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January 2016
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Provide Positive, Productive Discipline
For many parents, a common New There are four R’s of logical conse- Year’s resolution is to begin (or quences: jumpstart) a discipline strategy that actually works. No matter what • Related—keep the consequence POWERSOURCE method you choose, the desired directly related to the behavior; ASK GOD: result is the same: children who are • Respectful—enforce the conse- obedient, safe, and have begun to quence with dignity and respect; 1. For wisdom as you strive to internalize right from wrong. • Reasonable—don’t just add punish- lovingly direct, correct, and guide ment to make children feel bad; and your children. The key to discipline, no matter a • Revealed—let children know in child’s age or temperament, is advance what the consequences are. 2. To help you set and stick to understanding his or her heart. Look appropriate rules and limits. beyond the misbehavior and ask, One “R” that’s tempting but harmful is “Why is my child behaving this way?” 3. To shape your children into rewards. Some experts suggest that bribing children to obey actually hinders people who willingly obey you, Misbehavior is usually motivated by their ability to develop self-discipline other authorities, and God. one of four things: a lack of attention, because they aren’t controlling their own a need for power, a desire for behavior—someone else is. revenge, or a sense of failure. Once you’ve keyed in on the real problem, Read on for more tips about using posi- you can provide logical consequenc- tive discipline in your home. es that lead to positive change.
Keep Discipline on Track
Shepherding your children is a big responsibility. To avoid feeling over- whelmed, remember these tips for establishing an approach to discipline: • Keep it simple—make sure your kids understand each rule. • Keep it consistent—don’t ignore misbehavior when you’re tired or busy. • Keep it fair—make sure the rules apply to everyone. • Keep it fresh—review rules regularly and adapt discipline methods as your children grow. Above all, remember: Jesus will help you shape your children. Pray about any discipline challenges. Ask Jesus to give your kids obedient hearts and a desire to always follow him.
Try these ideas for discussing discipline as a family: TEACHABLE Simon Says Play Simon says with it’s like to remember all the chang- MOMENTS younger children, giving everyone ing rules. Discuss why it’s helpful a chance to be Simon. Then dis- for rules to remain constant. Then Eggstra Soft Hearts cuss what it’s like to give orders brainstorm times it might be good and to be obeyed. Also talk about for rules to be changed. Make a batch of cookies as a family what makes following instructions using a recipe that requires eggs. easy or difficult. Jericho Obedience Create a Without anyone knowing, hard-boil one circular wall with building blocks, of the eggs beforehand. When you The Right Recipe Mix the ingredi- cartons, or boxes. Say: “God told attempt to crack the hard-boiled egg ents from a simple biscuit recipe. Joshua and his men to march into the bowl, discuss the difference As you add ingredients, discuss around Jericho for six days. Let’s between an egg that’s cooked and one the importance of following the march!” Count aloud as you march that isn’t. instructions and the effects of leav- around the wall six times. Stop and ing an ingredient out; for example, say: “On the seventh day, God had Say: When you boil an egg, a change biscuits made without baking pow- them march around the city one happens inside that makes it harden. der are flat and dense. Read more time and give a loud shout.” We can’t bake cookies with hard- 2 Peter 1:5-8. Ask: “What ‘ingredi- March around the walls once more, boiled eggs! ents’ does God want us to have? shout together, and topple the wall. Why is it important to follow God’s Discuss what happened when Read aloud Hebrews 3:7-12. instructions for our lives? What Joshua obeyed God—and what ingredient can you add to your life happens when we obey God. Say: When we hear Jesus’ words but this week?” ignore what he says, it shows our Big Fish Tail Form a line with hearts are hardened. It makes us Three Strikes As a family, attend each person holding on to the difficult for him to use. But when our local sporting events and look for waist of the person ahead of him or hearts are soft, we listen to Jesus ways players follow or break vari- her. Have the line walk in a “swish- and follow him. Then he can use us ous rules. Afterward, discuss mis- ing” motion like a big fish while the to do great things and to help other behavior and its consequences in person at the head of the line tries people. sports and in life. Share ways that to tag the person at the tail. Switch athletes—and other people—can roles and play several rounds. Pray: Dear Jesus, we love you and learn and grow from their mistakes. Afterward, read Jonah 1:1-3 and want to follow you. Please make our Jonah 2:1. Discuss how Jonah hearts soft and obedient to you Rule Roulette Play cards or board disobeyed God and tried to get every day. In your name, amen. games as a family, but take turns away from him and what happened setting new rules. Talk about what when Jonah turned back to God. Let someone eat the hard-boiled egg and use a raw egg to finish making the “No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s cookies. painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” —Hebrews 12:11
MEDIA MADNESS
CULTURE
MOVIE MUSIC & TRENDS
Title: Kung Fu Panda 3 Title: II Media Saturation In a large-scale Genre: Animation, Action, Adventure Artist: Capital Kings study, Common Sense Media found Rating: PG Synopsis: This duo’s music is a that preteens use media an average Cast: Jack Black, Angelina Jolie, catchy mix of pop, dance, and electron- of six hours per day and teens an Dustin Hoffman, Jackie Chan ic. They often team up with big names average of nine hours per day, not Synopsis: Po’s long-lost father shows in contemporary Christian music, in- including time spent on schoolwork. up, and the duo heads out to find the cluding tobyMac and Britt Nicole. Capi- Media use includes activities such as hidden community of pandas. But tal Kings’ self-titled first album playing video games, using social when a powerful enemy sweeps across entered the Billboard charts at number media, listening to music, reading, the country, Po must train his panda five. Now that they’re better known, and more. (commonsensemedia.org) brethren to fight for their lives. This their new album will likely go even proves to be just as difficult as it higher. Too Much Too Soon The pressure sounds. Our Take: Kids love the high-energy to advance children academically at Our Take: The Kung Fu Panda fran- music, and there aren’t many Christian earlier ages may be having a nega- chise has been exceedingly clever and dance bands out there, so these guys tive effect, according to Professor funny. We love its messages about the certainly fill a void. Their lyrics may not Stephen Camarata of Vanderbilt power of teamwork and that we can’t plumb theological depths, but they University School of Medicine. As a judge people (or pandas) by their don’t shy away from sharing their faith, result, “schoolwork” in the home and outward appearances. Hopefully, this either. in preschools is replacing com- most recent addition will stay true to monsense, intuitive time for nurturing that form. young children. (washingtonpost.com)
Games, Sites & Apps Star Wars 24/7 Science Smashy Road: Want- Battlefront This free site for children ed QUICK STATS In this mission-based from UC Berkeley makes In this app, kids drive game, players are learning science fun. recklessly through a pre- Training Parents Autistic children either the heroic Rebel- Kids can dig into various tend town after unlocking whose parents were enrolled in a lion or the evil Empire. science topics, play new cars (through in-app parent-training program had a Violence is cartoonish, games, and engage in purchases, by playing for 47-percent reduction in serious despite the battlefield “interactives” that let certain amounts of time, behavior problems. By comparison, setting and Teen rating. them experiment in the or by watching video autistic kids whose parents were But with a multiplayer real world. The site can ads). Although the enrolled in a parent-education format, keep in mind be found at crashes aren’t violent, program had a 31-percent reduction. that kids may hear bad www.lawrencehallofscien beware that the game’s (foxnews.com) language from other ce.org/kidsite/. goal is to break the law players. and evade police. In Control According to a study of 15,000 British children, kids who This page is designed to help educate parents and isn’t meant learn self-control early in life are to endorse any movie, music, or product. Our prayer is that more likely to find and keep a job in you’ll make informed decisions about what your children watch, read, listen to, and play. adulthood. (dailymail.co.uk)
January
Mahalo Nui Loa… To all our youth and adult volunteers in Sunday School and parents who have Sunday School Teaching Teams: shared their gifts, talents and interests with st our Preschool kids this year….we are so 9m-1 grade in DaBEACH thankful for each one of you! Lindsay, Christy, Kyra, Leah Luz, Nicole, Stephanie C, Aly Lorrie, Trinity and Stephanie K We pray you are enjoying this Christmas Basic Truth: Season and extra time with your children. With God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26
This month’s Newsletter has some great th info on discipline. Some of us were able to 2-5 Grade at the Oasis Kellie, Andrew, Shannon, attend John Rosemond’s Parenting Bill, Kareen, Jen Seminar at the MACC in November. Life App: I highly recommend his book “The Well- SELF-CONTROL Behaved Child” that is available at Choosing to do what you should do, rosemond.com, cbd.com and amazon too! not what you want to do He has so many great insights, but a few Parent Cue discussion starter truths that spoke to me were pages are to assist parents in helping 1.A child’s natural response to proper their children apply what we are learn- presentation of authority is obedience ing In Sunday School to their 2. The strength of a culture is directly re- daily lives! lated to proper parenting of kids Go to kumulanichapel.org, 3. Parents need a proper balance of LOVE children/parents page.
and LEADERSHIP in parenting
HAPPY NEW YEAR!