JUNE 25, 2016

The Quest for a Destination

Wedding Venue our is the most special day of your life. It’s a celebration of your love, Ycommitment and the wonderful journey WHAT’S INSIDE you’re about to begin. As you read through ■ A Perfect Affair S2 our special wedding supplement, take to ■ The Quest for A Destination Wedding Venue S3 heart the personal reflections and helpful ad- ■ Chut Cuerva & Kim Kokseng: From Central Park to Napa S4 vice from couples on choosing the perfect ■ Pinoy Priest’s Cookbook Reveals Recipes for Spicing Up Married Life S5 venue, florist, videographer and much more. From the Chronicle to you—much love and ■ Floral Centerpieces Add Natural Beauty to Tables S6 happiness on your special day! ■ Reflections of 50 Golden Years S8 ■ Wedding Capture Couples' Love Story S9 ►COVER STORY, S3 ■ A Filipino Wedding in Molokai's Filipino Camp in the '60's S10 S2  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT WEDDING REFLECTIONS WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016 A Perfect Affair By Renelaine B. Pfister

his month, I will be celebrating my 10th wedding an- niversary, which meansT I still have much to learn about . It makes me reminisce about my wed- ding day, though, a happy event that I can’t believe hap- pened almost a decade ago now. We had a small wedding, 26 people including me and my husband. My husband, his brother and friends from Ger- many took the bus and met me My brother’s wedding was They go to bed without show- and my party at the City Hall bigger, and I was very happy ering, are late for appoint- in Teaneck, New Jersey. I to go home to Cebu a few ments with their spouses, talk wore a simple, lilac-colored weeks ago to attend it. It was a badly about them, and put lace that my mother perfect affair. their spouses last. In fact, the the outdoor wedding. He and There was, however, a bought for me in the Philip- The woman he married opposite should be done: we the couple were seated at the game where everyone could pines. It was remarkable be- was a born again Christian, should hold our spouses in the center of the lawn, with the participate in. There was a cause my mother and I had and they were wed in that highest regard. We should put couple facing him. I suspected block of wood (they sure had very different tastes in cloth- faith. Pastor Joe officiated at our spouses first. He said his it was a beautiful exchange, if lots of trees in Germany) with ing, but that was one of the the wedding, and he gave a 89 year-old uncle still pulled only I understood what they nails sticking out. You’re sup- few times she got my style. long sermon about marriage. out a chair for his wife at the were saying. After the cere- posed to hammer down the The ceremony was over in He spoke for 20 minutes or so table. This is what we should mony, the guests walked to the nails with the thin, narrow end minutes, and the German about marriage these days strive for. nearby restaurant for cham- of the hammer, not the larger guests probably thought, “we being a failure, citing high di- After the ceremony, we pagne and nibbles. Pretty hammerhead. This could go flew thousands of miles for vorce and separation rates. At went outdoors to have our pic- soon, though, weird things on the whole night, my hus- that?” We had a quiet recep- first I squirmed in my seat, un- torials on the dock, with the started happening (at least, to band said, and it did. This was tion in a hotel function room. comfortable at his stern, lec- background of a pinkish sky this Filipino’s eyes.) For ex- just a game, a pastime, and an It was all low-key, and perfect turing tone. Well this is and clear blue waters in Mac- ample, someone set a minia- excuse to drink. Everyone for us. We had planned to have reassuring, I thought. But I re- tan Island, Cebu. But after ture house on fire. Real standing around the block of a bigger church wedding in the alized everything he was say- standing in the sweltering heat firemen arrived shortly, with wood got a turn, and those Philippines, but this never ing was true. For example, he in high heels (at least for the sirens blaring and lights flash- who failed to drive the nails came to fruition. We decided said married people slowly women), the whole wedding ing. It was all prearranged and down had to take a drink. The one wedding was enough. lose honor for their partners. party was happy to return to part of the festivities. funny thing is, the more drunk the glass-walled pavilion for “Isn’t this a waste of the you are, the harder it is to cocktails, snacks, and air con- firemen’s time?” I asked my drive the nails in. ditioning. Then came dinner, husband. Aside from the abundance speeches, a slide show of the Apparently no. It was tra- of wood products, German ’ pre-nuptial photos dition. One man suited the are also abundant and singing. When the newly- up in a firefighter’s with cake. In one tent, there weds made their thank you jacket and she helped put out was a long table covered with speech, they gave away gifts the fire while the groom han- cakes of all sizes and colors. to their respective families, dled the water pump at the They were brought in by the which was rare since it is nor- truck. guests and all looked mouth- mally the couple who receive Then the couple sawed a watering. Picking just one or gifts on their wedding day. large piece of wood together. two slices (which is all one Being one of the recipients of Then a large truck came can really eat) was an agoniz- their thoughtfulness though, I and dumped chunks of fire- ing decision to make. found it heartwarming. wood on the lawn, and the The party lasted till the That’s how we Filipinos couple was supposed to clean wee hours of the morning, but usually celebrate weddings. it up. My husband said it could I had gone home with my in- But it’s interesting to see how also be sawdust or anything laws long before that. other cultures do it. A few else. All of these activities Whatever the setting, and years ago I witnessed a Ger- were meant to join the new whatever the culture, wed- man wedding when my hus- couple together and promote dings to me are always happy band’s best friend invited us to unity. I simply thought it was and uplifting. A grand party his. too much physical labor for a that ushers in a new begin- The town mayor officiated wedding. ning. SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S3 COVER STORY WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016 The Quest for a Destination Wedding Venue By Seneca Moraleda-Puguan

he feel of sand while walking down the aisle, the sound of waves lapping the shore as vows are exchanged and a majes- T tic sunset view as the first kiss is shared. These are images that come to mind for many couples who dream of having a beach wedding.

My dream of a beach wed- a couple, must decide the set- consider when choosing a loca- ding came true more than two ting of your wedding. Are you tion is its picture-perfect years ago along the white sand both beach lovers? Or do you beauty. beach of Laiya, Batangas. It like gardens better? This is Joei Revilleza and Grace was beautiful and serene. It something you may not agree Deloria both agreed that the was perfect. It was everything on but simple decisions such venue has to be beautiful. I wanted. as this will make you know “The venue has to be pic- But choosing and deciding each other better and ture worthy. This is why we on the venue was one of the strengthen your relationship. chose La Huerta Estate in An- most challenging parts of wed- And somewhere along the de- tipolo,” says Revilleza. ding planning. It took several cision-making process, you Deloria agrees: “The calls and hours online search- have to compromise. beauty of the venue was our ing for the perfect location. It “We had to consider what first consideration. The view Anthon and Lenee Te tying the knot in Mahogany Place, Tagaytay. was stressful and time-con- we both wanted as the setting has to be perfect. Who would- suming. of our wedding. I wanted sand, n’t agree that Baguio City is Although many couples Art wanted a view. He wanted one of the most beautiful still prefer church weddings, convenience for his family. I places in the Philippines? It’s the number of soon-to-be wanted that too. So we de- one of the best places to start newly weds who choose hold cided on Club Balai Isabel in forever with the one you their weddings outside of the Talisay, Batangas,” says Joyce love.” four walls of the church build- Torres, who married Art in De- Indeed, nothing beats say- ing has risen in recent years. cember 2012. ing ‘I do’ and having your first Destination weddings have be- Sentimental Value. Some kiss as husband and wife with come popular, not just among newlyweds-to-be prefer to hold picturesque scenery as your celebrities, but also among or- their wedding ceremony in a background. Someday, you dinary couples who want their certain location because it has will look at your pictures and weddings to be extraordinary. a significant meaning and im- share with your children how They desire to have the view portance in their lives. beautiful your wedding was. Edson and Ina Tan becoming one in Hacienda Isabella, Cavite. of the sea and the sky as their “For the wedding, we Accessibility. While others altar, and the gardens as their chose Boracay for sentimental choose on holding their wed- backdrop. reasons. My husband, BJ, pro- dings somewhere isolated, The Philippines, with its posed to me there,” says Lai many still prefer locations that 7,107 islands, gives couples Lingan, who got married along are accessible to their loved many beautiful options of ro- the shores of Boracay in June ones, friends and also suppli- mantic wedding venues to 2015. ers. choose from—mountains, gar- Shemah Asis and her hus- “Since I live in Iligan, we dens, lakes, beaches, old band John Paul chose to be chose to have our wedding in houses, churches. Anything wedded in Cagsawa Ruins, Cagayan De Oro so the family you could ask for, the Philip- Albay. According to her, “Bicol of my husband, Rodel, who is pines has it. Ironically, having is the place where we both from Baler, Quezon, could visit so many options makes it grew up.” my hometown,” says Estela tougher for couples to decide. A wedding is a once-in-a- Soniel who had her wedding at With majestic Mayon Volcano in the background, JP and Shemah So what should couples lifetime experience for a cou- the Marco Hotel. Asis say "I do". consider when choosing a wed- ple where beautiful memories Bride-to-be Chezka Vidal is a very important considera- So be wise in your spending ding venue? are created and cherished. explains, “While I’m set on tion. You don’t want to be but at the same time, do so in Several former and When choosing a venue, think looking at beach venues, other broke and find yourselves in faith. brides-to-be were asked their of the place that is dear to both considerations include out of debt as you start your marriage, Others. The Philippines advice on choosing the location of your hearts. town charge, corkage fee, do you? being a tropical country, it is where they will give their pre- Picturesque Venue. Cou- weighing between sticking On the other hand, do not helpful to choose a location cious “I do” to the man they ples invest in expensive pho- with the caterer I like or look- allow your resources to limit that is appropriate to the chang- love. And these are the things tography and videography to ing for a local caterer in Batan- you in choosing your wedding ing weather. they shared. capture the most important day gas.” venue. You can trust that God Ina Tan, who tied the knot Setting. Beach, garden, of their lives and the beginning Budget. Deciding on the will provide and He will use with her husband, Edson, in mountain, lake or cliff? You, as of their forever. One thing to budget for the wedding venue people around you to bless you. (continued on S4) S4  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE FILIPINOS... (from page S2) COVER STORY WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016

THE QUEST... (from page S3)

Newlyweds BJ and Lai stroll along the white sand Kim and Grace Deloria begin forever in the beautiful A breathtaking ceremony of Art and Joyce Torres in beaches of Boracay. mountains of Baguio City. Club Balai Isabel in Talisay, Batangas.

Hacienda Isabella, Cavite three given invitations but who we Whether enjoying the ma- ily, friends and guests will on your marriage and not on years ago shares, "The time we were not close to, so we hoped jestic view of the mountains of have their eyes on you more your wedding. were planning, we knew we the flight would be a deter- Baguio or Mayon Volcano of than anything else. You are Lenee Te, who married wanted somewhere without rent,” says Lai Lingan. Bicol, having a classy and ele- going to be the center of at- Anthon in Mahogany Place, "four walls". A garden was an Some couples also choose gant wedding at the gardens of traction and attention. Tagaytay, summed up her option, but since our wedding a place where their families Tagaytay and Antipolo, or More than the wedding it- considerations when choosing was in October, we knew we can attend not only the wed- basking in the wind and gaz- self, what really matters is a beautiful wedding venue. needed a covered venue nearby ding ceremony but also enjoy ing at the beautiful sunset on marriage. Marriage is a “The place should speak in case it rained, which actually nearby tourist spots. the picturesque beaches in covenant created by God to re- volumes about you as a cou- happened in our case. And These are just some of the Batangas, Boracay and flect His love for His bride, the ple. The place should be some- since I knew how difficult it things to consider. There are Palawan, at the end of the day, Church. Weddings last only thing you asked God for, a was to walk on grass wearing countless reasons to prefer one what makes a wedding glori- for a day, but are place you have been believing heels, I knew we needed a venue from another. What’s ous and memorable is not lo- meant to last forever. Having and dreaming of. The place place with a concrete or ce- important is that the bride and cation but love. your wedding in the most should be a venue where peo- mented walkway.” the groom ultimately agree on It is love that has brought beautiful and most expensive ple can comfortably come to- Destination weddings also the venue. you together in the first place. location will be for naught if gether and enjoy.” help to limit the number of My husband and I chose to So whatever venue you the marriage eventually crum- Happy hunting for your guests if you are on a tight have our wedding in Laiya, choose, I am sure it will be bles. Just as what the couples dream destination wedding budget. Guests usually pay for Batangas because even before beautiful. Besides, your fam- before us advised, invest more venue! their own flight tickets so only getting married, both of us those who are willing to spend wanted to have a beach wed- FEATURE for and really love the couple ding. Laiya, which is about will attend. three hours from Manila, is the Chut Cuerva & Kim Kokseng: “We chose a destination nearest white sand beach away from the capital because where our relatives and friends From Central Park to Napa our theory was only those who could easily travel to. We were really loved us would spend able to find a resort that fit our Valley the money to come. This elim- budget, had excellent cus- HEART TO HEART By Rica Lopez-De Jesus inated the arrival of guests tomer service and served good what was in store for her. Who who were given courtesy in- food. Laiya Coco Grove was a made sure it was a knew that a simple click by vites. There were so many beautiful and affordable wed- pang Romansa Es- @chutster to follow family members who were ding venue. pesyal,” says Chut @kimm_stagram would Cuerva when he told change his life completely. I I have never seen Chut so ful- us the good news about his en- gagement to Kim Kokseng. It filled and content,” said was summertime in New York Marty. when Chut proposed to her in Says Kim’s best friend Central Park. Mia Zamora: “She has a heart It was a whirlwind ro- as big and as warm as her mance and we were surprised laugh. Thank you, Chut, for how fast it happened. We met making our Kimmy very Kim in February, and we real- happy. Because ever since the ized immediately why Chut two of you started dating, fell in love so easily with Kim she’s been different; there’s a because she is just so easy to sparkle in her eye, and a glow get along with and we loved to her smile and she shines like the gem that we always her right away! Kim is Ce- Rev. Dalton tells the newlyweds buana, which can only mean Chut and Kim Cuerva: “Each knew she was. You brought that she is very malambing — time you look down at your out the best in her as she has rings, as a married couple, down loving, sweet, generous and through the years, you will re- with you.” warm. member the line: ‘Love is patient Chut is a man of fine taste and love is kind.’” It was because of Chut’s and he pays great attention to good friend, Cecile Ang, and a met. “It started when my detail. We receive the most common friend and best man, friend Kim recently moved to personalized gifts from him Marty Qua, that the couple Manila. Little did she know (continued on S12) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S5 FEATURE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016 Pinoy Priest’s Cookbook Reveals Recipes for Spicing Up Married Life

By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. “The Catholic Church has so many beautiful teach- t has been said: “a adobo infused with curry ings about marriage, which couple that prays and coconut cream along is being obscured due to po- together stays to- with a few other Asian litical debates. While I don't gether.” One Fil- recipes. And he explained want to tell people who they ipino-AmericanI priest also the symbolism of the en- can or can't love, as a priest, believes that a couple that dearing Filipino wedding I am required to tell people cooks together can spice up tradition of the “arrhae” (ex- that marriage invites God's their marriage and satisfy change of 13 coins) in one of love into their lives. And their hunger for true love. the chapters. they should love one another Fr. Leo Patalinghug, The author was born in as Jesus loves us. This is un- known internationally as Cataingan, Masbate, Philip- derstood in marriage,” he “the Cooking Priest,” wrote pines, in 1970, to Dr. Carlos said. “This book simply in- a unique cookbook, “Spic- and Fe Patalinghug (he ded- vites people to learn how to ing Up Married Life.” Pub- icated the book to his par- love as God loves.” lished in 2012 by Leo ents on the occasion of their “Spicing Up Married McWatkins Films, Inc., it is 50th in Life” is a thoughtful and a follow-up to “Grace Be- 2012, the year it was pub- practical present for wed- fore Meals: Recipes and In- lished). dings and anniversaries. It spiration for Family Meals “[I] came to America and his other publications and Family Life” (Random when I was 2, and ever are available through book- House, Inc., 2010). He is since, Baltimore has been stores and online sellers, in- also the author of “Epic home. I am the youngest of cluding the Grace Before Shown above is the book cover of Spicing Up Marriage Book written Food Fight: A Bite-Sized five siblings, with one in by Fr. Patalinghug Meals website. At History of Salvation” (Ser- heaven,” he said. www.gracebeforemeals.com vant Books, 2014). Fr. Patalinghug is an or- cooking show “Savoring our inghug wants to continue in- , there are more recipes, Fr. Patalinghug revealed dained priest in the archdio- Faith” on EWTN (Global spiring couples to have the multimedia links and infor- that the inspiration for writ- cese of his hometown in Catholic Network), now in same passion for each other mation about Fr. Patal- ing his second book “came Maryland serving part-time its fourth season. An episode and God so the spice does not inghug and his ministry from prayer with God speak- as a sacramental and pas- guide and more multicul- go stale in their marriages. outreach worldwide. ing to my heart,” he said. toral minister. 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He corresponds to celebrating food, but with life lessons learned a lot of trade secrets monthly anniversaries and the loving relationships from Italian restaurant own- throughout the year, Fr. we desire to have with fam- ers and chefs and shared Patalinghug presents lessons ily members,” he said. “The with them his own culinary to learn and grow together, Table Foundation is my new experiences. He also took discussion questions to en- non-profit organization cooking classes at Le Cor- courage couple communica- [501(c)3] that carries the don Bleu in Perugia while in tion, prayers, recipes for mission by seeking to elevate Italy to build upon his skills. romantic meals and colorful the culture and family life Fr. Patalinghug even de- food photos. Marriage topics one meal at a time. So know feated a world-famous chef include loving for a lifetime, that regardless of who you with his steak fajita recipe finances, in-laws and ex- are or your situation, there is during a cooking show com- tended family, parenting, room for you at this table to petition on the Food Network health issues, forgiveness eat some delicious food and "Throw Down! with Bobby and faith. experience true nourish- Flay" in 2009. He even peppered some ment!” This peppy Pinoy priest Pinoy references throughout To help promote the has a zest for life, which is re- the book. He shared his movement further, Fr. Patal- flected in his ministry. Moved mother’s version of pork inghug also hosts the TV by the Holy Spirit, Fr. Patal- S6  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT FEATURE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016 Brides and Blooms Floral Centerpieces Add Natural Beauty to Wedding Reception Tables

By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. adding a touch of color with accent flowers and ribbons lowers are romantic number of centerpieces needed that match the wedding colors representations of a for the reception tables. because they photograph couple’s blossoming “For centerpieces, I always much nicer than just all white F and growing love. So say search for something you flowers.” it’s only natural that want [for your wedding] and Color creates a visual in- buds, blooms and greenery are bring pictures,” advised terest and couples could con- the most popular picks for Somera. If the desired center- sider incorporating bright wedding decorations. piece design is not within the blooms in their centerpieces to At the reception, especially couple’s budget, most florists symbolize a bright and joyful if the party takes place indoors, are very understanding and can future ahead in their married floral décor enhances the set- discuss alternative ideas for the lives. ting. Guests spend the majority couple to save money and still of time at the tables during the have beautiful arrangements Centerpiece Size and Style wedding celebration. So deco- for their wedding. “I am always Selections rate their dining area with styl- willing to help find ways to cut FLORAL DESIGN BY PASSION ROOTS | AShLEY GOODwIN PhOTOGRAPhY Size matters when select- ish centerpieces. down a little on the cost, too,” ing the style of the center- Here are some points to he said. pieces. Couples need to consider when using flower “A lot of the flowers can be communicate with their florist arrangements to transform the used for both the church and re- about the table type (such as tablescape into a gorgeous ception to keep the cost low,” long luau style or round tables) gathering space. added Somera. For instance, before choosing the design. aisle and altar arrangements “Always make sure your Budgets for Blooms can do double duty as decora- florist knows your table di- The Knot and Brides mag- tions at the reception and mensions as it makes a huge azines report that couples typi- ’ bouquets can be difference on how your flo- cally spend 8-10 percent of repurposed by putting them in rals are designed,” advised their wedding budget on flow- vases to grace the guestbook Shilhi Boloico Seibel of Pas- ers, which may include bou- and/or head tables. sion Roots (www.passion- quets, boutonnieres, leis and He said to keep in mind roots.com). “Tables can fill corsages as well as ceremony that florists’ busy season is up quickly with plates, glass- and reception décor. Some from February to May (Valen- ware and utensils or even companies offer wedding pack- tine’s Day, Easter/spring cele- family-style plating. We have age deals on a combination of brations, proms, Mother’s Day, been to many a wedding these floral items to fit a range Memorial Day, graduations, where changes were made to of budgets. Check their web- etc.). So plan early when hiring FLORAL DESIGN BY PASSION ROOTS | ABSOLuTELY LOvED PhOTOGRAPhY the overall tablescape and we sites as some offer coupons and a florist, especially during this were not notified and have specials. time, to ensure that services are dance of flowers and plants that fuller effect. had to completely redesign For fresh floral center- available for the wedding date already provide a natural Roses, carnations and the flowers to make it work pieces, Bernard Somera of and during the popular summer beauty to the wedding environ- stephanotis (pua male – liter- with the new table settings.” BGS Floral Design (http://bgs- months and throughout the ment. Many brides and grooms ally translated as Hawaii’s For round vs. long rectan- floraldesign.weebly.com) esti- year. are taking advantage of what is “wedding flower”) are also gular tables, Seibel said, mates that prices for each M a n y D I Y ( d o - i t - available locally and mixing popular choices. Plumeria and “Round tables are often more arrangement can start as low as yourself) brides also think that tropicals with other favorite pikake (“sampaguita” – the na- cost-effective as a single state- $25 and go as high as hundreds they could save money by flowers for their wedding cen- tional flower of the Philip- ment piece can be used to fill of dollars. simply sticking flowers in a terpieces. pines) are better suited for leis up the table. Long rectangular Prices are determined by a vase. But someone still has to In particular, “orchids are and floral accents as the tables often require two or number of factors, such as the prepare, set up and deliver very popular,” said Edith Doc- blooms do not last very long in three arrangements per table. type and amount of flow- everything and the floral de- tolero of Sunrise Leis and centerpieces. Otherwise, with a single piece, ers/plants chosen and whether sign might not be as picture- Flowers (www.sunriseleisflow- Doctolero also said she has the table can look under- they are in or out of season perfect for the wedding. ershawaii.com). “A lot of our noticed that the tradition of whelmed.” (based on availability), the kind Somera said, “Brides customers want orchid using all white flowers for a Regarding the height of of container (vase, cube, pot, should leave florals to the pros branches flowing out of tall wedding has moved toward the the arrangements, she said, etc.) used, the time/intensity of to be stress-free and enjoy their vases. Others want the orchids colorful trend. “Going with low centerpieces the labor and design work, set- special day.” dropped in clear containers and “Everything is very color- is more cost effective than tall. up fees and delivery charges. floating in water with marbles ful now. We are mixing a lot of If there is room in your When couples initially Tropicals, Traditions and or rocks and lights or candles.” colorful flowers into wedding budget, you may consider ask- meet with a florist to discuss Trends These tropical centerpiece centerpieces and bouquets,” ing your florist to create two their wedding flowers, it helps Hawaii is often called a designs are simple yet stun- she said. “However, if our cus- different height arrangements, to have a budget in mind, along tropical “paradise”. In this Gar- ning. And orchids may be tomers still want traditional allowing for a mix of low and with a color scheme and the den of Eden there is an abun- mixed with other flowers for a white flowers, we recommend (continued on page S12) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S7

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gree or two—B.S. Nursing, B.A Biochemistry, Doctor of Philosophy (Bio Physics),B.S. Civil Engi- neering, B.S. Liberal Arts, Master of Social Work, B.S By Trifona Andres Psychology, B.S. Biology, and Doctor of Pharmacy. hat does one Our dreams for them were say on one’s finally realized. It was Golden Wed- worth all the sacrifice. Their W ding Anniver- education, we told them, is sary? It is exactly 50 years our best legacy. ago on January 29, 1966 What is the greatest when it happened. Osler and thing that happened within I got married in Our Lady of the 50 years? The greatest, Lourdes Church in Mangn- no doubt, is having been gato, Laoag. It was an ex- blessed with seven wonder- clusive evening ceremony. ful children. We thank the We walked into the church Lord for them. They are ready for an elegant church very loving, caring and gen- wedding. It was under this erous. They are our precious beautiful setting that Osler Osler and Trifona Andres (center) with their children at St. Ann’s Church in Kaneohe for the renewal of jewels. We couldn’t ask for and I exchanged our wed- their wedding vows. Their children are (from left) Myra, Amabelle, Mary Rose, Gregorio, Marilou and Ur- more. ding vows. The extra festive sula (missing: Andrea). Then, equally wonderful church atmosphere was be- flowers, grapes and ice Provincial Hospital in so we made the difficult de- are the guys who came into cause another couple was cream cake air-freighted via Laoag. Of course, the first cision to come to America. It lives of the girls. The Andres also getting married the fol- PAL from Manila to Laoag? one was awaited with much meant leaving our lucrative household has been enriched lowing morning, I would be How can I forget the 298 anticipation and excitement. jobs and positions in the with the arrival of seven ter- the organist for that wed- mile drive from Manila to There was much guessing as Philippines—Osler, his co- rific grand kids. Then, the ding. Laoag just to visit? How can to whether the baby was ordinatorship in the Ilocos stork brought us a baby girl Fifty years! What hap- I forget the beep of Osler’s going to be a girl or a boy. Norte Tuberculosis and to greet us on our Special pened all those times? The 1957 Chevy to announce Same thing for the com- Chest Center, and me, my Day. These grandchildren years were filled with many that he was in town? The car ing of the next four who were Associate Professorship at have brought so much joy to surprises, challenges and is still there for sentimental all girls. After having five the Mariano Marcos State the family. Now, we are successes. On this day, I reasons. girls in a row, Osler and I University College of Edu- looking forward to welcom- want to reflect on the most Then, the reality of mar- were hopeful the next one cation. ing a daughter-in law, I memorable ones—the ones riage sank in when the chil- would be a boy. He was Since it was not possible mean, a daughter-in-love. that I will always cherish in dren kept coming. Osler going to be born in Chicago for the entire family to come More than 50 years ago, my heart. delivered the first five—all and we had already decided to the U.S at the same time, while Osler was in medical How can I forget the girls—at the Ilocos Norte on the name Andre. The baby it was another painful deci- school at Far Eastern Uni- turned out to be Andrea. sion to leave the children in versity, he met my sister When we came to the Philippines. But we are who mentioned that I would Hawaii, I was pregnant with fortunate to have a wonder- be coming home from my the seventh. We guessed we ful family. We were confi- East-West Center scholar- were destined to having dent that the children would ship in Hawaii. Right then girls, especially when my be well-taken care of by my and there, he promised him- doctor said as I was being father-in-law, mother and self that he would marry me. wheeled into the delivery my sister. I’m glad he kept that prom- room at Kapiolani Women’s Once in Hawaii, came ise. and Children’s Hospital: the challenges—where to Looking back—it has “This is the room where stay, where to work, how to been a long, interesting and girls are born.” get around since we had no exciting 50-year journey As I was being wheeled, car. Luckily, we had good filled with many challenges. I was still hoping for a boy. relatives and friends who I want to remember the first In between contractions, I helped us to resolve these is- cry of our babies, the honors kept repeating to myself, sues. Osler and I finally and awards they achieved in “The doctor must be kid- found jobs that we liked. school, the diplomas and de- ding.” True enough, the doc- There were many inconven- grees they earned, the wed- tor was kidding. There was iences but we dealt with dings that were performed, our much awaited baby boy! them until we were at last re- the giggles and laughter of The children grew up united with the children. the grandchildren. Our life is fast. Osler and I wanted the The children studied a life fulfilled. We thank the best for them—good educa- hard and all of them gradu- Lord for getting us to this tional opportunities, that is, ated from college with a de- point in our lives. SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S9

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By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. raphers are there to work your event and to capture ights…camera…ac- to have it at all.” your special day. They tion! Glamour magazine has re- will not miss anything be- HAWAII WEDDING VIDEOGRAPHY The bride and ported that 98 percent of all cause they are there to COMPANIES SAMPLE RATES (2016) L groom are definitely newlyweds recommend hav- work and not to socialize the stars of their wedding with ing a movie made of the wed- with friends and family. Below are publicized sample rates for basic wedding videog- the entourage as their support- ding day in addition to hiring a • You can critique and make raphy services in Hawaii for ceremony and reception cover- ing cast. Wedding videogra- photographer. But the biggest changes to your video as age (some bride and groom preparation shoots may cost extra). Check the websites for details on more video pack- phy can capture the couple’s reason they don’t choose pro- you see fit with no hard ages and customizable upgrades offered by each company. love story—and that movie fessional videography services feelings, since they’re pro- There are several other local videographers who will respond becomes a cherished memento is because of the cost. [SIDE- fessionals and not family. to inquiries if contacted about specific pricing. of the beginning of their mar- BAR]. Couples then seek out • You'll enjoy the final prod- Cinema Verité Wedding IMF Visions ried life together. a friend or family member to uct for years to come. Movies (http://alohawedding- (www.imfvisions.com) - cere- Although the “paparazzi” film the festivities for free or movie.com) - $999 for up to four mony package starts at $999 hours (3 Blu-Ray discs or USB plus tax (comprising of photographers at a deep discount. “I would highly recom- drive $60 extra charge) and guests with digital record- But Fernandez cautioned mend making professional Kai Media Hawaii (www.kaime- ing devices) are ever-present Crane Media (www.craneme- diahawaii.com) – commissions that “having friends and fam- wedding videography a prior- dia.com)- $1,850 for prep shoot start at $3,000 during the big event, it is the ily film it for you is never a ity. I have talked to many rel- and ceremony only; $3,050 for film crew of videographers good idea” and listed the dis- atives who have put prep shoot, ceremony and re- L’Amour Photography & that can document the details ception coverage Video (http://lmprophoto.com) - advantages: videography very low on their $1,765 for 4-hour package of the wedding day with mo- • The quality (of the video) list and regret not investing Evoke Media tion pictures and sound that a certainly won’t be as high more into their videographer. (www.evoke.media) - $850 for Ohana Films [Maui] basic ceremony only package (http://ohanafilmsweddings.com) still photograph cannot cap- as what you will get from If you have a limited budget, I - packages begin at $3,900 ture. professionals. recommend really looking into FX Studio Hawaii (http://fxstu- “Sure, a picture is worth a • Your friend/family mem- other portions of the wedding diohawaii.com) - $1,600 - Pure Media (www.puremedia- $3,500 for ceremony and recep- hawaii.com) - $1,899 for up to 4 thousand words, but videogra- ber might miss important where you can cut down so tion (prep shoot up to 2 hours hours of coverage phy can capture the ‘feel’ of wedding shots because that you can invest more into $700 add-on service); 1, 2 or 3 the day in a way that photog- he/she is too busy social- having a great videographer,” video camera options recorded Visionize Media (www.vision- in high definition izemedia.com) – commissions raphy can't,” said Ian M. Fer- izing with friends and said Acidera. “A wedding can start at $3,000 nandez, president of IMF family. only be lived once, so why not ImagineWurks (www.imag- Visions. • Your friend/family mem- go all out?” inewurks.com) - $2,095 Zest Kauai – $1,250 for up to (DVD/Blu-Ray $150 extra 1.5 hours of filming Sherwin Acidera of Vi- ber will run a higher risk Many reputable videogra- charge) sionize Media agreed with his of having technical errors phy companies offer value fellow videographer’s views: (dead battery, full memory packages (some even bundled (proposal/, re- we can capture on video. With “Yes, pictures are also mo- card, etc.) that could mean with photography services) hearsal, love story documen- videography, you get multiple ments that can be cherished, missing important parts of and/or a la carte options to ac- tary, save-the date, etc.), points of views rather than just but videography is moving the day. commodate a range of budgets internet live streaming serv- one, to help create a piece that pictures that I feel personally • Your friend/family mem- so couples can choose how ices, raw footage file, videog- takes countless hours of craft- can portray more emotion than ber will not enjoy your much to invest in their wed- rapher destination travel fees, ing.” a picture can.” wedding because he will ding video. digital guestbook, photo/video When the newlyweds fi- Pictures have been the tra- be obligated to work. “Try to find a company booth rental, movie poster art- nally receive the video, they ditional way of preserving • It will be difficult to cri- that can work with your work and expedited editing. come to realize that they have wedding memories since the tique your friend’s/family budget. Most companies will Once the wedding day is no regrets on their decisions to late 19th century. Now, espe- member's work. understand and will work with over, videographers continue invest in a movie filled with cially in this age of technology • It will take a toll on your you on getting your dream to work on the project by edit- memories of their wedding and social media, wedding (relationship) if you don't wedding immortalized on ing the video. While a short day that flew by so fast. The videos have become another like your friend’s/family video,” advised Fernandez. version may be viewed on the value of the video increases as keepsake option, though some member’s work. Pricing depends on the company’s website or channel time goes by when the couple couples think a photo album is hours of coverage (prepara- within a week or so, the final watches it on their anniver- enough. Fernandez said the advan- tion, ceremony and reception), full film will not be ready until saries and can share their love “One of the most common tages of hiring a professional number of videographers on a few months later because it story with their children. wedding regrets I hear from videographer include: site, video editing with titles takes time to create a quality “Video is special because brides is not having their wed- • You get what you want. A and transitions (such as same- product. these moments can be relived ding day filmed,” said Fernan- professional will cus- day edits, online teasers, high- “There is a special craft, in a heartfelt final product that dez, “On the other hand, I tomize your video just the light reel, full feature film, especially in the editing stages can be cherished and passed often hear couples who DID way you like it. etc.) and DVD/Blu-Ray/USB to wedding videography that down to future generations,” have videography complain • The quality will be much drive copies. takes hundreds of hours to said Acidera. that they spent too much on it higher. You’re hiring for Some additional costs complete,” said Acidera. “We A picture is worth a thou- and don’t pull it out often to experience and a creative might include music pay very close attention to the sand words but those who enjoy it. But it's better to have eye. slideshow presentations, guest little details that you may not have a wedding video say it is it and hardly watch it than not • The professional videog- interviews, extra event videos see as a wedding couple that worth so much more! S10  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT

NON-FICTION WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2016 A Filipino Wedding in Molokai's Filipino Camp in the '60's By Christine Sabado rate the wedding hall. Some- how they were very careful he evening after about timing and managed to I’d met Mama in keep us on opposite ends of the dimly lit hall- the island. This was amazing way, Philip was since there were only 5,000 askedT to go to his parent’s people living on this island room to “talk story.” It seemed then, but we never did collide. he had been with them for hours. I was anxious, but grew Wedding Day weary and succumbed to the Tradition would herald long day of emotions and trav- every detail and protocol that eling and drifted off to sleep. I was to follow in the days to awoke when a lone beam of come. Philip’s sheer richly light from the hallway filled embroidered wedding shirt the room like an arrow seeking was called a ‘Barong Taga- its mark. He opened the door log.’ It was made of a tradi- slowly to say good night. He tional fabric known as ‘piña,’ would sleep in the parlor, as a smooth almost stiff fabric was proper. Newlyweds Philip and Christine Sabado and their wedding entourage. made from the pounded fibers I sat up immediately and pigs, cows and chickens guests, friends of my parents near, my mother and I were of the pineapple plant. Rows pulled myself together. When would be required for cooking and people I had known since given a shopping list a mile and rows of white floral em- he did not speak, I grew impa- at the party was a critical I was a girl. I received a box long. On this ever-growing broidery decorated the front tient and blurted, “Did they point. Most of the talk at the of the invitations with the list were enough garlic, bay panels of the ecru button- like me? Am I okay?” As a table from there on revolved double envelopes as well. leaves and onions to sink a down shirt. All the male atten- side comment, I added, “Your around this main topic. Many They were all so white and ship. An especially important dants wore the traditional Mom is sort of spooky but nights were spent in serious beautiful. I laid them out item on the list was whiskey embroidered shirts as well. your Dad is really sweet…. discussion about whose pigs proudly for my husband to for the cooks—it had to be These are the norm in the Hum, I don’t think your sisters and cows to buy. How much see. For a moment he looked Seagram’s seven. The pre- Philippines, mostly because of like me.” When he still did not garlic and bay leaf would be perplexed and then asked in- ferred drink that was called a climate. They are cool and the answer, I demanded, “Tell me needed? Not to mention the nocently, “Why send (invita- ‘seven, seven’ a mix of Sea- breeze just flows through. now!” selection of dishes. I was tions) when everybody going gram’s and Seven-up (I am Pure white and truly elegant, He smiled in his innocent amazed and stood back to ob- come?” And they did, all sure the mix was more it was the perfect wedding way, laughing at me, as al- serve the intense planning and 1,500 guests. Only my par- whiskey, than soda). garment. ways. “Too late to back out discussions that revolved ents, my sister, and Nanny The preparations for the My wedding gown was a now. They are going to start around the party. In the end we (my paternal grandmother) wedding seemed endless. I delicate white silk with small fattening the pigs!” It was had three pigs (over 900 came from my side. Perhaps a was not ready for the amount floral designs woven into the truly the most local answer he pounds of pork), 95 chickens wedding in paradise in a far of ritual and superstition that texture of the fabric. The style could have given. At that mo- and two cows, for a guest list distant place called Molokai preceded the sacred event. was the traditional Filipino ment I understood immedi- that would top off at over was “too exotic” for our side Mama had set forth the first dress with peaked, rounded ately. I had won them over and 1,500 people…I truly stood at of the family in the late 60s. directive. In the next seven sleeves that were called with that, he would be my a distance in a state of awe. Months before the wed- days before the wedding ‘Terno.’ The style was proba- prize for life. June 14 was chosen after a ding, Mama and Papa moved Philip and I had to be sepa- bly from the 1800s with a I asked again about his sis- great deal of discussion. from Molokai to Aiea on rated, unable to see each other strong colonial Spanish influ- ters. “They smiled at me, but I Choosing the correct date for Oahu to be near us. When she until we met at the church ence. Stiff buckram was used am not sure about them.” As a the wedding was quite an or- arrived, Mama tactfully took steps. All of these supersti- in the sleeve to make it stand woman, I could see that be- deal as well. Many supersti- me into her room and closed tions and precautions were to on its own. hind the smiles, there were tions played into this decision. the door. She sat on her bed ensure we would have pros- The women of the camp wary, passing glances that I Naturally, it was understood, and began to speak in a very perity, health, many children had sewn my dress and the at- was sensitive to. I knew I had Mama would have the final direct manner. “They” and long happy years together. tendant’s and men’s a long way to go with these word. A mix of the Chinese (Philip’s brothers and sisters) To guarantee our paths shirts by hand. They had sent women who were devoted to calendar as well as calculating don’t like you.... But I like would not cross, Philip was for the ‘pina’ fabric or had it their sibling for life. ‘pay day’ was critical. It was you, and I am the only one taken to a hidden location at on hand for such an occasion. “Never mind them,” was understood that all the towns- that matters.” In her way, she the opposite end of the island, They all sat in a circle and his answer. “Mama is the only people would be in a more was still modest, she must while I remained in Mau- sewed happily for months. one who will make the deci- comfortable position to have caught wind of all the naloa. He was not allowed to There was no money in- sions and she is the boss and I “kokua” if they were not be- conversations after my depar- drive a car (considered to be volved; this was done for the am spoiled by her. Besides, I tween paychecks. ture to sabotage this pending bad luck). I am not sure he re- sake of the celebration and out am the ‘Budidik,’ the My family in California marriage. I swallowed hard, ally minded this custom be- of respect for Philip and the youngest.” He knew his rank would order formal wedding anticipating her next words. cause most of his time was family. and place in the family and invitations on a beautiful “Your Papa and I, we move spent with the other men The other tradition was was almost cocky about his white linen paper from the here, so no more ‘pilikia’ drinking, joking and gathering having godparents known as position with his Mom. finest printer in Los Angeles. (trouble) for you!” flowers and the special foliage ‘ninongs and ninangs’ in lieu The question of how many These were sent to mainland As the wedding drew that would be needed to deco- (continued on page S11) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S11

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FILIPINO WEDDING... (from page S10) side port in France, he be- friended a baker and his fam- of bridesmaids and attendants most fragrant flowers in the ily who taught him the secrets as in Western custom. The world. The flowers were of making the French bread, “Ninongs and Ninangs’ are strung in leis that were as long which became the famous the sponsors for the bride and as my dress. ‘Molokai bread.’ groom; it was an honor to be Fifty or sixty guests at- Before the wedding, there asked to be a godparent. The tended the ceremony at St. was so much fussing and bond and commitment to Vincent’s Church; everyone whispering about the cake and each other is life long. else was at the hall. As I en- my curiosity was aroused. His My family experienced tered the church, I saw that sisters and brother would hud- cultural shock. My mother, white ‘meatpacking’ paper had dle with a concerned look. who held her doctorate in ed- been laid down the aisle from Everyone was concerned ucation, and speech and the door to the altar. As I about the condition of the cake drama, suggested that I write walked up the aisle the red dirt when it reached the camp. The the story of my wedding for made tracks and the tips of my biggest worry was that it National Geographic Maga- heels made small holes in the might not survive the distance zine. The going rate was then paper. The wind swept from the island town to the ten cents a word. As she through the small wooden mountain village intact. Since spoke, she was wide-eyed, building in a funnel and Philip and his new bride Christine show off their beautiful wedding the roads were bumpy, this cake. looking in every direction at picked up the edge of the could be a valid concern as the chickens and goats skit- paper. Suddenly the white all stood at the ready to greet My spouse’s family and more often than not; a cake tering about the dirt lanes of paper was whipped into the the bride and groom as we town mates had charmed the would arrive in Maunaloa bro- the village. I dismissed the air, making a crackling noise passed. It was like a parade, plantation room and trans- ken, or worse, with flies stuck idea immediately, having ad- as it flew over our heads. I where all the people line the formed the red dirt-stained in the frosting. Fortunately, justed my life and finding ac- turned to see what was making road as we walked from the walls into a floral palace. The our cake did arrive in one ceptance and comfort in this the commotion, yet no one church on the hill. Fifteen hun- reception hall had been com- piece and happily without island village. The differ- else seemed to notice. Appar- dred people stood on the road pletely decorated with strung flies. ences in culture were as wide ently, these things were nor- waiting for us to arrive so the flowers and twisted vines that I bought the cake top dec- as the sea separating this mal in the camp and everyone party could begin. The women had been gathered from the oration in Honolulu at a Por- Molokai plantation camp and smiled when they saw my face cried, waving and wiping their Molokai forests. Phil’s days of tuguese bakery. I had the California suburb my as I watched the paper crackle tears and the children beamed, gathering flowers from the considered many styles of family had always known. and buckle, scraping the ceil- jumping with joy. I recognized mountains were twisted into cake decorations, but I finally Surprisingly there were no ing of the small, wooden some of the women who had these vines as well. Someone chose a couple, arm in arm, objections to the match. How church. sewn my dress. They proudly from the camp had woven a under a heart-shaped arch. The could their have been? Philip The priest before us on tugged at my sleeve as I large roll of flowers that took problem was they were both was clearly a treasure, a rare this wedding day was a kind, passed them. One last adjust- two hands to hold.They held blonde with the pinkest plastic human being that was the middle aged man, we had only ment! I had never seen so special flower leis of a unique skin. I took felt tip pens and kindest person, they had ever just met at the rehearsal. He many people in my life—nei- weave made from the rare, colored the groom’s hair black met. Perhaps they could see had the annoying habit of for- ther, I am sure, had my family. purple and white Maunaloa and tinted his pink face to how truly happy I was with getting my name during the Among the crowd were flowers, which are only found bronze. (I guess I was a pio- Philip. My parents did their ceremony. He recited the Philip’s school chums and his in this area of the mountain. neer in interracial wedding best to fit in. They too saw vows, “Do you...ugh...what is aunts, uncles and cousins hav- The wedding party and imme- cake tops.) It suited me, and this as a great adventure and your name again? Take this ing many different nationali- diate family members each re- everyone wondered if I had it were seduced by the magic of man,” etc. After the third time ties, they all smiled, jumped ceived these special special ordered. My answer Molokai and being married in he forgot my name, I was an- and clapped as we passed. lavender-and-white lei to wear was a smug smile. the midst of ripening pineap- noyed. The organist at the op- Dusk had descended on during the party. In one corner of the recep- ples. posite end of the church, only this mountain village and It is the custom for the tion hall, a ‘shot table’ was set On our wedding day knew the first bars of ‘Here streams of warm gold light groom’s family to pay for the up. Money was placed in a Philip, I walked down the comes the Bride’ and played it embraced us as we walked to wedding and the party. As I al- freshly oiled koa bowl in ex- same red dirt road that Philip 20 times in a row. the reception hall. The large ready stated, one of Philip’s change for a ‘shot’ of whiskey. had trodden as a boy. I wob- Once our vows had been banyan tree in the center of sisters had given us 300 This was a busy table, with a bled on my heels and perfect exchanged, Philip and I shared town had sat in this place for pounds of rice. The pigs and long line! An ensemble of old white satin shoes as my silk a kiss, and then turned to face well over a hundred years. It cows were gifts as well, and I men with their instruments train trailed in the red the open doors that revealed now shaded the hall and the know my side bought all the provided the orchestra music. Molokai dirt road. On my the miles of rolling sage ash post office; this tree was a whiskey for the cooks. Philip’s Even their name was romantic head was a white Spanish green pineapple fields with gathering place where every- brother Eugene had bought and melodic, they were known comb, fixed into my chignon, Molokai’s grandeur before us. one ‘talked story’ when they our from the to all as a ‘Rondala band.’ The the mass of pearls and small Someone had been kind collected their mail. We all Kanemitsu Bakery in Kau- origins of this instrument stem diamonds in the comb enough to catch the naughty had to bend at the waist to pass nakakai. The bakery prepared from the minstrel days of ren- sparkling in the sun. For the white paper that had run amok under the tree to enter the hall. an excellent wedding cake, but aissance Spain; this was more veil, which swept to the and held it in place for us as This banyan tree was so they are more famous the commonly known as a ‘man- ground, I chose the sheerest we walked down the aisle. sweeping and beautiful no one world over for their French dolin.’ lace with a small scalloped Outside the church my mother wanted to trim the branches. bread. The baker and owners The ‘Tinikling’ bamboo design on the border. In my was wiping her tears of happi- Everyone was in the habit of of this bakery are of Japanese dance was always a crowd hands were 20 strands of ness. stooping low to pass under this heritage and served in the pleaser. For this dance, two pikake known as “sampagita” Just as I began to wonder great old banyan. It would 442nd Infantry Battalion in performers holding hands with blossoms mixed with white where everyone was, I saw a have been unthinkable to cut France. When the troops liber- great precision lightly jump “honohono” orchids, the sea of people before me. They such a grand tree! ated Marseilles, a major sea- (continued on page S12) Former Mrs. HI Filipina and owner of Pinoy Radio Amy Ortega Anderson reunited with brother Mayor Pablo Ortega of San Fernando City, La union S12  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT

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FILIPINO WEDDING... (from page S11) Meanwhile, presents had us in Kona, on the Big Island over and between two long been arriving for months be- of Hawaii. She slipped us bamboo poles that are held at fore the wedding from my away with some story to the their ends by two other mem- family’s friends from Califor- airport after we left the party. bers of the dance troupe who nia and the East Coast. It was The celebration continued click the poles together, then quite exciting when the letter anyway. I am not sure we separate them and bang them carrier came with a large box. were even missed. We heard on the floor in an upbeat, en- Everyone would crowd that the feast that followed gaging rhythm. The only around like bees around a the wedding went on for sounds are the clicking and blossom. They would all insist three days. In the midst of all loud banging of the bamboo that I immediately open the the preparations I don’t think poles and the shouts encour- box and the present inside. I stopped to think where all agement from the performers My mother did manage the food had come from. and the watching crowd. This to thwart one tradition. Once With the proceeds from is a playful dance where the we’d left the party, Philip the , the gift en- beat starts slowly and in- and I were supposed to stay velopes and the shot table creases to frenzy. Only the in a small house for seven bowl we had about a thousand most skilled dancer will at- days after the wedding. All dollars tucked into brown tempt this, never fearing hav- Philip and Christine Sabado leave the church for the camp hall for of our meals would have paper lunch sack. We arrived ing their ankles crushed the ir wedding reception. been left at the door for we in Kona on a Sunday when all between the pounding bamboo flew in the room, making a clear; since all the people at were not supposed to leave the banks were closed, so we poles. ringing, jangling noise. The the party had known Philip the wedding house. An an- hid the money under our bed The ‘money dance’ was ea- dance came from the days of from childhood, all eyes cient tradition to yet again in the sack, now very creased gerly awaited because it gave the Spaniards, so gold coins would be on me. ensure the success of the new from my clutching. We where the guests a chance to ‘bless’ were a part of the custom. As Everyone came bearing couple. However, my mother officially married now and be- the new couple and wish them the spirit of this dance caught gifts wrapped in silver, white had bought a for ginning our lives together. good fortune. During the on, everyone jumped up en- or gold paper. Yards of ribbon dance, giggling women and thusiastically with money in cascaded down the sides of CHUT CUERVA... (from page S4) rants in Napa, the Restaurant men placed coins as well as hand to give the new couple. boxes carefully wrapped by and everything he does is car- at Meadowood. It’s a perfect paper money in my mouth, Lines formed as people waited hand. After the wedding the ried out with much thought venue for a destination wed- everyone already a little tipsy. for us to dance into the corners gifts were placed in Manang and elegant execution. Says ding. Children eagerly waited to be a of the hall. Rosita’s house; they were his best friend, Marco Anto- In attendance were family part of the ritual as well. They Before the Money Dance, stacked so high they filled the nio: “Chut is a self-professed and friends coming from five would beg the parents for coins my sister-in-law had in- hallway and nearly reached flâneur — a man of leisure, a groups — D’Berks, Team Ca- so that they could partake in the structed me about the proper the ceiling. A small path had to connoisseur of the street. His lypso, La Fam, The Baby gaiety. Philip’s task was to take protocol required for this time. be made between the boxes to broad interests run deep, from Wine Club and Nisekrew. the money from me with a With wide eyes and serious access the kitchen and the hunting down highly sought- Gathering 162 guests is quite ‘kiss.’ His hands had to remain consternation she cautioned; banyo. The people from the after Old World vintage wines a feat for a destination wed- behind him the entire time, as “Do not look at the money; camp gave from their hearts to in Bordeaux to New World ding, but as Rev. Dalton said, were mine behind me. There when Philip takes it from you, the new couple and I treasured Napa wines, to constantly ex- he could feel the “presence” were hoots and hollers at each he will let it drop to the floor, all their varied gifts. We re- panding his knowledge of de- and love in the room. And feigned kiss. do not ever look at the money, ceived carved wooden trays sign and architecture, be it that’s the most magical thing As we turned, came to- even when it is on the floor. and dishes of monkey pod that Bauhaus or mid-century Mod- about this wedding: we all gether, and drew apart in the People will think you are had come from the Philippines. ern; or driving a Vespa in not- laughed and cried, listening to dance, Philip snatched the greedy if you watch the There were even carved so-motorcycle-chic Manila. all the roasts and toasts of coins and bills from my mouth money. They will think you carabaos, a water buffalo, and As a flâneur, Chut dedicates close friends Marty Qua, with his teeth and then let are counting already.” My be- the Philippines national symbol his life to pleasure and beauty. Marco Antonio, Ed Ngo, Mia them drop to the wooden floor. havior on this day was critical of strength, patience and en- He is also an obsessive perfec- Zamora, Menchit Mabanta The light caught on the coins to the success of the marriage durance—sort of a Filipino tionist: it is precisely because and Johann Espiritu. We cher- and sparkles of silver and gold as well. The message was icon. of Chut’s thirst for aesthetic ished every single moment of perfection that we — the lucky the three-day event. FLORAL CENTERPIECES... (from page S6) terpieces are traditionally 162 family and friends of Chut Rev. Dalton quoted Meis- (medium) tall florals to create ing your guests’ view across placed on the tables. But cou- and Kim’s — get to celebrate ter Eckhart: “If the only visual texture among the ta- the table,” she said. “Expect to ples can consider other trendy in this picture-perfect, super- prayer you ever say in your bles.” pay more for tall centerpieces floral arrangements above sosy, Michelin-starred, Robert entire life is ‘Thank you,’ it However, some couples as they are more labor intensive them. Parker-approved wine-filled will be enough.” This sums are concerned that the height to create, and require greater “Many of our clients are wedding extravaganza.” up the magical event of Kim of the centerpieces might in- skill and technique to design.” requesting a large statement It was no surprise to all of and Chut. Always be grateful terfere with their guests’ views Seibel added, “While tall piece, like a seven-foot wide us that the wedding was con- to God for all our blessings. and conversations. Seibel sug- centerpieces appear luxurious hanging chandelier filled with ducted in such good taste. The And those blessings include a gested that the floral design be and over-the-top, there are cascading foliage and flowers, reception was at the Mead- most beautiful wedding for a no more than 16 inches high many factors to consider: If often hung over the dance owood Napa Valley Resort in sweet couple who are lucky to (including vase height and your location is outdoors, the floor,” said Seibel. St. Helena, California — a have each other, delicious flowers), or it can cause a wind factor will play a signifi- Carefully planned and luxury resort and private club food to eat, great company lower wall effect, which can cant role in balance—you do well thought-out centerpieces with a golf course, tennis with a close-knit family and be distracting. not want your tall, top-heavy and statement pieces can cre- courts, swimming pool, cro- friends of the couple and a “If going with tall center- centerpieces being knocked ate a floral fantasy, upping the quet, fitness and spa for mem- safe journey for everyone pieces, they need to be 24 over.” “wow” factor at wedding re- bers. It houses one of the two who attended the celebration. inches or taller to avoid block- Whether tall or short, cen- ceptions. three-Michelin-starred restau- (www.philstar.com)