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Good Connections, 1: Only the Lonely
Featuring Dr. John Townsend Psychologist Best-selling co-author of Boundaries series, author of How People Grow
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Think about the last time you felt disconnected from someone important to you How did that affect the other aspects of your life?
I. Loneliness
You can’t overestimate the importance of good connections
Loneliness is a sign of life God sets the lonely in families. —Psalm 68:6 Loneliness: An unsatisfied desire for connection
Loneliness is a signal: “Get connected”
Emotional object constancy
The love taken in from others sustains me in times of being alone …being rooted and established in love… —Ephesians 6:17, 18 State of loneliness vs. trait of loneliness
II. Aspects of loneliness
Lonely people are not necessarily alone people
“Pocket loneliness”
The source of loneliness is relationships
- Abandonment
- Pocket loneliness
Sometimes the loneliest people don’t feel the loneliness
It’s messier in life to feel lonely, but that’s how God designed life
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- Dependency
- Active dependency
- Passive dependency
“If I have to ask, it doesn’t count”
- Loneliness recreates itself
- The help-rejecting complainer
- We tend to pick the people who help us be lonely
Think: “How would I feel around me?”
III. Solutions
- Own the condition
Loneliness is not cured by marriage
- Get connected
You need people in your life who are there to help you connect
- Take a risk of becoming vulnerable
Whatever is brought into relationship gets better
- Pay attention to devaluation
Begin to say “Thank you”—and mean it
- Burn it
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Next week on Solutions: “Tear Down the Walls”
Resources
How People Grow: What the Bible Reveals about Personal Growth by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend www.cloudtownsend.com Loving People by Dr. John Townsend www.cloudtownsend.com
Solutions Leaders www.cloudtownsend.com
Ultimate Leadership workshops www.cloudtownsend.com
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Contact Information
Dr. John Townsend Church Communication Network Cloud-Townsend Resources PO Box 1718 3176 Pullman Street, Suite 105 Mountain View, CA 94042 Costa Mesa, California 92626 Phone: 800-321-6781 Phone: 800-676-4673 Fax: 650-745-0660 Web: www.cloudtownsend.com Email: [email protected] Web: www.ccn.tv
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