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4 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 A Little Slow Letter from the Publisher

the room. I hated using the Unix and Linnux operating By Rob Diaz-Marino systems with a passion, unlike the hardcore program- mers around me. I have fi nally scheduled the date for my thesis defence, meaning there is fi nally a tangible end It was not until I took the senior level Human Com- in sight to my education. When I was a kid and puter Interaction course that I really got a chance to apply myself the way I wanted to. The assignments were of course hating being cooped up in school, I fun and left room for creativity, like “Design a button couldn’t believe that I would have to go through that represents your personality.” I got so lost in the a whole 12 grades before I got to do whatever enjoyment of fi nally getting away from text and back into I wanted. Little did I know that when this day graphics and sound that left many of the other students came, what I wanted was to go to University to in awe. This only happened because I was having so major in Computer Science. much fun, I forgot I was working. I got 100% in the course with one other student, and this was how my I don’t think I’ve ever really explained why I chose this supervisor hand-picked me to go on for my Master’s after career path. So many people end up going to Univer- I graduated. sity with no clear idea of what they want to do with the rest of their life, so I felt lucky to be so certain of what I Still, now that there’s a prospect of some more free wanted to do. time once I no longer have school to juggle, I really want to get back into programming games even if it’s only My dad is an engineer, and when I was even younger, something I do in my spare time. I think it would be he was probably the fi rst person on our block to get a really neat to fi nally have a few gay characters in them, Tandy 1000 personal computer, which he used to do and I’ve often wondered if there is anyone else here in mathematical calculations for his work. He custom Calgary interested in the same goal. Role Playing Games made a number of programs to help him with these cal- are my genre of choice, and from what I’ve seen, they are culations, using a programming language called Basic. all blatantly heterosexual. I can still enjoy them, and He encouraged me to play around with it, and gave me a stoop to obeying the main character’s pre-decided sexu- book with instructions on how to enter a few simple pro- ality. I’m tired of saving the damn princess! And make grams to do various things. The novelty wore off pretty the main character choose between two busty girl char- fast, and I really didn’t get back into it until I was playing acters, he’ll end up wooing the loyal side kick instead! a very poorly designed computer game and thought that I could do better. So I got my dad to sit down with me and Last Month teach me all the programming commands that he knew. January was really pretty slow in the way of events. One day my dad brought home a reference book and, Steve phoned each one of the bars up in Edmonton near within a month, I had exceeded anything that he knew the start of the month to assess when the best time how to do. I was programming my own simple video would be for him to go up for photographs. He usually games before I hit Junior High. In Junior High, I had the likes to pick weekends where he can kill multiple birds beginnings to games that rivalled that clunky old game I with one stone. With the Roost now gone, there was an had vowed to surpass. auction for their business assets, and an only chance to claim things of sentimental value. Otherwise there were Pretty soon I started hitting the ceiling with Basic birthday parties for the owners of Boots and Buddys. – my programs were getting too big for it to load into Unfortunately all three events were spread out on differ- memory. I upgraded to a more sophisticated version of ent weekends, with no other events happening around the language called Q-Basic, which carried me into High them. To pay bus fare and lodging for a single event is School…until I started hitting the ceiling with that too. not cost effective, and even to choose only one wouldn’t My last year before University, I spent my time trying to be fair either. So that unfortunately meant no photo- get around these problems, but things got a little compli- graphs were taken in Edmonton this month. In fact, cated for me this time and I had to give up. there weren’t terribly many events happening in Calgary In University however, everyone started with a clean slate. They assumed you knew nothing about program- ming, and built upward from there. My fi rst two years in the program were full of dull programming tasks like fi le operations and data structures, mixed in with some very nasty math courses to test my resolve. I discovered that I was, by far, no longer the biggest computer nerd in

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 5 this month either, but we were able to cover them by the convenience of proximity. We’d call it a slow month all around – a breather after New Year’s, and before things start to pick up again in February. There is plenty to keep Steve busy up in Edmonton this February! Online Photo Gallery Even though we have no new photos for Edmonton this month, past photos are fi nally starting to make their way online after I fi nished fi xing our photo management software. Actually, I took the chance to make other im- provements to it at the same time, which is why it took a whole month of concentration. Many of these newly posted photos have not yet been categorized, but they can be looked up by the date that they were taken. There’s still a lot of work to be done on the side of sorting and categorizing, but it has already been a chance for us to take a trip down memory lane. It is particularly poignant to see images of those that have since passed away, or that we don’t get to see anymore because they have moved away to other cities. But the great part is that we fi nally get to share it with everyone else that has been photographed for the magazine in the past. We want to hear what YOU have to say about the topics in this article, and any other articles in our magazine. Visit the chat forums at www.gaycalgary.com and write your heart out! Or write us a letter to the publisher by E-mailing publisher@ gaycalgary.com, and we may respond to it in the magazine!

6 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Snake in the Grass Dark Thriller a Chiller at Vertigo

By Jason Clevett Preview | Theatre Fresh off the massively successful Mystery of Edwin Drood, Vertigo Mystery Theatre returns to its roots is unforgiving like comedy in with the dark psychological thriller Snake In The that way – if they are not jump- Grass, running until February 17th at the base of the ing out of their seats then you aren’t doing it right. I enjoy that Calgary Tower. challenge.” For Annabel and her sister Miriam, their sunlight garden is Although some would feel fi lled with deeply buried childhood memories. But when night pressure in trying to follow up falls, is it only the past that blooms in the darkness? Or is a success like The Mystery of something much more terrifying growing? And, what forgotten Edwin Drood, Porteous has not secrets lurk beneath the timeworn summer house? Starring let that pressure affect her. Laura Parken, Kathryn Kerbes and Val Planche, Snake In The Grass slithers from black comedy to haunting supernatural “When you are making a thriller. This hugely entertaining story promises laughs, gasps piece of theatre you don’t think – and spine-tingles galore. about things like the success of the previous show as it tends “There are no actual snakes. One of our actresses is not to paralyze you. You put that disappointed by that as she is terrifi ed of snakes, she doesn’t aside and just work on the even like to joke about it,” director Vanessa Porteous told piece and make it as excellent GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine on the eve of the show’s as you can. What is cool is opening. that it is such a huge contrast Photographer Benjamin Laird Porteus heads up something unique in theatre that adds an for the audience from Drood. It interesting element to the show. is a much more character based, tight knit, layered complex situation. It is cool for the audience to have had that explosive, “Including the technical director and production manager, spectacular experience of Drood and then come back and see and all female cast, there are a lot of women on this show. I this deep, dark, thriller. It is a testament to Mark Bellamy’s have never had an all male cast, but certainly it is a slightly programming that they get both of those experiences within the different feeling when it is all women as opposed to mixed. It same season. It is also a testament to what is possible within doesn’t change it that much but women and men have slightly this genre, which we all tend to underestimate a little bit.” different ways of handling things. Women talk more freely and openly about things like our periods and stuff. It is a nice The show has already gone into previews, and by the time change, especially in a male dominated art form like thrillers. you read this, it will have had its opening night. Porteous told There tend to be a lot of men in this genre and it is nice to be us that the audience’s reaction thus far has been exactly what exploring it from a woman’s perspective.” they wanted. Porteus is mostly known for her work with Alberta Theatre “I think it is really helpful to do previews when you are doing Projects, and is excited to make her Vertigo Theatre directing a mystery because the audience is so important to the experi- debut. ence that it is helpful to be able to go back into rehearsal and tweak. The audience has been great, laughing and jumping out “This is my fi rst time working at Vertigo and I am really hap- of their seats when they are supposed to be. It is interesting to py to be here. Vertigo has a very high reputation in the com- listen and see when they fi gure out what is going on. When you munity as being a great place to work. They have a great staff can fi gure out when they fi gure it out, you adjust it to make and are really ambitions with what they are trying to do with that discovery come as late as possible. The audience seems to these murder mysteries. They have a specifi c mandate, they really be enjoying it, clapping, cheering and talking about how are trying to do everything possible within that mandate, and I scared they were, and that’s what you want.” really like that. Artistically speaking, I think it is interesting to try and scare people in the theatre. I fi nd it a fascinating task So why see Snake In The Grass? and believe that telling ghost stories is one of the things theatre “Go along for the ride. The characters are fascinating; there is for. I have often found I have been at plays that aren’t scary are lots of laughs, lots of twists and turns that are really going enough so I decided to put my money where my mouth is and to surprise you. There are three fabulous performances, some give it a try,” she explained. “[Directing a mystery] is pretty spooky stuff and it will be great.” much the same job, you are just trying to make the experience as rich and fulfi lling for the audience as possible, regardless Snake In The Grass of the material. This is more of a psychological supernatural January 31 to February 17th, 2008 thriller, and the challenge is that if you are not thrilling them Vertigo Mystery Theatre you are not doing your job. That is true for every play, if they www.vertigotheatre.com are not laughing during a comedy you aren’t doing your job. It

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By GayCalgary Staff Community | News BEEF Bear Beer Bash in Edmonton The days of longing for more Bear events in Edmonton are For more information on BEEF or about joining the Alberta over. A group of Alberta Bears has decided that enough is Bear Community you can use your Facebook account to look enough and it was high time that a Bear event take place. at the following addresses. Organized by the Alberta Bear Community (yes they have a Facebook group), BEEF, a Bear beer bash, will take place Sat- http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=7136809716 urday March 1st at Boots and Saddles in Edmonton. http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=20335159296 “We wanted to get the Bear community together to chat and Stop Murder Music network as this would be the fi rst time we would get to see Egale Canada recently raised concerns that iTunes.ca, HMV each other. We approached the owners of Boots and they were Canada, and Archambault Musique were carrying music that very enthusiastic about it and we came up with some drink encourages violence and hatred toward gays and lesbians. specials and so forth.” explains event co-organizer Daren Ka- The Egale initiative entitled Stop Murder Music (Canada), com- vich. “This event is going to be just a very simple get together piled lists of offending dancehall artists carried by each ven- – but we hope to have these Beer Bashes at Boots every fi rst dor, with translations of offending lyrics. The lists included Saturday of the month and eventually bring in DJs, Bear such artists as: Elephant Man, Buju Banton, TOK, and Sizzla strippers, food specials, and other attractions. Eventually with Kalonji. The information was submitted to each company enough members we will look towards expanding the events to respectively, along with a letter requesting that the companies other areas like camping trips, skiing trips, etc.” not allow themselves to continue as a platform for the sale or promotion of hate speech in music in Canada.

10 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 playRites 2008

By Jason Clevett Preview | Theatre One of the most prestigious events on the Canadian theatre calendar has arrived. The highly anticipated Enbridge playRites Festival of New Canadian Plays takes place from February 6th to March 9th. Train, running from February 12th to 24th is unique among this year’s entrants as its writer, Vancouver’s Maiko Bae Yama- moto, is also its star, alongside her father Minoru Kofu Yama- moto. “I think playRites is one of the elite experiences of Canadian theatre. When the brochures came out for playRites I got calls and emails from people saying they were so glad that I am at the festival. I can only say it is an absolute honor to be invited to be presented at the festival,” Yamamoto told GayCalgary and Ed- monton Magazine while trying to navigate our plus-15 system. “I It is based on a true incident, but through fi ctionalizing it, it has am really excited about playing for a Calgary audience. We were been expanded and pushed and pulled.” here last year at the High Performance Rodeo with a vastly dif- Yamamoto’s journey to playRites began two years ago when ferent show but it is great to be part of this festival. I really can’t she attended the festival and met assistant dramaturge Vicki wait to get on stage and play for the Calgary audience, for sure.” Stroich, who invited her to the playRites colony in Banff and she The poor Vancouverite was in the midst of rehearsals when began developing the show. The advantage to being both actor the recent brutal cold snap hit the city, thus the reason she was and writer is the ability to continue to adapt and change her attempting to navigate the plus-15. project. “It is too cold here!! I tried to get to the theatre today in the “What it does is offer me a hell of a lot of control, which has plus 15 but we had to walk outside for a portion of it and all of been very interesting. I try to really open up and give over to the liquids on my body froze. I was like a snowman when I got other people that are in the room. It is still not done - we are here. I am not used to this at all. It is defi nitely a shock to the still working on it right now. We work very collaboratively and system! I am a little bit stuffy right now because of it. My Dad everyone is in the room piping in, so things shift on a day-to-day has a traditional fl ute that he plays in the show and it has to basis. It is not really a play that is a script you would follow. warm up for awhile. It defi nitely puts a little bit of a pause at the There are a lot of different elements besides text that helps to beginning of the day and then we get warmed up and going.” tell the story,” she said. Train tells the story of three characters: a sharply dressed “For any creator that is making a play, whether they be a man waiting in a crowded Tokyo train station for the love of his playwright or working through a collaborative process, it is life to arrive. At the same station, a woman walks dangerously always an immensely rewarding thing to see it come to fruition. close along the edge, up and down the platform. These two are There is also something extremely satisfying about sharing this closely observed by the noodle-stand girl, who decides to take experience with my Father, who is in the play with me. I really their fates into her own hands. In a place where lives and pos- feel this is the fi rst step for this, and we will continue to work on sibilities intersect, three captivating characters learn about the and shape and adapt this for future productions.” connections of love and loss. The inclusion of Minoru Kofu Yamamoto, a retired mechanic, “I would describe it as a ghost story. ...Sometimes you turn a also makes the story behind Train unique. corner and see something and feel like ‘that would have been my “After my Dad retired a few years ago he expressed an interest life if I had made another choice.’ It is about people as ghosts, in acting. He did a play in Vancouver and a couple of readings people in our lives that move on and still linger, and about the here and there. My family growing up was always really musi- possibilities of what our lives would have been like had we made cal and performance was part of our vocabulary somehow. He a different decision. It is really the story of these three people expressed that he would like to start doing that. It made me be who happen to be in this Train Station in Tokyo, and this Noodle able to realize the dream of performing with him on stage, which Girl’s desire to tamper with the lives of the two people she meets has been really great. It is interesting being in this position be- there. It is a very surreal story and certainly fl ips in and out of cause when growing up, your parents … are kind of the masters. realism and has many different ways of telling the narrative.” Now we are in a position where he is looking at me and I am The story is based on real events that happened in Maiko’s supposed to be the master. …There hasn’t been any tension, he father’s life. He did once wait for a woman at a train. Ironically, just looks at me and says he hopes he can remember everything if he had met that woman, he may have not met Maiko’s mother and I tell him I know he can.” and the writer herself may not exist. For a complete listing and schedule of all of this years Enbridge “It is a story that is loosely inspired on stories from my family. playRites Festival of New Canadian Plays visit www.atplive.com.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 11 Riverdance Irish Sensation Says Goodbye

By Jason Clevett Preview | Theatre It started as seven-minute dance segments on the 1994 Eurovision Song Contest television show and quickly exploded into an international phenomenon. Fourteen years later, Riverdance has had over 9,000 performances in front of more than 19,350,000 people in over 276 venues throughout 32 countries across four continents, in addition to a Grammy Award-winning CD and best selling DVD. With all this under its belt, Riverdance is wrapping up with an international tour that includes runs in Calgary from February 12th to 17th and Edmonton February 19th to 24th at each city’s Jubilee Auditorium. Statistically the show is massive. Riverdance features 41 dancers – 32 in the Irish Dance Troupe itself as well as 2 African-American Tappers, 1 Spanish Flamenco Dancer and 6 Russian Folk Dancers ranging in age between 19 Photographer Joan Marcus and 31. They are backed up by six musicians including a drummer that plays 25 different percussion instruments Dancing in a Celtic rock-like setting. There isn’t really during the show. much more to describe it, but the description does not do The dancers, each perform 10,000 steps per show in the show justice. 162 pairs of shoes. Each dancer goes through 10 pairs of This is the last time that Riverdance will ever be per- dance shoes per year and the show has 478 costumes. All formed in Alberta. Whether you saw it when it played in of that dancing is hard work, as evident by the 48 hours Alberta in 1998/99, own the DVD, or are experiencing it per week spent by masseuses on the cast. 25 gallons of for the fi rst time, it is a magical journey through Ireland’s Gatorade and 125 litres of water are consumed per week, music and history that will take your breath away. Act fast as well as 40 pounds of chocolate – when you dance like as tickets are fl ying! this, the calories stay off!

Stepping away from the interesting stats behind this Riverdance show, Riverdance has succeeded for 14 years because Calgary: February 12 – 17, 2008 of the spectacle on stage. The Boyne troupe is touring in Edmonton: February 19 – 24, 2008. North America, lead by Dance Captain Marty Dowds, Craig Tickets at Ticketmaster. Ashurst, Liam Ayres, Maria Buffi ni and Alana Mallon. The www.riverdance.com concept of Riverdance is simply a lot of Irish Music and

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12 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 13 Out of Town 72 Hours in West Hollywood

by Andrew Collins Travel Although many people believe it’s just a neigh- borhood of Los Angeles, the bustling community artists. of West Hollywood is actually its own incorporated Further your art explorations with a tour of the MAK city, and has among the highest percentages of Center for Art & Architecture, inside the R. M. Schindler gay residents and gay-owned businesses of any House, a short drive away on Kings Road. Rudolf Schindler’s 1922 modernist home hosts rotating exhibits, place in the country. With its wealth of trendy as well as information about the architect’s many design shops, galleries, restaurants, and nightclubs accomplishments. - plus a nice variety of upscale accommodations By early afternoon, when you starting feeling hunger and an attractive setting at the base of the Hol- pangs, make the 10-minute drive to the famed Farmers lywood Hills, this vibrant city makes for a highly Market, which offers a true L.A.-style slice of life. This enjoyable weekend getaway. vintage market building is a social hub for all types - gay, straight, old, young, blue-haired, pierced, and so on. Here’s the perfect itinerary for spending three days in Inside you’ll fi nd souvenir shops, a great newsstand, food West Hollywood, including a few ideas for excursions to stalls, and some terrifi c restaurants, including the Gumbo nearby neighborhoods elsewhere in greater Los Angeles. Pot, known for its terrifi c Cajun and Creole fare, and the Friday Night funky Kokomo Cafe, which has earned the appreciation Your fi rst night in town, opt for a relatively casual din- of such celebs as Jodie Foster and Drew Barrymore for its ner somewhere in the heart of West Hollywood. You’ll fi nd remarkably tasty Cobb salads, BLT sandwiches, and deca- scads of gay-popular restaurants along the main drag, dent desserts. After lunch stroll next door to the adjacent Santa Monica Boulevard. There’s Skewers, a cheap and Grove Outdoor shopping center, an upscale, open-air mar- simple Middle Eastern eatery with outdoor tables that ketplace with a fairly typical selection of high-end chain provide a nice view of the steady fl ow of cute pedestrians, stores. If you’re a serious shopper, consider venturing over and Benvenuto Cafe, a mid-priced Italian restaurant with to the massive Beverly Center mall, on the edge of West elegant garden seating. A more sophisticated option is Hollywood, where die-hard browsers can easily while away Bin 8945 Wine Bar and Bistro, a mod Euro-style space the afternoon at H & M, Ben Sherman, Diesel, and Hugo acclaimed for its sensational, globally infl uenced food and Boss. more than 70 wines available by the glass. Saturday Night From here you’re steps to more than a dozen gay bars Dress your best and head out to some of West Holly- and clubs. With a full weekend ahead of you, take it easy wood’s trendiest dining and clubbing spots. For a meal, and stick with some of the more low-keyed spots. The it’s hard to go wrong with either The Abbey, a long-run- Mother Lode and Trunks are a couple of festive neighbor- ning upscale gay lounge and restaurant that serves tasty hood hangouts, and the Palms is L.A.’s longest-running and affordable American chow, or Eleven Restaurant and lesbian bar - it’s been going strong since the mid-’70s. If Nightclub, a swell-elegant supper club with juicy steaks it’s a new and stylish lounge you’re seeking, check out the and pan-roasted seafood, plus lighter sandwiches and swanky East/West Lounge, with its comfy armchairs and salads. Serious clubbers can then move on to the neigh- fancy cocktails. borhood’s top gay nightspots - Factory, Here Lounge, and Rage. Saturday West Hollywood has always been a big breakfast town Sunday - people here take the fi rst meal of the day seriously, and After sleeping in for a bit, wander over to the always- excellent options abound. One good bet is the Melrose jumping House of Blues Sunset Strip for its legendary Avenue outpost of the famed Belgian bakery chain, Le Sunday Gospel Brunch (seatings are at 10 a.m. and 1 Pain Quotidien, which doles out heavenly pastries, hearty p.m.), where you’ll be treated to a mouthwatering all-you- egg dishes, and some of the best coffee around. Melrose is can-eat Southern breakfast buffet along with exhilarating lined with a number of fi ne boutiques, so you might spend live music. the morning shopping. Set aside a little time to visit the A pleasant way to spend Sunday afternoon is to drive striking Cesar Pelli-designed Pacifi c Design Center, which a few miles east of West Hollywood to 4,213-acre Griffi th has its very own branch of the Museum of Contemporary Park, whose famed Observatory and Planetarium played Art Los Angeles. This airy, 4,000-square-foot space dis- a key role in Rebel Without a Cause. The park is laced plays many of the seminal works from MOCA’s permanent with hiking trails, and affords tremendous views of metro collection as well as temporary shows featuring emerging

14 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 makes especially good sense if you’re fl ying out of Los Angeles International Airport (LAX), which is also out near the ocean, not too far south of Venice. Where to Stay Although West Hollywood can be pricey, its wealth of hotels has led to suffi cient competition to keep rates relatively reasonable. Here’s a sampling of top-notch, gay-friendly places to spend a weekend. Owing to its location near the gay-licious Beverly Center shopping mall, the Hotel Sofi tel has long been popular with lesbians and gays. The management is one of the few outside West Hollywood to market aggressively to the gay community (although the property is just steps from the West Hollywood border). From top to bottom this is a fi rst-rate property with a distinctive facade and upscale French furnishings. Next to the famed Los Angeles Farmers Market, the Grove shopping village contains a The 15-story Sunset Tower Hotel is a 1929 art deco icon. variety of high-end chain shops and eateries. (Photo by Andrew Collins) Formerly home to fabulous stars like Truman Capote and Errol Flynn, it contains 64 rooms with stunning period Los Angeles. Another way to get outside and enjoy a little reproductions, fl at-screen TVs, iPod stations, and fl oor-to- break from West Hollywood’s urban pace is to drive up ceiling windows offering some of the best views in the city. into the Hollywood Hills, which form the city’s northern A secluded all-suites property just off the Strip, on the backdrop. It can be fun, if a bit confusing, just driving edge of Beverly Hills, Le Montrose Suite Hotel has huge, around these narrow, steep lanes, taking in the views and meticulously clean and well-decorated rooms with fi re- admiring the distinctive architecture. One reliable route is places, kitchenettes, and private balconies. Enjoy amazing to follow Laurel Canyon Boulevard up into the hills, turn views of the skyline from the fab rooftop pool and hot tub. left onto curving Mulholland Drive, and then follow it west Another gay-friendly all-suites hotel close to the bars, the until you reach Coldwater Canyon Drive, where a left turn Valadon sits high above Santa Monica Boulevard and has leads you back down into West Hollywood. a rooftop terrace and pool commanding fi ne views of the Sunday Night area. Rooms (some with kitchenettes) are large, with VCRs, Your fi nal night in town, you can stroll back along refrigerators, and, in most cases, private balconies. Santa Monica Boulevard and check out some of the spots The well-tended Ramada Plaza Hotel West Hollywood mentioned above that you might not yet have visited. Or is the most gay-popular mainstream hotel in metro Los for something different, drive 15 minutes east to one of Angeles; it’s in the heart of the bar district and has a sleek the region’s other gay-popular neighborhoods, Silver Lake. art deco look and a cruisy pool and sundeck out back. For dinner, book a table at the cozy Kitchen restaurant, Most of the stylish and spacious suites have sleeping lofts, a beloved and gay-friendly neighborhood spot that serves and all have kitchenettes. Arguably West Hollywood’s hip- contemporary versions of American comfort food - don’t pest address, and a nice value to boot, the Standard has miss the buttermilk-fried chicken or pistachio-crusted wild ultra-cool rooms with down pillows, silver bean-bag chairs, salmon. After your meal, walk next door to the charming TVs with VCRs, Warhol poppy-print draperies, high-speed gay neighborhood lounge, Akbar, which is typically packed Internet, and private balconies - plenty of nice amenities with an eclectic mix of hipsters, artists, yuppies, and stu- considering the reasonable rates. The swish bar is a favor- dents. ite place to see and be seen. Monday The quintessential clothing-optional men’s resort, Depending on the exact time of your departure, you can complete with foliage-choked lanai and toned and tanned set aside Monday to explore the beach communities of guests, the San Vicente Inn-Resort has, thanks to the Santa Monica and Venice, which are both rife with cafes, hard work of its friendly owners, become one of the top gay shopping, and palm-shaded beach promenades. This Continued on Page 39 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 15 Events Listing Find out what’s happening

Money-Pennies 9 Businesses See our ad on page 41 Calgary Listings See our ad on page 19, 33, 37 and 41 Barristers & solicitors A Little More Interesting 51 1742 - 10 Ave SW • (403) 263-7411 See our ad on page 50 Chronos Apollo http://www.money-pennies.com 1501B, 17th Avenue SW •(403) 475-7775 #520 922 5th Avenue SW • (403) 237-2353 Accommodations Texas Lounge 6 http://wwww.alittlemoreinteresting.com Physician directed skin care and more Westways Guest House 13 See our ad on pages 52 Cruiseline 216 - 25 Ave SW • (403) 229-1758 308 - 17 Ave SW • (403) 229-0911 Adult Depot See our ad on page 64 http://www.gaywestways.com Open 7 days a week, 11am-close 140, 58th Ave SW •(403) 258-2777 (403) 777-9494 trial code 3500 http://www.goliaths.ca Sex toys, and Straight, Bi, Gay video rentals, largest Bars and Clubs Gay video rental collection in Alberta http://www.cruiseline.ca Phone chat room & talking classifieds for 18+ BackLot 3 Twisted Element 33 B & C Financial Services See our ad on page 36 1006 11th Ave SW • (403) 802-0230 9298 Horton Road SW • (403) 250-55785 Deva Dave Salon 32 209 - 10 Ave SW • (403) 265-5211 http://www.twistedelement.ca See our ad on page 50 Open 7 days a week, 4pm-close Insurance See our ad on page 12 910 12th Avenue SW • (403) 290-1973 Calgary Eagle Inc. 4 http://www.devadave.com See our ad on page 13 and 48 Bathhouse and Sauna’s Brian Mahoney & John McNeill eXude Productions 424a - 8 Ave SE • (403) 263-5847 Goliath’s 6 #10, 6020 - 1A St SW • (403) 259-4141 http://www.exudeproductions.com Open Wed-Sun 5pm-close See our ad on pages 57 Re/Max Reality Professionals http://www.calgaryeagle.com 308 - 17 Ave SW • (403) 229-0911 First Class Flowers Open 7 days a week, 24 hours a day Courtney Sebree Aarbo 24 Elbow and Heritage Drive SW• (403) 255-2239 http://www.goliaths.ca 1138 Kensington Road NW • (403) 571-5120 http://www.csalaw.ca Inside Corner of Blackfoot Trail & 34th Avenue SE• (403) 241-8550

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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 17 year) There will only be one or two spaces available Calgary Frontrunners Running Club - Calgary Networking Club Swim Club. for Drop in players. We chose this procedure as When: 9 am on Saturdays, Calgary Networking Club (CNC) is back.... after a Check website for current schedule players last year said they would play and then not Where: Update! Coffee Junkies -795 1 Avenue SW 5 year hiatus, CNC is meeting again in Calgary on Don’t Buy In Project show up. This makes it very difficult to project the (no longer meeting at Eau Claire Y) the first Thursday of every month. The networking http://www.dontbuyin.ca incoming funds to cover cost of courts. 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Activities vary Calgary Gay Fathers Soda Lounge: 211 - 12th Ave S.W. 7:00pm - 9:00pm. Email [email protected] and are fun and entertaining. The group meets [email protected] (403) 923-3953 to confirmation dates. the 2nd and 4th Friday of every month from 7 pm http://www.geocities.com/calgaryfathers http://www.miscyouth.com to 9 pm. Rainbow Riders Bowling League - Let’s 10 Pin Peer support group for gay, bisexual and [email protected] Bowlerama, 2916 5 Avenue NE, Wednesday’s at questioning fathers. Meeting twice a month - Illusions Calgary A benefit show for the Miscellaneous Youth Network, 6:30pm. Season is from September to April. League Social group for Calgary and area transgender Fake Mustache is guaranteed to please! Come see Calgary Humane Society fees are $15.00 per Night. Shoe rental is $2.00 community members (cross dressers, transvestites, our boys strut their stuff at Soda, the first Thursday (403) 250-4455 drag kings and queens). 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If you’re interested in any of these mandatory. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gayprairiealumni/ Rehearsals are held from 7:00 p.m. to 9:30 p.m. This group is for all gay/lesbian/transgendered or something else completely, get in touch with - Inside Out at the Old Y Centre for Community Organizations, alumni of Prairie Bible Institute and/or Prairie us. Tired of playing alone outdoors? Well this is Peer-facilitated youth group for GLBTQ ages 15-25. located at 223 12 Avenue SW. High School in Three Hills, Alberta. It’s purpose a GREAT opportunity to participate in events you The group aims to let youth know they are not is twofold: First, social -- to renew old friendships enjoy doing with other interested members of the Calgary Sexual Health Centre alone, and to connect them with their peers. Every and make new ones. Second -- to talk about community. To be added to the distribution list for 304, 301 14th Street NW Monday, 7 pm to 9pm at GLCSA. It is a funky and our common experiences as gay people at a regular updates please email outdoorpursuits@ (403) 283-5580 safe environment with a variety of resources and fundamentalist school. Any other questions, please apollocalgary.com. http://www.calgarysexualhealth.ca activities. Calgary Sexual Health Centre is a pro-choice feel free to ask. Golf - Contact [email protected], Or by - New Directions organization that believes all people have the right Gay Readers Book Club phone 276-8094 Drop in peer-support group to provide support and and ability to make their own choices regarding Interested in poetry, prose & literature? Want to resources for individuals who identify as transsexual Lawn Bowling - For more information, please their sexual and reproductive health. Calgary meet like-minded gay men? Then come to our or inter-sexed. The group meets every 3rd Friday of contact Chris or Phil at lawnbowling@ Sexual Health Centre started as a volunteer based, meeting at Good Earth Cafe, 1502 - 11th Street SW the month from 7 pm to 9 pm at GLCSA. apollocalgary.com. grassroots organization and has been providing at 7:30pm the last Tuesday of each month. comprehensive sexuality education and counselling If you are transsexual, or know of someone who Slow Pitch - Friday Nights - Slo Pitch League, Co-Ed Girl Friends programs to the Calgary community since 1972. is, please contact our office for information and * Rec * Drop-In, Every Friday at 7:00pm - starts http://members.shaw.ca/girlfriends May 11, 2007 (tentative – based on weather), assistance. You are not alone! There is support! Calgary Outlink Formerly know as GLCSA “Taste Our Way Around the Globe”, Saturday West Hillhurst Community Centre, 18 Street & 5 - SHEQ Soulful Healing Ego Quest - Gay And Lesbian Community Services - February 9th at 6:30 pm, Regency Palace Seafood Avenue NW (East Field) A workshop for women that want to be themselves Association 1 Restaurant 328 Centre Street S.E. (on the third in a supportive, safe environment. It is a chance Yoga - Have you always wondered about yoga? #4, 1230A 17th Avenue SW floor) For more information or driving directions, to grow and share their experiences related to What really is down-dog? Do you think touching (403) 234-8973 visit their website at www.regencypalacerestaurant. women’s sexuality. Runs for a ten week period on your feet with your legs straight is just humanly http://www.glcsa.org com Cost: $25/person (includes GST & gratuity) impossible? For the second year, Ki Essentials is Thursdays at 7pm. 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GLCSA. http://www.ucalgary.ca/~glass http://www.argra.org (403) 220-6394 - Between Men and Between Men Online Deer Park United Church and Wholeness February 16th, 2008 (anti) Valentines Dance Peer support, sexual health education for gay Centre GLASS CONSULTATION EVENT - This semester, Saturday March 15, 2008 - March Dance or bisexual men, as well as those who may be 77 Deerpoint Road SE - (403) 278-8263 GLASS is aiming to modernize our name, logo, See our ad on page 31 and 59 uncertain or questioning their sexuality. Discussions http://www.dpuc.ca website, and constitution to reflect the growing range from personal relationship or life issues, to Worship Time - 10:00am Sundays diversity of our community. 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18 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 and will be holding a forum to discuss and build on 2008 Stephan Avenue Walk and Olympic Plaza Rocky Mountain Bears Sharp Foundation these ideas on February 11, 2008. The discussion http://www.rockymountainbears.com Phone: (403) 272-2912 Pride Dance Event - Saturday June 14, 2008 will take place in MSC Ariel in the Conference Center E-mail: [email protected] Location TBA Monday, February 7th - 7:30pm - General Meeting from 4:00pm - 5:30pm and refreshments will be at at Moneypennies (1742 10th Avenue S.W.) http://www.thesharpfoundation.com provided. Come out and have your say! If you have Pride Rainbow Project Come and discuss your ideas for the club Travel Masters - Need a vacation?, Ed Smith at ideas or suggestions but are unable to attend this [email protected] Travel Masters has agreed to donate 25% of event, please email [email protected] with your http://www.priderainbowproject.com Saturday, February 9th - departure time his profit from WestJet bookings to The SHARP thoughts. forthcoming - Waterslides and West Edmonton The Pride Rainbow Project was started in Fall 2003 Mall at West Edmonton Mall, duh!!! The plan is Foundation. So before you plan your next trip with SEX TOY PARTY - Just in time for valentines day the by 4 youth of the Unitarian Church of Calgary. to go for the day to play and stay overnight and WestJet, email Ed at TravelMasters GLASS sex toy party! The party will be held during The Pride Rainbow Project is a project designed shop a bit on sunday. Alex has priced reasonable The SHARP Foundation Bingo - February 27th, the evening of Tuesday February 12. Mark your to show support for same-sex marriage in Canada accomodation for himself but he’d probably let 2008 (5:00 pm to 9:30 pm) Looking for a way calendars for a night of fun. and elsewhere. It is a fabric rainbow banner you in on the scoop if you want details on where to help out? SHARP volunteers run a bingo approximately 5 feet wide, and the goal is to make HIV Peer Support Group he plans to stay! The price of the Waterpark is at Five Star Bingo Hall once a month and are it 3.2km (2 miles) long, in order to break the world (403) 230-5832 $29.95 for the day. http://www.westedmall. always looking for new volunteers! No experience record (set by a group in Florida at 1.25 miles)! [email protected] com/home/default.asp More details to come on a necessary! To volunteer, please call Jaclyn at (403) It contains the 6 colours of the pride flag: Red, meeting place, etc. 272-2912. Come out and enjoy the new SMOKE ISCCA – Imperial Sovereign Court of the Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, and Purple. The project FREE ENVIRONMENT!! Chinook Arch is youth run, but anyone can help!. Monday, February 11th - 7:30pm - Bears Do http://www.iscca.ca Chocolate at The Chocolate Bar Cafe (1731 17th Urban Sex Primetimers Calgary Avenue S.W.) Come for the dark bark, a winters http://www.cjsw.com Every Saturday Shooters with the ISCCA @ the E-mail: [email protected] delight!! Bunker/Texas Lounge 7pm - Midnight http://www.primetimerscalgary.com Radio Show – Every Wednesday from 9-10pm. Saturday, February 23rd - Bear Bar Night at the Focus on sexuality; gay bisexual lesbian trans Every Wednesday Karaoke with the ISCCA @ the Prime Timers Calgary is designed to foster social Calgary Eagle, (424A 8th Avenue SW) Bears are at gendered and straight issues here in Calgary and Twisted Element 7pm - Midnight, Feb 29th Drag interaction for its members through a variety of the Eagle after 10:00pm. around the web. Listen on CJSW FM 90.9. Show. social, educational and recreational activities. It is open to all gay and bisexual men of any age and Safety Under The Rainbow Western Canada Bigmen and Admirers Saturday Feb 2nd and 16th Shooters with the respects whatever degree of anonymity that each http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ ISCCA @ Calgary Eagle 9pm - Midnight, Feb 24th http://www.safetyrainbow.ca member desires. WesternCanadaBigmenGroup/ Drag show. Mission: To raise awareness and understanding of Feb. 02 - Saturday Coffee at Midtown Co-op - [email protected] All monies raised go to Charity: Agape Manor, same-sex domestic violence and homophobic youth 1130–11 Ave SW at 10:00 AM. Beswick House, HIV Peer Support, Artists for Quality bullying. of Life, Children’s Wish Foundation Feb. 06 - Free Pool at the Eagle. Feb. 09 - Saturday Coffee at Midtown Co-op - Knox United Church 1130–11 Ave SW at 10:00 AM. 506 - 4th Street S.W. • (403) 269-8382 http://www.knoxunited.ab.ca/ Feb. 12 – Card Night at Don and Ross’s. If you would like to attend please call them at 701-0690 Knox United Church is an all-inclusive church or 809-4110 located in downtown Calgary. A variety of facility rentals are also available for meetings, events and Feb. 13 - Free Pool at the Eagle. concerts. Feb. 16 - Saturday Coffee at Midtown Co-op - 1130–11 Ave SW at 10:00 AM. Valentine’s Potluck Worship Services at the Old “Y” 223 – 12 Ave.S.W. If you would Wednesdays - Communion Service 12:10 pm like to attend please call Terry @ 463-0835 or Sundays - 11:00 a.m. September to June E-mail : [email protected] - Argra Dance at Sundays - 10:30 a.m. in summer July and August. Hillhurst Sunnyside Community Hall, 1320 – 5th NETWORKS Ave NW. [email protected] Feb. 17 – Sing-a-Long at Don A’s. If you would like to attend please call him at 243-8560 Positive Space Committee at Mount Royal Feb. 19 – Stitch n’Bitch at Len T’s .If you would College like to attend please call him at 229-3717 4825 Mount Royal Gate SW Phone: 403-440-6383 Feb. 20 - Free Pool at the Eagle. Web: www.mtroyal.ca/positivespace Feb. 23 - Saturday Coffee at Midtown Co-op - Email: [email protected] 1130–11 Ave SW at 10:00 AM. The Positive Space Committee at Mount Royal Feb. 27 - Free Pool at the Eagle. College works to raise awareness and challenge Rainbow Community Church the patterns of silence that continue to marginalize See our ad on page 47 lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans-gendered, two-spirited Hillhurst United Church and queer (LGBTTQ) individuals. 1227 Kensington Close N.W. Pride Calgary Website: http://www.rainbowcommunitychurch.ca (403) 262-3410 E-mail: [email protected] http://www.pridecalgary.ca The Rainbow Community Church is an all-inclusive Military Ball - Saturday June 07, 2008 at the church. Everyone is welcome (and we mean it!). Calgary Eagle Services are held every Sunday afternoon at 4:00 PM. Pride Parade and Street Gala - Sunday June 08,

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Held on the second Wednesday of “Yeah... What She Said!” Pumphouse Theatre 37 Down Under Baths 7 every month 5:30 – 7:30 pm Every Monday evening from 8:30-9:00pm 2140 Pumphouse Avenue SW • (403) 263-0079 12224 Jasper Ave •(780) 482-7960 CJSW 90.9 FM http://www.pumphousetheatres.ca http://www.gayedmonton.com/ February 13: Prism Bar & Grill, 10524 – 101 Street [email protected] See our ad on page 7 Steamers 10 March 12: Garage Burger Bar & Grill, 10244 -106 YouthSafe Skew Gallery 9668 Jasper Avenue • (780) 422-2581 Street http://www.youthsafe.net 1615 10th Avenue SW • (403) 244-4445 Steamworks 11 April 9: Prism Bar & Grill, 10524 – 101 Street Alberta’s website for youth with sex-and-gender http://www.skewgallery.com 11745 Jasper Ave• (780) 451-5554 Edmonton STD 4 differences. Youthsafe.net lists the resources, Stagewest 11111 Jasper Ave information and services to help youth find safe and 727 42 Avenue SE • (403) 243-6642 caring spaces in Alberta. http://www.stagewestcalgary.com Businesses Edmonton Vocal Minority B & D Emporium 13 http://www.evmchoir.com Sweet Charity Nov. 22, 2007 – Feb. 10, 2008, New City Compound, 10081 Jasper Avenue Phone: 780-479-2038 Restaurants Sweet Charity is a musical look at one woman’s STORE HOURS FRIDAY 9 PM - 1 AM, SATURDAY Calgary Eagle Inc. 4 belief that in the midst of adversity, that she will NOON - 6 PM, 9 PM - 1 AM Free To Be volleyball See our ad on page 13 and 48 find hope and strength to know that someday she http://www.bdemporiumedmonton.com Amiskiwcy Academy, 101 Airport Rd. (near the 424a - 8 Ave SE • (403) 263-5847 will finally meet that nice young man who will downtown airport) http://www.calgaryeagle.com Cruiseline romance her away; and all of her dreams will come Every Wednesday and Thursday night, 8pm-10pm. 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(Please DANGEROUS LIAISONS - February 7 - 9, 2008 sensation when he discovers an exotic plant with a note that there is limited space on the intermediate in Calgary mysterious craving for fresh blood! Soon, “Audrey Community Groups and night) II” grows into a ill-tempered, foul-mouthed, R&B- MOZART’S REQUIEM - March 27 - 29, 2008 in HIV Network Of Edmonton Society 3 singing carnivore who offers him fame and fortune Organizations Calgary 11456 Jasper Ave in exchange for feeding its growing appetite, finally GISELLE - September 13 - 15, 2007 in Calgary Buck Naked Boys Club (Edmonton) http://www.hivedmonton.com revealing itself to be an alien creature poised for Naturism club for men. ATP, Alberta Theatre Projects 36 global domination! This affectionate spoof of the Imperial Sovereign Court of the Wild Rose Meets the second Saturday of each month. 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Try it out with the ISCWR for an Fairytales International Gay & Lesbian Film Edmonton Listings evening with your hosts Dee Luv and LJ Steele Festival Edmonton Pride Week Society http://www.fairytalesfilmfest.com Bars and Clubs http://www.prideedmonton.org A History of Rock and Roll - Sat Feb 23 @ Boots & Saddles 5 9:00PM (3h) Location: Prism Bar & Grill (10524 See our ad on page 55 10242 106th St • (780)423-5014 June 13 to June 22 2008 101st Street) Description: Join Tanya and past Gay Edmonton title holders for part 2: A History of Rock ERBA - Edmonton Rainbow Business May 27th to June 5th 2008 Buddy’s Nite Club 6 and Roll. We will be counting down with Rock and Association 11725 Jasper Ave • (780) 488-6636 Roll Artists from N to Z. Know your trivia? 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20 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Location: Boot’s & Saddles (10242 106th Street) Avenue. When - March 15 - Door/Cocktails/Snacks gay men to come and share their feelings on meeting and then either a guest speaker, discussion Come out an enjoy a spectacular show where the 8:00 pm - Dance 9:00 pm. Ticket Prices Members how it is affecting their personal lives. This is a panel, or a potluck supper. Special interest groups boys of the ISCWR trade places with the girls for the $10. Non-members $15. Students $12 - Must have personal private time for them to express how it has meet for other social activities throughout the night! Brags to be a show that will leave you in awe valid student ID Tickets not yet available, call the changed their outlook on life. As well to support and month. In July and August we have a BBQ or picnic and perhaps a couple stiches Pride Centre to reserve today - 488 3234 help each other dealing with being HIV positive. in lieu of a meeting and in December it’s replaced Whatever is said in the room stays within the room. with a Christmas party. EPT is affiliated with Prime Edmonton Illusions Social Club - Bears Movie Night Remember! You are not alone! Timers World Wide. If you would like to know more The Edmonton Illusions Social Club meets the Bears club of Edmonton meets the last Sunday of about our group, email [email protected], second Thursday of each month at the Roost - Youth Understanding Youth the month for movies 1- 6 pm in the TV room at the visit http://www.primetimersww.org/edmonton/, or Bar&Grill, 10345-104St, Edmonton, in the upstairs Youth support and social group meets every Pride Centre of Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: attend a monthly meeting. boardroom at 8pm. For info go to http://groups. Saturday from 7 to 9 pm at the Pride Centre of (780) 488-3234 yahoo.com/group/edmonton_illusions/ or call Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) 488- - Suit Up and Show Up Big Book Study 780-387-3343. - Trans Education/Support Group 3234 Contact: [email protected] (www.members. Saturdays at 12 noon. At Pride Centre Support and education for all transsexual, shaw.ca/yuy ) Living Positive through Positive Living Society - Sick and tired of being sick and tired? Cocaine transgendered, intersexed, two-spirited and of Alberta 2 - Womonspace Anonymous meeting questioning individuals meets 1st and 3rd Sundays (780) 488-5768 (780) 482-1794. Thursdays 7-8pm CA Hotline 425-2715 of each month, 2-4 pm at the Pride Centre http://www.edmlivingpositive.ca see our ad on page 50 of Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) - Youth Drop-in Providing confidential one-on-one peer support for [email protected] 488-3234 Every Wednesday at 5:00pm infected or affected individuals…. Internet support www.gaycanada.com/womonspace Open to all youth 25 years and under [email protected] - Sunday Night Mens Discussion Group A non-profit lesbian organization established for Contact [email protected] or Mens social and discussion group meets every Edmonton and surrounding areas. Organized Northern Chaps call 488-3234 for more info. Sunday @ 7 pm at the Pride Centre of Edmonton activities include: licenced non-smoking dances; http://www.northernchaps.com 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: 488-3234, Contact: Rob coffee houses; family events; games nights; golf - Men’s HIV Support Group Northern Chaps is Edmonton’s original leather, Wells - [email protected] tournaments; and more. Memberships available, Will be meeting on each second Monday of the latex, fetish, uniform club. We have been in which also includes confidential bi-monthly month. At the Pride Center, Edmonton Starting in - Saturday Movie Night existence officially since 1987 but have been in Newsletters. April, from 7pm to 9pm. Weekly movie nights, with themed movies and existence originally around 1982 in Edmonton, discussion afterwards at the Pride Centre of Valentine’s Dance - February 9 at Bellevue Hall. - Parents Rock the World Workshops Alberta, Canada. Everyone is welcome to join or Edmonton 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) 488- Doors open at 8:00 pm. Dance at 9:00. Come early PFLAG Canada: Edmonton Chapter - Workshop attend events 3234. from 2:00 to 5:00 and make a new friend! Series Tuesdays, Pride Centre (95A St. and 111 Pride Centre of Edmonton 1 Ave.) 7:00 – 10:00 p.m. Ph: (780) 488-3234 - The HIV Positive Gay Men’s Group - Prime Timers 95A St. and 111 Ave. • (780) 488-3234 A series of workshops for Parents of Gay, Lesbian, Drop in caring circle every Thursday, 1-4 pm @ 7- (EPT) is a group of older gay men and their Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning children. March 15, 2008: Looking to expand your social 9 pm in main area, at the Pride Centre of Edmonton admirers who come from diverse backgrounds but Each session will feature a 30 – 45 minute scene? Mark your calendars for the Pride Centre’s 95A St. and 111 Ave. Ph: (780) 488-3234 have common social interests. We meet on the topic specific presentation, followed by a group “Empire Ball”, a Roman themed dance. Where Facilitator: Mark, HIV Outreach second Sunday of most months at the Unitarian discussion. Social time for sharing and networking - Alberta Avenue Community League - 9210-118 The HIV positive Gay Men’s Group is a place for Church of Edmonton (10804 - 119th Street) at 2:30 pm for a social period, a short business will follow at the end of each session. Call the Pride

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 21 Centre to register or for more details. OUTDOOR PURSUITS - For more information contact the next to follow the last Saturday of each month Canadian Rainbow Health Coalition / Coalition [email protected] (except December) until May. For more information santé arc-en-ciel Canada - GLBT Seniors Drop IN on dances, monthly Pot-luck Dinners (all ages) and P.O. Box / C.P. 3043 Every Thursday Pride Centre (95A St. and 111 RUNNING - Arctic Frontrunners. Sundays, Tuesdays other programs, visit the GALA/LA website at www. Saskatoon SK Canada S7K 3S9 Ave.), 2:00 pm – 4:00 pm and Thursdays. Times and locales vary running@ newgaylethbridge.ca. Also our Support Line (403) 306-955-5135 The Pride Centre is thrilled to introduce a new teamedmonton.ca 308-2893 is open Monday OR Wednesday 7 pm toll -free / sans frais 1-800-955-5129 program serving our GLBT seniors. Hosted by Jeff STEP AEROBICS - Resumes in September. Every -11 pm (leave a message any other time). PFLAG fax/ télécopieur 306-955-5132 Bovee, contact the Centre at 488-3234 for more Tuesday Night. Meet in the Aerobics Studio at offering support through Parents & Friends for http://www.rainbowhealth.ca info. 5pm. Kinsmen Sports Centre 9100 Walterdale Hill. Lesbians and Gays is available as well, call us any http://www.santearc-en-ciel.ca Robertson-Wesley United Church [email protected] time for more information. Egale Canada 10209 123 St. NW SWIMMING - Making Waves Swimming resumes 8 Wellington St E, Third Floor (780) 482-1587 September 6th. Tuesdays 8 to 9pm. Thursdays 7:30 Toronto, Ontario, M5E 1C5 http://www.rwuc.org Red Deer Listings to 8:30. Northern Alberta Institute of Technology 1-888-204-7777 toll free [email protected] Affirm (NAIT) pool. 11762 - 106 Street. swimming@ http://www.egale.ca Composed of LGBTQ people, their friends, family Worship Sunday morning at 10:30 am. People of teamedmonton.ca and allies. No religious affiliation necessary. all sexual orientations welcome. Join us for Soul TENNIS - Dates to be determined. Tennis is Activities include support, faith and social justice Egale Canada is the national advocacy and lobby OUTing, an LGBT-focused alternative worship, currently looking for a new coordinator for the discussions, film nights, and potlucks! Affirm organization for gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, on the third Sunday of each month at 7:00 PM. fall. If you are interested, please contact Norm at meets the second Tuesday of the month at 7PM at trans-identified people and our families. Other LGBT events include a monthly book club [email protected] Sunnybrook United Church, (403) 347-6073. Membership fees are pay-what-you-can, although and a bi-monthly film night. As a caring spiritual pre-authorized monthly donors are encouraged (and community, we’d love to have you join us! VOLLEYBALL - Free to Be Volleyball resumes on get a free Egale Canada t-shirt). Egale has several October 10th and 11th, 8 to 10pm. Wednesday Team Edmonton National Listings committees that meet by teleconference on a Recreational [email protected]. http://www.teamedmonton.ca regular basis; membership on these is national with Thursday Intermediate volleyball@teamedmonton. See our ad on page 63 Businesses members from every region of Canada. ca. Fees to be determined. 101 Amiskiwacy Entre Nous Academy (the former Municipal Airport Terminal just Come Out and Play! Music, Merriment and More! 1-866-467-5252 off Kingsway) Theatre and Art Team Edmonton is hosting their annual mixer on See our ad on page 62 OUTtv February 23 from 7-11 pm at Amber’s Brewing YOGA (HATHA) - Lion’s Breath Yoga, Every http://www.entrenousnetwork.com See our ad on page 54 located at 9926 78 Ave. All members of the GLBT Sunday 2:00 to 3:30. Beginning September Love and Pride http://www.outtv.ca and friends/supporters community are invited to 9th, 2007. Fee: Free. This is an introductory Gay and Lesbian themed Jewelry If you would like to add your business or non-profit attend. It is an opportunity to meet representatives level class. No previous experience with yoga is http://www.loveandpride.ca and participants from Bowling, Curling, Swimming, required. Bring: Yoga mat or beach towel & water. group to the list above, please call (403) 543- Running, Bootcamp, Yoga, Volleyball, Pilates, Wear Comfortable sweats or shorts & t-shirt. To Squirt 6960, or toll free 1 (888) 543-6960 or E-mail Pole Dancing, Ballroom Dancing, Cycling, confirm your participation please contact yoga@ See our ad on page 62 [email protected]. You can add your Outdoor Pursuits, Skating and more. In addition, teamedmonton.ca Dating and hookups website information to the GayCalgary.com directory on the representatives from Apollo will be coming up from http://www.squirt.org website for free. Soccer - will be on the South field of the Oliver Calgary to provide information and promote the Wega Video School every Thursday from 7 - 9pm. 10227 -118 GayCalgary.com endeavors to have the information upcoming Western Cup in March. This is a free Adult DVD’s Street. (weather permitting) For more information here as accurate as possible. Events and listings can event and there is no cover charge to attend. http://www.wegavideo.ca contact [email protected] change at any time so it is recommended that you BADMINTON - Women’s Drop-In Recreational check with the establishment before you head out. Badminton, Oliver School Gym 10227-118 Street. Community Groups and Begins October 3, and then every Wednesday Theatre and Art Non-Profit groups get free listings. Business receive 6 to 7:30pm. Levels: Beginner, Intermediate Alberta Ballet Organizations a listing once an ad has been placed. The business and Competitive. Fees: $30.00 for the season or http://www.albertaballet.com listing will last 1 year after the appear up to ad Alberta Transgender Support and Activities $5.00 drop in Phone: 465-3620. badminton@ has been placed unless there is a GayCalgary.com DANGEROUS LIAISONS - February 15 - 16, 2008 Group teamedmonton.ca service located at that business. in Edmonton http://www.albertatrans.org BALLROOM DANCING - All gender combinations MOZART’S REQUIEM - April 4 - 5, 2008 in A nexus for transgendered persons, regardless of welcome. Salsa, Rhumba, Waltz, Jive. Begins Edmonton where they may be on the continuum. Sunday December 2, 7:30pm-8:30pm Phone: 469 GISELLE - September 18 - 19, 2007 in Edmonton - 3281 [email protected] Broadway Across Canada BOOTCAMP - Monday at 7:00- 8:00pm. St. http://www.broadwayacrosscanada.ca Alphonsus until Dec 10. 11624 - 81 St. $30.00 fee for the season. [email protected] Exposure, Edmonton’s Queer Arts and Culture Festival BOWLING Northern Titans Bowling resumes on http://www.exposurefestival.ca/ Saturday September 29. Every Saturday 5 to 7pm, GATEWAY LANES at #100 3414 Gateway Blvd $15.00 per person. [email protected] Lethbridge Listings CURLING WITH PRIDE - Resumes Mondays at 7:15. GALA/LA - Gay and Lesbian Alliance of Oct 15 2007 to Mar 17 2008. Granite Curling Club Lethbridge and Area 8620 - 107th Street. [email protected] (403) 308-2893 (live on Mon. and Wed. evenings until 11 p.m.) CYCLING - Wednesdays 6:30 Various locations in http://www.newgaylethbridge.ca Edmonton. [email protected] The Gay & Lesbian Alliance of Lethbridge and Area KICKBOXING - Dates to be determined. Location to dance season begins Saturday, August 25 with be determined. [email protected]

22 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Evolution Of Community GLBTQ History Isn’t Quite as Linear as One Might Think

By Stephen Lock Politics There is a tendency, certainly in North America, to view the 1969 Stonewall Riots as the beginning of Hay was a member of the American Communist Party and structured the Mattachine Society along the same lines, as the GLBTQ movement. The factors that led to that a series of secret cells. In an era when homosexuality was phenomenon actually started to take root much a criminal offence and heavily stigmatized, if one cell of the earlier. Society was busted it would not affect other cells or put other members at increased risk. It is a technique historically used Likewise, the popular notion that if it weren’t for the drag by any number of “subversive” organizations, and still used queens and ‘trannies’ at Stonewall we wouldn’t have the today. This is not to suggest the Mattachine Society was some rights we have - is overly simplistic. They were only part of sort of proto-terrorist group, far from it. I bring this up only the Stonewall’s clientele. The Stonewall catered to an element to illustrate that “subversive” groups – groups working against that most homosexuals simply would not have anything to do the dominant order – utilize the ‘secret cell’ model. The Re- with. Its clientele was considered “trashy,” rough, and down- sistance Movement during WWII in France used the model, as and-out. did various anti-Stalinist groups within the Soviet Union. These were not politically aware activists seeking to bring The Mattachine Society, named after a medieval secret soci- about change. That came later. Those throwing the bricks ety whose purpose was to challenge the orthodoxy of the day and barricading the cops inside the bar on those three fate- and minimize the personal risk of being executed for heresy by ful nights in June 1969 were young and disenfranchised, the Church, maintained that being homosexual was not an in- one step away from the street or already there. There was dividual “perversion” but analogous to African-American (then no grand plan to liberate homosexuals from the tyranny of known as “Negro”), Hispanic and Jewish concepts of self and dominant culture. Frankly, they were a sorry bunch of young community. It attempted to show America that homosexual fags nobody wanted to bother with, pissed off with always men and lesbians did not deserve to be stigmatized, criminal- being pushed around and beaten up by police. The day was ized, and shamed. One of the primary goals, along with edu- hot, and tempers were getting a bit frayed. All it took was one cation and a re-ordering of the concept of being homosexual, frustrated person to throw a brick and everything erupted. was to “assist…people who are victimized daily as a result of Like any riot, it was a spontaneous event that got out of oppression.” hand, a product of years of pent-up frustration, hurt, anger, It provided a variety of services to the homosexual commu- and opportunity. Those who were ‘at Stonewall’ weren’t think- nity, including peer-counseling and referral services for legal ing of creating a social movement. They were interested in and other professionals, as well as serving as a lobby group for raising a ruckus before being carted, yet again, off to the cells. the repeal of sodomy and other discriminatory laws in the US. That Stonewall came to represent the beginning of the mod- Gay liberationists were far more in tune with the tenor of ern gay movement is more a product of marketing than reality. the times than the homophile groups. The homophile move- Factors that created the modern gay movement were already ment of the 1950s and early-to-mid 60s sought to work within in play. What Stonewall did was bring the conditions faced by the system to change attitudes whereas liberationists sought lesbians and gay men into popular consciousness. to tear down the existing socio-political system and rebuild The 60’s were a decade of upheavals and challenges to the it. It was during this era the term ‘gay’ became the dominant status quo. The civil rights, women’s liberation, anti-war/ term to describe homosexual men and was viewed by the Old peace, and gay liberation movements entered the general con- Guard in much the same way as some, who identify as gay sciousness during the 60’s, but the roots for all those social now, react to the term ‘queer.’ movements go back further. At the same time, those who identifi ed with the far more The gay movement’s foundation was laid in 1950 with the “street-oriented” term ‘gay’ rejected the term ‘homosexual’ as Mattachine Society and The Daughters of Bilitis. While both of too bourgeois, too clinical, and a term the dominant culture these groups eventually were dismissed as dinosaurs by gay imposed rather than a term we chose for ourselves…just as liberationists, they were originally quite radical. those who identify as ‘queer’ tend to dismiss ‘gay’ (or gay, lesbian, bisexual) now. Harry Hay founded The Mattachine Society in Los Angeles. In later years, he would go on to explore queer spirituality However, the roots of the homosexual/gay/lesbigay/GLBTQ and create the Radical Fairies. Despite Hay’s utilizing gender movement go back even further. non-conformity in later years, cross-dressing and drag were The fi rst wave occurred in the mid-19th Century and was anathema to the image the Mattachine Society wanted homo- centred in Germany (specifi cally Berlin), Russia and England sexuals to have. Whatever individual views may have been, and was the fi rst time “homosexuality” was identifi ed as an when appearing in public at rallies or other events, men were identity instead of something someone did. The term itself expected to wear jackets and ties and women were expected to was coined, as was the opposing term “heterosexuality,” dur- dress in skirts and hose, like all respectable Americans did. ing this period.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 23 The concept was that, what we now call gay and lesbian, insisted ‘sodomy’ was a straying from the path, a perversion in were in fact a third or intermediate sex. Proponents referred the truest sense of the word. to this intermediate sex as Urnings (“of the heavens”) and believed Urnings bridged the existing genders of male and In one case he records, a Mollie appeared before a judge, female, incorporating characteristics of both. charged with sodomy and being the patron of a ‘disorderly house’ (a bawdy or whore house). Apparently, the defen- The primary spokesperson for the movement was a Jewish dant stated that what he chose to do with his own body was intellectual, Magnus Hirschfeld, who founded the Scientifi c nobody’s business but his and certainly was of no concern to Humanitarian Committee in 1867 and later in 1919, the Insti- the State nor should be. This was in the London of the 1700s, tute for Sexual Research in Berlin - a large and comprehensive remember, not the 1960s of Trudeau’s Ottawa (“the state has academy housing documents and research on the subject of no business in the bedrooms of the nation”). homosexuality. The Committee sought to defend the rights of homosexuals in an era when such rights did not exist, and For such a statement to be made, an established and sup- to repeal Paragraph 175 of the German Penal Code which portive system would have had to exist. There must have been criminalized homosexual acts (primarily between males), argu- an understanding of personal autonomy, distinct from the pre- ing the law should not penalize those who had no control over vious ethos of the human body ‘belonging’ to God, the Church, who they were. or the State and essentially nothing more than a machine to be used or controlled by one’s “betters.” The Committee managed to obtain over 5000 signatures on a petition. Signatories included Albert Einstein, the authors This idea that the individual and the individual alone could Hermann Hesse (who wrote, amongst other works, the novel decide what to do with his own person, was the bedrock upon Steppenwolf), Thomas and Heinrich Mann, and sex researcher which the Age of Enlightenment, and subsequently the French Richard von Krafft-Ebbing. and American Revolutions, were founded upon. The bill to repeal came before the German Parliament in Other histories, most notably those by John Boswell (Chris- 1898 but was defeated. However, it continued to come before tianity, Social Tolerance and Homosexuality (1980) and The the Reichstag up until the late 1920s when Hitler’s rise to Marriage of Likeness: Same-Sex Unions in Pre-modern Europe power destroyed any hope for progress. In fact, Hitler and (1994)), argued that homosexual behavior was tolerated, even the Nazis strengthened the clause with Paragraph 175-a and celebrated, by the Roman Catholic Church prior to thirteenth- thousands of homosexual men were arrested and sent to century reforms. In fact, priests sometimes performed rites of slave labour and concentration camps. This is where the Pink bonding or union between two men or two women similar to Triangle symbol originates, being the badge homosexual male rites celebrating opposite-sex marriages. Boswell asserted in prisoners were forced to wear, similar to the Yellow Star worn order for such rituals to occur a visible homosexual commu- by Jews. Women charged with being lesbian wore a Black nity (which he refers to as ‘gay’) had to be in place. Triangle. One of the dangers with all these threads of our history is The Institute was destroyed in 1933 and its vast collection applying the concept of ‘gay’ or even ‘lesbian’ to them. There of art, literature and scientifi c works on homosexuality, and are two schools of thought: Essentialism argues the state of sexuality in general, were burned at large public book burn- being emotionally and physically attracted to members of one’s ings. The Nazis strove to rid Germany of any ‘decadent’ and own sex is an essential part of an individual’s psyche and what they saw as anti-Germanic (and therefore unwholesome) therefore inherent. The other, Constructivism, argues sexual infl uences…Jews, homosexuals, Communists, Gypsies, and orientation is a social construct, dependent on a myriad of the mentally and physically disabled. infl uences. While it would be simplistic to characterize this as suggesting choice, it argues that ‘gay’ is a 20th Century The Nazis were so thorough in annihilating any evidence Western construct and that to apply the term ‘gay’ to previ- of the Institute and its related developments that, all knowl- ous cultures is, at best, anachronistic and at worst a form of edge of this fi rst movement was forgotten for decades. But it almost ‘cultural racism.’ was every bit as organized as anything Canada, the USA, and Western GLBTQ culture has produced since. The Institute Certainly applying the term ‘gay’ to non-Western manifesta- for Sexual Research was as respected and as viable as today’s tions of same-sex activity is a form of imperialism because it Kinsey Institute. There was a fl ourishing and sophisticated dismisses the specifi c cultural infl uences at work and operates culture in place - a community - and it was forgotten until the from a Western Euro-centric point of view. 1970s. Setting aside the heavily academic and polemic arguments, Prior to that, however, were other social movements that, it is perhaps worthwhile to keep in mind that it is all too easy while not specifi cally “homosexual” (since the term and con- to reduce our complex and rich history down to its simplest cept of a separate characteristic did not yet exist) certainly threads. had same-sex, largely male same-sex, activity as a central Take for instance, the idea that ‘if it weren’t for the drag characteristic. queens we wouldn’t have our rights.’ This sort of thinking In the early 18th Century mainly upper- and middle-class dismisses decades of reality. The rights we currently enjoy men would gather in Molly Houses and were known as Mollies. as GLBTQ people in Canada really have very little to do with Cross-dressing played a signifi cant role as did sex between Stonewall and whether or not it was drag queens who led the Mollies and working-class boys and men, such as stable riots. The Canadian gay rights era began, some would say, hands, clerks, valets, labourers, and errand-boys - most of not with Stonewall but with the Toronto bathhouse raids whom were essentially what we would now call “gay for pay.” of 1979/80. The community’s reaction to those raids was Many of the Mollies lived communally in Molly Houses while the “Canadian Stonewall”. An argument could be made that other men merely ‘visited’. Trudeau’s decriminalization of homosexuality in 1968, a year before Stonewall, laid the foundations of the Canadian move- Well-known gay historian Jonathan Katz wrote that Mollies ment. were an example of individuals gaining a sense of personal autonomy and reacting against the orthodoxy of the day that It needs to also be pointed out that the rights movement Continued on Page 44 24 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Q Scopes “Charge your batteries, Aquarius!”

By Jack Fertig Lifestyle | Astrology As Mercury lines up with the Sun in Aquarius, every- one is a bit more know-it-all and too damn clever for SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21): If you can his or her own good. Try to be adaptive, open-minded, manage to have some fun with your family, you’ll and a good listener, and you will be much smarter - be amazed at what secrets will be revealed in the process. Stand your ground gently in arguments, agreeing to disagree, however discreetly - than the people voicing their grand and even more will come out! ideas.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 20): ARIES (March 20 - April 19): Friends who seem Insisting that you’re right only exposes more relentless in urging you on are actually doing glaringly where you’re wrong. Try to keep an open mind, and you a favor. You’re capable of more than you realize. Going it remember what basic principles are really important. Adapt alone would weaken you. Let them help you, and you’ll go far! with new conditions and new ideas to keep up!

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20): Question author- CAPRICORN (December 21 - January 19): Adapt- ity, but pay attention to what those in power ability is not only an enduring value, it is one say. Expert advice needs some expansion and clarifi cation, of your sign’s best attributes. New ideas that seem to be an and asking for that will prove advantageous. Asking questions affront to your sensibilities can prove very helpful, and will doesn’t make you look foolish, but not asking them when you eventually affi rm the values they seem to attack. should will! AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18): You’re GEMINI (May 21 - June 20): You’re itching for getting a birthday bolt of fabulosity in which a power struggle. Playing it out in the bedroom anything could happen, and you’ll make sure it will. Thrive on can release that energy so your uppity impulses don’t make the attention, but take a little time out to charge your batter- trouble for you at work. Or focus and harness that energy ies. Let yourself be surprised. Really surprised. more deliberately at work, if you can!

PISCES (February 19 - March 19): Working behind CANCER (June 21 - July 22): Your mouth is the scenes, especially in a charitable effort, will be running way ahead of your brain and your good to your advantage. The political connections will be obvious, sense. Try to stick to places where a lack of inhibition and but there will be more surprising benefi ts! tasteful restraint can work to your favor. Anywhere else, slow down and think about what you’re saying. Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since 1977, is based in San Francisco. He can be reached for consultations at 415-864- LEO (July 23 - August 22): Your partner - in life 8302, through his website at http://www.starjack.com or in the moment - will offer some kinky new possibilities, expanding your erotic horizons. If your sweetie is drawing a blank in that department, start talking about tattoos and body art. Just discussing it should stimulate the imagination.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22): New ap- proaches at work can make your job more pro- ductive and enjoyable. You have some great ideas, but don’t be so insistent on doing things your own way. Colleagues will offer surprising inspiration.

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22): A new ap- proach to your favorite sport or hobby can make it a lot more fun and/or creative. Ask yourself how Mom or Granny would approach it, whether you choose to follow that example or take a diametrically opposite approach.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 25 26 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 The Dating Game Love’s Labor Cost

By Evan Kayne Relationship | Advice When you re-enter the dating scene, you market yourself much like any product with the goal of get- of time – I would say of the sites I used, I probably spent 12 hours per week emailing, sorting, tweaking my ad, and so ting a buyer. Yet, you are also a consumer of any on. If time is money to you, this footwork is dollars lost. marketing methods. What are the costs for each method and which works best? Friends: Of about 20 people I surveyed, only one person had anyone with which to match me up (in theory). Addi- Using myself as a test subject, I looked at some choices tionally, most said they wouldn’t play matchmaker as both out there for gay men. The options I considered: bars, parties might blame them if things went sour – or as one internet dating sites, word-of-mouth among one’s friends, person said, “I fi nd it less deadly to play dumb on this one.” community groups, gay speed dating and a professional In the past, I did have a friend who matched me up with my matchmaking company. former boyfriend. Oddly enough, the relationship with the ex lasted longer than the friendship I had with the person who Bars & Nightclubs: I wouldn’t advise it. Why? First, odds introduced us. Cost is an advantage here, as you can usu- are Mr. Right is actually Mr. Right-NOW. Second, bars ally meet through friends for free, or for the price of coffee. and nightclubs could be lumped under meeting through friends: most people usually go there in a group and then Community Groups: If you think about it, in their own run into other friends. Finally, there are dozens of bars for way they are a larger version of word-of-mouth among the straight community, and only four or fi ve bars for the friends. I surveyed three local groups: Apollo, ARGRA, and Edmonton or Calgary gay community. That being said, if Rocky Mountain Bears. Apollo and Rocky Mountain Bears you are going to meet someone, your odds are better at a indicated while there were a few couples who met through pub or bar where you can sit down and talk rather than at their group, it didn’t happen that often. Billy Loiselle with a nightclub where you can’t hear yourself thing. The cost ARGRA did say he knew lots of couples who met through here depend on if there is a cover charge, and how easy of a their organization, and that, depending on the event, there drunk you are. were a lot of potential hookups (especially at the rodeo). Any community group will widen your circle of friends, and Self-serve dating sites: these websites are popping up usually what happens then is you meet Mr. Right at a club everywhere like cockroaches. No longer the refuge of the sad event and fi nd out he’s a friend of someone in the group. and desperate, they’ve become more acceptable over the past few years. Most offer some features for free, but you have Cost: annual membership runs from $15-$20, depend- to pay for additional services. Fees can range from $30 to ing on the organization. As well, additional events (dances, much more. sporting events, dinners, etc.) may come with extra costs. [Editor’s Sarcastic Note: you might even get suckered into I posted my ad on several sites for comparison. They all doing some real volunteer work!] function much the same – add your photo, then type in your profi le or use a checklist to notify others of your likes and Gay Speed Dating: Mathew John Chyzyk of JohnandJohn dislikes. Events recently organized a successful event for the under 25 set. Of the nearly 2 dozen men in attendance, only 5 Several men I talked to said Manhunt.org is currently the didn’t make a connection, and at the time I submitted this most popular site. Be warned – you’ll wade through a lot article, they have one offi cial couple. Mathew mentioned that of dick shots…they don’t separate casual sex seekers from before and after the timed dates, attendees had the chance those seeking friendships or relationships. PlentyofFish.com to freely socialize, so regardless of whether or not any more also has a good selection of men, and it’s 100% free. As well, guys couple up, several friendships where made. Again, the they have strict photo enforcements: pictures are optional, worse case scenario is that you expand your social circle, but your face must be clearly visible. Any nudity will see and at some point in the future, a friend of a friend becomes your account deleted. Both sites are very user friendly – I your partner. was able to get my profi le up in minutes. Some of the other sites (Gay.com, Manline) took a while for the system to think Cost: $30 (includes appetizers at the function). At this about it; or you had to fi ll out form after form after form. time, Mathew is planning another event in February targeted to men aged 25-35. What are the drawbacks? Spam (“Russian men to be needing hot loving now!”), men who can’t read (if you have a Professional match making service: Entre-Nous is a good photo but your ad says you’re not looking for sex, they professional match making service exclusively for long term ignore that and ask for your dick size), men who “ken’t spel”, same-sex relationships. This would appeal to guys who or men whom “they grammar be bad”. PEOPLE! Write it fi nd all the other methods time-consuming, unsuccessful, out fi rst in Word, run spelling and grammar checker, THEN risky and frustrating. By comparison, think of a man who post...it’s not rocket science! Additionally, it’s a huge sucker hires movers, painters, weekly housecleaning, or a personal Continued on Page 30 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 27 Deep Inside Hollywood New Projects For Selma Blair, Molly Shanon, and Kathy Griffin

By Romeo San Vicente Celebrity | Gossip Kath and Kim Try Out an American Accent Translating a hit show from another country can be tricky. For every hit like Queer as Folk or Ugly Betty, there’s a Coupling or a failed Absolutely Fabulous pilot that no one ever sees. But the hit Australian comedy Kath & Kim (a sort of down-market Ab Fab) has proven popular on U.S. cable and is a cult hit with queer audiences, so an American remake is on the way. Its pedigree is solid: Cool indie star Selma Blair (A Dirty Shame) and Saturday Night Live alum Molly Shannon will play the off-kilter pair, and the pilot’s being directed by Freaks and Geeks’ Paul Feig. With the right creative tone and marketing (aka pander- ing to queer audiences), the fi nished product could be, like Betty, another gay household staple. Kathy Griffi n: The Show Remains the Same What happens when a Hollywood D-lister’s career rises to the level of a C- or B-lister? That’s the burning issue at stake as Bravo greenlights a fourth season of Kathy Griffi n: My Life on the D-List. Not to worry, however - the self-and-everyone-else-deprecating comedian hasn’t sud- denly started lunching with Renee Zellweger. But she’s So what better place for them to do their job than in a gay- seen her stock go way up since D-List began airing (even themed project? Enter Margot Kidder (Superman), Sean as her controversial Emmy win speech angered people who Young (Bladerunner), and Morgan Fairchild (Flamingo never watched the show in the fi rst place), and has become Road), all of whom will have a new opportunity to enter- the comic of choice among many queer fans. According to tain their devoted queer followings when they guest in two Griffi n, the only thing that may change in the new season upcoming Donald Strachey mysteries, Ice Blues and On is the introduction of uniforms for her staff; otherwise, it’ll the Other Hand, Death. The fi lms, starring Chad Allen as be open season on Hollywood, as usual. No matter what Strachey, have both wrapped and will feature at least one happens, expect hilarity to ensue when the new episodes of the women - Kidder - in a lesbian role. Look for both to air later this year. air later in 2008 on Here TV. Driving Cross-Country in the Fagbug Romeo San Vicente recently solved the mystery of his own popular- A documentary fi lm can spring up from the oddest of ity with men: It turns out that he’s devastatingly handsome. He can be circumstances. Take Erin Davies’ experience. An Albany, reached care of this publication N.Y., college student with a rainbow sticker on her late- model VW Beetle, she discovered that the car had been vandalized with the words “fag” and “u r gay” in red spray paint. Instead of having it repainted, she instead decided to hit the road and document her experiences on a 58-day cross-country tour. Called simply Fagbug, the resulting documentary does what more formal studies could never do - expose the enemies and allies of gay America by presenting everyday homophobia to random strangers and recording their reactions. The movie should hit the fi lm- festival circuit sometime later this year, but don’t expect a coinciding trend in vandalized cars to gain much traction. Where Are They Now? Chad Allen Knows... Gay men are known - sometimes correctly, sometimes wrongly so - for their love of actresses of a certain age. And while the cultural reasons for that connection are deep and plentiful enough for a book or fi ve on the subject, the fact remains that the actors in question still need to work.

28 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Whole Lesbian Sex Yes, No, Maybe

By Felice Newman Lesbian | Sexuality Like cunnilingus? Fisting? Stiletto heels caressing your chest? Dildos? Vibrators that multi-task? How ways thought I was a redneck conservative, but it actually turns out, I’m a fairly kinky woman.” about hot wax? Bondage? Would you like to make a dirty video? What about a three-way? Take another look at that list. Would you be willing to let your honey lace you into a Victorian corset? Does the thought What are your favorite erotic activities? How about your new of wearing a blindfold while getting utterly done make you ner- girlfriend - do you know what she’d put on her list? Conven- vous - yet make your blood pound? What about nipple clamps? tional wisdom would have you explore your mutual turn-ons Shopping for sex toys? this way: Each of you fi lls out a yes/no/maybe list. On your yes list, you itemize all the erotic activities you enjoy now or would Don’t worry if you feel silly or awkward trying something new. like to try. Your maybe list represents the things you might like Experiment in the spirit of adventure and curiosity. You don’t to try or might enjoy under particular circumstances. And your have to commit to incorporating a new activity into your reper- no list - well, that’s self-explanatory, isn’t it? (Not necessarily.) toire - unless you want to. Then you and your partner compare lists, circling the interests Differences in sexual interest do not necessarily indicate in- you have in common. You make a list of your shared yeses (and compatibility - in fact, your differences are a priceless resource. maybe your maybes) and voila - there’s your sex life. It may be the frisson that makes those sparks fl y. That’s fi ne for negotiating a scene. But a life? Will the range Felice Newman is a founding publisher of Cleis Press and the author of of sexual activities you share now serve you as a couple for fi ve “The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us.” Visit her at years? For twenty? www.cleispress.com. If you limit your shared sex life to the items on that yes list, you narrow your possibilities. Over time, that gets old. Sure, today you cream at the thought of your lover whispering a sala- cious story about girls in heat as she works a fi nger into your butt. But fi ve years from now, won’t you want, well, more? A butt plug perhaps, or a new fantasy? If you want that thrill to last, take a look at your no list. What are the items you don’t hold in common? I’m not suggesting that you do anything that will traumatize you. (The idea isn’t to create new material to bring to therapy.) I am suggesting that you make room in your repertoire for erotic activities that one of you likes and the other doesn’t. If you want to have hot sex fi ve years from now, you’ll need to create a shared sex life that’s expansive, not contracted. How do you deal with those differences in sexual interests? You create ways to accommodate both of you. Your lover likes sex in public, but you don’t feel like exposing yourself to the elements, much less arrest? Take her to a sex party. OK, maybe that’s only semi-public. But if her turn-on is exhibitionism, she’ll fi nd many willing voyeurs. Or spin a tale. Tell her about snaking your hand into her 501s in some very public and inap- propriate place - while you really are snaking your hand into her pants in a safer venue. Maybe read her a story - the Best Lesbian Erotica series abounds with stories of public sex. Take advantage of all the erotic possibilities your differences may offer. You may fi nd yourself enjoying activities you never considered trying. Working that out can open you to new pos- sibilities that will enrich your erotic life. Your sexual tastes, fre- quency, and range of interests will broaden as you experiment with those of your partners. One woman wrote to me that she discovered her love of anal sex by trying it for her girlfriend. She didn’t think she’d like having her partner’s fi ngers probing her butt, but she surprised herself. Now she’s a proud back-door Betty. Another said, “I al-

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 29 Hedwig and the Angry Inch Tran-Glam Rock Hits the Pumphouse

By Jason Clevett Preview | Theatre Hedwig is here! The 1998 rock musical that has become a cult classic much like The Rocky Horror was his family babysitter, moonlighting as a prostitute. The original off Broadway production ran for two years. Show will be presented by Sage Theatre February 28th through March 15th. Songs from the soundtrack such as The Origin of Love, Sugar Daddy, Wig in a Box and Exquisite Corpse have be- Starring Geoffrey Ewert and Jamie Konchak, Hedwig come staples in many LGBT fans’ music playlists, and the and the Angry Inch is the story of Hansel, an East Ger- movie has become a part of many DVD collections. man girlyboy who loves rock music and philosophy. Stuck in East Berlin, Hansel meets US Soldier Luther Robinson, Much like fellow cult favorite The Rocky Horror Show, who falls for Hansel and the two decide to marry, allowing Hedwig will have two special midnight showings - a unique Hanel to leave Germany. Hansel’s mother Hedwig gives her and fun way to see the show. child her name and passport and fi nds a doctor to perform Hedwig and the Angry Inch promises to leave its audi- a sex change. After a botched operation, Hedwig is left with ence in awe just as the original fi lm did. High energy but only a one inch mound of fl esh between her legs. with a great deal of heart and depth, Hedwig and the Later, Hedwig forms a rock band dubbed “The Angry Angry Inch is one of the most anticipated shows in Calgary Inch”, becoming internationally ignored rock stars. The this year. Join Sage Theatre for a night of sex, drag, and shows music is infl uenced by glam-rock like David Bowie, rock n’ roll in this explosive journey into the heart and Iggy Pop and Lour Reed. soul of this thing we call love. Hedwig and the Angry Inch is written by gay author Sage Theatre Presents John Cameron Mitchell, who also starred in the show and Hedwig and the Angry Inch 2001 fi lm version as Hedwig. Mitchell grew up the son of February 28th – March 15th. a US Army Major General in Berlin, and the character of Pumphouse Theatre. Hedwig was originally inspired by a German Woman who Tickets: 263-0079 ext 2 www.sagetheatre.com

The Dating Game - From Page 27 trainer at the gym even though this guy could do all of the would be Entre-Nous, even though – in my opinion – the above tasks for himself. process strikes me as a bit cold and clinical; perhaps the They do a thorough screening process…I felt like I was opposite of what you would expect for love. However, there applying for a job. As they told me, Entre-Nous “only ac- are a lot of perfectly nice guys out there who don’t have the cepts outstanding individuals who are fi nancially stable, time to join a community group, or they have tried all the emotionally available and serious about starting a long-term aforementioned dating methods in the past but haven’t suc- relationship.” ceeded – for them, the matchmaking company is the perfect answer. And scraping the bottom of the barrel is internet Cost? I can’t give you an exact price, as their fees are dating sites. Yes, I know you met your husband, or your individualized based on clients’ needs and wants. I can tell best friend’s sister’s hairdresser met his lover through one you the price is signifi cantly more than any of the other of these sites. Yet for all the bullshit and time you’ll spend methods I’ve covered in this article. On the other hand, the messing around on a site (or multiple sites), it feels like an process and the fees force you to ask yourself, “Do I really electronic version of a bar or nightclub. Just don’t expect want a relationship now?” You go into this situation with the much from them, and you won’t be disappointed. understanding you WILL meet someone compatible. Guys who are frustrated by all the other methods I’ve listed will Little Black Book go this route. I can see this appealing to a lot of men – in Community Groups: fact, in my interview, they said Calgary is one of their fastest - Apollo: www.apollocalgary.com growing markets. - ARGRA (Alberta Rockies Gay Rodeo Association): www. argra.org Overall Results: Which choice worked best? In my case, - Rocky Mountain Bears: www.rockymountainbears.com I did meet a few guys, but no fi reworks. That’s fi ne as the Entre-Nous: www.entrenousnetwork.com research made me realize I’m quite happy being single. I Gay Speed Dating: www.johnandjohnevents.com can tell you that the best option for sizing up a man is a Internet Dating Sites: www.manhunt.org; www. face-to-face meeting. Therefore, I’d recommend the com- plentyoffi sh.com munity groups and Gay Speed Dating. My second choice

30 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 The Heart of the Matter

By Arthur McComish Politics Health Canada’s recent decision, to disregard potential organs from men who have had sex with new policy in place the organs from about seven perfectly healthy potential donors could automatically be discarded men in the last few years, has furthered the debate each year, putting a further premium on the amount of on public health policy and the inclusion of the available organs in the country. But not only does this policy gay community, specifi cally gay males. The an- reduce the available organs, it still does not eliminate the nouncement, made in December 2007, singles out possibly of HIV transmission; the policy cannot account for a segment of the population on the predication that donors who are not forthcoming about their sexual experi- organs from practicing homosexuals are more likely ences, or alternatively that relatives who may have to vouch to pose a risk of HIV transmission during an organ for the donor, are not privy to every piece of personal infor- mation about their passing loved ones. transplant. To say that there is no risk involved by using the organs of Why did Health Canada decide that the organs from sexu- practicing homosexuals would be a fallacy. However, prac- ally active gay men were of higher risk, when no new studies ticing gay men do not pose any greater threat than other have been undertaken on this issue, and there have been no sexually active human being. This whole situation is quite new reported incidents? The last standardization of organ possibly a sign that the gay community needs to continue to transplant methods was in 2003, however, Health Canada remind the greater straight community about what HIV is, claims that this newly announced policy has been the prac- that they too can become infected, and how to avoid doing tice for some time - that it has just now been formalized. so. It is quite likely that the impetus for this policy change came from south of the border. In November, a Chicago hospital had reported that four organ transplant recipients, all of whom received organs from the same donor, tested positive for the HIV virus months after the transplants had taken place. It seemed that when the organs were fi rst ob- tained from the donor the test had been negative. The virus went undetected in its dormant form, and thus the trans- plant procedures were subsequently carried out. The Chicago incident highlighted an overlooked poten- tial risk within the organ transplant process, namely that HIV can have a dormant period. Health Canada’s solution to this was to enact a blanket policy to refuse organs from all men who have had sex with other men within the last 5 years, with more than one partner. Although other catego- ries of people are restricted from donating such as intrave- nous drug users, prostitutes, and people who have received a tattoo within the last 12 months, the restriction on gay men is far more severe and without any substantial evidence that they are a higher risk for transmitting HIV. What many see as an altruistic act – giving an irreplace- able part of oneself to help those in distress - may in fact be a matter of staving off a potential health related liability. It is hard to forget the tainted blood scandal in the nineteen eighties. Considered one of the darkest moments in Can- ada’s history the blood scandal continues to haunt health professionals today. The last thing any public health agency in Canada needs is a tainted organ scandal; it would prove none other than disastrous. The facts speak for themselves – that a transplant donor has a greater chance of dying waiting for an organ that they do of contracting HIV through a transplant. Over 250 people die each year in Canada waiting for transplants. With this

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 31 Letters to the Editor

By GayCalgary.com Staff Letters Dear Editor: and resign because right now, no matter how much money As I write this I am profoundly saddened angry that I and you raise, you are an embarrassment to all of us. many others feel that these words need to be said. Sincerely, J. Anderson The Court system is, from my understanding a charity group, the Emperor and Empress elected by the community to represent the community as a whole. If this is the case, we Due to the nature of this letter, we offered the ISCCA the shouldn’t have bothered to hold elections this year; the group opportunity to respond. The identity of the author was not might as well have been disbanded. revealed to them to ensure an impartial answer. The ISCCA’s The Court is not visible, they do not communicate and response follows: interact with people as a whole, and they have shown conduct very unbecoming to the community. Dear Editors, MoneyPennies has yet to see the court offi cially darken their door, let alone approach them to organize a function. What First off, allow me to express my gratitude being given an does this say to the owner of the bar? It would say to me that opportunity to respond to this letter in a timely manner. I MoneyPennies isn’t worth their time, and as an owner I would would like to preface my comments by stating that the identity be loathe to welcome the Court back ever after a slap in the of the author of this letter has not been revealed to me as I face such as this. write this, therefore I apologize if some of my responses are not in the correct context. It is rarely, if ever the Emperor and Empress are at Twisted Element, and if they do show up it is near the end of the night Let me start by saying that I am pleased that this indi- when most people have either gone home or are too drunk to vidual has taken the time and effort to put their concerns into care. When they do show up, there is no interaction with peo- writing. It demonstrates that they care about the ISCCA and ple; they cluster with themselves and that is it. Where do the their community. You must be truly passionate about the future Emperors and Empresses come from I ask you? That’s issues in order to take this step. I do wish, however, that you right – the youth of our community. How are they supposed would have addressed your concerns directly to the Board of to garner any interest in this organization if their impression Directors rather than using so public a forum. The ISCCA has is a bunch of stand-offi sh snobs wearing weird crowns hidden always welcomed the public to their Board Meetings in order off in a corner? to discuss any issues or concerns. Anyone wishing to attend a Board Meeting can fi nd our contact information on our World AIDS Day was possibly the biggest disappointment website (www.iscca.ca) or through our page on facebook. and cause for righteous anger. The Empress decided, after having a juvenile fi ght with another queen, to boycott the The ISCCA is a charity fundraising organization. That is show because she didn’t get her way. World AIDS Day is there our top priority. The social aspects of it, and representing our to make people aware so the disease can be fought, and more community, are both benefi ts that come along with doing the importantly, to remember those who live with HIV/AIDS or real work of our organization, which is to raise funds to sup- have died from the disease. How dare the Empress presume port the charities in our community. that her own petty ego supersedes the lives, welfare and re- We have struggled this year with fi nding the most effective membrance of many. ways to utilize the spaces available to us in the community. Last year, Dynamyte and Wolfgang were perfect examples of Although you are correct that we have not done a function what representing and building the community are all about. yet at Money Pennies, your comment that we have not ap- From what I have seen and heard from others, they did this proached them is incorrect. We are aware that the owners of mostly by being visible, keeping in contact with their venues Money Pennies want the ISCCA to do functions in their venue, and talking to people about the organization. and the ISCCA is grateful for the opportunity. The challenge we face is in ensuring that whatever we plan there is positive I also chastise the Board that governs the Court, because for both the venue and the ISCCA. their job is to protect the integrity of the organization and administer advice or reprimands as conduct requires. This As for the lack of attendance at Twisted Element, the ISCCA means that the Board is either deaf and blind, or have a com- does a show there every Wednesday night. Furthermore, bined IQ equaling a newborn to have missed the misdemean- when the monarchs arrive at the bar at the end of the night, ors that have been happening this year. I can only imagine it is because they are leaving another venue after a function what other things that have transpired if what myself and my in order to support the Twisted Element. On Saturday nights, friends have seen this much. the ISCCA has at least one, and as many as three functions going on throughout the city. Lonnie and Conrad, either wake up, get off your asses and start actually representing the community, or do us a favor I don’t want to say much about the World AIDS Day situ-

32 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 ation, as it is over and done with. It is truly regrettable that the start to an exciting year for Pride Calgary. the situation came to pass on that evening, which is supposed to be about honoring the memory of those we lost. Writing In an unfortunate turn of events that the board of Pride Cal- the event off as a petty bitch fi ght between queens is simply a gary had to exercise its rights to refuse membership to a select convenient way for the other people who were involved in the few individuals at the second meeting of the Pride Calgary events of the evening to avoid taking responsibility for their AGM, because they were disruptive and continually speaking actions. The bottom line is this: it is the policy of the ISCCA out of order during the fi rst meeting. that if a title holder is in an emotionally charged situation, Starting this year, Pride Calgary has revised its member- and is unsure if they can keep their emotions in check, they ship and we encourage the involvement of all individuals in are to leave that situation, rather than risking an emotional the GLBTA community, including friends, family and support- confrontation at the function. Again, although we are sorry ers who share in the vision of Pride in promoting awareness, the events came to pass on World AIDS Day, the actions of the diversity and unity throughout the year. All members of Pride Empress were appropriate to the situation. Calgary receive a PrideLink membership card, which includes I need to point out that the people who take on the role of a 20% off 2008 Pride Dance tickets, with additional commu- Emperor and Empress are volunteers. They give up their per- nity benefi ts set out by the Board or the Membership Com- sonal life for a year, and they receive absolutely no fi nancial mittee. Members will receive information on the affairs of the compensation for their efforts. Being a monarch is like taking society and are encouraged to participate in Committees. on a second full-time job. The sad thing is that it’s also like Membership is important in any organization to be suc- painting a huge target on their back, because they will never cessful. Membership gives you a voice in the direction and please everyone in the community, no matter how hard they planning of your community and events that take place. It is try, and far more people are willing to criticize than help to the goal of Pride Calgary to create a stronger membership with make things better. a voice in building a better community and in shaping the Last year, Dyna and Wolfgang had an amazing year for the future of Pride in our city for years to come. ISCCA. Conrad and Lonnie were the only people brave enough This year we have a proud and exciting new board of direc- to try and step into those shoes. Did we expect a year like tors with energy and creativity. Dyna and Wolfgang’s? No. Did we expect Conrad and Lonnie to do the best job they could? Yes. Are they doing the best Newly elected board members job they can? You bet. Allison Brodowski (co-chair) Dallas Barnes (secretary) You make a lot of surface judgments without knowing what Jess Amber D. Hill (treasurer) goes on behind closed doors, which is always easier than Laura Black (director) researching the facts. There is not an issue you raised in your letter which has not been discussed at a Board meeting this year. I do not understand your need to be insulting to either the Monarchs or the Board of Directors of the ISCCA. We are all volunteers, giving our time to give something back to our community. I’m sorry you feel that Conrad and Lonnie are an embar- rassment to our community. They are two of the hardest working monarchs I’ve seen in 14 years involvement with the ISCCA. Maybe they do focus on the fundraising aspect of their job over the social aspect, but again, at the end of the day, we are a fund raising organization, and they are in charge of the fundraising activities of the organization. The amount of money we raise may not matter to you in determining how successful a reign was, but it matters to the charities who receive the money we raise, and to their clients who benefi t from that money. And Conrad and Lonnie are having a very successful year. Fortunately, by the time this letter sees print, applica- tions for the position of Emperor and Empress XXXII will be available. If you are a member of our organization, and since you seem to feel that you can do a better job than this year’s Monarchs, I challenge you to put your name forward for the position. Sincerely, Neal Debreceni President, ISCCA

Dear GayCalgary, I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for the tremendous turnout and for the overwhelming support at Pride Calgary’s AGM on January 09, 2008 and in making this

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 33 Lyn Baer (director) done good in this community in the past, and in fact, our Christy Nicholson (director) very magazine has refl ected that extensively in prior issues. Sherina Alstad (director) Yes, GayCalgary may have overlooked some of their more Megan Gill (director) recent good deeds in light of current circumstances. Sadly, Don Turgeon (director) controversy tends to receive more attention than good will. Tasia Zandboer (director) Demonstratively, your letter makes mention of all the nega- tive Twisted articles in our recent magazines, but you yourself Re-elected board members neglected to notice (or at least to mention) that the bar still Sharon Boutilier (director) received photographic coverage throughout all of it - including Sig Moser (director) Sunday Drag Shows, Halloween, New Years, World AIDS Day, Candycane Queens, and a full page of photos in December for Current standing board member their 3rd Anniversary party. John L. Skorka (co-chair) We strive to make the content of our magazine a refl ection In starting off the exciting year ahead, the new board of of what goes on in the gay community in Calgary and Edmon- Pride Calgary has already had their fi rst meetings and things ton. Things are not always happy and perfect, and the GLBT are underway with planning for upcoming events, and the community at large needs to know about what is going wrong planning of Pride Festival 2008. The Pride Calgary website is so that we can all be aware of it, discuss it, learn from it, and undergoing a fresh new look for this year with updated infor- move forward. We would gladly move past the recent contro- mation available soon. versy with the Twisted Element if things had not continued to escalate these past months, warranting further articles. Sad- This AGM is an example of a community with spirit that ly, whether our articles were fair or not, they are responsible truly exhibited its Pride. Once again I would like to say thank for provoking these escalations. I only hope that my response you to everyone for your overwhelming support. If anyone has to you doesn’t cause any further hard feelings. any questions please feel free to email me anytime john@pride- calgary.ca Our writer brought up concerns about the money raised from the Sunday bike giveaways at Twisted Element, an event With Pride, that was advertised in our magazine as a fundraiser for the John L. Skorka SHARP Foundation running April 15th to June 17th. Our Co-Chair records indicate that the offi cial total, announced to us by the Pride Calgary Association owners of Twisted Element in June of last year, was $2710. www.pridecalgary.ca The owners had asked us to be present to photograph them giving the cheque away, but when we received no notifi cation, we concluded that they must have gone ahead without us. Five months later we found a lead that indicated this money Dear GayCalgary, might have still not have been turned over to the SHARP Foundation. We passed this information on to our writer so I wanted to write in response to all the articles in recent that she could properly investigate, and include her fi ndings issues regarding Twisted Element and its owners. It kind of with her article if it was pertinent. bugs me that the multitude of articles have been so one sided. There was barely any mention of any of the good work that We don’t expect the SHARP Foundation to be anything but Twisted Element has done and continues to do within the grateful for the support that the Twisted Element has given community. Even when it did briefl y touch on their charity, it them. Still, the idea of monies not being turned over to them was questioned. It doesn’t come across very unbiased to me from a fundraiser more than 5 months ago would be an em- and sounded as though the authors had large grudges to bear. barrassing mistake at the very least. I believe Allison made mention of it so that if it was indeed forgotten, The Twisted The contribution to the community by the owners isn’t Element could do something to fi x it. Nonetheless, the simple solely philanthropic. The patrons of the Club often feel the question is on the table and there is no reason to fear answer- support of RJ and Cliff on a personal level. I’ve seen them talk ing it if nothing was done wrong. to young men and women after they came out to their parents and friends and give support and advice. I’ve seen people go to Regarding the articles in our magazine, you mention that RJ and Cliff after fi ghting with their boyfriends or girlfriends you felt several were written with unchecked bias, and born when they just need someone to talk to and cry in front of. out of a grudge. I think you might have arrived at this conclu- After I was gay bashed walking home one night by a group sion because you realize we have little to gain by writing these of guys, RJ helped me fi nd the strength and courage to keep articles – our magazine is free, so controversy won’t sell more going. copies, nor would it necessarily attract more advertisers. Per- haps the only motivation that you could conceive for us doing These are only some of the few examples of all the good something so unpopular was to satisfy a personal vendetta. they’ve done. I know I won’t always see eye to eye with RJ and Cliff but I respect them and appreciate all that they do for our But consider for a moment TV shows like Marketplace. Do community. the reporters have a hate-on for the products or producers that they investigate and report on? No! They do it because if people don’t see mistakes being made, they don’t bother to Calvin Campbell correct them. And sometimes mistakes can cause others un- necessary harm. I know that our articles get be tuned out as just a bunch of Dear Calvin, negativity, but not all criticism is meant to be disingenuous. The door policy article pointed a number of possible mistakes First off, thank you for writing to us with your concerns. out so that Twisted knew what the community was already You are correct in pointing out that the Twisted Element has seeing, and so that they would have a chance, under the pres-

34 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 sure of the public eye, to either fi x it or better explain their Bar staff and owners are often seen in a position of author- reasoning for it. The Pride AGM article brought to the public ity, and called upon when their customers have nowhere else light some actions that RJ and Cliff took that were unaccept- to turn. Long ago, before I met my partner Steve, he was gay able in a society where, no matter how successful you are, bashed by his own roommate and was too terrifi ed to return you don’t get to make the rules. Instead of fi xing things, it is home. The owners of the Rekroom offered him a place to stay apparent to us that they’ve chosen to spend that effort trying until his roommate cleared out, consoled him in the mean- to debunk GayCalgary’s credibility so that the articles are no time, and escorted him back to his home to ensure he would longer taken seriously. It’s like you telling someone they have be safe. Part of the reason a gay community exists is as a spinach stuck in their teeth, and being told that you need to support network for one another – to care for and mentor each go get your eyes checked. Furthermore, showing a willingness other so that we can all become fully developed, well adjusted to listen to criticism and fi nding a way to make something human beings, in spite of the disadvantages imposed on us by positive out of it would only improve their standing in the eyes society. This is a community effort , and it is often benefi cial of the people that have given up on them out of anger or frus- to speak to a number of different people as no single person tration. From the letters to the publisher, it is irrefutable that has all the answers, and no problem has a single best answer. these individuals do exist. Many questions don’t have answers at all. If you still don’t believe me, keep in mind that through this I know that RJ and Cliff pride themselves on their gener- all, the Twisted Element has still been listed in the GayCalgary osity. Since you made it fair game to bring up your own business directory both online and in the magazine, that we personal experience, then allow me to talk a little bit from sent them a large bouquet fl owers for their 3rd Anniversary, ours. Back in June, RJ and Cliff were willing to sponsor a that I have shown up to photograph events at the Twisted large quantity of beer and burgers for us to give away at our Element, and that my photographs were published in the campsite at ARGRA, on the condition that we put their ban- magazine and are included in the photos now coming online ner up. But we saw that accepting this offer would be seen – even though they were no longer advertising with us, and in as a major confl ict of interest, as we are a company that is fact, refusing to carry our magazine since August 2007 (see supported by advertising from the other gay bars in Calgary our September 2007 publisher’s column for the explanation as well. Those other bars were all sponsors of ARGRA and as to why). That is a really large offer of good will for someone had their own campsites where they were handing out free with a grudge. Allison was a regular customer of the Twisted beer and burgers too. In contrast, Twisted Element refused to Element as of her turning 18 four months ago. After writing sponsor ARGRA, or rent a campsite of their own, or dedicate the article, she was in the process of continuing to frequent their own staff to be there. So in essence, what was a kind of- the establishment when RJ personally barred her for it. Al- fer on the surface, not so much once we got to thinking about lison put in several months of research and interviews to it. It was a chance for them to get their branding into ARGRA create her article because she was motivated to affect change and compete against the other bars for a major bargain com- in something that she and others saw to be unjust. That’s not pared to what everyone else had to pay to be there. But they the same as a grudge either. would be getting this by piggybacking on our campsite and RV which we too paid for, expecting us to hand the product out All that aside, you mention that RJ and Cliff should be for them instead of fulfi lling our responsibilities at the event, given some slack because they do a lot on a personal level for and jeopardizing our relationship with ARGRA and the other their customers. First off, we are very sorry to hear that you bars. Okay, so perhaps they didn’t really think about it from were gay bashed, but glad that you found the support you our perspective, but surely they would respect our decision to needed to get past it. RJ and Cliff have helped you and others decline something that would be unreasonable to expect of us. on a personal level, and that does warrant a certain degree of So we thanked them for the offer and respectfully declined. respect and loyalty. There is no doubt in my mind that they Their response was angry and condemning, and RJ became have counseled numerous customers, as youth often do need argumentative with Steve on the phone over it. Later that to seek advice from their elders; not everyone has the benefi t month when their ads came due, they informed us that they of parents and peers that understand or know what to do. were “too disappointed in us” to continue advertising in our But you make it seem like RJ and Cliff deserve recognition magazine. Answer me this Calvin, if RJ and Cliff really had as the only gay bar in Calgary that helps anyone. This is not our best intentions in mind as they did yours, then why was it the case. The staff and owners of the Backlot, Calgary Eagle, so important to them to get their way at our expense? Money Pennies and Texas Lounge have helped a great deal of people - more than you or I will ever know. Rob Diaz-Marino GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 35 Mix It Up! Team Edmonton Annual Mixer and Silent Auction

By Keith Andony GLBT Sports Following on the super-successful launch of Team Edmonton in February 2007, Team Ed- Outdoor Pursuits, Skating are all confi rmed to be monton will host another mixer to encourage the attending the event, and other activities are still GLBT community to come out and explore the signing up. wide variety of sports and recreational activities The evening isn’t just about schmoozing with Edmon- that are available to them. The fun fi lled night is ton’s jocks and jockettes, as there are two special perfor- set up to encourage new and current participants mances scheduled during the night. The Ballroom Danc- to meet each other and build those important ing Group will be doing a jive demonstration and the Pole Dancing instructor will be on site to give a demonstration community ties that link groups together. As all class to attendees. of the GLBT sports and recreation groups in Ed- monton have been invited to attend, and it is an The mixer will also be an ideal time for athletes involved with Badminton, Bowling, Curling, Ice Hockey, Swimming ideal opportunity to promote oneself, sign up new and Volleyball to come out and meet representatives from recruits and make connections with other mem- Apollo Calgary and register for the Western Cup, which is bers of the GLBT community. Bowling, Curling, happening March 20th to 22nd. This is the second year Swimming, Running, Bootcamp, Yoga, Volleyball, that Team Edmonton and Apollo Friends in Sports have Pilates, Pole Dancing, Ballroom Dancing, Cycling, worked together on this event, proving that the GLBT com- munities have a great intercity team spirit and are willing to seek ways to share resources. Speaking of resources, the Silent Auction at the event will be the most important fundraiser of the year for Team Edmonton. In addition to support from the event spon- sors, Gay Calgary and Edmonton Magazine and Amber’s Brewing, there are great items to bid on from Laurie Blakeman MLA, Resorts of the Canadian Rockies, Healthy Touch Massage, deVine Wines, EPM Empowernet, Totally Balanced, Prism Bar & Grill, Callingwood Flowers and Julie Lloyd LLP. Part of the fun of the night will be heading out to a new venue. The event will be held at the hip industrial ware- house setting of Amber’s Brewing, a new micro brewery located near Old Strathcona. So for those who are just looking for an excuse to go out for night on the town, the event will be sure to provide a great start to the evening and hopefully provide an excuse to Come Out and Play! Team Edmonton Mixer and Silent Auction Free Admission Amber’s Brewing Saturday February 23rd, 7-11pm 9926 – 88th Avenue, Edmonton

36 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Interference with Business Contracts

By Darryl Aarbo, Barrister & Solicitor Legal Advice A question has been forwarded to me about a person who is trying to interfere with another edies in Tort, by Klar et. al. person’s business for a malicious purpose, most If you wish to send in a letter, please email it to legaladvice@ likely revenge. The person is trying to get cus- gaycalgary.com. Darryl A. Aarbo can be directly reached at tomers to stop doing business with this other Courtney Sebree Aarbo, Barristers & Solicitors, 1138 Kensington Road NW, Calgary, Alberta, T2N 3P3. Visit their website at http:// person’s business in order to get revenge for some www.csalaw.ca. Phone (403) 571-5133. Fax: (403) 571-5134 perceived past slight. I have been asked if any- thing can be done about the situation. Other than the question, all personal information (i.e. name, address, E-mail) will remain confidential. GayCalgary.com Magazine The fi rst possibility is defamation or slander. If someone does reserve the right to alter questions for brevity and content. is going around spreading lies about another person that has the affect of hurting their employment or business then there may be a claim for defamation or slander. This is a relatively well know cause of action. There is a second possibility. Outside of the legal com- munity there is a little know cause of action that can pro- tect people in this situation. It is called: “Inducing Breach of Contract” or “Interference with Contractual Relations”. It involves the situation where person A, without legal jus- tifi cation, induces person B to break their contract with C. To succeed in an action for inducing breach of contract, the plaintiff must establish the following: (1) the existence of a valid contract; (2) awareness by the defendant of the existence of the contract; (3) breach of the contract caused by the defendant; (4) wrongful interference; and (5) dam- ages suffered by the plaintiff. For example, what if someone wanted to ruin my busi- ness and went to one of my customers with the purpose of getting them to fi re me. Let’s say, for example, my cus- tomer and I had a contract to supply apples for ten years and there was fi ve years left on the contract. My enemy goes to my customer and tells them a bunch of nasty stuff with the intention of getting my customer to break the con- tract. If my customer breaks the contract then I could sue my enemy for my damages (and possibly my customer). It is important to note that the “wrongful interference” portion of the claim does not require evidence of malice or ill will. It is suffi cient that the defendant knew or ought to have known that his or her conduct would interfere with my contract. If a breach of contract was intended, it is immaterial if the defendant’s motive was something other than harming the plaintiff. People cannot go around and try to get people fi red from their job or hurt their business for some wrongful purpose. Whether it is because your relationship breaks up or you are trying to get back at someone for something you think that they did to you. Messing with someone’s job or busi- ness is simply wrong and you can get into lots of trouble. To assist with the preparation of this article I used Rem-

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 37 Do We Really Use and Abuse Alcohol and Drugs More Than Heterosexuals?

By Kevin Alderson, Ph.D., R. Psych. Queer Quest “It is likely the substance use decreases inhibitions, proportion of the gay, lesbian, denial, anxiety, or even fear of gay sex.” [1] and bisexual (GLB) students A short while ago while dancing at a gay establishment, (5 of 15, 33%) reported any I noticed a young guy swaying recklessly while his friends use during the previous year kept him from taking a face-fi rst plunge. It reminded me of of crystal meth, ecstasy, earlier times when I was told at Metro Boyztown that sev- GHB, or ketamine, compared eral of the patrons who seemed to be having the best time to their heterosexual coun- there were high on ecstasy. terparts (57 of 575; 9.9%). [4] With such a small sample of I also remember reading several years ago that while GLB students, these results about 10 percent of the heterosexual community abused should be viewed with great substances, gays and lesbians were closer to 30 percent. caution. Other studies, how- [2] One can certainly get that impression if you watch or ever, have shown signifi cant study young people at a gay bar, but is it really any differ- alcohol and drug use with ent compared with watching youth at a straight bar? The lesbian and bisexual women. gay and lesbian community used to be a lot more closeted than it is today, although at times it seems we have gone A study conducted in New York City in 2005 looked at retro in Alberta. When I came out in 1993, there were women frequenting dance clubs. Of the 1,104 respon- three gay dance bars in Calgary – BBX, Boyztown, and dents, 53.3 percent were heterosexual and 46.3 percent Detours/Arena – and at least two in Edmonton. were either lesbian or bisexual. The researchers found that the younger women were the most likely to be active If researchers study bar patrons, we are going to look drug users. They also found that the lesbian and bisexual overrepresented as being a community of drinkers, drug- women had a higher lifetime rate of using ecstasy, cocaine, gies, and partiers. I suppose we would likely fi nd lots of methamphetamine, and LSD compared to heterosexual Christians in churches too and not so many atheists! women. [5] Today we have more representative studies with large Another study of 2,011 lesbian and bisexual women sample sizes, so when it comes to getting a sense of where published in 2006 found that 16.2 percent reported severe we are today, I turn to this research for something I can use of substances over their lifetime and another 10.8 trust – to some extent, at least. Nearly all psychological percent reported moderately-risky use. The authors con- research continues to be tainted by the fact that people cluded that their illicit drug use was frequently associated choose whether to participate in a study or not, and per- with impairment and other life problems. [6] haps the ones who refuse are the ones we should most study. Individual choice and ethics, however, are ulti- The available research suggests that bisexual males and mately more important. Anyway, here is what I learned as females have the highest incidence of drug and alcohol I began to read about this topic. use, at least when compared to heterosexual and gay/les- bian samples. A representative American study from 1999 A Norwegian study published in 2007 reported the surveyed students at 119 four-year schools in 39 states. results from 2,632 male and 2,838 females, ages 16-19. Their analysis was based on 9,400 respondents. The They compared three groups of adolescents based on their sample was primarily women (60.3%). Furthermore, 93.9% sexual experience and attraction: (a) heterosexual orienta- were heterosexual, 2.4% gay/lesbian, and 3.7% bisexual. tion and attraction only, (b) same-sex experience but inter- There were signifi cant differences in marijuana use. The est only in the opposite sex, and (c) same-sex attraction. bisexuals had the highest levels of use (33.3%), followed The youths reporting same-sex attraction were the most next by the heterosexuals (19%), and gays/lesbians poorly integrated with peers and their use of illegal drugs (14.6%). Bisexual females had the highest level of marijua- (except marijuana) was more than three times that of the na use (35.1%). Bisexual females were approximately three heterosexual youths. Both groups characterized by same- times more likely to have used both marijuana and other sex orientation of some kind (“b” and “c” groups) reported illicit drugs, whereas bisexual males were more than two more frequent alcohol and drug use compared to adoles- times as likely to have used other illicit drugs. [7] cents with a heterosexual orientation. [3] In conclusion, the available evidence continues to indi- A 2006 British Columbia study surveyed 590 students cate that members of the sexual minority community con- in grades 9-12. Only 15 individuals defi ned themselves as tinue to use alcohol and illicit drugs at high levels. While gay or bisexual, and of these, 13 were female. A greater studies reveal that heterosexuals decrease their use of

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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 39 Trans Admirers 101

By Mercedes Allen Trans Identity One of the least-known or understood segments of the LGBT community is that of admirers of the “straight” side of the spectrum in terms of what attracts them. transgender people. This doesn’t mean people who simply make exceptions for transgender folks who But much of the fear of being gay is also driven by a social pique their interest, but those who become particu- construct. Society teaches men that it’s unnatural or sinful larly fascinated by transfolk and specifi cally look to be gay – in fact it is a pretty loud song-and-dance. But 200 years ago, social convention also taught that black peo- for trans partners. It is a fairly hidden subculture, ple had no souls. One hundred years ago, society contended with no community organization and with very little that women were not intelligent enough to vote responsibly information available (there are only two major (and even now, some extreme religious spheres push the idea information and resource websites: TSgirlfriend.com that women should be subservient and function as brood and Renee Reyes’ Admirers’ Handbook, http://www. mares). Society has touted a lot of bullshit in the past, and reneereyes.com/Webdocs/mtintro.html). It doesn’t it’s entirely reasonable to question the attitudes that we are fed. Religion can sometimes be a more diffi cult issue to deal help that the transgender community itself tends to with, but there are GLBT-affi rming churches fairly widely ac- shun admirers, often referring to them as “tranny cessible, and other resources that can help understand and chasers”. Much of this shunning stems from past resolve spiritual issues. Often, the best approach is to listen behaviour displayed by some admirers who re- to what your heart tells you, even if you’re afraid of what you ally don’t understand the objects of their affection. might fi nd. The heart is pretty honest. Hopefully, though, Furthermore, most of the education available is the those who come to consider themselves not gay will still have learned to respect those who are. misinformation gleaned from “shemale” porn. “What is She?” So we’ll take a moment to look at trans admirers and pro- vide some clearer information for those who are interested in A transwoman is psychologically female, often to the point trans relationships. that she has grown weary of trying to “pass” as a man be- haviorally (similarly, transmen are psychologically male). In Trans admirers do come from many directions, including extreme cases, this means that she feels the need to change both predominantly straight and predominantly gay persons, her body to better match her identity. There are sometimes and admirers of alternately female-to-male and male-to-fe- quirks, usually from male upbringing or testosterone infl u- male transsexuals. Women who are attracted to transfolk ence, but in spite of any seeming awkwardness, it is appro- (male or female) are usually more attracted to a concept priate to regard or at least treat a transwoman as one would of “males who’re exploring their feminine side” or “females any other female. In the case of those who experience their who’re exploring their masculine side,” while male admirers gender dysphoria less intensely, they may cross-dress part- tend to have a far more sexually-driven interest. Admirers of time, and may even feel a need to express both male and transmen do exist, far more than many think, but because female personas at different times – this requires a bit more the majority of admirers are males who are attracted to communication in order to know what is appropriate at a transwomen, that is what we’ll look at for now. In most of given moment, but also equally requires respect. this discussion, parallel ideas exist for other permutations. As well, we are dealing with many generalizations – excep- Some Myths tions will always exist. In a community so diverse, it is hard to account for everything. Unlike what is depicted in porn, transwomen are usually not “sex machines.” Hormone-replacement therapy usually “What Am I?” signifi cantly reduces the libido and physical capabilities, as well as affecting changes in behavioural experience. An ad- Male trans admirers are often confronted with a self-di- mirer should never assume that a transwoman is just look- rected sense of homophobia, either afraid of possibly being ing for a sexual experience (some do, but it’s better to watch gay or ashamed of being somewhat transgressive. Many for a clear invitation, or else expect it to be otherwise). For tend to think of orientation as a continuum, with homo- some, being someone else’s personal “experiment” will leave sexuality and heterosexuality at opposite ends, and very them feeling like little more than some used novelty sex toy. few people actually being strictly one or the other. A person Most transwomen are looking for more relationship than could be attracted to women 95% of the time, for example, that. And incidentally, “shemale” is not usually considered a but still encounter the occasional exception where they fi nd fl attering term. themselves curious about a relationship or encounter with a man. Transwomen cloud this a little, usually being predomi- Admirers should never assume that transwomen are look- nantly feminine, and many admirers are still closer toward ing for male partners. A person’s gender identity does not dictate their sexual orientation, and many transwomen pre-

40 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 fer females. The ratio of androphile (liking men) to gynophile (liking women) transsexuals might possibly be a 50/50 split - not taking into account bisexuals, as transwomen may be. But when crossdressers are factored into the equation, the percentage of those who are lesbian goes much higher. Surgery can often be an issue in relationships between transsexuals and admirers. For those at the extreme end of the transgender spectrum, pre- or non-op transsexuals may be completely uncomfortable with anything that involves touching or using the parts they were born with. This can include discomfort with their chest, if underdeveloped at the time of the encounter. For these, Gender Reassignment Surgery is quite often necessary for their peace of mind. If an admirer is specifi cally looking for a girl “with something extra,” he should be clear in the beginning about what he wants, and if the girl of his interest needs to have surgery, it’s probably best to keep looking. One Occasional Type of Admirer It occasionally happens – perhaps among ten to twenty percent of admirers – that the transfan is also trans-identi- fi ed, or questioning his (or her) own gender identity. These admirers are often looking for answers, or wishing to live vicariously through their partner, sometimes doing so until they come to a point where they are comfortable with the idea of transitioning themselves. Openness and honesty are far better policies. Sometimes with transfolk, trying to go through a transition when a partner is embarking on a similar (or opposite) transition presses a lot of hot-buttons of insecurity, so just because she’s trans doesn’t mean that she’s compatible or ready to live your transition at the same time as hers. The 4 Cardinal Rules of Dating T-Girls 1. She needs to be treated with respect. This includes respecting her as the gender to which she identifi es, and maintaining the correct pronouns. Refusing to do so or throwing inappropriate pronouns around in an argument often constitutes a deal-breaker. 2. Don’t make assumptions about her sexually or in terms of lifestyle and future plans. Be clear about what you’re looking for, but if she’s looking for something very different, pressing forward into a relationship is going to make one or both of you very unhappy. 3. Transwomen usually want the same things that women want – things like longer-term relationships, kindness, man- ners, courtesy, good humour, interesting conversation and similar interests. 4. Transwomen usually live in “stealth,” meaning that they don’t really want the world to know that they’re transgender. They are usually sensitive about having anything “out” them publicly (including loud conversation in public places), and would probably also rather be asked before you tell your friends. These are basics and generalizations, but hopefully, they can be of assistance for admirers in their quest for the per- fect partner. I do believe that trans admirers hold a place in our community, but they do need a bit of education at times, in order to fi nd it. Good luck! ”Mercedes Allen is a writer who blogs at http://dentedbluemercedes. wordpress.com/, has been featured on bilerico.com, PageOneQ and others, and has also developed the website at AlbertaTrans.org as a resource for transgender information and support.”

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 41 42 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Don’t Buy In Battling Against Discrimination in Calgary Schools

By Jason Clevett Community | Spotlight The Don’t Buy In Project is a diversity and hate- bias program provided by the Calgary Police Ser- vice for local junior and senior high schools. This free program delivers the skill development, infor- mation and resources needed to support an en- vironment that actively addresses issues of hate, bias and discrimination. “They did some focus groups with the Diversity Resources Unit with the Calgary Police Service and spoke to a group of youth and assessed where some gaps were and what was needed in the schools and lacking in services. The unit real- ized we needed an educational program for youth that ad- dresses hate bias crimes and incidents and encourages people to report these crimes. It was at that point that I came on and we developed the program and website. This is the fourth year and the response has been amazing,” Elizabeth Cooke, Project Coordinator, told GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine. That Cooke is booked for the entire school year is evidence enough of the project’s success. Aside from its availability to schools, the presentation is also available to community groups and other youth organizations. Cooke said that the support she has received from the Public and Catholic school board, as well as Christian schools, has blown her away. In addition to race, religion, gender, age and disability, a large component of the program deals with sexual orienta- tion. “I don’t specifi cally bring up the term homophobia, but I would say that the education, awareness and discussion that we have around sexual orientation assists with encouraging young people to ask questions and to know there is support out there. I spend a lot of time on that, because it is some- thing that is very prevalent in schools and is very real to the students. The response is really good. I think a lot of times presentation by talking about ‘what is diversity’ which means [in] both the Catholic and Public schools there really is no being different. So I ask right at the start ‘How many of you education around it, and kids are curious. They want to know feel it’s ok to be different?’ and everybody raises their hand. about it, no matter what their sexual orientation is - I feel like So I always come back to that. When they say ‘we’ve been a sense of relief. It is the feeling that ‘fi nally someone is in here taught that it’s not ok’ and I reply ‘at the beginning you raised talking about it and is comfortable about it. I can ask ques- your hand and said being different is ok so what makes that tions during or after the presentation.’ I also always leave the not ok?’ They think about it and the light kind of comes on in opportunity for people to e-mail me. It is a very good response their head. Once I talk about it, it is amazing to see that half- and discussion piece.” way through the presentation when I use the terminology or It is not easy initially, especially in younger age groups. bring up LGBT issues there isn’t the laughter because we’ve Bringing up words like ‘gay’ and ‘fag’ can at times lead to gig- been talking about it. I remind them that when I fi rst said the gling. word gay, they all laughed, but by the end of the presenta- tion, they aren’t laughing because they have been educated “We talk about when I use words like Gay, Lesbian, Sexual and informed. You have that knowledge and aren’t wondering Orientation, I ask the students ‘why is there laughter? Where because someone came in and talked about it with you.” do you think it comes from?’ A lot of it is discomfort, lack of education, not knowing a LGBT person; a lot of them refer Part of the reason why it has become such a vital part of to their peers, that they laugh. Others say ‘it is a word that Don’t Buy In is the fact that the term “gay” is tossed around so is wrong.’ If that is said, we go into that [topic]. I start the casually, and in a negative fashion. These days, a bad class is

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 43 gay, shoes are gay, a band is gay, etc. Evolution Of Community - From Page 24 “If I go out, it is a struggle even in my age group. I hear we know today is a different breed of cat from the original gay people talk like that and I have to say something. One of the liberationist model. things I do with students is go into ways to respond to things like discrimination and situations that are effectively hate in- In Canada, at least, there was a conscious effort circa cidents, which need to be taken seriously. I think it is higher 1975 to move away from the radicalism of liberation politics, now, but a few years ago they said approximately 1 in 10 per- which sought to challenge the system and force change from sons identifi ed as LGBT. A lot of students are shocked to hear the outside in. Instead it adopted a human rights approach, that. It is one of these awareness things that a lot of young which sought to work within the system to change it. Ironi- people think it is just a word, a name, and don’t stop to think cally returning to a pattern, some would say, promoted by the about who they might be offending more than they might real- Mattachine Society and the Daughter of Bilitis. ize.” In the human rights model, radical elements, while respect- Cooke knows her efforts are paying off by the positive reac- ed for being who they are and to whom the right to be who tions from students, especially those who are directly affected, they are is assumed, are noticeably absent from the lobbying, such as LGBT students. meetings, conferences and connections that activists working under this model undertake with politicians. It is important, “I had a young person approach me after the presentation under this model, to appear as similar as possible to the ones and say ‘How do I come out?’ which is like, whoa… that is with whom one is trying to work. Whether that’s a good thing something we would have to sit down and we could talk about or not is up to individual perceptions. for hours and get into a lot of different details about that. A lot of people approach me after the presentation and many Be that as it may, the fact is in Canada it has not been the send e-mail. A lot of the high school aged students, because drag queens or others who could be perceived as being ‘radi- their peers are already aware of their orientation, feel more cal fringe’ who have gained us our rights, but those who have comfortable with talking about their own experiences. But we worked for organizations like Egale Canada, Canadians for do get a lot of e-mails from students saying ‘thank you and Equal Marriage, and other similar groups whose boards (right or wrong) tend to refl ect white, middle-class, mainstream gay, coming in and talking about it, because nobody does.’” lesbian, bisexual and sometimes trans community. Her hope is that the presentation will prevent incidents like One of the benefi ts of even having a ‘radical fringe’ in any suicide and school violence. movement is that it moves everyone else towards the larger “It is very real, which people are starting to realize. When middle. An MP, for instance, is far more likely to listen to, and you look at a lot of the school shootings that have happened take seriously, someone in a suit and tie with a decent haircut and the suicides, when we look really deep into why those than to someone sporting far too many piercings, a Mohawk, things took place, a lot of it is from hate incidents and name and tattoos or “some guy in a dress.” calling. Regardless of orientation there are people taking their The other benefi t to having a ‘radical fringe’ is that this is own lives because they are being humiliated every day. A lot where much of the discussion and examinations of cultural, of these school shootings have taken place by young people social, political, sexual, and gender orthodoxies takes place who every day are being called gay and fag and all these other and are challenged. Much of what is now accepted as main- things, and many of them are not even gay. Regardless of if stream within feminism, the GLBTQ movement, environmen- they are or not, no one deserves to be treated this way.” talism, etc. was originally “radical.” To do this, Cooke uses real examples. The world better accepts the Martin Luther Kings than “I met the mother of a heterosexual [boy] in BC who com- it does the Malcolm X’s but it is the Malcolm X’s who most mitted suicide. He was 14 or 15 and because he was on the inform the arguments made by the Martin Luther Kings. The latter distill the arguments, tidies them up a bit, and makes honor role, didn’t drink or do drugs, hung out with girls and them palatable to the dominant society. dressed nice, the people at school just made his life a living hell everyday, to the point he couldn’t take it anymore. I share The history of attaining equal rights in Canada is signifi - some real stories with the youth about how words really do cantly different than the history in the US. We have a differ- impact people more then they know. When something like this ent political system and it necessitated a different approach happens, it is too late, you can’t take those words back.” in many ways. In Canada, we have come further in attaining equality rights for lesbians, gay men and, by extension, bi- With four years of success, Cooke’s goal is to create a pro- sexual men and women than our American counterparts. gram for elementary school students in grades 5 and 6. She fi rmly believes that by getting to people young, the program So while our drag queens are an important aspect of what can help prevent bullying throughout the school system and we have come to describe as the GLBTQ community, and have into adulthood. From there, we can only hope her message played a role in the development of that community, it is not spreads farther than Calgary. to them we owe our rights here in Canada. “One thing we, as a city, should feel pretty proud of is that The activists who gained us our rights were the men and we are the only city in Canada that has a program like this. women working long, draining hours drafting briefs to present We defi nitely started this off and my goal now is to get this to the Supreme Court, organizing petitions to present to Mem- program in every police organization across the country and bers of Parliament, issuing Talking Points and News Releases have the message in every school.” outlining the issues, meeting with politicians and journalists, writing letters, making phone calls, sending emails, sitting Don’t Buy In through long tedious strategy and policy meetings, organizing Elizabeth Cooke, Project Coordinator and policing rallies, and worrying about budgets and donation (403) 206-8162 bases. www.dontbuyin.ca

44 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Pride Board Back on Track

By Rob Diaz-Marino Community | News This December, club owners RayJean Fafard and Cliff Andrews, in apparent unison with disgruntled former Nevertheless, Fafard did turn out to be correct in his Pride Board Director Tawde Clark, caused an uprising conjecture about Pride Calgary’s non-profi t status. The at the Pride Calgary AGM in an attempt to purge the Pride Board only became aware, when the organization was struck in 2006, that they had neglected to fi le their annual board and start the organization from scratch. Forced return forms and audited fi nancial statements dating all to defend the integrity of the existing organization, the way back to 2003. Skorka fi rst held his board position Male Co-Chair John Skorka had little recourse but in 2006, making this a problem that dated back well before to disband the out of control meeting and refund all his time. In fact, this oversight can most likely be traced memberships, stating that the AGM would reconvene at back to a similar overthrow attempt made on Keith Purdy’s a later date. board that succeeded, serving as a testament to the dam- aging effects of knowledge lost in a hostile board purge. The news of this coup left many in the community Though Skorka stated at the November 2007 AGM that shocked and outraged, and many of those concerned indi- this problem had been corrected, he readily admitted at viduals showed up to the rescheduled AGM that occurred this later AGM that he had been mistaken. He explained earlier this month. An approximate head count showed an that the responsibility of updating the paperwork for the impressive 55 people who were barely able to fi t into the past 5 years, in order to revive the organization’s standing meeting room. The meeting started slightly late due to the with the government, had been delegated to Female Co- backlog on memberships being processed. Among others, Chair Tamryn Hildebrant. Though Skorka states he was in attendance were senior board members from ARGRA, given the impression it had been resolved, he investigated the president of Fairytales, the chair of GLASS, in addition further and found this to not be the case. Skorka reported to a strong presence from the Miscellaneous Youth Net- that he resolved this matter personally, before the AGM work. Many other non-profi ts stated their support for the reconvened in January. Pride Board, but did not or could not attend the meeting. Despite the strong attendance, many members were Anyone in the membership expecting a fi ght was disap- reluctant to volunteer for director positions, observing po- pointed. Clark, Andrews, and Fafard all showed up for tential confl icts of interest, and perhaps in light of the se- the meeting but were turned away at the door, most likely vere criticism they had learned prior boards were receiving under section 1.6 of the organization’s bylaws, that states: despite their best efforts. In the end, the new board mainly Any member, upon a three-fourths vote of the Board of Direc- consisted of people also involved with the Miscellaneous tors of the society, may be expelled for any cause, which the Youth Network, making it the youngest Pride board that society may deem reasonable. Since the prior meeting had Calgary has ever seen. Nevertheless, with new blood come been disrupted before the old directors could step down new energy and ideas, and with the experience of John (not including Skorka, who had 1 year left of his elected and other re-elected board members at their side, there is 2 year term), the resolution was carried by the remaining renewed hope that Pride Calgary will continue to improve board members. This effectively barred entry and issuance and build upon itself. of new memberships to the three individuals who were deemed the root cause of last month’s commotion. This year however, the board may have to fi ght a little harder to be successful. Witnesses allege that, later that “The reason we went to this extent… [was] for the well week, Fafard got on the microphone in his club and pub- being of Pride Calgary. This has been going on for a while licly announced his disappointment at his ejection from the to the extent that individuals and some business people in meeting, citing it as evidence of further deterioration in the our community will not come to a Pride AGM because of organization. At this time it is uncertain whether the club what they have seen in the past. Also, something we have still plans to launch or support a competing organization to kept quiet about is that some of our board members refuse work against the Pride board, as previously threatened. to attend an AGM…these people enjoy what they do in vol- unteering but they don’t want to be ridiculed and accused of things when they’re here doing their best for the interest of the organization.” After it began, the meeting went swiftly. The docu- ments that had been so thoroughly criticized prior, passed the scrutiny of those from the boards of other non-profi t groups, pending only minor questions. New opportunities for funding were presented for discussion at a later meet- ing. gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 45 The Calgary Eagle The Bird Turns 6!

By Arthur McComish Community | Spotlight The Calgary Eagle is celebrating its 6th anni- versary on the 23rd of this month, so GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine caught up with owner Johnathan Finlayson to fi nd out how they feel about ageing, and more importantly how are they going to celebrate! GayCalgary: How did the concept of the Eagle come about? Calgary Eagle: It began with Ron Scheetz and Christine Baker thinking one day to act upon an idea they had been talking about for a while. From there the birth of the Eagle took form; like a Phoenix but without the ashes. From four of the original owners, now Ron, Christine and Barry are still working hard and it seemed a natural extension to add some diversity, so in July 2007 Neal, Rob and Johnathan joined in as new partners. GayCalgary: How do you describe the Eagle? We are always amenable to raising awareness of HIV/AIDS, Calgary Eagle: We’re not the dirty, mean little bar any- Cancer and other high profi le causes. Working with the com- more. Maybe we’re still dirty, but defi nitely more loveable! munity is constantly rewarding, and seeing this grow year We thank Calgary for making us a full fl edged community after year is defi nitely a good change. Though we work hard bar. to be involved, we never forget the need to laugh - and this GayCalgary: What do you feel the Eagle has accomplished we do. The Dirty Bird Awards, held in March, are entering in these past 6 years? their third year and we have a chance to roast ourselves as well recognize those in the community that are the unsung Calgary Eagle: We feel that our creation of another sup- heroes. This year has also seen a new working relationship portive community space has been the greatest accomplish- with the Lesbian community for Thursday night dance par- ment. We have endeavored to be involved, not only a sup- ties; the ladies love the space and they party with the boys port but at times as leaders within the community; hopefully like there is no tomorrow. this has been refl ected in our presence. In the beginning we realized that to be successful we had to be more involved. GayCalgary: What has been the most memorable moment We decided that one great way to give community organiza- for the staff at the Eagle? tions, groups, and even individuals the opportunity to raise Calgary Eagle: The best moment…this is an easy one; it’s funds for their causes was to offer our coat check. We do when we have seen the community pull together. We are not run the coat check ourselves - it is run by such great constantly humbled and fi lled with pride during these times groups as Beswick House (SHARP Foundation), The Rocky when the strength of the Calgary shines through. This Mountain Bears, ISCCA, the Eagle Rodeo Team, and individ- last year we must say between the Great Chili cook-Off for uals who are looking for alternate avenues to fund raising. Beswick House and this year’s Straight to Diva 3 - it really This small gesture has been in our view a great partner- hit home how involved and supportive the Gay, Lesbian, ship and we see this continuing well into the future - it’s a Transgender, Bi-sexual and Heterosexual communities can win for the community. Not to mention some of our bigger be. Inclusion is the key to such successes; this community fundraisers like Straight to Diva and the Chilly Cook-off! shows it is willing to work together time and time again. We GayCalgary: What has changed in the last 6 years? are also extremely proud to know that the Calgary Eagle has been strong representation to the gay community locally, na- Calgary Eagle: We have defi nitely branched out to the tionally and on an international level. One such high profi le community in support of charitable groups and events. Our representation is our involvement and participation with IML focus, though strongly on leather, has run parallel to our (International Mr. Leather) held in Chicago. goal of being responsible citizens in the community. The bar has become a multi-use facility - for example we have GayCalgary: What are the aspirations for the Eagle in this partnered with organizations such as ISCCA, ARGRA, The next year? Rocky Mountain Bears, GayCalgary and Edmonton Maga- Calgary Eagle: We will never forget where we all came from zin, Priape, as well as other bars and businesses in Calgary. Continued on Page 47 46 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Putting Back Into Outlink

By Allison Brodowski Community | Spotlight Calgary Outlink: Centre for Gender and Sexual Diversity has strived to “provide support, safety munity. and fellowship to Calgary’s community of sexual For now Luhtanen is hoping for patience and generosity and gender diversity,” hosting programs such as as they undergo the re-structuring process, toward creating a Calgary Outlink that can better serve the community. For the Inside Out youth group, Illusions trans sup- now, that involves securing their own future. port group, Between Men, Heading Out, Two-Spir- Calgary Outlink it gathering, SHEQ, and Womynspace. #4, 1230A 17th Avenue SW Formerly known as GLCSA (Gay and Lesbian Community [email protected] Service Associaion), the group made its name in the communi- www.calgaryoutlink.ca ty by catering to a diverse range of groups, specializing in the outreach to gender and sexual minorities. With a long history Donations can be made through the website. of community support it now seems that Calgary Outlink is in need of support in return. In the past, Calgary Outlink has survived primarily on gov- ernment grants, but recently the group has run into fi nancial The Calgary Eagle - From Page 46 shortcomings that have meant a major reduction in offi ce and those before us, whether from the days of Stonewall in hours for the organization until mid-February this year. the USA or the fi rst Pride Parade here in Calgary where beer bottles were thrown at the walkers. Those people had to Upon speaking about this with Melissa Luhtanen, the cur- fi ght so hard in years past for the luxuries of being who we rent president of the organization, she indicated that the orga- are able to be today. We will continue to offer the Eagle as nization is undergoing a complete restructuring to overcome a place of safety and acceptance. We will continue to work the current situation. She hopes this will ensure that it does harder and closer with the community, where we can, for not happen again in the future. the benefi t of all. We are even thinking of shifting direction “We have a good board this year and are working on a more toward supporting the growing needs at a grass roots level in representative group of individuals. The board is very commit- Africa to combat HIV/AIDS. We hope that, with community ted.” support, we can partner with an international organization to do our little part to help where we can. The diversifi cation of Calgary Outlink’s board is the source of what Luhtanen believes to be as step toward the “strong GayCalgary: What is the Eagle doing to celebrate its 6th core” necessary to assure the group continues in the right anniversary? direction. Drawing on the business and community sectors to smooth out the administrative cogs, Calgary Outlink is now Calgary Eagle: We actually fi nd it really rewarding to just looking for community input to learn how to continue to serve have an anniversary party and to invite everyone to come on the community strategically, based on need. Efforts towards by and share some cheer and celebration. This anniversary compiling a community survey to help direct the organization party is not just for the Eagle, but is really meant for those are currently under way. who have supported us and to those who have found us to be their home away from home. February highlights yet While a current yearly funding plan for executive directors another return of Momma G with a Valentine Dinner on the is now in place and applications for other monies are begin- 10th, while our Anniversary party on the 23rd. DJ West- ning to come through, Calgary Outlink is in need of private coast Babydaddy will be coming down from Edmonton to donations in order to continue working effi ciently, not to men- play for us that night, so there will be dancing at the Bird. tion their need for a dedicated volunteer base. The organiza- tion is conscious of not duplicating the efforts of others within GayCalgary: What would you like to say to the gay com- the community and plans to work with other groups to reach munity? a broader range of individual and unique facets of the com- Calgary Eagle: On behalf of the Calgary Eagle owners Ron, Christine, Neal, Barry, Rob, and Johnathan (myself) we would like to thank Calgary for all your support over the last years. Our staff, Kevin and Brian, also extend their grati- tude to your past and continued support. The Calgary Eagle 424A 8th Avenue SE (403) 263-5847 http://www.calgaryeagle.com

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 47

Music Review The Rakamonie, iblamerobot

By Rob Diaz-Marino Review | Music “The Rakamonie EP” by Robyn This Swedish spitfi re vocals that will get you hop- wrote her fi rst song at age ping and head-banging. 13 following her parent’s divorce. The child wonder You can hear samples of was instantly scooped up by their music by visiting www. Swedish pop singer Meja, myspace.com/iblamerobot. and her anthem “Show Me Instead of a track listing, here Love” made it into the top is their schedule for upcoming 10 on the charts in 1997. Calgary venues: But working for a label Feb 4 Broken City wasn’t what she expected, Feb 7 The Distillery and three albums later, she Feb 23 The Underground felt she had completely lost Mar 8 The Stetson control of her artistic direc- Mar 15 Calgary Independent tion. So she started her Film Fest [Kensington own – Konichiwa Records Theatre] – where she was free to create her own unique brand of elec- tro pop. Her voice is striking, her lyrics are downright naughty, but in my eyes the tracks still ended up a little weak from the simplistic layering of instruments. “Konichiwa Bitches” seems more like rap than electronica, consisting only of bass, beat, and spoken word. I found “Cobra Style” a lot more like- able melodically, but still felt like something was being held back. I wanted to hear a heavier beat come in at some point – some kind of swell or climax – but it never came. The last 3 tracks on this CD crossed completely from electronic to acoustic. “Be Mine” and “With Every Heartbeat” turned into sentimental piano ballads, but “Jack U Off” added a kinky twist to the concept. This track sounds like some- thing off a record from the 1940’s, yet Robyn sings “If your man ain’t no good, come on over to my neighbourhood, we can jump in the sack and I’ll jack you off.” Genius! Track List: 1) Konichiwa Bitches 2) Cobrastyle 3) Be Mine (Ballad Version) 4) With Every Heartbeat (Acoustic Version) 5) Jack U Off iblamerobot This Calgary-based band doesn’t have an offi cial album out, however they sent me a demo CD and I really liked what I heard! With three out of four band members on our team, you can expect songs on familiar topics, as apparent in “You’re Just a Boy in a Dress” and “Dance Floor Drama”. They describe themselves as follows. “Mix three cups German-style polka music with one cup of Czech music & a half-cup of country and you have NOTHING that sounds like iblamerobot.” Indeed they have a winning combination of electronic instruments, electric guitar, and rebellious female

48 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Movie Review Locked Up, Beautiful Boxer

By Rob Diaz-Marino Review | Movie “Locked Up” (2004) Although this German movie is classifi ed as a drama, it almost feels like they made it on the budget of a porno - the quality of fi lm and acting are about on par. Still I couldn’t help but get wrapped up in this simple, captivating story. Not to mention the additional bonus that German Television is not squeamish about full frontal male nudity. Imagine a low-budget, hour and a half movie version of Oz. Young Dennis, played by Marcel Schlutt (no joke on that last name) is arrested for Credit Card Fraud, and thrown into a maximum security penitentiary. He has little choice but to a 2-person cell with Mike, but will the warden allow it? Fur- fall in with the dangerous crowd in his cell block – a rowdy thermore, Dennis is only in for a 2 year term while Mike still group of heterosexuals into drug dealing and gang banging. has 7 left to serve. They keep a wispy whipping-boy that shyly introduces himself In the end I really liked this fi lm. Although they brought in to Dennis, often providing warnings about the ways of his some of the shady business expected in a prison, they didn’t abusers. overdo the fear and violence that we’re used to seeing from But through the bars of his dreary cell, Dennis often notices shows like Oz and Prison Break. For instance, Dennis gets a well muscled black man (Mike Sale) doing manual labor in gang-raped by the rowdy boys, and Mike starts a fi ght with the yard. The man sees Dennis watching and stops to look their leader to defend his lover’s honour. Mike kicks a knife back. Instead of the hostile stare-down you might expect out of the leader’s hand, and obtains it after beating the man between jailbirds, they seem to form a silent bond. When out down. I was scared Mike was going to kill the guy, but instead in the yard, Dennis witnesses the man exerting some degree he avenges Dennis by slicing open the backside of the leader’s of authority over others around him, but he softens when pants and jamming his hand in. A clever way of taking an eye Dennis works up the courage to introduce himself. His name for an eye! is Mike, an American who is in the middle of serving a 15 year The sex scenes were hot, and very realistic…in fact, too re- sentence…we suppose, for murdering his wife. alistic to be fake. My suspicion is that they really were having This fi rst encounter was adorable – like two kids meeting sex, but chose camera angles that did not show it as gratu- in the school yard and arranging a play date. Mike invites itously as in a porno. Still, they were not shy to show shower Dennis to visit him in his cell, on a different block, during scenes, and even inmates beating off in the privacy of their recreation break the next week. Sure enough, Dennis stays cells. In a way this gave the true to his promise and sneaks over to visit Mike instead of fi lm an honesty seldom seen going out into the yard. Mike’s cell is homey – a lot more so in the overly censored shows than his own, especially since the man has an electric heating on mainstream television. It element to make real coffee for the two of them. As expected, shows that love can bloom in Mike begins to come on to Dennis, but as he moves in for a the strangest of circumstances. kiss, the younger man clutches him in a tight hug. Soon the two begin kissing, but Dennis feels uncomfortable and decides to go. However, he returns to visit Mike again the next week, “Beautiful Boxer” (2003) admitting his inexperience with other men. The two end up I remember seeing that this having sex on Mike’s word that he will go easy on him. fi lm was shown at Fairytales Film Fest a few years back, so I Meanwhile the rowdy boys from Dennis’ cell block start to took this opportunity to fi nally wonder why they haven’t seen their mate outside in a while, watch it for myself. It is based and raise suspicion with the guards. Subsequently he and on the life story of transsexual Mike get caught red handed and thrown into solitary confi ne- Thai kickboxing champion ment, but the walls are thin enough that they can still talk to Nong Toom Prinya Charoen- one another. Dennis wants more than anything to move into

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 49 phol (played by Asanee Suwan), but how on earth did a young boy who always felt like he was a girl get caught up in such a rough sport? We go all the way back to Nong Toom’s childhood, where tragedy strikes – his mom is put in jail for a legal infraction with their house, and his dad suffers a fall and breaks both ankles. The young boy has to provide for his stricken family while juggling obligations to the Buddhist Monastery. While visiting his mother, he crosses paths with a transsexual wom- an and realizes his own feeling that he is the wrong gender. As he grows up, he crosses paths with the sport of Kick- boxing and soon discovers he has a natural talent for it. He is able to continue supporting his family by competing and winning the generous payout from matches. But he continues to feel very different from the other boys in his training camp. He is too shy to shower with them, and often hides in the bathroom to try on makeup and lipstick. He fi nds a number of female friends that understand his feelings, including the wife of Pi Chart (Sorapong Chatri), his kickboxing instructor. Pi Chart walks in on them as the two are trying on makeup in front of the mirror, and he is sur- prisingly accepting of it. Soon, with the encouragement of Pi Chart, Toom is wearing makeup in the boxing ring. At fi rst the audience laughs, but his opponents underestimate him. He becomes renowned for his fi ghting skill and his unorthodox practice. But he keeps having fl eeting glances of a woman – an externalization of his desired identity. As Toom ascends the championship ladder, promoter Pi Mo (Somsak Tuangmukda) markets Toom’s gender bending as a gimmick, but in an interview with the press, Toom fi nally re- veals that once his family is on stable ground, he will use his winnings to have a sex change operation. In the meantime, he begins to take female hormones which sap his strength in the ring, and he descends into further confusion about his identity. It is a very well done fi lm, with an intricate storyline. It has funny and poignant moments that are mixed in with lots of ac- tion and triumph from the kickboxing matches. I can’t think of anyone that wouldn’t benefi t from seeing this fi lm. Movie rental courtesy of Zip.ca. Online DVD rentals carrying a huge selection of GLBT themed DVD’s as well as standard brand new releases, TV shows, classics and more. No Late Fees, No Due Dates, and 57,000 Titles. http://www.zip.ca

50 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 51 52 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 Queer Eye - Calgary & Edmonton Community Events this Month

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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 53 54 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 “Well Behaved Women Have Seldom Made History”

By Allison Brodowski Community | Spotlight It’s time again for the girls to come out and play themselves fully. These are woman standing up and re- claiming their bodies and their freedom of speech. These for the Femme Fatale Car- are women saying ’Here I am. This is me. I am free to ex- nivale, a fundraiser for press myself as I chose. I am a liberated being who makes the Vagina Monologues. my own rules, and feels free to break those rules if that is A change of venue has what moves me.’” allowed for more partici- Meidow is a legend in her own right, now embodying this pants to come out and let event completely. A recent recipient of the Humanitarian of loose in this, its third year the Year Award through the Calgary Peace Awards, she is in Calgary. The much also celebrating fi ve years as a councilor for at-risk youth talked about wear what with the YWCA’s Safe Haven Program. Thus 100% of the proceeds from Femme Fatale Carnivale will benefi t the Cal- you dare policy pertains gary production of The Vagina Monologues, helping end vio- to the events and has re- lence towards women and girls worldwide. “I have raised ceived positive responses over $50,000.00 by putting [the event] on in the past and in previous years as explained by the organizer hope to continue this struggle through such programs in Marsha Ellen Meidow. our city.” “This gives people the opportunity to let loose and shake This year’s production is dedicated in memory of Nico off the drudgery of day to day stresses.” Hofferd who passed away unexpectedly in July of last year. Nico was a writer for this publication, a DJ at CJSW, an ac- Entertainment includes burlesque dancers, a magic tivist, riot grrl, and a leader in this community. She touched show, drag performances, dancing, belly dancing, a blues so many people and inspired us all. group and the hand of Master Sarah Monies to make the night run smoothly. There will also be a live auction with This event is not to be missed – come out and support artwork from Calgary’s premiere low-brow artist. the fi ght against the oppression of women everywhere, and celebrate a positive sexual message. The main concept behind the event is positive sexual ex- pression - something generally lacking in our culture espe- Femme Fatale Carnivale cially towards the female form. This is celebrated in popu- March 7th, 2008 lar culture, but is rarely a realistic picture of achievable Doors open at 8pm, show starts 8:30pm. feminine beauty, which often limits the defi nitions of what Tantra Nightclub is considered feminine and beautiful. 355 – 10th Avenue SW, Calgary Tickets: $20 As Meidow puts it, ”This is about strong, intelligent and Available at Blame Betty (17th Ave, 8th Street) beautiful women and men who have CHOSEN to express Tickets are NOT available at the door.

gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 55 Valentines Adventures

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gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #52, February 2008 57 A Night with Mr Calgary Leather at the Calgary Eagle Fundraising Photos

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