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AP Photo/Danny Moloshok 2 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Opinions Economics & same-sex marriage The Controversial Couch By: Nicole Lashomb*/TRT Editor-in-Chief August 2nd edition stated that, “The New York Lie back and listen. Then get up and do something n this edition of TRT, we have a special City comptroller’s office estimated in a June section titled Same-sex Wedding 2007 report that allowing gay marriage could By: Suzan Ambrose*/TRT Columnist The stock market is crashing. Jobs bring $142 million to the local economy in the IResources. If you are planning to get mar- e are living in a cartoon are disappearing. The dollar is plum- first three years. The state would collect an ried in Massachusetts, we have the resources moment. I’m talking meting. About the only thing still up for you to help make your wedding day fabu- additional $8 million in taxes and the city is the price of gold nuggets and all the gay would collect an additional $7 million, and Wabout this nation’s political land- lous! scape, of course. men at the White Party. As many of you are already aware, on July companies in New York would benefit from a And who does the Republican Party present wider pool of possible employees attracted by Does anyone else see the parallels between 29, 2008, the Massachusetts House voted to George Bush’s recent speech on the financial to America to help save us from our financial repeal a 1913 state law that prohibited almost the change in marriage laws, the report project- bail out and any South Park episode? It was woes, our economic slide into despair? Why, all out-of-state same-sex couples from legally ed.” all there—except for the laughter. There was Cat Woman and The Joker. You may know marrying in the state. In lieu of the repeal, In addition, a June analysis by the Williams Institute at the U.C.L.A. School of Law, esti- King George, a major defender of free mar- them better by their daytime alter egos: Sarah neighboring gay coupled New Yorkers, Palin and John McCain. amongst others, have begun flocking to the lib- mated that Massachusetts could add $111 mil- kets and removing governmental oversight, lion to the economy over three years by taking asking the public to pay almost a trillion dol- During these turbulent times, we look erated state to unify their relationships across toward our presidential hopefuls for leader- the border, as opposed to flying across the the step it did this week to allow out-of-state lars so that the fat cats could continue their ship (not that we’ve had much of it in either country to California. couples to marry there. The report also sug- lifestyle choices (now there’s a lifestyle one political party for the last 8 years.) But instead In May 2008, NY Governor Patterson gested that the move could result in 330 new could change that is ethically questionable!) instructed New York State agencies to recog- jobs and increase state and local revenues by of ideas or plans, what we have been subject- nize same-sex marriages performed in other $5.1 million. ed to hear from these candidates is drivel. jurisdictions. This opens up a wealth of legal According to the Gay and Lesbian Advocates Letters to the Editor “Government isn’t doing enough for the rights to lesbian and gay couples, including and Defenders, GLAD, Gov. Patterson’s deci- average American.” Or “When we’re in state health insurance, state tax breaks, hospi- sion places NY on par with Rhode Island and Dear Editor, charge, we’ll bring that maverick style to talization/visitation rights, pension survivor New Mexico for honoring same-sex marriages My name is Tinker Donnelly and I am a New Washington.” Ok, great … except we’ve benefits, amongst others. performed in Massachusetts. Thought (Religious Science/Science of Mind) heard it all before. All we want to know is: The business of same sex-marriage is also Is it possible that even those who oppose minister. My partner and I have recently relo- “Are you a friend or foe of Gotham City?” proving beneficial for local economies, accord- same-sex marriage will be avid supporters, not cated to Massachusetts from the west coast And I don’t feel the superhero love from the ing to many studies. because of altruistic reasons, but rather because and The Rainbow Times has been a wonderful Palin/McCain ticket. A report published in The New York Times, of individual economic vitality in a time when resource to us as we settle into our new com- “Government isn’t doing enough for the we are living in a fiscally futile nation? munity. average American.” Or “When we’re in In the September issue, I read with par- charge, C’mon Out – Just Ask! Advice column ticular interest an article written by Paul P. See Couch on Page 4 Jesup titled, "Faith, Family, and God: By: Tetty Gorfine* hurt. But here's the scoop. "Perspective". I felt Mr. Jesup clearly and While I don't know this My college age daughter's friend admitted that he accurately articulated the matter of religion - The Rainbow Times was confused about his sexual orientation. He young man and can't say for vs- spirituality and how that specifically 351 Pleasant St., #322 explained to me and my daughter that although he sure what is true for him, I relates to the GLBT community. He speaks to Northampton, MA 01060 has never acted on his desires, he felt perhaps he will say that sometimes it the idea of emancipating ourselves from para- www.therainbowtimesnews.com was gay. However, since meeting my daughter and takes years for people to digms and dictates that have no real relation- [email protected] becoming involved with her, he now feels perhaps come to terms with their sex- ship with our felt-sense of Truth. As a young [email protected] he is bisexual and not really gay. ual orientation. Depending lesbian, I rejected the church whose teachings TETTY GORFINE Phones: MA: 413-204-8959 • NY: 518-391-2617 He says this is really starting to make him uncom- upon the support available or rejected me for my natural orientation. I Fax: 866-310-8512 fortable because he feels he should either be gay or lack thereof, depending upon peer pressure, rejected the hypocracy I experienced where straight. He does not like the idea of being bisexual. one's religious upbringing, and many other fac- the concept of Love was espoused but only He seems to think this makes him weird. He also is tors too numerous to mention here, depends Publisher Deja N. Greenlaw conditionally practiced. Understanding the Gricel M. Ocasio Tetty Gorfine in the closet regarding his sexual orientation. He upon how easily a person can search their soul distinction between traditional dogma and an Editor-In-Chief Irene Monroe does not mind telling some friends, but really worries and come to terms with their sexual orienta- inner resonance with "Truth Principle" has about his family finding out about his sexuality tion. Additionally, there are bisexual people Nicole Lashomb Sales Associate: opened a door to exploring my own spiritual- SJ Seymour issues. and this too can make things unclear, especial- ity and developing a personal cosmology that Distribution As a parent, I worry about this young man. I sug- ly if the person is young. is authentic to my heart and mind. Ben Peterson Reporter: gested he seek counseling a few months ago. He I think your support of him is giving him Lindsay Wilson I look forward to future installments of Columnists: says he will, but has yet to do so. So far my daugh- time and space to just be himself. He may not Mr. Jesup's column, "In the Name of God". 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Read TRT’s Trans Column on P. 6 & Lesbian Voices on P. 24 More on Page 12 www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 3 Politics News that Matter McCain, Obama wary of fueling gay-marriage debate By: David Crary/AP enacted. extending job discrimination and hate-crimes NEW YORK (AP)—Proposed bans on “If the threshold were 50 percent, it would laws to cover sexual orientation, and scrap- same-sex marriage are on the ballot in three likely pass, but 60 percent is a very difficult ping the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy that bars important states this fall, rousing passions on scenario,” said David Johnson, former execu- gays from serving openly in the military. both sides, yet neither John McCain nor tive director of Florida’s Republican Party. John Marble of Stonewall Democrats, Barack Obama seems eager to push the issue The Arizona campaign is noteworthy which represents the party’s gays and les- high on their campaign agendas. because in 2006 it became the only state to bians, said activists were encouraged that In California, the stakes are particularly defeat a proposed ban on same-sex marriage. Obama was wrestling with how to extend fed- high—it’s the first time a ban-gay-marriage Similar measures have passed in 27 other eral recognition to same-sex couples. amendment goes before voters in a state states. “We’re not in total agreement with him, but where same-sex couples already have the The Arizona measure failed two years ago at least he’s engaging in that conversation,” right to wed. Similar amendments are on the in part because opponents contended it would Marble said. ballots in Florida, a battleground in the presi- jeopardize domestic partnerships and other Marble and Solmonese said McCain was dential race, and Arizona, McCain’s home arrangements benefiting unmarried couples. sending two sets of signals regarding same- state. the state’s ban-gay-marriage measure. This year’s version has been streamlined to sex couples _ telling conservatives he firmly McCain supports the amendments, Obama “We would like Sen. Obama to be much simply define marriage as between a man and opposed gay marriage while suggesting to opposes them—yet the two nominees rarely more emphatic in his opposition to woman; its prospects are considered strong. moderates that same-sex relationships were mention them proactively as they compete for Amendment 2. We’d like his campaign to Yet gay-rights activists insist that same-sex entitled to some sort of legal recognition. middle-of-the-road voters who rank the mar- acknowledge that in a stronger way,” said marriage and other “culture war” issues will They said his choice of Alaska Gov. Sarah riage debate low on their list of concerns. Stephen Gaskill, a spokesman for the Florida be less effective for Republican candidates Palin as running mate reinforced his message “It doesn’t benefit either one to promote it Democratic Party’s gay and lesbian caucus. than in November 2004, when marriage to the religious right, which views her as a for their own campaign,” said Matthew The spotlight on same-sex marriage will be amendments won approval in 11 states. staunch opponent of same-sex marriage even Corrigan, a political science professor at the brightest in California, where Proposition 8 “No matter where you fall on the issue of though she hasn’t publicly raised the issue University of North Florida. “You have the would amend the state constitution to limit marriage, people are seeing these divisive tac- since her nomination. economy, the war. It makes it more difficult marriage to a man and a woman. If approved, tics for what they are,” Solmonese said “McCain has been quite skilled at wrapping for social issues to get people’s attention.” it would overturn a California Supreme Court Solmonese said there is broad support for up discriminatory views in a nice package,” Both presidential candidates say they ruling that made the state only the second, Obama among gays despite his hesitancy on Solmonese said. “I couldn’t tell you where his oppose same-sex marriage, although Obama after Massachusetts, to legalize same-sex same-sex marriage. In contrast to McCain, heart genuinely is.” adds that his personal beliefs do not translate marriage. Obama supports other gay-rights priorities— into support for banning it. And unlike Statewide polls indicate the amendment McCain, Obama has declared his support for will be defeated, but both sides are raising civil unions that grant marriage-like rights to millions of dollars for a campaign they depict gay and lesbian couples. in epic terms. Opponents of same-sex mar- McCain, while asserting it’s an issue for riage say California represents a last chance to states to decide, has endorsed the proposed block its spread; gay-rights activists say affir- bans on this year’s ballots and has not advo- mation of it by voters in the largest state cated for federal recognition of the various would be a watershed victory. same-sex partnerships now legal in 10 states. The president of the largest national gay- In the past, McCain has voted against a fed- rights group, Joe Solmonese of the Human eral ban on same-sex marriages, but in this Rights Campaign, expressed hope that young campaign he’s signaled he would back such a voters—who are relatively supportive of ban if federal judges sought to impose them same-sex marriage—will help defeat on states that didn’t want them. Amendment 8 while turning out in large num- For partisans on both sides, there’s a degree bers to back Obama. of frustration that marriage isn’t more promi- Some conservatives see the possibility of a nent in the campaign, coupled with an under- contrasting demographic trend in Florida, standing that economic issues are taking with churchgoing African-Americans turning precedence. out in huge numbers for Obama while casting “We wish it were a top issue—it seems not votes for the ban-gay-marriage measure. to be,” said Tom Minnery, a senior vice pres- “We’re expecting black support,” said John ident with the conservative Christian group Stemberger, who heads the campaign for the Focus on the Family. Florida amendment. In Florida, where presidential campaigning Florida is unusual among the states _ will be intense, gay-rights activists hope requiring 60 percent support from voters for Obama will not be too cautious in discussing proposed constitutional amendments to be 4 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com In ‘The Name of God’ Faith, Family, and God: “Colors” By: Paul P. Jesep* objects of nature share a unique diversity. religion are aware of the Sodom and submission. utumn’s majesty is a patch-work of Each one is a work of perfection. Yet Gomorrah story. A group of angry men intend The Sodom and Gomorrah story also is brilliant, symphonic colors. It is one humankind still has insecurities about the to rape a group of male angels. It doesn’t about a disregard for ancient hospitality laws. Aof many subtle messages from the diversity found within it. occur, but God was in a particularly ornery Jesus, who never mentioned homosexuality, Creator shared with every individual. In As a result, a variety of ways are used to and cantankerous mood that day and destroys referenced inhospitality in the context of nature, the Maker of All Good shows us not justify and rationalize bad behavior toward the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah where the Sodom and Gomorrah (Matthew 11:20-24). only a universal beauty, but how diversity is individuals who contribute the greater whole. would-be assailants lived. Not unlike an odd combination of colors complementary and part of the greater, unre- Distorting the bible is a classic example of The story has long been used to suggest that that on first blush seem to clash, one of the vealed mystery of life. justifying harm. Faith takes a hit and drives the Almighty rejects homosexuals. It doesn’t, lessons from the misunderstood biblical story Not many people would paint a room using people away who need not fear it. Those driv- however, have anything to do with homosex- also speaks to first impressions, especially bright green and satin yellow. Few would en from faith will even engage in self-destruc- uality, unless one makes the sexual act the those offered by the uninformed. Yet autumn paint a ceiling red and the walls sun orange. tive conduct since it’s been decided that they focus. If someone is obsessed about the act of is a quiet, wondrous reminder that you Nor would a person with proper vision be are bound for hell. Why not burn the candle at sex used to inflict violence then it raises some belong. After all, the universe is not complete inclined to use brown in any one of these both ends before the fires of eternal damna- interesting Freudian questions. without you. combinations. An initial reaction is not likely tion torture you? Sodom and Gomorrah does not deal with to be favorable. Yet variations of these colors By the way, there is no hell. It’s more like a the loving relationship of two adults of the * Paul is a practicing attorney in Albany, are being seen throughout the northeast. state of mind that we inflict on ourselves or same sex that come together in a relationship priest and prelate in the Eastern Orthodox They, like the season, are spectacular and when we allow the verbal and emotional or to make a family. It’s about attempted rape Church, and author of “Crucifying Jesus and awe-inspiring. abuse of others to become our reality. I’ll save —a crime of violence. It was not uncommon Secularizing America— the Republic of Faith No two autumns are the same. No two sin, Satan, and hell for a future column. for an invading army to rape men, especially without Wisdom.” He may be reached at leaves are ever alike. Both humans and Many persons exposed to and driven from defeated soldiers, to demoralize them into [email protected].

Couch from Page 2 And look at Sarah Palin. I mean, look at Censoring books in a local library is one Roommate” one of the first children's books we’ll bring that maverick style to her! Isn’t that why she was chosen … because thing Palin is in the hot seat about too. Laura to portray homosexuality in a positive light; Washington.” Ok, great … except we’ve she’s a looker? And she does remind me of Chase, former campaign manager during the two men do the same things normal cou- heard it all before. All we want to know is: Cat Woman, from the Batman and Robin Palin’s first run for mayor of Wasilla, Alaska, ples do: take care of the house, argue, and “Are you a friend or foe of Gotham City?” spend time with the boy. Consequently, the And I don’t feel the superhero love from the book has become one of the most challenged Palin/McCain ticket. books in recent years with the American Oh sure, they try to talk the good talk. What sort of individual uses a weapon for sport to shoot Library Association listing it at number 2 in “Country First” was the motto at the RNC. defenseless animals? And she’d like to lift the present day their list of the 100 most challenged books. But what does that mean in terms of you and Ms. Chase, as the report continues, said she me? In reality, the actions of the Republican restrictions on aerial hunting so one could shoot bears in the read the book, found it inoffensive, and sug- Party show me differently. This is the party same way. Hell, if she makes it into the White House, we’d better gested Palin read it herself. "Sarah said she that enacted deregulation of the banking didn't need to read that stuff," Ms. Chase said. industry, as well as loosen up the rules on the be careful. She’s the kind of chick who’d probably think it’d "It was disturbing that someone would be environment, the food and drug industry, and fun to ‘hunt down them gays!’ willing to remove a book from the library, and the minimum requirements on people wanting she didn't even read it." to join our military. There are actual reasons I wonder if she’s bothered to read the we hold such safeguards in place and it’s Constitution yet. because real people get hurt. series: kind of sexy, sultry and a little fresh. spoke about Sarah’s book banning ideas. As With more unbelievable information com- John McCain was a champion of less gov- Some parts of America are intoxicated with reported in The New York Times, Chase ing out daily about the candidates, all the ernment, and as a result of his leadership in her. But don’t be fooled by her pussy puss recalled Palin telling colleagues that she saw ingredients appear ripe for the makings of a these areas, we are less safe because of it. I meow. Because behind the mask is not the “Daddy’s Roommate” on the shelves and that good comic book story. Someone put on a can hear whispers of The Joker’s cackling superhero of democracy we are in need of at it didn’t belong there. (Imagine mentioning good Patsy Cline recording—and quick! I’m laugh… all. that about Bible, a book filled with extreme feeling a little “Crazy!” violence, to conservative thinkers, and watch Here’s the kicker: for a political party that’s what kind of reaction one might get.) big on touting values, there are a few things Gaybookblog.net called “Daddy’s See Couch on Page 5 www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 5 Featured Business Rigali and Walder: Revolutionizing Orthodontic treatment By: Nicole Lashomb “My practice was growing and I had three TRT Editor-in-Chief young children and was very receptive to a Take Pride in your Smile is not merely a partner,” said Dr. Rigali. “We got to know slogan but a philosophical practice at Rigali each other and realized that we had similar and Walder Orthodontics, a local Western philosophies about the quality of orthodontic Massachusetts Orthodontic group that spe- care we wanted to provide to our patients. We cializes in modern age adult and child ortho- also had similar life values when it came to dontic care and has been in operation since having a career and raising a family.” 1986, according to the practices’ co-owner. Current technological advances are being “We provide state-of-the-art treatment for a made in the field of orthodontics and Rigali wide variety of orthodontic problems includ- and Walder Orthodontics are on board with ing crowded, spaced, protruded and retruded these advances, making the treatment gentler jaws, missing and impacted teeth, cross bites, and less aggressive for their patients. narrow dental arches, midline discrepancies, “Unlike the old days of heavy wires, today's open bites, deep overbites, facial growth arch wires are low force, memory wires that problems, jaw discrepancies, TMJ dysfunc- very gently move the teeth,” said Dr. Rigali. “Many of these wires are heat activated and tion, and alignment of teeth for dental Rigali and Walder Orthodontics group shot at a local event. (Dr. Linda Rigali, bottom left and implants and/or crown and bridge work,” said respond to body temperature. One of the most Dr. Joan Walder, second row, left). Photo courtesy of Rigali and Walder Dr. Linda Rigali, DMD, Rigali and Walder exciting advances is the use of a temporary Orthodontics, co-owner, Northampton, Mass. ment can be more challenging but adults who like the best and have the ability to changed anchorage device (T.A.Ds). This is a mini “Early treatment is occasionally recommend- decide to have orthodontic treatment are usu- their colored ligature ties at each visit. implant that we can use as an anchor to move ed to prevent the unnecessary removal of per- ally highly motivated to achieve a great result. In 1986, Dr. Linda Rigali, DMD, started teeth against. This allows us to move more manent teeth, to correct jaw disproportions Invisalign, a series of clear, removable teeth the practice after graduating from the gradu- teeth at a time and can shorten the length of (overbites, underbites and asymmetries), to aligners used as an alternative to traditional ate orthodontic program at Boston University. treatment. The mini-implant is removed prevent injury to protruded front teeth, and to metal is a popular option for adults who Ten years later, Dr. Joan Walder, DDS joined when we are finished.” eliminate damaging habits. We have a variety would otherwise not consider orthodontic the practice in 1996 after receiving her post- Rigali and Walder Orthodontics work with of types of braces available including, metal, treatment. graduate orthodontic degree from Montefiore their patients to help them better afford ortho- gold, ceramic, self-ligating and Invisalign.” “Overall, Invisalign has increased the num- Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of dontic services. According to Dr. Rigali, each patient’s ber of adults who have orthodontic treat- Medicine. See Rigali and Walder on p. 22 orthodontic needs vary and involve the study- ment,” said Dr. Rigali. “Interest in Invisalign ing and analysis of individual orthodontic brings a lot of people into the office who records; x-rays, molds, facial pictures, to would never consider “braces.” We offer a develop a customized treatment plan. complimentary initial consultation for anyone “We then tailor the type of orthodontic interested in orthodontic treatment. This is appliance to what is best for each individual the best way to learn how we can help you patient” said Dr. Rigali. and to determine if you are a candidate for Although presenting with different chal- Invisalign. Occasionally, people who are not lenges, Dr. Rigali is confident that both chil- candidates for Invisalign decide to get clear dren and adults in her practice will achieve an braces because they learn more about ortho- excellent result. dontics and understand that adults can benefit “Today's orthodontics involves dentalfacial from treatment too.” orthopedics which gives us the ability to alter Dr. Rigali also said that now, children are the growth of the jaws in a growing child,” excited to get their braces on and have the said Dr. Rigali. Technically, some adult treat- ability to choose which style of braces they

Couch from Page 4 sort of individual uses a weapon for sport to that don’t add up. Take for example, the shoot defenseless animals? And she’d like to recent splash about Bristol Palin, the 17 year lift the present day restrictions on aerial hunt- old pregnant daughter of the vice presidential ing so one could shoot bears in the same way. nominee. I guess she was just minding her Hell, if she makes it into the White House, own business, “practicing” abstinence when we’d better be careful. She’s the kind of chick the pregnancy occurred. Holy Mary, Mother who’d probably think it’d fun to ‘hunt down of God! It wouldn’t be that big of a deal them gays!’ EXCEPT for the fact that the Republicans and She’s on a mission from God, after all. their media mouthpieces (Limbaugh, Hannity That’s something even Cat Woman wouldn’t and the rest) hold this young girl up as a get involved in, as criminally-minded as she divine example of moral behavior because was. she’s keeping the baby. Be sure to vote on Election Day. It appears Hmmmm. Imagine the scenario if it had there has never been a more important time in been Bill Clinton’s daughter, or Jimmy history than now to cast your ballot. Carter’s. * Suzan Ambrose, when not camping in They’d still be talking about the immorality Vermont,, playing with her cats or listening to of it now during bible study! talk radio can be heard on her call-in radio And then, there’s my favorite image of program, The Naked Truth, Monday evenings Sarah shooting wolves from an airplane. I’m at 8 p.m., on 103.3FM, Northampton ,MA. sure that’s great entertainment in Alaska, but Also catch the show streaming on the web at it lacks the ethics of the hunting code. What www.valleyfreeradio.org. 6 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Trans Opinions & News Transitioning at work and a Landmark Court Ruling! By: Deja Nicole Greenlaw/TRT Writer ruled against the LOC. ty much all is ok through the transition. I want to clarify that most of my coworkers This is a huge decision for Before the Schroer decision, you had to either are fine with me transitioning, they are Last month there was a landmark deci- all those Transgender have a very open minded employer, or an incredible allies, I love them, and I am very sion about a Transgender woman and the Americans who have lost employer who is a corporate giant. The corpo- thankful for them. It could've been a living Library of Congress. The decision was their jobs because of rea- rate giants cannot afford any possible law- nightmare if they weren't so supportive, so I made in favor of the Transwoman and this sons, which are now suits, not so much for the money, but for the tip my hats to them. I think my friends who may very well set a precedent for future cases established by the courts possible discrimination rap especially in these have transitioned in the major corporations in the U.S. courts. as sex discrimination. very politically correct times. My employer, would agree with me, but I'm certain that What prompted the case was the fact that This is an incredible "W" for instance, was very supportive of me with although there were no major problems with DEJA NICOLE Ms. Diane Schroer was denied a job in the GREENLAW in our Transgender my transition last November and I've known their transitioning at work, they have had Library of Congress, LOC, because she was win/lost column. We need others who have transitioned while working smaller, personal problems too. It's never a transitioning from male-to-female. She to thank Ms. Schroer for pursuing this battle. at UTC companies. We were the lucky ones. completely smooth ride. applied for the job and was the best candidate And, thank you to the courts for recognizing But lucky or not, although there is no legal Hopefully, it should be a much smoother and they offered her the job. At first, she the discrimination in this case. employment discrimination against me, there ride for the rest of the Transgender people turned it down because the money wasn't I know a lot of Transgender people who is still personal discrimination. A small per- who do not work for the big corporations and what she wanted so the LOC came back with have lost their jobs because of the simple fact centage of my coworkers simply choose not who have lost their jobs in smaller companies. a better package to entice her. She agreed to that their employers simply refused to allow to deal with me and some try to limit their I don't know about re-opening cases, but I do the second offer. Then, she dropped the bomb. them to work for the company, ministries, time with me. I've basically fallen out of the know that bringing this landmark court case You see, she had applied for the job as a business, etc., because of their plans to transi- "boy's club" at work and some people who see up when needed just might change some male and went through all the interviews as tion at work. Once the employers hear "tran- me for the first time just look at me curiously. minds fairly quickly. The rest will just have to male, but now she told them that she would sition to the other gender" that is the end of These are not legal discriminations, but I feel have their minds legally changed in court. transition on the job and that she would like to the Transgender person’s employment at that that they are still discriminations albeit of a Thanks again to Ms. Diane Schroer and the start the job right away as Diane. The LOC establishment. But, now times have finally much lesser sort. These are the discrimina- U.S. Court System! then withdrew the offer and Diane went to begun to change. tions that those of us, who have transitioned at court. Not all of us have been discriminated work, just have to deal with. The courts ruled that discrimination on the against in our jobs as we transitioned at work. basis of gender transition is sex discrimina- There are good percentages of trans people tion. Gender identity is a component of sex who have remained on their jobs, and 20% Theatre Hits the Valley for and sex discrimination is illegal so the courts although there are bumps here and there, pret- Standards of Care By: Tynan Power/TRT Writer process with which Nancy is not too happy. On October 2nd, Claire Avitabile will return It’s a touching and, at times, hilarious story to western Massachusetts with her 20% that will engage the attention and the hearts of Theatre Company to produce the east coast even those audience members who have little premier of Standards of Care, by award-win- or no experience with transgender issues. ning local playwright, Tobias K. Davis. After Avitabile and 20% Theatre presented the graduating from Smith, Avitabile moved to world premier of the play in June, in Minneapolis and co-founded the 20% Theatre Minneapolis. It drew a packed house each Company with her partner, Blythe Davis. In night. 2007, the company was ranked number one Fans of Davis’s work may have heard of regional lesbian theater company by Curve Avitabile before. In 2003, while still at Smith, Magazine. The mission of the company is Avitabile was the assistant director for broader than “lesbian” implies—it aims to Davis’s acclaimed The Naked I: Monologues produce progressive new works by female, from Beyond the Binary, which was quickly transgender and genderqueer playwrights and dubbed “The Trans Vagina Monologues” and to support those gender minorities behind the went on to be selected for production at the scenes, as well. 2003 National Transgender Theater Festival It makes sense, then, that the company in New York City. 20% Theater will bring The would take this opportunity to showcase Naked I to the stage in the Minneapolis area Davis’s new play. Standards of Care is the in 2009. story of Nancy, a female gender therapist, You can see the playwright on Oct. 2 and who falls in love with a transgender FTM 3at Mendenhall Center, Smith College and on client named David. Unbeknownst to Nancy, Oct. 4 at the Student Union Ballroom, UMass David is mentoring Nancy’s teenager through Amherst. The cost is $5 general; free for stu- his own transgender coming out process—a dents. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 7 8 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Gay Travel Out of Town: Great Wedding and Honeymooning Spots in CA By: Andrew Collins* of complimentary amenities and services, When the California State from valet parking to soft robes. Supreme Court legalized gay marriage in May 2008, the Surf & Sand Resort, Laguna Beach Golden State quickly became In the artsy, gay-popular beach town of one of the nation's leading Laguna Beach—which sits midway between destinations for same-sex San Diego and Los Angeles, the luxe Surf & weddings and honeymoons. 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(413) 665-3218 • massmatch.com • [email protected] www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 9 Queer Justice & Queertations Queer Justice: Effect of MA law on gay movement By: Attorney Jennifer L. Dexter* diagnosed with Der Queer Justice, Alzheimer’s you can I lost my mom recently. She remarried a few contest the will based Queertations: Say what?! years ago and now she has suddenly passed on her competence to away. However, we found out through an autopsy execute a new will. By: Rex Wockner that she had Alzheimer's and knew about it. She When someone didn't let us know about it, her sister said to us, to "Don't get me started. She's the anti-Wonder Woman. She's judgmental decides to make a will spare us the suffering until the time came when they must be compe- she didn't recognize us any longer. and dictatorial, telling people how they've got to live their lives. And a tent and free from any superior religious self-righteousness ... that's just not what Wonder My aunt said that she was already having prob- lems with her mind. We inquired about her will undue influence or Woman is about. Hillary Clinton is a lot more like Wonder Woman than because her husband made it pretty uncomfortable Atty. Jennifer Dexter coercion. If you have a Mrs. Palin. She did it all, didn't she? No one has the right to dictate, par- for us at the funeral. He wanted everything done in suspicion of either, you are entitled to contest the will. ticularly in this country, to force your own personal views upon the popu- his controlling way. So, we started wondering about things, especially her will. As to the will itself, if your mothers’ hus- lace—religious views. I think that is suppressive, oppressive, and anti- The only thing that my brother was told by her band won’t let you see it you can go to the American. [T]his woman—it's anathema to me what she stands for. I think husband was that "everything had been taken care Probate court for the County in which you America should be very afraid. Very afraid." of," but we don't know what "everything means." live and request to see it. You will need iden- —Actress Lynda Carter (Wonder Woman) on Sarah Palin to Philadelphia We would also like to see if we can get a copy of tification and possibly proof of kinship. her will. She owned most of the things (her house, Magazine, Sept. 11. You are right to question these circum- her car, etc.) by the time she met this man. She stances. Again you should consult an attorney, was in her 60s and apparently healthy. Her death but don’t give up fearful. "If elected, I would call on Congress to enact legislation that would repeal was unexpected. I want to know, are my brother *Attorney Jennifer L. Dexter earned a B.A. DOMA (the Defense of Marriage Act) and ensure that the over 1,100 and I entitled to a copy of her will? What if the will has changed or was changed recently, does that in Psychology from The University of Central federal legal rights and benefits currently provided on the basis of mar- mean that there could be foul play? Florida. She moved to Massachusetts to ital status are extended to same-sex couples in civil unions and other attend law school at The Western New legally recognized unions." —Motherless and Fearful in Easthampton, MA England College of Law in Springfield, Mass. —Barack Obama to the Washington Blade, Sept. 10. She is a member of the Massachusetts Bar Dear Fearful: and has a Solo General Practice in the Based on the complexities of the issues, I Pioneer Valley Area. "I cried when I saw her, because we didn't want to see our outfits would recommend you seek the representa- The information contained herein is intend- beforehand. Actually, I could cry right now thinking about it. I never tion of an attorney who practices in wills and ed for educational purposes only and does not thought I would have that experience of getting married. I didn't think will contests. represent legal advice. Should you need legal The short answer to your question is you are advice, please contact an attorney. I was missing anything. I just didn't think about it. But to see her for the entitled to see a copy of the will. I will try to If you have legal questions that are unan- first time and to cut a wedding cake, that was surreal for me and I got take this question in pieces so I can be sure to swered, or if you would like to know more to experience that with our families around us. I didn't realize how spe- answer all your questions. about a specific topic, then send your ques- cial it was until I did it." If your mother signed a new will after being tions to: [email protected] —Ellen DeGeneres on her and Portia de Rossi's recent wedding, to Newsweek, Sept. 6.

"I am optimistic (about Barack Obama). I don't think there's much of a Deliver TRT to New York question. I have a lot of faith in the American people not to be idiots." —Out screenwriter/director/producer Alan Ball (American Beauty, Six Start in the Spring of 2009, and have fun while being a part Feet Under, True Blood) to the New York Post, Sept. 7. of a team that cares for you. You can live in Pittsfield and still "How can a politician her age have never have gone to Europe? ... You don't get this fun job that only will take you one day permonth. need to be a pointy-headed elitist to travel abroad. You need curiosity and Inquire by calling: 518-391-2617 a hunger to see the world. What kind of a person (who has the money) arrives at the age of 44 and has only been out of the country once, on an official tour to Iraq? Sarah Palin's travel record is that of a provincial, not someone who is equipped to deal with global issues. But some people like that. She's never traveled to Europe, Asia, Africa, South America or Down Under? That makes her like them. ... I trust the American people will see through Palin, and save the Republic in November." —Chicago Sun-Times film critic Roger Ebert in a Sept. 11 column. 10 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Mass. Local News Grants available for Northampton artists: Apply by Oct. 15 The Northampton Arts Council has applica- ater, and visual arts. Projects may start no ear- in another city, his/her project must be held in floor of Memorial Hall, Room 5, 240 Main tions for grants under the Massachusetts lier than January 1, 2009, and must be com- Northampton; the work must demonstrate the Street in Northampton. No late or incomplete Cultural Council’s Arts Lottery and PASS pleted by December 30, 2009. highest artistic/cultural merit; projects that applications will be accepted. (Performing Arts Student Series) program. Applications and guidelines are available include a public component that clearly bene- Grant recipients are chosen on the basis of The Council will be distributing up to $13,400 through the Northampton Arts Council’s web fit the residents of Northampton such as an the quality of proposals and work presented; of the state-allocated grant money in the fol- site at www.northamptonartscouncil.org. exhibition, literary reading or performance potential benefit to the community of funded lowing categories: dance, film/video, litera- Applicants can get acquainted with the guide- held in Northampton; non-profit cultural and work; and creative accomplishment and dedi- ture, mixed media, music, PASS, schools, the- lines and fill out the application online, or educational institutions that offer programs cation. Funds are available on a reimburse- obtain a hardcopy at the following and events which bring arts and culture to a ment basis only. 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She must amidst the joy, intensi- Spectrum shortlisted author/editor of mys- ty, excitement, overwhelmingness and frus- teries, erotica and sci-fi/fantasy/horror. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 11 Queer Music Q&A: A few questions for Richard Morel The DJ/remixer/producer talks rock and rocking the upcoming Nov. vote By: Mikey Rox* find comfort that for the Pet Shop ular Blowoff parties in D.C., NYC, and now Mikey Rox: “Nova,” one of the 11 tracks off I can still feel on Boys' song "Se A San Fran. What is it about Bob that clicks your new album Death of the Paper Boy, is such an intense Vida E." I called it with you more than anybody else? especially poignant. 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blanks of that story? Judging by the rest of the —the latest of Lopata Nick by: Photo me to go to a differ- doing it. lyrics, it’s sounds like you had it bad for this which, Yoko ent place musically. MR: And, finally, it’s almost time—time to guy. Ono’s “Give That said, I am con- head to the polls. I know you’ve got an opin- Richard Morel: The theme of the song is Peace a Chance,” fused about who I ion on the upcoming election, the candidates love, unspoken and unrealized. The events are reached #1 on the am pretty much and the issues—I’ve seen you in action from when I was around 16 or 17 on a trip to Billboard Dance everyday. myself. Who’s got your vote? the Cape (Cod) with my best friend. He had Club Play chart. MR: Those who RM: Obama. run away from home a couple times and the Given your suc- follow your work * Who is Mikey Rox? Who gives a &#@%! back of his car was filled with things that cess with your know that you fre- But you can find him at www.mikeyrox.com. were important to him. One was a photo of his legal name, why quently collaborate mom. She had died when he was 12. At that the divergence? with former Hüsker point in my life, my emotions and hormones Don’t you get Dü and Sugar front- were so tied up and messed up it was impos- confused about man Bob Mould. Drive for TRT in NY!! sible to know what was really happening. who you are from You’ve guested on Have a car, driver’s license & are There's an urgency to love when you're a kid day to day? each other’s very reliable? We want you! that is unparalleled. At the time I would have RM: The first albums, and togeth- done anything to be able to turn it off. Now I remix I did was er you host the pop- 518-3391-22617 RICHARD MOREL 12 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Q-lebrities Clay is gay: Aiken comes out of the closet By: Nekesa Mumbi Moody/AP Claymates—are taking the news very serious- idea he was gay,” read a comment posted by ents’ night?” NEW YORK (AP)—The revelation that ly. As of recently, there were reportedly more “Sheridansq.” “And now I have to deal with The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Clay Aiken is gay hasn’t fazed Simon Cowell. than 2,000 entries on the message board for this. I am not sure what to say to people who Defamation also applauded Aiken’s public The “American Idol” judge reacted in typi- Aiken’s official Web site. know I was a fan. ... I didn’t go to work today admission. cally sarcastic form, telling the entertainment “We’ll ‘talk’ more later, but, suffice it to and am not answering the telephone.” “We congratulate Clay for making this deci- news show “Extra”: “Wow. That’s a shock. say, for the first time in recent memory, I am In his People interview, Aiken credits baby sion and for setting an example for others and It’s like being told Santa Claus isn’t real. speechless,” Aiken writes on his Web site’s Parker with making him realize that he could his family,” said Neil Giuliano, GLAAD’s Unbelievable.” fan page ClayOnline, according to People. no longer hide his homosexuality from the president. “As we’re seeing, more and more Getting serious, Cowell said: “Good for gay people, including celebrities, are living him. If he said it, it’s the right thing for him. openly and honestly, and this has tremendous ... I don’t think anyone cares. Let’s face it. It’s “It was the first decision I made as a father,” Aiken told the impact in terms of creating awareness, under- 2008. You know. Who cares?” standing and acceptance.” The 29-year-old former “Idol” runner-up, magazine. “I cannot raise a child to lie or to hide things. Aiken, who rose to fame on “Idol” in 2003, multiplatinum recording artist and Broadway I wasn’t raised that way, and I’m not going to raise a child to has long been the subject of rumors and star acknowledges his sexuality in an inter- tabloid fodder that he was gay, but usually view with People magazine. He appears on do that.” refused to acknowledge them. In an interview the cover of the latest issue holding his infant with The Associated Press two years ago, he son, Parker Foster Aiken, conceived by in- “I’m so proud to know and love all of you.” world. The magazine cover features Aiken said of the talk, “I don’t really feel like I have vitro fertilization with friend and producer To read Aiken’s newest blog and post a holding his son, who was born in August. anybody to answer to but myself and God and Jaymes Foster. The headline: “Yes, I’m Gay.” message, the site requires you to join his fan “It was the first decision I made as a father,” the people I love.” Cowell representative Anne Finn said he club. Membership fees range from $14.99 Aiken told the magazine. “I cannot raise a Aiken said he only told his family that he was unreachable for further comment plus tax to $29.99, plus shipping and handling child to lie or to hide things. I wasn’t raised was gay four years ago. He recalled a tearful Wednesday. His fellow “Idol” judges were not for a Clay Aiken tote bag, lip balm and set of that way, and I’m not going to raise a child to discussion with his mother in a car after drop- able to be reached: Paula Abdul’s spokesman, Clay Aiken buttons. do that.” ping off his brother, who was being sent to Jeff Ballard, said she was unavailable, and Meanwhile, the Aiken fan site ClayManiacs Kevin Jennings, executive director of the Iraq, at a military base. Randy Jackson’s representative, Brit Reece, was open for viewing. Response in a thread Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network, “It was dark. I was sitting there, thinking to didn’t immediately return phone and e-mail on the site’s “ShoutBox” was generally sup- said he hopes Aiken’s announcement will myself. I don’t know why I started thinking messages. portive, though at least one fan was shaken by help promote tolerance for families headed by about it ... I just started bawling. She made me Cowell might not bat an eyelash, but Aiken’s public confession. gay parents. pull over the car and it just came out,” he said. Aiken’s hardcore fans—known as “This is really shocking news as I had no “If you’re gay, once you have a kid, it’s “She started crying. She was obviously some- everybody’s business, whether you want it to what stunned. But she was very supportive be or not,” Jennings said. “All of our mem- and very comforting.” bers who are gay parents say that what they Aiken, who considers himself a born-again didn’t anticipate was as soon as they had a Christian, said he knows he may turn off some kid, staying in the closet was impossible. fans with his admission and his decision to Because what do you say when you go to par- have a child outside traditional marriage. Letters to the Editor from Page 2 being God’s children. women. I would imagine that it is not easy to —Miranda H., Albany, NY write about such controversial issues, but she Dear Editor, does so with an apparent ease. Thanks for pub- I think that your cover page pick of Barack lishing pieces like hers and calling your readers Obama was great, but didn’t like the words: “Is to engage in such important matters. he Ready?” Is TRT supporting the Republican —Elizabeth M., Florence, MA Party? I remember you endoresed Hillary Dear Editor, Clinton, but never came out to endorse Obama. Suzan Ambrose’s column about Mr. Phelps Or, is it that you are not endorsing either candi- was like a heavenly taste of spring water in the date? —Adam R., Troy, NY middle of the dessert. What she said in it was so true. It brought tears to my eyes to see that other Dear Editor, people are paying attention to the real “hate I’m sorry for your loss. It was very sad to read mongers” out there who are not Christian at all about the passing of your father. Our thoughts because Christ’s teachings were never about and prayers are with you and your wife. hatred. I think that we the Times should continue —Nataly and Maritza, Northampton, MA to be critical of those who criticize us just for Thank you for your words! —The Editor

Lesbian Best Sellers* Gay Best Sellers* 1. Itty Bitty Titty Committee 1. Shelter 2. The L Word: Season 5 2. S is for Sexy 3. Shelter Me [Riparo] 3. Adored 4. Affinity 4. 3-Day Weekend 5. Butch Jamie 5. For the Love of Dolly 6. Finns Girl 6. You Belong to Me 7. The Gymnast 7. Arizona Sky 8. She Likes Girls 2 9. Four Minutes 8. Dantes Cove Season 3 10. Treading Water 9. Prom Queen * By wolfevideo.com * By wolfevideo.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 13 QueerWood Deep Inside Hollywood: The L Word’s cast member who got it! By: Romeo San Vicente* Chaiken, but there's no news regarding what the show's going to be about or which, if any, J. Lo Loves Don Roos L Word staffers will join Alice on her contin- Don Roos, the gay film- uing journey. Oh, Leisha - you've come a long maker behind The way from those Yoplait ads. Filming on the Opposite of Sex and new show begins in December. Happy Endings, must hav- David Beckham: The Musical? ing something going on He's a high-fashion underwear model, an that's very much to aggressively pro-tolerance figure in the world Jennifer Lopez's liking, since he's attached to of international sports, and he's married to a two of her upcoming projects. Roos will Spice Girl: Is it any wonder that gay men direct the singer-actress in Love and Other everywhere adore David Beckham? And if Impossible Pursuits, based on Ayelet those Armani tighty-whitey billboards weren't Waldman's best-selling novel about a woman enough to put you on Team Becks, this might: who must adapt to step-motherhood after the His life is about to become the subject of a tragic loss of her own child. Roos is writing musical in London's West End. Writer and the scripts for both Pursuits and The producer Mark Archer is working on David Governess, a comedy starring Lopez as a con Beckham: The Theatre of Dreams, which artist who infiltrates a rich widower's home would chart Beckham's rags-to-riches con- by signing on as nanny to his children; com- quest of the soccer world and his romance plications naturally ensue when she falls for with Victoria, the artist formerly known as the widower. Expect to see lots of smoochy Posh Spice. No word yet regarding casting or interviews with the happy couple when both production dates, so that may give London's films open in 2009. hot young musical theater stars time to work on honing up their football skills. Ugly Betty's Mays Sings Out with Glee Jayma Mays, better known as Henry's grumpy JENNIFER LOPEZ * Romeo San Vicente is currently negotiating pregnant fiancee Charlie on Ugly Betty, is a crush on Will. Hmm...gay creator, glee club, demise of the popular Showtime soap after its a deal with Posh for a Becks timeshare situa- returning to the tube in a new project from outcasts, misfits - the mind reels. See just how final season in early 2009 and live on in a tion. He can be reached care of this publica- Ryan Murphy, the prolific gay writer-produc- homo-inclusive Glee is when it premieres on spinoff series. The pilot episode will be writ- tion or at DeepInsideHollywood@qsyndi- er behind Nip/Tuck, Running with Scissors, Fox next March. ten and produced by L Word creator Ilene cate.com. and any number of other pending TV and movie projects. Set to launch next year as a Hailey to Star in L Word Spinoff companion piece for American Idol, If you started an office pool for "Which L Murphy's new sitcom, Glee, centers around Word Character Will Be Featured in the 30-ish teacher Will (dishy Matthew Morrison, Spinoff?" then give the money to whomever from Broadway's Hairspray), who gets stuck picked Alice Pieszecki. The occasionally being the advisor to the high school glee club, flaky and allegedly bisexual (it's been a while a haven for misfits and outcasts. May will since a dude turned her head) NPR commen- play the school's guidance counselor, who has tator played by Leisha Hailey will survive the Birth Announcement: Julian Trace Orvieto Dar and Gina Orvieto joy- ously announce the birth of their son, Julian Trace Orvieto. Julian was born on September the 7th 2008, at 3:03am. Jules was 19 inches long and weighed in at a whopping 6 pounds, 9 ounces. Julian joins his 4 Chihuahua’s and his par- rot and lives happily in his Easthampton home with his two mommies. 14 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Queer Movie Review Gay Cinema according to Chuck: Unimpressive By: Michael A. Knipp* online social networking, the gay experience Because each of these films are examples of Chuck Griffith has two words for LGBT extends beyond Greenwich, Chelsea and extreme illusion presented artistically, filmmakers: Try harder. Castro Street. Yet we’re making films for us Griffith admits that Best of Breed isn’t for Not only is the award-winning director of to relive our early 20s rather than making everyone; their primary purpose is to get peo- 2001’s Thank You Good Night unimpressed films that help define the community we want ple talking about art in gay cinema. For peo- by what gay directors are content calling cin- to be in the future.” ple who want to talk about it. “These films are ema, he thinks they’re completely ruining the That sentiment, in a nutshell, lays the foun- there to make you think, because I believe the queer celluloid image. dation for Roaring Leo. According to Griffith, gay community can think if they want to.” And that’s putting it mildly. there was “a need in the film world for some- “I’ve seen a lot, and what I’ve seen is hor- one to help guide filmmakers through the Gay directors on the other hand, well, rific without any excuse for it,” explains process, to help them avoid the marketing pit- Griffith has all but given up hope. He hasn’t, Griffith, 33, whose TV credits include work falls that I went through in making [Thank however, given up on the gay consumer. His on “Six Feet Under” and Judd Apatow’s ill- You Good Night].” suggestion? Invest in filmmakers trying to do fated college comedy “Undeclared.” “Shelter The company’s first project, a DVD titled something different. was the milquetoast gay film of 2008, and CHUCK GRIFFITH Best of Breed: Volume 1, which was released “It doesn’t take much,” he says. “Just go while it had great production value and pretty are] worth telling in a compelling way?” earlier this year, features four shorts from four and find something that does more. And if one solid acting, how many coming out stories do Hard-pressed to find an answer to that ques- directors—Ethan Feldbau, Lou Peterson, can’t invest themself, write letters to Here! we need to see?” tion, Griffith decided to takes matters into his Leah Meyerhoff and David Kagan—that push [TV] and TLA [Realeasing]. They’re worried Griffith, of course, is referring to director own hands. But years after founding Roaring the limits of what audiences expect from tra- that no wants to see anything better than A Jonah Markowitz’s boy-meets-man, boy-fall- Leo Productions, a company that Griffith says ditional gay fare. Four Letter Word and Eating Out 2, so that’s in-love-with-man, boy-comes-out-to-family is committed to “making films for people who “The common theme explored in each film what you’re gonna get. surf story that made the requisite festival love film,” the redheaded renegade still isn’t is the sensory experience,” Griffith says. “In “It’s up to the consumer to do something rounds upon its release last year, racking up satisfied with how queer-themed movies have [Feldbau’s] ‘Plastic,’ the young boy can’t deal about that.” several awards including Best New Director evolved. with his own identity and must experience life at the Seattle Lesbian & Gay Film Festival “I feel like gay cinema is stuck in the ghet- through other people. ‘Encounter, [by * Michael A. Knipp is a New York City-based and the Vancouver Queer Film Festival’s toized community of 1995, where the gay Peterson], is about the sensuality that one can freelance writer and the founder of People’s Choice Award for Best Feature. community was going through a celebration feel without touch. ‘Wonderful Sandwiches,’ Line/Byline Communications. Reach him at “Where’s the edge?” he asks somewhat of being gay—an adolescence, if you will—in [from Meyerhoff], is about using a barrier in [email protected]. rhetorically. “Where are the stories for the response to the AIDS crisis that brought on so order to achieve intimacy; and [Kagan’s ‘The other 99% of the gay community that’s much fear. Process’ is about the need and desire for already out and doing something, [stories that “I think that was fine back then, but with touch.”

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HeartWorks.org, email her at singular fabric of blended colors and textures, [email protected] or call 413-325- By: Reverend Tinker Donnelly from which we fashion the garment of our 8555/ 562-900-9222 (cell). TRT Wedding Special lives. The promise is a fit appropriate to who Repeal of 1913 Law: Get we are becoming moment by moment. Whether called Weddings, Sacred Unions, The promise is simply as Rilke wrote, “For married in MA or Commitment Ceremonies, there is a com- one human being to love another”, and The Massachusetts legislature repealed the mon intention and purpose to these rituals er in order to reveal what is truest, deepest, although simple, it is not a promise that is 1913 law that prevented same-sex couples from most other states from marrying there. beyond the variable of language. That inten- and most precious within them. It is the prom- always easy to fulfill. It is one that necessi- Governor Deval Patrick signed the bill into tion is to seal “the promise” between individ- ise of inner integrity that champions and com- tates dedication through challenge and law on July 31, 2008. uals who choose to devote themselves to the panions those who stand together for congru- change. It is a promise that will test your The repeal of the antiquated law, challenged ent values. It is the promise of authentic inti- purposes of Love. It is not only their vows humility and your humor. It may push every then-Governor Romney’s use of the law to macy; whispered in tenderness, sung in ecsta- that speak of the promises they offer to each emotional button and stick a finger in every prevent them from marrying in other, it is also the act of commitment itself sy, and echoed in reverence. psychological wound, provoking the best of Massachusetts. The result of this decision has that declares there is more “promise” for pos- However named, a ceremony that formal- you to come forward. It is a “work” for which meant that couples from every state have been sibilities born out of their union than existed izes such a promise is a rite of passage for we may often feel only inadequately “pre- getting married and will continue to be able to before it. It is the promise of creative partner- each who enters the circle of its intent. It is a pared” but something inside each of us knows come to Massachusetts to marry. If you are ship yielded from synergy and collaboration. declaration, a spell, a prayer. It is a conscious, one thing for sure – Love’s the only game in contemplating getting married in It is the promise of a common vision and deliberate decision to join hands, hearts and town – and playing it begins and ends … with Massachusetts, you can visit GLAD (Gay and mutual goodwill – the alchemy of combined hopes with the aim of self-cultivation – to a promise. Lesbians Advocates and Defenders) online at resources, inspiration, and talents. It is the grow one’s self in the garden of compassion- www.glad.org, or call its InfoLine, at 1-800- *The Reverend Tinker Donnelly is the promise of expanded perspectives as individ- ate union so there may be more to contribute 455-4523. uals seek to explore and discover the terrain to the relationship, and to the world. This rit- of a shared frame of reference. It is the prom- ual is an occasion to celebrate the promise of ise of hearts willing to fall open to one anoth- Love and its bounty. 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If you Don’t rule out minor cosmetic surgery. ical eye, and try to imagine how many people have wide-open spaces and you love dancing, Although you shouldn’t have to redo your could stand there with elbow room. (Think of hire a DJ and get down, get funky. house for the wedding, you can certainly min- all of them lifting glasses to their mouths to Design your day in a way that suits you. imize its flaws by covering them up with drink; now you know why they call it elbow Whether you’re hiring a caterer to do the food something beautiful. Oh honey, they do it in room.) Depending on what sort of vittles and florist to do the decor or doing it all your- Hollywood all the time! Drape fabric over a you’ll be serving, think about where all the selves, remember that this is your celebration, black wall, surround your ceremony area with folks will perch in order to eat. Unless you in your home and that it should reflect your potted flowers, or if it’s an evening affair, use live in a large home or have spacious grounds, tastes, not the tastes of the people you’re pay- candlelight. Splurge on an entire bank of you may have to limit your guest list. ing. (Unless you don't have any taste yourself entrance!), under a tree, and on a back lawn. flowering plants to line the hall. Take over all of the pace that you have. and that is what you are paying for.) Spaces that informally frame the ceremo- Take a long look at your front porch. If you Leave no stone upturned in your quest to Consider an open house reception. An ny—between a living room and a dining room have a modicum of privacy there, or if you maximize your usable space. The dead space open house is perfect for smaller homes creates both an architectural framework and a don’t give a damn what the neighbors think, at the end of the hall is perfect for a small card where you want to invite fifty people for the large space in which guest can gather. You can have the ceremony on your front porch. This table that you can turn into a self-service bar. reception but are afraid they won’t all fir at even rent a wood or brass arch for under $50. is really wonderful because immediately after The dining-room table can be pushed against the same time. Don’t feel obligated to create a formal you’ve said your vows you can lead your the wall to open up the room for mingling. As you search for the perfect place to say “I audience seating area. Guest don’t have to sit guests over the threshold and through the The utility room can house tubs of ice that do,” keep the following suggestions in mind. on chairs separated in a formal way from the front door to the first party you have in your hold chilled soda and champagne. Can the “stage.” Think of them as being a part of the home as a married couple. Setting the Scene for the Ceremony action, like Sensurround. basement be cleaned up a bit and its lights *This information is comprised from “The Look for a background with some drama. All of your chairs don’t have to match. You turned down low for dancing? Essential Guide to Lesbian and Gay Weddings,” This is not as hard as you think. Favorite spots can rent or borrow folding chairs if you wish, Let the character of your home e help Tess Ayers and Paul Brown, Alyson Books, 1999. establish the character of the celebration. If include in front of a fireplace, on a balcony, at but don’t rule out a mixture of sofas, the foot of a staircase (you can make and ottomans, and rocking chairs, with pillowed Ways to secure your relationship floor space for the kids and the agile. Once you’re feeling secure about your and subscriptions. Don’t forget the automo- decision to get married, there are a variety of bile club, health clubs, and frequent-flier things you can do to formalize your relation- clubs. ship. You may have taken some of these • Choose a doctor for both of you, who in steps already, while you may not be ready, effect becomes your family physician. willing, or able to consider others. That’s okay; just make sure the two of you discuss • List your partner’s name on medical the formalities so there will be no misunder- records as your husband or as you wife. Do standings. the same with credit companies. • Draw up and have notarized a relationship • Have address labels or a rubber stamp agreement. This doesn’t have to do with made up with both your names on it. property; it has to do with personality-- sort of a contract of what each of you expects • Make donations in both your names. from the other person emotionally. • Include each other in your wills. • Open a joint savings account, checking *This information is comprised from “The account, or charge account. Essential Guide to Lesbian and Gay Weddings,” • Have both names on all club memberships Tess Ayers and Paul Brown, Alyson Books, 1999. 18/B-4 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times’ Same-Sex Wedding Resources • www.therainbowtimesnews.com “Why You Should Give a Damn About Gay Marriage:” An important book to consider during the 2008 election season & beyond By: Jody J. Johnston standing what it means to be lesbian and to in any way. Now a year and a half he has In Jan. 2004 my partner of three years and I live fully, it was now time to tell my parents shifted to say that he sees “no harm” in same began the process of splitting up. more. gender marriage and he thinks he could sup- Simultaneously, Gavin Newsom, Mayor of I made that call. My mother answered, I port it. San Francisco granted same gender marriage. blurted out all the reasons she should under- I sent my dad an autographed copy of While my heart was breaking my passion for stand same gender marriage. She was Davina’s book with the hope that he will read Queer civil rights was growing. shocked. One I cried, (I am not sure she had it again. Maybe he will talk with his friends Davina’s book; Why You Should Give A heard me do in well over 20 years), second about why he should give a damn about gay Damn About Gay Marriage; helped me focus. she and I had never really talked about me marriage. Why, because his daughter at 45 After reading the book, hearing stories of being gay and third she said she had no idea. can live her life more fully because I had the friends getting married and seeing non-sup- That every day I walk out of the house know- courage tell my parents that being a lesbian is portive reactions; I committed to talking to ing that people hate us, we could be fired, that important and my rights are as important as one person a day until Marriage for all is some people prefer me dead than to raise a everyone else’s, no matter the consequences. legal. family and enjoy life. This was so shocking to This book is a tool to break the ground I began to talk to anyone and everyone. The her; she was speechless. My father was more toward talking again. It is easy to read and women in the grocery line, the Dr.’s office, thoughtful and able to talk. They could not explains things in ways that make the issues the clerk at the pharmacy and then I knew I fathom same gender marriage at point. It was tangible and reasonable. Why Marriage and needed to talk to my family. Gulp, not them, too threatening and beyond their worldview. why now? Davina’s book helped me have we don’t talk. I grew up in the republican I sent them Davina’s book. At my prodding specific information to use when talking with mid-west where we talked about nothing. The over the next months, my father and I had others. Being gay, queer, lesbian, what ever; T.V. consumed our living room and the news many in depth conversations. He gradually we need to stand up and be heard and live was only about everyone else. became more and more comfortable with the I continue to talk about same gender mar- fully. To do that I needed to talk with my fam- Years earlier I ‘came out’ when my father idea of civil unions but NOT marriage. My riage and the importance for everyone’s civil ily, even though we had virtually no relation- asked me; “So are you ... well Gay?” In a not mom died several months later of emphysema rights, what it is like for me to be a lesbian, ship to speak of. There was something very so kind and somewhat defensive way I but she died knowing something of me I had why being polite and quite about it is no powerful and important in the process of mak- responded, “Yes.” In my process of under- never shared before. longer an option. My dad always accepted me ing that stand at home. Empowering myself to and was not openly discriminatory toward me live fully includes telling my family who I am and why I deserve the world to know me as I am, a lesbian, a citizen, a women and one who will no longer be quite about my rights in this country. Thanks Davina for helping me have the tools to speak my truth. For mor einformation, please visit: www.whygaymar- riage.com/ www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 19 20 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com TRT Calendar

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Information email Viktoria 518-438-6315. Nov. 8 & Nov 15; Breaking the Song Barrier: to: [email protected] Oct. 19-26; Fantasia Fair, a week-long transgender (CT) LGBT TEEN SUPPORT - RainbowRoom is event held every October in the GLBT resort town of Connecticut Women's Chorus celebrates women (MA) OLDER LESBIAN DISCUSSION GROUPS; open every Sunday from 3:00pm-6:00pm and is Provincetown, Massachusetts. composers; On Nov. 8 at the Unity Church of Greater Amherst/NoHo Area. New members accepted on located at 1841 Broad St., Hartford. RainbowRoom is Hartford, 919 Ellington Road (Rt. 30), South Windsor Oct. 23; Live Performance; 12:15pm; K111 at space-available basis. If enough interest, new groups an affirming and safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, CT. On Nov. 15; 8:00 p.m. at the Unitarian Society of Berkshire Community College. Catie Curtis (the New may form. FMI: 413-247-3257 or 413-253-3049. trans and questioning teens and young adults 13 to New Haven, 700 Hartford Turnpike, Hamden. Yorker calls her a "folk-pop goddess") performs live. 21. RainbowRoom is a drop-in center located in an Nov. 8; One Big Event: A benefit for the Hartford Gay (VT) MEN'S SUPPORT GROUP; Any male 18 or older; Her songs have been featured on the tv shows intimate, informal space with room for a variety of and Lesbian Health Collective; 6:00 p.m. to Midnight; Support group not a therapy group. Free. Every Dawson's Creek, Chicago Hope, and Felicity; her activities. Hilton Hartford Hotel; Hartford, CT. Featuring: Emcee Tuesday, 6:30-8:30 p.m., Brattleboro, VT. FMI: 802- ninth studio album, "Sweet Life", will be released this Michael Wilson, Entertainer Varla Jean Merman, and 258-3914. fall. Free and open to the public. W. MASSACHUSETTS Honorary Host Mayor Eddie Perez. Musical enter- (NY) Bisexual Brunch; First and third Sundays of Oct. 2 & Oct. 3; 8pm; “Standards of Care," A Play by Oct. 31; LGBT Halloween Costume Party; 8 pm-1am; tainment provided by the Shaded Soul Band. the month, 11 a.m. - 1 p.m. at the Rainbow Cafe, 332 Tobias Davis; 8pm; Mendenhall Center for the at The Union Station, 125A Pleasant St., Cocktails, Silent Auction, Dinner, Entertainment, and Hudson Ave., Albany. FMI: Viktoria 518-438-6315. Performing Arts Smith College. Local Premiere! Northampton,MA. Put on your best scary, funny, sexy Dancing. Formal Attire Encouraged. (NY) Bagel Bunch; Tuesdays; 10:30 a.m.; Older gay or political face and join us for the Halloween Party Standards of Care is an honest exploration of some S. VERMONT men’s social and discussion group. Bruegger’s, of the realities that transsexual individuals often everyone is talking about! Fabulous Prizes for Best Oct. 31; The Monster Ball Halloween Night; 9pm- Hannaford Plaza, Central Ave., Albany. encounter, from struggles over the diagnosis of gen- Costumes! Hot Music! Don’t Miss this Spook-tac- 1am; at the RED ROOF INN* (fka the Quality Inn) der dysphoria, to the trials of therapy, family support, ular Event! Tickets $15 /$12 in advance. FMI: (NY) Capital Pride Singers; Mondays @ 7 p.m.; Putney Road, Brattleboro VT 05301. Cash bar, great and gender confirmation surgery. Free for students www.NoHoPridePromos.com or 413-478-4165. LGBT/LGBTaffirming; mixed chorus; St. Andrew’s, raffle prizes, free refreshments. Costumes welcome with ID. $5 for the general public (at the door). Nov. 15; A Gathering of LGBT Grandparents; 9:30 am Episcopal Church, 10 No. Main St., Albany, 12203; and encouraged but NOT required! FMI: 435-4636. Oct. 4; “Standards of Care," A Play by Tobias Davis; - 3:30 pm; Stonewall Communities Lifelong Learning Nov. 19; Teresa Stores will read from her new novel, 8pm; UMass Student Union Ballroom. Local Institute at Wheelock College, Wheelock College (NY) Capital District Prime Timers; Provides social, Backslide, at Northshire Books in Manchester, VT, at Premiere! Standards of Care is an honest exploration Brookline Campus, 43 Hawes Street, Brookline, MA cultural, and recreational opportunities for mature 7 p.m. The Advocate says Backslide "illustrates in liv- of some of the realities that transsexual individuals $20 (free for those 75 and over) includes lunch. FMI: gay and bisexual men. 21+. FMI: ing color what it was like to grow up as a Southern often encounter, from struggles over the diagnosis of www.stonewallcommunities.com 0r (617)369-9090. [email protected] or CDPT 595 New Loudon Baptist in the 60s, navigating the bumpy road from gender dysphoria, to the trials of therapy, family sup- This gathering features Dr. Nancy Orel, author of Rd #202 Latham NY 12110 loneliness and sexual denial to self-assurance. port, and gender confirmation surgery. Free for stu- studies on LGBT grandparents, Denise Simmons, (NY) Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Men Support dents with ID. $5 for the general public (at the door). mayor of Cambridge, and breakout sessions to share Group; Mondays; 7 p.m.; Support group for GBT experiences, to connect, discuss, learn and cele- men; CDGLCC @ 332 Hudson Avenue in Albany. Oct. 4; Metropolitan Community Church of Hartford brate, plus resources! FMI: Q Diamond at (518) 462-6138 or Anniversary Celebration at 6 pm in the Ballroom of Nov. 16; 15th annual Chocolate Dessert Buffet & [email protected]. the Colt Memorial Parish House located at 155 Wyllys Street, Hartford. Dinner and program is $25. Silent Auction; 2 to 5 p.m. at the Clarion Hotel and (NY) Lesbian and Bisexual Women's Support FMI: Rev George Chico, 860-724-4605. Conference Center. FMI: 413-586-8288 ext. 5. Group; every other Tuesday; 7 p.m.; Meet at New Year’s Eve Extravaganza; The Clarion Hotel; CDGLCC at 332 Hudson Avenue in Albany. FMI: Q Oct. 4; Weekend Hike; 2:00pm; meet at Price Ring in the New Year’s with dinner, drink, dancing, Diamond at (518) 462-6138. Chopper parking lot in Lee (off Main Street, just past the Morgan House heading south) to carpool to comedy, etc. Suzanne Westenhoefer, comedian. (NY) Youth Group; Friday nights; 7 p.m.; 332 Mason Pond near Lee. All welcome. Dress for the FMI: nohopridepromos.com Hudson Ave. in Albany; Group offers peer support to weather and wear comfortable hiking shoes. FMI: CAPITAL DISTRICT OF NY LGBT& questioning individuals ages 13-19. A sup- Infoline: 413-822-7268. HELP WANTED: $$$$ portive environment for LGBTQ youth and their Oct. 4-5; CDGLCC's LGBTQ History Month Book straight allies. FMI: Q Diamond (518) 462-6138. Oct. 4-5; Rocky Horror Picture Show; 8:00pm & Sale; All proceeds will benefit the CDGLCC library. 12:00am (two shows); Academy of Music, 274 Main We are accepting book donations until Wednesday, Deliver The Rainbow Times to (NY) Confidential HIV Testing; first Wednesday of Street, Northampton, MA; Performing two full shows October 1st. Please contact us to arrange drop off each month; 6-8:30 p.m.; Provided by Project with two different casts! The show will feature a live time. Email [email protected] or call (518) 462- the Capital District of NY: H.O.P.E., a program of the AIDS Council of cast along with the movie, pre shows and other fun 6138. (Albany, Schenectady & Troy) Northeastern New York. Testing offered at the surprises! Join us for this night of mayhem, madness, Oct. 12-14th; 4th National Conference on Gay, CDGLCC, 332 Hudson Ave., Albany. FMI: 518-462- corsets, fishnets and of course, sweet transvestites Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Aging "It's About 6138. from Transexual Transelvania! $12/$10 for students. Must have: Time: LGBT Aging in a Changing World;” At the New (NY) OUT DANCING (for the LGBTQ community); FMI: 413.584.9032 York Marriott at the Brooklyn Bridge, 333 Adams • Disposition to work 1x month every Wednesday evening; 7 to 8 p.m.; Saratoga Oct. 8; "Trans 101" Panel/Infosocial; 7:0 pm; Susan Street, Brooklyn, New York 11201. FMI: • Valid NY or MA Driver’s Licence SAVOY, 7 Wells St, Saratoga Springs, NY. Forr more B. Anthony Lounge, Berkshire Community College. www.sageusa.org. information: 518-587-5132. http://saratogasavoy.home- Several local BSCC members and experts in trans- • Car Insurance & a reliable Car Oct. 15; CDGLCC's Annual Awards Dinner; Contact stead.com/files/outdancing.html gendered issues share their experiences and • Deliver paper on the exact date Q at [email protected] or (518) 462-6138 to pur- (CT) Every Sunday; ALL LGBT YOUTH to the insights. This is a community event; FMI: Infoline: chase tickets or advertise in the dinner journal! • Be courteous Rainbow Room; at the Hartford Gay & Lesbian 413-822-7268. Oct. 28; Joe Norton's 90th birthday; 6pm; First • Good communication skills Health Collective; from 3-6 p.m.; 1841 Broad Street, Oct. 9; Lura; 7:30pm; Bowker Auditorium; Umass Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany (FUUSA) Hartford, CT; for LGBT youth and allies. 21 & Fine Arts Center; Amherst. FMI: 413-545-2511 younger. 405 Washington Ave. Albany. Joe is one of the found- Oct. 10-13; Paradise City Arts Festival; Saturday & ing members of the Capital District Gay and Lesbian (MA) TransForming Families-Transgender Support Sunday 10am-6pm; Columbus Day 10am-4pm. Community Council as well as a teacher, an activist, Group; Parents, partners, children and their trans- Three County Fairgrounds, Old Ferry Road and and so much more! Please RSVP to gender loved ones. Wednesdays, 7:30 – 9 p.m. in Route 9, Northampton, MA 01060; $12 adult; $8 sen- qdiamond@cdglcc. org or (518) 462-6138 by Hadley. FMI: www.transformingfamilies.org or 413- iors/students; under 12 free; FMI: 800 511-9725 or October 24 522-0522. [email protected] For more information, Nov. 15; Art for AIDS Sake; 7 pm - 10 pm New York (MA) EAST COAST FEMALE-TO-MALE GROUP Oct. 11; "Come Out, Come Out, Whoever You Are" State Museum, 4th Fl, Empire State Plaza Madison please call (ECFTMG); 2nd Sunday of every month from 3:00 to Dance; 8:30pm-12:30am. Must be 18 & have ID. Ave, Albany, NY To Benefit The Albany Damien 6:00 p.m. FMI: 413.584.7616 or email: NOTE: Tentatively scheduled for The Elks Club, 27 Center. [email protected]. Union Street, Pittsfield. Check the website or call the 518-391-2617 N. CONNECTICUT TRT is an Equal Opportunity Employer, EOE. The CT pages are brought to you by: www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 21 Proudly serving the LGBT community Phone: 203-772-7767 Connecticut Connection Website: www.murthalaw.com All I Am: A journey with Jennifer Taylor By: Nicole Lashomb/TRT Editor-in-Chief However, she has been playing instruments easy. Dream big and always follow your As an experienced original songwriter, since third grade. heart! ” musician and performer of 10 years, Jennifer “I got my first steady gig at a bar in Taylor’s All I Am CD release party will be Taylor is no amateur to the Northeast music Watertown CT,” said Taylor. “Soon after that, held at Toad’s Place, New Haven, Conn. scene and this exclusive TRT interview brings I quit my waitresses and bank teller job that I Doors open at 7 p.m. with the show com- to you the intimate details of this musician’s had at the time and that's when the actual mencing at 8 p.m. Tickets may be purchased journey. Having performed at approximately music career started.” in advance for $8.00, pre-show, or $10.00 at 200 venues each year, Taylor is currently Taylor primarily performs in the tri-state the door. Tickets are available online at preparing to release her third CD, All I Am on area. www.toadsplace.com and www.etix.com. October 23rd in New Haven, Conn. “I perform all over the state of Connecticut, Advanced purchases of Taylor’s new CD, All “All I Am definitely has more of mix of eastern New York and western I Am, can be made at any of her upcoming things then my previous CDs,” said Jennifer Massachusetts,” she said. “I play at anything shows or by emailing your request to Taylor, recording artist, New Haven, Conn. from private parties, neighborhood bars, and [email protected]. CD’s pur- “For the most part I feel it is Rock/Pop but I colleges to music and pride festivals.” chased in advance can be picked up on Oct. do have a few tunes that cross over into the For the time being, Taylor represents herself 23rd at the CD release party. CD’s are $12.00 country genre. To be honest, I'm not sure independently. or 2 for $20.00. exactly how to describe my music, all I can “Blood, sweat and tears have gone into For more information about Jennifer Taylor, say is that I play because I love it and what making this CD and though that may sound her CD Release party, or upcoming show comes out is heartfelt and real.” bad, it was definitely all worth it,” she said. schedules: www.jennifertaylormusic.com. Taylor’s first album, Jennifer Taylor, was “It wasn't easy but nothing that is worth it is released in 2000 and her second album, A Different View was produced shortly after in 2003. JENNIFER TAYLOR Marriage equality is about fairness “All I Am represents my Journey from 2003, music is always very personal but this CD by Statement from Love Makes a Family’s Executive Director: the date of my last CD, to now,” said Taylor. far is the most personal. I have really opened “I have grown as a musician and a person myself up and let people in with these songs.” In response to Anti-Gay Rally at State Capitol last week throughout this time and that growth is According to Taylor, her music career offi- Marriage is about commitment. It’s about thing we can to help these couples take care reflected in all of the songs on this CD. My cially began when she was 20 years old. responsibility. And it’s about being able to of each other. The Family Institute of take care of the one you love. There are Connecticut is simply out of touch with FaithAction: Religious advocacy for thousands of same-sex couples in what the average Connecticut citizen Connecticut who have made a lifelong com- believes. Fortunately, the intolerant message marriage equality & LGBT rights in CT mitment to each other and simply want the of today’s rally represents a minority view A new program of Love Makes a Family, same-sex couples any day. Even if that hap- state to allow them the dignity and respect— that is continually shrinking. LMF, FaithAction equips and coordinates pens, FaithAction Advocates will still have a as well as the legal protections—that mar- Love Makes a Family is a statewide, grass- people of faith to advocate for marriage role to play between now and June 2009. We riage provides. roots organization working for marriage equality and lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans- must protect that win in the 2009 legislative A majority of Connecticut voters support equality for same-sex couples in gender (LGBT) rights. People of faith are a session and we must work to pass a gender marriage for gay and lesbian couples Connecticut. critical voice to speak out for LGBT justice identity/expression bill to protect transgender because they believe we should do every- and marriage equality right now in individuals from discrimination. Connecticut. Approximately five hours a month from The program seeks dedicated congregation- now through June 2009 of involvement are al members to be FaithAction Advocates who needed, though it will vary some from month will promote education and advocacy in each to month. Conference calls will be up to an faith community. Advocates can be lay or hour each month, and the rest of the time will clergy, of any age and of all sexual orienta- be spent with individual and community tions. activities for marriage equality. This is a perfect opportunity to promote Love Makes a Family promises to fully sup- LGBT equality in anyone’s faith context. It's port individuals interested in the program If you’ve ever considered being a Foster Parent … time-limited in nature, designed to achieve through one-on-one attention, accessible con- concrete actions within a number of months. gregational resources, and public recognition NOW is the time to do it. Plus, it's a chance to get the inside scoop as of your efforts. LMF respect your time and the date gets close to marriage equality in energy, and want to make congregational Connecticut’s children need you more than ever. Connecticut! advocacy an enjoyable experience! As an advocate, people can: The trainings will be held at various loca- The Professional Parenting Program needs individuals who are willing • Attend a 3-hour training to build skills in tions: and able to support our LGBTQ youth in Connecticut. congregational organizing and petitioning West Hartford: Wednesday, October 22nd, policy-makers for change 6-9pm (Temple Sholom); Norwich: Tuesday, Help us to help them achieve their goals and dreams of belonging to a • Apply these skills through at least three October 28th, 6-9pm (Unitarian-Universalist family. events over six months within the congrega- Church of Norwich); New Haven: Monday, tion November 17th, 6-9pm (United Church on Connecticut residents only. • Participate in monthly conference calls for the Green); Fairfield: Thursday, November 6, planning and "behind-the-scenes" access to 6:30-9pm, First Congregational Church Please call us today (888) 968-4489 x134 Connecticut"s marriage equality work For more information, contact Oby Ballinger, • Join a limited-time effort that will conclude LMF Religious Organizer, or to sign up for a by June 2009 training! E-mail [email protected] or call There is a possibility that the Connecticut 203-464-3455. Supreme Court will legalize marriage for More Connecticut Events/Info. on Pages 22-23 & 32 1764 Litchfield Turnpike • Woodbridge, CT 06525 • www.ippi.org 22 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com LGBT News Briefs from Around the Country Study: Series on US TV showing bearer for fair workplace practices. As long it more gays, lesbians denies gay and lesbian employees the com- Paradise City returns to NoHo prehensive family benefits that their hetero- NEW YORK (AP)—Series on American Columbus Day and functional—in sexual colleagues receive, the federal govern- television will have 16 gay and bisexual reg- Weekend marks the What: A museum quality show and sale featuring 275 every price range. ular characters in this fall during prime-time ment will fall short of that standard, and con- 14th anniversary of juried artists from every corner of America. Thousands Don’t miss the Silent hours, more than double the seven of a year tinue to lag behind the nation’s top employ- the Paradise City of works in ceramics, painting, art glass, fine furniture, Art Auction, held all ago, a new study has found. ers.” Arts Festival, the sculpture, jewelry, leather, metal, mixed media, pho- three days, to benefit The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against The benefits for federal employees would most exciting and tography, fiber, wearable art and wood. Where: the Breast Form Fund. Defamation said it was a positive sign of net- include family health insurance, pension and comprehensive show Indoors and under tents Three County Fairgrounds Rte 9 & Old Ferry Rd Northampton, MA. When: works making their shows more representa- survivor benefits and relocation expenses for of museum quality … and stay for the live families who are transferred. And for State craft, art and sculp- Columbus Day Weekend, October 11, 12 & 13 Saturday music and fabulous tive, although more work needed to be done. & Sunday: 10am-6pm Monday: 10am-4pm. Special These characters accounted for 2.6 percent of Department employees abroad it would ture in New England. food! Founded by Features: “The Many Faces of Paradise”, a show of The Festival Dining all the regular characters in TV series, up include access to anti-terrorism and language Northampton artists portraits. Vote for the People’s Choice Award in the Tent looks out over from 1.1 percent last year and 1.3 percent in training, medical facilities, and evacuation 200-foot long, professionally landscaped Sculpture services. Linda and Geoffrey foliage-draped hills, 2006, according to the study, released Post, this event is a Garden. Live jazz and food by the region’s best restau- and offers up mouth- The Human Rights Campaign worked Monday. unique opportunity rants under the Festival Dining Tent! Admission: watering foods pre- A total of 19 recurring characters, those closely with the Senate staff in crafting the to experience an Adults: $12. Seniors & Students: $8. Weekend Pass: pared by some of the who appear only time to time, fit the catego- legislation and was a lead coalition partner in entire festival $15. Under 12: free. Free Parking! Advance group region’s most celebrat- ry, GLAAD said. That's up from 13 a year lobbying for the hearing. Advocating for the designed from an sales discounts. ed chefs. Sample deli- ago. Between regular and recurring charac- legislation was a top priority for HRC artist’s perspective. cacies from Spoleto, ters, that's the most GLAAD has counted dur- activists during the Spring Lobby Day. HRC Selected from among nearly 1000 applicants Side Street Café, India House, Mama Iguana, ing its 13 years of monitoring networks for also worked with employers in the private from 40 states, the 275 exhibiting artists and Great Wall and more! You’ll find crisp salads, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender repre- sector to endorse the legislation and reached master craftsmen include those with national spicy curries, grilled kabobs and heavenly sentation. out to all Congressional offices with up-to- reputations at the peak of their skills, as well as desserts. While you’re delighting your taste exciting emerging talent. Paradise City wel- buds, relax to the artful sounds of Charles The number of regular characters fitting the date resources such as the Corporate Equality comes 60 new artists this October, including Neville on Saturday, Primate Fiasco on definition fell from 40 to 32 on mainstream Index, demonstrating support and need for DP Benefits. To view the Corporate Equality Kentucky clockmaker Douglas Durkee. Sunday and Quetzal on Monday. cable networks, a count that doesn't include Regular attendees declare this show to be This fall Paradise City features a special Index, visit: www.hrc.org/cei. the gay-oriented networks Logo and here! “always fresh and vibrant, with the best selec- “show-within-a-show” of remarkable portraits: The need for federal domestic partner bene- There were no lesbians among the regular tion anywhere.” It’s no wonder AmericanStyle ‘The Many Faces of Paradise.’ As you would characters, according to GLAAD. But there fits was also incorporated in HRC’s 7-Days to Magazine readers voted Paradise City their #1 expect from Paradise City’s ever-creative are five bisexual women, including the char- a Better Financial You, with stories from for- choice this year among all art fairs in America! artists, this special exhibition displays a broad acters of Callie Torres and Erica Hahn on mer Ambassador Michael Guest and other interpretation of everything the term “por- ABC's “Grey's Anatomy.” federal civilian employees explaining how the Come for the art … traits” connotes and boasts an imaginative “As the networks gradually add characters lack of benefits hurts LGBT families. To Whether you’re a serious collector, an imag- breadth of ideas cutting across all media. from all backgrounds and all walks of life to learn more about the 7 Days campaign, visit inative shopper or simply a lover of beautiful For more information, Founding Director prime-time programming, more and more www.hrc.org/7days. things, you’ll discover a world of extraordi- Linda H. Post at [email protected] Americans are seeing their LGBT friends and GLAAD Urges accurate media cov- nary art and design—collectible, decorative or at 800.511.9725 x102. neighbors reflected on the small screen,” erage: Murder of Nakhia Williams GLAAD President Neil Giuliano said. On August 20, Nakhia Williams, an African Rigali and Walder from p. 5 operate out of and travel between three offices American transgender woman, was found by “We accept a variety of insurance plans,” located in Northampton, Amherst and Historic U.S. Senate Hearing on police outside her Louisville, Kentucky apart- Easthampton. Need for Federal Employee Partner said Dr. Rigali. “We also offer in-office, no- ment beside a dumpster. She had suffered interest financing. Care credit is also avail- “Our goal for every patient is to provide a Benefits multiple gunshot wounds. Williams was able, which is an outside financing plan that proper functioning occlusion or bite. Along WASHINGTON—The Human Rights transported to The University of Louisville allows patients to spread payments out over a with that comes a beautiful smile!” said Dr. Campaign, the nation’s largest lesbian, gay, Hospital where she died 10 days later. longer period of time.” Rigali. “We have a fabulous, well trained, bisexual, and transgender civil rights organi- Subsequent media coverage of her murder by Dr. Rigali said that their practice is and wel- warm and compasionate staff that truly enjoy zation, last month participated in the first-ever WLKY-CBS 32 and WDRB-Fox 41 used coming to all types of families and is dedicat- working with each other and our patients.” U.S. Senate hearing exclusively on the issue inaccurate terminology, including male pro- ed to making their patients and their families For more information about Rigali and Walder Orthodontics, visit www.rigali- of federal employee partner benefits. The nouns, and failed to use Williams’ correct comfortable. In addition, for the convenience walderorthodontics.com or call 413.586.8455. hearing, held by the Senate Committee on name. There have been no follow-up stories of patients, Rigali and Walder Orthodontics Homeland Security and Governmental offered by Louisville media outlets covering Affairs, was titled “Domestic Partner Benefits the investigation of this crime. for Federal Employees: Fair Policy and Good GLAAD staff members contacted news CT Neighborhood Organizations Business.” Coordinated by Committee directors and reporters at both WLKY-CBS AIDS Testing: www.guardinhealth.org Broad Street, Hartford, CT 06105 - 860.247.6090 Info. Chairman Sen. Joseph Lieberman (I-CT) and 32 and WDRB-Fox 41 through e-mail and Gay Father’s Group: (203) 938-2881Hartford and Referral program: (800) 479-2949 or Greater Ranking Member Sen. Susan Collins (R-ME), phone messages. WDRB-Fox 41 refused to Community Center: (860) 724-5542CT Freedom to Hartford 524-0601 - Statewide women's rights organiza- the hearing is an important and necessary step correct the pronoun errors, citing the coro- Marry Coalition: (203) 791-9553Love Makes a Family: tion working to end discrimination and hate crimes; pro- toward enactment of equal employment bene- ner’s report. WLKY- CBS 32 News Director www.lmf-ct.org (860) 525-7777Married Lesbian Support vides free legal information and referral to the LGBT Group: [email protected] (203) 430-9227 community. fits for LGBT federal civilian employees. Mike Neelly refused to respond to multiple Married Men’s Bisexual Support Group of Hartford: XX Club (Twenty Club): Rev. Cannon Jones - 45 Church “This legislation, which is long overdue, voice mails and e-mails. (860)264-5605Metropolitan Community Church of New Street Hartford , CT 06141-0387 - (860)646-8651 - would bring the federal government up to the GLAAD urges you to call on Louisville Haven: (203) 397-2312New Haven Gay & Lesbian Povides knowledgeable info., and ongoing peer support standards of America’s leading employers, media outlets to provide thorough coverage of Center: www.nhglcc.org; (203) 387-2252 to transsexuals. 2nd and 4th Saturdays of the month, 2 - who provide these benefits in order to recruit this tragic case while avoiding sensationalism PFLAG Danburry: www.pflag.org; (203) 797- 5 p.m. and retain the most talented workforce possi- and using accurate terminology. (For more 4743Connecticut ’s Kids: (203) 256-8414 connecticuT View (cTView): A Transgender social and Senior Lesbians Happily at Play (SLAPHAPS): Kathy support club, for the TV, TG, TS, CD, both male and ble,” said Human Rights Campaign President information, see GLAAD media reference: (203) 929-8113 female. Monthly meeting in New Haven as well as e- Joe Solmonese, as written in submitted testi- (www.glaad.org/media/guide/index.php) True Colors CT: www.ourtruecolors.org; (888) 565- membership, and more. A no dues club, with all the frills; mony. “Equal pay for equal work is a value Media sources should be urged to question 5551National www.transgender.org/ctv/ fundamental to American opportunity. The police and ask them to investigate whether or Runaway Switchboard: (773) 880-9860Connecticut federal government should be the standard not Nakhia’s murder was a hate crime. Women's Education and Legal Fund (CWEALF): 135 www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 23 24 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Lesbian Voices Lesbian Voices: Is Palin the G.O.P. drag queen? By: Rev. Irene Monroe* was rightly noted in Denver this week that feminist icon of the era wrote in a recent New “Palin is not known for attacking the Hillary left 18 million cracks in the highest, York Times op-ed that “Sarah Palin shares women's movement; she credits it with break- ince McCain hardest glass ceiling in America ... but it turns nothing but a chromosome with Hillary ing down gender barriers and creating the picked the out the women of America aren't finished yet Clinton. She is Phyllis Schlafly, only opportunities she has enjoyed. While Governor of S and we can shatter that glass ceiling once and younger.” antiabortion, she belongs to a group called Alaska, Sarah Palin, as for all.” However, many Third-wave feminists, Feminists for Life ... I also believe that her his V.P pick, there has But Palin’s brand of feminism—pro-NRA, across the political spectrum, see Palin as candidacy is a great moment for American been bantering and pro-drilling, anti-choice hockey mom of “feminist hero,” trying to break through the women ... more representation for feminism bickering from the five—has many women debating the issue. 18 million cracks in the highest, hardest glass across the spectrum of political beliefs is a distaff side of our The debate is primarily viewed as a genera- ceiling in American politics. good thing. Women, like men, should be able American electorate. tional one between second and third-wave Rebecca Walker, once bisexual, but now a to disagree on gun ownership, environmental The cat fight from female electorates of feminists. married heterosexual, is the daughter of the policies, taxes, even abortion while agreeing both political parties’ is whether Palin is good For example, Second-wave feminists of the renowned womanist (black feminist) author on gender equity.” for women, and whether her abilities honor- Young is right that we need a more varied ably represent the feminist activism of the representation of feminism across the politi- Women’s Suffrage Movement—a movement cal spectrum. And the group missing, that no winning women full voting rights when the It’s insult enough that Palin bills sexual-assault victims for one has bothered to poll opinions from, is les- 19th Amendment was ratified on August 26, bian, bisexual and transwomen. 1920. the cost of rape kits and forensic exams; she adds insult to But for many of us LBT women Palin lip- In her Dayton speech accepting McCain's injury when it’s a sexual assault due to a hate crime act synchs Republican rhetoric. It’s insult enough V.P. offer Palin gave honor to the women who that Palin bills sexual-assault victims for the came before her. against LBT women. When asked why she would not cost of rape kits and forensic exams; she adds “It's fitting that this trust has been given to expand hate crimes laws to include our community, Palin stat- insult to injury when it’s a sexual assault due me 88 years almost to the day after the to a hate crime act against LBT women. women of America first gained the right to ed, “I believe all heinous crimes are based on hate.” When asked why she would not expand hate vote. I think as well today of two other crimes laws to include our community, Palin women who came before me in national elec- stated, “I believe all heinous crimes are based tions. I can't begin this great effort without 60’s and 70’s like Pulitzer Prize-winning nov- Alice Walker and goddaughter of Gloria on hate.” honoring the achievements of Geraldine elist Jane Smiley depicts Palin as “a woman Steinem. She voiced her opinions about Palin There is no public statement from Palin Ferraro in 1984 ... and of course Senator who reinforces patriarchal power rather than in the Huffington Post. regarding non-discrimination in employment, Hillary Clinton, who showed such determina- challenges it.” And Gloria Steinem, America’s “Sarah Palin became mayor of her town, housing, credit based on sexual orientation, tion and grace in her presidential campaign. It governor of her state, and has now secured the gender identity or expression. Vice Presidential nomination for the While it is true that Palin boasts that some Republican Party of her country. She accom- of her best friends are gay, she doesn’t support plished this using the basic doctrine of femi- gay marriage and spousal benefits for state nism: female empowerment. Many feminists employees of same-sex couples. are now trying to distance themselves from “I am pro-life,” Palin told the Anchorage the result of their own work by launching Daily News. “I believe that marriage should scathing critiques of Sarah Palin, conservative only be between a man and a woman ... I women, and anyone else with the audacity to believe spousal benefits are reserved for mar- point out the connection between Palin's rise ried citizens on our constitution.” and the last forty years of feminist ideology Sarah Palin looks like a feminist due to the ...To date, feminist think-tanks, powerful fem- Republican spin of her, but she lop-synchs for inist icons, and the leadership of major, the misogynist men who dress her. Her national women's organizations have done the actions, if in office, would erode the gains of dirty business of policing feminism ... Sarah the women’s movement. Palin is being presented as the new and Feminism is indeed about empowering improved, moose hunting Gloria Steinem.” women, but Palin’s feminism is a charade. Cathy Young, a contributing editor for the To contact this writer, or leave her a mes- libertarian monthly magazine “Reason” felt sage, email The Rainbow Times’s editor: edi- the attacks on Palin by women are unfair and [email protected] (no hyphen) vitriolic. COLORING the LGBT world into OUR gayborhoods! therainbowtimesnews.com In this side of the world, TRT offers you a Quad-State Coverage you can count on:

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Her takes on ans from Boston and New York: Bob Gautreau, life as a “lesbian in the mainstream” are deliv- Jackie Monahan, Amy Tee and Greg Rodrigues. ered with a quiet style that belies its edgy con- The performance is being sponsored by The tent, leading the audience to laughter and nods of Rainbow Times. agreement. Amy is a regular performer at the With a dynamic repertoire of more than 300 Boston Comedy Festival, and audio clips of her celebrity voices, from Robert DeNiro to Martha performances there have been played on XM Stewart, Bob Gautreau has been called a “verita- Satellite Radio. Since 2007, Amy has headlined ble cyclone of pop culture” and lays claim to the her own show in Provincetown, and was the co- title of New England’s top impressionist. The headliner in “Two Dyke Minimum,” a standup former Provincetown Entertainer of the Year tour that has played in clubs and theaters in six began his career as female impersonator Tony northeast states. Currently she is featured in All Rose, creating the “Mama Rosa” character that Out Films’ Laughing Matters....Next Gen, airing remains a favorite part of his act. He’s a leading on LOGO. She recently worked with Monahan choice of comedy clubs, cruise chips, colleges in “Two Dyke Minimum,” and with Gautreau at and corporate events around the Northeast, as a Human Rights Campaign event. well as in Las Vegas and Atlantic City. Gautreau, Whether opening for national acts at Boston’s who outed himself on A&E’s Evening at the Comedy Connection, doing showcase sets at the Improv, has also appeared on HBO, NBC’s Last respected Comedy Studio in Harvard Square, Comic Standing and most recently on The Next Cambridge, or performing in mainstream subur- Best Thing. In 2008, he was a featured performer ban rooms on the Dick Doherty Pro Comedy at two events for The Human Rights Campaign, Tour, Greg Rodrigues has established himself as in San Antonio, Texas and in Kansas City. one funny, original and versatile professional Fresh, disarming, original and hugely funny, comedian in Boston. Rodrigues is a mainstay in Jackie Monahan has become a local favorite at the mainstream comedy clubs and GLBT ven- New York City’s Gotham and Caroline’s on ues, benefits and showcases. He is a regular at Broadway, while also playing clubs and colleges the annual Boston Comedy Festival. around the country with the LOL Tour. She’s Show time is 8 p.m. and tickets cost $20, avail- well-known to fans of Sirius Satellite Radio and able at www.ScampsComedy.com, Pride & Joy VH-1 for her appearances on those outlets, and Books in Northampton, Food for Thought Books for those who saw her special on LOGO. She in Amherst, World Eye Books in Greenfield, also has a hit podcast, “Girls on Girls” on the Mass. and at the box office the night of the show. HERE network. She will shock and make you The Academy of Music Theatre is at 274 Main think, and has been known to make her audi- Street, Northampton, MA. ences tinkle. For more information, check Identified as a rising star by the Boston Globe, www.ScampsComedy.com, or call the Academy Amy Tee is one of the busiest comedians on the at 413-584-9032. 26 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Street Sense John McCain's choice of Sarah Palin as his VP running mate has created quite a stir. Do you feel this decision will help the Republican Party ticket and bring Hillary supporters over? "This choice of "No, I think it will "No, I don't think we "I do not think it's Palin is going to be have the opposite are that stupid. I going to influence a disservice to the effect. Those who don't think it's going people or help the Rep. Party. Hillary actually looked at to help them at all. Republican Party at supporters will stay her will go strong People are going to all. I don't think with the Democrats. Democrat now. I had get disgusted and Democrats will cross I'm definitely voting the displeasure of want change. It's not over. [I think it’s] just Democrat!" listening to her going to help the a bad choice." speak and her views McCain ticket—bad Efrain Carrasquillo Chris Holmes Darlene Orvieto Eve Soucie are extreme. She move." Peer Advocate Volunteer Co-Ordinator Owner/Chiropractor Student/mother The Damien House The Damien House should go back to Core Chiropractic Clinic Florence, MA Albany NY Albany, NY where she came from Easthampton, MA and stay there." 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Deliver TRT to New York A gathering of LGBT grandparents in Mass. Start in the Spring of 2009, and have fun while being a part First meeting of LGBT grandparents ever in New England of a team that cares for you. Inquire by calling: 518-391-2617 The non-profit Stonewall Communities Cambridge, who is also a lesbian grandmoth- Lifelong Learning Institute at Wheelock er. College is convening the first-ever-in-New- The fee for the event is $20, but it is free to England gathering for LGBT Grandparents on those 75 and over. A limited number of schol- Queer Cinema You Can’t Miss! Saturday, November 15, 2008 at the arships are available. Almost Myself (T) Bi the Way (B) Brookline campus of Wheelock College (just This gathering also features opportunities to Genre: Documentary; Rating: Not yet rated Genre: Documentary; Rating: Not yet rated off Beacon St., between Kenmore Square & share resources and experiences, connect, Distribution: Limited Release Distribution: Limited Release Coolidge Corner) from 9:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m. learn and celebrate. The organizer will pro- Director: Tom Murray; Release Date: 00/00/00 Director: Brittany Blockman and Josephine Decker Notes: Premiered at 2006 Newfest Release Date: 00/00/00 The two keynote speakers are Dr. Nancy vide lunch too. To register, contact: Synopsis: Director Tom Murry explores the lives of a Notes: screened at the Miami Gay & Lesbian Film Orel, Bowling Green State University, who [email protected] or call group of diverse MTFs in this documentary. Festival (2008) has done research and written on LGBT (617) 369-9090. Synopsis: A docu about bisexuality on the rise. grandparents; and Denise Simmons, Mayor of Be Like Others (LGBT) Genre: Documentary; Rating: Not yet rated Bigger, Stronger, Faster (G) Distribution: Limited Release; Release Date: Genre: Documentary; Rating: Not yet rated 00/00/00 Distribution: Limited Release Jennifer L. Dexter Notes: Premiered at 2008 Sundance Film Festival Director: Christopher Bell Attorney at Law & Notary Public Synopsis: In a country where homosexuality Release Date: 00/00/00 Notes: Premiered at 2008 Sundance Film Festival remains an offense punishable by death, this docu- Specializing in: Real Estate, Family Law, Wills, Education Law & mentary shows that many young gay men and Synopsis: After his two brothers found themselves women in Iran are opting to undergo gender reas- caught up in the dangerous subculture of perform- Criminal Law signment surgery, which is their only legal option ance-enhancing drugs and steroids, director 95 State St., Suite 724 under their country's interpretation of Islamic law. Christopher Bell decided to turn his camera on the This film explores a culture in which shame and fear social pressures that lead some to take drastic steps Springfield, MA 01103 have led many to take extreme measures in an in pursuit of physical perfection. Among those inter- [email protected] attempt to find acceptance. viewed is an HIV-positive man and proponent of 413-214-7626 www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 27 QPuzzle & More Show Girl: An interview with Kristine W. Q Puzzle: Lesbian/Woman By: Mikey Rox* Studios Rufskin by: Photo A crossword tribute to the late Del Martin Dance-music mainstay Kristine W. wears many hats. Every one brims with vim. In a recent interview, the veteran performer reflects on her 20-plus-year career—from working the beauty pageant circuit and col- lecting a check from The Colonel (think Memphis, not Louisville) to raising a family and fighting for her life. And that’s just the half of it. Kristine—otherwise known as the fab Ms. W to her loyal legion – also discusses her lat- est album Power of Music, and in a world exclusive reveals the results of a MySpace contest for fans to choose the song they’d most like to hear on her soon-to-be-released Christmas CD. Our vote? “Come All Ye Faithful.” MIKEY ROX: Before we get into the meat and potatoes of this thing, let’s take a minute to admire you! I read somewhere that since your debut album in 1996, you’ve broken KRISTINE W. records previously held by Madonna and overcoming leukemia is a modern-day mira- Janet Jackson for consecutive hits on the cle. My brother passed away from the disease Billboard Club Play chart. Is that true? in 2002 at age 22, so I know firsthand the dev- KRISTINE W.: Yes, that’s true! I’m very astation cancer can cause the people it affects. proud of that, and I owe that success to my What were your thoughts when you were fans that continue to inspire me. diagnosed, and how did the battle to beat the Across MR: In the early 1980s you were a contestant disease change your life? 1 Rainbow flag sticker sites, often in the Miss America competition. Did you Down KW: I was devastated when I was diagnosed, 6 Candace Gingrich's half-brother 1 Lickety-split (abbr.) ever have to kick a bitch’s ass backstage? angry, scared. I cried for about three days 10 Guy under Hoover 2 Ejaculation of refusal KW: Yes, it was the mid-80s and one of the 14 Dinah of a golf classic straight. Then I called upon my faith and I 3 Party affiliation of M.P. Alan Duncan girls put water in my hairspray bottle. I told 15 State where two women could be in a marriage, for- knew I had to be a soldier rather than a victim. 4 Type of stimulation them all if I find out who did it they’ll be merly 5 Wall Street bears The odds of my survival were pretty slim so I missing some teeth—so don't f@&* with me. 16 One of the Three Bears 6 Career option for Jack McFarland needed to really focus and educate myself on [Laughs] That shocked ’em. 17 Like phone sex 7 And others, for Caesar the disease. The two-year battle changed my 18 Internally pink MR: Considering you sordid past (wink), it’s 8 Tight-assed priorities. I have always been in love with my 19 Problem for a drag queen's hosiery no wonder you have such an avid gay follow- 9 Field for Jane Spahr two children since they were born. I know 20 Longtime spouse of Del Martin 10 Execs in Glenn Burke's sport ing! But I’ve always wondered, how does one their love saved me and gave me the fight to 23 Dupont Cir., on the Metro 11 Home for Troy Perry get an avid gay following? I mean, it’s not 24 Fruit eater hang in there. Children and music, that’s my 12 Place for a G-string like you set out to be the next Betty White. 25 Go nuts focus—and without a doubt, I have seen the 13 Pester, as Albert to Armand Right? 27 Rupert Everett and Simon Callow 21 Dr. George O'Malley has them inserted power of love and the power of music through KW: Being a gay icon just happened organi- 31 Selected guys to play with 22 Enjoy some ladyfingers, e.g. them and my loyal fan base. cally. One minute I was in London perform- 33 Band members blow them 26 Sink to the bottom MR: Your October calendar is filling up fast. 34 With 41-Across, organization founded by Del Martin ing for straight people in straight clubs. The 27 Facetious "I see" First up is the “Come Out with Pride Parade” 38 Prissy hissy next, I’m in NYC with 2,000 half-naked men. 28 Eastern, to the NY Liberty at Disney World, which is way late since the 39 Role for Barbra 29 Hulbert Creek to Russian Riv. Pretty fun! annual Gay Days is in June. So what’s the sig- 40 Stephen McCauley's ___ Enough 30 How punctual people come MR: I’ve seen the company you keep – Junior 41 See 34-Across nificance? Is this your first time participating? 31 "Shut your pie hole!" Vasquez, RuPaul, etc. So it might be more 43 "Mary" and "Nelly," e.g. KW: This is the first time I’ve performed at 32 Barbarians that are almost hung? appropriate to ask that question differently. 44 Revolutionary of Colette's country 34 What a computer may spit out Orlando Pride, so I’m really excited about it! Do you know any straight people? 45 Sleep with Kahlo? 35 Hunks of history We’ve had some amazing shows at The KW: Yes, I have straight friends! [Laughs] 46 Gay novelist Harlan 36 Smallest member Parliament House, and I know how fun the 49 Kid of a parent's sib You would not believe the diversity of my 37 Nintendo rival people in Orlando are. So watch out and fas- 50 Breakfast on Pluto actor Stephen friendship pool. It’s hilarious! 39 They take a powder and shoot off ten your wig on, honey! 51 Mayor who officiated at the marriage of Del Martin 42 Singer k.d. MR: There’s no easy transition into this next and 20-Across 43 Estimates the stats of question so I’ll just come out with it: While 58 Nick was his master 45 Jason to Barbra making it in Vegas on your own is admirable, See Kristine W. on Page 28 60 Janet or niece Hunter 46 "... you shall find me a ___ man" (Shakespeare) 61 Debussy contemporary Erik 47 International Gay Bowling Organization button 62 What either bride may wear 48 Weird Al Yankovic song about blow jobs? 63 Foreman, formerly of NGLTF 49 100 smackers Got a Short Film to submit? 64 Treating as a sexual object 52 Young meat Are you an LGBT filmmaker looking for a place to showcase your short films? If you'd like 65 Katharine's Butch Cassidy role 53 Sondheim's ___ the Woods to tell us about your work, please send an email to us at: [email protected]. 66 Fruit flavor for gin 54 Cary Grant's I ___ Male War Bride Please include your name, email address, phone number and a brief synopsis of your 67 Hooded coat at Telluride 55 Direction from Stephen Pyles short film. It’s that easy! 56 Porking noise? Solution of Puzzle on Page 28 28 • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Queer Voices from NY Passing the torch: Yates is CDGLCC’s new director By: Paul P. Jesep* has always recognized the laws of other states. Secularizing America—the Republic of Faith ora Yates has been Executive As chief executive, according to the Governor, without Wisdom.” He lives in Schenectady and Director of the Albany, New York- he has a constitutional duty to enforce the law. may be reached at Nbased Capital District Gay and Not surprisingly, the proudest personal [email protected]. Lesbian Community Council (CDGLCC) accomplishment for Ms. Yates is “taking the since April 2008. Although it has been only plunge and marrying my wife [Erika].” She about six months, she has hit the ground run- added that “it was a hard decision, since as a Kristine W. from Page 27 ning impressing many with her focus, warmth, lesbian, marriage wasn’t really something I MR: BTW, I must say, you don’t look your and determination to take the Council to new had considered. But she wanted to get married age at all. I won’t tell the world the actual heights. Ms. Yates follows the very able Keith and I love her ... so we had a great wedding number—I’ll leave that to your discretion— Hornbrook, widely praised for his energy, sen- and call ourselves ‘wife.’” but how do you keep yourself looking so … sitivity, and commitment to the LGBT com- The family of Ms. Yates also includes “three sexy? You Mousercise, don’t you? munity. fur-babies. Piper, a German Sheppard mix that KW: I eat healthy, dark chocolate, sex, According to Ms. Yates, “My vision for the Noray Yates (right), and her wife Erika at the showed up on our doorstep one night. Decade champagne, exercise, and loving my cool Council is for it to become a statewide leader is a beagle that my wife has had since he was gay friends that make me laugh. It seems to for LGBT people.” She wants the organization Capital Pride kick-off BBQ. a puppy.” The third child in the family is “a be working. to provide “comprehensive programs that Photo by: Times Union very fat cat named GusGus who thinks he’s a MR: Your newest single, “The Boss,” from empower people where they are. We are in the have a vision to change the world. They could dog.” the upcoming Power of Music, recently seat of New York State government. be community organizers, politicians, or even Ms. Yates, her wife, and two of the dogs (not earned you your 11th #1 Billboard track. Therefore, we should be the heart of the move- high school students that are coming out and the reincarnated dog in a cat’s body) enjoy ment for equality.” changing their school.” hiking. According to her, “[We] try to get to Can we expect more of the same when the She reminds people that “Harvey Milk, one Ms. Yates comes to the table with an impres- nature any chance [we] get.” record drops later this year? Any collabos we of the founders of the national LGBT move- sive academic and professional pedigree. In Despite the significant impact she’s already should look out for? ment, went to the University at Albany. He 1999, she graduated cum laude from the State made in the lives of many New Yorkers, Ms. KW: My next single from Power Of Music is worked with many of the founders of the University of New York at Albany (SUNY) Yates doesn’t take herself too seriously. There called “Never,” and I’m also releasing a Council to start the ‘gay liberation move- with a degree in Women’s Studies and French is a genuine lightheartedness to her personali- seven-song Christmas EP called “Hey, Mr. ment.’ The Council was central to the LGBT Studies. A year later she earned a Master’s ty. Although she’s a published poet, Ms. Yates Christmas.” It’s a very uplifting project movement then and it is central to it now.” degree in Women’s Studies. Currently, she is impishly says that “I think every 5 years I can because the holidays can be a bummer for a The organization is the oldest continuously pursuing a Master’s in Public Administration. write a good poem.” In her poetry, she hopes lot of people. It’s definitely good medicine. operating gay and lesbian community center Prior to leading the Council, she served as that the “reader can take away some sense of We asked my MySpace peeps which in the country. Field Director for the Albany-based Empire my experience and relate it to his or her own.” Christmas song they would most like to see Ms. Yates adds, “CDGLCC has such a rich State Pride Agenda. Ms. Yates coordinated the One could surmise that this cultured, me redo and we put the winner on the album. history. The new programs on the horizon are Marriage Ambassador program and trained French-speaking poet, activist and change- I will tell the world for the first time in this very exciting as we gear up for our 40th and organized volunteers throughout the state. agent would rank foreign films as her all time interview which one it was—it was a dance Anniversary.” Community members 55 and Prior to this work she was a Project Manager favorites. “Well, to be honest,” she says, “I mix of “Hard Candy Christmas” How’s that older are benefiting from the Vintage Pride for Kaleel Jamison Consulting Group con- love zombie movies. Ask any of my friends. I for new scoop! I’m also working with [pop- program. The New York State Department of talk about zombies and the pending zombie ducting corporate diversity training. In addi- pianist] Jim Brickman at the moment—so Health recently provided a grant to assist older outbreak, like it’s going to happen tomorrow. tion, she has been an Adjunct Faculty member stay tuned. community members with health issues who of Women’s Studies at SUNY and the College Zombie movies are by far my favorite.” Kristine W. will be in Boston on Oct. 18 may be living alone. Another new program is of St. Rose, both in Albany. Ironically, this may make sense. The pale, for a charity event called Pink Party hosted the TransPride Art Show at the Council’s One of her proudest professional accom- Hollywood-stumbling-moaners can be a Romaine Brooks Art Gallery. One of its goals plishments includes “the work that I have done metaphor for the harm that greater society by Save the TaTas. is to bring together “transgender, genderqueer around the state mobilizing and empowering inflicts on the LGBT community. Whatever * Who is Mikey Rox? Who gives a &#@%! people, and trans allies” who express their people to advocate for marriage equality. It the reason for Ms. Yates to appreciate a good But you can find him at www.mikeyrox.com. voice in art. And Council headquarters is now was great to see that all people, with the right zombie flick, she carries herself with an a meeting place for Weight Watchers to help tools could become amazing spokespeople upbeat, sunny disposition. Q Puzzle Solution from P. 27 further healthy habits in the LGBT communi- and savvy political advocates and make “I’m so happy to have such an engaged ty. change in their communities. I’m excited to group of volunteers and community mem- The warmth and responsiveness toward bring those same skills and experiences to the bers,” she says, “all working to make the friend and stranger alike Ms. Yates shows may Capital Region in my new position.” Council even better. The Council changes peo- stem from her father who passed away in Some of this work may have been one of the ple’s lives by connecting them to a broader 2005. factors that influenced Gov. David A. Paterson community. It gives them the resources they “Without a doubt,” she said, “my father” had to make the state recognize all marriage and need to live their fullest life. It empowers them the biggest impact” on my life. “I realized all civil unions legally performed in another juris- as LGBT people to make change and be proud the gifts that he gave me, like patience, com- diction. Although a marriage bill passed the of who they are.” And now the LGBT commu- passion, and respect for everyone.” New York State Assembly, it stalled in the nity can be proud of Ms. Yates for the example She combines these qualities with resolve, Senate. she sets in living with dignity and loving one’s kindness, and passion with a gentle, deter- Gov. Paterson, a supporter of same-sex mar- personhood. mined strength. In addition to Dad, her heroes riage, validated them in a deft, masterful way. * Paul is a practicing attorney in Albany, include “those people that get up everyday and He kept to a simple legal argument. New York priest and prelate in the Eastern Orthodox Church, and author of “Crucifying Jesus and www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • Oct. 2 - Nov. 5, 2008 • 29 Queer Voices from NY What if the Star Quarterback of the High School Team was Gay? [Award-Winning AP and ESPN.com Sports reporter, Bobby must find a way to earn back Writer’s Debut Novel “Out of the Pocket” his teammates’ trust and accept that his path to Tells the Inspiring Story of a Gay High School success might be more public, and more diffi- Star Quarterback] cult, than he’d hoped. New York, NY—Recently Dutton PRAISE FOR OUT OF THE POCKET Publishing released Out of the Pocket by Bill “Out of the Pocket tells the truth. Bill Konigsberg, an award-winning national sports Konigsberg has created a funny, compelling, writer. Konisgsberg’s debut novel tells the fic- haunting story about growing up different, and tional coming out story of Bobby in the spotlight. This book is for anyone who Framingham, a 17-year-old star quarterback cares about understanding bigotry.” -Chris living in Orange County, California. In a time Crutcher, author of Whale Talk and King of when there are over 3,500 Gay-Straight the Mild Frontier Alliances supporting gay, lesbian, bisexual “Bill Konigsberg scores a touchdown with Out and transgender (GLBT) high school students, of the Pocket, a heartfelt story that captures the there remains a remarkable absence of openly intimacy of sports and the complexity of gay student athletes, particularly in team teens.” —Alex Sanchez, author of Rainbow sports such as football. Boys and The God Box “I wanted to write a book that realistically “It's tough enough completing your pass as the delved into where we are now in terms of gays linebackers blitz, but when your private life is in sports,” said Konigsberg. “Clearly the also crashing in, the game is about survival. A sy baseball column has appeared in newspa- world has changed in the last decade or two, hard-hitting first novel about quarterbacking pers across the country. In May of 2001, while and the novel is a lot lighter than it would have BILL KONIGSBERG your life.” —Robert Lipsyte, author of working as an assistant editor at ESPN.com, been years ago. But there’s still a long way for the accolade of inclusion in the Fall 2008 Raiders Night he came out on the front page of the website in us to go. I wanted to show that a Bobby “Indie Next List” by the American “How I rooted for Bobby, and all his imper- an article entitled “Sports World Still a Framingham can exist and thrive, but that Booksellers Association. fect, complicated, oh-so-human friends.” Struggle for Gays.” That article won him a there are major barriers to overcome for open- Written for a young adult audience, Out of —Catherine Gilbert Murdock, author of Dairy GLAAD Media Award. Since then, he has spo- ly gay student athletes.” the Pocket is about 17-year-old quarterback Queen and The Off Season ken at venues across the country about what it The School Library Journal praises the Bobby Framingham. He knows he’s different is like to be one of the few openly gay people book, calling it “a thought-provoking, funny, from his teammates. While they are like broth- ABOUT THE AUTHOR in sports media. Dutton will release his second and ultimately uplifting story of self-actualiza- ers on the field, they don’t know one essential Bill Konigsberg is an award-winning sports novel, Not Exactly Peyton Manning, in 2010. tion that masterfully defies stereotypes about thing: Bobby is gay. Can he still be one of the journalist who currently writes for The Bill received his MFA in Creative Writing from both coming out and team sports.” guys and be honest about who he is? When Associated Press. He has covered the New Arizona State in 2005. For more information: Additionally, Out of the Pocket has received he’s outed against his will by a student York Yankees and Mets, and his weekly fanta- www.billkonigsberg.com.

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And West Point changed me quite a bit. not completely comfortable with his sexuali- finish line of a cross- I'm definitely more disciplined. A lot of times ty, he is now aware of his issues. And, he says, country or long-distance it sucked there, but I knew going in it would." "I've come a long way since the military." race—but looking back, Discipline is a common theme in much of Most people in the triathlon world know he he realizes he sought Simenic's life. Recently, he's taken his com- is gay. In part, that's because he makes train- something else. mitment to a new level: competing in the ing videos with gay.com. So far, there has "Running can be an out- triathlon. Inspired by West Point swimming been no backlash. In fact, few people care. let," he explains. "It's a way to relieve stress, instructor Lou Tharp's book, Overachiever's That allows him to concentrate on other to take the focus off other parts of your life Diary, Simenic decided to give the spectacu- aspects of life—this year, he completes his you're not completely happy with." larly demanding swim/bike/run event a shot. graduate degree at Columbia University's For Simenic, that meant his sexuality. He With the help of Tharp and coach Stefan Bill, School of Public Affairs - and prepare for a realized he was gay in his early teens, but for Simenic spent much of the year improving his career in government or consulting. years did not fully accept it. He was much weakness—swimming—in preparation for a Simenic believes he may not have pushed happier with his identity as a runner at a series of competitions this past summer. himself as hard had he not been gay. "That's Cleveland-area high school, where he com- Like long-distance running and West Point, probably been a driving force in my life," he peted strongly at the regional level. the triathlon demands intense focus, along says. "But it's less so now than when I was in Still conflicted about his sexuality, Simenic with physical pain. Is there a correlation the Army. I'm still young, but now I push was accepted at the United States Military between that concentration and drive, and myself for my own sake. Being gay is less of Academy, and entered in the summer of 2001. examining (or not) one's sexuality? a factor. I realize I don't have to prove any- It was a good fit: He continued running, and "There are a number of gay athletes in thing to anyone." in many ways avoided dealing with being gay. endurance sports," Simenic notes. "It's a great JOE SIMENIC "West Point was great," he says. "You're so way to beat up your body and punish yourself. * Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer busy, you're never thrown into a lot of social It may be a way to get away from our with the theory espoused by Triple Ironman coach, gay activist, and author of the "Jocks" situations where you have to interact with thoughts and escape." competitor Christopher Bergland: Because series of books on gay male athletes. Visit his women." That was not the reason he applied - Yet Simenic notes another side to such pun- endurance athletes are so focused on their website at www.danwoog.com. He can be he truly wanted to be an Army officer, learn- ishment. Competing in endurance sports may own training and competitive regimens, they reached care of this publication or at ing how lead while overcoming the academy's also give an athlete time and space to ponder don't have time to worry about anyone else's [email protected]. storied physical and academic challenges - important things—like sexuality. life. but it was an added benefit. Another reason gays gravitate to endurance As a plebe, Simenic was one of two walk- sports, Simenic says, is the chance to prove ons for the cross-country team. Competing for oneself to others. "You think, 'Not only can I a Division I program made him a much better do this, but I can do it better than you.' As gay runner. But balancing the demands of a varsi- people, we're always trying to gain accept- ty sport with life as a cadet proved difficult, so ance in some part of our lives, to compensate he spent his last three years on the less intense for another part where we may not be as marathon team. "Less intense" is relative, of accepted." course: Simenic ran in a number of grueling Endurance sports might also lend them- races, including three Boston Marathons. selves more to acceptance of gays than team West Point was "a very heterosexual institu- sports. "It's hard to quantify," says Simenic. tion," Simenic says. The only time he heard "But people can detach themselves better. gay issues discussed seriously was in a pro- There's not as much touching, not as much of fessional military ethics class his senior year. the relying-on-team aspect." He agrees, too, Q Classifieds Springfield/Noho area. Very new to scene and test- PERSONALS ing the waters. Great sense of humor and kind Trans heart. College educated and intelligent. Contact “SWEET TRANSVESTITE" MTF, 51, smiling, slim, Ashley at [email protected] or call healthy, balanced, love to shop, garden, cook, 413.883.0396. kayak, kiss. Looking for a GG as sweet as me to ride off into the sunset with. 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