If You Notice Problems, Poor Boundaries, Low Assertiveness with Roommates Or Dates;

Healthy Dating: If you notice problems, poor boundaries, low assertiveness with roommates or dates;

1. talk with them about how dangerous you feel these actions are, and how they affect all roommates in the apt. 2. suggest different strategies, group dating, have a friend with them until they get to know a stranger better, 3. with Internet dating, insist they meet at a public place, use first name only, and they respect roommates by not bringing the person back to the apt. until they get facts on the person, build up trust and credibility for the person and behaviors. 4. Encourage assertiveness and give support, even share how you handled a difficult friend who intimidated you or pushed you into irresponsible actions. 5. Be enough of a friend to go get them from a place of danger, if it appears they have been hurt or are in danger, contact 911 immediately. 6. Educate yourself and them about Date Rape, harassment, stalking etc. and be Roommate buddies that look out for each other, 7. If they report prior sexual abuse, or domestic violence, or harmful relationships, help them get counseling and learn healthy dating & relationship behaviors. 8. each of you has your own key to the apt. and lock up! Even if a friend is coming home late!