Hie Em ^Qoset NEW YORK STATE S OLDEST GAY NEWSPAPER I ()( AI M \\ SHRII 1 S Queer Nation cotnes to town By Jeff Lehigh Queer Nation Rochester, the fifth national Diaing for Dollars chapter of thc new direct action group, met V. For story and for the fiiTit time on Sept. 16 at the Gay Alliance more pictures, see \ ofthe Genesee Valley, 179 Atlantic Ave. Fifteen page 14. people attended. Mark Siwiec, one of three coordinator, gave Photos by T.L, an oral history of Queer Nation, which started Cvetan in New York Ciry last April. "Certain members of ACT-UP/New York became concerned with the fiact that all the civil disobedience and all the direct action zaps were focused strictly on HIV and HIV-rclated difficulties," Siwiec said. "Tbey realized the need for the broad spectrum of gay-related issues to be addressed. And they decided to do something about it. A splinter group broke off from ACT-UP, including Michelangelo Signorile from Outweek maga2Jne—the in dividual respotisible for itiitiattr^ outing. They advertised for the next meeting, and boom, thif^ iust started to grow and grew very raq>id- Rochester comes out, October 7-14
Siwiec added, ''Queer Nation realizes the shown ("Living, Loving and Living" and ^ said 'They're making war on us, and we need By Susan Jordan "Mother, Mother") and a discussion will a strategy to respond.* importance of lobbying on behalf of HIV- "We want to achieve thc two ma^r goals positive individuals. The group simply wants follow. "Thert was a spontaneous call Co leaders of Natiottal Coming Out Day," said Hm Mains, Virginia Apuzzo, formerly Gov. Mario to broaden thc cange of activism to include all Rochester City Couturflmembcr and longtime arourkl che councry, and thc U^r Conference aspects of gay and lesbian rights issues." CuofiM>*s liaison to the lesbian and gay com was convened in 1988. A lot of arguing went gay activist. "The first is to increase visibility munity, will be the featured speaker at thc Oneof the most contTDvctsial "zap" actions temporarily on Oct. U, and the second is to on about who was atui wasn't invited, and Queer Nation uses is called "Nights Out." University of Roch
Editorial state and local news By Susan Jordan for me, buc chat she wasn'c abouc to disown and he replied, "You may end up running I also remember saying last year that Oct. Newsbriefs, continued from pagc 1 ing up the issue of extending health insurance, code when asked if he supports the governor's Coming Ouc Day, Oa. 11, is here again. This me, and could accept thac chis was what I had screaming into the nighc." bias bill, he has a strong history of suppon on 11 is my birthday, my own personal coming- chosen for myself. leave and other benefits to city workers and year conununicy groups are planning a Com Mom was myscified and caken aback by this their partners. gay issues. As a Town of Brighton Councilman, out day, and thac 1 was planning to observe it Wc went on to discuss whac women loving AIDS Rochester drive ing Out Week with a wide range of events, cryptic remark, and it took her several hours -Chris Nealon, Gay Community News; MiUer was instrumental in securing an employ by ct>ming out to my mother. This year, I want women really means; for instance, how les CO figure ouc chac che doctor was implying that AIDS Rochester, Inc. will host a reception which will hopefully involve many people and to write about what that was like. Robin Kane, The VC^hitigton Blade. ment policy there banning discrimination on Good & bad new^s send the lighc of cruth, healing and self- bianism has been made to seem a matcer of the nurse was a lesbian. Nevertheless, she went to announce its second Annual Campaign on sexual orientation. acceptance streaming through a lot of closei I drove seven hours to northern Vermonc. genical sexuality only; how it is that, of couise, to ^he nurse's house for dinner. They had a Sept. 23, from two to four p.m. at Harro East Caucus surveys ON COMPREHENSIVE CIVIL RIGHTS: for N.Y. PWAs doors. If so, all of us will benefit, atKl our strug glorious in ies autumn colors and fiill of but at its best also involves just as much love, pleasanc, uneventful evetiing and Mom said she Athletic Club, 400 Andrews St. The general civil rights bill, known also as gle for acceptance and civil rights will be that chartered busses bearing whac Wrmoncers call crust, respect, commitinent and cormection on never did know if the woman was a lesbian Hazel Jeffries, president of thc board of candidates on the Omnibus BUI, was first introduced in the By Ellen Yacknin much closer to victory. (affeccionaccly?) "leaf-peepers." Afcer che in all levels as heccrosexualicy. And sometimes or not. directors of AIDS Rochester, will announce Sute Legislature 20 years ago, and never has The good news for petsons with AIDS is that Last year I remember writing about how it icial catching-up on family doings, 1 handed even more. . . . ''Supposing for che sake of argument that participation on behalf of the board and the political issues been voted on. In his survey. Sen. Perry in New York Sute adopted, at the end ofits 1990 feels to be very out as the editor of the Empty Mom a copy of thc EC and suggesced that she Mom broughe up a memory of che cime she wa5 a lesbian, and chac she was interested members of this year's honorary committee. By Jennie Bowker dicated that he would sponsor the general bill legislative sesston, a few measures favorable C/oser. During the pasc 12 monchs I've had no read thc editorial first. Then 1 went off to take when, as a single woman, she worked ac a in you," I said, "maybe she sensed that you Members of the honorary committee were Each autumn, preceding the November covering New York Sute's estimated 1.7 to PWAs. Notably, the legislature refined its reason to r^ret that visibility, and much cause a shower I was fairly sure that all would be vecerans* hospical in North Carolina. She was wouldn't have responded to an approach ftom chosen for their active involvement in the areas general elections, many potential voters may miUion gay and lesbian persons. Assemblyman laws concerning thc confidentiality of a pa to rejoice in thc freedom and self-respect that well, but 1 must admit that it wasn't che most dating a doctor there — the "red-haired doc her, and ouC of caution or simple respect or of health and social services, local media, ci wonder whether a trip to the polls is worth Ciantt supports this, as well. Quattrocciocchi tient's HIV sutus. implemented a health pro- come wich having nothing co hide. (Of course, relaxed shower of my life. tor" famous in our fiunily for having preced both, decided not co make one." ty and county govemment and past support their effort. Perhaps this apprehension is a and Smith's responses were that they would x>' law, and expanded a demonstration manag I haven'c had to come out to any more den Luckily for me, I have a loving, intelligent ed Dad in Mom's life One day a muse who also Mom choughc for a minuce. "Not like that of AIDS Rochester Members include Diana result of not trusting candidates to live up to neither support nor sponsor the bill. Rep. ed home health care program which would tists holding sharp-pointed instruments, and open-minded mother She said that being worked at the hospital invited Mom over for red-haired doceor." she said. "I had CO fig^ hirn Wightman. WOKR-TV; Dr Andrew S. Doniger, their promises, or not knowing whether these Slaughter said she favors amending the Federal provide long-term home health care to disabl which is just as well.) a lesbian wasn't what she would have chosen dinner. She mentioned it to her doctor friend off every cime i wenc out with him!" Monroe County Health Director; Tim O. futuure elected officials can provide any ser Civil Rights Act to include sexual orienution. ed and chronically ill adults, specifically in Mains, City Councilmember; Daniel M. vices pertinent to our own lives. ON DOMESTIC PARTNERSHIP: cluding PWAs. who qualify for medical •np Meyers, Executive Director, Al Sigl Center; Rab The annual Rochester Lesbian and Ciay When asked if they sujjported domestic assistance. bi Judea Miller: Police Chief Gordon Urlacher, Political Caucus candidate surve>s arc an ef partnership legislation, which would provide Thc had news is that, in yet another shon- City of Rochester. fort to uke the challenge out of learning what access to health and bereavement benefits to sighted and mean-spirited attempt to balance AIDS Rochester Executive Director, Paula each candidate will provide in the interests of unmarried panners. Smith responded "yes," the budget on the backs of New York's most Silvestrone, will welcome the guests and an the gay and lesbian community. The 1990 Quattrociocchi answered "no," and Perry was needy, the legislature axed one of New York cions to supp«>rtJesse Helms in his re-election derhatided that Miller address our concems. wc consider their efforts to continue the legacy nounce the total amount pledged to the cam questionnaires reveal various stances on timely unsure. This topic is relatively new to State's major public subsidy programs available Call for boycott campaigns for che SenaCe. Philip Morris is the VCfe encouraged them to tneet with us to and agenda of Jesse Helms a slap in the face, paign to date. gay and lesbian issues including AIDS treat lcgislaton». and many opinions of it have yet to pay the hospiul costs of people with AIDS. single largest corporate ctmtributor toward a discuss the demands ofthe boycott—that they if not a threat to our very lives. Let your friends, ment and funding, women's health studies, to be formed. This bill has been introduced by Buried in New York's final-hour, 69-page of Miller beer, museum being built to honor his ac go on record in the North Carolina niedia bartenders, bar owners and others know you Rain liampers gan^e sale domestic partnership, general civil rights, anti downsute Sen. Ohrenstein. 1990 Hospiul Reimbursement Bill was a one- complishments. Philip Morris recently against the Helms legac>' of homophobia and are in solidarity. Don't buy bigotry. BOYCOTT gay violence, U.S. immigration laws, and AIOS FUNDING & PUBLIC POLICY: line sentence which abolished the sute's Marlboro cigarettes donated over S2(M),(MK) to thc Helms library AIDS bigiHry, and that they denounce their MILLER BEER AND MARLBORO The Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley homophobic miliury poHcies. Although David Gantt's survey was not quaner-century-old "Catastrophic Illness Pro and museum being established in his parent company Philip Morris for its excessive To the Editor: CIGARETTES. Men's Group and the Bachelor Forum held a Some candidates are not covered here received, he holds an outstanding record on gram." Under this program. New Vbrk paid for homecown of Monn>e. N.C, and S20,000 corporate funding ofthe Helms museum and There are times in our lives when wc must Sinccrelyv garage sale to benefit the GAGV building fund because their surveys were twx received in time all gay issues, including AIDS poUcies. Perry's a ponion ofthe hospiul expenses of residents toward his re-election campaign. campaigns. It was hoped that out of discus on Sept. 8/9. the same weekend as the to be reviewed and published. Candidates in recofd is also strong: he said he generaUy fitvors who suffered a catastrophic illness, but who take a stand for what is righc. Jesse Helms is sion a resolution could be reached. Tim Ltmccford wn>ng. He is our mosc formidable foe in che Philip Morris i.s the parent corporation of Clothesline Arts Festival. volved in prinurics will be included in the current pubUc policy, and an increase in fun did not have the insurance, income, or U.S. Senace. He has been che single mosc vocal ehe companies chac manufacture Marlboro Miller responded to the boycott by ineeting A representative from the Men's Group said November EC. ding to address HIV disease Quattrociocchi resources to afford the astronomical costs of Senate opponenc of AIDS funding and educa cigarecees and Miller beer. These are cheir with rtrpnrsentatives on Aug. 28 in Sacramen that the sales were very good on thc first day, OPENLY GAY CAMPAIGN STAFF: £avors current policies in fiindir^ levels. Smith hospiulization. tion . c*ensorship-free arts funding, and the civil laigcst-selling products, and are also the two to, Calif. They parted company with a verbal PJEC gives but they were rained out on the second tlay. All of the respondents said they personally was not knowlet^eable of current HIV policy. The Caustrophic Illness Program permitted rights of women, people of color, gays and les major products lesbians and gay men spend agreement to take action to end the boycott; Thc sale raised »250 for the fund. The Forum knew gay or lesbian people. U.S. Rep. Louise IMMIGRATION LAWS* THE MILITARY, a person who was not otherwise financially bians. He has violated our basic human rights their disposable income on. In its defense, Miller would take issue with Helms ^attacks on infomiation was said to be a good location and another Slaughter, Sute Sen. Jack Ptrry, Family Court AND ARTS FUNDING: eligible for Medicaid to spend only a certain as Americans, rights of freedom. Philip Morris says that whac beneficiaries of AIDS funding, gays atid lesbians, and frcedom such sale may be held in thc fidl. There is also JtH^ Michael Miller and Rochester City Court The orUy federal level catKlidatc to respond ponion of his or her income or resources on of speech. Further, Miller offered to donate to students "The freedom to say and think what we cheir corporace coneribucions say and do is an idea to inake it an annual event. lui^ Theresa MUler said they have openly gay to date was Rep. Slaughtci; a former Sute hospiulization. After an individual paid out, cheir own business. S 200,000 to a non-partisan voter registration lb The Editor: persons on their campaign sta^. Sute Sen. Assemblywonun from the Fairpon area. for hospiul c^rc, the lesser of roughly 2S per believe. To express our individuality and diver project in North Carolina and other states. <»ays and lesbians in over 60 cities across die For several years Rochester Peace and Justice Ithaca enacts Quattrociocchi^s response was * •unsure," and Slaughter showed a supponive stance on cent of his or her incotne or the difiercnce bet sity. That's our birthright, and it's ensured by Several days later. Miller reneged on half the the Bill of Rights." ruuion have joined in the boycott to show that Edtication Center has made information-regar Gary Smith, challenger to Assemblyman several issties. She supports the repeal of ween his or her irK.n>me and the cash assistance demands, leaving no choice but to continue domestic partnership Stephen Hawley, did not kttow of any openly Philip Morris u.ses that statement in their they don't buy it. AIDS funding by Philip Mor ding military life avaUable to students in the discrirvurutory U.S. immigiationAuturalization level. New York paid thc balance of the per the boyctKt. lb add itisult to injury. Miller con gay or lesbian persons on his staff. promotional campaign commemorating the ris lists less than six percent gay-specific in Rochester schools. This information corrects Ithaca's c:offmK>n Council enacted a com laws on the basis of sexual orientation and HI V son's hospiul bill. their t
Festival participants have vehementiy tactics of tyranny. . . how do we figure out Gay Gaines B.C. Place Stadium was removed by city denied that tbeir evmu has anything to do with what we've stolen from a culturc and what workers within hours. child pornography. The Iowa Civil Liberties we've assimilattrd?" draw over 7,500 One Canadian TV station chose to show on Newsffronts Union nied suit Sept. 6 on behalf of the fiestival, Because of the white women's angry ly the croquet competition as an example of demanding the return of confiscated material response, Indian women posted an atmounce to Vancouver wtiat the Games were all about, and sevefal Coalition, calling the amendment the begin tional Council ofthe Ans, the NEA's advisory and challenging the legality of the warrant us ment saying they were not necessarily in papers overplayed thc insignificam right-wifig R. HUinski, a former Marine sergeant who lost terested in talking with white women about The third Gay Games, held Aug. 4-11 in \^- Kissing breaks out ning ofthe end of decency in the county, and body. Until now. peer panel recommendations her assignnient after testifying as a character ed to condua the search. couver, Canada, drew over 7,500 athletes from opposition. But as the week wem on. covers^ claiming that a pro-gay vote would flood the have almost always been accepted by the coun -Chris Nealon, Gay Community News. the event, and directing women wishing to seemed to improve as respect for thc achieve witness for a lesbian colleague who was fac discuss the issue to white women staffing a 30 countries, and won increasingly positive area with thousands of ''chUd-molesting cil and the chairman. ing a coun manial. coverage from the Caiudian press, although ment of holding the Games began to grow. across New England homosexuals." South Florida's Roman nearby table. -Barbara Gamarekian, New K>rXr Titnes. During testimony at the 1988 court-manial ignored by the U.S. media. Vancouver otganizers had in fact pulled off Catholic Anrhbishop Edward A. McCanhy sent -Laura Briggs, Gay Conununity News. trial, HUinski said that her fonner colleague, The opening ceremonies attracted a crowd this large intemationai sporting event with New England lesbian and gay activists are a letter to parishioners calling the measure 8,000 w^omen Sgt. Cheryl Jameson, "did a fine job" and that of over 20,000 spectators. Ixsbian comedian remarkable success, and very few complaints caUing for simultaneous kiss-ins on Oct. 11, "morally unaccepuble." Robin lyier emceed, and Simon Nkoli, gay werc heard about housing or other services. Coming Out Day. Jameson's sexual orientation had not affected go to Michigan; in addition to the homophobic atucks, low Courts to say her work in any way, Navy memo South African activist, was among the Thc only flaw was a $ 140,000 debt left at the The Massachusetts Coalition for Lesbian and turnout by liberal retired nonhemers and by speakers. Nkoli, a double marathon runner, end of the Games; otganizers are trying to raise Gay Civil Rights and Queer Nation Afiter thc trial, Hilinsks's supervisor demoted S/M, racism issues gays themselves helped to defeat the Turhich artists her and cut her pay by »220 a month. The recommends was unable to participate t>ecause of the ban the funds from the city of Vancouver, and ask Massachusetts are coordinating outreach to amendment. •> The 15th Michigan Womyn's Music Festival on athletes from South Africa. Nkoli supports ing for donations to help defray the debt. groups acn>ss New England, asking them to Corps* only justification, the ACLU argued in drew about 8,000 women this year, between -Chris Nealon, Gay Community News. are **obscene? legal papers, was that her supervisor believed equal bigot]*y the ban. and said that he h9pes to compete in Closing ceremonies dramatized the pri4le stage kiss-ins at centralized locations in A bill soon to reach the Senate floor would Aug. 15-19. As in past years, the music, 1994 as an openly gay and free Black South and satisfaction felt by the athletes, and the Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut, that HUinski showed poor judgment in her workshops and other events were accom An intemal Navy memo advocating ftirther require the National Endowment for the Arts testimony because she was "lenient in her targeting of wonten for discharge dtie to African representing his country. bonds they had formed during the week. Bob Maine, New Hampshire and \trmont, in to recoup federal funds granted to anists who panied by intetise political debates. The sports events itKluded swimmir^, track Isnor of the Vancouver swim team summed cluding campus kiss-ins suged by student position on homosexuality" Thc on-going conflict between S/M and anti- homosexuality was recently leaked to thc Na Group asks are convicted by thc courts of violating Earlier in the same month, HUinski's super tional Organization for Women and Con and field, tennis, volleyball softball. basket it up by saying * *A lot of gay people don't have organizations. obscenity laws. S/M lesbians centered this year on thc issue of ball, wrestling, ice hockey and physique a good sense of identity. Coming to an event Bost
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October, 1990 THE EMPTY CLOSET 7 ^. INTERVIEW be most eifective, and what kind of events I encourage people to take risks in all levels of The Final Closet: The Gay Parents' Guide tbr would yt)u plan if you were oiganizing their lives, and maybe they'll be surprised at Coming Out to Their Children. Rip Corley, something like this? the results. And maybe not. . . (laughs). But it's Editech Press, $8.95. Lori Matocha worth thc risk. For mc, breaking my own Before meeting my gay friends, I had that of the most significam milestones of my life. LM: I think it's gn»u. It would be nice to have This book is well-organized, addressing in all-too-familiar feeling that I was alone in the Now, abnust two years after graduatiiig ftom a s|>eakout t>r rally or something to unite all silence about sexual abuse and being a lesbian tum such issues as attitudes, legal concems, From New Mexico Coming out to has made mc happier and freer, and 1 recom- world in the way I felt about myself What a thc V. of R., my coming out and coming to on coming out the different groups who will be going to thc adult children, and AIDS. Has a good section surprise and feeling of relief when you Hnd terms has reached new heights. I have a very various events. nieiid that everyone start telling thc truth sd>out on resources. their lives. to the U. ofR.: ochers like you who arc experiencing the same close straight friend who accepts and loves me a psychiatrist By Susan Jordaa I like to suppon everythit^ gays aiKl lesbians Revelations: a Collection of Gay Male Com things. The only probtem at this point is that for who I am. Many other straight friends Ftict and activist Lori Matocha. co-owner of are doing. Even if sotne things aren't perfea, For people who arc isolated, I can hardly im- ing Out Sttyries. Ed. Wayne Curtis, Alyson, living in nonhwestcm New Mexico, that*$a7/ know about me and have no problems. My co Wild Seeds Bookstore and Cafe, stopped by the at least it shows we're working on it. VH? want :^ne how difficult it might be for them. I $7.95 a continuing joumey you have. lik> be one of a gay community of workers and members of my board of direc and to Uncle Sam Empty C/oser office to talk about coming out. to do something at Wild Scetb. That Friday wc know how hard it was for me, starting to talk Itstimonies: a Collection of Lesbian Com By Ken Maidonado eight, in the middle of the desert in a town of tois are also in the same boat. It just doesn't about sexual abuse. In certain situations you LM: I never had to come out thc way some do have Monica Grant, who is a lesbian ing Out Stories. Ed. Sarah Holmes, Alyson, For mc coming out was very gradual. I, tike less lhan 19,000 people, is very frigtitening. matter much any more. I have rK> problems By Eric Bellman people might; because my family had fallen feminist. do have to weigh your safety But they might $7.95. many tnher members of thc gay and lesbian After graduating from high school I moved to with my sexual orientation, nor with anyone be surprised if they came out to friends, at their I took a year off between my Junior and apart and I never had to come out to them — SJ: Obviously you support outing in some Diverse collections of first-person accounts community, was aware of my sexuality at an Kochester to attend thc University of knowing of my sexual preference. It is a part responses. Give people some credit. senior college years. In fact officials had en it wasn't an issue. My family epitomized thc sense, since Wild Seeds co-sponsored of coming out. Great if you like to compare early age. I cant remember exactly when it was RtKhester. and fve been here since. of me that 1 can not and will not ignore, be forced a separation, etKouraging mc to resolve word • 'dysfunctional;' For that reason it tends Michaelangelo Signorile's visit here in June. SJ: Until wc come out in large numbers and your own experience to other peoples'. that I realized that I was indeed "different" as Rochester was a welcome and refreshing cured of, or hate. anti-social behaviors: I had been caught steal to be hard for me to really understand why What form do you think outing will take in get visibility, we won't be able to end oppres The Original Comity Out Stories. Ed. Julia far as my sexuality was concerned. It was just change that brought many new exf>eriences ing. It was hoped a year's worth of intensified sion. Yet until we end oppression and the I know coming out is not all that easy. It people have a hard time coming out to their thc future, and do you think it will play a itjic Penelope and Susan J. Wolfe, Crossing Press, the way it always was and would be. However, and a new awarcness of myself 1 could finally wasn't for mc. It doesn't matter how ideal the therapy might enable mc to resume progress families and fear refection by them. in changing things? threat of violence, people wil! continue to be $10.95. by thc time I entered middle school and puber identify with an entirc c*ommunity and not lust toward my career. too scared to come out. How do wc resolve situation or how many opportunites you My first lesbian relationship was in hig^ LM: It's really one of the few issues I don't This revised and enlarged editton is a ty set in, I became more awarc of that *'dif a handful of gay frictuls. A complete social net receive, it is still difficult when you grow up Shamed and unwelcome at home, I elected school, but I didn't realize I was a lesbian; I have decided, emphatic opinions about. Thc a bind like that? Yet we absolutely have to at wonderfiil collection of stories and poems ference'* and actuaUy knew what it was call work was finally in existence that was made some point. in a society that will not educate its members to remain in Buffolo, and found two part-time lust didn't know what was going on at that more I read thc more concerned I am about about the coming-out experience and its ed. Having to deal with all thc turmoil that the up of tndividuais like mc. I was amazed that about homosexuality. No matter how much jobs: in the afternoons I was a library clerk, LM: It could be that so much of thc move point. When 1 got to college and met women it being a viable tool. Signorile's lype of outing significance, during four decades of lesbian liv onset of puberty and tbe beginning of oiganizations existed with missions of help support I had, therc was always somebody a short order cook at tu^t. Without the shelter ment's energy is taken up fighting AIDS and at thc women's center saying they were I fmd kind of enjoyable, and I know that a lot ing and loving. Readers will rect>gnize many adolescence bring to one's life was one thltig. ing thc gay and lesbian community in areas of who would still hate, still bash, and continue of a student exemption, however, I was violence against us, that coming out might lesbians—that was it. I knew that was for me. of lesbians and gays like knowing about of their favorite musicians and writers, such But to have to come to terms with a difference legal services, civil rights, advocacy, etc It was to spread thc fear and hatred about something notified within six months ofmy Seleaive Ser have to be a secondary priority. But ifs always I can't even describe it. It was like a great famous gays and lesbians — like, "Oh, I didn't as Alix Dobkin, Minnie Bruce Pratt, and Judith in sexual preference on top of everything else also surprising to leam of organizations that that they didn't understand. vice induction and took the obvious recourse there. Peopte who are out keep saying to the weight being lifted. Ever since then I've been know John Ihtvolta was gay!" McDaniel. could
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The Triple Goddess as Virgin tains (pebbles fallen from her apron), Ukes and may also be ancient, in the sense that decay islands. She is found in England and Wales as By Susan Jortlan originally a moon gtxldess. The numerous and corruption give birth to new life, as gteen the Giantess Black Annis/Cat Aruia; the witch- shoots grow out of mold and as the fires of the The woiship (^ the European Gteat Goddess "Virgin Islands" of the world refer to such hags of the Fens; thc Nine Hagges of Caer probably goes back to thc Paleolithic era. when legends. In the Middle East, -many Virgin Crone Brimo gave re-birth to the Virgin toy w, led by Gorddhu daughter of Gorwenn, Piersephone in the ELeusinian Mysteries. images of cosmic fetnale personages werc love/birth-dieties such as Astarte, Aphrodite, "the Hag from the Ends of Hell;" Miltons carved oti cave walls, out of stone, or on bone and Isis were connected with the ocean and "Blew, meager hag;" Chaucer's "loathly hag" It is interesting that Old North French or antler ancfacts. The primeval Goddess of with waters of life. The Virgin Mary, a form of from The Wife Of Bath's Title, and so on. carogne means * 'a cantankerous or this pre-agricultural time, judging from thc ar the ancient Hebrew birth goddess Eleanor Hull writes, "These ancient mischevious old woman," ie. one who defies chaeological record and from beliefs of Euro Mariam/Asherah, wears a bltie cloak aiKl is hail hags belong to a very old stratum of belief patriarchal rules. Some other more or less pean shatnanistic societies of historical times, ed as "sur of the sea." and seem to be indigenous." related words are "crane," the bird sacred to seems to have been perceived as creator of the Rhea. Aife aiul Kali; "croneclc," an obsolete The Vligin is also the lady of light, whether A Welsh Ule describes St. Samson of Dols The Mermaid/Star Vifgln world, mistress of beasts and spirits, and ruler ofthe moon, sun or stars. Grainne is the Irish form of "chronicle;" "crony;" crvo, Gaelic encounter with a hagge dressed in red and car "sheepcote" (the ewe again); "croon,'* to sing of the elements. sun goddess and lUran the Etruscan goddess rying a trident, whom he meets in a wood. Thc Alexander Marshak, in TTie Ro(Hs of Civiliza of the sun. Aranrhod of U^es, a birth goddess or chant; "crt>od," to make the murmuring hagge explains that she and her eight sisters sound of a dove; 'cranberries" which were tion, describes Stone Age bones which are connected with islands, is the "Silver Wheel" live with their Mother in the forests to which carved with calcndrical records of the cycles of surs, especially the Corona Borealis, her otK'e "cronebcrries;** **ciook," meaning hook, they are bound. Hull's version of the story barb or trident, or staff used for herding sheep; t>f thc moon; they may have been used to Spiral Castle where, as Robert Graves writes, makes the hagge say that she and her sisters calculate women's menstrual cycles. The cyclic the spirits of hen>es go at death to be reborn. are "morally perverse sorceresses,'' which no "crow;" "corona/cranium/crown." Triple Goddess ofthe moon is probably a very The Golden Bough records widespread The Tlee of Life or Cosmic Axis is often con doubt means lesbian witches. TTicy "stoutly dtsuffs and wheels; act as midwives and pro ancient ftgurc. As new moon she is thc nected with virgin goddesses, such as Erigonc refuse Xo come to any accomodation with the winter/death expulsion rites, "Battles of Winter The rowan or mountain ash, tree of light and and Summer," in which the Virgin defeats the phets; sweep away the sins of humanity with the quickening of life in the Dmidic tree calen MaidcnA^iigin: as full moon thc maturc and Persephone of Greece. Sacred virgin-trees saint," and the hagge slays his young niale their bnH>ms. woman or Midsummer Hagge, and as waning include birch, rowan, asoka (an Indian tree companion. Crone and is symbolically reconciled/reunited dar (described in Graves* The White Gtxldess) crescent the Cronc/Winter Ilaggc. which becomes fertile when it is touched by with her. The message is the essential harmony The Crone represents transformation, . is also called quickbeam, cwicbeam, witchen, Hagges served as guardians of the changes and exchanges; she is the severe face As centuries and millennia went on. and a Virgin), almond, apple, ivy, pomegranate, and interdependence of Virgin and Crone, witch-wand or "the witch." It is connected The Cronc/Winter Hsigge, bottling her mstgical distaff smd stsmtUng on a sacred wilderness and young animals, protecting summer and winter, life and death. In a typical of winter and fate, but also the eternal source humans developed agriculture, the Cioddcss's vine, cherry, palm (thc southern birch tree), them from greedy hunters and leading them with the Celtic firc feast of Imboic or contn>l of wild plant life and wild beasts was stone. rite held in an English village, the Seelie Court of life's rebirth on the planet. Her trees are Candlemas, Feb. I, one ofthe four great firc and silver fir (the northern birch tree). Roses, to forage in deep snow. Celtic myth makes it elder, willow, blackthorn, ash, reed and yew; extended to domesticated crops and animals. lilies and spring flowers belong to the Virgin. ofthe Virgin, playing flutes and violins, meets feasts, the others being Halloween (Oct. 31), "Hagging" is "thc meeting of hags or wit clear that they also served tjhe community as the LInseelie Court ofthe Crone, playing tongs her beasts (in addition to the Winter Hagge's She continued to be seen as ruler of the Thc Viigin's beasts include unicorn, dragon, as "enclosed field." "pasture." "hedge," foster mothers and teachers i>f children, train Beluin (April 30) and Lammas (Aug. I). ches." The OED gives as examples, "The wit and cleavers. ("Seelie" is an ancient word beasts) are the ewe, goose, hen, crow and The word "witch" is also linked with clcmenul forces: wind, waters of heaven and dolphin, seal, otter, cat, swan, dove and all "thicket of underwood," "wooded enclosure, ing them in martial and magical arts. The hag crane. She is "Mother Goose" and is visible in earth, fire, and all aspects of the planet itself, watcrbirds. She represents emotions, creativi coppice or copse.* * Old Norse hagg 2nd English ches . . . their hagging, their riding in the aire," meaning "holy, blessed," which was turned "wilUjw" and "wicker." And the OED defines and "He would spie unto what place his wife ges t>f Caer Loy w raised the hero Pcrcdur, and by the patriarchs into "silly"). The two courts rhymes like "There was an old woman who as well as m
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Reception hosted by SATURDAY I^rents and Friends of Lesbians EDGE (Educatfaig the Disabled In 1 Centersounds. Blues and soul, featur of November Issue. 5-10 pm, 179 lege Arts Center $15 singles, $25 GLBFA for gay and lesbian alumni of and Gays» St. LukeVSt. SinKK) Cyrene a Gay Environment), Second and Minor White: the Eye That ing Joe Beard, Miche Fambro and Pro Atlantic Ave.. 244-9030. couples. University of Rochester. 5-7 pm. Facul 27 Church, 17 S Fitzhugh St.. 2:30 pm. fourth Thursdays For time arxl place call Shapes. Exhibition of Minor White's mise. Fbur-night musical fundraiser to ty Club Library Masquerade Ball. To beneftt AIDS Last Sunday. 865-0120. photographs through Nov. 25. George benefit homeless and runaway youth; TUESDA Y 381-0739. Safer Sex WorlcsliopL Presented by Rochester. 8 pm-2 am. Hant> East. 400 Queer Nation. Second and fourth Eastman House. 900 East Ave. MONDAY sponsored by Center for \buth Services. Tim Lunceforef. facflteled by Craig Nen Andrews St. Tickete $2Sr 232-3580. Di9Bky/in«e99M)iv St. LukeVSt. 271-3361. 9:30 pm-l:30 am. Jazzberry's Uptown, 23 Thursdays, 6 pm. GACV. 179 Atlantic neau. 7:30 pm, John Washbum Ubrary Simon Cyrer>e Church. 17 S. Fttzhugh 8 50 East Ave. 473-2464. Empty Closet layout and pasteup AMe. Candidates' Night. Sponsored by Community Health Nehvork, 578 of November issue. 5-10 pm. 179 Atlan TUES DA Y St., 5 p.m. 328 9758. GAGV Hotline. Thursdays. 8-11 pm. WEDNESDAY f^hester Gay and Lesbian Political South Ave Advance registration re tic Ave. 244-9030. Gays. Lesbians. Bisexuals and friends, U. Caucus 7-8:30 pm. Gay Alliance Com quired; call 244-9000. FRIDAY 30 Metropolitan Community Church, ol R. 275 8341 (x5-8341). munity Center, 179 Allantic Ave. Call WEDNESDAY '*AIDS 101." Volunteer workshop at 243 Rosedale St., 6 p.m. 271-8478. Gay Alcohoiics Anonymous, clos "Spouse Wars." Open Arms MCC 244-8246. AIDS Rochester, 20 University St. 6-9 19 Gay Men's Cooking Groups 7:30 ed. St. LukeVSt. Simon Cyrene discussion series. 7:30-9 pm, 243 "Discover a New World." Benefit for S ATURDAY Mary Smith. Paintings. Deaf Ariists of 24 pm. To register call Lynn. 232-3580. pm. Fourth Sunday 244-8640. lesbian legal issues. Talk by local at Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh St.. 8:30 p.m. Rosedale St. 271-8478. GAGV building fund, Whispers, 104 America, 87 N. Clinton St.. Suite 408. Rochester Bisexual Women's Net torney. Lesbian Resource Center, &:30 2326720. Support Group for Wives of Gay Piatt St., 9 pm.2 am. Tickets $15. 13 I 325-2400 (TDD) or 1-800-421-1220. work nr>eeting and poHuck supper. 6:30 Lambda Alumni outing. Lambda pm, GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave. WEDNESDAY Rochester Historical Bowling or Bisexual Men. First of six Monday Centersounds. Circus rock by Col pm. Second Sunday- Location, info: . Alumni and GLBFA will host a dinner legal and financial issues seminar. Society, Clover Lanes. 2750 Monroe evenings. Call Vickijo Campanaro- TUESDAY orblind James; original humor by the 244-7159. and visit a local dance club. Local attorney, financial planner & in 31 Ave.. 8:30 pm. 654-6461. Cummings, 325-4090. Cowboys. 10:30 pm-1:30 am. Spon Guatemala, Guatemala. Multi media surance counselor discuss disabilty in Men's Writing Gioup (Gay UMtes). 9 sored by Center for Vbuth Services to Halloween. Blessed be all Seelie Wit GAGV Gala Auction Committee fiesta. Pyramid Arts Center, 274 N. surance, wills etc., for gays and lesbians Men's Group meeting, Gay Alliance. 8 pm. Gay Alliance, first and third Coming Out Seminar 7:30-10 pm, benefit homeless and runaway youth. ches and Radical Faeries! Meeting. 7 pm, OAlGM Community Goodman in Village Cate Square. 7 pm, Harro East. 400 Andrews St. Re- 8 pm. First and third Sunday. Thursdays. For more informatfon call Commons Room of Interfaith Chapel, Jazzberry's Uptown. 50 East Ave. Center, 179 Atlantic Awe. Featuring Ixim Wawina, Guatemalan quested donation $15, to benefit Help 244-8640. 244-8640 and leave a message for Jeff University of Rochester. Sponsored by 473-2464. musical group; Native American story ing People with AIDS. THURSDAY Gay Men's Alcoholics Lehigh, or wrtte to Cay Writes, care df PFLAG. Videos, discussion. Lambda Amateur Radio Club. Positively Sober. 7:30 pm. For loca Lesbian pafenting groups for current telling; photographic and textile displays, "Claiming identities." Ari videotape Anonymous, St. Luke*s-St. Simon GAGV. 179 Atlantic Aye.. Rochester NY F R I DAY Meeting & dinner 5:30 pm. Call Dave, tion call 423-0690, 328-2220 (days) and prospective mothers. video, food, etc. Profits go to relating to gay/lesbian issues. 8 pm, 1 Cyrene Church, 17 S Fitzhugh St., 146071255. WEDNESDAY 359-3337. or 442-8134 (evenings). 385-4496. Meetings at GAGV, 179 Guatemalan umbrella organization, in Pyramid Arts Center. Village Gate. 274 8:30 pm. 232-6720. Rochester Theater Organ Concert. /'Confronting Disease." Art Atlantic Awe., begin Sept. 5. Every fourth cluding human rights, church and labor N. Goodman St. $2 members, $3 Beneftt to Free Betty lyson. Music 10 Call Scott, 288-8914 or Bob. videotape on gay and lesbian concems. Rochester Lesbian and Gay Wednesday. SATURDAY groups. Events iS'$)2, dinner and non members. Lesbian and Gay Youth of by Per Un Futuro Mejor and None of Virginia Apuzzo, speaking on 'The 442-7185. 8 pm. Pyramid Arts Center, Village Gate. PblMcal Caucus. Every second Mon Rochester (LGYR). Group for people Gay/Lesbian Al-Anon, First Us Are Blond; poetry by Chan. McKen Benefits of Visibility." 8 pm. Lower events $15-$25. For time cal! GAGV Gala Auction Committee 274 N. Goodman St. $2 members. $3 day, 7 pm. Gay Alliance, 179 Atlantic Gay Alcoholics Anonymous 8 pm. 16-21, meets Sundays 3-6 pm, G^HV. Unitarian Church. 220 S. Winton Rd., zie. Snacks and non-alcoholic beverages Strong Auditorium, University of 328-6551- MeeHng. 7 pm, 179 Atlantic Ave. non-members. Ave. 244-8640. Genesee Hospital, 224 Alexander St. provided. Suggested donation $3-$25. Rochester. Sponsored by Gays. Les l^ace Dividend lown Meeting. 10 179 Atlantic An/e. 244-8640. 7 p.m. Update on Betty's case. Sponsored by bians, Bisexuals and Friends (GLBFA) ara-2 pm, Universalist Church of SATURDAY THURSDAY GLBFA. Gays. Lesbians. Bisexuals and Support group for parents and WEDNESDAY Gay Alcoholics Anonymous, First All People's Congress and Wild Seeds. of U.R. Rochester, 150 S. Clinton St. FRIDAY friends of U. of Rochester, Sundays, 7:30 friends of Jewish lesbians and Unitarian Church. 220 S. Winton Rd.. pm, Morey 402. 7:30 pm. Wild Seeds Bookstore and Rocliester Women's Community 20 25 gays. First Mondays. For time and kxa- Rocliester Women's Community 7 pm. Cdfe, 704 University Ave. 244-9310. THURSDAY Cliorus. 7:30 pm. Clalvary St. Andrews Centersounds. Youth Talent Contest, Adam and rhe Experts. Play about fion call Michele Ruda at Jewish Family Chorus, rehearsals. Pinnacle Place, Rocliester Rams Bar Niglit. Every National Lesbian and Gay Legal Church (comer of Averill and Ashland). third Saturday. Bachelor Forum. 8 pm-2 ail welcome: 1-5 pm. Rock with Folk Ex the AIDS crisis, produced by National "Opening the Closet Door." MONDAY Service. 461-0110. or Elaine Elkins, 919 S. Clinton Ave.. 6:30-8:30 p.m. Conference. "Lavender Law II.'* Atlan 11 plosion, with the Fugitives, Woody Technical Institute for the Deaf (NTID) 244-4837. am. 271-6930. Workshop k>f professionais working with Gay Alliance board of directors Lesbian Writers Group. 4 pm, every ta, Ca. Sponsored by National Gay and Coming Out Day. Come out, come Dodge and the Paper Train: 10:30 8 pm, Oct. 25-27; 2:30 pm Oct. 28. SUNDAY lesbian, gay and bisexual people. Rochester Lesbian Action Coali meeting. Gay AUiance, 7 pm. Second Lesbian Law Association. out, wherever you are. . . pm-1:30 am. Sponsored by Center for Robert F F^nara Theater, Lyndon Baines third Saturday. GAGV. 179 AHantic Ave. Presented by Betsy Armes, CSW, tion, Gay Alliance lounge, 713 Monroe Wednesday. 244-8640. (615)269-6778; (202)347-0025. GLBFA Infomiation Booth. 14 pm. Youth Services to benefit homeless and Johnson Building, Rochester Institute ot TUESDAY Affirmation, gay/lesbian Mormons. 14 ACSW. and Scott E. Miller. CSW. 9 Ave.. 7 pm. Third Monday. Tanya, Mending Hearts, AIDS bereavement main lounge, Wilson Commons, runaway youth. Jazzberry's Uptown, 50 Technology. $5 admission ($3 544-0043. Candlelight service to close Coming am-4 pm, Logan's Party House, 1420 256-1202. Rc»chester Rangers social club, suppori group. 7:30 pm. Our Lady of University of Rochester East Ave. 473-2464. students). Tickets available Oct. 15; Saturday Night Socials. G^ Alliance Out Week. Sponsored by Dignity- Scottsville Rd. Registration deadline Oct. Friends Support Group . sponsored SUNDAY The Lesbian and Gay 90s. New NTID box office 475-6254 business meeting, 8 pm. Second Victory Church. 210 Pleasant St. Communtty Center, 179 Atlantk Ave. 8 Integrity. 3:30 pm, St. Luke's St. Simon Empty Closet deadline. Camera- 22. Call 244-9820. by AIDS Rochester Inc. kfr friends df YOTU Staie Chapter of Nationai Associa Tuesday. 67V3777 or 24g-3780. pm-midnight, Septeniber through May. ICyrene) Church, 17 N. Fitzhugh St. ready ads, photographs. 244-9030. (voice/TDD). tion ot Social Workers Conterence. Die Friends of Tim Mains present a special concert featuring
NTID E>epartment of Performing Arts presents: N, Rbmanovsb&PhilliD with Special Guest X Open Arms Metropolitan Community Church opening Church setvice Adam and the Experts Manhattan Sq. Park I ;30 pm •^^•- Leah Zicari RLAC Picnic Ellison Park 2-5pm a new play about AIDS Romanovsky & Phillips and Leah Written by Victor Bumbalo Zicari Nazareth Arts Center, Spm Directed by James B. Graves m liQIgEM^'OCIOlMP^MIK:' -" ''- GAGV "Explore a New Worid" Fundraiser at Whispers 9pm to 2am f. October 25-27, 1990 8p.m- / V ven weekdays 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. beginning October 15. 1990. For reservations or more Information call the NTID Box OfBce National Coming Out Day (I 475-6254 (voice/it>D). Varied activities by many groups lifestyle and »"2^'^«veH as elucidate. Sht. to entertain « ^^^ecords Pulse All NTID performing arts and guest artist productions Uof fTs Gl-BFA hosts a receptk^n for are for both deaf and hearing audiences. V their Lambda Alunmi /// John Washtxirn Library of CHN hosts This Material wmm produecd through an mffetmeni betwweu a Safer Sex Workshop 7:30pm Rochester hwtltate of Tcchnolo^ and tbe U. S. Depsftsietit oT Btfocatloii. Join Us Sunday Night, October 7th enrollment Is Nmited; pre-register t>y Rochestsr Instttute of Tschnology calling 244-9000
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16 THE EMPTY CLOSET October, 1990 Columnists m votes? I don't, but I sure want to meet you*" Groviring up: Heanwarming, yes» but why, I wondered? And why, too, I wondered as I read my mail did (I've lost) that loving feeling these insistently cheerful, balanced and active loves getting mail. I mail her clippings from men elect to answer ads? They seemed so com By Erie Bellman the Nztionai Enquirer or the Star, especially plete in their hobbies and outlooks. They were i once concluded a City Newspaper per ghastly un-rctouched color close-ups of Lucille optimistic, healthy, independent, caring and sonal ad with "I don't carc ifyou arc short or Ball just before the end when Lucy was sealed discreet to the man, and that was paragraph tall, blue collar or a hairdrcssen but you must in pancake, lipstick and mascara—for all we one. Whatever did they need? I observed, be a l>enKKntt;* because I believed I could face could tell already dead (the Ettquiter does quite among other things, that there seemed to be anything across the pillow in the moming ex a job on Liz. too. but it's Lucy Jane loves). a contingent who polish an up-beat sales pitch, cept a Republican. I needed then to believe that Jane shudders when I suggest listing political and while they pay pop lingo lip service to in forging a rclationship values should weigh affiliations or dietary peculiarities in my ad. needs and goals, they seem to have developed more than sex. My jaunty tone notwithstan and snaps, "tt doesn't matier if they like Rita an armadillo hide of denial; one can find no ding, I was desperate when I wnne that ad, Hayworth, have been to Paris or eat worms! point of contact, no anxiety or longing in their willing to consider ;in>' package if the contents What matters is whether they read and lick letters. One realizes one is playing a game and BUi Medleyf thctadlRigfttcous Brother. would pn)ve worthy. I was convinced identi stamps!" Jane is right; a generic ad gets thc ac its rules arc being revealed in the process. fying needs, holding fast to liberal ideals, was tion. Everyone understands "GWM seeks One is wise to employ a sorting/rating This raises a potent topic: men lie. One must critical and I was unwilling to shelve those same." She received a letter written on half a sysiem. Jane does Yes-No-May be. 1 prcfer be prepared for married men who. at noon, values as 1 sought companionship. napkin in green crayon once and didn't seem 1-High to S-Low with pluses and minuses, lit in smart suits, calmly explain the sadness of Initially a hetero phenomenon (and an upset. She filed it under maytye-minus. tle check marks and smiley faces. N^pus points a no longer fiillfilling domestic situation. One's unsettling one—the first ads in Screw However when I have rcad thrce responses in for trying and demerits for i's dotted with gratitude for answered prayeis turns sour; one magazine were shocking) personal ads werc a niw indicating the potential suitor "likes circles. My penchant for the odd undermines leams new rules, draws lines. In the process sanitized by the time they appearcd in smaller quiet times together, walks on the beach and my system: I'm a sucker for a hand-printed I grow to understand what is reasonable in this cities. Thc idea t
^©1990 REAL PEOPLE. LTD. • 95c PER MIN. • $2.00 THE 1ST MIN. • YOU MUST BE 18 OR OLDER i^ Octobet; 1990 THE EMPTY CLOSET 17 -K'^ Person of the month: Radclyffe Hall from testifying. The defendants weie fined and By Thomas Krolak of Ladye made John feel that her creativity was confident enough to write about lesbianism. She was called **Johti;* and had hair cut as bcit^ stifled. Only lan^ had touched upon the subjea. Sie the verdict was upheld on appeal. shon as a man's, wore tics, men's socks, broad John was ripe for a change by 191$ when had written a short story. Miss Ogilvy Fittds The contfoversy had caused sales of WHf to shoes, and smoking jackets. She fek like a man she met Ladye's cousin, Uiu Itoubridge. Una, Herself. It expressed her feelings of being a soar. The same was true in the U.S. where it in a woman's body. 28, was caught in a failed marriage. Their social outcast due to her sexuality and her year had been released that October In February, But had ^e been a man there would not rcmiance caused guilt feelings for John. She still ning to be male. Soon she be^m to work on the publisher was tried in New York, but the have been the classic novel of lesbian love, Tbe lived with Ladye and felt some affection for a new novel, named by Una TTie WsU of conviction was overturned. WHI ofLottelitiess. A courageous book for its her. In May 1916 John returned home after LtmeliBess. Its main character is modeled These battles achieved John's goal of bring tfanc its author was a paradox. She was the sex spending a night with Una. An aigumem began partly after Ogilvy. ing lesbianism beforc the public. The mail ual rebel who believed strongly in "God and with Ladye who accused John of abandoning Wanting this work to rcflect her belief that favoring her stand kept potuing in, but some Runiiy.' her. That eventng Ladye had a stroke and died lesbianism is inborn, she coaxed the sex lesbians thought Stephen's main affair in WtU was too much like a traditional marriage Jtjhn Her own hunUy's instability drove her to days later. John felt ic^>onsiblc for her death. ologist, Havelock Ellis, imo writing a had very mainstream views about the fsunily. find emotional anchots in the form of lovers. That year John began sjpcakktg to her ex- foreword. Building on chaiacters from But she and Una werc now intolerant of any Maiguerite Radclyfle Hall Qohn) was bora in lover through a medium. Una joined these previous novels and her friendships, she wove lesbians who appeared to be closeted. Feeling Bournemouth. England to rich parents on Aug. seances, which were frequent for at least two a plot around Stephen Gordon, a lesbian who a sharp sense of betrayal from friends who had 12.1880. Before then her father, called 'Rat," years. Soon, the couple became involved with has several love affairs. Steffen is not based not stood by them, they left London to live in had deserted his wife, Marie. TWo years later the Society for Psychic Research (SPR). They entirely on John. But like her she feels like a thc country. she divorced him. His father's will forced him wrote a paper about their experiences with the misfit, and acts like a husband to her lover to leave a trust fund for John. After he went medium which John read to the society. Viewed from our perspective the story is dated Beforc then. John was offended by a car^xxi away to live a life of idleness she rarely saw While in the SPR. Una sei^u^ated from her and pessimistic. Stephen begs God to give les that showed her nailed to a cross. It inspired him. But John always felt she got her husband, who knew of her love for John. Con bians "the right to our existence!" She is a mar her to write her next novel. The Master of the rcsdessness and temper from Rat. Like him she vinced that John was using the SPR to have an tyr, most other gays and lesbians in the book House (1932). It was about her concerns with would have periods of depression. evil influence over his wife, he persuaded are tragic. But Well dieered from other British martyrdom and compassion. While writing it another member to accuse John of immorali novels in that it did not depict lesbianism as she had mysterious pains and red marks in her Her rclationship with her mother was stor iust an adolescent phase. palms. The book failed, as did her next two. mier. Marie had tried to abort John. She would ty because of Ladye. The resulting slander suit Her private life also began to decline. The scream at and beat the girl, who reminded her was won by John in 1920. When it was published in July 1928, the time spent writing Master had come between of Rat. As John's sexuality became apparent. Although during the trial John's private life book was praised by most critics while they her and Una. whose health weakened. In 1934 Marie found another reason for anger. was not discussed, the meaningof "immoral" disliked its plea for lesbians. But in August the was apparent. The episode prodded her into editor of the Sunday Exptess denounced Well Una hired a nurse, Evgenia Souline. She was By thai time Marie had re-married. This 32. Russian, and ignited a hot passion in John. union would also be turbulent (marital discord being more honest about her sexuality. She as a threat to morals and demanded that it be masculinized her appearance and acquired banned. The publisher defended Xf^ll to the From then on. Evgenia exerted a hold over would be in all of John's novels). Her $tcp£uher John's emotions and money. Childlike, she neglected John and stole from her trust fund. morc lesbian friends. She took the role of Una's paper, while telling the government that he would drop it if necessary. That month he aroused John's protective instincts but knew When 21 she was rescued by her grand husband. The>' regarded themselves as mar stopped printing it after being threatened with how to manipulate her. Strangely. John had father's estate, which enabled her to move ried on the day in 1922 when John's periods an obscenity chaige. But the type molds were pleached lesbian fidelity. away. As a shy, sickly child she had written stopped. But the memory of Ladye would re sent to Paris wherc publication of VPU/ con Una was deeply hun but suyed loyal. She poems. In 1906 her first book of poetry, TWixt main so strong with John that she would tinued. From there, many copies werc smiqtgl- and John spent much time in Itsdy wherc they fiarch and Stais. was published, at herexpetise. dedicate her novels to "Our Three Selves" ed into Britain. After some were seized the became ardent supporters of Mussolini. In its verses spoke of thwarted desire, an omen (herself, Ladye and Una). publisher and London bookseller were tried 1939 John blamed Jews for the war that drove of her prose. Four other books of poems Her interest in clairvoyance was less intense in November. them back to England. But she was disturbed followed in the next nine years. after she began writing fiction. John resigned from SPR's council in 1924, when her first two Meanwhile John received tons of fan mail by reports of the Holocaust. The incentive for some of this writing was Soon she was fighting her own war against John's fiist intense love. In 1907 she met Mabel novels. The FOtge, and The Uttlit Lamp, were about Vf^ll. But a tnajor disa{^>ointment was published. They sold well, and got good the lack of support from other writers. An ex a series of diseases that ended in cancer. She Batten, aged 50, called "Ladye." Her endured it bnn^ely. fedii^ that suffering brings aristocratic beauty charmed John. In her poem reviews. This success continued in 1925 with ception was E. M. Forster who circulatcdapeti- A Satutxlsty Life. It and Lamp had brilliant tion for her But John was angry when she saw inner peace She died in October 1943 and was Ode to Sstppho her desire for Ladye was im buried in Ladye's crypt in London. plied. In The Scar John wrote of pride in her heroines who were forced into wasted lives. that his letter was a protest ^^ainst the ban and These stories, according to a biographer, said nothing about the book's greatness. He. Una was to be interred with them but rests lesbianism. Ladye dubbed her "John," pertuq^s in Florence where she died in 1963- Due to after a Hall ancestor whom the poet resembl Michael Bakei; reflect John's amNtion clashing Viiginia Woolf and other prominent people with her guilt about Ladye. The spiritual ele (25 of them writers) agreed to testify for the her persuasion, VftU was published in Britain ed. She converted to the Catholicism of Ladye in 1949 without trouble. and was influenced by her to be conservative. ment in Life is carried further in Adam *s Breed defense. (1926). A very successful novel, it ^ron l^R^o John too, v^uld have spoken in court but Quote from John: "For me to sleep with a She initially saw Ladye as a mother figure, but was advised not to. Seething in frustiation she man. . .would be an outrage against nature." Mabel was indulgent and often ill. Taking care literary awards. Now at the zenith of her career. John felt saw the judge bar all but one ofthe volunteers TIRED OF PAYING HIGH PRICES FOR PROFESSIONAL PICTURES? The first 100 customers will receive one 8x10, tvwo 5x7s and 8 y^^ iT ADVERTISING, SIGNS. wallet-size photos for the low W\ dy CUSTOM AUTO PAINT, MUMALS, PHOTOGRAPHY yV-^ AIRBRUSH, BANNERS CALL: price of $19.95! 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pens when you put two of these "boys" in a well do we know the language ofour hearts, committed relationship? As I listened to BIy's and is it alright for us to speak that language? at Ham) East Theatnr, 155 Chestnut Street. The comments I could not help but think of my Do I feel connected with my male-self and evening will feature a DJ, dancing, desserts, AIDS directory own gender issues and how infrequently I thereafter with my male friends, mate, aiidgay coffee, and apple cider A cash bar will be available. Thc place to be seen this night will think about them. community? These and many more questions Free testing for HIV exposure is available thrive within us. Our joumey to find thc be thc Harn> East Theatre* Show your support A poet and teacher, Biy invites men to join for AIDS Rochester. Tickets are available at from New York State: call 1-800-541-AIDS him in what he calls * 'a descent into thc soul.'' answets may take many forms. 1 encourage you (1-800-541-2437). Other organizations which to find your^. I'm looking for mine. AIDS Rochester, Parkleigh, Village Green, and What are men feeling? What do men want? Ac Wild Seeds Book Store for S25 per person. Call provide AIDS-related services are as follows: cording to Biy, what emerges is not so much 232-3580 for more information. Tickets will AIOS Rochester, Itte., 20 University St., pro a clear set of answers but a flotxl of long- also be available at thc dtx>r vides education, referrals to appropriate ser suppressed emotion. As gay males, which of AIDS Update: "In thc Face of AIDS" is thc name of an ex vice agencies, client and family services, ad us is not familiar with the themes of long- vocacy for people facing HIV-linked suppressed emotion? hibition scheduled to open on Nov. 7 at the Uptown Gallery at Ja2a±)erry*s, 50 East Avenue. discrimination, and other services, including What do we find when we |oumey past our The exhibit will include art expressing many financial assistance and a public education tough male exteriors into our own emotional are you? facets and reaaions amidst thc AIDS crisis. speaker bureau. 232-3580 (V/TTY) or underworld? Probably we find a place where Susan Plunkett, owner, and David Kwasigroh, 232-4430 (V/TTY). we stockpile everything from wild joy to By Jeff Kost Helping People with AIDS. Itte. raises money October is "AIDS Awareness Momh." All curator, hope to bring forward some of thc furious rage to de^ sadness. And while the realities and responses necessary to confront to fimd agencies to meet the needs of the therapy profession has struggled for years to across the country, events are scheduled, agen AIDS/HIV-positive population. 987-1853- cies arc gearing up, and educators are grasp thc disease. Artists, pcrforrpers, and musicians direct men to delve into their inner worid, men interested in participating should conuct Gay Alliance of the Genesee VaUey peer can still be immobilized by the pull ofthe col ing this opporttmity to bring HIV education facilitators can provide referrals to physicians and its messages to millions of Americans. David at 235-6444. The exhibit is scheduled lective male opinion. through mid-December. and service agencies. Person on duty Sun Ely feels that men have become so isolated The messages are many HlV/AlDS is no day/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Message machine longer hopeless. Know your own HIV status Jeff Kost is Ditector of Public Relations and firom each other, and from the mythology that De\'elopment for AIDS Rochester, the other times. 244-8640. guided men for centuries, that a deep feeling and the status of your partner(s). Learn risk- AIDS Coordination Pro/ect of Monroe reducing methods ifyou are engaging in risky designattxl Community Service Prt>gram for of inadequacy has become "thc primary ex Monroe andsexen counties. Ifyou bave infor County, run through Monroe County Depart perience ofbeing male in America today.' * And behaviors. Support agencies which are involv ment of Health and AIDS Insdtute of New Yotk ed in medical treatment or research, support, matitm to contribute to this report, please con so men Uke Biy, along with Jungian tact him at AIDS Rochester (State Depanment of Health) provides infor psychologist James Hillman, storyteller/ andcducatitm. lO/unreer.'And many more. . . mation, education and training, and maintains philosopher Michael Meade and others are en Five major cities will be participating in a a resource library. Sue Cowell, 274-6114 couraging men to fill their emotional natitmal display of the NAMES Projea AIDS (V/TTY). voids. Memorial Quilt, from Oa. 6 - 8. In Atlanta, Community Health Networkjnc. (CHN), Biy and others in thc rnen*s movement have Chicago, Houston, Los Angeles, and AIDS experts: 758 South Ave. HIV testing; medical, ex taken on a task that has challenged generations Washington, D.C, memorial panels will be perimental and pentamidine treatments; John of pyschotherapists, namely, getting men "in simultaneously unfolded once again in a blood heating Washbum Library; support groups; social couch" with their feelings. Men have establish gracious tribute to those we have lost to AIDS. work and case managcttient services. Em ed a notorious repuution for being reluctant The tribute is called "Common Threads: An doesn't i¥ork phasis on early intervention for all aspects of participants in therapy. Statistically, women Uncommt)n Response." Hyperthermia, thc heating of blotxl in an HIV and AIDS. 244-9O00. utilize thc benefits of psychotherapy far more "The Quilt is a symbol of the 'common attempt to kill the AIDS virus, is not effeaive, Finger Lakes Health Systems Agency pro than men. St) where do we go to get help for threads' that bind us in the fight against AIDS acct)rding to Dr Anthony Fauci ofthe National vides medical literature and newspaper clip our own emotional integration? and strengthen us against the parallel Institute t)f Allergies and Infeaious Diseases. pings as well as demographic and statistical Thc mens movement has taken a different epidemics of ignorance and hopelessness. Thc In faa, Fauci said, a panel of govemment data for use in developing health cate services. tack from therapy to help men rediscover their Quilt is also an example of the 'uncommon AIDS experts has determined that thc process 461-3520. emotional lives, by returning to what Robert respt>nsc' t>f people across America to the un may aaually increase the activity ofthe virus, Greater Rochester AIDS Interfaith Network Biy calls "the original therapy"— using myth, common challenges of AIDS." making thc disease worse. (GRAIN) provides lay and professional carc poetry, music and dance to awaken men frt>m A Volunteer Orientation Workshop will be Dr. Kenneth Alonso of Atlanta used the pro through healing and memorial services; train their emotional slumber. A participant at one held in conjunctitin with "AIDS 101" at AIDS cess six mt)nths ;^(o t)n a man with Kapt)si's ing of friendly visitors for visiting homes, of Biy's weekend gatherings for men once said, Rochester on Oct. 30, from six to nine p.m. sarct>ma, which he claimed was cured by hospitals, hospices and prisons; information "I had never felt myself as especially male. I Volunteer t)pportunities will be presented and hyperthermia. The proctfss was thtm used on about pastoral resources and advocacy on remember walking into my first group and discussed for all xspects ofthe agency by Lynne two others, one of whom died. The medical behalf of people affeaed by AIDS. thinking, 'everybody here knows how to do Hamiltt)n. vt)lunteer ct>ordinator HIV/AIDS investigators said that they doubted that the Monroe Community College maintains an it and I'm just faking. " educatit)n, transmissit>n, prevention and risk- man claiming tt) be cured t)f Kaposi's ever had AIDS Resource Library in thc Leroy V. Good 1 confess a personal fascination with the reduction will be uught by Georgia Lcmcr, thc skin disexse in the first place. They noted Library. 1000 E. HenrietU Rd. 424-5200. men's mtnemcnt. But even more I claim a pcr- health education ctiordinator. Call Lynne at that both survivors of the treatment are still Strong Memorial Hospital provides a com st)nal interest in men. And therefore I realize 232-35HO tt) register. HIV positive and have suppressed immune plae range of HIV medical carc, including ac that an important part t>f my own journey with A safe-sex wt>rkshop will be hosted b>' Com systems. cess to experimental treatment protocols, and men necessitates gender introspection. I munity Health Network's John Washburn Alonso saitl thai he v^oulU continue his HlV testing. Mso provides psychiatric support believe strongly that this is also an essential Library and S.P.I R.I T. group on Oct. 12, at research into the controversial process, and counseling, and training of health trare undertaking for thc gay male community. 1 7:30 p.m., with Tim Lunccford, assisted by pt>ssihly in Latin America or Europe- professionals. Infctnious Disease Clinic, think that it is impt>rtant for us all to undet^ Craig Nenneau. There will be a limited number David Barr of the Gay Men's Health Crisis 275-0526. Department of Psychiatry, tand t)ur feelings for men. of nu'n accepted for this workshop, it promises said that the group was critical of those, both 275-6741. AIDS Training Projea, 275 5693 If we aren't supposed to cry or show to be "electrifying, sexual, and cducatit)nal" in medicine and the media, who raise false Mending Hearts, AIDS bereavement suppon "weakness," how do wc deal with pain or Make ytjur reser\'atit)n with Sidney t)rjt)han- ht)pes ft)r people with AIDS, tfspccially when group. Mtfets Wednesdays, 7:30 p.m., at Our vulnerability? What dt>es it mean to us if our na at CHN by calling 244 9(HK). the treatments are expensive and dangen)us. Lady t)f Victory- Church, 210 Pleasant St. mate makes mt)re mone\* than we dt)' How AIDS Rt)chester will ht)st The Masquerade -Philadelphia day News 671-3777 or 248-3780. much can we trust a man — or ourselves? How Ball tt) benefit AIDS RtKhester, Inc. on Oct. 27,
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sermcm series about an Old Tcsumcnt fish I Valley, 179 Atlantic Ave. Jewish parents group story: **J(mah - The Runner" will be explor Lesbian Writers last met on Sept 8. Rclation ing thc lessons that Jonah had to leam and thc A few yeais ago, a parent of a lesbian ships were defined, described and praised, in Men's Chorus hard way he went about learning them. Thc thc written and spoken word. Whether thc daughter contacted Jewish Family Service of first part of the series was on Sept. 30, but the Rochester about thc possibility of a support focus was on a slim, sexy lady with haunting to perforin at second and third parts will be on Oa. 7 and ly blue eyes, a brand new mountain bike, or gnxip Ibr parents and friends of Jewish lesbian 14 at the regular worship time of 6 p.m. and gay children. In answer to that need, JFS a computer to write songs with, wc, as usual, City Hall Atrium of^nized such a group. The discussion series focusing on different werc not at a loss for words. - On the first Mtmday Roman Catholics - Episcopalians Other Gay Christians Join Us! Dignity-Integrity/Rochester is an ecumenical organization open to Come join us on everyone who wishes to worship in a pleasant, non-threatening atmosphere. Wc invite you to join us for our weekly celebration of thc Eucharist, followed by a social hour, or one of our many speciai Saturday, Nov. 17, 1990 events such as a pot luck supper, picnic, retreat, etc. A Roman Catholic mass is celebrated each Sunday of thc month, except for at the Allen Sf. Club thc fourth Sunday when mass is celebrated in the Episcopal tradition. Fmm 9 pm to 2 am PastomI and Paer Counseling is also aymili^le Sunday Schedule Liturgy-S.OOp.m. Social Hour-6:00 p.m. St. Luke's Episcopal Church 17 S. Fitzhugh St. (between Main St. & Broad St.) Phone 328-9758 For More Information Call 458-3894 dignity-integrity ^H rociiester October, 1990 THE EMPTY CLOSET 21 The permanent lepcrtoite which the Chotus The husbands'individual groups, limited to tional Coming Out Wfcek by attending the will perform is culled from past RGMC per FLOS 12 men each, have included 150 men since RomancTVsky & Phillips and Leah Zicari con formances and is chosen by the Choras Finger Lakes Outreach Socials (FLOS) is beginning in October 1984. Each group in cert at Nazareth Arts Center. Ticket informa members themselves. The selections ran the open to all gay men, lesbians and bisexuals in cludes two trained facilitators and meets six tion is available elsewhere in this issue of the gamut from thc Renaissance motet of Hans Leo thc Finger Lakes region, roughly the area from Monday evenings. The facilitators provide in Empty Closet. Those interested in having a Hassler. Cantate Domino, to Cole Porter^s ter's Syracuse to Rochester and Lake Ontario, to formation and feedback to group memt>er5 gathering for the Men*s Groupprior to the con Do It. Included in this selection is RGMC's Binghamton, Coming and everywhere in about coping with thc complex aspects ofbe cen should call Lee at 442-5117. signed version of Kumbaya which was the sur between. ing gay or bisexual and also married to a During Coming Out Week, a safe sex prise hit ofthe lS>86Gay and Lesbian Associa woman, and being a father as well. workshop with a nationally-recognized sex tion of Chonis (GALA) international festival in V(^ schedule social gatherings to meet new friends and neighbors once a month. VC^ had The womens'group, under thc direction of educator is planned. For lurther information Minneapolis. Since then, other chorases in about date, time and locatton, call Lee at Nonh America have requested copies of thc a wine tasting tour in September and are plan Vicki)0 Campanaro-Cummings of Medical Ans ning a Halloween Ball in October and various Psychotherapy Associates, provides similar 442-5117. This should be a very worthwhile arrangement and the work has been widely event for learning to be safc while having fun. perfomicd. activities for thc holidays. For morc informa support services to assist wives of gay and tion, contact F.L.O.S., Box 578, Newark, NY bisexual men in dealing with personal issues Don't miss this! Rochester Gay Men's Chorus is a commimity 14513. related to their unique marital situations. Mrs. On Oct. 21, wewill haveadiscussion on co- chorus which involves not only singing Cummings can be reached for information at dcpcndcncy. Leam about this issue from a skill membefs but non-singing volunteers. If you 325-4090. ed facilitator. would be interested in joining the Chorus or Gay/bi married men Charles Piersol, a retired clinical social Thc Cooking Group continues to meet on would like more infonnation, please call Thc worker, can be reached at 442-3506 for discus the last Sunday of every month. Plan to attend Chorus Line at 251-2077. Thc Chorus is aaive & w^ives' groups sion of gay/bisexual married men's group our meeting on Oct. 28. ly seeking a new artistic interpreter to sign per Suppon groups for gay/bisexual married applications. formances for thc hearing impaired. If you men and straight wives married to gay/bisex Jean Schaar Gochros, Ph.D., of Honolulu, would be interested in this position, please ual men will resimie their meetings as follows: Hawaii, did some of her research in Rochester krave your name and number with The Choms the w i ves on Oct. 3, and the husbands on Oct. in 1981 with couples in mixed sexual orienta RLAC Une. 1- 5. All group meetings are confidential. tion marriages. Her book. When Husbands Cotne Out ofthe Closet, published by Haworth New and former Rochester Lesbian Action Press in 1989, is a major resource of support, Coalition members are looking forward to an encouragement, and practical advice for exciting event to kick off thc new season. A Is drinking husbands and wives in such marriages. ROPES course is being offered to members free of chaige as a privilege of membership in thc organization. a problem Out and Al>out Thc ROPES course involves physical ac For (X-tobcr, Out and About plans a tivities designed to enhance group trust in your Ufe? weekend cabin party on Fourth Lake in Old building. The instructor for thc event is Mar Foige in the Adirondacks, Oct. 12-14. The fall tha Howden who teaches at NTID. Thc course AA can help. colors should be right for this favorite and will take place on Oct. 14 at RIT. ifyou would Call 232-6720, 24 hours a (Jay. popular trip, which this year will also include like to become a member and experience this Or come to Gay AA a boat trip and shopping trips in town. Won't physically challenging day with RLAC you join us? Cal! Bill 323-2419. at St. Luke's Church members, call Tiinya at 256-1202. Enrollment Downtown For those who cannot get away, there wil! We are a on Thurstlays at 8:30 pm. for thc ROPES course is limited. United be a rhcater ofgan concert on thc Wurlitzer at RLAC issponsoringa "Lesbian Celebration" More Light Presbyterian Sign language interpreted, the Auditorium Theater on Oa. 19. Finally, we to help kick off Coming Out Week. There will have a new Seniors Group forming to dt> Congrq^tion Church last meeting of the month. be games (bring your football, softball, frisbee), 11 am Sunday various activities WHITE SPRUCE Addressing the needs Scott E, Miller, csw of gay, lesbian & bismcual individuais Counseling & Psychotherapy & their families ASSOCIATES Southview Commons, 100 White Spruce Blvd. Providing individual, couple & fanuly therapy Rochester, NY 14623 (716)475-1120 Alcoholism & Sexuality & co-dependency issues gender-related concems Relationship problems 1^"^ 1 I nW Lesbian support group ' please caU if interested Martlia M. Howden, CSW, CAC WUliam KcUy, CSW, CAC Credentialed Alcoholism Cour^or Credentialed Alcoholism Counselor ™ RUTH Af. WILLIAMS, M.& Ed. Certified Sex Therapist Psycliotlierapist Steven IX Davis, CSW, CAC Credentialed Alcoholism C(xjnsek>r Offering Therapy for Individuals, Couples and Groups Proficient in Sign Language — Adjustable Fee 496 White Spruce Blvd. 272-7210 385-4735 Vor TTY ::«> #:: ^ IP MEET THE CANDIDATES 1 CoiuUdaies'Niglu ai ihe Community Center D^ya Michele lb£aiiy WELLESLEY Mon. 9 October Sih^ 7 pm A Group Jor Jewish Gays Ed.D. N.C.C. CENTER and Lesbians 442-2986 rnLitn Lesbian & Gay OF ROCHESTER Offers: Individual • Couple Therapists offer Family • Group Counseling individual, couple & Wishing all a Happy Commuted to BqumUty.* to persons living a gay» group counseling in a Cemnatted to YOM and Healthy New Year lesbian or bisexual lifestyle discreet setting. ficcJ'ostcr Lesbian & Gay For more information: Politic il Caucus Beth Bloom 442-3363 Barbara Debes, M.S., C.A.S. f..:r.o... tr .ill • * dt-r..it ICI-.!' ADJUSTABLE FEES :(,[-,^-V •''-^ •-• cunnc^ otir ruil-t'. or write: Horace Lethbridge, M.A. J •(;.•>'.'. 1M"-I ("• fit"'-'' .1 y-'-^i r« •'•-•••> •• P.O. Box 18053 458-0533 Rochester, N.Y. 14618-0053 tt. L J J 22 -TH^ ilKi>W CLO^fct*" bctWgiV, «># yy'J Octobec; 1990 CLASSIFIED ADYERTISING When You Need Send resume, names and phone numbers of Black prisoner, search to establish a true, Black Male, 30, 6*1**, light brown skin, Someone Classified ads cost $5 for the first Ml three references, and one legal writing sam honest relationship with that special so light green eyes, seeking a man understan words and $1 for each additional 10 wonls. ple hy Nov. 4 to William B. Rubenstein, meone. Size or shape don't make a dif ding of my situation and willing to visit. I SPECIAL ... Send check or money order and ad, typed Director, ACLU Lesbian and Gav Rights/AIDS ference. I'm just lonely and need someone am interested in a meaningful and real or written legibly, to: E.C Press, 179 Atlan Projects, 132 West 43td St., New York, NY in my life. Age 25, my birthday is Feb. 2, friendship that could become a loving rela tic Ave., Rochester, NY 146071255. Ads will 10036. 1965. Brown eyes, 178-180 lbs., 6'!'. tionship. My heart is gold. My mind is pure. not be accepted over the telephone. Lawrence Collier, 190-268, PO Box 45699, My love stands alone. John M. Pannell, Personals 192-059, P.O. Box 45699. Lucasvillc, Ohio The Empty Closet will not accept Gay XXX Phone Fantasies! Over 200 Lucasvillc OH 45699-OOOL MR. RIGHT 45699 0001'. classified ads by mail unless tbey are accom choices, gay male or lesbian, all scenes. Five panied by a name and telephone numher full-play stories only •9-95- Use Visa/Master Young, educated & lonely, reaching out Lonely Black Inmate, to be released next A Unique New Tbe number will ntH be published, but we Card/AmEx. Call (303)595-0051. to touch that special someone. 26, 5'ir\ 156 year, seeks a one on one relationship. Vm will call to confirm the ad placetnent. lbs., red hair, blue eyes, clean shaven & loving, caring and serious. Is there one real Concept in Dating VPfr accept personal ads, but the advertiser American Leather Hotline. For MEN who boyishly handsome. Willie Sampson gay male out there who is ready for someone must use bis or her own box number or ad hang lough. Call 1-900-990-HEAT. 99 #211550, PO Box 120. Lebanon OH 45036. young, fresh and special? Only the sincere Services for dress. We publish personal ads from cents/minute (1.99 first). should reply. Will relocate. Fred Lucky. 787 GENE HAYWORTH prisonets on a .space-available basis. If you 32-year-old male, interested in anyone Mendford Road, 156-525, Lucasvillc, Ohio MEN ONLY have a prtMem with a /yen pal, let us icnow. Crossdressers Hotline. TV/TS and those who would want to correspond for friend 45699 TYPE & DESIGN The Kmpty <;ioset cannot he held respimsi- seeking them. Call 1-900-990-4528 99 ship. If you have the time to write, and you logos • brochures enjoy writitig letters, I would love to hear hle for any financial loss or physical injury cents/minute (S1.99 first). Roommates/ pamphlets • resumes (hat may resuU from any correspondence. fn>m vou. Al Jackson, 192-102, PO Box 436-3266 Do you know your HIV status? C>)m- 45699. LucasviUe OH 45699-001. Housemates business cards Announcements munity Health Network, 244-9000. Rochester, NY & more I'm young, educated and Black! Reaching THE ROOMMATE NETWORK INC, Look Peer faclHtaior—Answer the (iay Alliance ing for a n)omniate or a place to live? Give hotline on a regularly scheduled hasis, both Female Bodybuilder. Accomplished, out to that sfxecial someone in the hope of 716 • 244 • 7009 massive female college student needs help establishing a true, sincere and honest rela us a call—we can help! We are Rochester's evenings and during daytime hours. C*oi>d n>ommntc referral servicef 325-4643. listening skills a must! Will train. If in with expenses. I'm attractive, feminine and tionship. 26 years old, 5'n", 165 lbs., light terested, call the p.f. line 244-8640, leave a discreel. Please write and offer suggestions. brown complexion, clean-shaven, boyishly GWM/GWF wanted to share large furnish message tm the tape. A peer facilitator will Reply to M.c;., PO. Box 27, Avon. NY 14414. handsome. Associate degree in business and ed apartment in downtown Buffalo. Non- get hack to you. accounting, also degree in hairstyling. Will smoker, clean, neat and responsible. 5375 in Female to Female: White feline, early 30s, answer all. Please write me. Larry Cash, cludes utilities, cable, basic phone. Security ROCHESTER CUSTOM LEATHERS Reporters for thc Empty Closet. Must be large-framed, a bit shy. Seeks warm Cauca 150-946, P.O. Box 45699, Lucasvillc, Ohio and references. 1-885-2180. CUSTOM LEATHER WORKS & NOVELTIES able to cover news stories, d be a slender cat. or a youitg kitten. Vtn 28, single, 5*11*' and 165 lbs. I have a non-smoking t)wner of a well-behaved cat. Mail mc your paw print, and we can purr hn)wn eyes and hair. My hobbies include 1 enjoy the company of a roommate but CALL TOLL-EREE 1-800-836-9047 Rubber stainps—Reas«>nahle prices, over a bowl of milk together. City weightlifting. football, boating and music. I alieady have a lover. Robb. 473-OOI2. custom, novelty, or address. LSASE gets Newspaper. Box 3813, 250 North CnHxlman am presently attending college, majoring in *^ Jackets ^^ Vests «x Chaps »^ Shorts catalog. Home business opportunities St., Rtichester, NY 14607. culinar>' arts. Please write so that wc may For rent package—send $2 to cover costs. 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LtH>king for a woman •n" Partners"' If you can help, call 244-8246. 35-45- Likes candlelight dinners, animals, Th»*1 ear DaHng Smrviem tor Itf 9n children and movies. No drugs or alcohol. Now covering all Gay Owned and Operated HIV supportive therapy group. R>r all Must play no head games. L(M>king for persons with HIV. Decrease anxiety, depres friendship and possibly a rclationship. Must major cities in U.S. Open Mon. to Thur& 11 am-8 pm. Fri & Sat. 11 am-10 pm, and Sun. 12 pm-5 pm sion, and isolation. Strong Memorial be honest and sincere. C.J.T, P.O. Box 591, and Canada Take 490 East to ttw Goodman St. exit, tum North (left) Hospital, HIV <;Hnic in Psychiatry. 27S-3379. Newark, NY, 14513- Our goal is to help you meet some one compatable, both socially and One block North of University Ave. on the right. Lesbian and Gay Ibastmasters Club. Gay Black Male, 39. creative, into the ans, Tttastmasters is an effective xuM fun program seeks gay male for friendship and possible sexually, as a friend or a lover. to ifnprtwc speaking skills. Let's have a club n^lationship. P.O. Bt>x A52, Rochester. NY, for lesbians and. gays^^ Call Lcc at 442-S117 14603. for infi>rmation. GWF, 27, seeks a dyke, 25-35, to love and Help Wanted make very happy. Only dominant dykes need aK>ly. 442-5013- AU New Gay Dance Club needs bar & d "^^^^H A 1 \ %^ m^iamiUma wftfc f.!>. — "^•^--^ .** 'Jj^ •tCtWtD /,••/ y <: 0- RnaRtf fliere is>••• « JUSTICE The new woman's dance club and networking alternatiTe Supersonic Stereo Sound System % j^ i T'V* Hwrsdays: No Cover Charge ~ 2 ftr I - 50* olF Beer No. 219 Li|» Syne Contest (V/omen Only) «25 Rrst Plaee October 1, 1990 Fridays: <2 Cover - Rist Drink Free Rocbester, N.Y. 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