Appendix a Fear-Of-Intimacy Scale

Appendix A Fear-of-Intimacy Scale

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Part A Instructions: Imagine you are in a close, dating relationship. Respond to the following statements as you would if you were in that close relationship. Rate how characteristic each statement is of you on a scale of 1 to 5 as described below, and put your responses on the answer sheet.

Note. In each statement "O" refers to the person who would be in the close relationship with you.

I would feel uncomfortable telling 0 about things in the past that I have felt ashamed 1. of.

2. I would feel uneasy talking with 0 about something that has hurt me deeply.

X3. I would feel comfortable expressing my true feelings to 0.

4. If 0 were upset I would sometimes be afraid of showing that I care.

5. I might be afraid to confide my innermost feelings to 0.

X6. I would feel at ease telling 0 that I care about him/her.

X7. I would have a feeling of complete togetherness with 0.

X8. I would be comfortable discussing significant problems with 0.

9. A part of me would be afraid to make a long-term commitment to 0.

X10. I would feel comfortable telling my experiences, even sad ones, to 0.

11. I would probably feel nervous showing 0 strong feelings of affection.

12. I would find it difficult being open with 0 about my personal thoughts. 13. I would feel uneasy with 0 depending on me for emotional support.

X14. I would not be afraid to share with 0 what I dislike about myself.

I would be afraid to take the risk of being hurt in order to establish a closer 15. relationship with 0.

16. I would feel comfortable keeping very personal information to myself.

X17. I would not be nervous about being spontaneous with 0.

X18. I would feel comfortable telling 0 things that I do not tell other people.

X19. I would feel comfortable trusting 0 with my deepest thoughts and feelings.

20. I would sometimes feel uneasy if 0 told me about very personal matters.

I would be comfortable revealing to 0 what I feel are my shortcomings and X21. handicaps.

X22. I would be comfortable with having a close emotional tie between us.

23. I would be afraid of sharing my private thoughts with 0.

24. I would be afraid that I might not always feel close to 0.

X25. I would be comfortable telling 0 what my needs are.

26. I would be afraid that 0 would be more invested in the relationship than I would be.

X27. I would feel comfortable about having open and honest communication with 0.

28. I would sometimes feel uncomfortable listening to 0's personal problems.

X29. I would feel at ease to completely be myself around 0.

X30. I would feel relaxed being together and talking about our personal goals.

Part B Instructions: Respond to the following statements as they apply to your past relationships. Rate how characteristic each statement is of you on a scale of 1 to 5 as described in the instructions for Part A.

31. I have shied away from opportunities to be close to someone. 32. I have held back my feelings in previous relationships.

33. There are people who think that I am afraid to get close to them.

34. There are people who think that I am not an easy person to get to know.

35. I have done things in previous relationships to keep me from developing closeness.

Note. X denotes items reversed for scoring.

Development and Validation of a Fear-of-Intimacy Scale Author(s): Carol J. Descutner University of Missouri Mark H. Thelen University of Missouri Source: Psychological Assessment. Vol. 3 (2) June 1991, pp. 218-225. American Psychological Association ISSN: 10403590 Digital Object ID: 10.1037//1040-3590.3.2.218 Article Type: Journal Article Abstract: Two independent studies showed the Fear-of-Intimacy Scale (FIS) to be a valid and reliable measure of individuals' anxiety about close, dating relationships. Item-total analyses yielded a 35-item scale with high internal consistency and test-retest reliability. Construct validity was established by factor analysis and significant correlations. The FIS correlated positively with a loneliness measure; it correlated negatively with self-disclosure, social intimacy, and social desirability measures. These relations were maintained when partial correlations were conducted to control for social desirability. Subjects' FIS scores were significantly related to self-report data (e. g. , subjects with higher scores reported briefer relationships) and positively related to therapists ratings about clients' fear of intimacy. It was also found that androgynous subjects had less fear of intimacy than masculine and undifferentiated subjects. The FIS holds promise for use in the assessment of clinical populations and for use as a research instrument

Scoring Instructions: 1) Reverse score all the questions with an “X” in front of them: a. 5 = 1 b. 4 = 2 c. 3 = 3 d. 2 = 4 e. 1 = 5 2) Once you’ve reverse scored the “X” items, add up the scores for all of the 35 listed questions. 3) The range is 35-175 (35 = lowest FIS level; 175 = highest FIS level). FIS = Fear of Intimacy. 4) The U.S. average FIS Score is 80-90 a. Females = 75-85 b. Males = 85-95 FIS 量表假设你与某个人是一种亲密的关系。如果你处在这种亲密关系中，你对下列陈述将做出如何反应。A-E 的描述中哪一个更符合你的特征，请在答案纸上写下你的回答。注意。在每项陈述中的“他（她）”是和你关系非常亲近的人。

A、一点也不符合我的特征 B、有一点符合我的特征 C、中度的符合我的特征 D、非常符合我的特征 E、完全符合我的特征

1. 在告诉他（她）我以前感到羞愧的事情时，我觉得不安。 2. 我很难和他（她）讲起那些深深伤害过我的事。 x3. 当对他（她）表达我的真实的感受时我感觉很舒服。 4. 如果他（她）心烦时，我有时不愿表示出我很在乎。 5. 我不愿倾诉我对他（她）的最发自内心的感受。 x6. 我可以毫无顾虑地告诉他（她）我在乎他（或她）。 x7. 我感觉和他（她）在一起非常有归属感。 x8. 当和他（她）讨论的重要问题时我感觉很舒适。 9. 我有点不愿意对他（她）作出长久的承诺。 10. 告诉他（她）我的一些经历，即使是糟糕的经历，我也感到很安心。 x11. 当对他（她）表达的强烈爱情的感受时我会感到紧张。 12. 我发现很难和他（她）开诚布公的讲关于我个人的想法。 13. 当他（她）依赖我的感情支持时我会感到心神不安。 x14. 我不害怕告诉他（她）我的那些连我自己都不喜欢的事。 15. 我不愿意为和他（她）建立亲密关系而冒被伤害的风险。 16. 我很想为自己非常个人的事情保密。 x17. 当我自然而然和他（她）相处时我不感到紧张。 x18. 我很愿意告诉他（她）那些我不愿意告诉其他人的事。 x19. 我打心底里很信任他（她）。 20. 当他（她）告诉我关于非常个人的事的时，我有时会感到不安。 x21. 我很愿意告诉他（她）那些自己觉得是缺点和障碍的事情。 x22. 我感到很舒服，因为我们之间有一个很紧密的感情纽带。 23. 我不愿与他（她）分享我的隐私。 24. 我觉得我可能不会一直与他（她）很亲近。 x25. 我愿意告诉他（她）我需要什么。 26. 我担心在我们的关系中，他（她）的投入比我大。 x27. 我愿意与他（她）进行开诚布公的交流。 28. 当倾听他（她）的个人问题时我有时会感到不舒服。 x29. 跟他（她）在一起我感到轻松自如。 x30. 当我们一起谈论我们的个人目标时，我感觉很轻松。

下面是与你的过去关系有关的问题，用上面的 A-E 五个答案标出每个问题符合你的程度。

31. 我回避那些和别人接近的机会。 32. 我对我以前关系的感受秘而不宣。 33. 有一些人认为我害怕和他们接近。 34. 有一些人认为我不是一个容易了解的人。 35. 在过去的关系中，我的做法使我难以接近他人。