PERMISSION TO FEEL

Unlocking the Power of to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive

Marc A. Brackett, Ph.D. @ marcbrackett @ marc.brackett @RULERapproach Director, Yale Center for @ YaleEmotion Professor, Yale Child Study Center marcbrackett.com #PermissionToFeel (info, book, blog) A Brief History

1990 First scholarly article on emotional intelligence (Salovey & Mayer)

1995 Emotional Intelligence (Goleman) CASEL (Collaborative for Academic, Social & Emotional Learning)

1999 Positive movement

2000- Emotional intelligence assessments, interventions, consulting services, & coaching programs

2018 Aspen Institute’s National Commission on Social, Emotional, Academic Development release ”report to the nation”. 2019 90% of educators believe SEL is important, many implementing programs

PERMISSION TO FEEL Why, then, is this the case?

• and ‘stress’ are at all time highs • is the leading cause of disability worldwide • Bullying rates have not gone down (and have gone up in some cases) • Engagement at work and school is very low • Burnout is high among teachers (and in the larger workforce) • is at all time highs

PERMISSION TO FEEL Why hasn’t SEL had intended impact?

• Prevailing misunderstanding that emotions are weak • Influences of technology and social media • Changes in parenting styles • Political agendas that don’t consider health child development • SEL is integrated in fragmented, piecemeal ways • The adults who & raising & teaching kids & leading organizations have not had an adequate education in emotional intelligence

PERMISSION TO FEEL How are you ? We are a group of people in New York, London, Berlin and Singapore. We

create brands, products and marketing. And we use strategy, design, content ENERGY and development to do it.

PLEASANTNESS Life is an emotional roller coaster How High School Students Feel

PERMISSION TO FEEL How College Students Feel

PERMISSION TO FEEL How Educators Feel

PERMISSION TO FEEL HOW WE FEEL IS stressedstressed excited frustratedfrustrated excited Out of Balance happy anxiousanxious happy joyful overwhelmedoverwhelmed joyful Our students, educators, and workforce are spending 70- 80% of their days in the RED and BLUE. boredbored fulfilled tiredtired fulfilled While the goal is NOT to be in the YELLOW and GREEN all calm exhaustedexhausted calm of the time, we need greater balance! lonelylonely satisfiedsatisfied depresseddepressed Our Vision To use the power of emotions to create a healthier and more equitable, innovative, and compassionate society Emotions Matter

• Attention, memory, and learning • Decision making • Relationship quality • Physical and mental health • Performance and creativity

PERMISSION TO FEEL Are you an Scientist or an Emotion Judge? The RULER Skills

R ecognizing emotions in self and others U nderstanding causes and consequences of emotions L abeling emotions accurately E xpressing emotions R egulating emotions effectively

PERMISSION TO FEEL EI Among Youth

Lower in EI: Higher in EI: • Conduct problems • • Aggressive behavior • Well-being • Hyperactivity/attention problems • Quality relationships • Risky sexual behavior • Prosocial behavior • Substance abuse • Satisfaction with school • Social deviance • Leadership skills • Anxiety/depression • Academic achievement

PERMISSION TO FEEL EI Among Adults

• Greater empathy

• Higher effectiveness ratings

• Higher performance ratings

• Less stress and burnout

• Less anxiety and depression

• Greater job satisfaction

• More positive relationships

PERMISSION TO FEEL Social and Emotional Learning

Moving from a piecemeal approach…

• Rules …to a systemic approach • Assemblies • Classroom kits • Simple lessons • Flavor of the month

PERMISSION TO FEEL The RULER Approach

PERMISSION TO FEEL Anchors of Emotional Intelligence

Charter Mood Meter Meta-Moment Blueprint

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Charter Too Many Rules, Not Enough

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Mood Meter

enraged ecstatic worried elated anxious cheerful annoyed bored disappointed content calm hopeless peaceful depressed serene

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Mood Meter

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Mood Meter App www.moodmeterapp.com

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Meta-Moment

Sense Pause See Your Best Self Strategize

PERMISSION TO FEEL The Blueprint From Me to We

PERMISSION TO FEEL RULER in Middle and High School

Who am I? (mindset, personality, motivation)

Where do I want to go? (visioning, goal setting)

What do I need to get there? (critical thinking, creativity, emotional intelligence, wellbeing)

PERMISSION TO FEEL RULER Phases of Implementation

Staff Personal Student Readiness/ Sustainability and Professional Implementation and Planning and Innovation Learning Family Engagement

PERMISSION TO FEEL RULER Makes a Difference!

Students • Less anxious and depressed • Better academic performance • Greater leadership skills • More developed emotional skills • Fewer attention problems

Teachers • More engaging, supportive, and effective • Less burnout and greater job satisfaction

Classrooms/Schools • More positive climates and less bullying

PERMISSION TO FEEL RULER Makes a Difference!

”I never thought a Yale class could make me feel an emotion other than inferiority. Glad I was wrong! ☺”

“This course gave me a sense of waking up from a long dream. I had this feeling of not actually being alive or ‘here’ for many years and now I feel that I am out of my slumber. If I had to describe the way I saw my life in colors, before it would be a pale gray and now it would be a bright white. Almost as if I had a new blank canvas to put vibrant colors on, this course taught me that one can improve and detoxify through paying attention to one of the most basic principles of living.”

PERMISSION TO FEEL Let’s Put It All Together!

• Acknowledge that all emotions are information

• Give yourself & others the Permission To Feel

• Strive to become an emotion scientist, not an emotion judge

• Learn and refine the skills of emotional intelligence (i.e., RULER)

• Appreciate that developing emotional intelligence is harder than learning traditional “hard” skills (it’s life’s work!)

• Focus on systemic change & embrace its complexity

• Don’t give up building a healthier, & more equitable, innovative, & compassionate society so all children (& adults) can achieve their dreams

PERMISSION TO FEEL Book, Blog, Media marcbrackett.com Together we can unlock the wisdom of emotions to support RULER Training rulerapproach.org all children and adults in achieving their dreams Yale Center for EI ei.yale.edu

Mood Meter App moodmeterapp.com

Business Solutions ojilifelab.com T H A N K Y O U!

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