Marie Louise: the Princess of Nowhere
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MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE Gossip, gin, a ghost, and a coal mine. No, this is not a country music song. WANT ME TO READ THIS POST TO YOU? CONTENTS: Meet Louise | Be Careful What You Wish For | Fight or Flight | Divorce Court | Working Girl | The Great War | The Sound of Silence | Living Her Best Life | World War II | Age Ain’t Nothing But a Number RINCESS MARIE LOUISE WAS BORN P on August 12, 1872, a granddaughter of Queen Victoria. Her dad – clearly a history buff – named her after Napoleon’s second wife, but the family called her “Louie.” Her parents, Princess Helena and Prince Christian of Schleswig-Holstein, lived at Queen Victoria’s beck and call. Victoria’s requirements for marrying Helena had been that Christian needed to (a) live in England, and (b) accept the fact that when Victoria said jump, one or both of them needed to ask, “How high?” GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE LOUISE'S PARENTS, PRINCESS HELENA & PRINCE CHRISTIAN. UNKNOWN PHOTOGRAPHER, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. Surprisingly, Christian was okay with that – and he and Helena had a happy marriage and four surviving kids. That didn’t mean he forgot about his homeland, and he taught his kids German by reading them fairy tales. The family’s tutors also taught Louise literature, dancing, deportment, and French. But her absolute favorite subject was history. I suspect we would have gotten along just fine. Because her parents were so close to Queen Victoria, Louise spent a lot of time with her grandmother. Once, when Victoria was watching the kids, she sent Helena this reassuring telegram: “Children very well, but poor little Louise very ugly.” (Louise, 19) Years later, when Louise asked her about this, Victoria simply said it was the truth. “Children very well, but poor little Louise very ugly.” GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE Louise inherited her grandmother’s blunt honesty and her deep family loyalty. She was extremely close to her sister, Helena Victoria (“Thora”), and her cousin, Alix. That cousin would grow up to be the last empress of Russia, Alexandra Feodorovna. BACK, L TO R: ALIX & ELLA OF HESSE AND BY RHINE. FRONT, L TO R: LOUISE, CHARLOTTE OF PRUSSIA, THORA. UNKNOWN PHOTOGRAPHER, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE As kids, Louise played the Joker to Alix’s Batman, teasing her about being too serious. Later, Louise would write this about Alix: “There was a curious atmosphere of fatality about her.” One day, Louise said, “Alix, you always play at being sorrowful: one day the Almighty will send you some real crushing sorrows and then what are you going to do?” If you know the story of the last Romanovs, that quote will break your heart. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR IN THE FALL OF 1890, 18-year-old Louise was in Berlin for a cousin’s wedding. There, she met Prince Aribert of Anhalt. When the tall, handsome cavalry officer started paying attention to her, she quickly fell in love. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE But on that same trip, her parents told her that someone else wanted to propose to her – Prince Ferdinand of Romania. “Hard pass,” said Louise. So her cousin, Kaiser Wilhelm II, decided to step in and make Louise’s dreams come true. Whatever he did worked – Louise and Aribert got engaged on December 6, 1890, mere weeks after their first meeting. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE Louise and Aribert got engaged on December 6, mere weeks after their first meeting. Yeah, that’ll end well. Queen Victoria approved of the match. She wrote to her daughter, “…I am greatly relieved to think that poor Louise Holstein’s prospects will not be blighted. I think it would be a very nice marriage. Aribert is a nice and amiable young man and one may hope that it would be for both their happiness.” (Ramm, 116) Louise met and passed muster with Aribert’s parents, which isn’t surprising because his father owned pieces of history that must have transfixed Louise. For example, he owned Stettin Castle, the birthplace of Catherine the Great, as well as the dress she wore for her entry into St. Petersburg. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE STETTIN CASTLE. IMAGE BY DR BENWAY, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. Louise and Aribert married at Windsor on July 6, 1891. After a two-month European honeymoon, they settled in Germany – first in his native Dessau, then in Berlin where he was stationed as an officer. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE LOUISE IN HER WEDDING DRESS. UNKNOWN PHOTOGRAPHER, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. But the strict German court etiquette was more than Louise could bear. Before she could say “good morning” to her sister-in-law, she had to send her footman to her sister-in-law’s footman to find out if now would be a convenient time for a personal greeting. Once, she once got in trouble for saying hi to a friend who was having lunch. German princesses were not supposed to interrupt gentlemen at lunch. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE Another of her supposed transgressions? According to a Canadian newspaper, she once came back from a visit to Britain with a pair of boxing gloves and a punching bag. When she had it set up and started shadowboxing in the palace, her in-laws revolted at this unprincesslike behavior. For what it’s worth, I really hope this story is true. According to a Canadian newspaper, she once came back from a visit to Britain with a pair of boxing gloves and a punching bag. Louise, who had grown up in the comparatively casual British court environment, chafed under these restrictions. She only felt free when she traveled, and she wrote lovingly of her trips to Naples, Rome, and Tunis. “Africa is sometimes called the Claw,” she wrote, “and this is true, for when once you have visited that continent you always want to return to it.” (Memories, 50) GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE FIGHT OR FLIGHT BUT THERE ARE SOME problems travel just can’t solve. Louise and Aribert were strangers. They lived together, but unless they had a dinner party, days would pass without seeing each other. Louise herself later wrote, “I was not wanted, my presence was irksome to him.” (Louise, 88) Poor Louise didn’t understand why, but she would soon. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE ARIBERT & LOUISE. IMAGE VIA THE GRAND LADIES SITE . Increasingly miserable, she lost weight and succumbed to a variety of illnesses: the flu, bronchitis, and pneumonia. According to author John Van der Kiste, that weight loss was actually due to anorexia. Within the family, there was plenty of gossip about Louise, her seemingly strange ways, and her husband. When her cousin Victoria Melita (“Ducky”) came to stay with her in Berlin in early 1898, the two had a blast. But Ducky’s mom, the Duchess of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha, wasn’t so thrilled about their time together. She wrote, “…to stay eternally with that mad woman of a Louise Aribert only to amuse herself, was not necessary, besides this cousin of yours is known to be cracked and everybody laughs at her and he is an imbecile.” (Mandache, 327) GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE VICTORIA MELITA, GRAND DUCHESS OF HESSE AND BY RHINE. UNKNOWN PHOTOGRAPHER, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. But here’s the thing. Ducky was another unhappily married woman, so she and Louise had a lot to bond over. Of course they got along. Of course they had fun. All those people supposedly laughing at Louise just didn’t see or understand the stress she was under. Ducky did. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE Ducky’s visit lifted her spirits, but it couldn’t fix her health problems. In the summer of 1898, Louise went to visit Queen Victoria, who described her as “very far from well, but not in bad spirits. She is only so weak and everything tires her.” (Ramm, 216) LOUISE PAINTED BY JOSEFINE SWOBODA. PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE In early 1900, nine years after their marriage, it seems Aribert was discovered with another man, possibly a servant. The details are murky – clearly this isn’t something any of the participants wanted publicized. Aribert’s father blamed Louise, claiming she’d refused to have sex with his son. Angry, ashamed, and confused – but certain she wasn’t to blame – Louise ran. In her memoir, she tactfully glosses over this incident. She says her doctors suggested she go to the U.S. or Canada for health reasons, to which she said she’d have to check with Queen Victoria first. Aribert flipped his lid because, in his mind, husbands were supposed to be in charge of their wives – not their grandmothers. Before Louise left, she committed another faux pas – she gave advance notice to the British ambassador in Washington, D.C. but not the German ambassador. This, she says, was the cause of her fight with Aribert. GIRLINTHETIARA.COM | MARIE LOUISE: THE PRINCESS OF NOWHERE PRINCE ARIBERT. IMAGE BY HOFATELIER HARLMANN, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA WIKIMEDIA COMMONS. Both of those versions may be true – they’re not mutually exclusive. Louise’s cousin – and Ducky’s sister, Crown Princess Marie of Romania – wrote to her mom, “I wonder how the Louise Aribert story will end, but I believe he was an awful man to live with and they say that he & his eldest brother…have a horrible vice!” (Mandache, 439) So even if Louise’s version of the story is true, there was still plenty of gossip about Aribert.