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lic anger. Officially Marsha’s mysterious November’s Other Memorial Day death was ruled suicide, but those who Transgender Day of knew her were convinced otherwise. It all by Laura Anderson peated raids on gay bars. A line had fi- seemed far too convenient for the police Remembrance Events 2019 The riot began in the early morning nally been crossed and the Stonewall Ri- to brush off her death with no real inves- Baltimore – Wednesday, hours of June 28th, 1969. Some say it ots sparked the beginning of the modern tigation. November 20th, First Unitarian started with a thrown brick. Others say LGBTQ movement. A recently released film, The Death Church of Baltimore (12 West it was a tossed shot glass dubbed “The There has been much discussion and Life of Marsha P. Johnson (Netflix, Franklin Street) – 6:30 pm shot glass heard ‘round the world”. It about the role transwomen played at 2017), tells the story of Marsha’s role Hagerstown – Tuesday, happened at the Stonewall Inn in Green- Stonewall. Termed transves- at Stonewall and in November 19th, City Hall, council wich Village, New York City, after years tites or drag queens or trans- Trans people face the movement that chambers (1 East Franklin Street) of police harassment and re- sexuals at the time, two iconic followed. The film – 4 to 4:30 pm figures emerged to spur on the high levels of chronicles recent ef- Washington, DC – Wednes- movement. Marsha P. John- violence. Around forts by Victoria Cruz day, November 20th, Metropolitan son and Sylvia Rivera were of the New York An- Community Church (474 Ridge both at Stonewall and went on November 20th, we ti-Violence Project Sreet NW) – 6 to 8:30 pm t to fight for gay rights. Later, in and her quest to un- the struggle for trans rights, honor the fallen. cover the truth about their efforts often ran counter Marsha’s death. But Each year on November 20th we ob- to the more staid gay rights movement. this story goes far beyond the death of serve the Transgender Day of Remem- Marsha and Sylvia were passionate Marsha P. Johnson. It links past violence brance as we take time to reflect on the and boisterous and persistent in their toward the transgender community to the deaths of transgender people. The first fight. current epidemic of transgender deaths observance was in 1999, when Gwendo- Marsha P. Johnson was a beloved by violence each year and highlights the lyn Ann Smith memorialized the murder transwoman in the community and her need to work toward ways to prevent of transgender woman Rita Hester in suspicious death in 1992 roused pub- such deaths. —continued on page 25

Totally Garden Keeping it Real State – Dolores with Real Housewife of New Jersey’s Catania Dolores credit: Tommy Garcia By Frankie Kujawa ly to Baltimore Catania Mother Teresa once said, OUTloud, Cata- “It’s not about how much nia recently chatted about the upcoming you do, but how much love season, her spectacular new look, her you put into what you do philanthropy, and finally finding hap- that counts. Life isn’t worth piness. Through it all, Catania always living, unless it’s lived for keeps it real! other people.” Frankie Kujawa: Dolores, Amidst the dra- you look fantastic! How do matic twists and ‘Let’s just you feel? What’s your se- turns facing the say, New cret? cast members Dolores Catania: I’m going in the upcoming Jersey never to start from the inside, Frank- tenth season of disappoints!’ ie, because you and I keep it “The Real House- real. My secret is I am very wives of New happy. I have finally found my Jersey,” there is a beacon footing. People don’t realize it was hard of light that shines bright. for me when my kids left for college. I That gleaming, glittering was heavy and my heart was broken. light is the heart of gold Everything is kind of settling in with my that resides inside of life right now. I’m very light, happy and housewife Dolores Cata- successful. So, I was able to go on a diet nia. Speaking exclusive- —continued on page 12 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // local

Howard County The workgroup will include: • Two representatives from PFLAG Co- Creates LGBT lumbia / Howard County • One representative from HopeWorks Workgroup • One representative from the Howard County Human Rights Commission (HRC) Howard County Executive Calvin Ball • At least two student representatives signed an executive order November 1st • At least five representatives from the to create a LGBTQ workgroup “to promote Howard County community (employee the shared community values of diversi- and/or resident) ty and civility.” Ball’s office says that the In addition, Office of Human Rights workgroup will work with county agencies, Administrator Yolanda Sonnier will provide nonprofits, and other community groups leadership, oversight, staffing, and logis- to promote “an environment of inclusion, tical support. Staffer Janssen Evelyn will be County Executive Ball’s liaison for the workgroup. t

Freedom: An Evening of LGBTQ Storytelling

What does it means to be free? That’s the topic of a forum sponsored by FreeS- tate Justice set for on Saturday, No- vember 16th, from 7 to 10 pm, at Bal- timore Center Stage (700 North Calvert Street, Baltimore). “Eight powerhouse communication, understanding, and re- LGBTQ storytellers will offer their takes spect throughout Howard County.” on the theme ‘Freedom,’” organizers “Our vision is to ensure that every say. “Some will make you laugh. Some person in Howard County, regardless of will touch your heart. All will make you their gender identity or sexual orientation, see the world in a different way. Fans of can live with dignity, be unapologetically ‘Stoop Storytelling’ and ‘The Moth’ won’t proud, and feel totally safe in our commu- want to miss this one-of-a-kind event.” nity,” said Ball. “We were so proud to hold “When it comes to creating change, Howard County’s first Pride Festival this year, and we want to continue to protect and embrace the beautiful spectrum of diversity that Howard County has to offer. To every single member of our LGBTQ+ community, know that we see you, we support you, and we stand in solidarity with you.” “Our office is proud to partner on this there’s nothing more powerful that a true new workgroup and to continue advanc- story based on one’s own life experi- ing our mission of safety, equality, and the ences. FreeState Justice sees that in its best quality of life for every single person work every day. Come meet new friends in Howard County,” said Howard Coun- and hear new experiences. ty’s Office of Human Rights Administrator The program will be preceded by a Yolanda Sonnier. cocktail hour with live music. Tickets are “Howard County is always working to $10 and are available at Bit.ly/2qmQa2d. identify best practices that will make our For more info, visit Bit.ly/2Ng4xhK. t government responsive to the needs of every community,” said Assistant Chief Ad- ministrative Officer, Janssen Evelyn. “Our new workgroup will help us foster a more B’more Health inclusive local government that can support LGBTQ residents in the workplace, Commissioner: community, and across the County.” The workgroup have quarterly meetings, open to the public and will involve the Office of Human Rights. To encourage a more inclusive community, the workgroup may sponsor activities focus groups, summits, and the like. As well, the workgroup will advise the county executive and county employees. Meeting minutes will be publicly available on the Office of Human Rights website. —continued on page 4

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Baltimore’s new health commissioner, Dr. Letitia Dzirasa, in partnership with Last year, LGBTQ liaisons representing the Baltimore City office of LGBTQ Af- the Office of the Mayor, City Council, fairs, invite you to join them on Wednes- State’s Attorney’s Office, and the Balti- day, November 13th from 6 to 8 pm at more City LGBTQ Commission hosted the Jacques Journey Center (880 Park an LGBTQ Town Hall at City Hall. At that Avenue, suite 300, Baltimore) to meet meeting, they promised to bring the com- the new commissioner, and hear about munity back together in a year’s time to her goals and vision for LGBTQ health. provide an update on the progress that The event will provide a safe space for has been made on addressing the issues of concern raised at that event. After reviewing the comments from the town hall and researching and ques- Call me Jordi Equitable tioning on their own, they are excited to present to the community a first draft of a strategic plan for Baltimore’s LGBTQ structing social norms by curating color- community. This plan will serve as their ful fashion art. Born in Mexico and raised official recommendation to the mayor in Chile and Bolivia, he brings an interna- and city government to ensure that Bal- tional perspective to his work. This past timore’s LGBTQ community is safe, uni- summer he premiered a curated show fied, stable, healthy, and included. They titled “Redefining Masculinity: Gender- listened to the community to craft the queer Fashion Art Show” that featured plan. Now they are checking in to ensure 11 models wearing looks styled by Jordi. that the plan they have crafted is some- Entitled! The show can be viewed on Instagram at thing that all the community can stand Bit.ly/2CfuqIg. behind. al titleholders will present a memorable In addition to the discussion, ze- The Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs evening of entertainment. You’re encour- ro-waste beauty products and works has scheduled several opportunities to aged to bring clothing, non-perishable by artists and artisans will be for sale. hear from the community on this plan. food, and loose change to be donated Donuts and drinks will round out the re- The first session was held on Thursday, to B & Dee’s Baltimore Love, to support B’more Health Commish Dr. Letitia Dzirasa quirements for an amazing event. November 7th, prior to the publication their work helping area homeless peo- For more info, visit Bit.ly/33o8uXq. t date of this issue of Baltimore OUTloud. ple. There’s no cover and free parking open dialogue about the shape of health On Tuesday, November 12th, from 6 passes are available at the bar. Your first in the city. The event is free, but try to to 7 pm, they will host a Facebook Live cocktail is free if you show your Lyft or RSVP for the event to help organizers at event at Facebook.com/baltcitylgbtq. For Uber ride receipt. For more info, visit Bit. Bit.ly/2PO2mDy. For more info, visit Bit. New ‘Bi-plus’ more info, visit Bit.ly/33hpDlf. ly/2PTTyfL. t ly/34tAnNI. For questions or accommo- On Thursday, November 14th, they dations email cassandra.stewart@balti- Social Group will host an event from 6 to 7 pm at morecity.gov or call 443-984-3996. t the Enoch Pratt Free Library Brooklyn The Baltimore City Office of LGBTQ Af- Branch (300 East Patapsco Avenue, Trans Sexual fairs invites anyone who identifies as Baltimore). For more info visit Bit.ly/2py- bisexual, pansexual, or any other iden- Dgy7. Health Forum Freedom: An tity welcoming and affirming of the Bi+ On Monday, November 25th, from 6 community to join them on Monday, No- to 7 pm they will hold the final session AIDS Action Baltimore hosts a trans sex- Redefiniing vember 18th from 6 to 7 pm at the Enoch at the Enoch Pratt Free Library Walbrook ual health forum entitled “TRANScend- Branch (3203 West North Avenue, Balti- ing Barriers III” at the Waxter Center Masculinity, more). For more info, visit Bit.ly/2pz7a5k. (1000 Cathedral Street, Baltimore) on To RSVP for an event and to receive Wednesday, November 20th from 6:30 Nov. 9th a copy of the proposed strategic plan to to 8 pm. This session will feature local review in advance of the sessions, visit providers who address the needs and On Saturday, November 9th from 6:30 to Bclgbtqplan.eventbrite.com. For ques- services related to the trans communi- 8:30 pm, cosmopolitan genderqueer Bal- tions, email jabari.lyles@baltimorecity. ty. Trans and gender non-conforming timore fashion artist Jordi Equitable will gov. t people are welcome to identify practical lead an interactive discussion about the solutions to healthcare challenges, as intersection of fashion and gender iden- well as a collective way forward. Dinner tity at Charm City Books (728 Washing- will be served. ton Boulevard, Baltimore). Handpicked Pratt Free Library (400 Cathedral Street, A Show of The event is free of charge, but “lewks” and accessories from Equitable’s Baltimore), for the first meeting of Bi- please RSVP to [email protected] so wardrobe will adorn the walls and be Monthly, a monthly social and discussion Titleholders organizers can have enough food on available for purchase. Jordi will share group. The goal’s purpose is to build fel- hand. how to navigate and remain resilient in lowship and visibility within the local Bi- Join Baltimore’s own Queen of Come- For questions, call 410-837-2437. t Baltimore as a genderqueer fashion art- plus communities. For more info, visit dy Shawnna Alexander on Sunday, No- – news compiled ist and as the child of Pentecostal mis- Bit.ly/2pJFryD. t vember 10th, from 8:30 to 11:30 pm as by Bill Redmond-Palmer sionary parents. she hosts “A Show of Titleholders” at the Equitable makes an art of decon- Rowan Tree (1633 South Charles Street, Baltimore). Her cast of local and region-

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ence and evidence.” Homophobic Outrage in Virginia Civil commitment laws are bad enough. Because it’s a civil rather than by George Williard noted Philip Fornaci and going outside the law’s provisions, hired a criminal matter – with the Supreme Last month, Virginia At- Virginia Attorney Roger Lancaster in an another psychologist, Michelle Sjolinder, Court declaring that lifetime confinement torney General Mark General Mark August Washington Post who, for a reputed $20,000 fee, gave the is somehow not “punishment” – stan- Herring (D) succeeded op-ed they wrote about answer the AG wanted. in his aim of incarcer- Herring condemns Baughman’s case. Baugh- Coming into the trial this past ating a gay man indef- man was prosecuted as October, Baughman’s pro bono Love the initely for sending text gay man to lifetime an adult for both teenage attorneys’ hands were tied: Judge irony messages. AG Herring incarceration for encounters and took an Fiore disallowed introduction of maintains the man – who ill-advised plea bargain, re- the first psychologist’s report urg- has never been accused casual same-sex sulting in a sentence of six- ing release, or informing the jury or arrested for any act of and-a-half years. But at the that Baughman had been found violence – is a “Sexually relations he had as a end of his term Baughman previously not “sexually violent.” Violent Predator.” Virgi- teenager wasn’t released: the state With Baughman’s record clean in na’s treatment of Galen moved to civilly commit him the 15 years since his conviction, Baughman, now 36,has indefinitely as a “Sexually there were no new facts to support attracted protests from Violent Predator” – holding any other conclusion. LGBT and criminal-justice groups, and him for another two-and-a-half years in “There’s nothing about Galen’s at least one Virginia lawmaker. His case the process. However in 2012, an Arling- past that suggests he’s dangerous dards of proof reminiscent of kangaroo highlights the dangers of Orwellian civ- ton, Virginia, jury concluded he did not or likely to reoffend,” Virginia Delegate courts and Stalin show trials. Virtually il-commitment laws that allow indefinite deserve that designation and Baughman Patrick Hope was quoted in the Rich- any evidence obtained however can be confinement of people to prevent possi- gained his freedom. mond Times-Dispatch. “But Virginia’s used against a defendant – and the state ble future offenses. After his release on probation, [sex] laws and civil commitment pro- can retry again and again a case that it Baughman – a former Indiana Univer- Baughman came out fighting – becoming loses. But Virginia’s law is worse than sity student and Soros Justice fellowship an activist fighting against out of control LGBT groups to most. The commonwealth uses a bla- recipient – was condemned October 17th sex laws, speaking internationally about tantly homophobic questionnaire, called by an Arlington, Virginia, jury to what is the injustice of civil commitment, giving Virginia Attorney “Static-99,” that gives men “points” for almost always lifetime confinement, on a well received TEDx talk, and winning a General Mark having same-sex relations, with a high- the basis of an alleged parole violation prestigious Soros Justice fellowship. er score able to trigger a bid for lifetime – for exchanging texts with a 16-year-old Civil-commitment laws let prosecu- Herring: “Your office confinement. youth in Minnesota, a friend of his fam- tors impose lifetime incarceration on Representatives from a number of ily’s whom he met at a funeral that he’d those judged to have vaguely defined is arguing that even LGBT groups, including GLSEN and the received explicit permission from his pa- “mental disorders” that might lead them completely legal National LGBTQ Task Force, sent a joint role officer to attend. The two were just to commit another sex offense in the fu- letter in July 2018 to the AG urging him conversing – nothing remotely sexual. ture. Confinement lasts until “treatment” conduct can serve as to drop the effort to commit Baughman. But Virginia contends that the chats vi- is successful, but in practice, that’s “Your office is arguing that even com- olated terms of Baughman’s probation. never. Including Virginia, 19 US states sufficient evidence pletely legal conduct can serve as suffi- At age 20, Baughman had been con- along with the Feds have enacted these that a gay man cient evidence that a gay man intends to statutes, and some 6,400 men engage in violent, illegal conduct at some – with the number continually intends to engage in point; and on that basis alone should be Galen growing – are now locked up. confined indefinitely ....” the letter noted. Baughman Baughman’s texting with the violent, illegal conduct Baughman’s attorneys are focusing Minnesota youth was the sort of at some point; and now on an appeal of the jury’s deci- technical parole violation that sion last month, made in the dark, with would normally garner a warn- on that basis alone the most relevant exculpatory evidence ing. Instead, a blatantly ho- should be confined witheld. As well, his advocates can seek mophobic judge had Baughman to ameliorate the terms of his confine- sent back to prison. indefinitely ...” ment to perhaps some kind of house “Arlington Circuit Court arrest, even though almost all of the Judge Daniel S. Fiore II insist- ceedings, in particular, are so arcane more than 600 men Virginia condemns ed that the texts were evidence and seriously flawed, the AG’s office is are warehoused at the Virginia Center that Baughman was trying to re- blindly following a pattern of prosecution for Behavioral Rehabilitation, which the cruit the heterosexual youth into that is neither evidence-based or just. state is spending an additional $110 mil- gay sex,” Fornaci and Lancaster This area of the law is in serious and lion to expand. note, describing the intensely desperate need of reform based on sci- For now, Baughman is locked up in homophobic atmosphere in the the Arlington Coun- courtroom. “Asserting that a ty jail, where he has ‘tragedy for a minor’ had been been for the past narrowly averted, the judge sen- three-and-a-half tenced Baughman to 21 months years, pending trans- in jail.” fer to the Virginia Cen- victed for something that took place long Once incarcerated, Virginia struck ter for Behavioral Re- before, when, after he had just turned 14, again, seeking to get Baughman per- habilitation, the gulag he showed another boy how to mastur- manently committed. But the state’s where for some mild bate. As well, he was charged for a sexu- state-appointed psychologist, Ilona adolescent same-sex al encounter with another teenager when Gravers, recommended Baughman’s encounters, Virgin- Baughman himself was 19. “Neither case release, as had psychiatrists from John ia plans for Galen involved force or deception and neither Hopkins and Columbia University. AG Virginia’s prison-like warehouse in rural Burkeville for the Baughman to spend ‘victim’ participated in the prosecution,” Herring, ignored the state’s finding, and men it civilly commits after serving their sentences the rest of his life. t

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does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your condition and • are breastfeeding or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you take DOVATO. treatment. ° You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby. One of the medicines in DOVATO (lamivudine) passes into your breastmilk. What is the Most Important Information I Should Know about DOVATO? ° Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. If you have both human immunodefi ciency virus-1 (HIV-1) and hepatitis B virus ° (HBV) infection, DOVATO can cause serious side effects, including: Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including • R esistant HBV infection. Your healthcare provider will test you for HBV infection prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. before you start treatment with DOVATO. If you have HIV-1 and hepatitis B, the hepatitis B Some medicines interact with DOVATO. Keep a list of your medicines and show it to your virus can change (mutate) during your treatment with DOVATO and become harder to treat healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. (resistant). It is not known if DOVATO is safe and effective in people who have HIV-1 and • Y ou can ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist for a list of medicines that interact HBV infection. with DOVATO. • Worsening of HBV infection. If you have HIV-1 and HBV infection, your HBV may • D o not start taking a new medicine without telling your healthcare provider. get worse (fl are-up) if you stop taking DOVATO. A “fl are-up” is when your HBV infection Your healthcare provider can tell you if it is safe to take DOVATO with other medicines. suddenly returns in a worse way than before. Worsening liver disease can be serious and What are Possible Side Effects of DOVATO? may lead to death. DOVATO can cause serious side effects, including: • ° Do not run out of DOVATO. Refi ll your prescription or talk to your healthcare provider Those in the “What is the Most Important Information I Should Know about before your DOVATO is all gone. DOVATO?” section. • ° Do not stop DOVATO without fi rst talking to your healthcare provider. If you Allergic reactions. Call your healthcare provider right away if you develop stop taking DOVATO, your healthcare provider will need to check your health often and a rash with DOVATO. Stop taking DOVATO and get medical help right away do blood tests regularly for several months to check your liver. if you develop a rash with any of the following signs or symptoms: fever; What is DOVATO? generally ill feeling; tiredness; muscle or joint aches; blisters or sores in mouth; blisters or peeling of the skin; redness or swelling of the eyes; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or DOVATO is a prescription medicine that is used without other antiretroviral medicines to treat tongue; problems breathing. HIV-1 infection in adults: who have not received antiretroviral medicines in the past, and • L iver problems. People with a history of hepatitis B or C virus may have an increased without known resistance to the medicines dolutegravir or lamivudine. HIV-1 is the virus that risk of developing new or worsening changes in certain liver tests during treatment with causes Acquired Immune Defi ciency Syndrome (AIDS). It is not known if DOVATO is safe and DOVATO. Liver problems, including liver failure, have also happened in people without a effective in children. history of liver disease or other risk factors. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests Who should not take DOVATO? to check your liver. Do Not Take DOVATO if You: Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the following signs

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8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com VoiceVoice ofof thethe CenterCenter PCOM Transgender Awareness Week November 20-22, 2019 Calendar of Events Friday, November 8th The week of Transgender Day of Remembrance on No- Breaking Bread Project 6:30-10:00pm (MA)Marijuana Anonymous: 7:00 - 8:00pm vember 20, we participate in Transgender Awareness Saturday, November 9th Week to help raise the visibility of transgender people and (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous: 6:00 - 8:00pm address issues the community faces. Sunday, November 10th Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), is an (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11am – 1pm annual observance on November 20 that honors the mem- Gentle Mindful Yoga: 3:30pm – 4:45pm ory of the transgender people whose lives were lost in acts Monday, November 11th of anti-transgender violence that year. Tuesday, November 12th Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 – 5:00pm Read more about Transgender Awareness Week and Teen Art Group 5:30-7:30pm the Transgender Day of Remembrance below. SILhouette: 7:30 - 9:30pm What is Transgender Awareness Week? Wednesday, November 13th (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: Transgender Awareness Week is a week when trans- 7:00 - 8:00pm gender people and their allies take action to bring atten- The Mankind Project: 7:00 - 9:15pm tion to the community by educating the public about who Thursday, November 14th transgender people are, sharing stories and experiences, Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 - 5:00pm Sistahs of Pride 7pm-9pm and advancing advocacy around the issues of prejudice, Family Game Night 6:30-9:30 discrimination, and violence that affect the transgender Friday, November 15th community. (MA) Marijuana Anonymous: 7:00-8:00pm Saturday, November 16th What is Transgender Day of Remembrance? Queer Families Potluck 11am-1:30pm Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) was (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous: 6:00-8:00pm founded by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith Sunday, November 17th as a vigil to honor her memory of Rita Hester, a transgen- (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11am – 1pm Gentle Mindful Yoga 3:30 – 4:45pm der woman who was killed in 1998. The vigil commemorat- Monday, November 18th ed all the transgender people lost to violence that year and Center Closed began an important memorial that has become the annual Tuesday, November 19th Transgender Day of Remembrance. Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00-5:00 pm The center will have several activities to in celebration New Volunteer Orientation: 6:30 – 7:30pm SILhouette: 7:30 - 9:30pm of Transgender Awareness Week. Wednesday, November 20th Trans Baltimore Friendsgiving 3-7:00pm (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous 7-8:00pm The Mankind Project - 7 – 9:15pm Thursday, November 21st Free & Confidential Testing:2– 5:00pm PCOM Transgender Town Hall 6-7:00pm Baltimore Trans-Masculine Alliance 6:30-9:00pm Friday, November 22nd Trans/GNC Job Readiness Workshop 2-4:00pm Breaking Bread Project 6-8:00pm (MA) Marijuana Anonymous: 7-8:00pm Saturday, November 23rd (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous - 6:00-8:00pm

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compiled by Jim Becker education will also be allowed to dis- a hit with thousands of men, and it was pression, sexual minority youths remain criminate and still receive federal money. soon joined by a slew of imitators. a particularly at-risk group.” Trump to (LGBTQ Nation – Alex Bollinger at www. In their heyday (1951 to 1970), phy- This study’s findings relating to LGB lgbtqnation.com/2019/11/trump-adminis- sique magazines faced constant attacks youth are confirmed by other research. allow LGBTQ tration-allow-adoption-agencies-discrim- from government censors, who would Another study published in JAMA Pedi- inate-lgbtq-people) not allow “obscene” material through the atrics last year, which drew data from discrimination mails. Mizer served time in prison for 35 other studies, concluded that LGBTQ “obscenity” and, some suspect, hiring out youth are three times more likely to at- by religious his models for sexual services. In spite tempt to kill themselves. This trend ap- A long history of all that, as time went by physique parently extends to LGB youth in other groups magazines became more implicitly, and of physique even explicitly, gay. And what effect did Washington, DC – Alex Bollinger physique magazines have on gay liber- writes in LGBTQ Nation that on Novem- magazines ation? According to the authors of Com- ber 1st, the Department of Health and pletely Queer, “Mizer was never directly Human Services (HHS) proposed a new Charlotte, North Carolina – (The associated with gay and lesbian activism, rule that would allow adoption and foster following is abridged from Jesse’s Jour- but his effect on the development of a agencies to discriminate against LGBTQ nal) Jesse Monteadudo saw his first phy- gay male consciousness was immeasur- people. November is National Adoption sique magazine when he was 13 years able. As early as the 1950s, he began Month. HHS defended the proposal by old, in 1966, in a newsstand in downtown urging readers of his publications to pointing to religious freedom, saying that Miami. Though he did not yet know what demand their rights, join homophile or- organizations with religious objections to he was, he knew that he found other ganizations, and fight police entrapment following the rules should still be allowed men attractive, and he was instinctively and censorship. For much of the 1950s, to get federal money. drawn to the magazines’ models, who those little physique magazines were not The rule would apply to adoption were completely naked from the back just an aspect of gay culture; they virtu- countries as well. A University College and foster care agencies, allowing them or tastefully covered with a posing strap ally were gay culture. (Q Notes Online: London study found that “LGBQ young to refuse to work with LGBTQ families. upfront. By the time he came out of the Jesse’s Journal – Jesse Monteadudo at people [in the UK] were found to be four But it would go much further and allow closet (1973), the physique magazines Goqnotes.com/64203/a-long-history-of- times more likely to self-harm with sui- were a thing of the past, victims of their physique-magazines) cidal intent than heterosexuals.” (Seattle own success. Full-frontal nudes were no Gay News – Mike Andrew at www.sgn. longer considered obscene, and openly org/sgnnews47_43/page2.cfm) gay magazines already proclaimed what the beefcake mags could not admit; that LGB youth they published shots of naked men for the pleasure of other men. twice as likely The father of physique magazines Queen Latifah was Bob Mizer (1922-1992). In 1945 Miz- to experience er started the Athletic Model Guild in Los headlines event Angeles as a modeling agency for male depression any organization that gets an HHS grant body-builders. Mizer, a self-taught pho- that raises for a health care or child care program tographer, recruited and photographed Seattle – The rate of depression to refuse to serve LGBTQ people, even the models, carefully listing their vital among straight teens has fallen over the $1.15 million though they are getting federal taxpayer statistics along with their real names and last two decades, but that for LGB youth money. Currently, HHS rules ban giving ages. Mizer sold his photos by mail, ad- remained about the same. In fact, LGB Seattle – Now in its 24th year, Hope- grants to organizations that discriminate vertising them in men’s magazines. By youth are twice as likely to experience link’s Reaching Out Luncheon held on based on a list of factors. According to 1951 Mizer’s catalog was so extensive depression as their straight counterparts. October 21st, is the premier fundraising a notice posted on HHS’s website, a that he began to collect his photos and That’s the verdict of a new study from re- gathering on the Eastside and one of proposed rule would remove sexual ori- sell them in a magazine format. Thus, searchers at the Warren Alpert Medical the largest and most popular events of entation, gender identity, and religion was Physique Pictorial born. It became School at Brown University, published the year. Past headliners included the from that list and allow grant recipients in the Journal of the American Medical likes of Dr. Jill Biden, and Dr. Tererai to treat same-sex marriages differently Association Pediatrics. The findings are Trent and has made the event truly in- from different-sex marriages. based on data from 1999 through 2017, spiring. This year was no exception with The change most notably impacts compiled by the Massachusetts Youth the incredible Queen Latifah! Unlike the religious foster and adoption agencies. Risk Behavior Surveillance System. lecture format of the last few years, this “It is outrageous that the Trump admin- Participants in the survey were year was different featuring an interview istration would mark the start of Na- asked, “During the past 12 months, did set up with lots of conversation about tional Adoption Month by announcing you ever feel so sad or hopeless al- Latifah’s childhood growing up poor. a rule to further limit the pool of loving most every day for two weeks or more Also noteworthy was a performance by homes available to America’s 440,000 in a row that you stopped doing some the Residency, a group created by Seat- foster children,” said Julie Kruse of usual activities?” According to the data, tle-based hip-hop artist Macklemore and Family Equality. “The American public rates of depression for straight teens fell Ryan Lewis to create youth empower- overwhelmingly opposes allowing tax- from 29.3% in 1999 to 23.7% in 2017. ment through hip-hop. payer-funded adoption and foster care Over the same period, depression rates Founded in 1971, Hopelink is a so- agencies to turn away qualified parents for LGB teens remained approximately cial services nonprofit agency that serves simply because they are in a same-sex the same: 51.4% in 1999 and 51.9% in north and east King County, Washington, relationship.” The rule change would go 2017. LGBT teens who reported being with food banks, energy assistance, hous- further than that, allowing all HHS grant in same-sex relationships fared worse ing, a family development program, trans- recipients to discriminate. Many of these than the group as a whole. Of those in portation and adult education. According to are related to public health, like HIV and a relationship, 48.7% of respondents in Wikipedia, it is one of the largest nonprof- STI programs, opioid addiction programs, 1999 said they experienced depression. its in the state of Washington, employing and health research. Other programs that The rate rose to 53.8% in 2017. The au- about 275 people with an annual budget of address various issues like youth home- thors concluded, “Despite decades of about $61,000,000. Hopelink serves about lessness, human trafficking, and pre-K research on treatment for adolescent de- 64,000 people every year.

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The Reaching Out Luncheon annual- offer some foreground instrumentals.” tion can be traced back to mid-2018 and ly Christian, and we mostly believe in ly attracts up to 1,000 attendees and this Bello, who plays the saxophone on a preparations for the celebration of the things that the Bible teaches us. We year raised $1.15 million to provide food, Swagcycle in the video, wrote on Ins- 50th anniversary of the founding of MCC. believe in not spending so frivolously. … shelter, family development, transporta- tagram: “Today @roel.julian and I were MCC staff Lauren Bennett wrote a letter Most of us don’t believe in abortion. You tion, and job readiness skills for home- hanging and we stumbled upon some to the Smithsonian Institution’s general ask any black person around, they want less and low-income families, children, homophobic guy with a mic so we played mailing address in which she recounted to keep their babies. It was a mistake, seniors, and people with disabilities. It over him. Shoutout to @newyorknico for some of MCC’s history and suggested but ‘Hey, we have to live with them.’” has five emergency service centers. (Se- capturing this moment.” “What the video that they should include MCC in their ar- Worthy also said she wants to make sure attle Gay News – MK Scott at Sgn.org/ doesn’t show is what he said before we chives. Bennett received no reply to her all immigrants that enter the country do sgnnews47_43/page9.cfm) took out or saxophones,” Bello said. “He letter for months but eventually it ended so legally, while adding that she doesn’t was saying all gays will burn in hell and up on the desk of Katherine Ott, curator agree that immigrants are doing the job that they will be in a ring of fire.” He said for the Science and Medicine Division, he and his friend looked at each other who gave Bennett a call in February Homophobic and had the same idea at the same time: 2019. Ott subsequently wrote to Perry to drown out his hateful rhetoric with and MCC Los Angeles inviting them to preacher their saxophones. (Pink News – Patrick communicate with her about making a Kelleher at Pinknews.co.uk/2019/10/28/ donation of artifacts and records to the drowned out homophobic-hate-preacher-saxo- Museum. Ott indicated that the Museum phones-new-york-viral-video/?fbclid=I- is about “telling stories” about Ameri- by guys with wAR0W86yUx7igVw_p3J54nvxs5Rx- can history. Perry and MCC were invit- 0Fqq82OSwaKUa0weVq1LHjIAkgbpe- saxophones VDM) Republican trans Congressional New York City – Writing for Pink candidate Monique Worthy News, Patrick Kelleher reports that a with Sen. Ted Cruz preacher in New York City was trying to Smithsonian warn passers-by about “the homosexu- US citizens won’t do. “I know plenty of al community” – but two musicians with gets MCC and Americans who will get out there and saxophones decided his message wasn’t work some construction and stuff like important. In a hilarious video posted to Troy Perry that if you paid them the right dollar,” Instagram, the preacher can be heard she said. The “Videos” page on Worthy’s warning people that “the homosexual artifacts Troy Perry website features her discussing issues, community has the highest suicide rate of including, “Is Donald Trump the racist any group.” Luckily, he didn’t get to share Washington, DC – The Smithso- they try to make him out to be?” and his message for very long, as two guys nian’s National Museum of American ed to donate artifacts and records that “We don’t owe the world’s poor anything: turn up with saxophones to drown him History recently received personal ar- would tell the MCC story as part of the President Trump is absolutely right on il- out. The preacher was reportedly claim- tifacts and records from the Rev. Troy spiritual journeys of LGBTQ persons in legal immigration … whether you like it ing that gay people “will burn in hell.” Perry and the Metropolitan Community the U.S. (Q Notes Online at Goqnotes. or not.” Churches (MCC) for its archives. After com/64232/news-briefs-for-11-01-19/ & The website includes photos of Wor- discussions with museum officials over LGBTQ Religious Archives Network at thy with Sen. Ted Cruz (above) and Tex- the course of several months Perry lgbtqreligiousarchives.org/troy-perry) as Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick (both of whom chose more than a dozen items to be are blatantly anti-transgender), and one preserved in the museum’s archives. that appears to show her with Trump’s These items include a Book of Common son, Donald Trump, Jr. This is Worthy’s Prayer that Perry used to lead worship Conservative first run for office, and she told the Tex- at the first MCC worship gathering and omasHomePage site she “fell in love other services over the years. Perry also Republican with politics” during the 2008 election donated a book of sermons that he wrote cycle when she was incarcerated and out by hand. The artifacts were symboli- trans woman starting listening to a lot of conservative Saxophones against free speech, cally donated to the Museum at a special radio talk shows. t (Dallas Voice – Tam- however deplorable worship gathering at MCC Washington, running for mye Nash at Dallasvoice.com/wichi- DC, on Sunday, October 6th. ta-falls-trans-woman-running-as-conser- The musicians – Augie Bello and Ju- Three-dimensional objects – like the Congress vative-republican-for-congress) lian Roel – played their saxophones as prayer book and a set of Perry’s vest- loudly as possible so the preacher could ments – will be housed in a special sec- Wichita Falls, Texas – Monique not be heard over the sound of their in- tion of the museum. The papers and pho- Worthy, a conservative Republican trans struments. Nicolas Heller was passing tographs will become part of the LGBT woman has announced her candidacy for by and decided to record the incredible Collection (1915-2019) #1146, which Texas’s District 13 seat in the US House moment. “I was running late to a meeting contains over 57 cubic feet (172 boxes) to replace retiring Rep. Mac Thornberry, when I was passing through, so I only of material related to the national LGBT the Republican who has held the seat for had two minutes to see what was up,” he community spanning 1915 to the current 24 years, according to TexomasHome- These news notes have been compiled, told Queerty. time. Museum Archivist Franklin Robin- page.com. Worthy – whose campaign with permission, from the online version Julian and I were shocked that the son noted that the LGBT Collection in- website includes a plea for help in either of various newspapers and other web video went viral, but it also makes us ex- cludes older records that were received raising the money to pay the filing fee sites. We thank these publications for tremely happy to see how much support when there was little awareness of queer or to get the 500 signatures necessary allowing us to bring you their news sto- there is for the LGBTQ community, said history, but that the Archives Center has to file without paying the fee – told Tex- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- Bello. He later shared the video on Ins- been actively encouraging donations omasHomepage.com that her campaign nificantly edited and you can read the tagram and wrote: “This strapping young from LGBT history since the early 2000s. slogan is “Make Congress great again,” full story by going to the web site men- gent (who clearly gets laid regularly) is Robinson further observed that the Perry and that she is the “outspoken, openly tioned following the item. Comments preaching that the LGBTQ community and MCC artifacts will add a spiritual di- conservative candidate the 13th district are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker is going to burn in hell, so street musi- mension to their LGBT Collection. needs.” and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride cians @augie_bello and @roel.julian The impetus for this historic dona- Worthy said, “Black people are most- Media.

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transgender – they do need the protec- Why I Wanted to Move tion which the transgender policy pro- Disrupting vides. All of the variants mean we can’t just to Iceland as a Teenager Bias ask someone what their pronouns are. By Aila Alvina Boyd Johanna M. Dolan Not only can it be rude – not all butch Most teenagers have probably never cy, Ireland welcomed its first-ever openly women are questioning their gender, for given Iceland much of a thought. In fact, LGBTQ taoiseach, which was no small instance. Not only is it presumptive – not most teenagers probably can’t even find feat for a country that is more than 70% all drag queens want to be women. Not Iceland on a map unless they’ve taken a Catholic, a religion that is still vehement- Call Me By My only is it behavior that unintentionally world geography course before. I, on the ly opposed to people like Varadkar. targets a person for violence and exclu- other hand, desperately longed to live Aside from the fact that they’re both Name sion – not all trans people want to come there when I was a teenager. What was openly gay, there are other similarities out of the closet and are prepared for it about the land of fire and ice that in- between Buttegieg and Varadkar. For “Remember that a person’s name is the consequences of being forced out of trigued me so much? It was the fact that instance, Varadkar was 38-years-old to that person, the sweetest and most the closet. Iceland was the first country to ever have when he assumed the position, which important sound in any language.” This means we need to get to the an openly gay head of state. is the same age that Buttegieg will be – Dale Carnegie true meaning of the policy as best we Now, as a more mature 25-year-old during next November’s general elec- can – “No person shall be discriminated trans woman, I’m absolutely thrilled by tion. They’re also both the children of Since December 2017 the Anne Arundel against.” In other words, an Anne Arun- the fact that there’s a very real chance immigrants – Varadkar’s father came to County Police Department has had a de- del County Police Officer is not allowed that my home country might be led by an Ireland from India and Buttegieg’s fa- partment policy on how to interact with to use derogatory slang, call you an “it,” openly gay individual. Obviously, I’m re- ther is originally from Malta. And lastly, transgender people in an appropriate and or refer to you by any other intentionally ferring to Mayor Pete Buttegieg of South Buttegieg and Varadkar both came out dignified manner. We’ve been reviewing derogatory terms. They are not to make Bend, Indiana. in 2015, well after both of their political the policy in class. The policy states that, fun of you. The policy is to help police He’s surging in recent Iowa polls, careers had been established. “no person shall be discriminated against officers to be kind because the trans which is miraculous considering the fact In addition to Iceland and Ireland, based on gender identity, sexual orienta- community is already dealing with some that marriage equality was granted na- Belgium, Luxembourg, and Serbia are tion, or any other basis.” serious shit. It’s to remind them that tionwide only four years ago. Whether led by or have been led by openly gay The policy not only provides some every person standing in front of them or not he ends up heads of state. Now very basic definitions, it also gives instruc- is first and foremost a person. Not only emerging victorious it shouldn’t be over- tions on addressing members of the trans that but a person they can’t make as- from the crowded looked that all of these community with a person’s preferred first sumptions about. 2020 Democratic countries are in Eu- name and appropriate pronouns. The pol- When you are in Anne Arundel Coun- primary field, we, the rope, a continent that icy prompts the officer to remember that ty the officers will treat trans people with LGBTQ community has historically been you can’t ask a person about their anato- the respect deserving of people that are and the country as a more socially progres- my or what procedures they have had. It members of their own community and whole, should take a sive than we have been also instructs the officer to use discretion call you by your preferred name. minute and consid- in the US, but Serbia when transporting / arresting transgender Here’s how you can be helpful: re- er what having an in particular is an apt prisoners. In other words, the policy aims member this is a starting policy and pro- openly gay head of comparison given that to protect members of the trans communi- vides positive first steps. The officers will state might actually it’s located in Eastern ty even when they are accused of a crime. make mistakes – it’s how people learn. look like. Examples Europe, a region that This is ex- tremely im- Remember their intent and try to be of other gay heads historically hasn’t been Mayor Pete portant. Hate kind back. Over time there of state are limited, as forward-thinking as Buttegieg crimes in gen- might be other inclusive but they do exist. Western Europe. eral have been changes. Those changes As I previously mentioned, Additionally, it shouldn’t be on the rise come from getting to know Iceland became the first coun- overlooked that all five countries since 2016. members of the trans and try to be led by an openly gay head of that have been led by an openly gay Hate crimes intersex community. If you state when Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir be- head of state operate under parliamen- against are out of the closet and live came prime minister in 2009. When dis- tary systems, systems that are far easier LGBTQ per- / play / work in Anne Arundel cussing Sigurðardóttir and the trail that for minorities to advance in. Former Sec- sons are County, introduce yourself she blazed, it should be noted that Ice- retary of State Hillary Clinton acknowl- not being reported to your neighborhood cop. land’s political system is significantly dif- edged the notion that parliamentary sys- accurately Take the time to get to know ferent than the one that the US operates tems are more open to women, which I because to them and give them the op- under. Additionally, the country is more believe is also true concerning LGBTQ report an- portunity to get to know you. socially liberal in general. But despite all leaders, back in 2017 when she said, ti-LGBTQ This will be a huge, positive that, Sigurðardóttir’s achievement of as- “We have a presidential system. Parlia- violence step that members of the cending to the highest office in the land mentary systems, historically, have prov- would be LGBTQ community can make is no less astonishing. en more open to women. And why would to officially come out to start to build a bridge. Tapped to lead her country in the that be? Because you have a party appa- as LGBTQ and could result in devastating If you choose to build midst of the 2008 Icelandic financial cri- ratus to support you.” consequences. a relationship with the officer in your sis because of her national popularity, Given the diversity of gender, sex- Those consequences make it chal- neighborhood – thank you in advance Sigurðardóttir, who spent more than a uality, age, and ethnicity of the world’s lenging to role-play with the policy in for doing your part to make the world a quarter-century in service to her coun- first five openly gay heads of state, it’s class. Here’s why: “transgender” is actu- better place for the LGBTQ community try, cemented the fact that sexuality has difficult not to believe that issues of iden- ally a term which encompasses several because the truth is that none of us are nothing to do with one’s competency a tity aren’t all that important to voters different gender identities. Transmen and free until all of us are free. year before the country decided to legal- throughout the world. Instead, they seem transwomen definitely belong under the And just when you think they are ize same-sex marriage. to value competency and the ability to umbrella. Non-binary, gender non-con- done …. Nope. The Anne Arundel Coun- A more recent example for Buttegieg get things done. Hopefully those of us in forming, and third-gender individuals ty Police Department has a few more supporters to look to is Leo Varadkar, the the US aren’t all that far off from being belong under the umbrella. Some Two LGBTQ-affirming things I’ll tell you current taoiseach of the Republic of Ire- able to join the ranks of the countries – Spirit and Hijra people belong under the about next time. t land. While the US was celebrating, or Iceland, Belgium, Luxembourg, the Re- umbrella. While intersex people are not perhaps crying over, the one-and-a-half- public of Ireland, and Serbia – that have year anniversary of the Trump presiden- created a road map for us. t 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com quality of life // Health and Wellness

7) Yes or no: Is the nasal spray flu to other infections like bacterial pneumo- were occurring in those years. The nasal vaccine available this year? nia. Although people sometimes use the spray vaccine has been made differently term “stomach flu” for vomiting and diar- for 2019-20 and is expected to be as ef- 8) Why isn’t taking flu medicine (an- rhea, the flu virus rarely affects the gut, fective as the shot. This year, it is recom- Open Wide tiviral drug) as good as getting vaccinat- and does not do so without the person mended for children over two and adults, ask Dr Eva ed? having cough or runny nose as well. Flu but not for pregnant women or anyone Dr Eva Hersh a – There are often shortages of flu also does not affect the skin. with a weakened immune system. The medicine at the height of flu season nasal spray is more expensive than the b – You have to start the medicine 5) (d) Surprisingly, the flu virus can shot. within 48 yours of getting sick live for 24 hours on a surface but only 15 Flu Season c – Flu medicine costs much more minutes on a person’s hand or on a used 8) (h)All of the above. than vaccine tissue. Use a towel to touch doorknobs, 2019-20 – Q&A d – Waiting and taking the medicine or open swinging doors with your shoul- 9)(b) No. Because there is no live vi- means you have to get the flu! der, not your hands. This will protect you rus in any type of flu shot, it is not possi- 1) How many people die from the flu in e – If you get the flu, you may infect from many other viral infections as well. ble to get an infection from it. When peo- the US every year? people you love Everyday preventive actions are import- ple get flu symptoms soon after getting a – 10,000 f – Flu medicine does not ant. Avoid people who are ill, and prac- the vaccination, is because they were b – 50,000 A shot in time cure the flu, it only makes the tice good hygiene such as washing your already exposed to the flu before they c – 100,000 saves lives illness less severe and short- hands often and covering your cough. If got the shot. ens sick time by one or two you are sick, stay home. There is live, weakened virus in the 2) When does flu sea- days nasal vaccine. The nasal vaccine has not son start? g – Flu medicines have 6) (g) Flu does not cause broken been known to cause illness but in theory a – November side effects. They can cause nausea bones. Complications of flu include bron- could cause mild illness. b – January and vomiting, and can make headaches chitis, pneumonia, sinus and ear infec- c – You can get the flu any time, but and psychiatric effects more likely. And tions as well as other, life-threatening 10) CDC recommends a yearly flu it’s most common in the winter. in a recent study, flu medicine didn’t de- conditions like inflammation of the heart vaccination for everyone over age six crease the chance of serious complica- or brain and multi-organ failure. Pneu- months. You have a lot to gain and noth- 3) Does getting flu vaccine prevent tions (see question 6) monia is the most common cause of ing to lose. Go get your flu shot now so it the flu? h – all of the above death related to the flu. will be working by the time the flu season a – Yes, 100% is at its worst. t b – It cuts your chance of getting the 9) Can you get the flu from a flu shot? 7) Yes. The nasal spray flu vaccine flu in half a – Yes was taken off the market for sever- c – It doesn’t work at all, it’s a scam b – No al years because the virus strains in it c – Sometimes did not match up with the viruses that 4) What parts of the body does the flu virus attack? 10) Who should get vaccinated to Saturday November 9 a – The respiratory tract: the airways prevent the flu? in the nose, throat, and lungs 8 - 11 PM b – The stomach and intestines c – The body overall: fever, muscle Answers (Don’t cheat!) aches d – The skin (a rash) 1) (b)Flu is not a minor illness. Every e – a and c year, ten to 20% of all the people in the US are infected with flu, and more than 5) What is the commonest way peo- 200,000 people are hospitalized because ple catch the flu? of flu. 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mini, modified, full standard, and extended. a well-trained, experienced, reputable The degree of intervention depends upon board-certified plastic surgeon who can of- the level of correction needed to achieve fer you all possible alternatives and help you Body Contouring desired results. The procedure involves an determine which will best meet your needs. A incision on the lower abdomen to remove Successful body contouring requires more than advanced technology – it requires a By Dr. Gary Vela this groundbreaking sagging skin that has lost its elasticity, re- Q: “I work out all the time but still have technological pro- discussion duce excess fat, improve the appearance deep understanding of aesthetic body pro- belly flab. What can I do?” cess, called cryo- with Dr. of stretch marks, and tighten slack abdom- portions, extensive experience, and a keen A: I hear this frustration frequently! Many lipolysis, is that it inal muscles. The incision is usually placed artistic eye. It is also critical to select a sur- people who eat well and exercise regularly only freezes fat cells Gary Vela as inconspicuously as possible, so it can geon who listens carefully to your concerns, still don’t get the results they want. This vis- and leaves your be hidden by underwear and bathing suits. educates you on all your options, and makes ible excess fat is called subcutaneous fat (the skin, muscle, and of Belcara Contrary to common belief, recovery from a you feel cared for and comfortable. jiggly, pinchable fat located just under the other tissues unaf- tummy tuck is not nearly as long and painful Finally, it is important to note that body skin). It can be difficult to lose, especially in fected and healthy. Health as it once was. New surgical and treatment contouring procedures are not substitutes the abdominal area. CoolSculpting is techniques allow patients to recover more for healthy living. Fortunately, there are several body con- FDA-cleared, comfortable, and allows you quickly and with relatively minimal discom- Your results must be maintained with touring procedures that can help you gain to return to your normal activities immedi- fort. Most patients are back to work within regular exercise and a healthy diet. I have the fit, firm, smooth tummy you desire. ately after treatment. seven to ten days and resume strenuous found that the boost in self-confidence most Tummy tuck (abdomi- Belly fat can be reduced exercise in about four to six weeks. patients experience after their procedure noplasty), liposuction, with CoolSculpting in several For patients who have experienced helps them commit to eating well and stay- t and CoolSculpting are all ways, depending upon your massive weight loss, a comprehensive ing in shape. designed to improve the needs and goals. You can body lift (circumferential torsoplasty) is usu- Dr. Gary Vela is board-certified by the shape of the body and spot reduce on your lower ally required. This procedure addresses the American Board of Plastic Surgery and a are great options for elim- abdomen, upper abdomen, skin, fat and deep tissues around the entire member of theAmerican Society of Plastic inating belly fat. However, hips, flanks, or you can ad- midsection, as well as other body parts, in- Surgeons and the American College of Sur- these procedures are all dress your entire midsection. cluding the thighs, arms, breasts, hips, and geons. Dr. Vela can be contacted at Belcara very different. CoolSculpt- CoolSculpting offers a vari- buttocks. Health in Baltimore at 410-296-0414 or visit ing is non-invasive, re- ety of applicator shapes and In all cases, it is best to consult with Belcarahealth.com. quires no downtime, and sizes, which can be used in- provides results in three dividually or in combination. to four months, with mul- In addition to the abdomen, tiple sessions required in CoolSculpting can be used order to receive optimal to reduce fat in many parts of results. Liposuction offers the body, including the back, more precise contouring bra roll, buttocks, thighs, chin, and results that are more and more. quickly realized than with Dr. Gary Liposuction is a highly CoolSculpting after just Vela effective and efficient way to one procedure. If you have sagging skin eliminate concentrated areas or loose abdominal muscles, a tum- of unwanted fat. This surgical procedure is my tuck is your best option. Sometimes, a ideal for people who are in relatively good combination of procedures is recommended to achieve optimal results. Liposuction is shape and have healthy skin but no loose, often performed during a tummy tuck, and hanging skin. Liposuction will not eliminate CoolSculpting can be performed before or excess skin or stretch marks, and it will not after a tummy tuck or liposuction to enhance tighten loose abdominal muscles. During the body contouring results further. the procedure, a very small incision is used To help you decide which solution is right to access the targeted area. A thin cannu- for you, I recommend consulting with an ex- la is inserted to apply saline and anesthet- perienced, board-certified plastic surgeon ic solutions and loosen up the targeted fat to help you determine a treatment plan that cells. The fat is then suctioned away with a meets all your needs. Key factors to consider surgical vacuum. In addition to slimming the include: abdomen, liposuction can be used in many zzz Anatomy: Do you have excess fat other places of the body. When performed and no extra skin? Or, do you have loose by a well-trained, experienced and skilled skin but no excess fat? Do you have some of plastic surgeon, liposuction is an excellent both? Are your stomach muscles separated? way to recontour your middle and greatly zzz Goals: What kind of result would you improve how you look and feel. Most pa- like to achieve? Do you want to be as flat, tients return to normal daily activities within tight, and smooth as possible, or would you a week. Like CoolSculpting, liposuction can be happy with mild improvements? be used to improve the contours of many zzz Health: How would you describe your body parts, including the abdomen, thighs, general state of health? Do you have any buttocks, arms, neck, back, hips, flanks, medical conditions to consider? and more. zzz Timing: How much time can you ded- Tummy tuck (abdominoplasty) is a icate to recovery? Do you have a deadline or great solution for people with protruding date you’re looking to achieve results and stomach muscles and sagging abdominal heal by? skin, commonly seen after weight loss, CoolSculpting is a revolutionary body pregnancy or natural aging. No amount of contouring procedure that eliminates un- strict dieting or strenuous exercise can fix wanted pockets of fat with no surgery, inci- loose skin or muscles, which is why tummy sions, or downtime. CoolSculpting works by tucks are among the most popular plastic freezing targeted fat cells, which are then nat- surgery procedures today. urally flushed out of your body. The beauty of There are multiple types of tummy tucks: 14 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com quality of life // Health & Wellness

Health Insurance Open lubricate these joints. It is recommended that when you are able, remove the bind- Mending er, take deep chest breaths in order to Enrollment is Here the get the numerous joints in the rib-cage ment or bias. For elders who have avoided area moving again … motion is lotion! Open enrollment is here, and everything Gap Peyronies – abnormal curvature of you need to know to determine your eli- medical care because of bias, their needs Charles Dudley may be complex and require multiple visits the penis when erect – can occur for a gibility and get signed up for health insur- couple reasons. Trans women who are ance will be discussed at the LGBT Health or referrals. For transgender el- tucking can stretch the top of the penile Resource Center’s next Lunch & Learn How Helpful tissue while allowing the bottom portion workshop. ders, insurance coverage Get to shorten over time. While I was at the The workshop will take place on Thurs- is often inadequate. Gen- Philadelphia Trans Wellness Confer- day, November 14th from noon to 1:30 pm der-affirming surgeries covered! is Physical ence, I heard of another cause – estrogen in the community rooms at Chase Brexton’s may not be fully covered or the requirements for Therapy? HRT! This was new to me but apparently insurance approval may not be well com- estrogen HRT can cause shortening of municated. Elders may also need to pur- October 19th, I had the honor of pre- the penile tissue, but not uniformly, there- chase post-op supplies on their own and senting physical therapy topics to the fore the person ends up with a curve to hormones may be denied or require a Transgender Information and Empow- their erect penis. Believe it or not there is yearly prior authorization. Be sure to ask erment Summit (TIES) in physical therapy for help making sure that all the medica- Richmond, Virginia, and I for Peyronies! tions you take are covered by the plan had a great time! The au- Phaloplasty you’re thinking of enrolling in to avoid dience was wonderful, and is an extensive some of these concerns. my hope is they learned a surgery with at What strategies do you use to help few things in the brief hour least a year’s make navigating health benefits feel we had together. I want to prep work. There less overwhelming? share with you some of the is going to be a Alyson: Education, education, ed- ways in which physical ther- donor site either ucation. We’re here to help and want to apy can help you during and on the forearm Chase Brexton or the thigh for the eligibility make sure that patients understand what after your transition whether new phallus and it has to be hair-free, Mount Vernon Center specialist Ronday all the confusing terms of health insur- it involves hormone replacement therapy which takes the diligent effort of a year, (1111 North Charles Wilson social work ance mean and that you understand what (HRT) or gender-confirming surgeries. Street, Baltimore). case managers you’re signing up for. Our goal is to make Carpal tunnel syndrome can either from what I understand. Scar and edema The session will be Alyson Mullie and sure there are no surprises for you after flare up if you already have it or you can management are critical in the beginning presented by Chase Robin Mayfield will you enroll in a health plan. develop it once on HRT testosterone. after the surgery, not just of the phallus Brexton Health Care present a Lunch & I take notes, I listen to what patients The carpal tunnel is a series of bones in but also of the donor site. social work case man- Learn workshop on are saying and write down what they’re the wrist that create an archway for the Vaginoplasty is an extensive pro- agers Alyson Mullie health insurance telling me to make sure that we address tendons, ligaments, nerves, and blood cedure, too, but not quite as extensive and Robin Mayfield, eligibility and their concerns. This is the time to ask vessels. Some of the changes that oc- as the phalloplasty. The neovagina does along with eligibility benefits on all your questions to make sure that you curs on testosterone HRT are denser need to be maintained through dilation specialist Ronday Wil- November 14th at understand everything fully; taking notes bones, increased muscles mass, but on at least a daily basis, if not twice a Chase Brexton’s son. We asked the trio allows me to make sure that I answer ev- also thickening of the tendons and liga- day. A common encounter is the depth is Mount Vernon to share a bit of the in- ery question you ask to help you feel less ments, which can make an already nar- not compatible with your partner. OhNut Center. formation they’ll share overwhelmed by this process. row space tighter. This then can cause is a series of silicone rings for your part- with attendees. How can a prospective client obtain numbness, tingling, or even pain in the ner to wear which will allow proper pen- What are the most common barriers an evaluation session, and what infor- wrists and hands. If this is happening etration without overshooting the mark! or misconceptions your clients have mation do they need to bring? to you, then try some ice to reduce any I’ve mentioned this in previous arti- about obtaining insurance coverage? Alyson: If you’re a patient with Chase swelling in the area and massage the cles about scar tissue after any surgery Ronday: There can be a lot of barri- Brexton, call and ask to speak with a case wrist in a hand-to-forearm direction. If and how it can impact the body, but I am ers to obtaining health insurance – it can manager or eligibility specialist at 410- this doesn’t help, then seek your local going to say it again: Scars (from inju- be confusing, right? A lack of health liter- 837-2050 today. Or come to any one of trans-friendly physical therapist. ry or surgery) shrink over time, causing acy and understanding about insurance is our five centers every Wednesday from Binding is a common practice with kinks or abnormal tension in the fascial probably the most common barrier we see. now until open enrollment ends and meet trans men who have not had top surgery network that “Saran-wraps” us from head There are lots of terms such as deduct- yet, but this, too, can come at a cost. to toe in a criss-cross fashion. These ible, co-pay, premium, co-insurance, HMO, with a social worker for a health insurance evaluation and/or enrollment. Don’t wait, Binders can give you the contour you are kinks and areas of localized tightness and the list goes on. Often there is an as- can (and often do) restrict how the body sumption that it’s too expensive, and that open enrollment ends December 15th! looking for but because it is a stiff elastic If you’re not a Chase Brexton patient, material, it can restrict how the joints of moves, which can then cause pain in odd can be a barrier. But with help, we can find locations. I have seen people with knee tax credits to help reduce the cost for you. there is still plenty of help you can access ribs and the spine move, creating some when applying for health insurance. If you back pain or even rib pain called “costro- and ankle pain as a result of mastecto- Another issue we see a lot is navigating a mies, not to mention odd sensations. language barrier, but again, we’ve got you live in Baltimore, Baltimore City, Anne chondritis.” It is our movement that helps Keep in mind that top surgery is only covered with access to the language line Arundel, Howard, Carroll, or Frederick one of the many gender-confirming sur- that has translators in just about every lan- counties, a navigator from Health Care geries available to people today, and guage you can imagine. We can work with Access Maryland can help you enroll. To they all have the same risk with scar tis- you to complete an application. schedule an appointment, call 410-649- sue. This will also apply to people getting What difficulties do LGBT elders 0521. Information about navigator assis- phalloplasty or vaginoplasty, breast im- face when trying to take advantage of tance in all other Maryland counties can card, Social Security numbers, dates of plants, and facial contouring. If you have their health benefits? be found online at MarylandHealthCon- birth for everyone in the household, and t Robin: Some LGBT elders may find nection.com. proof of immigration status. had one or more of these surgeries and their insurance plans will not cover partners As for what to bring, we need the fol- For more how current Chase Brexton a new pain seemed to “pop up” out of unless they are legally married. Elders may lowing to complete an enrollment: Proof patients can enroll in health insurance, in- nowhere a year later, the pain may be also have trouble finding culturally compe- of income for everyone in the household, cluding hours for appointments and walk- related to your surgeries! If this is the tent providers who are able to assess their proof of identity (photo ID, passport, etc.), in service and what you’ll need to bring, case, then I urge you to see your local ;-) t healthcare needs without conveying judg- birth certificate or permanent resident visit Chasebrexton.org/Medicaid. trans-friendly physical therapist

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2) It can improve blood pressure – Pumpkin is a good source of potassium, an important electrolyte that can YouFit affect sodium levels in the body. When you increase your intake of potassium Here you eliminate sodium at the cellular level. This is particularly beneficial to those with high blood pressure or those who Three Proven need to reduce sodium in their diet. A half-cup serving of canned pumpkin contains 250 mgs of potassium that will Health Benefits of do the body good. A memorial service will be held 3) Improves heart health – In addi- Pumpkin tion to the fiber content of pure pumpkin for Jim Williams on Saturday, that can lower cholesterol levels, pump- By Lindsey Gass kin seeds are also nutritionally dense With fall in full-swing, pumpkin every- and include a high content of plant ste- December 7th at Brown Memorial thing is filling grocery store shelves! Al- rols. Sterols are similar in structure to though pumpkin flavors may taste great cholesterol, but they serve as protecting Park Avenue Presbyterian Church to most of us, the actual vegetable is agents against heart disease and BPH packed with so many nutrients that it’s (benign prostatic hyperplasia). Plus, the easy to add it to almost any recipe for a seeds themselves are super high in iron, beginning at 11 am nutritional boost. Youfit’s registered dieti- selenium, and zinc which are also known cian, Lindsey Gass, is here to provide. to fight against anemia and colds. Three of the best reasons to eat Want to know how to add more pumpkin this fall season: pumpkin to your diet? Use pumpkin pu- Brown Memorial 1) It can improve skin – Pumpkin is full rees in oats or smoothies with a dash of of a carotenoid called beta-carotene that pumpkin spice for a healthier fall meal. 1316 Park Avenue, Baltimore gives it that orange hue. Beta-carotene Or take roasted dried pumpkin seeds as (a provitamin) breaks down into vitamin a salad topper or snack paired with dried A in

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Parking is allowed in the Wells Fargo lot after 1 pm. the body. or fresh fruits. Pump up your fall recipes For the lunch please RSVP by November One-half cup of pure pumpkin puree with some pumpkin! t packs 250% of RDI (recommended daily Visit Youfit.com for more recipes by 16th to [email protected] with “Bradley intake). Vitamin A is often used for nu- Lindsey Gass, registered dietician, and Grant Celebration” in the subject line. Also, merous skin conditions like acne and an- find out how to become a member to- please designate your choice of a chicken or ti-aging as it affects cell growth and mat- day. You can also follow Lindsey on Ins- crab cake platter. uration. Some studies suggest that the tagram at @lin.health. If you have any photos you would like t antioxidant properties from vitamin A can included in the DVD please email them to protect the skin from oxidative stress and may even affect sebum production, which [email protected] makes the skin oily and can cause acne.

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New Jersey. Whether it’s for animals, being a cop and leaving in the middle children, foster kids, homeless shelters, of the night to go help somebody’s kid Keeping it Real or working with the new beautiful may- that got in trouble. Or my mom, who or. They gave me the key to the city last didn’t have much, but said, “Always give —continued from page 1 Season ten’s cast has remained year. I promised what you have” and and stick to it because I wasn’t so out of the same as season nine’s. Are there them that I would “My heart is always “Don’t let anyone sit my mind. You, first, have to have inner any surprising new alliances or rifts, not turn my back, alone. If you’re at happiness. So, that’s what’s been going viewers may see throughout the sea- and that I would do in Patterson, New the lunch table and on. I went on the HCG diet through from son? everything that I can you see somebody Elite Health Center in New Jersey. They Let’s just say, New Jersey never dis- to use my platform Jersey. Whether it’s sitting alone, you are wonderful people. At first, I wasn’t appoints! to bring awareness for animals, children, get up and leave that interested in doing the diet, and I So many viewers are surprised by to the help that we your friends. You thought, “Well, let me give it a shot.” I the relationship that you have with need there. We’re foster kids, homeless never let some- wound up losing 25 pounds! So, I’m feel- both your ex-husband Frank Catania, working to help stu- one sit alone.” My ing good, right now! as well as boyfriend Dr. David Princi- dents prepare for shelters, or working grandmother was What can you tell us about this up- pe. What advice do you give to others college. We took with the new beautiful a maid. She real- coming tenth season of “Real House- out there who are trying to find bal- one student and ly was my inspira- wives of New Jersey”? ance in their relationships? was able to help her mayor. They gave me tion for everything. All of us, every single one of us, is My relationship with my ex-husband earn a scholarship. My grandmother going through our own life’s turmoil. This was worth it’s weight in gold to me be- I was so happy that the key to the city last used to clean three is going to be very relatable; as I think cause that meant peace for my children. it was able to come year. I promised them houses a day. And “Real Housewives of New Jersey” always So, any man in my life who could never through my plat- I remember walk- is to everyone. So, we all have different handle that relationship could not be a form. The owner that I would not turn ing to the bus stop part of my life. And, of a company ap- my back, and that I with her. We woke I’ve had that in the proached us and up 5 o’clock in the past. I couldn’t let said, “Dolores, we would do everything morning one time. how somebody’s would like to help I loved her! And, I insecurities with some of the kids that I can to use my went to work with my ex-husband that you work with.” platform to bring her because there dictate my life with We took an honor was no going out. him. So, David is student from Ken- awareness to the help There wasn’t camp the most, almost nedy High School in the summer. My to a fault, under- and helped her. I that we need there.” getting-out-of-the- standing/non-jeal- will help anybody I house was going to ous man I’ve ever can and do anything I can for someone my grandmother’s house and hanging met in my life. Very in need. Sometimes it can be an abyss, out with my cousins. So, I remember I secure in his own and I can get tired, but the that type of was about five or six years old and me life. Not jealous work is in my heart. and my grandmother were walking in of Frank – he and What drives you to do what you do downtown Patterson. She was catching Frank have a lot of for other people? the bus to go start her day of cleaning respect for each It’s something that was instilled in three or four houses in these very rich other as men. And me at a very young age. areas. And, on the way there, she would it works for all of I remember my dad take out what little change she had and us and, most im- give it to the homeless. I remember a guy portantly, for my saying to her, “Would you mind buying children. me a cup of coffee?” Frankie, she didn’t In your own even have enough money to buy her words, what own, but she bought this man a does the word cup of coffee! So, it’s the way I family mean to was raised, and I get a lot of joy you? from that. To me, fami- What do you want to be ly means people known for when you look back outside of your- on your time on “The Real House- self that would wives of New Jersey”? Dolores give anything It’s an easy question, and it’s things going on. We’re reaching ages Catania to be there when you needed the way that I just live my life, al- where we’re starting to give a lot more them. And, I can put a lot of ways. I want to be looked back on thought to what we’ve been through in people like that inside my family as the person who let everyone our lives. I feel like it’s hitting us now. We category that I consider now fami- know I cared about them. Anybody have to face all these things that we’ve ly because they have been very that comes up to me, I want them to gone through. Whether it’s, you know, “true blue” and loyal friends to know that somebody cares about them. my midlife, empty nest crisis. Or going me. Including my first friend There’s no worse thing than people through tragic things, like what’s going from kindergarten. I always feeling lonely and that no one cares. I on in Teresa [Giudice]’s life. Melissa say, “I don’t have friends. I want to be known as the housewife that [Gorga] is feeling her age. We’re all feel- have family.” appreciated everything and everyone. I ing different things at different times, but As someone who has want to be known for using this platform it’s all real-life things that a lot of wom- one of the biggest hearts of to make a difference. t en will be able to relate to. And, it’s also gold in New Jersey, give us Follow Dolores on Instagram at: @ what the younger women will look back an update on your philanthrop- dolorescatania on and will remember when they’re going ic work and charities. through it. My heart is always in Patterson, Naughty bit 18 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com F Lively Arts // out on stage Lively Arts // qmusic Hippodrome’s Aladdin to 90s Nostalgia Take Charm City on a Magic of creating an animal on stage. So, we Carpet Ride brought back these three characters. Sounds Like This Of the trio, Omar is the scared, nervous By Gregg Shapiro the Dandy Warhols took a decidedly dif- By Frankie Kujawa one. But he is Aladdin’s loyal friend who If there’s any doubt that 1990s nostalgia is ferent path than those tread by riot grrrls Running at the Hippodrome Theatre from will stick by him no matter what. Kassim in full swing, check this out. A number of and grunge guys when its debut album was Wednesday, November 13th to Sunday, is the street-smart one, and Babkak pro- acts who released their first albums in the released in the mid-90s. Going for a glam- December 1st, Disney’s Aladdin takes vides a lot of the witty humor. 1990s, including The Rembrandts (1990), pop sound paid off for the band. Its catchy audiences on a magic carpet ride to What is it about Aladdin that The Muffs (1993), The Dandy Warhols hit single “Bohemian Like You” (from its discover a whole new world. Baltimore makes it such a timeless Disney clas- (1995), Sleater-Kinney (1995), Fastball third album) was a cash cow, used in a OUTloud recently chatted with Ruther- sic for audiences of all ages? (1996), Third Eye Blind (1997), and Alice variety of movies and commercials. You ford, New Jersey-native Ben Chavez Obviously, a lot of people coming to Peacock (1999), have all returned with won’t find anything like that song on Why about his upcoming role as Omar in the see the show are people who fell in love new albums. You So Crazy (Dine Alone), TDW’s first Disney classic. with the film when it first came out. This When you hear the band name The album in three years, although “Be Alright” Frankie Kujawa: What can audi- show has proved to be an amazing date Rembrandts, the first thing that comes to comes close. A veritable musical smorgas- ences expect from this upcoming per- night for people. It’s fun, witty, and hu- mind may be the song “I’ll Be There For bord, the album finds the band dabbling in formance of Aladdin? morous, and not just for kids. Adults walk You,” better-known as the theme song to twisted vo-dee-oh-do (“Fred N Ginger”), Ben Chavez: They will see a beauti- away still laughing afterward. That’s the smash hit NBC series Friends. But The cow punk (“Highlife,” “Sins Are Forgiven”), ful love story about two people who feel what I love about the writing and this up- Rembrandts (Danny Wilde and Phil Solem) electronic experimentation (“Terraform,” stuck in two very different dated version of the sto- actually had a popular and successful hit “Next Thing I Know,” “To the Church”), and worlds and want to escape ry. I think that it’s a story single, “That’s Just The Way It Is Baby” instrumental improv (“Ondine”). to find a better life for them- anyone can identify with. from its self-titled 1990 debut album. Via Don’t dismiss Austin’s Fastball as selves. They face a lot of We’re all trying to be the Satellite (Blue Elan) is The Rembrandts’ a one-hit wonder. In fact, the band is a trials, but they do it out of best version of ourselves first new album in 18 (!) years, and on it two-hit wonder, with “The Way” and “Out- love. It’s a story of love. in this world. Whether the band sticks to the harmony rich pop ta My Head” being its best-known songs. They can expect to see a you come from an up- that first brought them to our attention on Produced by Steve Berlin (Los Lobos), cast of diverse and talent- per rich background like songs such as “Broken Toy,” “How Far Fastball’s new album The Help Machine ed people from all over the Jasmine or living on the Would You Go” and the Beatles-esque (Fastballtheband.com) feels like the country who are singing and streets like Aladdin – we “Come to Californ-i-ay.” kind of record that could be considered sharing their gifts in this wall want to live our best First. the bad news. In case you hadn’t a comeback. The 11 originals, including performance. It’s an abso- life. You can identify with heard, Kim Shattuck, lead vocalist and gui- standouts “The Girl You Pretended to Be,” lutely magical performance! these characters and see tarist for LA pop-punk trio The Muffs, died “White Coillar,” “Holding the Devil’s Hand,” Could you describe yourself in these stories. in October 2019 after a two-year battle “Friend or Foe,” and the title tune, could your role of Omar? When I first saw the pro- with ALS. That’s what makes No Holiday potentially expand on Fastball’s hits qual- Omar is a role that was duction, the performance (Omnivore), The Muffs’ first album in five ifications. originally written for the Dis- of the song “Proud of years so heartbreaking. Made while Shat- Third Eye Blind’s Stephan Jenkins ney film back in 1992. Along Your Boy” made me start tuck was dealing with her illness, the 18 was the kind of sexy front man that made with pals Babkak and Kas- to tear up. I felt the song songs were written over the course of a men and women drool in equal measure. sim, we are a trio that makes up Aladdin’s really captured my story – all I wanted more than 25 year period, and are a sol- His hotness earned him high profile rela- best friends. Our characters were part of to do was make my family proud of me, id representation of Shattuck’s versatility, tionships with actress Charlize Theron and the original script. However, at that time especially my mom. And I think everyone from prettier numbers including “A Lovely bi singer/songwriter Vanessa Carlton. Hit animals were a hot thing for Disney, and can see themselves Day Boo Hoo,” “Earth Below Me,” “Happier singles “Semi-Charmed Life,” “Never Let this role was replaced by Abu the mon- in this production of Zach Bencal, Ben Just Being with You,” and “Sky” to modern You Go,” and “How’s it Going to Be,” to key. But when the creative team was cre- Aladdin. t Chavez, Jonah punk rockers such as “Down Down Down,” mention a few, helped to elevate the band Ho’okano & Colt ating Aladdin for Broadway, they wanted Prattes in Aladdin “Late and Sorry,” “Pollyanna,” “On My above the competition. Unfortunately, the to bring those characters back instead credit: Deen van Meer Own,” “The Kids Have Gone Away,” and band’s new album Screamer (Mega Col- “Lucky Charm.” RIP Kim. lider), its first in four years will do little to Groundbreaking, (mostly) queer fe- restore it’s charmed life, semi or other- male trio Sleater-Kinney parted ways with wise. “Who Am I” and “Take a Side” are longtime drummer Janet Weiss following a couple of exceptions, but that doesn’t the release of the band’s new album The amount to much on a 12-track disc. Center Won’t Hold (Mom + Pop). Original Minnesota (Peacock Music) is sing- co-founding members Carrie Brownstein er/songwriter Alice Peacock’s first solo and Corin Tucker have chosen to soldier studio release in ten (!) years. The title on, which is admirable. With so musical is a nod to her birthplace, although some history on which to draw, it would have might consider her creative birthplace to been a shame to lose such an important be the Chicago area, which is where she band. Produced by Saint Vincent (aka An- was at the time of the release of her self-ti- nie Clark), The Center Won’t Hold expands tled major-label release (containing the Sleater-Kinney’s sound in ways that some song “Leading with My Heart”) in 2002. listeners might find surprising and even a Now a mother of three and based in Ohio, little exciting. Once you get past the abrupt Peacock is back to recording and songs stylistic shift, just try not falling in love with such as “Dry Spell,” “Resting in the Qui- “Restless,” “Can I Go On,” “Reach Out,” et,” “Your Own Backyard,” “Free and Wild,” “The Future is Here,” “Ruins,” “Broken,” and the title cut, should please fans old and the jarring title track. and new. t Emerging from the same fertile Pacific Northwest music scene as Sleater-Kinney,

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phy. I feel like it’s very action-packed. Todrick Hall Also, if someone has been a fan of mine for a long time, I think that they’ll Brings ‘Haus get everything that they want because it goes over my entire discography of all Party World the songs I’ve done. From YouTube viral videos up until the current music, and Tour’ to Charm even a song that’s been unreleased au- Haus Party World Tour concert here in diences will get to Baltimore? hear it all. City Todrick Hall: First of all, and I’m Haus Party 1 not just saying this because I’m on the and Haus Party 2 By Frankie Kujawa phone with you, I absolutely love coming were both absolute- The always-talented Todrick Hall will to Baltimore. It’s one of my favorite cities ly fabulous albums. bring his “Haus Party World Tour” to to perform in. Every single time we come Where do you draw Charm City on Sunday, November 10th. the audience has been just next-level, your inspiration for The Broadway actor, viral sensation and blowing the roof off of the venue. So, I’m your music? musician will perform at the Baltimore really, really excited to come back there. I get inspiration every single day in up in the morning, if it’s the first thing Sound Stage featuring brand new sets, The difference between this show and everything I do. I could be driving down that you think of, then that’s what you’re costumes and music from his three-part the past tours is they all have been pret- the street and see a billboard or see a supposed to be doing.” Every morning, I album Haus Party. Baltimore OUTloud ty theatrical in their format. This the first quote that someone puts on social me- wake up and I’m so excited to create art chatted exclusively with the performer time it’s just legitimately a party. I think dia. Oftentimes, I have a lot of ideas and to perform and to make music and to in anticipation of his upcoming perfor- that the title of the tour really speaks to write and tell stories. I guess it’s just part mance. the essence of the concert experience “If whatever you think of my DNA. I remember seeing a musi- Frankie Kujawa: What can audi- audiences are going to have. There’s cal for the first time – the Nutcracker bal- ences expect from your upcoming lots of costumes, and lots of choreogra- of when you wake up let – as a child. There was nothing like in the morning, if it’s that feeling when I saw the theatre. I fell in love, not just with the show, but with the first thing that the smell of the theatre, the smell of the OPENING NOVEMBER 8 food, the sound of the orchestra warming you think of, then up, the smell of the fog machine that was that’s what you’re coming out on stage. So, honestly, it’s not difficult for me to be motivated. My fans supposed to be doing.” always send me such awesome things through Instagram and DM’s on Twitter. throughout the week and I’ll write them To see how much me being truthful with down. Even right now, I have probably myself has helped them and changed 75 ideas for concepts of songs. I’m being their lives, and in some cases saved inspired for music to write for next year, their lives, is the reason you would want as we speak. I get inspired by movies, to do anything. If I get to do and I see a lot of live theatre. The small- what I love, and it’s also sav- Todrick est thing can inspire a song. Sometimes, ing people’s lives, then it’s Hall I’ve been inspired just by fashion. I see a costume and I think, “I really want to wear this. What song can I write to give myself the excuse to spend the money on this costume?” As backwards as that seems, that has been completely how some of my most viral videos have been spawned. You are always working tirelessly with many, many creative projects. From your music to performing live in concerts to performing on Broadway to “RuPaul’s Drag Race.” What keeps you motivated? I just love performing. I don’t know what it is about it. There’s a lot of people a win-win-win situation all around. That 2020 SUBSCRIPTIONS that wake up and you have to get them may be a cheesy answer, but I just love 410-730-8311 on their feet to do things. There’s a performing and writing music. t TobysDinnerTheatre.com NOW ON SALE! Hurry...Quantities are Limited! part in Sister Act 2, which is one of my For more info on Todrick’s upcoming On sale through December 31, 2019 favorite movies from growing up, where performance, visit Baltimoresoundstage. Whoopi Goldberg says to Lauryn Hill, “If com. Due to the nature of theatrical bookings, all shows and dates are subject to change. • Toby’s Dinner Theatre, Columbia, MD whatever you think of when you wake

20 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com out in the valley Hagerstown Hopes Supports Trans Community, Youth, and Arts by Brian George Hose to attend both the candlelight vigil and This is an exciting time of year for us at the proclamation. The vigil will take place These opportunities are available to ev- Hagerstown Hopes. We recently elected from 6 to 7 pm at 5 Public Square in Hag- eryone in the community (including our a new board of directors, as well as an erstown. straight allies) and our goal is to unite executive board of officers. Along the Numbers make a statement and we the community through arts programs way, we’ve met a number of passion- encourage members of our community that are otherwise not available. Stay ate, dedicated individuals committed to and our allies to attend both the tuned for updates! strengthening, supporting, Our last Drag Bingo of 2019 is coming up soon! Country Hoe- down Drag Bingo will take place on Sunday, November 10th from and a meet-and-greet with our queens! 1 to 6 pm at Breakaway II Sports We hope you’ll join us in supporting two Lounge Warehouse and pro- great causes. ceeds will benefit Hagerstown As always, we hope you’ll follow us Hopes and For Otis Sake. Tick- on Facebook and check in at Hager- ets are $35 in advance for 20 stownHopesMD.org to stay up to date games of bingo and includes on what we’re doing. We’ve been hard lunch! The price goes up to $45 at work developing new ways to reach the day of the event. VIP seating out to the community, including new so- is available and includes prior- cial opportunities, health care resources, ity seating, food and dessert, and the arts! t

proclamation and serving our and the candlelight vigil. Attending in- community. Together, we’re working to creases visibility and also helps to bring provide activities, programs, and ser- attention to the continued violence en- vices that are needed in Hagerstown and dured by the transgender community. the surrounding areas. Our Trans Meetup Group meets the November is an important month for first and third Sundays of every month our trans community, and we hope you’ll at the Hagerstown Hopes Hub from 4 to join us in celebrating and supporting our 7pm. Meetings are open to all trans peo- The Keystone Gay Rodeo Association is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt trans community, as well as remember- ple (including non-binary and agender ing those we’ve lost over the past year. friends) who can attend. There is also a non-pro t organization whose purpose is to promote the The mayor of Hagerstown will be issu- Trans Partner Meetup Group that is open country and western lifestyle and rodeo type events within ing an official proclamation, recognizing to the partners of trans, non-binary, and the LGBT community and their allies. Transgender Day of Remembrance as agender folks. Meetings are held at the an official day of remembrance in Hager- same time as the Trans Meetup Group, stown. The proclamation will take place but the Partners group will meet at The Do you enjoy any of the following activities? on Tuesday, November 19th at 7 pm at Nook, also located in Mulberry Lofts. •Social Events including country music and dancing. City Hall (1 East Franklin Street) on the We are also committed to providing second floor in the Council Chambers. safe spaces for members of our commu- •Meeting new people and making new friends. The proclamation will take place during nity. Young people aged 14 to 19 are wel- •Helping other community organizations by volunteering and the opening ceremonies and we ask that come to attend our Youth Group, which raising much needed funds. participants arrive on time to ensure the meets the first Saturday of the month council sees our support of the transgen- from 1 to 4 pm. Information is available •Trail riding, open horse shows, der community. in Washington County public schools rodeos and other horse related events. The following day, November 20th, and information will be shared through we will be participating in the Transgen- Facebook and our website Hagerstown- der Day of Remembrance Candlelight HopesMD.org. If so, then KSGRA membership may Vigil on the square in Downtown Hag- We are also excited to begin our arts be for you. To join visit our website erstown. Transgender Day of Remem- outreach program. We’ve begun orga- brance occurs annually on November nizing local musicians to sing at public at ksgra.org 20th and is a day to remember those in events, such as Transgender Day of Re- the transgender community we’ve lost membrance. We’re starting small and to violence over the past year. This is a once we have a group, we will begin public event and allies are encouraged planning full concerts and performances.

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quick search and report back any signif- time, would be subjected to over an hour icant findings. Twenty minutes later she of straightening, gluing, and then shap- responded. The Wolfman had posted a ing into the telltale point on the top of my Brian’s number of homophobic rants online, tak- Asher’s head. My driver’s license still has that Brain en credit for an unsolved murder on the World as my picture, meaning at least until the Brian George Hose Appalachian Trail, and cited scriptures, Asher Kennedy name change would give door security all from Isaiah. One scripture referenced workers something besides the gender shaving the hair and beards of sinners, marker to gawk over. After the Mohawk liars, and false leaders. As a long-haired, , ended, I kept it growing until I could tie Letters from bearded man, I started to get nervous. Haircuts it back, but even that got to be tiresome, My friend, always practical and lev- and working in a kitchen during the sum- The Wolfman el-headed, went on to say that she was Masculinity, mer ruined any desire I had to have any concerned because my name, picture, hair on my head. and bio are available in print and online. and Me You can take each of these hair mile- Ten days before Halloween, a letter was My work with the paper and Hagerstown stones as bumping along the road to left on my front porch, sealed in a plas- Hopes has made me a somewhat public I’ve been thinking about growing my hair self-acceptance and affirmation. Now, I tic bag. A neighbor found it and, having figure and, using public data, she rea- out. Since 14, I’ve been slowly cutting it have found myself at a point in my tran- received a similar letter two days prior, soned that it wasn’t especially difficult to back, with the exception of senior year of sition that I never saw myself reaching. called the police. We were find me. That’s when I realized high school, when I donned Two-and-a-half years after told not to touch the letter that my dog had been behaving an afro that left people sit- Hair is to starting hormones, I have a and to await the responding A Halloween strangely for a few weeks, wak- ting behind me in class beard. It isn’t fancy, my fel- officer. While we waited, ing up barking and growling in frustrated. These days, it’s identity low Hopes board member and my neighbor gave me an fright all the middle of the night, and now shaved on the sides, with a OUTloud writer Brian Hose overview of the contents of it all made sense. Suddenly this fade at the top that I some- like flags to still has me beat there. But it’s his letter and his reason for too real was real, not just an imagined times allow to grow to a a beard – and sideburns and concern: a mentally ill man, threat or seasonal spooky story. length such that one ringlet patriots a mustache I have to shave. believing himself to be a warrior of God, The Wolfman has since moved on. of a curl can be seen. These are definitive steps that was living in the woods and had written He was spotted in Pennsylvania over My journey with hair has been, well, childhood me dreamed of, and baby a dozen pages of rantings and ravings, a week ago and I’m hoping he doesn’t arduous. As a child, it was my telltale trans me thought would never come. And Bible scriptures, and implications that he come back. I’m still somewhat shaken by giveaway that I was assigned female at as my body changed with testosterone had been watching for weeks. the experience, though. My rational mind birth. My grass-stained jeans and back- surging through my veins for the first It was creepy, but I didn’t believe it dismisses the whole thing as a misunder- wards cap made me look like every other time, I felt the old archetypes of mascu- was dangerous. Those living with sig- standing – the Wolfman thought he was little boy, but once the cap was removed, linity that I held for myself such as the nificant mental illness are much more saving souls, not realizing his actions flowing curls that poured down to almost colors of clothing I would wear, and how likely to be the victims of violence than were creepy. But, because I wasn’t able my waist were like a neon sign the perpetrators of violence. The officer to read the letter myself, part of me won- arrived, read the letter, and told us that ders if this was in some way personal. its author was discussing rape, kidnap- Over the years I’ve invested a lot of ping, and murder. It was signed with his time and energy making myself feel safe. full name, along with the moniker “The The past few years have been easier, Wolfman of Hell.” thanks to social progress and inclusion. After the officer left, I emailed a friend Still, every time I appear in public as a who is especially adept at research, A letter representative/educator of the gave her an overview of the situation, you don’t LGBTQ community, I always look and asked if she could do a want for the nearest emergency exits and anything that could be of use if things take a dangerous turn. I always tell myself that I’m just playing it safe, but the letter from the Wolfman reminded me that there is still a part of me that is afraid I will one day be faced with unavoidable danger. There will always be things to be afraid of in life. The Wolfman’s letter reminded me of this, and it also reminded me that things only have the power we give them. The truth outing me to everyone around. When I I would grow and style my hair ebb away. is, the Wolfman is the exception. was 14 I was able to convince my mom Which brings me to today. Through my work I have met far to let me cut “a little off the ends.” My Daveed Diggs has the best hair in the more open-minded and accepting father ended up taking me to the salon, world. High school me had that hair, but people than those who wish me and and unaware of the compromise that al- on top of an unappreciative body. Adult my community harm. It’s important lowed for this adventure, made me the me wants that hair back. I just have to to keep this perspective because, happiest angst-filled-adolescent as I force myself past the itchy side growth if you give in to fear, you also stop watched curls fall to the floor at my feet. stage. Which is where we are today. If I living your life on your own terms, When I went home after, it was a few can make it through this weekend with- which reverses all personal and so- hours before my mother would look at out buzzing the sides, I will grow my hair cial progress. It’s easy to fear the me and not explode in a tirade about the out. bite when we hear the bark. But re- loss of my hair. I expect to see me with a fresh cut on member, the Wolfman isn’t the only In college, I would shave my head Tuesday. t one with teeth. t regularly. Embracing my pop-punk side, I grew a maroon Mohawk that, when it was

22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com out in the valley // quality of life November’s Other Memorial Day Pictures of You, —continued from page 1 Rights Campaign; The Stonewall Riots: Allston, Massachusetts. Sadly, 20 years Coming Out in the Streets, by Gayle later, the anti-transgender hatred, preju- E. Pitman (Abrams Books, 2019); The dice, and violence toward those who are Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson (a Pictures of Me trans continues. Netflix documentary, 2017). t The American Medical Association has Laura Anderson is an educator, author, re- termed the violence against transgender searcher, parent, and granddad. Living female want to be in them because for By Evey Winters women to be of epidemic proportions. for the past decade, she has come to appreci- the first time in my life I can see The best photos that “According to available tracking, fatal an- ate the privileges she once held – both male Photos: me in those photos – and so were ever taken of me ti-transgender violence in the US is on the and cisgender – privileges now replaced with can everyone else. The person pre-transition are from rise and most victims were black transgen- the fulfillment of living as her true self. Worth 1,000 in those photos has love and days where I almost died. der women,” said AMA board member S. curiosity in her eyes – she’s There’s a resignation in Bobby Mukkamala, MD. As a result of the my eyes in those pho- emotions alive and wants to be.

alarming numbers, the AMA published a And that’s not just my story. tos – a kind of surrender set of recommendations to help prevent The trans narrative is often that poked through every anti-transgender violence (AMA, 2019). As TDoR – A Brief History reduced to our suffering and fear. Ev- cheeky smile and goofy pose I could reported by the Human Rights Campaign, ery single day I wake up and check my muster. I can see it and so can others, transgender or gender-nonconforming vi- On November 28th, 1998 in Allston, phone biting my cheek worrying about now that they know to look. A fair number olent deaths in 2018 totaled 26. So far in Massachusetts a transgender Af- what piece of my humanity might be on of those photos exists – but that’s noth- 2019 the death toll has passed 20. It is dif- rican-American woman was mur- the table for debate today – and that’s ing compared to the number that exist ficult to get an accurate count since many dered. Her name was Rita Hester. how it is for every trans person I know. of me from the last eight months, since I more victims were likely misgendered or In response to her murder, an out- This November brings us another Trans- started transitioning. deadnamed by the authorities and the me- pouring of grief and anger led to a gender Day of Remembrance, a moment The photos I take today are nothing dia. Especially for transwomen of color, it candlelight vigil held the following to take stock and appreciate the gravity like those old ones. The old ones were is dangerous to be trans and out. Friday (December 4th) in which of our existence and the violent rhetoric clinical, clean, and composed. They On this day of remembrance, we think about 250 people participated and atrocities that we face. I don’t want were photos of someone who wanted to about transgender people murdered as The next year in 1999 Trans- to diminish or overlook our suffering with leave something that would look good on they simply tried to live their lives in a so- gender Day of Remembrance was anything I say here, I just believe we a mantel in memoriam. Now I take pho- ciety still lacking acceptance and respect. founded by Gwendolyn Ann Smith, have more to our stories. tos to say that I’m alive. I love the person We think about and honor the pioneers of a transgender woman, to memorial- I have the absolute joy to be friends I see in these photos and I can see that the past like Marsha and Sylvia and oth- ize the murder of Rita Hester. She with amazing parents to trans children she loves life and looks forward to it. As I ers who have worked through adversity for started it as a web-based project, who have an entire life of opportunity swipe through the photo library on my iP- trans rights. They are our heroes – people “Remembering Our Dead” and to- ahead of them. Every single trans person hone I can’t help but notice her glance is who have forged paths and have literally day has grown internationality as a I know is filled with creativity, aspiration, inquisitively focused on the right side of put their lives on the line for the move- day of Action and vibrance. Several are musicians. my screen in so many of them, as though ment. Today we reflect on the courage Transgender Day of Remem- Some do social work. and the passion and the roles trans peo- brance (TDoR) typically includes Some want to map the ple before us have played in the ongoing the reading of the names who have stars; some want to struggle for trans rights and acceptance. lost their lives from November 20th travel to them. Many And today let us pledge to continue their of the former year to November 20th create beautiful works unfinished work as the torch is passed to a of the current year, and may include of art. They dress up new generation. t other actions, such as candlelight for fun and they go to For additional information see: A Na- vigils, dedicated church services, parties. They go ski- t tional Epidemic: Fatal Anti-Transgender marches, just to name a few. ing. They watch scary Violence in America in 2018, Human movies. I haven’t met a single trans person yet who didn’t want to leave a mark, even a small one, on the world around them. Being trans is more than just sur- vival – it’s revival. So, she’s asking me my hope for us as we enter this time of swipe over so she can see what happens remembrance and community, is that next. together we will resolve to make more And there is so much next to see. beautiful moments and with them more Every day this body looks different than photos. I hope that those photos don’t the day before. Everything is a new mile- just show us surviving or existing. I hope stone. This will be my first holiday sea- they show our joys and loves, our wants son as Evey Winters. This year I will take and our goals, our successes and our photographs with people I love during stumbles, and the tiny moments and the holidays and I will do that as Eve glimmers in our eyes where it’s plain to Winters. There are so many small activi- any person who looks at those photos of ties I do – like buying boots – that I real- us – we’re not just alive, we’re living. t ize, “Wow, this is the first time I get to do this as me.” And I want to capture all of this life in as many photos as I can, and I

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By Karen Kendra Holmes County for a CERT Rodeo, with com- Getting sworn into the Maryland Defense peting teams from other Maryland coun- Force (MDDF) as a state guard soldier ties. When we arrived at the Baltimore one evening in November 2011 was County Fire Academy, I pulled together something I’ll never for- my own six-person team for the get. This is Maryland’s events. Throughout the day, my state defense force. The Recalling team was kicking butts, winning MDDF is organized as a four awards. Later that day, volunteer military orga- her time as three soldiers with the MDDF nization, parallel to the who were watching the events Maryland National Guard, a man in – a captain, staff sergeant, which it is designed to and a sergeant – talked with augment during stateside uniform us. They told us about a spe- emergencies. Before get- cial team they were putting to- ting into my journey with MDDF let me gether within MDDF’s Honor Guard. The take you back to August 2011. unit would be doing search and rescue It was a summer day in August when (SAR) for the state of Maryland. Since I was with the Prince George’s County one of the components to CERT is SAR, Community Emergency Response Team that caught my interest. Karen (CERT). The CERT program trains citi- Now back to the evening in Novem- Kendra zens to prepare for emergency situations ber 2011 when I was sworn into the saw that it said female soldiers could not Holmes in their communities. When a disaster MDDF as a soldier, with the as a corpo- wear makeup, eye color, and nails that strikes, CERT members give critical sup- ral with the honor guard team. Later that were painted. After I saw that I said to port to first-responders, aid to victims, night I was given my welcome packet myself, “Let me out of here!” Well, that I had to stay at the barrack for the first and organize spontaneous volunteers to the MDDF, with the guidelines, rules, thought went out of my head real fast. time, I worried about the shower area. I at a disaster site. So, on that sunny and regulations, which followed Army No one knew that I was transgender, came up with a game plan, which worked day, our group headed out to Baltimore customs. In reading the guidelines, I since all my paperwork had my new legal out well in case I wasn’t the only person name. That included my passport (which in the shower. This is one of the main I could use instead of my birth certificate) issues I feel that any trans soldier must to join. I had to get a physical before next worry about while serving due to no cur- drill and the nice thing about doing that, I tains around each shower head. could see my own doctor. Over the next three years with the At the next drill my Honor Guard MDDF I have presented the flag at Best Little Local Hometown Corner Bar in Federal Hill Team started our training with wilder- events and parades, while working FP. ness first-aid and SAR training, along My team with FP received a commenda- • Karaoke every Friday and Saturday with honor guard training. I also had to tion one drill for helping with an accident • Drag Shows every now and then... go through initial entry training (IET), at outside our gates in Baltimore. the end of which I received the leader- On April 8th, 2016, I had vaginoplas- • Happy Hour 12pm- 7pm Every Day ship award. After my first year with the ty surgery, otherwise know in the trans MDDF in December 2012, at the holiday community as surgical reassignment ball, I was awarded the Non-Commis- surgery (SRS) or genital reassignment KSGRAKSGRA RODEORODEO ASSOC.ASSOC. sion Officer (NCO) Soldier of the Year surgery (GRS). Shortly after that date, Award. In November 2013, I received on April 25th, ABC News released the HOLIDAYHOLIDAY FUNDRAISERFUNDRAISER EXTRAVAGANZAEXTRAVAGANZA Soldier of the Year Award, given by the interview they did with me called “A Don’tDon’t MissMiss thethe HotHot MenMen ofof RodeoRodeo State Guard Association of the United Transgender Soldier’s Personal Story”. States (SGAUS). After receiving these (Tinyurl.com/y3q52lbh) SATSAT 12/1412/14 @@ 9:009:00 prestigious awards, I knew my work After the interview several of my fel- COUNTRY BINGO wasn’t done. I was now on a mission. My low soldiers came up to me saying that mission was that while receiving these they loved my interview and were in full CALENDAR NITE awards both in 2012 and in 2013, a lot support. Some of the soldiers were even $2.00 COWBOY SHOOTERS of the female soldiers were coming up saying, “You’re not only a good soldier, to me saying, “Great job, you’re doing it but you’re a good friend”. During my time DOOR PRIZES for us”! Little did any of them know I was with the MDDF I receive two promotions, ONE HELL OF NIGHT transgender. The comments were true I retiring with the rank of staff sergeant. thought, but I am saying to myself, I am Serving with the MDDF was awesome also doing it for the transgender commu- due to the men and women I served with nity, which I couldn’t come out and say. – my battle buddies – and who were also During my time with the MDDF I served my friends. Later in January 2016, I re- doing work in morale, welfare, and rec- tired from MDDF. reation (MWR) as well as honor guard, In the next article I will talk about the and later was part of force protection challenges and changes I have faced (FP). I subsequently received my mili- since my transition. Remember one thing tary emergency management specialist … Shoot for the moon and even if you 1633 S. Charles St. in Federal Hill · 410-468-0550 (MEMS) badge. I was then assigned to miss you’ll be among the stars! t rowantreebmore.com · Facebook: rowan.tree.baltimore work in the Maryland Joint Operations Reach the author at kkholmes@kk- Center (MJOC) at Maryland Emergency holmes.com or visit Kkholmes.com. 24 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD november 8, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com Management Agency (MEMA). When People in Our Neighborhood

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I would rather have everyone in the community looking for a around Cooper to support this new endeav- a great experience. We’ve had lots of love a presence – a physical presence – so that place to be themselves. Bal- or. “I was really happy to see more of from everyone who has visited. Everyone is you can say, ‘I know [security] has my back timore OUTloud recently the leather com- coming up and thanking me for giving them in here and I don’t have to worry.” t chatted with owner Beth munity coming a space again. There’s been lots of love Cooper. For more info and updates, visit Nigh- and positive feedback.” “My inspiration,” out and supporting shiftnightclub.com began Cooper, “was me, and the space. to continue to provide That’s been really an-all inclusive place great to see,” Coo- for everyone in the per said. “I feel like FUN AROUND TOWN Four Interesting Outings LGBTQ community. you can go to some I had been affiliated places and be com- By Jane Watson For Baltimore Families with other safe-spac- fortable, be who you Esteemed American actor Michael J. Fox es and I didn’t realize are, but unfortunately once said, “Family is not an important thing. how special it was in today’s society you It’s everything.” In recent years, Baltimore la and a Crabbi Platter. When visiting the for people to have a can’t go everywhere has become increasingly LGBT-friendly, diner with a baby, leave your heavy stroll- place of their own to and do that. Whether and is also rated as a popular destination er at home and make use of a lightweight feel comfortable. So many people you’re a drag queen or for LGBT families. While the city is known one that is easier to navigate through all came in, with so much love, and showed into some kind of kink or fetish, for its rich history that includes having more the paraphernalia scattered throughout the how thankful they were to have a space. So, or even in the leather community, some monuments per capita than any other city diner. when the opportunity for me to create Night things are still not accepted in the straight in the USA, it’s also home to a number of Spend some time at the National Elec- Shift 2.0 came up, I was like, ‘Absolutely!’ community. I want to 100% let people feel quirkier family destinations. Whether you tronic Museum – Any electronics-loving and I went for it.” they can be themselves at Night Shift 2.0.” call Charm City home or are merely pass- member of the LGBT community (and their Cooper added, “I would like to see Night The reception Cooper has found has ing through, be sure to pay a visit to some families) will have an absolute blast at the Shift 2.0 become an entertainment space been overwhelmingly positive. “Everything of the most unique and exciting destina- National Electronic Museum, which fea- where everyone can come congregate, meet came together nicely. I haven’t had any tions in the city. tures more than 10,000 artifacts in celebra- friends and family, drink, eat and be happy. issues. My whole team and I have been Catch a glimpse of Hogwarts at Ripley’s tion of science, technology, and engineer- Believe it or Not – If you and your family ing. The museum boasts nine permanent are fans of Harry Potter (and who isn’t?) a exhibitions, including a Modern Radar Gal- trip to Ripley’s Believe It or lery, a Countermeasures Gal- Not in the Light Street Pa- lery, an Electro-optical Gallery, vilion should be at the top and an Underseas Gallery that A Town Hall Meeting of your list of places to vis- explains the basics of under- it with your family. One of water sound transmission and the most striking attractions antisubmarine war systems. Al- TRANSceNdiNg BARRieRS iii among the 500 on display at though very small children may Ripley’s is an unbelievably not find the museum overly in- intricate model of Hogwarts triguing, their older siblings and Please join us for a Trans Sexual Health Forum featuring local providers crafted out of an astonishing parents will undoubtedly have that address the needs and services related to the Trans Community in 600,000 matchsticks. Oth- a blast learning about some of accessing quality healthcare services including PrEP and PEP. er attractions that will thrill the world’s greatest electronic We will also have a Question & Answer Panel with members of the both young and old include innovations. a T-Rex made from pop tart End your day with an icy Trans Alternative Lifestyle Community. wrappers, a 4-D moving dessert from The Charmery Trans and Gender Non-Conforming people are welcome to identify theatre, and a mind-blowing – Ice cream may seem pret- practical solutions to healthcare challenges, mirror maze. Ripley’s is open seven days ty ordinary until you indulge in a scoop or as well as a collective way forward. a week, which makes it the perfect destina- two of frozen goodness courtesy of The tion for both weekend and holiday visits for Charmery. With two branches (one in families with children of school-going age. Hampden and one in Towson) there is no Grab a bite to eat at the Papermoon reason why your family can’t enjoy what DATE: Wednesday, November 20, 2019 Diner – If you and your family enjoy kitsch can only be described as some of the best TIME: 6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. on occasion, a visit to the delightfully glit- ice cream in the entire state. Although tering Papermoon Diner is an absolute classic flavors such as chocolate and va- LOCATION: The Waxter Center must. Restaurateur Un Kim, together with nilla have a well-deserved place on the 1000 Cathedral Street at Eager Street her friend David Briskie, has transformed menu, adventurous ice cream eaters can the once dreary diner into one of the city’s indulge in a range of slightly more exciting Baltimore, MD 21201 most talked-about destinations. You won’t offerings. Some of the most popular flavors find boring wall art and other decorative include Cinnamon Ramen, Sticky Mango trinkets in this eatery, but rather countless Rice, Black Licorice, Spiced Butter Pecan, Hosted by AIDS Action Baltimore mannequins, plastic toys, and an impres- and Peanut Butter & Jelly. Sponsored by: Chase Brexton Health Care, Center for Black Equity-Baltimore, sive Pez collection, which is bound to de- Fun family outings undeniably make GLCCB, Johns Hopkins Center for AIDS Research, REACH Initiative & Total Health Care light adults and children alike. The menu is for some of life’s greatest moments. With Supported by funding from Gilead Sciences, Inc. as festive as the atmosphere in the diner, so many adventures awaiting you in Balti- and IMPACT a Baltimore City Health Department Campaign and features quirky items such as a Bacon more, you’ll never have to spend a boring Milkshake, a Bangin’ Burger Quesadil- day at home with your loved ones again. t

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ian to raise the child in case the parents member? Are they at home enough to be spouse is not the child’s legal parent, are unexpectedly out of the picture. an effective parent? And are they finan- whether through birth or adoption, your The thought of having someone else cially secure? A guardian doesn’t need to other half will probably have no legal right raise your children may be difficult to bear. be rich, but someone who doesn’t man- to custody unless you name him or her as After all, no one else’s love could ever age money well might have The Law match your own. It is for this reason that trouble creating a stable home & You every parent should give careful thought environment. Plan for the Lee Carpenter possibility to who their child’s guardian should be. It’s worth mentioning that she’s not Here are some essential factors to the guardian won’t be expect- available consider. ed to pay for your child’s needs Choosing a First of all, you want someone who out of pocket. The inheritance shares your values and will instill them you leave behind – whether in Guardian for in your child just as you would. Do you the form of cash, real estate, want your child to be raised in a certain or life insurance proceeds – Your Children religion? Or perhaps intentionally with no would be used for this purpose. religious upbringing? In addition to a can- Once you have identified a Any parent will tell you that raising chil- didate’s religious beliefs, you should con- possible guardian, discuss the dren isn’t easy. The late-night feedings, sider their parenting style and thoughts on idea with the person to make public tantrums, and constant need for education. sure he or she is willing to take attention can leave even the Another important fac- on the job. The next step is to most devoted mom or dad tor is where the potential prepare a last will & testament guardian under your will. feeling exhausted. But for Let not death guardian lives. If something that says who you would like the guardian Don’t leave the care of your child to those of us in the LGBTQ happened to you, would to be. Strictly speaking, your will doesn’t chance. Prepare a will that names the community, simply becom- sever the ties you want to child to have appoint the guardian, it “nominates” the right person as guardian and take comfort ing a parent can be just as to move to a new location, guardian, subject to the court’s approval. in knowing that you are ready for the un- challenging. Whether we try that bind change schools, and make If your child’s other parent is living at expected. t adoption, surrogacy, or oth- new friends? That could be the time of your death, he or she has natu- Lee Carpenter (410-332-8626 or lee. er means, the process is likely to involve a difficult transition under the best of cir- ral parental rights that will probably super- [email protected]) is an attorney at anxious waiting, many false starts, and cumstances, but after the death of parent, sede any guardianship provisions in your the law firm of Saul Ewing Arnstein & difficult legal hurdles. it could be especially hard on your child. will. This is true whether the other parent Lehr and an adjunct professor at the Uni- It’s natural then, that same-sex cou- You should also consider the life cir- is your current spouse or partner or is an versity of Maryland Carey School of Law. ples and other LGBTQ parents are espe- cumstances of a possible guardian. Are ex you never speak to (but not if the “par- Learn more about LGBT estate planning cially grateful for their children and would they young enough to raise your child? ent” was an egg or sperm donor or surro- at Mdlgbtestateplanning.com. This article do anything to protect them. This sense of And would they have enough space at gate who waived any parental rights). is intended to provide general information devotion should include naming a guard- home to accommodate a new family Bear in mind that if your partner or not specific legal advice.

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the festivities started on Thursday, Octo- the family. Jane always does ber 31st with a happy hour at Leon’s fol- an amazing job of not only Oya Ra being lowed by a PigSty play party at Club 1722. bringing the razzle dazzle, but sashed Mr. On the evening of Friday, November 1st, also performs the difficult task Maryland Leather 2020 Leather cocktail parties were held at the Lord Balti- of keeping the contest moving. Line more Hotel hosted by the ShipMates Club Also working hard to keep Rodney Burger of Baltimore, Red Lions of North Carolina, the contest going were dan GNI Pocono Eagle, and a small group of daddy Mr. North Carolina Tri- Mr. Maryland Leather titleholders. Later angle Leather 2018 Sir Brad in the evening the contestants and judges Violand, stage manager Mar- Mr. Maryland for the Mr. Maryland Leather 2020 con- garet Irene, sign language in- test were introduced. Judging MML 2020 terpreter Debbie Jones, judge’s were International Mr. Leather 2019 Jack boy Pup Vanas, and tally mas- Leather 2020 Is... Thompson, Mr. Maryland Leather 2018 ters North American Bear 2019 Brendan Patrick, Mr. New Jersey Leather Kevin Barni and Mr. Delaware 2019 Lynx Onyx, American Leatherwoman Cub 2019 Eric Cubby. (Prior to Oya Ra, a member of the Illuminati House 2017 Jackie Thompson, and Mr. DC Eagle the contest, Eric surprised me of Ra, was selected Mr. Maryland Leather 2019 Christopher Booth. with a shopping bag that con- 2020 at a contest held on Saturday, No- On Saturday, November 2nd the doors tained the pin-covered Ship- vember 2nd at the Ottobar in Baltimore. He opened at noon at the Ottobar to give every- Mate club vest of one of my was also awarded the David Allen Brother- one time to socialize and peruse the large club’s deceased members. He hood Award. ShipMates of Baltimore club silent auction and shop the vendor Fruit explained that he bought it at member David Sugar was first runner-up Leather (Check them out on Facebook) an auction in the Philadelphia and Timmy Brehm from Nottingham, Mary- prior to the 2 pm contest. The contest was area and wanted to return it to land, was second runner-up. emceed once again this year by the fabu- the club. I was deeply touched This was the 30th edition of the pop- lous International Ms. Leather 2016 Lasciv- by this very kind gesture of true ular contest produced by COMMAND MC ious Jane, who also performed. Jane is a leather brotherhood.) to select Maryland’s representative at the kinky burlesque performer who also holds The contest began with the International Mr. Leather Contest held the title of Ms. Philadelphia Leather 2015. “Star-Spangled Banner” beauti- each May in Chicago. The event is also a Last year she emceed and performed while fully performed a capella by the you….” The audience applauded loudly for fundraiser, and last year COMMAND MC very pregnant. At the 70th birthday party Baltimore Men’s Chorus. Other performers his comments regarding the ugliness that donated over $10,000 to 14 charities in last weekend for beloved Baltimore leather included the queen of the Baltimore Fla- leather titleholders are forced to endure on the Maryland area. Held as part of COM- community member Butch Lee, I got to see mingos rugby team, Sh’Lita Biscuit, and social media and noted that the contest lost MAND MC’s Maryland Leather Weekend, in person Jane’s adorable new member of burlesque performer Bunny Vishus, who three additional contestants who dropped sang live and performed “When You’re out because they didn’t want to have to Good to Mama.” Alexander D’Agostino deal with the drama in the community. He performed a very creative “dance of a reminded the audience that “one does not slaughtered steer.” The performance was have to be a titleholder to be an amplifier.” both erotic and disturbing. Contestants ap- After the contest a victory party for the peared in barwear, jock, and formal leath- new Mr. Maryland Leather was held at Le- er and had an interview with the judges on’s with DJ Vince Christopher followed by earlier in the day. They were also judged another PigSty party back at the Lord Bal- on a brief speech regarding their platform timore Hotel. Congratulations to Mr. Mary- should they be awarded the title. The af- land Leather 2020 Oya Ra. Enjoy the ride. ternoon was filled with wonderful moments. In the Maryland leather community, the During his step-down speech Mr. Maryland new year has already begun. t Leather 2019 Scorpius Red went way be- New employmeNt opportuNity! yond the usual: “Thank you, thank New outdoor resort opening this summer located north of Mr. Maryland Romney, Hampshire Co. West Virginia. Leather We need the following positions filled within the next four titleholders to six weeks. Many of these positions will be year round!

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