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YOUNG L AWYERS Plate #2: The Family ‘Whirl’wind By AMANDA G. SCHREIBER Amanda G. Schreiber is the chair of the Connecticut Bar Association Young Lawyers Section for the 2019-2020 bar year. She is associate senior counsel at onduct yourself every day so that Cigna Health and Life Insurance others know they can trust you to Company in Bloomfield, where get it done. C she handles healthcare litigation specializing in ERISA and MHPAEA. If I had to provide advice to a young law- She graduated with honors from yer, this would top the list. Increasingly Quinnipiac University School of young lawyers have more of an expec- Law in 2011. tation that work can and should some- times yield to family time, but seeking out that balance with a legal career can be challenging. For those continuing to follow, I have dedicated my column this year to ex- you are practicing law and working late So, among all this chaos of spinning ploring the juggling act of the pres- hours, attending networking events, and plates, with the fine china requiring spe- ent-day young lawyer and how leaders worried about no one but yourself. Then cial attention and dedication to ensure it in the legal community can help young overnight you are married with a child does not fall—how do we get it all done? lawyers find balance to enable not just and scrambling to pick up from daycare productivity, but a healthier, happier life. on time, making cookies for the bake Perhaps balance can only truly be The perspective comes from watching sale, and crossing your fingers that box achieved with a change in perspective. a plate spinning act at a circus themed of diapers gets delivered today. First, we must dispel any idea that a law- show in Hartford and likening my own yer’s dedication to their family somehow experience as a young lawyer to this And while my life follows the trajec- makes them less ambitious or dedicated theatrical performance. I marveled at tory above, the need to balance and to the craft. Most young lawyers I know the careful balancing to keep the plates sometimes prioritize family over work are looking for a robust career with all twirling in the air—it felt a lot like the is not just limited to those with young the responsibility and high level work job, house, marriage, finances, kids, children. Family can constitute a mul- that comes with it—it’s just a matter of health, and wellbeing I try to keep in ro- titude of people and things, including knowing they can leave at 5 p.m. to pick tation every day. significant others, pets, parents, broth- up a child from daycare or keep those ers and sisters, or that new relationship Friday plans with mom to celebrate her None of those plates are more valuable that seems like “the one.” A newly en- birthday. This seems like such a simple than family. In the plate spinning act, it gaged couple may need additional time thing to ask for, yet it’s a privilege few is the fine china, strong and reinforced, to plan for their wedding. A beloved attorneys of any age enjoy. but irreplaceable and delicate in its own pet may be ailing and require multi- way. Nonetheless, I often find among my ple veterinary appointments. A person Second, we must shift our focus to value young lawyer friends (and I’m ashamed may need to take time off to assist an those that are efficient and results-orient- to say in my own life) that sometimes it elderly parent in their post-surgery ed. While the billable hour world we live is not given the priority, value, and atten- needs. All are equally important as they in often makes this difficult, I challenge tion it deserves. signify the most cherished bonds in that our legal community to incentivize these young lawyer’s life, and they should not areas. The young lawyers that juggle Perhaps it’s because the whirlwind of only be allowed, but encouraged, to pri- the many competing demands of their family comes on so quickly. One minute oritize them. life are some of the most efficient, but 38 CT Lawyer | ctbar.org January | February 2020 also creative and insightful colleagues I & LaLima PC, suggests that technology know. Their ability to multi-task is un- helps drive his efficiency: “Older law- precedented and they have learned the yers must recognize that with newer advanced yet difficult task of prioritiz- technology, much more can be accom- ing workload. Results-oriented leader- plished remotely than ever before. This ship that values someone who can pro- allows younger lawyers, especially those duce efficient, high quality work while with children, more flexibility and there meeting deadlines is not only critical for is less need to be tied to the office. My overall balance in a lawyer’s life, but for older partner has been very understand- maintaining workers who produce supe- ing of this new reality. I work hard for rior work. my clients, but working efficiently is not only important but critical to my Cindy Cieslak, chair-elect of the Young success.” Lawyers Section and partner at Rose Kallor LLP, agrees and suggests that Thus, to my struggling young lawyers young lawyers “find what works. Main- I give the following message: prioritize ly, what worked for my family is that I your cherished family time and do not made sure that I work with people I en- let that plate fall. But realize that with joy and trust, who can also trust me. My balance comes a responsibility and dedi- colleagues know that if I have to take rangements to ensure the work is time- cation on your part to still keep your oth- some time off to care for my son, family ly completed. They care about the end er plates—including your work plate— or myself, that I do it when either there result.” spinning. When you show others that is time in my schedule that allows for their trust in you is not misplaced, great it, or if a work matter is pressing and a Trent LaLima, CLE director of the Young things can come from the balance you Image credit: MHJ/DigitalVision Vectors/Getty Images Image credit: MHJ/DigitalVision Vectors/Getty family emergency arises, I will make ar- Lawyers Section and partner at Santos find together. n Test Drive a Section Today Network with colleagues Request and generate referrals Exchange best practices Join up to three sections, for the remainder of the bar year, forFREE! Act by March 31! Use promo code TESTDRIVE20 at ctbar.org/TestDrive20. January | February 2020 ctbar.org | CT Lawyer 39.