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BY LARRY GORDON Post-Election See Page 37 Analysis This is not about Barack Obama or Mitt Romney. As they tend to say in the Obama administration, that happened a long time ago and we are See Page 21 therefore not really sure what happened. Those of you out- side the Five Towns will have An all-star concert benefi ting Congregation Ohab Zedek was held on Sunday to help the Belle Harbor shul and community rebuild after the devastation wrought by Hurricane Sandy. Above (L–R): Stanley Liker, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder, and Rabbi Tsvi Selengut. See Pages 61 & 65 Continued on Page 14

LETTERS TO THE EDITOR HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE BY LARRY GORDON See Page 23 Shooting The Messenger First Female President? Dear Editor, force. His perspective needs to In reading the ongoing be heard: Former First Lady, U.S. Sen- conversation between Rabbi “Attacking the messenger ator from New York, and Sec- Ginzberg and Mr. Jacobson may prove to be psycholog- retary of State Hillary Clin- in the past few issues of the ically satisfying but it does ton said earlier this week 5TJT, I cannot help but be nothing to deal with the real- that she would like to see struck by a few thoughts, not ities of the problem under dis- a female president of the all my own. cussion. . . . United States in her lifetime. See Page 9 Rabbi Berel Wein wrote this “The current debate about What she did not clarify is past week regarding this issue chareidi society’s participation whether she would like that of chareidim serving in the woman in the White House army and joining the work- Continued on Page 17 to be herself. Continued on Page 7 IN HONOR OF TORAH THE THREE WEEKS SWIMMING Halachic Musings LESSONS BY RABBI YAIR BY YOCHANAN See Page 17 HOFFMAN GORDON

Although the Three Weeks, Summer is here! After all we which includes the 17th of have been through with Hur- Tammuz and 9th of Av, and the ricane Sandy and other wild other two rabbinically enacted weather events that wreaked fasts are periods of mourn- havoc, shifting our equilib- ing and introspection, Zech- rium and testing our resolve, it ariah the Navi tells us (Zecha- sure is relieving to be able to At the dais of Dirshu’s Asifas Chizuk that took place on Sunday in Eretz Yisrael riah 8:19) that eventually, the shed the extraneous layers and (L–R): Rav Aryeh Finkel, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, Rav Aharon Leib Shteinman, the Sanz Klausenberger Rebbe of Netanya, and Rav Shmuel Auerbach. See Page 81 Continued on Page 27 Continued on Page 16

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6 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES BAGEL STORE Queens ran with Senator Walter Mon- hype rather than serious political Continued from Front Cover day of Minnesota against Ronald Rea- or strategic maneuvering. This was gan in 1984, it drew a great deal of indeed even more so when Senator We can explore whether Hillary attention to the Democratic hope- John McCain selected Alaska Gover- would be a viable candidate or pres- fuls but did not improve Mondale’s nor Sarah Palin as his running mate ident, but the question that needs to chances that year, and Reagan went to oppose Barack Obama in 2008. first be addressed is why there is such on to steamroll over Mondale-Fer- Palin came across as a good balance a hang-up and obsession in this most raro, winning in 49 states, including for the seriousness associated with advanced society of ours about the in some of the most serious Demo- Senator McCain but failed to commu- idea of a female head of state. cratic and left-wing bastions like New nicate a toughness or soberness that To be straightforward about this York and California. one would need when in fact they are obsessiveness, we must understand one cardiac-monitor blip away from the ridiculous intimation here that running the greatest and certainly the we need to be skeptical about having most important country in the world. the country led by a woman. Beneath Neither Palin nor Ferraro before the surface of speeches on the sub- her had the gravitas or seriousness ject by Hillary and the news media of leadership that Golda Meir or Mar- in general is that for some reason a garet Thatcher exuded. So serious woman—unlike the men that will Golda Meir and hard-hitting was Meir that David have preceded her—is not up to the Ben-Gurion once referred to her as task of leading the greatest country in and Slovakia, amongst others. There being “the best man for the job” of the world. are few headlines or heart-stopping prime minister. It’s doubtful anyone Considering that some major coun- stories over these political facts. But would be able to survive that kind of tries have been led by women, includ- here in the U.S., everything comes to comment in this day and age. ing very capable and competent as a halt over the prospects that some- Which brings us to the 2016 pres- well as charismatic people like Golda where out there is a woman that idential contest and the specula- Meir in Israel, Margaret Thatcher in might someday become President of tion that is rife in the media about Britain, and, today, Angela Merkel the United States. whether Hillary will consider run- in Germany, amongst many others, Before we go any further, let’s take a ning, whether she has what it takes is there a suggestion somewhere step back and look at the history of the to become this country’s first woman beneath the surface that there is idea of running a woman as candidate president and whether she will be something particularly inferior about for vice-president. The question at considered too old for the job by the an American woman in the White that level is basically the same—why time 2016 rolls around (she will turn House? such obsessiveness and why is it such Angela Merkel 69 that year). That there are and have been pres- a big deal? Perhaps it is that so much More interesting in this dynamic idents, prime ministers, and interna- in this country, despite its alleged and The gesture of selecting a female will be the status of former president tional leaders who are women is a so-called openness and acceptance of for vice-president—a position that Bill Clinton if in fact his wife, Hillary, casual as well as uninteresting mat- equality between the sexes, is in real- media outlets here love to refer to should achieve success in 2016. He ter of fact in many countries today. ity just not as it is represented to be. as being “a heartbeat away from the will of course still be a former pres- Some of those are Ireland, Croatia, Back some time ago when then-con- presidency”—has to date been an Philippines, Trinidad, Bangladesh, gresswoman Geraldine Ferraro of endeavor enveloped in gossip and Continued on Page 8

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 7 BAGEL STORE our leaders. along the lines of: What happens if Continued from Page 7 The unusual dynamic here is that a something goes wrong, perhaps even lot of the women out there just want terribly wrong, during an administra- ident but will also be the First Gen- a woman to be president, and it mat- tion with someone like Joe Lieber- tleman or First Man or whatever one ters little whether its Broom-Hilda or man in power—an Orthodox Jew on will refer to the husband of a presi- Hillary. And that is most likely true of top of all else. It’s pretty simple. We dent as. So influential was Mrs. Clin- many in the Latino community who harbor a fear that not only will the ton during Bill Clinton’s presidency want to see Senator Marco Rubio or public blame it on Lieberman, but that at times that administration was someone of his background or her- through him and because of him on considered a co-presidency of sorts. itage become president someday. It Jews everywhere. And that may be the case this time as well, perhaps to an even greater extent. Even though Hillary Clinton logged Don’t you think we have perhaps over six million miles as Secretary of State, her lack of achievement as had enough of setting records or a politician, particularly in Washing- ton’s favorite Arab–Israel conflict, is notable. Particularly in the after- breaking gender or race barriers? math of the Benghazi debacle, Hillary Margaret Thatcher ought to be considered a damaged politician. But in particular because when she testified before Congress was certainly true of Barack Obama That’s why during that campaign she is who she is, and is a woman on the Benghazi fiasco, “What differ- in both his first and second term. His we witnessed a great many questions, who is a serious contender to be ence does it make what happened?” policies were not that vital or import- as well as hesitation and discomfort. I the first female president in the his- To that I would like to add, what dif- ant; what was central to many Afri- mean, people would articulate, do we tory of this country, she seems to be ference does it make whether the can-Americans was that they shared a really need a Jewish vice-president somewhat immune to any long-last- president and leader of our country is heritage with the president. who is only a heartbeat away from, ing irreparable damage, regardless of male or female? After more than four The only exception to the rule and oh my, you know what . . . ? how severe. Frankly, it’s difficult to years of Barack Obama already, and to where there is discomfort with These concerns do not exist in any ascertain what precisely Mrs. Clinton facing the need to endure eight years the matter is in the Jewish commu- other community. So Benghazi or no, was doing as she accumulated those of his presidency, don’t you think we nity. In 2000, when Al Gore selected Bill Clinton’s wife or not, and take or six million frequent-flyer miles in have perhaps had enough of setting Senator Joseph Lieberman as his run- leave the fact that Hillary hasn’t any order to improve the condition in the records or breaking gender or race ning mate, many in the community real accomplishments to her name. world. barriers? were supportive, but not because he She has the name and is the right gen- In other words, what makes Hil- It’s an odd thing, but despite our was Jewish. We supported Lieber- der at what may be the perfect time in lary Clinton the female frontrunner history of being a melting pot it seems man because he was a good, honest, history. Sure, it’s an American media- at this stage of the game aside from that the great immigrant dissolve has and hardworking man. He would have driven obsession, but we love it. Run, the fact that she is Hillary Clinton? slowed or perhaps even stopped and been a great vice-president, but there Hil, run. You go, girl!  I mean can’t this country get serious we are now rather overtly and most were still reservations. No other eth- about leadership at this critical junc- definitely a sectarian society. And that nic group or religion seems to have Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at ture in world history? As Hillary said is true in particular when it comes to these issues. Those reservations run [email protected].

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 11 12 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 13 FROM THE EDITOR fi rst and the other thing second, and the a great deal that was not formulated in And that was when they realized that Continued from Front Cover opposition would insist on introducing this decision-making process, and there- very few people in attendance at the an agenda that would work in the oppo- fore decided to urge readers to vote meeting really wanted a medical facil- to excuse me, though, because what site format. That, in my estimation, did against the sale, which was defeated by ity planted at the fi elds of the Number took place here over the last three or not constitute a contrast that would a 2–1 ratio. Six School. The developer’s support- so months has practical as well as note- have any impact on the people. That was not the case in the school ers were holdovers from another day, worthy implications in your commu- The referendum on the school prop- board vote that took place two months people who had not tired of vocally nity as well. erty sale and the realization of $12.5 mil- after the referendum. The coalition opposing anything that would bene- What we had here was an election lion into the school district’s coffers that had invented itself to fi ght the sale fi t the private-school community in in which people—like-minded mem- represented some real differences. That of the Number Six School in Wood- the district. That is, anything that the bers of the Orthodox community—ran was a fundamental issue that needed mere felt—and perhaps rightfully— Orthodox Jewish yeshiva-attending against one another, for a variety of rea- to be addressed here. Do we decide to that they had earned a right to at least community supported, they opposed. sons. sacrifi ce a little and perhaps even take run for a board seat, if for nothing else The yeshiva community, for the most We covered some of those elections part, opposed the medical facility, so in some detail, while others were cov- their detractors supported it. That’s ered quite minimally. There was, as you not what anyone calls support or win- will recall, a referendum on the sale of This notion that we are held to a ning people over. a school property in Woodmere; a hard- In a sense, the school-board election fought school-board election; and then, that followed the property referendum just last week, a rather competitive elec- different standard or are looked was an outgrowth of the battle over the tion process for the Village of Lawrence $12.5 million sale. The campaign was trustees. at differently needs to perhaps be not such a pretty one, and this paper Except for the referendum, on which decided not to take sides, because the this newspaper took a defi nitive stand taken more seriously. election was not about the issues at to reject the sale of the property to hand. It was about personalities and a medical facility, after much careful personality clashes, and that is not thought we (that is, I) decided to stay something that needs to be reported out of the fray. somewhat of a chance by altering the than to protect the interests of the half upon or editorialized about. In making that decision, I focused on character of a community in exchange of the Woodmere and Cedarhurst com- Sure, it is to be expected that if people more than the idea suggested by some for what seemed to be a pretty hefty munities that are part of the district work together for an extended period of minimizing, or rather not exacer- sum that could help keep real-estate and are located adjacent to the school and their order of priorities is rear- bating, the already existing friction taxes from increasing? Or is the nature, property. ranged, there will inevitably be some between the parties. A closer look at quality, and fabric of life in a neighbor- And there was an interesting dyna- disagreements and even clashes. And what was going on made it clearer that hood more important than anything mism at play here. At a community the hostility and frustration that was in both instances—the school-board else? meeting during the referendum cam- pent up in the aftermath of the refer- and the village trustee elections—there These were important issues, and paign—a meeting that I believe was endum transplanted itself into clashes were no perceptible signifi cant differ- while at fi rst I deferred slightly to the a turning point for the developer—I between the candidates who opposed ences between the candidates and no school-board management team, which think I recognized the moment in the one another. Since the election, the per- line that could be drawn to illustrate believed it was a good move for the process when they decided they’d had sonalities involved have met in a cool any substantive differences on policy. community, I soon came to realize that enough and were ready to throw in the and calm atmosphere and are working Sure, this one thought of doing that this was not so, that there was risk and towel and walk away from the deal. together to hopefully avoid any future

14 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES similar debacles, which unfor- real issues. Other papers that All the Lawrence candidates The eighth day shall be a time of retreat tunately refl ect poorly on our emanate from this area chose are good and well-meaning peo- for you . . . and you shall offer a fire- closely scrutinized commu- to take sides with people who ple. I would have liked to see offering to G-d, a sweet savor: one bullock nity. had an agenda other than that my friend and colleague David And those are just the plain which serves the best interests Seidemann get into offi ce, but (Bamidbar 29:35) facts. We live a different life of the community. After all, we will do just as well with our and adhere to different stan- what is the point of endorsing other good friends Alex Edel- Said Rabbi Elazar: To what do the seventy bullocks that were dards on a multiplicity of lev- candidates who have noth- man and Michael Fragin. offered during the seven days of Sukkot correspond? To the els. Though we have the right ing else but personal differ- In David’s column this week, seventy nations. To what does the single bullock of the Eighth to conduct our affairs just like ences with their opponents? he says that he feels like he Day correspond? To the unique nation (Israel). This may be any other community, some- In both the village elections won anyway, and that’s great. compared to a mortal king who said to his servants, “Prepare for how it seems that this notion and the school-board elec- The truth is, now that it is all that we are held to a different tions, none of the candidates behind us for another year, we me a great banquet”; but on the last day he said to his beloved standard or are looked at dif- wanted to raise taxes or alter are all winners.  friend, “Prepare for me a simple meal that I may derive pleasure ferently needs to perhaps be policy in any substantive way. from you.” Comments for Larry Gordon are taken more seriously. I am not taking sides in puny (Talmud, Sukkah 55b) Though the school-board disputes. welcome at [email protected]. elections were somewhat con- tentious, at the end of the day things worked out well. Tova Plaut, a resident of Cedarhurst, bested Community Coalition of The Five Towns candidate Dov Herman and Atlantic Beach resident Jesse Lunin-Pack. The margin between Plaut and Lunin-Pack was 37 votes. Her- man ran a great campaign and will have input going forward on the disposition of the Num- ber Six School. And then just last week the same thing took place in Law- rence. For some reason we displayed something other than our best side which had local Orthodox Jews running against one another. Again there was no endorsement forthcoming from this direc- tion, because there were no

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 15 SWIMMING LESSONS ditry.’” The Gemara subsequently asks, amassing fabulous wealth, and achiev- one in our immediate company is com- Continued from Front Cover “Has he taught him banditry? Rather it ing repute are just one part of the equa- fortable. But accepting this challenge is is as if he taught him banditry.” Rashi tion. Our goal in all of this should be to not, G-d forbid, futile. The Alter Rebbe, walk freely in the warm summer sun. explains that with no other recourse to refi ne the mundane world and sanctify in his ma’amar titled “Mayim Rabbim,” I don’t know what it is, but despite provide for his needs, this child will have G-d’s name through our actions. writes that Kabbalistically the root of many efforts on my parents’ part, I to resort to unethical conduct to support This two-tier process exists with these daily pressures originate in the never had the drive to learn how to himself and his family. regard to Torah as well. Learning Torah world of Tohu, whereas our spiritual swim. I must say that as a young child Its literal interpretation notwith- and amassing knowledge through- selves originate in the world of Tikkun. I did swim. It seems funny, but I seem- standing, I’d like to suggest that when out Torah is just one element, whereas What results is that our ability to over- ingly could only swim underwater. So the Gemara states that some say a father internalizing and applying its messages come the daily pressures, anxieties, and at a certain point after I joined sleep- is obligated to teach his son how to in life is the second half of the whole. fl uctuations of success and failure allow away camp, where swimming is a part swim, it means more than just the lit- The Gemara in Ta’anis states, “Gadol shi- us ultimately to become elevated to a of the daily routine, my parents hired an eral exercise of swimming. The need to musha shel Torah yoser m’limudah.” As higher level than we experienced even instructor to teach me the techniques of develop another explanation is that it important as learning Torah is, it doesn’t on the day we were born into this world. swimming. I don’t know if it was the really doesn’t fi t well into the context. compare to the benefi t that we gain as a We see this from the verse which instructor or me, but no matter how The Gemara listed a number of mitzvos result of closely observing the way our reads, “The waters increased and raised hard I tried I could not get myself into it. unrelated to a father’s obligation to help leaders conduct their lives in general, the teivah so that it was lifted above the As it is with everything in life, we tend secure his child’s future where it could particularly through diffi cult situations earth.” The teivah is the ark that G-d had to grow content with our routines and have inserted the “yesh omrim” as well. and trying to implement their way of commanded Noach to build, which he not worry too much about the things Perhaps in addition to telling us that living into our lives. did for 120 years leading up to the Del- that we missed out on, regardless of a father is obligated to teach his son a I’d like to suggest that this applies as uge. The verse is telling us that these how important they may be. So today, craft, the Gemara is telling us something well in the area of being taught a craft. raging waters are not meant to defeat while I still slush around the shallow else along these lines. As further support More than the importance of learning us, but rather to elevate us and bring section of the pool, I’m doing whatever for developing an alternative interpre- the skills of trade is acquiring a path in us closer to fulfi lling the purpose for I can to see to it that my children fol- tation, immediately following this the life with which to navigate the vicissi- which we were put into this world. low my wife on this one and develop an Gemara mentions the detail about the tudes of the world of commerce and The Baal Shem Tov teaches that the excitement for swimming, because it is uneducated child being taught banditry business from the perspective of the word “teivah” is interpreted to mean a healthy and rewarding exercise. and then concludes “it is as if he taught Torah. The currents of anxiety that have “word.” Furthermore, he writes that But this article is not really just about him banditry,” since the child will have become part and parcel of our daily the only way to protect ourselves from swimming. The Gemara in Kiddushin no other means of providing for his endeavors to earn a livelihood demand the raging waters of life is to enter the (daf 29a) tells us about the mitzvos that family—wedging the father’s obligation a certain vigilance to always view issues words of Torah and tefi llah. It emerges a father is obligated to perform with to teach his child to swim between his from a Torah perspective. It’s easy to get then that the mitzvos ha’ben al ha’av to regard to his children. The Gemara states, obligation to teach him a craft and the caught up in the spur of the moment, teach Torah, a trade, and to swim are “A father’s obligations vis-à-vis his son is result of his negligence in not doing so. focusing on what needs to be done now all part and parcel of the same mitzvah to circumcise him, to redeem him if he To thrive as a Jew in this world instead of what is expected of us in the of instilling within us the resilience to is a fi rstborn, to teach him Torah, to take requires that in addition to achieving bigger picture. remain focused and committed Jews in a wife for him, and to teach him a craft. the skill and wherewithal to be success- In the philosophy of chassidus, the a fast-paced world. Some say he is even obligated to teach ful in life, we need to constantly work Mabul which we read about in Parashas Swim away!  him to swim in water. Rebbe Yehuda on ourselves, strengthening our Jewish Noach is represented nowadays by the says, ‘Anyone who does not teach his son resolve in a world that steers us in a very daily grind of having to eke out a liv- Comments for the author are welcome at a craft has taught him the practice of ban- different direction. Building business, ing, pay the bills, and make sure every- [email protected].

16 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES LETTERS TO THE EDITOR frum Jews envision. I remember years fellow Jews who risk their lives to pro- of view, lifestyle, or hashkafah are fre- Continued from Front Cover ago in Camp Munk there were two tect us. If you don’t like the Rabbanut’s quent targets. Enough is enough! color-war teams, Mekarvei Rechokim language, create your own. What a kid- If we stop for a moment to refl ect, in the general obligations and tenor and Mechazkei Maaminim. What if dush Hashem it would be and how what is the underlying purpose of all of Israeli life is a case in point. Most we’ve been the wrong team all along? much ahavas Yisrael would be created this vitriol and bitter name-calling? Is of the chareidi media and its political What if Yair Lapid really believes if every shul and yeshiva in Eretz Yis- it accomplishing its goal? Mideastern representatives and spokesmen have and means what he has been say- rael said the Mishebeirach for the cha- dialogue is quite different from our expended their efforts in personally ing, “Atem nitzachtem,” “You have yalim every Shabbos. If students from Western mode of communication in attacking those individuals who have won!” His message is not anti-reli- every chareidi yeshiva serve in the several ways. In Israel, words are caus- proposed legislative and social changes gious; it’s about religious Jews tak- army, they just might. tic, dramatic, and media-ready; body that will undoubtedly affect chareidi ing responsibility for the country they Rabbi Barry Holzer, M.D. language is fi erce and “in your face.” life here in Israel. will lead in a few years. Please listen Sentences are quoted randomly, with- “… The chareidi defense to the mes- to what he says, not what others say Changes In Israel out rhyme or reason, and strong bot- sage being sent to them—that the rest about him. You can hear him with Dear Editor, tom lines become headlines. Israelis of Israeli society is unwilling to con- English translation on YouTube (www. Israel is a democratic country; cit- have no time for drawn-out discus- done their lack of participation in the youtube.com/watch?v=jNwAv6zpmh4) izens cast votes and a government is sions; “go for the jugular” is the atti- defense of the country and in their and you decide if his motivation is formed. In every government there are tude in streets and in schools. abstention from the workforce—is to really anti-chareidi. the so-called winners and losers. This When a party is in the “opposition” accuse the bearers of this message as One fi nal point. The only real issue time (not the fi rst), the chareidi parties (non-governing), it gets ignored and being ‘haters’ and ‘blasphemers.’ I have with Rabbi Ginzberg’s article are not partners in the government. disappears into the woodwork, which “Yair Lapid, Naftali Bennett, Dov is that it blurs the lines between the The signs bode bad news with threat- is the last thing that these opposition Lipman may be the messengers and tefi llah for the state and the tefi llah ening decrees aimed at bnei Torah and parties desire. Silence and passivity they bear the brunt of the personal for the soldiers. I can understand the “settlers.” What the future holds is accomplish nothing; therefore head- attacks being leveled against them by halachic issues with the tefi llah for shaky, scary, and unknown. Words of lines, hateful posters, demos, yelling, the chareidi world’s spokesmen. But the medinah. But those objections do anger, disdain, and hostility are the pen screaming, and lashing out. let us ignore who the messengers are not apply to the Mishebeirach for the strokes of the day; name-calling and In most cases, American frum Jews and listen to the message. The cur- chayalim. I cannot understand anyone lashing out at rabbinic leaders who are rent social and economic situation of objecting to saying a Mishebeirach for in disagreement with a particular point Continued on Page 19 the chareidi society in Israel is no lon- ger tenable. There is a limit as to how many generations can consecutively be raised in poverty without there being a breakdown in that society.” This is not about an anti-chareidi government. It is about a social and economic reality. In fact, as a close relative made the analogy, what if I decided to learn full-time and a bene- factor agreed to support me, and instead of thanking him I denigrated and put him down. Yet he continued for decades to support me. Eventually, he tells me he can no longer afford to support me as he has in the past, and now instead of thanking him for years of support, I call him a rasha and spit on him and curse him. Are we not this kafui tov? Has not the Israeli gov- ernment been the single largest sup- porter of Torah in Eretz Yisrael for the past few decades? Is this about an anti-chareidi law, or about an uncomfortable reality? Change is diffi cult, but not always bad. What we take for granted as how things are is not necessarily how they should be. Universal kollel and unemployment had not been known in the Jewish world since we left Midbar Sinai until very recently. It is not what Chazal ever described except in yemos haMashiach, which unfortunately we are still wait- ing for. Are we sure it’s what we are supposed to be striving for? Rabbi Ginzberg, I agree fully with your statement that “even the most ‘ardent Zionist’ amongst us knows full well of the designs of the early fathers of the state to remove all chareidi infl uence on Israeli society.” What if Ben-Gurion did not miscalculate when he gave yeshiva students an exemp- tion? What if he recognized the poten- tial of Torah and determined how to best keep its infl uence out of his secu- lar society? If yeshiva bachurim do not serve in the army and are not part of the economy, they will be marginal- ized and their infl uence will be min- imal. He calculated well. What would Israeli society be like today if yeshiva bachurim had been serving in the army for the past 60 years? It would prob- ably look a lot more like the society 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 17 18 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES LETTERS TO THE EDITOR leaving the country and set- What The Sulitzer Rebbe provided a shemirah they had engineered. He vili- Continued from Page 17 ting up home chutz l’aretz. Rebbe Stood For for our community. May he fi es these men and women by Donations, monetary contri- Dear Editor, be a meilitz yosher for us all. putting them in various nefar- silently shrug their shoulders; butions, and fi nancial support As mispallelim in the Sulit- Pinky and Hildy Schorr ious categories, accusing them they just don’t get it or under- are the future solutions . . . zer Beis Medrash, we appre- of living in a parallel under- stand the why and what of except that mosdos in Amer- ciate Rabbi Hoffman’s article Singles Over 40 world where “companionship this mode of speech and its ica are hurting and closing about the passing of the Sulit- Dear Editor, and intimacy are increasingly intent. “Kindness and Zeal- due to salaries months behind zer Rebbe, zt’l, in last week’s I was appalled at the cal- seen as commodities that can otry” by B. Jacobson (June and fi nancial obligations that 5TJT. It was a beautifully lous, insensitive manner in be leased, not purchased.” 21, page 29) touched on this cannot be met. Where should written article encapsulat- which Mr. Barbanel classi- I read this article with fact that American chareidi askanim/gevirim put their ing what the Rebbe stood for fi es and crucifi es the Ortho- increasing alarm and I felt Jews feel that due to “kan- bucks? When Rav Shteinman, and showed his great concern dox Jewish singles in his arti- compelled to dispel these fal- na’us” behaviors, a message shlita, says that “changes will for the community. In addi- cle (“The New Shidduch Crisis: lacious and baseless insinua- of understanding, warmth, happen,” I believe this is the tion, the author pointed out Over 40,” June 21). He insinu- tions. Every individual who is and respect is not coming underlying dilemma that is his unwavering ability to fol- ates that these “over 40” sin- single in this age category has through. being alluded to. low his mesorah in the face of gles were in their predica- As we have noticed, there Mrs. Caren V. May opposition. We really felt the ments due to situations that Continued on Page 20 is a massive PR campaign imported from Israel and cha- reidi centers to “educate and inform” American chareidi brothers of the evil, harsh Glatt Kosher B&B decrees and their conse- quences. I’ve been wondering at Hunter Mountain why. An element of surprise has hit the surface: Ameri- can and Israeli chareidim do not always think, feel, under- stand, or react as Siamese twins. Many in the American Torah kehillos (for numerous reasons) are not convinced or swallowing whole the head- (ARRISS(APPY(UNTER(IDEAWAY lines (shmad, evil, avodah SERVESTHREEMEALSADAYUNDER zarah, destruction of Torah). /RTHODOX2ABBINICSUPERVISION Open pocketbooks (i.e., money) is a dire need in order for the Torah world of Eretz #HECKOURWEBSITEAT Yisrael to grow and sustain WWWHARRISHUNTERCOMORCALLUS itself in its present model. AT  FORMOREINFORMATION Masses of Israelis will not be

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 19 LETTERS TO THE EDITOR A Crash Course In Achdus ror, I saw the driver of a 12-passenger Hashem knew how alone I felt and Continued from Page 19 Dear Editor, van urging me to get out of his way. made sure that we were on the same I am always keenly aware of Hash- Fear took over me and I had no time to route that frightening day. his or her own disturbing set of cir- em’s presence in my life, but a recent react; his van slammed into the rear of My husband, Avi, who has been a cumstances and chain of events that experience strengthened my belief that my car going approximately 50 miles Queens Hatzalah member for many have resulted in their temporary mar- Hashem is in control and constantly per hour. My car was thrown 200 feet years, called Hatzalah to come and help ital status. To fi nd Mr. Barbanel lump- protecting me and watching over me. from where it had been hit. I froze, my me. Within moments they arrived. On ing these men and women into unmer- It was a beautiful Tuesday afternoon, heart was racing, and my life fl ashed the ambulance I realized the irony of ciful strictly pegged corners was both the sun was shining, and, as luck would before me. My fi rst thought, as tears the scenario. I was now a recipient of abhorrent and inexcusable. have it, there was surprisingly little traf- streamed down my face, was to thank their great chesed. On a daily basis, my I personally know of many forty- fi c on the Van Wyck Expressway. The Hashem that my 3-year-old son was not husband runs out on Hatzalah calls somethings in the Orthodox main- academic year was coming to an end, in his car seat in the back. day and night to help members of the stream that have suffered personal and as a schoolteacher, I wanted to When the shock wore off a bit, I was community. During kiddush, bedtime, losses, whether in life or trust, and get in early to get a head start on some able to miraculously walk out of the Shabbos seudos, Shacharis, Minchah, have gone on to rebuild their mari- last-minute responsibilities. While trav- car with minimal bruises. The damage or Maariv, family time, convenient or tal lives anew, bringing their children eling on Rockaway Boulevard, I slowed to my car was extensive, and the crowd not, he, along with the other dedicated with them. Mr. Barbanel’s solution is my car, as the traffi c light was changing that grew, and all those who had wit- members of Hatzalah, are always will- dissolution and I fi nd it impossible to from yellow to red. nessed the accident, were amazed that ing and ready to help fellow Jews who believe that his outlook is as bleak as While sitting at the red light and I was not only alive, but not seriously are in need of medical attention. Hus- he portrays it to be! eagerly waiting for the light to change hurt. Hashem is my protector. A young bands, fathers, uncles, brothers, sons, Elissa Garrel, M.S.Ed. to green, I heard loud honking behind religious man from the Five Towns com- drop everything, 24 hours a day, 7 days Cedarhurst me. As I glanced into my rearview mir- munity pulled his car over and came a week, to help fellow Jews during their to see if I was all right. He stayed with most vulnerable times. me for over an hour. He told me that I want to publicly thank and give from a half mile away, he had heard the hakaras ha’tov to the Rockaway-Nassau screeching of the van, as the driver who Hatzalah members who came to help hit me had been stepping on his brakes me. While on the ambulance I didn’t and attempting to stop his car more feel like a stranger, knowing I was in than 500 feet from where the actual the best of hands. B’chasdei Hashem I accident and impact occurred. was protected from harm. My car, on I was very frightened and shook up. I the other hand, was totaled beyond called my husband, and as I was describ- repair. There were no other cars in front ing the accident to him, out of the cor- of me at the red light, and there were ner of my eye I saw a loyal friend and no cars coming in the other direction. coworker, who happened to be driv- Hashem made sure of that. It is such a ing by. She had stopped to see the “acci- heartwarming and comforting feeling dent.” I thought my mind was playing to work and live in communities fi lled tricks on me, as a result of the impact with such amazing people who drop from the collision. My friend Kaila does everything at any time of day to help not generally travel in this direction, as a fellow Jew. The feeling of achdus was she does not live in my neighborhood. just incredible. I am so thankful and

20 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES proud to be part of the Hatzalah family. Internet, and stop going to movies. One of the many lessons that I walked We’re picking up non-Jewish thought away with that day is that Hashem is and philosophy, and it’s causing huge indeed in control. He is always with us, problems for us. It should make each of always there for us, always in the right us cry when our friends move out or get place, at the right time. We all have divorced, but it’s so common today that to try and put more trust and faith in most folks just go on with their lives, Hashem, be abundantly grateful, and ignoring the epidemic. recognize that although we may have Back to the opening: “Men are our own plan, Hashem always has the women.” Men have to better understand best plan for us. what it means to be a man—namely, Tracy Lloyd to stop being so emotional and to be Kew Gardens Hills a giver. Rabbi Arush quotes the Zohar (Jewish mystical teachings), where it Peace In The Home says that the man is the sun and the Dear Editor, woman is the moon. A man must shine Men are women. Adults are babies. his light on his wife via attention, com- And we are suffering the consequences. pliments, and no criticism. The refl ec- Rabbi Arush in his book Garden of tion back in kindness from the wife Peace, a marital guide for men, quotes is extraordinary and should be experi- the Talmud in Nedarim. “What do you enced by every man. It certainly is not do to merit male sons?” Why the dou- easy, but more than worth the effort. ble language? Because they should have Being an extraordinary giver pays divi- male characteristics. What are those dends in this world and the next. male characteristics? Not to be emo- Now to share some of the blame tional; that’s for the women. Of course with the women. “Adults are babies.” men and women have things in com- People in our society need to grow up mon, whether they be emotions or and take responsibility for their mar-

The outside ideas of roles and relationships are permeating Jewish homes.

other characteristics, but one has to riages by being mature adults. So many listen to what the Torah is teaching us men and women act like babies and about what a true male is. The true defi - are setting a really poor example for nition of “a real man” from the Torah the next generation. Grow up, folks! perspective is being able to take it, as Ask anyone who has been married for we all recognize is required for posi- many years: there are good days and tions like president of the U.S. or CEO bad days, good years and bad years (go of a large company. Don’t be overly for help if it’s years). If you’re looking emotional as a leader; yell at the press, for a quick way to improve your mar- and you’re in trouble. riage, our sages teach us, “I’ve never I am writing this now because today heard anything better than silence.” I encountered another acquaintance Keep quiet, folks. Don’t listen to our who seems relatively accepting that he culture that says to tell all. Say less and and his wife are living apart. Another stay married and walk the children to friend is living home with his mother the chuppah! after being married about fi ve years I wish us all success with the import- with two kids; he’s 50 and living with ant subject of peace in the home. mom. Another is living across the street Dovid Mordechai Jasse from his wife, and I’m sure there are lots more similar stories. Wednesday’s Supreme Why? It’s simple: the outside ideas of Court Rulings roles and relationships are permeating Dear Editor, Jewish homes via the non-Jewish life- Society’s mores may shift and crum- styles and barrage of media. The rab- ble but eternal verities exist. One is mar- bis warn against TV and Internet and riage, the union of a man and a woman. making the outside culture one’s own. I Its sanctity may have been grievously don’t think people see it, and they think insulted by the High Court today, but it’s fanatical when rabbis tell you to get that sanctity remains untouched. rid of the TV, put a block on your home Agudath Israel of America

And the daughters of Tzelafchad approached . . . (Bamidbar 27:1) When the daughters of Tzelafchad heard that the land was being divided among the tribes but not among the women, they convened to discuss the matter. They said: G-d’s mercy and compassion is not like the compassion of man. Mankind favors men over women. G-d is not like that; His compassion extends to men and women alike. (Yalkut Shimoni) And you shall place of your glory upon him (Bamidbar 27:20) “Of your glory”—but not all your glory. The elders of that generation said: The countenance of Moshe was like that of the sun; the countenance of Yehoshua was like that of the moon. Alas, for such shame! Alas for such reproach! (Talmud, Bava Basra 75a) 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 21 I feel as if I won. I ran because I ing, was involved (whether I asked Our Victory wanted to light a fire under people to her or not) in every decision, pushed become more involved in the village. me when I got lazy, and was the cam- From The Other Side Of The Bench It worked, because a record num- paign’s greatest voice. ber of voters turned out. It worked, The time and effort my daughter BY DAVID J. SEIDEMANN, ESQ. because an entire new segment of Chaviva put into the election is inde- the community became involved in scribable. I received calls and e-mails All the trunks and duffel bags are confidence that he will accomplish the process. People that never voted from numerous rabbis in the com- packed, and the kids are ready to for the village that which I wanted to before voted. munity and phone calls and texts leave for four weeks of bugs, sun- accomplish. Losing by 200 votes to I won because I made a strate- from total strangers marveling at the burn, lack of sleep, and unlimited the incumbent is also fine. He works gic decision and gave my word to spirit my Chaviva displayed. funds at the canteen. That’s what I tirelessly for the village and will con- another on how to run, and when it In fact, last Friday afternoon, call it; others call it “camp.” For me tinue to do so in the future. was pointed out to me that I could just two hours before Shabbos, our it marks the conclusion of another The campaign itself was invigo- increase my chances of winning by mayor, Marty Oliner, had a personal school year of me telling my chil- rating and, as I had predicted and changing that strategy, and by break- letter from him hand-delivered to my dren, “How do I know? I haven’t sat hoped, was free of the shenanigans ing my word to that other person, I Chaviva complimenting her on her in a classroom for years. Go call a that have marred other campaigns. kept my word. efforts and stating that what she did friend!” None of their schoolwork People thought that our slogan, I won because in the process I and the way she conducted herself material is remotely familiar to me, “Restoring Unity to the Community” developed an entire new group of should inspire others. so it falls on my wife’s able shoulders was meant for only after the election friends and renewed old friendships Rabbi Reisman’s comments were to assist the girls with their home- just as poignant. The rabbi com- work. mented that in addition to her exam- I do, however, lend a hand, albeit Losing isn’t embarrassing, ple of civic duty, what impressed a small one, when it comes to major him most was how evident it was projects and fairs. I confess to trying how much she loved and respected to get each girl to do the same proj- but not trying might be. her father, and that itself is an exam- ect as her older sister did in prior ple for all, young and old. years, to make it easier on me. The And when the votes were tallied, joke in the family when they return and represented my hope that, once with important community figures. when it was announced that vic- from the science fair is “What grade elected, I would work toward unify- I won because I conquered the part tory was not something I would cel- did Mommy and I get on the proj- ing the board and various segments of my personality that said, “Don’t ebrate, I gave Chaviva, who was sob- ect?” I have been waiting for the day within our community. run—why expose yourself to possi- bing at the time, a hug and told her, when my daughters would assist me But I think the campaign and the ble public scrutiny and the embar- “I won because I have you as my on one of my projects, and that day election have accomplished that to a rassment of losing?” daughter.” finally came. degree already. I believe we demon- I won because losing isn’t embar- On this joint project of ours, I give Unless you have been living in a strated that different people could rassing, but not trying might be. Chaviva an A+.  cave, you are probably aware that my aspire to elected office and run But here is why and how I really bid to join the Village of Lawrence against each other with dignity and won. David Seidemann is a partner with the law board of trustees fell short by nine respect. I salute all the candidates Throughout the six weeks or so of fi rm of Seidemann and Mermelstein and serves as a professor of business law at Touro votes. Losing by nine votes to my for the behavior that was displayed. the campaign, I had a constant com- College. He can be reached at 718-692-1013 or ticketmate suits me fine. I have every Call me crazy, but in many respects, panion. She attended every meet- ds@lawoffi cesm.com.

22 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES insights on THE TORAH Pinchas: Is Everything Okay? From Where I Stand BY RABBI YOSSY GOLDMAN

“Behold I give him My cove- nant of peace.” —Bamidbar 25:12 Once upon a time, in the days of Moshe and the Jews in the Wilderness, the Moabite women were seducing young Jewish men. The Almighty was angered and sent a plague upon His people. Jews were dying left, right, and center. To com- pound matters, Zimri, a prince from the Tribe of Shimon, was himself consorting with a Mid- ianite princess named Kozbi and fl aunting their illicit rela- tionship in the face of Moshe. Enter Pinchas, a young Jewish zealot, and in true zealot tra- dition, he kills both Zimri and Kozbi. Suddenly, the plague stops. No more Jews die. And G-d declares Pinchas to be not a murderer but a hero, a defender of the faith, and bestows upon him the world’s fi rst peace prize. “Behold I give him My covenant of peace.” He is appointed to the priesthood and, as befi ts a hero, gets a whole portion of the Bible named after him, this week’s parashah, Pinchas. Now I have serious reserva- tions as to whether Dale Carne- gie would use Pinchas as a role model for “How to Win Friends and Infl uence People.” I would not quite suggest that we root out all sinners and put a spear through them. What was appro- priate in ancient times is not necessarily appropriate today. The way to stop the internal hemorrhaging of our people through assimilation and inter- marriage is clearly not the way of Pinchas. The Jewish prince Zimri was rebellious with intent. He knew full well that what he was doing was wrong. It was a deliberate provocation on his part. Most people who turn their backs on Judaism today do so out of igno- rance. They simply don’t know. Nobody taught them. It’s not their fault. We cannot condone it, but such people don’t need a whipping; they need a whetting of their spiritual appetite. They need an education, urgently. They need a lot of love and warmth and for people to reach out to them and share the beauty of a Shabbat or an inspirational shul experience. Show them their own Jewishness and how meaningful it truly is, and they will no longer want to give it up.

Continued on Page 26 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 23 24 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 25 FROM WHERE I STAND are the markers that show how one is Continued from Page 23 dedicated to the relationship and to his insights on or her spouse. This is the lesson illus- What, then, is the message of Pinchas trated by Hashem choosing Yehoshua as for our time? Perhaps it might be that THE TORAH the next leader and this is the lesson we sometimes, even today in our supersen- need to try and integrate into our mar- sitive, tolerant society we do need to take riage. a stand. There will be issues that demand Let us try to value the “small” actions that we put our foot down, that we insist, done by our spouse for us, and try to that we say “No!” Think Small For A Happy Marriage consistently do “small” actions for our It might be different issues for different spouse. May we merit to see and expe- people. For some it may be Jerusalem; for BY FIVE TOWNS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE rience the increased closeness that others, Yom Kippur; and for still others, comes from consistently working on it might be insisting that their daughter’s The parashah begins with a discus- that Hashem wanted the new leader of our marriage through the small things, boyfriend cannot sleep over. Somewhere, sion of the heroic deed of Pinchas Klal Yisrael to possess. A sense of dedi- and may it help us to enjoy and appre- surely, there has got to be a bottom line. and describes how he acted with zeal- cation that was visible from his consis- ciate every day together as a couple and Generally, diplomacy and positive ousness to protect the Jewish peo- tent daily actions. a family.  encouragement work much better than ple. As a result of his actions, he was The lesson of Yehoshua being cho- fi ghting. We are not trying to train Jew- greatly rewarded by Hashem. Later sen can apply to many areas of life, Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides ish holy fundamentalists to go around in the parashah, Moshe asks Hashem including that of marriage. There is a educational programs, workshops, and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help killing infi dels. But inevitably there will to appoint a new leader for the Jew- time and place for big, fl ashy, dramatic offset counseling costs when necessary and also be occasions when even pacifi sts like ish nation. Hashem responds by tell- actions. However, it is the day-to-day runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for us will need to adopt the zero-tolerance ing Moshe whom to appoint to lead the consistency that really shapes a per- the entire community Sunday, Tuesday, and approach of Pinchas. Jewish nation in his place. Surprisingly son into someone great. Marriages cer- Thursday evenings, 10:00–11:00 p.m. For the Sooner or later, we will be required it is not Pinchas, or even Calev, who was tainly have their big, fl ashy moments. hotline or for more information, call 516-430- 5280 or e-mail [email protected]. to stand up and be counted. There will chosen. The one who was appointed There is the wedding and the anniver- come a time when we, too, will have to the next leader of the Jewish nation was saries. There are the occasional “dates” say, “I’m sorry. I cannot accept this kind Yehoshua bin Nun. or vacations, romantic dinners or spe- of behavior. This is wrong. Stop!” What was the greatness of Yehoshua? cial gifts. These all certainly help to Even in our OK Generation, not every- Why was he specifi cally chosen to suc- preserve and increase the closeness in thing is OK.  ceed Moshe? The Talmud explains that a marriage. However, it is the day-to- the greatness of Yehoshua was that day interaction that creates the level Rabbi Yossy Goldman was born in Brooklyn and he stayed by Moshe’s side day after of connection that the couple experi- was sent in 1976 by the Lubavitcher Rebbe as day. When describing the actions of ences. an emissary to serve the Jewish community of Johannesburg, South Africa. He is Senior Rabbi Yehoshua, it says that he would come Consistent daily actions show one’s of the Sydenham Shul and president of the to the synagogue early each day to help spouse that he or she is on one’s mind South African Rabbinical Association. His sefer set up the chairs. While it certainly and in one’s heart. It’s the constant shar- “From Where I Stand: Life Messages from the sounds like a nice thing to do, it is very ing of ideas, thoughts, and dreams, the Weekly Torah Reading” was published by Ktav different from standing up against the sincere compliments and encourage- and is available at Jewish book shops or online at www.ktav.com. spies or killing people for the name of ment. These are the “coming early to set Hashem. Yet it was precisely this quality up the chairs.” These non-fl ashy actions

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26 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES HALACHIC MUSINGS Continued from Front Cover four fasts of Klal Yisrael will be a source of joy and gladness—if we but embark upon the goal of loving both truth and shalom. The four fasts mentioned in Zechariah are these: • The fast of the fourth month (17 Tam- muz) • The fast of the fi fth month (9 Av) • The fast of the seventh month (3 Tishrei) • The fast of the tenth month (10 Teves) Why do we start counting these months from Nissan? Because that is the month when Klal Yisrael became a nation. The exact dates of two of the fasts have been modifi ed. In the time of the fi rst Beis HaMikdash, the fast of Tammuz was observed on 9 Tammuz, because that is when the city walls of Yerushalayim were fi rst broken through. Hundreds of years later, during the time of the second Beis HaMikdash, on the 17th of Tammuz, the enemy breached the city walls once again. The date of the Tammuz fast was moved from the 9th to the 17th. The fast of Tishrei was to be observed on the 3rd because the tragedy had occurred on the second day of Rosh Hashanah itself, one day earlier, and we do not want to fast then. Purpose Of The Fasts The Rambam (Hilchos Ta’anis 5:1) explains that fasting awakens our hearts and urges us onto the path of teshuvah. The purpose of the fast is for the teshuvah, the returning to Hashem that is instigated by the fasting. The Chayei Adam (133:1) explains that if we do not focus on things that are important, we have lost the essential theme of Chazal’s intent in the fast. What does “awaken our hearts” mean? It attunes us to the loss, that great loss, of the Shechinah dwelling in our midst. Klal Yisrael is unique among all the nations of the world because of our unique ability to achieve a dvei- kus Bashem—a cleaving closeness to HaKadosh Baruch Hu. It is this ability to achieve dveikus which gave us all the nevi’im that we had. It is this ability to achieve dveikus which allows us to reach heights in our tefi llos, our learn- ing of Hashem’s Torah, and our middos. We had a Chofetz Chaim in our midst because of this ability to achieve dvei- kus Bashem. The Beis HaMikdash in our midst allowed us to achieve even greater dveikus. The loss of the Beis HaMikdash was a loss of who we are as a nation. It is a negation of part of our national character. It is the metaphori- cal loss of our right arm. The Divine closeness that the nation of Israel uniquely enjoyed is no longer. But the navi in Zechariah gives us hope. If we but love emes and shalom, that Divine Closeness will return. 17 Tammuz: What Happened? The Gemara (Ta’anis 26a to 28b) lists fi ve tragedies that occurred on this day: • Foreshadowing what was to come, Moshe Rabbeinu found Klal Yisrael wor- shipping the golden eigel when he came

Continued on Page 28 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 27 HALACHIC MUSINGS Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach, zt’l (note ted on the three fast days because Klal 1. The 17th of Tammuz itself (fast day) Continued from Page 27 in Ishei Yisrael 13:71). Yisrael did not accept it upon them- 2. From the 17th of Tammuz through Who should fast. All healthy adults selves to avoid this. The Mishnah Ber- the day before Rosh Chodesh Av down from Har Sinai. He broke the fi rst should fast, including women (S.A. O.C. urah (550:6), however, writes that a 3. From Rosh Chodesh Av through the set of Luchos. 550:1). A girl who is 12 years or older ba’al nefesh should be stringent and 7th of Av • During his three-year siege on the must fast, as must a boy who is 13 years avoid showering in hot water during 4. The 8th of Av fi rst Beis HaMikdash, Nevuchadnez- of age or older. The minhag that some a fast day. Thus, showering in non-hot 5. The 9th of Av (fast day) zar managed to put a stop to the kor- women have to avoid fasting during the water would be completely permitted. 6. The 10th of Av, until halachic noon ban tamid that was offered daily by the three fasts is incorrect and should be It is also completely permitted to wash (chatzos). Kohanim. It was not restored until the discontinued, as it is against Shulchan one’s face, hands, and feet in hot water. We observe numerous restrictions second Beis HaMikdash was built. Aruch. Additions in tefi llah. In Shacharis during this time, which generally • The walls of Yerushalayim were bro- The Mishnah Berurah (550:5) rules one recites Avinu Malkeinu and the Seli- get stricter as we go further into this ken into during the time of the second that children who have reached the age chos for that fast day. In Minchah, one mourning period. Beis HaMikdash. of chinuch for mourning should only adds the special Aneinu tefi llah and Haircuts. During the entire Three • During the time before the destruc- eat simple foods so that they can par- Avinu Malkeinu again. If Aneinu was not Weeks, haircuts are forbidden for Ashke- tion of the second Beis HaMikdash, a ticipate in the mourning. A sick person inserted in the Shemoneh Esreh, it is not nazim (Rema 551:4). This includes both Greek general named Apostumos pub- should not fast (M.B. 550:4,5) even if he repeated. If someone is not fasting, he men and women. If a child is under the licly burned a sefer Torah, written by is not a choleh she’yeish bo sakanah. As does not recite Aneinu. age of seven and has very long hair that Ezra HaSofer himself—the most author- long as he or she is noticeably sick, there If someone is not davening with a causes the child discomfort, an adult itative sefer Torah that we had. is no need to fast. Nonetheless, that per- minyan, he does not recite the 13 Attri- may cut the child’s hair (M.B. 551:82). It • Apostumos placed a statue in the son should not engage in extravagant butes of Selichos (Hashem Hashem is the custom to delay an upsherin until Beis HaMikdash. According to the Tal- eating; they should only eat moderately. Rachum v’Chanun, etc.). See M.B. 565:13. after the 10th of Av. According to Rav mud Yerushalmi, it was much earlier A pregnant or nursing woman does During the last blessing of the Min- Elyashiv, if there is a b’ris, the parents, and done by Menasseh ben Yechezkel. not have to fast (O.C. S.A. 554:5) on chah Shemoneh Esreih, the Sim Shalom sandek, and mohel may take a haircut the three fasts other than Tishah B’Av. paragraph is recited instead of the Sha- even in the week of Tishah B’Av (Hali- 17 Tammuz: The Fast Although the Rema writes that it is the lom Rav paragraph. chos v’Hanhagos, p. 4). In regard to all fasts other than Yom custom for a pregnant woman who has Haircuts. The restrictions on haircuts If a married woman has side locks that Kippur and Tishah B’Av, the fast begins no diffi culties fasting to fast, it seems begin on the evening of the 17th of Tam- cannot be covered easily, she may cut at dawn or alos hashachar. If one had from the statistical data available in muz. Under special circumstances a rav them (M.B. 551:79). Plucking eyebrows in mind to arise before dawn to eat, Israel that they too should opt for the should be consulted as to whether a is permitted during the Three Weeks he may do so. However, dawn is gener- leniency of the Shulchan Aruch and not haircut may be taken at night. according to Rav Shlomo Zalman Auer- ally very early in the summer months, fast. bach, zt’l, as this is not considered a hair- so sometimes this is not practical. In If one accidentally ate or drank on Bein HaMetzarim cut. Shaving legs is only permitted for regard to arising before dawn, there is the fast day, he or she must nonethe- The period between the 17th of Tam- married women or young ladies who are a difference between men and women. less continue to fast for the rest of the muz and the 9th of Av is known as “Bein dating. Regarding shaving legs during the Men may eat more than a kebeitzah (2.2 day (S.A. O.C. 568:1). If one made a bera- HaMetzarim,” meaning “between the Three Weeks, the poskim write of a heter fl uid ounces) of mezonos only if they chah on something and realized after straits,” or days of distress. During this only for married women so that they began more than 30 minutes before the berachah was recited that it is a fast time, we mourn the loss of the Shechi- not appear unseemly in front of their dawn. Otherwise, they may only eat less day, he should taste a little bit so that it nah that was once in our presence. This husbands. Rav Feinstein, zt’l, extended than a kebeitzah (M.B. 89:27). Women will not be a berachah levatalah. time can be divided into six periods of this leniency to girls who are dating. have no such restriction, according to Showering. Showering is permit- mourning. For girls younger than this, some rabbis

28 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES are lenient (Rav Hershel Schachter in an According to Rav Elyashiv, zt’l (Hal- New or freshly laundered cloth- a mourner’s meal called the “seudah e-mail to this author). There is also the ichos v’Hanhagos, p. 11), the Havdallah ing may not be worn during the Nine ha’mafsekes.” The custom is to eat one view the Chasam Sofer’s reading of the wine during the Nine Days should be Days either (S.A. O.C. 551:3). They must cooked item such as a cold hard-boiled Magen Avraham (O.C. 551) regarding a consumed as follows: therefore be preworn. How long must egg, bread, and ashes. We eat it while leniency for men shaving l’kavod Shab- • A boy who has reached the age of they be worn? Rav Binyomin Forst has lying on the fl oor and we do not eat the bos, that if they do so at least twice per berachos (generally 6–7 years old) but the practice of putting on fi ve shirts meal in a group. We may wear leather week in general, they would be allowed not one who understands mourning simultaneously and wearing them for shoes while eating the meal, although to do so on Fridays during the Three (generally 7½–8). If there is not one 30 minutes. The Daas Kedoshim, how- the mood during this meal should be Weeks. The reason is that the mourn- available, then . . . ever, states that one minute will suf- somber. ing is still recognizable. The view of the • A boy under bar mitzvah. If there is fi ce. Perhaps this ruling was written in a Chasam Sofer is only followed in some not one available, then . . . pre-air-conditioning society. An alterna- Tishah B’Av: communities, so each young lady should • The man himself may drink the tive method of removing the freshness What Happened? ask the family’s posek as to what to do. wine. is to lie down on the clothing for a sig- • The 12 spies that were sent to spy Music. It is the custom that neither Meat or wine may not be consumed nifi cant period of time. out Eretz Yisrael returned from their live nor recorded music be heard during for melaveh malkah (Igros Moshe OC IV One may make a bed for a guest mission. Yehoshuah and Caleiv brought the Three Weeks (Igros Moshe O.C. I 21:4). with freshly laundered linen (Mesoras a positive report; the others did not and #166, IV #21, and Y.D. II #137). Most of the Laundering clothing. During the Nine Moshe). spoke lashon ha’ra about the land. This leading poskim forbid a cappella music Days, it is forbidden to launder clothing, caused the Bnei Yisrael to lose faith in (singing with no instrumental music) as even if it will not be worn until after the The 8th Of Av Hashem and weep. Hashem said, “You well, since they view the .MP3 player Nine Days (S.A. O.C. 551:3). This includes Pleasure trips are forbidden on erev wept without a reason. Now I will give or CD player itself as a musical instru- clothing, sheets, and towels. Removing Tishah B’Av after chatzos ha’yom (Vilna you a reason to cry on this day.” ment. If someone wishes to be lenient, a stain with water is permitted if the Gaon on Rema end of 553). • The fi rst Beis HaMikdash, built by it is best not to make an issue of it. Lis- article of clothing may get ruined if not The custom is not to learn Torah after Shlomo HaMelech, was destroyed by tening to music to work out is permit- treated. Sheitels cannot be washed and chatzos ha’yom on the 8th of Av. The the Babylonians led by Nebuchadnez- ted, but one should try to avoid enjoy- set either (Rav Elyashiv Halichos v’Han- reason is that learning Torah causes the zar and we were sent into the Babylo- ing the music. hagos, p. 66). Rav Scheinberg, however, heart to rejoice (see Tehillim 19:9). nian exile. Cutting nails. Cutting one’s nails is permitted it when absolutely necessary The seudah ha’mafsekes. On the permitted until the week of Tishah B’Av. (cited in Rivevos Ephraim VI 291:3). 8th, before Tishah B’Av begins, we eat Continued on Page 32 For the purposes of honoring Shabbos, it is permitted on Friday before Shab- bos (M.B. 551:20). Shehecheyanu. It is the custom not to recite a Shehecheyanu during the Three Weeks (see S.A. O.C. 551:17). There is a debate between the Magen Avra- ham and the Maamar Mordechai as to the exact reason for this. According to the Magen Avraham (551:42), the words of the berachah indi- cate an expression of thanks for having allowed us to reach this “special” time. The Magen Avraham (551:42) explains that the idea of not reciting a shehechey- anu is due to the wording, and not the idea of mourning. He writes, “However, the reason is not on account of mourn- ing, for we do not fi nd that a mourner is forbidden in reciting a shehecheyanu.” The Maamar Mordechai (551:12) rules that the blessing is not recited on account of our mourning and pain. Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt’l, discusses the pur- chase of cars during the Three Weeks in his Igros Moshe (O.C. III #80) and rules in accordance with the Magen Avraham. The custom is not to buy new cloth- ing during the Three Weeks. Under- garments and shoes are not a problem because they do not generate that much excitement. If necessary, however, one can recite a Sheheyechaynu on Shab- bos—even though there is a debate about this. The Arizal was stringent. Weddings are also forbidden during this time (S.A. O.C. 551:2). However, one may get engaged because of the princi- ple of “perhaps another will precede the person.” From Rosh Chodesh Av: The Nine Days Eating meat and drinking wine. The Gemara forbids eating meat in the last meal before Tishah B’Av. Nonetheless, it is the custom not to eat meat from Rosh Chodesh Av (or, for some Sephardim, the week of Tishah B’Av) until chatzos (hala- chic noon) on the 10th of Av (S.A. O.C. 551:9 citing the Rashba). One may eat meat and drink wine at a celebration of a siyum, the completion of a tractate of Talmud, or an order of the Mishnah. One may have meat and wine on Shabbos of the Nine Days. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 29 they outgrow their beginner’s apart- $750,000, and the cost of an apartment A New Satmar Community ment. The crowding inside the apart- in Kiryas Yoel averages $400,000. Apart- Machberes: Inside The Chassidish And Yeshivish World ment spills over to crowding in the ment rentals are correspondingly ele- apartment houses, and then onto the vated. BY RABBI GERSHON TANNENBAUM street. The children are limited in play- Today’s reality has a young chassidish ing space, and running space is totally family devoting almost their total bud- Applications for the purchase of new matically every year. absent. The expression “climbing the get for rent alone, with very little avail- homes are being distributed among Every Friday night at Satmar shuls, walls” best describes what many chil- able for anything else. Those dedicated Satmar congregations throughout the a long list of shalom zachors for new- dren do. families who have husbands continu- greater New York City metropolitan born boys and kiddushim for new- Heimishe economics. The application ing their Torah learning in kollel con- area. The new homes will make up born girls are joyously announced. In brochure discusses the long-accepted sume the resources of their parents. a Satmar community within a three- just a few short years, these newborn hour traveling distance of Williams- children will be enrolled in the Sat- burg (Brooklyn, not Virginia), presum- mar schools, which today ranks as the ably northwards. The initial phase of largest yeshiva system in the world. “If These homes are not a plan the new community will consist of 500 the Satmar schools in New York were a homes. A second phase will have an public-school system, it would be the on paper, but existing houses additional 300 homes available. fourth-largest system in the state, after The applications come with an intro- those of New York City, Buffalo, and at prices that will fi t the budget. duction highlighting the spectacular Rochester” (New York Times, April 25, growth of the chassidish communities 2006). in Williamsburg, Boro Park, and Kiryas As chassidim traditionally marry off Yoel. Oh, and don’t forget Lakewood. their children at relatively young ages, budget advice to have 25% percent of Under current circumstances, many “They will increase and they will spread suitable apartments must quickly be one’s earnings go towards either rent young men must cut short their kollel out” (Shemos 1:12) is being realized found that are large enough to house or mortgage payments. However, with ambitions in order to provide for their before our very own eyes. The number the anticipated children that the new today’s sky-high prices, that is no lon- families. Wives have to continue their of parallel classes in the Satmar yeshi- couple will be blessed with. ger feasible. The cost of an apartment out-of-the-home employment when vas and girls’ schools is increasing dra- As the couple becomes a family, in Boro Park and Williamsburg averages they should preferably be at home for their precious children. The same fac- tors apply to those whose husbands are working but not earning CEO salaries. The new Satmar shtetl. The new com- munity will be offering its homes, suit- able for large families, for $40,000. Yes, that is a 4 followed by only four zeroes. That is a savings of hundreds of thou- sands of dollars and super-affordable. These homes are not a plan on paper, but are already existing houses at prices that will fi t the ideal budget allowance for home rental or mortgage payments. The picture on the brochure hints that the homes are all two- or three-story detached single-family units, all with front porches, separated by private driveways. In addition, the new homes are within a general community that will offer income and employment oppor- tunities. Large commercial spaces have been acquired that will not only pro- vide space for business applications, but for organizational usage as well. The planners of the new community have designed their new project well. The anticipated fi rst phase of 500 families would include a committee that will ensure that every family has an oppor- tunity for a viable livelihood, includ- ing a distribution of positions as rabbis, dayanim, rebbes, teachers, kollel mem- bers, as well as businesses. Members of Hatzalah, Shomrim, and Chaverim are enthusiastically invited. The brochures emphasize the large size of the homes, the attractive prices, income opportunities, religious-needs infrastructure, and that a prominent hospital is within a short distance. The homes will be scraped, painted, and wired for electricity and telephones. Of course, prices may vary according to size and condition. Presently, 500 homes are ready for purchase. In addition, 300 homes are in the midst of negotiations. Thousands of additional homes, rang- ing from 1,200 to 2,200 square feet, are available in the immediate surround- ings at similar pricing. Commercial spaces, too, have been negotiated at comparable low prices and are available for business applications. Some of the commercial properties will be adapted for yeshivas, schools, mosdos, and shuls. 30 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES In order to avoid extreme price fl uctu- ations, homes will only be sold directly to those committing themselves to live there year round. Purchases as invest- ments will not be accepted. These con- ditions are being imposed in accor- dance with halachah as well as with New York State laws. As this project unfolds, when 300 applications have been submitted, a listing will be distrib- uted and everyone will be invited to a general meeting, in order for everyone to meet their new neighbors. At the present time, the exact loca- tion is not being disclosed in order to prevent speculative purchases within the immediate neighborhood. Appli- cants are encouraged to invite their extended families, friends, and current neighbors to review this special oppor- tunity. In order to facilitate moving into the new homes and neighborhood, the tar- get date of moving is the summer of 2014. Since many families go to bun- galow colonies in the Catskills for the summer, and since the community is north of New York City, moving north during the summer would be an ideal time to ease the transition. The brochure effectively answers such questions as to why the pres- ent time is ripe for such a project. The answer can be found in the hard reali- zation that expenses must be curtailed. The considerable success of chasunah and simcha restrictions, as well as the success in curtailing prices of shtre- imels for chasanim, are sterling exam- ples where simple principles of eco- nomics have triumphed over ingrained must-do’s and must-have’s. Further, as opposed to previous plans, the homes already exist. Ade- quate homes are immediately available for the shtetl’s expansion. The plan will have 500 families move in during the summer of 2014, instantly establishing the new heimishe community. Support of both rebbes. Of utmost interest is the support that this new project has received. Both Satmar Reb- bes (Rabbi Aaron Teitelbaum and Rabbi Zalman Leib Teitelbaum) will be rep- resented by their hand-picked dele- gates. Satmar philanthropists have the opportunity, at pennies per dollar, to establish yeshivas, schools, and shuls. The magnifi cent opportunity now exists to establish the gemilus chesed fund to enable those without immedi- ate resources to borrow money, inter- est-free, for purchase and moving expenses. 

Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum is the Rav of B’nai Israel of Linden Heights in Boro Park and Director of the Rabbinical Alliance of America. Rabbi Tannenbaum can be contacted [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 31 HALACHIC MUSINGS Customs in shul. In shul the custom A Five Towns Simcha Continued from Page 29 is to dim the lights, based upon the verse in Eichah (3:6), “He placed me PHOTO BY IVAN H NORMAN • The second Beis HaMikdash, in darkness.” We also remove the cur- built by Ezra and Nechemiah, was tain from the ark that covers the sefer destroyed by the Romans in August Torah. This is on account of the Mid- of 70 CE. rash that interprets the verse in Eichah • The Romans crushed Bar Kokhva’s (2:17), “He tore His royal garments.” revolt and destroyed the city of Betar, After Ma’ariv, Eichah is read and then killing over 100,000 Jews, on July 8, a number of Kinos are recited. 132 CE. On the day of Tishah B’Av, a num- • In the year following the Bar ber of Kinos are recited. Most of these Kokhva revolt, Roman commander Kinos were written during the Cru- Turnus Rufus (his name in Josephus sades. During the Holocaust, a num- is Terentius Rufus), a senator from ber of Kinos were added as well. It is the powerful Lolianni family, plowed the custom of many shuls to recite Yerushalayim and the Makom HaMik- the new ones as well. dash and its surrounding area. The 10th Of Av Tishah B’Av: The Fast Since the burning of the Beis HaMik- Because the loss of the Beis HaMik- dash continued until the 10th of Av dash was such a tragedy for our (indeed, most of it burned then), we nation, the halachos of Tishah B’Av refrain from eating meat and drink- combine the laws of Yom Kippur and ing wine until halachic noon on the the laws of mourning. tenth (S.A. O.C. 558). The Mishnah Ber- The wedding of Rivkala Feivelson, daughter of Rabbi and Mrs. Tzvi Feivelson of Thus, we apply the five inuyim of urah rules that we refrain from bath- Cedarhurst, and Naphtali Sobel, son of Mr. and Mrs. Moshe Eliezer Sobel of Far Rock- Yom Kippur: (1) no eating or drinking, ing, cutting our hair, listening to music, away, took place at The Pardes in Brooklyn. Rabbi Naftali Jaeger was the mesadar kid- (2) no washing, (3) no anointing, (4) no and washing our clothes until halachic dushin. wearing leather shoes, and (5) no mar- noon on the 10th. Mazal tov! ital relations. In addition to the Yom If the 10th of Av falls on a Friday, Kippur inuyim: (6) we are not permit- then we may launder immediately after ted to study Torah except for the pas- Tishah B’Av is over. Haircuts and bath- WHAT’S YOUR sages that bring on sadness, (7) we do ing, however, should wait until Friday not extend greetings to others, (8) we morning (Eliyahu Rabbah 559:31), and do not work, (9) we do not sit on a music is only permitted at noon. If nec- OPINION? chair. The latter two, however, may essary, bathing and haircutting can be be performed after chatzos ha’yom. done on motzaei Tishah B’Av, if one will E-MAIL US AT When one does need to wash be unable to do them on Friday.  hands, such as after going to the [email protected] restroom, one washes just until the The author can be reached at knuckles. [email protected].

32 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Question You and your husband surely Our daughter is 19 years old. She remember how in previous years it did not go to Israel for her year in was not uncommon for a younger seminary. Instead, she spent this past girl to marry a guy ten years or more school year in a local seminary. her senior. Today most young girls do We are being advised by every- not ordinarily pursue such shiddu- one we know to actively search for chim. a shidduch for her. People are tell- To set your minds at ease, please ing us that her current age will make understand that a crisis is relative. her a more desirable choice amongst What may be a crisis to one is not boys. Our friends are saying that it’s necessarily a crisis to another. For important to put a résumé together those who feel that they cannot get to e-mail to shadchanim. They also what they are searching for in a shid- say that nowadays a boy will not go duch, that is their personal crisis. out with a girl until he sees a picture You and your husband are within of her. How ridiculous! the correct belief that a 19-year-old My husband and I are very new to girl is too young to be put though this parashah. Things were different the stress that is customarily experi- years ago, and the stories we hear enced by many young shidduch dat- about the shidduch crisis and how ers. Furthermore, anyone who dates there are so many unmarried older before feeling ready will potentially girls is scary to us. At the same time, enter the system with a negative atti- we also feel that she is too young to tude. Unless your daughter expresses be put through such stress. a serious interest in dating, do not We haven’t discussed this with our encourage it yet. Wait until she sug- daughter yet, because we don’t want gests or alludes to it. to scare her. Please tell us what to The main complication that fre- do and the best way to go about this quently arises as a consequence of new system in dating. dating at such a young age is burn- out. As a shadchan, I meet countless Response young seminary graduates who enter By Baila Sebrow this new stage enthusiastically and While you and your husband have starry-eyed. There are those who are recently joined the ranks of those lucky and get engaged within the first marking a new milestone in a daugh- year or two of dating. Those to whom ter’s life, rest assured that your dating is not a successful endeavor daughter most likely has been dis- will sometimes react to their pain cussing these issues with her friends. with obvious bitterness and cynicism

Anyone who dates before feeling ready will potentially enter the system with a negative attitude.

In addition, seminary educators fre- while only in their early twenties. quently mention the current mode of With regard to your friends inform- shidduch dating. ing you that a younger girl is a more The repeatedly used terminol- desirable choice amongst guys, my ogy “shidduch crisis” has become a advice is to find yourself a new set of household and oftentimes overused friends to consult and shidduch-brain- description of the concept. It has storm with. There are plenty of guys evolved into being the answer to any- who prefer a girl more mature in one’s question as to why someone is age. Nineteen is still very young, and single. many guys looking for a shidduch The original basis for this phrase reject a girl who is so young. There is came about because there was a feel- nothing wrong with waiting at least ing amongst shadchanim and even one year until you all feel comfort- rabbanim that there is a higher girls- able with your daughter’s emotional to-guys ratio. While there are ratio- readiness. nal reasons backing up such a claim, The methods in approaching this the “shidduch crisis” does not explain system will be something that you why every unmarried girl has not yet and your husband will have to adjust found her bashert. to. As ridiculous as it seems to you and There are fewer younger guys who your husband, unless your daughter are seeking to get married than in is fortunate to meet her bashert on previous years. If a 19-year-old girl her own or though friends, résumés wants to date a guy closer to her accompanied by a recent picture are age—if that is whom she feels most the acceptable method in shidduch emotionally compatible with—there are fewer options available to her. Continued on Page 34 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 33 DATING FORUM Choose one or two trusted shad- Continued from Page 33 chanim per community who are not so inundated with shidduchim that THE DISH dating today. There are exceptions they do not have the time to talk to where shidduchim have come about you by phone or in person. Avoid the By Elke Probkevitz without the résumé or picture—but shadchan whose protocol is to com- those cases are few and far between. municate only via e-mail. Your daugh- Familiarize yourself with sample ter, being new to the system, still résumés to get a general sense. With needs that personal touch. exception to specifi c facts involving Be proactive. Expand your daugh- Vitamix Inspiration your daughter and family, her résumé ter’s horizons by networking posi- needs to be kept simple. Place focus on tively to increase her opportunities They say a Vitamix completely ample strawberries, pineapple, spinach, her hashkafi c level and that of the type for suggestions. Do not be shy in changes your perception of what a and cucumbers. Fall is good for pears of boy she is seeking. Do not go into informing people you and your hus- blender can do. I’ve only had mine for and apples. In the summer you can’t long, overdrawn details describing her band know that your daughter is in about a week, and I would defi nitely get enough of melons, berries, peaches, personality, lest she turn off the nit- the shidduch parashah. You never agree. My husband bought me this culi- apricots, nectarines, kiwi, and fresh picking reader who will come up with know who Hashem has chosen to nary wonder, and it has already blown herbs. Frozen produce helps thicken various commentaries which will mis- be His shaliach in ultimately bring- me away. For those of you who do not the smoothies. Turn your smoothies represent what she is all about. In this ing her zivug to her. May the path to know what a Vitamix is, it’s not sim- into sorbets for a frozen dessert. Pour case, less is more. Do not be afraid to walking your daughter to the chup- ply a blender or food processor, but a smoothies into ice-pop molds and put a make adjustments to your daughter’s pah be a smooth progression. tool that can perform the tasks of sev- popsicle stick in to make a healthy fro- résumé as her achievements and hash- Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma eral kitchen tools in one. It can chop, zen snack. kafah may change with time. Advocates, communications and recruit- blend, grind, churn, crush, whisk, Other breakfast options. You can Great caution must be exercised ment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, exec- frappé, purée, emulsify, powder, whip, also use a blender or food processor when choosing the references listed utive director of Teach Our Children, and even heat! It is an expensive, com- to make muffi ns, scones, homemade on your daughter’s résumé. Interview and a shadchanis. She can be reached at mercial-grade product, so I am not here nut butters, and jellies. Chop up rolled and role-play with your references to [email protected].  just to promote its sales, but it does oats, almonds, dried apricots, cherries, ascertain that their words will only give me inspiration that can be used in and cranberries, and coconut fl akes benefit rather than harm a potential Questions and comments can be submitted to anyone’s kitchen with whatever tools in food processor to create a granola shidduch suggestion. [email protected]. are on hand. that you can later mix with yogurt and Go smooth. Everyone knows that fresh fruit. And you don’t need to make blenders make smoothies. It’s a great a stop at the overpriced coffee shop to WHAT’S YOUR way to use up leftover produce and get a blended coffee drink that hits the pack your breakfast with a punch of spot any time on a hot summer day. nutrition. You can also freeze any extra Soup’s up. A Vitamix can actually OPINION? produce for making smoothies at a later cook soup with heat from the speed of time. 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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 35 scious mind and effect a change of shvitzing in the hot sun, schlep duffel heart. What the kid really needs is an bags and cases of bottled water from that’s the attitude adjustment. But it does not their car trunks and load them into happen. Ever! The reluctant camper the same compartment. The mothers’ WAY IT IS doesn’t care. His only thought is that job is to give last-minute instructions he doesn’t want to go, and it wouldn’t and last-minute hugs and kisses. Any- By Hannah Reich Berman matter to him if he were the only kid one watching these festivities would in North America who remained at think that parents and children home. won’t be reunited for another year. It D-Day Has Arrived At all departure sites, the scene would present a touching scene—if I gives new meaning to the word didn’t know that visiting day was two Years ago I did the Julius Caesar shul. Wherever it may be, I can count chaos! For starters, every adult with a and a half weeks away. thing; I just did it a little differently. on it being a crowded scene. The area Julius came, he saw, and he con- will be crawling with noisy children quered, as in “veni vidi vici.” I came departing for the summer. Some kids “Hey, let’s go to Starbucks after the and I saw, but I didn’t conquer; I will be thrilled to be going and oth- suffered. This does not refer to that ers will be miserable about the pros- glorious Sunday each summer that pect but are being forced to go by bus leaves.” So much strikes fear in the hearts of grand- their parents. It sounds ludicrous, parents everywhere, the day known but there are some kids who have for the heartbreak of missing as visiting day. I described in detail to be begged, persuaded, and cajoled my less-than-thrilling experience into allowing mom and dad to spend that I had 11 years ago. And, over the thousands of dollars to send them to the youngsters! ensuing years, by popular request, I camp. repeated the tale twice more. Half the time the parents do this I am not doing that here. Instead, because they have vacation plans modicum of intelligence has to exer- Some moms are teary-eyed and oth- I will touch on another subject near that do not include the children. And cise vigilance if he doesn’t want to ers, although trying not to show it, and dear to my heart. That would be the other half of the time, the par- chance losing an eye or, at the very are inwardly bursting with joy. When the day known as departure day— ents make the kids go to sleepaway least, getting knocked in the head I used to send my kids off to camp, I a.k.a. camp send-off. Most grandpar- camp because, as one of the parents by a hockey stick. I’m happiest when belonged to the latter group. I hugged ents do not attend these festivities. (usually the mother) says, in one long I go to a bus departure for a camp and kissed my kids, but I never wept. I do, but only because I refuse to go run-on sentence, “Ya gotta go because that does not have a hockey curricu- One of my friends even used to gen- to visiting day. The camp send-offs all the kids are going, so nobody will lum. It’s safer. This is because I never tly touch my arm as a reminder for for my grandchildren arrive in a few be home all summer and what will saw any kid with a hockey stick who me to exercise restraint. She was days. There are several of them and I you do all day?” It is a mantra. She watched out for anyone standing afraid that, as soon as the bus door try to attend them all. It’s the least I doesn’t just say it once; She says it nearby. No one is out of danger until closed, I would do a hora right there can do! once a day, every day, beginning in those life-threatening things are at the bus stop. I go where I am told it will take early spring. Some mothers proba- stored in the luggage compartment I never expected to attend these place. Some departure sites are in bly whisper it into the kid’s ear each below the bus. departure sessions for grandchildren. parking lots; others are on a street, night while he’s asleep, in the hope The sticks don’t travel alone. But one never knows what will hap- but always in front of a school or a that it will sink into the kid’s subcon- Fathers, huffing and puffing and pen in life, and since visiting day is

36 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES something I avoid like the plague, being at the send-off is mandatory for me! It’s well worth it. I remind myself that I won’t have to sit in traf- fic for hours on end in order to spend a day walking hilly campgrounds or worry about tripping over the inevi- table holes that dot camp landscapes. There will be no day of fighting off bugs and flies and, best of all, no day of visiting those glorious bunks that are riddled with mold and mildew and smell like a cross between old sneakers and unwashed clothing. Departure Day is not, however, totally stress-free. If the send-off spot is not in a parking lot, finding a nearby parking spot can be a chal- lenge. The area traffic is horrific, thanks to the multitude of SUVs filled with those trying to park (or double-park) as close as possible. But the bigger challenge is what I face once I get there. I look for my fam- ily but, so far as I can tell, it doesn’t appear that anyone is looking for me. So I naively pull out my cell phone and try to call my daughter, who I know is there somewhere. It is of lit- tle value, since the deafening noise usually prevents her from hearing the ring tone or feeling the vibra- tion. There is just too much excite- ment. And while all the moms are standing shoulder-to-shoulder with one another, there is something else afoot. They are not only saying their loving goodbyes to their darlings, but they’re also socializing with one another. “Hey, let’s go to Starbucks after the bus leaves.” So much for the heartbreak of missing the young- sters! The part of this experience that most thrills me is that my loving grandchildren give me an obliga- tory goodbye kiss, turn back to their friends, and never look in my direc- tion again. And my thought is always, “For this I got up and out of the house early?” But common sense returns in a flash, and I remind myself that I am lucky because, in comparison to the visiting-day experience, departure day is a breeze. I don’t even mind inhaling the fumes as the huge buses pull away. I wave at bus number one, bus number two, and bus number three because I’m never sure which bus my grand- kid is on. And I wave this goodbye in spite of the fact that I know he is not looking at me, much less waving back. None of this changes from year to year. And my schedule doesn’t vary much, either. After the buses pull away, while the moms are doing their thing, I immediately head to a store to plunk down my hard-earned money on camp packages. For camp- ers, receiving packages is an inte- gral part of the camp experience and, from what I have heard, sad is the child who doesn’t receive them. As my guilty conscience is alive and well and thriving, woe to the psy- che of the grandparent who doesn’t send at least one during the summer. That’s the way it is!  Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and is a licensed real-estate broker associated with Marjorie Hausman Realty. She can be reached at [email protected] or 516-902-3733. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 37 search. With their help, and with her love Surviving Mental Illness of people and her desire to assist them BY LOREY FRIEDMAN Hillside hospital, Linda came face-to-face and build their self-confi dence, she mas- with her illness and was forced to real- tered the position of teaching English as a If a person has strep throat, we tell him ize that she was victim to this debilitating second language at Bramson Ort College. to go to a doctor, who can prescribe med- and, when left untreated, deadly disease. After years of searching for the right job, ication. If a person has a heart condition, Linda’s hospital stay showed her how sim- she found that she could help other peo- he or she goes to a cardiologist. A tooth- ilar she was to others there and educated ple with mental illness fi nd jobs, which ache warrants an emergency visit to the her about the condition she was experi- led her to a position as an employment dentist. We seek a specialist in any area encing. Most importantly, Linda learned specialist. She became skilled in helping of concern. Yet when our loved ones, our that recovery was possible. With a skilled others write résumés and supported them friends, or even we ourselves experience and dedicated team of doctors and thera- in their job search. depression, anxiety, or any of the many pists, Linda started to return to herself and Furthermore, Linda has held and con- varieties of mental illness, too often we regain the ability to function in society. tinues to hold many volunteer positions isolate them, and instead of seeking help, Linda’s experience with this disease in the mental-health area, working as a they suffer through the effects of mental has taught her about the many valu- peer counselor and teaching others how illness alone and afraid. able resources available for those suffer- to be a peer counselor. One thing is cer- To the contrary, a Kew Gardens Hills res- ing with mental illness. These organiza- tain—Linda’s success in helping others ident named Linda Naomi Baron Katz has tions treated Linda with respect and gave stems from her ability to consider herself devoted her life now to educating people her the guidance and ability to rebuild a peer of all those whom she treats. about mental illness and to eliminating her self-esteem. Her clinic (the Advanced the stigma associated with it. Her inability Center for Psychotherapy in Forest Hills), Linda’s bravery in being forthright and to fi nd work after graduating from Queens Transitional Services of NY in Jamaica, honest about her treatable illness has College was the trigger that brought out the National Alliance of the Mentally Ill enabled her to use her experiences to the serious manic-depression/bipolar dis- (NAMI), and Vocational and Educational help others with similar conditions. For order that Linda was soon to be diagnosed Services for the Disabled (VESID) are just example, her inability to fi nd employ- with. Doctors encouraged Linda to be hos- some of the agencies discussed in her ment led her to seek help through a sup- pitalized, where her doses of medication book that helped Linda regain her inde- ported employment program, where she and blood levels could be monitored. In pendence and sanity. was taught how to conduct her own job

NO ONE PLANS TO HAVE AN Be ACCIDENT, BUT YOU MUST BE PREPARED IF THE UNEXPECTED Linda Katz Prepared Linda and her supportive, devoted hus- HAPPENS... band, Charles, are members of the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills. This warm, The 10 Things You Should Do And The 10 Things You Should Not Do If You’re Involved In An Accident caring, and nurturing shul has provided the Katzes with rebbeim and friends they 1. Do not pull over and stop if you are bumped from behind and are in can feel comfortable and close with. The a deserted area. Call 911 immediately and proceed to a busy area and wait. rebbeim and congregants are available 2. and helpful to Linda and Charles. In turn, Do not stay in vehicle if you are in a dangerous location. Linda has become involved in the wom- 3. Do not leave your vehicle in the way of traffic. en’s league and looks forward to the do 4. Do not let the other party persuade you with promises of reimburse- opportunity to educate them as well as 1. ment of your damages and to please trust them.. Wait for the police! the entire Queens community on men- Stop immediately and pull over to a safe location. Do not drive Get a police report to protect yourself. tal-health issues. away! You can be charged with a hit and run even if the accident 5. Linda hopes that her book, Surviving was not your fault. Do not volunteer unnecessary information like what you were 2. planning to do after the light changed. Just say, “I stopped at the Mental Illness, will help eliminate or at If someone is hurt, call for medical assistance. light and was hit from behind.” least lessen the stigma about mental ill- 3. Call the police. Make sure to obtain the name and badge number 6. Do not discuss, argue or admit who is at fault. ness in the Jewish community. She also of the responding officer. 7. hopes that her book will encourage those 4. Do not let your car be towed without obtaining information from Cooperate with the police. In New York, you are required to give towing company as to rates and how to get your car released. Make suffering from mental illness to seek help your name and address. Show your driver's license and it clear that they have no authority to dismantle your car or contact and rid themselves of dangerous denial. insurance card to the other party. Obtain the same from them for your insurance company. Ideally you should have your vehicle No doubt that Linda Naomi Katz has you will need this information to make any future claims. towed directly to your repair shop or to your driveway. had and continues to have her share of 5. “Stick to the facts.” If you were driving at a speed of 40 mph, do 8. Do not leave your car at the towing company's yard for an extended life’s challenges and many obstacles to not say you were flowing with the traffic under the speed limit. period of time. They will assess excessive charges which your overcome. She discusses issues of infertil- 6. Obtain names and addresses of vehicle's other occupants. insurance company may not reimburse in full. ity and bereavement in her book—which 7. Use your camera phone to photograph the damages to the other 9. Do not leave anything of value in your car. are so hard for anyone, not to mention the extra challenges it places on a person vehicle and of the accident scene or write it down.. 10. Do not choose a repair facility or sign any papers allowing someone suffering from a mental illness. However, 8. Obtain contact information from any witnesses. to negotiate with your insurance company until you are satisfied by recommendations that your vehicle will be repaired properly. Linda is surely a living example of how 9. Determine the value of your vehicle and the estimated cost of the a person can use Hashem’s tests to grow repair in order to make an intelligent decision on whether or not to from, improve, and then, in turn, help oth- proceed with the repair. ers. This honest, brave, sincere, and sensi- 10. Choose your repair facility wisely. The promise of the driver of the tive woman teaches us all that those with first shiny tow truck who says “trust me, we will make your car mental illness can lead normal, healthy, look like new”, will not help you when you pick up your car with and productive lives. substandard repairs or when you find out that certain parts were In Surviving Mental Illness, we learn not actually replaced. from Linda Naomi Baron Katz that recov- don’t ery is really about living life with all its ʺʡʹʸʮʥʹ Yussie Seif | Yoel Schmell ups and down. This is the invaluable les- son she so honestly teaches us. Mrs. Katz ɿ

691 Burnside Ave, Lawrence NY | 516.371.1137 Reprinted from Queens Jewish Link 38 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES To Your Good Health: Up Close With Miriam Kahn BY ROCHELLE MARUCH MILLER

Mention the name Miriam Kahn to any of her clients and you are sure to elicit unabashed praise. The energetic and personable West Hempstead res- ident, along with her team of health coaches, have inspired members of her community to collectively lose over 2,000 pounds since she became a professional health coach for Take Shape For Life (TSFL) in October 2011. It all came about after Miriam expe- rienced a life-altering transformation. She had wanted to lose 20 pounds before her daughter’s wedding in July 2011, but only heard about the TSFL program one month earlier. During the ensuing month, Miriam lost “noticeable weight” on the pro- gram, looked “okay,” and felt great. She found the program easy to fol- low and says that with the support of Miriam Kahn, RN, BSN her health coach and the entire free support system, she decided to lose improving my overall health, well-be- weight, get healthy, and lower her ing, and life. BMI to the recommended 24, thereby RMM: How did TSFL help you attain finally reaching a healthier weight your goal? and lifestyle. MK: My health coach was there for After four months with the program me, teaching me the program, encour- and reaching a healthy weight, she aging me, and helping to replace my became a TSFL-certified health coach “triggers” that caused me to gain after friends, family, and coworkers weight, while making my own health became excited about her transfor- goals a priority. She gave me all the mation and expressed a strong inter- tools I needed to learn new behaviors est in embarking upon the program’s and embrace the changes I was expe- path to healthy weight loss and opti- riencing. mal health. RMM: What motivated you to In this interview with the 5TJT, Mir- become a coach? iam shares her personal story. MK: After noticing my weight loss RMM: Miriam, what are some of the and how much better I looked and unique aspects of Take Shape For Life? how much healthier I was, friends, MK: Take Shape For Life is a com- family, and coworkers wanted to join plete approach to well-being that the program. Coaching came natu- focuses on creating health. Reach- rally. I loved the program. I loved ing a healthy weight is just the begin- how I felt and I just began to share it. ning. Take Shape For Life provides With this program, the weight comes a wonderful program that works off quicker than most other pro- quickly, without hunger, and sim- grams, and without hunger. The pro- ply. It is the free health coach that gram is simple and easy to follow, and makes the program unique. As guides the results are amazing. While losing and mentors, health coaches are typ- weight, there is a self-study course ically clients that have had success that teaches new habits to replace on the program, or health profession- the ones that got us into trouble. als, and are trained and certified by RMM: How have you helped others the company and mentored by suc- to succeed? cessful health coaches. The coaches MK: Since becoming a coach, I am are cheerleaders, motivators, and a helping many clients lose weight and guide for all aspects of the program. reach significantly improved health. They help clients learn to replace In West Hempstead, where I live, their unhealthy habits with healthier over 2,000 pounds have been lost ones. Clients with TSFL have many since I became a coach in October free supports that help them succeed, 2011. So many in the community have from the comfort of home. improved their health, with many RMM: What inspired you to begin others joining each week. In addition, your weight-loss and good-health reg- now some of the successful clients imen? and health professionals I know are MK: Initially, I was hoping to lose a joining my team as health coaches, bit of weight for my daughter’s wed- and helping many others as well. ding, but only found the program RMM: How has TSFL impacted your four weeks before the event. Having life? already lost some weight, I felt great MK: Losing 40 pounds* enabled me at the simcha (although the wedding to feel better than I have in many picture is now my “before” picture). years, and I love helping others do After the wedding, I realized how the same. In addition, after becom- much better I looked and felt, losing ing a TSFL-certified health coach and weight, making my health a priority, helping others improve their health, I and learning new habits to replace am thrilled to be part of the mission some of the old ones. I set my goal to to get America healthy, one person at reach a healthy weight and work on a time. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 39 Good Health are flexible. My clients know that I health, it may likely deteriorate. Pinchas the son of Elazar am available for them. I set my own It is our awesome responsibility Continued from Page 39 the son of Aharon hours, based on the needs of my fam- to take care of ourselves, our bod- In the 31 years that I have worked as ily and the needs of the clients. ies, and the ones we love. We have (Bamidbar 25:10) an RN, I have had a greater impact on RMM: What message would you like a huge responsibility, both halachi- Why does G-d refer to Pinchas as the people’s health during my 1½ years as to convey to our readers? cally (“V’nishmartem me’od l’nafsho- “son of Elazar the son of Aharon”? a health coach than I have had during MK: Obesity is a growing epidemic seichem”) and to our loved ones. Because the tribes of Israel were my entire nursing career. My focus in this country and is only getting Most of us take better care of our mocking him, saying, “Have you is shifted from managing illness and worse. We live in a society that pro- homes and our cars than our bodies. seen this son of the fattener, whose teaching patients to manage their ill- motes poor habits, obesity, and its Nearly everyone will have more than mother’s father (Yisro) fattened calves nesses, medications, and limitations, related diseases. Being unhealthy one car in a lifetime. Health doesn’t to setting health goals and work on for idolatrous sacrifices, and now improving health. he goes and kills a prince in Israel?” *Note: Results vary; typical weight Therefore, G-d traces his lineage to loss is 2 to 5 pounds per week for the “I have had a greater impact on Aharon. first two weeks, then 1 to 2 pounds per (Talmud, Sanhedrin 82b) week thereafter. people’s health during my 1½ years Few professions are as cruel and RMM: What does being a profes- inhumane as the fattening of calves sional health coach entail? as a health coach than during my for slaughter. So when Pinchas slew MK: It entails helping clients real- Zimri, many said: “Look at this holy ize their current reality, setting small, zealot! He acts as if motivated by the attainable goals, and guiding our cli- entire nursing career.” desire to avenge the honor of G-d ents with the program, while helping and save the people, but, in truth, he them learn the new habits to achieve has merely found a holy outlet for his improved overall health. Health cruel and violent nature. After all, it’s coaching includes being a support and overweight impacts how we feel come by chance, but with effort and in his blood—just look at his maternal and a guide for the program, helping about ourselves and our ability to practice we can transform our lives. grandfather . . .” So G-d described set new goals and make meaningful enjoy our lives. It greatly impacts the With adequate support and the him as “Pinchas the son of Elazar the changes for life, and celebrating suc- quality of the time we spend with proper program to teach healthy hab- son of Aharon” in order to attest cesses. I encourage clients to envi- those that we love and care about its, anyone can improve their health that in character and temperament sion their healthier life in addition to more than anything. if they desire it. It’s more than look- he actually took after his paternal their weight-loss goals. We talk about health all the time. ing better and fitting into our old grandfather—the compassionate and During the first few days on the We spend loads of money for our clothes. It’s about long-term health peace-loving Aharon. program, I speak to clients daily, and medications, many hours in special- and being able to live a healthier life, then one to two times a week on their ists’ waiting rooms, visiting doctors, planning to be at our grandchildren’s The true greatness of Pinchas lay in “weigh day” and as needed. and visiting friends and relatives in and great-grandchildren’s simchas, that he acted in complete opposition Now, as a full-time health coach, I, hospitals. We wish each other good and being able to enjoy them in great to his nature, transcending his inborn thank G-d, coach many clients, both health at the start of each New Year, health! instincts to bring peace between G-d locally and across the country, and am and we worry, cry, and pray when our For more information, please contact and Israel. now helping to train health coaches health is in peril. For most of us, if Miriam at 516-353-7337 or MKahnRN@ (The Lubavitcher Rebbe) as well. I work many hours, and they we don’t do anything to improve our gmail.com. 

40 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES One of the easiest changes, which than dealing with the steep fl ights real estate & should have been effected years ago, is of steps down and up from the park- for the buildings presently not allow- ing basement, this sends a strong mes- mortgage financing ing washers/dryers in the apartments. sage that is being ignored. Either the The fact that there are laundry facili- complexes must install gently slop- By Anessa V. Cohen ties in the basements of those build- ing ramps, with roof covers for the ings doesn’t change the fact that peo- apartment owners to have the abil- ple moving to this neighborhood or ity to walk comfortably to the base- st downsizing expect the convenience ment parking garages, or they should 1950s Or 21 Century? of a washer/dryer in their apartment. invest in some kind of elevator system Not allowing this is taking away from that would allow residents to easily go Renovation and updating have always Most of the buildings in our Five the value and desirability of those com- up and down to these parking garages been a part of the life of a homeowner, Towns are two-fl oor garden com- plexes as well. without worrying about carrying vari- particularly in this neighborhood. There plex buildings with access to the sec- This especially holds true in the more ous items, or wheeling a carriage, suit- is not a day that goes by that a new con- ond-fl oor apartments only by climb- luxurious buildings, such as The Plaza. case, or whatever. This is not the way tractor sign, demo container, or new ing a fl ight of stairs. These second-fl oor Although they have a doorman and life should be lived as a co-op or condo design of draped tarps cannot be seen apartments have become diffi cult amenities such as a swimming pool and owner in the 21st century, and it cer- on one house or another starting a new tainly is not what residents of the Five project to update, renovate, or re-create Towns are used to. a new version of the “future.” Not allowing washers/dryers If the boards or management com- So why, then, if we have become so panies of these facilities were more enamored with making sure that our forward-thinking in bringing all these homes are up to date with the latest is taking away from the value buildings up to date, the individual amenities and upgrades, have we not apartments would rise in value accord- pushed the owners and managers of the and desirability of those complexes ingly based on these additional con- many co-op and condo buildings dot- veniences, and the problem of buyers ting the Five Towns to also bring those not wanting second-fl oor apartments buildings to a standard that homeown- as well. would also disappear. Something to ers expect? Apartment buyers feel like think about—and for those of you who they are settling for amenities going live in these buildings to bring up at back in time to the 1950s. resales, solely because of a lack of ele- laundry rooms on each fl oor, they do your next co-op owners’ meeting!  There are some upgrades in many vator access. not seem to get the concept that people of these buildings that are long over- With today’s technology, there are buying luxury units also expect to have Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a due. Obviously the main reason they many creative ways of adding small ele- the convenience of being allowed to put licensed real-estate broker and a licensed N.Y.S. mortgage broker with over 20 years of have never been attempted is that the vators to those buildings—allowing bet- washers/dryers in their apartments—or experience, offering full-service residential and board members or management teams ter access to those second fl oors so that it is no longer a luxury accommodation. commercial real-estate services (Anessa V Cohen of these complexes never wanted to the buyer pool for apartments needing Last but not least, the parking facili- Realty) and mortgaging services (First Meridian deal with the cost or the construction those elevators, such as elderly or handi- ties in many of these buildings are cum- Mortgage) in the Five Towns and throughout undertaking that would be necessary to capped buyers or young families needing bersome and really not user-friendly. the tri-state area. She can be reached at 516-569- 5007 or via her website, www.AVCrealty.com. bring these buildings closer to 21st-cen- access for carriages, could be accommo- When co-op owners are choosing to Readers are encouraged to send questions or tury values. dated and use those second-fl oor units. take permit parking on the street rather comments to [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 41 Property Boom In Jerusalem: and work hard to ensure our clients the concept, a buyer’s broker or buying get a good partnership agreement plus agent is essentially a liaison between High Demand, Increased Risk security assurances before the monies the buyer and the real-estate agent and are released to the developers of the sellers. BY SHIA GETTER envisioned it. But buying on paper also project. Better safe than sorry! I founded Israel’s fi rst professional comes with its own set of complica- 1 + 1 + ? = Know your costs. While buyer brokerage service, serving as the At the recent Calcalist Real Estate Con- tions if not done properly. Here are a deciding how much you can afford to advocate for the buyer’s best interest, ference, new housing minister MK Uri few vital points to consider before buy- spend on your apartment, it’s import- navigating the murky waters of the Ariel said, “If you don’t have money, you ing on paper: ant to be aware of the many hidden Israeli real-estate market, banking and don’t have to live in the center of Israel. What’s a few hundred thousand expenses that you’ll have to include in legal systems, and government bureau- Not everyone has to live between Ged- between friends? You would never your budget. When buying on paper, cracy, and dealing with real-estate era and Chadera!” The newly formed lend $10,000 to someone you barely you’ll have to take into consideration agents, price negotiations, and select- government is signaling clearly that know without some sort of guarantee the cost of the seller’s attorney in addi- ing the right location and quality. Cli- housing prices in the Jerusalem and Tel that you’ll see it again someday, right? tion to the cost of your own lawyer, mas ents using the Shia Getter Group know Aviv areas will continue to rise. They Unless you have plenty of extra money rechishah (purchase tax), the bank guar- that they are in good hands. Knowing are saying, in other words, “We have no to spare and a few hundred thousand antee fee, real-estate-agent and mort- that you aren’t going to be taken for a intention of taking any action to stop dollars is chump change for you, never gage-broker fees, and the cost of infl a- ride takes off much of the pressure of the demand from outstripping supply. give your hard-earned savings to a tion for building materials. That’s right, the decision to buy an apartment in Cheap apartments will be constructed developer without getting a bank guar- there’s a little known clause in Israeli Eretz Yisrael. Yidden from around the up in the Galil (like the new chareidi antee that your deposit is safe—no mat- real-estate contracts called “madad” that world are now able to sleep better at project in Har Yona, in Nazereth, or in ter how attractive the deal sounds! links your fi nal price to the rate of infl a- night knowing that they have someone Tiberias). Remember the “Heftsiba fi asco” in tion at the time the project is fi nished in Yerushalayim who has their inter- New projects like Achuza, Pisgot Bet Shemesh seven years ago? People for all building materials. Over the ests—and only their interests—in mind Yerushalayim, Schneller, and the new lost many millions of shekels because course of the 3–4 years it takes to fi n- as they navigate the sometimes rough Givat Ze’ev have all seen incredible they gave the “well known” devel- ish construction, the madad can go up road of buying their own “dalet amos” demand for the apartments well before oper money backed by his reputation as much as 9–12%. Altogether, you may in Eretz Yisrael.  the fi rst shovel of dirt gets moved out alone—and they went bust. (Side note; end up paying as much as 19% more of the ground before construction can he’s already out of jail, and investors than the fi nal price of the apartment! Shia Getter is the CEO of the Shia Getter Group, a full-range real-estate services fi rm in begin. The Israel statistics offi ce docu- still haven’t gotten their money back!) That can come to almost half a million Jerusalem catering to the Anglo investor. He mented this month a 12% rise in demand Some more-advanced investors buy a shekel ($120,000) in hidden costs on a is a noted expert, columnist, and author of for apartments in Yerushalayim over given amount of property for a substan- regular Jerusalem apartment selling for Everything You Need to Know About Buying the past year. tial discount before the fi nal permits over 2 million shekel. There can be sig- Real Estate in Israel. He and his professional Anyone thinking of buying a real-es- are ready. Thus, the developer has no nifi cant fi nancial penalties or worse if team manage many upscale Jerusalem properties and have helped countless people tate investment in Eretz Yisrael should ability to guarantee the money. you can’t cough up all these fees by the buy, sell, and renovate property in Israel. Shia consider the advantages of buying “on Before you enter into such an arrange- time of closing. Getter will be in New York and Los Angeles paper.” By purchasing an apartment ment, and if you understand the sub- Better safe than sorry. In the United June 30–July 9 and has some availability for from the developer before construction stantial risks you are taking in exchange States and England, the concept of a consulting with serious owners and potential has begun, you get a brand-new, mod- for the higher return, make sure you buyer’s agent has existed for years, but investors who want to buy property in Eretz Yisrael while being properly advised. For more ern apartment in pristine condition for are getting assurances and securities has gained tremendous popularity in information and to schedule an appointment, a better price, and can often custom-de- of value. At our fi rm, we have relation- recent years, given the volatile real-es- call Sarah at 718-473-3950 or e-mail sign it so the layout is just the way you ships with top attorneys in this fi eld, tate market. For those unfamiliar with [email protected].

42 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Shaaray Tefila Plays Ball

Above, left, this year’s 2nd-grade boys’ Orthodox little league champions, the Shaaray Tefila “B” team. Front row (L–R): Avrumi Fox, Pinny Lowy, Rumi Paneth, Aryeh Leib Scheininger, Yehuda Fuchs, and Mr. Shabse Fuchs. Back row (L–R): Eitan Kaplowitz, Shlomo Weis, Alexander Millstone, Eliyahu Tusk, Akiva Rahmani, Dovid Roth- man, Ephraim Wolf, Moshe Storch, Mendy Schuss, and Shlomo Weinreb. Not shown: Binyomin Perlstein. The team coach is Motti Fox. Above, right, this year’s 5th–6th-grade boys’ Orthodox little league champions, the Shaaray Tefilla “A” team— champions for the fifth year in a row! Front row (L–R): Yehudah Aryeh, Dovi Olshan, Yisroel Wolf, Eliezer Jessel- son, Shimmy Krischer, Zevi Wolff, and Meir Greenblatt. Back row (L–R): Aharon Fox, Shmuel Yosef Pluchenik, Avraham Yaakov Roseman, and Akiva David. Not shown: Shmuel Rubin. The team coaches are Baruch Aryeh and Motti Fox.

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44 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Solution To Previous 5TJT Puzzle: Is It A Bird? . . . (Again)

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Puzzle appeared on Page 50 of the June 21 issue.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 45 My problem is that there are a few It would be nice if Cindy were able women in the neighborhood who to intuit the feelings you experience MINDBIZ treat me indifferently. I know it all when she is gushing over women sounds very 1st-grade, but I still feel who you both know do not have By Esther Mann, LCSW hurt by it. If Cindy and I are walk- your best interests at heart. We could ing along and we bump into one of probably both agree that Cindy is those women, Cindy will treat them not behaving this way on purpose to one of her famous hugs and kisses and most likely is not even aware of and talk to them for a while, while your huge discomfort. Cindy sounds I’m standing nearby, feeling like like one of those rare individuals Friends a complete idiot and also feeling who is missing the criticism gene resentful. when it comes to interpersonal rela- Over time, I’ve received a number of over 10 years. We talk several times a Do I have a right to feel resent- tionships. As you’ve insinuated, with questions relating to friendships. Con- day and I love her as much as anyone ment toward Cindy? Am I being her “it’s all good.” Everyone is nice, cerns about what’s OK, what’s not OK. could love another person. Basically, unrealistic expecting her to sense no one has bad intentions; everyone What’s normal, what isn’t? Some of you I thank G-d every day for bringing her my discomfort, since she knows gets along and looks forward to a big might feel that devoting a column to such into my life. I don’t know what I’d do how I feel about these people, and group hug. Great idea—but far from questions could be frivolous, in light of without her. She’s helped me through refrain from her usual fanfare? This reality. Most of us have been hurt, all the more serious issues that come up so much in my life. I want to believe lack of sensitivity toward me makes dismissed, or treated poorly along and that I address in this column. that I’ve been there for her as well. me think that maybe Cindy doesn’t the way. Many of us have people in I believe friendships are extremely But here’s my problem. deserve to be placed on the pedestal our lives who choose to ignore us for important and, for many people, repre- Cindy is one of the warmest peo- I’ve put her on all these years. Or is no apparent reason. sent a much-needed life preserver, par- ple you would ever want to meet. it me? Am I being childish or overly Since Cindy is not intentionally try- ticularly when other relationships fail She only sees good in people. Unlike sensitive? ing to hurt you, and since she is prob- to do the job. For some people, it’s like me, who can sense when someone is Curious to hear your thoughts on ably oblivious to your pain, my sug- the oxygen they breathe, certainly a being phony or generally not so nice, the subject. gestion would be to explain to her shoulder to lean on. Cindy is oblivious. She sees everyone Resentful how it feels when she pours her love Therefore, I’m going to respond to as perfect, and so maybe they respond all over someone who is not nice to some of the questions that I’ve received that way to her. I know it’s a wonder- Dear Resentful, you, right in front of you. What she along the way. I feel their experiences and ful trait. So everyone and anyone she Glad to hear that you have a Cindy does when you are not around hope- questions deserve respect and validation. bumps into gets a great big hug and in your court, on your team, there fully doesn’t matter to you at all. But kiss from her. And that’s another rea- for you all the time. Not everyone when it happens in your face, it’s no Dear Esther, son, I think, why people adore her. can make such a claim. It sounds as good. Ask her if she would be able to I have a very close friend, I’ll call She makes everyone feel warm and though you are grateful for all that Cindy, who I’ve been like a sister to for fuzzy. she represents. Continued on Page 48

46 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 47 MINDBIZ a casual connection through me, friends to introduce them to their out. In this case, since your friend is Continued from Page 46 because they see one another at sim- friends—even though that’s some- close to both of you, she should actu- chot of mine or other such occasions. thing I’m always happy to do? ally feel the most secure. But many tone down her acknowledgment of Once in a while I realize that I know this all must seem so trivial, people have social issues, and “three’s “these women” when you’re right next Friend A would really like Friend B. It with all the “tzoris” we all hear about a crowd” is sometimes a feeling that to her, by simply greeting them with becomes clear to me that they have a all the time. You shouldn’t think that is almost impossible to shake. a friendly hello or even a quick “How lot in common and could probably be my life is easy or simple. But I cherish Or maybe there is something specif- are you?” And then to keep moving. helpful for one another, as they might my friendships. Without them, I don’t ically about you that intimidates your No over-the-top hugs and kisses. No be going through similar challenges. know how I could have survived some friend in public. Maybe she feels over- fi ve minute schmoozes. Sometimes, When that happens, I do everything of the challenges I’ve been through. I shadowed by your confi dence or per- it’s just a matter of asking for what we in my power to get these two friends welcome your answer. sonality. One on one, she can feel OK, want or need. together. I might invite both of them Snubbed but that might quickly dissolve when Hopefully, Cindy will be happy to lunch with me, or have them over other people are around. that you’ve shared these feelings on Shabbos. I’ll talk to each of them Dear Snubbed, I think you ought to respect your with her and thrilled to oblige you about the other one, telling them how I think the only way to understand friend’s comfort level and embrace in the future, so that you don’t have I think they would love one another. I the dilemma you fi nd yourself in is by one of two choices. Either you can to feel neglected and uncomfortable. really work it. And usually the results trying to get into your friend’s head. decide that if fate has it in store I have to believe your happiness and are good. Because that’s where your answer for you to get to know this other comfort will be most important to Recently, I met a friend of one of lies. There is nothing wrong with ask- woman at some point in your life, Cindy. After all, what are best friends my friends briefl y and took an imme- ing a friend to orchestrate an oppor- it will happen. In the meantime, it for? diately liking to her. She possessed tunity for you to get to know her sounds as though you’re doing fine Esther the qualities that usually pull me in, other friend better. What are friends in the friendship department. Or and I wanted to get to know her bet- for? What does this request of yours you might want to consider what it Dear Esther, ter. So I later asked my friend if she trigger in your friend? would be like to pick up the phone, I have a question about friend- could arrange a dinner for the three of Let’s look at a couple of possibili- separate and distinct from your ship etiquette. I would say that I us or some opportunity for us to get ties. Is it possible that your friend friend, and call this interesting indi- have a fair number of friends in my to know one another better. I asked has only a couple of dear friends and vidual on your own and see where life. I’ve never belonged to a clique; twice, thinking she might have for- therefore cherishes them to the point it goes. Either way, keep doing what that’s not my thing. I tend to connect gotten the fi rst time around. Inciden- of ownership? Could she view you as you’re doing. You sound confident with different people here and there, tally, I hooked this particular friend someone who has more friends than and giving, and I’m sure your friends when the chemistry feels right. I have up to another close friend of mine you know what to do with, and feel are grateful that you are happy to friends who are a lot older than I and in the past and they presently have a that you don’t need another friend “share.” a lot younger. I have friends who are lovely relationship. and that your request felt like you Esther more to the right and some who are Well, nothing ever came of this. were encroaching on her territory? more to the left. It’s really all about What’s worse, my friend will some- This might sound a bit silly, but Dear Esther, what’s going on in our hearts. When I times comment to me about spend- friendships, at any age, can bring out I have a problem with my friends sense that our hearts are in the same ing time with her friend, and clearly I the child in certain people. that I feel I can only share with you, place, the friendships tend to take off was not included. I don’t know what Another possibility is that some since you don’t know me and I would from there. to make of this. Am I being silly? Or is people love one-on-one get-togethers. be horrifi ed if anyone who does know Usually, my friends don’t really there some friendship etiquette that When three people are involved, they know one another very well. Only I’m not aware of? Do people not ask automatically feel like the odd man Continued on Page 50

Minyanim in the 5 Towns/Far Rockaway Area MINCHA MAARIV 12:45 @ Agudas Israel of Long Island (Sun) 5:10 @ Learning Center (114 Spruce) 1:00 @ Mercy Medical Cntr, 2nd flr, rm 2146 (The Mercy Shul) 6:15 @ Aguda of Long Island 1:30 @ Cedarhurst Center 6:30 @ YI Woodmere @ Mesivta Chaim Shlomo (in Darchei Torah) 6:35 @ Shor Yoshuv @ Shor Yoshuv 7:00 @ YI Woodmere @ Yeshiva Beis Shmuel (2937 Oceanside) 7:15 @ Mesivta Chaim Shlomo 1:35 @ Rabbi Katz (in Far Rockaway) 7:30 @ YI Woodmere 1:45 @ 123 Grove Ave, Suite 111, Cedarhurst 7:45 @ Aish Kodesh @ Learning Center (114 Spruce) @ Chabad 5 Towns (S-Th.) @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns 8:00 @ Heichel Dovid in Lawrence 1:50 @ Yeshiva Mercaz HaTorah @ White Shul (S-Th.) @ YI Woodmere 2:00 @ 5 Towns Judaica @ Young Israel of Far Rockaway (S-Th.) @ Brachs 8:30 @Young Israel of North Woodmere @ Elite Caterers (M-Th.) @ Beis Hamidrash Harav @ Yeshiva of South Shore @ Yeshiva Far Rockaway @ YI Lawrence Cedarhurst (Sun) @ YI Woodmere @ YI Woodmere (Sun) 8:50 @ Cong. Beis Tefillah (Edward Ave.) 2:10 @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov (131 Washington) @ Mesivta Chaim Shlomo 2:15 @ Yeshiva Far Rockaway 9:00 @ Cong. Knesseth Meir (The Sand Castle) 2:45 @ Agudas Israel of Long Island @ Rabbi Brown @ Kollel Avreichem (1204 B. 12) @ Shor Yoshuv @ Yeshiva Far Rockaway @ YI Wavecrest and Bayswater @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns @ YI Woodmere @ Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh (2422 Bayswater) 9:15 @ Agudas Israel of Long Island 3:00 @ Judaica Plus @ Shaaray Tefila 3:15 @ Yeshiva Mercaz HaTorah @ YI Lawrence Cedarhurst 3:20 @ Mesivta Chaim Shlomo 9:30 @ Cong. Beth Shalom 3:35 @ DRS @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz (S-Th.) 3:40 @ SKA Library (291 Meadowview Ave. Hewlett Bay Park M-Th.) @ Heichel Dovid in Lawrence 4:15 @ Aish Kodesh @ YI Woodmere 4:30 @ Yeshiva Bnai Torah 9:45 @ Cong. Bais Yehuda Zvi (Red Shul) 4:40 @ Shaare Emunah @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov (131 Washington) @ Shor Yoshuv @ Spinka Shul (10-29 Bay 32nd St., Bayswater) Mincha in the Young Israel of Far Rockaway is approximately 9 minutes after the previous Shabbos's candle lighting time followed @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns by Maariv. 9:50 @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz (M-Th.) 10:00 @ Agudas Israel of Long Island Mincha at the Young Israel of Hewlett is 5 minutes after the @ Cong. Bais Medrash (Rabbi Speigel) previous Shabbos’s candle lighting time. @ DRS Mincha at the Agudath Israel of the Five Towns @ Yeshiva Bnai Torah is 15 minutes before sunset. @ Yeshiva Far Rockaway Mincha at Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s Shul is 10 minutes before @ Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh (2422 Bayswater) sunset Sun.-Thurs. followed by Maariv. 10:15 @ Agudath Israel of 5 Towns Erev Shabbos Mincha at Yeshiva of Far Rockaway and @ Kollel Avreichem (1204 B. 12) Yeshiva Shor Yashuv is 1/2 hour after Chatzos 10:30 @ Agudas Israel of Long Island @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns 11:00 @ Boston Beis Medrash To add or modify a listing, 11:30 @ Boston Beis Medrash please email: [email protected] 12:00 @ Boston Beis Medrash 48 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 49 MINDBIZ time and it’s unbearable. I fi nd that your accomplishments are never now were worthy of anything mean- Continued from Page 48 I’m unable to enjoy anything in my appreciated by the most important ingful. life because I’m never satisfi ed and judge of all—yourself. Consequently, You’ve got a lot of work to do. Hope- me were to fi nd out. Here goes. I’ve always feeling jealous. according to you (and probably only fully, when you get your head on always wanted to be friendly with How does one get rid of jealousy? you), nothing you do ever turns out straight and begin to see yourself and people who were the best. The pret- The Green-Eyed Monster right. others through a new lens, the jeal- tiest, the smartest, the richest, you The basic work you need to do ousy piece will begin to fade away. name it. I was like that in school, and Dear Green Eyed, is to fi gure out why you are so very But fi rst, you need to learn how to here I am, in my thirties, still reaching I can certainly understand why down on yourself. The message play- love yourself and others for all the for the stars. you don’t feel safe sharing these feel- ing nonstop in your head is that you right reasons. I’m an average person, I think. Not ings with anyone. Except, it seems, are basically worthless and undeserv- Esther on the top of the food chain in any your husband. Mind you, it doesn’t ing of love or even praise. Can you fi g- particular area. I’m attractive, not sound as though you respect him all ure out where that message is coming Esther Mann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist beautiful. My husband and I are doing in Lawrence. Esther works with individuals and couples. She can be reached at all right fi nancially, but far from well [email protected] or 516-314-2295. off. I think I’m no dummy, but I’m not brilliant. My husband is a good guy, Friendships, at any age, can bring but I don’t think I married the catch of the century. Get the picture? out the child in certain people. And yet, my friends appear to me to be superstars. Gorgeous, rich, over- Catch up achievers, everything. They seem to have more impressive children than that much or think too highly of him, from and subsequently how to zap I have. Their sheitels always seem to and therefore probably feel comfort- the power out of it? There are some come out looking better than mine. able letting him see you in your least serious self-esteem issues at work on the They seem to have better ideas. Bet- attractive way. Kind of sad. here that need to be addressed. ter success. Everything is better with Yes, you are a very jealous person. Furthermore, it’s time to look for them. Even their cholents taste better! But that may be the least of your friends who allow you to feel safe And I am so jealous, I could just problems. Much more serious is the and comfortable. Friends who will latest scream! 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50 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 51 sidered inyanei d’yoma. The Chasam the start of yom tov, you will be learn- Sofer says this is borne out by the ing hilchos Pesach at your Purim seu- DAF YOMI source for the 30-day rule. Moshe Rab- dah! Since Adar has only 29 days, to beinu taught the halachos of Pesach ensure you study 30 days, you have to INSIGHTS Sheini, which was 30 days away, while include both the 14th of Nissan and the rest of Klal Yisrael was offering the 14th of Adar. By Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow their korban Pesach. The Pri Chadash is incredulous at Pesach Sheini is on the 14th of Iyar. this suggestion. While someone is If one wanted to study its laws 30 downing hamantaschen and wine, A Time To Learn days before, he would start on the can it really be that Pesach is inya- 14th of Nissan and conclude on the nei d’yoma? Shushan Purim we’ll start Recently, a news organization play. If Tejada had run home and been 13th of Iyar. The 30 days have to con- getting rid of chametz in a hurry, but decided it would be interesting to out by a step, the umps would have clude before the start of the relevant on Purim our houses are supposed to see if Major League Baseball players ruled him safe, based on the obstruc- knew the rules of their game. They tion call. composed 10 questions about vari- There is no test for baseball players ous scenarios. On average, the play- to see if they know the rules before If you start 30 days before yom tov, ers answered 5.5 of these true-or-false they join the major leagues. They questions correctly. all know the basic rules and some you will be learning hilchos Pesach Lack of knowledge of the fi ner may only learn the fi ner points the points of baseball rules can some- hard way. I’m sure Tejada knows the times affect the game. In 2003, a obstruction rule now. Some have sug- at your Purim seudah! player on the Athletics did not under- gested that all major-league players stand baseball’s obstruction rule and take a course in baseball rules before made a crucial out in what could they play. day. On the 14th of Nissan, there were be one mean chametz machine. The have been a decisive rally in a divi- Lehavdil, when it comes to learn- surely many urgent questions that Pri Chadash concludes that actually sion series. Miguel Tejada was round- ing halachah, we take this approach. people had regarding their korban one should start learning the laws of ing third when he collided with third The Gemara says in Pesachim (6a) that Pesach that they were bringing that Pesach on Shushan Purim. What bet- baseman Bill Mueller. The umpire one should learn the laws of Pesach very day. Seemingly, Moshe Rabbeinu ter ways to inaugurate the start of ruled that Mueller obstructed Tejada, 30 days before Pesach. The Mishnah should have waited until the next day hilchos Pesach study than by throw- the runner. Tejada assumed the play Berurah quotes many Rishonim that to start dealing with Pesach Sheini ing out or donating all your mish- was dead and leisurely jogged home, this applies to other yomim tovim as issues. Yet Moshe Rabbeinu still dealt loach manos chametz? In this particu- only to be tagged out. The umpires well. Hence, 30 days before Sukkos, with the laws of Pesach Sheini on the lar instance, one actually only studies ruled that he was indeed out. one should start studying the laws of 14th of Nissan since it was considered the laws of Pesach for 29 days. Obstruction only results in a dead lulav and esrog and sukkah. inyanei d’yoma. However, if one wanted to study play if the obstruction happens The Beis Yosef says that if someone Nowadays, when we sadly have no the laws of bedikas chametz 29 days near the ball. Since the baseball was asks a question to a rav on hilchos korban Pesach, actual Pesach rituals before the search, he would still end nowhere near third base, the play con- Pesach 30 days before Pesach, he is start at the night of the Seder, the 15th up starting on Purim. Moreover, many tinues even after the obstruction call. given preferential treatment over of Nissan. What might not be read- Acharonim understand the Gemara lit- The umpires then use their discretion someone who asks a question on a ily apparent is that if you start study- erally that one should always start to see if the obstruction affected the different topic, since Pesach is con- ing the laws of Pesach 30 days before studying the laws of yom tov 30 days

52 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES before their observance. The Mishnah Berurah rules that one should start learning the laws of Pesach on Purim itself, assuming he is sober. Let’s suppose someone did not start studying hilchos Pesach 30 days before. Rosh Chodesh Nissan came and passed, and he still didn’t fi nd the time to start studying the halachos. On the 13th of Nissan, he davens Min- chah. He stays in shul for Ma’ariv and then goes home. He feels remorse that he never found the time to study any hilchos Pesach. He should be starting the bedikah now, but he says to him- self, “Let me learn at least some hala- chos now.” May he? The simple answer is that he may not. When the time for bedikas cha- metz arrives, one should start right away. One should not start any activ- ity, begin a meal, or even learn before he does the bedikah. The Agudas Eizov says there is one activity he may start before the bedikah, and that is to learn the laws of the bedikah! If he is learning the laws of the bedikah, he certainly will remember that he actu- ally has to do the bedikah. Yet the Nitei Gavriel says he may not even learn that! The Rambam, in explaining why one should not start learning even before the time for bedi- kas chametz arrives, states, “He might extend his learning and miss per- forming bedikas chametz at its initial time.” Clearly, the Rambam is of the opinion that Chazal wanted everyone to start bedikas chametz right away. We may not be afraid that he will for- get to do the bedikah, but the person learning hilchos bedikas chametz will certainly miss the start time by study- ing instead. When someone suggests an early start at studying yom tov laws, don’t balk at the idea. It’s really a winning suggestion. 

Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow leads a daf yomi chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead. He can be contacted at [email protected].

And it came to pass after the plague, that G-d spoke to Moshe . . . “Take the sum of all the congregation of the Children of Israel . . .” (Bamidbar 26:1) To what is this comparable? To a shepherd into whose flock there entered a wolf and killed many of them, so he counts them to know how many remain. Another explanation: It is like the case of a shepherd to whom an owner entrusted his flock by number; when the shepherd came to the end of his time, on returning them, he had to number them again. When Israel went out of Egypt G-d entrusted them to Moshe by number (as per Sh’mos 12:37 and Bamidbar 1:1); now that Moshe was about to depart from the world in the plain of Moab, he returned them by number. (Midrash Rabbah; Rashi)

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 53 54 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 55 Get Outta Town!

BY MORDECHAI SCHMUTTER

This summer, if you’re looking to go on a vacation to get away from it all, I would suggest going somewhere out of town. Particularly somewhere “out- of-town-y.” Of course, “out of town” is all a mat- ter of perspective. To people in Brook- lyn, I live out of town, inasmuch as, when I leave the house, I don’t have to take into consideration whether I’m going to lose my parking spot. But I’m not really out of town. I can see the city from any hill in my neighbor- hood. Whereas people who actually live out of town are thinking, “Which city?” Originally, I think, “out of town” meant that there was a town of peo- ple, and your house was literally in the middle of nowhere, and there was a pretty good chance on any given day that you’d be eaten by wolves. Then, once everywhere became settled, “out of town” started to mean “out of the town that we personally live in,” and is generally said by people from big- ger towns, such as New York, about people from smaller towns, such as anywhere that is not New York. But most people defi ne it as an area where there aren’t enough places to get pizza. Some people actually like living out of town. The fact that there’s no paral- lel parking, ever, is a big draw. Those people like to come into town for vacation, so they can spend the entire trip sitting in traffi c, and then come home and tell their friends, and their friends ask, “Traffi c? Really? What’s that like? Do you have pictures?” Life is a lot simpler out of town. That’s why most people in town rarely go out of town. Because what’s out there, really? At most, we go there to look. Also, people involved in kashrus go to look at cows, because cows live mainly where there are very few peo- ple, because of the smell. (People do not smell great.) I recently took a trip out of town, when I went to Cincinnati to host a Chinese auction. Most of my job was to announce the winners and make funny comments about the prizes that would hopefully not offend the donors, most of whom were in atten- dance. And then get out of Cincinnati before they could come after me. And yes, Cincinnati is out of town. Okay, fi ne, so the people in Cincinnati think they’re in town.

56 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES No, I’m just kidding. They know might fall in later.”) But in town, today, at the car-rental counter, and I your parents for yom tov, you want they’re out of town. There are only everyone’s thinking the same thing: gave the guy my information, and he confirmation that you made the about 200 frum families living there. “I don’t want to go; everyone’s gonna said ‘Please?’ I guess in retrospect, he right choice. Also, for some reason, There are over 80 families in my shul be there.” For example, if you see was saying he didn’t get everything I New Jersey is a funny state to make in Passaic, and it’s one of the smaller another frum person in ShopRite, said, but I thought he was just tell- fun of, no matter where you’re from. shuls in town. And they all know your first thought is “I bet he’s going ing me to say, ‘Please.’ Like he’s my It’s like New York’s annoying little each other’s names in Cincinnati. I to get the last two grape juices.” mother. I was pretty sure I’d said brother. don’t even know the names of every- We want to live where everyone ‘please,’ but look, if he didn’t hear And people are definitely polite in one in my shul. With half the peo- else is, but we don’t want to see me, I’ll say it again. So I started over: Cincinnati. Some people came over ple, I’m still not sure if they live here them. ‘I would like to pick up my rental to me afterward and said, “I can’t or if they’re guests who come to Pas- Another thing that my contact told car, please. My name is Mordechai believe you noticed the ‘Please?’ saic a lot. me is that people in Cincinnati are Schmutter.’ And he said, ‘Please?’ And thing after only a few hours in Cin- But on top of making jokes and more punctual. Are in-towners late I said, ‘Please.’ ‘Please?’ ‘Please.’ And cinnati!” And some older gentle- trying not to offend anybody, I was to everything? I wouldn’t say that. he said, ‘No, I didn’t understand what man came over and explained the asked to do some stand-up comedy. We just learned over the years that you said,’ and I responded, ‘Oh. You origin of the expression. It turns “What should I speak about?” I if you try to come on time, there will didn’t understand “please”? What out it comes from the German “bit- asked. be traffic. So we leave later because part of New Jersey are you from?’” teh,” which means both “please” and “I don’t know,” my contact said. we figure that way we’ll get there Now the truth is that I made up “excuse me.” He said the town had “How about some of the differences sooner. We actually might pass our- that story. Like I said, I wrote my some German origins, as though all between Cincinnati and New York?” selves on the way there. whole routine before I left home, the other European explorers tried So I said, “I’ve never actually been So I came up with the follow- and besides, not a single person to settle near the ocean, and the to Cincinnati. You know I’m not ing joke: “This place is really not said, “Please?” to me the entire three Germans somehow took a turn and going to write all my material after I like New Jersey at all. For example, hours that I was in Cincinnati before ended up in Cincinnati. But that get off the plane, right?” I notice that over here, everyone’s a the event started. So I was starting would explain the punctuality. So she said, “Okay, here are some little more . . . punctual. Everyone’s to wonder if people in Cincinnati are So I would definitely suggest going differences: First of all, we’re very here now! So I hope I have enough the opposite of polite—that my con- out of town for vacation. It’s quiet polite over here. Very out-of-town-y.” material. I was actually counting on tact had told me about the “please?” out there, except that people keep (See? They know.) everyone showing up at 9:30. Back thing as a joke, so I’d get up and say coming over and talking to you, even And that’s true. People out of town where I’m from, I’d still be bothering a whole routine, and then later they though you’re clearly a guest. But tend to be more polite. Before all the my wife to get ready to go.” could say to each other, “Remember that’s just Cincinnati. Maybe differ- in-towners write me angry letters, I Another thing she said was that the time that guy flew in from New ent cities will bring different experi- should explain why this is true: If instead of “excuse me,” people in Jersey, and he was saying a whole ences. I’ll let you know the next time you live in town, and you go out of Cincinnati say, “Please?” With a ques- routine and no one knew what he I go somewhere. But don’t count on town for, say, vacation, and you see tion mark. I did think that was inter- was talking about? In-towners are it. As someone who lives in town, I another frum person, even one you esting, because the word for “excuse crazy!” hate getting out of the house.  don’t know, aren’t you more likely to me” here in New Jersey, is . . . Well, I But it turns out she was telling say hello? It’s like how, when you’re don’t know if we have a word for it. the truth. That story got a big laugh, Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor in a boat, you’re 80% more likely to I think it’s, “Hey!” With an exclama- especially the parts where I made columnist for Hamodia and is the author of four books, published by Israel Book Shop. He wave at other people in boats. (“Hey, tion point. fun of New Jersey, because if you’re also does freelance writing for hire. You can it’s another person! I’m in a boat So I got up at the event and said moving to a town with 200 families, send any questions, comments, or ideas to too! Keep an eye on me, because I the following: “I was in the airport and it takes you 12 hours to drive to [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 57 Another Mother’s Musings By Phyllis J. Lubin Time To Wake Up

“Yuss, time to wake up!” cially a high-school graduate! We all “Is it minyan time?” convened at York College Wednes- Yosef has become a regular at the 6:20 day evening last week to watch all the morning minyan at the Chabad of the graduates of HAFTR High School’s class Five Towns. No matter how tired he of 2013 accept their diplomas. I am so is, he knows that he must get up, get proud of Rochel. She has grown into dressed, and get going! a mature, caring, and beautiful young Yussie is very time-oriented. He lady. The graduation brought tears to needs to know exactly when each of my eyes when I realized that her depar- his “events” will take place during the ture for college in the fall is coming that course of the day, and if we are at all much sooner. “late” he will remind us! Friday was spent preparing for Avnet As I sit in front of my computer Country Day’s Sunday-morning pre- screen this morning, musing about the camp orientation for lifeguards. This past few days, I can’t help but smile. summer my eldest three daughters and The week began with a “girls’ night I will be returning to the Avnet water- out.” Last week my mom, Esther David- front. We will have a bonding sum- son, was honored at the Young Israel of mer and will be able to spend quality Woodmere Sisterhood supperette. This time together prior to Rochel’s and Riv- event prompted an opportunity for my ka’s departures for college in the fall. mom, my daughters, my daughter-in-law My eldest daughter will be returning to “junior chazzan” was heard through- yan, he did so with his own tefillin and her mom, my brother’s mother-in- school as well for her master’s in special out the shul. All of a sudden our baby bag in his hands, and he was right on law, my mother-in-law, and me (and my education. is becoming a man! After davening he time!  dad, Donald Davidson—the one male in The weekend family events con- reminded the rabbi that it was time for our group) to have a “night on the town” cluded early Sunday morning with our dessert, and as we noshed on various Phyllis Joy Lubin is an attorney with with the women of the sisterhood. The youngest son’s induction into “tefi l- delectables, Yussie went over to each Maidenbaum & Sternberg, LLP, who resides in Cedarhurst with her husband, Leonard. They food was good, the company was amaz- lin-hood,” which is only a precursor for guest, thanking them for joining in his have six children: Naftali, Shoshana, Rivka, ing, and the night was memorable. his big day at his bar mitzvah in a lit- simcha. Rochel, Yosef, and Lea and a daughter-in-law, The next night was truly unforget- tle over a month! Yosef wore his tefi l- So this morning, not only did Nina. The author welcomes your questions and table. Rochel Raiza Lubin is now offi - lin proudly, and his loud clear voice as Yussie leave with Leib early for min- comments at [email protected].

58 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 59 News From Rambam Mesivta rebbeim, teachers, friends, and family Mr. Goldman concluded the night’s for contributing to his success. festivities by discussing the overall Graduation celebrations. On June serve as a reminder of “the school’s Since virtually all of the boys from achievements of the graduates and his 17 (9 Tammuz), Rambam Mesivta grad- commitment to ahavat Yisrael as the senior class will be studying in confi dence in them that they will all uated its most recent class, in a stu- well as a commitment to bein adam Israel next year, Rabbi Eliach outlined impact the world in a positive way. dent-hosted evening that celebrated l’chavero.” Rabbi Friedman, Principal a list of things that must be experi- He then commenced the “Graduation Torah, middos, and excellence. Seniors Rabbi Yotav Eliach, Assistant Princi- enced in Israel by the boys who would Mezinka Tradition,” now in its third Eric Grossman, Shlomo Laufer, and pal Rabbi Haar, Assistant Principal Hil- be learning there. True to his over 30 year. This award allows the school the Joseph Yizhaky, three outgoing mem- lel Goldman, and Director of College years of educational experience, Rabbi opportunity to recognize parents who bers of Rambam’s a cappella group, The Guidance, Mr. Ira J. Schildkraut, then Eliach brought the house down by sent all of their sons to Rambam and Harmonidies, sang Hatikvah and The distributed merit-based awards to stepping down from the podium and were now graduating their youngest Star-Spangled Banner. Afterward, the individuals in the class. The breadth of actually passing out printed copies of son. Mr. and Mrs. Homayoun Akhavan night’s masters of ceremonies, seniors awards shows that Rambam, in keep- his “Must See in Israel List.” The list and Mr. and Mrs. Richard Miller were Eric Grossman, captain of the Rambam ing with its belief system, truly has a included, among other things, walk- called up to receive plaques that read: choir as well as the hockey team, and team for every talent, a club for every ing derech ha’Avot and visiting various “This award acknowledges your con- award-winning poet and SGO presi- curiosity, and a place for every person. mekomot ha’kedoshim, observing Yom tinued commitment to the Rambam dent Chanani Levy, delighted the audi- Following the senior awards cer- HaShoah at Yad Vashem, and visiting Mesivta and your confi dence in us ence of hundreds of rebbeim, teachers, emony, a special presentation was the graves of fallen Israeli soldiers. that each of your sons, each in his own and family with good-natured humor made honoring Shirley Levy of the Rabbi Friedman then announced way, would receive the unique educa- about the graduating class and the main offi ce and Racheli Werner of that the school would be giving out an tion and warmth he deserves. Several Rambam faculty. They introduced the the business offi ce. Their dedication honorary diploma to Holocaust survi- sons, but one home and one family rosh mesivta, Rabbi Zev Meir Fried- and commitment for the last 10 years vor Jack Ratz, a noted author and fam- devoted to one school.” The mezinka man, who shared with the talmidim stands as an example to the talmidim ily man. Mr. Ratz was assisted to the music was then played as the elated words of guidance and Torah. about how to be a professional in the podium by his grandson Brian Fine, and appreciative parents accepted One of the night’s salutatorians, workplace. a graduating senior. Rabbi Friedman their awards. Moshe Dyckman, then addressed the Shlomo Laufer, also a salutatorian, shared that the successful life of Mr. The MCs announced that the offi cial graduation on a discourse that urged told a story of a chassid of the Avnei Ratz is a testament to his desire to graduation was over and everyone pro- the graduates to always remember the Nezer and how his experience relates share his story with the world and to ceeded to an adjacent room for refresh- quality lessons learned at Rambam to the different places the graduating ensure that the world does not forget. ments, dancing, and yearbook-signing. and to remember that it is all due to class will end up. He stressed, however, Diplomas were then given out as Every student had his own cake, which hard work and the support of family that the values and Torah instilled in Rabbi Friedman and Rabbi Eliach allowed for each family to share in a and loved ones. them by Rambam will always serve as highlighted the interests and accom- little private nachas before the music After Moshe’s delivery, senior class reminders to remain true to all their plishments of every graduate as he started and dancing broke out. president, Gavriel Shechter, along names. Shlomo plans on spending approached the stage. The students As the graduates danced with with other GO Offi cers, Raphi Cooper, next year studying in Gush Etzion. were also given Mr. Ratz’s book, End- fathers, grandfathers, friends, teach- Kenny Goodman, and Michael Ros- The valedictorian, Benjamin Akha- less Miracles, and Masters of the ers, and rebbeim, the feeling of accom- enfeld, presented the school with a van, a LISEF fi nalist, who will be Mesorah: Early Rishonim, by Rabbi plishment was palpable. The Rambam gift from the seniors: a beautiful tze- attending Yeshivat Karen B’Yavneh Zechariah Fendel, z’l, to stress that class of 2013/5773 leaves behind the dakah box with the words “Im eshka- next year, emphasized the achdus and the end of high school is yet another legacy of leadership, middos tovos, and chech . . .” carved on Jerusalem stone. unity of the graduating class before beginning to a life dedicated to learn- academic excellence that was hoped It was noted that the pushkah should concluding his oration by thanking his ing Torah. for when the school was founded

60 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES more than two decades ago. This class serves as a testa- ment to a dream come true, a promise fulfi lled, and a desire to continue molding the lead- ers of tomorrow, today. Rambam Choir, The Har- monidies, fi nal performance of the year at Sandy bene- fi t concert. Following the rav- age of Hurricane Sandy, Jason Berg, a Belle Harbor native, along with other members of the Ohab Zedek community, spent months tirelessly orga- nizing a Sandy relief concert. The concert featured such notable musical talent as Aryeh Kunstler, another Belle Harbor native and concert organizer, Benny Friedman, Shloime Dachs, and The Ram- bam Choir, offi cially known as “The Harmonidies.” Captains Eric Grossman and Tani Martin, along with Moses Bibi, Jacob Friedman, Shlomo Laufer, Joseph Yizhaky, and Yossi Zimilover, were all proud to be part of the con- cert for Belle Harbor Sandy relief funds. It was especially poignant for Shlomo as his grandfather is also a denizen of Belle Harbor. This concert, which thankfully raised thou- sands of dollars for the shul and community members in need, was a huge success. Harmonidies performed a moving rendition of Lecha Dodi as well as their mash-up of One Day and Umacha which were both greeted with great applause from the audience. The group kicked off the year by making the fi rst ever Harmonidies recording and accompanying music video! Their creation, Some Nights Jewish Lyrics, became a huge hit, inspir- ing many people throughout the world, and reached over 20,000 views on YouTube in just a few months. It is amaz- ing how this video was made with the assistance of Aryeh Kunstler and here they were, only a few months later, sing- ing to help rebuild the com- munity of his youth. The Harmonidies then went on to Philadelphia, to the kiruv shul Aish HaTorah, where they led singing and davening while bonding with the Phila- delphia Jewish community in what will always be remem- bered as an unbelievably inspiring Shabbos. They then ended off the year on a strong note, when they competed in the “V’ata Banim Shiru A Cap- pella Competition” for the Koby Mandell Foundation and performed at a JASA nurs- ing home. It is a tribute to Klal Yis- rael how song and a recogni- tion and appreciation of “kol Yisrael areivim zeh la’zeh” can bring everyone together to rebuild.  5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 61 buses, and trains. Modern superhigh- Shacharis minyan at 6:25 a.m. on News From The Hills ways, high-tech all around. And then Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Fridays you see an Arab walking with his don- and at 6:20 a.m. on Mondays and BY CHANITA TEITZ Even from the sky you will be able to key, an Arab shepherd with his lambs Thursdays. The freshly brewed coffee see the city of Tel Aviv, the palm trees and goats. is sponsored l’zchus refuah sheleimah I want to share the “plane letter” I and the sea. Try to relate everything Use your imagination to see the of Tzipporah bas Chana Anat. wrote to my grandson Boruch, who you see to whatever you have learned past. Can you imagine a Jewish fam- This Shabbos, June 29 at 5:30 p.m. left for camp S’dei Chemed in Israel. in Chumash and Navi. These are not ily living during the time of the Beis the Young Israel of KGH will present The message it contains is applicable just ancient stories but this country is HaMikdash? Maybe the father was the third lecture in its summer Shab- to anyone traveling to Israel. alive both with the old and with the a Kohen going to work in the Beis bos afternoon lecture series. Orie Sha- Dear Boruch, new. If you use your imagination, you HaMikdash. A mezuzah is on their piro, Esq., will speak on “Hey Dude, I can’t believe that the little boy can almost see the Jewish nation liv- door, the son is a bar mitzvah boy put- You’re Sitting in My Makom Kavuah: who used to run around my house is ing in the times of Tanach as you walk ting on his tefi llin, while the mother Reserved Pews for Religious Jews?” now going off to Eretz Yisrael for the All men and women are invited. The summer of a lifetime! shiur will be held in the beis midrash In past generations, Eretz Yisrael of the youth building, 150-05 70th was a place people only knew from a If you seek out this connection you Road. distance—from Chumash and Navi. It On Tuesday, July 2 there will be the seemed like a dream to ever get there, will fi nd it at the holy places third annual BBQ at 136-01 72nd Road to actually see the land or walk in it. in Kew Gardens Hills to benefi t Kids That is why those who fi nally reached and in the modern places. of Courage. For more information, the shores of Eretz Yisrael literally fell visit www.kidsoc.org. to their knees and kissed the ground. Due to the overwhelming suc- You are living in a blessed time cess of the last workshop series, when travel is available and parents in the footsteps of Klal Yisrael. is baking challah for Shabbos and the Perel Abramowitz will be doing a can afford to send their children to You will see the glory of our ancient little girls play kugelach or, as they second 7-part series on self-parent- Eretz Yisrael. A non-Jewish broker I country when Dovid HaMelech made call it, chamesh avanim. We are con- ing, Wednesdays at 8:30 p.m. (a pre- once dealt with was shocked that I Yerushalayim his capital and later nected through time with our people. view began this week) at the Kehilat had children living and learning in when the Beis HaMikdash stood on Boruch, if you seek out this connec- Sephardim, 150-62 78th Road, second Israel. “Isn’t it dangerous?” she asked top of the very mountain in Yerusha- tion you will fi nd it at the holy places fl oor. For more information and to me. Even with the danger, we Jews layim where Avraham and Yitzchak and in the modern places. You will register, contact Rebbetzin Ora Nisa- have not stopped going to Israel or went to the Akeidah. Now you can be fi nd it in the cities and you will fi nd nov at 516-250-9652 or 718-969-1855 or sending our precious children there. witness to the world that this land is it in the fi elds, in the mountains and by e-mail at [email protected]. That alone is an inspiration. Don’t our land for over 3,000 years. in the deserts. Hold the date! Mrs. Chana Silver, take this opportunity for granted, and Israel is a land of contrasts— Zaidie and I wish you a safe trip and a popular teacher at several seminar- make sure you thank your parents. ancient and modern. The new, mod- a great summer! Together with the ies in Jerusalem, as well as a lecturer By the time you arrive, I know that ern cities existed in Tanach and are ruchniyus you will have a lot of fun for Aish Hatorah’s Discovery Programs you’ll be exhausted but at the same still called by their ancient names. too! We love you! and Ner L’elef Kiruv Training, will be time the excitement will be so great And the streets have ancient names, Some Bubby tips: giving a shiur in Kew Gardens Hills that you’ll get a second wind. Take too. Ancient names on new streets Drink, drink, drink water through- on July 9 at 8:00 p.m. at 72-23 139th in everything that you see and hear. fi lled with modern buildings, cars, out the day to prevent dehydration. Street. Wear a hat when you are outdoors to prevent heatstroke. And that’s For Your Information another reason to keep drinking. According to the New York State Stay with your group and don’t wan- Association of Realtors, home prices der off by yourself. It’s a Jewish coun- have risen for the seventh consecu- try, but there are still Arabs around. tive month. “Strong buyer demand Stay safe. coupled with a tighter supply of Thank the soldiers who guard your homes has helped drive the statewide group. Talk to them and try to get to median sales price up for the seventh know them. Buy them a drink. Tell consecutive month,” said Duncan R. them how proud you are of them. MacKenzie, NYSAR CEO. Take lots of pictures. For potential sellers in our area, Daven for all of us.  buyer demand is high and we are beginning to see an increase in new Upcoming Events listings. If you have been thinking of Starting this Shabbos at 11:20 a.m., R’ selling, today’s sellers’ market is the Marcus of Kehilas Ishei Yisrael (KIY) right time to put your house up for will be giving a daf yomi shiur at KIY sale.  with the beginning of Pesachim and will continue the shiur every day of Chanita Teitz is a real-estate broker at Astor the week at 5:40 a.m. before Shacharis Brokerage, with offi ces in Kew Gardens Hills and Fresh Meadows. For all your real-estate at KIY, 70-10 150th Street. needs in Queens, call her at 718-263-4500 or KIY will be starting a weekday e-mail [email protected].

He died in his own sin (Bamidbar 27:3) Rabbi Akiva says: he was the wood gatherer (cf. Bamidbar 15:32–36). Rabbi Shimon says: He was from those who stormed the mountain to enter the Land (ibid. 14:40–45). (Talmud; Rashi) The daughters of Tzelafchad wished to strengthen their argument, “Why should the name of our father be eliminated [from those receiving a portion in the Land]?” by stressing that their father was not guilty of his generation’s spurning of the land. According to the opinion that he was the “wood gatherer,” he died many months before the Spies’ mission (according to the Talmud, the incident of the wood gatherer occurred on the second Shabbat after the Giving of the Torah). And if he was one of the “mountain stormers,” their sin was that they so deeply regretted falling prey to the Spies’ evil report that they erred in the other direction, and lost their lives in the effort to enter the Land in violation of the Divine decree. (The Lubavitcher Rebbe)

62 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES My Favorite Dinner Of The Year

BY AVRAHAM BURGER recognition, more honor and respect for their accomplishments than a The Priority-1 dinner is my favorite “standard” graduation ceremony dinner on the “dinner calendar” each would afford. year. Now granted, I am a bit biased, Why? To an outsider it may seem considering that I am employed by Pri- silly or misplaced to aggrandize the ority-1; however, even looking through sense of accomplishment of young my rose-colored glasses, there is a key men that are simply completing high difference that takes this event to school. Sure, for any student’s parents another level. it is a special moment, a special time

Principals Yossie Feintuch and Simcha Leibowicz with a graduate

graduated from high school, a proud applaud their progress, growth, and young man with a bright future ahead accomplishments. of him. The graduates of our high school Moshe is now learning in a yeshiva are all normal boys. They live regu- in Israel and his parents couldn’t be lar lives and come from families liv- prouder. The difference between ing in our communities. They attend Moshe’s graduation and any other the same schools as everyone else graduation is the amount of work it . . . until one day they don’t. One took to get from point A to point B. day they are expelled, excluded, and Some children struggle to achieve often alienated. The reasons vary as Rabbi Shaya Cohen with guest of honor Mr. David Devor what may be perceived as “nor- widely as there are individual person- mal.” In many respects, their regular alities. From divorce and family trag- It’s not the food, although Sharmel to see a peak in their efforts to raise accomplishment can require extraor- edy, to molestation, learning disabil- Caterers does a phenomenal job of their child, but to most others it is a dinary efforts to overcome unusual ities, biological causes, and bullying, providing a delicious smorgasbord to relatively ordinary occurrence. Is the roadblocks that other children don’t to being too smart or too dumb, too delight any palate. And it is not the Priority-1 graduation really so special? experience. When a child struggles big or too strange, there are myriad ambience, although the crowd is great Why are these boys more important to succeed or to excel in any area of reasons why a child may go “off the and the program is quick! It’s not than the thousands of other gradu- their life, we, as parents, educators, even the honorees, although we have ates that complete high school each and community members, should Continued on Page 67 been blessed each year with individ- year? uals of outstanding character, includ- Let me tell you the story of Moshe ing this year’s honorees, Mr. and Mrs. B. (his name has been changed), a local David Devor and Mr. and Mrs. Aron boy that was a graduate from Priori- Tzvi Robinson. ty-1’s high school a few years ago. The real difference-maker is the tra- Sixteen-year-old Moshe was caught dition of having the Priority-1 high drinking (alcohol) and was thrown school graduation at our annual din- out of his second high school. His ner and paying tribute to our gradu- parents tried to convince the prin- ates. The last part of the program, the cipal to let him stay, promising that graduation offers a brief window into his behavior would change, but their a single, special moment in the lives pleas were to no avail . . . and Moshe

Moshe’s story is a remarkable triumph of hard work and dedicated professional help.

of these young men. We can watch slipped further and further away from as they transition from their high- religious observance and began to school years to whatever comes next, exhibit increasingly worse behavior. whether it is learning in Israel, going Arriving in Priority-1’s Torah Acad- to college, or anything else. emy high school in eleventh grade, We can look back on years past Moshe’s behavior deteriorated and with a sense of pride and accomplish- he seemed lost. However, after a few ment, knowing we have helped them short months small changes began reach this achievement. And we can to be seen. Rebbeim and school ther- look forward with hope and excite- apists spent long hours talking to ment as we watch their growth into Moshe, building up his confidence the future. and teaching him to believe in his This tradition began a few years own abilities and self-worth. ago, when the principals of the The work was hard and some days high school felt that their students Moshe would find the challenges too deserved a graduation on a grander difficult, but he kept at it and perse- scale than what they had to offer, vered. Gradually, Moshe found his being a small school with a small stu- place and began to harness the poten- dent body and graduating class. They tial he had inside all along. Two years felt that the students deserved more after enrolling in Priority-1, Moshe 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 63 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS

TOVA Hits Grand Slam Goldfeder, Rockaway’s state assembly- With Home Run Derby man, threw out the fi rst ball to TOVA’s Monday evening, June 24, the TOVA program director, Yehuda Klinkow- mentoring program knocked it out of itz. Great food, fantastic prizes, and an the park with their fi rst annual Home atmosphere of enthusiasm marked this Run Derby competition in North Wood- event as a truly memorable evening. mere Park. With the weather coop- The Home Run Derby was a joint erating beautifully, nearly 60 batters effort between the TOVA program and cheered on by hundreds of support- the Croton Softball League to build ers took to the plate in an effort to be awareness of and raise funds for the crowned home-run champion. Phil valuable services that TOVA provides. L–R: Chaim Silber (of Lobos), Evan Blachman (Croton Softball league), Asher Ingbar, Eliezer “Zezy” Fuld (director of development, TOVA), Yehuda Klinkowitz, and Abi Liff

Joe Eisenberg of Triple Net came in second. Getting ready for the fi rst Home Run Derby!

64 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION TOVA has been a staple of the so quickly and so successfully.” community hospital offer- Five Towns/Far Rockaway “Belle Harbor is back and bet- ing comprehensive medi- community since 1997, provid- ter than ever,” Rabbi Selengut cal surgical care including ing mentors to our commu- concluded. There were laughs obstetrics/gynecology, psychi- nity’s youth to prevent at-risk and cries throughout the event atric care, and ambulatory pri- and self-destructive behavior. as everyone took in the fact mary and specialty care, visit In addition to being a highly that Belle Harbor has fi nally www.ehs.org.  successful fund- and friend- returned. This Jewish commu- raiser, the event served as a nity, which was established PPL Board Appoints reminder that a great time over 90 years ago, showed that Samuel Francis with good friends who share they are not going anywhere. As Trustee community spirit and a gen- For more information about On Thursday evening, Sam- erous heart can also make the helping Ohab Zedek or if you uel Francis, who won elec- difference for our youth and would like to spend Shabbos tion to the Peninsula Public Library trustees at the inauguration ceremony for Sam Francis for our community. in Belle Harbor, please contact Library board of trustees on Congratulations to Asher Rabbi Selengut at Selengut@ May 21, was appointed to the A frequent patron of librar- ages and backgrounds, offering Ingbar, the Home Run King. gmail.com or 201-658-2478.  library board. Although Samu- ies, he has researched and pub- free access to books, videos, In second place was Joe Eisen- el’s term offi cially starts in July, lished journal articles on a and computers. The library is berg and in third place, Pinky St. John’s Hospital he was appointed immediately range of topics. Sam and his one of the few remaining quiet Friedman. Hope they have a Recognized For to fi ll the vacancy left on the family have lived in Cedar- places, free of distractions, great time in Israel or at the Improvement board by the passing of former hurst for more than fi ve years, where one can focus and con- ballgames. For more infor- St. John’s Episcopal Hospital trustee Joel Shiff. and his wife, Aviva, was born centrate. We and our children mation or to support other in Far Rockaway has been rec- Samuel Francis, 29, is an and raised in Lawrence just a are encouraged to read, learn, TOVA initiatives, please con- ognized with a 2013 IPRO Qual- attorney and CPA experienced few blocks from the library. and participate in a variety of tact Zezy Fuld, director of ity Award. The awards, given in corporate litigation, audit, While at Fordham Law School cultural and educational pro- development, at 516-295-0550, annually by IPRO, recognize and tax matters, focusing his together, they co-founded grams. While online search ext. 102 or e-mail zezyfuld@ organizations and profession- practice on investment man- Fordham PALS (Parents Attend- engines spit out millions of tovamentoring.org.  als that demonstrate a commit- agement at Skadden, Arps, ing Law School) to provide results, our librarians can give ment to improving the quality Slate, Meagher & Flom. Sam support for fellow students you a single, correct, and unbi- 400 Attend Ohab of care provided to New York’s also advises various not-for- with children. ased answer. The library can Zedek For ‘Rebuild Medicare benefi ciaries. profi t organizations through- Samuel commented, “Even serve as a center of our vibrant Belle Harbor’ IPRO is the Medicare Quality out New York and has worked in the Internet age, the library community to hold meetings, Concert Improvement Organization for with a number of synagogues is in many ways more critical By Steven Liker New York State, and manages in the community. than ever. It serves people of all Continued on Page 69 It was a full house at Con- the state’s End-Stage Renal Dis- gregation Ohab Zedek in Belle ease Network for the Centers Harbor for the special “Rebuild for Medicare & Medicaid Ser- Belle Harbor” concert. After vices. The awards were given a challenging year of recov- during IPRO’s 29th annual ery from Hurricane Sandy, the meeting, June 4, at the LaGuar- community in Belle Harbor dia Marriott Hotel. and beyond came out to cel- “St. John’s Episcopal Hospi- ebrate the chanukas ha’bayis tal has demonstrated signifi - of its shul. The concert fea- cant improvements in the care tured Benny Friedman, Shlo- it provides, as a result of a col- ime Dachs, Aryeh Kunstler, laborative and focused effort,” Avraham Rosenblum, and the says Clare B. Bradley MD, MPH, Rambam High School Choir. senior vice president and chief All proceeds from the con- medical offi cer of IPRO. “We cert will go towards rebuild- thank St. John’s for their com- ing Ohab Zedek, which suf- mitment to improving the fered $1 million of damage in health of New Yorkers.” the storm, and to individuals St. John’s received the in need following the storm. IPRO Quality Award for pro- Some 400 people packed the cess changes to improve majestic block-long shul to cel- patient safety, reduce infec- ebrate and assist one of the tion rates, and provide quality longest-lasting Jewish commu- care. Efforts included creating nities in the Rockaways/Five cross-departmental collabora- Towns area. The lively singing tions to improve performance and impromptu dancing at the monitoring; developing event underscored the emo- department-specifi c quality tion that fi lled the room. plans; redesigning their med- Families that grew up in the ical records system to facili- neighborhood came together tate improved data collection; from all over in the few weeks and implementing an open- after the storm and decided to door policy between the infec- make this event happen. Jason tion-control department and Berg, Nachi Feit, and Aryeh the hospital staff. Kunstler spearheaded efforts “We are very proud to receive with my assistance and that the IPRO Quality Award. Our of Barbara Berg, both longtime staff puts patient safety and members of Ohab Zedek. “With infection control fi rst. The over 90 percent of members of team is very pleased to have the Belle Harbor Jewish com- their initiatives and hard work munity having returned, the recognized with this pres- time was ripe for celebrating tigious honor,” said Nelson and doing something to help Toebbe, CEO of the hospital. the community,” commented For more information about one of the organizers. Rabbi IPRO and a complete list of Tsvi Selengut, rabbi of Ohab 2013 Quality Award winners, Zedek, said the event was “not visit www.ipro.org. For more just a fundraiser but an event information about St. John’s of thanks for having returned Episcopal Hospital, a 257-bed TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 65 66 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION Priority-1 on a course of success and growth for Continued from Page 63 years to come. Moshe’s story is a remarkable tri- derech” or become “at risk” and stray umph of hard work and dedicated from the direction of their family, of professional help to overcome obsta- their friends, and of their commu- cles on the path to high-school gradu- nity. Many of our boys are extremely ation and a return to Yiddishkeit. But smart and sensitive, which can mag- there are many more boys out there nify the difficulty of dealing with in need of our help. adverse life situations. Whether it is Last week, the Priority-1 26th anni- nature or nurture (usually it is some versary dinner featured the gradua- combination of both) that is causing tion of the fourteenth class of the Pri- the child’s issues, there is always one ority-1’s high school. Each graduate common denominator: they all have has his own story, his own obstacles the potential to succeed. to overcome, and his own goals and No matter how many schools a aspirations he aims to achieve. It was child has been expelled from or how truly an inspirational moment for many times he has been kicked out of me, and I ask you to join me in mak- his home, he still craves acceptance ing these moments a reality for many and love. He still desires respect and more young men in the future. achievement. And oftentimes when At the dinner, an anonymous local these young men are given that love philanthropist was so touched that and given an opportunity to succeed, he approached Rabbi Shaya Cohen the results can be miraculous. immediately after the graduation and The witness of the culmination offered $50,000 as a matching grant to of years of hard work, years of over- help raise money for Priority-1. Every coming challenges, years of ups-and- boy that graduates is an entire world downs, is an inspirational sight to changed, an entire world reoriented behold and is the real reason this din- towards success, reinvigorated with ner and graduation was so special. It life and Yiddishkeit. Please help Prior- is the real reason I and many others ity-1 continue to create truly special stuck it out until the end of the din- moments for young men desperately in ner (although the Viennese dessert need of more recognition and respect table was a nice bonus as well). for their tremendous accomplishments. The nonprofit world is often a Please visit www.priority-1.org or tough place to work. The pay is not call 516-295-5700, ext. 10, for more generally great and there aren’t many information or to become a partner perks, but there are moments like in Priority-1’s efforts.  these when we know we have pos- itively impacted the lives of these Avraham Burger is the administrative director young men and hopefully set them of Priority-1.

TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 67 love to have a chance to work there. fective and often just plain wrong. If Frustration #4: Job Fairs He asks for a chance to talk sometime you need to fi nd a job, you have no The Job Hunter Studies show that even at the best job soon, even if there are no openings. time to waste. Getting the guidance fairs, the odds are about 1 in 10. A rec- He asks for a business card and fol- that sets you on the right track takes a BY RABBI MORDECHAI ipe for more frustration. Unless . . . lows up with an e-mail the next day. few hours, but it can make a lifetime KRUGER If you’ve been reading this column His goal is to get an appointment to of difference.  every week, you may know where I’m come in and talk—to crawl onto the Like the Cross Bronx Expressway, going with this. The secret to job-fair company’s radar screen. He wants Rabbi Mordechai Kruger is the founder the job hunter’s road is crowded, success depends on fi nding the com- them to know he’s out there, and that and director of Pathways to Parnassa, an organization providing job-search and career strewn with debris, and dotted with panies there that are hiring people he’s ready and able to do a great job coaching to our community. He can be reached potholes. Small wonder that so many like you—and especially the ones that for them. at [email protected]. people get off at the nearest exit, go aren’t. As we’ve said before, “not hir- Having made his connection at Met back home, and give up. And just like ing” often means “not hiring today.” Life, our accountant moves on to the the New York driver, the job hunter Tomorrow? Who knows? next table. Again, he is not only look- has some devices that could be help- ful—if only he knew how to use them. One such device is the “job fair.” Imagine an accountant who goes Catch up Job fairs were created in the years following World War II. At that time, big corporations were rapidly expand- to a job fair and walks up to a table ing. Each year, they needed to hire thousands of new employees. For where they are looking to hire on the example, the carmakers needed truck- loads of fresh engineers. So they would hold events at likely loca- insurance salesmen. tions, like the Engineering Building at the University of Michigan. Supply latest met demand, and lots of people went Imagine an accountant who goes to ing for openings, but for connections home happy. a job fair and walks up to a table where at any company that employs peo- People today still use that model, Met Life is looking to hire insurance ple that do what he does. Later, on bringing together lots of potential salesmen. Most accountants will hear the way out, he meets a friend from employers in a place where lots of job this and just keep walking. But our accounting school who did not come breaking hunters can line up and try to make a accountant has a job-search coach (I prepared, who is bemoaning the time fi rst impression that is good enough can recommend one), so he sees the he wasted to fi nd no openings. Our to get invited for a real interview. opportunity here. He knows that Met accountant had a much more produc- But today the fair will likely include Life hires accountants, just not today. tive day. employers in many fi elds, each look- So he waits until the line thins out, The lesson here is that in so many news at ing to hire a small number of people. and then he walks up to the recruiter areas, like want ads, résumés, net- So for any particular job hunter, there and makes his pitch. He explains that working, and more, the conventional will really be only a few possibilities, he feels that his skills are just what wisdom, the plain common sense www.5TJT.com and the chances of success are small. Met Life needs, and that he would that guides most job searches, is inef-

68 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS and events to keep the whole family Continued from Page 65 entertained this summer. The success of their programs throughout the year study groups, and special events. has, b’H, proven that the library fi lls an “That said, particularly in these important void for our vibrant Jewish uncertain economic times, it is imper- community. ative that our taxpayer dollars to the The year got off to a slow start as we library are being spent wisely. I will were all struggling to move forward work together with the other trust- after Hurricane Sandy. Once power was ees to operate within responsible bud- restored, the library was able to reopen gets while maintaining fi nancial trans- and provide families and schools with parency. We need to modernize the a much-needed reprieve for those need- library and integrate new technolo- ing an outlet. gies, including expanding our offering With mixed emotions, December of e-books and online resources. We are came and the library marked its sec- all aware of the inadequacies of the cur- ond anniversary. In a heartfelt program, rent building, and I am determined to a special siyum to observe what would move forward with the efforts to fi nd have been Levi Yitzchak Wolowik’s bar the library a new home. I believe that I mitzvah was arranged by Rabbi Zalman bring a unique perspective and qualifi - and Mrs. Chanie Wolowik. Hundreds of cations to the board and look forward people came out to remember Levi on to representing all constituents of the that special day and show their support district in the coming years.” for the Wolowik family and the Levi Fellow trustees Joe Fuller, Jeff Leb, Yitzchak Library. Joan Lepelstat, and Sarah Yastrab join Winter was quite fi erce and lingered the library and staff in welcoming for way too long, but the warmth that Sam to the board and look forward to was felt inside the library was unsur- working with him to benefi t the library passed, as evident from the smiles of and the community.  the children and adults coming and going all day long. Summer At The Levi From “A Little Curious” to “Story Yitzchak Library And Time” to author visits by local psycholo- Family Center gists, as well as a special viewing of The It’s hard to believe that the school Lion of Judah by the late Reb Leibel Zis- year is already over and summer is now man, a’h, there was something special upon us. While kids were getting ready for everyone. for school to end and you were getting Join the library this summer and get them ready for the summer, the staff at out of the heat as they continue with the Levi Yitzchak Library and Family dynamic programs and special events. Center has been working hard to plan fun, exciting, and innovative programs Continued on Page 70

TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 69 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Gianni Ices’ Sampler Sale Continued from Page 69 In Cedarhurst, June 27 Gianni New York is perhaps the only New for this summer, the library is super-premium gourmet Italian ices offering a special summer membership. brand with both Kof-K and the more hei- ‘Mac’ Book Club. An innovative and mish Tartikov certifi cation. The brand, interactive book club featuring a deli- which has gained international recog- cious dinner of mac and cheese from nition for fl awlessly re-creating the rich Qcumbers. For children entering sec- taste and texture of authentic Italian ond through fourth grades. Mondays, ices in a prepackaged retail product, is July 1–August 12, 6:00–7:00 p.m. Space counting on its retail sampling program is limited. LYL Member: $60/ non-mem- to help consumers make the “Gianni = ber $90. Summer” connection. Video Night. For boys and girls ages “Seeing may be believing, but in this 4+, Mondays, July 1 and 29, 7:00 p.m. For case, tasting is unbelievable,” said a women and girls only (8+), Monday, July company spokesman when asked why 22 at 8:00 p.m. Suggested donation $8. the brand was launching the sampling Book Buddies. Teens and children program. “The best ads, promotion, read together and enjoy a delicious sur- and even word of mouth don’t get us prise treat from Qcumbers. Wednes- the response that a simple taste does. days, July 3–August 14, 5:30–6:15 p.m. People immediately realize we’re not $30 per session (seven weeks) or $5 per some mass-produced, sticky sweet ices week. that’s little more than fl avored water. Story Time. Mitzvos stories will be They’re almost awed by the way our read, a special time before going to bed! natural fruit fl avor explodes on their Crafts and activities, what a treat. For a tongues and taste buds while the special story, we’ll all meet! Children 3+ unique texture that’s a result of our Thursdays, July 4–August 15 at 5:00 p.m. small batch manufacturing process Library summer hours are Sundays, enhances the experience as it tickles 11:00 a.m.–5:00 p.m. (closed on alternat- their tongues and taste buds. You can ing Sundays); Mondays, 11:00 a.m.–6:00 communicate that in an ad, but you p.m.; Tuesdays, 2:00–7:00 p.m.; Wednes- can’t really capture it. So instead we days, 11:00 a.m.–6:00 p.m.; and Thursdays, decided to take our message to the 11:00 a.m.–6:00 p.m. Closed on Fridays. people via our summer sample sale. The Levi Yitzchak Library is located at We’re fi nding that people who try us 564 Central Avenue in Cedarhurst. For buy us, and with summer being peak summer, family, and individual member- ices season, it looks like this will be ships, donation and special sponsorship a Gianni summer,” concluded the opportunities, and other information, spokesperson. call 516-374-BOOK (2665) or e-mail info@ lylibrary.org or [email protected].  Continued on Page 78

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REAL ESTATE Cedarhurst — New to market, beautiful total renovated Lawrence — Co-op. First fl oor. Beautiful, spacious, light Lawrence/Far Rockaway — Co-op Freshly painted large 1BR, 1.5bth, fi rst fl oor co-op with private patio and garden, and bright 2BR, 2bth (1 Jacuzzi), new kosher granite kitchen, 2BR, 2bth, kosher kitchen, LR, FDR, terrace, 24-hour doorman, Shabbos top of the line everything, w/d, low maintenance, parking, FDR, sunken LR, high ceilings, in prestigious elevator building. elevator. Walk all...... $329K FOR SALE great location, walk all asking ...... $299K Low maintenance, walk all ...... $379K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710, or call 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Joan 516-319-4482 Woodmere — Ours Alone!!! 4BR, 3.5 Bath Split Woodmere/Cedarhurst Oppty! 12,000 sq. ft. approx. 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Built In 2010, 5BR, 3.5 Spacious Tropicana with water views. Walking distance to all. 319-4482 Brick, C/H COL, Stately brick, w/old world charm, ...... $1500 Bath CH Colonial, Top Of The Line, Features: Radiant Heat, CAC, Hi ceilings, 6Br, 4.5 bths, Kosher EIK, Lg. FDR, Library, Fin. Bsmt., SD#15. Low taxes...... $660K Douglas Elliman call Dalia 516-849-2522 Hw Floors, Steam Shower, Jacuzzi Tub, Elevator, Heated AG Call Joan 516-319-4482 Lg Prop., walk all...... $875K Pool, Granite Counter Tops, Alarm, Video Surveillance System, 5 Towns Homes 516-569-5710 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710 Hewlett — Magnifi cent 1st Fl Apt, 2BR, 2 Bath, New 2 Dishwashers, 2 Sinks, Double Oven, Water Filtration System Hewlett — Co-op Beautiful 1BR, EIK, LR, new bth, fi rst Woodmere Colonial For Sale Kitchen, Granite Countertops, HW Floors, W/D, Lots Of Closets...... $879K fl oor, w/d, parking & storage, private patio. Prime location, 6 BR 3.5 Bath Col. Master suite w/ bath. Fin. Bsmt, BR, bath + more. 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OPEN HOUSE OPEN HOUSE Mon July 1st Mon July 1st 6-7:30p.m. 6-7p.m. 435 Albermarle Rd. 611 Bridge St.

1st showing. Pristine Colonial in prime "Sandy Dry" Mint multi level home with scenic water views, 5 Bdrms, Lg location. Custom eat in kitchen,Large master suite, FLR, FDR, EIK, Den, Charming cul-de-sac main level den, finished basement $500’s $569K CEDARHURSTRST WOODMERE

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OPEN HOUSE Sun June 30th OPEN HOUSE BY APPT Sun June 30th 12-1p.m. 206 Juniper Circle

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 75 76 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 77 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS MAY Sends Off Class arship to Yeshiva University’s Schotten- who also addressed those assembled. Continued from Page 70 Of ’13, Welcomes Class stein Honors Program, both delivered After a delicious catered dinner and Of ’17 inspiring and passionate messages to numerous raffl es, students were given The product line, which is based Mesivta Ateres Yaakov held the senior their fellow graduates. limudei kodesh and general studies on generations of family recipes, graduation last Thursday evening in Among the graduates, 18 students summer assignments and were wished includes the classic fl avors synony- its beautiful beis midrash in Lawrence. were recipients of a variety of awards a fun and safe summer vacation. Rabbi mous with Italian ices like lemon, Graduating from the mesivta were 43 and recognitions ranging from excel- Yaffe remarked, “I always like that the cherry, mango, coconut, and water- students, 41 of whom will be traveling to lence in middos and character to effort incoming freshman class get together melon. Unlike most of their Ital- ian-ices counterparts, these are as rich in real refreshing fl avor as they are in heritage. Thanks to the addition of the Tar- tikov hechsher, which is overseen by Rabbi Naftali Meir Babad (the brand already had the internation- ally respected Kof-K), Gianni’s is get- ting noticed in new markets as well. “The hechsher gets the initial atten- tion but as shoppers in these markets put a premium on fl avor, quality, and natural ingredients, it’s what’s inside that’s closing the sale.” While the summer sampling cal- endar is still being finalized (events in Lakewood, Monsey, Queens, Man- hattan, and Brooklyn are awaiting confirmation) residents of the Five Towns and surrounding areas will be able to enjoy a firsthand summer sample at Gourmet Glatt of the Five Towns located at 137 Spruce Street in Cedarhurst. The event, which is Eretz Yisrael next year to learn full time and excellence in limudei kodesh and to meet each other before the pressures scheduled for Thursday, June 27, in a number of different yeshivos. Salu- general studies. Menahel Rabbi Morde- of a new year start. In this way, from the 12:00–5:00 p.m., will also feature tatorian Ari Halpern of Lawrence, who chai Yaffe, who conducted the evening’s outset they become accustomed to inte- “sample sale” savings as impressive received a full scholarship to Macaulay proceedings, delivered the keynote grating to form a single cohesive unit as the product. Honors College at CUNY Queens Col- address. A special tribute was made to of Ateres Yaakov talmidim. Tonight’s For more information about Gianni lege, will be attending Yeshivas Toras Rabbis Shalom Greenspan and Baruch dinner was a great start, and each year or to arrange for a sampling sale at Moshe, and valedictorian Gavriel Sturm Rabinowitz, two veteran rebbeim, who I am increasingly impressed with the your supermarket or grocer, please con- of Woodmere, who is headed to Yeshi- are pursuing other avenues to share academic skills and the great middos of tact BH Ice Cream at 917-939-2123.  vas Sha’alvim and received a full schol- their special talents. The evening con- our entering students. I expect that this cluded with a beautiful collation and cohort will distinguish themselves in spirited dancing among rebbeim, talmi- our yeshiva and be sources of pride to dim, fathers, and family. their families and Klal Yisrael.”  MAY also recently held its annual freshman orientation dinner for the JCCRP Annual Free incoming ninth-grade class. Selected Concert And Fair from over 100 applicants, the 50 new The Jewish Community Council of talmidim comprising the graduating the Rockaway Peninsula (JCCRP) held class of 2017 hail from ten different ele- its annual free concert and fair on Mon- mentary schools. day, June 24, on Reads Lane in Far Rock-

Councilman Donovan Richards and Nathan Krasnovsky, executive director of JCCRP

The dinner included ice-breaking away. Performing were Shloime Dachs activities as well as addresses from and the Shloime Dachs Orchestra & the menahel, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe; Singers. The orchestra played several the mashgiach ruchani, Rabbi Yehuda Hebrew songs and then, because of Horowitz; the general studies principal, the number of children in attendance, Rabbi Sam Rudansky; and the assistant switched to popular children’s songs menahel/assistant principal, Rabbi Yossi that animated the audience. The chil- Bennett. Representing the student gov- dren were also treated to free rides and ernment was co-president Naftali Engel, many giveaways. Warren Levi of Warren 78 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES mas HaTorah, Rabbi Yissochar Blinder, to the yeshiva this past year. He cited Rabbi Pinchas Weinberger, and Rabbi Rabbi Goldenberg’s warmth and down- Abi Goldenberg. A beis midrash geared to-earth approach with the bachurim, for post-high-school bachurim look- creating a force that uplifts the entire ing to develop themselves further as beis midrash. He also thanked Rabbi true bnei Torah while advancing their Simcha Leibowitz, who is a menahel career educations, the yeshiva, located by day and runs the yeshiva’s night in Bais Medrash Heichal Dovid in Law- seder program. Before introducing rence, has grown since its inception Rabbi Pinchas Weinberger, he noted two years ago to presently include that there is learning Torah and there 25 bachurim. Its program’s unique- is feeling a passion for Torah. Yeshiva ness stems from a warm and personal Nishmas HaTorah works to bridge the approach to the bachurim, match- two ideas, laying the foundation to ing levels of learning to each partic- ensure there is always a passion for ular talmid’s capacity while placing a Torah and Yiddishkeit in whatever one strong emphasis on shleimus ha’adam. might encounter through life. The program offers tools and insight When Rabbi Weinberger began to help each talmid achieve his unique speaking, he asked the audience to potential, keeping the ruach of a full- take themselves back a few years, to time yeshiva while stressing produc- the time they had just come back from Shloime Dachs entertaining the crowd tivity and responsibility for oneself learning in Eretz Yisrael. It is a delicate and to the klal. time for most bachurim, fi lled with Levi Martial Arts & Fitness was on hand After Minchah and a delicious buf- Rabbi Blinder started the evening confusion and often downslides in to dazzle the children and to teach them fet of steak, wine, and sushi catered by thanking everyone for ventur- avodas Hashem—and yet, it is a time valuable techniques. Warren empha- by Yanky Potash, everyone turned ing out on such a wet night, and also when life decisions are made. sized basic life skills, such as manners, their attention to an inspiring pro- expressed a deep appreciation to the “Imagine a yeshiva schedule that listening, and focusing their attention. gram describing the yeshiva, led by yeshiva’s third partner, Rabbi Abi Gold- Warren and his friendly instructors the roshei yeshiva of Yeshiva Nish- enberg, for adding a new dimension Continued on Page 80 helped instill self-esteem in the young children, and the older children learned traditional karate skills. The JCCRP would like to extend many thanks to event sponsors 718-Insurance, Apple Bank for Savings, Atlaz Com- puters and Consulting, Far Rockaway Kosher Pizza, Gourmet Glatt Emporium, Health Plus, Kosher World, Life House, Ohel: Project Hope, PIP Printing, Prism Insurance Group, Russo’s Pharmacy, and Traditions eatery. The JCCRP would like to thank elected offi cials who helped make this event happen—State Senator James Sander Jr., State Senator Joseph P. Add- abbo Jr., Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder, and Councilman Donovan Richards. It was truly a pleasure to have Assembly- man Goldfeder and Councilman Rich- ards in attendance. The JCCRP would also like to thank the NYPD’s 101 Precinct and the FDNY for participating; the children truly enjoyed their presence. A special thanks to Yoni Dembitzer, the community’s police liaison, and Pesach Osina for helping to arrange the concert. Also, the JCCRP would like to thank local businesses that donated raffl e prizes for the street fair. The street clo- sures may have created some minor problems for neighbors and JCCRP appreciates the community’s cooper- ation and apologizes for any inconve- nience this may have caused. Call for more information or to make a donation: 718-327-7755 or visit www. jccrp.org. The JCCRP is a benefi ciary agency of UJA-Federation of New York and an affi liate of Metropolitan Council on Jewish Poverty.  An Evening To Benefit Yeshiva Nishmas HaTorah By Liba Lieberman Yated Ne’eman As the rain poured down on Thursday evening, June 13, over 200 members of the community came out in the daunt- ing weather for an evening to benefi t Yeshiva Nishmas HaTorah, entitled, “It’s 2013 . . . Do You Know Where Your Yid- dishkeit Is?,” graciously held at the home of Mr. Dovid and Mrs. Tikva Azman on Marlborough Road in Cedarhurst. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 79 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS alized purpose in this world. Through Spacious, Tranquil, And Continued from Page 79 understanding this concept, and being given the tools to thrive and grow from Exclusive Merom Yerushalayim helps bachurim be as productive as pos- all of life’s challenges, one’s entire life sible,” he continued. “Our yeshiva has will be one of connecting to Hashem, Merom Yerushalayim is being built to the highest of standards and fea- a low talmid-to-rebbe ratio, because we which is our ultimate purpose. We will on the grounds of the historical ture state-of-the-art amenities com- are committed to individualized atten- be producing happy, healthy, wonder- Schneller army base. In 1860, Ludwig bined with antique motifs that blend tion. Three different shiurim cater to ful, Torahdig mishpachas in Klal Yis- Schneller selected this plot to be the in with the estate’s historic ambi- each bachur’s needs as they work to rael. We must realize this is not just fi rst one to be developed beyond the ence. A group of acclaimed design understand the give-and-take of the a message for our bachurim, but for Old City walls, transforming it into consultants from around the world Gemara. Bachurim give chaburas, and everyone to bring into their own lives.” the Schneller Estate. During World has been recruited to design the proj- vaadim are given daily in biur tefi l- The yeshiva in its short time has War II, the British captured this cov- ect. Each one brings to the table his lah, emunah, and bitachon, halachos already seen the fruits of its labor, by eted landmark and turned it into own area of expertise, combining to of bein adam l’chaveiro, and shalom seeing young bachurim going out on an army base. After the establish- create a project of international stan- bayis. The yeshiva also offers a once- their own initiative starting chesed ment of the State of Israel, Schneller dards in the middle of Jerusalem. a-week vaad in Chumash b’iyun, and organizations, mentoring younger became a strategic base for the Israeli Among the amenities being offered on Sunday mornings there is a vaad children, and creating new shiurim army until 2008, when the army relo- are American-style custom wall paint, on Chosen Mishpat, where bachurim and vaadim for the public. The eve- cated and the estate became a com- high-quality kitchen cabinetry and have the opportunity to understand ning ended with a video presentation munity landmark. In 2010, entrepre- fi nished imported aluminum mod- real business halachah and hashkafah. that went through the inner workings neurs purchased the only part of the ern bathroom fi xtures, intercom and The yeshiva brings in guest speakers to of the yeshiva, by Gabe Solomon. The area designated for housing devel- CCTV systems for each unit, oversized discuss challenges that bachurim may yeshiva is looking forward to build- opment, dreaming of creating a cha- rooms, decorative front door, designer go through regarding the halachos of ing on these ideals, and continuing reidi neighborhood whose residents interior doors, and arched entryways. shidduchim, and they also run a lunch- to effect change for Klal Yisrael. For would appreciate the unique advan- The actual ground level of the com- and-learn program, in which business- more information, contact info@nish- tages that the location had to offer— plex will have no vehicular traffi c, men give over to the bachurim differ- mashatorah.org.  and Merom Yerushalayim was born. and the massive green areas will be ent professional advice and assistance Since most of the complex is landscaped into parks, groves of trees, for job hunting while remaining a ben restricted by preservation laws, the walking paths, and playgrounds. Torah. Specifi cally, they address how seven residential buildings will be One-bedroom apartments start to remain a successful Yid in the work- nestled in the vast fi ve-acre area—and at NIS 1,750,000 (approx. $475,000); force. We provide all this because we will remain the only buildings there. three-bedroom apartments start at want to give each bachur an under- The rest of the complex will com- NIS 2,890,000 (approx $780,000). Gar- standing that the Torah guides a per- prise beautifully landscaped parks den apartments of different sizes are son in every step of his life. Our yeshiva and playgrounds. Ten historically available. The estimated move-in date is a complete, wholesome experience preserved buildings, some of which is in 2015. that evokes pride in one’s Yiddishkeit. are more than 150 years old, will be “From the fi rst moment that I set In doing so, it actually creates leader- ship for the next generation. “We have a message for Klal Yisrael. That message is that everyone has a special neshamah, with an individu-

restored for use as community facil- foot on the Schneller complex, I was ities, such as schools and kindergar- speechless to behold the peace and tens, including a new Museum of Jew- tranquility that surrounds the area. ish History, the largest in the world. It’s unreal to think that the most In addition to all these advantages, thriving street in Geulah is just foot- there will be no vehicular traffi c steps away. The privacy wall that throughout the complex. Residents encircles the property, coupled with will access the underground parking the property’s high elevation, sepa- lot through a private tunnel from the rates Schneller from its surroundings. Yirmiyahu Street entrance, and visi- All you can hear is the rustling wind tors will park in a public parking lot and the chirping of birds from tall right outside the complex. trees,” relates Yossi Waldman CEO of In the heart of Geulah on one side, the Rothner Highgates Group. with an entrance from Bar Ilan– Where can you fi nd a home that is Yirmiyahu on the other side, Merom centrally located in the heart of Jeru- Yerushalayim–Schneller lies at 820 salem yet is set in a quiet, picturesque meters above sea level—the high- neighborhood surrounded by green- est point in the area. The residential ery and scenic buildings quite rem- buildings, with fi ve to seven fl oors iniscent of the old-style estates in each, totaling 195 apartment units, Europe? Only Merom Yerushalayim– have opulent lobbies, underground Schneller can provide this seemingly parking lot, arched entryways, over- impossible “best of both worlds” sized rooms, and optional guest suites option. Close to the major chassidic in select units. The apartments all centers, shopping areas, and trans- have a spacious fl oor plan designed portation hubs of the city, the Merom 80 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Yerushalayim project also offers lux- In light of Ramat Givat Ze’ev’s special ury living in a village-like setting. Community News and rare concept, more than 180 units of You might actually believe you’ve 400 units in the project were sold, with driven out of the city and into a coun- From Around The World over 65 units sold last week during the try estate as soon as you enter the special sale. During the event, the com- enclosed neighborhood. Living in Givat Ze’ev Sells 67 many communities; on the event day, pany fi rst opened to market apartments Merom Yerushalayim, you won’t have Apartments the halls were packed with people, who in shared buildings and also reported to compromise on anything: location, In Two-Day Sale enjoyed Nofei Israel’s best and advanced that there are only a few lots left to comfortable, spacious apartments, Ramat Givat Ze’ev, designed and marketing tools. build houses in the neighborhood. access to spiritual centers and shop- built specifi cally for the U.S. emigrant The project developers did everything Beyond the company fl agship proj- ping areas, parks, trees, tranquility community, attracts crowds seeking to explain the perfect integration ben- ect, Ramat Givat Ze’ev, additional proj- and space—you can have it all! an apartment in Jerusalem with per- efi ts in their new home, with empha- ects are ready to be presented, includ- The Merom Yerushalayim–Schneller fect and exclusive integration condi- sis on building a homogeneous and ing the Sari Israel project, located next project is being undertaken by three tions. Unprecedented demand for apart- warm community with many of the fi n- to the Romema neighborhood in Jerusa- private construction fi rms that are ments was recorded in the special sale est educational institutions that match lem, the luxury project Jerusalem view the largest and most experienced event that was hosted by Nofei Israel the mentality of the residents. They in Beit Vegan, and others.  in the chareidi construction sector: in the United States—in just two days, also plan on providing an upscale liv- Tzameret Ha’ir, Pisgat Tal, and Roth- a record 67 apartments in the unique ing environment, green parks, and com- Dirshu’s Majestic Kinnus ner Highgates. Rothner Highgates project Ramat Givat Ze’ev were sold. mercial centers. The neighborhood is In Honor Of Torah is one of the largest developers in Increasing demand for the Ramat located northward of Jerusalem and By Shimmy Blum the chareidi and religious sectors in Givat Ze’ev neighborhood comes from incorporates a relaxed rural setting A ray of hope for the Torah world Israel, and is currently developing, many requests from American residents with a spectacular view of the moun- was seen far and wide on Sunday, as in partnership with Tzameret Ha’ir, who wish to learn about the construc- tains and the clear air, but enjoys prox- thousands of Yidden throughout Eretz a large residential project on the for- tion plans and the special community, imity to all major Torah centers such Yisrael, North America, Europe, and mer Osem lot in Bnei Brak. Rothner following the announcement of build- as Yeshivat Mir and the Kotel. Rabbi beyond took part in the majestic Kinnus Highgates also initiated, among oth- ing the Ziv Hatorah Yeshiva with Rabbi Shmuel Brazil’s, shlita, leadership of the Ha’Adir Lichvod Lomdei Torah at Binya- ers, the 3,200-unit Achuzat Rothner Shmuel Brazil’s leadership. soon to be built Ziv Hatorah Yeshiva is nei Ha’uma in Yerushalayim. project in Kiryat Malachi. Pisgat Tal is Anticipation for the special event in welcomed as he is known for his open involved in the construction of hun- Monsey and Five Towns encompassed and pleasant approach. Continued on Page 82 dreds of luxury apartments in areas of high demand, among them the fi nal stage of the Ganei Tal project on Cha- zon Ish–Gordon Streets in Bnei Brak, and a new development currently under construction in Ashdod. Finan- cial backing for the Merom Yerusha- layim–Schneller project is provided by Bank Hapoalim. The project archi- tect is Braidman-Agmon, an exclusive boutique fi rm specializing in luxury designs. 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EQUIPPED MEETING VIDEO DESIGN UPHOLSTERY www.5TJT.com OFFICES ROOMS COMMUNICATION LOUNGES SERVICES thestudiointeriors.com 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES June 28, 2013 81 Community News He also spoke about the “nefesh”—the urged introspection: “Perhaps we should focus on the penimi’us of this gathering, Continued from Page 81 soul—that Torah has, which can con- look at ourselves and ask whether we which is a chizuk for maintaining the nect to each Yid, and spoke of how were perhaps lacking the proper respect Torah as well as in bein adam l’chaveiro,” The threat looming over bnei Torah Rav Elyashiv’s life served as the quint- for Torah.” he remarked. in Eretz Yisrael needs no elaboration, essential lesson in building a relation- Following these words, a special letter The Sanz Klausenburger Rebbe of Net- but the kinnus was permeated by ach- ship with Torah. The gadol ha’dor’s sons, from Rav Gershon Edelstein, shlita, rosh anya, shlita, discussed the rare strin- dus, resolve, and a genuine appreciation Rav Moshe, shlita, and Rav Binyomin yeshivas Ponovezh, in honor of the gath- gency of bedikas chametz and bi’ur cha- of the beauty of Torah and those who Elyashiv, shlita, recited Kaddish and ering was read, where he extolled attend- metz, where every morsel of chametz learn it. The large dais was graced by the commenced the learning of Maseches ees to strengthen their Torah learning. must be destroyed by fi re. He explained senior gedolim of all community sectors Pesachim, respectively. All eyes were trained on the dais as that this is because chametz symbolizes in Eretz Yisrael, a refl ection of the diverse With his signature originality and Rav Aharon Leib Shteinman, shlita, the yetzer ha’ra; negative forces must be thousands of bnei Torah that fi lled the insight, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, founder Rav Shmuel Auerbach, shlita, and other destroyed without compromise, and the hall or partook in the event at one of the and nasi of Dirshu, tied the concept of senior gedolim arrived and took their fi re of Torah is the only way to accom- dozens of satellite locations around the eiruvin with the situation in Eretz Yis- seats, to thunderous applause, song, and plish that. “Every bit of Torah that is world. rael today. He observed that eiruvin is a music. learned by each individual is a fi re in Majestic optics and a large professional somewhat contradictory concept, begin- Rav Shalom Cohen, shlita, rosh yeshi- Shamayim,” he summed up. band and choir enriched the program ning with a prohibition for neighbors to vas Porat Yosef and one of the most Rav Aryeh Finkel, shlita, rosh yeshivas and its spirit, but nothing impressed as carry to each other’s properties, followed prominent Sephardic gedolim, then took Mir-Brachfeld, was visibly emotional as much as the spiritual electricity in the by the ability to unite them through an to the podium and discussed the lofty he discussed the need for Klal Yisrael to air. The kinnus was organized by the Dir- eiruv and permit carrying. He explained level that a Yid reaches when he maxi- transform the curses, R’l, we’re now fac- shu organization and featured a siyum on that true peace and achdus can only be mizes his toil in Torah. “Hashem doesn’t ing into berachos. Rav Finkel expounded Maseches Eiruvin and a tribute to Maran achieved once clear boundaries have count dafi m; he counts hours,” Rav upon how Bilam abandoned his desire to HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, been implemented. Cohen exclaimed. curse once he realized the holiness and zt’l, in honor of his yahrzeit. Rav Hofstedter then tackled the sit- Rav Auerbach addressed the crowd and tzniyus of the Jewish lifestyle. The rosh Rav Asher Weiss, shlita, concluded uation, where the cherished Torah life- spoke about our work during the current yeshiva spoke of how the modern-day Maseches Eiruvin with heartfelt words style of lomdei Torah is being attacked period of mourning over the Beis HaMik- culture and its technological tools have of appreciation for all the work that Dir- by those who seek to blur the lines of dash and how chizuk in Torah and tefi l- the ability to erode our traditional holi- shu does in order to enhance the quan- society. Much focus has been placed on lah helps bring us closer to Hashem and ness. “Distance yourselves from the tity, quality, and spirit of bnei Torah. defeating those on the attack, but he then the third Beis Hamikdash. “We should fi lth,” he cried out, “and the berachah will automatically follow.” Loud singing of the words of “Od yenu- vun beseva . . .” was heard throughout the crowd as Rav Shteinman delivered his perspectives on our obligations in light of the realities. Rav Shteinman noted that one cannot perform material needs, such as eating and drinking, on behalf of another person. Nor can one be yotzei a mitzvah with a physical requirement, such as wearing tefi llin, by the actions of another person. On the other hand, Rav Shteinman explained that Torah has a unique qual- ity where one Yid directly affects the other. It is a communal responsibil- ity and a supporter of Torah has a great share in all that is learned by the person he supports. “Without Torah, chas v’sha- lom, there is no kiyum to Klal Yisrael, or the world,” Rav Shteinman exclaimed. A letter written by the Viznitzer Rebbe, shlita, where he urged the growth of Torah learning, was then read aloud. Rav Azriel Auerbach, shlita, son-in-law of Rav Elyashiv, concluded the event by remem- bering his father-in-law’s greatness and how his life’s mission of learning Torah with joy can be made into a top goal for the future. More than just the historic rich pro- gram in Eretz Yisrael, the crowds at sat- ellite locations in major North American communities were inspired by prom- inent live local speakers. The event in Lakewood had the merit of hearing from the rosh yeshiva, Rav Malkiel Kot- ler, shlita, who expounded on the posi- tive effect that Torah learning has on a Yid’s character, and how starkly that dif- fers from the negative character found amongst those engrossed in other choch- mos. “We know that universities are fi lled with depravity,” he exclaimed. “In Eretz Yisrael, they’re looking to force lomdei Torah to slowly move out of the beis midrash, into the army and univer- sities.” Rav Kotler concluded with a berachah that the chizuk derived from all the Torah that has been learned should help Klal Yisrael overcome these negative efforts. Note: Additional comprehensive cover- age of this enormous event will, iy’H, be featured in an upcoming issue.  82 June 28, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES the under one roof GET MORE. PAY LESS

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