SUMMER 2014 Smelling Salts for the Soul The importance of life’s exclamation points Born That Way? A look at those adventurous souls who throw off the mooring lines

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ADVENTURE: Past, present, to come, how it changes us, inspires us, scares us, makes us feel alive

Features 5 Letter From the Executive Vice President: Adventure awaits 12 Love’s Just Full of Surprises ‘Til death do us part? 22 The Adventurers — Born that Way? What is it about us adventurous souls that compels us to throw off the mooring lines? 36 Smelling Salts for the Soul Understanding the importance of life’s exclamation-point moments

Departments Creative Loafing 8 e ntertain Your Brain! Book, movie and music reviews 10 out and About: Adventure is in the eye of the beholder 16 Brain Games: Crossword and Sudoku Useful Now 6 s tyle Wise: Reviving the quest on that Mystic Highway 17 Healthy U: Playing Hide & Seek with our memories 18 Money Matters: Make room in your finances for what truly matters 28 advice for the Journey: Managing your illness while you travel PERSPECTIVE SHIFTING 20 s avvy Sage: Transitions The space between adventures gives us a chance to reset our compass 30 Your Life Well Lived: 56 Sunsets Embracing the rabbit hole of solitude 32 retire Like You Mean It: A Time Like No Other Life’s grand adventure continues for two different couples 38 ethics & Spirituality: Up & Down Surgery forces a lifelong giver to learn how to accept 22 Advertisement 2 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 3 SUMMER 2014

A Publication of Created by Wise Publishing Group Contributing Authors www.wisepublishinggroup.com Carlene Cross Olivia Drury Publisher/Editor-in-Chief Robert Horton www.leisurecare.com Max Wells Tammy Kennon 1601 5th Ave #1900 [email protected] Evan Kimble Seattle, WA 98101 James H. Lewis Managing/Copy Editor Pam Mandel Letter From the Leisure Care Carol Pearson Pat McNamara Traci Kuster [email protected] Skye Moody Marketing Director Carol Pearson Executive Vice President Art Director John Pearson Adventure Awaits Published four times per year Mike Inks, MLI Design Joe Rodriguez for distribution to our residents www.mlidesign.co Sandy Sabersky by Brett Robinson and their families. [email protected] Stephan J. Smith, DC Brett Robinson, Executive VP, Leisure Care Misha Stone Ad Sales Jeff Wozer [email protected] Rabbi Elana Zaiman Ah, the sweet sense of adventure. Who comes to mind when you think of great adventurers? I took a quick poll at the Leisure Care home office. The most common names were Lewis and Clark, Proofreaders Amelia Earhart, Neil Armstrong and Sir Edmund Hillary. Pretty impressive, wouldn’t you say? The Cheryl Knight, Diane Smith achievements of these heroes were great, and they all seemed to thrive on an adrenaline rush. I got to think- ing, as impressive as these famous adventurers’ accomplishments were, they didn’t do it alone. Lewis had Clark; Sir Edmund Hillary had his Sherpa, Tenzing Norgay; Ms. Earhart had … never mind, she did do it Production: MLI Design / www.mlidesign.co • Printing: Journal Graphics / www.journalgraphics.com solo; and Neil Armstrong had his Apollo 11 crew. The reality is that most of us will not be flying solo across the Atlantic or scaling Mount Everest, but that Advertisement is not the point. Each of you, our valued residents, can pursue adventures that will enliven your spirit and put a big smile on your face. Take a moment to think about what adventure means to you. I bet it includes a new experience, something you’ve never tried before. The great news is that you don’t have to discover it on your own. Our dedicated, talented community teams want to help you find your adrenaline rush. Our company creates socially engaged environments that provide amazing opportunities for everyday adventures. If you are a social animal who enjoys laughing and being surrounded by great friends, you’ve come to the right place. If your palette defines adventure, our restaurants provide fresh and delicious choices for a memorable dining experience. If exceptional customer service is the way to your adventurous heart, we’ll make you feel like you are on vacation 24/7. Whether you call one of our communities home or are considering making us home, please know that Lei- sure Care shares your appetite for adventure. Our passion and pur- pose is simple: We want to make a positive impact on our residents’ lives every day. If you have a wish to live life with a deeper, richer level of experience, talk to your community team now. Helping you Half Page Ad chart your course will make their day! In the words of Amelia Earhart, “Adventure is worthwhile in itself.” We could not agree more. Move forward … the adventure awaits!

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4 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 5 Style Wise Expressing Your Unique Self

by Carlene Cross Award-winning author and writing consultant It’s not too late to climb back onto the Mystic Highway “I realized that I had abandoned my journey around the Universe; and grab the rope around the Universe. I had lost my sense of adventure.”

In his recent single, “Mystic Highway,” John Fogerty lege student in the ’70s. Filled with religious zeal, I lived physical, and/or something that requires a different skill Practice memorization. Start with something short, reminisces about his life of travel and adventure: “This old in France and smuggled bibles into Eastern Europe. As set than what we currently possess. progressing to something more involved, such as the 50 road has been my lifeline, my companion and my friend, like a rope a single mother, I enrolled in college and then graduate Traveling is one way to set the stage U.S. state capitals. around the Universe, ain’t no beginning, ain’t no end.” school. But somewhere after 50, I became frightened. for this dopamine blast Walker describes. Enjoy strategy games, puzzles and riddles. It’s vintage Fogerty. I stopped traveling, downhill skiing and dance lessons. When we take a trip, our senses are height- Brain teasers and strategy games provide a great mental I love his music; his soulful voice resurrects those Tucked away in my safety, the excitement that had always ened — we smell, hear and see things we workout and build your capacity to form and retain cog- Creedence Clearwater Revival days when my future accompanied my life began to vanish. Lying in bed one wouldn’t notice at home. We experience the nitive associations. seemed filled with heart-pounding possibilities. Saturday morning, I wondered why I no longer felt that excitement of finding a market and ordering Follow the road less traveled. Take a new route, During summer afternoons on our isolated farm, youthful passion. Suddenly, the words to Fogerty’s “Mystic food in a language we barely speak, hailing a eat with your nondominant hand, rearrange your I’d grab my transistor radio and run across the rolling Highway” came to mind. cab, eating new cuisine. Inserting ourselves into computer file system. Vary your habits regularly grassland to stand and gaze at the distant granite peaks, I realized that I had abandoned my journey around the a new culture expands our world view. Students to create new brain pathways. where collapsing homesteads dotted the desolate horizon Universe. I had lost my sense of adventure. who study abroad develop better learning skills I’ve decided to climb back like ships wrecked on a vast shoal. Foxglove and camas Quest changes us, whether exotic travel, a dance class, and a lifelong connection to, and understanding on the Mystic Highway. brushed my bare legs, as my little radio searched the or even a difficult crossword puzzle. Tackling novel of, the country they visited. (Kotter, 2012) I’ve started a Provence Fund airwaves for a station powerful enough to cross the Rock- experiences increases our happiness, gives us a positive Even if we can’t travel, adventure is right at our for 2015 and signed up for ies. Like a POW, I’d strain to hear informed voices from outlook, and boosts our artistic and scientific creativity. fingertips. New experiences boost our brain power dance class. I feel joy return- the outside world, roaming the dial past whisperings and (Steel, Schmidt and Shultz, 2008) and protect us from neurodegenerative diseases ing to my body as I turn up hissings. Then, like magic to me, John Fogerty and CCR Matt Walker, author of Adventure in Everything, explains, like Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s and dementia. Fogerty and practice my eight- would break through, “Playing in a Traveling Band.” “When we embrace life as an adventure, we tap into a count step across the living room floor. I imagined such a life, seeing faraway places — Wood- deep source of energy, love, creativity and generosity.” Here’s How: Next year, I’ll be ready to tango in St. stock and Radio City Music Hall, touring Europe, sipping (Walker, 2011) Learn something new. Study a foreign Tropez. u wine in a Paris café. I vowed to live like Fogerty, exploring Walker believes adventure usually involves planning language, learn sign language, practice a musi- exotic places, taking risks and tackling adventures. something currently out of reach, something that de- cal instrument, read a good book, learn to play I set out to do that as a Bible col- mands problem solving and creativity, something that is chess or cards, or take up a new hobby.

Sources: Kotter, John. (2012). The Heart of Change, Harvard Business Review Press; 1st edition. Steel, Piers; Schmidt, Joseph; and Shultz, Jonas. (2008). “Refining the relationship between personality and Subjective well- being.” Psychological Bulletin, 134 (1), 138–161. Walker, Matt. (2011). Adventure in Everything: How the Five Elements of Adventure Create a Life of Authenticity, California: Hay House. © omegas

6 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 7 Entertain Your Brain! by Elena Ferrante (Europa Editions, $17.00) Vicarious adventure of the most delicious kind My Brilliant Friend Translated by Ann Goldstein, this first in an Italian quartet captures the coming-of-age of two girls — this summer’s choices for books, music and in mid-20th century Naples with deft and compelling precision. Elena and Lila meet in first grade, and their ultimately complex, mercurial friendship begins with an act of cruelty in a frightening movies just might sweep you away on a journey stairwell. Their rivalry continues, but while their lives diverge they remain connected and shaped by of the imagination. the narrow streets of their down-at-the-heels, working-class neighborhood. Naples, as a character itself, is anything but idyllic — Ferrante captures the violence and the confinement of small-town European life. Elena’s narration feels so intimate and real that many readers have wondered how

© Comstock much her story may speak to the reclusive author’s own experience. Ending with a shocking twist, My Brilliant Friend will propel readers toward its sequel, The Story of a New Name. The third in the books | movies | music series is slated for English publication later this year.

BOOK REVIEWS MOVIE REVIEWS Adventure comes in many guises; find one for yourself among our summer reading picks. Walk, ride or sail, epic adventure awaits around the world. by Misha Stone / Readers’ advisory librarian & Booklist Magazine blogger by Robert Horton / Film critic for Seattle Weekly

Unfamiliar Fishes by Sarah Vowell (Riverhead Trade, $16.00) Walkabout (1971) At its best, travel involves not just the enjoyment of the physical beauty of a new locale; a trip can In the most shocking circumstances possible, a teenage girl (Jenny Agutter) and her younger brother be deepened by reading about a place’s history. Vowell, known for her well-researched yet cheekily are set adrift in the Australian outback. Struggling to survive, they come across an aboriginal youth irreverent books on American history, puts her skill and wit to task on the rich, complex history of (David Gulpilil) in the middle of his solo “walkabout,” the tribal coming-of-age custom. The colli- our 50th state. She narrates the improbable voyage of the Polynesians following the migration pat- sion of their cultures creates the nervous appeal of Walkabout, the mesmerizing and visually dream- terns of birds, Captain Cook’s demise on the Big Island in 1778, and the 19th century New England like 1971 classic that helped kick off a great era in Aussie filmmaking. Director Nicolas RoegThe ( missionaries and their endeavors to spread Christianity — all events that dramatically changed Man Who Fell to Earth) is very much in a searching, ’60s-era mode, and not everything in the film has Hawaii’s future. Vowell retells a history fraught with annexation and the ongoing challenges that aged perfectly. But for its stunning grasp of the desert — nobody’s ever captured heat waves rising Hawaiian culture faces with modernization and the tourism industry. Whether you are going to the from the earth like Roeg does — and unflinching look at how the walkabout is everybody’s transfor- islands for real or just within your imagination, you’ll have a better appreciation of their rich past mation ritual (the audience is included in this process), Walkabout remains a fascinating fever-dream. and complex present. Into the West (1993) A Town Like Alice by Nevil Shute (Vintage International, $15.00) Although the two Riley lads live in Dublin, their blood is in the countryside — or so their grand- This reprint of the 1950 original proves that sometimes adventure, and greatness, is thrust upon father, a member of the Irish gypsies known as “travelers,” believes. He gives the city boys a white us rather than chosen. Jean Paget, who grew up in England and Malaya, is working as a secretary horse, and what else could they do with this mighty animal but ride him into the green west of in Malay when World War II breaks out. Japanese soldiers take the men to camps and round up Ireland, beyond the reach of underhanded horse breeders, the police, and their own exasperated the women and children with little planning or organization, sending them on grueling marches father (Gabriel Byrne)? Mike Newell’s wonderful 1993 film captures the thrill of children throughout the countryside. Jean, the only unmarried woman in her group, cares for the most help- reacquainting themselves with their roots, a defining adventure that includes tough revelations and less, especially those children whose mothers die on the journey. Years after the war, Jean is aston- great excitement. Despite the terrific performances by young actors Rúaidhrí Conroy and Ciarán ished to learn how her sacrifices are remembered by those whose lives she touched during the war. Fitzgerald, this is less a kids’ movie than a full-blooded fable about identity and self-exploration. By Jean’s journey back to Malaya and her quest to find the heroic Australian man who risked his life discovering something ancient, the Rileys discover something new. for hers is filled with wonder, heartbreak, and the joys of reconnection. This love story is ultimately a testament to the human spirit and the capacity we each have to reach out to others and make the world better a better place in small, even quiet, ways. Entertain Your Brain: Continued on page 40

8 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 9 Out and About “My car was a few hundred feet away, Journeys Completed or Contemplated my neighborhood coffee house just over there from where we stood, yet we had been transported to a completely different world.”

decided to go to Portland on the highway together. We are often off where I do not speak the language. But Even if the a whim. I would take the bus to points south of Seattle — we have these things are not what define the down, have dinner, stay the night family in Oregon in Portland and Eu- adventure aspect of it. Adventure is route is as with a friend, and take the bus gene. We know where to stop to get the everywhere. Iback the following day. It was not a big best sandwiches and the best cookies. There is a park near my home. It familiar as deal; it is 200 miles from my house in The bus wouldn’t stop at all — it was is full of old growth trees and little Seattle to downtown Portland, a three- a direct line to downtown Portland — creeks run through it. And though it your own hand, hour drive on a good day. Portland and I was alone. This was different. is right off a major arterial, as soon is appealing, but hardly exotic, to a I sat up front, in the seat with the as you leave the parking lot, you are each new journey person from Seattle. best view, gazing out the window at transported to a place that feels like I had an overnight bag, a very good the wetlands north of Olympia, at the deep forest. One afternoon as I walked picnic, a cell phone and a bus ticket. girders of the steel bridges, at swampy, the quiet trails with a friend, the park can be an I was traveling absurdly light, and green fields flooded by recent rains. began to fill with Ethiopian families, that was a joyful feeling. My hus- The landscape looked different to me dressed head to toe in white. It was a adventure. band dropped me in Chinatown, too from my leisurely perch. I could imag- beautiful scene, the dark green forest early, so I sat in my favorite tea shop, ine I was going somewhere new, where filled with people who seemed to float eavesdropping, reading, and watching anything could happen. through the trees. the winter sun come through the front Travel magazines and television My hiking friend and I were trans- windows. Then, I shouldered my little shows like to make adventure travel fixed. The celebrating Ethiopians overnight bag and walked six to eight seem like something other people do, looked otherworldly in this place we blocks to the wrong bus stop. I stood in people with stronger backs and knees, knew so well. Everything had changed front of a mural of Bruce Lee for five people who have received many vacci- with their arrival. We asked two teen- or 10 minutes, until I noticed my cor- nations for exotic and dangerous diseas- age girls to explain; one translated for rect bus stop across the street. Nearby, es that will stay with you long after the the other who was not comfortable there was a musician playing jazz stan- trip is over. There is no denying that this with English. It was Meskel, an Ethio- dards on the saxophone. I tossed the type of travel is adventurous indeed, pian Orthodox Christian festival that change from my coffee into his open but the risk of bodily harm — frostbite, would culminate in a huge bonfire on case and then crossed the street as my malaria, dehydration — or petty crime, the meadow in this park not two miles bus appeared. like pickpocketing, is not a required from my home. We had traveled across My feeling of excitement was well component of adventure travel. the planet to a culture unknown. My out of proportion to the nature of Anything that shakes up your daily car was a few hundred feet away and the travels at hand, but I didn’t care. routine and requires you to engage in my neighborhood coffee house just Adventure is in the eye of the be- something new is an adventure. A new over there from where we stood, yet we holder — or rather, the heart, as it restaurant that serves a type of food had been transported to a completely beats faster when something exciting, you have never before eaten. A walk different world.

© VictorCap different, and out of the norm is about in an unexplored nearby park known When my bus arrived in Portland, IN THE EYE OF to happen. And if it seems crazy that for its wetland birds. A last-minute un- I headed to a coffee shop to wait for a woman who has run a team of sled planned getaway on your own to have my girlfriend. We went to dinner dogs across a frozen lake in the Yukon dinner with friends in a nearby city. No that night, a long walk the next day, in February, or got lost in the temples special equipment required. and then, I took the bus back to Se- of Angkor Wat in Cambodia, could I am an adventure traveler. I love attle. My husband picked me up at THE BEHOLDER feel her heart race while boarding a traveling to faraway exotic places that the bus stop in Chinatown, and we bus to Portland, well, it is. Sure. But are hard to reach. I do not require went to dinner. also, it isn’t. much comfort; I will sleep on a camp- “How was it?” he asked. by Pam Mandel Because it was new, even if the route ing mattress and go without running “It was a great adventure!” I said. Freelance travel writer and photographer was familiar. It was an adventure. water. I am happy to head out onto I meant it. u Normally, my husband and I drive the streets of a city I do not know,

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a love adventure like no benumbed relationship, they tell no Finally, they arrive on the shoals of other, and it’s spelled one outside their professional counsel- divorce by mutual consent. part? D-I-V-O-R-C-E. After ors that they are suffering through a For five months and two weeks, It’s30 years of marriage, Lynn and Matt dreadful ennui only foundering lovers Matt and Lynn keep their divorce a Harlow decide to call it quits. To fam- understand. secret. They give themselves a six- ily and close friends, including me, the Susan Brown, coauthor of The Gray month period of adjustment, agreeing “Through news drops like a mega-bomb, its dev- Divorce Revolution (Brown & Lin, 2012), to tell no one, even their son, until astation all the greater because Matt has found that, between ages 55 and the six months elapse. They agree to two changes of seasons, and Lynn Harlow have for decades 64, the national divorce rate has more tell Andy in late December and other represented the miracle of sustained than doubled in the past 25 years, from family and friends in mid-January, romantic love, while all along they five to 11 per thousand marriages. once Lynn returns from a long- from summer house-boating parties were keeping its dying embers a Over age 65, however, the percentage planned trip to South America. closely guarded secret. Even their only of divorce nearly triples, from two to Although each has changed, and to Halloween festivities, child, Andy, hadn’t a clue his parents five per thousand marriages. What’s the divorce is final, they still love each were drifting apart. going on here, Wizened Owls? other and mutually promise to take through Thanksgiving and Christmas, I’m on the outside — a close friend Brown suggests that part of the rea- baby steps together toward the physical to both Matt and Lynn — and view son may lie with the current improve- separation, even sharing a house until them as the ideal match. In the U.S., ments in the health of post-meno- the lease comes up. After all, they’ve Matt and Lynn nearly 50% of first-time married cou- pausal women, increasing options been living together for more than 30 ples divorce, but those divorces usually for surgeries that render both men years. They also vow to emotionally keep their secret.” occur between the seventh and eighth and women a more youthful appear- support each other while both experi- years of tying the (Gordian?) knot. ance and/or attitude toward life, and ence the “mourning,” the sense of loss Matt and Lynn’s knot survives more overall better healthcare that results that comes with the territory. than three times that long and only be- in longer life spans. In other words, Meanwhile, we remain clueless, a gins to unravel over the past few years marriages that may well have ended troop of “intelligent, sensitive, emo- as Matt experiences a serious stroke; in death a couple of decades ago are tionally, in-touch” friends who Lynn Lynn, older than Matt by 10 years, en- now ending in divorce as the partners and Matt totally dupe with artful ters menopause; and son, Andy, grows are discovering they have a lot of life acting skills. Through two changes up and goes away to college. left to live and want to do so on their of seasons, from summer house- Presto Change-o: With Andy now own terms. boating parties to Halloween festivities, on his own, Lynn and Matt take time Like Matt and Lynn, many couples through Thanksgiving and Christmas, to test the deep waters of their one- realize that to survive as individuals, Matt and Lynn keep their secret. by Skye Moody to-one bond. While they seek coun- they’ll need to set out individually, Christmas dinner finds us all gath- seling and work hard to repair their because together they’re sinking fast. ered around the same table. The Novelist, essayist, photographer and world traveler © Stockbyte

12 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 13 © suttipon her now and accept the new couple, Matt and — Lynn still loves Matt, only doesn’t want to Fresh-Ex, into the family? How will Lynn, under be married to him, and she’s also a tad embar- these circumstances, fit in at social events? And rassed for him. what about Fresh-Ex’s ex-husband? Did anyone Matt’s fessing up drops a little shine back take his feelings into account? onto his halo. I suspect he’s working hard to Meanwhile, will Lynn — besides feeling hu- earn back Lynn’s trust. While he chose to belly miliated — be pitied, an attitude she abhors in flop into his new adventure, our heroine seeks a herself or anyone else? Will she do the right thing graceful path to clarity. I grieve for the old Matt and refuse to lower her own principles in some and Lynn. I miss them with all my heart. But petty act of revenge? Will she put a healthy per- that’s my problem. u spective between herself and the frolicking Matt Sources: in his honeymoon stage with Fresh-Ex, a liaison For more information, read Susan L. Brown’s com- that surely will fizzle once the thrill has gone? plete study on seniors and divorce at tiny.cc/gray- Days later, Lynn flies off to South America on divorce-revolution. the long-planned visit with friends. While she basks beneath the Southern constellations, the Brown, Susan & Lin, I-Fen. (2012). “The Gray Di- healing balm of geographical distance and new vorce Revolution: Rising Divorce Among Middle- sights and sounds may inspire new perspectives on Aged and Older Adults, 1990–2010.” The Journals of Gerontology, pp. 731-741. Lynn’s past and suggest fresh plans for her future, one that will enhance what happiness she derived Woodruff, Mandi. (March 26, 2012). “The Single during her life with Matt. Enhance, not replace. Factor That’s Causing Divorce Rates Among Surely, in time, Andy’s heart will heal as he Boomers to Soar.” Retrieved March 10, 2013 from atmosphere is merry, music playing, people danc- six-month agreement. Instead, Matt, with Fresh- embarks upon a new adventure of his own and tiny.cc/boomer-divorce. ing. As we share Christmas dinner, laughter surfs Ex at his side, has recklessly given up his and shares — or doesn’t — his parents’ separate on waves of jolly repartee and glasses clink. Yet, Lynn’s secret to mutual friends during a party, Green, Janice. (2013). Divorce After 50: Your Guide new adventures. Judgments withheld — we all to the Unique Legal & Financial Challenges. NOLO, seated beside me, young Andy Harlow’s face bares and without Lynn’s knowledge. Happy New make fools of ourselves at least once in our lives second edition. inconsolable sadness, a grief he isn’t sharing with Year, darling. anyone tonight. Andy’s color is off; his eyes pool Matt isn’t malevolent, yet his actions hurt and tears. I want to ask what’s wrong, but refrain; humiliate his former partner, and, too, his son, he doesn’t want to talk about it, not now, Andy. By January 2, Matt’s new partner, Fresh- maybe never. (Days earlier, Andy’s parents Ex, has spread the word of their affair. Matt told him about the divorce.) stops coming home. Lynn feels both privately New Year’s Eve night: A party brings us all to- and publicly betrayed and humiliated. gether again. All, except for Matt Harlow. Matt Their friends and families react with incredu- tells Lynn he’s meeting old friends from out of lity, followed by group depression. We are one big town and will stop in at the party later, around collectively bleeding heart. Why couldn’t Matt midnight. After three decades of trusting his ev- wait just two more weeks until the end of the six- ery word, Lynn believes him. Unknown to Lynn, month period to swing from the trees, or else just unknown to anyone at this party, Matt is attend- have sex with someone outside the social bound- ing another party nearby with a circle of friends aries of his and Lynn’s mutual friends, sparing that somewhat incestuously fringes on our own Lynn the humiliation and hurt that accompanies rather flexible circle. gossip and rumors? At midnight, Matt fails to appear at Lynn’s Lynn asks herself, “Can I know someone that side. Matt, we learn days later, went home with intimately and be so utterly duped by him?” Fresh-Ex, the former wife of a mutual friend, In Matt’s defense, when an offer of — if not who is himself still healing from a nasty divorce illicit still in very poor taste — sex stares him from Fresh-Ex. While Matt and Fresh-Ex see in the face, why should he bother searching fireworks this night, Lynn — clueless — returns farther afield? I call this the Adventure of the home and waits up for him. In the wee hours Libidinous Lazy. The reason he should’ve trav- of New Year’s Day, Matt finally comes home. eled farther afield to visit the funhouse is out of To his credit, he confesses his lie, his betrayal respect for his longtime partner. Hadn’t anyone of their agreement, and, worse, that he’s having told Matt that you don’t do your business in an affair with Fresh-Ex, who Lynn had thought your own front yard? was a friend. Behold the humiliated partner, who certainly Two weeks shy of the deadline, the newly wanted a severance of the problematic bond. besotted Matt seems to have forgotten about the Lynn wonders: Will their mutual friends desert

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Playing Hide & Seek With Our Memories The science behind our aging brains

by Stephan J. Smith Doctor of Chiropractic

“She was wearing a blue shirt when you don’t pay close enough attention or drinking in excess may also cause we met her. I know it!” to what you’re doing; for example, for- the brain to degenerate more quickly. “No, dear. You’re remembering it getting why you walked into a room. There is an upside to the aging wrong; that shirt was white!” Blocking: that “on-the-tip-of-your- brain, however. As we get older, Ever have this kind of conversation tongue” inability to recall a name, memories from our earlier life come and thought either you or your partner place or word. into sharper focus, often referred to as © 2014 Created for Liv Fun by SkyDogCreations © 2013 Satori Publishing must be headed toward mental doom? Misattribution: remembering the Reminiscence Effect. The child- For many of us, the mere mention of something accurately in part, but get- hood memories we treasure and those ACROSS 41 Days in Roman week? DOWN 31 Some helicopter landing gear the words “memory loss” is enough to ting some details wrong. of our teenage and early adulthood 1 Fellow 42 Smallest amount of an element 1 Sailing need, usually 33 Socrates’ meeting spot invoke a mild panic attack. We all have Suggestibility: happens when seem to carry more weight. There is 5 Be the ham 43 Some people are this way 2 German title 34 Card game those moments of mental lapse, but, your mind combines information from also evidence that suggests memories 10 Stunned 44 Maker of aircraft and lawn mowers 3 Of air (prefix) 36 Vane direction especially with all the recent attention after an event with memories of the can resurface after years of being 14 Walk unsteadily 46 Salon choice (abbr.) 4 Schemes 38 Moral transgression on Alzheimer’s disease and dementia, original event. forgotten, like unearthing a mental 15 Outcast 47 Visited Wendy’s 5 Ferrell movie 39 Modern music genre the threat of looming memory loss can Bias: your personal point of view, time capsule. 16 Cuisine type 48 Before suit or after all 6 Beauty mark, sometimes 44 Female fowl certainly evoke fear. experiences, beliefs, and even your The important thing to remember 17 Cinematic adventurer 49 Shade of blue 7 Type of agate 45 Canine registrar Let’s relax a little bit and understand mood act as a filter through which is that, while a 70-year-old may show 19 Increase 51 Beam of light 8 Camping equipment 48 Clever and funny person that, for the most part, memory loss is your memory is stored in your brain a decline in certain memory-related 20 Contacted by mail 52 Type of precipitation 9 Sea eagle 50 Lock type normal. Beginning as early as our mid- and can affect its accuracy. abilities, overall brain function re- 21 Contact list entry (abbr.) 54 After cable or train 10 Aweigh 53 Assistants twenties, our brains slowly become Persistence: these are memories mains strong for most people. Current 22 Catchers’ equipment 56 What a hippie might do 11 Adventurous place for rafting 55 Indian prince (var.) less efficient at making those neural you can’t seem to forget; often they research shows that the average senior 23 Concorde was one 58 Scary sound? 12 Direction in a Steinbeck title 56 Alternative to a basement connections that allow us to remember are traumatic or horrifying events that performs as well as many 20-some- 25 Run easily 61 Nigerian Port 13 Quits 57 Corn _____ names, places, words, and all the things continually surface to torment your things on certain cognitive tests. 26 Crow sound 65 What to do before you shoot 18 For fear that 58 Baseball tactic we have to do. emotions. Of course, if you are concerned 29 Beer source 66 The adventurous may do this 22 After Sun. 59 It might be enough According to Harvard Medical Several studies suggest that engaging about memory problems, talk to your 31 ___ serif (var.) 68 Heche or Hathaway 24 One undesirable product of smoking 60 Stare lecherously School’s Harvard Health Publications in social or intellectual activities chal- doctor to rule out any medical prob- 32 Part of a Tolstoy title 69 Dad’s brother 25 Set 62 Sanskrit teacher Webpage, there are seven types of lenge our brains and cause brain cells lems. Otherwise enjoy the ride, laugh 35 The duck in Peter and the Wolf 70 Location 26 Snake variety 63 Sign normal memory problems that all of to be larger and have more dendrites, when you have to, and relax. While 37 Adventures can be this 71 Hospital size units 27 Approximately 64 They may have hot springs us face as we mature. Do any of these which leads to more interconnectiv- your memory may not be as quick as 39 Sauce brand 72 Common alloy of iron 28 Place for Alice’s adventures 66 One way across town sound familiar? ity with other brain cells. These same it was in your younger years, it’s still 40 German university city 73 Attila’s people 30 Spin around 67 Elongated fish Transience: the tendency to forget studies show that lack of such stimula- there when you need it. u facts or events over time. tion causes the opposite effect. Genetic BRAIN GAMES ANSWERS ON PAGE 42 Absentmindedness: occurs when traits, exposure to toxins, or smoking

16 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 17 Money Matters Common Sense and Professional Advice “There are people who have money and people who are rich.” — Coco Chanel No Day But Today A fresh financial perspective on your real bucket list. © Thiinkstock Images by James H. Lewis Owner, Kokopelli Financial Management in Brighton, MI

recently attended my wife’s pital lobby where there stood a piano. 1) Family matters. Family has All of your life’s adventures brought out of nowhere, Doris chimes in with, much money you need to maintain grandmother’s funeral in St. Barely able to speak, she gestured a lot of different meanings, and it you to here, so drop the unnecessary. “Pour me some beer too!” I wish I your current lifestyle for the foreseeable Louis. I know, what a way to start toward it, and her aide wheeled her doesn’t have to be your blood kin. To Find peace in where you are, and then had a picture of her daughter’s face at future and how much you expect to a story. But stay with me on this. close. Doris reached out her hands, a me family includes the people you consider making changes in ways that that moment. There sat Doris at the have left at the end of your life. II mention Doris, the grandmother, smile on her face, and stroked the keys consider close enough that if they were will help you be happier. wonderful age of 88, slurping on a Take half of the amount that will because, even at the age of 95, she was to play one last song. gone from your life you would greatly 4) See each day as an opportu- beer and noshing on her pizza, loving be left over (the other amount is independent and self-sufficient right Doris lived her passion to the end, miss them. Studies consistently show nity to grow. Like Doris, live your life every minute of it. your rainy day fund just in case), and up to the very last month she was alive. staying “awake” to the adventure of that family and friends are the building with a sense of adventure and passion. So how do these five rules relate to consider it available to do the things Until the end she lived her life wide life and catching every single moment. blocks to a long and fulfilling life. Keep that sense of wonderment to your finances? Simply put, you can’t that make you truly happy. Knock open to the magic of being alive. Doris knew what was important in 2) Make memories. Holiday what the day may hold, and never let take it with you, and while you can a few more destinations off your One of Doris’ greatest passions was her life. Not money, not possessions, get-togethers or Sunday dinners with those moments slip by without reach- leave a legacy to your heirs, you can bucket list, or give a big gift to your music. She was a music teacher for but the things that make our souls sing. friends; family vacations at the lake; ing for them. also use your finances now to share favorite charity. Buy a piano for your years, so for her, playing the piano and A financial planner by trade, I am or that Wednesday afternoon bridge 5) There is no day but today. your passions and life experiences with senior center, or enroll in a class at singing were natural ways to express privileged to help people in all walks of game. However they are formed, mak- This reminds me of a time with the people who matter most. This, in the community college. herself. She always mixed that passion life and of all financial backgrounds. ing those happy memories with your Doris and my in-laws; we were at a my opinion, is what makes us rich. Working with your financial plan- with a starry-eyed sense of adventure, During my career, I have learned “family” is what life’s all about. pizza joint (if ever in Dayton, OH, Not sure if you can afford to live out ner, make a plan to spend some of never wanting to miss anything as she much from them and have compiled 3) Love where you are. Be OK and you like thin-crust pizza, check your dreams in the moment? Meet that “happy” money. No matter how traveled through her life. this knowledge into five simple rules with where you are in your life. Realize out Marion’s Pizza), and I ordered with your financial planner/investment you keep your passion and sense of The day before she passed away, she for happiness: that, whatever challenges you face, a pitcher of beer for the table. My person, and share your thoughts on adventure alive, there truly is no day was being wheeled through the hos- you are where you are supposed to be. in-laws politely refused the beer; then what’s important to you. Ask them how but today. u

18 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 19 Savvy Sage But what about the space in between our of these sources ask us to check in with On Being an Elder adventures, the often uncomfortable time ourselves to see what is important and offer when things seem out of balance or without ideas that may stimulate us to grow in ways focus? What can we learn from these times that are satisfying and meaningful. when we feel somewhat off course? I am inspired by my 60-something friend Renee Rose Shield defines this state as who just returned from an adventure. She “liminality” (Rose, 1997), an anthropologi- had a strong desire to connect with the cal term that comes from the Latin word elders and the shamans living in the moun- meaning a “threshold.” It is an ambiguous, tainous region of Columbia. She embarked in-between time, a transitional state, often on this journey with a combination of connected with a process or change, such as planning, what she could manage to carry retiring from a career you love or moving on her back, and faith, not knowing for into an assisted living community. sure if she would be allowed entry into the A Time to Reset Your Compass Shield explains that there are three parts community. She left seeking and returned to creating change in our lives. The first is glowing with a renewed sense of purpose by Sandy Sabersky letting go of the past, the second is being in and meaning in her life. limbo (the liminal phase), and the third is In winter, seeds lie dormant, waiting out Founding Director of Elderwise creating a new path. She explains that the the winter. Likewise, I believe, our ideas for use of ritual during these three parts can our future plans lie quiescent, biding their Using the Space Between Your Adventures to Chart Your Next Course offer support and understanding as we move time for the right season. from letting go to moving forward. I am in one of those transitional, in-limbo These liminal stages may not be comfort- stages of my life right now. For the past 18 able but are a good opportunity to reset our years, I have given my all to starting a non- here is no doubt that life is a series of adventures. compass. Just as sailors adjust their course profit business. It is now clearly time for me in the calm after a storm, we can make to let go of running the business and make At times we are on rough seas with no land in use of this time in between to refocus and way for the next stage, both for the business sight; this might feel like an exhilarating challenge find a new path. The liminal state offers an and myself. But for now I am in limbo, nei- important pause, a time out, where we may ther here nor there. The skies seem cloudy, orT a hopeless battle. At other times when the seas are question, reevaluate, struggle, and come out and I am unable to get my bearings. calmer, we might have a feeling of peace or be lulled the other side with a new direction that is I think back to the Shield article and her closer to our authentic selves. suggestion to use a “letting-go” ritual when into a bored complacency. What are we seeking? When I do a survey leaving one phase of life and entering into Whether our adventures involve climbing mountains or of my friends, I come up with ideas like: another. Perhaps this will free me to reimag- To become whole ine my future without old assumptions. I crossing seas, all adventures broaden our awareness and To find our way home can’t say that it is a barrel of fun, but I have help us think outside the box — outside of what society, To be present hope that I will emerge from this period To be OK when life is hard with my compass set to a course that is ever our parents, a spouse, or even what we ourselves might To hold it together for the family closer to my true north. u expect from our lives. To go to the source To be part of a community Sources: To make change in the world Thomas, Bill, Ph.D. (2014). Second Wind: To be satisfied with our path Navigating the Passage to a Slower, Deeper and More And, with the additional years allotted “I am in limbo, neither here nor there. Connected Life. Simon & Schuster. us due to the increasing lifespan, there are people to help us find our way to contin- Shield, Renee. (1997). “Liminality in an Amer- The skies seem cloudy, and I am ued meaning in life. For example, AARP ican Nursing Home: The Endless Transition” has a program called “Life Reimagined” found in The Cultural Context of Aging: Worldwide unable to get my bearings.” that encourages seniors to look at their Perspectives, 2nd edition; edited by Sokolovsky, lives from a fresh perspective; there is a Jay. Bergin and Garvey, Westport, CT. Website called Encore Career that helps Pauley, Jane. (2014). Your Life Calling: Reimagin- elders “combine purpose, passion and a ing the Rest of Your Life. Simon & Schuster. paycheck”; and there are recent books by Read more about “Life Reimagined” at www. Dr. Bill Thomas (Thomas, 2014) and Jane LifeReimagined.aarp.org. Pauley (Pauley, 2014) that help us navigate what can be the most challenging — and Learn about Encore Careers at www.

Storm Photo: © Nihat ?pekti / Compas Illustration LongQuattro most fulfilling — stage of our lives. All encore.org.

20 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 21 — Born That Way? What is it about us adventurous souls that compels us to throw off the mooring lines?

by Tammy Kennon Writer, sailor, traveler, photographer and blogger © Becky Rockwood ©

22 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 23 ” I shouted. But if I have the walkabouts, some “Land ho!“There’s an people have the flyabouts. Take Louise island on the horizon!” Varley, for instance, if you can catch her. It was 1968, and I was 8 years old. To At 60, she now lives in Chichester, Eng- those outside my imagination, my sailboat land, but she’s also set up house in Mexi- looked like a willow tree and my ocean a co, Turkey, Sri Lanka and Trinidad. And bumpy stretch of Bermuda grass with a those are just the places that came up in a clothesline strung across it. short conversation, along with her sport- But in my fanciful head, I was not in ing interests over the years, such as diving, landlocked New Mexico but on the vast fencing and skiing. Like me, she too took blue sea, barking orders at my rapscallion to the water. crew. Every day was a new adventure, “I met someone in Trinidad and went sailing on brisk sea breezes and exploring off to sail around the world,” she says, as exotic landscapes. if she had simply hitched a ride to the These backyard play sessions were just supermarket and back. Her two years symptoms of my adventurous spirit rear- of sailing on a 36-foot boat included an ing up. My mother was constantly pluck- entire circumnavigation of the globe. ing me out of questionable predicaments, But the adventurous spirit doesn’t like when I was teetering on top of the always exhibit itself so dramatically. It upright piano at two years old or tumbling can be expressed in other ways, like trying headfirst into a swimming pool when I every sports fad that comes along, making was five. perpetual career changes, or collecting And that sense of adventure was not exotic flowers. something I outgrew. My territory just And sometimes it springs up in a sur- expanded. By my mid-30s, I had lived in prisingly daring way, like Martha Enson, eight states, visited 39 of them, and trav- the 50-year-old performer in Seattle. She eled to 11 countries — and that’s when I calls herself a theater performer, creator really upped the ante. and producer, but what she really does are Those childhood imaginings were gravity- and death-defying aerial acrobat- either prescient foreshadowing or dress ics up in the air — on ropes. rehearsals for the way my life played out “I think of being adventurous as being some 40 years later. When I was 50, my scared and then leaning into it,” Martha husband and I sold all our possessions, says. “If I don’t know where I’m going, our house, cars and wine shop and set and I’m excited to go there, that’s an off on a real sailboat, a rapscallion crew adventure!” of two. Every day was a new adventure, But where does this spirit of adventure sailing on brisk sea breezes and explor- originate? Do we adventurers exist to ing exotic landscapes. Countless times in those who study the human mind? four years of sailing, we saw islands rise It turns out that we do, according to Art up on the horizon, more exhilarating than Markman, Ph.D. and professor in Psychol- it had been from my willow tree cockpit, ogy and Marketing at The University of but without the reassurance of my mom’s Texas at Austin. PB&J sandwiches. Photos by Tammy Kennon © 2014 Tammy Photos by

24 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 25 “You still might travel the world when you’re old, but skip the whitewater rafting.”

“A personality characteristic called While it’s easy to envision the stereotypi- ‘openness to experience’ tells you how cal 25-year-old adventurer armed with a much you value trying new things, any- backpack and a sleeping bag, it’s not so thing from traveling the world to testing easy to picture what the 70- or 80-year-old the latest restaurant,” Dr. Markman said in adventurer looks like. a phone interview. “The openness will linger, but it will be As the only wanderer in a family of less likely to be base jumping,” Dr. Markman deep-rooted oaks, all still planted within five says. “You still might travel the world when miles of home, I asked Dr. Markman if this you’re old, but skip the whitewater rafting.” openness to experience is a virus I caught in Martha the acrobat plans to practice her childhood or if it’s hidden somewhere far physical derring-do as long as it feels right. back in my gene pool. “If it’s thrilling, do it!” she says. “Why do “Personality characteristics in general you want to be doing mundane things?” and openness to experience specifically Louise’s wanderlust seems well intact. have strong genetic components,” says Dr. “There are trips I haven’t done yet,” she Markman. “Environment does not have a says. “I’ve never been to Africa, so that’s a huge impact.” gap I’ve got to fill.” This genetic gift of openness to experi- She also wants to go to the Far East and ence is one of the so-called Big Five Person- would love to go diving again. ality Traits that some researchers believe are “Oh, I’ve thought of something else!” she the broad categories making up our temper- says. “I’m learning to ride a motorbike.” aments. The Big Five — openness, extraver- And as for me, my willow tree wanderlust sion, agreeableness, conscientiousness and still keeps me moving, but I’m flirting with neuroticism — are the main ingredients in land for a while, content to spend a month our personality recipe, and we all have dif- in Paris, four months in Annapolis, two fering measurements of each. A quick Web months on Seattle’s beautiful Vashon Island. search will reveal a dozen online quizzes to And what’s next? Look, there’s an island measure your personal recipe. on the horizon! u “Parents who try to dampen their little dare- To see photos from the author’s many adven- devil end up just encouraging it,” he said. tures, go to http://tiny.cc/tammyk Photo by Tammy Kennon © 2014 Tammy Photo by

26 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 27 Advice for the Journey Personal Advice and Expert Opinions

by Evan Kimble Psychotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) © D. Hurst / Alamy © D. Hurst /

Q: My husband and I are taking a trip to France this • While traveling, carry appropriate snack foods and help year. I’ve been there once before, when I was young- him remember to eat through the day. Staying hydrated is er. I’m excited to revisit special places and discover also important, especially when flying. new ones. My husband, on the other hand, is reluc- Reassure your husband that food will be similar enough tant and apprehensive about the trip. He’s not big in France that he’ll be able to eat a typical balance of carbs, on traveling. Also, he has diabetes, and he’s anxious proteins and fats, although you’ll need to account for addi- about managing that while we travel. We haven’t tional wine he might consume. Plan downtime after arrival worked out our itinerary, and I feel it’s all up to me and in between locations to be sure your husband gets ad- to make arrangements. What can I do to make this equate rest. Perhaps schedule fewer activities per day than trip happen and make it work for both of us? you might otherwise. Most importantly, be compassionate A: Congratulations! You’ve won your dream trip to about your husband’s concerns and reassure him that you Europe! It comes with everything, including a reluctant, are there for him and will help in any way to make the trip anxious husband with medical concerns and an extra suit- a good one for him. case full of anxiety! Rest assured that people in France have diabetes too, so A medical condition like diabetes is a challenge under any the medical community there is well equipped to handle circumstances. So it’s understandable that your husband has any problems. Be sure you can communicate his condi- some concerns about being in a foreign country. I would tion in the local language (diabétique = diabetic person), but start this project by doing some research on traveling with don’t be afraid to ask for English-speaking help. You’ll of- diabetes. If you can reassure your husband, maybe you can ten find it gladly offered if you make an attempt to speak get him more excited about the trip. in French first. Once your hubby feels more confident, hopefully he’ll Here are a few tips for traveling with a medical con- join you in choosing places to visit and things to do. It’s OK dition like diabetes: to remind him that you need support too, and this is a way • Visit your husband’s doctor for advice ahead of time, and he can show it. If you still can’t get his involvement — then get a letter for airport security for carrying needles and lucky you, you get to call the shots! Revisit favorite memo- supplies. Pack any medications in their original, pharma- ries and make new ones. If you are having trouble sorting cy-labeled bottles for easy identification at the security out where to stay, surf the Internet, get a guidebook, ask checkpoint. friends for advice, or contact a travel agent — they still exist and can be very helpful. Even if you can’t get your husband • Split his medical supplies between your suitcases, and involved, you don’t have to plan the whole thing alone. carry-on a spare blood glucose monitor, test strips, Don’t give up the dream. Travel, live and enjoy! u syringes, medication and insulin, enough for a few days. Then if there’s any issue with lost luggage, you’ll have at Read more: least a few days before you run out of supplies. You might Find great guidebooks and travel information on France at consider an FDA-approved cooling wallet for the insulin, www.LonelyPlanet.com. available from friouk.com. Book hotels, flights, rental cars and more athttp://www. tripadvisor.com. • Call your insurance company and let them know you’ll Read this helpful guide to traveling with diabetes at http:// be traveling, and be sure you know how to access the care tiny.cc/wise-diabetes. you might need while overseas.

28 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 29 Your Life Well Lived Wellness Advice for Mind, Body and Spirit

56Surrendering Sunsets to a place and a time of solitude by Carol Pearson Managing Editor, Wise Publishing Group

wasn’t the first time I’d been alone. I’d (Long & Averill, 2003) sand drive leading up to my little yellow fortress I wrote self-consciously at first, monitoring my traveled to London on business, flown My own quest was for inner peace — a cessa- of solitude and had a moment of defiant glee. thoughts to please a nonexistent audience, much cross-country on my own any number tion (even temporary) of the chorus of voices in my The first several days would be filled with visits the way I’d judged everything I did in my life, ofIt times, and taken a weekend escape by myself head that had an opinion on every action I took, from family (my daughters, on winter break from with a critical eye and a harsh judgmental tone. now and then. every plan I made. I was desperate to find some college, and my snow-bird parents who were Those inner voices can be a constant to so many But this was different. This was an entirely new inner quiet and turn off the committee that ruled passing through). of us, as Tara Brach explains in her book on rabbit hole. and judged my life. I needed to rid myself of the Still, I carved out some time each evening just radical acceptance. Officially and recently divorced, I was single underlying anxiety I’d been sparring with for years. for me, enjoying the sunset in solitude. I had “Each day we listen to inner voices that keep and solo after 24 years of being married to my Like Alice in Lewis Carroll’s classic novel, I promised myself I would journal while I was our life small,” Brach writes. “The way out of senior prom date. And I was about to spend two felt I’d lost my true voice over the years and was here, having already experienced how healing our cage begins with accepting absolutely everything entire months in an 800-square-foot cottage on speaking, acting and living to please the rest of and powerful the practice could be. about ourselves and our lives.” (Brach, 2003) the Gulf of Mexico, just steps from the ocean on the world — at the expense of myself. As the sun sank down, I began to write: To me, this meant completely accepting my a little spit of sand called Cape San Blas. “You’re not the same as you were before,” the “failed” marriage, my single status, the emotional Intentionally embracing our solitude (as op- Mad Hatter says to Alice. “You were much more Day 1 — Here toll it had taken on our two daughters, and learn- posed to simply experiencing our loneliness) has ... ‘muchier.’ You’ve lost your ‘muchness.’” Arrived just before sunset, after two days in the car. ing to do so without judgment or regret. Talk been shown to have specific benefits — namely, Maybe here I would get my “muchness” back. Serene, peaceful … and so many colors in the sky. It will about a tall order. freedom, creativity, intimacy and spirituality. After two days on the road, I pulled into the be good here. 56 Sunsets: Continued on page 41 © Carol Pearson

30 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 31 Retire Like You Mean It Your Life, Your Rules Highlighting the Leisure Care community, out there grabbing life by the horns, getting things done their way. © Adam Rootman © ThinkStock A Time Like No Other Introducing Our Two Features This Issue Life’s grand adventure continues for two Leisure Care couples

by Olivia Drury & Pat McNamara

here’s just no beatin’ around the bush; Leisure we definitely understand fun. That’s why Travel by TCare residents aren’t your typical retired folks. Leisure Care, our in-house travel agency, is dedicat- They’re skydivers, history buffs, foodies, and down- ed to helping our residents go wherever their fancy right card sharks when dealt the right hand. They’ve takes them, whether it’s the summit of Mt. Kiliman- been around the world and back, fought in wars, jaro, to visit their grandchildren in Texas, or on a and educated the leaders of our nation. They didn’t cruise with their 35 closest and wildest friends. live a boring life before retirement, and they have no intention of starting now. Here are the stories of two couples busy At Leisure Care, we understand adventure, and making new memories. © Photos courtesy of Leisure Care Dave Johnson & Kathy DeShaw Don & Eva Aeschliman Canfield Place, Beaverton, OR Fairwinds – Brittany Park, Woodinville, WA

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For Dave and Kathy, one adventure just keeps rolling into the next. “A” is for Aeschliman and a lifelong adventure in love. Meet Dave Johnson & Kathy DeShaw Meet Don & Eva Aeschliman Canfield Place, Beaverton, OR Fairwinds – Brittany Park, Woodinville, WA by Olivia Drury, Sales and Marketing Coordinator at Leisure Care by Pat McNamara, Sales Advisor at Fairwinds - Brittany Park

“If you could travel anywhere in the Arlington, Washington, called Hum- Place, it just so happened that the only Of course, we think all of our resi- Eva’s life journey began in Radium, headed to Africa instead. Luckily, Don world next week, where would it be?” I ming Angels Alpacas, and he drives one available was across the hall from dents are pretty incredible, but once Kansas. She was raised in Pasadena, and Eva were spontaneous and flexible asked Dave and Kathy. there almost every weekend to mow all Kathy’s apartment. They went from in a while at a Leisure Care commu- California, and graduated from Pasa- in their plans. So, off they went on the “Disney World,” they replied in the fields. eating together, to going out to dinner nity you come across a really special dena City College in 1949. She then freighter to Cape Town. unison. Kathy grew up in Massachusetts and visiting each other’s families, to couple. A couple who not only spent received her nursing degree from the Because of the last-minute assign- I chuckled while asking, “Would you and enjoyed working as a home health holding hands and now dating and their lives together building memo- University of Southern California. ment change, they didn’t have much bring the grandkids along?” aide until she retired at age 63. Kathy traveling the world together. ries, traveling the world, and raising a After graduating, Eva taught nursing time to study up on the area. They “Nah, leave them at home,” they raised three daughters and now has From volunteering together for the wonderful family, but also spent their at Los Angeles General Hospital. experienced quite a culture shock half-jokingly replied. eight grandchildren and one great- School Buddies’ program, working lives serving others and sacrificing their The couple met while Don was when they first stepped foot in Cape You know you’ve got a fun couple on grandchild. In 2008, Kathy moved to out with the PrimeFit personal trainer, own comfort to help better the lives of attending Seminary in Pasadena and Town. Don and Eva recall taking a bus your hands when their dream destina- Canfield Place to be close to one of attending almost every weekly Canfield those less fortunate. rooming with Eva’s brother. Of course, to a restaurant after their long journey tion is Disney World at ages 82 and 79. her daughters, and that’s when she Place excursion, and being the Welcome Don and Eva Aeschliman’s story is Eva’s brother was protective, as broth- to South Africa, but when they arrived Dave and Kathy led two very dif- became good friends with Dave. Ambassadors of the community, Dave filled with love, adventure, fun, and ers usually are, and told Don that Eva at the restaurant, a posted sign read ferent lives until fate brought them When his son was diagnosed with and Kathy truly exemplify “Living commitment to making a positive was his “girlfriend” until he could “Europeans ONLY.” Not wanting to together at Canfield Place in Beaver- cancer in 2011, Dave moved from Or- Better Than Ever” in their retirement. impact in every community to which check Don out as a possible romantic break any of the local laws, they ended ton. In fact, they didn’t become an egon to California to be closer to him. Beyond the fun they have around Bea- they belong. interest for his sister. up eating at a street vendor. Later that official couple until March 2012. They One thing that made the move easier verton, they are also out traveling on a Don was born and raised on a wheat Apparently, Don passed the broth- day, they boarded yet another ship and were lucky enough to find in each for Dave were the friends that he had regular basis together. farm in Colfax, Washington. While er’s test, and Don and Eva married in sailed around the Cape to Swaziland, other a travel companion, best friend made at Canfield Place with whom he One of their more recent trips was attending Washington State University 1951 and began their busy, adventur- one of the smallest countries of South and partner when they moved into our kept in touch after leaving. to Massachusetts for a wedding, where (WSU), Don was a pastor for a church ous life. Africa and a British protectorate at retirement community. One friend in particular was diligent Dave met the majority of Kathy’s fam- in Palouse, Washington. After graduat- Don and Eva were members of that time. Dave lived a busy life in California about calling Dave on a weekly basis ily. We all know that weddings can be ing from WSU, Don joined the Army the interdenominational Evangelical Their time in Swaziland was noth- raising nine kids and working as a to check in with him and see how stressful, especially if it’s the first time for four years and then went on to Mission a few years later when they ing short of a life-changing adventure. firefighter. When he retired to Canfield his son was doing; Kathy was a good you’re meeting the whole family, and graduate from Fuller Theological Sem- packed their suitcases and embarked While there, they ran a boarding school Place, life didn’t slow down all that friend to Dave during his son’s illness Dave agrees. When I asked him how it inary in Pasadena, California. He also with their two young children to what for Swazi children. Don was the “station much for him, especially with all those and passing. went, he laughed a little, took a deep studied at Los Angeles State University they thought was their assignment in head,” and Eva worked as a nurse in grandkids to spoil! Dave’s growing When Dave decided to move back breath and responded, “Interesting!” for two years, taking classes in educa- India. There was a last-minute change family also owns an Alpaca farm in into a studio apartment at Canfield Dave & Kathy: Continued on page 42 tion to prepare for mission work. of plans, and they were suddenly Don & Eva: Continued on page 42

34 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 35 Exclamation-! Point Moments Smelling Salts for the Soul The Grateful Dead Photo © David Mc N ew by Jeff Wozer “Ye Gods, I remember thinking, I’ve become that type of person Humorist and stand-up comedian — the type whose idea of expanding their comfort zone means upgrading to a king mattress.” Proof of adventure’s impact, for me his house who warned of landmines The low point for me occurred last When complacency, mankind’s biggest Dallas Cowboys tissue box covers while line of demarcation. I took one step at least, can be found on the bulletin and claimed one of Thompson’s summer in a Missoula, Montana, Holi- dodge, begins to reduce life to a cheap approxi- watching Nancy Grace. forward and by the speed in which board that hangs to the right of my squawking peacocks ate her missing day Inn when I realized that for the mation, remind yourself that on the other side Zingo! It worked. Two days later the mother vaulted down the tree, desk. It’s cluttered with haphazardly front tooth. first time in my life I preferred hotel of inconvenience lies an adventure. while hiking in Teton National Park you would have thought I had yelled, pinned mementos from past adven- Noticeably absent are reminders of rooms over tents. The awe of waking Of course, I thought after writing I was approached from the opposite “Your cub is ugly!” The bear bluffed tures: a photo of an Anasazi picto- the ordinary. No fast food receipts. No to a choir of birds amid a cathedral of this, adventure when stripped down is direction by two out-of-breath hikers. a charge, stopping after a few feet. graph snapped from inside a cave in television lineups. No photos of friends pines had been supplanted by the awe nothing but an inconvenience — the “Turn back,” they warned. “There’s Acknowledging the danger, I Utah’s Salt Creek Canyon; a 1986 sitting around a computer screen read- of waking to free packaged muffins speed bump to motivation. And any a bear and her cub in the meadow slowly backed away, not making eye Boston Red Sox media pass; a postcard ing pithy Facebook posts. and powdered egg formations. perceived inconvenience becomes ahead.” Sound advice. But since the contact, while rehearsing my Darwin print of a Harvey Dunn painting — Each memento represents a story. A Ye Gods, I remember thinking, I’ve fodder for the left-brain — the mind’s left brain demanded turning back, I Award acceptance speech. Just a Few Drops of Rain — from the memory. A flight from the usual, allow- become that type of person — the type eternal wet blanket. Regaining the zest went forward. I survived, of course. Would I do it South Dakota Art Museum; a room ing life, as writer Jim Harrison would whose idea of expanding their comfort for adventure requires nothing more As I entered the meadow, I made again? No. But its lesson against the receipt from the Taos Inn; several say, to feel like a wild season rather zone means upgrading to a king mattress. than muzzling the left-brain. my presence known by clapping and tyranny of complacency was invalu- favorite ski area patches; a backstage than a ruse. Age steals a lot from us — sight, To accomplish this, I decided to singing. (I only chose to sing because able, a permanent reminder that, pass for Red Rocks; a ticket stub for Yet even with this visual reminder, hearing, the inability to notice we’re visualize the left brain as an annoy- the left-brain thought it foolish.) good or bad, adventure revives the the Grateful Dead at the Saratoga after turning 50 I slipped into an wearing pants too high above the waist ing person who so chafes me that I’ll Midway through, I suddenly soul and colors the minutes, freeing Performing Arts Center; a decal from adventure slump. I had somehow — yet I was not ready to have it fleece do the opposite of what he or she heard claws on a tree. About 30 us from the ruts of routine, making northern Ontario’s Algonquin Pro- allowed the pursuit of adventure to my understanding of the importance demands out of spite. I immediately yards ahead, on the far side of the every moment, regardless of our age, vincial Park; several photos of writer tumble down life’s priority list, treat- of exclamation-point moments. pictured it as a Texas homeowners meadow, I spotted the mother and its feel like a wild season. u Hunter S. Thompson’s backyard ing it like some ill-advised fad on par To snap my adventure slump, I sat association president named Vanessa, cub scurrying up a lodgepole pine. snapped during an impromptu tour of with platform shoes and belief in the at my hotel room’s desk and wrote the who wears an I-sell-real-estate hairdo Instant wow. But in my amazement, his grounds given by a female guest at political system. following reminder: and spends her evenings crocheting I forgot that every bear has its own

36 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 37 Ethics and Spirituality Reflections and Contemplations on Life and Living Surgery forces a lifelong giver to look at receiving as a learning opportunity.

by Elana Zaiman AN D Rabbi, chaplain and writer in Seattle

or the past several months, When I looked at my list, I real- through my first week (though she Roberta, my PT, has been ized I was in big trouble. It was full of would have been here anyway, asked helping me strengthen excuses. The same excuses that many or not). She was my personal care- core muscles I never knew have given me when I’ve reached out to giver, waitress, laundry folder, nurse, existed.F Recently, she taught me how help them. The same excuses that I’ve and my greatest emotional support. to walk with crutches in preparation debunked for others time and again. My husband continues to take care of for the first of two hip arthroscopy Now I had to debunk them for myself. me and keep the homestead going. He surgeries for femoroacetabular im- is shopping, driving, cooking, guiding Here’s where I landed: pingement (FAI). me up and down stairs and in and out At first I fumbled along, unable to 1. When I’m honest with myself, I realize of the shower, filling my ice bucket, translate her verbal instructions into that I’m never fully in control, that rarely replenishing my ice packs, making me physical movements my legs would do I do something from start to finish breakfast, and leaving me lunch. understand. I was always putting the without help. I don’t grow my own food, My son picks up items I drop and wrong foot forward, especially when sew my own clothing, or get through life helps me move my books and elec- going up and down stairs, until she without friends, family or mentors. tronic devices from one room to the offered this refrain: “Up with the good. next. Friends are dropping off meals, 2. When I reach out to help others, I Down with the bad.” flowers, fruits and gifts. They are don’t feel imposed upon. Simple and wise advice, not only for emailing, calling, visiting, listening, I reach out to help them because I which foot was to take the lead but also and offering me rides to my doctor want to, because giving adds meaning as a metaphor for the attitude to take and PT appointments. to my life and makes me feel whole. toward surgery and its aftermath: up One friend, during her visit a few with healing, down with pain. 3. When I offer to help someone, I days after surgery when I was in While Roberta helped me to prepare never think, “This person owes me a lot of pain, even called my sur- my body, I also knew I had to prepare something.” On the contrary, I think, geon’s office, explained my inability my mind — and I don’t mean just “I hope my doings are helpful.” My to tolerate certain medications and readying my mind for surgery. I mean only desire is that the person I’ve worked with the nurse to figure out adopting a whole new approach to ac- helped is someday able to offer help an alternative. She also helped to al- cepting help after surgery. I’ve always to others when they need it, that he or leviate my fear of becoming addicted been better caring for others than she is able to pass the help forward. to painkillers by telling me it was not I’ve been letting others care for me: After debunking my list of excuses, my MO and by explaining to me Asking for or accepting help has never I realized it was time to take my own that painkillers were crucial to my been my strength. As my surgery date teachings to heart and to embark on healing because they would give my neared, I was determined to change an adventure of asking. system a rest from the extra cortisol it my ways, and I began by asking myself I sent an email to family and was producing. why I had such a hard time accepting friends telling them of my upcom- As I move into my second week help from others. ing surgeries; thanking them for any of healing, I’ve invested my PT’s © Goodluz healing thoughts and/or prayers, refrain with an additional metaphor: Here’s what I realized: calls, check-ins, visits or e-mails they Up with letting myself be loved and 1. I like to believe that I am self- would send my way; and letting them cared for. Down with trying to do it sufficient. know how hard it was for me to ask all alone. “After debunking my list of excuses, for and accept help. My only question is this: Why 2. I don’t want to impose on others. It’s now one week post-surgery, and did I wait more than half a century I realized it was time to take my own teachings to heart.” 3. I don’t want to owe anyone here’s what I can report: My mom to learn the very lesson I’ve been anything. flew across the country to get me spreading for years? u

38 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 39 Entertain Your Brain: Continued from page 9 56 Sunsets: Continued from page 31 Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World (2003) Nautical readers are so infatuated with Patrick O’Brian’s seafaring novels that this 2003 film adaptation probably had too many expectations surrounding it. But taken on its own, it’s both a ripping adventure yarn and a delicate character study — the latter coming mostly in its look at the friendship between Capt. Jack Aubrey (Russell Crowe in fine form) and Dr. Stephen Maturin (Paul Bettany), whose voyages during the Napoleonic Wars are tracked by O’Brian through his literary series. Director Peter Weir makes us believe we’re aboard H.M.S. Surprise, as we hear every groan- ing timber and flapping sail; the ship’s derring-do off the coast of South America is marvelous to behold. A side trip to the Galapagos Islands — the film’s only sequence on land — gives a heady glimpse of nature in full flower, a contrast to the civilized warfare of men. For all the fun, the film leaves behind a lovely sense of how Aubrey and Maturin keep the human flame burning despite their extreme circumstances. They read, they play music (violin and cello), they hold deep conversations. Finding one’s place on the compass has more than one meaning in this watery world. “You’re not the same as you were before. You were much more ... ‘muchier.’ You’ve lost your ‘muchness.’” MUSIC REVIEWS — The Mad Hatter

The mystery of what’s next, the unexpected journeys of our lives and our relationships, © Carol Pearson expressed through music, for your enjoyment. The days took on their own kind it off. There is nothing wrong, there is no one up to head home, peaceful and relaxed, by Joe Rodriguez / Freelance music writer of rhythm, crashing and receding like judging me, and everything is fine. Enough spent yet happy, ready to get back and the waves outside the cottage door. already. I can’t believe I used to live this way start writing my next chapter: “The River & The Thread” (Album) — Rosanne Cash, 2013 In that rhythm, I found time for deep all the time. introspection every morning while I Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. writes that the Day 56 — As Is Johnny Cash’s daughter took a trip down through the Deep South to help restore her father’s child- meditated or walked on the beach and simple fact of being solo means we are While I might not see the long road ahead, I hood home. During the journey, she immersed herself in her family’s roots and learned more about calm reflection in the evenings as the not monitored or judged by our usual see the next step in front of me, and I put my herself in the process. The musical results take us down the twists and turns of the backcountry sun sizzled out in the waves. suspects. “In this state of unselfcon- foot firmly in front of me again, walking on. below the Mason-Dixon Line. Delivering a smooth mix of folk, blues and old-time country, the While I could feel a growing peace, scious being we are free to think, free Life is roaringly beautiful … and I walk on. songs trace her lineage. “When the Master Calls the Roll” takes the listener back to the Civil War, it came at the price of fresh anxieties to listen to our hearts without external Like Alice, emerging from the rabbit during which Cash’s ancestors fought on both sides of the battlefield. “The Sunken Lands” is her and fears as my old demons fought to interpretation.” (DePaulo, 2011) hole, on the drive home I left behind way of sharing the experience of growing up in Arkansas, her father’s boyhood home. The gems hang on: Halfway through my time on the the crazy but self-inflicted characters, on this album are strung along like the small towns that grace the Mississippi. Give The River & The beach, I knew this was true. I was ignoring the Queen of Hearts’ decree Thread a listen and be transported. Day 7 surprised to realize one day that my to chop off my head and throwing her Had the familiar welling up of an anxiety anxiety, that old familiar “friend” I playing cards back in her face. It was attack today, and hated every moment of it. lived with for so many years, was gone, time to live my own life, in all its messy, “There’s a Light Beyond These Woods (Mary Margaret)” (Single) — Nanci Griffith, Triggered by … the change of plans? The gray replaced by … nothing. I felt calm, glorious muchness. u There’s a Light Beyond These Woods (Mary Margaret), 1978 day? Whatever the cause, it seems the closer I present and at peace: The debut album from Nanci Caroline Griffith, a kindergarten teacher turned folk singer-song- get to breaking free of my past patterns of fear writer, contains this title track named for her best friend. It weaves a somewhat auto-biographical and anxiety, the more I recognize the symptoms Day 28 — Halfway to Here Sources: story of two best friends planning for adventure and determined to see the world outside their when they start. I will not go back to living Life is meant to be joyous. Creation sings all Portions of this article originally ap- small town. In reality, Griffith was the one who stayed home and settled down while Margaret went this way … and maybe my ego knows this around us every day. Yet we have decided to peared in the author’s blog, “56 Sunsets” to NYC to live out the wild fantasies they dreamed of when they were young. Eventually, Griffith and is doing all it can to keep its hold. cloak the experience in fear … fear of losing on Tumblr.com. To read more, visit becomes the adventurous traveler, singing and playing clubs and living out the life she always imag- I went through a painful week or so what we have, afraid to try something new capesanblas.tumblr.com. ined. This song catapulted Griffith from small-town Texas teacher to award-winning country artist where I couldn’t go deep, could barely because we might lose that too … and so in whose career has spanned more than 30 years. muster up a handful of sentences at the the process, we lose the only thing it is possible Brach, Tara, Ph.D. (2003). Radical Accep- end of each day, afraid of the thoughts to experience — the moment. tance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of that were forcing their way to the sur- Yet, I knew it still lurked, waiting for a Buddha. New York: Bantam Dell. “Life Is An Adventure” (Single) — Violent Femmes, Viva Wisconsin, 1999 face. I spent my time frying oysters and a moment of weakness to rear up, but I DePaulo, Bella, Ph.D. (2011). “Not Mon- baking blueberry pies, anything to keep accepted that, embraced it as part of my itored, Not Judged — One of the True This obscure gem really never saw the light of day until it was tossed on to the Rock!!! album, com- my mind off the obvious issue. past and a possibility for my future. And Joys of Living Solo?” PsychologyToday.com, prised of throw-away tracks from past releases. The track, which enjoyed new life on the live album Finally a huge truth dawned on me: in accepting it, it somehow lost a signifi- accessed March 17, 2014. Viva Wisconsin is an autobiographical depiction of this Milwaukee alternative post-punk band and cant amount of its power over me. their “we are just going to go on this path and not look back” attitude. The message is simple: If Long, Cristopher & Averill, James. Day 15 I threw myself into the next month, you believe in yourself and are willing to live without fear of what is ahead, then life will always be (2003). “Solitude: An Exploration of the Fear tried to grab me today, the old anxiety facing the tough emotional work and Benefits of Being Alone.” Journal for the an adventure. Just do what you want to do, live for the here and now, and don’t look back. Rock! about work, earning my own way in life, embracing the ever-growing sense of Theory of Social Behavior, 33, 21-44. future, etc. Took a bit of doing, but I shook inner peace. One month later, I packed

40 LIV FUN / SUMMER 2014 SUMMER 2014 / LIV FUN 41 Dave and Kathy: Continued from page 34 foods, but most of all, they liked visiting with the people — many of whom loved to talk with tourists and share stories Dave and Kathy enjoy all kinds of trips, but they both about their country. agree that the ones with family are the best. They regularly We asked Don and Eva for some insight on how to keep visit the Seattle area to visit Dave’s kids in Snoqualmie. Last travel fun and stress-free. Their advice includes, “Travel light, summer, they took a road trip down to California to meet and don’t take a lot of junk. Remember that people are the “i’m fit as a fiddle.” Dave’s second great-grandson the week after he was born. most important thing in life because they are all made in the This summer, they are planning to go on an Alaskan cruise image of God.” u And this fiddle has some nice biceps, too. with their kids. And when their time isn’t booked up with family visits, they manage to get in trips to places like Mar- seilles, Barcelona, Monaco and Florence. I asked Kathy what her favorite city was on their Euro- pean adventure, and she replied with certainty, “Florence, because that’s where Dave bought me a diamond ring.” What’s their secret to enjoying their trips together? Their advice is simple and clear: “Always go someplace where you can both do things you enjoy.” u

Don and Eva: Continued from page 35 the dispensary. They lived in extremely primitive conditions without electricity or running water, and the closest hospital involved traveling across a river and 60 miles of dirt road. Still, during their three-year stay in Swaziland in these rural condi- tions, they had two more children. Don and Eva were transferred to Johannesburg, which also brought them a home with running water and electricity. They started and built many churches in Johannesburg and trained many pastors. From Johannesburg, they were transferred back BRAIN GAMES ANSWERS / From Page 16 to Cape Town where Don started the Cape Town Evangeli- Answers to Crossword Puzzle cal Bible Institute for All, which is still operating and teaching many students each year. Don and Eva were able to increase enrollment from the initial two students to 30. Eva taught at the school and created a course on “the Christian Home,” which focused on how to raise children peacefully. Take advantage of the PrimeFit fitness program brought to you by Leisure Care. Eva has built a beautiful tea cup collection, most of which Your own fiddle will thank you. she gathered while in South Africa. She says that “tea was very important in South Africa. None of the housewives worked in At Leisure Care we understand that fitness often takes a backseat to, well, lots of other those days. So, we got together at 10 o’clock every morning for tea. Toward the end of each gathering, someone would stuff. Which is precisely why everything about our PrimeFit fitness program has been de- inevitably look at their watch and say, with their British accent, signed to be fun, motivating and convenient. And, you will be glad to know, the exercise ‘My, how time flies when you are having a good time. We must be on our way.’” choices are vast. So vast, in fact, that the hardest part will be deciding what to do first. Answers to Sudoku At age 65, Don retired, and they moved back to Colfax, Take a look at a few of the things available at many of our communities: a PrimeFit Washington, and lived on the family farm where Don was raised. Don, again, pastored a number of churches in the area, Gym, Balance Builders, walking programs, recreational sports, aquatic exercise, holistic and Eva worked at the Open Door Pregnancy Center just over offerings, and low-impact exercise. the border in Moscow, Idaho. When Don and Eva officially retired, they didn’t slow down Contact the PrimeFit staff at your local Leisure Care community to learn more. You one bit. They spent a lot of time visiting places like Russia, Bel- might even want to ask them where the saying “fit as a fiddle” comes from. Because we gium, the Scandinavian countries, Turkey, China, the Philip- pines, the Holy Lands, Botswana, Rio de Janeiro and Hawaii. have no idea. Don and Eva mentioned how they found it very rewarding to be able to see many of the graduate students from their schools 1-800-327-3490 now doing missionary work in various countries. www.leisurecare.com While in other countries, they loved to learn the history, see different architectural styles, experience the cultures and

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