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job requirements, 144 • Numbers • junior , 146 junior ushers, 146 25 Karats (website), 356 maid of honor, 144 matron of honor, 144–145 • A • payment for wardrobe, 147 ring bearer, 146 abroad, marrying, 41, 71. See also travelling showing appreciation, 157–158 abroad transportation, 147 affi davit of eligibility, requirement of, 41 ushers, 145 African Methodist Episcopal Church, 173 wardrobe, 146 aisle runners, considering, 194 attendants’ attire, keeping contact The Aisle gowns, 327 information for, 15 album, compiling, 369–370 attendants for groom. See also clothes alcohol. See bar setup accessories, 155 Al-Islam website, 172 ascot, 153 American Ethical Union, 162–163 bat-wing bow tie, 154 Amsale designers, 147 , 151–152 announcements, 10. See also invitations bow tie, 154 at-home cards, 84 braces, 155 canceled , 84–85 collar styles, 153 enclosures, 84 cummerbund, 155 following up with, 83–84 cutaway coat, 151 maps, 84 dark suit, 151 pew cards, 84 dinner jacket, 151 publishing in newspapers, 47 footwear, 156 rain cards, 84 four-in-hand tie, 154–155 sending, 74 French cuff shirts, 152 apps. See also websites Mandarin collars, 152–153 iWedding Deluxe, 25 morning coat, 151 Marrily, 25 neckwear, 153–155 miWedding, 114 notched lapel, 152–153 Shazam, 229 peaked lapel, 152–153 SoundHound, 229 shawl collar, 152–153 Wedding Budget, 25 shirts, 152–153 WeddingWire, 25 COPYRIGHTEDspread MATERIAL collars, 152–153 at-home weddings stroller coat, 151 considering, 64 suits, 150–152 tents, 64–66 suspenders, 155 attendants tails, 151 best man, 144–145 turndown collars, 152–153 bridesmaids, 145 tuxedos, 150–152, 157 bridesmaids’ , 147–149 ushers, 149–150 choosing, 143–146 vest, 155 fl ower girl, 145 waistcoat, 155 groomsmen, 145 winged collars, 152–153 hair and makeup, 147 aufruf for groom, 136

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discount warehouses, 250 • B • do-it-yourself, 255 house wine, 248 bachelor , 137–138 ice, 252 bachelorette bash, 138 liqueurs, 259 baker. See cake liquor legalities, 250 band sources liquor stores, 250 blogs, 223 off-premise options, 250–252 concert promoters, 223 on-premise pricing, 248–250 friends, 223 premium, 248 hotels, 223 sparkling wine, 248 Internet, 223 stocking liquor, 252 music agencies, 223 super premium, 248 music colleges, 223 superstores, 250 nightclubs, 223 top shelf, 248 representatives, 223 traffi c fl ow, 255–256 vendors, 223 wine shop catalogs, 251 band space, square footage wineries, 251 recommendation, 63 bargains, fi nding online, 36–37 bands. See also musicians bartenders alternating with DJ, 228 estimating number needed, 256 amount of time hired for, 228 free pouring liquor, 256 announcements, 226 pourers, 256 auditioning, 224–225 tipping, 35 being fl exible with, 226 bathroom attendants, tipping, 35 booking, 222–223 Baum, Joanna, 148 breaks, 225 beer, selecting, 261. See also bar setup checking sound, 227 Best, Darrell, 67 coordination with maitre d,’ 226 best man etiquette, 225 choosing, 144–145 feeding, 226 keeping contact information handy, 15 fi rst dance, 225 BHLDN website, 327 hiring, 16 bids, comparing in spreadsheets, 25–26 introducing self to, 226 birdseed, throwing, 190 introductions, 226 BizBash website, 55 providing equipment, 226 blogs, checking for bargains, 37 reviewing wedding-day schedule, 225–226 blood tests, getting, 40 setting, 227 Blue Nile rings, 356 stage set, 226 bouquet types bandstand, setup, 288 ballerina, 202 bank accounts, updating name change on, 46 biedermeier, 202 banquet manager cascade, 202 keeping contact information handy, 15 composite, 202 soliciting input of, 276 crescent, 202 tipping, 35 glamelia, 202 bar setup. See also beer; Champagne; loose-tied, 202 specialty bars; wine nosegays, 202 aesthetics, 256–257 posies, 203 A.P. glasses, 248 presentation, 203 calculating amount of alcohol, 253–254 shape and style, 203 call liquor, 248 shower, 202 Champagne, 248 tossing, 203 checklist, 251, 254 tussy mussy, 203 corkage fee, 248–249

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bouquets informing vendors of, 390 arranging in holders, 204 keeping in perspective, 24 preserving, 206 making, 25–28 tying in bunches, 204 recording checks written, 28 wiring individually, 204 recording deposits on credit cards, 28 bow tie, tying, 154 tracking spending, 390 bridal and event shows, visiting, 54 watching overtime, 390 bridal luncheon, 138–139 working together on, 390 bridal registry budget items asking questions about, 302–303 ceremony, 27 choosing items, 302 clothing, 27 consolidated, 311 communication, 28 donations to charities, 304 events, 27 etiquette, 305–306, 394 gifts, 27 hobbies, 304 lodging, 28 home improvement, 304 miscellaneous, 27 making appointment, 302–303 music, 27 remarriage, 305 photography, 27 retailers, 303 reception, 27–28 services, 304 rings, 28 travel, 305 stationery, 28 , 136–137 transportation, 28 bride wedding consultant, 28 keeping contact information handy, 15 business cards, updating name change on, 46 name change, 44–46 bustle styles, 321–322 Brides Against Breast Cancer website, 327, 345 bride’s dresser, tipping, 35 • C • bride’s parents, keeping contact information handy, 15 CAD plans, studying for locations, 63 bridesmaids cake choosing, 145 base of, 272 keeping contact information handy, 15 bride’s, 271 bridesmaids’ dresses. See also clothes butter cream fi lling, 269 , 149 centerpiece, 270 degree of formality, 148 cost per slice, 270 designers, 147–148 cupcake, 270 fi nding, 148 cutting, 273–274 high neck, 149 delivery, 272 one-shoulder, 149 displaying, 271–272 separates, 148 dragées, 269 strapless, 149 fi nding baker, 266–267 v-neck, 149 fondant, 269 Brilliant Earth rings, 356 gold and silver leaf, 269 brunch reception, holding, 245–246 groom’s parents, 271 Buddhist ceremonies, 164–165 gum paste, 269 budget icing and fi lling, 269 avoiding “reality television,” 390 marzipan, 269 avoiding trends, 390 modeling chocolate, 269 being fl exible, 390 party favor, 270 being realistic about, 389 pastillage, 269 controlling, 391 pulled sugar, 269 creating with spreadsheet, 25–26 royal icing, 269 including 10-percent cushion, 28 separated, 267

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cake (continued) catering sources served with other dessert, 268 culinary schools, 232 serving piece, 272 professional associations, 232 spun sugar, 269 restaurant chefs, 232 stacked, 267 vendors, 232 sugar dough, 269 Catholicism website, 179 table, 287 celebrations table for, 272 , 137–138 tier fl avors, 270 bachelorette bash, 138 tiered, 267–268 bridal luncheon, 138–139 topping, 267–268 bridal shower, 136–137 type and fi llings, 268 , 135 whipped cream, 269 private ceremony, public party, 133 cake maker, keeping contact information , 139–140 handy, 15 remarriage, 133–134 calendar, tracking tasks and deadlines in, 14 renewing vows, 134–135 calendar holidays surprise weddings, 133 Christmas Eve and Day, 18 wrapping up day after, 140 Columbus Day, 18 centerpieces Easter, 18 branches, 197 Father’s Day, 18 breakaway, 197 Good Friday, 18 candelabra, 197 Labor Day, 18 fi sh bowl, 198 Martin Luther King Jr. Day, 18 garden, 198 Mother’s Day, 18 globe, 198 New Year’s Day, 18 ikebana, 198 Palm Sunday, 18 pavé style, 198 Passover, 18 still life, 198 Presidents’ Day, 18 topiaries, 198 Ramadan, 18 ceremonies. See also offi ciant; religious rites Rosh Hashanah, 18 and rules; weddings St. Patrick’s Day, 18 affi rmation of community, 164 September 11, 18 Bible readings, 164 Thanksgiving Day, 18 blessing of rings, 164 U.S. Independence Day, 18 candlelight, 173 Veteran’s Day, 18 charge to couple, 163 Yom Kippur, 18 declaration, 164 calligrapher, keeping contact information declaration of consent, 163 handy, 15 exchange of vows, 164 canceled weddings, announcing, 84–85 in house of worship, 162–163 candlelight ceremonies, 173 including in budget, 27 candles, choosing, 291–293 invocation, 163 caterers opening prayers, 163 arranging tasting, 234–236 opening words, 163 asking about locations, 54 order of events, 163–164 building rapport with chef, 234 presentation of bride, 163 comparing pricing, 234 presentation of rings, 164 food presentation, 235 pronouncement, 164 getting references, 232 reading literature, 184 interview checklist, 233 reading poetry, 184 keeping contact information handy, 15 reading scriptures, 184 soliciting input of, 276 sample schedule, 125 vegetarian option, 235 selecting offi ciant, 159–161 catering party manager, tipping, 35 wedding prayers, 164

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ceremony musicians, keeping contact getting refunds, 32 information handy, 15 getting specifi c details, 30 ceremony site manager, keeping contact insisting on, 30 information handy, 15 making deposits, 31–32 ceremony venues reading before signing, 30 getting info about, 58 Convertalot website, 64 square footage recommendation, 63 cooks, tipping, 35. See also chef; food service; certifi cates meal planning civil union, 40 corsages. See bouquet types , 40 costs chairs, alternatives, 288 being punctual, 29 Champagne, selecting, 261–263. See also bar checking bottom line, 30 setup cutting head count, 29 chapel, mobile, 67 earning credit card points, 29 checks written, recording, 28 eloping, 30 chef. See also food service; meal planning enrolling in awards programs, 29 building rapport with, 234 getting donations, 29 tipping, 35 knowing limits, 29 children, considering as invitees, 13 negotiating, 29 Christian processional, 175 opening wedding account, 29 church, infl atable, 67 reading contracts, 29 Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, 172 shopping for sales, 29 civil ceremonies tracking in spreadsheet, 25–26 performance of, 159 coupons, using, 37 tipping offi ciant, 35 covering up. See also wedding gowns civil unions bolero, 341 getting copy of certifi cate, 40 capes, 341 recognition of, 42 cloaks, 341 clergyperson, tipping, 35 muffs, 341 clothes, including in budget, 27. See also shawls, 341 attendants for groom; bridesmaids’ shrug, 341 dresses credit cards coatroom attendants, tipping, 35 recording deposits on, 28 cocktail area updating name change on, 46 bars, 285 cruise ship, getting married on, 71 escort card table, 284 cutlery, choosing, 292–293 tables, 283 traffi c fl ow, 283 cocktail reception • D • buffet, 238–239 hors d’oeuvre stations, 237–238 dance fl oor passed hors d’oeuvres, 237 renting, 288 ratio of bartenders to guests, 256 square footage recommendation, 63 shrimp, 238 dancing. See also music substituting for wedding dinner, 242–244 background music, 221 cocktail space, square footage and cake cutting, 222 recommendation, 63 cocktail reception, 217–218 communication, including in budget, 28 entering reception space, 218–219 consolidated registry, 311 ethnic, 221 contact information, keeping handy, 15 late night, 222 contracts with parents, 220 changing, 31 second tune, 220 contents, 31 special requests, 221 getting in writing, 30 timing fi rst dance, 219

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date for code, indicating in invitation, 91 peak versus off-peak, 18 drinks. See bar setup picking, 17 DVDs, preserving, 375 piggybacking holiday, 17 David’s Bridal, 148 deadlines, tracking in calendar, 14 • E • décor, clarifying details about, 276–277 deposits on credit cards, recording, 28 Eastern Orthodox ceremonies, 165–166 deputize step of planning, 19 eBay designers. See wedding designer cake toppers, 268 destination weddings. See also weekend checking bargains on, 37 weddings receiving gift cards bought from, 303 checklist, 69 eloping, 30 fi nding venues, 69–70 employer, notifying of name change, 46 planning, 68–71 engagement residency requirements, 71 announcing, 47 Diamond Ideals rings, 356 parties, 135 Diamond Review website, 356 Episcopal denomination, 173–174 diamonds escort cards alternatives, 351–353 ordering, 286 blood, 351 versus place cards, 284 carat weight, 350–351 Etsy website clarity, 349–350 cake toppers, 268 color, 349 invitations, 103 confl ict, 351 Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, 173 cost, 351 event producer/designer, duties of, 21 cut versus shape, 348–349 events, including in budget, 27 evaluating, 347–348 expenses dining space being punctual, 29 square footage recommendation, 63 checking bottom line, 30 tables, 285–287 cutting head count, 29 dinner. See meal planning; rehearsal dinner; earning credit card points, 29 wedding dinner eloping, 30 dishes, choosing, 292–293 enrolling in awards programs, 29 DJ getting donations, 29 alternating with live band, 228 knowing limits, 29 creating playlist, 229 negotiating, 29 hiring, 228–230 opening wedding account, 29 interviewing, 229 reading contracts, 29 documents, updating name change on, 46 shopping for sales, 29 DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), 42, 45 tracking in spreadsheet, 25–26 domestic partnerships, recognition of, 42 don’ts • F • bad-mouthing in-laws-to-be, 394 bankrupting friends and relatives, 394 Fairy Godmothers, Inc. website, 345 broadcasting registry, 394 faith. See religious rites and rules criticizing weddings, 395 familiarize step of planning, 10 grab, 395 fantasize step of planning, 10–11 lengthy day, 395 fathers, dressing, 156 neglecting seating assignments, 394 favors pre-wedding debauches, 393 boutique beers, 298 procrastinating with invitations, 395 candied almonds, 297 taking advantage of guests, 396 Champagne fl utes, 298

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cookies, 297 dream pillows, 297 • G • glass bottles, 298 hot chocolate on stick, 297 gay unions, lack of recognition, 42 love poems, 298 gift registries, 303–304 miniature wedding cakes, 297 gift table, 279–280 personalized boxes, 297 gifts personalized M & M’s, 297 for attendants, 158 plants, 297 for beloved, 158 portrait, 298 displaying, 307 preserves, 298 including in budget, 27 quotes, 298 keeping track of, 307 sugar boxes and chocolate, 297 money, 306 topiary trees, 298 regifting, 312 wine, 298 returning for canceled weddings, 311 Fina, Michael C., 311 sending thank-you notes, 307–309 fi nancial records, updating name change on, 46 wrapping for attendants, 37 fl oor plan Glass Slipper Project website, 345 example, 277 gloves, choosing, 341–342 getting, 275–276 gowns fl oral artists, fi nding, 192 The Aisle, 327 body shaper, 332 fl oral design. See also personal fl owers aisle runner, 194 bras, 331–332 altars, 195 bridal salons, 326 centerpieces, 196–199 bridal shop, 327 chuppahs, 195–196 choosing, 16 pew markers, 195 color, 322–323 reception arrangements, 199–200 couture, 327 row markers, 195 designer, 327 visualizing, 194–196 donating after wedding, 345 fl oral ideas and images, 193 dressing in, 343–344 fl orists fabric, 323–324 asking about locations, 54 fi nishers, 325 keeping contact information handy, 15 fi tting, 330–331 trying out, 276 garter, 332 fl ower girl, choosing, 145 Internet, 327 fl ower petals, throwing, 190 lace, 324 fl owers location, 314 for children, 205 petticoats, 332 for females, 204 preserving, 344 for males, 204 price, 314 for relatives, 204–205 recouping investment, 344 rentals, 328 food service. See also chef; meal planning alternative meals, 240 restyling after wedding, 345 a la carte, 240 sample sales, 328 French service, 240 season, 314 kosher, 240 selling after wedding, 345 number of waiters, 240 sewing, 328 plated, 240 shopping for, 317, 326–331 Russian service, 240 slip, 332 food stations, planning, 239 stockings, 332 foreign entry requirements, 386 tailors, 328 frequent fl ier programs, updating name tape, 332 change on, 46 transporting, 345

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gowns (continued) packing for, 384 trunk shows, 328 planning economically, 382–384 trying on, 329–330 preparing for travel, 385 undergarments, 331–332 registering for, 383 vintage, 328–329 researching destinations online, 380–381 websites, 131 travel agents, 381–382 gratuities. See tipping -wedding, 70 Greenvelope website, 105 hotel chambermaid, tipping, 35 groom. See also attendants for groom; houses of worship tuxedos American Ethical Union, 162–163 keeping contact information handy, 15 getting married in, 162–163 name change, 44–46 Humanist Society, 162 groom’s parents, keeping contact information Universal Life Church, 163 handy, 15 Human Rights Campaign, 43 groomsmen, choosing, 145 Humanist Society, 162 Gruber, Terry, 365 guest book, circulating, 284 guest list, creating, 11, 75 • I • guests being considerate of, 396 I Do Foundation website, 304 keeping track of, 14 images, collecting, 276 seating, 286 income tax forms, updating name change with special needs, 68 on, 46 The Innkeepers’ Register, 55 Innovations Extreme website, 67 • H • insect spraying service, keeping contact information handy, 15 hairdresser inspiration board, virtual, 276 keeping contact information handy, 15 insurance for wedding, considering, 32 tipping, 35 insurance policies, updating name change hairstyle, deciding on, 337–338 on, 46 handbag, choosing, 343 invitation printing methods headgear blind embossing, 94 circlets, 337 calligraphy, 94 cloche, 336 digital, 94 fascinator, 336 engraved, 94 garlands, 337 fl at printed, 94 hat, 336 foil stamped, 94 headband, 337 letterpress, 94 jewelry, 336 lithography, 94 Juliet cap, 337 offset, 94 Nefertiti headdress, 337 thermography, 95 profi le, 337 invitations. See also announcements tiara, 337 addressing envelopes, 97–99 wreaths, 337 avoiding procrastination, 395 headwaiter, tipping, 35 bride’s father, 79 Hindu ceremonies, 166–167 bride’s mother, 78–79 holidays. See calendar holidays bride’s parents, 80 honeymoon ceremony and reception, 88 advice, 378–379 ceremony size, 81 asking questions about, 377–378 customizing, 86, 103 as family vacation, 378 deceased parents, 89 going abroad, 385–386 designing, 74

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double invitations, 82 dress code, 91 • J • e-mailing, 105 engagement parties, 135 J. Crew website envelopes, 96–97 bridesmaids’ dresses, 148 e-RSVP service, 105 wedding gowns, 327 extracurricular events, 92–93 jeweler, keeping contact information fonts, 95–96 handy, 15 formalities, 75–77 jewelry, selecting, 342 French-fold, 82 Jewish ceremonies groom’s parents, 80–81 aufruf, 136 hosts, 89 during, 168 imprintable papers, 103 formation under chuppah, 170–171 indicating wedding hosts, 77 marital contract, 171 ink color, 96 offi ciant, 167 locations, 88 prior to, 168 mailing, 104 processional, 169 nonprinted, 91 rabbi, 167–168 ordering, 16, 73–74 Reform rabbis, 167 paper, 95 ufruf, 136 parent-hosted weddings, 86–87 yichud, 171 preserving, 104 junior bridesmaids, choosing, 146 printing, 102–103 junior ushers, choosing, 146 proofi ng, 96–97 punctuation, 75 • K • to reception only, 82 rehearsal dinner, 92, 140 The Knot website renewing vows, 134–135 bakers, 266 RSVPs, 77, 90 , 383 same-sex couples, 89 self-hosted weddings, 81, 86–87 sending, 73 • L • separate locations, 82 things to avoid, 88 legal records, updating name change on, 46 titles of address, 99–101 lesbian unions, lack of recognition, 42 typefaces, 93 Lhuillier, Monique, 147 to U.S. President and First Lady, 102 license. See using informal wording, 86–89 lighting designer, keeping contact weddings not in churches, 78 information handy, 15 weekend weddings, 110–111 lighting wedding space wording, 75–77 bee lights, 282 Islam, marriage in, 172 down-lights, 282 iWedding Deluxe app, 25 fairy lights, 282 IZEs general, 282 deputize, 19 gobos, 282 familiarize, 10 moving lights, 282 fantasize, 10–11 perimeter, 282 organize, 13–14 pin spots, 282 prioritize, 12 twinkle lights, 282 synchronize, 16–18 up-lights, 282 visualize, 12 washes, 282

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liqueurs maitre d,’ tipping, 35 B&B, 259 makeup advice cognac, 259 airbrushing, 340 Cointreau, 259 blemishes, 339 cordials, 259 brushes, 339 Grand Marnier, 259 cheeks, 339 Kahlúa, 259 eyes, 339 Sambuca, 259 face, 340 specialty drinks, 259 lips, 340 liquor legalities, 250 skin tone, 340 liquor services, keeping contact information makeup artist handy, 15 keeping contact information handy, 15 location sources tipping, 36 bridal shows, 54 maps, creating, 115 caterers, 54 marriage event shows, 54 announcing to parents, 10 fi nding, 54 keeping healthy perspective about, 24 fl orists, 54 same-sex legalities, 42–43 The Inkeepers’ Register, 55 marriage certifi cate Internet, 55 getting copy of, 40 magazines, 54 signing at wedding, 40 newspapers, 55 traveling with, 46 photographers, 54 marriage license private clubs, 56 applying for, 40 social networks, 55 blood tests, 40 venue databases, 55 versus certifi cate, 39 wedding blogs, 55 cooling-off period, 39 locations getting copy of, 41 all-inclusive, 58 getting early, 39 asking questions about, 59–63 paying for, 40 CAD plans, 63 premarital medical examination, 40 ceremonies, 58 previous , 40 checklist, 60–63 proof of age, 40 choosing, 16 proof of identity, 40 getting info by phone, 56–57 receiving from offi ciant, 40 measurement converter, 64 signing, 41 plus-plus, 58 Marrily app, 25 pricing, 58 marrying abroad, 41, 71. See also traveling receptions, 57–58 abroad square footage recommendation, 63–64 matron of honor, choosing, 144–145 tax and tips, 58 meal planning. See also chef; cooks; wedding turning of room, 57–58 dinner visiting, 58–64 adapting recipes, 236 lodging, including in budget, 28 format, 237 Loupe application, using with fl owers, 193 getting input from friends, 236 Lutheran Church, 173 serving food, 239–240 taking palate poll, 236 tea in lieu of dinner, 244–245 • M • medical examination, premarital, 40 memories, preserving, 371 magazines, consulting about locations, 54 menu card, designing, 295 maid of honor military weddings choosing, 144 arch of sabers, 132 keeping contact information handy, 15 civilian bride, 132

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dressing to code, 131–132 considering, 44–46 guests, 132 contacting Social Security, 45 noncommissioned offi cers, 132 drawbacks for women, 45 offi cers, 131 for groom, 44–46 reception, 132 impact on career, 45 miscellaneous, including in budget, 27 notifying employer, 46 Missouri Synod, 173 for same-sex couples, 45 miWedding app, 114 updating records, 45–46 money, giving as wedding gift, 306 napkins monogramming choosing, 291 crystal, 309 monogramming, 309 fl atware, 309 National Weather Service website, 128 napkins, 309 necklines for gown pillowcases, 309 bateau, 316, 318 sheets, 310 halter, 316, 318 tablecloths, 310 jewel, 316, 318 towels, 310 keyhole, 316 Mormon ceremonies, 172 off the shoulder, 316 mothers, dressing, 156 one shoulder, 316 music. See also dancing portrait, 316, 318 a capella group, 209 Sabrina, 316 ceremony, 208–209 scoop, 316 choir, 209–210 spaghetti straps, 317 classical ensemble, 209–210 strapless, 317 getting suggestions, 208 sweetheart, 317–318 including in budget, 27 V-neck, 317 jazz ensemble, 209 wedding-band collar, 317 orchestra, 210 New Jersey, fi nding venues in, 55 organ, 209 New York, fi nding venues in, 55 piano, 209 Newly Wish website, 303–304 postlude, 209 newspapers, publishing announcements in, prelude, 208 47–49 procession, 208 Nolo legal website, pre-nup tips on, 43 recession, 209 notes, taking, 14 recorded, 209 soloist, 209–210 musical menus • O • Catholic ceremonies, 212 Jewish ceremonies, 212–213 offi ciant. See also ceremonies nondenominational ceremonies, 213 keeping contact information handy, 15 Protestant ceremonies, 211 religious considerations, 162–163 musicians. See also bands same-sex ceremony, 161 choosing, 214 selecting, 159–161 tipping, 36 ship captain, 159–160 Muslim ceremonies, 172 tipping, 34 My Wedding site, 55 online bargains comparing prices, 37 coupons, 37 • N • eBay, 37 fi nding, 36–37 name change paying sales tax, 37 applying for, 45 wedding blogs, 37 for bride, 44–46 wrapping gifts, 37

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organize step of planning, 13–14 photos calendar for tasks and deadlines, 14 after ceremony, 371–372 making swatch book, 14 before ceremony, 370–371 taking notes, 14 compact discs, 369 time management, 14 contact sheets, 369 tracking guests, 14 enlarging, 369 fl ash drives, 369 Internet album, 369 • P • preserving, 375 prints, 369 Paperless Post website, 105, 110 proofs, 369 parents, announcing marriage to, 10 taking before ceremony, 123 parking attendants, tipping, 36 wedding album, 369–370 parking services, keeping contact information Pinterest website, 14 handy, 15 place cards, 286, 293 party favors. See favors playlist passports creating for music, 229 checking for travel abroad, 386 sample songs, 229–230 updating name change on, 46 portable toilet company, keeping contact payments due, tracking in spreadsheet, 26 information handy, 15 Perfect Postage website, 104 portable toilets, renting, 67 personal fl owers. See also fl oral design porters, tipping, 36 bouquets, 202–203 postcards, sending, 74 bride and attendants, 201–203 prenuptual agreement explained, 200 benefi t, 43 phone numbers, keeping handy, 15 drawing up, 43–44 photographer. See also videographer goodwill as asset, 43 asking questions, 54, 362 negotiating contract, 44 explaining dynamics, 367 psychological repercussions, 43 fi nding, 361–363 Presbyterian Church, 173 hiring, 16 printing invitations, 102–103 identifying VIPs, 367 prioritize step of planning, 12 keeping contact information handy, 15 private ceremony, public party, 133 shooting rehearsal dinner, 367 program specifying groupings, 367 designing, 188 tipping, 36 music, 188 twilight fees, 362 samples, 189–190 and videographers, 359–360 Protestant ceremonies photography African Methodist Episcopal Church, 173 candid shots, 361, 364 Christian processional, 175 fees and packages, 368–369 Episcopal denomination, 173–174 formals, 364 Evangelical Lutheran Church including in budget, 27 in America, 173 portraits, 361, 364 Lutheran Church, 173 setup shots, 364 mainstream denominations, 174–176 special effects, 366–367 Missouri Synod, 173 stock shots, 364 Presbyterian Church, 173 photography format, deciding on, 364–366 United Church of Christ, 173 photography styles United Methodist Church, 173 classic, 363 United Pentcostal Church International, 173 photojournalistic, 363 public record, documenting traditional, 363 marriage in, 46–47

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separate ceremonies, 165 • Q • Shinto, 179–180 Sikh, 180 Quaker ceremonies, 176–177 Unitarian Universalist Society, 181 remarriage, 133–134 • R • renewing vows, 134–135 rental companies, keeping contact reality checklist, making, 12 information handy, 15 receiving-line logistics, 127–128 Replacements, Ltd. website, 303 reception response cards, sending, 90 including in budget, 27–28 restrooms, decorating, 295 sample schedule, 126 retirement accounts, updating name change reception musicians, keeping contact on, 46 information handy, 15 ring bearer, choosing, 146 reception site checklist ring pillow, fabrics for, 206 capacity, 60 rings comparing costs, 63 antique pieces, 357–358 dancing and music, 61 buying new, 356 dates and times, 60 CZ (cubic zirconi), 352 decor, 61–62 engraving, 355 fees, 60–61 evaluating diamonds, 347–351 fi ne print, 62 fi nding, 355–358 fl oor-plan dimensions, 60 gemstones, 352 food and drink, 61 gimmal, 355 heating, cooling, plumbing, 62 for groom, 355 lighting, 62 heirlooms, 358 logistics, 60 including in budget, 28 services and staff, 62 metals, 354 reception site manager, keeping contact placing on fi nger, 356 information handy, 15 settings, 353–354 reception venues, getting info about, 57–58 synthetics, 352–353 regifting, 312 wearing, 356 registry. See bridal registry Roman Catholic ceremonies, 178–179 rehearsal Romantic Places website, 55 expectations, 186–187 room captain, tipping, 36 holding, 185–186 rooms, turning, 57–58 rules, 186–187 RSVPs seating guests, 185 e-RSVP service, 105 rehearsal dinner, 139–140 requesting in invitations, 77 invitations, 92 variations, 90 weekend weddings, 109 religious ceremonies. See houses of worship religious rites and rules. See also ceremonies • S • Buddhist, 164–165 same-sex legalities, 42–43 Eastern Orthodox, 165–166 civil unions, 42 Hindu, 166–167 DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), 42, 45 Jewish, 167–171 domestic partnerships, 42 Mormon, 172 Human Rights Campaign, 43 Muslim, 172 state recognition, 42 Protestant, 173–176 same-sex weddings Quaker, 176–177 choosing offi ciant for, 161 Roman Catholic, 178–179 invitations, 85, 89

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same-sex weddings (continued) songs. See DJ; music name changes, 45 SoundHound app, 229 readings for ceremonies, 184 spaces. See also locations religious, 161 bandstand, 288 schedule. See wedding-day schedule ceilings, 280–283 scrapbook, creating, 371 chairs, 288 Scratch Events website, 228 cocktail area, 283–285 seating guests, 286 dance fl oor, 288 Shazam app, 229 decorating, 280 Shinto ceremonies, 179–180 dining areas, 285–286 ship captain, choosing as offi ciant, 159–160 driveway, 279 shoes, shopping for, 333–334 fl oors, 280–283 Sikh ceremonies, 180 furniture, 283 silhouettes. See also wedding gowns gift table, 279 A-line, 314 lighting, 281–282 back of gown, 319–320 props, 283 ball gown, 315 tabletops, 289–295 bateau neck, 316, 318 transitional, 295 empire, 315 walls, 280–283 halter neckline, 316, 318 special needs of guests, anticipating, 68 jewel neckline, 316, 318 specialty bars. See also bar setup keyhole neckline, 316 arrangements, 258 length of gown, 320 cappuccino, 257–258 mermaid, 315 dessert, 258 necklines, 316–318 espresso, 257–258 off the shoulder neckline, 316 vodka, 258 one shoulder neckline, 316 wine, 258 portrait neckline, 316, 318 specialty drinks Sabrina neckline, 316 coladas, 259 scoop neckline, 316 cosmopolitans, 259 sheath, 315 margaritas, 259 sleeve styles, 318–319 mojitos, 259 slip, 316 sangria, 259 spaghetti straps neckline, 317 sidecars, 259 strapless neckline, 317 spreadsheet sweetheart neckline, 317–318 comparing bids in, 25–26 two-piece, 316 creating budget with, 25–26 train, 320–321 payments-due column, 26 V-neck, 317 tracking expenses, 25–26 wedding-band collar, 317 stationer, keeping contact information Sir dresses, 148 handy, 15 sites. See locations; spaces; websites stationery sleeve styles for gown including in budget, 28 , 318 updating name change on, 46 bat wings, 319 stationery wardrobe, ordering, 74 bell, 318 stemware, choosing, 292–293 cap, 318 suits, choosing for groom’s attendants, dolman, 319 150–152 fi tted, 319 supplier of party favors and welcome gifts, Juliet, 319 keeping contact information handy, 15 three-quarters, 319 surprise weddings, 133 T-shirt, 319 swatch book, making, 14 Social Security, contacting for name change, 45 swatches, collecting, 276

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synchronize step of planning, 16–18 throwing band, 16 birdseed, 190 calendar holidays, 18 fl ower petals, 190 gown, 16 time, organizing, 14 invitations, 16 timeline, considering, 16–18 location, 16 tipping photographer, 16 banquet manager, 35 picking date, 17 bartenders, 35 bathroom attendants, 35 bride’s dresser, 35 • T • catering party manager, 35 catering staff, 33 table numbers, including, 293 chef, 35 tables civil ceremony offi ciant, 35 arranging, 286 clergyperson, 35 assigning for guests, 286, 293 coatroom attendants, 35 cake, 287 cooks, 35 dining, 285–286 hairdresser, 35 head, 287 headwaiter, 35 tabletops hotel chambermaid, 35 accoutrements, 293 maitre d,’ 35 candles, 291–293 makeup person, 36 cutlery, 292–293 musicians, 36 dishes, 292–293 offi ciants, 34 menu card, 295 parking attendants, 36 napkins, 291 photographer, 36 place cards, 293 porters, 36 place settings, 293 room captain, 36 stemware, 292–293 tailor, 36 tablecloths, 289–291 transportation driver, 36 tailor vendors, 34 keeping contact information handy, 15 wait staff, 36 tipping, 36 , 36 tasks, tracking in calendar, 14 tips, calculating, 33–36 tea, substituting for full meal, 244–245 toasts, making, 263–264 team, choosing, 19 toilets, renting, 67 tent contracts, 66 tourist areas, holding weddings in, 74 tent designs, 65 train of gown tented wedding, considering, 66 bustle, 321–322 tents cathedral, 320 banners, 296 chapel, 320 decorating, 296 court, 321 fabric linings, 296 detachable, 321 fl ooring, 296 monarch, 321 interior lighting, 296 royal cathedral, 321 landscape lighting, 296 sweep, 321 poles, 296 watteau, 321 windows, 296 transportation thank-you notes, sending for gifts, 307–309 including in budget, 28 theme weddings wedding-day schedule, 121–122 black and white, 130 transportation company, keeping contact holiday, 130 information handy, 15 seasonal, 130 transportation driver, tipping, 36 vintage, 131

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travel agent videographer. See also photographer keeping contact information handy, 15 fi nding, 373–374 using for honeymoon, 381–382 keeping contact information handy, 15 travel website, 305 and photographers, 359–360 traveling abroad. See also marrying abroad requesting highlight disc, 375 AIDS/HIV testing, 386 working with, 374 foreign entry requirements, 386 videos honeymooning, 385–386 preserving, 375 passports, 386 requesting samples, 374 State Department warnings, 386 retaining master disc, 375 vaccinations, 386 using microphones, 375 visas, 386 visualize step of planning, 12 turning of room, 57–58 voter registration card, updating name Tuscan tasting menu, 241 change on, 46 tuxedo store, keeping contact information vows handy, 15 creating script, 181–183 tuxedos renewing, 134–135 choosing for groom’s attendants, 150–152 taking, 181 renting versus buying, 157 • U • • W • wait staff, tipping, 36 ufruf for groom, 136 Wang, Vera, 147–148 Union for Reform Judaism website, 167 weather websites, 128 Unique Venues website, 55 websites, 114. See also apps Unitarian Universalist Church, 161 African Methodist Episcopal Church, 173 Unitarian Universalist Society, 181 Al-Islam, 172 United Methodist Church, 173 American Ethical Union, 162–163 United Pentcostal Church International, 173 Amsale dress designers, 147 Universal Life Church, 163 Baum, Joanna, 148 U.S. State Department website, 41 BHLDN, 327 ushers, choosing, 145 BizBash, 55 Blue Nile rings, 356 Brides Against Breast Cancer, 327, 345 • V • Brilliant Earth rings, 356 budgets for weddings, 25 veils Catholicism, 179 angel, 334 Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day ballerina, 334 Saints, 172 birdcage, 334 Convertalot, 64 blusher, 334 David’s Bridal, 148 cathedral, 334 destination weddings, 70 chapel, 334 Diamond Ideals rings, 356 circular, 334 Diamond Review, 356 elbow, 334 discount airfares, 380 fi ngertip, 335 Distinctive Honeymoons, 383 fl yaway, 335 DIY wedding, 37 mantilla, 335 eBay, 37, 268, 303 pouf, 335 e-RSVP service, 105 shopping for, 335 Etsy, 103, 268 vendors, tipping, 34 Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, 173 venue databases, checking online, 55 Fairy Godmothers, Inc., 345 venues. See locations Fina, Michael C., 311

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fl ower images, 193 United Church of Christ, 173 fonts for invitations, 96 United Methodist Church, 173 foreign entry requirements, 386 United Pentcostal Church International, 173 gift registries, 303–304 Universal Life Church, 163 Glass Slipper Project, 345 U.S. State Department, 41 gowns, 131 vintage bridal gowns, 329 Greenvelope, 105 virtual inspiration board, 276 Hindu Universe, 167 Wang, Vera, 147–148 honeymoon destinations, 380–381 weather, 128 honeymooning abroad, 386 wedding budgets, 25 Human Rights Campaign, 43 wedding gowns, 327 Humanist Society, 162 Yoo, Jenny, 147 I Do Foundation, 304 Zazzle, 104 The Innkeepers’ Register, 55 wedding account, opening for costs, 29 Innovations Extreme, 67 wedding album, compiling, 369–370 J. Crew, 148, 327 wedding blogs The Knot, 266, 383 checking for locations, 55 Le Fay, Morgane, 148 getting bargains on, 37 Lhuillier, Monique, 147 , 245–246 Loupe application, 193 wedding brunch, 245–246 Lutheran Church, 173 Wedding Budget app, 25. See also budget maps, 115 . See cake marriage certifi cates, 40 wedding consultant Missouri Synod, 173 including in budget, 28 My Wedding site, 55 keeping contact information handy, 15 Newly Wish, 303–304 wedding date Paperless Post, 105, 110 peak versus off-peak, 18 Perfect Postage, 104 picking, 17 Pinterest, 14 piggybacking holiday, 17 pre-nup tips from Nolo, 43 wedding décor, clarifying details about, Presbyterian Church, 173 276–277 printing invitations, 102–103 wedding designer Replacements, Ltd., 303 agreement details, 278 Reverend Darrell Best, 67 choosing, 278 rings, 356 meeting with, 278 Romantic Places, 55 wedding dinner. See also meal planning Scratch Events, 228 planning, 241 Shinto Online Network Association, 180 substituting with cocktail reception, 242–244 Sikh Network, 180 wedding gown maker, keeping contact Sikhism home page, 180 information handy, 15 Sir dresses, 148 wedding gowns. See also covering up; Social Security for name change, 45 silhouettes State Department warnings for travelling The Aisle, 327 abroad, 386 body shaper, 332 tape for wedding gowns, 332 bras, 331–332 travel, 305 bridal salons, 326 travel agencies, 380, 382 bridal shop, 327 travel clubs, 380 choosing, 16 25 Karats rings, 356 color, 322–323 Union for Reform Judaism, 167 couture, 327 Unique Venues, 55 designer, 327 Unitarian Universalist Association of donating after wedding, 345 Congregations, 181 dressing in, 343–344 Unitarian Universalist Church, 161, 181 fabric, 323–324

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wedding gowns (continued) pre-ceremony, 124 fi nishers, 325 providing directions, 122–123 fi tting, 330–331 receiving-line logistics, 127–128 garter, 332 reception, 126 Internet, 327 seating guests, 125 lace, 324 taking photos, 123 location, 314 tossing bouquet, 127 petticoats, 332 transportation, 121–122 preserving, 344 weather, 128 price, 314 weddings. See also ceremonies recouping investment, 344 canceling, 32 rentals, 328 DIY online search, 37 restyling after wedding, 345 fantasizing about, 10–11 sample sales, 328 postponing, 32 season, 314 returning rings, 50 selling after wedding, 345 settling up, 49–50 sewing, 328 unplanning, 49–50 shopping for, 317, 326–331 weddings at home slip, 332 considering, 64 stockings, 332 tents, 64–66 tailors, 328 WeddingWire app, 25 tape, 332 weekend weddings. See also destination transporting, 345 weddings trunk shows, 328 apps, 114 trying on, 329–330 negotiating group rate, 115 undergarments, 331–332 Paperless Post website, 110 vintage, 328–329 personalized websites, 114 websites, 131 prewedding info, 114–115 wedding lunch, 245–246 providing details, 111–115 wedding meal. See meal planning providing map, 115 wedding planner rehearsal dinner, 109 amount of help needed, 20–21 religious Jewish ceremonies, 109 considering, 20 save-the-date request for guests, 109–111 day-of, 20 sending invitations, 110–111 event producer/designer, 21 timeline, 107 full-service coordinator, 21 welcome package, 116–117 hourly planner, 21 wine, selecting, 260–261. See also bar setup referral maker, 21 timing hiring of, 20–21 tipping, 36 • Y • wedding planning, pitfall, 276 wedding professionals, interviewing, 21–22 Yoo, Jenny, 147 wedding rings. See rings Wedding Row application, 14 • Z • wedding space. See locations wedding supper, planning, 242 Zazzle website, 104 wedding websites. See websites wedding-day schedule ceremony, 120, 125 master, 120–121, 123–126

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