DOCSLIB.ORG

I Nterview Terry Real

Total Page：16

File Type：pdf, Size：1020Kb

Download full-text PDF Read full-text
I Nterview Terry Real The Milton H. Erickson Foundation NEWSLETTER SM Vol. 36, No. 1 Spring 2016 I n t e r v i e w I n s i d e T h i s each of them is doing that’s blowing Terry Real their own foot off. And then confront I s s u e By Esther Perel them in a loving and precise way; mov- ing into early childhood wounds that INTERVIEW Terry Real has been a family ther- are at the root, but not leave it there. Terry Real Interviewed by apist and teacher for more than 25 Once that’s on the table, teach them Esther Perel 1 years. He is an internationally recog- what I call, “a psychoeducational ap- THE POWER OF TWO nized speaker and author who founded proach to intimacy” -- what empathy, Robert Dilts & Relational Life Institute (RLI), which or accountability, or increased vulner- Deborah Bacon Dilts 8 offers workshops for couples, individ- ability looks like. It’s a loving con- uals and parents, and professional frontation -- what I call, “joining CASE REPORT training for clinicians. Terry is a senior through the truth.” Whether you’re an ORCA STRAIT faculty member of the Family Institute angry pursuer, withdrawer, profes- By Michael F. Hoyt, PhD 10 of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a sional martyr, or helpless victim, what- THEORETICALLY SPEAKING retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows ever it is that you’re doing that’s A Brief Review of the Key Hypnotic Institute in Arizona. screwing things up -- it’s taking a hard Elements of Milton H. Erickson’s To watch the entire interview with look at that. The second phase is mov- Handshake Technique 12 Terry Real and Esther Perel, please ples’ therapists who has recently ing into inner child and family of ori- visit: done a lot to influence the develop- gin work. The third phase is: ‘If you IN THE SPIRIT OF THERAPY https://youtu.be/Wh2XE_oO6DY ment of the field. Terry, my late fa- don’t want to be an angry pursuer, let Rob McNeilly, MBBS Interviewed ther used to ask me: “What do you me teach you what functional pursuit by John D. Lentz, D. Min 14 Esther Perel: For those of you do with these people? Do you really looks like. Lose the chip on your who have not met Terry, this is an in- help them?” shoulder and be inviting.’ It’s a three- troduction to an outstanding cou- step process: ‘This is what you’re www.erickson-foundation.org Terry Real: A great scientist once doing wrong; this is where it comes said to me, “Psychotherapy is really from; and this is what right looks like.’ just paid friendship. Isn’t it?” In terms of my work with couples…we do not You know…stance, stance, dance. live in a relationship-cherishing cul- In a heterosexual couple, his dysfunc- ture. We live in a patriarchal, narcissis- tional move and her dysfunctional tic, co-addictive culture. Most of us move and the way those two moves re- inforce each other can eat up the inti- Self-esteem or appropriate shame means: I feel bad about the bad things I’ve done, and I still hold myself in warm regard as a flawed human being. have not been raised by relationally macy like cancer. It’s my job to skilled families and we’re damaged crowbar them out of that pattern. and we don’t know how to be intimate. You could go to a trauma weekend A lifelong romance is a modern idea, and do deep cathartic, wonderful, and I don’t think most men and women reparative healing work with your RETURN SERVICE REQUESTED SERVICE RETURN Permit No. 1932 No. Permit have the skills and the wisdom to pull inner child. Then, come home and be U.S.A. Kansas City, MO City, Kansas it off. We’re not at zero, we’re in the the same asshole that you were to your Phoenix, AZ 85016 AZ Phoenix, U.S.Postage Paid U.S.Postage negative numbers. So it’s my job as a 2632 E. Thomas Rd., Ste. 200, 200, Ste. Rd., Thomas E. 2632 Non-Profit org. Non-Profit couples’ therapist to figure out what The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc. Foundation, Erickson H. Milton The INTERVIEW continued on page 23 2 VOL. 36, NO. 1 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter duce our Therapeutic Frameworks col - munication, the neurobiology of umn with a wonderful summary of the morality, and, of course, brief therapy Editor’s Comments Erickson handshake technique, demon - and couples’ therapy. These are in - strating that not all inductions need sightful, well-written reviews. Last December’s 12th Interna - words. Please join us in San Francisco, tional Congress on Ericksonian Ap - Alex and Annellen Simpkins’ team May 13-15, for the Couples Confer - proaches to Hypnosis and Psychotherapy of incredible media reviewers -- Maria ence , to explore the understanding and was a roller coaster of emotions and ex - Escalante de Smith, David Hargis, treatment of couples through the lens periences. I was delighted to meet Richard Hill, John Lentz, and Susan of “Attachment, Differentiation & many attendees, several of whom had Pinco -- cover such diverse topics as Neuroscience.” previously only been a name without a the unique considerations in treating face or email address. And, of course, gay men, hypnosis with adults and Richard Landis I was happy to meet up with old friends children, verbal and nonverbal com - Orange, California and colleagues who have attended the Congresses from the beginning. The Erickson Congress was a cross-fertil - CORRECTION ization of the wisdom of the old and Regarding the MHE Foundation Newsletter, Vol. 35, No. 3, “International Community” new perspectives and surprising ques - column, pp. 6-7, description of Jeffrey Zeig receiving the John and Helen Watkins Award tions from the young. (For me, every - for Excellence in Teaching at the 20th World Congress of the International Society of Hyp - one under 50 is young. I was taught to nosis (ISH) in Paris. The Watkins Award should read: “The Helen H. and John G. Watkins respect my elders, but these days I’m Award for Excellence in Teaching is given to an awardee who exemplifies a lifetime of ex - having difficulty finding elders!) This cellence in the teaching of hypnosis for use in clinical and research settings”. Congress even surpassed the prior one, laps between the different domains can The Award Committee, ISH Awards/2015, co-chaired by Peter B. Bloom, MD and making it no exception to the pattern in its Camillo Loriedo, MD, especially wanted research to be an equal part of the award, since a result in an “Infinite Diversity in Infi - expansion of Ericksonian perspectives. non-clinician researcher of true merit might receive this award some day in the future. nite Combinations.” (Miss you Congress was joyful, but at the Leonard.) This concept is featured Also, Claire C. Frederick, MD, the other recipient of the Watkins Award, was inadver - tently left out of ISH awardees mentioned in footnote #5, p.7. same time there was a note of sadness. when the Foundation hosts the 17th As mentioned in the last Newsletter, Annual Couples Conference , May 13- we lost one of our Grand Old Men -- 15, 2016, at the Hyatt Regency San Philip Barretta, who died May 7, 2015. Francisco Airport in Burlingame. This Truly a Grand “Forever-Young” Man, year’s conference theme is, “Attach - The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Phil always had a smile and a joke. ment, Differentiation & Neuro - And, he had a great heart and pos - science.” The international faculty sessed infinite wisdom. I was taking a covers these perspectives with more di - NEWSLETTER break at the Congress, sitting in one of mensions than Einstein or Hawking the empty smaller presentation rooms, could talk about physics. To get a feel when a strong déja vu came over me of what to expect, please read the Fea - Executive Editor: Richard Landis, Ph.D. and I realized that this was the same tured Interview . Esther Perel, keynote room Phil and I shared at the 6th Inter - Couples’ faculty, interviews Terry Reviews Editors: C. Alexander Simpkins, Ph.D., national Ericksonian Congress in 1994 Real, also keynote faculty, and the en - Annellen Simpkins, Ph.D. when we conducted a morning super - thusiasm is contagious. As you will vision panel. discover, like the Couples Conference , Institutes Editor: Marilia Baker, M.S.W., Cecilia Fabre, M.A. At that supervision session, some - the interview is filled with more than Power of Two Editor: Roxanna Erickson Klein, R.N., Ph.D. one ask us both how Erickson would just theory. If you’d like to see the en - have approached couples. Phil and I tire interview, it’s online at: In the Spirit of Therapy Editor: John Lentz, D.Min. spoke at the same time and said almost http://www.couplesconference.com/ or Guest Reviewers: Maria Escalante de Smith, MA; David L. Hargis, the same words: “They are still people https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W Ph.D.; Richard Hill, MBMSc, M.Ed., M.A., DPC; John D. Lentz, D.Min.; first.” We then described how our ex - h2XE_oO6DY . Susan Pinco, Ph.D., LCSW periences with Erickson taught us to This issue of the Newsletter also appreciate that every relationship was focuses on the different building Contributing Editor/Writer: Marnie McGann between two individuals, each of blocks and domains that can be used to Production Manager: Karen Haviley whom had their own perceptions and enhance couples’ work. John Lentz’s cognitions. To do an intervention with interview with Rob McNeilly covers Ad rates: a couple, you first have to understand the domain of spirituality; Marilia www.erickson-foundation.org that each is an individual, not just half Baker’s The Power of Two , on Robert of a dyad.
Load more

Recommended publications
  • The Enhancement of Traditional Behavioral Couples Therapy: Consideration of Individual Factors and Dyadic Development
    Clinical Psychology Review, Vol. 18, No. 6, pp. 745±764, 1998 Copyright 1998 Elsevier Science Ltd Printed in the USA. All rights reserved 0272-7358/98 $19.00 ϩ .00 PII S0272-7358(98)00027-0 THE ENHANCEMENT OF TRADITIONAL BEHAVIORAL COUPLES THERAPY: CONSIDERATION OF INDIVIDUAL FACTORS AND DYADIC DEVELOPMENT Erika Lawrence, Kathleen A. Eldridge, and Andrew Christensen University of California, Los Angeles ABSTRACT. There has been little effort by behavior therapists to develop couple interventions that view marriage from a content-relevant or developmental perspective. Consequently, we have delineated ways in which a perspective of intimate relationships including individual factors and dyadic development might guide the enhancement of traditional behavioral couples therapy (TBCT) with novel and improved techniques that will ultimately allow us to reach a wider range of distressed couples than our current interventions allow. Speci®cally, we examined the potential bene®ts to intervention that could occur by considering the impact of individual factors on rela- tionship quality, using the literature on attachment patterns as an example. Further, we have discussed the potential gains to couple interventions that could occur by considering the impact of dyadic development on relationship satisfaction. We ®rst addressed gradual changes in mar- riage, using intimacy as an example. Next we examined ``stage of marriage'' issues, using child behavior problems as an example. Finally, we considered whether or not a problem was chronic. Throughout, we have proposed utilizing TBCT as a starting point, and considering ways to enhance TBCT speci®cally, as it is the marital therapy for which we have the most information and empirical support.
    [Show full text]
  • Couples Biofeedback Training Using Alive Pioneer®
    Couples Biofeedback Prepared by Somatic Vision, Inc., makers of Alive, Training using Alive May 2014 Pioneer® Alive Pioneer enables couples to train together with both partners being measured By Yuval Oded, PhD (c) simultaneously in Alive. By using physiological synchronization as feedback they can improve co-regulation and therapeutical efficacy. Interpersonal Biofeedback Training with Couples When used in psychotherapy, biofeedback training aims at increasing patients’ awareness of their bodily states and the body-mind connection. This awareness, along with biofeedback training, allows patients to learn to improve their self-regulation skills. Generally, the role of the therapist is to assist the client to achieve these goals by teaching him several techniques and finding those that best contribute to a more balanced and flexible autonomic nervous system, allowing efficient functioning in the face of varying internal and external environmental stimuli. The focus in such an intervention is on the psychological state of the client and on his physiology. In this article we would like to present a few ways where biofeedback is used in the context of a relationship, using examples from couples therapy and discuss how extending the traditional role of biofeedback opens new possibilities in therapy. Couples therapy many times elicits very extreme emotional reactions. For a therapist observing the interaction, it is often very clear how partners react to each other’s' emotions and behaviors but for the partners themselves those patterns may not be conscious. Since many patterns of behaviors are related to deeply automatic reactions dependent on past histories of the partners, it can take a lot of time and effort to help them change those rigid behaviors.
    [Show full text]
  • Informed Consent for Mental Health and Assessment Services
    Informed Consent for Mental Health and Assessment Services UVU Student Health Services (SHS) consists of the following sub-departments: mental health services, medical services, psychiatric services, crisis services, and assessment services. This document provides information on how mental health and assessment services are provided. ELIGIBILITY In order to qualify for mental health and assessment services you must be a current-term registered student at UVU. A student must be 18 years or older to receive mental health and/or assessment services. Students requesting to begin treatment during the spring or fall semesters must be enrolled with at least 9 credit hours in order to be eligible for individual and/or couples therapy. Students requesting to begin treatment during the summer semester must be enrolled with at least 6 credit hours. A student is permitted to receive services while on a vacation semester provided this will not result in two consecutive semesters of not attending classes. Students who are registered for classes but have never attended UVU previously must wait until classes commence before receiving mental health or assessment services. Any student currently enrolled may be eligible for group therapy, biofeedback, or assessment services regardless of amount of credit hours. COUNSELING SERVICES Mental Health Services primarily provides group therapy, individual therapy, biofeedback, and couple’s therapy. Services are provided by professionals who are licensed psychologists, licensed social workers, licensed mental health counselors, as well as graduate trainees (who are supervised by a licensed professional). Generally, students are allotted a total of 24 individual and/or couples sessions over their time at UVU.
    [Show full text]
  • An Overview of Gottman Method Couples Therapy Mark R. Reynaud, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S What Is Dysfunctional in Ailing Marriages? •
    An Overview of Gottman Method Couples Therapy Mark R. Reynaud, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S What is Dysfunctional in Ailing Marriages? More negativity than positivity Presence of the 4 horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling Failure of repair attempts Negative Sentiment Override Flooding and the Distance and Isolation Cascade Chronic Diffuse Physiological Arousal (DPA) Failure of men to accept influence What is Functional When a Marriage is Going Well? Matches in conflict style: validators, avoiders, volatiles: It is the mismatches that predict divorce (Supported by Susan Johnson’s work on EFT) Dialogue with perpetual issues: 69% of problems are perpetual. Active listening model is not validated in research Softened rather than harsh start-up (especially for women) Accepting influence (especially for men) Effective repair attempts De-escalation of negativity, usually by male partner in low conflict situations Positive affect, especially as a way to de-escalate conflict Presentation of issues as joint problems and specific to one situation Ability to remain physiologically calm during conflict Active building of friendship, intimacy and positive affect Sound Relationship House Model Build Love Maps Share Fondness and Admiration Turn Towards Positive Perspective Manage Conflict Make life dreams come true Create Shared Meaning Trust and Commitment Assumptions: Couples therapy is primarily DYADIC The role of emotion: A) Learning is state dependent B) All emotions and wishes are acceptable and needing to be expressed/understood The therapist’s role in soothing Interventions should have low psychological cost Couples therapy as a positive affective experience GMCT is about building the “good enough marriage” rather than the ideal marriage.
    [Show full text]
  • Comprehensive Cognitive-Behavior Therapy with Couples and Families: a Schema Focused Approach
    COMPREHENSIVE COGNITIVE-BEHAVIOR THERAPY WITH COUPLES AND FAMILIES: A SCHEMA FOCUSED APPROACH FRANK M. DATTILIO, PH.D., ABPP HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL ©2007 Frank M. Dattilio, Ph.D., ABPP COGNITIVE-BEHAVIORAL STRATEGIES WITH COUPLES AND FAMILIES Frank M. Dattilio, Ph.D., ABPP HArvArd MedicAl ScHool Introduction I. Historical Development of Cognitive-Behavior Therapy • Philosophy and theory – an overview II. Application of Cognitive-Behavioral Strategies with Couples and Families • Cognition, affect, and behavior • Combined perspectives within a systems framework • Role of core beliefs and schemas and their multimodal dimensions • Video clips III. Assessment Techniques and Case Conceptualization • Conjoint, individual, and family interviews • Use of surveys, questionnaires, and assessment measures • Development of case conceptualization including negative automatic thoughts • Assessing personality and other disorders • Orient couple or family to the cognitive-behavioral model ©2007 Frank M. Dattilio, Ph.D., ABPP IV. Techniques and Procedures for Couples and Families • Identify automatic thoughts, underlying schemas, maladaptive assumptions, and cognitive distortions • Draw link between emotions and negative automatic thoughts and misperceptions. Use of the Daily Dysfunctional Though Record • Identify negative frame and ingrained beliefs associated with cognitive distortions • Weighing evidence and challenging automatic thoughts and schemas • The use of new evidence in correcting distorted thinking and ingrained schema • Practice alternative
    [Show full text]
  • Couples Therapy That Goes Deeper Than Dirty Dishes
    Couples Therapy that Goes Deeper than Dirty Dishes Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA West Chester, PA [email protected] adultADHDbook.com A good relationship pushes you to become a better person Deeper Couples Therapy 2 ADHD Inconsistency Impacts Relationships . ADHD, especially unmanaged, can impact: . One’s ability to be the partner one wants to be . A partner’s ability to be the partner they want to be . Every couple needs to negotiate different desires and ways of doing things . ADHD exacerbates these universal struggles Deeper Couples Therapy 3 ADHD Unreliability Impacts Security . We hope for reliable actions from our partner in order to trust what they say . And from ourselves. ADHD inconsistency makes it harder for: . ADHD partner to feel effective . Non-ADHD partner to feel secure . The easy trap . ADHD becomes the scapegoat for the non-ADHD partner’s anxiety Deeper Couples Therapy 4 It Takes Two To Tango Deeper Couples Therapy 5 The Classic Dynamic . It’s easy to fall into the stereotypical dynamic of the under- and over-functioner . Will all the accompanying anger, nagging, avoidance, and general frustration . Casualties mount on the battlefield of daily demands . ADHD is an obvious contributor, but the other partner is still half of the relationship Deeper Couples Therapy 6 It’s a Trap . Nobody is winning when stuck in this chase dynamic . And doing more of the same won’t tip the balance . Nobody is bringing their best to the relationship . And we can’t expect our partners to behave better than we do . Medication and good systems can help a lot .
    [Show full text]
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: a Treatment for Depression and Anxiety
    St. Catherine University SOPHIA Master of Social Work Clinical Research Papers School of Social Work 5-2018 Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: A Treatment for Depression and Anxiety Courtney Reinitz St. Catherine University, [email protected] Follow this and additional works at: https://sophia.stkate.edu/msw_papers Part of the Social Work Commons Recommended Citation Reinitz, Courtney. (2018). Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: A Treatment for Depression and Anxiety. Retrieved from Sophia, the St. Catherine University repository website: https://sophia.stkate.edu/ msw_papers/838 This Clinical research paper is brought to you for free and open access by the School of Social Work at SOPHIA. It has been accepted for inclusion in Master of Social Work Clinical Research Papers by an authorized administrator of SOPHIA. For more information, please contact [email protected]. Running head: EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY FOR COUPLES Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: A Treatment for Depression and Anxiety By Courtney E. Reinitz, B.A. MSW Clinical Research Paper Committee Members: Mary Tinucci, DSW (Faculty Chair) Katy Kolstad, MSW, LGSW Christine Kleich, MSW, LICSW The Clinical Research Project is a graduation requirement for MSW students at Saint Catherine University/University of Saint Thomas School of Social Work in Saint Paul, Minnesota and is conducted within a nine-month time frame to demonstrate facility with basic social research methods. Students must independently conceptualize a research problem, formulate a research design that is approved by a research committee and the university Institutional Review Board, implement the project, and publicly present the findings of the study. This project is neither a Master’s Thesis nor Dissertation.
    [Show full text]
  • Effect of Emotion-Oriented Couple Therapy and Cognitive- Behavioral Couple Therapy on Marital Burnout
    Original Article Effect of Emotion-oriented Couple Therapy and Cognitive- Behavioral Couple Therapy on Marital Burnout. A comparative study Farahnaz Ghasemi 1, Karim Afshari Nia 2*, Hassan Amiri 3 1 Ph.D. Student in Counseling Psychology, Faculty of Literature and Humanities, Kermanshah Azad University, Kermanshah, Iran. 2 Assistant Professor of Counseling Psychology, Faculty of Literature and Human Sciences, Kermanshah Azad University, Kermanshah, Iran. 3 Assistant Professor of Counseling Psychology, Faculty of Literature and Human Sciences, Kermanshah Azad University, Kermanshah, Iran. Abstract Evaluation of the effectiveness of couple therapy approaches, especially the emotion-oriented and cognitive-behavioral approach that is able to implement in a group and so far has provided evidence of the effectiveness of each alone, can play a significant role in preventing family and social harm and enormous costs on society. In addition, as previous researches show, few studies have examined the effectiveness of these two approaches on marital burnout compared to each other. The purpose of this research was to compare the effectiveness of emotion- focused couple therapy and cognitive-behavioral couple therapy on couples referred to Azarshahr psychology clinic in Kermanshah in 2016. This research was a semi-experimental with pre-test and post-test. In this study, 30 subjects were randomly assigned to two experimental groups. Marital burnout scale (CBM) was used for data collection. Data were analyzed using SPSS-21 statistical software. Statistical results showed that both methods were effective in reducing marital burnout (P <05). The results of this comparison, in addition to benefiting the couples participating in this research, can be used in psychologists' medical decision-making, training in medical protocols at universities, developing media and cultural programs to promote mental health in the media.
    [Show full text]
  • Experiential Psychotherapy with Couples: a Guide for the Creative Pragmatist Robert M
    Rob Fisher Experiential Psychotherapy with Couples: A Guide for the Creative Pragmatist Robert M. Fisher, M. A., M.F.T. Editor’s Note: Rob Fisher’s book Experiential Psychotherapy With Couples – a Guide for the Creative Pragmatist (Phoenix, Zeig/Tucker/Theisen, 2002) is both an excellent Hakomi training manual and a guide to working experientially and effectively with couples. We are happy and fortunate in this article to have Rob share excerpts from the book that lend themselves to hand’s on work in the field. This is congruent with Rob’s expertise and training style of emphasizing concrete skills along with underlying principles. Permission for inclusion of these excerpts has been granted by the publisher. Rob Fisher, M.A., M.F.T., is a psychotherapist, consultant and CAMFT certified supervisor in private practice in Mill Valley. He is a certified Hakomi Therapist and Trainer. He is an adjunct professor at JFK University where he teaches marriage and family therapy classes and case consultation seminars as well as an adjunct professor at California Institute of Integral Studies where he teaches Hakomi and Theories and Techniques of Body Oriented Psychotherapy. He also teaches couples therapy at the post graduate level at a variety of agencies in San Francisco and Marin country. He is the publisher of the Couples Psychotherapy Newsletter and the author of Experiential Psychotherapy With Couples, A Guide for the Creative Pragmatist. He has been a Master and Peer Presenter at the annual CAMFT Conference and at other national conferences such as the USABP. He is also a California State Licensed Continuing Education Provider.
    [Show full text]
  • Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: a Military Case Study
    15 Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: A Military Case Study Kathryn D. Rheem, Scott R. Woolley, and Susan M. Johnson Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a brief, highly effective, empirically supported approach to changing distressed couples’ rigid interaction patterns and emotional processes to create a secure bond (Johnson, 2004; Johnson, Hunsley, Greenberg, & Schlinder, 1999). EFT has been used with couples in many areas of the world and has been adapted for a wide variety of clients and problems (Johnson & Woolley, 2009; Woolley & von Hockauf, 2009). The approach targets absorbing affect states that organize “stuck” patterns of interaction in distressed relationships (Gottman, 1994; Heavey, Christensen, & Malamuth, 1995). These patterns become self-reinforcing, often taking the form of critical pursuit and defensive distance. EFT combines an experiential, intrapsychic focus with a systemic focus on cyclical interactional responses and patterns (Johnson, 2004). It is a constructivist approach in which cli- ents are seen as the experts on their experience. Key elements of experience, such as attachment needs and fears, are unfolded and crystallized in therapy sessions. Clients are not pathologized. Rather, they are viewed as struggling with problems arising from a particular social context that would likely be just as problematic for the thera- pist to deal with if she found herself there (Neimeyer, 1993). EFT integrates key elements of client-centered therapy (e.g., Rogers, 1951) and experiential therapy (Perls, 1973) with general systems theory principles (Bertalanffy, 1968), particularly as seen in structural family therapy (Minuchin & Fishman, 1981). Attachment theory (Bowlby, 1969, 1988) provides EFT with a developmental non- pathologizing theoretical context for understanding the importance of emotional bonds, interdependency, and adult love and intimacy.
    [Show full text]
  • Made to Measure: Adapting Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy to Partners' Attachment Styles
    Made to Measure: Adapting Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy to Partners' Attachment Styles Susan M. Johnson and Valerie E. Whiffen University of Ottawa This article summarizes the theory, practice, and empir- ment (Bartholomew & Perlman, 1994); EFT has been ical findings on emotionally focused couple therapy empirically validated, and a recent meta-analysis found a (Em, now one of the best documented and validated considerable effect size for marital adjustment after 10-12 approaches to repairing close relationships. EFT is sessions (Johnson, Hunsley, Greenberg, & Schlinder, based on an attachment perspective of adult intimacy. 1999); there is research on the change process and pre- The article then considers how individual differences in dictors of success in this approach; finally, EFT has been applied to different kinds of problems and populations, attachment style have an impact on affect regulation, such as the parents of chronically ill children (Walker, information processing, and communication in close re- Johnson, Manion, & Clothier, 1996), depressed women lationships and how the practice of EFT is influenced (Dessaulles, 1991; Whiffen &Johnson, 1998), and couples by these differences. dealing with posttraumatic stress disorder (Johnson & Key words: couple therapy, emotionally focused Williams-Keeler, 1998). This approach is also used with couple therapy, individual dhrences in couple ther- families (Johnson, 1996; Johnson, Maddeaux, & Blouin, apy, adult attachment. [Clin Psycho1 Sci Prac 6:366- 1998). 381, 19991 The psychotherapy literature emphasizes that once general effectiveness has been established, the next chal- Emotionally focused therapy for couples (EFT) is now lenge is to consider individual differences and specify how one of the best delineated and empirically validated inter- a treatment approach can be tailored to individual cou- ventions in the field of couple therapy (Baucom, Shoham, ples.
    [Show full text]
  • Creating Healing Relationships for Couples Dealing with Trauma: the Use of Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy
    Journal of Marital and Family Therapy 1998, Vol. 24, No. 1,2540 CREATING HEALING RELATIONSHIPS FOR COUPLES DEALING WITH TRAUMA: THE USE OF EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED MARITAL THERAPY Susan M. Johnson University of Ottawa Lyn Williams-Keeler Royal Ottawa Hospital Emotionally focused marital therapy (EFT), a marital therapy that particularly focuses on the creation of secure attachment, has proven in empirical studies to be effective for distressed couples. This paper discusses the application of EFT in couples where one or both of the partners have experienced significant trauma. EFT in this context of trauma, incorporates the nine steps of conventional EFT and also encompasses the three stages of the “constructivist self development theory of trauma treatment. This paper illustrates how the integration of EFT and trauma treatment can prove effective in treating not only relationship distress but also the individual symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). THE CONFLUENCE OF TRAUMA AND MARITAL THERAPY Distressed and unstable relationships are a significant part of the aftereffects of trauma and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The experience of trauma intensifies the need for protective attachments (Herman, 1992). At the same time, it destroys the trust and security that are the main building blocks for such attachments. Trauma, particularly trauma inflicted by one person on another, constitutes a “violation of human connection” (Herman, 1992, p. 54). It can render such connection problematic, no matter how much it is needed, and define it as a source of danger. It is not surprising that traumatized partners seek out marital therapy to help them deal with the relationship distress that has been generated, maintained, or exacerbated by the effects of trauma.
    [Show full text]