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Features columns 6 Kid clothes for less 14 Healthy Living Finding today’s children’s fashion at by Danielle Sullivan an affordable price By Kimberly Blaker 30 Good Sense Eating by Christine M. Palumbo, RD 8 Day-care maze Better navigate it with tips from these experts calendar By Allison Plitt 24 August Events 10 Healthy snacks for pregnancy special sections Move over pickles and ice cream, there are better things to eat! 16 Education Choices By Sharon Zarabi Directory 20 12 Training for life 29 The Marketplace How to keep your body moving and stay healthy By Carolyn Waterbury-Tieman 18 Teaching your kids to fight fairly By Myrna Beth Haskell 20 Operation Backpack Annual drive outfits kids with supplies and confidence By James Harney 22 Fresh delights Healthy recipes that even picky eaters will love By Kathryne Taylor

August 2017 • queens Family 3 letter from the PublIsher Mid-summer musings e’re halfway through we also have two interest- authors Jackie Rioux and Jo-Ann Parylak, the summer already! ing pieces on the importance that she says is a must read for every par- W How fast it goes. It’s of food in maintaining good ent about to navigate the maze of options. hard to believe, but only a health. Vegetarian blogger I would like to say that once again New few weeks are left of summer Kathryne Taylor has shared all York Parenting is a proud partner of Vol- camp/summer programs for kinds of healthy recipes and unteers of America-Greater New York’s our kids. That said, the end writer Sharon Zarabi has con- Operation Backpack. In past years we of August seems to be one tributed an article on healthy have been instrumental in helping to put the most popular times of the snacks during your pregnancy. out the word about this organization’s year for families to be travel- Sharing this kind of informa- drive to outfit children living in homeless ing and I’m sure this year will tion is an integral part of our and domestic violence shelters with a new be no exception. editorial policy. We have no doubt that backpack and other academic necessities. One of the miracles of this time of year you are what you eat. Planning meals and We hope once again that we will be able to are all the fabulous fruits and vegetables snacks for the family is a job with the high- impact their success through our reader- that are now in season. Whether you’re est priority and nothing to be taken lightly. ship’s generosity. getting them at your local market, a farm- Present and future health depends on it. Thanks in advance and thank you for er’s market, a farm-stand on Long Island or Summer is a time when lots of parents reading. upstate or in Jersey, the available produce are confronting the challenge of finding is breathtaking. Corn, peppers, tomatoes, quality day care. Not only for parents re- all kinds of greens, berries, melons, and turning to work after childbirth, but also more are presenting a color palette that for the many new families who move into any artist would find arresting. our communities over the summer months. Susan Weiss-Voskidis, This month, in addition to Christine Our writer Allison Plitt has a review of an Publisher/Excutive Editor Palumbo’s regular Healthy Eating column, excellent book, “Dear Daycare Parent” by [email protected]

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August 2017 • queens Family 5 Kid clothes for less Finding today’s children’s fashion at an affordable price

By KimBerly BlaKer Inspect these pieces and replace missing Secondhand savvy buttons, mend seams, patch tears, and Today, families in all income brackets he end of the summer season remove stains. are reaping the benefits of secondhand marks the excitement of back-to- If shoes still fit, increase their life by shopping. Depending on your child’s age T school shopping for kids — and replacing worn heels, broken eyelets, and personality, you may need to alle- back-to-school shopping battles for and dingy shoelaces. Then freshen them viate her fears and objections. Be sure many parents. Because fashion is an im- with a good shoe cleaner and brightener your child understands no one will know portant part of a child’s self image, a new or polish. the clothing is secondhand unless she wardrobe often comes at a high cost. Style is important, so create new, fash- discloses it. Also, point out the savings But with advance planning, your kids ionable outfits by pairing an old basic could result in a bigger, and possibly bet- can still get their look at a price you can shirt with a new pair of jeans and styl- ter, wardrobe. afford: ish belt. Or mix a pair of old-but-good When you shop secondhand, inspect jeans with a shirt in one of this fall’s new clothing thoroughly for stains, tears, Out with the old? colors. broken zippers and snaps, frayed pant Keep costs down by making the most Determine what garments have some- cuffs, and other damage. Check for body of your child’s current wardrobe. Elimi- thing to match and which are incom- odor and mildew smells that are unlikely nate outgrown or outdated articles, and plete, then carry a list of needs when to wash out. save basic or classic pieces that still fit. you shop. And try on clothing before taking it

6 queens Family • August 2017 Clothes that last chases. That is, unless you’re home because it may not be returnable. Make your kid’s new wardrobe shopping for the less-choosy Secondhand clothing can be found at last by following these tips: younger set. Otherwise, the garage sales, thrift stores, consignment Pay attention to washing duds will hang in the back of and resale shops, and even online. Prices instructions. This is espe- their closet. vary, so explore all the options in your cially important for teen Go up a size for some area. Children’s shirts typically range girls’ clothing. Some fab- items. Purchase articles between $2 and $10 and jeans between rics will shrink beyond rec- such as rain gear or dress $4 and $15 depending on size, condition, ognition if not laundered shoes that will get seldom label, and the particular store. correctly. use one-half to a full size A no-cost option is to form a back-to- Boys are espe- larger to get through an extra school swap with several friends and cially hard on knees. season. Regularly worn shoes neighbors. Each person should label the Give pants extra should fit properly, though, for the boxes of clothing according to size. Then wear by sewing a fun sake of your child’s feet. When se- get together for the exchange, and watch patch on each knee (after you lecting rain gear in this manner, your child’s new wardrobe grow. make sure your child is okay choose a style that will not cause with it). your child to trip or obstruct her Scouting for deals Have your kids approve all pur- view. and other retail tips Begin by changing old thinking pat- terns. The mark of the new school year for the new fall wardrobe, your child’s select versatile pieces. is not always the most practical time to summer clothing — along with a couple Look through flyers that come in the replenish your child’s wardrobe. of last year’s pieces — should suffice weekend edition of your metropolitan If your kid didn’t hit a growth spurt until the best sales hit. area newspaper. Learn what’s on sale over the summer, wait until winter to Before you shop, go over your list and compare store prices before head- shop after last year’s clothing is fully and explain the budget to your kids. If ing out. outgrown. designer label battles start, offer your Kimberly Blaker is a realtor, author, and The best back-to-school prices are kids the option to pay the difference freelance writer. Her articles have appeared found a couple of weeks later or beyond above what has been budgeted for that in more than 200 newspapers, parenting and into the new school year. Since the begin- particular item. women’s magazines, and other publications ning of the school year is often too warm Avoid buying clothing sets; instead, throughout the U.S.

August 2017 • queens Family 7 Day-care maze Better navigate it with tips from these experts

BY ALLISON PLITT

re you considering returning to work but need advice on how to A pick the right day care for baby? Have you ever wondered what really hap- pens in a day-care center after you drop off your child, or what you could do to create www.deardaycareparent.com a better relationship with the people who care for him? pictures fool you, though. These two If your child is having problems sleep- In their book, “Dear Daycare Parent,” authors, who have both worked in early ing at home, let the teachers know, so at authors Jackie Rioux and Jo-Ann Parylak childhood education programs for more nap time, they can observe your child combine their firsthand experiences as than 20 years, give invaluable advice for and his behavior. Sometimes children will day-care staff with additional research any parent who is about to embark on the mention something to a day-care worker, about this country’s day-care system to journey of enrolling her child in a day- such as the child overheard something provide valuable tips on how parents can care program. scary being said at home, so then the reap the most benefits from day care for The book’s pervasive theme is for par- teacher can advise the parent of the pos- themselves and their children. ents to keep the communication open sible cause of the sleeping problem. The day-care system is growing expo- between themselves and all the people Since toddlers do not have advanced nentially: there were 740,000 childcare at the center who are looking after their communication skills, they will not give facilities operating in the United States in child. Before starting the program, par- parents a detailed description about their 2007, which is four times the number that ents are encouraged to visit with their day. Some parents would like to know existed 20 years earlier. Authors Rioux child to take a look around, learn the what their child does on a daily basis. In and Parylak maintain that pre-kindergar- caregivers’ names, and let them know this case, the authors suggest putting a ten childcare has many positive effects anything important about you or your notebook in the child’s backpack where on children: “Children who attend high- child that will make their day run easier. the teachers can write what happened at quality preschool enter kindergarten with For example, if the center needs to the school each day and how their child better pre-reading skills, richer vocabu- administer medication to a child, bring behaved. laries, and stronger basic math skills than it in a Ziploc bag with your child’s name Any change going on in the home envi- those who do not.” and instructions on it. If your child has an ronment should be reported to the day- Yet, with all of this convincing informa- allergy, the authors suggest bringing in a care center immediately. If parents are tion about the benefits of quality pre-K at picture of your child with his name and a separating or there are parents who are our disposal, our country’s day-care in- list of his allergies under it, and post it in legally not allowed to see their child, the dustry has an uneven quality and poorly an area of the center where all of the day- day-care center should be aware of this. managed centers can negatively impact care workers will be able to view it. All too often, these children’s grandpar- kids, their parents, and their employers. If there is separation anxiety initially, ents will be standing outside the center According to the authors, inadequate day the authors suggest the child bring in a photographing their grandchild, so the care affects our economy; $3 billion is blanket or stuffed animal from home to parents are still able to see how their lost annually, because of “employee ab- ease the transition. If the child cries when child is doing. sences due to lack of child care.” the parent drops him off in the morn- If you want to introduce new foods to Running a day-care center is a costly ing, do not linger. Say something posi- your child (to see if she has an allergic endeavor with only 46 percent of services tive to your child and leave. If the center reaction to anything), let the teachers provided in their own buildings. Child- provides an enriching curriculum for its know, so they will only feed your child care facilities held in churches and other students, the child will eventually stop the food you provide for her. It is easiest places of worship account for the other crying at morning drop-off. for the day-care center workers if parents 20 percent of buildings where day-care It is important for parents to create a cut up the child’s foods at home, and if programs are run. calm and reassuring routine every morn- anything needs to be heated, place it in a “Dear Daycare Parent” reads like a ing when they arrive at the center for microwavable container. numbered list of things parents should drop-off. Likewise, when they come to To avoid any confusion about the chil- be aware of when choosing a day care pick their child up later in the day, the dren’s belongings, it is important to label and collaborating with its teachers. The parent should not dawdle. They should everything your child brings into the book has amusing illustrations as well as tell their child to clean up their toys and center, which includes clothing and food a recommended reading list of children’s assertively take their child by the hand containers. Since children at this age and parenting books. Don’t let the cute and lead them out of the center. have not socially progressed to sharing

8 queens Family • August 2017 Our country’s day-care industry has an uneven Day-care maze quality and poorly managed Better navigate it with tips from these experts centers can negatively impact kids, their parents, BY ALLISON PLITT and their employers. re you considering returning to work but need advice on how to laughingly implausible. Sometimes par- A pick the right day care for baby? ents take these teachers’ services for Have you ever wondered what really hap- granted and do not follow the day-care pens in a day-care center after you drop off center’s rules. your child, or what you could do to create www.deardaycareparent.com If the day-care facility has a sign-in a better relationship with the people who policy, parents should sign-in their chil- care for him? pictures fool you, though. These two If your child is having problems sleep- dren every morning (especially since In their book, “Dear Daycare Parent,” authors, who have both worked in early ing at home, let the teachers know, so at the authors say these sign-in sheets authors Jackie Rioux and Jo-Ann Parylak childhood education programs for more nap time, they can observe your child have been used in court cases). It is combine their firsthand experiences as than 20 years, give invaluable advice for and his behavior. Sometimes children will equally important to telephone the fa- day-care staff with additional research any parent who is about to embark on the mention something to a day-care worker, cility and let them know if your child about this country’s day-care system to journey of enrolling her child in a day- such as the child overheard something will not be at school that day. provide valuable tips on how parents can care program. scary being said at home, so then the Usually, most centers have bulle- reap the most benefits from day care for The book’s pervasive theme is for par- teacher can advise the parent of the pos- tin boards with important information themselves and their children. ents to keep the communication open sible cause of the sleeping problem. concerning the rules of the center as The day-care system is growing expo- between themselves and all the people Since toddlers do not have advanced well as upcoming events. If you or nentially: there were 740,000 childcare at the center who are looking after their communication skills, they will not give your child misplace a message placed facilities operating in the United States in child. Before starting the program, par- parents a detailed description about their in his cubbyhole, the day-care cen- 2007, which is four times the number that ents are encouraged to visit with their day. Some parents would like to know ter will usually have the information existed 20 years earlier. Authors Rioux child to take a look around, learn the what their child does on a daily basis. In posted on the bulletin board. If it’s a and Parylak maintain that pre-kindergar- caregivers’ names, and let them know this case, the authors suggest putting a day to dress-up as a pirate at the cen- ten childcare has many positive effects anything important about you or your notebook in the child’s backpack where ter, and your child is dressed in his on children: “Children who attend high- child that will make their day run easier. the teachers can write what happened at typical landlubber attire, he could quality preschool enter kindergarten with For example, if the center needs to the school each day and how their child feel left out. better pre-reading skills, richer vocabu- administer medication to a child, bring behaved. Of course, parents bring sick laries, and stronger basic math skills than it in a Ziploc bag with your child’s name Any change going on in the home envi- children to day care, because they those who do not.” and instructions on it. If your child has an ronment should be reported to the day- don’t have a back-up plan if their Yet, with all of this convincing informa- allergy, the authors suggest bringing in a care center immediately. If parents are child becomes sick. If the child tion about the benefits of quality pre-K at picture of your child with his name and a separating or there are parents who are is running a fever or gets sick at our disposal, our country’s day-care in- list of his allergies under it, and post it in legally not allowed to see their child, the school, the parent typically has at dustry has an uneven quality and poorly an area of the center where all of the day- day-care center should be aware of this. least one hour to come and pick managed centers can negatively impact care workers will be able to view it. All too often, these children’s grandpar- up their sick child. kids, their parents, and their employers. If there is separation anxiety initially, ents will be standing outside the center Most importantly, do not yell at a According to the authors, inadequate day the authors suggest the child bring in a photographing their grandchild, so the Day-care centers focus on the impor- day-care staff member in front of the chil- care affects our economy; $3 billion is blanket or stuffed animal from home to parents are still able to see how their tance of toddlers playing with materials dren. If you need to speak to the teacher, lost annually, because of “employee ab- ease the transition. If the child cries when child is doing. their belongings, the authors recommend like clay for the development of their fine find a mutually agreed upon time and sences due to lack of child care.” the parent drops him off in the morn- If you want to introduce new foods to that children do not bring their toys to motor skills. Don’t bring your child to day place to talk. Running a day-care center is a costly ing, do not linger. Say something posi- your child (to see if she has an allergic a child-care center. Instead, they recom- care in expensive clothing, because they If you are impressed with how much endeavor with only 46 percent of services tive to your child and leave. If the center reaction to anything), let the teachers mend bringing in books and CDs which an will get stained in the course of an action- your child is learning at the center, let the provided in their own buildings. Child- provides an enriching curriculum for its know, so they will only feed your child entire group of children can enjoy. packed day. Instead, dress them in com- director know, and if possible, give one care facilities held in churches and other students, the child will eventually stop the food you provide for her. It is easiest Many child-care centers are on a tight fortable play clothes. If your child is learn- of the teachers a recommendation. Since places of worship account for the other crying at morning drop-off. for the day-care center workers if parents budget, so if parents want to help out, the ing to use the bathroom, make sure he is day-care workers put in long hours and 20 percent of buildings where day-care It is important for parents to create a cut up the child’s foods at home, and if authors advise donating adult clothing dressed in sweatpants, rather than pants are usually underpaid, they would appre- programs are run. calm and reassuring routine every morn- anything needs to be heated, place it in a because children love to play dress-up. with buttons, snaps, or zippers, to make it ciate receiving positive feedback about “Dear Daycare Parent” reads like a ing when they arrive at the center for microwavable container. Parents can also give the day-care center easy for him to use the bathroom. their job performance. numbered list of things parents should drop-off. Likewise, when they come to To avoid any confusion about the chil- planting soil, pots, and seeds. Toddlers The authors share their experience To join the online community of parents be aware of when choosing a day care pick their child up later in the day, the dren’s belongings, it is important to label enjoy putting their hands into soil, plant- working in child-care centers, and those using day-care services, visit the book’s and collaborating with its teachers. The parent should not dawdle. They should everything your child brings into the ing seeds, watering them, and watching stories offer parents a valuable opportu- website, www.deardaycareparent.com . book has amusing illustrations as well as tell their child to clean up their toys and center, which includes clothing and food them grow, which provides the additional nity to understand the caregivers’ point Allison Plitt lives in Queens with her a recommended reading list of children’s assertively take their child by the hand containers. Since children at this age benefit of being an educational experi- of view. Accounts of parents’ indiscre- daughter and is a frequent contributor to this and parenting books. Don’t let the cute and lead them out of the center. have not socially progressed to sharing ence. tions range from the believable to the magazine.

August 2017 • queens Family 9 Healthy snacks for pregnancy Move over pickles and ice cream, there are better things to eat!

By Sharon ZaraBi

ealthy babies begin with a nour- ished fetus, so what you choose H to feed yourself can significantly impact fetus growth and have long-term nutritional implications. So, what to do when cravings hit? If only it was normal to binge on pints of Ben and Jerry’s with pickles on top and still maintain a size 4 waistline. Pregnancy cravings are no joke — an estimated 50–90 percent of U.S. women experience cravings for specific foods during pregnancy. It is no surprise to learn that some of the most commonly reported cravings were for sweets, pizza, or chips. The reality is that most of these crav- ings usually leave baby still crying for nourishment because the processed “snacks” are void of any vitamins or min- erals needed for development.

To snack or not to snack? Snacks are defined as a small meal eaten between regular meals. Think of with a creamy texture? Maybe what you ing by finding a healthier version of that them as some extra fuel in between your ate for lunch didn’t contain the right same food. Satisfy your craving and get meals, and when you find yourself going balance of nutrients, so what you are the nutrients you and your baby need for that sweet-and-salty mixture, be cre- actually seeking is nourishing calories, by keeping these three key nutrients in ative with your choice of energy and keep also known as “energy.” So when that mind: it as close to nature as possible. overwhelming desire for a hamburger Ask yourself, what is my body really hits, it could be the body asking for more Protein craving? Am I thirty, or is it something protein. Usually found in animal products such salty, something sweet, or is it something In times like this, outsmart the crav- as meat, fish, chicken, eggs, or vegetar-

10 queens Family • August 2017 canned tuna is a convenient, affordable way to help you reach your two-to-three- When that overwhelming desire for a hamburger hits, it seafood-meals-a-week goal. Grab a can of could be the body asking for more protein. Outsmart the tuna, mix in a quarter of an avocado for a double dose of healthy fats, a few sliced craving by finding a healthier version of that same food. cherry tomatoes, and wrap in lettuce. Here you get a blend of salty, crunchy, and refreshingly good dose of vitamins ian sources including beans, nuts, veggie broken down and helps you feel full without the guilt. burgers, and tofu. Protein, like fiber, takes longer. It also helps clean out the pipes Fruit parfait: Not only great for a quick longer to be digested. It keeps you fueled by maintaining a normal flow through and easy breakfast, but the combination for longer and also assists with hormonal the digestive tract. Think dark, leafy of berries and cottage cheese will help balance, enzymatic activity, wound heal- green vegetables, fruits with a thick skin, satisfy that sweet tooth and give you ing, and hair, skin, and nail growth. seeds, nuts and cereals made from bran a healthy dose of antioxidants, which When it comes to which proteins to or oats. can help ward off disease. The calcium choose, it’s important to note that the from dairy can assist with strengthening recent U.S. Dietary Guidelines encourage Calcium bones. a shift to fish for all Americans because Calcium is needed to maintain moth- Almond butter and carrot sticks: Nut of its health benefits and the fact that er’s bone development, but even more so, butters are a versatile spread that are it’s lower in saturated fats than some baby’s heart muscles, nerves, teeth and chock full of healthy fats and a great other animal protein sources. Seafood bone formation. Good sources of calcium source of protein. Try two teaspoons of is especially important for pregnant and include milk and other dairy products your favorite nut butter with carrots or breastfeeding women since it is high in like Greek yogurt and cottage cheese, apples. omega-3 fatty acids, which are critical along with dark, leafy green vegetables for brain and eye development. I’ve in- and sardines. Try to opt for 1,300 mg of Sharon Zarabi is a registered dietitian, certi- cluded a tuna fish wrap recipe below that calcium daily taken in separate doses. fied dietitian nutritionist, and certified personal packs a powerful punch of protein and Below are a few of my favorite go-to fitness trainer whose love of food was born omega-3s. snack options that will help satisfy crav- as a child surrounded by a large family who ings as well as keep baby happy: would gather on a regular basis for dinner. As Fiber Tuna fish wraps: We know that sea- the Bariatric Program Director of Lenox Hill Fiber is the non-digestible part of food will help with baby’s brain and eye Hospital, she consults with patients looking to plants that usually takes longer to be development. As an added bonus, using better their lives through healthy eating. Pappas Pediatric Dentistry Kimmy Ma ARTStudio Warm Schedule a visit or trial today! child friendly environment Fall session begins 9/8 TV/DVD in Medium Based Curriculum: waiting room and operatories Illustration, Charcoal, Pastels Watercolor & Acrylics Art Fundamentals (90 Min. x 16 wk) Age 5-8 Tues 4:15 & Sun 11:15 Turn Your Child’s Dental Visit Into Age 7-12 Mon 4:15, Sat 3:15 & Sun 9:30 A Fun Experience Ability Level Instructions Come Pet the Friendly Dinasaur Age 9+ W/Th 3:20- 5:30 & Fri 3:45-6:15 • Convenient afternoon and Sat 9:30-12 & 12:15-2:45 Saturday Appointments • Nitrous oxide (laughing gas) analgesia Birthday Party Reservations starting June 25th • 30+ years experience Arts & Crafts Recreation Coordinators • Accepting many insurances as full 917-330-5088 (Casey for Youth) or partial payment or 718-737-5369 (May, adult & youth) • Digital radiography • Zoom Bleaching (for our older patients) Lead curriculum designer: Mrs. Kimmy Ma, Master of Art in the School of Education, NYU, with a creative team of qualifi ed art instructors. Despina Pappas D.D.S Elayne Pappas D.D.S. www.kimmyma-ARTStudio.com 215-41 23rd Road Bayside, NY 11360 646-209-9352 | 190-19 Union TPK, Fresh Meadow, NY 11366 718 224-0443 Facebook.com/kimmyartstudio

August 2017 • queens Family 11 Training for life How to keep your body moving and stay healthy

By Carolyn WaterBury-tieman ways to add physical activity into your day, no matter what you are doing. (Hav- uring summer vacation, three ing an exercise psychophysiologist for a years ago, we rented bikes. I had husband comes in handy when making D not been on a bicycle for more suggestions.) And doing anything is bet- than 20 years. Fortunately, the old adage ter than doing nothing. There are lots of “it’s just like riding a bike” held true. In- times I don’t feel like walking, working out, deed, I remembered how to ride, but I’d biking, swimming, or whatever, but I do it forgotten the exhilaration of pumping the anyway. Over the years, I’ve discovered pedals, getting into a rhythm, body and that doing it feels so much better than not machine working in synchrony. Nostalgia doing it. Usually, just getting started is all returned me to the day I learned to ride, it takes. and the hours spent cycling up and down If we want our children to adopt life- our steep, quarter-mile long, gravel drive- styles that contribute to long, healthy way. I rediscovered an activity that com- lives, guess what? You got it. It starts with bined pleasure and exercise. us. So: Upon returning home, I found a bike Get ready. Evaluate your current fit- with a comfortable seat and started rid- ness level. If necessary, get a physical to ing regularly. Uncertain of my ability to determine your readiness. maneuver in traffic, I decided to stick with adopt an activity. The possibilities are laps around the neighborhood park. Over endless. Choose an activity that you are several weeks, I incrementally increased most likely to stick with and make it a part the distance and resistance to a level I of your daily routine. could maintain for the time set aside to Find a partner. Becoming physically bike. It felt fantastic! active can be a challenge, but having an Neighbors started calling out the num- ally can be motivating for both parties. ber of laps as I went past. After a few more Start slow. Every January I see new weeks, they started asking, “What are you faces out running — red-faced, breathing training for?” Surprised that they auto- hard, struggling with every step. By the matically assumed I was training for an second week of January, they are nowhere event or competition and unsure how to to be seen. Set realistic goals and ease into respond, I simply smiled and kept going. the new routine. After hearing that question repeatedly, I think of food as fuel. A college friend started saying, “Old age,” which got a lot told me, “I eat to live. I don’t live to eat.” Es- of laughs. tablishing a practical attitude toward food Then after my older son got married, I In order to do all the things I want to do, can be empowering. changed my response to, “Grandparent- my body has to be healthy. Keeping it Focus on health benefits. Increased hood,” which prompted more laughter. healthy is my responsibility. Since I want energy, improved sense of well being, and But lately, having considered the bene- to continue being able to do things with reduced stress are all associated with fits gained from being physically active my husband, my kids, and eventually, with physical activity. These aren’t measured throughout the years, I cheerfully reply, any luck, my grandkids, I keep moving. on a scale or reflected in a mirror. “I’m training for life!” That’s what I mean when I say, “I’m train- normalize exercise. Make physical ac- Reactions to that statement were com- ing for life.” tivity as routine as brushing your teeth. pletely unexpected. People flag me down This explanation has resulted in some Commit your family to training for life! to ask what I mean. Anxious to be oblig- lengthy, fascinating sidewalk conversa- If you won’t take my word for it, perhaps ing and neighborly, I tell them. My body is tions. So often, people will begin by mak- you’ll listen to Dick Van Dyke who, at 90, made to move. In order for it to function ing excuses for why they are not physically goes to the gym every morning whether he optimally, it needs to be exercised. Since active. They don’t have a bike. They don’t feels like it or not. According to Van Dyke, I want it to continue working well, I take have the right shoes. They can’t afford to when it comes to the body, you use it or it out and exercise it every day. I vary the take the time. They don’t feel like it. lose it. Bottom line — keep moving! activity so that none of the muscle groups They are surprised when I counter their Carolyn Waterbury-Tieman has been mar- are ignored. I use fuel that allows my body excuses with: You don’t have to bike, you ried for 29 years and has two sons. For 15 to work smoothly and prevents blockages could walk. You don’t have to have special years, she worked as a family therapist and that could clog its systems. I attempt to shoes, they just need to be comfortable. parent educator, and she has written exten- maintain a weight that it does not find tax- You can’t afford not to make time to take sively on the topic of parenting. To contact her, ing. I make sure it gets the rest it needs. care of your body. There are all kinds of please e-mail [email protected].

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Special Advertising Section August 2017 • queens Family 17 Teaching your kids to fight fairly By Myrna Beth haskell Teaching communication skills and empathy onflicts seem to invariably arise the Peace rose Method of Prob- staying on topic: Pick a theme (like when you are in the middle of mak- lem solving (a Montessori method): happiness), then ask kids to think of a ing dinner or completing a presen- C Allows children to express their feelings word that fits that theme starting with A tation for work. The scenario might unfold while still respecting another’s. When and continuing throughout the alphabet. like this: You hear your kids arguing over a conflict arises, one child holds the For more social skills activities similar to who gets to choose the next game on the “Peace Rose.” While holding the Peace above, browse friendshipcircle.org. Nintendo console. This doesn’t seem to be Rose, the child can express his opinion the name Game: Teach young chil- a big deal to you, but it is definitely a big about the conflict. When he is done, he dren to get someone’s attention before deal to them. Their voices escalate, they’re passes the rose to the other child. they speak. Children sit in a circle. One wrestling for the control stick, and call- emotion charades: Write down child is given a ball, then asked to name ing each other names. Perhaps you didn’t “feeling” words on pieces of paper. Chil- someone in the circle and roll the ball to hear, but a few minutes prior, one of your dren take turns picking a slip of paper that child once she makes eye contact. children bragged about being champion of and acting out the feeling (e.g. anger). Additional games to play with children all games while his sibling called him an This teaches an understanding of body and teens to teach communication, connec- ugly snot nose. language and facial expressions. tion, and empathy: Parentingscience.com. Even adults find it difficult to stay calm during a heated argument, and often allow disagreements to cause long-term rifts Parents should then help children work If parents use derogatory slurs when in relationships. Parents need to exam- through the process of evaluating what they have disagreements, children will ine their own behaviors when it comes caused the conflict in the first place. pick up on this and use the same tone — or to arguments with their spouse or other Dr. Linda S. Lucas, a licensed psycho- language — when they have a conflict. adults, because ultimately, they are their therapist and assistant professor in the “It has never worked for parents to children’s strongest role models. department of human services at Beacon think that they can tell their children to Teaching children to have healthy dis- College in Leesburg, Fla., urges parents to do what they say if it is not consistent with agreements should be taught at a very start early. what they do,” Lucas reminds. early age. This will help them navigate “Preschoolers are learning how to regu- Licensed social worker Katie Hurley, a both personal and professional conflicts late their emotions, so this is a critical pe- child and adolescent psychotherapist, par- in the future. riod for parents to use teaching opportuni- enting expert and author of “The Happy Kid ties when conflicts arise. Parents need to Handbook” asserts, “Kids don’t enter this Dealing with conflict teach moral reasoning, how to identify the world equipped with conflict resolution Dealing with conflict can be a daunting wrong behavior and what is wrong about it, skills. I encourage parents to help children process for children, because they are im- and the impact it has on others.” learn to cope with conflict as it arises. Don’t pulsive and egocentric. The first step is for Lucas also instructs parents to allow solve the problem for them; help them hit children to be able to state what the prob- children to voice their feelings and to cope the reset button and figure out what to do. lem is and to be forthcoming about what with the problem. “In my house, we have a simple ‘fight has transpired. Therefore, children need to “Teach children to use their words to fair’ rule. We talk about our feelings and feel safe about expressing their feelings. express what they believe the problem is. discuss why we’re hurting so that we don’t Dr. Alice Sterling Honig, a licensed psy- Parents need to listen to the child’s per- repeat the same hurtful behaviors.” chologist specializing in parenting and spective and help the child understand the child development and professor emerita conflict involved. The key to a child’s prob- Empathy first of child development at Syracuse Univer- lem-solving is the development of their First and foremost, children need to sity, advises, “Teach children how to solve coping responses.” learn to put themselves in another’s shoes. their own problems. Give power to them to This will not only help them become a car- understand what they are feeling, and the Let cool tempers prevail ing adult, but will also help them under- dignity to say how they feel about it.” Arguments get out of hand in the adult stand both sides of an argument. Honig says that parents should avoid world all of the time — even some political Honig points out that you have to teach putting those involved in “time out” as a leaders need to learn a thing or two about empathy to children starting in preschool. quick solution. keeping disagreements civil. So, teaching She advises parents to help children see “Instead, parents should create an envi- children at an early age to fight fairly and another point of view and perspective by ronment where children feel safe to talk to with respect for another’s feelings is an asking, “How would you feel if this hap- you about it,” she urges. important life skill. pened to you?”

18 queens Family • August 2017 Focus on the this conflict Have you ever brought up previous Teaching your kids to conflicts to make a point? I know that I do it quite frequently with my husband. How- ever, bringing up old disagreements does not keep the focus on the problem at hand. Parents need to remind children that they are not fighting about past grievances and that the current problem is the one that needs their attention. fight fairly “If you and your partner bring up old hurts every time you argue, your kids will By Myrna Beth haskell learn to do the same,” Hurley cautions. She Teaching communication skills and empathy suggests that parents ask kids to restate onflicts seem to invariably arise the Peace rose Method of Prob- staying on topic: Pick a theme (like the problem from both sides to clarify. when you are in the middle of mak- lem solving (a Montessori method): happiness), then ask kids to think of a “Then, ask each child to think about ing dinner or completing a presen- C Allows children to express their feelings word that fits that theme starting with A the problem for five minutes (set a timer) tation for work. The scenario might unfold while still respecting another’s. When and continuing throughout the alphabet. and come back with three possible solu- like this: You hear your kids arguing over a conflict arises, one child holds the For more social skills activities similar to tions.” who gets to choose the next game on the “Peace Rose.” While holding the Peace above, browse friendshipcircle.org. Nintendo console. This doesn’t seem to be Rose, the child can express his opinion the name Game: Teach young chil- Conflict resolution a big deal to you, but it is definitely a big about the conflict. When he is done, he dren to get someone’s attention before Children need to be taught how to deal to them. Their voices escalate, they’re passes the rose to the other child. they speak. Children sit in a circle. One formulate solutions and how to forgive wrestling for the control stick, and call- emotion charades: Write down child is given a ball, then asked to name if the situation has turned ugly. ing each other names. Perhaps you didn’t “feeling” words on pieces of paper. Chil- someone in the circle and roll the ball to Lucas explains that parents should hear, but a few minutes prior, one of your dren take turns picking a slip of paper that child once she makes eye contact. discuss possible solutions and give chil- children bragged about being champion of and acting out the feeling (e.g. anger). Additional games to play with children dren the opportunity to create a better way all games while his sibling called him an This teaches an understanding of body and teens to teach communication, connec- Hurley coun- to solve the conflict without anger or ag- ugly snot nose. language and facial expressions. tion, and empathy: Parentingscience.com. sels, “Kids often gression. Even adults find it difficult to stay calm get stuck in their own aging three deep breaths to calm If siblings are fighting over who gets to sit during a heated argument, and often allow personal needs and the physical and emotional in the front seat of the car, Honig suggests disagreements to cause long-term rifts Parents should then help children work If parents use derogatory slurs when forget to think about response in their bod- asking, “How do you feel? Can you think of in relationships. Parents need to exam- through the process of evaluating what they have disagreements, children will the other person. It’s ies is a great first a way you both get to sit in the front seat?” ine their own behaviors when it comes caused the conflict in the first place. pick up on this and use the same tone — or important for kids to step. Next, teach ‘I She then instructs parents to wait for an to arguments with their spouse or other Dr. Linda S. Lucas, a licensed psycho- language — when they have a conflict. learn that we all make statements,’ such answer. Honig says it’s imperative to avoid adults, because ultimately, they are their therapist and assistant professor in the “It has never worked for parents to mistakes, and sometimes as ‘I feel sad…’ This describing a child’s idea as stupid or wrong. children’s strongest role models. department of human services at Beacon think that they can tell their children to we hurt others because reduces the ten- Instead, a parent should ask, “Can you think Teaching children to have healthy dis- College in Leesburg, Fla., urges parents to do what they say if it is not consistent with we’re not empathizing, but dency to blame, of a different way to solve the problem?” agreements should be taught at a very start early. what they do,” Lucas reminds. we can learn from those which fuels argu- Parents should keep asking questions until early age. This will help them navigate “Preschoolers are learning how to regu- Licensed social worker Katie Hurley, a experiences and make bet- ments.” an agreeable solution is reached. both personal and professional conflicts late their emotions, so this is a critical pe- child and adolescent psychotherapist, par- ter choices the next time.” She also says Hurley recommends role playing. Ask in the future. riod for parents to use teaching opportuni- enting expert and author of “The Happy Kid “teaching the stoplight is useful for little the children to come up with scenarios that ties when conflicts arise. Parents need to Handbook” asserts, “Kids don’t enter this Honig recommends that kids, too.” are typical problems they have with one Dealing with conflict teach moral reasoning, how to identify the world equipped with conflict resolution parents read stories about Here’s how it goes: another, such as whose turn it is to set the Dealing with conflict can be a daunting wrong behavior and what is wrong about it, skills. I encourage parents to help children kindness, loyalty, and caring Red = STOP: Take a break from the ac- table. Scenarios are chosen at random. process for children, because they are im- and the impact it has on others.” learn to cope with conflict as it arises. Don’t to children on a regular basis, tion and breathe. “Practice solving the problem for five pulsive and egocentric. The first step is for Lucas also instructs parents to allow solve the problem for them; help them hit such as “Horton Hears a Who” Yellow = THINK: Consider the other minutes, then switch roles. The more kids children to be able to state what the prob- children to voice their feelings and to cope the reset button and figure out what to do. by Dr. Seuss. “Good News, Bad News” by person’s feelings. Choose your tone and practice and verbalize their feelings, the lem is and to be forthcoming about what with the problem. “In my house, we have a simple ‘fight Jeff Mack and “The Invisible Boy” by Trudy words wisely. better they are at accessing these skills has transpired. Therefore, children need to “Teach children to use their words to fair’ rule. We talk about our feelings and Ludwig are also good choices. (Browse Green = ACT: Share your feelings with- when conflict arises.” feel safe about expressing their feelings. express what they believe the problem is. discuss why we’re hurting so that we don’t Common Sense Media for other books that out blaming and talk about solutions. Hurley also proposes using a white Dr. Alice Sterling Honig, a licensed psy- Parents need to listen to the child’s per- repeat the same hurtful behaviors.” teach empathy: www.commonsensemedia. board for brain storming. chologist specializing in parenting and spective and help the child understand the org/lists/books-that-teach-empathy). Listening skills “Kids tend to think of one solution and child development and professor emerita conflict involved. The key to a child’s prob- Empathy first “I always teach kids to listen for the sake get stuck there. If a child comes up with of child development at Syracuse Univer- lem-solving is the development of their First and foremost, children need to No name calling of listening, not to craft a retort,” Hurley re- a solution, he might truly believe it’s the sity, advises, “Teach children how to solve coping responses.” learn to put themselves in another’s shoes. Calling someone an idiot is not an ap- ports. She recommends making a listening only possible solution. Using a whiteboard their own problems. Give power to them to This will not only help them become a car- propriate debate tool. It doesn’t get your skills cheat sheet to post on your fridge: to brainstorm helps kids visualize different understand what they are feeling, and the Let cool tempers prevail ing adult, but will also help them under- point across. It only escalates the conflict. Eyes: Look the talker in the eyes. ideas and solutions.” dignity to say how they feel about it.” Arguments get out of hand in the adult stand both sides of an argument. Children stoop to name calling, because Ears: Listen to what the talker is saying. Myrna Beth Haskell is an award-winning Honig says that parents should avoid world all of the time — even some political Honig points out that you have to teach they are frustrated and don’t know how to Mouth: Ask follow-up questions or author, columnist, and feature writer. Her work putting those involved in “time out” as a leaders need to learn a thing or two about empathy to children starting in preschool. express their feelings. statements to show that you understand. has appeared in national and regional publi- quick solution. keeping disagreements civil. So, teaching She advises parents to help children see Hurley advises, “The first step is to help She also suggests that a squeeze ball cations across the U.S. as well as internation- “Instead, parents should create an envi- children at an early age to fight fairly and another point of view and perspective by kids calm down. When emotions run high, works well for young children. Each child ally (www.myrnahaskell.com). She is also co- ronment where children feel safe to talk to with respect for another’s feelings is an asking, “How would you feel if this hap- kids tend to hyper-focus on their own needs squeezes a ball while listening to the other founder and managing editor of “Sanctuary” you about it,” she urges. important life skill. pened to you?” and fail to tap into reasoning skills. Encour- person’s point of view. (www.sanctuary-magazine.com).

August 2017 • queens Family 19 Operation Backpack Annual drive outfits kids with supplies and confidence

By James Harney

eady … or not? The start of a new school year is R quickly approaching, and hundreds of thousands of New York City schoolkids will soon shop for a new backpack — and the pencils, pens, notebooks, binders, and other must-have supplies that go in it. But thousands of others won’t. More than 22,000 children — most of them school age — live in homeless and domestic violence shelters across the city, and right now, they don’t know if they will be ready with a new backpack and other academic necessities on the first day of school. That’s where Opera- tion Backpack comes in. Now in its 14th year, the community service initiative of Volunteers of Amer- ica–Greater New York aims to outfit every child living in a city shelter with a new, high-quality, school-supply-filled back- pack in time for the start of the school year. The organization’s immediate goal: to collect 20,000 donated backpacks at 15 drop-off sites around the city — and an- other four in New Jersey — by Aug. 4. “The sad fact is that more than 20,000 homeless children, right here in New York City, cannot afford even the most basic school supplies. This puts them at a devastating disadvantage,” says Volun- teers of America–Greater New York vice president Rachel Weinstein, the founder of Operation Backpack. “This campaign is helping prepare these deserving kids for success in school. With help from ev- eryday New Yorkers, they will walk into the classroom with a fully stocked back- pack, just like their classmates, ready to face the school year with hope and dig- Volunteers of America A happy little girl is beaming after choosing a colorful backpack full of school supplies from a pile nity and without the stigma that comes with being a child in need.” of hundreds collected in the Volunteers of America-Greater New York Operation Backpack drive. Weinstein said that through donations from individuals, corporations, schools, lator, full-size dictionary and thesaurus, can be made at www.crowdrise.com/Op- and houses of worship, Operation Back- and student planner along with all of the erationBackpackNYC. pack has given backpacks to more than usual supplies.” “A new backpack and school supplies 140,000 students in pre-K through 12th Corporate donors such as HSBC, can make the difference between a child grade living in shelters across the city — Walgreens–Duane Reade, and JPMor- being excited to go to school and not including 19,000 last year alone. gan Chase have signed on to contribute wanting to go at all,” Weinstein said. “It “The average cost to fill a backpack is to this year’s Operation Backpack ef- can help restore normalcy to their other- $87, an expense very few families in shel- fort, but Weinstein encouraged private wise chaotic lives, make them look and ters can afford,” she said. “The younger individuals and families to participate feel more like their classmates, and help the child, the less expensive the back- by going online to www.OperationBack- them start the school year prepared and pack; the older the student, the higher packNYC.org to find lists of drop-off sites confident in the knowledge that their the cost, as their backpacks include a and grade-specific items to put inside education is important and that someone USB drive, geometry kit, scientific calcu- donated backpacks. Financial donations believes in them.”

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August 2017 • queens Family 21 Fresh delights Healthy recipes even picky eaters will love

By Kathryne taylor

arents of picky eaters, take heart! I was the pickiest of eat- P ers when I was young. I went through a peanut butter sandwich phase — no crust, hold the jelly, white bread only. I would only eat canned green beans — certainly not my grandmother’s garden- fresh beans. I always loved pizza, and still do, of course. Fortu- nately, my mom always offered salad and fresh fruit at the dinner table. I’m pleased to report that my palate has expanded exponen- tially since I left for college. The fresh ingredients on the table back then generally came from the produce section of a gro- cery store. These days, I enjoy pick- ing up my produce at farmers’ mar- kets whenever possible. I like to talk to the vendors and find out more about the food they’re selling. It’s also fun to watch kids find their favorites and ask questions about fruits or vegetables they haven’t seen before. They’re more likely to try new foods when they’ve helped pick them out! My parents never would have guessed that I would grow up to become a food blogger and write a Roasted strawberry basil middle and upper third of the oven. Line two large, rimmed baking sheets with parchment cookbook. and goat cheese crostini paper for easier cleanup. Set the goat cheese Makes about two dozen crostini If you’re wondering what to cook on the counter to soften up a bit. up with your surplus farmers’ mar- INGREDIENTS: On one baking sheet, toss the strawberries ket finds, here are a few of my favor- 4 to 5 ounces goat cheese with the honey, then spread the strawberries ite recipes from my new cookbook, 1 pound strawberries, hulled and cut into bite- into a single layer. Bake on the upper rack “Love Real Food: More Than 100 Feel- size pieces until the fruit is tender, juicy, and collapsing Good Vegetarian Favorites to Delight 2 tablespoons honey on itself, 20 to 25 minutes, tossing halfway. the Senses and Nourish the Body.” 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil Watch the fruit on the edges of the pan, as Kathryne Taylor is the personality be- the honey can burn quickly. hind the hugely popular blog Cookie and 1 whole-grain baguette or small loaf of crusty Meanwhile, on the remaining baking sheet, Kate (http://cookieandkate.com), named whole-grain bread (about 14 ounces), cut brush the olive oil lightly over both sides of each after her crumb-catching dog, Cookie. In into ½-inch slices slice of bread. Bake on the middle rack until the six years, the vegetarian and all-natural Small handful of fresh basil leaves, torn into toasts are golden on top, 10 to 12 minutes. food blog has grown from a hobby to a little pieces full-time project, and now garners more Freshly ground black pepper Once the toasts are cool enough to safely than two million visits per month. Her Tip: If you don’t love goat cheese, alternatives handle, top each one with a smear of goat cookbook “Love Real Food” is published include mascarpone, cream cheese, or ricotta. cheese, followed by a spoonful of roasted straw- berries and their juices. Finish off the crostini by Rodale. DIRECTIONS: Preheat the oven to with a sprinkling of torn basil and black pepper. 350-degrees Fahrenheit with racks in the Crostini are best served immediately.

22 queens Family • August 2017 Green goddess hummus sary, until the mixture is well blended. Makes 1¾ cups Add the herbs and process for about one minute, pausing to INGREDIENTS: scrape down the sides as nec- ¼ cup tahini essary, until the herbs have ¼ cup lemon juice (from 1 1⁄2 to 2 lemons) blended into the mixture 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil, plus more and the mixture is nice for serving and smooth. 1 clove garlic, roughly chopped Add half of the chick- ½ teaspoon fine sea salt peas to the food proces- ½ cup lightly packed, fresh, flat-leaf parsley sor and process for one (some stems are okay) minute. Scrape down ¼ cup lightly packed, fresh, tarragon leaves, the bowl, then add the basil, or cilantro remaining chickpeas and 2 tablespoons roughly chopped, fresh chives process until the hummus or green onions is thick and quite smooth, one to two minutes more. 1 can (15 ounces) chickpeas, rinsed and drained, or 1½ cups cooked chickpeas If your hummus is too thick Chopped fresh herbs (whatever you have left), or hasn’t yet blended into for garnish creamy oblivion, run the food processor while drizzling in one DIRECTIONS: In a food processor or high- to two tablespoons of water, until it powered blender (i.e., Vitamix or Blendtec), reaches your desired consistency. Taste and combine the tahini, lemon juice, olive oil, season with additional salt, if necessary. sprinkle with some chopped herbs. Leftover garlic, and salt. Process for about 90 seconds, Scrape the hummus into a small serving hummus keeps well, chilled, for four to six pausing to scrape down the sides as neces- bowl. Lightly drizzle olive oil over the top and days.

Almond-Blueberry Cake ¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon until there are just a few clumps remaining. Makes one loaf cake (about eight slices) 4 eggs In a small bowl, toss the blueberries with the remaining one tablespoon almond meal. INGREDIENTS: 2/3 cup maple syrup or honey (This helps prevent the blueberries from sink- 2 cups (8 ounces) plus 1 tablespoon packed ¼ cup extra-virgin olive oil1 ½ teaspoons grated lemon zest (from two ing to the bottom of the cake.) Gently fold almond meal the blueberries into the batter. 1 teaspoon baking powder medium lemons, preferably organic) 1 cup blueberries (6 ounces), fresh or frozen Scrape the batter into the prepared pan. ½ teaspoon baking soda Bake until the cake is deeply golden brown, Lemon-Maple Glaze ½ teaspoon fine sea salt the center is firm to the touch, and a tooth- 2 tablespoons lemon juice pick inserted in the center comes out clean, 2 teaspoons maple syrup or honey about one hour and 10 minutes to one hour and 15 minutes. DIRECTIONS: Preheat the oven to 325-degress Fahrenheit. Meanwhile, to make the lemon-maple glaze: Generously grease a 9-by- In a small bowl, whisk together the lemon 5-inch loaf pan, and dust juice and maple syrup until blended. (If it with almond meal to you’re using honey and having a hard time prevent sticking. blending it into the lemon juice, place the In a large bowl, com- bowl on top of your stove to warm it up bine two cups of while the cake bakes, or warm it briefly in the almond meal, the microwave until you can whisk them the baking powder, together.) baking soda, salt, Once the cake is out of the oven, place the and cinnamon. cake, pan and all, on a cooling rack. While Whisk to blend. the cake is warm, use a pastry brush to Crack the eggs into brush the glaze over the top of the cake. It a medium bowl should soak right in. Let the cake cool for and beat with a at least 30 minutes before carefully invert- whisk until the yolks ing it onto a serving plate or cutting board. and egg whites have Carefully flip it back over, then use a bread blended together. knife to cut it into 1-inch-thick slices. Add the maple syrup, Store any remaining cake in the refrigerator, olive oil, and lemon zest covered, for up to four days. and whisk to blend. Pour Time warning: This cake is very simple to the wet ingredients into the make, but requires about one hour and 45 almond meal mixture and stir minutes combined baking and cooling time. Photos by Kathryne Taylor

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The greatest video game ever is com- Visitors can also build and race hand- ing to the New York Hall of Science with held vehicles, discover bird character- Birds out the US premier of the hands-on exhibit istics such as egg sizes and wingspan Angry Birds Universe: The Art and Sci- lengths, and create their own stop-mo- ence of Global Phenomenon, now through tion animations. of hand Aug. 27. Angry Birds Universe, now through The exhibit uses hands-on activities to Aug. 27. Weekdays, 9:30 am to 5 pm; Sat- explore mass, energy, simple machines, urday and Sunday 10 am to 6 pm. Free architecture, and other science topics. with general museum admission of $16 Twenty hands-on exhibits place museum adults, and $13 children, students, and visitors inside the world of the Angry senior citizens. Free on Fridays from 2 to Birds games. Using giant slingshots, kids 5 pm and Sundays from 10 to 11 am. and adults of all ages can propel balls New York Hall of Science [47-01 111th St.in adorned with the images of the charac- Flushing/Corona, (718) 699–0005; www.ny- ters to test structures. science​.org].

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Wed, Aug. 2 In Queens “Madagascar:” Highland Park, Jamaica Avenue and Elton Street; (718) 235–4100; www.nycgovparks.org; 6:30 pm to 8 pm; Free. Enjoy a live performance from Plaza The- atrical Productions of this comedy adventure. Bring a blanket or low chair.

Fri, Aug. 4 Summertime is play time! In Queens Beat the heat, play games, and stay program teaches participants about Make it Friday: New York Hall of Science, fit at the Police Athletic League Play healthy food choices and alternatives 47-01 111th St. (718) 699–0005 X 353; www. Streets throughout the borough now while encouraging them to log their nyscience.org; 2:30 pm to 5 pm; Free with through Aug. 10. daily water consumption for a site- museum admission. Play Streets provids a safe space to based challenge. Join us in Maker Space Friday afternoons play in the League-designated closed Play Streets Monday through Fri- to explore different materials, concepts, and ideas while making and tinkering with your streets. day, 11 am to 4 pm, now to Aug. 10. family. Activities cover a wide range of topics Children will have the opportunity Free. Visit www.palnyc.org or call (212) including simple circuits, wind-powered rac- to exercise and follow a healthy living 477–9450. ers, hand sewing, and much more. lifestyle, with a focus on combating • Park of the Americas (42nd Avenue Camping: Fort Totten Visitor’s Center, Ordi- childhood obesity, through citywide and 104th Street in Corona) nance Road at Shore Road; (718) 352–1769; fitness challenges. • Rufus King Playground (153rd Street www.nycgovparks.org; 6 pm to 7 am; Free. The league’s nutrition education and Jamaica Avenue in Jamaica) Camping affords the opportunity to unplug from the diversions of everyday life and to laugh and play with our families. The Urban (718) 206–0545; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 mous samba schools of the Rio Carnaval in Park Rangers celebrate the tradition of camp- pm to 4 pm; Free with museum admission. Brazil. ing and we look forward to welcoming your Explore farming firsthand by planting your family. Space is limited and families are cho- own crop in King Manor’s backyard. Families sen by lottery. Registration required. Sun, Aug. 6 with children are welcome. In Queens Omar’s block party: Fantasy Forest Sat, Aug. 5 Amusement Park, Flushing Meadows Corona Little Makers: New York Hall of Science, In Queens Park, 111th Street and Corona Avenue; (718) 47-01 111th St. (718) 699–0005 X 353; www. Constellation Poetry with Caroly Fer- 788–2676; www.nycgovparks.org; 2 pm to 3 nyscience.org; 10:30 am to 12:30 pm; $8 plus rucci: Socrates Sculpture Park, 32-01 Vernon pm; Free. museum admission ($5 for members). Blvd. (718) 956–1819; www.socratessculp- At this party hosted by Omar Olusion, Discover new tools to make bubbles of all turepark.org; Noon to 3 pm; Free. come celebrate the holiday weekend with sizes. Design and make your own bubble- Engage your senses and create your own live DJ music, dance contests, fun games, and making tool from everyday objects and ma- galaxy at Socrates! Using simple writing and magic shows. terials. Recommended for children ages 18 months and older. Sometimes creativity can drawing prompts, participants will observe Music in the Garden: Queens Botanical their surroundings and create constellations Garden, 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; get messy, so dress your little maker (and based on what they see, hear, and remem- [email protected]; www.queens- yourself) in old clothing that can be splattered ber. Connecting our different constellations botanical.org; 4 pm to 5 pm; $6 seniors; $4 with things like paint, ink, and oobleck. to each other using string, we will create our students & children 4 to 12; $2 for children Drop in Workshops: Queens Museum of own mini-galaxy! under 3 and free for members. Art, New York City Building, Flushing Mead- Hands on History: King Manor Museum Jam Samba New York! as the cast performs ows Corona Park; (718) 592–9700; www. at Rufus King Park, 150-29 Jamaica Ave.; and dances to joyful music inspired by the fa- queensmuseum.org; 1:30 pm to 4:30 pm;

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Free. The Queens Museum invites children 5–12 and their adult companions to explore draw- ing from different sources of inspiration each week. Children with special needs welcome, adaptations available. No fee or advance reg- istration required. Just show up and stay for as long as you like. Enjoy guided tours in Eng- lish and Spanish. Adventure Course: Alley Pond Park Ad- venture Center, Alley Pond Park; (718) 217– 6034; www.nyc.gov/parks/rangers; 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm; Free. The outdoor adventure fosters trust, com- munication, and team building. The program includes both low and high elements. The Adventure Course is open to individuals, small groups of friends, and family, ages 8 and up. Minors must be accompanied by an adult. Valid photo identificaiton is required. You must wear sneakers. Registration Space is lim- ited and participants are chosen by lottery. Phineas the Clown: Fantasy Forest

Amusement Park, Flushing Meadows Corona Filip Wolak Park, 111th Street and Corona Avenue; (718) 788–2676; www.nycgovparks.org; 2 pm to 3 pm; Free. Dancing in the streets Phineas is an award-winning clown and juggler. He has been trained by members of Bounce on over to the fourth an- leries of each institution. The block the Big Apple Circus Clown Care Unit, world nual Uptown Bounce block parties on parties are open to visitors of all juggling champion Tony Duncan, and the NY Aug. 2 and 9 at the Museum of the City ages. Goofs under the direction of former dean of of New York and El Museo del Barrio. Uptown Bounce on Aug. 2 and Aug. Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Clown The joint venture is a series of sum- 9 from 6 to 9 pm. Free, advanced res- College, Dick Monday. Come see his show to see what he’ll juggle next! mer festivals featuring musical per- ervations required. formances, leading New York City DJs, The Museum of the City of New York gallery talks, art-making workshops, [1220 Fifth Ave. at 103rd Street on the Wed, Aug. 9 and dancing lessons for all ages and Upper East Side, (212) 534-1672; www. In Queens skill levels. mcny.org]. “Alice in Wonderland:” Highland Park, Uptown Bounce takes place on the El Museo del Barrio [1230 Fifth Ave. at Jamaica Avenue and Elton Street; (718) front terraces of both museums on 105th Street on the Upper East Side, (212) 235–4100; www.nycgovparks.org; 6 pm to Fifth Avenue, and throughout the gal- 831–7272; www.elm​useo.org]. pm; Free. Enjoy this classic fairy tale with a modern twist presented by Patty Cake Theatre. Sun, Aug. 13 Captain Faust: Fantasy Forest Amusement Park, Flushing Meadows Corona Park, 111th Fri, Aug. 11 In Queens Street and Corona Avenue; (718) 788–2676; In Queens Little Makers: 10:30 am to 12:30 pm. New www.nycgovparks.org; 2 pm to 3 pm; Free. Come see his slight-of-hand tricks and Make it Friday: 2:30 pm to 5 pm. New York Hall of Science. See Saturday, Aug. 6. amazing illusions that is sure to leave guests York Hall of Science. See Friday, Aug. 4. Get Fit: Beach playground, Beach 59th in awe. Street and the Boardwalk; 311; www.nycgov- Sat, Aug. 12 parks.org; 1 pm to 4 pm; Free. Wed, Aug. 16 The Friends of Beach 59th Street Play- In Queens ground Association will be hosting its “Back In Queens Learn to ride: Laurelton Playground, 136th to School and Visioning Event,” partnering Community Day: Highland Park, Jamaica Avenue and Brookville Boulevard; (718) with the Dream Team Leaders in the play- Avenue and Elton Street; (718) 235–4100; 393–7370; bike.nyc/education/classes/learn- ground. There will be jump rope and a dance www.nycgovparks.org; 5 pm to 8 pm; Free. to-ride-kids, 11 am to 1 pm; Free. contest, along with other fun activities and Enjoy an evening of music, games, inflata- Bring a bike, a child, and a helmet for this giveaways. bles, face painting, and much more! free fun event! Show your kids, ages 5 and older, how to ride a two-wheeler. Pre-regis- Drop in Workshops: 1:30 pm to 4:30 pm. tration required. For accessibility information. Queens Museum of Art. See Sunday, Aug. 6. Thurs, Aug. 17 Phineas the Clown: 2 pm to 3 pm. Fan- Adventure Course: 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm. In Queens tasy Forest Amusement Park. See Sunday, Alley Pond Park Adventure Center (APPAC). A morning of music with Darlene Aug. 6. See Sunday, Aug. 6. Graham: Alley Pond Park, 76th Avenue and

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Springfiled Boulevard; (718) 352–4793; www. nycgovparks.org; 10:30 am to 11:30 am; Free. Darlene Graham entertains children of all ages with her interactive and exciting performance.

Fri, Aug. 18 In Queens Make it Friday: 2:30 pm to 5 pm. New York Hall of Science. See Friday, Aug. 4.

Sat, Aug. 19 In Queens Storytime: Socrates Sculpture Park, 32-01 Vernon Blvd.; (718) 956–1819; www.socra- tessculpturepark.org; Noon to 2 pm; Free. There’s nothing like a good story to get the imagination working. Join The Queens Book- shop Inititative every third Saturday from June through September for Storytime in the Park! They will begin with traditional storytime, reading children’s books that explore the joy of art and creativity, with some even written by local Queens authors. Seining: Fort Totten Visitor’s Center, Ordi- nance Road at Shore Road; (718) 352–1769; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. Catch-and-release fishing is a great way to get outdoors and discover nature just a few blocks from home. Our experienced Rangers teach the ethics of fishing and the ecology of our waterways on every fishing program. Get ready to get your hands wet as seining pro-

grams use nets to catch fish. All equipment Daniel Avila provided; this program is recommended for ages 8 years and older. Participation is first- come, first-served. Set course for adventure Cido the Clown: Forest Park Carousel, It’s the great outdoor Adventure wear sneakers. Forest Park Drive at Myrtle Avenue; (718) Course at Alley Pond, Sundays from Space is limited and participants 788–2676; www.nycgovparks.org; 2 pm to 3 pm; Free. Aug. 6 to Aug. 27. are chosen by lottery. Please visit the From his red nose to his big feet, Cido is a Children can try their hand at con- Urban Park Rangers’ Events Registra- professional clown to the fullest. This clown quering this obstacle course while tion page to enter your name in the lot- magic show is sure to be fun for all! learning trust, communication, and tery. We recommend that people who team building. The program includes receive a response arrive a half-hour Sun, Aug. 20 both low and high elements. early before each program. The Adventure Course is open to in- Adventure Course; Aug. 6, 13, 20, and In Queens dividuals, small groups of friends, and 27 from 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm. Free. Little Makers: 10:30 am to 12:30 pm. New family ages 8 and up. Minors must be Alley Pond Park Adventure Center [Alley York Hall of Science. See Saturday, Aug. 6. accompanied by an adult. Valid photo Pond Park in Little Neck, (718) 217–6034; Drop in Workshops: 1:30 pm to 4:30 pm. identificaiton is required. You must www.nyc.gov/p​arks/rangers]. Queens Museum of Art. See Sunday, Aug. 6. Adventure Course: 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm. Alley Pond Park Adventure Center (APPAC). help him with his spectacular magic tricks. This contemporary twist on the classic See Sunday, Aug. 6. “Cinderella” fairy tale is presented by The Ci- Tues, Aug. 22 tyParks PuppetMobile and sets the timeless The Great Miguelino: Fantasy Forest tale in the lush landscape of Brazil, where, Amusement Park, Flushing Meadows Corona In Queens thanks to the help of her fairy godmother, Park, 111th Street and Corona Avenue; (718) Cinderella attends Rio de Janeiro’s biggest 788–2676; www.nycgovparks.org; 2 pm to 3 “Cinderella Samba”: Dry Harbor Play- Carnaval gala and dances the samba with pm; Free. ground, Myrtle Avenue and 80th Street; Prince Paulo himself. Miguelino’s tricks will leave some guests in www.cityparksfoundation.org/event/cit- awe while making other guests laugh. Vol- yparks-puppetmobile-presents-cinderella- “Cinderella Samba”: Alley Pond Park, unteers from the audience will be chosen to samba-2; 10:30 am to 11:30 am; Free. Cross Island Pkwy & Grand Central Pkwy;

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(718) 217–4685; www.nycgovparks.org; 10:30 am to 11:30 am; Free.

Fri, Aug. 25 These teens can move! In Queens Young Dance- makers comes Make it Friday: 2:30 pm to 5 pm. New to three locations York Hall of Science. See Friday, Aug. 4. in Manhattan on Aug. 2, 3, and 5. Sat, Aug. 26 The company is In Queens comprised of 17 teens from Camping: Alley Pond Park, Cross Island New York City public high Parkway and Grand Central Parkway; (718) schools — including Business 217–4685; www.nycgovparks.org; 6 pm to 7 of Sports School, Frank McCourt am; Free. High School, Lower Manhattan Camping affords the opportunity to unplug Arts Academy, Northside Char- from the diversions of everyday life and to ter High School, Repertory Com- laugh and play with our families. The Urban pany HS for Theatre Arts, School Park Rangers celebrate the tradition of camp- ing and we look forward to welcoming your for Human Rights, Talent Unlimited family. Space is limited and families are cho- HS, The Brooklyn International HS, sen by lottery. Registration required. University Neighborhood HS, and Wa- dleigh Secondary HS — who will per- Sun, Aug. 27 form a concert of their original chore- ography plus an excerpt from Limon’s In Queens “A Choreographic Offering,” taught by Little Makers: 10:30 am to 12:30 pm. New Kristen Foote. York Hall of Science. See Saturday, Aug. 6. All performances end with the ommended for Aug. 2 and 3 perfor- “Cinderella Samba”: Travers Park, 77th lively “Dance With Us,” in which audi- mance and required for Aug. 5 event. Street and 34th Avenue; www.cityparksfoun- ence members with dancing feet are Reservations and information at: dation.org/event/cityparks-puppetmobile- invited onto the stage to improvise (718) 329–7300 X 3358; aliceteirstein@ presents-cinderella-samba-2; 11 am to noon; with the dancers. mail.com. Free. Show times are: Symphony Space (2537 Broadway at W. Drop in Workshops: 1:30 pm to 4:30 pm. • Aug. 2 at Symphony Space at 2 pm. 94th Street on the Upper West Side; www. Queens Museum of Art. See Sunday, Aug. 6. • Aug. 3 at University Settlement So- symphonys​pace.org) Adventure Course: 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm. ciety of New York at 2 pm. University Settlement Society of New Alley Pond Park Adventure Center. See Sun- • Aug. 5 at Ailey Citigroup Theater on York (184 Eldridge St. in Bowery; www. day, Aug. 6. Aug. 5 at 7:30 pm (This is a concert and universit​ysettlement.org) Presto Pete & Incredulous Chris: Fan- reception event). Ailey Citigroup Theater (405 W. 55th St. tasy Forest Amusement Park, Flushing Mead- All three are free; reservations rec- at Ninth Avenue in Hells Kitchen). ows Corona Park, 111th Street and Corona Avenue; (718) 788–2676; www.nycgovparks. org; 2 pm to 3 pm; Free. simple machines, architecture, and other sci- • Park of the Americas, 42nd Avenue and Presto Pete and Incredulous Chris of Pete ence topics. Twenty hands-on exhibits place 104th Street and Chris Amusements are New England’s museum visitors inside the world of the Angry Children are provided a safe space to play ONLY Two-Man Kid’s Magic Show! They give Birds games. Using giant slingshots, kids and in the Police Athletic League designated an ULTRA high-energy performance that cap- adults of all ages can propel balls adorned closed streets; the fit challenges, children ture’s kid’s attention and doesn’t let go! They with the images of Angry Birds characters to have the opportunity to exercise and follow a are two brothers who have been performing test structures. healthy living lifestyle, with a focus on com- around the east coast for the past five years Rocket Park Mini Golf: New York Hall bating childhood obesity, through citywide making kid’s not only laugh, but also giggle fitness challenges. PAL’s nutrition education and guffaw! of Science, 47-01 111th St. (718) 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience.org; Daily, 10 am to program teaches participants about healthy 4pm, $6 plus admission to the Hall. food choices and alternatives while encourag- Long-running Putt your way through a nine-hole minia- ing children to log their daily water consump- tion for a site-based challenge. In Queens ture golf course that teaches the science of spaceflight. Players will explore key science Angry Bird’s Universe – The Art and Activity table: Queens Botanical Garden, concepts such as propulsion, gravity, escape Science of Global Phenomenon: New 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; info@ velocity, launch window, gravitational assist, York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St. (718) queensbotanical.org; www.queensbotani- and more. 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience.org; Week- cal.org; Saturdays and Sundays, 2 pm to 4 days, 9:30 am to 5 pm, Saturdays and Sun- Play Streets: (212) 477–9450; palnyc.web- pm, until Sun, Aug. 27; Free with garden days, 10 am to 6 pm, until Sun, Aug. 27; Free site.siplay.com; Weekdays, 11 am to 4 pm, admission. with general hall admission. until Thurs, Aug. 10; Free. Every weekend from 2 pm to 4 pm, please This U.S. premiere of the exhibit uses • Rufus King Playground, 153rd Street and stop by our activity table to create something hands-on activities to explore mass, energy, Jamaica Avenue new. 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Further Afield Take the Hudson Loop: Pier 11 NY Wa- terway Ferry, Wall Street, Pier 11, Manhattan; www.nywaterway.com/HudsonLoop.aspx; Meet the Daily, various times, until Mon, Sept. 4; Fees apply. Kids under 12 years old ride free on all NY authors Waterway ferries, including those serving The Teresa E. Harris and Jen Calonita Hudson Loop, a 10-mile biking and walking trail. Visit urban waterfronts — the West Side come to American Girl Place for an of Manhattan and the Hudson County wa- author meet-and-greet on Aug. 12. terfront in Weehawken, Hoboken, and Jersey Inspire your girl’s imagination City, linked by NY Waterway ferries. The Loop by introducing her to the authors runs from Battery Park City in Lower Manhat- who brought American Girl’s new- tan, north on the Hudson River Park walkway/ est characters to life! Girls will bikeway to the W. 39th Street Ferry Termi- have a chance to meet Teresa E. nal, where service is available to Port Impe- rial in Weehawken. NY Waterway ferries run Harris, who wrote “Gabriela” and every 10 minutes during weekday rush hour “Gabriela Speaks Out,” and Jen and every 20 minutes off-peak, seven days a Calonita, who penned “The Real week. Z.” Be sure to bring your books Drones – Is the Sky the Limit?: Intrepid for autographs! Sea, Air & Space Museum, Pier 86 (46th Meet and greet on Aug. 12 Street and 12th Avenue), Manhattan; www. from 1 pm to 3 pm. Free. intrepidmuseum.org; Weekdays, 10 am to 5 American Girl Place [609 Fifth pm, Saturdays and Sundays, 10 am to 6 pm, Ave. at E. 50th Street in Midtown, until Thurs, Aug. 31; $33 ($31 seniors; $24, (877) 247–5223; www.americang​ children 5–12; Free children under 5 and re- tired and active duty military). irl.com/retail/new_​y​ork.php] The exhibit explores pilotless aircraft and the history of drone technology. Visitors can fly actual drones and explore the use of Cola is the presenting sponsor Nature Trek as “The Emperor’s New Clothes” and “The Ugly drones in police and fire departments, fash- well as dedicated educational programming Duckling.” For children ages 3 to 9. ion, and art. encouraging the exploration of the natural world through play. Art Island Outpost: Governors Island, Nature Trek: Bronx Zoo, 2300 Southern New York Harbor, Manhattan; (212) 274–0986; Blvd. at Boston Road, The Bronx; (718) 220– “The Princess, The Emperor, and the www.govisland.com; Saturdays and Sundays, Duck:” Swedish Cottage Marionette Theater, 5103; www.bronxzoo.com; Weekdays, 10 am 11 am to 3 pm, until Sat, Sept. 30; Free. to 5:30 pm, Saturdays and Sundays, 10 am to W. 79th Street and West Drive, Manhattan; 4:30 pm, until Mon, Oct. 23; Included in the (212) 988–9093; Tuesdays – Sundays, 10:30 Young artists will be inspired and chal- Total Experience Ticket: $36.95 ($26.95 chil- am and 2 pm, until Sun, Sept. 17; $12 ($8 for lenged to explore big projects utilizing found dren 3–12; $$31.95 seniors over 65). children under 12). objects and traditional mediums. This is a This new event at the zoo is a fully-netted The Swedish Cottage Marionette Theatre space to invent, adapt, and transform your re- bridge-and-tower course and nature play area presents three classic tales from Hans Chris- lationship to art and the art making process. geared toward children and families. Coca- tian Andersen “The Princess and the Pea,” Hosted by the Children’s Museum of the Arts. theMarketplace

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Good sense eatinG Christine M. PaluMbo, rD Eating right to lated macular degeneration down the road. protect your sight eat foods with a low glycemic index ack-to-school season can be an im- smoothie. They don’t need to consume People who do have the lowest risks of portant time for enhancing the qual- much; just one teaspoon of green leafy age-related macular degeneration. Food B ity of a child’s diet. While an abun- veggies with a bit of fat raise blood lutein with a lower glycemic index include veg- dance of research supports the critical role levels by almost 90 percent, according to a etables, fruits, and whole grains. Many of good nutrition in brain development and study in the American Journal of Clinical “white foods” such as white bread, mashed academic achievement, little is said about Nutrition. white potatoes, white rice, and white flour nutrition and a child’s eyesight. are higher on the glycemic index scale. Do you recall the joke, “Have you ever ‘Process’ your veggies seen a rabbit wearing glasses?” While you’ve undoubtedly heard that get zinc Certainly carrots — rich in beta caro- food processing is undesirable, chopping, In addition to lean red meat, poultry, tene — help promote good vision and pureeing, and cooking actually help the and fortified cereal, zinc can be found in healthy eyes. body absorb veggies’ nutrients. Cooking legumes of all kinds. These include black- But rabbits don’t maintain their glasses- them in oil or serving them with fat (think eyed peas, kidney beans, lima beans, and less face on a diet of only carrots. There dip or dressing) in the meal also boosts peanuts. are other delicious, nourishing foods that nutrient absorption. Zinc in an essential trace mineral that’s help maintain healthy eyes both now and found in high concentration in the eyes over a lifetime. go fish and may help protect them from the dam- No surprise, the same diet that helps People who eat fatty fish — such as aging effects of light. maintain optimal vision also helps keep the salmon, sardines, mackerel, sardines, hali- cardiovascular system in tip-top shape. A but, or tuna — just once a week have only Run and play diet low in saturated fat and rich in fruits, half the risk of developing age-related mac- For every hour kids play outside in vegetables, and whole grains can keep not ular degeneration compared to those who natural light with far-away horizons, they only your heart in good shape, but also eat fatty fish less than once a week. reduce their risk of nearsightedness by your peepers. Age-related macular degeneration is the two percent, according to researchers at Consider these tips: leading cause of adult blindness in the U.S. the University of Cambridge. Fatty fish is rich in DHA, which scientists And what about those carrots? Along eat leafy green vegetables believe help protect the macula or center with sweet potatoes, mangoes, apricots, They’re rich in the nutrient lutein. Lutein of the eye with its antioxidant and anti- cantaloupe, and pumpkin, carrots are rich protects the eye by forming pigments in inflammatory properties. Having adequate in beta-carotene — a precursor to vitamin A the macula, which lies in the center of levels of DHA is also linked to preventing — a nutrient that helps you see in the dark. the retina. The pigments help with vision dry-eye syndrome. Find more healthy vision tips from the by filtering out harmful blue light wave- National Eye Institute at NEI for Kids, lengths that can damage the eye. Seek out vitamin C https://nei.nih.gov/kids. The best greens are kale, spinach, ro- A diet high in vitamin C — citrus fruits, Christine Palumbo is a Naperville-registered maine lettuce, dandelion greens, collards, kiwi, berries, peaches, bell peppers, and dietitian nutritionist. Follow her on Twitter @ and turnip greens. If the kids balk at these, tomatoes — helps eyes function properly. It PalumboRD, Facebook at Christine Palumbo throw some baby spinach or kale into a also reduces the risk of developing age-re- Nutrition, or [email protected].

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