Uke at Christmas time.) room, nightmares, neuropathy, swoUen breasts Most HIV tests are antibody tests. Antibody or fax (617)266-0051, [email protected]. Most of aU remember that fun is different (716)377-1190 Healthy and and belUes, shrunken faces, friends dead at 40 tests are not good enough. They may not give Visit ottr ttfeb site at tif9ntf.seanbforacttre.org. Qeariy, one ofhis major bad boy attractions for every person. There is nothing wrongwith from heart attacks. We dl know folks who are a postitive reading after infection for as long as Search ForA Curt is a not forpr^ or^i^^tion is that he is a trailer trash, ghetto white boywho Gay wanting to have fun. ..J ust not at the expense of not doing weU. six months, whUe vird load tests tcils you ri^t pttntidit^odMcathn,prmoitt^teer9sststtdadtfocatit^ passed as "street" enough to succeed in a your hedth and safet)^ Be otttl Be be^rpy! Be The hope is that we can keep taking these away if you were infected. tbe basic humim right to Sife and effect treatment for predominandy Black musicd genre (hip-hop). By Erik libey healthy! piUs for a Ufetime. It's not red. And our bodies It is criticd to knowright away, because if we aUp^ipk ktnt^ ttfitb AIDS He comes from a seedy Detroit upbriti^ng, Erik Libey is tbe Gay Health Coordnator at Jean Thibodeau, CPA Party People part II: ""Not Just can't keep this up. and it seems, in his own words, that "beUeve it AIDS Rochester Inc. Hecanbeccn^etedhypbtmeat Certified Public Accountant for Breakn»t Anymore" We need some changes. Changes that wiU or not, there are Itids out there who want to bc tbeir office at (716)442-2220, or hy email at get us better therapies now. have nots," obviously referring to the white If you have been watching the American ver­ [email protected]. suburban youths who dosdy identify-with sion of "Queer as Folk" on Showtime, you may him. To be taken seriously these da3rs, it dso recaU a scene fiom die opening episode in 24 HIgti Street Falrport, NY 14450 helps to have some sort of gangsta pedigree. which Brian has brought youngjustin back to Enter Dr. Dre, who promotes Eminem, and is his apartment and asks him ifhe *^kes Specid laughing aU the way to the bank. Being shot K." helps too. Ask Hm Wesrwood (Radio 1 DJ Justin responds by saying he **Ukes Cheerios from the UK), who took a few rounds in a better," If you got the joke, you understood drive-by last year that cemented the ultimate that Brian was not talking about a breakfast badge of credibiUty in the hip-hop world. Car­ cered. He was referring to the 6sMg Ketamine, rying a handgun is a choice accessory, not a the topic ofmy second of three articles about necessary evU as they would Uke you to bdieve. "dub dnjgs." Slim-Shady can preach, and he can hoUer Ketamine, known on the street by names (God knows he can't sing), but hopefuUy his such as ••Spedd K," "K," or •"Vitamin K," is a fans resj>ond more to the heavy beats and surgicd anesthetic. WhUe it has been approved Calvert Group Mutual Furxjs make a rhythms than to foUowing his lyrics to the for use on humans since the 1970s, it is most letter. I would Uke to beUeve that the youth of cotnmonly used in veterinary procedures. Spe­ difference. Calvert Group invests in the worid could care less about his word salad. cid K usuaUy comes in dther a Uquid or a connpanies tiiat actively p)ronnote and Label warnings? Give me a break. Is there powder form. It can be injected, smoked (of­ reaUy anything parents can do to control this ten tnixed with marijuana), or snorted (by itself hire minorities and women, tiiat irresponsibiUty? Probably not The sad fact is or in a mixed drug that combines cocaine and compensate tiieir workers fairly, and that hc is merely articulating what a lot of ketamine caUed "CK"). Users of K report that that provide progranns and benefits teenagers are saying among themsdves in pri­ it has mildly haUucinogenic effects that can vate anyway. Is he fueling thc fire? Probably make you feel weighdess, or like you are having for workers and tiieir partners/families. Learn to: so. The NARAS has washed their hands ofthe an out of body experience. This feeling is • 6iv« yoie« to your •motions RESTAURANT matter, telling the Los Angjtks Times and the sometimes caUed "Visiting K-Land." • Dovolop your strongths Washington Post^ "Wc can honor the recording Despite the pleasant feelings it may cause, • Improve your rolatlonships without honoring its message." What? there are some very serious n^ative effects • Conquor your foars The once respected Grammy has now hit an associated with the use of K. The most com­ For more infomrxation on Calvert Group aU-time low and transformed itself into just mon of these is the "K-Hole." This phenom­ Individuals, Couples,Family and Group Psychotherapy enon results in the user losing the abiUty to talk mutual funds and to receive a free prospectus, another trend-chasing music awards show. It Edith Bernstein, CSW is unfortunate that the NARAS didn't consult and/or control their body movement There call Michael B. Argaman, Mark J. 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Fathers* Group sic counted cross stitch taught upon tory ofthe gay, lesbian, bisexual and Tickets are available at GQ or on be aimounced in the March Etttpty music re^jardless of sexual orienta­ What better topic for our Discussion request transgender experience in Roches­ Monday nights at Clover Lanes from Chtstt., tion, gender, race or rel^ious affilia­ The Gay Father's Group cdebrated Night than Petsorul Ads? For further infonnation, contact ter as it related to persons of color. a G.R.E.A.T. committee member. Dignity-Integrity Rochester is a tion. A flexible rehearsal schedule is die holkkiys with a Tuesday night Whether you're in the process of Kerry, FadUtator, at 865-4619. See Thc forum will take a look at the Tickets are |20 a couple or $ 12 for a livii^ faith conununity of gay, les­ created so that as many folks as pos­ writing one, or have a great (or not dinner. Evetyone brought a dish to you there! effect HIV/AIDS has had on our single. So come on over to GC^ Club bian, bisexual, transgender people sible may partidpate. so great) story to tcll about one you pass. We are bode to our r^ular meet­ community, the difficulties a lesbian for a terrific meal and hdp us raise and thdr friends who worship openly To recdve a rehearsal schedule, or GAYIT S ALGROUPL ABOUT HAVING FUN S have written in thc past (or an- ing schedule, which is the first and MOCHA couple overcame to become the first money for AIDS Rochester, Inc. and with one another. We celebrate litur­ to recdve more infonnation, con­ swcredO, this promises to be a fim third Tuesday of the month. The Men of Color Health Awareness same-sex couple united in a Baptist gies in the Episcopal and Roman Melboume, LGBA will be pardci­ sodal calendar. Cotnmunity Health Network. Hdp tact Open Arms Metropolitan night of storytelling and fun for ev- The group consists of men and, in Profect has several ongoing programs. church here in Rochester, and other Catholic traditions and welcome all Meet People pating in our conference, including Hope to sec all our friends at the us reach our fundraising goal! Buy Church at 271-8478. eryonel (Also open to those wishing some cases, their same-sex partners. CoflEee Chat is an open discussion points of history from those who to come *- regardless of your reli­ rehearsing both as a massed concert weekly Movie Night. Meet at Mel's your tickets now! to leam about writing ads, too!) Wc We are all at different points in our group for men of color who have sex have experienced it gious affiliation (or lack of one). ' •^'liStiit^Qis^galkn^^&iilt^ and marching band, enjoying many Diner, comer of W. Henrietta and If you would like more informa­ MOCHA party will meet from 7 to 9 p.m. at the Gay lives: some married, some are going with men. Worship with us on Sundays at 5 varied social gatherings, conducting Jefferson, at 6 p.m. every Monday. The forum will be hdd at RJ's tion about G.R.E.A.T., see Kathy, Come sec the new ddights at The Alliance Community Center, 179 through the separation/divorce pro­ Wc discuss issues that arc relative p.m. in St Luke and St Simon Cyrene our LGBA meetings and diversity Supper is foUowed by a movie at Pub, 140 Alexander St (comer of Dick or Marty on Monday nights at Rochester Spa and Body Club on Atiantic Ave., comer of Elton and cess, and are in various stages of to what the partidpants are dealing Church, 17 South Fitzhugh St — yes, caucus, explonng Australia's outback Movies 10. Call our Beariine at 234- Broadway St). For more informa­ Clover Lanes, call Dick at 271-3585, Feb. 23. Come experience a ni^t Adantic. Please bring a snack and/ coming out. This is a support group with in their daily lives. MOCHA the church with the pink steeple! and p^ting the town redl The con­ 3381 to hear the planned movie. Visi­ tion call die MOCHA office at 420- or e-mail Marty at of colour and spice. Come join the or non-alcoholic beverage to pass. (not therapy), intended to discuss provides die coffee and refreshments, After services each week we social­ ference will culminate in a massed tors are welcome. 1400. . Any MOCHA Project and the many I5(> the Efi^y O^e^ ^^,- Given the tremendous success of the challenges facing gay fathers. you (Movide the chat! This group ize at a coffee hour where you are concert at the Melboume Town Hall BEARnight at the Forum is Feb. bowler with an established average brothers who swing with us. our November 2000 Dinner Night Some topics for discussion include meets every 1st and 3rd Tuesday of welcome to join us. in the center of the dty. 10. The theme for February is G.R«E.A.T (21 games minimum in a ABC/ Bring your limbs. Boxers, diongs, Out at LaRocca's, we dedded to dealing with wives, ex-wives, or chil­ die moa^ at 6:30 p.m. For general questions about Dig­ Sx^dlcs^car 1460^, 1^^^ The bands, including atixiliary longjohns, so let's sec diosc winter WIBC sanctioned league) is wdcome or just come. The after party will again embark on another Dinner dren; coming out to children, par­ Movk Nt^t: grab your free pop­ Bowling nity-Integrity, please call the D-I groups such as the San Francisco woollies. to join us for our main event, "Under start at 12 am on Friday, Feb. 23 Night Out—just in time for a post- ents, spouses, co-workers; building corn and come on down! Movies will Info-Line at 234-5092 for recorded ^ —.—, ^^'ii Cheerieaders and Flag/Rifle Corps, We'll have our annual Chocolate The holidays are over and we are in Construction," May 4-6,2001. It is a (actually Feb. 24). Reduced prices Valentine's bash at Siice of Life Cafe new relationships or maintaining focus on experiences ofbeing "in the infomuition or to leave a voice mes­ will travel together to Sydney for the Party on Saturday nig^t, Feb. 17, at full swing for thc new year. Wc wouid "G.R.E.A.T." time! on lockers and rooms for MOCHA Bassically at 742 South Ave. RSVP is required existing rdationships; issues with life" and will be followed by an infor­ sage. Games. We will perform in another the GAGV Community Center, 179 like to thank everyone at the Avenue men, refreshments will be available. (limited to the first 10 people who children and your parmer. mal discussion. This group meets Pub for hdping us raise money this Dignity Integrity Treblemakers major concert in Sydney widt the Atlantic Ave. It starts at 6:30 p.m. Come get down with our Safer RSVP due to space considerations). Thc meetings are hdd on the first every stxond Thursday ofthe month past football season: over $1,000 in Choruses and the many Gay Games Games, cards, and any sort of food There has been a change in Dignity- Rainbow Gospel Sex Party. For more information, It's 22 months until the Gay Games There wiil not bc a social event held and third Tuesday of the month, at 6:30 p.m. events. with cocoa are encouraged. Bring all for AIDS Rochester, Inc. and Integrity Rochester's liturgy sched­ The Rochester Rainbow Gospel in Sydney, Australia, and we have Brothers Keeper is a monthly sup­ call LaTek Bethea at the MO­ your favorite dessert, and tty ours. on our normal meeting night of Feb. from 6:30 co 8:30 p.m. at the GAGV Community Health Network. ule. On thc first, third and fifth (d Choir will begin rehearsals soon in received our official Lesbian and Gay If you are interested in learning port group for men of color who CHA Project, 420-1400. Sunday, the 25th, we'll be watch­ 28. Please RSVP to Kerry, Facilita­ Community Center, 179 Adantic Thanks to Tara, too for adding to any) Sundays of each month, D-I preparation fbr a special Easter con­ Bands of America Travel packages more about the travel packages and have sex with men to rap about sex, ing the Amerks stick thc Hershey tor. NO LATER than FRIDAY, Feb. Ave. Please call the GAGV at 244- our fundraising with our Super Bowl offers a Roman Catholic liturgy, usu­ cert from Intropa Tours. participating, please either send me fdatk»uhips, dating and other issues Bears. Join us for a fun night out. Call 16. BYOC - Bring your own cash! 8640 if you are interested in finding Board! Ofcourse, thc bowlers ofthe ally some form of thc Liturgy of the The concert, "Shout for Joy!" is Rochester Gay Members of BT will be joining an email note ([email protected]) of concem. Each month has a spe­ 234-3381 by thc 18th to reserve a (Dutch treat, everyone!) out more information. Rochestcr Historical Bowling Soci­ Word. On the second and fourth plaruied for Easter Sunday evening, hundreds of other musicians from or call Tim at 242-0237. Re^strauon dfic topic. Conuct LaTek Bethea for Men's Chorus ticket Dress in your best and bring your ety are always super in their contin­ Sundays ofeach month, we cdebrate April 15, at Lake Avenue Baptist around the w^orld, including mem­ for the Games will begin in May and UnBroken more information. It was great to see so many of you at you can also get more information As a reminder to all members and sweetie (or yourself) out for a great ued help and support with all our Mass in the Episcopal tradition. Both Church, 57 Ambrose St It is a won­ ^-ru bers of the three Australian bands Contact MOCHA (Men of Color our annual holiday concert! We took then at www.gaybands.org. former members, the Empire Bears meal and conversation! Threads fundraising. will continue to be hdd at our regular derful collection of songs for Easter (Melbourne, Sydney, and Perth). We Health Awareness ) Project at 420- tumed five years old in December. For further information on the Love is in the air... so come on out Our next fundraiser is one we are time, 5 p.m., at St. Luke and St Simon in a gospel style. The concert is being leave the U.S. on Oct. 25,2002, and 1400, or visit our office at 25 Franklin GAGVYouth Group The Anniversary Party will bc hdd Connection, or to RSVP to the event, and enjoy a night or two of making very excited about! On Sunday, Feb. thc Cyrene Church. planned as an Easter celebration pri­ return Nt>v. 10, following the clos­ Empire Bears St, Suite 1060,Rochester,NY 14604. Saturday, March 10 at thc Toy House. contact Kerry, Facilitator, at 11 we are having our Valentine's On Tuesday, Feb. 13, we will be marily for the glbt community. The Youth Group ing ceremonies in Sydney. The pack­ All the BEARS are spending the that someone special something spe­ Call 234-3381, or a member, to in­ (716)865-4619, email her directly at brunch at GQ Club, 444 Central hosting a Valentine's Day dinner; ages are $2599 inciuding air (17 days) drowsy days of winter sniggled in cial! (Or, make yourself a treasure or The RRGC was formed during update fer the month quire about reservations. [email protected], or get on MOCHA Forum Ave. The brunch is from 12:30 to 3 please come to any D-I service for or the Ground OnJy package for their cozy dens. two)l the summer of 2000 and first per­ can be found on pa^e our group's email group meeting The Men of Color Health Awareness p.m. and will be a terrific buffet! Jeff details as they become available. AJso, formed at a special worship service 51459. Even so, our events planner bids Stay warm and fuzzy. WOOF! The two meetings of UnBroken B15 (Communitjf Cen­ notification list by sending email to Project (MOCHA) will present a fo­ and the gang at GQ have a delicious our February potiuck dinner wiU bc as part of the Gay Alliance Pride In the five days planned in us arise and participate in February's Threads, a social group for arts and ter News) [email protected]. crafb and needlework fans in our mm tided "In Search of Our History: menu planned, induding a Be^an hdd on Sunday, Feb. 17 after liturgy, Picnic. Since then, they have sung at ^ •W^g^^^W^WWWiMMtf W^WWW^lWWWWWi ••••••••••• ^••arbara Oebes, M-5- a More Ught Church Elaine Elkins M.S- A WeicoMiaf CoBfrcgatfoa 15* CHatoa Ave Rochester, NY. CLounselor/^Lesoian 7l«-S4<-lt2S Psychotherapist where glbt persons are welcomed as partners in ministry We afflmi and promote the inherent worth and i dignity of every person Individtiai and relationship counseling: Sunday Worship 10:30 a.m. SMd«7 SM^ricM ac lt:M AM F ncouragcment CaHwWarial H««r after Mrvica (Child care available, wheekrfiair accessible, HtliKliai E4ac«iiMi Pmti—• : W* wdnv* CUMIM «rGLBT looped for hearing impaired) anxiety & depression rr^^^^^^^^f^^^^-^^-*^^*^^-*^-**- loneliness & separation Glaring Monday (1st and 3rd) resolving conflicts GLBT Support Group 7:30 p.m. communication skills sexual abuse recovery Dignity-Integrity Rochester drug& alcoholism R.cspect at East Ave and Meigs St (Roman Catholic-Episcopal) grief & loss Rochester, NY 14607 244-4837 271-6513 We welcome all regardless of worship tradition ^^^ Parle/A^venuc www.thirdpresbyt8nan.org or sexual orientation. (/ 1 ^) 2/ 1 -^6 1 O Liturgy every Sunday at 5:00 p.m. MewSchcduIel Xotnttn Catholic • first, third, mnd Bfth Sunday ofthe month. filMFfi G^d Haft «tofiiad ^mt^SAtmr^ Episcopal - second and/burth Sunday ofthe tnonth. Geri Stanton fj-'"'cr:" WO'k • cou'nuiTt.^ .i'lOfi \"..'-\\\ Social Hoiu around 6:00 p^m. li«e Na Oaa Sat; Apart Potluck Dinner every third Sunday ofthe month. bgether we zvill create an Church of St. Luke and St. Simon Cyrenc environment that promotes {the cbuich with thepink steeple) T 17 South Fitzhugh Street (Comer of Broad and S. Fitzhugh) EXPERIENCE YOU CAN TRUST healing, provides supportfor exploring D-I Info-Line: 234-5092 • Individual, Couple and MS.Ed., MS.Ed. your personal joumey and empotuers (Recorded information and voice mail) Group Therapy National Certified Counselor you to make self-resvectin& rhnirps This Eucharistic community exists • Specializing in Concems of: Certified Clinical Mental ^ to worship God Isolation and Loneliness, Health Counseior ^ topmchim the gotod news of/esus Christ New ^ to witness to the reatUty ofChrisdmn gaty, Iesbistn, Relationships, Separation, ADORESS. rr ^i 175 fterrte Drive (near Cobbs Hill Park) Self-Esteem, Abuse, and WV "YA. VA}:IIL«-, , MS. Ed. 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BU T- • 1^''% < u e-^E'l 3'5 2 "'-''"•• ^^40i^^--':--' Bir a few weeks off and are back rehears­ Community Center, 179 Adanric 1 ing for "Overture, Curtain, Lights," Ave, to discuss athletic events/par­ Women's Performance dates are March 23 and ticipation in the Gay Games, travd Hiking 24 at School of the Arts, and our and housing information in Sydney, GAGV special guests will bc Phyllis Contest­ and fundnusing. Women's Hiking is going strong af­ able and Alan Jones. Tom Dwyer will cootdinate those ter four years. Modiers widi their Volunteer of The June 9 concert, '*the Sounds interested in wresding; call 458-3191. children ate always welcome. Our of Summer," will feature a women's Anyone interested in sports lo­ IHICCS ate definitely exciring and a lot the Month: enserhble put together by director cally, and/or at die Gay Games, of fun. Always new women joining Koren Nick WiUiams. If you'd like to be a f4ease attend our meetings on the us. We travel to vatious r^onal part of this special one-rime event, third Thutsday of each month at 7 patks. This is a great way to meet CoiiiiTiunityCenter Baie- the January Triangle Talk on volunteer time because I feel so­ V AppfOLCOSt $3,500.00* GAGV Web site: OToole comc acquainted with the GAGV? Suzanne Pharr's Hotttopbobia: A www.gayalltance.org Meeth^ spece is wbeekhair acttssihU. cially, politically, and personally en­ 31 Sports events Weapott of Sexism., Richard D. Center hours: Mon/fhurs., 1-9 pm; BomnlmMtii^sattsshetiitkdJ&rH)9Stt9ittt KB: Shortiy after wc arrived in gaged. Here's a place where the vol­ 11,000 Taon Rochestar is otganizing. Meets 2f15,3/15 & 4/19 Fri. I-6 pm. QGAGV 7 p.m. Quesions cat 482-8356 Vredmsday of tbe month. Rochester three years ago. I had just GAGV: What has been particu­ unteer work you do helps you and Fenwick B«»enl President: Kim Brumber come out to my parents, and I was lar rewarding for you in volun­ others in an immediate way. 3,000 artists looking for some support from within teering with the GAGV? GAGV: Koren, you are a very Inclusion V Partldpalion V P«3onaiBest quired. For more information or to the gay community. I think I heard KB: The vcty real feeling that I'm talented and compelling speaker. Contractor sportegaygameswi.arg.au Next Step group about the GAGV through PFLAG. maddng a practical contribution to We want to thank you for volun­ Now dtering Hunter-Douglas register, call thc GAGV at 244-8640. starts in Harch GAGV: Specifically in what the fight against homophobia. Ev­ teering with the GAGV. kHjver drapM & Kbsdi mM The Next Step Group is scheduled to Donating to capacities have you volunteered ery time IVe done a speaking en­ and verticd Minds. begin in early March, h will meet for Thc United Way income funds a Tuesday from 3 to 5 p.m. at the Men sources in order to take the next step six consecudvc weeks on Thursday GAGV through Design, Dry WaH, Decks, number of ptograms and services of of Color Health Awareness (MO­ in your coming-out process. The reg­ evenings in the GAGV Community r - Carpentry, Property Managment FINE WINES AND SPIRITS thc Gay Alliance that receive litde CHA) Project Offices, Sibley Cen­ istration fee is on a sliding scale from Center's main meeting room. United Way funding from other revenue sources, tre, Suite 1060, 25 Franklin St. $5-S10 for thc entire six weeks. To Come shop the The group is open to gay men, The United Way Spring Campaign Repairs toful l replacement such as thc GaySource Info-line, A new AA/NA meeting for Igbtq n^ster, picase call me at the Alliance lesbians, bisexual and transgender will kick off in the month of March. which provides information, refer­ youth also started onjan. 23. This (244-8640 xl3) by Feb. 5. There is area's largest and individuals who want to take the Thc Gay Alliance asks individuals to rals and support to hundred of call­ group will meet every Tuesday from limited space available, so please re­ Reeestknales next step in their coming out pro­ designate the GAGV as a recipient of ers each yeai^ the Lending Library, 7:30 to 8:30 p.m. at the Downtown spond as quickly as possible. Call & leave message best selection of cess, whether they have been out for one's pledge. The donor designation \iHhich has % growing collection of United Presbyterian Church, 121N. This tnonth we will have two social ^years or are just newly coming out. number for the agency is 1135. DISCOUNT UQUOKS & WINES fine wines and over 1,800 books and die Commu­ Fitzhugh St. A special thanks to activities. Grab your honey and break trough facilitated discussions, in­ "Last year thc Gay Alliance re­ •30 We«t Kidge Koad nity Center building, which provides Chrissy for all her help in getting out your dancing shoes! On Satur­ ceractive exercises, and journal writ­ ceived neariy $23,000 in pledges," Kochester, NT 14«15 spirits at the low­ free meeting space to more than two this group off the ground! day, Feb. 10, we will be attending the ing, thc two leaders for the^oup states Rob Gclder, Execurive Direc­ dozen area groups during thc year. The Next Step for Young Adults, Sweetheart BaU. Tickets for the dance 621-4210 frnn: 621-6227 est prices. will help pardcipants identify their tor. **This is the largest amount our The United Way income also al­ a six-week group for young adults are only $ 12 in advance or $ 15 at thc strengths and resources that will en­ agency has ever received through WHEN STRESS BECOHES WARM ME ! lows the Gay Alliance to offer the ages 18-23, will begin Feb. 12. door, and dancing begins at 8 p.m. able them to achieve their personal thc United Way. A sharp increase in community a number of support Whether you've been out for years On Friday, Feb. 23, we will have a TOO MUCH... Remote C.ir Starter goals. donations over the last several years groups and workshops throug its and have more steps to take, or are Youth Group Movie Night from 7:30 Professionally **This is our most popular support has in part enabled our agency to WHY SHOP ANYWHERE ELSE! Strengthening Ourselves Program, newly out, this is thc group for you! to 9:30 p.m. Come join us for flicks, CONSIDER THE VALUE OF group. For two years in a row, we more than double our staff This installed at a minimal charge to participants. The two facilitators for thc group food, and fun! COUNSELING have offered two sessions of the shows that community members WE DELIVER will provide a safe and supportive Have an idea to share, want more group back-to-back in order to meet want and are willing to fmancially for Only S169.95 • WE SHIP IN NYS Youth Group: space to help you identify and utilize informarion or just need someone to the demand, and we still have had to support a bigger Community Center your individual strengths and re­ talk to? Feel free to give me a call! • INOIVIOUALS turn people away," explains Tanya that offers more programs and ser­ ANNIVERSARIES • OFFICE PARTIES • BIRTHDAYS * FAVORS vices in the Rochester area," new programs • PARTNERS Smolinsky, Program Director. "It is Women's Movie Night Mnke^Uce Mall DINNER PARTIES * WEDDINGS AND UNIONS * HOLIDAYS * great to be able to offer a group that All donations made to the Gay starting now Every third Friday of the month at the GAGV Comnrujnity Center. • ADOLESCENTS 475-1900 GRADUATIONS * "WILL & GRACE" NIGHT is so needed in the community." Alliance through the United Way By Patty Hayes 179 Adantic Ave. Doors open at 7 p.m. Greece The fee for thc group is on a sUd­ entide each donor to a complimen­ Several new youth progran\s have • PARENTING CONCERNS 821-1888 Brrng o ^atz or come a/one attti jttit^ other ivomen m wtxtchittg our favorite Hours: Monday-Wednesday 9 san-9 pm / Thursday-Saturday 8:30 am-9 pm ing scale from $25 to $50 for all six tary subscriprion to Tbe Ettrpty Chstt, started, or will be starting soon. First, lesbiait fkcks. sessions. However, no one will be an opportunity to become a member there is a new Youth of Color Group, Brought to you by Upstate LesConnttcc RochesterDykes and Thc Gay Alliance of Jactyn Passero, CSW-R tumed away because of iimited in­ ofthe Genesee Co-op Federal Credit which had its kick-off party on Jan. the Genesee VaHey. (716)339-9150 come; scholarships are available to Union, and voting rights in GAGV 23. This group, which is open to Videos courtesy of Outhmllsh Jl A Rainbow Community those in need. Pre-registration is re­ Board elections. youth ages 14-20, will meet every I 'IIM More Light is a national network of indusive Presbyterian churches NEXTSTEP GROUP welcoming gay. lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered persons into full Scheduled to begin in early co-ministry and life celebration within our worshipping family. 6LtTQ VC(im dim^ ilv BtCWtSlfct! March GAGV Youth Group: Every Sunday from 2-4 pm at the GAGV Commuiuty Through faciiitatt'd di^f ussion, p^raup exer­ Two services every Sunday at 11:00 am Center (179 Atlantic Ave.). Youth ages 14-20 wdcome to drop in! - a traditional service in the Sanctuary - cises and jourrKi! writing, thf' oroup will "Leave us home...but not alone, "m - a contemporary service in Celebration Hall - lu'lp participants Adult Education 9:45 am Now! Youth of Color Group: Every Tuesday from 3-S pm identify tfit-ir- s?*-- '•^'_uh^- .irul »••( scares to Creature C6mfort at Men of Color Henkh Awareness (MOCHA) Project, Oftable theri '<• • • * • ' • .' .: ; theitheir Call for dates and times when Rev. Jane Spanr Sibley Centre, Suite 1060. Ages 14-20 wdcome to drop in! .... ^ , ^ ^-., Pet Sitters will be worshipping with us. coming o\.iX i • t V save bt (-n out for \ - . • ?niirtg Now! Next Step Group for Youi^ Adults 18-23: Daily Visits • "Service Dogs' For information call Isabel Morrison, at 325-4000 uut. Tfiis ; - .- Overnight House Steep Overs A six we^ group starting in Februaiy for anyone ages 18-23 looking to IhLJr stJay tveoMU' ' x-ay men, Pet Transportation (taxi service) take the next step in their c---:S*'1?i'-- - J*.-•».•, xiii^ ,t^ a^i^ ^*-^»**', j*JB,« lOttM

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Prograni will award returned after that date. An SASE '?if?w:r?yftw?;: four $5j(Q0Q scholarships to hi^ for return must bc included with thc fiBiiPWA>nrBD ate, mscreet, and sensual TOP seeks school seniors or undergraduate manuscript. Plays that have been Asian male wanted: interested in one special companion. You bc gay, Got college students who plan to pursue submitted in thc past may bc resub­ assisting in dual body rubs. Must bc 18-45, HIV-negative, any race/ a bachelor's degree in journalism at mitted if there has been signifiant open-minded, attractive, and friendly. height, attractive, honest, trustwor­ an accsedited four-year college or work done on the script since thc Flexible on-call hours. Evenings/ thy, interested in the world, weU university. During each year of the last submission. For more informa­ weekends. Downtown. 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Fitzhugh St 271* Fitzhiwh St 244*8640. Second and fourdi Thursdays, AIDS f * AManeaprognMiwandawvicMl En^piffe Beaffs Chocolate Party. Call LaTek Bethea, 420-1400. Fust, third Mondays, 7-9 pm, WEDNESDAY 1608. GAGV. 179 Adantic Ave. Rochester, 1350 University Ave. 7 6:30 ptn, GAGV Community Cen­ SUNDAY 2S Wonoen'a Community Chotua pm. CaU Jerry, 442-2220. Parents and Ftienda Tdi^^Taik. Rehearsals each Wednesday, 6:30-9 ter, 179 Adantic Ave, Bring your Empite Beats at Amctka LGBTbook discussion series. Last GLOBJd. of Lesbians and G«^ (PFLACQ pm, CaU for kx:anon. 234-4441. (Gays and Lesbians of Bausdi & at GQ or Monday nights at Clover favorite dessert. 234-3381, gaoaCo To reserve ticket, call 234- 2:30 -5 pm. \a&x Sunday. Call fbr Monday, Borders Books & Music, G^ Alliance ofthe Geneaee location: 234-0156 7-8:30 pm. Co-sponsored by Lomb). Meets every third Thursday IOK liii i \\'l \_()[ SMONIMOi f^KBRL^'\R\ Lanes from G.R.E.A.T. Committee COAP at Laramie Ptofect. 7:30 3381 by Feb. 18. VaUcy boatd of ditectota Meet­ in Area 67 conference room at die pm. Mike D., 529-3526. COAP Simday brunch. 11 Dignity-Integtity GAtiV. Free. ing, second Wednesdays, 7 pm, members. 5 pm, St. Lukc's/St. Simon Cytene HIV Poaitivc Goy Men Support Optic Center. Voice mail 338-8977. In the life. National gay TV SUNDAY 18 am. Dish to pass. Dennis, 271- 179 Adanric Ave. 244-8640. Rodseaiet Gay Men's Chorua 232-2250. Shipping Dock Theaore, COAP Twist and Shake Ni|^t. Church, 17 S. Fitzhu^ St. jgvery Gay Alcoholica Anonymoua newsmagazine. Theme; gay African Dignity Integrity Matdi Gras 5219. Sunday. 234-5092, Every Monday night AIDS Roch­ Downtown United Presbycerian THURSDAY I 151 St. Paul St., near comer of 7:30 pm. CaU Dave S., 232-3012. 7 pm. Unitarian Chucdi, 220 Winton Church, 121 N. Fitzhugh St 7-9;30 SATURDAY 10 Americans. 11 pm, WXXI. potkick. After 5 pm services, St MOCI^ Fotum. "In Search Open Arma Metropolitan ester, 1350 University Ave. FaciU­ Rd Imbolc, Candlemas. Ancient Andrews. Free parking in lot across Cotrmtunity Chut^ pm 423-0650. TUESDAY 13 Lukc/St. Simon thc Cytene Chutch, of ChusHwfory: Rochester Then tatcd by Gerry UUed. 442-2220 x Celtic cross-quarter festival of li^t street Sweetheart BalL The GAGVs 175 Norris Drive, Cobbs HilL 3051. Suppott Group for Parenu Free confidential walk-in HIV 17 S. Fitzhugh St 234-5092. and Now." Focusing on the his­ and fire,.,representing the retum of Leading Ladies. Wildwimmin third annual BaU and SUent Auction, Dignity Integrity Valentine's 10:30 am., 6:30 pm 271.8478. Gteen Party (political) Who Have Lost Children teating thc sun and the approach of spring. Four Points Sheraton. Dinner 6 pm; Day dinner. St Lukc/St. Simon thc TUESDAY 20 tory of the gibt experience in Gay Men*s Alcoholics kxttrntf- First, third Wednesdays, 11 am- Every Thursday nig^t, 5-9 pm, ETCetera present die world premiere Second Mondays, 7 pm, GAGV 12:30 pm. Third Presbyterian Cyrenc Church. 17 S. Fitzhugh St. Empty Closet deadline. Cam­ Rochester as It relates to people mous Community Center, 179 Atlantic AIDS Rochestcr, 1350 University Sacred to Brigit, the gockiess of fire, of the cabaret musical by Carolyn dancing 8 pm. to 1 am. $55/person Church, 4 Meigs St. Sponsored by Ave. 442-2220. poetry and heaUng. Gage. 8 pm. Visual Smdies Audito­ for non-GAGV members; $45/per- For information caU 234-5092. era-ready ads, photographs. 244- of color. 7 pm. RJ's Pub, 140 St. Lukc*s/St. Simon Cyrene Ave. 546-5122. VIVAl Genesee Region Home Care. Free. MOCHA nsovie nig^t WEDNESDAY 14 9030, Alexander St. (comer of Broad­ Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh St. 8:30 pm, 325-1880. FlUDAY 3 rium, 31 Prince St. Runs Feb. ?, 10, son for GAGV members. Dance 232-6720. Second, fourth Sundays. Second Thursdays, 6:30 pm. MO­ way). 420-1400. Itsdian American discussion group. Tret Fure in concert* 12 Comers 16, 17. 23, 24, and March 2 and 3. only tickets are $12/person in ad­ Boys* Valentine Potluck. ARI, WEDNESDAY 21 Gay, Lesbian, Bisexuad Third Mondays, 7 pm, GAGV Fromninnets/Frontwaikers CHA Project, 25 FrankUn St, Suite Coffeehouse, 1200 Winton Rd. S. (!2 General admission $15; $12 sm- vance; $lS/person at thc door. AU 1350 University Ave. Bring a dish to COAP ditmer at Golden Dy­ MONDAY M and Friends Association Community Center, 179 6 pm run/walk; meet George 1060.420-1400. nasty, 1900 S. CUnton. 6:30 pm. TriangU Talk. *Truc Selves: (GLBFA) AtlanticAve. 234-4596. Eastman House parkii^ lot 271 - FRIDAY Comers Presbyterian Church Fel­ dents/seniors. For reservations caU proceeds benefit thc Gay AUiance of pass- 7 pm. 442-2220. 2709. Richard and Jeff, 461-3011. UnderstandingTranssexualism/* U. of Rochester. Sundays, 5 pm, TUfSDAY Leabian, Bi-WcM»en Circle lowship HaU). 8 pm. $12.637-5246. 654-7709. thc Genesee VaUey. For more infor­ FRIDAY 15 Empire Bears Second Fridays, 6:30 pm, GAGV THURSDAY 22 by Brown and Rounsley. Discus­ Morey 401. 275-9379. E-m^: Gay Alcc^ioUca Anonymous FRIDAY t Kissing thc Witch. HAG The­ mation, sec ad and page 1 article, or Eno^ty Closet deadline. Artides, [email protected] 8 pna, Genesee Hospital, 244 First Wednesdays, 7;30 pm, Community Center, 179 Adantic The Laramie Profect by Moises atre production at HaUwaUs Black 'n caU 244-8640. letters to editor, ad space reserva­ COAP Game Night. 7 pm. sion leader Pamela Barres, co- Aic»anderSt Open mcetk^. GAGV Community Center, 179 Ave. (315)597-5326. GAGV Youth Group Adantic Ave, Kaufnun. Presented by Shipping Blue Theatirc, Tri Main Center, 2495 SUNDAY 11 tion, dassified ads, non-camera-ready George. 663-7451. facilitator of the Transgender Ages 14-21. Every Sunday, 2-4 pm, Ha(p» Lakes Gay/Leabian Sup- Women's Movie Night FRIDAY 23 Group. 7-8:30 pm. Borders. Co- GAGV Community Center, 179 Transgender O^anization Third Ftidays, 7 pm. GAGV Com­ Dock Theatre. Runs through March Main St. Suite 425, Buffalo. Runs GREAT Bowling Tournament ads. 244-9030. Third Wednesdays, 6:30-9 pm, munity Center, 179 Atlantic Ave. 5. Fridays/Saturdays: 8 pm. Sunda3rs Feb. 9. 10, 11, 16, 17, 18. Fridays/ Valentine's brunch. Club GQ, 444 FRIDAY 16 Mandate. Smoke and alcohol free sponsored by GAGV. Adantic Ave. 244-8640. Third Tuesdays, first Fridays. Write PO Box 941, Geneva NY GAGV Community Center, 179 SATURDAY COAP at Tapas* Formal. 7:30 environment; meet other single guys. WEDNESDAY 2S Rainbow Amatetir Radio Aaaoc Adantic Ave. 3 pm. General admission $16; sm­ Samrdays 8 pm; Sundays 4 pm. Tick­ Central Ave, 12:30-3 pm. Tickets Finger Lakes chapter. 14456, or caU (315)536-7753, ask Rochester Rams bar nig^t Third dents and seniors $14. Groups of 10 ets $ 14 and $ 12. For reservations caU $20/couplcs,$12/sin^e. Fundraiser pm. Shawn, 271-5868. 7 pm, 250 East Ave. CaU Gerry, 442- Empty Cloaet mailing. 1-5 Business meeting/lunch. CaU Bob, fbr Satn Edwards. NYS Department of Health Saturday. 8 pm-2 am. Bachelor Fo­ or more, $10. For reservations caU (716)879-0935. for ARI and CHN. Tickets avaUable SATURDAY 17 2220. $5. pm: label and stuff envelopes. Adantic Five 0 Anonymous HIV Testing tum, 470 Umversity Ave 271-6930. 442-7185. Third Wednesdays, GAGV Com­ 6:30-7:30: bulk maiUng. GAGV Baaically Treblemakets Gay men 50 and over. Second Lilac Rainbow Alliance for the Tuesdays, 7 pm, GAGV Commu­ munity Center, 179 Atlantic Ave. Deaf Community Center, 179 Adantic Every Sunday, GAGV Commimity THURSDAY Center, 179 Atlantic Ave. 4:30-6:30 nity Center, 179 Atlantic Ave. 461- Second Samrdays, 7 pm. Gay AUi­ Ave. Volunteers with cars who 0821. Presbyteriana for Leabian ance, 179 Atiantic Ave. Write PO pm. 242-0237. and G^y Concema \ Triangle Talk Westminster Presbyterian can help widi distribution urgcndy MONDAY Gating Out Box 20093, Rochester NY 14618. needed! 244-9030. St^>port/sociai group. Every Ti«8- 6:30 pm, first Thursday. For loca­ Frontrunners/Frontwalkers Gay and Lesbian Suppott Gtoup tion caU Ralph, 271-7649. 8:30 am run/walk. Meet George Presented bf Bttnkrs ttntI the GAG¥ MARCH Third Presbyterian Church, 4 Meigs day, 7-9 pm. Craig, 586-4073. Church Orieans Rainbow FeUowship Mercy Spiritual Companion Eastman House parking lot461- • «. FRIDAY 2 St First and third Mondays, 7:30-9 Program 4246. pm, 271-6513. Support/social group, meets sec­ PtMotiBtamEi, Spirituality, Intimacy and ond Tuesdays, 7 pm. For location Evening of reflection for those im­ Coalition for Lesbian Visibility A MORE LIGHT congregation Women'a basketball pacted by HIV/AIDS. 7-9 pm. Aliveness. Winter workshop for Monday and Thursday nights, 7-9 caUDak. 589*9107, or e-mail Second Saturdays. Finger Lakes FouM^ Of rm RotiKSta Ti Gay, Bisexual and Transgender IA«Aubacl [email protected] CaU 671 -6070 or 473-6893. area, poducks/socials. CaU Becky where people of all sexual orientations pm. 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