(Hythe West) Report from Member Serving on Outside Body: Families

Hythe & Dibden Parish Councillor’s Report: Rebecca Clark (Hythe West) Report from Member Serving on Outside Body: Families Matter, July 2019 I was especially pleased to become the newly-appointed Hythe & Dibden Parish Council appointee to Families Matter, a charity based at Hythe United Reformed Church whose aim is ‘to advance public education and awareness in the promotion of good parenting and other areas of family life and to build self confidence and resilience. This is achieved through the provision of support, training, advice and information.’ I certainly enjoyed attending the Families Matter AGM on 10th July, at which attendees heard about the previous year’s activities across the many projects that the charity runs for families and children in our local area. We heard from employees, trustees, volunteers and from those who spoke of their own personal experiences accessing activities, hearing first-hand therefore their impact. A warm and generous welcome is extended to all who contact Families Matter, as it was to all who attended the AGM. In the years that I have been a parent and a school governor locally, Families Matter has been mentioned often as an organisation that has provided significant and much-valued assistance to local families. Activities include parenting classes, a women’s wellbeing group, groups for people with dementia and their carers, and a programme to assist pupils with transition to secondary school. This is just a small selection of the activities they provide however. I enclose with this report, the Trustees’ Report and Financial Statement for the Year ending 31st March 2019 and would encourage those who have not read it already, to read further to gauge fully the important work of Families Matter in our community. Families Matter helped 200 families in 2018; 646 people, including partners and children. Families Matter has been established for over 20 years and so has played - and continues to play - a significant role in the wellbeing of our community. Many of the charity’s activities occur during school term time and so will take a break now for the summer holidays, commencing again in earnest from September. Some activities continue throughout the year however, for example Hythe Huddle (for people with dementia and their carers). I attach a further report prepared for the AGM by the charity’s Project Manager, Julia Cross, which contains details of the full range of activities at Families Matter and when they occur for anyone who would like more information. It has been a pleasure to meet with Families Matter, introduce myself and offer any assistance I can via this new councillor appointee link. I look forward to this new link developing as the year progresses.

Councillor Rebecca Clark

Families Matter at Hythe URC

Registered Charity No. 1097108

Cornerstone United Reformed Church New Road, Hythe, Southampton, Hampshire SO45 6BR

Direct line: 023 8020 7623

E-mail: [email protected]

Trustees’ Report and Financial Statement for the year ending 31st March 2019

presented at Families Matter

AGM on the 10th July 2019

Includes Trustees’ Annual Reports Chairman’s Report Project Reports Treasurer’s Report Receipt and Payments Accounts Independent Examiner’s Report

of family life and to build self confidence and CHAIRMAN’S REPORT resilience. This is achieved through the provision Revd Eddie Boon of support, training, advice and information.”

It gives me pleasure to We are always open to new ways of working and introduce our 2019 AGM new partnerships with others so that we can make report. Families Matter has a big difference in the lives of many families, now been in existence for adults, older people, young people and children in more than 21 years and response to the vision and calling laid upon us. If continues to serve and you can help us please do, and if we can work support local families in a together with you in some way then please variety of ways. Yet contact us. another year of serving our local community in, as Eddie Boon Chairman - Families Matter our Project Manager Julia

Cross points out, an environment of ever decreasing help for people elsewhere. We have ADMINISTRATION particularly found an increased need for supporting individual families in need and we are Joan Shewry seeking to help within our own limitations. As the Families Matter I therefore want to take this opportunity to thank project expands so does Julia Cross, our Project Manager who is doing a the administration. New remarkable job and all the workers (whether paid policies and new or voluntary), trustees and supporters and to the regulations always mean people at Cornerstone who offer a warm welcome an increase in to all those who attend Families Matter activities. paperwork.

We know that we are touching deep needs in our In addition to what Julia community through our activities so please keep does in the office, up the good work! I want to particularly pay tribute Barbara Coulthard, a to all the hard work that Angela Lambert did with volunteer, ably deals with us before moving away and it has been lovely to archiving, filing, see Kerry Farrow begin to take on increased shredding and databases responsibilities within Families Matter. You will to enable reports to be see from the report that as usual there are other made and applications endings and beginnings as we continually seek to for funding too. As in any sustain this important work. It has been good to office there are of course telephone calls, welcome two new trustees (Joy Drake and messages and emails which also need to be dealt Barbara Coulthard) who have straight away made with. Barbara also supports our Project Manager an impact. and workers with the production of any We continue to be grateful to those who support paperwork, copies etc. they may need. our work financially from within Cornerstone and Another volunteer we are pleased to have is outside. Julia has listed outside bodies that are Diana Sandy, who, in spite of health issues this currently supporting us financially and we are year, has continued to keep up our website for us always on the lookout for new financial partners and produce all the leaflets and fliers that are and supporters, recognizing that this does come needed, for which we are very grateful. with additional administration both in applications and reporting (in addition to the many other policy We continue to make all the payments from the and admin tasks that are placed upon us). various funds, deal with time sheets and bookings as necessary and provide the treasurer with We do hope that we are able to meet some of the monthly expenditure and income sheets, all of needs of our community in a caring, flexible and which are increasing all the time. responsive way. We have for some time felt that our stated aim needs a slight revision to more fully It is a privilege and a pleasure to serve the Project describe our work. We are therefore proposing to in every way we can and to deal with incoming revise our aim to the following with effect from this and outgoing communication with clients, other AGM: organisations and professionals.

“To advance public education and awareness in the promotion of good parenting and other areas

Trustees' Annual Report for the period st st 1 April 2018 to 31 March 2019

Section A Reference and administration details

Charity name Families Matter at Hythe United Reformed Church

Other names charity is known by

Registered charity number 1097108

Charity's principal address Cornerstone

Hythe United Reformed Church

Hythe, Southampton

Postcode SO45 6BR

Names of the charity trustees who manage the charity

Dates acted if not Name of body entitled Trustee name Office (if any) for whole year to appoint trustee

1 Rev. Eddie Boon Chairman Charity Members 2 Joan Shewry Secretary Charity Members 3 Peter Blasby Treasurer Charity Members 4 Beverley Hall Charity Members 5 Kay Keen Charity Members 6 Barbara Coulthard From Sept 2018 Charity Members 7 Joy Drake From Sept 2018 Charity Members

Section B Structure, governance and management

Description of the charity’s trusts

Type of governing document Constitution

How the charity is constituted Association

Trustee selection methods Elected by members at AGM

Additional governance issues

You may choose to include additional information, where relevant, about:

 Policies and procedures Families Matter maintains a full set of policies and adopted for the induction procedures and training of trustees.  The charity’s organisational structure and any wider Families Matter works with two other local charities, The network with which the Handy Trust and Youth and Families Matter and some charity works. statutory bodies

 Relationship with any related We have working agreements with the Handy Trust parties.

 Trustees’ consideration of All major systems and procedures are the result of major risks and the system collective management discussion and procedures to manage them.

Section C Objectives and activities

Summary of the objects of To advance public education and awareness in the promotion the charity set out in its of good parenting through the provision of advice, information, governing document training and support.

Summary of the main activities undertaken for Parenting courses, group activities, one to one support, working the public benefit in in schools and other places and communicating with children relation to these objects through the use of puppets on many aspects, such as bullying, (Include within this section the statutory declaration that internet safety, knife crime, drugs, etc. trustees have had regard to the guidance issued by the The trustees have had regard to the guidance issued by the Charity Commission on public Charity Commission on public benefit. benefit)

Additional details of objectives and activities

You may choose to include further statements, where relevant, about: Families Matter does not supply grants to other people or  Policy on grant-making organisations  Policy programme related investment Families Matter do not have an investment policy

 Contribution made by Families Matter relies to a great extent on volunteers to provide Volunteers much of the service provision and to support our paid workers

Section D Achievements and performance

Summary of the main  200 new families have been helped in various ways during this achievements of the year charity during the year  66% of parents attending parenting courses said their children were happier at school and achieved better results after their parents had attended a parenting course.  42 children on the “On the Right Track” programme from January 2019 and the group that transferred to senior schools in September 2018 happily settled.  Mentoring scheme begun with two workers and proving successful.  A very successful staff Away Day held.  Three year funding secured from two sources continues to make our work viable and supported into the future.  The Puppet Project will be launching a new Internet Safety presentation shortly. Over 4,000 children have seen one of the varied presentations, for which there is a high demand from schools who appreciate this special curriculum support.

Section E Financial review

The reserve fund continues to grow and now represents six Brief statement of the months of our expenditure. We will continue to grow this fund. charity’s policy on reserves

Details of any funds materially in deficit

Further financial review details

You may choose to include additional information, where Principal sources of funding: Dibden Allotments Charity, BBC relevant about: Children in Need, Hampshire County Council, New Forest District Council, Hythe United Reformed Church plus many  The charity’s principal smaller amounts coming from other sources including fund sources of funds (including raising which all help to maintain this work. any fundraising).  How expenditure has supported the key Feedback from all areas of work shows the need and the objectives of the charity. success of our work.

 Investment policy and objectives including any Families Matter does not have an investment policy ethical investment policy adopted.

Declaration

20 th June 2019

FAMILIES MATTER ACHIEVEMENTS

At least 200 families were impacted during the year by our various groups and activities. The figures are shown below

Number of Estimated Number of Families People Helped Activity/Group Helped in (including partners 2018 and children) On The Right Track 39 156 Family Support 1:1 19 76 Parenting Courses 27 108 SWANS 9 36 SWANS Activity Days 12 48 Women’s Wellbeing Group 21 42 School Mentoring 7 28 “Our Time” Group 10 40 Hythe Huddle 35 70 Blackfield Bubble 10 20 Memory Group 11 22 TOTAL 200 646

Figures for first three months of 2019 (January to March) 41 (full year On The Right Track total) 164 6 (first 3 Family Support 1:1 months) 24 Parenting Courses 10 40 Women’s Wellbeing Group 1 (new) Autism Drop In 7 Hythe Huddle 2 (new) TOTAL 67 228

PROJECT MANAGER’S REPORT ON THE RIGHT TRACK

Julia Cross Kerry Farrow

On The Right Track continues to be very successful in our local schools. The programme is designed to help Year 6 children (age 10/11) transition happily into their Secondary Schools. The feedback from the schools is extremely positive and research shows that children who have a good start at secondary school go on to lead happier, positive and productive lives.

The children who started secondary school in September 2018 have all settled in well and during our regular visits it was lovely to see the Year 7’s progressing well and growing in In 2018/19 we have seen Families Matter stretch confidence each week as they got familiar with and expand to meet the growing demand for their new surroundings. To see the results first services for local families in need, especially as hand at how much ‘On The Right Track’ has the children’s centres and many other places that helped them is truly inspiring. One of the parents used to help them have been closed down or quoted in a card how thankful they were and they reduced due to funding cuts. We continue to work couldn’t have done it without us. closely with the local schools, both Primary and It is always exciting meeting our next group of Secondary, also with our partners The Handy children for this year and we are halfway through Trust (Youth services) and Youth and Families our programme. We are currently seeing 42 Matter at Testwood Baptist Church. Together we children between our four local schools, Orchard continue to run our very popular and much Juniors, Wildground Juniors, Waterside Primary needed free parenting courses, as well as and Hythe Primary. The children are getting on supporting children in Year 6 who are moving on well and look forward to our sessions. One parent to Secondary School. (On the Right Track from this year has already spoken to me quoting Programme). ‘K really looks forward to seeing you every week, Our dementia groups continue to be very popular it really helps her’. and highly successful, especially the Hythe Sadly, Charlotte Willett left the team in September Huddle, which continues to provide a much to move forward and is doing really well at needed and highly valued service for local people Applemore College, and Angela Lambert moved living with dementia and their carers. away due to personal reasons. We miss them During 2018 we have helped around 200 families, both. Thankfully, Emily Milton joined us soon after which means that over 600 people have been and between myself and Emily we split the helped and supported by our different groups schools between us. Emily began mentoring at during the year. 66% of our families who attended Waterside School, carrying on from Angela up parenting courses said that their children were until December 2018, and is now doing OTRT at happier in school and achieved better results after Waterside and Hythe Schools. Emily has become their parents had attended the course. a valued member of our team and is doing a wonderful job with the children. We have very I am so proud of the work of Families Matter and recently had Shelagh Blackwell join us and she is want to thank all our amazing volunteers and staff settling in well and is currently going through the who give so much of their time and energy to help training process and attending the schools vulnerable people in our community. Also a big alongside myself and Emily. thank you to our funders, Dibden Allotments, NFDC and Children in Need, among others. We We continue to keep up to date with any training are very grateful for their support. and safeguarding throughout the year to assist us in our work. We have our Secondary School extra visits to Noadswood and Applemore all planned for June which the children are very excited about. We look forward to attending their end of school productions and leavers' assemblies, where it is an honour to give out their OTRT certificates and praise the children for all their hard work. It’s a special moment.

PARENTING COURSES to a child being angry. Knowing how to calm, support and reassure our children is really helpful. Kerry Farrow We meet with caring, supportive parents who want to help their children as much as possible.

After Session One we had parents commenting already on how helpful, non judgemental and enjoyable it was. The feedback from our evaluation sheets is always positive and encouraging. Seeing how parents have benefitted from attending our course and walked away with new ideas, structures and routines, also learning about themselves as a parent is really rewarding.

Managing your Child’s SPOT - Supporting Parents of Teenagers Angry Feelings

This continues to be a hugely popular course, This course is aimed at parents of children often with a waiting list, which we run in approaching teenage years and those already partnership with YFM at Testwood Baptist Church. with teenagers. The course contains information It has been a busy year so far, we ran a course at on teenage development, parenting styles, the beginning of January and are currently at communication skills, dealing with conflict, week three of our second course. We have responsibility and independence and most important, enjoying being a parent. managed to run our second course on a Tuesday evening, which means we have had many couples The most important part of this course is attend together, which is always positive. Due to improving our relationship with our children, and high demand, we will run a third course in helping them get through often very stressful and September. emotionally challenging years, especially in today’s culture and environment. Many children display angry behaviour and on this course we help parents to spot the triggers, how The course currently runs once to lengthen the fuse and ways to cope when a a year from September, with a crisis happens, all based on a firework model. It good turnout and positive is often very beneficial for parents to meet other feedback. We would like to parents in similar situations and support each increase the course to twice a other during the course. Knowing they are not the year if the need arises and the only parent with an angry child can be a real resources are available. comfort, and they also learn from one another’s experiences and strategies. What works for one Picture - Emily Milton child may not work for another. We live in a busy, pressurised world with many factors contributing

NEW PROJECT WORKER - SHELAGH BLACKWELL

My name is Shelagh Blackwell and I joined Families Matter after Easter as a project worker. I will be working with children in the local schools with our On The Right Track programme, and also as a family worker with families needing our support.

I have lived on the Waterside for the past 20 years with my husband Mark and three children, since Mark transferred to Southampton with his job. I have worked as a Higher Level Teaching Assistant for 18 years before becoming the Family Support Worker at Colden Common Primary School, which I do every Thursday during term time. My other role, which many people know me for, is Guide Leader for 1st Hythe Guides.

I am looking forward to working for Families Matter, offering support to Year 6 children as they move on to secondary school and using my experiences as a mum to three children and now a grandma too, to help those families who need our help.

OUR TIME We continue to meet at Cornerstone on Friday mornings in term time from 9.30 am to 11.30 am. Madeline Slade and Ann Weaver If you are interested in joining us, further details

The Group continues to do well, we have had one are available from Sue on 07519745924 or the new member and we continue to see members office on 023 8020 7623. support one another within and outside the Group. ADOPTION SUPPORT GROUP We had the sad loss of Jean Womersley last year. Joan Shewry She is greatly missed but we are very pleased to welcome Margaret Yapp to help run the group. This support group continues to meet four times a Her contribution is much appreciated, especially year at Cornerstone. Attendance is often between since Madeline Slade has been recovering from two and three people and other times five to six, surgery and has just recently been able to return . but is always appreciated by those who attend. The mailing list is much greater. Members attend We were very pleased to have received funding according to their needs and the subject. from Dibden Allotments for another year. Organised by Liz Hewson on behalf of Hampshire We organise trips out for the group members on County Council Adoption Support Group, various various occasions. These have been enjoyed by speakers are invited or Liz comes prepared with a those who were able to come along and is topic. Very often, as is the nature of support valuable time out for them. groups, those present come with a particular problem or query which takes the group off the We consider it a privilege to be able to run this subject in hand but that is OK too. The discussion group and to help families who find themselves in of their problems probably helps others. The difficult circumstances due to a family member members also have activity days arranged for the being affected by alcohol or drug addiction. We children as well as outings. have seen them grow stronger within and able to bring change for themselves. There are other support groups in Hampshire in Swanwick, Basingstoke and Petersfield and we WOMEN'S WELLBEING GROUP are pleased to be part of this network.

Sue Capper AUTISM SUPPORT DROP-IN

The Women's Wellbeing Group enjoyed a full Emily Milton and Ursula Staszynski programme leading up to the Christmas break. In January this year we started a new drop in Highlights included a morning of painting to music morning for parents and carers of children who led by Fran of hArt (Hampshire Art for Recreation are either diagnosed or suspected of having an and Therapy). This was so successful that we've autism spectrum condition. We meet on the invited hArt back in the summer to lead another second Thursday morning of the month at session - this time on collage. We continue to 10.00am. Our sessions are an opportunity for compare notes on how the succulents we took parents and carers to come for a chat, we offer a home after a morning with Pauline of Hortic listening ear and support. Through meeting Therapy are doing. The coach trip did not quite go parents and carers at this group we have been to plan but this afforded us the opportunity to do able to offer further support like our parenting some 'problem-solving' together which is always a classes and in some cases home visits. useful skill to develop and we look forward to another coach trip in the autumn. The talk by the MENTORING Community Ranger on the flora and fauna of Lepe Emily Milton and Kerry Farrow inspired the group to re-jig our programme to fit in an outing there in June. It also led to us walking This year we did Mentoring at Waterside Primary along the shore at Hythe to bird-watch! Food School and New Forest Academy in the autumn continues to be a regular feature with an term (September to December). We had four upcoming 'afternoon tea', 'super salad bar' and children at Waterside who were mentored by birthdays marked by cake made by one of the Emily Milton, three of these children have now members. moved onto the On The Right Track programme, but one of the boys was feeling much more It continues to be a joy to see the group members confident and happy so was able to finish having growing in confidence to contribute to, and to lead the extra support in December. Kerry Farrow also our mornings together also to care for each other mentored two children at New Forest Academy. both during sessions and the days in-between. All of the children valued the support given New members have joined us and have brought through the mentoring programme which was their skills and interests which we look forward to tailored to their individual needs, and they have seeing blossom in the coming season. made good progress. 12

SUPPORT GROUPS RUN BY FAMILIES MATTER FOR THOSE LIVING WITH DEMENTIA AND THEIR CARERS

HYTHE HUDDLE on the sensory garden at the front of the building. st Sally Wood The sessions will now be held on the 1 Tuesday of each month 2.00 pm to 3.30 pm. Activities for We are a happy group who meet on the first the next few months are as follows: Wednesday of each month at 2.30 pm providing a variety of entertainment, tea, coffee, biscuits and  4th June - Quiz Afternoon most importantly, fun for people living with  2nd July - Drumming for Dementia with Nature dementia and their carers. Attendance at the Therapy Hythe Huddle has been steady throughout the th year. Carers and people living with dementia  6 Aug - Summer Activities average 41 per month and helpers average 16. All our helpers are DBS checked and have completed the URC Safeguarding course. I am very proud of them all.

Gary Marsh, Dementia Advisor, visits most group sessions to answer any queries. We have had an emotional year with bereavements and much sadness, although we have also welcomed several new people who have settled in very well.

Overall it has been a successful and fulfilling year. A big thank you to all our helpers and supporters.

Chair Exercises with Heather

The Memory Group will continue at its current venue of Hythe URC Church Hall at 1.30 pm. The current course runs until 29th July 2019.

The Memory Group follows the principles of Cognitive Stimulation Therapy (CST) Each session aims to actively stimulate and engage attendees, whilst providing an optimal learning environment and the social benefits of a group.

Thanks for all the support from local organisations and the volunteers who contribute so much to this Maypole dancing session worthy venture. in May 2019 with Folk Active. There is a great need for more volunteers to

support both groups, please contact the Families

Matter Office if you would like to help. BLACKFIELD BUBBLE AND MEMORY GROUP Pauline Jordan

During the period in review, Blackfield Bubble and Hythe Memory Group have continued to provide stimulating activities for attendees. However the attendance levels have decreased due to ill health and other personal issues. We are therefore having the capacity for more members to attend both groups.

A new exciting partnership with the Fawley Parish Members of Memory Group deeply council will allow us to use the facility of the involved in an activity. Jubilee Hall to host the Bubble sessions and work 13

morning. This year due to demand I will be running an activity morning in the May half-term, when hopefully we will be able to do some outside activities. I always worry that we will not cope, but God always provides the right number of helpers for the children that come along. I am always looking for more people who have lots of energy, love children and enjoy playing, so please talk to me if you can help. Our summer holiday mornings this year will be on 7thand 28th August.

REPORT FROM BEV HALL

Swans Parent Support Group meets most Friday mornings during term time. There are between three and five parents who attend as regularly as they can, with another three or four joining us on an irregular basis.

In the holidays we run Activity Mornings when we get an average of ten families attending. On these days we look after the children while the parents have a short break, either doing a bit of shopping or talking together in the foyer. I have a wonderful group of helpers who come along to help with the activity mornings, without whom I could not attempt to run the group, as we need a high ratio of helpers to children. Sadly over this year, Angela Cooking for SWANS Easter Activity Day Steele who has helped me greatly was unable to continue; we thank her for all the help and support Over the year we have had mums’ meals out at she gave to the group. various locations, The Heath being the most popular venue. They all enjoy these occasions, Our Activity Mornings are made possible by and we have at least ten mums coming along. funding from ‘Short Breaks”, Hampshire County This Christmas we had a fish and chip supper at Council. In the February half-term, we had 18 Cornerstone, sadly very few were able to make it children,12 of whom had varying additional needs. due to illness or lack of baby sitters. It was a very Usually we hire a bouncy castle at this time but happy occasion, but time and venue need re- decided this year that the children we have, would thinking. be happier with their usual morning, riding our very popular Didi cars and doing craft and The Romsey and Waterside Lions club have cooking. This proved to be the right decision, all kindly offered us tickets for Paultons Park in June, the children were very happy and none needed a which seven families were very pleased to receive separate room because of added noise from the and we pray that the sun will shine on them. bouncy castle. From the feedback I get from parents and Our next morning was held in April when we had children, SWANS is much appreciated by all who six children attending, five with additional needs, come and is very much needed. three of whom needed 1:1 help the whole

PRAIZIN’ HANDS of requests for our ‘Bullying’ presentation but sadly PUPPET PROJECT have to turn several down as we can’t fit them all in to the one week. The same goes with other Sept 2018 to July 2019 topics which schools like at specific times during BEVERLY EYRES the year so we just offer a first come first served basis for bookings. We have visited several schools in the past year to put on puppet presentations on a range of topics which support the PSHE curriculum. Each presentation has an important message and challenges the children and young people to think very carefully about making the right choices in their lives. We try and make these workshops as interactive as possible and we find this helps the children remember the important facts.

The project team rehearse for a whole day every week and have scripts and songs to learn and practise in between rehearsals. This is alongside rehearsals for the Big Hands ministry work which most of them are also involved in. I would like to say a big thank you to our dedicated team of puppeteers and stage crew – Mary-Anne We value the feedback we get from schools using Kitcherside, Karen Smith, Cary Joyce, Norman our evaluation forms and we are constantly Pearce, Tony Steele and Gordon Tupper. They all challenging ourselves on how we can improve. We work hard and it is very much appreciated not only are particularly pleased to hear quotes from by me but by the schools we visit. children on their views after the puppet presentation they have watched.

A teacher from Manor CE Infant School quoted a few of the children’s comments after seeing our ‘Bullying’ presentation, recently. “It was awesome”, “I really liked it” and “Can we watch it again?”.

Nick Darch, a teacher from Calmore Junior School commented on our recent ‘Anger’ presentation and said “The Anger presentation was pitched just right for KS2 and the right length. It was very good how you explained that we all experience anger and it is OK and normal but then go on to teach the children they need to learn how to deal with these feelings in the appropriate manner.”

Many teachers comment on how the children can identify themselves to one of our puppet I am currently working on a new ‘Internet Safety’ characters in several of our topics and this helps the individuals to understand the message far presentation for KS1. This is being asked for all the time by the schools as there is a real need. more than an adult telling them the same thing but without the puppets, props, music and drama. The Internet Safety presentation we currently do is only suitable for KS2. Each topic takes many We continue trying to keep up with our high months to put together and time is short but storage payments every four weeks. Every topic hopefully we will be able to launch this in the not we cover has different props, puppets and scenery too distant future. and there is a lot of backwards and forwards trips

I have been updating our many scripts as we go each week to our storage area in Totton, so that along and making the necessary changes to keep equipment gets swapped around in time for each booking. our presentations as relevant and up to date as possible. I would like to thank the Church and Families

For Anti-bullying week in November, we get a lot Matter for their support over the past year.

PUPPET PROJECT RECORD SHEET

From September 2018 to July 2019

Date School Year Topic Approx. No Group

04/ 10/ 18 Pennington Infant R,1,2 Healthy Lifestyles 160 School

11/ 10/ 18 Calmore Junior School 3 Friendships 240

15/ 10/ 18 Netley Marsh Infant R,1,2 Friendships 90 School

15/ 11/ 18 Manor Infant School R,1,2 Bullying 90

15/ 11/ 18 Wildground Infant R,1,2 and Bullying 180 (plus 50) School parents

16/ 11/ 18 Wildground Junior 3,4,5,6 and Bullying 240 (plus 50) School parents

17/ 01/ 19 Blackfield Primary R,1,2,3, Bullying 540 School 4,5,6

31/ 01/ 19 Calmore Junior School 3,4,5,6, Anger 240

07/ 02/ 19 Blackfield Primary 3,4,5,6 Talking about problems 360 School

04/ 03/ 19 Orchard Infant School R,1,2 Road Safety 270

07/ 03/ 19 Manor Infant School R,1,2 Road Safety 90

08/ 05/ 19 Netley Marsh Infant R,1,2 Looking after our world 90 School

22/ 05/ 19 Orchard Infant School R,1,2 Healthy Lifestyles 270

23/ 05/ 19 Manor Infant School R,1,2 Healthy Lifestyles 90

12/ 06/ 19 Eling Infant School R,1,2 Self Esteem 135

20/ 06/ 19 Calmore Junior School 3,4,5,6 Jealousy 240

26/ 06/ 19 Manor Infant School R,1,2 Fire Safety 90

03/ 07/ 19 Orchard Infant School R,1,2 All Change 270

04/ 07/ 19 Eling Infant School R,1,2 All Change 135

08/ 07/ 19 Netley Marsh Infant R,1,2 All Change 90 School

08/ 07/ 19 Copythorne Infant 2 All Change 30 School

16 REPORT FOR AGM ON 10th JULY 2019 FROM PROJECT MANAGER - JULIA CROSS

In 2018/19 we have seen Families Matter stretch and expand to meet the growing demand for services for local families in need, especially as the children’s centres and many other places that used to help them have been closed down or reduced due to funding cuts. We continue to work closely with the local schools, both Primary and Secondary, also with our partners The Handy Trust (Youth services) and Youth and Families Matter at Testwood Baptist Church. Together we continue to run our very popular and much needed free parenting courses, as well as supporting children in Year 6 who are moving on to Secondary School.

Our dementia groups continue to be very popular and highly successful, especially the Hythe Huddle which continues to provide a much needed and highly valued service for local people living with dementia and their carers.

During 2018 we have helped a total of 200 new families, which means that over 600 people have been helped and supported by our different groups during the year. 66% of our families who attended parenting courses said that their children were happier in school and achieved better results after their parents had attended the course.

I am so proud of the work of Families Matter and want to thank all our amazing volunteers and staff who give so much of their time and energy to help vulnerable people in our community. Also a big thank you to our funders, Dibden Allotments, NFDC and Children in Need, among others. We are very grateful for your support.

Julia Cross 1

ACTIVITY LEADER WHEN WHO IT’S FOR Hythe Sally Wood 1st Wednesday of People with Huddle month dementia and their 2.30pm to 4.30pm carers Autism Emily Milton and Thursday 10am- Parents of children Support Ursula 12noon - Weekly with autistic drop-in Staszynski in term time spectrum disorders SWANS Bev Hall Friday 10.30 am Parents of children group to12,00 noon in with additional term time needs (crèche provided for young children) ‘Our Time’ Madeline Slade, First Friday of Families coping with Support Ann Weaver each month addictions Group On the Right Joy Drake, School days at Children in Year 6-7 Track Kerry Farrow, local Primary & having difficulties Schools Shelagh Secondary with transition to transition Blackwell schools secondary school programme Women’s Sue Capper Fridays 9.30 am to Women with mental Wellbeing 11.30 am in term health issues group time Parenting Julia Cross Courses arranged Parents of children courses Kerry Farrow termly for a set and teens (In partnership number of experiencing with Kelly Price sessions 6 weeks. difficulties and YFM) Thursday am or Monday evenings Puppet Bev Eyres and By arrangement in Children of various sessions in Praizin’ Hands schools in term ages mainly schools to time Primary. link with the curriculum Adoption Joan Shewry Quarterly Parents of adopted Support children Group Mentoring Emily Milton In schools by Children with children one Kerry Farrow arrangement emotional needs to one One to one Julia Cross Home visits and Families with family phone calls By children needing support for arrangement support parents 2 (ages 4-12)