September 27, 2019 | Volume XVII, Issue 9

pride in the room was Victoria Blair) took The Night We Crowned our overwhelming. the stage wearing “Our history is very their pridewear, important to us,” Rik they were asked King and Queen of Pride 2020 Newton-Treadway told questions by the me the first time we talk- very diverse pan- By Mary Taylor your Queen of Pride 2020 Victoria Blair, ed about this contest, el of judges. We For those of you who missed the events and to First Runner-Up King Ja Dore Leg- and it was very appar- had past kings, of last Friday night, at the Motor House, acy, aka Seth. ent because on a table queens, and the your new King and Queen of Pride 2020 The show was opened with a won- set off to the side as one current Inter- were crowned! Congratulations go out derful duet from Moulin Rouge done by entered the inauguration national Mister to King of Pride 2020 Prynce Cache and the outgoing hall was Leather asking king and queen, New royalty set the “Mem- the questions. which set the ory Table,” Told to me by tone for the to preside over with photos one of the con- A royal rest of the eve- of all our testants later in ning. The MCs Baltimore’s 45th past queens the night those questions were “some welcome for the evening Pride celebration who are no longer with us, of the hardest questions I’ve ever been were Rik New- at least in body. “Their spir- asked, but they made me think and that to B’more ton-Treadway and Shawnna it will always be here in the hearts of all was a good thing.” Alexander and the serving of of us who have had the pleasure to know As the evening went on, I thought to Pride 2020 sweet tea and shade between and work with them,” he continued. “Pride myself, “I would not want to be a judge them had the audience in lives through them.” sitting in the hot seat tonight – this is go- stitches. As the other perform- As the three contestants (two for ing to be too close to call.” I was right – ers (all past queens) did their king – The Prynce Cache and Ja Dore only six points made difference between numbers, the anticipation and Legacy [aka Seth] – and one for queen, —continued on page 3

is a family-friendly, inclusive around its tail, and rodeo and country event that the wild drag race is merges traditional rodeo fa- a three person team 3rd Annual vorites with some non-tra- event to get a 400-to- ditional fun and hilarious 500 pound steer un- Keystone State events all in a safe and in- der control, then get viting atmosphere where ev- a drag queen up on eryone feels welcome. Both its back and get that combination across Gay Rodeo men and women compete the finish line. Make sure that you bring equally in all rodeo events your camera and capture these unique and anyone ages 12 and events! some at the rodeo. There will be some over are welcome to com- This year’s rodeo will feature a new heels available for those who need them. pete. unique hilarious event – High Heeled Want to help? The rodeo is looking If you are attending you Goat Dressing! Competitors for volunteers and spon- can expect to see some will be teaming up to get their Get set to sors. Sponsorship starts at traditional rodeo events goat under control, get a pair hoedown $25 and all sponsorships such as bull riding, barrel of underwear on them all while are 100% tax deductible. racing, and calf roping and in their three-inch heels. The October 12th Volunteers are asked to some unique rodeo events, team that can do that the fast- work for four hours and get such as goat dressing, the wild drag race est wins. Anyone is welcome to com- a volunteer t-shirt. and steer decorating. Goat Dressing is a pete in this event, To purchase tickets, become a spon- team-relay race no experience sor, volunteer or for more information on by Adam Romanik to put under- needed and this event, visit Ksgra.org The third annual Keystone State Gay Ro- wear on a goat; teams can The Keystone State Gay Rodeo deo rides into action October 12th start- steer decorating sign-up the Association is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt ing at 11:30 am at Spring Valley Coun- is a team event day of the non-profit organization whose purpose ty Park (9777 Crest Road, Glen Rock, to get a 400-to- rodeo. Bring is to promote the country and western Pennsylvania). Spring Valley County 500 pound steer your own lifestyle and rodeo type events within the t Park is located two miles off Interstate under control heels or use LGBT community and their allies. and tie a ribbon 83 in Southern York County. The event Pin the tail ... 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com local news // What’s Going On Out There? LGBT Dance Party Held Outside of King and Queen of Pride 2020 Marriott Waterfront Hotel to Protest —continued from page 1 ages. Finally, thanks to the contestants, judges, staff, formers, and most of all the Republican Congressional Retreat the winner and first runner-up for the king. communities for supporting us to made Even though there was only one person this evening a great success.” Rik con- running for queen, she still had to make tinued to say “As Baltimore starts the of inhumanity at the southern border.” In By Lauren Vella 75% of the points to be crowned. march towards its 45th Pride celebration conversation with the community leaders, On September 13th, an uncharacteristi- Scores were totaled, the envelopes in June 2020 we look forward to what your Phoenix and Sea said that the treatment cally cool Friday night, a small but mighty were sealed, and it was time to announce King the Prynce Cache and Queen Victo- of immigrants at the border was horrif- group of LGBT community members and the winners. But before that happened, all ria will bring us. Thank you to the Pride ic, but that the treatment of marginalized their allies gathered on the side of the the past kings and queens went over to Center of Maryland and Baltimore Pride groups within the immigrant group was Baltimore Marriott Waterfront hotel. They the Memory Table and picked up a pho- for this opportunity and honor to once even worse. gathered to protest President Trump’s to and stood on the stage to meet and again produce these events.” “It’s hard enough to get around as a arrival in Baltimore and the GOP con- greet the soon to be announced king and We also had the chance to sit with refugee without being trans – and then to gressional retreat that took place within queen. The past meeting the future was a our new king and queen and asked their have that on top of it. Generally they but the confines of the hotel. The group was beautiful sight to see. thought of the evening and what their first trans people in solitary confinement, re- part of the “LGBTQ+ / Allies Dance Party” At the end of the evening I had the message to you community would be. fuse them healthcare – it’s almost an im- scheduled that night in conjunction with chance to re-sit down with the producers King Prynce said, “I am honored to be the possible environment for a trans person.” the union, immigrants’ rights, and climate Chris, Ganivah, and Rik. They were ready King of Baltimore Pride in 2020. I plan to Phoenix also described the story of Jo- change demos planned for that weekend. with an official statement: be an outstanding and motivational King hana Medina Leon, a trans woman from El Both protesters and organizers said that “We the producers of the Baltimore for our LGBTQ community. All I can be is Salvador who could not find employment they are against Trump’s racist policies King and Queen Pageants and the Lady myself but that’s not all I can think and in her homeland as a nurse because of and want to show Republican leaders that Lisa Stage are thankful and grateful for care about. This will be an adventurous discrimination. She ventured to the Amer- their existence will not be stymied by an- the communities who stepped up to sup- year for me. Stick beside me.” ican border in search for a new life, and ti-LGBT law and rhetoric. port this long tradition and celebrations “I am also very honored to be your when Immigration and Customs Enforce- Tensions in the city flared against of Our Baltimore Pride royalty and their newly crowned Queen of Pride 2020,” ment detained her, she was denied lifesav- President Trump following his remarks legacies of community service through said Victoria Blair. “Should you feel the ing healthcare for a month. The day she on Twitter in July when he claimed that entertainment, without which this could need to say how you could do things was released, she died. Baltimore is a “disgusting rat-and-rodent not have been possible. We also want better, instead, put your words into ac- The two reiterated that the struggles infested mess.” The post was aimed at to thank Queen Bambi and King Justin tion – get involved! Show Baltimore the district’s rep- for their contributions towards making that every letter in the LGBT+ alpha- resentative, Elijah our communities a better place, and our bet stands for someone who matters!” Cummings. It was sponsors and various groups and busi- See you at Pride in the Park in June no secret that the nesses that donated to the prize pack- 2020. t president’s online rhetoric stoked the fires of pro- test. Demonstra- tors came out in droves with signs and, most notably, a giant rat dressed like Mr. Trump. The programming was organized by the Baltimore Wel- coming Commit- tee, a coalition of Downtown dance activists who came together to make their protest as in the camps at the bor- voices heard when Republican leaders ar- Trump visits der are not dissimilar to rived. Baltimore the struggles that many During a press conference that people with intersection- Wednesday, lead organizer Cristi Linn al identities have in detention centers in said, “We are not here simply to protest Charm City. Phoenix said, “All of these in- Republicans, but rather, to call attention to justices are connected. Most marginalized the greed, selfishness, racism, and xeno- people – trans, queer, black – are facing phobia that has taken hold of our country, this.” eroding our democracy and destroying our The dance party served to celebrate world.” Among other demands – such as differences in identity and culture despite severing ties with the National Rifle As- Republican-lead efforts to deny marginal- sociation – Linn called for all members of ized groups their rights. After Sea joked Congress to protect the rights of the LGBT about yelling at Mitch McConnell in per- community and use their influence to “stop son, the organizer said that the object of the Trump White House from any further the dance party was to make the Baltimore attacks.” LGBT community visible and to let con- Abbey Sea and Opal Phoenix of Bal- servative lawmakers know that we are not timore for Border Justice held the dance afraid to be open about our identities. party, an event, they said, was inspired When asked about why they attended by their visit to the border at El Paso and the dance party, many of the participants Clint, Texas, and the injustice they wit- uttered expletives, invoking the president’s nessed there. Their organization strives to name and unabashedly celebrating their “provide tangible material support through defiance of conformity. t mutual aid efforts, to address the crisis BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 3 beyond the beltway

compiled by Jim Becker found in his apartment in 2017 and this email, dating apps and social media. commitment. January. Gemmel Moore, 26, died in The nude photos ban divides the gay Virginia seeks “Judge Daniel S. Fiore II has barred 2017. Timothy Dean, 55, died early this community. On Reddit, one user sug- Baughman’s attorneys from presenting year. Last week, a black man was photo- gested that the law had left Grindr “in to confine the state’s first psychologist as a wit- graphed entering Buck’s West Hollywood shambles right now.” ”My first impres- ness or from even introducing her report apartment despite the fact that two men sions are that this is a law passed by a gay man who into evidence. This new civil trial will be died there of an overdose. It is unclear bunch of old men who think they’re doing played out with few of the legal protec- if the man is the same individual who a good thing, but in reality served his tions assured criminal defendants.” It is overdosed on metham- you can’t really call every impossible to call any of this “scientif- phetamine. Authorities nude sent unsolicited just sentence ic” or fair. Homophobic bias is built into allege that Buck per- because the receiving the process. (Washington Post – Philip sonally injected drugs party didn’t say ‘Send Arlington, Virginia – An opinion Fronaci and Roger Lancaster – at Wash- into a man who survived me a d*** pic’,” they ex- piece published in the Washington Post, ingtonpost.com/opinions/2019/08/23/ an overdose this month. plained. “On the bright by Philip Fronaci and Roger Lancast- arlington-judge-must-decide-if-nonvio- Prosecutors allege Buck side, maybe it’ll stop er, states that an Arlington judge must lent-sex-offender-should-stay-incarcer- thwarted the man’s at- those people who send decide if a gay nonviolent sex offender ated-after-serving-his-sentence) [Philip tempts to get help, but he close up anus pics as should stay incarcerated after serving Fornaci is a civil rights lawyer based in managed to escape to a the first message.” An- his sentence. In their commentary For- Washington. Roger Lancaster is the au- nearby gas station, where other user countered: naci and Lancaster wrote, “the Circuit thor of Sex Panic and the Punitive State.] he called for help. The man “Honestly, this is a good Court in liberal Arlington County, Virgin- was rushed to hospital and thing. Grindr has an option for saying if ia will be the scene of a heavy-handed treated. you want NSFW pic or not. When people morality play, with prosecutors seeking Buck has been photographed with are a**holes and send unsolicited NSFW lifelong incarceration for a young gay Democratic powerful Democrats including former pics, them getting punished for it is com- man who has already paid an extraordi- presidential candidate Hillary Clinton pletely deserved.” A lawyer has suggest- nary price for youthful, nonviolent sexual donor arrested and former Governor Jerry Brown. Buck ed that regardless of intention, the ban indiscretions. There is serious concern has donated tens of thousands of dol- could be difficult to enforce. “It reaches about the fairness of the trial which is set after 3rd man lars to campaigns of California candi- things that arguably could cover imag- dates, including Gov. Gavin Newsom. es related to medical advice or moms ODs in his He has also given to Democrats includ- sharing information about breastfeeding ing Hillary Clinton, Barack Obama, Los or their babies’ health – things like that home Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti and many which certainly can’t be criminalized,” at- others. If convicted of all charges, Buck torney J.T. Morris said. Bumble, which Los Angeles – Prominent Democrat- faces a maximum sentence of five years plans to take the law to the federal level, ic donor Ed Buck is arrested for running and eight months in state prison. (The told Fox 4 News it understands enforce- a drug den and “being a violent sexual Daily Mail & Associated Press at Daily- ment will be a challenge, but hopes that it predator who preys on men struggling mail.co.uk/news/article-7475983/Cali- serves as a deterrent. (Pink News – Russ with addiction” after a third man over- fornia-Democratic-donor-charged-run- Smith at pinknews.co.uk/2019/09/03/tex- Galen Baugham – facing life in prison for dosed in his California apartment ac- ning-drug-house.html) as-nude-photos-ban-grindr-bumble) gay sex thanks to Democratic Virginia cording to the Associated Press and The attorney general Daily Mail. Buck was charged on Sep- tember 17th with a felony count each of to begin on September 30th.” battery causing serious injury, adminis- Texas passes New Texas Virginia, like 19 other states and the tering methamphetamine, and maintain- federal government, allows lifetime civ- law banning Holocaust il commitment for persons found guilty of having broken laws related to sex, unsolicited Museum: LGBT including non-violent offenses. Under these laws, people who have completed nude pics permanent their criminal sentences under any of a large number of sex-related offenses can Austin – Texas has passed a new exhibit be indefinitely detained in a high-securi- law banning the sharing of unsolicited ty facility until the state determines that nude photos, which could have conse- Dallas – Few if any other Holocaust they no longer present a risk, typically quences for gay dating app users. The museums include LGBT human rights in never. “As a standard part of the SVPA new law makes sharing sexually explicit their permanent exhibits. But in Dallas’s [Sexually Violent Predator Act] process, Ed Buck with Hillary Clinton materials electronically a class C mis- Holocaust museum, both local and na- the Department of Behavioral Health demeanor, punishable by a fine of up to tional figures – Harvey Milk nationally and Developmental Services hired a ing a drug house. California prosecutors $500. and John Thomas locally – are part of psychologist to determine whether Ga- are asking that Buck, a “violent, danger- Unusually, lawmakers collaborat- the exhibit. So are Bill Nelson and Ter- len Baughman was a sexual predator. ous sexual predator,” be held on $4 mil- ed with the dating app Bumble on the ry Tebedo, the couple for whom the HIV After conducting a mental health assess- lion bail. crack-down, with house representative clinic on Cedar Springs Road is named. ment, psychologist Ilona Gravers found Prosecutors allege Buck provided Morgan Meyer working closely with the Lawrence v. Texas, the case that invali- that Baughman was not a predator and methamphetamine that led to two over- Dallas-based company. “They had a dated section 21.06 of the Texas penal recommended his release. Unsatisfied dose deaths. On September 11th, anoth- number of people who were using the code that made same-sex relationships with this opinion, Virginia Attorney Gen- er man overdosed on methamphetamine app complaining about the sending of illegal, is featured. eral Mark R. Herring (D), ignored Virgin- provided by Buck, though he survived, these images and they quickly realized The new Dallas Holocaust and Hu- ia law and hired a second psychologist, authorities have alleged. Prosecutors there was no recourse,” Meyer told Fox man Rights Museum opened to the pub- Michelle Sjolinder, who was handpicked say Buck offered drugs, money and shel- 4 News. “There was nothing that could lic on September 18th. “At a time when by prosecutors outside the statutory pro- ter to vulnerable addicts in exchange for be done. It wasn’t a criminal offence – our country is being attacked from within, cess. With the first report in hand, the participation in sexual fetishes, includ- although it was definitely digital sexual our museum is critically needed,” said replacement expert gave the state what ing administering dangerous drug dos- harassment.” The ban came into effect Mary Pat Higgins, CEO of the museum. it wanted and claimed that Baughman es. Prosecutors allege Buck provided on Saturday, August 31st, and applies The museum uses cutting edge technol- was a SVP in need of potentially lifelong the meth that killed two men who were to nude photos sent over text messages, ogy. For its hologram theatre, Holocaust

4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway survivor Max Glauben, 91, recorded 20 is released in partnership with the Equal- hours of footage. Ask Max a question ity Federation, the National Black Justice Brewery LGBTQ youth and his hologram (or rather the wizadry Coalition, and the National Center for linked to producing the hologram) quick- Lesbian Rights. creates LGBTQ organize ly searches for the right response and “Rural communities have always been home to people of color and LGBT beer North Carolina people of color, but their lives and needs are often unexamined or overlooked,” Asheville, North Carolina – On Sep- Sunrise said Ineke Mushovic, head of MAP. tember 12th, Wicked Weed Brewing re- “LGBT people of color are more likely to leased a new beer honoring the LGBTQ Movement live in poverty, more vulnerable to dis- community in Western North Carolina crimination and less able to respond to and sent a message of welcoming and in- Charlotte, North Carolina – At the its harmful effects. Comprehensive non- clusion to all, the Campaign for Southern age of 10, Lucia Paulsen started to learn discrimination laws are vital to improving Equality (CSE) reported. The beer, called a lot about climate change. Earlier this the lives of LGBT people of color in rural “Y’all Means Ale,” will support CSE’s work year, she joined the Sunrise Movement, America – as is blocking and rescind- toward “legal and lived equality” for all a group organizing young people to dis- Dallas Holocaust Museum ing religious exemption laws that allow LGBTQ Southerners. The beer’s title riffs cuss and manage the climate change cri- employers and taxpayer-funded service on “Y’all Means All,” a motto in CSE’s sis. Paulsen attended a strike in March, answers the question. And if you’re lucky providers to discriminate.” work across the South. where young demonstrators stood in sol- as I was, the real Max will be on hand in This report offers extensive new The new release is part of Wicked idarity with Swedish climate activist Gre- the museum to interact playfully with his findings on LGBT people of color in ru- Weed’s “Beers that Build” series. One ta Thunberg. The strike inspired Paulsen holographic self and answer additional ral communities, where discrimination dollar from each pour of Y’all Means Ale to start a Sunrise hub in Charlotte. “I questions from the audience. based on race and immigration status is will benefit the Campaign for Southern always wanted to do something, but it The LGBT exhibit is part of the Pivot compounded by discrimination based on Equality. The release will also take center wasn’t until then that I realized I could.” to America Wing. After exhibits on the sexual orientation, gender identity, and stage at Wicked Weed’s Pridetoberfest, Paulsen had been involved with some Holocaust and then on genocides around gender expression. Some of the report’s which coincides with the Eleventh Annu- LGBTQ-related activism before, but the the world, this final exhibit explores the findings: People of color, including those al Blue Ridge Pride Festival in Asheville March 15th strike was her first climate-fo- civil rights movement and human rights on September 28th. Crafted by one of cused action. The group received a lot of for immigrants, Native Americans, reli- Wicked Weed’s founders and brewers, press coverage after members staged a gious rights, women’s rights, and more. Jessica Dickinson, the recipe for the beer protest outside of House Speaker Nan- According to Higgins, she’s interested consists of ingredients which represent a cy Pelosi’s Washington, DC, office with in bringing in speakers to talk about the different color of the rainbow, universally then Congresswoman-elect Alexandria exhibits in the Pivot to America Wing in- recognized as a symbol of LGBTQ Pride, Ocasio Cortez in an effort to convince cluding the history of LGBT rights in Dal- such as honey for the color yellow, rose the speaker to push forward some sort las and the US. The museum is designed hips for the color red and smoked plums of policy to deal with climate change. to welcome 200,000 visitors each year. for the color violet. Now, the Sunrise movement is pushing About half of those are students who will Wicked Weed’s Rachel Dudasik said, for a climate change debate authorized learn about the effect of hatred and big- “At Wicked Weed, we’ve always been by the Democratic National Committee otry and be encouraged to be “upstand- proud to be a welcoming and inclusive (DNC). Officially, the DNC has rejected ers” – people who stand up to those be- space for all, including members of the the idea of a climate change debate, and haviors – and not be bystanders. (Dallas LGBTQ community. That’s why we’re so committee rules bar anyone participating Voice – David Taffet at Dallasvoice.com/ excited this year to support the Campaign in an unauthorized debate from sharing new-holocaust-and-human-rights-muse- for Southern Equality and their deep com- the stage in an official debate. um-includes-lgbt-exhibits) mitments to equity and empathy through Paulsen has a message for previous the release of Y’all Means Ale.” Jasmine generations. She says that people have Beach-Ferrara, head of CSE, added, been working on climate activism for a “Our team at the Campaign for Southern long time, even though support for the Report looks at Equality had so much fun working with movement has grown rapidly in a short Wicked Weed’s team during the actu- amount of time. She says she is grateful LGBT people of in rural areas, are more likely than white al brewing process for Y’all Means Ale for those people, because without them, people to identify as LGBT; LGBT people and saw firsthand the passion and spirit climate activism could not have become color in rural of color in rural states are especially vul- that went into crafting this beer. We’re an issue on the national stage. “It starts nerable to discrimination; rural states are so grateful for a Southern business like with a few people and then more people America significantly less likely than majority ur- Wicked Weed that is leading with its val- find out about it. It gets bigger and big- ban states to have vital nondiscrimination ues and tangibly supporting our work to ger, like a snowball.” At just 13, Paulsen Des Moines, Iowa – Media cov- protections and are also more likely to build a South where all LGBTQ people is organizing another strike – this one in erage often portrays rural America as have harmful, discriminatory laws; among can thrive.” (Q Notes Online – Lainey Mil- an effort to change the official DNC po- singularly white, conservative and work- rural states, those with worse LGBT poli- len at Goqnotes.com/63922/brewery-cre- sition on climate change. In coordination ing-class. Yet at least 10 million people cy climates also have higher populations ates-benefit-beer/) with the national group, Paulsen’s hub of of color, including LGBT people of color, of people of color, meaning LGBT people activists will stage a protest on the morn- call rural America home. The Movement of color are especially at risk of discrimi- ing of September 20th. For more on the Advancement Project (MAP) released a nation and especially likely to lack protec- These news notes have been compiled, Sunrise Movement visit sunrisemove- t new report, Where We Call Home: LGBT tion against it; and LGBT people of color with permission, from the online version ment.org. (Q Notes Online at https:// People of Color in Rural America (Lgbt- experience similar or higher rates of both of various newspapers and other web goqnotes.com/63818/young-activists- map.org/rural-lgbt-poc), which examines poverty and unemployment compared to sites. We thank these publications for speak-out-about-climate-change) allowing us to bring you their news sto- the unique challenges of LGBT people both non-LGBT people of color and white ries. Usually the reports have been sig- of color in rural America and highlights people. “LGBT, queer, and same-gender nificantly edited and you can read the distinct experiences across different loving people of color are central to the full story by going to the web site men- communities of color. This report details fabric of rural life in America,” said David tioned following the item. Comments how the structural challenges of rural life Johns, head of the National Black Justice are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker amplify acceptance of or discrimination Coalition. (Seattle Gay News – Sgn.org/ and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride against LGBT people of color. The report sgnnews47_38/page11.cfm) Media. baltimoreoutloud.com

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As the activists laid out their cases to a cheering crowd in the massive ball- room, plenary host Joy Reid of MSNBC Getting the orating, officiant, ceremony music, and and Director Redfield remained in their other directly-related expenses. You’ll My Fabulous places on stage, joined by conference Wedding want about half of the money you expect organizer Paul Kawata of NMAC, as if he to spend on your wedding to be avail- Disease were offering assurance and moral sup- You Want able immediately for first payments and By Mark S. King port to both the activists and his slightly David Egan deposits. stunned plenary guests. The two most important numbers in Once the protest was complete, Reid your wedding planning are your guest assured the conference attendees that list and your budget. They guide every Activists Halt Redfield would be meeting with a select Time is a Thing planning decision. It’s really important group of the activists to have a calmer You can plan your whole wedding within a to know these numbers before you plan US Conference conversation. few weeks, if you’re seriously organized anything else. Knowing your budget I joined them for that meeting, a and have the stomach for it. But most within a thousand dollars or so and your on AIDS to group of a dozen or so, and although we people have neither the desire guest list within ten peo- agreed the meeting would stay off the re- nor the intestinal fortitude to go ple will be enough. cord, I can report that each of the major that way. So, setting that kind When to start Your time – Is plan- Protest CDC issues outlined during the protest were of whirlwind planning experi- ning something that you revisited with Redfield. Some items, ence aside, let’s talk about a planning your like to do, or is it pulling Dr. Robert Redfield, the Director of the such as the battle over patent royalties less stressful planning timeline wedding teeth? How much time Centers for Disease Control and Pre- from Gilead’s PrEP drug Truvada, are for your wedding. can you – or will you – vention (CDC) surely saw it coming. Pro- things Redfield cannot discuss due to lit- When should you start plan- devote to planning your tests are part of the DNA of the United igation, which he has stated publicly. ning? wedding? Is your sweet- States Conference on AIDS (USCA), and Most reassuring to me was that, Pick a date – Is there a particular ie deeply involved, or are you carrying conference organizers have nev- date that you have in mind for your wed- most of the load? Are you deadline driv- ding? If not, how about a month, or a en? time of year, or even a year? One way How you approach planning in gen- or the other, pick a moment in time that eral speaks to how you will plan your you can mark on your wedding, and how planning calendar as you use your wedding “wedding.” professionals. The The wedding pro- more support you fessionals’ calendars need, the earlier you – Is there a venue, or should start. a caterer, or even a Size and com- photographer, that you plexity – The size have your heart set and complexity of on using? It’s entirely your wedding also possible that they have matters. A wed- already booked dates ding for 35 people, that are one, two, or for instance, takes even three years into much less planning the future. To add to than one for 200. the fun, you’re not only Single venue, low- competing with other key weddings are quicker and Activists disrupt the USCA even after the drama weddings, but with graduations, birthday easier to plan than multi-venue affairs er shied opening plenary. of the protest, Red- parties, bar and bat mitzvahs, corporate involving many wedding professionals from welcoming dis- credit: Derrick Mapp field was receptive, events, and more. The earlier you start and elements. sent from activists. circumspect, and planning, the greater your chances of Are you going to have everything In fact, they schedule time in their finely agreed to have future meetings with var- getting the wedding professionals you done by wedding professionals, or are produced event for just such occasions. ious activists to address their concerns want. you thinking about some do-it-yourself Still, when a large group of diverse in more detail. If you’re planning a church wedding, action? The more DIY you do, the more activists stormed the stage during the Act up. Fight back. Fight AIDS. t what dates and days of the week does time you should allocate to your plan- opening plenary on Thursday, their sheer the church have available, and how far ning. By the way, a good DIY rule of number was impressive, as were out do they book? Some churches won’t thumb is to double or even triple the time their considerable list of grievanc- Activists meet with plan further than a year out, which cre- you think it will take to make everything. es against the CDC and, in some- Dr. Robert Redfield ates its own kind of planning problem. The answer is … It depends. I think times very direct and personal terms, Your guests – Closer to home, let’s you should answer the questions I’ve against CDC Director Redfield him- talk about the people you plan to invite posed as soon as you are engaged. self. to your wedding. Are there guests whom Based on those answers, start your plan- God, I love a good protest. This you must have who live far away and ning anywhere from 18 to six months one gets high marks. The speakers will need significant notice to plan trav- ahead of your wedding date. That said, were passionate, concise, and with- el? People have lives, complicated with the more time you give yourself to plan, ering in their takedowns of everything things like work, children, and, (gasp) the less stress you’ll experience and the from the erasure of transgender wom- vacations. Now is the time to check-in more fun you’ll have doing it. t en from epidemiological data to the with your must-have guests about their David L. Egan is the proprietor and ongoing controversy over Truvada life schedules. steward of Chase Court, a wedding and pricing and patents to the quite trou- The money – Then there’s the event venue in downtown Baltimore. Visit bling new policy of testing HIV genet- budget to consider. 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still the case. For the purposes of this ar- gaged with are innovate, curious, and Changing with the Times ticle that’s not the case. seeking solutions to help guide them In Anne Arundel County in the great through this time of monumental chang- By Johanna M. Dolan debunk myths, put faces on the commu- state of Maryland they are working dil- es in our laws; societal viewpoints; and Let’s talk about the cops – today’s cops. nity, and role play common situations igently to end this vic- the increasing numbers of us Not the cops from 50 years ago, ten years where they want to get it right. timization of the coming out the closet and be- ago, or even last year. I’m talking about • That they give me written feedback LGBTQ communi- ing wonderfully, beautifully, the ones in uniform today who want to be about what they learn; what’s working; ty. They are setting authentically ourselves for included in our community, who want to what isn’t working; and what would help a new standard for the first time in living mem- protect us, and treat us as equal human them to apply what they learn. our state. One that ory. They are US. These of- beings of worth and value. I’m not talking Overwhelmingly, the police officers police officers in ficers deserve our respect, about the cops who dismiss us, or bully I’m working with say “yes”. All the way New York City, Phil- our support, and our em- us, or don’t give our humanity a second up to the chief of police. adelphia, and many pathy as they navigate the thought. I’m talking about the ones who I tell you that to tell you this, it’s not cities are setting. impossible position of being want to understand us; who want to de- me they are responding to when they It’s going to take stuck between the changing fend us; change policies, procedures, and agree to my guidelines. It’s their desire time and guidance law and changing society. ultimately laws for us. The cops who are to create a safer community for all of and collaboration What an uncomfortable related to some of us, who admire us, who their citizens that they are responding and speaking up and place to need a break! Come date us, who raise us, who love us, the to. It’s so they never have to bury anoth- encouragement from back next article and I’ll cops who are us. These are the cops I er fellow officer or broken-hearted child the LGBTQ commu- share what they are doing to want to talk about. due to the shame and fear which for too nity to change over educate themselves. t I understand the history between po- long has been part of the coming out a century’s worth of The principal of Dolan lice officers and the LGBTQ community. process. It’s so they create better, more institutionalized hab- and Associates, Johanna For a long time, I was completely wary of elegant solutions to enforcing the laws. its created by enforc- M. Dolan brings nearly two them myself. My thoughts and feelings It’s to stop divisiveness so we have real ing laws designed to decades of personal ex- are shifting – for good reason. community. oppress, convert, and eradicate gender perience as an entrepreneur, 11 years This last year I’ve had the distinct Admittedly it was scary at first (al- and sexual orientation minorities. I’m not as a professional financial planner, ten pleasure of educating some of these po- right, terrifying) for me to be in front of making those things right or decent or years as a life coach, and two years as lice officers, as an invited guest into their a room full of cops with guns and hand- even saying we should overlook them. I an ordained minister. She speaks open- home. I ask each and every one of them cuffs dressing the way I do. I mean it am saying that not all police officers – ly and candidly on issues ranging from for three things: wasn’t that long ago that a person would especially the ones who want to be part addiction, dysfunctional relationships, fi- • Respect – I respect them for their be stopped, possibly arrested, and may- of our protests, our celebrations, and our nances, the effects of long term chronic willingness to learn about us. be molested by law enforcement officers future – are the ones that harmed us in illness on life, and more. • That they engage with me fully – they because of my gender expression. I our past. Many of them are not. bring their questions, concerns, labels, know in some areas of the country that’s The police officers I have been en- and challenges to the table so that we can

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t 19_LBH_0504_LGBTQ_OutLoud_Ad_Resize_Print.indd 1 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.co9/5/19 11:49m AM 7 quality of life // TRans Lives Transitions | My First Day Back to Work By Karen Kendra Holmes ness (CRI) without giving my name. The about my transition. We had feared the me at the front desk who welcomed Like everyone in our community, my first next day my friend told me the reaction news might leak out from her. After I told me back to work. Up to the 8th floor I day back to work after I transitioned full- and response that was displayed to her, her she said she didn’t care, and she still went to my cubicle and to my surprise time is a day I will never forget. For me, and so I said I would meet and talk with loved me and that I was a good worker there were flowers, cards, and a couple the day was October 12th, 2010. Let me her. While talking with the director I was and that’s all that mattered to her. She of gifts. There were emails on my new take you back four months earlier – to getting the same positive, welcoming gave me a big hug and off I went, return- email account from co-workers who June 2010 – when I attended the Phila- response. She said she wanted to talk ing home and to return to work on Oc- were welcoming me back to work. First delphia Trans Health Conference (now with our CEO to advise him the plan. The tober 12th, 2010. I was also told during stop after I got settled was to go to the called the Philadelphia Trans Wellness CEO gave his blessings and told her do that time by the di- security office to get my new ID badge. Conference). While attending this confer- whatever it takes to make rector of civil rights As the security employee was about to ence I saw five, six, seven-year-old kids it happen and that it goes not to call anyone take my photo he said, “Are you ready enjoying themselves and having fun, only smoothly for me. at work or look at to take your photo or would you rather to find out they were transgender kids. Later I was advised that work emails until I use this photo”, which was one of my I attended the workshops only to hear I was to keep my transition return. At a manda- model pictures taken in the park. This stories of lives just like mine. The more a secret between director tory meeting with photo was shown at the mandatory I heard, the more I was beginning to un- and myself. At that point all our state offices meeting and I said, “Oh yeah, this pic- derstand that I was transgender too. I left we set up meetings once and headquarters ture!” that conference fired up and like a run- a week to go over plans to at the same time I As the safety officer for my agen- away freight train back to Maryland and to tell the agency around the told staff the sto- cy I couldn’t just hide at my desk all work the next day. I wanted to talk with a country on the same day and ry about my tran- day – I had to walk around to check on friend at work to see what I needed to do time without it leaking out to sition and I would things and I said to myself, “I must do to transition full time as a woman at work. anyone. I said, “Not a prob- be coming back as my job.” I felt like I was in a parade, That Monday I went looking for my lem. On Facebook I’m under Karen. After being walking around the agency that day for friend, who is also one of our agency’s a different name – going by told the news about staff to see me. Along the way, some of attorneys, who just happened to be trav- Karen Kendra Harris”, and I Karen Kendra me a lot of the staff the women who had offices would stop eling and then afterwards on vacation. knew no one from our agency Holmes jumped on Facebook look- me to say, “You look awesome and if It was the longest two weeks of my life. would find me. ing for me. Little did they you need to hide and be yourself, feel When she returned to work, I was so On October 1st, 2010 after know all they were going to free to use my office”. I told them thank happy to see her and tell her I had some- work I went home and threw away all my find out were all the good things I had you, but I would be okay. The rest of the thing to tell her. I shut her door to tell her male clothes except for one shirt, pants, been doing in and around the communi- day was a charm, even going to lunch I was transgender. She said that she was and sneakers. On Monday, October 4th ty and country. I heard that because of with a few people. I have to say that I so honored that I trusted her enough to I went into the agency one last time as this mandatory meeting, they all thought had a couple of co-workers who were come to her and she would talk with the Tony to tell the head of my department they were going to be fired. Little did they friends and were mad at me because, firm’s director of civil rights and inclusive- know it was about me. The only issue they had no idea and I didn’t tell them. that really came up from that hour-long I told them that director told me not to training was the bathroom. My agency tell anyone in fear that it would leak out, had that all taken care of by making the so they forgave me. A couple of com- small bathrooms on each floor into single ments were, “Why didn’t I make it easy use bathrooms with locks on the doors. for them by staying with the name Tony, During that time off I spent the time but with an ‘i’?” I told them, “Make it getting myself together to return to work. easy for you? I’m the one who must an- I called up my friend to put a weave in swer now all the time and to start writ- my hair and go to the nail salon to get a ing and answer emails as Karen”. I told pedicure and manicure, getting tips add- them it is harder for me than you, and ed and painted with a very nice burgundy I told them this is who I’ve been deep color. Sunday, October 11th, 2010 – the down in my soul all my life. I then told Saturday September 28, night before going back to work – I pulled them the story of when I told my mom 10p.m. out the outfit I wanted to wear for my first that my name was going to be Karen. UNDERWEAR NIGHT day back. It was a nice pair of slacks and This is something my mother never told W/ DJ CAPTAIN JOE top with about one-and-a-half-inch heels. me before, that if she had a girl, she I didn’t want to go back to work throwing was going to name her Karen. At that Friday October 4, 10p.m. a dress right away into their faces. That moment I lost it and knew I was who I #KIKI: Dance Party night I slept like a baby without a care was meant to be. Now my friends and and Drag Show in the world, and I was in total peace for co-workers understood why I went with A SILLY SHOW what I was about to do and knowing my the name Karen. That day I was told it life wouldn’t be the same starting the was okay to leave work early due to my next day. big day back to work. As I left I started Monday, October 12th was “D-Day.” saying to myself, “Wow! What an awe- I woke up at 5:30 am and was anxious some day. I did it!” to be at work by 8 am, but the director In the next article I will tell you of civil rights told me to relax and come about joining the Maryland Defense in around 10 am. I received a phone call Force (MDDF), supporting the Mary- from one of my co-workers and she said land National Guards. MDDF is the de- she would meet me at the McDonald’s, a fense force for the state of Maryland. couple doors down from the building, so So remember, shoot for the moon that we could go together. After we finish and even if you miss you’ll be among eating, another co-worker from the Of- the stars! See you all in the next article 60376037 BelairBelair Road.Road. Baltimore,Baltimore, MDMD 2120621206 fice of Inspector General (OIG) stopped and be safe out there! t by McDonald’s too and he said he would Reach the author at kkholmes@kk- 443-885-9799443-885-9799 ·· Facebook:Facebook: @mixersbar@mixersbar walk back with us for support. 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become so severe that hospitalization is So how could you defuse the conflict needed. In a review of cases published but also express what is going on within in the New England Journal of Medicine, Ask you? The fact is that if feelings are not put Open Wide most hospitalized patients needed ox- on the table in some fashion, they fester. ygen and one-third needed a ventilator Dr. J Here I am not referring to minor matters, ask Dr Eva things you forget about when a day goes Dr Eva Hersh (mechanical breathing machine). Images Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. of affected patients’ lungs look similar to by. I am talking about what you think of those of patients with bacterial or viral even after two or three days. So the first pneumonia, but tests have not shown Who, Me? step is to acknowledge to yourself that Dangers of any evidence of infection and antibiotic you are ticked off. Check if you can dis- treatment has not helped. It is believed Anger cuss the matter with civility. If not, take a that this illness is a reaction to one or break till you both cool off. But do set a Vaping time to talk about it. Late day or evening more of the chemicals in vaping oils. How would you finish this sentence: “I discussions usually mean one is tired Because no specific vaping device get so angry when my partner…”? You and adds a level of external complication. Dear Dr. Eva, or type of vaping oil has been may know that we all have a rough- Second, avoid the one communica- I am worried about the re- shown to cause this illness, ly almond-shaped mass of E-cigs tion sin and do not start a sentence cent news on deaths from vap- everyone who uses any type of gray matter in our brain: the Make it work with “you.” That immediately brings ing. I have two teenage neph- e-cigarette or other vaping de- center that is involved in the maybe not on a defensive response. Use the ews that vape, and, according vice is considered at risk. How- experiencing of emotions. for you “I-statement.” (“I feel upset” versus to them, so do most of their the answer ever, the Food and Drug Ad- So when we feel angry, it “You upset me.”) friends. They think it’s much ministration (FDA) warns that means that center, the amygdala, For a relationship to strengthen, it safer than smoking. What do to tobacco there is greater danger for peo- has been triggered. Based on how is important to recognize each other’s you think? ple who vape THC. About 80% we were raised, what we were taught vulnerable spots, and this is where an- Concerned addiction, of cases of vaping-related lung about feelings, and what our inborn ger can work for you. If you know what disease have occurred in peo- temperament is, this emotion is ex- bothers your partner, you can guide your Dear Concerned, after all ple who reported vaping THC pressed, or suppressed. Some of us own behavior to keep the love and car- I’m concerned too. products. In the other 20% of may deny we are angry. Some may fly ing grow. Same goes for your partner. By In case there are readers who don’t cases, patients reported vaping only into a rage. However you experience knowing your own triggers, each of you know, vaping means inhaling vapor from nicotine products. One-quarter (25%) of it, and however you express it, anger can take care of heated oil containing nicotine, THC (the samples of vaping fluid used by sick pa- is part of life and as such, affects all of active ingredient in marijuana), and oth- tients included THC and also contained our relationships, family, er chemicals. This is done using elec- a chemical called vitamin E acetate. Vi- friends, partners, or col- tronic cigarettes (“e-cigarettes”) and oth- tamin E acetate is a form of vitamin E, an leagues. er vaping devices. oil-based vitamin. Inhaling any form of It is important to rec- As you may have read or heard in oil is known to irritate the lungs. Vitamin ognize that we do not the news, we are in the midst of a small E acetate is suspected to be a cause of have control over wheth- epidemic of serious lung disease related this illness, but it is only a theory at this er we “feel” any of the to vaping. Since April of this year, more point and there may be other causes as emotions. What we do than 450 cases have been reported in 33 well. So far, it is not known why vitamin have control over is how different states, and at least five people E acetate is being added to we express them. I often have vaping oils. hear people say: I know I Right now, I shouldn’t feel this way. Well can’t say that va- no, it is not a matter of you ping is safer than shouldn’t feel; in fact, when smoking, only your feeling is denied, it is that neither one even more annoying. Many is safe. Anyone a conflict starts that way. the other by trusting to share the vulnera- considering us- What is important is how you express bility, and to avoid aggravating one anoth- ing e-cigarettes it. Name-calling? Not good. Wha- er. It takes two (or more) to work, repair to cut back on taboutism? More conflict. The silent and develop a bond. If you are afraid of smoking or stop treatment? Guaranteed to increase smoking would sharing your frailties, how can love blos- the temperature. t be smarter to som? choose another method. Nico- tine containing Hearts and Ears Inc. gums and patch- es have been LGBTQIA+ Wellness & Recovery Center shown to be safe and effec- tive for smoking Hearts & Ears, Inc. is a non-profit organization for Gay, died. cessation. Medically, vaping has never Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and The main signs of vaping-related lung been recommended for any reason oth- disease are cough, shortness of breath, er than reducing or stopping cigarette Questioning, and Gender Non-Conforming individuals chest pain, and feeling exhausted. Some smoking. Now more than ever, it’s clear with behavioral health issues and concerns. patients have fever, weight loss, and that vaping should be avoided. t gastrointestinal symptoms such as nau- Dr. Eva Hersh is a family physician. sea, vomiting, or diarrhea. In some cas- Send your comments and questions to es, symptoms appear over a few days, her by email at editor@baltimoreoutloud. 611 Park Avenue Suite A, Baltimore, Maryland 21201 • 410-523-1694 while in others the illness develops over com. [email protected] • heartsandears.org several weeks. Shortness of breath can

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By Aaron Cahall the abuse, depression, anxiety, substance Chase Brexton Health Care abuse, eating disorders, and many oth- If you needed help to escape an abusive er difficult conditions. At the same time, relationship, where would you go? What it’s very important for people who’ve lived long-lasting impacts can abuse have on an through hell to know that recovery is possi- individual? What barriers does the LGBT ble. You can heal your wholeness, survive community face in improving the resources and thrive. You deserve that. available to survivors? The topic and more What barriers might prevent some- will be discussed at the next “Lunch and one from seeking help? Learn” event, hosted by the LGBT Health Randall: Well, preventing someone Resource Center of Chase Brexton Health from seeking help may be an abuse tactic Care on Thursday, October 10th from noon in and of itself. The first job of an abuser to 1:30 pm in the community rooms at Chase is to isolate their partner, to alienate them Brexton’s Mount Vernon Center (1111 North from family, friends, and community, as well Charles Street, Baltimore). as restrict their access health care, law en- We asked Kate Bishop, education coor- forcement, and other avenues of escape. It dinator for the LGBT Health Resource Cen- is common for abusers to monitor and con- ter, and social worker Randall Leonard, a trol all aspects of their partner’s life, includ- staff therapist at the center, to preview some ing their phone and computer use as well of the information they will present at the as their movements and money. workshop. Among LGBTQ couples, specifical- How significant an issue is intimate ly, power and control might take the form partner violence in the LGBTQ commu- of threatening to “out” you to your family nity? or employer if you leave, hiding your hor- Kate: The rates of emotional, physical, mones or HIV medication, destroying the and sexual abuse among gay and lesbian wig or shoes you need to feel comfortable people are about the same as for straight leaving the house. folks. The rate of partner abuse in the lives Kate: And when someone does reach of gender diverse people is alarming. But bi- out for help, the helpers often let our com- sexuals, bi women and to a slightly smaller munities down. Men and gender diverse degree bi men, are by far the most at risk people may have limited options for shel- of any population in the US. For example, ter, for example. Professionals may dismiss about a third of lesbians report having ex- perienced abuse, but almost two-thirds of same-sex abuse or discriminate against bisexual women are survivors. LGBTQ clients. Even well-intentioned pro- Randall: Beyond each individual’s situ- viders may be slow to understand what’s ation, there are many structural reasons our going on. community’s safety becomes compromised. If someone is facing a violent or po- A lack of targeted research means that we tentially violent situation, what should don’t have a clear picture of the scope of the they do? problem. Also, sexism and heteronormativi- Randall: Tell someone. Please, reach ty have cemented a limited framework about out and tell someone. If possible, call the what intimate partner violence looks like, hotline for an intimate partner violence ad- so it is hard for police, judges, families and vocacy organization like House of Ruth or friends to see abuse for what it is. They’ll say TurnAround for support. Also try a health “that’s just men being men” or “she couldn’t care or mental health provider. If you are have hurt you, look how small she is.” Those being watched at your visit, find a way to in- stereotypes lead LGBTQ people to doubt dicate to the doctor that you need to speak our own perceptions are true, which is ex- to them alone. Hospitals, medical offices, actly what the abuser wants. therapists, and many faith leaders are In addition to immediate physical trained to respond. harm, what long-lasting effects can such Kate: Even if you aren’t ready to tell violence have on an LGBT individual? someone about your whole situation, it’s Randall: Stress takes a heavy toll on a good idea to keep your social network our bodies. When someone is in an abu- strong. That way you have someone to sive relationship, trying to anticipate their listen, help reality check what your partner partner’s anger, trying to guess when the is telling you, and support to escape if you next incident might come, stress never need it. Tell someone and keep telling un- ends. Anxiety pumps the stress hormone til you get the help you deserve. Silence is cortisol into our system. Over time, cortisol deadly – the truth can help you get free. t builds plaque in the arteries and can lead To register for the upcoming “Lunch & to heart failure. Living with abuse leads to Learn” session, RSVP to lgbt@chasebrex- compromised physical and emotional health ton.org or call 410-837-2050 x1049. For in many ways. more on the LGBT Health Resource Cen- Kate: Recovering from trauma can be a ter’s resources and programs, visit Chase- lifelong journey as well. Long after the rela- Brexton.org/LGBT. tionship has ended, many survivors experi- ence paralyzing flashbacks or nightmares of

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had an impact on how they are aging. I am now 50 so I am also looking criti- utes. The warm-up should progress grad- Mending cally at my habits. “Youth is wasted on ually in intensity to increase muscle and the the young” is a common phrase as we core temperatures without causing fatigue get older and sometimes, I agree and YouFit or reducing energy stores. Gap sometimes I think how boring my youth The purpose of a warm-up is to in- Charles Dudley would have been if I had the same safe- Here crease performance and lessen the risk of guards I do today. We are all in our youth injury: The purpose of starting with a short – right now, in this very moment, you are period of aerobic exercise, such as walk- as young as you will ever be! Someone ing, jogging or cycling, is to increase heart Motion is right now is older than you are looking at Workout with a rate, blood flow, deep muscle temperature, you thinking about when they were your respiration rate, and perspiration and de- Lotion age. From this perspective “youth” never Coach crease the viscosity of joint fluids. Each of leaves us and is always by our side. We which increases performance and lessens Motion is Lotion, Rest is Rust. have a choice in our youth to make deci- Ever worked with a Master YouCoach? It’s the risk of injury. My mom she is an F.F.W.W. (Far From sion today, this hour, this very moment to the cat’s pajamas. If you haven’t? Well, Anything else I should do? Yes! This a Well Woman) given her health issues chose who we want to be tomorrow, next fear not – we spoke to Master YouCoach warm-up should be followed by self-myo- as she gets older but I still love her as week, next year, in 20 years. We have Janzen Fallgren, and he shared with us fascial release with a foam roller on any her memory shifts and the stories the power to chose now some great insight about the importance overactive muscles, then a period of dy- we once knew now have different Rest is rust how we want to age. of a warm-up before your workout. And, namic stretching that takes your body people in them and sometimes dif- Do yourself a favor and just for good measure, he threw in some through ranges of motion that will help ferent endings….can be quite inter- MOVE! Our bodies are very great step-by-step instructions for a dy- better prepare you for your workout. It’s esting as the details of multiple events efficient at being lazy. It is not going to namic stretching routine to round-out that important to note that dynamic stretching are cobbled together into a new tapes- maintain a system (cardiovascular, pul- warm-up. is a form of active movement that isn’t try of a story. She unfortunately slipped monary) or a structure (bone density, Now, if you’ve ever wondered if you about holding a stretch (this is known as in her bathroom resulting in a minor fall muscle mass) to a point it doesn’t use even need a warm up, well sorry to burst static stretching). If you have any overac- and breaking her fibula in two places. on a daily basis. Those of you read- your bubble, but yes, you probably should. tive muscles present, foam rolling can help She was able to walk on it as long as ing this who go to the gym five days a According to Janzen, “a warm-up is al- to relax those muscles and help you per- she used her walker and wore her walk- week will testify that Mondays in the gym most universally accepted as an integral form exercises with better form and more ing boot but could not walk far therefore suck! They suck because you had two part of any workout prescribed by fitness comfort. This again goes back to used a wheelchair for the first time in days off and your bone density, muscle professionals. If you are new her life. Going back and forth between mass, nerve conduction speed, aerobic to exercising, you may not assisted living and the hospital multiple enzymes etc. … have all been dialed understand the importance times, drastic changes in her routine and back a notch … measurably. That is how of warming up or what to do. the loss of independence have added to quickly it can happen. Even if you’re not new and un- her confusion as her brain struggles to Not everyone needs to have an in- derstand that warming up is pull together what happened, why it hap- tensive routine by joining Frontrunners important, you may still have pened and what to do next. or the Flamingos. Keep it simple and questions about a warm-up I am watching my mom go down a walk – 30 minutes a day preferably routine.” similar path my father did many years outside. When you walk you will main- Janzen says that the ones ago and it has caused me to look crit- tain your bones, muscle mass, nerve he hears most are: What should ically at my parents’ habits that have conduction, balance, coordination, and I do? For how long? Why is it heart function to name a necessary? If you have any of few. This will benefit blood those questions, fear not – by sugar control in diabetics, the end of this blog, these questions will increasing performance and lessening the nerve health in multiple be answered and (hopefully) you’ll be con- risk of injury. sclerosis, cancer, osteo- vinced to start incorporating some of these Give me a real example to follow! porosis, arthritis, COPD, strategies the next time you work out. We’re glad you asked: PVD, even bowel function A good warm-up should get you phys- Warm-up: 1) Start by performing five and erectile dysfunction, to ically and mentally ready to go: Studies minutes of slow aerobic activity. For ex- name a few. I honestly can- that investigate the impact of warming up ample, walking or jogging on the treadmill not think of a single disease prior to a workout generally show a pos- would work. that does not improve with itive impact on subsequent performance 2) Performing any self-myofascial re- movement. and a lessened risk of injury. This is crucial lease on overactive muscles present Walking outside offers to staying on track and making progress 3) Dynamic stretching routine (see be- even more benefits. The towards your goals. A typical warm-up low) uneven terrain (even a routine consists of a short period of aer- Dynamic stretching routine: sidewalk) challenges bal- obic exercise, followed by soft tissue work • Walking knee to chest: one-to-two ance and coordination on a and dynamic stretching. The whole routine sets of 20 (ten each leg) subtle level which strength- should be no longer than ten to 20 min- • Leg swings: one-to-two sets of 20 ens the bones and muscles (ten each leg front to back and side to side) to provide that increased • High kicks: one-to-two sets of 20 (ten balance. The changing each leg) temperatures challenges • Hip hinge with reach: one-to-two sets your autonomic system for as the breeze to simulate the skin. All of of ten thermal regulation. The air our systems are vital and weaken when • Bodyweight squat: one-to-two sets of challenges your immune nothing changes. Small changes now ten system by exposing you to can result in a better “us” in the future. • Dead-bug: one-to-two sets of ten the elements. Your brain Remember, you have the power now • Bird-dog: one-to-two sets of ten now has to contend with to chose who you will be in the future. • Cat/Cow: one-to-two sets of ten traffic, gets changing visual How do you want to age? • Quadruped rotation: one-to-two sets information, changing au- Remember: Motion is lotion, rest is of ten each side t ditory information, as well rust … bedrest is dust. • Wall pushups: one-to-two sets of ten t 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com Spiritual Directory

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Phantom of the Fringe We take full advantage of that and Lindley went on to explain to impressario push the Charm City Fringe Fest readers about his character of Zachary to continue the tradition of innova- Opera Haunts Monsieur André. “As most people Michel tive art and events and attendees know the character of the Phantom love it.” t the Hippodrome is haunting this opera house. He For more info visit CharmCity- needs people to interact with in Fringe.com order to get his demands across. This October Monsieurs André and Firmin are the two managers of the opera By Frankie Kujawa house. So, we offer a bit of the The “Music of the Night” will comic relief since there isn’t waft through the streets of very much in the perfor- Charm City this month as A ghost in mance.” Phantom of the Opera takes As the longest-run- to the Hippodrome Stage Paris ning show in Broadway from Wednesday, October 9th history, Phantom of the through Sunday, October 20th. Based on Opera is a timeless the French novel by Gaston Leroux, the classic. “I think the musical central plot of Phantom revolves around strikes a chord with people a beautiful so- of all different ages and all walks of life,” says Lindley. “Part of that is the ro- spe- mance and the amazing cial deals city- score. But it’s also how wide. Baltimore OUTloud recently this is a story about com- chatted with the Charm City Fringe passion and empathy. Be- prez Zachary Michel. Baltimore ing able to see someone “There’s a lot of new stuff that beyond appearances and we’re really excited about,” says really get to know why Fall Michel. “We moved the entire fes- people are how they are. tival up a month to October, which OUTloud There’s a real human in- along with warmer weather and terest to it that helps to longer days, means we can re- strike a universal chord. ally start expanding the event Not that I agree with the outdoors. We’re going to have Theatre tactics the Phantom uses! street performers, some outdoor 2019 One of the last things the pop-ups, and really just ramp-up the character of Christine festival-ly vibe.” ! says to the Phantom is, Michel continued, “After construc- ‘God give me the strength tion and availability issues last year, we Special to show you you’re not also have a festival headquarters again alone.’ That scene right for 2019. Expect some awesome extra there strikes to the inside events at headquarters for our Fringe Af- of anyone.” t ter Dark series – like our partnership with Rob Lindley Ignite Baltimore (which runs great TED- stars in style talks) and a standup comedy show Phantom of the curated by Dark Mark. Last year’s show Opera sold out, so we’re lucky to have a larger prano, Christine Daaé, who becomes venue this year, and we’ve got a special the obsession of a mysterious, disfig- drag brunch in the works, too.” ured musical genius living in the subter- Thriving on the “We’re also partnering with Creative ranean labyrinth beneath the Paris Op- Alliance to showcase our third short film Katie Kopajtic era House. Baltimore OUTloud recently Fringe: 2019 series,” Michel added. “We get a profes- chatted with Rob Lindley, who portrays sional score from a composer and then Monsieur André in the musical. challenge local and national filmmak- Returns to “This performance is a chance for Charm City ers to craft their own unique short film audiences to see the longest-running around it. For the uninitiated, the score Baltimore with Broadway show in history here in your is usually done after a film is shot, so we own hometown,” began Lindley. “Our Fringe Festival flipped the script and have had a lot of rendition debuts a brilliant new set de- fun with this. Plus, and I can’t say where new Solo Show sign with amazing technical aspects. By Frankie Kujawa or who’s playing because it’s a secret, You’ll be blown away!” With Baltimore’s ever-growing fringe but we’ve got a special collaboration at Charm City Originally from small-town Iowa but theatre community, Charm City Fringe is with Sofar Sounds Baltimore. Sofar does now calling the Windy City home, Lind- bringing artists out of the woodwork to awesome secret shows and we’re really ley went on about the new features of present what they do best. Running from excited to be working with them.” Fringe this production. “There will be moments October 10th to 20th, the festival will be “You couldn’t get away with a lot of you’ll feel the need to shield your eyes. held in the Bromo Arts & Entertainment this in other cities,” Michel adds, tipping By Frankie Kujawa The show is that impressive and awe- District, dishing up fresh new shows, af- his hat to B’more. “Baltimore is a great Fleabag meets A Room of One’s Own some. It’s a great romantic musical thrill- ter-parties with live music and comedy, place for artists because the culture in the upcoming performance of Modern er for audiences.” exclusive festival collaborations, and supports people breaking new ground. Witches, part of the upcoming Charm

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City Fringe Festival this October. Run- duction packed with raw emotion is both ning from October 11th to 13th and Octo- written and performed by Harford Coun- 20202020 THEATRETHEATRE SEASONSEASON ber 19th and 20th at Maryland Art Place ty native, Katie Kopajtic. Kopajtic (pro- (MAP) Underground, Modern Witches nounced koh’-pie-titch) recently chatted tells the story of the story of 30-year-old with Baltimore OUTloud regarding her HASHAS BEGUNBEGUN actor Kate Marie. Tasked with deliv- upcoming performance. ering a perfect performance of Vir- “It’s a one-person, ginia Woolf for a self-tape audition, Virginia solo show,” Kopajtic be- AdvertiseAdvertise youryour showsshows withwith Kate must also navigate through gan. “This is going to a recently uprooted life following Woolf be a comedy dra- her decision to break off a wed- ma told very much BaltimoreBaltimore OUTloudOUTloud ding engagement with her female channelled in the same style fiancé Georgie. Thanks to her cu- as Fleabag. It’s a rious retail job, Kate has access to afresh! one-person show where andand HelpHelp ToTo KeepKeep thethe ArtsArts various magical items, which she the character engages uses with surprising results. This pro- with the audience and tells the story of Alive and Well! a really tumultuous, strange moment in Alive and Well! her life. Her story is funny on its own, but fueled by a fair bit of personal drama. The performance is about less than an hour. It has this ‘English liter- ature’ Baltimore OUTloud Fall vibe, and it’s loosely about Vir- ginia Woolf’s life.” Theatre Kopajtic added, 2019 “Virginia Woolf fans will SEPTEMBER 13 - NOVEMBER 3 be pleased with a take ! on Woolf’s life that em- phasizes her actu- Special al strength over her per- Katie Kopajtic ceived frailty. dominates the My intention stage in Modern Witches is to tell a sto- ry about this real person that challenges what we be- lieve we know about her.” t Tickets to the performance are $15 ($10 with button, free with festival pass). For more info, visit Charmcity- fringe.com/tickets, Mdartplace.org, or Featuring the greatest hits of Whitney Houston Tresbrujaspro- ductions.

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By Gregg Shapiro Kansas City Chiefs right tackle Ryan By Frankie Kujawa amplifying local artists, writers, organizers, Summer has come and gone, but don’t O’Callaghan with Cyd Zeigler, details not Baltimore Center Stage recently an- and thinkers. be sad. Autumn means a harvest of new only the football player’s professional nounced in July the addition of award-win- Could you describe your role as direc- books to read throughout the season. sports career, but also his self-destruc- ning playwright and community organizer tor of artistic partnerships & innovation? Non-fiction shelf – A memoir on par tive battle with de- Annalisa Dias to its staff as the My new role is in its nascent with Patti Smith’s Just Kids, I’ve Seen pression and opi- Curl up theater’s director of artistic part- Center stages and is constantly evolving the Future and I’m Not Going: The Art oid addiction, as nerships and innovation. In her – no other theatre in the country Scene and Downtown New York in the well has his path with good role, Dias will lead the develop- Stage’s has a position like mine! My re- 1980s (Pantheon, 2019) by gay visual to recovery. ment of new projects and stew- sponsibilities include developing artist Peter McGough, who writes about Educator, edi- book ard relationships with artists and Annalisa new theatrical works with a strong his long-term creative and troubled ro- tor, performer and other cultural organizations. Bal- commitment to creating pathways mantic partnership with David McDer- author E. Patrick Johnson has made it timore OUTloud recently chatted Dias for local artists, curating civic pro- mott when they were “modern artists his life’s work writing about being queer with Dias on her new role and gramming using the work on our making a living performance about time.” and African-American in the South in what the idea of community means to her. stages to catalyze important conversa- Speaking of Smith, Year of the Mon- books such as 2008’s Sweet Tea: Black Frankie Kujawa: Can you tell our read- tions, and re-thinking the inequitable (often key (Knopf, 2019), Patti Smith’s third Gay Men of the South and 2018’s Black. ers a little bit about your background? oppressive) systems that theatre and the memoir, finds the poet and punk god- Queer. Southern. Women: An Oral Histo- Annalisa Dias: I grew up in Pittsburgh, arts sector operate inside of with an eye mother making the political personal, ry. He continues his tradition with Hon- on the traditional territories of the Osage toward transformation, healing, and regen- as she writes about the 2016 election, eypot: Black Southern Women Who and Haudenosaunee Nations. I went to un- erative models. I’m also thrilled that part of “Twenty-four percent of the population Love Women (Duke University Press, dergrad at Boston Univer- my role involves maintaining my own ar- had elected the worst of ourselves to 2019). sity, spent a year living in tistic practice as a represent the other seventy-six percent. Focusing on another part of the US, Los Angeles as part of an playwright, director, All hail our American apathy, all hail the Voices from the Heartland: Volume II AmeriCorps program, and and cultural orga- twisted wisdom of the Electoral College.” (University of Oklahoma Press, 2019) – then moved to DC for a nizer. Who better than a lesbian musician edited by Sara N. Beam, Emily Dial-Driv- graduate program in the- Could you de- such as Jamie Anderson to chronicle the er, Rilla Askew, and Juliet Evusa – a atre history & criticism at scribe some of the groundbreaking story of women’s mu- sequel to 2007’s Voices From the Heart- the Catholic University of upcoming artistic sic? In An Army of Lovers (Bella Books, land, compiles 38 essays dealing with America. I’ve been in the partnerships that Bal- 2019), Anderson explores and cele- issues faced by women in modern-day DMV region for almost timore Center Stage brates the history of the genre, beginning Oklahoma, including “racism, sexism, ten years now, working hopes to create and in the 1970s with Maxine Feldman, Cris homophobia, poverty and addiction.” in professional theatre, strengthen in the near Williamson, Meg Christian, and Olivia Speaking out “against homophobia higher education, and future? Records, bringing us to the present day and the outdated ideas of masculinity political science. I’m We’ve been talking and beyond. demanded by life in Appalachia and the thrilled to join the BCS a lot about operating in Nonbinary “seeker” (and actor, activ- American South,” award-winning gay staff and to get to know the spirit of abundance Annalisa ist, recovering addict, tattoo enthusiast) writer Jeff Mann’s new personal essay the Baltimore commu- rather than scarcity, Dias Nico Tortorella, possibly best known as collection Endangered Species: A Sur- nity better. using partnerships to the younger lover of Liza (Sutton Foster) ly Bear in the Bible Belt (Lethe, 2019), What is it about Baltimore Center “grow the pie.” For ex- in the TV Land dramedy series “Young- features writing by Mann originally pub- Stage that makes it such a unique place ample, we have a bit of an unprecedent- er,” spills the beans and then some in lished between 2009 and 2017, in a wide to work? ed partnership this season with the Olney his memoir Space Between: Explo- range of literary journals Baltimore Center Stage is at a pivot Theatre Center in connection with our two rations of Love, Sex and Fluidity and anthologies. point in its journey under the new leader- independent productions of Miss You Like (Crown, 2019). Poetic pages – The ship of Artistic Director Stephanie Ybarra. Hell, a timely new musical about an undoc- Described as “haunted and late gay poet Karl Tier- We’re critically examining our practices umented mother and her daughter who go haunting,” poet Saeed Jones’s ney, a Massachusetts and re-conceptualizing theatre and its on a cross country roadtrip. Our produc- memoir How We Fight for Our native with an MFA in relationship to civic space. I’m excited to tion opens in September. Olney’s opens Lives (Simon & Schuster, 2019) fol- creative writing, moved be part of a team that is really committed in February. Given everything happening lows him on his journey as a young, to San Francisco in 1983 to building socially accountable work and at our southern border and the recent ICE black, gay Southerner to establish and lived there until he raids in Baltimore and other cities around an identity within his family and committed suicide in 1995 the country, it feels momentous to be able within the country in which he lives, at the age of 39. Have You to create jobs for Latino artists and to work evolving into a series of observa- Seen This Man? The Cas- and a silver spoon, among others. Addi- with community organizations to catalyze tions on “race and queerness, power tro Poems of Karl Tierney tionally, her “My Father Happened on a civic conversations throughout the year and vulnerability, love and grief.” (Sibling Rivalry Press, 2019), edited and Poem of Mine in a Magazine” strikes the about how we can care for one another. A young adult book that is beneficial with a revealing introduction by Jim Cory, right balance between humor and shock. What does the word “community” for readers of all ages, Troublemak- admirably collects Tierney’s work, some Lesbian poet and educator Jill Mc- mean to you? er for Justice: The Story of Bayard of which was previously published in lit- Donough returns with her fifth full-length Community is one of those words that Rustin, the Man Behind the March on erary magazines including Christopher collection Here All Night (Alice James gets used so much that it almost gets Washington (City Lights Books, 2019) Street, American Poetry Review, Court Books, 2019), covering a lot of ground, stripped of its meaning. Not to get too intel- by Jacqueline Houtman, Michael G. Green, Modern Words, and James White including squeezing into Jordache and lectual about it, but I frequently think about Long, and Walter Naegle (Rustin’s for- Review, to mention a few, now published Gloria Vanderbilt jeans (“Our Father”), this idea of “imagined community” that mer life-partner), is a historical celebra- in book form for the first time. poetry and social media (“In Which I comes from Benedict Anderson. He basi- tion of Rustin, a mentor to Martin Luther If Pulitzer Prize-winning poetry god- Am Accused of Sleeping My Way to the cally says we imagine ourselves as part of King, Jr., and the strategist for the 1963 dess Sharon Olds didn’t already have a Top”), zombie movies (“Also, Homemade any given “community” based on shared March on Washington. sizable queer following, one way to draw Flamethrowers”) and a couple of son- narratives. He mostly talked about the role My Life on the Line: How the NFL in readers from the community is to title a nets, with wit and grace. t of the newspaper in constructing national Damn Near Killed Me and Ended Up book Arias (Knopf, 2019). Among Olds’ On October 17th, Saeed Jones will identities, but I’m also curious about how Saving My Life (Akashic Books, 2019), arias you will find Breaking Bad, jockey speak at Enoch Pratt Free Library in Bal- the arts (and theatre in particular) can be by former New England Patriots and shorts, Vermont, California, Rasputin timore. instrumental in developing a sense of be- longing and solidarity across difference. t 16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 27, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com MAKING ITS TRIUMPHANT RETURN TO BALTIMORE! ON SALE NOW

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Is Barbara Sage Saving ed fiascoes do you imagine have harmed the environ- ment? Mannequins and Other Most likely all of them! Twice the fire department has come to my house because Things Around Her House with the oven caught on fire. Tell me about these dirty audiobooks you frequently By Kevin Assam Whimsy? purchase. Barbara “Barb” Sage is the creative be- Ahh, my books! That’s hind the kaleidoscopic explosion of body my guilty pleasure. I read a parts, curbside treasures, and household – brought art into my life. ridiculous amount. All dirty. items that comprise Whimsy Key West. What were the earliest objects you At one point I’m sure I had After a flurry of marriage, childbirth, and found yourself trying to rework or im- the largest dirty book col- domestic life, this Annapolis native made prove as an adolescent? lection in the Florida Keys. her way to Key West and called it home I have no clue. I was a drunken train Then I discovered the Ama- for over 20 years. Now, we take one of wreck throughout my adolescence. I quit zon Kindle and found out I her mannequin arms and prod her on her drinking when I was 21. I remember any- could have the next in the early Baltimore misadventures, her ex- thing after that! [laughs] series, immediately! I love instant tensive collection of erotic audiobooks, Is part of the allure of alcohol the gratification. I listened to the audiobooks actors? I’ve seen more heat on HBO. and what exactly is the most difficult limb presentation and aesthetics? It can be a while I was working on my art at night How idle were you when you to paint. beautiful thing, right? or between guest houses during the day. launched Whimsy Key West? Kevin Assam: When life gives I’m sure that’s part of it for some. I have about 600 audiobooks. That’s in- [Laughs] No one would ever use the you lemons, is it your responsibility When I drank, it was Boone’s Farm sane by anyone’s standards. word “idle” for anything regarding me. I’m to paint them in even more vibrant Strawberry Hill, “Mad Dog” 20/20, and What do these erotic audiobooks a go-er. I’ve been painting mannequins shades and figures? “Natty Boh.” I was young and was more for a long time and started Whimsy Key Barb Sage: Without a doubt. I’ve looking for the effect. I loved bars and “The funnest are bent West at the encouragement of two artist been through it all: divorce, parental clubs in Baltimore and DC and that’s friends. I thought because I didn’t have death, being a single mom, my daugh- what the people I hung out with did. mannequins. Friends an art background that I wasn’t consid- ter’s drug addiction. The list goes on. If I grew up in Annapolis, Maryland. My would walk in and see ered an artist. I was doing commissioned it wasn’t for this amazing island and a household was pretty normal. My par- fun stuff for people but not charging positive attitude I wouldn’t have made it ents were together. We lived in a nice a lady with her ass in much because I didn’t feel worthy – or this far. I’m not unique in lemons. We all neighborhood. My dad worked for Pep- whatever nonsense I told myself. In Feb- have them. Life on life’s terms – lemons si and my mom was a waitress. Dinner the air on my couch.” ruary, I made my art public and went into was on the table every night. Vacation it feeling that if people liked it, I will sell was once a year. Everyone always hung get right that the surplus of adult en- it. It’s been a period of discovering my out at my house because it was easy to tertainment videos does not? worth and learning that the marketing sneak out. That type of thing. My first I don’t watch a lot of porn so I’m not for my art is very different from what I do year of high school, we moved to Arnold sure. [Laughs] I read it under the guise during the day. There’s a reason people to “keep me out of trouble.” of romance. Odd since I’m a vi- pay people for websites and social me- That didn’t work out well for my dia because that’s a full time job! I’ve parents, and after high school worked my day job and then come they moved to Severna Park home and wanted dinner, showered, and I kept going to Baltimore. and worked in some form on Whim- I lived and bartended in down- sy till 2 am almost every night since. town Baltimore until I moved There’s always something to do! to Key West around 1998. Do you paint your creations What happened when onto mannequins because you se- you were at the edge of 17? cretly feel alone and want the com- The edge of 17. Let’s see. pany? My first DWI! According to [Laughs] No. I’m surrounded by the judge – since I blacked people all day. I need to balance it • ArchitecturAlly-stunning out – I was crossing a ma- with quiet at home. I started painting wedding venue • jor intersection in Baltimore the mannequins because I got one at and stopped in the middle a yard sale and wanted to see if I could of the street. Foot on the do it after I drove it around in my car • indOOr & OutdOOr clutch. Car in gear. Napping! for a week because that was too fun. wedding cereMOnies, They couldn’t wake me. Ap- Mannequins were easy to work on be- recePtiOns, And elOPeMents • parently, given the amount cause I could work on one piece at a of alcohol in my system at time. An arm here. A leg there. • Over 30 sAMe-sex weddings 100 pounds soaking wet, I What body part is the most difficult should have been dead but to paint? since 2013 • I woke up and was functioning. I don’t Hands! Lots of cracks and crevic- remember most of that. Probably should sual person. It’s the fantasy of it and es. The funnest are bent mannequins. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook have been the first red flag, don’t you that it’s drawn out. It’s an escape, which Friends would walk in and see a lady @ChaseCourtWeddingVenue think? [laughs] many books that you read for fun are. I with her ass in the air on my couch. My Is the idea of a domestic goddess suppose both end with a happy ending. home is an interesting place! outdated? [Laughs] What’s left on your bucket list? 410-727-1112 • chasecourt.com My house needs to be in order for me Was 50 Shades of Gray any good? All of Europe. England specifically be- 1112 Saint Paul Street, Baltimore, MD to think straight. However, I can’t cook to I read it in two days on a ferry on cause I love boys with British accents and Owned and Operated by David Egan, save my life. my way to the BVI’s. I liked it. Hated the taking a few months off to drive cross-coun- wedding columnist for BaltimoreOUTloud. How much of your kitchen relat- movie though. 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By Woody Derricks Normally when we first discuss the need Including Your Pet in Your Estate Plan for clients to include their pets into their estate plan, they think we’re crazy. My has any health or personality issues, vet and the future guardian with this in- possible scenarios with you and guide wife and I, however, view this as a very you will want to include that informa- formation will allow for continued care you through the process. serious issue. We feel that our dogs, tion as well. Your pet may require daily and/or for the transfer of medical re- Your financial power of attorney – Fenway and Roxy, are a medication or, like Fenway, cords. When establishing your financial power part of our family. If we pass may become One of the hardest issues we face of attorney, make sure away while they are alive, A piece of intimidat- with our pets is when to euthanize to include we want to make sure they ing around them. It’s such an emotional a provision are cared for by someone the pie for people he topic, that I’m not even al- that allows who is capable and who doesn’t lowed to mention the word for money to wants to care for them. your furry, know. This at home. Our dogs are be used for Selecting a guardian – is critical aging and we will likely your pet’s The first decision you need feathered, information be faced with this deci- care. If to make is finding someone scaly friends for the guard- sion at some point in the to care for your pet. Not ev- ian to know. next few years. eryone who loves your pet will want the Also, if your pet knows responsibility of caring for him/her on a commands, does tricks, daily basis. Some of those who may be has favorite play areas, open to caring for your pet might not be etc., make sure to share the best caretakers. Start by creating list those details. This should of those people to whom you would feel help communication and comfortable leaving your pet. After you make the transition eas- have identified your best options, talk ier. with them to find out if they are open to Most vets will allow the idea. It’s better to run the idea past you to leave written per- them now than to surprise them after mission for your pet to you’ve passed. be cared for by others. Caring for your pet – Next, you will If you have not done you are want to create a care manual for your so already, you should When unable to pet’s guardian. You should leave daily discuss this with your vet and add your the time comes, my wife and I will be handle your own finances, someone else care instructions (what food he/she eats, favorite sitter, neighbor, and potential fu- able to weigh the options with our vet. will step in and provide money manage- the typical daily routine, etc.). If your pet ture guardian to this list. Providing the If someone else is caring for your pet, ment for your care. Strict interpretation you may want to leave behind guidelines from the courts may not allow for mon- for circumstances in which the guard- ey to be spent on your pet. By including ians may euthanize your pet. This will a provision for your pet, you will ensure become especially important if you leave that your pet will be cared for should you money behind to care for your pet. suffer a significant injury or illness. Many people we’ve met have already Provisions for care during probate Certified Public Accountants discussed burial arrangements for their – Probate is a process that can take any- pet. Some people want their pets buried where from a few months to a couple of in a pet cemetery, some want their ashes years. Because your pet is considered spread, and others have a special loca- property and subject to probate, you will tion such as a favorite play area or in the want to include a provision in your Will same plot as the “parents.” If you have that allows your executor to provide care strong feelings for the final resting place and money for your pet while your estate for your pet, you will want to include is in probate. those arrangements in your estate plan. The most important piece of estate Covering the costs – While many planning is getting one in place. Meet people may establish both primary and with an attorney, your financial adviser, contingent care takers for their pets, all and accountant to determine the best too often they do not provide financial course of action for your estate. Review Services for Business Services Tax Services support for their pet’s care. Even if the your beneficiaries on a regular basis. 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By Wayne Curtis If you’re one of the home buyers on Low Mortgage Rates May Spike the fence, thinking that you’d wait until the market starts to move sideways or even start heading downward, you might of 6.3%.) Major housing markets – such Home Prices in 2020 want to have another look at that strat- as New York, Miami, and Seattle – expe- egy. A new report from CoreLogic says rienced declining home prices, either on sales activity has picked up moderate- could slow or even fall if enough buyers that annual growth in home prices will a monthly or annual basis. Home-price ly as consumers seek to grab currently are priced out of the market again. increase by an average of 5.4% before growth had become weaker as would-be low mortgage rates, which have fallen In my opinion, Baltimore metro is not July of 2020. This represents a signifi- buyers were priced out of these and oth- throughout much of 2019 so one of these overvalued mar- cant change in a market where price ap- er markets. far. Passy quotes CoreLog- Inventory still kets. Our price appreciation preciation has been spotty and sluggish. Then, suddenly, summer arrived! ic’s chief economist Frank has been artificially slowed What might cause this change? Low The index registered a 3.6% uptick year- Nothaft: “With the for-sale the biggest by measures that the state interest rates. In early June, the S&P over-year in July. Some parts of the inventory remaining low in government took to mitigate CoreLogic Case-Shiller index for home country, many markets, the issue the damage done during the pick-up in buying financial crisis. At the same has nudged price growth up. time, rental prices have risen steadily If low interest rates and rising for the last five years, to the level that income continue, then we ex- mortgages increasingly look like a bar- pect home-price growth will gain compared to rents. I expect that strengthen over the coming we will see healthy price appreciation year.” here in the next ten to 12 months, on a How much rise in home neighborhood-by-neighborhood basis. prices will occur? That’s dif- Remember ... real estate is “location, lo- ficult to predict. Passy says cation, location.” CoreLogic estimates that If you’re a buyer, this means it may nearly 25% of the real-estate be time to get off the fence and start your markets in metropolitan areas home search in earnest. If you’re a seller were undervalued (at least ... appreciation in early 2020 is motiva- 10% below what it determines tion to put your house up for sale in the prices, one of the most widely quoted namely Connecticut and South Dako- to be the level where supply and demand spring market! When you need profes- indicators for the national housing mar- ta, were still in decline. But that’s pretty balance). sional real estate advice, don’t hesitate ket, registered the slowest pace of home much it, according to an article by NAR’s On the other side of the coin, roughly to give me a call or email! t price growth since 2012 . (In the previous Jacob Passy. a third of markets nationwide are over- Reach Wayne Curtis of Charm City June, home prices rose at an annual rate Recent home sales data indicates valued. In these markets, price growth Real Estate at 410-467-8950. You've met the person of your dreams; let us help make another dream a reality.

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vidual tickets for the contest and parties. we can finally make the commitment to Visit Commandmc.org for details. If the a style identity. The other big leather weekend in the If you are going to put a label on it, area in November is the annual Mr. and Suit Fits... gender fluid, non-conforming, non-bina- Leather Ms. DC Eagle Contest held as part of ry, co-ed, androgynous are some of the Line the bar’s anniversary celebration. A DC Art Solop terms now used in the clothing industry Rodney Burger Eagle Bootblack titleholder will also be as it embraces the non-gender-binary selected this year. The DC Eagle will cel- segment of the population. ebrate 48 years on the weekend of No- If you are shopping in traditional vember 21st to 24th with a kickoff event Non-Gender clothing stores it will be challenging to Say ‘Yes’ to on Thursday, November 21st. On Friday, find just right ideal of non-gender-con- November 22nd come to the DC Eagle Conforming forming that you have in mind. Most re- starting at 9 pm to meet the Mr. and Ms. tail stores separate men’s and women’s November! DC Eagle 2020 contestants and judges. Clothing clothing into separate sections, making it The contest will be held on Saturday, difficult for non-binary people to find the For many people the holiday season is November 23rd at 7 pm and a victory What is non-gender-conforming cloth- correct size in the style sought. It might stressful. That period between Thanks- brunch for the new leather titleholders is ing? It’s a sense of style that the wearer also feel uncomfortable to shop in a par- giving and New Year’s is filled with family being held on Sunday, November 24th at wants to convey. Is it men’s ticular sex-designated obligations, shopping and spending too 1 pm. All events will be at the DC Eagle clothing, worn by women? ‘Haberdashery’ department. much money, decorating the home, office (3701 Benning Road NE in Washington). The answer can be yes. Is Retailers are limited parties with folks we really don’t want to Also coming up in November is the it women’s clothing worn by doesn’t have to carry a streamlined be with, and lots of running around. Self- Chasing Fall Foliage Ride. Get on your men? Also yes. The correct assortment of sizes to care is very important at any time, but motorcycle and join the men of the Spar- answer is it is what the wear- to rhyme with save space. As well, they we really need to make more of an effort tan MC on Saturday, November 9th for er wants it to be. need merchandise to turn during the weeks leading up to the hol- a ride through picturesque Virginia to Non-gender-conforming ‘binary’! over, meaning less pop- iday rush. Before all that madness be- take in the fall colors. The ride starts at dress is absolutely no different ular items are replaced gins, treat yourself to one of these fun 7:30 am at the Starbucks at 3011 Nutley than traditional dress. It is an expression of by better-selling product categories. It leather events in November. Street in Fairfax, Virginia. On Saturday, the image that you are trying to convey, a remains unclear whether gender-free The first weekend of November be- November 9th starting at 7:30 pm you statement of your politics and what you be- clothing will be seen as just a longs to COMMAND MC and Maryland can join the ShipMates Club of Baltimore lieve in. trend, which Leather Weekend. The weekend starts for happy hour at Leon’s. On Friday, means prod- on Thursday, October November 15th ucts may be 31st with COMMAND starting at 8 pm available in MC hosting happy you can be part stores this hour from 5 to 7 pm of the pack with season but at Leon’s followed by the Capital Pups not long the popular Pig Sty and Handlers at term. XI party at Club 1722 the DC Eagle. If you (located at 1722 North The Mr. Virgin- are es- Charles Street, use the ia Bear 2020 pecially rear entrance off La- Contest will be looking for fayette) from 8:30 pm held on Satur- business until 1:30 am. day, November dress On Friday, No- 16th from 9 to clothing, vember 1st other area midnight at The you’ll be leather clubs with spon- Wave in Nor- even more sor cocktail parties at folk, Virginia. chal- the Lord Baltimore Ho- There will also lenged tel followed by the offi- be a pre-con- to find cial introductions of the test party that A rainbow exactly judges and contestants night from 7 to of choice what you are looking for. But here for the Mr. Maryland 8:30 pm at MJ’s Clothing is a form of self-ex- when you there’s a viable long-term solution: Leather 2020 Contest Tavern. On Fri- pression, whether you are go custom- custom clothing, which can be de- on the hotel’s 17th floor. day, November made! non-gender-conforming, male, signed to be as androgynous as On Saturday, No- 22nd at 9 pm or female. Are you a tradition- the customer wants. For instance, vember 2nd the Mr. the DC Boys of al dresser who likes to wear understated custom clothing can be designed to be Maryland Leather 2020 Leather have a bar night clothing and blends in? Are you a person less flattering to a woman’s curves, if Contest will be held at Ottobar (2549 at the DC Eagle. On Saturday, November who wants to convey flair? Are you a per- that is what she wants. North Howard Street). Doors open at 30th Let’s Go Play presents another Har- son who really wants to stand out and make Custom clothiers can make people noon and the contest starts at 2 pm. Be risburg Pup Night at My Buddies Place a strong statement about your clothing? searching for gender-free clothing more sure to get there early so that you have at 2380 Susquehanna Trail in Newport, Before anyone can properly assess comfortable with the process, because they time to look over the large silent auction. Pennsylvania. There will be a pup social your personality by speaking with you, don’t have to feel self-conscious about look- After the contest a victory party will be from 5 to 8 pm and a puppy mosh from 8 your style of dress can make that state- ing to purchase clothing that is labeled for held for the new Mr. Maryland Leather to midnight complete with a ball pit and ment for you. Our style of dress can em- the opposite sex in a retail store. A suit that’s titleholder starting at 9 pm at Leon’s. great music. 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