HOW WOMEN AND MEN SHOULD IN CHRISTIANITY THROUGHT THEIR LIVES

A guide for every Christian

~~~Don’t allow your dressing create embarrassment for others and eventually tempt them to sexual immorality~~~

Sunday School Lesson

Compiled by

Rev. Olando F. Bette

And

Evangelist Thomas F. Kparkah

June 2019

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HOW WOMEN AND MEN SHOULD DRESS IN CHRISTIANITY THROUGHT THEIR LIVES

Introduction

This study clarifies what and how godly woman should dress; the biblical perspectives of godly dress. However this article has come to challenge, to warn, to correct, to edify and to build the body of Christ according to the foundation of Godliness, because it’s been absent and people are putting on like the way they want in churches and the Pastors are allowing it even telling some people who are naked and half naked that they are smart, this is ridiculous and blasphemy, churches today are like disco clubs because of the Pastors who allow it, just because they have been not called from God and some have crossed to the devil side so they teach according to their own thoughts and minds to feed their bellies and while God’s people think are on track and hence are lost, Christians go to the Church naked, in , patras, in boxers, and some I think now go in knickers if I am not mistaken and pastors allow it? No sense by the way if you find your church ladies or women are wearing pants, leggings, , like as if they are going for prostitution and Men are wearing like artists of music and they put on balance the are under buttocks and they wear pins in the ears, they have plaited Rastafarians and dread locks, just understand that you are in a wrong place of worship, that’s a devil worshiping church, the Pastor of that church is a homosexual and the ladies are lesbians.

If you are really looking for the true God, just know he can’t dwell in such churches where people are naked and half naked. Has God become the partaker of sin now? Of course not. Therefore Be Holy as I am Holy those are the words God told Abraham and now if we serve the God of Abraham we must behave in the same manner. There is one thing I hate about Christians of today who say this is modernity and therefore the generation has changed and we with what is going on. How foolish, has God changed, is God now like a chameleon? So he changes each generation? And when did he communicate that he changed? How foolish and perverse this generation, Christians have now changed God and they he changed according to the Generations, How foolish is that statement. Like I said the article is here to streamline that belongs to the True God of Abraham, Isaac and Israel. God has never changed its we who changed and want to change God according to our stupid desires. Have you not heard in the scriptures where it is written that Jesus Christ is the same, He is of yesterday, Today and Forever More. Hebrews13; 8 or have you not heard where he says he is the Alpha and Omega? The beginning and the end, so when did he change to tell you the type of dressing according to generation? God is Faithful to his Word and his Word has never, Jesus Christ has never changed, the Holy Spirit has never changed, the same who was there during the Apostles and all other generations is the same still. So it’s you who are changing the word of God into your own to please your minds and consciences.

As people who have been enlightened by the light of the true Word of God, we will teach on this. There are several wrong perceptions and teachings about Christian and dressing, and it is better to mention some of them before we share the 4 Biblical Perspectives of Godly Dressing.

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AVOIDING? Avoiding of Bible standard on godly dress. Some Pastors and churches say they don’t have to emphasize on Christian dress or preach against worldly dressing because Jesus didn’t mention anything about it. This assumption and conclusion is erroneous and a deceptive excuse, because Jesus didn’t mention everything during His earthly ministration because His disciples could not understand everything then so He committed the disciples unto the Holy Spirit who would teach them “all things”. So it was the same Spirit of Jesus Christ that inspired the Apostles who unequivocally taught against worldliness and on how Christians should dress. Romans 12:1, 1 Timothy 2:9, 10, 1 Peter 3:3, 4.

ANYTHING GOES? While some preachers and churches are trying to avoid the teaching of godly dress style, some others say anything goes. These type of preachers from America to Africa say your outward look and dressing does not matter to God. They say it is your heart that matters to God not your body or what you wear. This is a pure satanic, destructive doctrine. The Bible states it clear from Old Testament that God is not delighted in His children exposing their nakedness. From Genesis, God made the first clothing for humanity after they fell into sin and were sent out of the Garden of Eden. The LORD God made the clothing from animal skin for a purpose - to cover their nakedness. So from here the primary purpose of clothing, of dressing, is to cover our nakedness. All senses will agree with this, spiritually, physically, philosophically and mentally; that we wear clothes primarily to cover our nakedness. So when a person wears clothes and the nakedness is not properly covered, the person is not just being fashionable but working against God’s natural purpose; that is ungodly and out of sense. If being half naked is the latest , then animals are more fashionable, and humanity has descended below animal.

When a Christian who has the knowledge of the Almighty God claims that she is dressing not to cover her body but for , that Christian is both spiritually and naturally stupid. The Bible admonishes us in Romans 12:1, to present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God. What does that means? God is interested in how you present your body as well your heart. God will not accept half naked presented body. How you present your body is more important to God than the sacrifice you present. He told Moses that the children of Israel should be careful so that their nakedness is not exposed, because that might attracts God’s wrath. Exodus 20:26

Any pastor or church that ignores to teach you biblical ways and manner of proper and godly dressing is an ungodly pastor and church. The deception of the devil to lure many women and even men to hell through worldly dressings are now accepted in many churches, they don't see anything wrong with how you dress, it doesn't matter how you present your body. The kind of wears women can’t wear to night parties about 20 years ago because of natural sense of decency are what our Christian women are wearing to churches today with confidence. The same women are pastor's wives, deaconesses and workers; the same women can speak in tongues of angels and men, they can pray with thunders. Such women are operating under the spirit of Jezebel. At the same time you see Christian brothers doing jerry curls, inordinate hair-do, using earrings and so on.

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Recently I have met an old woman putting on a black panty and I felt low and it was me who was ashamed instead of this old woman she was putting like almost a legging and I wondered is this how really have reached even our grand mothers who were brought up in the generation in which these things were not brought forth. Honestly speaking the devil has gloated himself in the generation of women today and he has gloated himself from the Old to the nursed baby because I see now days even the little kids of one year are putting on leggings really? And you find that family is a Christian family. For sure there is no godliness in this generation, people are walking naked to church and they present themselves in perversity and profanity with impurity and this is not how Godly people should be. And it’s worse in the women so called Pastors they put on like real demons and for sure if a woman Pastor is putting like a real demon how will she bring deliverance in the church into holiness and righteousness? This will not be tolerated anymore because we are fed of such kind, God’s name is blasphemed because of you who take yourself as a believer and yet the Acts are like for the Prostitutes. How will others change do you know that you are the epistles where others read? And don’t you know you are the Open letters where others read? Therefore put on like a person who has a spirit of fear of God in you, Christians today go to church as if it’s a concert no and you call yourself a child of God? Not really that’s the bible is very open on this

Little Children, let no one deceives you. He who does righteousness is Righteous, just as He is Righteous. He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil. Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God. In this the children of God and the child of the devil manifest. Whoever does not practice righteousness is not born of God, or he who does not love his brother. 1John3;7-10. The scripture is very clear in regards to this; honestly we cannot walk in nakedness and think we have been of God. By the fruits you shall know them; therefore any tree that does not bear good fruits shall be cut down and be burnt down in the fire.

While some churches and their pastors declare anything goes-style of dressing, another side also goes extreme in legalistically dressing. They claim to be conservative and then go extreme. This other side speaks against women wearing “ready-made” clothes, buttons down and they narrow them down to some specific styles they can wear; some even oppose women using and so on. Going extreme cannot bring godliness, it will only bring hypocrisy; such denominations have double standards, their standards of godly dress in Africa is different from what they have in the Western countries. If it is true that wearing trouser, buttons down shirts, using hats and so on are sins, then it should be sins everywhere, every time and at every situation.

The truth about sin is that sin is sin universally and at every condition. Then why do we see the same denominational women wearing hats, button down shirts and in Western countries? Why do we see the pictures of their women on their websites and on Facebook wearing suits, button-down shirts and even trousers in some occasions in western nations? Some excuse it is because of the weather there and I do wonder, “Is it possible for something that is sin in a particular country not to be sin in another country?” If women wearing suits, trousers, not covering their heads are sins in Africa or Asia, then they are sins in America and everywhere, irrespective of the weather, condition, country or the profession. Some people forget that when God was creating he knew those weather conditions where there, and before they came still the weather was there, and the Bible is God’s constitution for every nation whether you are in a desert or Iceland still it remains the same, if he wanted he would say may be if the weather changes then wear trousers women to be like men and when its sunny men put on because

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of heat and be like women, How foolish to bring such excuses. If you lack school fees and went late to the exams and fail would tell the teacher to favour you because you came late to school? How foolish to think like that, therefore this thing of saying what if u travel to the countries with winters, wont I need trousers how foolish to ask to such a question, you mean there are no that are long enough to cover your up to toes? Please spare me those questions. This is where the bible says

This I say do not walk, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in their futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of Ignorance that is in them, because of blindness of their heart; who being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard of him, and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus. That put off your old conduct, the old man (Adam of sin) which grows corrupt according to deceitful lusts. And be renewed in Spirit of your mind and that you put on the new man (the Holy Spirit through Christ) which was created according to God in righteousness and holiness. Ephisians4; 17-24. So that is the fact there should not be any hint of impurity and sexual immorality in all Christians but if you walk that way like the Gentiles or the worldly people walk then there is no difference between you and them.

MODERATION! The standard of the Bible is not anything goes permissive styles neither is it conservative legalism, Bible standard is MODERATION! One of the attributes of Christianity is moderation. Moderation in everything: how you live, what you say, what you eat, what you drink, how you dress, what you wear, car you ride, house you live in, what you use and so on. When you are in Christ, you don’t show off yourself, because your self is death, you don’t show your body, your riches, your pride; you show Christ and Him alone. Anything that will share or take glory from Christ you don't get involves.

THE FOUR BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVES! So what are the Biblical standards for dressing for godly women? The answer is that a godly, regenerated woman can wear anything as long as it goes along with these four biblical perspectives:

(1) WELL COVERED: When you give your life to Jesus and living a new life in Him, you are not controlled by the world fashion's sense, you are not dressing to belong or please yourself, you dress primarily to cover your body as a living sacrifice to God. Because you realize your body is a temple of Holy Spirit. Anything you wear must cover you well. How? Your skirts must reach below your knees; your shirts must well cover your chest; any tops, , etc. Your wears on must not show the trace of your breasts if you bend down and your underwear must be under, not over. That is the meaning of well-covered dress.

Wearing or top that shows your cleavage as a woman is sign of satanic influence on your soul. If a Christian woman wears a cloths that doesn't cover her knees, that the trace of her breasts can be seen, that people can see any of her under-wears outside, she does not present her body as a holy temple of God, she is defiling God’s temple since she claims to be a child of God, and the punishment is serious.

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NOTE: Any dress you wear as a woman, on the top, that reveals your cleavage is the most sinful and ungodly dress of all. Those Christian women who wear such are under the trap of Satan, they are satanic agents of pollution, and the bad news is majority of Christian women are victims.

(2) NO TRANSPARENCY: Any clothing you wear as a godly woman must not be transparent or evaporated that your under wears will be seen. Since the purpose of wearing clothes is the cover your nakedness, wearing transparent or evaporated clothes has defeated that God’s purpose in such woman's life. Wearing transparent, evaporated clothes is an indirect nakedness and disobedience to God; it is as bad as half naked. As a Christian, godly woman, you are watchful of what you wear and how you wear them so that you are not disqualified by God just because of your dress-style.

If you don't wear trouser as a woman but still you wear cut-and-sow or ready-made clothing that reveal your cleavage, then you are walking in the better trap of Satan. Some think it’s only trouser that is forbidden and they put on the way they want in other types of clothing but better still that’s a sin. Whether a trouser as woman or tight dressing or things that bring up your creation shape it’s a sin and unholiness and unrighteousness.

(3) NO TIGHT: If you are wearing skirts, gowns, shirts, native dress, self-made, , sport wears, whatever, where ever, it must not be tight. Wearing tight clothes that shows the shape and anatomy of your body to the world is also an indirect nakedness. You wear clothes to cover your body not to show your body shape. When the motive is to show the shape of your body then something it wrong, it is called inordinate motive. A godly woman does not dress to show the shape of her body, so body hugs and all sorts of tight clothing are ungodly and can lead to damnation and condemnation of one’s soul at the end.

(4) NOT EXPENSIVE: Either a woman or a man, as a child of God, Bible directly warns us not to buy, wear expensive clothing, not because you can’t afford it but because you are a Christian, modest. Christianity is all about modesty, meaning showing little about yourself, your financial capacity. You don’t buy clothes by the reason of your financial capacity; you buy clothes by the reason of modesty. Wasting money on expensive clothing and accessories is un-biblical. Our modern preachers can tell you opposite but here is what the Bible says, “in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,” 1 Timothy 2:9.

Costly clothing is unbecoming for a heavenly conscious woman or man. Then how can we measure costly clothing and every other thing we buy? Simply apply the principle of moderation: (I) ask yourself why you want to buy it for that price, are you buying it for its quality, for ego, to class and prove your financial level? Or because it is the reigning fashion and you want to belong? (II) Ask yourself if you can get another clothing of same quality with lesser price. Then let the Spirit of God guide you. God knows our intentions and thoughts, so we can’t deceive Him.

GOOD MOTIVE + BAD MANNER = CONDEMNATION Some women claim that they wear any clothes with pure motive, without any bad motive to seduce. If you have a pure motive and you don’t care about the manner you express that motive, it is a sin. If your pure motive is generating un-pure thoughts from those who see you

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then you have become the source and cause of un-pure thoughts. When you are a child of God, you show God’s glory, people see you and see Christ not otherwise.

Some say they wear what they want to wear, and if it affects any man, such man should close his eyes. Such statement should not be from a regenerated person who is a child of God, because (1) closing eyes will only lead the world into darkness, but a child of God is a source of light, to help open the eyes of the people in darkness, it is not to close the eyes of people into deeper darkness. (2) A child of God dresses to edify not to instigate lust or shows self.

In conclusion, For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; (1Th 4:3-5) For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. (1Th 4:7) No immoral, impure, covetous, or idolatrous person has any inheritance in God’s kingdom. “For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, SO has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.” (Eph. 5:5)

So Holiness should be put at high standard with great observation so that we may appear before our Lord Jesus Christ, 1 Corrinthians6; 12-15, 19-20 To me all things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful, all things are Lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both of it, and them. Now the Body is not sexual immorality but for the Lord and the Lord for the body. And God both raised up the Lord and will also raise us up by His power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly Not. Or do you not know that your Body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God and you are not on your own?

5 Bible verses on how a Christian woman should dress

How should a Christian woman dress is one of the subjects of heated debates amongst Christians. How modest is modest? What did the Bible say about appropriate dressing? What's acceptable and what's not?

Modest dressing isn't just for when you go to church; its how one dresses every day. The worldly women may have taught you that whenever you leave the house, you have to prepare for a , one that will show off what you have and get attention from others. While there is nothing wrong with taking care of your looks, be wary of crossing the line and inviting lust from men instead.

Looking good doesn't have to mean showing off skin that a Christian woman shouldn't. I know that the fashion world now shows that the more skin you show, the sexier you are. But hey, Christian women should know better.

There are a number of verses in the Bible that speak directly to Christian women and how they should dress. Let's give them a look now so you can be guided accordingly too.

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1. Women should dress modestly.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 "Paul said: I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God."

In the Bible, it is clear that women must dress decently and modestly. Women must not take pride in wearing jewelry and accessories but instead, take pride with the good deeds they have done. This goes without saying that God wants women to clothe themselves with good works and not expensive clothes which are material in nature.

2. The beauty inside is what matters.

1 Peter 3:2-5 "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.

Quite similar to the scripture above, this verse from Peter talks about how inner beauty is more important than outer beauty. God always looks at the heart, not the clothes, not the jewelry and not the riches. So, it's not also just about the good deeds you do that makes you beautiful, it is your gentle quiet spirit and pure heart that makes you shine.

3. Women should always dress accordingly.

Deuteronomy 22:5 "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God."

I know that the fashion industry today broke down the walls between male and female fashion. It's like everyone can wear anything they want and society allows it. However, we don't follow what society dictates; we follow what God says. In Deuteronomy, it said that we cannot cross dress. What's made for women should only be worn by women and what's made for men must only be worn by men. Let this be a gentle reminder.

4. A Christian woman must always practice good judgment when dressing.

Proverbs 11:22 "Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion."

A truly beautiful woman must practice discernment because this shows that she can make good choices. The verse says that if a woman doesn't have discernment, then she will make poor choices just like a pig would. Beauty on the outside means nothing if a woman cannot discern whether she's dressing appropriately or not. A truly beautiful woman fears the Lord and that is what makes Christian women attractive.

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5. Dress yourself with strength and dignity.

Proverbs 31:25 "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come."

The Bible spoke about a woman dressing based on her heart. So if a woman likes to dress sensually, then her heart is evil as well. This scripture from Proverbs proves that a woman need not dress a sexy way just for a man to like her. If a woman is clothed with strength and dignity, she will be confident enough to say that "I am God's wonderful and beautiful creation!"

I honestly believe that it's challenging for women to dress modestly nowadays due to what society says. Nonetheless, I also believe that if your feet are grounded in God's word and this worldliness will not have much effect on you. Always pray that the Lord may God you. Do not ever compromise. Our God is faithful and He sees the beauty inside you.

For were bought at a price therefore Glorify God in your Body and in your Spirit, which are God’s.

May the Lord give us understanding of the truth so that you may be set free from the bondage of sexual immorality.

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