SUMMER 2014 Smelling Salts for the Soul The importance of life’s exclamation points Born That Way? A look at those adventurous souls who throw off the mooring lines SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 1 SUMMER 2014 Cover Photo © omegas ADVENTURE: Past, present, to come, how it changes us, inspires us, scares us, makes us feel alive FEATURES 5 Letter From the Executive Vice President: Adventure awaits 12 Love’s Just Full of Surprises ‘Til death do us part? 22 The Adventurers — Born that Way? What is it about us adventurous souls that compels us to throw off the mooring lines? 36 Smelling Salts for the Soul Understanding the importance of life’s exclamation-point moments DEPARTMENTS CREATIVE LOAFING 8 Entertain Your Brain! Book, movie and music reviews 10 Out and About: Adventure is in the eye of the beholder 16 Brain Games: Crossword and Sudoku USEFUL NOW 6 Style Wise: Reviving the quest on that Mystic Highway 17 Healthy U: Playing Hide & Seek with our memories 18 Money Matters: Make room in your finances for what truly matters 28 Advice for the Journey: Managing your illness while you travel PERSPECTIVE SHIFTING 20 Savvy Sage: Transitions The space between adventures gives us a chance to reset our compass 30 Your Life Well Lived: 56 Sunsets Embracing the rabbit hole of solitude 32 Retire Like You Mean It: A Time Like No Other Life’s grand adventure continues for two different couples 38 Ethics & Spirituality: Up & Down Surgery forces a lifelong giver to learn how to accept 22 Advertisement 2 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 3 SUMMER 2014 A Publication of Created by Wise Publishing Group Contributing Authors www.wisepublishinggroup.com Carlene Cross Olivia Drury Publisher/Editor-in-Chief Robert Horton www.leisurecare.com Max Wells Tammy Kennon 1601 5th Ave #1900 [email protected] Evan Kimble Seattle, WA 98101 James H. Lewis Managing/Copy Editor Pam Mandel Letter From the Leisure Care Carol Pearson Pat McNamara Traci Kuster [email protected] Skye Moody Marketing Director Carol Pearson Executive Vice President Art Director John Pearson Adventure Awaits Published four times per year Mike Inks, MLI Design Joe Rodriguez for distribution to our residents www.mlidesign.co Sandy Sabersky by Brett Robinson and their families. [email protected] Stephan J. Smith, DC Brett Robinson, Executive VP, Leisure Care Misha Stone Ad Sales Jeff Wozer [email protected] Rabbi Elana Zaiman Ah, the sweet sense of adventure. Who comes to mind when you think of great adventurers? I took a quick poll at the Leisure Care home office. The most common names were Lewis and Clark, Proofreaders Amelia Earhart, Neil Armstrong and Sir Edmund Hillary. Pretty impressive, wouldn’t you say? The Cheryl Knight, Diane Smith achievements of these heroes were great, and they all seemed to thrive on an adrenaline rush. I got to think- ing, as impressive as these famous adventurers’ accomplishments were, they didn’t do it alone. Lewis had Clark; Sir Edmund Hillary had his Sherpa, Tenzing Norgay; Ms. Earhart had … never mind, she did do it Production: MLI Design / www.mlidesign.co • Printing: Journal Graphics / www.journalgraphics.com solo; and Neil Armstrong had his Apollo 11 crew. The reality is that most of us will not be flying solo across the Atlantic or scaling Mount Everest, but that Advertisement is not the point. Each of you, our valued residents, can pursue adventures that will enliven your spirit and put a big smile on your face. Take a moment to think about what adventure means to you. I bet it includes a new experience, something you’ve never tried before. The great news is that you don’t have to discover it on your own. Our dedicated, talented community teams want to help you find your adrenaline rush. Our company creates socially engaged environments that provide amazing opportunities for everyday adventures. If you are a social animal who enjoys laughing and being surrounded by great friends, you’ve come to the right place. If your palette defines adventure, our restaurants provide fresh and delicious choices for a memorable dining experience. If exceptional customer service is the way to your adventurous heart, we’ll make you feel like you are on vacation 24/7. Whether you call one of our communities home or are considering making us home, please know that Lei- sure Care shares your appetite for adventure. Our passion and pur- pose is simple: We want to make a positive impact on our residents’ lives every day. If you have a wish to live life with a deeper, richer level of experience, talk to your community team now. Helping you Half Page Ad chart your course will make their day! In the words of Amelia Earhart, “Adventure is worthwhile in itself.” We could not agree more. Move forward … the adventure awaits! Bon voyage! Brett Robinson Executive Vice President, Leisure Care 4 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 5 Style Wise Expressing Your Unique Self by Carlene Cross Award-winning author and writing consultant It’s not too late to climb back onto the Mystic Highway “I realized that I had abandoned my journey around the Universe; and grab the rope around the Universe. I had lost my sense of adventure.” In his recent single, “Mystic Highway,” John Fogerty lege student in the ’70s. Filled with religious zeal, I lived physical, and/or something that requires a different skill Practice memorization. Start with something short, reminisces about his life of travel and adventure: “This old in France and smuggled bibles into Eastern Europe. As set than what we currently possess. progressing to something more involved, such as the 50 road has been my lifeline, my companion and my friend, like a rope a single mother, I enrolled in college and then graduate Traveling is one way to set the stage U.S. state capitals. around the Universe, ain’t no beginning, ain’t no end.” school. But somewhere after 50, I became frightened. for this dopamine blast Walker describes. Enjoy strategy games, puzzles and riddles. It’s vintage Fogerty. I stopped traveling, downhill skiing and dance lessons. When we take a trip, our senses are height- Brain teasers and strategy games provide a great mental I love his music; his soulful voice resurrects those Tucked away in my safety, the excitement that had always ened — we smell, hear and see things we workout and build your capacity to form and retain cog- Creedence Clearwater Revival days when my future accompanied my life began to vanish. Lying in bed one wouldn’t notice at home. We experience the nitive associations. seemed filled with heart-pounding possibilities. Saturday morning, I wondered why I no longer felt that excitement of finding a market and ordering Follow the road less traveled. Take a new route, During summer afternoons on our isolated farm, youthful passion. Suddenly, the words to Fogerty’s “Mystic food in a language we barely speak, hailing a eat with your nondominant hand, rearrange your I’d grab my transistor radio and run across the rolling Highway” came to mind. cab, eating new cuisine. Inserting ourselves into computer file system. Vary your habits regularly grassland to stand and gaze at the distant granite peaks, I realized that I had abandoned my journey around the a new culture expands our world view. Students to create new brain pathways. where collapsing homesteads dotted the desolate horizon Universe. I had lost my sense of adventure. who study abroad develop better learning skills I’ve decided to climb back like ships wrecked on a vast shoal. Foxglove and camas Quest changes us, whether exotic travel, a dance class, and a lifelong connection to, and understanding on the Mystic Highway. brushed my bare legs, as my little radio searched the or even a difficult crossword puzzle. Tackling novel of, the country they visited. (Kotter, 2012) I’ve started a Provence Fund airwaves for a station powerful enough to cross the Rock- experiences increases our happiness, gives us a positive Even if we can’t travel, adventure is right at our for 2015 and signed up for ies. Like a POW, I’d strain to hear informed voices from outlook, and boosts our artistic and scientific creativity. fingertips. New experiences boost our brain power dance class. I feel joy return- the outside world, roaming the dial past whisperings and (Steel, Schmidt and Shultz, 2008) and protect us from neurodegenerative diseases ing to my body as I turn up hissings. Then, like magic to me, John Fogerty and CCR Matt Walker, author of Adventure in Everything, explains, like Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s and dementia. Fogerty and practice my eight- would break through, “Playing in a Traveling Band.” “When we embrace life as an adventure, we tap into a count step across the living room floor. I imagined such a life, seeing faraway places — Wood- deep source of energy, love, creativity and generosity.” Here’s How: Next year, I’ll be ready to tango in St. stock and Radio City Music Hall, touring Europe, sipping (Walker, 2011) Learn something new. Study a foreign Tropez. u wine in a Paris café. I vowed to live like Fogerty, exploring Walker believes adventure usually involves planning language, learn sign language, practice a musi- exotic places, taking risks and tackling adventures. something currently out of reach, something that de- cal instrument, read a good book, learn to play I set out to do that as a Bible col- mands problem solving and creativity, something that is chess or cards, or take up a new hobby. Sources: Kotter, John.