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Positive and Holistic Couple Relationship Development, The University of South Florida Scholar Commons Graduate Theses and Dissertations Graduate School September 2015 Positive and Holistic Couple Relationship Development, the Soul Mates Model, and select Pictograms of Alchemy: A Visual Autoethnography Luisa De La Lama University of South Florida, [email protected] Follow this and additional works at: http://scholarcommons.usf.edu/etd Part of the Counseling Psychology Commons Scholar Commons Citation De La Lama, Luisa, "Positive and Holistic Couple Relationship Development, the Soul Mates Model, and select Pictograms of Alchemy: A Visual Autoethnography" (2015). Graduate Theses and Dissertations. http://scholarcommons.usf.edu/etd/5675 This Dissertation is brought to you for free and open access by the Graduate School at Scholar Commons. It has been accepted for inclusion in Graduate Theses and Dissertations by an authorized administrator of Scholar Commons. 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Positive and Holistic Couple Relationship Development, the Soul Mates Model, and select Pictograms of Alchemy: A Visual Autoethnography by Luisa Batthyany De La Lama A dissertation submitted in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum and Instruction with a concentration in Counselor Education Department of Leadership, Counseling, Adult, Career and Higher Education College of Education University of South Florida Co-Major Professor: Herbert Exum, Ph.D. Co-Major Professor: Jennifer Wolgemuth, Ph.D. Barbara Schircliffe, Ph.D. Tony Tan, Ph.D. Date of Approval: June 25, 2015 Keywords: Complexity Theory, Hermetic Tradition, Twin Souls, Spiritual, Couples, Psychic Copyright © 2015, Luisa Batthyany De La Lama TABLE OF CONTENTS List of Tables .................................................................................................................................. v List of Figures ................................................................................................................................ vi Abstract ......................................................................................................................................... vii Chapter I: Overview ........................................................................................................................ 1 Background ......................................................................................................................... 1 The traditional marriage model ............................................................................... 2 The companionate marriage .................................................................................... 3 The individualized marriage and the rise of expressive individualism ................... 4 Contemporary couple’s unions ............................................................................... 6 Negative effects of expressive individualism. ............................................ 7 Problem statement ............................................................................................................... 9 Purpose of the study .......................................................................................................... 10 Goals of the study ................................................................................................. 10 Academic goal. ......................................................................................... 10 Intellectual goals. ...................................................................................... 10 Professional goals. .................................................................................... 11 Personal goals. .......................................................................................... 11 Practical goals ........................................................................................... 11 Rationale of the study ....................................................................................................... 12 Significance of the study ................................................................................................... 16 Research questions that will guide this study ................................................................... 17 Overview of the study’s design......................................................................................... 18 The researcher ................................................................................................................... 19 Non-academic studies that shaped my position as social scientist ....................... 22 Theoretical orientations that inform my scholarship ............................................ 23 Researcher assumptions that guide this study ....................................................... 25 Definition of key terms ..................................................................................................... 28 Chapter II: Literature Review and Conceptual Framework .......................................................... 30 Literature review ............................................................................................................... 30 Brief overview of the problem-centric outlook in social and behavioral science ............................................................................................................. 31 The problem-centric view of couple relationships. ................................... 32 The positive turn in the social and behavioral sciences ........................................ 33 Positive outlooks on couple relationships. ................................................ 35 Positive Psychology. ........................................................................... 35 Strengths-based outlook. ..................................................................... 36 i Appreciative Inquiry. .......................................................................... 39 The systems outlook on couple relationships ....................................................... 40 Individualistic conceptualization of the couple relationship system. ................................................................................................ 40 The 2nd wave family systems outlook on couple relationships ............... 41 The 3rd wave, dynamic, complex adaptive systems view of couple relationships. ........................................................................... 44 The holistic systems outlook on couple relationships........................................... 47 Developmental outlook on couple relationships ................................................... 48 The individualistic developmental outlook on couple relationships. ....................................................................................... 49 The 2nd wave systems developmental view of couple relationships. ....................................................................................... 50 The 3rd wave complex dynamic systems developmental outlook on couple relationships. ......................................................... 50 The holistic developmental outlook on couple relationships .................... 51 Integrating the positive, the complex dynamic systems, the holistic, and the developmental outlooks on couple relationships ............................... 52 The soul mates outlook on couple relationship development perspective. ......................................................................................... 53 Conclusion of literature review ............................................................................. 54 Conceptual framework ...................................................................................................... 55 Positive and Holistic Relationship Development theory. ..................................... 55 The Soul Mates model. ............................................................................. 55 Pictogram for the Soul Mates model and the development of the philosopher’s stone. ............................................................ 56 The development of the philosopher’s stone. ..................................... 56 The 12 positive principles of couple relationship development. .............. 57 Conclusion to conceptual framework ................................................................... 59 Chapter III: Design and Method ................................................................................................... 60 Chapter overview .............................................................................................................. 60 Research design ................................................................................................................ 60 Purpose of the study .............................................................................................. 60 Research questions guiding this study .................................................................. 61 Overview of the study’s design and method ......................................................... 61 The qualitative design rationale. ............................................................... 62 Rationale. ............................................................................................ 62 The interpretive position of this qualitative study. ............................. 62 Method .............................................................................................................................
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