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The mediately saying that property for governor because Governor three Republican incumbents, taxes are too high. He said that Chris Chrisie “supports narrow John Felice, Maura DeNicola, and this year county property taxes political interests, and we don’t John Mitchell, are each running were reduced for the fi rst time need Boardwalk Empire in this for a second term. Their Demo- in many years. He gave some of state.” cratic challengers are James Te- the credit to a new program that She was speaking at a joint fo- desco, Lorraine Waldes, and he sponsored that awards coun- rum of Jewish Community Re- Christopher Tully. The audience lations Councils of New Jersey NJ State Senator and Democratic was welcomed by Temple Emeth  CONTINUED ON P. 10 (JCRC), which invited both guber- Candidate for Governor - Barbara natorial candidates to participate. Buono More than 30 community leaders Mitz vah Day Celebrates and council members were in at- ic candidate, had the fl oor to her- See Ad on Page 2 tendance, but Governor Chris self. its Sweet Sixteen Christie did not appear, and Sena- tor Barbara Buono, the Democrat-  CONTINUED ON P. 36 By Larry Bernstein Bergen County — More than Beit Shemesh Elections 1,000 Jewish volunteers will gather at 40 plus locations on Novem- Contested Amid Mounting ber 3rd for the 16th annual Mitzvah Day sponsored by the Jewish Fed- Evidence of Fraud eration of New Jersey. “This is an opportunity for Jews By Yori Yanover, The Jewish Press ruption will force the courts to across the denominations to partic- become involved. According to ipate in a community wide day of At this point there’s no tell- the fi nal results of the vote, as See Ad on Page 3 caring and sharing,” said Alice Blass, ing just how widespread the published by the Ministry of Mitzvah Day Coordinator. One of Planting Bulbs at Mitzvah Day 2011 Haredi voting fraud has been. the Interior, incumbent mayor her jobs is to reach out to schools, at New Bridge Landing Park in River All Jewish Home needs to show Moshe Abutbul, Shas, has won Edge, an American Revolutionary are 924 fraudulent votes—the with 50.5 percent (17,655 votes),  CONTINUED ON P. 10 War site. difference between the Shas in- compared with 47.86 percent cumbent’s and the Zionist sec- (16,741 votes) his opponent, Eli ond fi nisher. Cohen, Jewish Home. 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By Sean Savage/JNS.org ish Congress on the committee. She recently spoke to Korea later this JNS about her new position and the issues addressed year. adrid—More than 50 Jewish and Catholic leaders in Madrid. “I also feel that Mgathered in Madrid, Spain recently for the Interna- Her goal and responsibility she said, is to help it is very important tional Catholic-Jewish Liaison Committee (ICJLC) sum- guide the group to deepen dialogue with other reli- to get younger Jews mit to further religious cooperation. gious faiths. “In addition to the meeting with the Cath- involved in the di- Betty Ehrenberg, the fi rst woman to chair the Inter- olic Church in Madrid, we recently met with leaders of alogue. I hope that national Jewish Committee for Interreligious Consulta- Orthodox Christianity in Greece and plan to attend a we can teach young tions (IJCIC) is also the representative of the World Jew- meeting with the World Council of Churches in South Jewish leaders to develop these types of friendships and communication skills.” Among the top- 44th ics discussed in Ma- drid were those that “both faiths Betty Ehrenberg have in common: Annual Gala combatting racism, extremism and violent attacks on religious institutions. The issue of religious freedom SUNDAY EVENINGtNOVEMBER 24, 2013t22 KISLEV 5774 was an extremely important topic as well. We discussed recent efforts [by some European countries] to /&8:03,."33*055."326*4t#30"%8": /&8:03,$*5: curtail kosher slaughter or enacting legislation outlaw- ing male circumcision, as well as prohibitions by some 3&$&15*0/1.t("-"1. countries against wearing religious symbols such as the kippah, Magen David or even crosses.” Jews and Catholics, she said, are both deeply con- GUESTS OF HONOR cerned with the continuity of their faiths and the involvement of young people in religious institutions. “We shared some of our ideas on how to involve younger people,” she said. When asked if the Israel-Arab confl ict was discussed, she answered, “We did not have a direct discussion of the Arab-Israeli confl ict. But we did discuss attacks on faiths in the Holy Land, persecution of Christians in the region, and radicalization. This was not limited to the Middle East; we had an across-the-board discussion of extremism on the far left and right.” The group also discussed the upcoming 50th anni- $IBOJBOE+BZ,FTUFOCBVN versary of Nostra Aetate and how to mark it. “Although many are aware of Nostra Aetate and the healthy relationship with the Jewish people,” she said. “There are CORPORATE GUEST OF HONOR still many communities around the world where it is not well known, and we feel it needs to be taught more in Catholic schools, seminaries and churches.” When asked about the new Pope, Ehrenberg noted that, “With the Catholic Church so infl uential in Lat- in America, Pope Francis’s election is important. There )0/03*/(5)&$)"*31&340/40' are many attempts by radical groups to make inroads "/%$&-"5*/( 5)&0)&-0./*(0-'$-"44*$ there, particularly Iran. 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When you have strong friendship and understand each other’s concerns, like we now do with “The sky is filled with stars, invisible by day. the Catholic Church, we see a great chance to work to- At OHEL we see the star in Everyone.” gether for common ground on these issues.” Formed in 1967 shortly after the Second Vati- To Make Your Reservation or to Place Your Journal Ad can Council’s groundbreaking declaration Nostra call 718.972.9338 email [email protected] Aetate, which disavowed centuries of Catholic Church antisemitism and paved the way for improved Catho- Moishe Hellman & Mel Zachter Moshe Zakheim and Elly Kleinman David Mandel lic-Jewish relations, ICJLC is the offi cial interfaith or- Co-Presidents OHEL Co-Chairmen of the Board Chief Executive Officer ganization that has met nearly two dozen times and Ronny Hersh Elly Kleinman Robert Katz has issued several important joint declarations con- President of Lifetime Care Foundation Camp Kaylie Chairman Chief Development Officer cerning matters of faith, ethics and social issues.

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Iran Nukes Possible in Days ing Micro Tactical Ground Robot (MTGR) es to Israel’s holy sites. The agreement natius. According to sources, early last The Washington Free Beacon re- to support special operations and ex- comes amid a visit to Israel by Nigeri- year Turkish Prime Minister Recep Tayy- ports: “Iran has passed the “point of no plosive ordnance disposal forces. MTGR an President Goodluck Jonathan. Jona- ip Erdogan gave the order to “shop” Is- return” in its nuclear weapons program provides capabilities to identify IED than was scheduled to meet with Israe- raeli agents to Iran. The spies in ques- and could soon have the ability to enrich threats from a safe standoff range and li Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu tion were Iranian nationals who would enough missile-grade uranium to build is produced in the U.S. by Roboteam. and President Shimon Peres to discuss meet with their Mossad handlers in- a bomb in just two weeks. Olli Heinon- Yosi Wolf, co-founder and co-chief ex- further deepening the countries’ bilater- side Turkey. The Turkish-Iranian bor- en, who served at the IAEA for 27 years ecutive of Roboteam, is a six-year veter- al ties. der is relatively easy to cross. Ignatius until 2010, said the advanced centrifug- an of an Israel Air Force special ops unit wrote that Israel and Turkey have coop- es that Iran recently began installing in says, “We made sure our touch screens Golani Brigade Gets erated on intelligence for more than 50 its enrichment facilities will “radically could be operated while wearing gloves Druze Commander years, and Israel was blind-sided by the reduce the so-called breakout time” for and night-vision devices. For day opera- (JNS.org)—Making Israel Defense Turkish betrayal, which was described the regime to quickly produce enough tions, our displays are clearly visible in Forces history as the fi rst member of by knowledgeable sources as a “signifi - weapons-grade uranium to build a nucle- the brightest sunshine.” the Druze community to head the Go- cant” loss of intelligence and “an effort ar weapon. Iran announced in January it lani Brigade, Col. Rasan Alian, 41, from to slap the Israelis.” would install 3,000 IR-2 centrifuges in its George W. Bush to CoP: the northern city of Shfaram will be Natanz facility. These produce a four to Iran Can’t Be Trusted the second Druze offi cer to become UN Inspectors in Syria fi ve times greater output than the older (JNS.org)—In a surprise appearance, an infantry brigade commander—the Miss Deadline model, according to the Institute for Sci- former U.S. President George W. Bush fi rst was Brig. Gen. (ret.) Imad Fares Combined Services—UN inspec- ence and International Security. A recent attended the 50th anniversary tribute who was the commander of the Givati tors who were to inspect 23 site in Syr- ISIS report estimated Iran could achieve gala of the Conference of Presidents Brigade. Alian rose through the ranks, ia where chemical weapons were man- breakout in one month, based on its cur- of Major American Jewish Organiza- serving in various operational roles as ufactured, could not visit two of the rent capabilities. This highlights the ad- tions in New York and said Iran can- an offi cer and a combat soldier. During sites because no cease fi re was in place. vancements Iran has made in its program not be trusted when it says its nucle- the Second Lebanon War in 2006, he The Organization for the Prohibition of since last year, when ISIS estimated it ar program has peaceful intentions, served as deputy commander of the bri- Chemical Weapons (OPCW) said verifi - could produce the necessary amount of according to someone who was there gade, and during Operation Cast Lead cation activities had been completed at weapons-grade uranium in two to four and wishes to remain anonymous, in Gaza in 2008-9 he served as battalion 21 out of 23 sites. “Efforts to ensure the months. since Bush’s remarks were off the re- commander of the brigade’s reconnais- conditions necessary for safe access to cord. Bush quoted one of his own sance unit. Following that, Alian served those sites will continue,” it added. School Officials Called Out speeches from 2008 and said America as the commander of the Menashe Bri- On Sunday, Syria submitted a plan to Over Anti-Israel Materials stands with Israel “in fi rmly opposing gade, which is responsible for the Jenin the OPCW to destroy its chemical arse- in Newton, Mass. Iran’s nuclear weapons ambitions. … area. nal. (JNS.org)—An ad campaign in Bos- Permitting the world’s leading sponsor ton-area newspapers calls out Newton, of terror to possess the world’s deadli- Israel is ‘Global Power’ WoW Splits on Platform Mass. school offi cials over the alleged est weapon would be an unforgivable In Cyber Defense Combined Sources—Women of the presence of anti-Israel materials in their betrayal of future generations,” Bush (JNS.org)—At a major global confer- Wall have divided their ranks as their school system. The Boston-based non- told the Knesset in 2008. The event ence on cyber-security in South Korea, chairperson Anat Hoffman, the with ap- profi t Americans for Peace and Toler- honored Malcolm Hoenlein, the um- Israeli Deputy Foreign Minister Ze’ev El- proval of her board of directors, decided ance (APT) took out the ads. They con- brella’s executive vice chairman since kin said that because of security threats to compromise on the platform suggest- cern research by concerned parents and 1986 , and opened with a video message faced by Israel, the Jewish state has “a re- ed by the Jewish Agency at Robinson’s students that revealed anti-Israel texts from President Barack Obama. Hoen- cord number of young people who en- Arch. Some of the founding members in Newton schools including The Arab lein said the fact that remarks from ter the fi elds of technology and cyber de- and activists have accused the organi- World Studies Notebook, which claims, both Obama and Bush were featured fense every year. …Israel is a global power zation’s chairwoman of selling out and among other things, that Israeli soldiers demonstrates the Conference of Pres- in the realm of cyber defense,” Elkin said caving to the government’s demands. murdered hundreds of Palestinian nurs- idents’ objective of “unity, with diver- at the Seoul Conference on Cyberspace, Hoffman, who wanted to retain some es in Israeli prisons. Newton School Su- sity.” which gathered more than 1,000 repre- control of the situation joined the com- perintendent David Fleischman “tried to sentatives from some 90 countries, Isra- promise under pressure from the Con- charge the taxpayers $1,600” for a list of Israel And Nigeria Ink el Hayom reported. “Due to the constant servative movement, but alienated the the anti-Israel teaching materials, while New Aviation Deal threats, Israel uniquely serves the global Modern Orthodox women who do not Newton School Committee Chair Matt (JNS.org) Israel and Nigeria inked community as a live lab for new technol- want to share space with men, and Hills “told staff not to let citizens see the a new bilateral aviation deal that will ogies. We have turned the threat of cyber want to remain to daven on the Kotel offending materials,” according to the provide for direct fl ights between the attacks into an opportunity for knowl- Plaza, a right for which they fought for ads. Fleischman and Hills both did not two countries. The Bilateral Air Service edge and growth.” 25 years. The women have made 16 de- immediately return requests from com- Agreement enables airlines from both mands, which may take years to implement from JNS.org. countries to fl y directly to each other Erdogan Betrays Mossad ment, including one that would raise without stopovers. Proponents of the (JNS.org)—Turkey exposed the iden- the Robinson’s Arch plaza to the same Pentagon Fast-Tracks Israeli Robot deal hope that the agreement will con- tities of up to 10 Iranians working for level as the Kotel Plaza, making it one Defense News reports the U.S. De- tinue the strong growth of Israel-Nige- Israel’s Mossad intelligence agency in contiguous space. That would require fense Department is fast-tracking deploy- ria ties. Each year, tens of thousands Iran, according to a report in The Wash- approval of the Waqf that controls the ment of an Israeli-designed, stair-climb- of Nigerian Christians make pilgrimag- ington Post on by columnist David Ig- Temple Mount.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 9 help provide students with better training. She Freeholder Candidates noted that the Bergen County Education Associ- Mitz vah Day Celebrates ation has commended the Board of Freeholders. Face Off in Teaneck Lorraine Waldes, daughter of hard-working im- its Sweet Sixteen migrants, runs a cancer patient support program  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 in Rivervale. She has served on Rivervale’s Board  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 of Education for 14 years, seven as president. She ty workers for implementing cost savings. Near- has volunteered to work in so many social service synagogues and agencies to see Ahavat Achim of Fair Lawn ly $33.9 million has been awarded so far. He said programs that in 2010 she was named Resident if they want to be Mitzvah Day is also actively participating in his primary interests are in business development of the Year. She admonished the Freeholders for sites or if they can send their Mitzvah Day with members of and education, and he has no record of corrup- “punishing the BCC students for past mismanage- groups out to volunteer at a its youth program, who are col- tion. ment” by imposing a 25% tuition hike. She aims Mitzvah Day site. Some volun- lecting school supplies in back- James Tedesco, former Mayor of Paramus, ad- to stabilize county taxes and demonstrate to vot- teers are so inspired they con- packs, which will be distribut- dressed the claim made by his opponents that ers that she is honest and trustworthy. tinue to volunteer throughout ed to underprivileged children he incurred tax liens for not paying his taxes. John Felice has been politically active for years the year. in Bergen County. There is He refuted the implication that he is in any way in Fair Lawn, before moving to River Edge. His Yad Leah is a North Jersey plenty of room for additional corrupt and went on to explain his circumstanc- full-time job is selling and introducing medical de- organization that collects, projects that are community- es. His wife had been very ill for nine years be- vices to hospitals. As a Freeholder, he has worked ships and distributes lightly- generated, including one that fore passing away in 2006. An organ transplant for responsible bi-partisan budgets, which have used clothing to 30 different was done a few years ago by failed and expenses exceeded her insurance’s brought spending down in both 2011 and 2012. He communities in Israel. Yad the Fair Lawn Jewish Center, $1 million lifetime limit, so he had to chose be- worked to bring $120 million for public education Leah’s Mitzvah Day event this which assembled care packag- tween paying his taxes or paying for doctors and re-fi nancing and millions to the county’s extensive year is focused on collecting es for military personnel over- to feed and house his children. Since his wife’s park system. baby clothes. Different syn- seas. death, he has paid off his bills and taxes. He no He supports the merger of the County Police agogues and community Ms. Blass sums up Mitzvah longer has any tax liens. He stated that main- and Sheriff’s Offi ces, which will bring extensive centers have been recruited Day succinctly, “It’s a feel good taining his integrity and reputation are very im- cost savings to county law enforcement. All of to collect the clothing. One day and win-win for everyone portant to him. the candidates, except Ms. DeNicola, agree. Those such location this year is Te- involved.” Maura DeNicola has been serving in public of- who support the merger point to the expected aneck’s Beth Sholom. These Everybody can make a diffi ce for 15 years, including as Mayor of Franklin savings of $225 million over the next 20 years. Ms. institutions then bring eve- ference. There are a number of Lakes and is now a member of the Board of Cho- DeNicola warned that the merger would take sup- rything to a central location different events going on this sen Freeholders. She strives to bring transparen- port. (this year it’s Barnart Temple Mitzvah Day: spending time cy and accountability to government. She has Christopher Tully is also the son of immi- in Franklin Lakes). On Mitz- with seniors, social action pro- worked to get more public records on-line and to grants. He entered public service and was put vah Day, volunteers pack the jects, packing school supplies, ensure competitive awarding of contracts. She in charge of constituent services for Sen. Frank clothing and prepare it for and nature clean-up. With all “continues to shake things up.” She explained the Lautenberg. He bemoaned the lack of teamwork shipment. Volunteers range the different chesed opportuni- $5 million cut to aid to Bergen Community Col- among the Freeholders, including pursuing law- from toddlers to teens, parties, it is easy to fi nd a job that lege (BCC), which was a message to reign in BCC’s suits on county business and making backroom ents to seniors. Some come fi ts one’s interests. former administration. Tuition hikes are neces- deals. He pointed out that while Mr. Felice had every year. The very next day, To get involved and learn sary to pay off the excessive bills run up by pre- just called the county budget responsible, his fl i- the clothes are sent to a ware- more about Mitzvah Day, visit vious college administrations. After many turn- ers criticize it. house and then shipped off the web site, at http://www.jfn- overs in leadership, a competent team is now in For a longer version of this article visit our to Israel. nj.org/mitzvahday. place. She supports capital improvements to website, www.jewishlinkbc.com

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By Lazar Berman Times of Israel

rime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu Pcalled the decision to release 26 Pal- estinian prisoners one of the most ago- nizing of his career Monday, a day before Israel was set to free the inmates in the framework of negotiations with the Pal- estinian Authority. “The decision to release prisoners is one of the toughest decisions that I’ve taken as prime minister,” Netanyahu told a Likud-Beytenu faction meeting Mon- day. “I am certain that all the prime ministers who made this decision before me agonized over it as well, due to the injus- tice of villains being released before they serve the full term of their sentences. My heart is with the bereaved families, and it pains me. This decision is a necessity given the reality in which we live.” The inmates were transferred Mon- Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu leads the weekly cabinet meeting in Jerusalem, Sunday, October 27, 2013 (photo credit: Marc Israel Sellem/ day to Ofer Prison, near Ramallah, from pool/Flash90) fi ve Israeli prisons ahead of their release. “We are forced to navigate an in- second phase of a four-phase prisoner re- ing the 1990s when he was a vocal critic tee meetings. Likud MK Miri Regev, chair- ternational arena that is complicated; it lease deal, agreed to as part of the talks of the Oslo peace process. woman of the Internal Affairs and Envi- is not simple, it is complicated, it is full that restarted in July.Israel released a fi rst At Hatnua’s faction meeting, mem- ronment Committee, called the decision of challenges, and it requires us to take group of prisoners in August. bers criticized the Jewish Home, which a sign of “cowardice and weakness on the into consideration a number of factors At a Jewish Home faction meeting has sought to place the blame for the re- part of the government. No normal coun- for the good of the State of Israel,” Netan- Monday, party head Bennett decried the lease in the lap of Hatnua’s party chair, try frees murderers, and in exchange we yahu continued. verbal attacks on the party for opposing Justice Minister Tzipi Livni, who is lead- received a rocket on Ashkelon, a tunnel “From the moment the decision was the impending release. “We have found ing Israel’s negotiations with the Pales- from Egypt, and the murder of Israelis.” made in the government, all of its mem- ourselves under attack over the past day,” tinians. “I have reached a conclusion in The Israel Prison Service late Sunday bers must act responsibly, with delib- said party head Bennett, “but we opposed the past week,” said Livni, “that hypoc- night published the names of 26 Palestin- eration, and with a long-term perspec- a Palestinian state and the release of ter- risy, self-righteousness, dirty maneu- ian prisoners set to be released over the tive,” Netanyahu added, in apparent rorists before the elections, and we will vers and attempts to shirk responsibility next 48 hours as part of a deal to keep criticism of ministers from Economy continue to oppose a Palestinian state don’t work.” the US-brokered Israeli-Palestinian peace Minister Naftali Bennett’s Jewish Home and release of terrorists now as well. “What the Jewish Home is doing is 100 talks on course. All are convicted murder- party and MK Avigdor Liberman’s Yisrael “The goal is to silence us and tame us. percent incitement. I recommend that ers. Beytenu who voted against the prisoner If, God forbid, someone thinks a Palestin- everyone remember where those weeds Six of the inmates have been impris- release. ian state is a mistake, he is called a right- sprouted from back then,” said Hatnua oned for just under 30 years. All but two “We cannot dismiss the strategic winger, extremist, fascist, and violent. MK Amram Mitzna, ostensibly refer- were imprisoned for murders committed meaning that gives us space to maneu- But it doesn’t matter — we will not be si- ring to the assassination of prime minis- before the signing of the 1993 Oslo Peace ver for the security of the State of Israel. lenced. We have clear positions and we ter Yitzhak Rabin in 1995. “We must view Accords. A government statement said We will continue to lead Israel in a level- are proud of them.” these things with the utmost severity.” earlier that 21 of the inmates were from headed manner,” he added. Bennett compared the attacks against Criticism of the release was also the West Bank and fi ve were from the The planned release constitutes the him to those directed at Netanyahu dur- sounded in some of Monday’s commit- Gaza Strip. Slavery in Israel: It Exists

By Lazar Berman and economic development, political making between half a billion to three with the intent of exploiting that person Times of Israel stability, and women’s rights. Israel was quarters of a billion dollars a year. It was a through their use, management, profi t, the only Middle Eastern country to en- particularly desirable market for traffi ck- transfer or disposal. Usually this exercise srael has as many as 8,500 slaves, accord- joy a low risk-of-slavery ranking, but still ers because the purchase of sexual servic- will be achieved through means such as Iing to a new comprehensive study of ranked much lower than European states. es was, and still is, legal in Israel. ” violence or threats of violence, deception worldwide slavery. Israel placed 111 out of The study claimed that “foreign work- “Throughout the 1990’s traffi ckers act- and/or coercion.” 162 slave-holding countries in the Glob- ers make 40-90 percent of the popula- ed with impunity and, according to the It relied on secondary sources for its al Slavery Index 2013, recently published tions of Jordan, Saudi Arabia, Israel, the Hotline for Migrant Workers, smuggled study, especially reports from media, by the Australian Walk Free Foundation. United Arab Emirates and Kuwait.” How- 3,000 women annually into Israel,” she NGOs, and governments. It also used lo- Mauritania was found to have the most ever, in Israel there are 300,000 foreign added. cal surveys and interviews. serious slavery problem. workers out of a total population of 8 The deteriorating situation led the US In absolute numbers, India led the list According to the study, the fi rst-ever million. The Walk Free Foundation could State Department to rank Israel as a Tier with up to 14.7 million slaves, followed country-by-country survey of its kind, Is- not be reached for clarifi cation by the 3 nation in its Traffi cking in Persons re- by China and Pakistan. Mauritania, with rael has 7,700 to 8,500 slaves. Still, Israel time of publication. port, the lowest ranking. Tier 3 nations 3.8 million inhabitants and over 150,000 ranked well relative to the lower stand- The trend in Israel is driven by the faced potential economic sanctions. The slaves, had the highest prevalence of slav- ards in the Middle East, though Lebanon, sex trade and the human traffi cking that report was a wake-up call for Israel’s gov- ery. Ireland, Iceland, and the UK enjoy Tunisia, and Egypt scored better than the comes with it. There are 15,000 prosti- ernment, which passed a comprehensive the lowest prevalence of slavery, the sur- Jewish state. tutes in Israel, Rebecca Hughes from AT- anti-traffi cking law, and was upgraded to vey said. The Palestinian Authority and the Ha- ZUM’s Task Force on Human Traffi ck- a Tier 1 state. The Walk Free Foundation is a non- mas-run Gaza Strip were not covered by ing wrote in The Times of Israel, entering According to the index, there are near- profi t that seeks to end modern slavery, the survey. the profession at an average age of 14. ly 30 million people trapped in slavery according to its website. The organiza- Israel did place well in the study’s ex- “By the 1990s Israel was established as around the world. tion was founded in May 2012 by Austral- amination of the risk of enslavement. a destination country for traffi cking, and The study defi ned slavery as “the pos- ian metal magnate Andrew Forrest, who The survey measured fi ve factors to deter- international sex traffi cking victims had session and control of a person in such fi rst became aware of the problem when mine the policies adopted by the country replaced the local market,” Hughes wrote. a way as to signifi cantly deprive that his teen-aged daughter worked alongside to combat slavery, human rights, human “Israel’s fl esh trade was booming and person of his or her individual liberty, slaves at a Nepalese orphanage.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 11 PUAH INSTITUTE & THE ORTHODOX UNION DEPARTMENT OF COMMUNITY ENGAGEMENT PRESENT NEWS Igbo Leaders Break Through SECOND ANNUAL By Shai Afsai chas continued. “It’s our fi rst time leaving our country, and our port of call has FERTILITY, MEDICINE, his article is a follow up of sorts to Au- been Rhode Island because of the invita- Tgust’s Igbo Jews of Nigeria Study and tion we received.” AND HALACHA Practice Judaism, which briefl y told of Pinchas put down his tea cup. “To my journey from Rhode Island to Abu- see children walking in the streets with ja, capital of Nigeria, in order to celebrate kippot and to see a large number of peo- CONFERENCE Purim with its Igbo Jewish community. ple practicing the tradition — it’s an eye- Building Healthy Families Recently, Rhode Island was fortunate opener for us.” to have a reciprocal visit from Elder Ova- Rabbi Moskowitz laughed. “It’s such a diah Agbai, leader of Abuja’s Gihon Syn- different perspective. I think it’s the fi rst agogue, and Elder Pinchas Ogbukaa, its time I’ve heard someone describe the spokesman, who traveled from Nige- Jewish community in Rhode Island as ria to New England in order to celebrate having great numbers!” rd Sukkot, Shemini Atzeret, and Simchat To- The rabbi was curious to know if the THIS SUNDAY! NOVEMBER 3 2013 rah with Rhode Island’s Jewish commu- elders had encountered anything in Rho- thth nity. de Island that was very different from 5 AVENUE SYNAGOGUE On multiple occasions during El- what they had expected. nd der Ovadiah and Elder Pinchas’ vis- “We’re not at the level where we can 5 EEASTAST 6262 STREET,STREET NNEW YORK, NY it, the three of us ran into Rabbi Moshe each have our own family sukkah in Ni- Moskowitz, director of Meor at Brown geria,” Elder Ovadiah replied. “We didn’t AM PM 9:15 AM Registration begins University. The rabbi kept asking if there expect to see this. We only have one at 9:15 – 3:00 Free Admission, pre-registration preferred was time for us to sit down together for the synagogue. I said to Pinchas that we coffee or tea so that he could hear about should make an effort to all have our Programming for rabbis, professionals and the general public will continue the elders’ Jewish experience in Rhode Is- own sukkot in our homes, as we’ve seen throughout the event with special sessions for rabbis and professionals only land. here.” and educators, rebbetzins, yoatzot and kallah teachers at designated times Following their fi rst encounter with Rabbi Moskowitz wondered if there Rabbi Moskowitz, who is in his twenties, were other changes the men planned to the sixty-eight-year-old Elder Ovadiah ex- make following their visit and other last- claimed, “This is a wonderful revolution ing experiences they would take back KEYNOTE ADDRESS: Rabbi Mordechai Willig in Judaism! It used to be that one would with them to Abuja. imagine a rabbi as an old man with a long “We have seen schools where stu- SESSIONS INCLUDE white beard, but there are rabbis who are dents are practicing and studying He- so young!” brew and Judaism alongside their oth- The Impact Of Genetics On The Modern Jewish Family Finally, on the day before Elder Ovadi- er academic studies. This early Jewish ah and Elder Pinchas returned to Nigeria, childhood education, which is availa- Modern Techniques in IVF: Moving to Day 5 & Single we managed to rendezvous with Rabbi ble here, we must bring back to Abuja,” Moskowitz at a coffee shop. After buy- said Pinchas, referring to the fact that Embryo Transfer Prenatal Care: Caring For Your Baby ing a round of tea, the rabbi asked the el- there are currently no Jewish schools in Before Birth Nutritional Imperatives: Before, During & ders what they had hoped to accomplish the capital city. Rather, Jewish education with their twelve-day visit to the United in Abuja centers around the city’s three After Pregnancy Up-To-Date Male Factor Treatment States. primarily Igbo synagogues, the largest of “The idea was to be able to inter- which is Gihon. Options Fertility Preservation: Hope for the Future act with Jews in Rhode Island, get fi rst- Rabbi Moskowitz asked if there was PGD: The Medicine and the Halacha Allergies, Celiac, hand information of how the communi- one moment of their visit that stood out. ty runs, and lay a foundation to break the Pinchas answered that the moment Gluten and Their Impact on a Healthy Pregnancy isolation we are experiencing in Nigeria,” was during a sukkah party they attended. said Elder Pinchas. “It was there we saw and experienced for Genetic Testing: BRCA Medical Ethics Pru U’rvu: Rabbis There are some 3,000 to 5,000 mem- the fi rst time the presence of four rabbis in the Lab - Questions on Halacha and Ethics ...and more! bers of the Igbo ethnic group practicing sitting at one table and saw young boys Judaism in Nigeria. Self-identifying as and girls singing with great joy,” said Pin- members of a lost tribe of Israel, and not chas. SPECIAL SESSIONS FOR RABBIS, MENTAL HEALTH having undergone a formal conversion, “To see one rabbi is diffi cult for us. It these Nigerians’ have limited communal can take four or fi ve years,” Pinchas ex- & MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS interaction with Jews outside their coun- plained. “So to see four rabbis at one try. time, along with people from different SPECIAL SESSIONS FOR KALLAH TEACHERS, “Since we came on the eve of Suk- kot, it has been a great experience,” Pin-  CONTINUED ON P. 20 REBBETZINS, YOATZOT, AND EDUCATORS Dr. Saul H. Lejtman D.M.D. P.A.

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FB ‘Amazed’ By Israeli Talent website, Odeh has a law degree and has Centre and Toronto’s Sarah and Chaim owned and arranged to hide other mem- (JNS.org)—When the social media gi- worked as a lawyer. It says one of her fo- Neuberger Holocaust Education Cen- bers of her family at the home of a Ger- ant Facebook acquired the Israeli tech- cuses has been working with domestic- tre, which will partner to digitize exist- man woman who also was honored by nology startup Onavo, executives were violence groups and addressing various ing footage of Holocaust survivors’ tes- Yad Vashem, Frieda Szturmann, accord- “amazed” by the amount of talent it women’s issues. timonies; and to Jewish Federations of ing to Yad Vashem. found in Israel. Nicola Mendelsohn—a Canada-United Israel Appeal of Canada Facebook VP who heads the company’s Ontario and Israel to Unite to create a digital archive of survivors’ Kiddush Club Extraordinaire European, Middle Eastern, and African on Blue Economy testimonies gathered during the March Haaretz reported that a Whisky branch—told that to Israeli President The Jerusalem Post reports that Ca- of the Living, a program that brings stu- Jewbilee was held at Zanger Hall NYC Shimon Peres just days after its acquisi- nadian offi cials who recently attended dents from around the world to explore in early October. It brought together 350 tion of Israeli startup Onavo, Globes re- the Water Technology and Environmen- the remnants of the Holocaust. The pro- exhibitors who pushed whisky, kiddu- ported. Facebook’s acquisition of Onavo tal Control exhibition and conference in jects support Canada’s goal as 2013 chair sh food and cigars. Four different types will enable it to establish its fi rst head- Tel Aviv said both countries should unite of the International Holocaust Remem- of cholent, kishka, chopped liver and quarters in Israel. It is Facebook’s fi rst to provide the world with clean water brance Alliance to promote Holocaust three different types of cigars were on R&D center outside the U.S. technology, as both places have robust remembrance, research and education the menu, served with shots of choice water technology sectors. The Canadi- across the country, the government scotch, whisky, bourbon or rye. More Former Terrorist Indicted ans refer to it as a “blue economy,” said statement said. than 100 Orthodox Jewish men (and on Immigration Charges one. “I think that having the Great Lakes one or two women) attended. The Jew- The Associated Press recently report- and an abundance of freshwater has al- Egyptian Family Rejects bilee was a fringe event of WhiskyFest ed that an Arab-American community ac- most given us a responsibility to devel- Yad Vashem Award and was created independently of the tivist from the Chicago suburbs was re- op technology and reach out to more A family member of an Egyptian doc- event to provide the Jewish community cently arrested on immigration charges portions of the world that are more chal- tor, the fi rst Arab to be recognized by Yad of New York with a similar experience. for allegedly lying about her conviction lenged.” Already a tremendous amount Vashem as a Righteous Gentile, said his for a deadly bombing more than 40 years of collaboration exists between the two family is not interested in the honor. Double Quakes Hit Israel ago in Israel. She had planted bombs in countries. In particular, Israel’s nation- Mohamed Helmy, who died in 1982, was In a Single Day a Jerusalem supermarket and the Brit- al water supplier Mekorot and Canadi- recognized by the Yad Vashem Holocaust Kinneret Region—Last Sunday two ish consulate, was convicted and spent an fi rm Real Tech Ltd., produce absorp- Memorial in a ceremony last month. earthquakes rattled Northern Israel, 10 years in jail. The attacks were planned tion measuring instruments to identify Mervat Hassan, the wife of Helmy’s both of them registering about 3.5 on the by the Popular Front for the Libera- organic contaminants. great-nephew, told The Associated Press Richter Scale. Geologists from the Israel tion of Palestine. She did not mention that the family did not want to accept Geophysical Institute’s Seismology Divi- her conviction on her papers when she Canada Commits to Funding the honor because Israel and Egypt con- sion said. There were about four hours came to the States in 1995 or when she Survivor Videos tinue to have a hostile relationship de- apart. These were the third and fourth applied for citizenship in 2004. At the Canada has allocated $800,000 to spite a 30-year peace treaty. She added such tremors in the last two weeks. time of her arrest she was associate di- preserve the testimonies of Holocaust that: “I respect Judaism as a religion and “They are on the same location more or rector of the Arab American Action Net- survivors. The funding will go to four I respect Jews. Islam recognizes Judaism less, so we assume they are acting on the work, a Chicago-area nonprofi t group Jewish organizations in Canada to gath- as a heavenly religion.” Helmy, a Muslim same fault plane in the subsurface,” Dr. that advocates for new immigrants and er video testimony from survivors. 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By Estee Kahn public schools with connections to NCSY summer programs to help out. ourteen local teenage boys volunteered to help with They spent the majority of their three plus days re- Ffl ood relief in Boulder, Colorado as part of a joint NC- moving mud from under the fl oor beams of a house so SY-NECHAMA trip recently. a new crawl space could be created for the installation About two months ago, Boulder was hit with 17 inch- of electricity and plumbing. Additionally, they demol- es of rain—half its annual rain fall—in only two days. ished sheds and dismantled a wing of the house that Most of the town of Lyons, about 15 miles north of Boul- had been deemed irrecoverable. der, still doesn’t have power or running water. They even “For many of the guys, this was their fi rst time trave- have a police blockade by the entrance to town to en- ling for an exclusive chesed purpose,” Rabbi Rael Blu- sure no looting happens while the town gets repaired. menthal, the city director of the Teaneck NCSY, wrote in It was there that NECHAMA, a Jewish disaster re- the online blog about the trip. sponse foundation, decided to help out together with And that was part of the goal, “We want to take the Bergen County NCSY. They were able to get 10 boys students out of their comfort zone—both physical- from Torah Academy of Bergen County and four from ly with all the work away from home they will do, but

also religiously by interacting and living for a few days ב“ד with some public school students. Not only do the public school students learn from the TABC students, but vice versa as well,” Rabbi Josh Kahn, dean of student life at TABC, said. Being out of their comfort zones did not stop the Israel’s Premier boys from doing an exemplary job, stopping not even for the poor weather they had their fi rst day. “Later [that fi rst day], as it began snowing, Dan Hoeft and Marc (the Pesach Programs foremen from Nechama) called us together to relate that they had just spoken to the owner of the house. He 27 Successful Years! was humbled and grateful for the effort we were contributing and was shocked that despite the weather, no one gave up. Dan asked us to look around to the other work sites in the area, all left vacant by the onset of bad weather and commended us on the kiddush Hashem achieved today. We all left exhausted, but satisfi ed,” Blu- menthal wrote. -Their kiddush Hashem did not go unnoticed. Com בהשגחת plete strangers would sometimes stop by just to thank הרבנות לישראל them for their work and kindness and, on the plane, the גלאט מהדרינ crew announced that the group was on board and what ללא קטניות they’d come to Boulder to do. The passengers applauded. All our 5 Star Pesach programs include: “This positive recognition impacts the students; they realize they can do things to help people. It’s true we Entertainment programs for all ages could just send the money they spent on this trip and hire people to fi x the home up and maybe that would חג Affordable prices Wonderful Yom Tov atmosphere & second day be more effi cient. But when a group of 14 young teenage on a first come basis!!! Gourmet cuisine & non gebrochts available boys come halfway across the country to help rebuild, it helps not only with the work but to get rid of the feeling Personally hosted by industry leading staff of being lost after the tragedy. That is the greatest lesson * these boys could get,” Kahn said. Flight packages available Scholars in Residence and guest speakers It is a lesson they will never forget. As Blumenthal wrote, “In the words of Judah Stiefel: ‘What we did was * Special rates for large families take a person with no house, no hope and no place to turn and gave him all three. With every shovel of mud חול המועד Family value guaranteed Tours & attractions on and stroke of hammer we didn’t just take a step towards Concerts, shows & performers the reconstruction of someone’s home, but also a step towards a rebuilding someone’s life.’” 14 -21st April, 2014 Communal & Private Seder options

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Talking Business Akiva would also like to in pursuing their own interests. broaden his development base Akiva is also an avid chess play- By Estelle Glass which could change colors elec- and to reach a broader market er and world traveler. Summers trically. When his father arranged of young, engaged entrepre- in the Lipshitz family are spent Are you looking for the next for him to meet with some ven- neurial candidates. He invites learning about other cultures big idea to help you to jump- ture capitalists, he wisely under- interested youngsters to check during family trips to China start a business or perhaps an stood that he did not as yet have out his website Thinkrey.tum- (where he went to surf camp in exciting innovation to improve the resources and connections bler.com or to write to him at Hong Kong), and in other inter- an existing venture? Search to realize his idea. “I learned ear- [email protected] that esting locales. Most important- no more. Instead, arrange a sit ly on,” Akiva confi ded, “that it is he can arrange group video- ly, Akiva has mastered an im- down with Akiva Lipshitz, a most important to talk to oth- conferences, look through all portant truth about success in Teaneck resident and budding ers about your ideas. You never their proposals and fi nd pos- life: that it is of primary impor- entrepreneur. And by the way, know where these discussions sible partners for their compa- tance to use whatever resourc- don’t be put off by the fact might lead.” The concept for Aki- creative ideas. The group studies nies. Akiva also encourages stu- es one has to improve his or her that he is only 13 years old. va’s Business Club was born. the accomplishments of success- dents to set up other similar ideas. At a young age, he recog- Akiva’s interest in starting a Akiva, an 8th grader at Yeshi- ful businessmen to gain an un- clubs in their school as a fi rst nizes that we can all add to our business began when he was a vat Noam, recently formed The derstanding of what makes their step to sharing and developing success by seeking solutions to 4th grader and by the next year Entrepreneur, a business club ideas work. Akiva hopes to invite ideas. problems that we face, whether he had fi lled an entire notebook that meets weekly in school. Sur- an array of interesting speakers Akiva credits his parents for in business or in life. with entrepreneurial ideas. Not prisingly, many youngsters in- to share their stories with his supporting and encouraging his Keep your eye on this young too long after that, he came up trigued by the opportunity to let peers, so that they can gain an ideas. The oldest of four chil- man, It is obvious that we are with the prospect of developing their imaginations soar, joined understanding of what it really dren, he recognizes each of his going to hear much more about electro-chromic textiles, fabrics the weekly group to voice their takes to realize their dreams. siblings’ talents and potential Akiva Lipshitz in the near future.

anecdotes of fraud and fraud attempts swered. I took the card and asked him Beit Shemesh Elections Contested justiﬁ es a legal intervention. Reuven how old he was. He said, 27, but the card Haro, a vote observer in the Ramat Beit said he was 24. Amid Mounting Evidence of Fraud Shemesh Bet neighborhood told Maariv “I saw he had two registered daugh- his assigned voting area was almost ex- ters. I asked him, what are the names  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 clusively Haredi. “Early in the morning, of your daughters? He couldn’t answer. a Haredi young man came in, handed The ID card picture was of a blond man, ing to Ma’ariv, voters who came to the card. In one station the number of vote us his ID card and went behind the cur- while the man before us was dark. We election stations discovered to their hor- envelopes was higher by several dozens tain to vote. We passed the ID card be- called up the Interior Ministry operation ror that someone had already voted us- than the number of registered voters tween us and something looked suspi- center and they told us to disqualify him ing their name. In a signiﬁ cant number there. cious. When the man came back, one of so he couldn’t vote again, and to give him of stations, Haredim were caught at- So no one doubts the trend, the ques- the vote committee members asked him tempting to vote with someone else’s ID tion is whether the mounting number of what was his mother’s name, and he an-  CONTINUED ON P. 75

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Student-Run Medical Ethics Conference at YU ry,” led by Schwaber. “The unique thing about a program like this is that not By Matt Yaniv volunteer; and Rabbi Yosef Blau, only does it bring together ex- senior mashgiach ruchani [spir- perts on topics of such criti- New York, NY—As Ameri- itual advisor] at YU. The panel cal importance, but it’s all stu- cans across the country debat- was moderated by Dr. Michel dent-run,” said Rabbi Brander. ed the ethical, legal and practi- Frogel, president-elect of Amer- “To have students give of them- cal ramifi cations of Obamacare, ican Physicians and Friends for selves so completely to provide Yeshiva University’s Student Medicine in Israel, and detailed this kind of forum for our com- Medical Ethics Society (MES,) a the ethical issues encountered munity is truly a leadership in- student club mentored by YU’s in natural disasters and terror cubator for our society.” Center for the Jewish Future strikes, as well as Israeli strate- The annual conference is (CJF,) looked to the Israeli med- gies and measures for dealing sponsored through the gen- ical system as the framework with these situations and the re- erous support of Rabbi Dovid for a very different kind of con- ligious imperative of Jewish out- and Mrs. Anita Fuld. “It’s a priv- versation: What does universal reach. ilege for us to have our small health care look like in a coun- In the afternoon, break- cheilek [share] in the Medical try bound by Jewish law? out sessions featuring an as- Ethics Society of YU,” said Rab- That question was at the er these seemingly incongruous treating a very high concentra- sortment of speakers and top- bi Fuld. “The students here are heart of MES’ eighth annual identities can coexist, with par- tion of the world’s Jewish popu- ics took place. Talks included privileged to grow in a medium Fuld Family Conference, titled ticularly close analysis of sever- lation. Rabbi Willig highlighted “Special Ops and Giving Faith a of chachma [wisdom] and kedu- “Prescribing for a Nation: Ex- al recently-enacted laws—such some of the more challenging Chance: Understanding the Se- shah [holiness] together. This amining the Interplay of Jew- as The Dying Patient Law, The issues that arise in a primarily cret Life of ZAKA Internation- place is a star and has been so ish Law and Israeli Health Care.” Good Samaritan Law and The Jewish country but are equal- al and the Legal Ethics Behind for awhile.” The October 20 event explored Brain/Respiration Death Law— ly relevant across the Atlantic Jewish End-of-Life Rescue,” led “I’m so impressed by every- the ways in which Israeli med- based on Jewish values and Ocean, such as beginning of life by Rabbi Zvi Gluck, chief exec- thing the students run here and ical institutions utilize Jewish halakha, which play an impor- and fertility concerns as well as utive offi cer of Zaka, and Mark the topics are so fantastic,” said law to form national policy as tant role in the day-to-day prac- transplants, while Halevy spoke J. Kursmann, a principle at Kur- Debbie Ross, a nurse current- well as important ethical and tice of Israeli hospitals and its about a few ways those issues zman Law Offi ces, P.C.; “Build- ly working in clinical informat- halachik [Jewish legal] ques- health care system. are handled in Israel. ing a Modern Hospital Accord- ics at Holy Name Medical Cent- tions that emerge from practic- Halevy’s talk was followed by Another plenary session on ing to Halacha,” led by Halevy; er in Teaneck, NJ. Recalling how ing medicine in Israel. a discussion between himself, Israeli methods of responding to “Solutions for the Future: Solv- the hospital had consulted with Dr. Jonathan Halevy, director Rabbi Mordechai Willig, Rab- medical crises and terror attacks ing Infertility and Genetic Chal- Shaare Tzedek before building general of Shaare Zedek Med- bi Dr. Sol Roth Professor of Tal- featured Dr. Mitchel Schwaber, lenges in Israel,” led by Rabbi its new emergency room, Ross ical Center and a key fi gure in mud and Contemporary Hala- director of the National Center Dovid Fuld; and a continuation said that she found the Medi- the formation of Israel’s nation- cha at YU-affi liated Rabbi Isaac for Infection Control at the Isra- of “Responding to Disaster” dis- cal Ethics conferences especial- al medical policy, delivered the Elchanan Theological Semi- el Ministry of Health and a staff cussion broken into two parts, ly helpful because she was often keynote address, “Jewish Val- nary; and Rabbi Kenneth Brand- physician of Israel’s renowned one focusing on “The APF: asked to explain halachik issues ues in the Israeli Health Care er, YU vice president of univer- mobile trauma hospital in Haiti; American Physicians; Strength- regarding Jewish patients at System.” His remarks focused sity and community life and Yitzchak Shalita, member of the ening Israeli Medical Infrastruc- work. “I’m here to see what else on the singular nature of Isra- David Mitzner Dean of the CJF, Israel Defense Force Search and ture from Across an Ocean,” led I can learn,” she said. el as a Jewish democratic state of Teaneck, NJ, about the unique Rescue Team and a longtime by Frogel, and the other focus- All conference sessions are and public debate about wheth- medical questions that arise in Magen Dovid Adom and ZAKA ing on “Haiti: The Extended Sto- available online at YUTorah.org.

gant solution to the energy problem and A Green House Pops Up in Teaneck this one, at its core, seemed the best,” Teplow said, adding that the 27 regions By Aliza Chasan laden with moisture, but the design also in Europe which require this as a build- incorporates mini-split ducts that will ing standard are proof of concept. eaneck—Imagine moving into a ventilate the house. In 2011 van Bemmelen enrolled in a Thouse, never paying a dime for heat- Moskowtiz estimated that the concourse at Parson’s; she became a certi- ing or air conditioning, and never having struction bill will total between $375 and fi ed consultant a few months later, dur- to adjust a thermostat to get comfortable $385 thousand. Homes can be passive ing the annual testing. Her designs, and temperatures every season. certifi ed after being retrofi tted though it all passive house designs, require higher A new house on Wyndham Road in is much easier to achieve high levels of R values, a measure of insulation. Teaneck, one of the fi rst passive houses energy effi ciency by building new. There Bergen County is zone 5A on climate in the state, will allow its residents to live are three main ways to retrofi t: build- maps and, typically, houses in this zone such a life. ing on the outside of the home to make need R-38 roofs, R-20 walls and R-10 foun- The home, designed by Teaneck archi- the walls thicker, making the walls thick- dation walls. The energy effi cient de- tect Malka van Bemmelen and owned by Moskowitz is anticipating that the six er from the inside thereby shrinking the sign for the area requires an R-67.5 roof, Lenny Moskowitz and Deborah Teplow, percent extra cost for the passive design room, or packing in extra dense insula- R-40.85 walls and R-36.2 foundation walls. is incredibly well insulated. Almost all and construction will be recouped with- tion into the walls. More intense insulation does work. of the heating comes from passive solar in seven years. “You do a little more and you get so The old Moskowitz-Teplow home had gain, body heat, and output from elec- The walls are four inches thicker than much back. It’s just a smart, logical way thickly insulated walls and because of trical devices in the home. Shading and normal building walls and have an addi- to build now. You’ll benefi t from all the that the heat of the computer and print- window placement minimize air condi- tional two inches of insulation. Around reduced energy costs,” van Bemmelen er inside Teplow’s home offi ce raised the tioning costs in the summer. The design 20 variables, like the number of appli- said. room temperature fi ve degrees in win- slashes up to 90% of space heating costs. ances the home owners use, with tons of This house’s story started in 2010 ter. “It’s part of being gentle to the earth possible permutations, are worked into when Teplow and van Bemmelen ran The couple should be able to move and taking advantage of as many resourc- the plans to make sure the house is de- into each other at Chef Central and start- in to their new home, which Moskow- es as we can as gently as we can,” Teplow signed exactly. ed talking about super energy effi cient itz believes meets the U.S. Green Build- said. “Only the Germans could come up homes. At that time, there were only thir- ing Council’s Platinum LEED status, at In fact, with solar panels mounted on with something like that,” van Bemmel- teen certifi ed Passive Houses in the en- the end of December or beginning of Jan- the roof providing electricity and a rain- en said. tire country. First, they decided to design uary. water collection cistern connected to The 2,300-square-foot house con- a house to Energy Star Climate Choice “We have a responsibility that we live the toilets, the house will actually pro- structed of four modules is not yet certi- specifi cations, which was the most rigor- not only together with people, but also duce more energy than it uses. Teplow fi ed; to be certifi ed, it needs to meet cer- ous energy standard out there. But when together with our natural resources.” grew up in California and, as someone tain air tightness requirements. The level Moskowtiz discovered the Passive House Teplow said. “What we do has an impact. who has experienced droughts, is very of insulation in combination with the air methodology online, they changed plans. Even if it’s a small impact, we each play sensitive to the need to conserve water. tight design means the house would be “We were looking for a simple, ele- a role.”

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 17 ELECTIONS Candidate in the Spotlight: State Senator Bob Gordon

By Stephen Tencer cide to relocate entirely if they ran into don is also meeting with offi cials from too much opposition. Rockland County, in which the headwa- enator Bob Gordon, the incumbent Gordon is a prime sponsor of the Eco- ters of the Hackensack River are locat- SDemocratic State Senator from the nomic Opportunities Act. It includes of- ed. He thinks we have to tackle fl ood- 38th District, took some time to talk to fering incentives to private developers ing problems with coordinated plans the JLBC. He talked to us about his to convert New Jersey’s 26 closed hos- encompassing each of our river basins, years of service and said his offi ce han- pitals to new appropriate uses. This the Hackensack, the Passaic, and the dles 1,000 constituent cases annual- fosters job creation and provides vital Saddle Brook. ly. All the mail and emails that come healthcare services to their communi- Sen. Gordon is also proposing a to his offi ce are read and most are re- ties. His model is Barnert Hospital in $100M bond issue to subsidize home- sponded to promptly unless he needs Paterson, which after being closed for a owners who must elevate their homes. to do research on the question. He while was converted into medical offi ce The subsidy would be 15% of their costs. reads every communication sent out spaces, ambulatory surgery units, and These funds would be administered by of his offi ce. substance abuse facilities. the Blue Acres program, which is intend- His platform concentrates on jobs While Gordon strongly supports ef- ed to reduce fl ooding by buying open and economic growth, the environment forts to draw business to New Jersey spaces that have great water absorp- and quality of life, making New Jersey and keep it here, he has introduced leg- tion capacities, and repeatedly fl ooded more affordable, and community safe- islation to correct some of the problems homes which the owners would have ty. He watches the “evolution of new is- in the way that the Economic Develop- a hard time selling, want to continue sues and deals with them as they come ment Authority doles out incentives. vide state incentives to municipal con- living in, and keep ratables in place in to be more important.” He offers new rules that would spread solidation of services and to reduce the those municipalities. In addition to the dismal jobs statis- the payment of incentives over time number of regulations and technicali- Even before Sandy struck, he pro- tics, which he discussed at the JCRC fo- rather than be given upfront. Several ties that slow down action. They were posed a bill that would require the state rum a day earlier, Gordon also talked companies have gotten generous incen- included in his 2007 Shared Services Act. DEP to update fl ood maps as frequent- about New Jersey’s infrastructure. “Our tives on the pledge of creating jobs, and Gordon is watching the spread of ly as does FEMA. The fl ood maps New roads, bridges, and utilities are in bad then took those jobs out of state. Clos- for-profi t hospitals. They deny effi cient Jersey now uses were drawn in the ear- shape and I would like to see the state er monitoring and enforcement will put and low-cost services more often than ly 1980s and grossly underestimate the invest in vital infrastructure projects, state money to better use. do not-for-profi ts. Together with Sena- fl ooding that we now experience. But which would create many jobs, support Gordon points to New Jersey’s gross- tor Loretta Weinberg, he passed a bill to these maps are the basis on which the business environment, and improve ly de-centralized form of government bring more transparency to these hospi- towns have to plan and approve new de- our quality of life. As FDR showed, and said that it is one cause for New Jer- tals by having the state monitor their fi - velopments. The bill would also offer a such investments spur wider econom- seyans paying the highest taxes in the nances and billing practices. Gov. Chris- rebate on sales taxes for affected home- ic growth.” He noted that “There is cur- nation. New Jersey has 565 separate mu- tie vetoed that bill, too. owners who have to purchase new ap- rently 50% unemployment in New Jer- nicipalities, 618 independent school dis- Gordon is also very concerned about pliances and cars. The DEP was reluc- sey’s building trades.” tricts, and hundreds of authorities. Mil- the frequent and costly fl ooding in tant to support this bill until Sandy left Although his decision was not pop- lions could be saved if there were more many of our communities. He thinks its devastation. ular with many environmentalists, Gor- sharing of services and procurement of that the fi rst step is to clear our rivers On the issue of safety in our commu- don supported the controversial expan- goods. “We should aim for governmen- of debris. He is working jointly with nities, Sen. Gordon has been a strong sion of the LG company’s campus in tal units of optimal economic size and Republican Senator Gerald Cardinale, supporter of sensible legislation to re- Englewood Cliffs. As an environmental- minimize overlap and duplication of from the district north of his, to make duce gun violence, which also has ist and lover of the Palisades, he was im- services. In the case of Bergen Coun- it easier for towns and counties to ob- strong support from the public. To- pressed that their design would employ ty this most often means having towns tain permits to do the clearing. The gether with Sen. Codey, he introduced a technology that makes the new build- work together.” He points to the city of build up of debris at the bases of the bill to limit gun magazines to 5 rounds. ing one of the greenest in the United Woodbridge which consists of ten self- bridges on the Passaic River create dams The Senate and Assembly passed some States. He said he considered the num- governing districts served by a common which raise the river behind it and reg- 20 bills in the past few months to re- ber of jobs the work would create and city administration with more expertise ularly fl ood Garfi eld and Rochelle Park. duce gun violence. Gov. Christie signed took into consideration that LG, as a that has reduced costs drastically. He His bill to allocate $10M to redesign the a few, but fully or conditionally vetoed foreign company, might very well de- has proposed a number of bills to pro- bridge was vetoed by Gov. Christie. Gor- most of them. Bergenfi eld Town Council Election Approaches

By Aliza Chasan Under the current council, Bergen- fi eld has also been rated as a runner-up Bergenfi eld—November 5 features in Bloomberg News Weekly’s best place elections for state positions, and a num- to raise children in N.J., and is among the ber of local positions like the town coun- 100 best communities for young people, cil seats in Bergenfi eld. second safest city in the U.S., and hav- Democrats running for reelection in- ing one of the most challenging high clude incumbent Mayor Carlos Aguasavi- schools in the country. Despite the ac- vas, who was sworn in on April 18 after the colades, Schmelz doesn’t believe the cur- death of Timothy Driscoll, Ora Kornbluth, but Long and Sahlberg are new to the local Steinel, who ran to fi ll a last minute va- rent council respects the people of Ber- Charlie Steinel and Rafael Marte. The may- political scene. cancy three years ago, has enjoyed having genfi eld. He also believes that some of or’s offi ce works with a six-person council, The candidates all have varied reasons the chance to hear the problems of con- them aren’t qualifi ed to be running a each one elected for three year terms. for running. Kornbluth initially ran be- stituents, and being able to do something town. The three remaining seats on the coun- cause she felt that as a woman and Ortho- about them. He’s also learned from becom- “To me, I don’t feel comfortable hav- cil are held by Democrats Thomas Loda- dox Jew she could represent varied coming part of the process, specifi cally by trying someone who can’t balance their to and Hernando Rivera, and they do not munities. Long, one of her opponents, is ing to balance taxes with services. business and home budget balancing the open up until 2015, and Christopher Tul- running to try and make sure the council “The overall way we go operating the $30 million budget for the town,” Schm- ly, who is running for Freeholder, a coun- isn’t staffed fully by Democrats. borough, we’re really conscientious about elz said about Aguasavivas. ty position. Tully will not maintain his seat “You can’t have everybody in the same where can we cut and where we can’t, ” Schmelz feels confi dant in his ticket’s on the town council if elected Freeholder. party,” he said. “It’s not healthy.” Steinel said. chances and said that in door-to-door poll- Republican mayoral candidate Nor- Sahlberg’s main focus would be being Steinel counts the work he did to repair ing, his team has found that a lot of Demo- man Schmelz tops of the Republican slate thriftier with tax dollars and being more emergency equipment as one of the most crats are planning to cross party lines. with Patricia Walsh-Nardini; John Long open to the public. “I would like the town notable things he did with his tenure. Ko- Elections will be on November 5. Vote and Kathy Sahlberg fi lling the ticket out. to know what’s going on before we decide rnbluth noted that the town kept the tax column one for the Republican candi- In the past, Schmelz and Walsh-Nardini on anything: it should just be brought to rate at two percent even before Governor dates and column two for the Democrat- have run, and in Walsh-Nardini’s case won, the public fi rst.” Chris Christie put the cap in place. ic candidates.

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By Moshe Kinderlehrer Torah in Englewood; Paul Glasser, Senior coming. The original structure, built in the different populations in the neigh- Director of Institutional Advancement 1980, was demolished three years ago to borhood together. That includes emp- Fort Lee—The long-anticipated ded- of the Orthodox Union; and the keynote make room for the contemporary two- ty-nesters who are moving to the amen- ication of the Young Israel of Fort Lee, was delivered, with great enthusiasm story shul that will serve 120 families. ity-packed luxury buildings in the area named for Holocaust survivors and ac- and joy, by the shul’s long-time and re- The building features a Shabbos eleva- so that they can still be close to the city tivists Ulo and Ethel Barad, took place spected pulpit rabbi, Neil Winkler. tor for the disabled and elderly, a fully- while enjoying the beneﬁ ts of having recently with many of Bergen County’s Gerald Barad spoke for his mother equipped kitchen and reception hall for top-notch security, a concierge along spiritual leaders in attendance. Among and in honor of his late father, who was smachot and Kiddush, a main sanctuary, with in-house gyms, spas and swimming the speakers were Fort Lee Mayor Mark a major donor to the shul. Several mem- and a Beit Medrash for daily davening pools, and Shabbos elevators. These are Sokolich; Rabbi Shmuel Goldin, past Pres- bers of the extended Barad family were and learning. active baby-boomers who want a near- ident of the Rabbinical Council of Amer- also in attendance. Rabbi Neil Winkler is certain that the by, friendly place to daven, and young ica and leader of Congregation Ahavath The dedication has been a long-time new, well-secured Young Israel will bring families new to Bergen County who still want to be as close as possible to New York City.  CONTINUED ON P. 74 ELECTIONS Igbo Leaders Break Through  CONTINUED FROM P. 12

synagogues behaving like brothers and sisters – singing, swaying, clapping – we will not forget this. Also seeing the oldest synagogue in America Congregation Netivot Shalom [i.e., Newport’s Touro Synagogue].” During the previous week, the el- In cooperation with ders and I, accompanied by Rabbi the International Rabbinic Fellowship and Barry Dolinger of Providence’s Con- Yeshivat Chovevei Torah Rabbinical School gregation Beth Sholom, as well as Bos- ton-based photographer Ilene Perl- Invite the entire community to man, had visited Touro Synagogue and been given a special tour by its rabbi, an evening of learning in memory of Marc Mandel. One of the recurring themes Elder Ovadiah and Elder Pinchas expressed Hakham HaRav Ovadiah Yosef, zt”l during their stay, including during marking the shloshim of his passing their visit to Touro Synagogue, is the acute need in Nigeria for rabbis to lead those practicing Judaism, as well as for Tuesday evening, November 5, 2013 schools where Judaism can be studied from a young age. İĿņŇĲĹľĸ įĺĲĶĹŅĲĭ Rabbi Moskowitz paused his ques- 8:00 PM-9:00 PM followed by Maariv tioning to ask if the elders wanted more tea. “This is also an opportunity we Hakham Ovadiah on Conversion and Other Controversies cannot forget – having a rabbi get us Rabbi Dr. Richard Hidary tea,” smiled Pinchas. Assistant Professor of Judaic Studies, Yeshiva University “You’ve reminded our community that there is not one picture of what Distinguished Rabbinic Fellow, Congregation Shearith Israel a Jew looks like. You’ve also reminded us of how many resources we have here,” said Rabbi Moskowitz, return- Reflections on the Halakhic Legacy of Rav Ovadiah Yosef ing with two steaming cups. Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot “The traditional blessing we give to boys is that they should be like Rabbi, Congregation Netivot Shalom Ephraim and Menashe,” the rabbi con- Chair, Depts. of Bible and Jewish Thought, tinued. “They were Joseph’s children, YCT Rabbinical School but somehow managed to become tribes, like the sons of Jacob. So the blessing we give our children is that Congregation Netivot Shalom they should exceed their limitations. 811 Palisade Ave, Teaneck, NJ Ephraim and Menashe were born in Egypt. Their lives gave them more challenges, but they were able to strug- For more information gle and overcome.” call 212-666-0036 “We need this message and blessing so much,” said Pinchas. “Our people in Nigeria will be happy to hear it and to read it.” JIM JOSEPH FOUNDATION Shimon ben Joseph Shai Afsai is a writer living in Providence. He YCT is funded in part by a generous grant from the traveled to Abuja in February in order to meet Jim Joseph Foundation. members of its Igbo Jewish community.

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Bergen Women Celebrate Mikvah Masmidim Program By Nomi Rotblat approximately 40 women per Set for Summer of ’14 night, over 100 kallahs each year, very November the women of the and the keylim mikvah is in con- HEL’s Camp Kaylie has announced its new Eextended Teaneck, Bergenfi eld and stant use, regular usage fees are OMasmidim Program for the summer of New Milford community gather to not enough to cover the operat- 2014, which will provide a serious and warm celebrate their community mikvah. ing costs. Without the sponsor- learning environment, surrounded by the This year, the Annual Women’s Event ships from the event, the mikvah beauty and inspiration of Camp Kaylie and its will be held on Monday night, No- would not be up and running. integrated camping environment. vember 18th, 2013, at Keter Torah. This event is the mikvah’s major This unique Masmidim program will be The event is being dedicated to the and essential fundraiser,” stressed open to boys fi nishing 11th and 12th grade, mikvah’s head shomeret of close to 30 Bryna Malitzky, the Mikvah’s ad- and in addition to stimulating learning, the years, Miriam Feman. ministrator. program includes great camp activities, com- “Miriam is more than a shomer- Sponsors of $100 or greater petitive sports with organized leagues, guest et. Countless women in our com- will be listed in a Scroll of Honor Shabbat visits from different rabbonim, and in- munity have been touched by her at the event. In addition, all spon- teraction with Camp Kaylie campers and staff. warmth and generosity of spirit. Her sorships include raffl e tickets for The program is headed by Rabbi Aryeh Leb- commitment to the mitzvah of taha- popular packages such as Disney owitz, the rabbi of Beis Haknesses of North rat hamishpacha and her sensitivity Park Hoppers, a Kindle Fire and Woodmere. Rabbi Lebowitz is a popular rebbe and kindness have inspired all those gift cards to local eateries. at DRS HALB High School, and is a noted lec- who patronize the mikvah,” said Miri- “The food is always delicious, turer, who draws large listening audiences on am Greenspan, Teaneck Mikvah pres- the décor and theme are always his yutorah.org shiurim. ident. creative, and it’s just a fun night Rabbi Lebowitz said, “As a proud Kaylie par- Miriam Feman’s fascinating and out with friends in honor of such ent, it is very exciting for me to be able to ac- inspirational background will be the Mrs. Miriam Feman - Head Shomeret - an important cause,” said Shira Isen- tively participate in the Kaylie experience. focus of a video presentation at the Teanek berg, who has come to mikvah events We look forward to enhancing the already event. Miriam was born in Teheran, in the past. “This year it is particularly outstanding Camp Kaylie atmosphere with a Iran, and immigrated to New York “This event is not only a wonder- meaningful as we honor Miriam and strong group of bnei torah whose learning and in 1979. She married Rabbi Dov Fe- ful opportunity to socialize with over the way she has made an impact on middos will be an inspiration for the entire man and moved to Teaneck in 1986, 500 women from all shuls, all schools so many women’s lives,” added Mi- camp”. at which time she began her involve- and all ages in support of our mikvah, chelle Gellman, another attendee and Camp Kaylie’s director, Eli Brazil, said “We ment with the Teaneck Mikvah. For but it is also an opportunity to ex- event committee member. are thrilled to welcome Rabbi Lebowitz to the past several years, Miriam has press our appreciation to Miriam To join in paying tribute to Miri- Camp Kaylie. He brings with him a tremen- also taught at Lubavitch on the Pali- for her outstanding service and ded- am Feman and the Teaneck Mikvah dous wealth of Torah, and an excitement and sades Nursery School. Miriam and her ication,” Alisa Levy, event co-chair ex- Association, please visit www.te- energy that relates to campers and students of husband are also proud parents and plained. aneckmikvah.com/event or call 201- all ages.” grandparents. “Even though the mikvah serves 837-8220.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 21 LOCAL NEWS Thanksnukkah Toy Drive Underway

an you imagine the Shoprite circular gogues, have drop-off sites (www.bc- older teens: Pocketbooks, watches, jew- Cfor Thanksgiving week this year? Tur- toydrive.com for addresses). elry, make-up kits, hat and scarf sets, in- keys and chocolate Chanukah Gelt, fro- • If your schedule is too busy to go tricate craft sets, wallets, gift cards. zen latkes and bread stuffi ng mixes all shopping, you can easily order and Some businesses have offered dis- on sale the same week. As we score up send via Amazon.com. counts. Both Judaica House and Zoldans our points for that Thanksgiving tur- Bar/Bar Mitzvah suggestions: in Teaneck have generously offered a key discount, we also have to focus on • Create centerpieces from games or 10% discount on non-sale items pur- purchasing oil for the chanukiot and of gifts that can be contributed to the chased for the Toy Drive. Items can be course the Bergen County Chanukah Toy Toy Drive after the affair. purchased in person or charged over the Drive. Not since 1899 has Chanukah start- • Request that guests bring Lego or an- phone and put aside in their collection ed so early, and it will not occur again for other gift to drop off at the event. sites. Modells also offers a discount with another 77,798 years. So this is your once- • Include as a special chesed activity a special coupon available on our site at in-a-lifetime chance to help us meet the sorting and packing at the Toy Drive’s www.bctoydrive.com. You can help ful- needs and fi ll the lives of thousands go- central location. fi ll your scrip requirement by purchasing through challenging times with a gift Mica Abenaim, Amalya Weingarten, and • Donation of duplicate gifts to the ing gift certifi cates through the local day to lift their spirits, even before the tur- Yonah Sheinfeld, students at Bnai Yeshurun drive so that others can benefi t from schools. key has a chance to thaw out! Nursery School, checking out items brought their kindness. This project is run by over 100 volun- The 21st Bergen County Chanukah in for the Bergen County Chanukah Toydrive. Thousands of individuals benefi t by teers. Individuals, high school age and Toy Drive is underway through Thurs- this drive. Truckloads of gifts are loaded older, are welcomed to help sort and day, November 14th, collecting new, un- the Toy Drive enables different tzedakot and picked up by the various organiza- pack once donations are dropped off at opened, unwrapped gifts, in 47 loca- to devote their funding to therapies and tions. Please note that although there are the central site. Chesed hours can be ap- tions across the Metro NY/NJ area. The other overheads instead of buying gifts many young recipients, there are teens plied. drive distributes to 17 local organiza- from their budgets. and older members of group homes as The main contact will be Joy Sklar tions, as well as Israel and the Ukraine. Every member of the Jewish commu- well who benefi t from the drive. who has volunteered and worked with Recipients include Ohel, Chai Lifeline, nity is invited to work together to en- Great gift ideas: baby dolls and stroll- the toy drive for many years. If you Otsar, Hackensack Hospital/Tomorrow’s sure the success of this amazing endeav- ers, games (i.e., Monopoly, Set, Blokus, have any questions please contact her Children, JFS of Bergen County and of or. Although we accept contributions Risk, Stratego, Chess, Memory, Can- at [email protected], or visit the web- Clifton/Passaic, Project Ezra, Tomchei through Thursday, November 13th at all dy Land, Apples to Apples, ASAP, Sand- site at www.bctoydrive.com . Please re- Shabbos of Bergen County, Sharsheret, of our 47 sites, please keep in mind Sun- wich, Othello, Chutes and Ladders, Ba- member our deadline is November 14th Bris Avrohom, Shaare Zedek Hospital day, November 3rd, when the toy drive nanagrams) crafts, action fi gures, cars to ensure that sorting and delivery will Israel, Bears from Bergenfi eld, Tikvah will collect through the Bergen County and tracks, building toys, play food, play be done before Chanukah! Children’s Home/Ukraine, Shelter Our Mitzvah day at designated sites. dishes, Lego, Puzzles, books, gift certif- The Bergen County Chanukah Toy Sisters, and more. This is the largest Cha- There are a variety of ways to donate icates (Target, Old Navy, Loews Movie Drive is a wonderful opportunity for the nukah Toy Drive in the area, and it has to the drive: Theater), iPods, mp3 players, Playdough Jewish community at large to help bring the widest reach! • All day schools in Bergen County, sets, travel size games, sports equipment the light of Chanukah to thousands. As A unique community-wide project, along with many temples and syna- (basketballs, footballs, team jerseys). For always, Tizku L’mitzvot in advance!

22 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS Scalia and Lewin Chat at YU

By Matt Yaniv for 40 years. He has argued 27 cases before the Supreme Court of the ew York—Yeshiva University’s United States. Lewin received his NZahava and Moshael Straus Cent- B.A. summa cum laude from Yeshi- er for Torah and Western Thought va College in 1957, and earned his presents a conversation with Unit- J.D. magna cum laude, from Har- ed States Supreme Court Justice An- vard Law School in 1960. tonin Scalia and renowned attor- The Straus Center is named in ney Nathan Lewin on “Synagogue honor of Moshael J. Straus, an in- and State In America: The Landmark vestment executive, alumnus and First Amendment Cases of our Age” member of YU’s Board of Trustees, on Wednesday, November 6, 2013 in and his wife Zahava, a graduate of YU’s Weissberg Commons, 2495 Am- YU’s Benjamin N. Cardozo School sterdam Ave., New York City. The dis- of Law. The Center’s mission is to cussion, part of YU’s “Great Conver- help develop Jewish thinkers and sations on Religion and Democracy” University of Virginia and the Univer- cuit. Scalia is the longest-serving justice wisdom-seeking Jews by deepening their series, begins at 7 p.m. and will be mod- sity of Chicago, and as visiting profes- currently on the Court, having been ap- education in the best of the Jewish tra- erated by Rabbi Dr. Meir Soloveichik, disor of law at Georgetown and Stanford pointed by President Ronald Reagan in dition. rector of the Straus Center. universities. In 1982, he was appointed 1986. The event is free and open to the pub- A graduate of Harvard Law School, judge of the United States Court of Ap- Lewin has engaged in trial and appel- lic. To RSVP, please email strauscenter@ Scalia served as professor of law at the peals for the District of Columbia Cir- late litigation in federal and state courts yu.edu. Bergenite to be Honored at Bet El Gala he Eishet Chayil Award at Tthe Bet El Institutions annual gala will go to Sylvia Freyer of Englewood, NJ. Lt.-Col. (ret.) Ralph Peters will be the guest speaker and others will be honored on December 8th, 2013 at the Marriott Marquis in NYC. Peters, renowned author and commentator, is an outspoken supporter of Israel via his many articles and media appearances. The Annual Bet El Dinner is the largest dinner of any Israeli organization in the tri-state area. Other awards will recognize Jewish activists for their outstanding leadership: Shomer Yisrael Award: David and Barbara Bortniker of West Orange, NJ. Shomer Bet El Award: Joshua and Rachel Goldsmith of Kew Garden Hills, NY. Young Leadership Award: El- chanan and Aliza Romanoff of Woodmere, NY. The event is organized under the leadership of Mr. Eu- gen Gluck, who serves as Chair- man of the Board of American Friends of Bet El. Attorney Da- vid M. Friedman serves as president. Bet El’s ﬂ agship institution is the Israel Defense Forces Preparatory Academy which ca- ters to Sephardic and Ethiopian high school graduates, many of whom come from socially and economically deprived backgrounds which offer little mo- tivation for personal development or service to society. The academy deepens their ties with their Jewish roots and pre- pares them physically and emotionally for army service and adult life. For more info, email: Baruch@IsraelNationalNews. com

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 23 LOCAL NEWS A Very Special AMIT Bat Mitzvah Project for Sarina Shields and Family

By Tova Ross things, like always making a donation to a truly fi tting way to honor her memory,” Tomchei Shabbat when she shopped at said Chana. t’s become almost customary for bar Glatt Express. It was those kinds of small The choice to support AMIT for her Iand bat mitzvahs to take on a charitable acts that were indicative of her genuine bat mitzvah project was obvious, and Sa- project or specifi c cause as a way of cel- concern for others.” rina has been importing the items made ebrating their milestone birthdays. For Sarina was only six weeks old when at the school to the U.S. to sell them to Sarina Shields of Teaneck, there’s extra Esther was diagnosed with breast cancer, peers and community members. Her goal resentatives of a true AMIT family and meaning behind choosing to align her- and the Shields were living in Philadel- is to raise enough money through this en- long-time supporters who have contrib- self with AMIT, the organization dedicat- phia at the time. But Chana says the two deavor to purchase more supplies for the uted substantially to our organization ed to equipping Israel’s youth to realizing formed a close bond as Sarina grew old- art room, including a graphic design com- and to the betterment of the lives of hun- their potential through education, social er. “I often took Sarina with me to New puter program so that the students can dreds of children in Israel,” said Debbie programming and providing warm, nur- York to help Esther with her children, Da- learn and master that in-demand skill. To Isaac, AMIT’s president. “It’s fi tting that turing residences. It is also a way of pay- vid and Alyssa, while she was undergo- date, she has raised over $700. their daughter Sarina is continuing to ing tribute to her aunt, Esther Semmel- ing treatment,” says Chana. The Shields “It’s heartwarming to see that Sarina epitomize the family’s signature generos- man, a”h, who was very involved with moved to Teaneck six years ago, and feel has so much of Esther’s character, includ- ity and dedication.” AMIT up until her passing last year from privileged and grateful that they were ing her dedication to AMIT,” said Chana, For Chana, the opportunity to help a decade-long struggle with breast cancer. able to spend more time with Esther be- who admits there is a “tremendous hole” underprivileged children and offer them Involvement with AMIT has been a fore she died. in her heart because of Esther’s absence some of the same opportunities that are family hallmark for several generations. Esther’s husband, Jacques, her chil- in both helping her to plan and celebrate available to children in Teaneck, who at- Sarina’s great-grandmother, Shirley Halp- dren, siblings (Chana, Avram Holzer and the occasion. “I always looked to Esther tend some of the best Jewish day schools ern, was involved in her local Brook- Tovah Reich), their families and her par- for advice and guidance, and she was an in the country, is of paramount impor- lyn chapter, and her grandmother, Mar- ents recently dedicated the Esther Sem- amazing mother. Trying to measure up to tance. cia Holzer, was closely aligned with the melman Decorative Arts Studio at the her might be futile, but I’m grateful that “Helping to even the playing fi eld Monsey chapter, fi rst, and then served AMIT Beatrice and Irving Stone Meysha- she infl uenced me to be a better moth- for the children in the network of AMIT on the national board. An aunt, Norma rim School in Shoham, Israel, which ca- er and to always be my children’s cheer- schools is essential and can help break Holzer, was the national president for ters to special-needs children. Students leader and advocate during the time she the cycle of poverty that many of the many years, and now, her mother, Cha- at the school learn various creative skills was here.” children belong to and allow them to be- na, is a member of the board and serves in order to earn money and contribute Another upcoming event, the AMIT come contributing members to Israeli so- as its national vice president of market- to the Israeli workforce and economy. Annual Dinner on November 10th at Pier ciety,” she explained. ing. Some of their projects include wooden Sixty at Chelsea Piers, will also pay trib- People interested in purchasing items Chana recalls Esther’s generosity, jewelry boxes, mezuzot, besamim boxes, ute to Esther’s memory. Chana and her in Sarina’s inventory can visit AMIT’s among many wonderful traits, as particu- and jewelry. husband Daniel are also among the din- website at www.amitchildren.org and larly exemplary. “She was involved with “Esther loved the arts and she loved ner’s honorees. click on the “gifts” and then “bar/bat so many causes, and even with smaller children, so dedicating the art studio was “Chana and Daniel Shields are rep- mitzvah” tab to fi nd Sarina’s page. $3M Gift to Rutgers Hillel Honors Holocaust Survivors

ew Brunswick—The children of real the heart of the University’s $300 million three daughters, Bella, Shelley and Nan- Nestate developer and philanthropist College Avenue redevelopment. ette, became a close-knit family which Arie Halpern and his wife Eva have do- According to family spokesman Hen- included 16 grandchildren and two great- nated $3 million to Rutgers University ry Stein, Eva and Arie, both Holocaust grandchildren. Hillel for a 33,000-square-foot building, survivors, were also widowers who, met “Our decision to commemorate to be known as The Eva and Arie Halp- and married in the United States. Eva and our parents by naming the new Hil- ern Hillel House. It will be constructed in her two sons, Henry and Ben, and Arie’s lel House is a natural continuation of

Please join us at our annual EVA AND ARIE HALPERN

OPEN HOUSE their lives as community leaders who wholeheartedly embraced Judaism, Come and gain an understanding of our innovative blended learning model and our unique approach to personalized education Jewish education, Israel and the Jew- ish community,” Stein said. “Our par- Innovative High Quality Affordable Cutting Edge Blended Learning Strong Judaic & Secular Curriculum Leader in Tuition Savings ents lived their lives committed to the same Jewish values espoused by Hillel. It is ﬁ tting that their names be indeli- bly connected to Rutgers Hillel and its mission for generations to come. We could think of no greater way to hon- or their legacy” The $3 million gift from the Halpern Family brought the total raised thus far to $12 million. The Campaign was jump- started with a $2 million gift from the Wilf Family which enabled planning, Wednesday, November 6th, 8:00 PM CongregaƟon Rinat Yisrael, 389 West Englewood Ave. Teaneck, NJ design and land acquisition. Addition- al gifts of conﬁ dence soon followed, in- RSVP online: hƩp://Ɵnyurl.com/HeaƟd2014 cluding $1.5 million from the late Eric F. For more informaƟon or to schedule a tour, please contact: Ora Kornbluth: 201.374.2272 Orakornbluth@yeshivatheaƟd.org Ross. Rutgers Hillel plans to break ground www.yeshivatheaƟd.org at its new location later this semester.

24 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS Mayor Honors Rabbi Yudin

air Lawn—Mayor John Cosgrove of met Rabbi Yudin “on the radio.” FFair Lawn last week issued a proclama- An additional presentation was made tion honoring Rabbi Yudin for the pub- to Rabbi Yudin by his wife, Shevi. She ex- lication of his book, “Rabbi Benjamin plained how the Rabbi’s Parhsa talk on Yudin on the Parsha”, as well as his con- JM in the AM started as a tribute to his tributions to the Fair Lawn community parents and how his mother had two dif- for more than 40 years. The presentation ferent radios—one always locked in to took place at a book signing breakfast at the JM in the AM station 91.1, so she would Congregation Shomrei Torah, with more never miss the show. Shevi also told than 170 people attending. warm and amusing anecdotes regarding Nachum Segal, host of the “JM in the Jews and non-Jews who wanted to know AM” radio show also offered a tribute. if she was related to “Rabbi Yudin from Rabbi Yudin has been a regular on the the radio show,” evidencing how many Friday morning weekly Torah portion people from all walks of life have been af- talks for the last 35 years. Segal said Rab- fected by his talks throughout the years. bi Yudin’s dedication in providing his Rabbi Yudin has been Rav of weekly talk over the years, literally went Congregation Shomrei Torah in Fair through rain, sleet, snow and broken in- Lawn, New Jersey since 1969, and has ternational phone connections while taught at Yeshiva University for decades. warm and welcoming congregation with years ago, which now meets three the rabbi traveled in Israel and the for- Under Rabbi Yudin’s leadership and with membership exceeding 300 families. mornings a week and is taught by Rabbi mer Soviet Union. Segal also told anec- the warm support and assistance of his The book signing breakfast was spon- Yudin and by Rabbi Yaakov Ehrenkrantz, dotes of individuals he has met far and wife, Shomrei Torah has grown from a sored by “Torah Tuesday,” a learning a teacher in Shomrei Torah’s Beis Me- wide, from all walks of Jewish life, who minyan in the basement of a house to a group inspired by Rabbi Yudin many drash program. Jewish Scouts Discover America

By Daniel Chazin

n Columbus Day Weekend, OBoy Scout Troop 226 attended a Three Rivers District Camp- oree at Campgaw Mountain County Reservation in Mahwah. For the fi rst time since the district was established several years ago, an event was scheduled to accommodate the needs of our Shomer Shabbat troop, with troops arriving on Satur- day evening and the activities Scouts at the Geocaching station (the guy wearing the yellow jacket is held on Sunday. the instructor). Our troop assembled at the The author and three Scouts at the top of Campgaw Mountain on the Teaneck Jewish Center after afternoon hike Shabbat and arrived at Camp- gaw in time to participate in the sent out to fi nd where caches ed of hot dogs cooked over a opening campfi re. The Scouts had been hidden. It wasn’t as fi re built by the Scouts, several enjoyed the skits and songs easy as it sounded at fi rst, but more Scouts (who had school presented by other troops, and everyone successfully complet- on Sunday morning) arrived. we also presented some of our ed the course. The Scouts went to the orien- own. After the campfi re, the Other Scouts followed the teering station, where they re- Scouts pitched their tents and route of a fi ve-mile hike which ceived instruction from one of retired for the evening. had been mapped out by Scout- the most knowledgeable ex- The next morning, after dav- master Daniel Chazin. The perts in the sport and then went ening and breakfast, we attend- hike took them to the summit out to fi nd the various controls ed the opening ceremony. Many of Campgaw Mountain, with that had been placed. of the Scouts spent the morning a panoramic view of Bergen The day’s activities culmi- Scouts at the campsite doing geocaching, an exciting County, and it also incorporat- nated with a shorter hike to the activity that uses GPS receivers ed a loop around the western summit of Campgaw Mountain Troop 226 meets on Mon- aged 11-17 are welcome to join. to fi nd hidden caches. A knowl- slope of the mountain, passing for the benefi t of those Scouts day evenings during the school For more information, please edgeable counselor gave a pres- old stone cisterns and other in- who were unable to participate year from 7:30 to 9:00 p.m. at contact Daniel Chazin, Scout- entation on how GPS receivers teresting features. in the morning hike. A great the Weiss Auditorium of the Te- master, 201.835.5338, DChazin@ work, and the Scouts were then After lunch, which consist- time was had by all! aneck Jewish Center. All boys aol.com.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 25 LOCAL NEWS Rav Aharon Kahn & Rav Malkiel Kotler Pay Tribute in Teaneck

By Moshe Kinderlehrer create a Kiddush Hashem in the wake of the Rav Yosef’s petirah. Teaneck, NJ—Two major Roshei Ye- Dr. Hakimi also displayed a unique Se- shiva visited Teaneck two weeks ago to phardic sefer Torah rescued from Iraq by pay tribute to Rav Ovadiah Yosef, z’tl, the U.S. that is reputed to have been used who was niftar three weeks ago. More by Ben Ish Chai (Chacham Yosef Chaim) than 75 people gathered at the home of of Baghdad in the 19th century. Dr. Daniel Hakimi to listen to what the Both Rav Kotler and Rav Kahn present- two Ashkenazi leaders had to say about ed various ideas designed to highlight dif- a leading rabbi who came from the Se- ferent aspects of Rav Yosef’s greatness as phardic tradition. a Torah scholar and leader who brought Dr. Hakimi introduced the program Torah to the masses and was loved by so by speaking about how he met Rav Yosef many. Rav Kotler attempted to discover as a young refugee from Iran and was as- the secret of the love that so many felt sured he would see his family again af- for Rav Yosef. ter they escaped. Amazingly, the day Rav Aharon Kahn (l) conferring with Rav Event Host Dr. Daniel Hakimi with Sefer Torah Rav Kahn emphasized how Rav Yosef after he met with R’ Yosef, he was reu- Malkiel Kotler. from Iraq was able to, almost singlehandedly, raise nited with his family. This experience is the prominence of Torah study in the Se- etched in his memory and although he strong positive feelings for him. He said great Torah personalities like Rav Kahn phardic community and make it “a cen- never spoke to Rav Yosef again, he retains he was motivated to bring together two and Rav Kotler to represent achdus and terpiece” of their lives.

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hey say that sticks and stones can Tbreak your bones but words can never hurt you. And yet, the country of Is- rael, despite its superior military, still suffers from the slings and arrows of such as the BDS movement and una- bashed antisemites who seek to foster a bad impression of the Jewish Home- land. And that is why the group Ga-Ga for Israel—Put Israel’s Best Face For- ward shines like a veritable light beam- ing from Zion.  CONTINUED ON P. 52

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By Kelitta Weber cause he is able to admit a mistake.” Hu- mans make mistakes and missteps and hen Rabbi Menachem Genack, CEO to be a critical leader one must have “the Wof the Orthodox Union’s kosher di- capacity to admit a mistake and not be vision, was asked to introduce former wedded to a misguided and possibly dis- President Bill Clinton at a presidential astrous course,” Rabbi Genack wrote. fundraiser in 1992, he was unaware his In his missive about Judah and Tamar, words would have a profound impact on Rabbi Genack mistakenly cited a passage then-Governor Clinton. Rabbi Genack’s as being from Gen 28; however, Presi- speech became the foundation for an on- dent Clinton, in another testimony to his going and somewhat unconventional re- vast Biblical knowledge, tactfully correct- lationship between rabbi and president. ed Rabbi Genack stating the citation is in They became pen pals, for all intents actuality Gen:38. [Clinton’s response to and purposes, and their friendship blos- Senator Joe Lieberman’s article, shows he somed and remains steadfast to the pre- was such a man.] sent. Rabbi Genack’s book titled, Letters Luck brought these two history lov- to President Clinton, is a compilation of ing, brilliant, humanitarians together. the remarkable letters that Rabbi Genack But luck is only the moment when prep- and President Clinton shared through- aration meets opportunity. Imagine how out his presidency and thereafter. many people Clinton met on his political PHOTO COURTESY RABBI MENACHEM GENACK At the fundraiser in 1992 Rabbi Genack road to presidency. They did not all leave quoted a verse from the book of Prov- a deep impression on Clinton, they were erbs, “where there is no vision, the peo- Clinton is “stunningly smart,” Rab- knowledged leader of the Tribes of Isra- not all pen pals, and they were not all in- ple perish.” The remark was made in ref- bi Genack said. Rabbi Genack was of- el, when he was the brother to have not vited to the White House. Rabbi Genack erence to President George H.W. Bush’s ten amazed by the amount of knowl- one, but two major transgressions. One and Clinton have a connection that be- edge President Clinton had of the Bible sin was with the sale of Yosef to the Egyp- gan when Rabbi Genack prepared his in- as well as all types of books and works tians and the other sin was his illegiti- troduced Bill Clinton and thoroughly of literature. “All of which, he is able to mate relations with his widowed daugh- impressed the president’s enormously in- quote by memory at any given moment,” ter-in-law Tamar. In it a Norman Lamm, quisitive mind and appreciation for wis- Rabbi Genack said. Rabbi Genack refers former chancellor of Yeshiva University, dom. One of Bill Clinton’s philosophies is to Clinton’s memory as “nothing short wrote “because Judah rises above his fail- “that truth cannot be monopolized by a of remarkable.” Clinton was very recep- ures. He atones for his sins and goes on single group, but is diffused through dif- tive to Rabbi Genack’s missives, and he to greatness. He redeems himself.” In an- ferent traditions.” Their shared interest frequently sent handwritten, personal, other missive, Rabbi Genack quotes Rab- for history, spirituality, and belief in hu- thank you notes in return. bi Joseph B. Soloveitchik who explains manity has put them both in one of his- Rabbi Genack wrote a great deal that “Judah is chosen for kingship be- tory’s spotlights. about Israel, and the overpowering importance it has to the Jewish people. Rab- bi Geanck also accompanied Clinton on many trips to Israel, “in Israel people connected with [Clinton] and greeted him with adulation,” says Rabbi Genack. When Rabbi Genack asked why, Clinton told him “They know that if Israel is in trouble, I would ﬁ ght for Israel.” Rabbi Genack speaks about Clinton’s ardor for the late prime-minister Yitzchak Rabin, “Clinton still tears up when he speaks of Rabin.” Rabbi Genack ensured that Isra- (41) lack of vision for his presidential elec- el remained in the forefront of Clinton’s tion. Clinton relished the remark and mind and that he understood that having told Rabbi Genack that he would use it the Jewish state of Israel is paramount to in his acceptance speech for the presi- the Jewish people. dential nomination, and he did. Shortly The missives became such a constant, after that, Rabbi Genack was invited to that when President Clinton felt he BRIS@MOCHA the White House and he brought along hadn’t received one in a while he would an essay, containing meaningful messag- ask Ann Lewis to reach out to Rabbi Welcome Your New Prince es derived from the Bible’s ancient wis- Genack and ask him to send another one. With a Royal Entrance At dom, which he thought Clinton would Rabbi Genack began asking friends and enjoy reading, and he did. acquaintances, such as Bible scholars, po- Shortly after Clinton won the elec- litical leaders, scientist, clergy members MOCHABLEU tion, invites to the White House came and laypeople, to write essays conveying more frequently. Rabbi Genack says that messages found in the Bible that relate to Packages starting at $22pp Clinton has an “extraordinarily intellec- the current times and policies. tual curiosity.” Each time Rabbi Genack “Clinton is truly interested in people,” was to go to the White House, he would says Rabbi Genack. He welcomed all the es- prepare a brief essay containing insights says and found comfort and solace in many from the Bible that he felt were corre- of them, especially during trying times. lated to current events or something in- The Monica Lewinsky scandal caused sightful that he thought President Clin- a lot angst for President Clinton during ton would enjoy. Rabbi Genack’s essays, his presidency. Many of the missives or missives as they called them, were not that were sent hinted at the situation, only welcomed but salient. but never outright mentioned it. Since At one point, the Secret Service the book is categorized by topic and not thought it unseemly for Rabbi Genack to in chronological order, most of the let- CERTAIN RESTRICTIONS APPLY be handing the president documents di- ters about the Lewinsky scandal can be BOOK YOUR SON'S BRIS@MOCHABLEU rectly, so the president arranged for him found in the Sins and Repentance chap- EMAIL US FOR DETAILS: [email protected] to send the documents through his direc- ter. A few of the letters in the book speak tor of communication, Ann Lewis. about the reason Judah became the ac-

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 27 EDITORIAL THE JEWISH LINK OF BERGEN COUNTY Don’t Buy the Brooklyn Bridge times.com/opinion/commentary/la-oe- and reprocessing activities” and “to im- Co-Founders/Co-Publishers Dennis Ross, founder of AIPAC with ross-iran-diplomacy-20131029,0,6562941. plement without delay all transparen- Moshe Kinderlehrer Martin Indyk, has served Presidents Cart- story#axzz2jDrXcnEo). They wrote that cy measures as the IAEA may request in Mark (Mendy) Schwartz er, Reagan, Bush Sr., Clinton, Obama— recent negotiations were unique because support of its ongoing investigations.” Editor all but Bush Jr. Ross got his Judaism af- Iran fi nally showed up at the table, but • Deny Iran nuclear weapons capability. Jeanette Friedman ter the Six-Day War, founded a synagogue not to be fooled. The Iranians “offered • Impose a strict inspections regime. Contributing Editor in Rockville, Maryland, and has served in no concessions, leaving serious questions • Negotiate from a position of strength. Nina Glick the Pentagon, the State Department, the about Iranian purposes. With another Intensify sanctions and incentivize National Security Council, and the White round of talks scheduled for next week, other countries to do the same, issue Advertising Director Yaakov Serle House. In the Reagan years, he was direc- U.S. negotiators would do well to follow more forceful and credible statements tor of Near East and South Asian affairs in principles that signify the core interests that all options are on the table, ini- Associate Editor the National Security Council and Depu- at stake.” tiate new military deployments and Aliza Chasan ty Director of the Pentagon’s Offi ce of Net Then they list the six principles: make clear the support for Israeli mil- Sales Development Assessment. For Bush Sr., he was direc- • Iran must resolve outstanding inter- itary action if conducted. Ken Goff stein tor of the State Department’s Policy Plan- national concerns. The International • Finally, do not waste time. Iran will Sales Representative ning Staff, and he was Clinton’s main Mid- Atomic Energy Agency has repeated- likely attain an undetectable nucle- Maxine Bender dle East Envoy. He worked with Hillary in ly complained that Iran has not been ar capability by mid-2014, and perhaps Technical Editor/ the State Department. In other words, he forthcoming about its nuclear activi- even earlier. Database Coordinator knows what he’s talking about, so please ties. • As Ross and company said best, “Just be- Moishie Rosenberg pay attention. • Iran must adhere to international legal cause Iran agrees to a deal, it does not Sports Editor A few days ago, he, Eric Edelman and requirements. The U.N. Security Coun- mean it will stick to it.” The Brooklyn Steve Gutlove Michael Makowsky placed an op-ed in cil passed six resolutions requiring Teh- Bridge is always for sale. That doesn’t Design the Los Angeles Times, (http://www.la- ran to “suspend all enrichment-related mean you buy it. design2pro.com Contributors Sarah Abenaim • Larry Bernstein LETTER TO THE EDITOR Aliza Chasan • Rabbi Sam Frenkel • Rabbi Dr. Mordechai Glick • Temima Zucker To the Editor: to live with a husband who is a leper and Estelle Glass • Chavie Hagler • Gail Hochman She even takes a swipe at Rav Yosef Robert Katz • Banji Latkin • When I fi rst began receiving the Jew- Dov Soloveitchik, zt”l (something I nev- abusive rather than live alone.... We (must) Harold Nussbaum • Sara Prager ish Link, my assumption was that the pa- er thought I’d see in print in Teaneck!) also surrender the everyday will.” Respect- P’nina Seplowitz • Bracha Schwartz per was published from the point of view for not endorsing Rabbi Emanuel Rack- fully, I feel that he is wrong. Pikuach Nef- Rabbi Mark Staum • Tzvi Silver that Torah is paramount and Halachah is man’s strategy of annulments. The fact is esh is not negotiable in my opinion. Jordana Schoor • N. Aaron Troodler • followed. The advertisers, who support that annulments of bad marriages have Stephen Tencer • Rayzel Yaish • Nancy Zweibach To the Editor: The Jewish Link of Bergen County the paper - yeshivot, kosher stores, the always been part of the Halachic discus- PO Box 3131 Orthodox Union - clearly presuppose an sion, but Rabbi Rackman’s wholesale ex- No New Jersey conservative should Teaneck, NJ 07666 Orthodox audience. pansion of the tactic was rejected by the vote to re-elect Gov. Christie. If previous Phone: 201-371-3212 After reading the last few issues, how- overwhelming majority of the Orthodox examples of Christie’s leftist inclinations Email: [email protected] ever, it appears to this reader that sever- rabbinate - then and now. weren’t enough, he has just given us an- Advertising: [email protected] Subscriptions/Home Delivery: al of the authors aren’t entirely on board I do not mean to minimize the agony other one, leaping to do the bidding of [email protected] with the Mesorah of Orthodoxy. One ar- of agunot in general or of Ms Friedman the New Jersey Supreme Court after the The Jewish Link of Bergen County, an independent publication, promotes honest and rigorous conversations about ticle in particular stuck out and demands in particular. I am not privy to such pain. justices declared that same-sex “mar- Judaism,Israel and issues aff ecting our community. The opinions a response. Nonetheless, for a Halachic solution to riage” must be condoned by law. Christie refl ected in articles from our contributors do not necessarily refl ect JLBC’s positions, and publishing them does not constitute In her op-ed of October 17, supporting be viable it would require the endorse- noted his disagreement, but in the next an endorsement from JLBC. We simply off er food for thought. solutions for agunot, Jeanette Friedman ment of the RCA, not the JOFA. Today’s breath he ordered the Department of We reserve the right to accept or refuse submissions and edit for content and length. We also reserve the right to refuse ad- refers to the Halakhic process of Heter rabbinate is composed in the main of Health to comply with the decision, and vertising that in our opinion does not refl ect the standards of the Meah Rabbanim as a “fi ction.” Without God-fearing individuals who are actively he has since dropped his legal appeal. newspaper. We are not responsible for the kashrus of any product advertised in the Jewish Link of Bergen County. delving into a debate as to when such pursuing Halachically viable avenues for There are words and there are actions, a Heter is advised, allowed, or even val- agunot. Ms Friedman does a disservice to and they do not mean the same thing. id, suffi ce it to say the concept is certain- the community to proclaim, and to pub- Christie became famous for taking quished much of it, allowing courts and ly not a fi ction. To call it such insults the lish, otherwise. on the public school unions, but he did government-protected unions to con- Halachic process. Srully Epstein a lot more yelling about it than anything trol more and more of our lives. The Furthermore, Ms Friedman frames Bergenfield, NJ else. His actual demands of the unions recent court ruling was the latest in a the agunah crisis as a battle between were small, and they were nothing com- long string of illegitimate governmen- cowardice and courage. Rabbis who JF replies: I should have written pared to what Gov. Scott Walker did in tal actions. Ultimately, we must decide aren’t “afraid of losing their authority” abused Heter Meah Rabbonim instead of Wisconsin with a lot less bluster. Again, whether we will be ruled by ourselves and “have the guts” should create Batei the fi ction of it. Otherwise I stand by my words and actions do not mean the or by a small cadre of arrogant, unelect- Din with the power to unchain any agu- piece, since many Orthodox rabbis told same thing. ed, and virtually unremovable judges nah. The implication being that all agree me they are “afraid” to do anything. As for In general, Christie has governed and bureaucrats. that there are avenues for freeing agunot, my “swipe” at Rabbi Soleveitchik, he said, more as a leftist than a conservative. Not And the family hasn’t been called but that they are not being utilized out of “Once Judaism recognizes a presumption only has he increased the state budget, “the cradle of civilization” for no reason. fear and timidity - rather than out of le- it never changes. Women today and wom- given in to the unions, nominated aw- It is the natural place for having and gitimate Halachic objections. en 8,000 years from today, would prefer ful judges to the courts, and made no ef- raising children. It is only in the fami- fort to reform the state’s irrational gun ly that children’s physical, emotional, laws, he shamelessly brags in his cam- intellectual and spiritual needs can be paign commercials about providing “the tended to personally, day by day, year af- most education funding ever!” And now, ter year, by those who care for them the in the face of a raw exercise of judicial most, those who jointly gave them life. power, he can’t bring himself to stand It is only in the family that mothers and up for such fundamental institutions as fathers learn the meaning of love and popular government and marriage. self-sacrifi ce in serving their children Christie’s weakness will cost us all. and each other. The family is not only Without these twin supports of soci- necessary for the survival of society, it is ety, our freedoms and well-being will the very school of society, where both continue to decline. Government of, adults and children learn to be good. by, and for the people isn’t just a say- None of this can happen, however, if ing we learned in history class (do they children are deprived of their mother still teach that in the public schools?); or father from the outset; or if the con- it’s been the very basis of our political nection of a married couple has no oth- Correction & Apologies: Apologies to TABC - JLBC inadvertently left out in our last issue life from the earliest years of the na- er purpose than immediate personal sat- the names of the two TABC National Merit Semi-Finalists. Here they are: Left to right: Rabbi tion, the principle we fought a civil war isfaction. Yosef Adler, Rosh haYeshiva, Avi Hirsch, Aryeh Krischer and Dr. Garry R. Katz, Director of to protect, and the main bulwark of our College Guidance freedoms. Unfortunately, we have relin-  CONTINUED ON P. 34

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bowitz. She quotes a source which sug- rizing role to play, a role which he typi- “What Was He Thinking?” gests that Isaac, because of his experience cally reserved for the closing moments of of having nearly been offered as a sacrifi ce, the class session. By Rabbi Tzvi cus upon the Patriarch Isaac. I must con- became so pious and other-worldly that he Here is how he wrapped it up: “We Hersh Weinreb fess that when I read about Isaac, I found was oblivious to duplicity and to the false- have heard three approaches to Hillel’s him to be a failed leader. When I con- hoods of this world—so much so, that he question, ‘What was he thinking?’ Each ere it was, the sixth front his inability to distinguish between was easily deceived by Esau.” approach articulates something very im- Hsession of the class his saintly son, Jacob, and his martially Miriam could not suppress teasing portant about leadership.” which was using the inclined son, Esau, I cannot suppress the Zalman. “How’s that for erudition, Zal- “From Zalman’s approach, we can book of Genesis as a question, ‘What was he thinking?’ “ man?” Zalman begrudgingly gave her a learn about one of the dangers of leader- source for studying the Myron, who shared Hillel’s taciturn big smile and a thumbs-up. ship: leaders may become so prejudiced nature of leadership. It was proving not character, raised his hand. He appar- I was certain that at this point, Othn- by their personal relationships with their to be the kind of class in which the teach- ently decided that my invitation to Hil- iel would enter the fray with yet anoth- subordinates that their decision-making er lectured and the students listened pas- lel to become more involved in the dis- er approach to this dilemma and that he capacities are compromised.” sively. Rather, it was more like a discussion cussion had also applied to him. “Hillel’s would base it upon one of his poignant “Miriam’s insight is especially sugges- group in which everyone participated. question is so glaringly obvious that ear- personal experiences. I was not disap- tive because of what it implies for reli- Everyone, that is, except for Hillel. In lier commentators must have asked it as pointed. He stood up to emphasize his gious leaders, whose very spirituality my experience as a teacher, I have often well. I wonder what they had to say.” message: “ I don’t think Isaac was blind to may prevent them from perceiving the taken notice of the one student who liter- This gave the class’s “talmid chacham,” Esau’s true nature. I think he chose to give more mundane facets of life.” ally takes a backseat and chooses to remain Zalman, the opening he was looking for. him a blessing precisely because he knew “Finally, Othniel has again expressed silent. Left alone, such a student could re- “Indeed, many traditional commenta- Esau’s wicked propensities very well. a fundamental lesson for all leaders. If main silent for the duration of the course. tors struggled with this very question,” He wanted to reform Esau and chose to you wish to positively infl uence others, I learned long ago to do what I could to in- he said. “One of them, Don Isaac Abar- do so by blessing him. Surely, as I have choose the path of praise and blessing.” vite such “backseaters” into the discussion. banel, believed that Isaac was blinded by learned in my dealings with real enemies, Carol, the class optimist and perpetu- Invariably, they have had much to say, and his feelings of favoritism for Esau. In fact, the way to exert positive infl uence upon al “big sister,” applauded Sam’s summary. frequently, they add a dramatically novel he interprets the fi rst verse of chapter 27, others, especially upon a wayward child, I too applauded. But whereas her ap- dimension to the proceedings. ‘When Isaac was old and his eyes were is not by cursing him and criticizing him. plause was expressed by her clapping So, before the more talkative and ea- too dim to see’, metaphorically—his eyes Drawing him close by blessing him is def- hands, mine was an inner applause. Once ger students could gain control of the were too dim to see the obvious failings initely the preferred approach.” again, I had learned that a teacher need fl oor, I invited Hillel to share the lead- of his favored son.” The class was beginning to develop not lecture, but can trust the students to ership lessons that he gleaned from this The regular reader of this column will predictable patterns of behavior. The qui- teach and learn from each other. week’s Torah portion, Toldot (Genesis remember that, several weeks ago, Miri- eter students were starting to open up, Once again, I had witnessed how as- 25:19-28:9). I was thrilled that Hillel not am had resolved to use this class as a lab- Zalman and Othniel were each comforta- tute was the observation of our Sages: only welcomed my invitation but re- oratory to overcome her shyness. And so, ble sharing their particular sources of ex- “I have learned much from my teach- sponded to it enthusiastically. she courageously attempted to out-scholar pertise, and Miriam and the other wom- ers, and more from my colleagues. But “This week in the synagogue, we will Zalman: “I discovered a different approach en felt included. from my students, I have learned most read those chapters of Genesis which fo- cited by the master teacher, Nechama Lei- And, of course, Sam had his summa- of all.” THE MAGGID OF BERGENFIELD

about a Mexican restaurant. Oh, no. Look at Toledot: The Hunger (Bereishit: 25: 29-34) that chili. It looks so good. And that quesa- dilla? Amazing. By Larry Stiefel with good olive oil and dusted lightly with up from an especially exceptional French He walked back into the kitchen. Listen- chili powder if desired. onion soup. He claimed it was the onions ing carefully to make sure no one else was Red Lentil Soup * Yield: 4 servings. that did it, but truth be told, it was an emo- awake, he leaned over and sniffed deeply. Time: 45 minutes tional response. The soup had simply been The steam rose up his nose. To him, it was a 3 tablespoons olive (This story is best understood with a that good. gentle caress. He fi shed a spoon out of the oil, more for drizzling bowl of this particular soup steaming in Now his wife was trusting him not to utensil drawer. Just a taste. It couldn’t hurt. 1 large onion, chopped front of you.) touch the red lentil soup. It was defi nitely a He didn’t even remember fi lling the 2 garlic cloves, challenge, but he was confi dent he was up bowl with the marvelous red liquid. The minced His wife had given him very specifi c in- to it. He was a grown man with a family. He next thing he knew he was shoveling it 1 tablespoon tomato paste structions. She had made the lentil soup, could accept a little responsibility. down his gullet. It was perfect, defi nitely 1 teaspoon ground cumin as she did every year—the Shabbat of par- The soup was not on his mind while he his wife’s best soup, and she had quite a rep- 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt, more to taste shat Toledot. She lovingly combined all the was cleaning up. He was focused on scrub- ertoire. How many bowls did he have? He 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper ingredients, sautéed them, chopped them, bing all the food particles and grease from wasn’t even sure. Pinch of ground chili powder or cay- ground, puréed, and boiled them. All was the pots and pans his wife had used for He considered covering up his crime by enne, more to taste done for her magnifi cent red lentil soup. cooking everything for Shabbat. It was a adding water to the pot, but you can’t tam- 1 quart chicken or vegetable broth She just needed it to cool down before she deal they had made early in their marriage. per with a masterpiece. He covered the pot 1 cup red lentils put in the fridge for the night. But she was She cooks the food; he cleans the dishes and put it in the refrigerator. Tomorrow 1 large carrot, peeled and diced exhausted from a full day of working, shop- and utensils. there would be hell to pay, but tonight he Juice of 1/2 lemon, more to taste ping, helping the kids with homework and But as he was drying the big frying pan was a happy man. 3 tablespoons chopped, fresh cilantro cooking. She needed to go to sleep. She had that must have used for the schnitzel, he He thought about that week’s Torah por- 1. In a large pot, heat 3 tablespoons oil had it. All he had to do was wash the dishes, started to smell the soup more and more. tion, Toledot. He defi nitely knew how Esav over high heat until hot and simmering. wait an hour, and put away the soup. The lentils were pungent. The garlic was tick- felt when he sold his birthright for a bowl Add onion and garlic, and sauté until gold- Oh, there was just one more piece of in- ling the back of his nose. He started to feel a of ha-adom ha-adom hazeh, that red, red len- en, about 4 minutes. struction. No eating the soup! knot in his stomach, and it was growing. til soup. When you read the parsha it seems 2. Stir in tomato paste, cumin, salt, black They were having the Zuckermans over The dishes were done, and he still had absurd that he could have done it. It was just pepper and chili powder or cayenne, and for Friday night dinner, with their four chil- 40 minutes to go until he could put away soup. How hungry could he have been? But sauté for two minutes longer. dren. Along with their own two kids, that the soup. He left the kitchen, went into the when you look down into that pot—espe- 3. Add broth, 2 cups water, lentils and made ten. She had doubled the recipe, but den and turned on the television. Perhaps cially if you’re a “soup person”—how could carrot. Bring to a simmer, then partially cov- even so, it would be tight. She needed every he could watch the news or some inane sit- he not have done it? What is it that he said? er pot and turn heat to medium-low. Sim- drop of the soup for dinner; there was none uation comedy to pass the time. Hinei anochi holech lamut, velama zeh li be- mer until lentils are soft, about 30 minutes. to spare. Was that cumin he was smelling? It chora? Behold I am at the point to die and Taste and add salt if necessary. He loved soup. He really did. On a hot, was wonderful. And could that be cilant- what profi t shall the birthright do for me? 4. Using an immersion or regular blend- humid day in August, at an outdoor café, ro? Yes, it was defi nitely cilantro. And of You and me both, Esav, you and me er or a food processor, purée half the soup everyone else would be having lemonade course who could miss the chili powder? At both. then add it back to the pot. Soup should be and some cold dish. Him? The split pea this point he was pretty sure he could even He only hoped the soup was that good. somewhat chunky. soup. He would often drive fi ve miles out smell the carrots. ______5. Reheat soup if necessary then stir in of his way on his route home from work for He was doing well, with only 20 min- *Special thanks to the Maggedet, Chana Stiefel, lemon and cilantro. Serve soup drizzled a good mulligatawny. His eyes once teared utes to go, when an advertisement came on for her awesome red lentil soup recipe.

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By Josh Pruzansky ple, in the recent special election for U.S. respond to our community’s needs and which candidate supports issues of inter- Senate, the statewide turnout was 24 per- concerns if we don’t come out and vote est to you. Invest a few minutes research- n Tuesday, Novem- cent, the lowest turnout for a statewide with our true numbers? ing the person you will decide to sup- Ober 5th, the New Jer- election in the history of New Jersey. Two of the very few competitive rac- port. Voting is truly a privilege we enjoy sey Jewish community Contrast that turnout to two communi- es taking place on the legislative level are in this Malchut Shel Chesed and a privi- will have an opportunities with a signifi cant Orthodox popula- in communities with signifi cant Ortho- lege many of our forebears wish they ty to show its strength tion: In the Teaneck Orthodox election dox populations: District 18, which in- had. to elected offi cials and political parties districts, the turnout was 32 percent; in cludes East Brunswick, Edison and High- This election is your chance to make around the state. On that day, every state Passaic, the turnout was 22 percent. land Park, and District 38 which includes your voice heard and allow our communi- offi ce from the governor through the On one hand, we can congratulate Te- Bergenfi eld, Fair Lawn and Paramus. Im- ty to shine forth as many others don’t. The State Legislature is up for grabs. On that aneck for its “strong showing.” But is an agine the impact our community can opportunity to make this statement in day, we have the ability to do something 8 percent higher turnout than the gener- have on the election if every eligible vot- New Jersey won’t happen again for anoth- that is granted to every citizen in New al population something to cheer about? er came out to vote. er four years. For the sake of our families Jersey, but only four out of ten actually A 32 percent turnout means that more Legislators and their staff meticulous- and our children please make every effort do so—vote. than two-thirds of our community didn’t ly track where votes come from. They to vote on November 5th. This is one elec- I have no idea why 60 percent of eli- bother to vote for one of our two repre- campaign in those areas and consider the tion where we can’t afford to stay home. gible voters decide not to have a say as to sentatives in the U.S. Senate—this in a issues of their constituents who show up who will represent them in matters that time of budget cuts that can possibly af- at the polls. While the OU, as a non-profi t Josh Pruzansky is the New Jersey Regional Direc- cost them tens of thousands of dollars fect foreign aid to Israel, no less. organization, does not endorse any can- tor of the Orthodox Union Advocacy Center. The mis- through income and property taxes. Can we expect to have our voices didate, we do urge you to vote. Regard- sion of OU Advocacy is to promote and protect the What is amazing to me is that the Jew- heard in Trenton if we show up to the less of how you cast your ballot, every Orthodox Jewish community’s interests and values ish community doesn’t fare much better polls in similar numbers on November vote gives our community a voice. in the public policy arena. To learn more about OU than the general population. For exam- 5th? How can we expect our legislators to Please do your homework and see Advocacy, please go to www.OUadvocacy.org. ME’ACHOREI HAPARGOD Who’s Left Standing in the Pew? Part 2

By Robert Katz American Jewry. Jewish Leaders across quickly please. Or else. Or else what, you oblivion; the spectrum chimed in with their opin- say? Or else the following three things The Modern Orthodox/Religious he year was 2006, ions and visions, many of which were so occur in America within the next two Zionist movement dwindles to a pre- Tand as we sat in the naïve, so simple-minded that one quick- generations: cious few, as most of the adherents backseat of a town car ly realized how easy it was to get into The Reform, Reconstructionist and driving through North this mess in the fi rst place. I ended my Conservative movements shrink into  CONTINUED ON P. 36 Beverly Hills, Rabbi column by observing that not one opin- Grossman watched in ion or explanation included a simple amazement as a machine was talking to fi ve-letter word solution which is the the driver. basis of our existence. Torah. “What is this machine called?” asked I want to pay homage here to a man RAISE YOUR the Rav. named George Hanus from Chicago. A “A GPS”, he was told. Having no In- businessman with great vision, nearly ternet or TV in his home, much less a two decades ago he called on all Jews EXPECTATIONS GPS in his own car, Rabbi Grossman was to bequeath 5% of their wealth to a lo- star-struck, very apropos to LA. cal Jewish day school. Fearing the inev- “What is it doing for you?” he asked. itable, Hanus understood and foresaw The driver explained. By now the Rav the realities we are dealing with today. had a twinkle in his eye; you knew this He spoke publicly and he placed ads in was going to be good. newspapers in an effort to cajole peo- “So,” the Rav said. “SONY sends a sat- ple to participate in his 5% Solution. If NEW HIGH YIELD CD RATES ellite up into the sky, and the TV up there every Jew followed suit, American Jew- watches you. The man in the TV tells you ry could have a viable future. Hardly an- to turn left, you turn left. He tells you to yone paid heed. AN INVESTMENT YOU CAN BANK ON go straight, you go straight. Yes?” The time for Band-Aids is over. Our “Exactly,” laughed the driver. identity is based on the Torah, on a be- “So if SONY tells you to go right, but lief in one God, whose word was hand- you don’t want to listen to SONY and in- ed down to us through Moses. We are a stead you go left, you have a crash, cor- monotheistic religion and people. There Term Rate* APY* rect?” is nothing new here, yet in an age where “Maybe,” said the driver. “But why there is every imaginable shtick to reach 12 Month CD - 0.85% 0.85%% would I do that and get myself into trou- every Jew in every way to get them to 18 Month CD - 0.99% 1.00%% ble? I listen to what the GPS tells me to somehow identify as Jewish, the one so- do.” lution not tested and tried by 80% of our 24 Month CD - 1.09% 1.10%% By now the twinkle in his eye turned brethren is the Torah. Too old-fashioned. into a great epiphany. Rabbi Grossman Too dogmatic. Too questionable. Too bi- looked at me and said: “Nu, and we Jews ased. Too chauvinistic. Too immoral. Too have a JEW-PS, not a GPS. His name is easy to dismiss. Because it tells the truth PLEASE SCAN THE CODE FOR Hashem. His Torah is our satellite. If eve- that people don’t want to hear. MORE INFORMATION ry Jew in the world would follow the Unless our mega-philanthropists * The Annual Percentage Yield (APY) is accurate as of 10/28/13. We may change word of the JEW-PS like they do the convene yesterday and agree to form an this promotional APY at any time without prior notice. Minimum deposit to open GPS, we would have no problems!” immediate multi-billion dollar plan to account and minimum balance to obtain APY is $500. CDs are subject to penalty for early withdrawal. Rates are subject to change at any time. Additional terms I wished I could stop the Jewish register every Jewish child for free into and restrictions may apply. FDIC deposit insurance is $250,000 per depositor. World right then and there, and make a Jewish day school, it’s game over for everyone listen. What a concept! almost all of us. Make that free Nursery Two weeks ago we presented the and Kindergarten and even grades 1 and CONTACT US TO LEARN MORE facts associated with the results of the 2. And throw in free Jewish camp too. 885 Teaneck Road, Teaneck, NJ 07666 Pew Survey on Jewish Identity, a study Hire the best actuarial group you can 1.877.55CRB55 www.crossriverbank.com which hit hard and often at the belly of fi nd, do the math and get to work. And

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By Meylekh Viswanath chai as saying that “Esau hates Yaak- ing through India and partly due to the man being. This is why even after 400 ov.” Since Esau is identifi ed elsewhere pro-Arab stance that the Indian govern- years of slavery in Egypt the Torah Meylekh Viswanath as the ancestor of Edom, this has been ment had for a long time.13 Many Hin- tells us that we may not oppress the will be running in the taken by some people as a statement du Indians have negatives attitudes to- stranger. Ki geyrim heyyithem be-erets NYC Marathon on Novem- that Christians (identifying Christians wards Muslims as a group and against mitsrayim—“for you were strangers in ber 3 to raise money for with Rome, the center of the Catholic lower-caste Hindus; similarly Muslim the land of Egypt” is a phrase that is re- victims of terror in Isra- faith) hate Jews. Others, including our think of Hindus as kaffi rs— “idolators peated over and over again in the To- el through the One Fami- Israeli rosh yeshiva (in a conversation and polytheists, and educated Muslims rah in various contexts to admonish us ly Fund. If you are interested in being a sponsor, with me), have extended this to the be- are contemptuous of the inequality of against negative actions and thoughts. please go to http://www.teamonefamily.org/pla- lief that all non-Jews hate Jews. Ignor- the Hindu caste system.”14 Clearly, as Jews, we have an ob- chikkatviswanath. You can get more informa- ing entirely the context of the state- On the other hand, in the U.S., I ligation to not be racist. But, equal- tion about the One Family Fund at 1029 Teaneck ment where Esau and Yaakov are the have personally been on the receiv- ly importantly, we need to speak out Road, Suite 3B, Teaneck, NJ 07666, tel: (866) 913- two personalities, the two brothers, ing end of some unpleasant experienc- against racism in our community, 2645. According to Charity Navigator, an inde- the two sons of Yitzkhak—not the na- es, both from Jews and from non-Jews, whenever and wherever it occurs and pendent monitoring organization, 77.3% of their tions, and certainly not the two groups because of my skin color and my ge- by whomever it might be perpetrated. total budget goes towards their programs. of non-Jews and Jews!7 ographical origin. For example, many In the words of Rabbi Jonathan Sacks But precisely because there do exist years ago, in Chicago, I sat down next (http://www.rabbisacks.org/ on para- n the fi rst part of this article, I pre- such false sources for gentile-hatred in to an elderly white lady on a city bus, shas Noah, Covenant and Conversa- Isented some ideas as to the origins Jewish texts, it is important that Jewish whereupon she promptly got up and tion 5774): “It is not enough to be right- of racism, discussed some problematic religious leaders be vigilant and speak moved elsewhere—even though there eous if that means turning our backs statements in the Talmud and suggest- up against hate-mongering and racism. was more than enough room for both on a society that is guilty of wrongdo- ed why those statements should not This applies not only to the extreme of us on the seat. I understood that ing. We must take a stand. We must be used as models for public discourse case of our Israeli rosh yeshiva, but the lady might have inherited her at- protest. We must register dissent even today. In this continuation, I will pre- also to other less extreme, but equal- titudes from her upbringing and didn’t if the probability of changing minds is sent some other Talmudic statements ly important, utterances. For example, hold it against her, especially given her small. That is because the moral life is and suggest how we, as individuals the late Rabbi Hershel Schachter, a re- advanced age, but I was certainly sad- a life we share with others. We are, in and as a group should respond to the spected and learned rosh yeshiva at the dened by her action. Another time, I some sense, responsible for the society disturbing phenomenon of racism in centrist Orthodox Yeshiva University, encountered a rather hostile recep- of which we are a part. It is not enough the Jewish community. referred to African-Americans as shvart- tion while eating dinner with a white to be good. We must encourage others In the tractate Pesachim (87b), there ses.8 While Yeshiva University did put girlfriend at a restaurant in a Lithuani- to be good.” is an interesting story that our Israeli out a press release stating that, “The an neighborhood on the south side of rosh yeshiva might have had in mind. recent use of a derogatory racial term Chicago. NOTES: A certain Roman sectarian declares and negative characterizations of Afri- I also know personally how easy it 7 See Dovbear’s blog http://dovbear.blogspot. that his people are better than Jews be- can-Americans and Muslims by a mem- is to fall into racist behavior. I remem- com/2010/11/what-esav-soneh-lyaakov-really- cause King David, in a short period of ber of the faculty are inappropriate, of- ber how at one time, I myself treated a means.html. six months, had killed every male in fensive ...,” none of our local Orthodox Gideon New Testament with less than 8 The Jewish Daily Forward, March 29, 2013. As a fl u- Edom (often identifi ed in the Talmud community rabbis, to my knowledge, complete respect, and my children ent speaker of Yiddish who uses it on a daily basis, with Rome) (I Kings 11:16), whereas the used the opportunity to condemn the called me out on my behavior. I real- I am well aware that the Yiddish word for black and Jews had been living in the Roman use of derogatory racial terms.9 Nei- ized that I was wrong, that I had violat- for blacks is shvartse, shvartses. If one were speak- empire for many years without being ther did R. Schachter, himself, apolo- ed the very precepts that I had taught ing in Yiddish, one would have few other options. killed. R. Oshaia, a Palestinian amora, gize for his negativity.10 The point is my children to follow. The point I However, in Jewish English, the word shvartse has a rebuts this claim saying that the only not that R. Schachter was a bad per- want to make is that we have to be on clear negative connotation. It is diffi cult to believe reason that the Romans have not killed son;11 rather, given R. Schachter’s prom- our guard lest we lapse into such be- that R. Schachter, a posek who rendered halakhic off the Jews is for fear of being called inence and the likelihood of ordinary havior; the fact that such behavior is decisions and who was thus supposed to be aware a murderous kingdom. And, in Rashi’s people learning from him, it is crucial common or natural in some sense does of the social and environment, did not know this. interpretation, the Roman acknowl- that rabbis speak out against the use of not mean that it can be condoned. Our 9 The use of pejorative terms such as sheygets and edges that his people are indeed con- such derogatory expressions.12 children should be taught that speech shiktse/shiksa and goy is far from unknown in our stantly occupied with this thought of After the Israeli rabbi whom I de- and behavior disrespectful of ethnic community. Although the term goy is not neces- how to exterminate the Jews without scribed at the beginning of this article and religious groups is not tolerated, sarily pejorative, it is often used with such intent, being taken to task. Some people may spoke in our shul, I am happy to report even when it emanates from individ- cf., such as in goyishe kop. Sheygets and shiktse are, interpret this story as telling us that that the following Shabbos, our own uals we teach our children to respect. invariably, used as slurs. non-Jews are constantly immersed rabbi gave a drasha distancing himself The Orthodox community has experi- 10 This is in contrast to other rabbis, who have apol- in planning the murder of Jews. But I and our shul from such vitriol. On the enced several instances of sexual mo- ogized for errors of commission or judgment. For think such a reading makes no sense other hand, a couple of years later, this lestation by rabbis and other people example, in 2003, R. Mordechai Willig, another rosh for two reasons. First of all, the Tal- hate-mongering rabbi was once again respected in the community; even if yeshiva at Yeshiva University apologized for mis- mud is constrained to come up with given an opportunity to speak in our we, as a community, have not yet tak- takes in the handling of the Baruch Lanner case. a strong counter-statement against synagogue; worse, shul members were en suffi ciently strong steps to prevent 11 In fact, even as I disagree with him on his use of the incontrovertible Biblical evidence encouraged to contribute to his yeshi- the recurrence of such behavior, we all such terms, I continue to believe that R. Schachter proffered by the sectarian regarding va. It seems we still have a long way to agree that it is unacceptable. We need was a scholar from whom one could have learned Jewish slaughter; hence the (overly) go in recognizing and redressing racist to take a similar stance against racist a lot; from whom I did indeed learn a lot. strong rebuttal. Second, we have no attitudes. speech and behavior. 12 My criticism of R. Schachter’s use of pejorative reason to infer from this that Romans But it’s not only rabbis and reb- The very fi rst book of the Bible tells terms has nothing to do with whether I consider by their nature, or Arabs by their na- bes that have such anti-other views. us that God made humans in His own Black Muslims dangerous as cellmates or not. The ture, are murderous—no more than we Many ordinary Jews have highly biased image. He made all humans in His own Nation of Islam, often referred to as the Black Mus- would infer from the evidence regard- views of non-Jews; very likely such image, not just Jews! The Bible is clear- lim movement, has indeed been condemned by ing King David that Jews are genocidal. views have been inherited from their ly telling us to respect the humanity some scholars as antisemitic. But whether that ac- The most we could conclude from this parents and grandparents who went in every person. Even if other people cusation is true or not, every human being has in- is that the Roman government might through the Holocaust. It is important do not recognize this fact, Jews have a herent worth and an accident of birth or skin color have been happy to get rid of a trouble- to make a distinction between under- special obligation to remember it and cannot be grounds for condemnation or for den- some people in a land that would oth- standing why somebody might have act upon it. Even if other groups act igration. erwise have happily agreed to be Hel- negative views of Eastern European hatefully towards us, we should not 13 Ironically enough, because of the nationalist Hin- lenized. In fact, what we have here is gentiles and allowing that understand- hate them. This doesn’t mean that we dutva movement in India, many Hindus are now something very particular that cannot ing to color one’s own views of gen- should not defend ourselves against vi- pro-Israel based on the notion that my enemy’s en- and should not be used as a basis for tiles. I, personally, though not of East- olence; it doesn’t mean that we should emy is my friend. generalization. ern European extraction, have been not recognize and protect ourselves 14 Kana Mitra, “Exploring the Possibility of Hindu- We have another similar misun- on both sides of the fence. Many of against violence perpetrated by vari- Muslim Dialogue,” http://www.interfaithdialog. derstood source for hatred of non- my relatives in India have/had antise- ous groups. It does mean that our ac- org/reading-room-main2menu-27/126-exploring- Jews in a commentary to Genesis 33:4. mitic stereotypes of Jews, partly inher- tions should not be motivated by hate the-possibility-of-hindu-muslim-dialogue, viewed There, Rashi quotes R. Shimon bar Yo- ited from the English/Americans pass- towards another human being qua hu- April 19, 2013.

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By Rabbi Dani Staum better trained in these areas. Following on their phones too while they are shop- rist after I got married (which incidental- are just a few of my suggestions: ping, but their conversations are about ly was the fi rst time I walked into a fl o- here is an ongo- Jewelry and Shaitels 101—$50 just everything and anything under the sun. A rist in my life) and the fl orist asked me Ting raging debate doesn’t cut it! As ancient wisdom teach- man’s shopping conversation however, is what I wanted, I replied that I wanted to whether our contem- es, if you want to remember your anni- centered around trying to fi gure out: which buy fl owers. When she asked me what porary educational versary, you only need to forget it once! brand, which aisle, and how many? How kind, I told her the ones that go in a vase system is adequate- My mother once quipped to me that she is a former yeshiva bochur supposed to and die a week later. Boy would it have ly preparing our chil- could buy four women’s hats for the price know what a parsnip looks like? The fi rst saved me some embarrassment if I knew dren for life. Many of the skills necessary of one of mine. I responded that I could time my wife told me to bring home pars- the difference between a rose, a hydran- for success in school are simply not so buy fi ve expensive hats for the price nips, I brought home horseradish. Now gea, and a cactus. important in life, and vice-versa. of her cheapest sheitel. Part of the class when I shop I often ask a passing female Last week I went to my usual fl orist The question is how should we best should include a fi eld trip to a local jew- shopper about certain vegetables. When to purchase Shabbos fl owers. She asked use our children’s formative years to give elry store. The students should look at all the woman invariably laughs at the ques- me if I wanted Baby’s Breath as fi ller, but them practical tools and knowledge that of the various types of jewelry and at the tion, I reply that the gemara doesn’t discuss I replied that, thank God, we have our they will be able to use for the rest of price tags. Then, when they get back from what a scallion looks like, or that a sweet own source of baby’s breath (and baby their lives. the store their rebbeim should convince potato is called a southern yam. crying) at home. Personally I have a few propositions them that they still must get married. Flowers 101—Before getting married If our yeshivos gave these three class- for topics and classes that I believe our Vegetables and Grocery Shopping 101— yeshiva guys have to realize that fl our is es it would help our young men tremen- yeshivos should be adopting. I, for one, Have you ever seen a man shopping with- not only the stuff that goes into cake and dously. Good luck fi nding male teachers would have had an easier time if I was out holding a cell-phone? Yes, women talk kugel. The fi rst time I walked into a fl o- to teach the classes... JEW IN THE CITY Self-Worth? Priceless: The Jewish Perspective on a Healthy Self-Image

Allison Josephs enough to speak. It’s a way to build up means the name, but is how observant It’s not egotistical to know that Reprinted with permission their self-esteem while simultaneous- Jews refer to G-d) you’re funny or smart or athletic. It’s ly teaching them where we derive self- Me: Who made you so beautiful? necessary so that you can be grate- here’s a little game worth from in Judaism. My kid: Hashem ful to the One who gave you your TI’ve been play- This is how it goes: Me: Who made you so funny and cute? strengths and so that you can make ing with my children Me: Who made you so smart? My kid: Hashem sure to use them to uniquely improve since they were old My kid: Hashem (which literally Me: Who makes you so good? the world. But it is also important to My kid: me remember where the talent comes I got the idea for this game based from so that you don’t come to take on a parable a friend once told me that credit for something that you are not went like this: If a beautiful object is re- responsible for. fl ected into a mirror, the mirror can’t say In truth, as the game with my chil- that it (the mirror) doesn’t look beautiful dren illustrates, the only thing that we because a) It wouldn’t be true and b) It control is the choices we make, for it would be an offense to the beautiful ob- says in the Talmud, “everything is in the ject refl ecting into it. hands of Heaven except for the fear of The mirror also can’t take credit for Heaven.” the beauty since the beauty doesn’t come Let’s choose to take an honest look at from the mirror itself but rather from the the talents we were endowed with, give beautiful object. What the mirror must thanks to the One who bestowed them say is that it is beautiful because some- upon us, and fi nd a way to give back with thing beautiful is refl ecting into it. the gifts we’ve been given. That is the Jewish way of looking at This article was originally published strengths and talents. We are all mirrors on www.jwrp.org refl ecting tiny pieces of God’s various at- Read more: http://jewinthecity. tributes and light. Therefore, we must be com/2013/03/self-worth-priceless-the- careful to acknowledge when a talent ex- jewish-perspective-on-a-healthy-self- ists within us. image/#ixzz2j4tQWGzP Hot Chanukah Meals On Wheels For Seniors Rockleigh—The Jewish Home Fami- possible. ly is pleased to announce a program to JHF is looking for individuals in Ber- help celebrate Chanukah by delivering gen County who are 65 or over or infi rm free, hot kosher meals to the homes of to call 201-784-1414, ext. 5532 by November seniors and the infi rm in Bergen Coun- 25th to register. Volunteers are also need- ty on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013. ed to help the Jewish Home perform this This will enable recipients to enjoy an mitzvah by delivering the meals to partic- effortless and joyous holiday. The pro- ipants. Please call 201-75004237 and speak gram is designed to satisfy the mission to Charlene Vannucci, Director of Volun- of the Jewish Home Family to help the teer Services at the Jewish Home at Rock- elderly stay in their homes as long as leigh.

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32 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 33 CHINUCH Lett er To The Editor In general, our practices are geared to-  CONTINUED FROM P. 28 Double Standard wards uniformity. Having everyone doing the same thing is an important val- Now, if both popular government and the By Yair Daar a value in Judaism. I don’t always get ue in Judaism. However, exceptions family are dispensed with, what can await us? that impression. I have one other issue, can be made for individuals, especial- Most clear-eyed observers of U.S. history in Consider the following conversa- though. ly when in the interest of religious recent decades already know the inevitable con- tion between a Rabbi and a Ba’al Teshu- Rabbi: Sure, let’s hear it. growth. sequences: (1) the loss of popular rule leads to a va: BT: I know that there is a very specif- BT: Thanks for all your help! You government with hardly any recognizable lim- Rabbi: So what can I do for you? ic way that we are supposed to daven. have been very understanding. it—from violations of religious liberty by Sec- BT: I’ve been struggling lately with We daven in shul, with a minyan, and The points made by the Ba’al Tehu- retary Sebelius, to property confi scation by the tefi llah, and I’d like your advice. with a very specifi c posture. I get that va in this conversation could just as EPA, to the continued manipulation of public Rabbi: Go ahead, I’m listening. there are reasons for that. But I don’t al- easily come out of the mouth of a Jew- education by unions (at ever greater expense), BT: Well, the fi rst issue is the length ways connect to God in that way. I ap- ish teenager (although maybe not as re- to home invasions by a militarized police force of davening. I tend to lose momentum preciate nature and solitude as a way spectfully). However, our students and (see the Boston lockdown); and (2) the break-up way before the end, which distress me to God more than I do connecting to children often don’t get responses that of the family leads to steep rises in illegitima- a little because I don’t really feel like others. I often fi nd minyan at shul re- refl ect the same amount of patience cy, indigence (especially for unmarried mothers I’m getting anything out of it, and I’m stricting and noisy—even when there and understanding. and their children), violent crime, ill health, and wasting my time. If there was a way isn’t talking. Is there an alternative? Now, consider the following Jewish domestic abuse (most often by boyfriends). to cut some out, or just stop earlier, I Rabbi: What you pose is an interest- Day School classics: But for those who haven’t been paying atten- would probably appreciate davening ing dilemma. On one hand there is the “It’s like going to a doctor. Since tion, the state of New Jersey will serve as yet an- more. importance of keeping with traditional the doctor knows best, you trust his other glaring warning. If it wasn’t obvious be- Rabbi: That is a very common prob- practices, and on the other hand, these advice. It’s the same with rabbis. They fore that bureaucracies and judges have replaced lem; you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. practices seem to be restricting you. knew best how to have a relationship popular government, and that they’re doing eve- For now, I would suggest maybe pick- BT: Exactly. I understand the impor- with God, so you should trust that the rything possible to implement the radical left’s ing a few parts of davening that you tance of keeping up with ancient prac- words they chose are best for that.” anti-family, pro-poverty agenda, it’s quite obvi- connect to, saying those and leaving tices. I want to connect in that way. “If we make an exception for one ous now. And it’s quite obvious, too, that Chris- out the rest. But when it comes to prayer, I think person, next thing you know, everyone tie is just another Republican politician who BT: But then won’t I be skipping im- the negatives of traditional practice far is going to think he can do whatever he cares more about staying in offi ce than fi ghting portant parts of davening? outweigh the positives for me at this wants, and we can’t have that!” for principle. Rabbi: True. But that’s not what’s point. “If you aren’t connecting to it, you Don’t vote for Christie. He is likely to win important right now. Your goal should Rabbi: I would say to try and fi nd probably aren’t giving it enough of a the election, but conservatives shouldn’t do an- be to keep growing, not to do every- a compromise. Alternate between go- chance. Give it another shot, and then ything to widen his margin of victory. Make him thing at once. You can add another tef- ing to minyan and davening in soli- we can talk in a few weeks.” sweat and worry and doubt that he’s taken the illah each week, or month, or whatever tude. Try and fi nd ways to make min- Sound familiar? right course. Even in the Northeast, conserva- interval works for you until you build yan more meaningful, and see where We don’t like to compare those tives can and should expect better. up to saying everything. that goes. who are working towards a more ob- Josh Levy BT: That would be a much better BT: But isn’t it a problem not to dav- servant life to those who are expected Teaneck, NJ idea. Thanks for being understand- en with a minyan? to be frum. But are they really so differ- ing. It’s good to know that patience is Rabbi: I wouldn’t call it a problem. ent? e Gan inu

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By Mark Staum, LCSW titled, “Losing is Good For You” (Septem- dren up for Little League, nor is it meant this hard for any future assignments in ber 24, 2013), Ashley Merryman quotes to deter parents from trying to push their the class. o you sign up your her own research (along with a colleague, children to succeed in different academ- Shmuel, a 12-year-old boy speaks to Dkid for a team sport Po Bronson) that suggests that children ic, social and recreational contexts. The his parents on camp visiting day. He tells because you want him receiving nonstop recognition does not above research, however, does suggest them that he has the “worst bunk ever” to win the champion- inspire our children to succeed. Instead, that there is real value in helping our and that he wants to go home immedi- ship trophy? Is it your goal for him to be it may cause them to underachieve. She children deal with setbacks. ately. on the winning team or the MVP? Does further quotes the research of Dr. Carol Beyond losing the championship In the three cited examples there may it matter if he wins or loses? Or are you Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stan- game in the local yeshiva baseball league, be valid reasons for parents to address relieved and happy for him to receive a ford University who has studied the ef- there are numerous opportunities for their concerns to the school administra- trophy for participating? In an article en- fect of praise on children, that children parents to communicate with their chil- tion, classroom teacher or camp staff/ titled “Not Everyone Deserves a Trophy,” respond positively to praise and like to dren about setbacks. Let’s cite a few ex- head counselor. However, there is also Sara Debbie Gutfreund advises parents hear about their strengths and positive amples: a signifi cant benefi t in parents helping that when signing their children up for attributes. However, after hearing such David, a 4th grade student, is visibly their children manage academic and so- recreational sports, they should stay far praise, children will “collapse at the fi rst upset on the 1st day of school. When his cial setbacks. In the next article, we will away from programs that promise that sign of diffi culty.” In this article, there mother asks him why he is so upset, Da- review these three examples and discuss all children who participate will receive was a research study of 4-year-old chil- vid tells his mother that he only has one how parents and children can collaborate trophies. The author comments that she dren who were told that they had an in- friend in his class from last year. He re- together to deal with various setbacks. was raised in a certain “trophy culture” nate ability to draw, versus other chil- quests that his mother call the school to where children (including herself) would dren who were simply asked to draw a have his class switched. Mark Staum, LCSW is the school therapist for the constantly receive trophies for participa- picture. Those who were praised for hav- Gila, a 6th grade student, is visibly up- PTACH program @ MTA. He maintains a local pri- tion in Little League and other activities. ing an innate ability to draw were twice set after getting a C on her science pro- vate practice in Teaneck, NJ, where he sees children, She suggests that continuous recogni- as likely to be fi xated on making mis- ject. She tells her father that she spent 6 adolescents, young adults and families. For question does not allow children to appropri- takes as the other group of children. hours on this project and she has never tions or comments about this article, please con- ately deal with setbacks, disappointment Our children all have innate abilities. worked so hard on any academic assign- tact [email protected] . To learn more about and struggle. The above cited research is not meant as ment. She tells her father that she has Mark, please email me or feel free to look at my web In a New York Times Op-Ed article en- a deterrent to parents to sign their chil- “given up” and she will no longer work site, www.markstaum.com

The needs of seniors are a high priori- the State Assembly against heavy odds Jewish. She also talked about what it Buono Takes ty for her. She strongly supports the pilot in 1994, and was elected to the State Sen- felt like to be in the mikvah with her in- project to help seniors stay in their own ate in 2001—where she served as Chair fant child in her arms as they were con- Stage at JCRC homes and age in place. She believes pub- of the Senate Budget and Appropriations verted. lic transportation is vital for this group as Committee, and then was chosen by her Buono has worked with Federation Forum well as for those with special needs and colleagues to be the fi rst woman Senate to help them provide social services and says that existing transportation needs to Majority Leader. highlighted her long-standing working  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 be more accessible. The resulting lack of Though she prefers to keep her pri- relationships with many people in at- independence of seniors leads to depres- vate life private, the current campaign tendance. She also announced that Con- “New Jersey’s citizens want a dramatic sion with its accompanying limitations has prompted her to discuss her daugh- gresswoman Debbie Wasserman-Schultz, re-ordering in the state’s priorities,” said on living a full life. ter’s sexual orientation and her Jewish Chair of the national Democratic Party, Buono. She accused of Christie weaken- She also noted that while Governor faith. She became a Jew by choice after had endorsed her in her run as Governor ing the social safety net at a time when Christie has traveled to Israel and seeks she married her fi rst husband, who was of New Jersey. more people are in need of assistance. Jewish support, he has cut funding to “The safety net helps people weather the NJ-Israel Trade Commission by elimi- storms and lift themselves up.” She said nating its director and its offi ce in Israel. now tour guides in Israel will be run- that one way to help the working poor, Senator Buono is a member of the com- Who’s Left ning “legacy trips” to Teaneck and the who often hold more than one job, is to mission and knows that it meets very in- Five Towns to show our great-grand- increase the minimum wage so that they frequently. Standing in the children how we once all lived, much can support their families. While Buono Buono, the daughter of Italian immi- like we now visit Poland and Russia, is a strong advocate of raising the mini- grants, attributed her success in life to Pew? Part 2 Germany and Hungary. And you can mum wage, Gov. Christie has vetoed an her attendance at Montclair State Uni- bet the tour participants will each have increase. Part of the social safety net is versity, where she earned her degree in  CONTINUED FROM P. 30 the latest GPS, as they won’t recognize provided by non-profi t agencies, like political science, and was the recipient the place. those supported by Federation, for which of a three percent National Defense Stu- make aliyah to Israel, thus leaving Buono works to provide resources from dent loan. When she couldn’t fi nd a job the Yeshivish/Chareidi movement Robert Katz has been a Bergen County resident the state. She also advocates incentives after graduating, she earned a law de- as being the only viable, fl ourish- for 25 years and has been a Jewish communal pro- for charitable giving, on which social ser- gree at New York University, specializing ing form of traditional Jewry left in fessional since graduating Yeshiva Unversity in vice agencies are heavily dependent. in the public interest. She won a seat in America. 1985. He can be reached for comments at: rkatz@ To extrapolate, 10 generations from jewishlinkbc.com

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By Avigael (Stephanie) Behavior analytic interventions are Leah’s behavior of cleaning up her room. One very important aspect of ABA is Saucier Wodinsky, PhD, MEd, based upon a very simple formula: A à Likewise, Yosef’s parents reinforce that it is completely data driven. In other MBA, GAC-AI, GAC-ABA B à C. That is, antecedent, behavior and his behavior by hugging him whenever words, for each program, every response consequence. Every behavior is pre- he cries after being told “no.” As a result, is recorded and graphed. This allows the ccording to the Cent- ceded by some environmental occur- Yosef cries every time he is told “no.” Af- teacher or therapist to know, with cer- Aer for Disease Control rence (the antecedent) and is followed ter realizing they are encouraging Yosef’s tainty, what skills have been mastered and Prevention (Autism by a consequence. A reinforcing conse- behavior, his parents start to ignore his and when to move on to another stim- Spectrum Disorders, Data and Analysis, quence is one that increases the likeli- crying after being told “no.” As a result, ulus within a particular skill, or when to 2013), an average of 1 in 88 children have hood that the behavior will occur again Yosef’s crying decreases, and eventually move on to another skill altogether. some type of autism spectrum disorder in the future. An extinguishing conse- stops. This is clearly extinction. It should be noted that applied be- (ASD). Individuals with an ASD typically quence is one that decreases the likeli- In order to begin an ABA interven- havior analysis is not only the inter- have diffi culties with social skills, com- hood that the behavior will occur again tion, one must determine what skills are vention commonly known as discreet munication and behavior. As a spectrum in the future. to be taught. Generally, skills are chosen trial training (Anderson & Romanczyk, disorder, those with autism can present Typical ABA interventions are built for their utility or in order to help reduce 1990). Other forms of ABA include Inci- with a wide variety of symptoms, which around a theory of reinforcement and problem behaviors. Once a skill (or skills) dental Teaching, Verbal Behavior, Pivot- can range from mild to quite severe. extinction. In other words, some event is chosen, a curriculum will be devised. al Response Training and several others. At this time, there are many types comes after a behavior and then causes Each skill is taught via a teaching pro- While many other types of interventions of interventions available for individu- the individual to perform more of that gram. A program generally follows the exist and are widely used (such as DIR/ als with ASDs. Applied behavior analy- behavior (reinforcement). One of the Aà B à C structure mentioned above. Floortime, TEACCH, and sensory integra- sis (ABA) is one such intervention. As one key aspects of ABA is determining what For example, a child with autism may tion therapy), to date, only behavior an- of the only empirically tested treatments items, events, and conditions are rein- be unable to answer yes/no questions in- alytic interventions have been scientifi - for autism, it is a scientifi c approach that forcing for each individual. A reinforc- tuitively. In order to teach the child to cally tested and documented as to their seeks to determine which environmen- er could be a particular food, activity, or respond “yes” appropriately, a program effi cacy in terms of cognitive function- tal factors affect behavior in a way that is even a special scent. An extinguishing could be devised. The antecedent might ing, language skills, and academic per- socially important. Further, it uses those intervention, then, is one in which the be the teacher asking, “Is this an or- formance (Howard, Sparkman, Cohen, same factors to help change problemat- delivery of a reinforcer is discontinued ange?” while holding an orange in front Green, & Stanislaw, 2005). Either alone, ic behaviors. and, as such, the likelihood of the behav- of the child. The desired behavior is a or as part of a comprehensive treatment Applied behavior analysis is not an ior occurring in the future is decreased. “yes” response. The reinforcing conse- plan, ABA is proven effective as a behav- intervention intended solely for use For example, Mom lets Leah go out- quence could be giving the child a small ioral intervention. with autism spectrum disorders. Rath- side to play after she cleans up her room. piece of orange to eat. Prompting may be Adapted from an article that original- er, it is an intervention strategy for any If Leah cleans up her room more often required at fi rst, but would be decreased ly appeared in Building Blocks Magazine. problematic behavior. Even typically in the future, going outside to play is a and eventually discontinued over time. developing children and their families reinforcer. The procedure of letting Leah For the skill to be generalized, the child Dr. Wodinsky is a social skills therapist at Te- can benefi t from approaches developed go outside to play after cleaning up her would practice responding “yes” appro- aneck Speech and Language Center. She works from applied behavior analysis (Latham, room is reinforcement. Mom isn’t rein- priately to a variety of stimuli, eventual- with individuals and groups and can be reached at 1994). forcing Leah. Rather, she is reinforcing ly without prompting. [email protected].

other outright rejects all for which they VaYechi, when Yaakov blesses each of To Each His Own stand? his children as his death is near, the pas- No doubt Yitzchak and Rivkah were uk concludes that portion —Vayevarech By Adina Lederer Examining the previous generation the ideal role models, steeped with im- Otam Ish Aher Kvirchato Berach Otam. makes the question even stronger. In peccable middot serving Hashem befi t- Yaakov gave each of his sons a blessing n Parshat Toldot the case of Yitzchak and Yishmael, while ting our patriarchs and matriarchs. Rav that was appropriate to their own abili- Iwe read the story they both had Avraham as a father, they Shimshon Refael Hirsch suggests that ties—he realized that it is impossible to of Yaakov and Esav. had different mothers and Sarah made the lesson the Torah is teaching us here is expect children to be exactly alike and Yaakov—Ish tam yo- sure to banish Yishmael and Hagar once that sometimes that may not be enough. that for each one to achieve greatness, shev ohalim, the one Yitzchak was born so as to not infl uence Yitzchak and Rivkah, with all their great- whether it be as a scholar, a fi ghter or a who is destined to be Yitzchak. Growing up in the wilderness, ness, did not understand that different merchant, they must be educated differ- one of the Avot, father of the Shvatim for away from the infl uence and care of an children require different approaches. ently in order to tap into their strengths. which the Jewish people will be named. Avraham and Sarah, it is no surprise that One needs to raise an Esav differently This is the precept that is expressed by And then we have Esav—his twin broth- Yishmael fulfi lled his destiny as a Pereh than raising a Yaakov. They failed to rec- Shlomo HaMelech in Mishle—Chanoch er, a highly deceptive individual, who Adam. But what is Esav’s excuse? He ognize that for someone who was to be a HaNa’ar Al Pi Darko. prefers to spend his days out and about grew up in the same household as Yaak- hunter —Ish Yodea Tzayid, Ish Sadeh—he As parents and educators it is incum- hunting animals. While we know not all ov—sons of Yitzchak Avinu and Rivkah needed a different educational and child- bent on us to understand our own chil- siblings are the same (nor should they Imeinu. How could it be that one son ful- rearing model. They needed to fi gure out dren and students, to embrace their be), how can two brothers, identical ly embraces his parents’ beliefs and fol- how to harness his natural talents, his differences so that we can help them twins no less, be so different? lows in the path of Hashem while the strength, skills and courage so that he achieve greatness in their own way. could serve Hashem in the way that was appropriate for him. Adina Lederer is the Head of Elementary School Referrals By: Yaakov learned this lesson and ap- Support at Yeshivat Noam and is an ACPI-certifi ed We Refer LLC 201-791-1230 plied it to his own parenting. In Parshat Coach for Parents and Families. Gail Hochman [email protected]

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By Daniel Chazin

he New Jersey Section of the Palisades Interstate Park Tfeatures two main trails: the Long Path along the cliffs and the Shore Trail along the Hudson River. This moderate fi ve-mile loop hike combines a walk along the top of the Palisades cliffs with a stroll along the river, passing several outstanding viewpoints and interesting ruins of former estates. It should take the average hiker about three hours to complete. To reach the trailhead, take the Palisades Interstate Parkway to Exit 2 (Alpine), follow signs to Police Head- quarters, and park in the parking lot for the Administra- es of the Long Path and the orange blazes of the Closter that once graced the Palisades cliffs. The properties on tion Building. Dock Trail. Turn left at the T-intersection and continue which these estates once stood were acquired by the Begin the hike by proceeding downhill on the Alpine ahead parallel to the Parkway on your right. Park for the construction of the Parkway. Approach Road past the Administration Building and In a few minutes, you’ll notice a tunnel under the About a mile south of the trailhead, as the trail turns bear left onto a wide footpath at the “Path to River” sign. Parkway to the right. Here, the orange blazes turn off, right at a T-intersection, you’ll notice the stone ruins of You’ll soon reach a tunnel under the road. Turn right, but you should continue ahead, parallel to the Park- a large building on the left. This was the “Cliff Dale” es- proceed through the tunnel, and climb stone steps on way, following the aqua blazes. Soon, you’ll pass by old tate of George Zabriskie, built in 1911 (the date is still vis- the other side. You’re now following both the aqua blaz- stone foundations and walls, remnants of large estates ible in the stonework of the building). The ruins that remain are only the basement portion of the building. Use caution if you wish to explore the ruins of this once- magnifi cent structure. In another half mile, you’ll reach the Alpine Lookout, with outstanding views over the Hudson River. The trail follows a paved sidewalk along an iron railing around ANNUAL DINNER the perimeter of the lookout. This was the site of the 2 0 1 3 SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 10, 2013 AT 5:30 PM “Rio Vista” estate, the home of Manuel Rionda (his man- A M I T or house was located just south of the lookout). After reentering the woods, the trail reaches a fenced-in par- apet that juts out over the river, with even better views up and down the river. In another third of a mile, the trail approaches the Parkway. Just ahead, a sign and three red blazes mark the start of the Huyler’s Landing Trail. Turn left and follow this red-blazed trail which descends to the river along the route of an old road (in places, the road has narrowed to a footpath). After a sharp switchback to the right, the trail emerges on the paved Henry Hud- son Drive. Turn left, follow the paved road for 300 feet, then bear right at a chain and continue to descend on a wide woods road. You’ll reach the river at an old picnic area, with an abandoned stone jetty just ahead. Turn left and follow the white-blazed Shore Trail, which follows a path between the cliffs on the left and the river on the right, passing several former beaches along the river. In half a mile, the trail climbs stone steps and fol- HONORING lows a path above the river level. After crossing a wooden bridge over a stream, you’ll pass a plaque affi xed to Ina & David Tropper a rock on the left placed in memory of John Jordan, the fi rst Superintendent of the Park, who died here in 1915. Stacey & David Kanbar A short distance beyond, you’ll reach a grassy area Chana & Daniel Shields at the southern end of the Alpine Boat Basin. Continue ANNUAL DINNER CHAIRS north through the parking area, then proceed past the Jill & Yoni Ellman historic Kearney House, a small white building on the Caryn & Avi Golombeck left which is the oldest building in the Park. The oldest Robin & Shukie Grossman part of the house— which once served as Park Headquar- HONORING THE MEMORY OF ters—dates back to the 18th century. The Kearney House Rona & Ira Kellman was signifi cantly damaged during Hurricane Sandy in Jacques Semmelman October 2012 and is currently being restored. Just beyond the Kearney House, you’ll notice a plaque ANNUAL DINNER CO-CHAIRS Esther Semmelman z”l on the left entitled “Old Alpine Trail,” which states that the trail you are about to use to climb the Palisades was Debbie Isaac used by British troops in 1776 during the American Rev- PRESIDENT HONORED GUEST olution. (As an adjacent sign points out, the information MK Rabbi Shai Piron on this 85-year-old plaque is no longer considered to be For more information contact Robin Rothbort historically accurate.) Bear left here and climb the old MINISTER OF EDUCATION stone-paved road. At the top of the rise, turn sharply left at 212-477-4725, 1-800-989-AMIT FOR THE STATE OF ISRAEL and continue uphill on the road, now marked with the or [email protected]. orange blazes of the Closter Dock Trail. When you reach the underpass on the left, continue ahead to the Admin- istration Building, where the hike began. Pier-Sixty-Chelsea Piers, YOU CAN MAKE RESERVATIONS This hiking article is provided by Daniel Chazin of the New York-New Jer- AND JOURNAL ADS ONLINE AT NEW YORK CITY sey Trail Conference, a volunteer organization that builds and maintains WWW.AMIT2013ANNUALDINNER.COM. over 1,850 miles of hiking trails. The Trail Conference also publishes many trail maps and guidebooks, including a fi v e-map set for Hudson Pali- sades Trails ($8.95). For more information, go to www.nynjtc.org or e- mail [email protected].

40 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM FOOD: THE HEIMISHE HOMEMAKER Move Over Leftovers

By Gail Hochman. etables in a pot. Bring to a boil spoon of your meat/veggie mix- and reduce heat. Simmer about ture on eggroll and roll up. Seal ith all the 10-15 minutes and taste. Adjust with glue. Fry them in hot oil Wcooking seasoning with beef soup mix, till brown. that we tend salt and pepper to taste. Enjoy!!! to do for Shab- bosim and yom tovim and oth- Savti’s Eggrolls Truffles with Broken Cake er celebratory occasions, there I save up leftover chicken We all have cakes that fl op, is bound to be leftovers. Some and/or meat and keep in a zi- break or crack, and there usual- people cannot be bothered and plock bag in the freezer until I ly are ways to camoufl age these they quickly throw them away. have enough to use up. (Again, mishaps. When you have tried Others use every morsel that you’ll have to gauge.) all options to resurrect your they can and become very crea- Buy eggroll wrappers in your cake, but to no avail, there are tive. I, too, have a very hard time local supermarket. always things you can do so as throwing away leftovers, so I try Sauté a bunch of onions, not to waste not only your hard to use them in a practical and shredded cabbage, and carrots work, but your ingredients as new way each time. that have been shredded. You well. Many people use the bro- Here are three great options can also add mushrooms and/ ken cake to make trifl es, which for using up leftovers: or Chinese vegetables if you is always a great and effi cient want as well, but this is not nec- way of using up the cake. Here Cholent Soup (Yes, essary. After this mixture is sof- is another example of what you but it’s great!!!!) tened, then add in your meat could do: Cholent that you should shred or chop This is a fabulous truffl e reci- 1 lb. baking chocolate, either the oven at 200). Dip frozen Water fi nely. Add some soy sauce. pe I am going to share with you white or dark balls into chocolate mixture. Noodles or Rice, Cook for about 10 more min- that comes out very well. In- (If you are using a lot of cake Coat with sprinkles, nuts, co- 1 bag frozen mixed vegeta- utes. Cool. In the meantime, stead of using cookie crumbs, I then double, triple the other in- conut or whatever you want.. bles make a “glue” that will hold to- have substituted broken choc- gredients.) I keep the fi nished truffl es in Beef soup mix gether your eggroll. In a small olate cake and it works just as Combine cookies (or cake the freezer and pop them out You have to estimate quan- bowl, mix together some fl our well. crumbs) with cream cheese as needed. Enjoy!!!! tities depending on how much and water until it becomes glue 1 18 oz. package of sandwich in mixer. Beat on low speed. cholent you have left over and like. Then take out one wrap- cookies crushed (you have to Form into 1 inch balls. Freeze Gail Hochman has been a resident how much soup you want per at a time and position as di- gauge with the cake) balls for about an hour. In the of Bergen County, NJ for over 30 years, to make. Put cholent, water, rected in picture on package. 1 8 oz. package of tofutti meanwhile, melt chocolate in has three wonderful children who have cooked noodles or rice and veg- Put approximately one table- cream cheese double boiler (or I melt it in blessed her with many grandchildren. This Year’s Thanksnukkah Menu: Latkes, Doughnuts and Turkey

ew York—Because of a quirk in the Remove pancakes and place on a Ncalendar, the fi rst day of Chanukah draining rack or on oil absorbent paper. this year falls on Thanksgivings Day, Place in 325 oven for 10 minutes. something that has not happened in - See more at: http://www.kosherculi- many years and is not scheduled to hap- naryarts.com/chef-avram%E2%80%99s- pen again for 77,000+ years. What this apple-cranberry-latkes#sthash.DNuAK- means is that the customary promotions tT2.dpuf for the two holidays will merge this year. Look for the FSI’s to include tur- SUNKIST’S Nutty Orange key along with the traditional Chanukah Relish Recipe foods of latkes and doughnuts. Combin- Ingredients: ing the foods, say kosher food experts, is • 2 cups golden raisins not such a bad idea. One said that latkes • boiling water can be used for an entrée, the turkey as • 3 Sunkist® oranges, peeled and cut a main dish and the doughnuts for des- into chunks serts. One retailer said that the fusion of • 3 Tbsp. chopped crystallized ginger the two holidays may not to be to his ad- • 1 Sunkist® oranges, unpeeled and cut vantage since Jews were also big on buy- into chunks ing turkey, cranberry sauce and stuffi ng. • 1 cup packed light brown sugar He hoped that the tradition would con- • 1 cup coarsely chopped walnuts tinue despite spinning the dreidel and Instructions: (Makes 4 servings) eating latkes and doughnuts. • 4 Granny Smith or Mutzu Apples cess juices by tossing grated mixture in a Cover the raisins with boiling water See more at: http://www.kosher- (about 1 1.5 pounds) pasta strainer or by gently wringing with and let stand 10 minutes. Drain and re- culinaryarts.com/contact-us#sthash. • 3 extra large eggs a cloth. serve the raisins. a2wQZAfD.dpuf • 7 tbsp (3 oz.) all purpose fl our Break eggs into a bowl. Add grated, In a food processor or blender, com- • 7 tbsp (3 oz.) medium matzah meal drained potato mixture, baking powder, bine the peeled oranges and ginger; Chef Avram’s Apple- • 3/4 cup dried cranberries fl our, matzah meal and all seasonings purse until almost smooth. Cranberry Latkes • 1 cup vegetable oil and blend well with a wooden spoon. Add unpeeled orange and blend until Chef Avram Wiseman of CKCA shares • 1 tsp. Baking powder Taste, mix and adjust seasoning as nec- coarsely chopped. the following delicious sweet/savory rec- • 1 tsp. Sugar essary. Fold in dry cranberries and blend In a bowl, combine the orange mix- ipe for apple cranberry latkes that will be • 2 tsp. Coarse salt well. ture, drained raisins, brown sugar, and of great use this fall. You might even like • white pepper to taste Heat a cast iron fry pan or medium walnuts; stir to dissolve the sugar. it so much you’ll trot it out again come Procedure: sauteuse with 1/8 inch of oil. Drop bat- Pour into sterilized 1/2-pint jars with Hanukkah. Either way, enjoy! Wash and peel apples and place in ter mixture into oil, in desired shape lids, fi lling to within 1/2 inch of the top; Ingredients: a bowl of cold acidulated water (water and size, by using a spoon or scoop. Fry cover. • 7 medium-sized all purpose potatoes, with a tsp of lemon juice or vinegar). over medium heat until a deep brown is Will keep refrigerated up to two peeled (2 pounds) Coarsly grate the potatoes, onion and ap- achieved. Turn pancakes and fi nish cook- weeks. The relish thickens when • 1 medium onion (about 8 oz.) ples into a medium bowl. Drain all ex- ing. chilled.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 41 GOOD TASTE Skirting the Issue: Grilled Marinated Skirt Steak in Lettuce Wraps

By Lisa Dobi 1 T. chopped fresh ginger ½ cup chopped plain ½ cup chopped cilantro peanuts (see technique he writing is on the wall: fewer and 4 tsp. sugar below) Tfewer families are sitting down to a 3 scallions, chopped Slice the cucumbers dinner table where beef is the featured 2 T. sesame oil into thin rounds. In the entrée. Between concerns about high ¾ cup soy sauce same bowl you will use fat and cholesterol, and the growing evi- 1 tsp. chili oil to serve, toss with the dence against aspects of factory farming, 2½ quart non-reactive pot or glass rice vinegar, sugar, salt a large steak dinner raises more red fl ags bowl and red pepper fl akes. than excitement. What to do when the Cut the skirt steak into 3 ½ to 4 inch Pare the carrot and craving calls for steak? strips. Combine the remaining ingredi- discard the outer lay- The solution: This take on Korean ents in the glass bowl or non-reactive er. Continue running barbeque features grilled or broiled skirt pot. Immerse the steak pieces in the mar- the parer all around the carrot to create immediately fold in the rice vinegar. Cov- steak served in lettuce wraps. It offers a inade. If the steak is not fully covered about one cup of ribbons. er and place on the table along with the terrifi c way to feature the fl avor and tex- with the marinade, add more beer. Cov- Slice the Asian pear into sticks and assorted bowls and plated additions. ture of the cut, while keeping the ratio of er and refrigerate for 48 hours. toss with the lemon juice to avoid discol- Remove the steak from the mari- meat to fresh produce in check. Steak is On the day you serve, remove the oration. nade. Grill or broil until the center of the star, but in a more nutritious context. meat from the refrigerator an hour and a Easy technique for creating small the meat is reddish pink. If you prefer a The additional components are sliced half before grilling or broiling. While the pieces of peanuts: place the peanuts into more done product, cook until pink in- or chopped and served in bowls, allow- meat is losing its chill, prepare the vege- a strong zipper bag. Lay the bag fl at on side. Remember: meat keeps cooking af- ing everyone to create their own lettuce tables and then the rice. the kitchen counter. Run a rolling pin ter you remove it from the heat source. wraps. This meal is not only delicious; For the vegetables: over the pieces until they are just light- Do not overcook; the steak will become it’s particularly enjoyable for the young- 2 heads of iceberg lettuce, large outer ly crushed. too chewy. Let the meat rest, loosely cover family members who are required to leaves removed, carefully washed, dried, Prepare the rice: ered with foil, for fi ve minutes. Slice “play with their food.” You will be de- and piled on a wide plate 2 cups short grain white rice; Japanese thinly against the grain. Place on a warm lighted with the results! 1 cucumber sushi rice is ideal plate. Sprinkle with some of the chopped The skirt steak is marinated for two 1 tsp. rice vinegar 4 cups water, plus water for rinsing cilantro. solid days, so think ahead when plan- ¼ tsp. sugar the rice The assembly: each diner places a let- ning this dinner. The steak and rice are Dash of salt ½ - ¾ tsp. salt tuce leaf on his or her plate, and places the only ingredients you will cook and Dash of red pepper fl akes 1 T. rice vinegar about 1½ teaspoons of rice in the center those are just before you serve the meal. 1 medium carrot, ribboned Sriracha hot sauce for the table of the leaf, tops the rice with two slices What you need to serve a family of ½ cup scallions, sliced and placed in Rinse the rice two or three times in of skirt steak, then adds carrots, cucum- three or four: a small bowl cold water. Bring four cups of water to ber slices, scallions, cilantro, Asian pear, 1½ -2 pounds of trimmed skirt steak 1 Asian pear or one small Macintosh a boil. Stir in the salt and sugar. Add the peanuts and if desired, dots of Sriracha. 2 12 oz. bottles beer. Choose a full bod- apple and 1 Bosc pear rice and cover, turning the heat down to Fold the leaf into a small packet, eat, en- ied product rather than “lite.” ½ tsp. lemon juice low. While the rice is cooking, preheat joy and repeat! Serve with plenty of pa- 3 cloves garlic, chopped or sliced thin ½ - ¾ cup coarsely chopped cilantro the grill or broiler. When the rice is done, per napkins! OVER THE KOSHER KITCHEN SINK

cook until fragrant, about one minute. Flavor Per Calorie Stir in sesame oil and pepper fl akes. Pour over broccoli and toss well. Let sit for at By Rayzel Yaish weight. He came up with an approach healthy to make me feel satisfi ed. Israe- least one hour at room temperature. Ad- where he would not stop enjoying the li salad with lemon juice salt and pep- just seasonings and serve. ’ve been reading an inter- taste and fl avor of food. He calls his ap- per, a pomelo bursting with sweetness, Inspired by a recipe from Cooking Iesting book that I found proach “Flavor Per Calorie” and it means roasted garlic spread on a piece of chal- Light, September 2008. in the amazing Bergen- that he cooks and chooses to eat foods lah, these foods all have high fl avor per fi eld library. It is called that maximize the amount of fl avor in calorie! Barbecue Roasted Salmon Culinary Intelligence: The Art of Eating every bite. He squashes the approach of In keeping with this week’s “Health and ¼ cup pineapple juice Healthy and Really Well by prolifi c food eating bland foods that do not tempt Fitness” theme, here are two of my oldie 2 T lemon juice writer Peter Kaminsky. the palate, arguing that fl avor does not but goodie recipes that are bursting with 4 salmon fi llets As a food writer, I related to his chal- have to be lost in healthy eating. I agree fl avor, demonstrating cooking techniques 2 T brown sugar lenge. Peter loved tasting food and in his and thought about some of my favorite that maximize fl avor per calorie and are 4 tsp. chili powder line of work was reaching an unhealthy foods that do not rely on anything un- full of good health as well. Hashem gives ¾ tsp. ground cumin us food to nourish our bodies, it makes ½ tsp. salt sense to enjoy the experience. ¼ tsp. ground cinnamon From the New York Times, February, Cooking spray 2008 Combine the fi rst three ingredients in a zip-top bag. Seal and marinate for one Garlicky Sesame Cured Broccoli hour in the refrigerator. Preheat oven to 11/2 tsp. red wine vinegar 400°. Remove fi sh from bag, discard mari- 1 tsp. kosher salt, more to taste nade. Combine sugar and next fi ve ingre- 2 heads broccoli cut into bite size fl o- dients in a bowl. Rub over fi sh, place in rets or frozen broccoli fl orets, thawed baking dish coated with cooking spray and drained and bake at 400° for 12 minutes. ¾ cup olive oil 4 garlic cloves minced Chavie Hagler and Rayzel Yaish are two Bergen 2 tsp. cumin seeds countybasedfull-time working mothers who havea 2 tsp. roasted sesame oil passion for delicious food! We are delighted to alter- Large pinch crushed red pepper nately bring you “Over the Kosher Kitchen Sink.” In fl akes. the spirit of friends and family who enjoy hanging In a large bowl stir together vinegar aroundand chatting overour kitchensinks, we hope and salt. Add broccoli and toss to com- you will enjoy our tasty thoughts and will share bine. In a large skillet, heat oil till hot but your questions and kosher food ideas with us at ko- not smoking, add garlic and cumin and [email protected]

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There is only one woman, Dani, who Building a Yiddish Bridge to Japan: is involved in the Kobe synagogue. Dani came to Japan when she was 20. She The Mloteks’ Music is the Key has four children and she takes care of the shul. “She was the person who pre- By Jeanette Friedman pared our collation, and made me feel at home. In the middle of our meal, Eli- aradise Valley—Zalmen Mlotek sha and I spontaneously started singing Psends an email. “Ich fur oif Ya- a niggun, and the next thing we knew pan.” (“I’m going to Japan!”) we were dancing in simcha, and crying The day after he got back, there from being in galus together—but also was another email. “Call me at my crying from joy because we survive and mom’s.” There was something to tell. go forward, and here we were in the Zalmen and his brother Mark, city where my father was safe. and their children, all have a passion The Mloteks were driven to Osaka for Yiddish and Yiddish culture, es- for their last concert and managed to pecially music and the dramatic arts. convince the crowd to sing along and Zalmen, a Julliard grad and long-time Te- teaching Jewish music is in his blood with the Yidden in Kobe, and other than dance with their hosts in the auditori- aneck resident, is the artistic director of and neshumeh. “What I love to do,” Zal- Japanese locals, they were, for the most um. “Every one was up and dancing, cel- The National Yiddish Theatre-Folksbi- men told JLBC, “is stress what Jewish life part, transplanted Israelis in their 20s ebrating our Jewish heritage and the ene, which is in the midst of planning a and creativity were like before the war. who somehow found their way to Kobe richness of our music. It really fi lls my city-wide bash to celebrate 100 years of Of course, I want to do that by teaching and decided to stay and save the shul. heart with good will to know that these continuous performances as the oldest and concertizing, so the Japanese organ- The building we were in was built in the people on the other side of the world operating theatre troupe in all of North ized six appearances for me in as many 1970s, and the shul was probably the con- are truly interested in our past, our her- America, and is presenting the acclaimed universities. I was in Tokyo, Hiroshima, tinuation of the shul in Kobe that was es- itage and our culture. It wasn’t a con- Lies My Father Told Me as its fall main and Osaka, and Kobe, giving lectures in tablished in the 1940s by Holocaust ref- scious thing, it was the sudden realiza- stage production. all those places. ugees.” tion that everyone I spoke to knew who Zalmen’s mother is Chana Mlotek, “I must say it was very poignant for Zalmen, who is not much given to Sugihara was, and knew that my father the extraordinary woman and Yiddish me. Here I was in Japan, only because sentiment, found this a very touching was saved. … folklorist who, as described by this writ- of the actions of one righteous Japanese experience. “They are relatively young “I don’t know that I felt that I was giv- er in a Folksbeine bio of her, is literally man, Chiune Sugihara, who issued trav- Israelis, and Motti, who seemed to be ing back, but the idea was that I was re- and fi guratively the matriarch of a fam- el papers to people like my father, who their leader, had been an elite offi cer ally connected to my father and to the ily and group of colleagues and protégés was trapped in Riga and allowed them to in the IDF. He was injured in Japan and Japanese by this trip. I met people who who have worked long and hard to bring get as far as Kobe. That saved my father’s couldn’t use his legs, but his hosts took were active in Jewish studies in Japan, a vibrant, exciting, Yiddish culture to Jew- life. First he came to Kobe, and then he care of him, taught him Karate, which re- who knew our culture and loved it, and ish life in America. was sent to Shanghai. It wasn’t great, but habilitated him, and in return, he teaches I got to see a picture we don’t normally Chana and Yosl, z’l, her husband and it wasn’t what was going on in Europe, them the Israel martial arts of Krav Maga get because we visited all these universi- a Holocaust survivor, devoted their lives either. and takes care of the shul. I think that’s a ties and met so many different kinds of to recovering the culture, the music and “Who had an idea that the Japanese great story!” people.” lyrics of Yiddish through the centuries— were interested in the Jews and that that melodies and words that could have interest went back to Jacob Schiff and been forgotten forever, and they did it al- others like him? The Japanese had re- most one note and line at a time. Now spect and a soft spot for us because of they are considered heroes for being in their own David and Goliath story in the vanguard to rescue Yiddish culture. the Russo-Japanese War. So when Hit- Zalmen’s trip to Japan is a direct con- ler asked that Shanghai be turned into a sequence of the Mlotek family’s devotion concentration camp, they refused to do to the cause, and his son Elisha accom- it. They interned the Jews, but they didn’t panied him. It all began about 18 months persecute them.” ago, when a Japanese correspondent on He added that while the youth of Ja- assignment in New York, Yoichi Haruy- pan may not understand these connec- ama of Asahi press, contacted him to fi nd tions, exactly, they do know what it feels out about two Jewish songs that the Japa- like to be the underdog, especially when nese love and have been popular in Japan it comes to Russia. for the last 50 years. What was most signifi cant for Zal- (The songs he wanted to know about men was that the songs he was teaching are Dona, Dona, a song also known as and singing were not just about the Hol- “Dos Kelbl” (The Calf), about a calf being ocaust. “I sang songs of Jewish life, of the led to slaughter that was written by Sha- Jewish revolutionary ideas, the songs of lom Secunda for a play called Esterke. protest. I did one concert, where I per- The other song is the Israeli circle dance, formed only Holocaust songs from Gil- Mayim! Mayim! And the lyrics come bert’s book, but I prefaced it with a lec- from Isaiah.) ture that tied the past to the future. I Zalmen said, “I invited him to come really appreciated that these were the meet my mother, and we all had dinner people who saved my father’s life…and at my brother’s house. We sang for him Elisha recorded everything for poster- and told him what the origins of the ity…at least for our family! And one of songs were and what they really meant. the most moving things was our visit to “During the course of the meal with Kobe, my father’s fi rst safe haven.” my mom, the writer asked me if I would As part of the lectures, Elisha pre- be interested in going to Japan to teach pared a power point with the family sto- Jewish music. Then a Japanese professor, ry, so by the time they got to the music Hariyuki Kuroda, who teaches German part, the students understood the con- in Tokyo interviewed my mom about text for it. another Yiddish song. And then a few The whole trip was organized by months ago, when Prof. Kuroda trans- Professor Kuroda, and when people in lated Ruth Gilbert’s book on Yiddish mu- Kobe found out that Zalmen was com- sic from the Holocaust into Japanese, he ing, they let the people from the shul in thought it might be a good idea if I came Kobe know. “I couldn’t believe that they along and helped launch the book.” prepared a gedeckeh tisch, mit alleh gitta The trip meant a lot to Zalmen and zachen, a full spread with delicious cakes his younger son Elisha, because for him and beverages. Suddenly I found myself

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By Temimah Zucker ger and taste delicious! A healthy eat- and he adamantly exclaimed that he We are looked at like consumers er will eat when he is hungry and stop had once gone on a cleanse - not to lose and our bodies are the goods. Instead ecently my father when he is full. Unfortunately our soci- weight but to rid his body of the tox- of appreciating the vessel that hous- Rapproached me as ety is riddled with un-healthy eaters, or ins that processed foods may have cre- es our thoughts, talents, and traits, we I am the “eating disor- individuals with disordered eating. Peo- ated. I believe that our bodies can gen- look for any way we can to change it der afi cionado” in our ple tend to eat now not to enjoy them- erally get rid of toxins naturally. While to fi t some commercial ideal created family, to ask for my selves but instead to provide a means to I may not agree with my friend’s men- by people who do not genuinely care thoughts on the lat- an end. My body wants food so I will con- tality, it was important to note because for any of our real needs or concerns.. est fad among teens. “Temimah, what do sume the least amount of calories possi- I am not addressing this article to peo- I can appreciate healthy diets that ex- you know about cleanses? Apparently it’s ble. And then an hour later, these people ple who have a mindset similar to my ist but I do not fi nd that the diet indus- the next big thing and some students are wonder why they want more and feel an- friend. Rather I am addressing the fact try promotes a healthy mindset. We drinking them in school. I’m just curious gry at themselves for “giving in” to these that what most likely started as an in- are taught to count and monitor rath- what you think about it…” cravings. nocent health practice has become a er than laugh and own what we were At the time I did not understand just My body needs calories but instead of diet trend, akin to a laxative, that is given. what a cleanse was. After researching preparing a hearty meal or enjoying a deli- now spreading among high school stu- In the depth of my eating disorder cleanses and speaking to some peers I cious dish with friends, I will get these cal- dents! I believe I am safe in saying that I despised my body. I abused my body, have found a response that I feel answers ories buy consuming juices that will fl ush most individuals on a cleanse – such as eating miniscule amounts and over- my father’s question as well as addresses out my system! And then they wonder these 15 year old girls – were not encour- exercising. And when I tell this to peo- our community at large: I am baffl ed and why the weight they may have lost dur- aged to do so by their doctors…So if the ple they “tsk” and shake their heads saddened by cleanses. ing the cleanse comes right back when doctor didn’t tell our precious youth to and exclaim how glad they are that My fi rst knowledge of cleanses came they over-eat tremendously once they re- only take in cleanses, who did? If the I’m doing better. And yet…we fail to after hearing about them on television. turn to solid foods. We are not meant to doctors do not prescribe cleanses, then “tsk” and shake our heads at the peo- In my mind the concept was simply a sat- trick our bodies out of the food it needs. who does? ple who are depriving their bodies of ire meant to promote humour, mocking And more importantly, for the most part The same people who tell us to com- the pleasures of food. Instead our so- the level of “health and weight fanatics” this is does done from a healthy place. pletely eliminate one or more food ciety celebrates these people; they’re of our society…In my mind a cleanse was There is a subtype of Anorexia called groups as part of a diet and who tell us the ones who are achieving “success” equated with a colonoscopy, rather than “orthorexia” which involves individuals that a size 00 is normal: the industries and able to control their looks and fi t a new diet trend. who strictly eat “healthy” foods (organ- and the media. Take a moment to refl ect into slim-fi t clothing. I can safely say There are numerous cleanses out ic, vegetarian). They believe that this will on who sets the weight standard, who that these people are not truly happy. there, each with their own catchy title. help them lose weight and keep their tells us the defi nition of beauty, and who How can one be happy depriving one- They consist mostly of juices that are bodies “pure.” I can safely say that most dictates the best way to lose 20 pounds self of a natural need, conforming to meant to replace meals and fl ush out all of these people were not told to do so by in one month? Beauty should be some- a defi nition that capitalists put forth? the toxins that build up inside the body. their doctors. And if they were, the way thing we defi ne within ourselves, based The simple answer is that I do not Some people have these juices along they practice this behavior is on a lev- not on appearance but on who we are approve of cleanses. I do not think that with meals as they contain many vita- el that the doctor did not intend; it be- as people. Within the Jewish culture we anyone, let alone teenagers, should be mins and natural fruits and vegetables. comes obsessive unyielding. Our bodies have the value of one’s soul’s needs be- replacing meals to “purify” their sys- Individuals who consume juices along- know how to rid themselves out what ing the defi ning factor of what should tems. It is time to create our own def- side a meal for nutrients do not baffl e can be called “toxins” on their own. The be done to the body. And yet, I often see initions of beauty and to stand up me. Rather, it is individuals who replace food we eat is not meant to be measured Jewish college students passing by me against the trends we are told to fol- meals with cleanses and do so for weight or considered bad. Instead, we should discussing the food on their mind that low. We must learn to appreciate our loss purposes. view food as enjoyable and what our they “just can’t eat” holding green juice in bodies and set our own examples of Food is meant to be enjoyable… bodies need, rather than something to be one hand and anguish and hunger in the what healthy and happy truly mean. we have taste buds for a reason. When fl ushed out. other. We are told what is attractive rath- To fi nd out about Temimah’s per- our bodies are hungry we are meant to I brought up the topic of cleanses er than defi ning on our own what beau- sonal thoughts on cleanses, visit her choose a meal that will satisfy this hun- with a friend of mine the other night ty should be. Time’s of Israel blog. “Guard Your Neshama, Fortify Your Body”

By Chemmie Sokolic the shuls, I also notice something else, to the seudat ha’vraah; from doughnuts bodies do: learn to distinguish the good something concerning, something sad- and latkes on Chanukah to matzoh and from the bad; imbibing the positive from his week’s issue of the dening… people’s ever expanding waist- wine on Pesach; and from cheesecake the world around us, and expelling the TJewish Link is focused lines and neglected bodies. In a country on Shavuot to honey on Rosh Hashan- negative. on fi tness and health ed- where more than a third of adults and ah, food is nourishing, food is symbol- But we also have a mitzvah to guard ucation; a perfect oppor- approximately 17% of children and ad- ic, food is comforting, food is emblemat- our souls (Venishmartem Meod Lenafsho- tunity to present the fol- olescents aged 2-19 are obese, it appears ic of our role as spiritual beings living on lowing humble rant of a frum personal the trend has not escaped our own Jew- a physical plane. But we must do as our  CONTINUED ON P. 47 trainer. ish communities. In this extended arti- Week after week, I continually fi nd cle, I don’t intend to examine the obe- myself in awe of our beloved rabbanim sity epidemic in the U.S. Rather, I would Bess Berger Nutrition Consulting who give so much of their time and like to discuss our own role as frum Jews selves to serve their respective commu- in adding our own numbers to these so- Bess Berger, RD, CDN nities, preparing presentation after pres- bering statistics. I would also stress that entation to invigorate us all. Sitting at- the comments herein are not directed to- Registered Dietitian tentively in shul, I generally fi nd the ward any particular shul or community; Counseling on general nutrition and medically related nutrition therapy words of our leaders inspiring and mo- rather, these issues appear to me to be tivating, instilling in me a sense of pur- endemic. pose; moving me to be a better person, a Many years ago, it was explained to better Jew, a better husband, a better fa- me, half in jest, that the root of Jewish ther and a better son. As I look around festivals can be summarized as follows: my own community and those Ortho- “We won, we eat; we lost, we fast.” While dox communities throughout Bergen we all know there’s a lot more to our hol- County and further afi eld, I would postu- idays than that, it does highlight what is, late we’re generally heading in the right as is true in many other cultures, so im- Located in Teaneck, right off Cedar Lane direction—improving, growing, develop- portant to our religion and way of life: (201) 837-0546 ing, and evolving. Their precious words food. [email protected] are having an impact. From celebratory kiddushim to the However, as I proudly look around seuda ha’mafseket; from seudot mitzvah Major insurances accepted 3-visit and 5-visit Packages Available

46 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM HEALTH AND FITNESS Back in Pain by Mordechai Schmutter mainly because this is one of the few ac- posture, because people with good pos- glad my back didn’t seize up in the mid- tivities I can do without getting up. Was ture don’t fi nd money on the street. dle of shul with my kid over my head his week’s article is about lower back it the way I got up? Couldn’t be. I’ve I also came up with another theory and my tallis sliding off my back, right Tpain. Never mind why. gotten up from the couch before. This as to why my back hurt: It was right af- before everyone in the shul started run- Okay, fi ne. Apparently, I’m getting to wasn’t my fi rst time. ter Simchas Torah, and over the course of ning in circles. the age where I occasionally do some- I’ve also been reading up on back in- the day, I’d enthusiastically lifted my kids When I fi nally made it to bed (half of thing to my back. This was brought to juries, and there are lots of exercises you over my head for “Moshe Emes” over 14 me was already parallel to the fl oor, so my attention recently at my parents’ can do, using mainly tools that you have times. I don’t want to say anything, beit wasn’t that hard), my wife comment- house. It was the Friday night after Sim- around the house. I personally haven’t cause I’m their father, but seriously, they ed that she’d had that same kind of pain chas Torah, and I was on the couch play- done any of these exercises, because my get heavier every year. What am I feed- when she was pregnant, which I think is ing a game with my younger siblings, back hurts. But I did read that there are ing them? my wife’s nice way of saying that I can and at some point, I got up to look for right and wrong ways to sit. So maybe it Maybe it’s the way I lift them. A lot stand to lose at least 30 pounds off my food in the fridge. (I’ve been married for IS an age thing. When I was a kid, I could of this reading material says that if you stomach region. I think she just doesn’t a while now, but still, every time I come sit wrong for hours. So maybe that’s fi - want to avoid back pain, you should like that I walk into her in-laws’ house to my parents’ house, I raid the fridge. To nally catching up to me. I should have lift with your legs. See, that’s the thing. and head straight for the fridge. be fair, I raid the fridge in my own house listened to my parents. They always come up with all these ways But yeah, maybe it is a weight thing. too.) But as soon as I got to my feet, I When I was a teenager, my parents to do things properly, but they’re always This was the last day of Yom Tov in a realized that I couldn’t stand up all the spent a lot of time obsessing about my so awkward. My entire life, I’ve been lift- month of basically ten days of Yom Tov, way. Baruch Hashem, my siblings were posture, mostly because I walked like ing with arms. I had no idea. I’m sup- over which I’d eaten eight pounds of all very supportive about it. a teenager. Their goal was to get me to posed to lift with my legs. meat, two sacks of potatoes, 65 rugelach, “You’re OLD!” they yelled supportive- look like a regular, normal member of Great. Now how am I supposed to and enough honey to stick a bear to a ly, making sure to yell it loudly in case I society. Some of the things they sug- walk while lifting stuff? tree. was too old to hear them. gested were: A. walking around with a Okay, so I know what it means. Sure, So it is my age? My weight? My pos- They’re always making fun of me for broomstick behind my back, held on by I can lift with my legs, although some- ture? My kid-lifting? If I had to guess, I’d being old, like I should have thought of the crooks of my elbows, and B. walk- times my knee hurts, thanks to an injury say it was all those things conspiring at that before I got old. Back pain is one of ing around with a book on top of my I got from years of kneeling on the bath- once. That’s how it works. It’s like the the only injuries that you can get made head. I did try both exercises, though I room fl oor several times a week and try- time I noticed that, for several weeks, fun of for having. tried them at the same time. I put the ing to convince my kids that I won’t get one of my eyelids would occasionally So I tried to retain my dignity by walk- book on top of my head, then I put the shampoo in their eyes. twitch for no reason at all. So I looked it ing off, with the upper half of my body broomstick behind my back, and BOOM! Did I just reference two kinds of pain up, between blinks, and it said that eye- pretty much parallel to the fl oor. I’m glad The book fell down. Then, keeping the in the same article? That’s another thing lids twitch involuntarily for one of three I didn’t walk into any walls. broomstick behind my back, I tried to that comes with age. Although I do want reasons: You don’t realize how much you use pick the book up off the fl oor and put it to point out that both of them were 1. Lack of sleep, your back in everyday life. It’s really an on my head. The only way I could pos- probably caused by my kids. 2. Too much caffeine, and “out of sight, out of mind” sort of thing. sibly do this was to toss the book in the So maybe it’s from lifting my kids 3. Too much stress. But judging from the amount of things air and attempt to catch it with my head over my head, even though that hap- And I said, “Hey! I have all three of that I now have to do in slow motion, it while squinting and bracing for impact. pened earlier in the day. Apparently, those!” I was stressed because I was be- turns out you use your back for EVERY- But my point is that doing this defi nitely my back is pretty dumb, and it has de- hind on deadlines because I was tired THING. did not help me look like a regular, nor- layed reactions like that. You’ll do some- from staying up trying to make deadlines So I’ve been racking my brain, trying mal member of society. And anyway, I thing to hurt your back, and then sever- that I was behind on because I was tired. to fi gure out what I did to hurt my back, didn’t want to walk around with good al hours later, your back will say, “Wait. And I was drinking enough coffee to Did I lift something back then? Ow. Oh, launch myself into space. And then the and I’m itchy by the way, but I don’t re- stress of knowing I was in an unbreaka- and our families with a thoughtful ar- member why.” It’s very annoying when ble cycle didn’t help either. “Guard Your ray of treats that offer both soulful en- you have to fi gure out why your back is And now I’m in a similar position. I’m joyment and physical benefi t. When we hurting, when it’s not necessarily from sitting because my back hurts, but if I sit Neshama, Fortify celebrate together, and the only foods something that happened right before like this for too long, my back will hurt presented are those that are deleterious it started hurting. It’s like playing detec- more, I’ll gain weight from lack of ex- Your Body” to our health, what message do we give tive, but with a back injury. “Let’s see, ercise, and I’ll feel older. So if you’ll ex- our children? what did I do in the past week to make cuse me, I’m going to attempt to get up. I  CONTINUED FROM P. 46 Moreover, it seems to me that the na- my back hurt today? I sat wrong, I lift- hope I don’t walk into any walls. ture of the infamous shul “Candy Man” ed my kids over my head several times in teichem [Devarim 4:15]), to maintain our has changed somewhat from when I rhythm to a song, I put away the air con- Mordechai Schmutter isa weekly humor column- bodies, to respect the vessel in which was younger. The relationship between ditioners on the top shelf of the garage, I ist for Hamodia, a monthly humor columnist for The our holy essence resides. How impor- the older and younger generation, the put up a sukkah, and that tarp and poles Jewish Press, and has written 4 books, all published tant is this task to us? Do we place even former inspiring the latter with a sin- are getting heavier every year…” See, by Israel Book Shop. He also does freelance writing a fraction of the value of a healthy diet gle piece of candy and a friendly smile, with shin pain, I know. “Why is my shin for hire (as well as stand-up comedy). You can send and exercise against the eternal mer- has now morphed into a relationship hurting? Probably because I banged it any questions, comments, or ideas to MSchmutter@ it and virtue of a moment of Torah between our children and the candy on the coffee table just now.” I’m just gmail.com study? How long can we expect to serve itself. Don’t misunderstand me, there Hashem in a decrepit and ailing body? is value to sweetening the shul expe- Unfortunately, I think we’re failing, rience for our youngsters, giving them both as individuals and as communi- an incentive and some physical enjoy- ties, to adequately address and safe- ment when they’re in shul. But handing R guard this important mitzvah. out candy with no strings attached, or Our shuls have become, in large part, even worse, letting them take as much meeting places to socialize and eat, with as they like, is not something, in my the weekly Shabbat kiddush increasing- opinion, that should be commended. ly becoming the focal point of our gath- It should be expected that each child Rachel Wigs erings. Being able to celebrate a joyous say “Good Shabbos” and “please” be- occasion with the community with fore being allowed a piece of candy, and We carry a full line of wigs, falls, good food and merriment is a won- I mean a single piece, to be then fol- yarmulke falls & hat falls. derful blessing from Hashem; hedonis- lowed by a “thank you.” We may only tic abandon and disregard of the mitz- be able to hope for appreciation from We do all repairs, wash & sets. vah to be healthy, however, is not what our children, but we should always ex- I would contend our smachot should pect respect from them. In all instanc- When you want to look and feel your best, buy the best portray. Nosh and often alcohol is plen- es, our children should understand that Located at Party Plaza By Appointment: tiful, to be sure, but can we not have a candy is a treat to be eaten in moder- 195 W. Englewood Call Rachel at: 732-809-5493 more nutritious balance? 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ed. It does, however, make you cranky, weight back, which is disturbing to me of ice cream.” Only positive, positive, Diets dizzy and weak. Is that how skinny peo- on so many levels. positive-words to live by. But then at ple feel all the time? Weight watchers is my favorite. I some point, when you have been suc- By Banji Latkin Ganchrow There are those of us that are just have been on it many times and just like cessful, you think you can do it on your naturally blessed with good metabo- Alcoholics Anonymous (which I have not own and nope, it does not quite work es, much to the sur- lisms and lean physiques (So far my been on…yet) “it works if you work it.” the same way. Something about paying Yprise of those of you boys are like that, and we cannot trace When I fi nished all of the food I was al- people to weigh you is quite motivating. that know me personal- those genetics back to anyone on ei- lowed for the day, even if it was 11:30 in It’s all ok though, because when you go ly, I am tackling the sub- ther side of their families). People I the morning, I was done. That is when I back to the meetings six months later, 10 ject of diets. I fi rmly believe that any diet know from elementary school who follow it. When I am not in the “zone” pounds heavier, the lecturer says “Let’s you go on works, if you follow it. This were skinny then, are still skinny now. (another diet I have never been on, but give a round of applause to Fattie(not her means, when you have had a good day Some of them can eat a lot and some of always a way to describe weight watch- real name) for coming back.” And every- of drinking kale and beets, you should them have always “eaten to live” as op- ers who are really following program) if one claps for you. Just beautiful. not celebrate your success with a box posed to me who has a tendency to “live I have fi nished my allotted food for the So the moral of this particular story is, of munchkins. It doesn’t work. Though to eat.” I know people who have pur- day at 11:30, I will just eat the next day’s as my skinny young friend often tells me bigger than a size six for most of my posely gained weight so their insurance food. Yes, bad, very, very bad. That is “just stop eating.” Easier said than done, life(except for that one glorious summer would cover weight loss surgery. Real- when it does not work. But, the true my friend. Everything in moderation of my growth spurt) I really have nev- ly? Not even I would do something like beauty of the program, are the meetings. and when that doesn’t work, ask one of er been one to try fad diets (please stop that, but that is just me. Once you have With your membership, you get to at- those positive “rah rah” lecturers if they thinking “maybe she should have, and the surgery, you still need to maintain tend weekly meetings. The positive rein- will come and live with you. Wishing she would still be a size 6.”) Eating grape- a healthy, balanced diet that does not forcement is mind blowing. Let’s say you you all good health and the body type fruit every meal or lettuce three times include an overabundance of double put on 4/10 of a pound. “That’s ok sweet- you were meant to have. a day never appealed to me. I recently stuffed oreos or entenmanns marshmal- ie, it will come off next week. It must be tried a juice cleanse, which was the fi rst low iced devils food cake(it always goes water weight. It must be your time of the Banji Latkin Ganchrow is a Teaneck resident and time I have followed anything success- back to that cake, God bless its soul.) So month, it must be the overabundance writer whoenjoys traveling across the countryby car fully besides weight watchers, and I dis- that just goes back to my original state- of baby carrots you ate while watching with her husband and three sons. She is also the au- covered that if it goes in green, it comes ment of any diet works if you follow it. tv.” How can you not love that? Never thor of the blog holycrapimgonnabe40 and hopes out green, but doesn’t necessarily make Though some of the people who have would a lecturer say “babe, you gained to, one day, write a best-selling novel and appear on you glow, like the cleanse people suggest- had those procedures have gained the weight because you stress ate two pints the Ellen Show.

ation, not a right they have to claim in tion is good and proper, but unfettered Why don’t our rabbis, our parents, and “Guard Your abundance, nor a reward for good behav- access and expectation of physical pleas- our peers stress the importance of main- ior. This is not a criticism of our children; ure cannot be good for either us or our taining our physical health in addition Neshama, Fortify it’s a castigation of us adults— we should children. to our spiritual health? We encourage so know better! We can’t send our children mixed much learning in our communities, and Your Body” The place for candy and junk food in messages; they’re too smart for that. We that’s highly commendable, but we hard- all our lives should be questioned; con- can’t preach a healthy diet in our schools, ly promote maintaining a healthy body.  CONTINUED FROM P. 47 suming anything in considered modera- but then allow them to sell only junk Sporadic single-gender fi tness classes in food for their graduation trip fundrais- shul social halls are a good start, but in er. We can’t expect them to respect their our communities there should be just WE HAVE ALL THE bodies, when we as parents hardly exer- as many exercise classes as there are shi- cise and show little restraint regarding urim. If we don’t maintain our bodies, what enters our mouths. how can we expect to develop our ne- INGREDIENTS FOR Our focus on food is compounded by shamot? our lack of focus on exercise. Through- The kashrut of a food should not con- out all my many years of schooling and cern us more than whether we should be spiritual education, yeshiva and shul at- eating it at all. tendance, I’ve attended thousands of les- I urge each and every one of us to ex- sons, lectures, drashas, sermons, and shi- amine our spiritual relationship with urim with themes as varied as halacha, our own bodies, and to reassess the im- Sweet hashkafa, mussar, textual analysis, his- portance and priority of maintaining a tory and philosophy. I’ve been enjoined, healthy lifestyle as Orthodox Jews. time and time again, to learn more To- Chemmie Sokolic is an ACSM-certi- rah, give more charity, support more fi ed Personal Trainer, and owner of Frum community programs, and raise a Jew- & Fit LLC. Chemmie can be reached at Savings ish family. Unfortunately, I can count on chemmie.sokolic@frumandfi t.com. Vis- Large selection of candy, chocolates, dried fruit, nuts, one hand the number of times I’ve been it www.FrumandFit.com or www.Face- instructed to look after my body, to ex- book.com/FrumandFit for more infor- gift baskets and platters for all occasions ercise, to strive to be healthier. Why? mation. nut free Chanukah coins-now available! Pareve chocolate turkeys Market your business to QSFPSEFSZPVS1BFSWFJDFDSFBNDBLFTNFOPSBIPS ESFJEMFTIBQFEPSUVSLFZUIFNFGPSDIBOVLBI UIBOLTHJWJOH the Jewish Community! Dried fruit & candy platters for Thanksgiving & Chanukah Advertise in the

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By Bracha Schwartz ject in January. To begin learning the ropes, two stu- nglewood—The camera was rolling at dents took turns interviewing Fried- Ethe Moriah School in Englewood, as 55 man. With one, she answered as though eighth graders—most of them grandchil- she was her mother, who had escaped dren of survivors—listened intently to from the Warsaw ghetto. For the other, Jeanette Friedman, editor of the Jewish she used the story of another survivor, a Link of Bergen County and president of young watchmaker from a Hasidic fami- The Wordsmithy, a publishing company ly who was in hiding. specializing in Holocaust memoirs, ex- The role-playing exercise brought up plain how to conduct an interview with some of the key logistical aspects of con- Holocaust survivors. ducting an interview. “Why do you have Soon, these students, in groups of six, prepared questions if you follow up on will be taking turns running the camera what the person just said?” asked one themselves, asking survivors questions student. Friedman explained that ques- about their lives before, during and af- tions are a guide. You can always go ter the Holocaust, and editing their own back and ask about something that was work. For them, it is an object lesson in missed. history, Judaism and compassion, as well Dr. Prager noted that at one point, as a way of learning to focus. Welcome Friedman got choked up. “What do you to Names, Not Numbers©, a year-long, dents prepare for their interviews and bos?” do when that happens?” he prompted. weekly after-school elective class on the edit the fi lm, and recruited the survivors, Friedman explained that any survi- Friedman suggested they ask, “Do you Holocaust, culminating in a fi lm starring many related to Moriah students. vors living now would have been chil- need a moment?” It was then suggested survivors who tell their stories to the stu- At the interview skills workshop last dren or teenagers during the Holocaust. that the box of tissues and water, which dent fi lmmakers. This year the class was Wednesday, Friedman told the students “You have to have empathy for the per- are always nearby, be nudged closer to so oversubscribed, the school expanded how to ask the right questions to elic- son,” she emphasized. “The person the survivor. the number of groups and mentors in- it the details of each survivor’s life sto- you’re talking to would have been your The students were told the students volved. ry. “The stories are the same—yet all age at the time.” they are going to meet the last of the sur- Names, Not Numbers, a national pro- unique,” said Friedman. “They start the The introductory questions not only vivors who can still tell their stories, and gram created in 2003, was launched at same way but each one goes in a differ- help describe each person but give con- even now, so many years later, some will Moriah last year. Dr. Elliot Prager, prin- ent direction. Survivors were partisans, text about their religious and econom- be telling it for the fi rst time. The stu- cipal of the Moriah School, teaches the concentration camp victims, hidden ic status; things they may not have fully dents are given biographies of the sur- history of the Holocaust for the fi rst children. Some escaped, some disguised realized due to their age. The next ques- vivors and encouraged to research them three months. Tova Fish-Rosenberg, cre- themselves as non-Jews. Each response tions start to reveal the story of what thoroughly. The interviews will be con- ator and director of the program, brings was different.” happened. Friedman said, “Ask, what ducted at Moriah in January. The com- a team to teach technical skills and To let the story unfold, Friedman ad- was it was like to be a kid then? When pleted fi lm will be shown in June. bring the fi lm to completion. This year vised them to start at the beginning. did you begin to realize there was trou- Friedman told the students that in the team includes producer Florence “Ask, where were you born? What did ble?” a previous job, she interviewed celebri- Litwin and fi lmmaker, Sandra Stakic. your parents do? How did you observe As an example, Friedman shared an ties, but interviewing survivors is much The program is coordinated by Abby Her- Shabbos? Pesach? How many brothers anecdote from Judith Alter Kallman, one different. “The survivors promised the schman, a Moriah parent who viewed a and sisters did you have? Did you know of the survivors the students will inter- people who were left behind that they Names, Not Numbers© fi lm in Chicago your grandparents? Did you go to public view, who wrote her story in a book, A would tell the stories of what happened made with the participation of family school or cheder? If you talk to a wom- Candle in the Heart, edited and pub- there so it wouldn’t happen again. So the members, and persuaded Dr. Prager to an, ask did you go to shul as a girl? If you lished by Friedman. “Judith was 4 years world should know.” She told the stu- start the program here. She also recruit- talk to a man, ask did you carry chulent old and loved getting new clothes. She dents to appreciate the importance of ed parent mentors, who will help stu- to the bakery to get it cooked for Shab- couldn’t understand why her moth- what they are doing. “You are making a er would bury new shoes in the dirt to commitment to the survivors who made make them look dirty before she could a commitment to those who are gone, to After-School Program wear them. Then, one Friday night after the project and to yourself.” Kiddush, someone threw a rock through Dr. Prager said he hopes that in the Gives Children New the window. Things happen that made years to come, students who participate the survivors realize things weren’t the in Names, not Numbers© will refl ect on Ways to Shine way they used to be.” Judith, who has be- what they accomplished, and will have a come the spokesperson of the Interna- deeper understanding of the existential ax was 6 years old when his sis- “Healthy children often suffer in si- tional Study of Organized Persecution of crisis faced by those trapped in the Hol- Mter was diagnosed with leukemia. lence when a sibling is ill or when they Children, will be interviewed for the pro- ocaust. Abruptly, his life changed. Doctors’ ap- are bereaved of someone in the imme- pointments, treatments, and care be- diately family,” explained Rabbi Sim- came the family’s focus, and like many cha Scholar, executive vice president siblings of children with a serious ill- of Chai Lifeline. “After school programs ness, Max sometimes got lost in the like i-Shine give children like Max shuffl e. Then i-Shine swooped in. structure and support at a critical point i-Shine Teaneck is an innovative and in their day and their lives.” unique program developed by Chai Life- Max’s mom, Margaret Levy, said the line for children living with illness or program has affected the entire fami- loss in their homes. The Teaneck branch, ly’s well-being. “It’s so well-run that it which started its second year last month, takes away from my worry rather than provides crucial emotional support and adding stress to an already stressful sit- friendship for Bergen County children uation. The people who organize it are who have a seriously ill sibling or par- wonderful. They genuinely care and go ent, or who have experienced a death in above and beyond. Max loves it… the the family. The expansion to our back- food, the attention, the carnivals… it yard was spearheaded by three local really achieves what it’s called. He felt women, Michal Zahtz, Deena Kaszovitz like he was getting something positive and Gila Weinstein, who saw the ben- associated with his sister’s illness.” efi ts and realized the need for an after- school program in our area.  CONTINUED ON P. 50

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 49 SCHOOLS Frisch Juniors Create Innovative School App

By Rachel Sperber gan, RealSchool has grown signifi cantly, ny had to start from scratch. “It was a last year, it allows easy access to student’s running many programs for Frisch, in- very diffi cult process, but it was also re- homework assignments, report cards, up- aramus—It is estimated that 56 billion cluding an annual fashion show, Green- warding,” Benny said. Over a year-long coming quizzes and tests, recorded ab- Psmartphone apps will be downloaded a-thon and Green Day. process, Benji, Amitai and Benny worked sences and schedules. Though the web- in the year 2013. Benji Cooper, Amitai Co- After joining RealSchool, the above together, with help from Mrs. Weiner site was a big success, it was extremely hen and Benny Weisbrot, juniors at the entrepreneurs created an app making and other members of RealSchool, to cre- hard to work with on a cellular device. Frisch School, who know about social team, hoping to develop an original idea ate an app called the “Frisch Helper.” Now the “Frisch Helper” is a mobile de- media, decided to dip their toes into the that would be helpful to their peers and The Frisch Helper is designed to do vice-friendly portal. booming app world. teachers. Their inspiration came after exactly what it sounds like. For students Benji, Amitai and Benny successfully Two years ago, Mrs. Tikvah Wein- hearing constant complaints from stu- at Frisch, parents of Frisch students, fac- used technology to solve a problem for er founded RealSchool, a club at Frisch dents at Frisch about how diffi cult it was ulty, and even prospective parents who many people. They made it possible for where students use their passions and to use the Frisch portal on a cell phone, wish to get a feel of the Frisch day, the Frisch students to get vital information talents to collaborate with others and and the continuous requests for an easier “Frisch Helper” helps with your Frisch “at their fi ngertips.” With information produce projects and events of value in way to navigate one’s day. They were set experience. The app includes a section more easily accessible, students should the “real” world. After forming “teams” on fi nding a solution. that informs users of teachers’ absences, have more time to apply to studying. As based on common interests, students With no background knowledge on which is updated every morning. In ad- for the ambitious inventor-trio, having work on together on one project all year how to code apps, design apps and mar- dition, there is the Frisch portal. Intro- mastered new skills? They hope to create long and see to its fruition. Since it be- ket a new product, Benji, Amitai and Ben- duced to students, teachers and parents many more apps in the future. Camp Kaylie Welcomes Arielle Sheinbein as Latest Member of Summer 2014 Dream Team!

amp Kaylie at OHEL is excited to an- has an exceptional ability to connect very excited to welcome Arielle Shein- Cnounce the latest addition to its Sum- with her students. “While I lead the class- bein who will be directing all areas of mer 2014 Dream Team: the head of its fi tness es and teach, I truly love connecting with physical fi tness and dance, which in- and dance department, Arielle Sheinbein. my students and making them feel good clude pilates, aerobics, tabata, and inter- Arielle is a popular teacher at YNJ, about themselves. Exercise is a great val training. We know she will take fun and is a well-respected group fi tness in- way to feel good and strong and I love and fi tness to a new level!” structor. Arielle brings with her a wealth to be part of that process. Everyone can For more information about OHEL’s of knowledge and expertise, and she is do it and I know we will have a blast at Camp Kaylie, and to read all about the warmly and enthusiastically welcomed Camp Kaylie!” latest updates, please visit us at www. to Camp Kaylie. Eli Brazil, the Director of Camp Kay- campkaylie.org, call 718-686 3261 or con- As a group fi tness instructor, Arielle lie, said about the new program, “We are tact Camp Kaylie at [email protected]

age volunteers… the program has giv- After-School en my children the opportunity to have something to look forward to while giv- Program Gives ing me comfort that my kids are taken care of when I can’t be there. I’m very Children New grateful that i-Shine has come to Bergen County. For us, it’s simply priceless. It’s EVENTS FAIR Ways to Shine the gold standard.” TRADE TOYS As for Max, his mother noticed the &  CONTINUED FROM P. 49 change right away. “i-Shine has made GAMES a sad situation not as sad. Max most- COFFEE CUSTOM i-Shine is geared toward elementary ly enjoyed hanging out with the high BAR EMBROIDERY and middle school children. It is offered school volunteers and playing hockey. KOSHER free of charge to parents, which makes He came home with a smile ear to ear, CAFÉ FRESH GREAT the substantial community volunteer feeling like a million bucks.” SOUP GIFTS presence even more important. Twice A model of community cooperation. a week, volunteer drivers bring Max i-Shine is unique in another way: it’s and his i-Shine friends from area day truly a cooperative program in an envi- schools to Yeshiva Noam, which has do- ronment where few organizations work nated space to the program. High school together. Bergen County’s Jewish day volunteers offer one-on-one homework schools, including the Rosenbaum Ye- assistance and test preparation, engage shiva of North Jersey, Yeshivat Noam, the kids in fun games and activities, and Yeshivat He’Atid and The Moriah School provide snacks and dinner. are actively involved with Chai Lifeline, “i-Shine showers very vulnerable working together to build the program FREE children with special attention, friend- and help these children. And with the WI-FI the store that speaks your language ship, and positive reinforcement. Staff many, many volunteers who have come members are experts in bringing out forward to lend hands and hearts, it also smiles and laughter and exciting recrea- offers the community an opportunity to tional activities for children,” remarked come together to pitch in and help those celebrating our 4th anniversary Rabbi Ari Zahtz, the program coordina- who can truly beneﬁ t from the atten- tor. “It gives children living in difﬁ cult tion of individuals and groups that real- SERVING THE COMMUNITY SINCE 2009 circumstances the chance to make im- ly want to make a difference in the lives portant peer friendships, and gives par- of others. ents who can’t be home after school The program originally started in $&HGDU/DQH7HDQHFN1-WHDQHFNJHQHUDOVWRUHFRP much-needed peace of mind.” the Five Towns and has since spread 0:DPSP7KDPSP)ULDPSP6XQDPSP8QGHU5&%& “It’s a lifesaver,” commented parent to Brooklyn, Toronto, and Chicago. The Judah Isaacs. “I lost my wife in February Teaneck program is dedicated in mem- of 2012 and i-Shine started in Teaneck ory of Ilana Michal Schwartz, a local Get 15% off of your purchase in November with this ad. the next school year. My kids formed (and much-missed) resident and Camp very close attachments to their teen- Simcha camper.

50 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM SCHOOLS RYNJ Rises to the Chesed Challenge

By Leah Silver

he fi rst half of this academic year dis- Ttinguishes itself as an endless land- scape of full school weeks. While this is a gift for consistent teaching time, the sameness of the schedule can certainly be monotonous. At Rosenbaum Yeshiva of North Jersey this open space became a canvas, not just for a portrait of academic excellence, but for a masterpiece of communal giving. “Mishenichnas Cheshvan Marbim B’Chesed,” when Cheshvan begins, chesed is increased, has become the motto of the school. From Rosh Chodesh Chesh- van through Chanuka, each class has been challenged to align itself with a charity or cause. “This time of the year has always provided us with the chance for school wide hachnassat orchim (welcoming guests) in honor of Sidrat Vayeira, enthusiastic participation in the Bergen County Chanu- their efforts to achieve the greatest ef- community, to build lifelong relation- collage publicizing its cause and explain- ka Toy Drive, and Chanuka performanc- fects for their students and for the broad- ships with good causes and citizenship ing its project. It is anticipated that by es at local rehabilitation centers,” noted er community. opportunities, and to create a kiddush Chanuka the walls of the school’s main Rabbi Harvey Horn, Judaic Studies Princi- “…I love the idea of participating in haShem (sanctifi cation of God’s name),” concourse will be covered in informa- pal. “This year we are taking it up a notch something school wide,” exclaimed Mrs. anticipates Morah Leah Silver, program tional and inspiring exhibits. and fi lling each day and each classroom Tamar Kahn, fi rst grade English teacher. coordinator. “We are already enjoying It is written in Tehillim that “Olam with chesed opportunities.” And school wide it is, indeed! From the the camaraderie and sense of purpose Chesed Yibaneh,” the world is built on Under the guidance of Daniel Roth- preschool donating artwork to Color a that is fi lling the school, and the momen- kindness. Rabbi Daniel Price, Head of ner of Areyvut, a list of suggested activ- Smile, through the junior high boys or- tum is propelling our students both aca- School proposes: “Our goal is to have the ities and possible resources was collect- ganizing a drive to collect winter gear demically and spiritually.” students of RYNJ feel empowered as phi- ed and distributed. Across the grades and for the Netzach Yehuda IDF army unit The school-wide chesed initia- lanthropists and to know that they can subject areas, teachers are coordinating and mini toiletries for “A Package from tive is set to culminate in an educational make a constructive difference in the Home,” every division of the display. Each group is invited to present a world.” school is actively involved. Nu- merous classes have begun letter writing campaigns for the elderly, rehabilitation patients and injured veterans; bracelets have been made for pediatric patients at a local hospital. The sixth grade girls are preparing for a Teaneck Chai Lifeline Shabbaton, while the seventh grade girls begin their mitzvah clown training. Various classes have been volunteering within the school, partnering with other classes for one-on-one mentoring. The eighth grade boys will be lending a hand to the Hebrew Free Bur- ial society. The seventh grade boys will be hosting a Friendship Circle event on Mitzvah Day. “We hope that our students will be inspired to see themselves as members of the larger world

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David Wilder read about this event in the Torah, on guests shortly before the end of Shab- The Jewish Community of Hebron Shabbat. bat, and stressed to them how impor- The amount of people arriving for tant their visit here is to us, Hebron’s riday afternoon, a few hours before worship at Machpela can only be de- Jewish community. When we see lit- FShabbat, Shabbat Hebron, what we call scribed as massive. Inside, outside, on erally tens of thousands coming into Chayei Sarah, I wandered into the Avra- the lawn, in the courtyard. At night, Hebron, all at once, including people ham Avinu neighborhood. It was diffi cult and again the next morning. Finding a who make such a long, and expen- to drive into the parking area, which was chair was luxury. There simply weren’t sive journey from outside Israel, for a huge maze of cars. I left mine near the enough to go around. I stood thru early all of one day, it shows us how im- street and walking around, bumped into Shabbat morning services. portant Hebron is to Jews from Isra- what would be called in another place, a Hebron’s streets were fi lled with el and around the world. Such dedica- ‘homeless’ zone. Tents all over the place. people. It seemed like a city with no tion, such love, such determination! Tables were set up with hot-water urns night. And people’s apartments were, as We then know that we are not a and food-heating platters. a rule, full up. The Rosen Family from Teaneck celebrating small group of 90 families and 850 peo- I bumped into a few kids, turned on I guess my apartment was fairly stand- Jonathan’s bar mitzvah in Hebron ple, rather we are a community of multi- the video and asked where they’re from. ard for Chayei Sarah. We had six guys tudes. And I have no doubt that we aren’t “Migdal.’ sleeping on my living room fl oor and an- rived a few days earlier in order to attend the only ones to take notice. The Israeli Migdal is all the way up north. other on the couch. Most of them were the ‘Night to Honor Hebron’ at the Knes- government, the US, the EU and also our Why? “Shabbat Chayei Sarah.” American Yeshiva students, as well as a set. Others landed Thursday night and neighbors across the street; they all see A man, probably about forty, saw me friend from Tel Aviv and his girlfriend. left Saturday night or Sunday morning. the enthusiasm and commitment of our talking to them and walked my way. The One room with three women: an Is- Some of our guests slept at the Avra- fellow Jews. The scene of tens of thou- camera turned towards him. How long raeli from Tzfat, a young American wom- ham Avinu guest house; others at the Ul- sands says more than words could ever did it take you to get here? “About four an studying in Israel for the year, and pana in Kiryat Arba. They dined in the express. and half hours.” another Amercan who’d come over to Gutnick Center, outside Ma’arat HaMach- That’s what Hebron is: the word itself Where will you sleep tonight? “In a visit family and ‘had to be in Hebron for pela, and participated in various tours means ‘to bond’ and is derived from the tent, on the pavement, on the ground.” Chayei Sarah.’ The last time she’d been and events at night and during the day. word ‘friend.’ Hebron bonds us, links us, Do you usually sleep in a tent on here was about 12 years ago, during the For many of these people, this wasn’t and transforms us all as friends, whether Shabbat? “No, I have a big house, but we ‘intifada’ – the Oslo war, while Arab bul- there fi rst Chayei Shabbat mission. And we from Migdal in northern Israel, or from came here to strengthen Hebron.” lets bounced off our sandbagged win- always know when our guests enjoy them- New York, Texas or California. Where will you pray? “At Ma’arat Ha- dows as we enjoyed our Shabbat meal. selves, when they ‘come back for more.’ And of course, all of this originates Machpela.” And when you say ‘the G-d What never ceases to amaze me is the Another special event was part of this from our Grandfather Abraham and of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob,’ there, what number of people who fl y in from out- Shabbat. Teaneck teenager Jonathan Ros- Grandmother Sarah, whose merits still do you think? “I get goose-bumps, just side of Israel, just for this Shabbat. Some en celebrated his Bar Mitzvah in Hebron, stand for us today. Despite the fact that thinking about it. The holiness of the organizations, like our friends at AFSI, set at Ma’arat HaMachpela, on this very ex- during this Torah portion, Chayei Sa- place.” up annual trips to Israel in order to be ceptional day. This is truly a unique hap- rah, we read of Sarah’s death, the words Blessing him, that next year he should here for this unique occasion. pening: reading your Bar Mitzvah portion “Chayei Sarah” speak of her life. For be able to sleep in a hotel in Hebron, he So too with the Hebron Fund, our about Ma’arat HaMachpela, at the very site- though Sarah’s body was interred at the said, “no, I’ll come to live here. V’Shavu American organization. The Hebron where it occurred. Not too many kids have Cave of Machpela, her spirit lives with banim l’gvulam – And the sons have re- Fund, assisting in supporting Hebron such a unique opportunity. Jonathan’s fa- us through the present, and can be tan- turned home.” projects in the community, has spon- ther, Michael, is a Hebron Fund board gibly sensed on this extraordinary Shab- This was one, of somewhere in the vi- sored this event for many years. Execu- member, and a number of the family’s bat day. cinity of 20,000 people, who fi lled all the tive Director, Rabbi Dan Rosenstein, put friends from Teaneck, NJ, also participat- V’Shavu Banim L’Gvulam. The Chil- neighborhoods of Kiryat Arba and He- together a wonderful program for friends ed in the celebrations, which included, of dren Have Returned Home. bron, just to be exactly where Abraham and supporters, whose sole reason in Is- course, festive meals and a tour of Hebron. From Hebron we thank all those who purchased the Caves of Machpela, as we rael was Hebron for Shabbat. Some ar- I had the honor to speak with our participated, and made this day what is was.

out some amazing, miraculous innovations member Dav id Bryan and others…. Mem- outstanding administrator, but their love For Zion’s Sake and discoveries to brag about.” Except on bers on Facebook’s Ga-Ga for Israel group of the Jewish Homeland has brought Shabbat! On Shabbat Ga-Ga rests its case for include Knesset member Silvan Shalom, them all together in a united mission and Tweet Your Israel. Minister of National Infrastructure, Ener- Davidovit says they are like one family Here are some of the most recent posts: gy and Water; Ambassador Yehuda Avner; with one heart. Heart Out! Israel’s New Orcam device turns the world Ambassador Danny Ayalon; Edgar Bronf- Ga-Ga for Israel was founded in 2008 into speech for the blind; for Syrian refu- man; Judea Pearl, father of murdered jour- to coincide with Israel’s 60th birthday. It  CONTINUED FROM P. 26 gees in Jordan, aid from Israel comes in a nalist Daniel Pearl, and journalists and began as a T-shirt campaign which fea- whisper; Israeli made devices give diabetics Israel lovers of all faiths. Many of the tured a slew of Israel’s heroes: Ga-Ga for Ga-Ga for Israel—Put Israel’s Best Face freedom; Israel’s “Seraphim Sense” creates members consider themselves “PR sol- Golda, Ga-Ga for Ben-Gurion, Ga-Ga for Forward is a grass roots movement start- the “Guardian Angel” Wristband to mon- diers” who continue to disseminate the Moshe Dayan, etc… A slew of philanthro- ed by journalist/author Aliza Davidovit itor health; Israel’s GeneG’s App will make message to their respective worlds. pists funded the T-shirts which were given with the singular purpose of showing all genetic testing as available as text messag- “I owe a great debt of gratitude to all out by Hillel groups on campus across the the great things coming out of Israel, such ing; DNA testing on your smartphone is just Ga-Ga’s members, especially to our Chris- country. “My mission then was to ‘Let my as its medical achievements, humanitar- a download away, etc. tians members who are always the ﬁ rst people know’ and to inspire college stu- ian missions, agricultural advancements, “Israel is not perfect,” Davidovit says, to jump on board to join our protests or dents to learn more and care more about inspirational art and culture, and world “but for a people living forever under the signatory missions,” says Davidovit. Some the Jewish homeland,” Davidovit says. “To- changing innovations. The group has one literal gun, it is amazing that the country of those initiatives have included letters day the mission is to let everyone know. main objective: to put Israel’s best face for- has survived, and continues to thrive. If you to singers Alicia Keys, Elton John, Alanis And though our enemies won’t soon be ward. This past week the group celebrated don’t believe in God, just look at Israel and Morissette, Tom Jones and Canadian going “Ga-Ga for Israel,” but now the voic- tweeting 1,000 positive tweets about Israel you will believe because that country is a Prime Minister Stephen Harper and jour- es of detractors and kvetchers that echo in and posting over 40,000 items on Facebook living, breathing miracle.” nalist Bob Costas to thank them for their the blogosphere will not be alone. “For Zi- where all members mine the news for pos- Davidovit uses her platform as a jour- support of Israel either by speaking up on on’s sake we will continue to tweet our itive articles coming out of Israel. nalist to help spread the good word com- the country’s behalf or by performing in hearts out!” “When I first started the campaign with ing out of Israel to Congressmen, world Israel despite vehement protests not to do So does the name have anything to do my Canadian administrator, Rhoda Sonken leaders and inﬂ uential individuals. She so. Other letters, including one in braille with singer Lady Ga-Ga? No! But the group Shabinsky, I was nervous that I wouldn’t has recruited celebrities to support Ga-Ga to Stevie Wonder, sought to edify and ex- will soon have something to sing about as have things to post every day,” Davidovit for Israel, including comedian Jackie Ma- press disappointment in those who kow- a theme song for Ga-Ga for Israel is now in shares. “But in our efforts to show all the son, journalist Larry King, Rabbi Shmuley towed to boycotters and Israel bashers. the works. Beware BDS movement, Ga-Ga great things coming out of Israel to others, Boteach, attorney Alan Dershowitz, mod- Davidovit says that she has not even for Israel just might “rap” it all up! I was super impressed by the fecundity of el Cindy Margolis, boxer Yuri Forman, ac- met most of the people in the Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ga- the Israeli people. Not a day goes by with- tress Valerie Harper, and Bon Jovi band Ga-Ga for Israel group, including her own GaforIsraelGroup/

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ment was conducted. A 42- Year Tradition Continues at Moriah He went on to cover Purpose-- how we prioritize our values. One tip By Marcy Cohen technology to provide a 21st century edu- scious Change, Michaelis took the shared was to create a statement of cation. “ She went on to explain the need group through his 5 Ps -- presence, pur- purpose about how you want to live ot many day schools can boast of an- to creat both “tech savvy and information pose, play, process and persistence-- as those values and update it once or Nnual events, aside from the school savvy students.” a method to embrace change in our twice a year. dinner, that are still relevant after 42 This year, attendees paid tribute to lives. He explained, “ we all experience Play was about engaging our imagi- years. The Moriah Library Benefi t is two active Moriah moms who are grad- change but some of us resist or fear nation to keep our mind stimulated. one of those events and a highlight of uating their last children -- Shanna Wolf change.” Process was about trying new things the school calendar. and Tammy Spielman, of Teaneck and Presence is something many of the even when they don’t go as expected. Hosted by the Moriah Association of Englewood respectfully. group related to immediately. The idea The fi nal P was Persistence, consid- Parents, it’s a night when moms get to- The 85 attendees were then treat- that in today’s society of information ering every experience as unfi nished. gether for a fun night out of socializing, ed to special guest speaker and Mo- overload, our minds are in so many Michaelis closed by challenging the learning and honoring fellow parents. riah alumnus (1986) Ben Michaelis, places that we are often absent mental- group to face life changes with confi - Held to raise funds for the school li- PH.D. Dr Michaelis, a clinical psychol- ly and emotionally. Michaelis had the dence and courage. brary, Moriah librarian Aviva Rosenberg ogist, is author of “Your Next Big Thing: group close their eyes for a moment to A 42 year tradition came and went spoke of the importance of “increasing 10 Small Steps to Get Moving and Get cultivate a sense of presence. but one thing was clear-- everyone information literacy through books and Happy.” In his presentation titled Con- The room fell silent as the experi- would be back next year. Teaneck: Looking Back, Moving Forward

By Rue Taubes ing to class, we cut the pumpkin, toast- parents are looking for programs that ed the seeds, and made pumpkin pie… give even young children a well-round- n September of 1988, I entered the I can still remember the delicious way ed and strong education. Teachers to- Ihalls of Gan Rina Nursery School for the classroom smelled, all because one day realize that they need to be a mo- the very fi rst time. The school, owned child said she had never seen a real rah, a mommy, a friend, a babysitter, an and operated by my grandmother, Rena pumpkin! OT, a PT and a developmental specialist. Taubes, a’h, had already existed in Te- In September of 2013, I found my- With all the changes in our commu- aneck for over 10 years and was then self once again entering the halls of nity, Gan Rina changed as well. When one of the very few Jewish preschool Gan Rina, this time as the new Di- Temple Emeth decided to open its own programs in the area. My father grew rector. Our community has certainly preschool, Gan Rina moved to its cur- up in Teaneck, and like many young grown and changed over the past 25 rent location at Congregation Beth couples, my parents lived in the West years! While expecting our fi rst child, Shalom, where the spark of light my Gate apartments (rented for about $600 my husband and I decided to move grandmother brought to the program a month!). After school and on Sundays, from Washington Heights to Teaneck. continued until her untimely pass- we would often play at the single Vo- Like my parents, we moved into the ing in 1997. There was a thought at the tee Park playground, where we would West Gate apartments, now rented time that the school might close, but meet other children both from the Jew- for $1,500 a month and up. The num- the dedicated teachers who had been ish community and from the broader ber of playgrounds in Votee Park alone working with my grandmother decided neighborhood. has tripled since the days I fi rst went for the sake of the community and my Only four established Orthodox there; the number of shuls has quad- grandmother’s memory to keep it open. shuls then functioned in the commu- rupled and many have expanded in I joined the program three years ago nity, though some newer ones were size. When choosing a shul—because and am now sending my oldest child just starting; most people chose a shul so many are nearby—it is now less a to the school. Together, the morot have based on its proximity to their home. My grandmother, Rina Taubes matter of location than of hashkafah, looked for ways to keep my grandmoth- We davened at Rinat Yisrael, where my PHOTO CREDIT: GAN RINA friends and relationship with the rab- er’s creativity and spontaneity alive, father was the Gabbai. The shul was bi. The choices of restaurants, take-out while adopting the latest teaching tech- then working on its (fi rst) new building, munity grew and more and more Jew- spots, and cafes is now enough that niques, adhering to modern standards, having outgrown its members’ base- ish families were moving in, the need one could eat out nightly for a month and honoring the need for things like ments and a subsequent small house. for another preschool arose, and this and almost never go to the same place permission slips, buses and car seats for Most Shabbat shopping was done at time Rena started her own nursery, twice! The community boundaries go trips to the farm! the relatively new Glatt Express, Te- Gan Rina, in rented rooms at Temple beyond Teaneck into Bergenfi eld and This year, I became Director of the aneck’s only kosher grocery store. On Emeth. Year after year the school fi lled even New Milford. school and I refl ect upon what I expect special occasions we would go out to up with children whose parents were As our community has grown and and need for my own son and consid- eat in one of Teaneck’s four (!!) Kosher looking for a special preschool expe- changed, so have our notions of family er what I hear from his friends’ parents restaurants (Noah’s Ark had opened that rience. My classmates and I came in life and our views on early childhood in order to develop our program accord- year); we usually went to Jerusalem Piz- with joyful, bright, smiling faces which education. Today, more and more chil- ingly. Last year, we introduced our He- za on Cedar Lane, sat on the “no smok- were the result of Rena’s unique, natu- dren live in two-income homes. The brew immersion program; this year we ing side” and looked to see what mov- ral pedagogic talents. cost of living has increased beyond started our Healthy Living Program. ies were playing at the old Cedar Lane At a time when preschool was just the price of rent or food; much Next year Gan Rina will be extending theater across the street. viewed by many as simply group ba- has been written, for example, about its hours and will be opening classes to Both of my parents were working bysitting, Rena saw it as a path to so the price of yeshiva education and the a wider age range, including pre-K. full time (not as common back then) much more. Her natural sense of the communal responsibility to support With the start of another school year, and wanted to send me and my siblings children in her classroom inspired cre- many institutions so that parents can I think about my family putting down to a nursery program that would instill ative projects, exciting trip opportuni- have choices in assessing which pro- more roots here in Teaneck and look Jewish values while helping us to so- ties, and especially her famous “piano gram best meets their children’s aca- forward to what the future holds for cialize and grow both physically and ac- time”— which was a great favorite of demic, social and physical needs. us and our community. My son, like his ademically. The choices for yeshiva ele- children every year. I remember like The increase in the number of par- mother and over a thousand other chil- mentary schools were Yavneh, Moriah, yesterday one fall day when a child in ents working full-time has also caused dren, will have received his fi rst taste of or the Yeshiva of North Jersey, then in my class said that she had never seen a dramatic increase in the number of a Jewish school at Gan Rina and he will Bergen County less than 10 years. There a real pumpkin. My grandmother de- parents looking for both day care and eventually move on to one of the many were even fewer outside choices for cided on the spot to “rectify” this. She early childhood programs. Expecta- yeshiva day schools in the area. I hope preschool. called my grandfather and another par- tions of what a child will get out of that when he looks back at his fi rst ex- My grandmother began her career as ent with a minivan and together they these programs have also changed. periences as part of the Jewish commu- preschool educator in the old YMHA in loaded all the children into the back While children once fi rst learned to nity that he is proud of that communi- Hackensack, and after a few years was of their cars and drove off to a farm. read and write in fi rst grade, they are ty which is helping to raise him and is invited by Congregation Bnai Yeshu- There we walked through a pumpkin now expected to do so in kindergarten. appreciative of the groundwork that his run in Teaneck to start its new nursery patch and picked some special pump- More children than ever before are re- parents, grandparents and great- grand- program. In the mid-1970s, as the com- kins to bring back to school. Return- ceiving early intervention services and parents have laid for him.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 55 SCHOOLS Noam Names New Tanach Enrichment Coordinator - Aliza Weinberg

aramus—To complement its strong ment program and will meet with Mrs. throughout Sefer Melachim, taught by course has been amazing. Pemphasis on Tanach for all students, Weinberg once a week during their reg- Mrs. Susan Yammer, a master teacher The newly formed 8th grade Chu- Yeshivat Noam has named Mrs. Aliza ular Tanach class. In small groups, these who moved recently from Teaneck to mash honors class is delving into themes Weinberg as their Middle School Tanach students are given enriching and chal- Israel. These students are working in- in Sefer Vayikra and Devarim through Enrichment Coordinator. Mrs. Weinberg, lenging materials to further the depth dependently and collaboratively with the lens of the various Rishonim. Start- a former Tanach teacher at Ramaz High and breadth of the 7th grade curriculum. students from three other yeshivot na- ing with the text and then learning School and Tanach teacher at Yeshivat Eighth graders are involved in an ex- tionwide. Every other week the stu- Rashi, Ramban, Sforno, Chizkuni and Noam for the past several years, is now citing new online course being offered dents participate in an international syn- other commentaries on Chumash, the able to provide even further enrichment through the Lookstein Center from Is- chronous session with their ‘classmates’ students are being empowered to learn to top Tanach students. rael. Twelve of the most advanced Tan- and Mrs. Yammer. The response to this Chumash on a much deeper level. Select seventh graders are being of- ach students are participating in an on- fered a newly launched Torah enrich- line Navi course delving into themes Fair Lawn Shomrei Torah Beis Medrash, Thursday Night Parsha Schmooze

Temple Emeth Early The Secret Art of Childhood Center Throwing Things Away By Sarah Abenaim ly deposit a project or an essay that mer- announces early its eternal life, selecting items that truly once spent an entire weekend going depict a refl ection of thought or emo- bird registration Ithrough my parents’ house looking tion or creativity. I have also designated a for a book I had authored in kindergar- cupboard in which certain key items are ten. My mother had saved this book, and wait-listed for their trash-can fate (after I had read it several times in my youth, once throwing out my daughter’s work- the images and illustrations still lucid book, thinking she was done with it, and in my mind. And now, having children then the teacher wrote home a few days who could read and write books them- later, wondering where it was. Oops). selves, I wanted to share my antique cre- And if nobody remembers or needs that ations with them. I sat for hours unearth- item, it then gets silently tossed. Some of ing every storage box, fl ipping through my kids exist in “savings-bliss,” the igno- papers, opening folders. When I had ex- rant state of believing that every math or hausted the basement shelves, I teetered parsha sheet brought home gets framed on beams in the attic crawl space, lunged and hung. But the painful truth: They are over the Pesach dishes, and dug through thrown away. boxes there. I found some old books by While I’m in confession mode, I’ll just Ann M. Martin, but none written by me. let it all out and pray that my kids don’t I sat in the dusty space, inhaling the read this. Sometimes I don’t even look at musty smell, and imagined my precious the project or review the classwork. I just book lying buried in a garbage dump, or dump the contents of the folder straight incinerated, the ashes fl uttering up and into the garbage, and then I perform a among the stars. It was like a piece of my secret move that I will share with you. I childhood, a glimpse of my youth, had take a plastic grocery bag and place it on disappeared. top of the disposed papers to hide them. And yet despite this loss, I am a pretty If the child’s items still seem to show, I big hypocrite. I freely admit that I throw then do a garbage-mix, where I use the away my kids’ creations. There is sim- plastic bag as a glove and stir the con- ply no room to store all that they make, tents of the garbage around so that apple for the 2014 -2015 school year. So close to home, Temple Emeth ECC features nor do I think that a multi-colored paint peels, yesterday’s rice, and a wet napkin a beautiful indoor/outdoor space, small teacher/child ratio, music, movement, scribble defi nes who the child was at 3. I render the spelling test unreadable. For sports and yoga. With the goal of preparing young children for success in yeshi- would need to build an addition to our super-large Seder plates with too much va, Temple Emeth’s program also emphasizes Parsha, Tefi llot, Mitzvot, Shabbat and home or add a silo in the backyard to glitter, or sukkah decorations now wet Chaggim, as well as a superior Chalav U D’vash program. Mommy and Me through house every last painted honey dish. and moldy from the passing holiday, I Pre-K. Contact us today to schedule your personal tour at 201-833-8466 or Shar- I do keep a “savings box,” a large Tup- [email protected]. perware container in which I occasional-  CONTINUED ON P. 74

56 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 57 derful opportunity for the greater com- breakfast. At the culmination of the The Benjamin Schwartz / Yavneh 5K munity to join the Yavneh Academy race, medals are presented to the top family in support of their wonderful runners in the various age categories. JLBC Sports staff Garden State Plaza. The event, named school. The Yavneh 5K is a great way to have in memory of the younger brother of Each year the run draws over 800 fun, get in shape, and raise money for a The 9th Annual Yavneh Academy Yavneh parent and JLBC co-founder people and has raised over $35,000 for worthwhile cause. Benjamin Schwartz Memorial 5K Run Mendy Schwartz. Benjy passed away Yavneh Academy Scholarship needs. To register for the race or to sponsor and 1 Mile Fun Run/Walk will be held form a brain tumor at 18 after a two Participants of the run/walk are treat- a runner, go to www.yavnehacademy. on Sunday, November 10, 2013 at the year battle. The event provides a won- ed to a pre-race workout and a buffet org and click on FunRun/Walk. COMMUNITY AND SCHOOL SCENES

Moriah 6th graders, as part of a Social Studies lesson with Mrs. Yavneh Academy students met representatives on the Paramus Fire Department and learned about fi re safety rules, smoke Sehgal, simulated an archaeological dig detectors and how to call 911 in case of an emergency.

SCENES FROM YESHIVAT NOAM 2013 GOLF OUTING

Rabbi Chaim Hagler, Event Founder Jonathan Gellis, School Event Sponsors - The Rothenberg Family of the Rothenberg Ofer Naor, Laurence Schreiber, Nachum Barishansky and President Dov Adler, Event Sponsor Binyamin Rieder Law Firm- Injurylawyer.com Principal, Rabbi Chaim Hagler

SCENES FROM OHR HATORAH’S KICKOFF YOUTH EVENT – SUNDAY, OCT. 27

Congregation Ohr HaTorah had its tenure with a bang and give the com- popcorn and more, was deﬁ nitely a like to thank all of the volunteers who kickoff youth event on Sunday, Octo- munity a preview of what they have great way to start. Children of all ages helped make the event a rousing suc- ber 27, in Jacoby Park in Bergenﬁ eld. in store for the youth at Ohr HaTo- were kept busy for hours and the par- cess. The shul, led by Rabbi Zvi Sobolof- rah this year. Staging a carnival, com- ents and grandparents that came were For more information about Con- sky, recently hired Eileen and Jordan plete with moonbounces, an obsta- able to get a glimpse of the wonderful gregation Ohr HaTorah please visit Silvestri as the Youth Directors. The cle course, basketball frenzy, carnival programming that will be happening ohrhatorah.com Silvestri’s were looking to start their games, face painting, cotton candy, over the months to come. We would Diane Levy Photography - www.dianelevyphotography.com

Adina Fishkin (daughter of Lisa and Yosi Fishkin, Associate Aryeh Eizikovitz (son of Nina and Judah Eizikovitz, Members Avigayil and Binny Baum (Binny and Sheri Baum are Members Members of Ohr HaTorah) and Shayna Eizikovitz (daughter of of Congregation Ohr HaTorah) enjoying the double slide of Ohr HaTorah and Binny is the President) Nina and Judah Eizikovitz, Members of Ohr HaTorah) post face painting

58 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM SPORTS TABC SPORTS REPORT Kesler and Viswanath Running For Team One TABC Storm Cool Down the Heat Family in NYC Marathon By Coach Ushie Selevan eaneck—On November 3, 2013, close I could have ever imagined.” Since that he TABC Storm traveled to NYC to Tto 50,000 athletes will take to the fi rst race Kesler has competed in many Ttake on the preseason MDY tourna- pavement to run in the annual New triathlons, but this week will be his fi rst ment champs, the Heschel Heat. Hes- York City Marathon. Each runner has an full-distance marathon. chel came out in their suffocating man internal fi re and cause behind his par- Many organizations collect money to man full court defense but TABC was ticipation in the 26.2 mile, fi ve-borough for victims of terror. One Family collects ready for it and were able to break the race. Meylekh Viswanth and Jason Kes- press and score some easy baskets, in ler will be representing Bergen Coun- addition to three treys, to jump out to ty and competing on Team One Family. a 16-6 lead after the fi rst quarter. TABC The One Family Fund supports victims stretched the lead to 11 at half. The 2nd of terrorists in Israel. half continued at the same fast pace Meylekh Viswanth, a fi nance profes- as the fi rst half with TABC ending the sor at Pace University, has been a run- 3rd quarter with a 41-26 lead. Everyone ner since he was a teenager. He start- knew it was coming but the Storm were ing of Alex Hirt, 13 pts (3 treys), Big- ed out running “barefoot” on the streets powerless to stop it. The Heat made man Yehoshua Zirman and Dan Poley- of Mumbai, India and later Chicago, but their move – with their continued eff (3 treys) with 12 pts a piece and now only races with shoes on. This year press they were able to cut the lead to 8 Moshe Brum with 9 pts. Solomon will be his tenth marathon, but his fi rst points until TABC hit some key shots to Shulman who handled the press beau- in New York. He told the JLBC that two put an end to the rally and held on for a tifully chipped in with 6 pts. things initially impressed him about One 55-38 hard fought victory. Heschel was led by Gindi with Family Fund. First, the organization does Jason Kesler Meylekh Viswanath TABC was led by the balanced scor- 14pts and Spiera with 13 pts. not discriminate based on religion when it comes to helping victims of terror in Is- money, and also offers human resourc- rael. Second, such a large percent of the es and support groups, bringing togeth- money raised goes to help the victims er people who have suffered through ter- TABC JV Hockey (over 77 percent). ror attacks, along with caring people who In 2010, Kesler decided his goal was thankfully haven’t. They connect peo- By Shua Naor (’16) gates and scored an early third period to work himself into shape, not just ple in Israel with people in almost eve- goal cutting the lead to two goals. Fin- any shape, but tri-athlete shape. Kesler ry country around the world. One Fami- he TABC JV hockey team started out ishing the game with strong defense told the JLBC that he trained with Team ly Fund works directly with the families, Tthe season with a big 7-3 win on the and goal tending by Shua Beilin, the One Family and “raising money for One every day of the year, responding to their road at Ramaz. After an early goal by the Storm pulled out the 7-3 victory. Goals Family made fi nishing my fi rst race a needs, just as any loving family member Rams, The Storm took charge and never were scored by Yair Knoller (4), Jonah much more rewarding experience than would. looked back. By the end of the fi rst peri- Ganchrow (1), Daniel Levy (1) and Zacha- od it was 2-1, Storm. ry Rothenberg (1). Ramaz came out strong at the be- It was a hard fought game and man with a wicked shot; Michael Re- ginning of the second, but The Storm the start to the journey for the sixth- Frisch Varsity inhart, an offensive defenseman who held them off and fi nished the period straight JV hockey championship for rushes the puck as well as anyone else leading 5-2. The Rams bolted out of the TABC. Hockey, in the league; Tzvi Bessler, Rafi Wind, Jonas Leavitt, Elisha Penn, Mikey Fin- Looking to End kelstein, Sam Rochlin, Abe Gellman and goalies, Josh Eagle, Alan Socolof TABC Wrestling Preview the Drought and Alex Kershenbaum. The team is coached by Canadian-born Aaron Shlag- By Yishai Kaplan against both yeshiva and public high  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 baum and Assistant Coach, former refer- schools. Last year, The Storm wres- ee Shmuli Stern. he TABC wrestling team is ready tling team had a terrifi c regular sea- solid lines of offense and three experi- The Cougars opened their season at Tand eager to defend its title as the son, highlighted by the victory at the enced lines of defense. The team also Ramaz; both teams came into the game reigning champions of the prestig- Yeshiva University Wittenberg tour- has tremendous depth at goalie, with fi red up. Frisch was penalized twice in ious Yeshiva University Wittenberg nament. The Storm has a long his- three evenly matched players who bat- the fi rst period, killed off the fi rst one Tournament. Captain Yishai Kaplan, tory of placing well at the Witten- tled for the starting spot till the season and on the second, newcomer Rafi Sele- ’14, and Jr. Captain, Robert Elsas, ’15, berg Tournament. One of the most opener. The team has a strong nucle- van shelved a shorthanded goal for the lead a team that is looking stronger remarkable things about last year’s us and a mid-season breakdown won’t fi rst Frisch goal of the season. Ramaz than ever. Seniors Chaim Kanarek, tournament victory is that The Storm be an issue for this squad. Each player fought back scoring on the power play. Yosef Greenfi eld and Leo Metzger won without a single senior. has each other’s back during practice Some questionable calls in the second help round out the powerhouse This year the team is stepping up whether they are on fi rst line or fourth period found Frisch down 3-1 going into team. its game to maintain its title as the line. This year they are determined to the third. The Cougars entered the third The wrestling team competes best yeshiva wrestling team. work as a team to reach the ultimate period on the power play. Star junior goal of bringing a championship back Odi Haramati indicated that the power to Frisch. play unit was coming off the court with This year’s team consists of Jason a goal—and that they did. Haramati set MTA Lions Varsity Basketball Repor t Levine, a play maker who can fi nish; up a beautiful cross pass to defense- Jono Wietschner and his explosive of- man Mike Rubin, who drilled it home By Ezra Teichman and found themselves trailing 19- 12 go- fensive skills; Maxx Rimberg an offen- to make it 3-2. Haramati then scored to ing into the break. In the second half, sive defenseman who will put the puck tie it at three. Senior Jason Levine sealed he Lions kicked the season off with a the Lions continued their strong de- in the net; Eitan Rolnick, most physical the deal putting in the game winner late Tstrong performance against the Ram- fensive play but were unable to put defenseman on the team; Odi Haramati in the third. Frisch goalie Alex Kershen- bam Ravens. Game number two, how- enough points on the board to sur- the kid doesn’t miss; Rafi Selevan, new baum was able to hold off Ramaz to ever, saw then facing a mount a comeback. The to the team, but fi ts like a glove; Jacob start the season 1-0. much tougher opponent: fi nal score was 40-30 in Levy, a defenseman who will surprise The team showed their discipline the TABC Storm. favor of TABC. you on the court; Mike Rubin, argua- and superior conditioning in the third The Lions played a sol- Teaneck native Eli bly the best junior defenseman in the period, two trademarks of Coach Sh- id defensive fi rst half but Lipner was the Lion’s league; Jacob Bach, a hard working of- lagbaum and Assistant Coach Shmuli could not convert on the leading scorer with 14 fense man who plays both ends of the Stern. Frisch’s next test will be against other side of the court points. court; Max Milstein, a skilled offense MTA at the Frisch home opener.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 59 SPORTS Frisch Cougars Basketball Report

By JLBC Sports Staff

n October 26th the Varsi- Oty Cougars opened up their Yeshiva League regular season under new head coach Joe Schwartz and assistant coach Eli Davidoff with a hard-fought 58- 51 win against the SAR Sting. Using a 10-man rotation, the Cougars played tough man- to-man defense for most of the fi rst half, scoring 22 points while holding the Sting to just 16 Andrew Levine, Aaron Lauer, Sam Finkel, and Kevin Ebrahimoff @ Frisch Last year’s Frisch Varsity Team Reunited points as the teams went to the practice - PHOTO BY LISA APPELBAUM locker room at halftime. Frisch - PHOTO BY LISA APPELBAUM came out at the beginning of frontline from last year. Each balanced scoring, including 3 the third quarter on fi re, starting player from the undefeated points each from Sr. G. Justin with a 9-0 run that forced SAR to championship team was called Hod and Sr. G Eli Scharlat and call time out and regroup. When by name, and all gathered at dominant board play by Sr. C. the quarter closed, Frisch held the foul line as the digital fl ash- Evan Cohen and Sr. C Jake Re- what appeared to be a comfort- bulbs clicked furiously. After the ichel (who added 2 points) and able 45-28 lead. SAR was not fi n- national anthems, the ball went slashing fast break points from ished, and came out with a stiff up on the new JV season. Sr. G Jacob Furer. The second press, challenging the Cougars Frisch applied serious pres- quarter saw more of the same. full court, baseline to baseline. sure to the JEC backcourt from Jr. F Benni Tuchman scored 5 In the end, Frisch withstood the the outset, but the Thunder in the period, with Laifer, Fur- pressure, holding off SAR’s big crew hung tough, trailing only er, Scharlat, Cohen each add- man, Sammy Marcus, and a bar- 10-6 after one. Unfortunately ing additional points to stretch rage of free throws to hold on for JEC, it quickly became clear the Cougar lead to 32-16 at the for the seven point victory. that So. Capt. F Andrew “A-Train” Last year’s JV Championship Team at Banner Raising Ceremony halfway point. The second Frisch’s balanced attack was Langer was running on the ex- - PHOTO BY LISA APPELBAUM saw more of the same, except led by Evan Cohen and Jacob press line. With 4 points in the this time from a new wave of Furer with 11 each, Jake Reichel fi rst quarter and 6 more in the on two three balls and a slicing the way to a convincing 62-41 Frisch players. Sr. F Abba Szy- with 10 and Justin Hod with 9. second, Langer led the charge drive, and So. Capt. PG Noah win over the Thunder. Frisch, dlo scored 6, and Sr. PG Sol- Rami Laifer ran the team from as the JV Cougars pulled out to Schechter added 4 more points now 1-0, led by Langer with 17, omon Weiner added 2 of his the point and Benni Tuchman, a 26-16 halftime lead. Frisch con- on power moves to the hoop. and Schechter with 10 points. own. Picking up where they left Tyler Hod, Eli Scharlat, Abba tinued with a mixture of pres- So. F. Isaac Weinstock imposed Picking up right where the off, Furer scored 6 more, Justin Szydlo, and Solomon Weiner sure defenses at the beginning his will on the game, grabbing 4 JV left off, the Varsity Cougars Hod tallied 5 more, and Reichel played lock down team defense of the second half, which forced of his team high 8 boards in the came out hungry and hustling, dropped in 4 additional points, to help seal the victory. several turnovers and missed quarter as well. With another looking for their second league with many of these points com- On October 29th the JEC shots by the valiant Thunder. dose of Langer added for good win in as many tries. Applying ing off skillful passes from Lai- Thunder rolled on to the Frisch Nonetheless, the Thunder got measure, the Cougars closed out serious man-to-man pressure, fer and Jr. PG Tyler Hod. The campus for a JV and varsity dou- the fi rst 4 points of the third the stanza with a 47-31 advan- the Cougars forced the Thun- Cougars’ teamwork and stel- bleheader. The night began with quarter to draw within 26-20. tage. The fourth quarter saw the der into several early turnovers, lar defense afforded them a 64- the Frisch JV championship ban- Challenged for the fi rst time whole roster of JV Cougars get with PG Rami Laifer wreak- 29 victory. Furer led all scorers ner ceremony, with the newest this late in a game or scrimmage signifi cant playing time, with ing havoc on the opposing with 11 points. red banner being unfurled by this season, the Cougars stepped many tallying multiple points backcourt. Frisch raced out to The Varsity Cougars head to varsity big man junior C Andrew up. So. Capt. G Mayer Scharlat as the Cougars once again en- 15-8 advantage at the end of the Heschel for their next game on Levine, the 6’4” anchor of the JV got hot, scoring 8 straight points joyed very balanced scoring on fi rst quarter on the back of very Monday, November 4, 2013. JLBC Yasher Koach of the Week: Bruriah Volleyball Report Rebecca Gellis and Nicole Rothenberg By Ilana Markowitz the third game it was neck and neck with each team pulling ahead at dif- n November 17, two local Yeshiva of chessed that their parents have taught. his past Thursday, Bruriah’s Vol- ferent times. In the end, Bruriah was OHigh School athletes will join forc- The JLBC asked both girls why they chose Tleyball A JV team, led by captains the winner taking the match 15-13. es to raise money for Tomchei Shabbos to run for Tomchei Shabbos of Bergen Chavy Federal and Yakira Moskowitz, Their coach said it was a great start of Bergen County, while running the fa- County. won its opener against Flatbush. The to the season. The girls are starting mous Las Vegas 1/2 Marathon. Rebecca Nicole: “I can’t and don’t want to even match went to three games, with Bru- to become a team and work togeth- Gellis (Frisch ‘15) and Nicole Rothenberg imagine what it would be like for a fami- riah winning the fi rst game 21-12 and er as one unit. Their hard work is pay- (Maayanot ‘15) have set their goal to raise ly to not have enough food for Shabbos. Flatbush winning the second 21-15. In ing off. $5000 for Tomchei Shabbos. While living in this community I feel a Tomchei Shabbos of Bergen County personal obligation to support such an provides hundreds of Bergen County fam- important and worthy cause.” ilies with food each and every Shabbos, Rebecca: “Shabbos is the highlight food that they would not have otherwise of my week. Being surrounded by fami- been able to afford. The organization is ly and friends at our table only enhanc- See something run and operated entirely by volunteers, es the uniqueness of this day. I could not almost all of the money raised goes to imagine that there are people who don’t happening near your help our neighbors in need. have food to be able to enjoy shabbos to These two remarkable young ladies the fullest.” home? Know of an are High School Juniors and tremen- To donate go to www.tomcheishab- event coming up in dous athletes; Rebecca plays on Frisch’s bosofbergencounty.org. Indicate that you soccer and volleyball teams, and Nicole are supporting Rebecca and Nicole in the your community? plays on Maayanot’s hockey and softball comment fi eld teams. In addition to being wonderful All money raised will go to help Aniey Tweet it to: @jlinkbc athletes, they have internalized the value Ircha. Good luck girls!

60 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM CAREER Don’t Shoot the Messenger: Five Things That Make Your Résumé a No-Go

By Elly D. Lasson, Ph.D. applicant’s rejection as a serious candi- run fi nancial reports). If the words “must tion. For government agencies and con- date. Aspiring job seekers might want to have” appear before a specifi c skill or re- tractors where a security clearance (or ften I refer a ré- take these to heart. quirement, then that’s what the hiring eligibility for one, if stipulated) is a re- Osumé to a recruit- (1) Employment Instability: When manager is looking for and will commu- quirement, there are no ways around er or hiring manager someone has had fi ve jobs in three years nicate that to the one screening the ré- that. You cannot obtain a security clear- for review. In some that will usually raise some questions, sumés. It’s not about “potential” or “just ance on your own. You must be hired by cases I send the résu- loosely paraphrased as “what’s up with get me in for an interview and then I will an organization that is willing to sponsor mé as one of poten- that?” Even less frequent transitions wow them.” Passing along such a résumé you in the process. tial interest to that employer or recruit- than that might be perceived as “job hop- is essentially ignoring the hiring manag- So, it’s is not about whether the per- er, in other cases I submit a résumé for ping” and have a negative stigma. In a er, and that’s not well received. son described by the résumé can do the consideration relative to a specifi c posi- rare case, there might be some extenu- (4) Tools and Systems: A compa- job. It is not about potential, up-side, tion. While I am a player in a network- ating circumstances which came togeth- ny might have a certain way of doing charisma, or anything else you bring to ing chain, I am not the decision maker er to create that result. But, at face value, things. It might be a reporting system. It the table. In fact, I might like you, be- for the organization. Sometimes the per- such a résumé is a tough sell. might be a software package. In gener- lieve in you and might be willing to for- son with whom I interface is another (2) Degree: For better or worse, a hir- al, larger companies use systems with a ward your résumé. But, it’s about being layer of liaison between the job seeker ing manager might insist on only seeing higher level of sophistication, either in- able to get through the front door, re- and the fi nal decision maker. So, he/she résumés of individuals who have Bache- dustry standard or proprietary. So, the gardless of the referral source. The re- is also beholden to the process. In the lor’s degrees from accredited institutions. person reviewing the résumé is seeking ferring party has to be comfortable do- case of an external recruiter, he/she is Now, could someone whose degree is someone who has been-there-done-that. ing so. Therefore, in your job search, you being paid by the hiring organization to pending a year from now or someone Could a savvy person be trained and get might have to adjust expectations. This source only those résumés which meet without such an end in sight be able to up to speed quickly? Yes, but that’s not might mean “passing” on jobs for which the specifi ed requirements. Even the perform the job in question adequately? the point. Companies today are for the you don’t have 10-out-of-10 or maybe hiring manager who makes the offi cial Of course, but that’s not the point. In a most part not interested in investing 8-out-of-10 requirements. In a competi- decision will ultimately be accounta- job market in which hiring managers can time and resources on training when tive job market, the rules have changed, ble to his/her boss, subject to a post-hire be very selective, it is what it is. In some they can get someone who already has and getting the benefi t of the doubt is a question of “what were you thinking?!” cases (e.g., Law), hiring managers are very had it. scarce commodity. As mere liaisons, there is only so much selective, often asking for top GPA’s from (5) But, isn’t that just an irrelevant that we can do. Sometimes I will get top law schools. So, not all degrees are piece of paper? Industry certifi cations Elly D. Lasson, Ph.D. leads a nonprofi t organiza- feedback from the other party on the ré- created equal, even among those which mean that you have had training and tak- tion called Joblink of Maryland which supports em- sumé. Other times, I will not. Below are are technically accredited. en a test of some sort. Often the hiring ployment objectivesof membersof the Jewish com- fi ve recurring themes, beyond obvious (3) Experience: A job description organization assumes a level of legal lia- munity. He studied in Yeshivas Ner Yisrael (B.T.L.) formatting and typo snafus, which have might stipulate having a certain quantity bility if they hire someone without cer- and earned his B.A. in Psychology from UMBC; his come back to haunt the job seeker. Any of experience (e.g., 5-7 years) or a specifi c tifi cation. So, they won’t. It could be a M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in Organizational Psycholo- one of them might be the reason for an type of experience (using QuickBooks to license, bar admission, or C.P.A. certifi ca- gy from Wayne State University. How to Buy a Great Investment Apartment

By Gedaliah Borvick unit would always be in high demand. income) on such an apartment is not par- al, four-bedroom rental units are request- In addition, acquiring an apartment in a ticularly wonderful – about 3% per year ed by families with three or more chil- y friend recently well-developed area with few additional – the expected capital appreciation is sig- dren. However, three-bedroom units can Masked me to help development opportunities guarantees nifi cant: the apartment’s value upon com- accommodate a greater spectrum of po- him purchase an apart- that when David decides to sell his apart- pletion is anticipated to be at least 40,000 tential tenants, ranging from young fam- ment in Israel as an in- ment, there will be limited available sup- NIS per sqm, translating into a 30%+ in- ilies to retired couples who enjoy having vestment. David wanted to diversify his ply, ensuring strong demand and a full crease above my client’s purchase price. a spare room to use as an offi ce, den or portfolio, which had been comprised of sale price. guest room. In addition, an apartment stocks, bonds and U.S. real estate. Size with less people tends to endure less What Purchasers of investment properties “wear and tear” and the maintenance Goals We determined that the best “bang for often buy smaller apartments, as one- costs are usually lower. As David lives in New Jersey and there- the buck” was to buy an apartment “on and two-bedroom rental units are always After considering all of the issues dis- fore won’t be a “hands-on” owner, he paper” in a new complex being built in in demand plus they generate steady re- cussed above, David decided to buy a wanted to acquire an apartment in good Baka by an experienced developer, which turns. However, David had the budg- three-bedroom apartment “on paper” in condition that would be easy to rent out. offered top quality construction and love- et to acquire a larger unit and was vac- Baka. He was excited to gain a foothold I suggested buying in a large population ly green parks bordering the property. Lo- illating between purchasing a three or in Israel, and we were honored to guide center, as demand for rentals in such mar- cated across the street from the project four bedroom apartment. My colleague, him through the acquisition process. kets tends to outstrip supply, limiting the is a recently completed residential com- Eric Gluch, a highly regarded agent in possibility of the apartment sitting va- plex whose apartments are selling for up Ra’anana, sent me an essay he penned Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel cant for an extended period of time. to 40,000 NIS per square meter (sqm). Be- analyzing the ideal-sized rental apart- Home, a real estate agency focused on helping peo- In addition to the rental apartment cause the new project is two years from ment. When comparing three- and four- ple from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign generating an income stream, another completion, we were able to cut a deal sig- bedroom apartments, he recommends up for his monthly market updates, contact him at important consideration for David was nifi cantly below 30,000 NIS per sqm plus purchasing the smaller-sized units due [email protected]. Please visit his blog at www. “capital appreciation,” which means the closing costs. Although the return (rental to their broad market appeal. In gener- myisraelhome.com. potential for the market to rise and the profi t he can achieve when selling the apartment in the future. Where We decided to concentrate on the densely populat- ed central Jerusalem market, thus ensuring that the rental

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By Jeanette Friedman you are using real broth, you can cut Brown the onions, garlic, mushrooms corn niblets, diced red or yellow peppers, down on the water—in any case try not and beef in the oil in a Dutch oven or beans, etc. and spice it up with your fa- enus vary, depending on the time to use unfi ltered tap water—it contains heavy-bottomed frying pan on medium vorites—from a few pinches of paprika Mof day and the theme, but here are chemicals that can actually affect the heat. When the onions are golden brown and fresh cracked black pepper to addi- some suggestions: taste of your cooking) and the meat is fairly well browned, add tional garlic and onion powder—if it gets Brunch: Omelets to order, assorted ½ cup of olive oil everything to your large pot, except the too salty, , just throw in more potatoes! mini rolls and breads, smoked salmon 1 or 2 bay leaves chopped parsley and dill. Toss in the If you want a Mediterranean fl avor add a and cheese wheels, fresh cut fruit in sea- 1 bunch of dill (chop some on the side tomato juice, the water, the soup base, teaspoon of oregano or zatar. son, Israeli salad (cubed tomatoes and cu- and reserve) the bay leaf (or two, depending on your And please don’t forget to fi sh out the cumbers with lemon juice, olive oil and 1 bunch parsley (chop some of it fi ne- taste), cover and bring to a boil—then bay leaves before you serve the soup! kosher salt and fresh cracked pepper) ly and reserve) lower the fl ame to simmer and let the This should serve at least a dozen peo- café au lait or English Breakfast tea, muf- 2 medium potatoes, peeled and cubed fl avors blend for at least two hours. Skim ple—depending on how large the bowls fi ns and mini-Danish. 1 bunch of scallions, (chop and re- the top, and stir often to prevent barley are! Sprinkle each bowl with the fresh- Lunch: If the novel or book is about a serve) from sticking to the bottom of the pot. ly chopped dill, parsley and scallions, or different land, try choosing a menu that Vegetarian version: 1 cup of the grated You can add any vegetables you have in relates to the country, say China or Italy, cheese of your choice—Parmesan is best. the fridge that are getting tired—peas,  CONTINUED ON P. PB that the book is about. If you are doing James Michener’s classic book, Hawaii, for example, you can set up a Polynesian table and let people help themselves. Order in, cook it yourself, or bring eve- “When Trusted Advice Matters” ryone to your favorite eatery, everyone “When Trusted Advice Matters” will have a wonderful time. Dinner: A buffet is best, so people can nibble and continue the conversation as they circulate. Again, the décor can refl ect the theme—and the benefi t “at night” is that you can decorate with candles that add warmth and a fl attering glow to any room.

FOR ANY FALL OR WINTER PARTY, GARBAGE SOUP IS THE BEST! With a chill in the air, soup is always a delicious way to fi ll your guests’ bellies and warm the cockles of their hearts. A hearty, geshmack soup with sandwiches and salads on the side would fi t the bill. You can order them in from your favorite caterer or take out place, or take the time to prep your favorites. Here’s the recipe for a classic: Garbage Soup, the Hearty Vegetable Soup, aka Pot au Feu This recipe makes enough soup for a small army—you will need one of those huge stock pots—you may have to bor- row or get one at a local restaurant supply house—unless, of course you do this all the time. And if it gets too thick, just add some red or white wine! 1 lb. of lean beef, cut into cubes * optional for vegetarians About 2 lbs. of cracked marrow bones * optional for vegetarians “Rates are at historic lows! 3 medium onions, diced 1 cup of chopped celery Envoy Mortgage is your local hometown lender. 1 chopped parsnip 1 turnip cubed Call Stuart Greenbaum today to dicuss your options.” 2 carrots, cleaned and sliced 1 can of red kidney beans Stuart Greenbaum 1 can of lima beans Stuart Greenbaum 1 cup of sliced mushrooms LoanLoan Originator Originator 1 cup of barley NMLSNMLS #279221 #279221 1 cup of chicken or beef broth base or four cups of your favorite stock, chicken or beef m m- 201.694.4677 - 201.694.4677 (increase this to an additional half o o- 201.268.5757 - 201.268.5757 cup if you aren’t using bones and beef) * vegetarians can leave out the meat f -f 855.961.8793- 855.961.8793 or use tofu, and use a non-meat soup base like Osem (from Israel) that comes 1717 Arcadian Arcadian Way Way Suite Suite 104 104 in a variety of fl avors, from chicken and beef to onion and mushroom Paramus,Paramus NJ, N07652J 07652 1 8 oz. can of crushed tomatoes 4 cloves of garlic crushed Envoy Mortgage, Ltd. NMLS #6666. All applications are subject to credit approval. Program terms and conditions are subject to change without 2 quarts of tomato juice notice. Some products may not be available in all states. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. This is not a commitment to led. 1 quart of fi ltered or spring water (if

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By Aliza Chasan volved in the loan process from start to “I’ve closed loans here in 10 days start fi nish, getting a mortgage can often be to fi nish,” Greenbaum said. “I’m not at espite the government shutdown, like a “game of telephone” with the mes- somebody else’s turn times.” Daverage rates on fi xed mortgages sage getting completely garbled as it gets Greenbaum himself has been in mort- changed very little this month, just .01 passed through the chain, but that is not gages, which he calls the most highly reg- percent, and stayed near their lowest rate the case with Envoy according to Green- ulated business in the industry, for 12 in three months. baum. years. After attending the Moriah School Financing a home can be a diffi cult “I do most of my work in Bergen of Englewood and Frisch High School, he task for anyone, but with normal home County. I bump into them [clients] in su- went on to Boston University’s School lending having continued through the permarkets and restaurants. These are of Management and then into self em- government shutdown, now is not at all the people I see all the time so I want to ployment producing clothing domes- a bad time to fi nance a home. do right by them,” Greenbaum explained tically. The ability of companies who Envoy Mortgage, whose local branch about his work philosophy. outsourced to produce so much more is located in Paramus, is a direct lender— When someone approaches Envoy cheaply convinced Greenbaum to move not broker—that works out of 48 states for a home loan, their ability to repay is onto something new. to help individuals purchase houses. The assessed. After that, the client receives “I wanted to learn something where home loan process usually begins with documents by email requiring electron- if I was willing to work hard I’d be suc- an individual approaching a broker who ic signatures. Most mortgage fi rms send cessful,” Greenbaum said about learning Stuart Greenbaum then contacts a lender who in turn con- out huge packets of paper via the mail a new set of skills for his career change. tacts a bank for fi nancing. Envoy takes to be signed, but Envoy does it all online The learning is ongoing as new Fan- ment ensured loans with as little as three the broker out of the equation. to “be as green as possible” and to expe- nie Mae and Freddie Mac guidelines re- and a half percent down. Loans at Envoy “Working with a direct lender makes dite the process. After the documents are quire licensing and testing for people cover the gamut from FHA loans to mul- the process much smoother,” senior loan signed, Greenbaum and others like him working in the industry. ti-million dollar deals and, according to offi cer Stuart Greenbaum said. pass them onto the processor and get the Federal Housing Administration Greenbaum, all of their rates are compet- With so many people typically in- loan underwritten. guidelines allow people to get govern- itive. Who Will Prepare Your Tax Return in 2014?

By Elozor M. Preil certain preparers are required to pass • The IRS intends to compile a pub- most fi nancial households. If your cur- by Dec. 31, 2013, in order to stay in busi- licly searchable database that will allow rent tax preparer does not meet these ncome tax compliance ness. (CPAs, Enrolled Agents and attor- taxpayers to see if their tax preparers new certifi cation standards, it would be Iis an essential fi nancial neys are exempt from the test because have met IRS standards or to fi nd a tax prudent to begin the process of secur- activity for almost eve- they already have met other testing re- preparer in their zip code area. ing a new preparer as soon as possible. ry American. And for an quirements as part of their credentials.) Ben Franklin asserted the only two overwhelming majority of the popula- Preparers who meet these requirements Potential Impact to Taxpayers certainties in life were death and taxes. tion, income taxes are too complex to be will be given a new designation: Regis- As of May 2012, approximately 4,800 The complexity of current tax regula- done by the individual taxpayer; IRS data tered Tax Return Preparer (RTRP). Even people had completed the require- tions results in another near-certainty: indicates that over 80% of Americans use if they have not yet passed the comments to be certifi ed as Registered Tax You require the services of a tax prepar- a tax preparer or tax software to fi le their petency test, paid tax-return preparers Return Preparers. Yet the IRS estimates er. April 15, 2014, is not a long way off, returns. In consideration of the reli- must also complete 15 hours of contin- some 340,000 paid providers still have and if you haven’t retained the servic- ance of taxpayers on expert assistance, uing education each year, beginning in a testing requirement that must be sat- es of an IRS-approved Registered Tax a series of new tax-preparer regulations 2012. RTRPs must also pass a compli- isfi ed by December 31, 2013. In March Return Preparer, now might be a good have been implemented to bring stand- ance check regarding their own tax sta- 2012, the Institute for Justice, a nonprof- time to start your search. ardization to the fi eld. tus and be fi ngerprinted. it group, fi led a suit against the IRS, ar- Elozor Preil is Managing Director at The fi rst change, which took effect The end result of these new stand- guing that the effort to regulate tax-re- Wealth Advisory Group and Registered on January 1, 2011, required all paid tax- ards: turn preparers is unlawful. Although it Representative and Financial Advisor of return preparers to have a Preparer • By 2014, only Registered Tax Return is hard to objectively quantify, many Park Avenue Securities LLC (PAS). He can Tax Identifi cation Number (PTIN). This Preparers, Enrolled Agents, CPAs and at- independent preparers have indicated be reached at epreil@ wagroupllc.com. identifi cation is included as part of the torneys will be authorized to prepare these new compliance standards may See www.wagroupllc.com/epreil for full preparer information recorded in the individual income tax returns for com- put them out of business. If the num- disclosures and disclaimers. signature section of a return. Paid tax pensation. ber of preparers decreases, most observ- Guardian, its subsidiaries, agents or preparers must renew their PTIN each • The ethical requirements that pre- ers expect the cost of return prepara- employees do not give tax or legal ad- year. viously applied only to CPAs, EAs and tion will rise. vice. You should consult your tax or le- In November 2011, the IRS unveiled attorneys now apply to all paid return An established relationship with an gal advisor regarding your individual a 120-question tax competency test that preparers. authorized tax preparer is a must for situation.

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OCTOBER IS ALL ABOUT BOOKS all is a wonderful time for about what they’ve read. Eve- from the group and talk about Fcelebrating the arts, with ryone reads the same book, what it was like to write the theater parties, gallery open- and everyone gets to give their book and why s/he wrote it. ings and book parties (October point of view. To make it ex- This is particularly fun if a is National Book Month). But if citing, see if there are local au- friend has written a book and gathering friends and coordi- thors you can invite to join you can introduce him or her nating a massive pilgrimage to you, either at home, in a book- to new “fans” who will be hap- the city is too much trouble to shop or a library. Check your lo- py to shout, “Auteur, Auteur” coordinate, don’t fret. There are cal book places to see if they and get their fresh, crisp copies local alternatives you can or- have accommodations you can of the book autographed. The ganize in your neighborhood use. author is happy, the friends are and fascinating soirees to ar- Going out saves wear and happy, and to quote a famous range right in your own home. tear on you as the hostess, and TV chef and cookbook author, First choose an event. basically, you know it’s your Emeril Lagasse, “Everything is Book Parties for young and job to foot the food bill—but happy, happy, happy.” old can be held in any season, you don’t pay for the books. The kind of book you want but with October as National Sugar is brain food, so indulge for your party sets the tone for Book Month, Fall is most ap- your guests with chestnut pu- the event. Book parties can be propriate. There are all kinds ree in a pie shell topped with brunches, luncheons, teas and Fall into Winter of book parties to have—seri- crème fraiche and chocolate dinners—or something as sim- ous ones, silly ones, at home or fudge with an espresso on the ple as chips and dips. Some By Jeanette Friedman ter evening on a hay ride in the to go, with or without authors. side. groups like to pick the latest mountains illuminate thank Carpool with friends and meet A good place to mine for in- book on Judaism, or issues like ummer is gone, and with yous to Hashem for giving us them at a local bookshop. Per- formation about local authors the environment, feminism or SSukkoth and Simchat To- back the Beit Hamikdash and haps you can book a table in is your local library, where the politics. Others like memoirs or rah over, happy and festive as our right to practice Judaism, advance at the shop café, or librarians in the reference sec- history and still others prefer they are, so is Indian Summer. and thanks to America for wel- make arrangements at an eat- tion can help you with your re- entertainment oriented materi- As the days shorten and leaves coming us and giving us the ery nearby to top off your book search. Check with the com- al—celebrity biographies, pret- turn gold and red, school and freedom to be who we are. So purchases. From a cup of es- munity relations person at ty coffee table books, and any work are back on track, life befi x yourself your favorite bever- presso and biscotti to a hearty your local book shop or the big other subject you can think of. comes routine. There’s a nip in age, sit down at your desk, and meal, you can choose a place book store at the mall and see Don’t forget westerns and sci- the air, and people want to fi nd plan a party that will make you that suits the mood, the theme who will be presenting what ence fi ction—those themes lovely distractions—any excuse and your guests feel their best. and the weather. Check your and when. Find out if the book lend themselves to an unusual to have some fun and keep the local listings for October book store will help you arrange a décor and a challenging menu. coming winter doldrums away. DIFFERENT KINDS OF fairs at various venues. Certain- party, and enlist some people The most fun book party is Whether it’s a theme for a BOOK PARTIES: ly Teaneck General Store will who love to read to suggest a themed book party: Spy vs. bar bat, a birthday party or anni- Children’s Book Parties: be able to help you plan such some books that they’ve en- Spy; murders only, romance, versary—whether you want to Children’s book parties can an event. joyed. history, children’s books, art invite hundreds of guests or just be the most fun. Invite each If you really share a passion Once you locate your au- books, travel books—choose a few good friends, the season child to bring a favorite book— for words, assign some books thor, invite him/her to a book whatever bites your fancy, is of exuberance and joy is upon put the books on a shelf or in to read and invite your friends signing and selling party. The trendy and fascinates, or stim- us. And there are lots of things a big box, and choose lots. The over to discuss how they feel author can answer questions ulates the mind. to do. All it takes is a little im- fi ve kids who get picked are agination attached to the hum- blindfolded and get to pull a is up to your imagination. Many Book Swapping Parties mance novels, the lacey, pink drum tasks we take for grant- book out of the box or off the party goods stores have charac- Another way to handle a and red look works, as would ed—from baking, cooking and shelf, and those books will be ters printed on paper plates and children’s book party is to have purple for passion. Design getting dressed in the morning, read aloud in the course of the napkins—or go to the net and parents swap children’s books a breathtaking fl oral center- to redoing a spare room that event. Or do a Dr. Seuss Party (or go to Google to look for par- with each other. This can also piece or have a local fl orist de- could be put to better use, rak- other character themed book), ty supplies and recipes to see be the basis of an adult book sign something for you that re- ing leavings or clearing snow! where the characters decorate what’s available. party, too. Everyone brings fl ects who you are and sets the From theater parties to the room, and the books get For older kids, you can books they are done with to romantic mood. Make sure that Thanksgiving, adults fi nd that read out loud. If it’s Dr. Seuss throw a Lemony Snicket Me- a party, and it’s spent trading there’s plenty of chocolate avail- the fall into winter is packed party, read them as fast as you morial Party (send him off with books, talking books and enable for this one! You can com- with things to do. And kids? can, the faster the better! You a blast!), the bewitched Harry joying good company. For such bine romance and murder by Spring and summer aren’t the can imagine the menu that goes Potter party, a dinosaur party, a party, it makes sense to serve choosing one of the Peter Deck- only times of year to amuse with a Dr. Seuss party. Green an inter-galatic party—there is light snacks and beverages. er/Rena Lazarus stories by Faye them (and yourselves) in the eggs smeared with jam are the so much to choose from—it is Romance Novels Kellerman. great outdoors. All it takes is a basis for the menu and the rest ultimately mind-boggling. Beside piling up stacks of ro- Travel Books little time, brain juice, and per- If travel books excite you, severance. posters and photos of exotic October is great for intellec- places downloaded from the tual pursuits, transitions, trave- net and laminated between ling, and nesting. November sheets of clear Contact paper challenges us with that big All- can make interesting place- American day, Thanksgiving— mats. Model airplanes and especially this year, when Cha- cruise ships surrounded by nukah combines with it to fl owers make an interesting create a new breed of some- centerpiece for the buffet. An thing called Thanksnukkah— international menu is called which has so many manifesta- for, with a little bit of this and a tions to choose from, you can little bit of that to give people a create your own traditions. And taste of the world. In addition coming as it does at the end of to inviting a travel writer, you November, the party season of might also be able to see if you December is extended, with can get a travel video or DVD everyone conspiring to pretti- from the tourist offi ce of the fy the world. The lights of the country your book is about— menorah, the icy sparkle of the whether its Israel, Shanghai or stars on a crisp fall into win- Timbuktu.

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special needs have to face is the family simcha. On a regular basis in Simcha? Why Don’t I Feel Happy? our practice, we are troubleshooting with parents on various strategies to help their children cope with the impending special event and By Alyssa Colton MA, OTR/L are all wonderful occasions, simchas are typically accompanied by a ensure that the situation is as enjoyable as possible. And Aviva Lipner MA, OTR/L healthy dose of anxiety. All parents feel a certain level of stress sur- In general, most children function best in their own routines and rounding various needs of their children during simchas. For par- daily schedules. Some children love a crowd and lots of attention. Last edition of The Link focused on “sim- ents of children with special needs, however, this concern is taken to Some children are shy, or fearful in crowds and prefer to remain with chas”. The terms implies happiness and, while a whole different level. their parents the entire time. But having a child with special needs at weddings, bar and bat mitzvahs and birthdays One of the most stressful occasions that parents of children with a simcha changes the dynamic for many families in so many ways. Many parents of children with special needs have told me over the years that they do not feel truly accepted by their families. This be- Yeshiva University’s Zahava and Moshael Straus Center for comes even more upsetting when their children “act out” or require Torah and Western Thought proudly presents additional care. In some families, this is not the case at all: The entire family is accepting and supportive and loving. Nevertheless, there are expectations regarding acceptable behavior at a simcha. For some families, the simcha is the rare occasion where their child is introduced, or re-introduced, to extended family and friends. Oftentimes, relative strangers feel the need to “say something”, resulting frequently in comments that may seem judgmental, rude or in- trusive. In order to maintain a peaceful environment at the simcha, the parents frequently do not answer the comment but simply let it slide. Unfortunately, this comment slowly digs into the heart of the already stressed-out parent. In general, each family must decide for itself what types of help it will require to maximally enjoy the simcha. My job is to troubleshoot and determine whether we can pinpoint the areas that we anticipate to be the most potentially difﬁ cult ones for the child and his or her family. Here are some examples of strategies that I have discussed with parents of many of my clients to get them through a simcha: Synagogue and State in America: Prepare your child in advance for the upcoming simcha. You can use pictures of family members and discuss some of the people who The Landmark First Amendment Cases of Our Age will be attending. Use of social stories (refer to Dr. Wodinsky’s article about this topic a few weeks ago) to help the child emotionally prepare for the simcha can be an extremely helpful strategy. Make advance arrangements with a trusted point person to help out with the child. This can be a hired babysitter or caregiver if the family can afford it. This person can wait in the wings and if the child seems calm and content, then let him/her manage independently. If things seem to be getting out of hand, however, then your assistant can diffuse the situation and help the child recoup. If hired help is not possible or the family would like to manage the child without outside help, speak to extended family members in advance and let them know what you will need from them. Many times family members refrain from offering to help since they either do not know what is needed or they think they will be embarrassing the parents of the child. Let your family know in advance that you welcome assistance and then guide them so that they know exactly what you need. Find out in advance if there is a room to where the child can es- A conversation with cape if the environment becomes too overstimulating. Frequently, United States Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia children with special needs become overstimulated or overwhelmed by the amount of noise, people and commotion in a large room of and prominent attorney Nathan Lewin ‘57YC a simcha. A quiet room to which the child can retreat from time to Moderated by Rabbi Meir Y. Soloveichik, director of the Straus Center time throughout the simcha will allow the child to take breaks and then return whenever he or she is ready. Wednesday, November 6, 2013 | 7 p.m. Bring some of your child’s toys and snacks. Having a bag of toys Yeshiva University, Wilf Campus that the child can play with quietly will allow your child to have some familiarity in a strange setting (let’s face it, some of our families Admission is free are stranger than others) and have some appropriate sedentary play. Keep an eye on your child. Remember, you know your child best Weissberg Commons, 2495 Amsterdam Avenue, New York, NY and if you can observe a change in your child’s behavior and prevent This event is part of the Straus Center’s “Great Conversations” series. a meltdown or feelings of distress before they occur, you may be able to diffuse a potentially difﬁ cult situation.

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By Tova Knecht Another positive outcome from these colorful bracelets is the practice it pro- here is a fabulous vides for fi ne motor skills and hand/ Tsensation sweep- eye coordination. The rubber bands are ing across the world! small, so the inability to succeed in the Children of every age beginning can lead to frustration. There- are joining in on the fore, help and guide your child in the be- action. Girls and boys ginning. Show them that the YouTube tu- alike are ecstatic over this newest trend. torial videos can be paused and restarted And no, it is not the newest app or video at their convenience. game. It is actually hands on, construc- When I demonstrate how to create tive and interactive. It lends itself to ex- an “expert-level” bracelet, I tell the chil- citing conversations amongst friends. dren that each rubber band represents By now you may have realized that I am one person. When we link the bands to- L-R - Ayelet Eizikovitz, Talia Knecht, Tzipora Klar talking about the Rainbow Loom. gether, we make connections. We are cre- The Rainbow Loom bracelets are more ating one larger entity, representing Am exciting than the previous fad of silly Echad—one nation. In other words, we bands. The reason is because children can are creating a Jewish Link! create their own wonderful designs. Kids The design I prefer to teach is called are fashioning these bracelets and are “The Ladder.” A ladder represents mov- proud of their creations. They make them ing up. When you look at your fi nished to keep; they make them as gifts; what a bracelet, it should symbolize that no fantastic way to connect with friends! matter the level you are currently on, there is always room for growth and development. In life, you should never feel stuck or stagnant. Rather, you should realize your potential; have the confi dence to develop and nurture your talents. Set goals for yourself: one ladder rung at a time. And then, wave your decorated arms in the air and be proud of your amazing accomplishments! L-R - Paya Gellman, Ahuva Guzman. SIMCHA DIRECTORY

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By Rabbi Jack Riemer/JNS.org be there and minimal courtesy for their reconnect with God after losing my hus- they deserve. sincere religious yearnings, but they re- band, and it gave me the strength to con- This is an important book for non- Kaddish, Women’s Voices, edited by port that in many places they did not tinue my life without him,” according Orthodox Jews to read, for it demon- Michal Smart and Barbara Ashkenas (Je- receive either. They tell of places where to one woman. Another woman writes, strates how the stereotype that all Ortho- rusalem and New York: Urim Publica- men walked out when they said Kaddish, “Saying Kaddish changed who I was, and dox Jews are intolerant and dismissive of tions, 2013) pp. 270, $27.95. where the tzedakah box was never car- perhaps more importantly, who I wanted women’s rights is simply not true. And Rabbi Norman Lammonce said that ried over to their section, and where they to be.” it is an important book for Orthodox when modernity fi ghts with the liber- were made to feel unwanted and invisi- And so the testimonies go on. Wom- Jews to read as well, for it demonstrates al movements in Judaism, it is not a fair ble. They tell what it felt like when the an after woman writes about how the ex- that in the struggle between modernity fi ght because modernity always wins, lights were lit in the men’s section, and perience of saying Kaddish transformed and Orthodoxy, both sides have much and that when modernity fi ghts with the no one remembered or bothered to light her and inspired her, how it healed her to learn from each other. For mourners, right wing of Orthodoxy, it is not a fair them in the women’s section as well. feelings of estrangement from the one and for all Jews who seek to fi nd spirit- fi ght because the right wing always wins. But anger is not the only, or even the she had lost, and how it brought her clos- ual strength in their time of loss, this is Kaddish, Women’s Voices is a book in most important, emotion in this book. er to God and to the Jewish communi- also an important book. Anyone who which modernity fi ghts with modern Or- These women describe, as many men ty. Several of them pay tribute to the rab- reads it will come away with a new ap- thodoxy, and the results are fascinating. have, the powerful spiritual effect that bis who welcomed them, who were kind preciation of the power of daily prayer to Fifty-two women write their accounts saying Kaddish every day had on them. enough to announce the pages for their heal bruised hearts and to give new spir- of what it was like for them to say the One woman writes, “Even as I hit sakes, and who made them feel at home it in time of loss, and with a new appre- Kaddish prayer for their deceased loved upon its limits, I clung to the depend- by looking over to their section once in ciation for the way in which modern Or- ones in the daily minyanim of Modern able rhythms of the daily service, to its a while when they spoke. And the book thodox Jews are striving to balance their Orthodox synagogues. ancient roots, and to its potential as an ends with two beautiful essays by men: commitment to tradition with their un- Two emotions wrestle within these outlet for the grief running through me.” one by Rabbi Marc Dratch, who shows derstanding of the spiritual needs of the women. One is anger. They were not fem- Another writes, “I count the experience how the halakhah permits women to women in their midst. inists, and they were not asking for the of saying Kaddish as among the highest say Kaddish, and one by Rabbi Avi Weiss, What a much-needed book this is! removal of the mechitza or for the right privileges of my life. I entered a world who tells how his synagogue architec- to lead services. They were only look- and emerged a different person.” ture and his members’ behavior are both Rabbi Jack Riemer reviews frequently for journals ing for minimal respect for their right to Saying Kaddish “gave me the time to designed to give women the respect that in America and abroad. HISTORY Cartoonists Who Spoke Out Against Kristallnacht

By Rafael Medoff/JNS.Org marked “File No action sign pointing to “Exile,” with a giant ques- FDR.” Mindful of polls tion mark looming over the horizon. He ti- ix days after Kristallnacht, Paul Car- showing most Americans tled the cartoon “Wanted: A Christian An- Smack, staff cartoonist for the Chris- opposed to more immi- swer.” The question was the fate of the tian Science Monitor, drew a cartoon gration, Roosevelt pre- Jews; the answer, the cartoonist insisted, titled “The Best Answer to Race Perse- ferred to follow public was for Christians to accept their moral re- cution.” It showed a large hand, labeled opinion rather than lead sponsibility to help the downtrodden. “Humanity,” handing a document titled it. Without his support, Meanwhile, in the pages of the Chica- “Assistance” to a crowd of Jewish refu- the Wagner-Rogers bill go Daily News, another cartoonist plead- gees. was buried in commit- ed for help for Germany’s Jews. Staff “I could scarcely believe that such a tee. Ironically, when Pets cartoonist Cecil Jensen drew a group thing could occur in a 20th-century civ- Magazine the following of Jewish refugees on a large rock, sur- ilization,” President Franklin Roosevelt year launched a campaign rounded by turbulent ocean waves. They declared in the wake of the Nazis’ to have Americans take in can see, in the distance, a 17th centu- Kristallnacht pogrom, which devastated pure-bred British puppies ry-style ship, labeled “World Rescue Ef- the German Jewish community 75 years so they would not be forts.” Whether or not the ship will save ago. harmed by German the refugees is unclear. Jensen titled the Most Americans, like their president, bombing raids, the cartoon “Mayﬂ ower,” invoking America’s were appalled to read of Nazi storm magazine was flooded own powerful historical symbol of refu- troopers burning down hundreds of syn- with several thousand gees from religious persecution reaching agogues, ransacking thousands of Jew- offers of haven for the a safe haven. ish-owned businesses, murdering some dogs. Sadly, few Americans heeded the ap- 100 Jews, and hauling 30,000 more off Most American edito- peals of Paul Carmack, J. Parker Robinson to concentration camps, from Nov. 9-10, rial cartoonists, like most and Cecil Jensen, despite the horrors of 1938. In the days following the pogrom, Americans, exhibited lit- Kristallnacht. When a “Mayﬂ ower” ship three American editorial cartoonists tle interest in the plight called the St. Louis approached America’s would try to channel the public’s sympa- CREDIT: COURTESY OF THE DAVID S. WYMAN INSTITUTE FOR HOLOCAUST STUDIES. of Germany’s Jews. But there were excep- shores just a few months later, President thy for the victims into concrete steps to admission of 20,000 German refugee tions. A handful of cartoonists used their Roosevelt turned it away. help German Jewry. children outside the quotas, but nativist platforms not only to express sympathy Expressions of sympathy were not In response to Kristallnacht, Presi- and isolationist groups vociferously op- for the refugees but also to call for practi- matched by deeds. There were no U.S. dent Roosevelt recalled the U.S. ambas- posed the bill. cal steps to help them. economic sanctions against Nazi Germa- sador from Germany for “consultations” Typical of the opposition’s perspec- Six days after Kristallnacht, Paul Car- ny, no severing of diplomatic relations, and extended the visitors’ visas of the ap- tive was a remark by FDR’s cousin, Laura mack, staff cartoonist for the Christian no easing of immigration quotas. proximately 12,000 German Jewish refu- Delano Houghteling, who was the wife Science Monitor, drew a cartoon titled The Roosevelt administration’s muted gees who were then in the United States. of the U.S. Commissioner of Immigra- “The Best Answer to Race Persecution.” reaction to Kristallnacht foreshadowed But at the same time, FDR announced tion. She warned that “20,000 charming It showed a large hand, labeled “Human- the terrible silence with which it would that liberalization of America’s tight im- children would all too soon grow into ity,” handing a document titled “Assis- greet the Nazis’ Final Solution. migration quotas was “not in contempla- 20,000 ugly adults.” tance” to a crowd of Jewish refugees. tion.” An appeal to FDR by First Lady Elea- Five days later, the Christian Science D r. Rafael Medoff is founding director of The Da- In the wake of Kristallnacht, human- nor Roosevelt to support Wagner-Rog- Monitor published another editorial car- vid S. Wyman Institute for Holocaust Studies. This itarian-minded Members of Congress in- ers fell on deaf ears, and an inquiry by toon responding to Kristallnacht, this time feature is adapted from his forthcoming book,” Car- troduced legislation to aid German Jew- a Congresswoman as to the president’s by J. Parker Robinson. It showed a mass of toonists Against the Holocaust,” coauthored with ry. The Wagner-Rogers bill proposed the position was returned to his secretary people, labeled “Jews,” marching past a Craig Yoe.

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Edited by Jeremy Stolow. (NY: Fordham termingling of religion and technology ritual meaning, somehow detached from increasingly invoke longstanding reli- University Press, 2012), pp.368, $28.00 can shed new light on what it means to the ‘real’ world of technological actions,” gious themes of miracle, salvation and be human. Stolow explores this intersec- he says. “But throughout history, reli- fate.” Montreal—@DalaiLama has more tion in Deus in Machina: Religion, Tech- gious actors have always depended on Deus in Machina brings together es- than 7,000,000 Twitter followers. A nology, and the Things in Between, a new technologies of all sorts, and it is in fact says by respected scholars from around smartphone app provides Muslim wor- book that takes an interdisciplinary voy- impossible to generate religious knowl- the world to reevaluate the philosoph- shippers with a customizable prayer age across the many different contexts in edge or experience without them.” ical, cosmological and ethical terms on alarm and a compass that always points which religion and technology meet. It’s not just religion that is affected by which technology has been imagined as to Mecca. The ﬁ rst Papal “selﬁ e” went vi- By putting God back into the ma- technology—it goes both ways. As tech- the opposite of religion. Their pieces— ral in minutes. The dawn of the digital chine, Stolow and the authors featured nology grows more far-reaching in its on subjects ranging from the develop- age has brought religion and technology in the collection revise the very idea that powers, it is increasingly colored by re- ment of mechanical clocks in medieval together like never before. But this cou- religion and technology exist as separate ligious implications. Says Stolow, “Just Christian Europe, to the healing power pling is nothing new: from stone tab- areas of action and experience. Stolow look at the dazzling retina displays that of prayer in pre-modern Buddhist Japan, lets to the printing press, technology has hopes that this book will help shake read- seem sharper than reality, the surveil- to Islamic debates about organ transplan- long had a profound effect on religious ers free from the idea that there is a clear lance systems that track our every move, tation in contemporary Egypt— call at- practice. divide between religion and technology. the large-scale industrial projects that tention to what can be created once the For Concordia University communi- “Religion has long been imagined as threaten our planet. As technologies be- division between religion and technolo- cations professor Jeremy Stolow, the in- a domain of faith, belief, symbolism and come more powerful and complex, they gy has been done away with. In The Steps of the Rambam—Literally!

By Shmuel Sackett

xactly 849 years ago, the Ram- Ebam wrote a very important letter. That letter describes how he risked his life to come on a visit to Israel. It was during the time of the Crusades and life in Israel—for Jews—was indeed one of great danger. He arrived in Israel, in the port city of Akko on the 3rd of Sivan 4925 and was so excited that he arrived safely, after surviving many life-threaten- ing storms at sea, that he wrote the following: “On the third day of the month of Sivan, I left the ship in peace at the port of Akko, having been delivered from destruc- tion, and arrived in the land of Israel. I made a vow that this would henceforth be a day of joy and happiness, in which I would enjoy a festive meal and give charitable language he used in his letter was “The lyst in reviving the Temple and bringing and feet) plus the trumpets, measur- gifts to the poor, as would my household, Great and Holy House” which is the exact it back into Jewish consciousness. I re- ing vessels, spoons and unique pitcher until the end of time.” same wording we say every time in our member when you could barely fi nd a for the water libation. In addition to all The Rambam continues his letter by benching: “Have mercy, Hashem our God, sefer dealing with the Beit Ha’Mikdash. these amazing vessels, they have pub- telling us what he did a few months later on Israel Your people; on Jerusalem, Your At most, there were some seforim deal- lished Mishnayot with accurate draw- in the month of MarCheshvan. “On the city; on Zion, the resting place of Your ing with the Mishkan, but the Beit ings and diagrams of the Mikdash, Hag- fourth day of the month of MarChesh- Glory; on the monarchy of the house of Ha’Mikdash?—nothing could be found. gadot, Machzorim (which focus on the van, in the year 4926 from the time of David, Your anointed; and on the Great Rav Yisrael Ariel changed all that. He holidays during the Mikdash period), creation, I left Akko and set out for Jeru- and Holy House upon which your Name opened the Machon Ha’Mikdash and detailed seforim with amazing com- salem, encountering many dangers along is called….” started building actual vessels for the 3rd mentaries, and a large collection of pic- the way. I entered the Great and Holy In celebration of that historic event, Beit Ha’Mikdash. Today, they have over tures and children’s books, puzzles and House (the area of the Beit Ha’Mikdash— my wife and I made all the halakhic prep- 60 vessels ready for use. Let me repeat games. Thanks to their lead, others have Har Ha’Bayit) and prayed there on the arations necessary and we walked in the that in different words: Instead of just jumped into the game and have writ- sixth of the month of MarCheshvan. On footsteps of the great Rambam. What an waiting or singing “Next Year in Jerusa- ten similar seforim, including ArtScroll the ninth of the month, I left Jerusalem honor to be able to do such a wonder- lem,” a group of people led by Rav Yis- which just came out with a beautiful and set out for Hebron, to visit the graves ful thing! We ascended Har Ha’Bayit, un- rael Ariel have decided to do something sefer on the Beit Ha’Mikdash. You will of our forefathers in the cave of Mach- der the Halakhic guidelines of the Gad- about it. They opened a kollel of Talmid- also fi nd DVD’s, informative websites pelah. On that day I stood and prayed at ol Ha’Dor, HaRav Yisrael Ariel, known ei Chachamim who sit and learn all day and even a “virtual tour” online of our the cave—may Hashem be praised for as the #1 worldwide expert on the Beit about the Beit Ha’Mikdash. These schol- holiest site. As stated above, this is all everything! These two days, the sixth Ha’Mikdash, Har Ha’Bayit and every- ars are dedicated to understanding the thanks to the leadership and vision of and ninth of MarCheshvan, I vowed will thing connected to that awesome expe- deep concepts of the Mikdash and they Rav Yisrael Ariel, may he be blessed with be for me like festival days, fi lled with rience. HaRav Ariel is the founder of The are applying them to our modern day. long life. prayer and happiness, food and drink… Temple Institute (Machon Ha’Mikdash). They have built vessels that are 100% On that great “Rambam Day” —the 6th Just as I merited being able to pray in In today’s Jewish bookstores there kosher for use in the Mikdash includ- of MarCheshvan—Rav Ariel went up to its (the Holy Temple’s) ruins, may I soon are many seforim about the Beit ing a menorah, a table and a gold in- Har Ha’Bayit and led a large group who see its comfort (rebuilding) speedily— Ha’Mikdash, many beautiful posters cense altar. After 11 years of exhausting were also following in the footsteps of amen!” (you probably even had some hang- research they have designed and manu- the Rambam. It was a wonderful day and In case you didn’t grasp the magni- ing in your Sukkah) and even children’s factured clothing for the Kohanim and I thank Hashem for the privilege to be tude of what the Rambam wrote, allow games and puzzles dealing with the Beit the Kohen Gadol—complete with his able to enter His special place and walk me to summarize one part of that let- Ha’Mikdash. All of these items—eve- breastplate and actual precious gems! in the permitted areas. May we soon see ter: On the 6th of MarCheshvan 4926 the ry single one of them—are due to Rav They have made the kiyor (the special the rebuilding of the Beit Ha’Mikdash in Rambam davened on Har Ha’Bayit. The Ariel. He was the initiator and the cata- sink for Kohanim to wash their hands all its glory and splendor! I can’t wait!!!

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Pesach in Israel with Family imone Wruble lives in Teaneck, NJ. land, Australia and South Africa. It was SShe has run a wedding and bar mitz- a real cross section. Families sat togeth- vah invitation business there for 17 years. er and everything was well organized. Like most people, each year she cele- There were many day trips arranged for brates Pesach with family - either at us during chol hamoed, including a big home or at one of the myriads of Pesach bus that went to the Leket organization hotels around the country. This past year, where we helped pick beets together.” she spent Pesach with Eddie’s Kosher This year is the 27th year at Eddie’s Travel in Israel. Kosher Travel and they are proud to offer “Honestly, the best part was having six different hotel destinations to choose only one seder and more days of chol from in Israel. hamoed,” Wruble admitted with a laugh. “The whole experience was wonder- On the Lake ful. The hotel, hosted by David and Cha- LEONARDO PLAZA, TIBERIAS offers na Walles and the Eddie’s Kosher Trav- the fl agship 5-tar program. Following last el team, was very nice. Food was tasty year’s success they are once again offer- and plentiful. I was at the Tiberias loca- ing their signature promotion: Kids FREE tion and it was amazing. You can walk sharing in room for $4,200. Limited avail- around on the boardwalk where restau- ability. The hotel is spectacularly located rants are open, featuring all kinds of ko- on the shores of Lake Kinneret and the sher for Passover food you would never Tiberias boardwalk where you can enjoy nean, only 20 minutes from Tel Aviv and or recreation the hotel offers a fabulous get in the U.S. Also, compared to Ameri- spectacular views at the Gateway to the 15 minutes from the Caesarea Golf Club. outdoor swimming pool, children’s pool can programs (and I have been to my fair North. This luxury hotel combined with The 5-star Ramada Netanya has a full-ser- and sun deck. Recharge at the Spa, and share of them), this was much more af- the unique jam packed program offers vice spa and a gorgeous ocean pool for enjoy the taste of international cuisine. fordable without having to compromise all the facilities and activities that your the perfect combination of indulgence * * * on service and amenities.” family could dream of for an enjoyable and an oasis of luxury, providing guests Whichever hotel you choose, you will Wruble joined the hotel with her par- Pesach vacation. with unmatched personal attention. dine on the fi nest food [Glatt, Mehad- ents, her brother and his family, cousins The hotel has 180 spacious, elegant and rin & No Kitniyot], enjoy private or com- and even her brother-in-law’s mother, In the Forest comfortable suites, each with separate munal seders, tea room and sweet hour, Leah Kaufman from Montreal, a holo- HACIENDA FOREST VIEW, WEST- lounge and bedroom with a large private daily and nightly entertainment, tiyulim caust survivor who went through the war ERN GALIL is nestled near Kfar Vradim. verandah. options led by professional guides, a spe- as a nine year old child on her own. Renowned for its serene and tranquil at- cial chag atmosphere [with optional 2nd “Everyone called her Bubby Leah - mosphere, the resort emulates a magi- By the Dead Sea day], shiurim and lectures by stimulat- even people who aren’t related to her. Da- cal, authentic Spanish estate with a Eu- CROWNE PLAZA, DEAD SEA is where ing scholars and guest speakers, kids and vid Walles invited her to speak and she ropean fl avor, spreading over 17 acres of the private beach and mineral-rich mud teen programs, early kids’ dinners, and so was able to share some of her memories. natural lush green forest - complete with treatments will energize, rejuvenate and much more. She is a real inspiration and we all felt pampering Spa & Garden rooms. This re- relax you. The lobby’s panoramic win- Hosts and staff are the best in the in- like one big family.” sort is most popular for families with dows invite the outside in. 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commands attention so that we can better once told me, when I demanded she liking and hating it at the same time. My The Secret Art ter focus on that which does. And I na- clean her messy room. “I see it as neat.” writings had seemed so precious, record- ively thought that if the garbage can was But that’s not the only way our eyes dif- ing my innermost thoughts to eternally of Throwing closed, nobody would actually question fer. The children cannot let go of their save. But as I look back at who I was, I its contents. things with the same nonchalance as I don’t really want to remember myself so Things Away But I’ve been caught. On many occa- do, and routinely peer into the depths of distinctly in youth. It doesn’t seem accu- sions. “Who threw away my Dum-Dum the garbage, foraging for what was theirs, rate. It’s not me in the moment, not a re-  CONTINUED FROM P. 56 Wrapper collection?” my son beseeches and far worse, things they think should fl ection of my current values and ideas, me, after noticing one fl y-away wrapper be salvaged. not who I want to be remembered as. I tie them up in a grocery bag, and jour- peeking out from a tissue. “When you fi nish that seltzer can, I’ll am now a summary of my parts, and that ney outside to our dumpster. I am always “Oh, it must have just fallen off of keep it to make a robot!” my daughter journal is only one small part, etched in nervous that the bulky edges will peak the counter and into the garbage,” I say. I offers. While my recycling-savvy mom history. out from the kitchen trash and get me in used to blame the cleaning lady, but then would be very proud, I hand her the can, Maybe it’s okay to throw things away. trouble. the kids started to confront her, so I had and she indeed does turn it into a ro- Maybe it will be good that my child won’t I wasn’t always so meticulous in my to change my alibi. My son then proceeds bot, which mysteriously “walks away” remember her misspellings in fi rst grade, style. Late at night, with no one watch- to dig through the entire contents of the back into the recycling bin in the darkest or how she used to write some of her let- ing, I’d collect all the errant papers left garbage can, wondering what else might part of the night, as do the milk-contain- ters backwards. The loss of these things— scattered around the kitchen, the loathed have “fallen off the counter,” and angri- er-bowling pins and the princess crown of their art, their books, their writings— Scholastic book forms, the hardened ly fi nds a Simchat Torah fl ag. It is hastily from the cereal box we simply had to cut is the loss of recorded youth, but not the Play-Doh sculptures that leave crumby removed, and I then have to iron it with out. loss of active growth. And every now and trails in their wake, and gleefully fi ll the my arm, trying to smooth out the wrin- Recently, we replaced the desk in then, I save a part to complete the picture kitchen garbage to its brim. I have also kles and blot at the oil stains with a nap- my offi ce space in our house and, as I of their development, a picture which is been known to include birthday party kin, to further promote my innocence. cleaned out the drawers, I discovered an still, painstakingly, being painted. goody bags, torn shoelace collections, The garbage can is like a melting pot old journal of mine from college. I took Rainbow-Loom bracelets, the now de- for all things interesting, a collection site it out and fl ipped through its pages, the Sarah Abenaim is a freelance writer living with her funct Silly-Bandz and a few Lego piec- for everything that once breathed life, handwriting loopy and fl amboyant, and husband and four children in Teaneck. She is work- es here and there. I like to minimize the but no longer does—at least in my opin- then threw it back inside. It was like ing on her firs t book. More of her essays can be clutter, get rid of that which no longer ion. “We have different eyes,” my daugh- looking at an old, awkward picture; both found at www.writersblackout.wordpress.com.

not live in Fort Lee, if they come to Bub- ment will not be ignored. The hope is went to Moriah and their parents. Chanukat by or Zeidie for Shabbos, they will fi nd a that young families will be attracted And he’s is beloved by the old-timers, heimishe shul waiting for them, with all to the new shul and participate fully too. Habayit at Ft. Lee the trimmings. in making it a success—to that end, a “ The beauty is that seniors have such Young families who aren’t ready Shabbat Tot program is already in the wisdom, experience and knowledge Young Israel for buying large homes deeper in the planning stages. and are so warm and welcoming to the county will fi nd that the rentals in As shul spokesperson Linda Stam- younger generation that the young folks  CONTINUED FROM P. 20 Fort Lee, in these same luxury build- ker explained, “The shul knows its feel like they all have 50 grandparents. ings, offer playgrounds and children’s future is in young families with kids It’s a really warm community and lovely Many of the Young Israel members’ activities, as well as all the ameni- (that’s how it started, after all) and blend of people.” children and grandchildren live in Te- ties previously mentioned. These ac- it also appreciates all it offers to the Stamker concluded, “It’s a beauti- aneck, Tenafl y and Englewood, and the tivities will be enhanced by the pro- older generation. In fact, Rabbi Win- ful new building that we hope will shul wants those younger generations grams being established at the Young kler, is great with kids—he is respect- be used for decades to come by a to feel welcome as well. While they may Israel, so children’s spiritual developed and admired by students who great mix of people.”

74 October 31, 2013 • 27 Cheshvan 5774 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM lection of the incriminating items. As the not there had been a follow up. There Beit Shemesh Elections Contested police were picking up the suspects, an- were reported cases where Haredi vot- other Haredi man arrived in a car and ers who spent too much time behind Amid Mounting Evidence of Fraud the cops found 31 ID cards inside the ve- the curtain were caught stuffi ng their hicle. The frightened driver attempted pockets with voting notes, depleting the CONTINUED FROM P. 15  to dump additional ID cards in a near- booth of some candidates’ notes. by garbage can and those were picked One such voter said it was all a nostal- back the card. Just like that. We thought borhood, told Ma’ariv: “In the afternoon up by police as well. In a discussion the gia thing, he wanted to bring the notes it was strange, because it looked like a a Haredi young woman came to vote, day after the election, in front of Mag- home to his wife and children. There criminal violation to me, but that’s what and it was later discovered that she had istrates Court, Judge Sharon Larry-Bav- are several testimonies by voters who ar- we did and the man went home.” already voted before with a different ID li, Jerusalem District Fraud Division in- rived at their appointed station only to Y, who served as vice chair of the card, and a different wig. We were lucky vestigators suggested several theories. discover that they had already voted. The election committee in the Menucha that a committee member recognized They were certain that some of the ID solution the election committee agreed V’Nachala neighborhood, also a Haredi her and said, ‘This woman was already cards were forgeries—and in at least one on in one such case sounds creative, but area, told Ma’ariv: “We had several im- here a short while ago.’ We asked her if case an ID picture had been replaced by probably not legal, and someone should proper or suspicious cases like that, and she had already voted and she denied it. a passport photo. Other cards had been review it: a young woman who was list- the worst of them happened towards The picture in the card looked similar to given by their owners so someone else ed to vote in Beit Shemesh but goes to the end of the day. A young Haredi man her, but the head cover was confusing would use them to vote – an obviously school in Jerusalem, made the effort to showed up to vote, and the picture in and made it very tough to identify. We illegal act. But there was a third theory, get to the booth before the end of the his ID card was from 20 years ago. You started asking her questions. We asked that extremist Haredim were demanding day – only to discover that someone had couldn’t recognize him. He went behind when she was born, she said, ‘Around of their fl ock to hand in their ID cards as already voted using her name. She fi nal- the curtain and stayed there way too long. the month of Adar.’ She could not recall a show of fealty to the anti-Zionist ideol- ly managed to convince the committee When he came out, I took out his ID card her children’s names. We called the po- ogy, down with the state, etc. – and then that she had not voted before, but the personal data attachment and asked him lice and they took her for questioning. It those same Haredi extremists supplied chairman told her that if the number of to tell me the names of his children. He turned out this was her second vote.” their own people with the cards to vote envelopes exceeds the number of voters knew the fi rst two, but couldn’t recall the Half an hour after police had inter- the “right” way. by one – they’d pick a random envelope third and was stuck. And then the elec- rogated the woman voter, the cops raid- Shlomo Engleberg, who wears a knit- and trash it. So far, Judge Larry-bavli has tion committee chair, a Haredi man who ed two apartments in a building near ted yarmulke, was an observer at a vot- remanded the seven Haredi suspects, and belongs to one of the Chassidic groups in that voting station, and caught 140 ID ing station in the Haredi Ramat Beit the prosecution should be able to get a the city, started screaming at me: ‘Stop, cards that were spread on tables in both Shemesh Bet. He told Ma’ariv there were conviction against them on a rich varie- leave him alone, I know him.’ places. In addition, police found what no suspicious voters, no problem ID ty of voter fraud items. But the question “The man took advantage of the tu- they dubbed “costumes”: different head cards—until it came to the vote count at of the validity of the entire vote in Beit mult, left the ID card and fl ed. We hand- scarves, sunglasses, women’s hats. They the end of the night. It appeared that the Shemesh is outside the scope of the Mag- ed the card to the police, but this was a also discovered a list of local election sta- 265 voters at that that particular station istrates Court. For that to happen, some- huge miss. The only way to fi nd out what tions and two passports. Seven Haredim had produced 300 envelopes, or 35 more one in Beit Shemesh needs to sue. really happened is by interrogating the were arrested in the two apartments, envelopes than voters. According to En- Read more at: http://www.jewish- chairman. He knew the guy.” while some 15 fl ed through windows. An- gleberg, he insisted that a note be made press.com/news/breaking-news/mount- Yossi Korem, chairman of the elec- other group actually attacked the cops, in the record and that the authorities be ing-evidence-beit-shemesh-votes-stolen- tion committee in the Cheftzibah neigh- trying to prevent the arrest and the col- informed, but he has no idea whether or election-tainted/2013/10/28/2/

Congregation Shomrei Torah Presents The 5th Annual Susan Nelson Glasser Memorial Kristallnacht Commemoration Mending A Broken Link:

Jewish Cemeteries Restoration in Poland Through Education and Dialogueg

Guest Speaker Avi Mizrachi Sunday, Nov. 10, 2013 The event is free and open to the public. 7:30 pm Refreshments will be served. Congregation For more information email: Shomrei Torah [email protected] of Fair Lawn Presented by The Foundation for 19-10 Morlot Avenue Holocaust Education Projects Fair Lawn, NJ 07410 (www.holocausteducationprojects.org) and the Poland Jewish Cemeteries Restoration Project (www.pjcrp.org) Flyer design by Sara Levi This event is sponsored by the Kovacs Family.

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OCTOBER parents Session including curriculum by going to www.rynj.org. For silent auction food, cocktails and Dairy Dinner and Program (8:15) Kaplen JCC on the Palisades 6:00 – highlights and informative rotating further information contact Mrs Tamar inspiration. $75 per person. RSVP to Register at TeaneckMikvah.com/event - 7:30PM 411 E Clinton Ave, Tenafl y workshops for parents and their Kahn, Director of Admissions at tkahn@ [email protected] $54.00 Widows and Widowers: You Are Not Alone daughters respectively. Buff et lunch rynj.org . For further information call Aliza or Therapist Judy Brauner , LCSW helps following program with an opportunity Rubina at 201 837 6770. Monday, November 25th 9:45AM – deal with issues facing those recently to meet with faculty, alumni and present Sunday, November 10th 9:15AM 11:00AM Jewish Renaissance Center widowed. Provides an opportunity to parents and students. Pre registration is Frisch School 120 W Century Rd, Monday, November 18th 1510 Jeff erson St, Teaneck meet with others in similar situations. appreciated at www.RTMA.the JEC.org. Paramus Jewish Renaissance Center 1510 The Defi nition of True Torah Heroes – Group will meet for 7 sessions on Call 908 355 4850. 8th graders and their parents invited to Jeff erson St, Teaneck 9:45am – 11:00AM Rebbetzin Leah Kohn Mondays. Please contact Esther at 201- experience the innovative educational 408-1456 to pre register. Cost is $115 - 7:00PM Rosenbaum Yeshiva of opportunities off ered at Frisch. Register Understanding our National Attraction to DECEMBER $140.00. North Jersey, 666 Kinderkamack at openhouse.frisch.org Loshon Horah – Rabbi Teichman Monday, December 16th 9:45AM – Road, River Edge 11:00AM Jewish Renaissance Center NOVEMBER Open House for all prospective parents. Sunday, November 17th 7:00PM Women’s Mikvah Association 4th Annual 1510 Jeff erson St, Teaneck Sunday, November 3 Registration and an academic fair at Night of Wonders Teaneck Jewish Event 7:30PM Cong Keter Torah, 600 Lashon HoRah: The Devaluation of our Bruriah High School for Girls 9:30AM – 7:00PM followed by a program and Center 70 Sterling Place, Teaneck Roemer Avenue, Teaneck Honoring Humanity – Rabbi Teichman 12:45PM 35 North Ave, Elizabeth interactive presentations at 7:30PM. Benefi t ing Do Wonders by Lillian Miriam Feman, Open House for 8th grade girls and their Registration for the evening can be done Lee. Musical Presentations, Reception and Raffl e Package followed by

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CHESED Jewish Family Service of North Jersey, located at 544 Teaneck Road, 4 blocks destinations as well as to Hackensack, organization that collects prepared Tomchei Shabbos of Bergen County located in Fair Lawn, is in need of south of Holy Name Hospital, is in need Englewood, Manhattan and other food leftover from local caterers and In need of volunteers to pack and deliver. volunteers who can deliver kosher meals of volunteers to m aintain continuity of its medical canters as necessary. For more restaurants, and then repackages and Please contact the following: to homebound and disabled people living Shabbos and weekday minyanim, which information or to volunteer contact the distributes it to those that can benefi t For packing Paula Cohen – paulacohe@ in Fair Lawn. Meal deliveries are made its residents look forward to each week. Bikkur Cholim at 973-249-8811. in a respectful way that helps ensure the gmail.com Mondays thru Fridays, between 11:30 This is a wonderful chesed opportunity recipient’s privacy and self-esteem. For delivering Steve Gutlove – s.gutlove@ am and 12:00 noon. Substitute drivers that can be combined with the mitzva of Bikur Cholim of Teaneck is looking for yahoo.com for any weekday are needed, as well as Bikur Cholim. Questions, or to volunteer volunteers to visit the Jewish patients at To Become a Recipient: If you or someone volunteers who can commit to driving to daven, lain, give a d’var Torah, etc., call Holy Name Hospital on a daily basis and you know would like to be notifi ed when Tomchei Shabbos of Bergen County once a week on a regular basis. Rabbi Siev at (201) 287-8519 or email to Shabbosim. Volunteers must be 16 years or food is available, please respond to this Announces a new program for Bar and Bat Please call Francine Cuff @201-796-5151 [email protected] older to visit the hospital on their own. For email. The information will be kept Mitzvah girls. For information on how to if you are interested in volunteering. more information or to volunteer please confi dential within the organization, and commemorate your Simcha with a chesed Bikkur Cholim of Passaic- Clifton helps call the Bikur Cholim at 201-836-4950. no qualifying questions are asked. project thru partnering with Tomchei Care One – needs help in forming a provide rides for Cholim and frail PLEASE LET US HELP-EMAIL US TODAY! Shabbos, contact Andrea Fields at 973- minyan. residents to medical appointments. Rides Shearit HaPlate of Bergen County, [email protected] 371 1771 ext 411 or [email protected] A kosher rehabilitation and nursing center are available to local Passaic and Clifton Inc. is our area’s only kosher food rescue mailto:[email protected]

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The Friendship Circle is pleased to Inclusive Art Program for Middle and organizations. Rabbi Menachem Meier enters his 7th Mekomos. The shiur will take place every introduce 7 – 11! The Friendship group High School Students Program runs from October through June. year providing a rigorous study of Torah Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday Mornings is for children 7 – 11 who have diffi culties Open to local Junior High and High School Cost for participation is $250 and includes learning. at 6:20AM in the classrooms. Learning reading social cues or navigating social Students and Individuals with Special all materials including a clown kit, clown The program meets on Tuesdays and is dedicated for a Refuah Shelama for situations such as those with ADHD or Needs ages 12 and up. costume, gifts for the monthly site visits Thurs 9:00 – 9:45AM studying the text of Yitzchak Yaakov ben Batia Sarah. Asperger’s. The group will meet one 10 Tuesday Sessions-October and a program coordinator. For further a book of Tanakh – currently the group is Sunday a month and participants will 15-December 17, 7;00-8;00PM information contact Danny at 201-244- studying Yonah. Congregation Shomrei Emunah of enjoy group activities such as karate and The Art Place 490 Curry Ave. Englewood 6702 or info @areyvut.org. 9:45 – 10:45AM – An in depth study of Englewood announces that it will drumming. Dr Avigael Wodinsky will Nj Kesuvos, Chapter 7 relating to obligations be continuing to off ers its Shabbat lead activites geared toward developing $75 -Please make checks payable to NJ HEICHAL HATORAH WELCOMES NEW within a marriage. People with both Youth Program for the coming year. strategies for emotion regulation, Yachad STUDENTS extensive and limited backgrounds will The program meets bi-weekly in the friendship skills, skills for understanding Space is limited. To register ,please Rabbi Aryeh Stechler welcomes follow the shiur and benefi .t Kiddush room of the synagogue and thoughts and feelings, conversation skills, contact Reva Judas at 201 -833 1349 or prospective talmidim and their parents to On Thursdays only from 10:45AM – off ers a mix of games, fun activities, as well as social problem solving skills. email [email protected] fi nd out more about this new traditional 11:40AM A careful study of the prophet snacks, davening and learning for Activities will take place at Rinat Yisrael, Yeshiva which prides itself on an Isaiah is discussed. Participants are children aged 2 through 10. The group 389 W Englewood Ave, Teaneck from Join Areyvut’s Mitzvah Clown exceptional high school general studies welcomed for any of the classes and are meets from 9:30AM to 11:00AM and 10:00AM – 11:30AM Program program. requested to bring a text. is run by youth counselors under the RSVP and for further information please Anyone between the ages of 6th grade Please contact Rabbi Stechler to arrange leadership of Mrs Hava Finkel, a social [email protected] or call through 120 years old (!) is welcome to meeting to learn more about the school. Congregation Bnai Yeshurun worker and early childhood educator. In 201 262 7172. The program will take participate. He can be reached at ras@heichalhatorah. Beis Medrash Program Presents addition, babysitting will be provided place on November 17, December 8th, Learn to make balloon animals, bring joy org or 201-335-0633. Kollel Boker Featuring Rabbi Zvi during the High Holiday services. Services February 2, March 2, March 30, June 8th. and smiles to senior citizens and children Sobolofsky. will be provided from 9:00AM - 1:00PM. with special needs. TORAH IN THE AM Cong Keter Torah The group will be learning Gemara For further information call 201 567 9420. New Jersey Yachad Announces Partner with other special need 600 Roemer Avenue, Teaneck Shabbos. Each Shiur will have Maar List your events in our Community Calendar. Advertise your services in our growing Classifi eds section! Call (201) 371-3212 or [email protected]

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