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Spring 2017 KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA PAGE 24 The Deepest Cut Beginning again when marriage ends LOOKING BACK Watergate is in full swing. The war in Vietnam is coming to a close. And somewhere in Evanston, Illinois, members of Upsilon Chapter, Northwestern, archives kappa are going for the tricky third tier of a 1975 precarious human pyramid. COVER: dan saelinger SPRING 2017 ON PAGE 28 Divorce can take a toll on your self-confidence, but only if you allow it. We are proof that there is light at the end of the tunnel. — Valerie Shepherd and Holiday Miller Spring 2017, Volume 134, No. 1 FEATURES IN EVERY ISSUE 2 Feedback From the 3 Letter from the Editor Ground Up 4 The Mix BY LAUREN EVERY You might not be able Life-saving luxury: to bottle paradise, but How Akola is that doesn’t stop the 18 redesigning the fragrance fanatic behind lives of marginalized women Antica Farmacista from in both the U.S. and Uganda. trying with each new fragrance she creates. The Big Break Abby Walker’s Vivian BY KRISTEN DESMOND LEFEVRE Lou insoles take the When the only pain out of high heels. solution is 24 dissolution, take From the Archives: strength and advice from Unraveling the mystery these been-there, wrote-the- of a 1920s ritual record. book-about-it ladies who want you to know: There’s 38 Through the Keyhole life after divorce. Allison Jones is one of country music’s most powerful women. Odds are By Design she’s behind the twangy BY LAURA VINCI tunes you hear on the radio. The first dress she made was for her 41 Make a Note 30 high school prom. 42 In Brief Now, designer Lela Rose stands 44 Key Achievements at the stylish center of the $340 46 In Memoriam dan saelinger courtesy akola; courtesy lela rose; courtesy akola; courtesy billion U.S. fashion industry. 48 Remix GET INVOLVED WWW.KAPPA.ORG | 1 Feedback Volume 134, No. 1 Spring 2017 The Key is the first college women’s fraternity magazine, published continuously since 1882. Editor Kristin Johnson Sangid, Georgia Southern Associate Editor Kristen Desmond LeFevre, Indiana ??? Contributing Editors Melisse Campbell, Mississippi Katie Mills Giorgio, Drake Rachel Weber Haugo, Iowa State Jodi Noding, Florida Kait Smith Lanthier, Marist Laura Vinci, Kansas Editorial Board Chairman Judy Stewart Ducate, Texas Tech Fraternity Vice President Elizabeth Bailey, Mississippi Executive Director Kari Kittrell Director of Marketing and Communications Ashley Gilbert Moyer, Purdue Marketing Assistant Lauren Every, Ohio State Copy Editor I Can’t Relate Cailin Cooney, Central Florida Design Em Dash Upon seeing the cover of the latest issue of The Key, my usual Printed by excitement for the magazine quickly turned to hurt. I was faced with an Lane Press The Key (ISSN 1063-4665) is published image that although I recognized, was unrelatable to me as a reader. by the Kappa Kappa Gamma Frater- nity and Foundation, 530 E. Town St., Columbus, OH 43215. Printed in the I am Canadian and attend accompany the person from has to qualify for the accom- United States of America, copyright Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity 2016. school in Montreal. Delta Delta place to place. Caring for this modation. Many people are Subscription price is $3. Chapter is one of four Canadian animal often enables the person confused by this, which is POSTMASTER: Send address changes to chapters, a fact I feel is ignored to feel motivated, less depressed why I wanted to reply, in case The Key P.O. Box 38 by this month’s issue. The image or anxious, and more able to con- there is the opportunity to Columbus, OH 43216-0038 of Washington on the cover nect with others. While dogs and help increase understanding. made me feel not only excluded cats are the most common type of —Jacaranda Mawson Kappa Kappa Gamma Headquarters from the Kappa sisterhood, but ESA, other animals can provide Palmateer, Colgate, P.O. Box 38, Columbus, OH 43216-0038 also forgotten as it is an iconic emotional support if they can be licensed clinical psychologist Phone: 866-554-1870 (866-KKG-1870) American symbol. I under- appropriately cared for within Email Kappa: [email protected] stand the intent was to visually the context of the dwelling. Cover to Cover Email The Key: [email protected] represent budgeting, but I felt With regard to service animals, I am a 58-year member of To change your address or stop that could have been achieved trained dogs are the primary Kappa Kappa Gamma. I want receiving The Key, email kkghq@kkg. in other, more inclusive ways. species of animal that may qualify to share with you that I love org or call the number above. Please include full name. I have always enjoyed reading as a service animal under the the new format for The Key, The Key and hope that future Americans with Disabilities Act. Winter 2016. For many years, issues will include images and ADA regulations define “service I have only looked at the “In facebook.com/kappakappagamma content relatable to all Kappas. animal” narrowly as any dog that Memoriam” column. I read, if facebook.com/thekeymagazine —Abbey Smith, McGill is individually trained to do work not all, most of the articles in twitter.com/kappakappagamma linkedin.com or perform tasks for the benefit the issue. I even shared it with Keyword: Kappa Kappa Gamma of an individual with an ADA- my daughter-in-law because www.kappa.org/bt They Are Not Pets recognized disability. Unlike an she is dealing with ill, elderly dominguez alvaro In regard to the Fall issue ESA, a service dog accompanies parents. Congratulations “Ask Clara”: An emotional the individual from place to place. on this exciting change. support animal is not a pet. An You cannot get an animal —Robyn Stewart ESA lives at home and does not certified as an ESA; the human Williams, LSU 2 | SPRING 2017 Editor’s Letter You Get Me — an uncommon friendship tories of unlikely friendships often hail from the animal kingdom: Charlotte and Wilbur, Pooh and Piglet, second act and Frog and Toad are some of my favorites. The cover Janet Guthrie Lynn, Oklahoma of the book Animal Friends shows a yellow lab with birds State, rediscovered on its head. Any of my dogs would have my chickens for her passion for art after losing Sdinner if given such an opportunity. But step out of books and into two businesses the real life wild kingdom of complex human friendships and you are and two homes in hard economic talking a whole new game. times. She had previously been an When Valerie Johnson of divorce. They co-authored It’s not something I talk about Sheperd and Holiday Rathbun a book, The Ex-Wives Guide to often, but I, too, went through illustrator working Miller, both Florida State, wrote Divorce, which they permitted a divorce and even though I in advertising, a to The Key a few months ago The Key to print an excerpt from had practiced domestic law, I career she had about their friendship, their on page 24. found myself unprepared for story touched me. Coincidentally, around the what I had never expected. It stepped away from, Valerie and Holiday explained time we learned about the may sound naive but some- but she missed the that they are both ex-wives The Ex-Wives Guide, Christel times those in the profession art. Janet began of the same man (not at the Turkiewicz, Colorado, con- can be the least suited to help “playing around same time). When Holiday was tacted The Key about writing an themselves. Fortunately, I had facing her first weekend alone article for women going through a support system and friends with wire and during her divorce, she tenta- divorce. Christel is a certified who were there for me, because beads,” making tively reached out to Valerie, divorce financial analyst. After every Pooh needs a Piglet (and symbols she who knew just what she was more than 20 years working tea with honey): “I don’t feel loves—crosses, going through. The two formed in financial services, Christel very much like Pooh today,” said an almost instant connection, went through a divorce herself Pooh. “There there,” said Piglet. fleurs-de-lis and a sisterhood based on mutual and despite her background in “I’ll bring you tea and honey stars. Janet shares understanding and experience. finance, she felt overwhelmed until you do.” —A.A. Milne her designs on No one wants to be in this at times. She decided to get sisterhood (divorce), but when certified as a divorce financial Facebook at a woman finds herself there, analyst so that she can finan- CrossLynn Designs. she needs a support system, cially advise women and men especially friends. Valerie and who are facing divorce. Finances —Kristin Sangid, Editor Holiday found their friendship can be the last thing a person so healing that they wanted to wants to deal with, but it is too share it with other women who important to neglect. Christel are going through the perils provides great tips on page 27. GET INVOLVED WWW.KAPPA.ORG | 3 More often than not, the mixing process rules out what I don’t want the end product to smell like. — Shelley Westover Callaghan CO-FOUNDER OF ANTICA FARMACISTA mıxTHE Shelley’s creative nose leads her in her fragrance lab, designing a scent for South Carolina’s Montage Palmetto Bluff. antica farmacista courtesy 4 | SPRING 2017 GET INVOLVED WWW.KAPPA.ORG | 5 mıxTHE The Sniff Test — The co-founder and creative director of the luxury fragrance line antica farmacista has a nose that knows.