Physical and Sexual Growth

UNIT 1, LESSON 4

Learning Goals Connection to the ӹӹ The human body, made male or female, Catechism of the serves an important purpose in the plan Catholic Church of God. ӹӹ CCC 362-373 ӹӹ The gifts of masculinity and femininity ӹӹ CCC 2331-2349 are unique to each and come to fruition differently in each person. ӹӹ It is important to learn the difference Vocabulary between real love (in chastity) and using ӹӹ Complementarity others. ӹӹ Chastity ӹӹ Love vs. Use Prayer for the Lesson ӹӹ Willed Lead your students in praying the Act of Love each day of the lesson:

O my God, I love you above all things, with my whole heart and soul, because you are all good and worthy of all my love. I love my neighbor as myself for the love of you. I forgive all who have injured me and I ask pardon of all whom I have injured.

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The Lord God then built the rib that he had taken Do you not know that your bodies are members from the man into a woman. When he brought of Christ? … Do you not know that your body her to the man, the man said: “This one, at last, is is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. GENESIS 2:22-23 Therefore, glorify God in your body.

1 CORINTHIANS 6:15, 19-20

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Materials ӹӹ A Unity of Two ӹӹ Love vs. Use ӹӹ Litany of St. Joseph ӹӹ Teacher Resource: Language of ӹӹ Litany of Loreto the Body ӹӹ Images of Mary and St. Joseph

DAY ONE Note: In advance, copy and cut out Teacher Resource: Language of the Body (page 49 in this guide), enough to give one card to each student.

Warm-Up A. Distribute one card from Teacher Resource: Language of the Body, face down, to each student. Instruct students to look at their cards, but not to show them to anybody else. Then have your students, with a partner, take turns guessing the emotion on their card using only the expression on their face. B. When students are finished, ask them about their experience with the following questions. ӹӹ When you had to get your partner to guess your emotion, what did you do? Possible answers: I imagined what it felt like to feel that way, I thought about being the emotion, I have felt that way before, and so forth. ӹӹ Was it easy or difficult to guess your partner’s emotion? Why? Probable answer: it was easy, we see emotions like that often. ӹӹ Have you ever tried to hold in your emotions? What was that like? Students may tell brief stories and describe how it was hard. If students talk only about it being easy, question them a bit (“Really? Every time you’re angry with your younger sibling, you’re able to hold it in?”). C. Explain to your students that our bodies and our souls are connected. Pope St. John Paul II once said, “You are your body.” Our bodies speak a language of their own. Our bodies communicate what is going on in our souls. What is going on in our bodies affects our souls too. D. As an example, ask your students how they tend to act when they are tired or hungry. Probable answers: impatient, cranky, and so forth.

Activity A. Explain to your students that the relationship between our bodies and our souls is about more than simply smiling when we feel happy or crying when we feel sad. Since our souls and bodies interact with each other so much, the fact that we have a very specific type of body — male or female — matters a lot. Reinforce the idea that our bodies matter! B. Explain that over the next few days of lessons your students will be learning more about being made male and female.

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C. Have your students turn to A Unity of Two

(page 25) in their workbooks. Ask them to n o o

work with a partner to complete the activity eons3. WhatFrom does the itvery mean beginning, to say that human men beingsand women were arecreated “made male for andeach female. other? We read about this in Genesis 1 and 2. The Catechism of the Catholic Church talks about this in more detail. Lets discover more about what it means that man and woman because of the density of the material. Circulate form a unity of two. Read the passages from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and then answer the questions that follow each one. 4. What does it mean that two things are “complementary to each other? around the room to assist as needed and to God created man and woman together and willed each for the other. The Word of God gives ensure understanding, or read and discuss the us to understand5. What this unique through thing various are man features and woman of the able sacred to do text. together, “It is not something good that that the noman other should be alone.partnership I will make can? him a helper fi t for him.” None of the animals can be man’s partner. The woman God “fashions” from the man’s rib and brings to him elicits on the man’s part a cry activity together as a class. of wonder, an exclamation of love and communion: “This at last is bone of my bones and fl esh of my fl esh.” Man discovers woman as another “I,” sharing the same humanity.

. Willed means “chose.” Now that you know this, rewrite the ﬁ rst sentence of CCC 371 in your own words to explain what it might mean.

Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept his sexual identity. Physical, moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the ﬂ ourishing of family life. The harmony of the couple and of society depends in part on the way in which the complementarity, needs, and mutual support between the sexes are lived out. Formative Assessment 2. Since we are made in the image of God, we know that God makes us as someone, not something.6. In general,Why couldnt how arethe menanimals and bewomen a suitable different? partner for a human being?

When students have finished, review and discuss

the correct answers to A Unity of Two together. Man and woman were made “for each other” — not that God left them half-made and incomplete: he created them to be a communion of persons, in which each can be “helpmate to Due to the nature of the world we live in, some the other, for they are equal as persons (“bone of my bones…) and complementary as masculine and feminine.7. How In marriage do the differences God unites between them in mensuch anda way women that, bybenefi forming t others? “one fl esh,” they can transmit human life: “Be fruitful and multiply, and fi ll the earth.” By transmitting human life to their descendants, man and woman as spouses and parents cooperate in a unique way in the questions may naturally arise. Below are some Creator’s work.

suggestions for responding to some common questions. Remember to be gentle, but firm in upholding the Church’s teaching.

ӹӹ If questions arise about homosexuality: Reaffirm that God made us man and woman, and that men and women are made to be complementary to each other and to be a natural fit for one another. Homosexual acts are contrary to God’s design for human sexuality and for our bodies. ӹӹ If questions arise about in vitro fertilization or adoption by homosexual couples: Reaffirm that God’s design is for life to come into existence from the unity between a man and a woman. In vitro fertilization and other medical technologies are contrary to God’s plan for sexual love and procreation. ӹӹ If question arise about sex in general: Reaffirm that sexual love is a good created by God to be an expression of the unity and love between one man and one woman in the context of a faithful marriage. Naturally, sexual love is open to the creation of new life — children. Explain that later in this course students will study the Sacrament of Marriage where many of these questions will be addressed.

DAY TWO Warm-Up A. Before class or at the very beginning of the lesson, arrange the desks in two groups on opposite sides of the room. Have the boys sit on one side of the room and the girls on the other. B. Explain to your students that today they are going to examine the uniqueness of masculinity and femininity. Instruct each group to come up with a list of traits of the “ideal” man and the “ideal” woman (boys making the man list, girls making the woman list). Each group should also come up with an example of a real person they think represents the ideal. Move between both groups while students are working in order to see their lists.

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C. After a few minutes, have each group share the name of the real person along with a brief explanation of why they chose that person. Ask the students the follow-up questions below. ӹӹ Was it easy to pick a person? Did you all agree on the person? Probable answer: No, there are a lot of good people to pick — even if the group says it was easy to pick a person and they all agreed. ӹӹ Is there anyone else you think represents the traits you wrote down? Accept reasoned answers. Note: Students will probably pick someone from popular culture as their ideal representation of masculinity and femininity. If that is the case, suggest another well-known, but atypical person (such as Blessed Mother Teresa), saying “What about ______? Is she an ideal woman?”

Activity

Lan o Loeo A. Explain to your students that picking just one

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Mother most chaste, pray for us. Singular vessel of devotion, pray for us. le Mother inviolate, pray for us.eons Read throughMystical and rose, pray pray the for litany us. to yourself. Then women as examples for us. These saints are le underline the three titles of St. Joseph that best Mother undeﬁ led, pray for us. Tower of David, pray for us. describe who you want to be. Then, on the next Mother most amiable, pray for us. page, writeTower out of theivory, titles pray you for chose us. and explain why you like these traits and how you want to live them out in people who have followed Jesus with everything Mother most admirable, pray for us. House of gold, pray for us. your life. Mother of good counsel, pray for us. Ark of the covenant, pray for us. Mother of our Creator, pray forSt. usJoseph,. pray for us.Gate of heaven, pray for us. Joseph most faithful, pray for us. le they had — their individual gifts and talents, as Mother of our Savior, pray forRenowned us. offspring ofMorning David, praystar, forpray us for. us. Mirror of patience, pray for us. Mother of the Church, pray forLight us. of Patriarchs, prayHealth for usof. the sick, pray for usLover. of poverty, pray for us. le Virgin most prudent, pray for us. Refuge of sinners, pray for us. Spouse of the Mother of God, pray for us. Model of artisans, pray for us. well as their masculinity and femininity. Virgin most venerable, pray forChaste us. guardian of theComforter Virgin, pray of the for afﬂus. icted, prayGlory for ofus home. life, pray for us. Virgin most renowned, pray forFoster us. father of the SonHelp of ofGod, Christians, pray for prayus. for usGuardian. of virgins, pray for us. Virgin most powerful, pray forDiligent us. protector of QueenChrist, ofpray Angels, for us pray. for us.Pillar of families, pray for us. le Virgin most merciful, pray forHead us. of the Holy Family,ueen pray of for Patriarchs, us. pray forSolace us. of the wretched, pray for us. B. Have the boys in the class turn to Litany of St. Joseph most just, uta pray oafor us. oto Hope of the sick, pray for us. Joseph most chaste, pray for us. Patron of the dying, pray for us. le Joseph (page 27) and have the girls in the Joseph most prudent, pray for us. Terror of demons, pray for us. Joseph most strong, pray for us. Protector of Holy Church, pray for us. Joseph most obedient, pray for us. God made him the lord of his household, and prince over all his possessions. class turn to Litany of Loreto (page 29).

et us pray. O God, in Your ineffable providence You were pleased to choose Blessed Joseph to be the spouse of Your most holy Mother; grant, we beg You, that we may be worthy to have him for our intercessor in heaven whom on earth we venerate as our protector: You who live and reign forever and ever. Amen. C. Explain to your students that these prayers are litanies. A litany is a prayer that repeatedly asks

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a saint to pray for us, or repeatedly asks God to

have mercy on us. What makes a litany unique is that every prayer request is different. We call on God or the saint by a different title or trait each time. ӹӹ Explain that the girls received the Litany of Loreto, which asks for the intercession of Mary. As the sinless Mother of God, Mary shows the perfect example of what it means to be a holy woman. Show an image of Mary, if you have one. ӹӹ Explain that the boys received the Litany of St. Joseph. While St. Joseph wasn’t perfectly sinless, he is the man that God chose to be the foster father of His Son. St. Joseph is an ideal example of a holy man. Show an image of St. Joseph, if you have one.

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D. Students should read the litanies on their own. Have them underline the three titles that best relate to who they want to be. In the space provided, they should write why they like these traits and how they want to live them out in their own life. Encourage your students to think about their individual masculinity and femininity, rather than having a group mentality dominate their preferences. If students ask for explanations of various titles, the following links may be helpful to you: ӹӹ Unique Marian titles in the Litany of Loreto: SophiaOnline.org/MarianTitles. ӹӹ Very detailed explanation of all titles of St. Joseph in the litany: SophiaOnline.org/JosephTitles.

Formative Assessment A. Partner students with someone from the other side of the room (a boy with a girl). Have each pair take turns sharing with each other one of the titles of Mary or Joseph they like from their litany and how they want to live out its meaning. Circulate around the room and observe. B. Pray together the closing prayers of the litanies. O God, in Your ineffable providence You were pleased to choose Blessed Joseph to be the spouse of Your most holy Mother; grant, we beg You, that we may be worthy to have him for our intercessor in heaven whom on earth we venerate as our protector: You who live and reign forever and ever. Amen. Grant, we beseech Thee, O Lord God, that we Thy servants may enjoy perpetual health of mind and body, and by the glorious intercession of blessed Mary, ever Virgin, may we be freed from present sorrow, and rejoice in eternal happiness. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.

DAY THREE Warm-Up A. Begin class with a conversation about different kinds of love. The conversation is designed to draw students to the conclusion that the word love can be used in different ways and that there is a very particular way we should love people. B. Ask your students the following questions: ӹӹ Who loves pizza? Probable answer: almost everyone! ӹӹ Why do you love pizza? Probable answer: some variation of “it tastes good.” ӹӹ What if you ordered a pizza, but when it got to your house, you found that the order wasn’t right? What if it didn’t have the toppings you ordered? Would you still love pizza? This question might confuse them — it’s designed to get them to say they would still love pizza in general, but most would admit they don’t love that specific pizza.

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ӹӹ If you love pizza, why wouldn’t you love that specific pizza? Probable answer: it’s not what they wanted. C. Explain to your students that loving pizza is love for something very specific. Ask your students again what the reasons are for loving pizza. Possible answers: it tastes good, I like the toppings, and so forth. Clarify their answers by suggesting, that they love pizza when they get something out of it. D. Write on the board: “Pizza Love = I care about something because I get something out of it.” E. Explain to your students that we use the word love for a lot of different things. Ask your students to name some other things they love. Possible answers: family members, friends, pets, sports, games, music, other types of food. F. Then, ask your students the following questions: ӹӹ What would you do if you saw a loved one trip and fall while crossing a busy street? Possible answers: tell an adult; try to help the person. ӹӹ Why wouldn’t you just stand there? Possible answers: I love the person; he or she will get hurt if I don’t help; and so forth. ӹӹ What if the most perfect pizza, your absolute favorite kind, had been left in its box in the middle of the road and you see a car coming? What would you do? Probable answer: leave it there. ӹӹ Why would you help the person who had fallen, but not get the pizza? Possible answers: it’s a different kind of love. I love the person more. Pizza isn’t important enough. G. Help your students understand that love for a person and love for pizza are two different types of love. Point out that in the example of the person who fell while crossing a busy street, people didn’t want to sit on the curb and watch. They wanted to act. They wanted to get help because a person — any person — is valuable in and of himself. A person is far more valuable than a pizza. H. Write on the board “Person Love = I care about someone because he or she is valuable.”

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Activity A. Direct your students to look at the descriptions Loe s se

eons Read the paragraphs below about the difference between love and using. Then, As Catholics,follow the we instructions are called to for something each refl different.ection question. When Jesus talks about loving other people, on the board for a moment. Ask them to think: He doesnt mean loving them as if they were pizza. He doesnt mean that we love people only if they make us feel good or we benefi t from them. The defi nition of love for Catholics is “to will The love we have for pizza has a name. It’s called use. When we use something, we apply the good of the other.” To “will” is to choose. When we truly love someone, we choose what is our own purposes to that thing. In other words, we love pizza because we use it for some best for that personWhen. When we think we use about another our interactions person, we chooseas boys whatand girls, is best understanding for ourselves. the With difference purpose: to make us happy, because it’s delicious, and so forth. Though it is wrong to do so, Do I ever treat others as if they’re pizza? Explain love, we are lookingbetween out for loving other and people. using Sometimesare even more this important. means we Aswont we getgrow something up and our out bodies of change, sometimes we use people too. When we use a person, we dont really see him or her as a person it right away. It alsowe aremeans sometimes that everyone drawn willto other be taken people care in ofa romantic because wereway. When helping we each have other. romantic feelings with unique thoughts, feelings, and desires. Instead we see something we can “use for our for another person, it can be diffi cult sometimes to tell the difference between loving and own purpose. When we use another person, we want to get something out of him or her for using. Therefore, all of our interactions with others — our friendships, and our romantic ourselves, some good feeling or benefi t from that person. Using things is okay, as long as those that you know it sounds like a silly question, but relationships — should be marked by chastity. Chastity is a special virtue that helps us to choose things are used properly and according to the moral law. Using people is never okay. People are Refl ectionwhat Question is best for others, even if our bodies or our emotions want to be selfi sh. not things to be used. 2. Read the Chastitysituation is below a moral and virtue determine that helps why usit is manage an example or control of love our. Explain desires your for bodily and spiritual point them to the descriptions again. Do they answer onpleasure the lines in below.the way that God intended. Chastity specifi cally involves self-mastery of sexual feelings. Every baptized person is called to live a chaste life, whether they are married or single. Refl ectionTaylor, Question Shannon, and Elise are sitting at the lunch table, oking around. Shannon makes Our best model of chastity (and of all the virtues!) is Jesus Christ. a mean comment about Taylor. Taylor immediately looks sad and hurt. Elise is scared, ever only care about someone because they get 1. Read the becausesituation Shannon below and is one determine of the most why popular it is an girls example in their of class.using Ifanother. she stands up for Explain yourTaylor, answer Shannon on the might lines be below. mean to her too. Elise takes a deep breath and says, “Shannon, Nate doesn’tthat’s have not a nice, lotRefl of and friends ection it’s not in evenhisQuestion class. true. When Don’t hetalk gets to Taylor the newest like that. video-game It’s not right.” system for Christmas, his mom says he can invite some people over to play. Nate asks something in return? Brandon and amie if they3. Readwant the to come situation over, below but they and say determine no. Next Natewhy itasks is an Peter. example of using another. Then describe how the people in the situation could show love through chastity. Explain This time he makes sure to say that he has a new video-game system. Peter says yes, he will come over. Brandon andyour Jamie answer overhear on the the lines conversation below. and fi nd out that Nate has a new video-game system.uan ater has friends they come over up for to a Natebirthday and party.say that They they decide want to to play “Truth or Dare.” When come over too. uan chooses “dare,” his friends dare him to kiss Megan. uan thinks Megan is pretty, B. Have your students turn to Love vs. Use (page and he knows that kissing her will make him look good in front of his friends. Megan knows one of the other girls likes uan. Megan thinks the other girl is annoying. She knows that kissing uan will make the other girl mad, so she lets uan kiss her. 31) and complete the activity with a partner, or read and discuss the activity together as a

class.

Formative Assessment When student have completed Love vs. Use, review and discuss each situation from the worksheet together as a class.

Unit 1, lesson 4 39 Answer Key 1. God chose for man and woman n o o to be together.

2. Animals and eons From the very beginning, human beings were created male and female. We read about this in Genesis 1 and 2. The Catechism of the Catholic Church talks about humans don’t this in more detail. Lets discover more about what it means that man and woman share the same form a unity of two. Read the passages from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and then answer the questions that follow each one. humanity.

God created man and woman together and willed each for the other. The Word of God gives us to understand this through various features of the sacred text. “It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a helper fi t for him.” None of the animals can be man’s partner. The woman God “fashions” from the man’s rib and brings to him elicits on the man’s part a cry of wonder, an exclamation of love and communion: “This at last is bone of my bones and fl esh of my fl esh.” Man discovers woman as another “I,” sharing the same humanity.

. Willed means “chose.” Now that you know this, rewrite the ﬁ rst sentence of CCC 371 in your own words to explain what it might mean.

2. Since we are made in the image of God, we know that God makes us as someone, not something. Why couldnt the animals be a suitable partner for a human being?

Man and woman were made “for each other” — not that God left them half-made and incomplete: he created them to be a communion of persons, in which each can be “helpmate to the other, for they are equal as persons (“bone of my bones…) and complementary as masculine and feminine. In marriage God unites them in such a way that, by forming “one ﬂ esh,” they can transmit human life: “Be fruitful and multiply, and ﬁ ll the earth.” By transmitting human life to their descendants, man and woman as spouses and parents cooperate in a unique way in the Creator’s work.

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are equal and 3. What does it mean to say that men and women are “made for each other? made to help each

other.

4. Their differences 4. What does it mean that two things are “complementary to each other? fit with each other. 5. What unique thing are man and woman able to do together, something that no other 5. Have children. partnership can?

6. Physically, spiritually, emotionally, Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept his sexual identity. Physical, moral, socially, and so and spiritual difference and complementarity are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the ﬂ ourishing of family life. The harmony of the couple and of society depends in part on the way forth. Accept in which the complementarity, needs, and mutual support between the sexes are lived out.

reasoned answers. 6. In general, how are men and women different? 7. Complement each other for family life.

7. How do the differences between men and women beneﬁ t others?

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eons Read through and pray the litany to yourself. Then underline the three titles of St. Joseph that best describe who you want to be. Then, on the next page, write out the titles you chose and explain why you like these traits and how you want to live them out in your life.

St. Joseph, pray for us. Joseph most faithful, pray for us.

Renowned offspring of David, pray for us. Mirror of patience, pray for us.

Light of Patriarchs, pray for us. Lover of poverty, pray for us.

Spouse of the Mother of God, pray for us. Model of artisans, pray for us.

Chaste guardian of the Virgin, pray for us. Glory of home life, pray for us.

Foster father of the Son of God, pray for us. Guardian of virgins, pray for us.

Diligent protector of Christ, pray for us. Pillar of families, pray for us.

Head of the Holy Family, pray for us. Solace of the wretched, pray for us.

Joseph most just, pray for us. Hope of the sick, pray for us.

Joseph most chaste, pray for us. Patron of the dying, pray for us.

Joseph most prudent, pray for us. Terror of demons, pray for us.

Joseph most strong, pray for us. Protector of Holy Church, pray for us.

Joseph most obedient, pray for us. God made him the lord of his household, and prince over all his possessions.

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eons Read through and pray the litany to yourself. Then underline the three titles of Mary that best describe who you want to be. In the space below, write out the titles you chose and explain why you like these traits and how you want to live them out in your own life.

Holy Mary, pray for us. Virgin most faithful, pray for us.

Holy Mother of God, pray for us. Mirror of justice, pray for us.

Holy Virgin of Virgins, pray for us. Seat of wisdom, pray for us.

Mother of Christ, pray for us. Cause of our joy, pray for us.

Mother of divine grace, pray for us. Spiritual vessel, pray for us.

Mother most pure, pray for us. Vessel of honor, pray for us.

Mother most chaste, pray for us. Singular vessel of devotion, pray for us.

Mother inviolate, pray for us. Mystical rose, pray for us.

Mother undeﬁ led, pray for us. Tower of David, pray for us.

Mother most amiable, pray for us. Tower of ivory, pray for us.

Mother most admirable, pray for us. House of gold, pray for us.

Mother of good counsel, pray for us. Ark of the covenant, pray for us.

Mother of our Creator, pray for us. Gate of heaven, pray for us.

Mother of our Savior, pray for us. Morning star, pray for us.

Mother of the Church, pray for us. Health of the sick, pray for us.

Virgin most prudent, pray for us. Refuge of sinners, pray for us.

Virgin most venerable, pray for us. Comforter of the afﬂ icted, pray for us.

Virgin most renowned, pray for us. Help of Christians, pray for us.

Virgin most powerful, pray for us. Queen of Angels, pray for us.

Virgin most merciful, pray for us. ueen of Patriarchs, pray for us.

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44 © SOPHIA INSTITUTE FOR TEACHERS ueen of Prophets, pray for us. ueen assumed into heaven, pray for us.

Queen of Apostles, pray for us. ueen of the most holy Rosary, pray for us.

Queen of Martyrs, pray for us. ueen of families, pray for us.

Queen of Confessors, pray for us. ueen of peace, pray for us.

Queen of Virgins, pray for us. Pray for us, O holy Mother of God, that we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ. ueen of all Saints, pray for us.

ueen conceived without original sin, pray for us.

et us pray. Grant, we beseech Thee, O Lord God, that we Thy servants may enjoy perpetual health of mind and body, and by the glorious intercession of blessed Mary, ever Virgin, may we be freed from present sorrow, and rejoice in eternal happiness. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Accept reasoned answers

Unit 1, lesson 4 45 Answer Key 1. It’s use because Jamie and Loe s se Brandon want to

come over only eons Read the paragraphs below about the difference between love and using. Then, because Nate has follow the instructions for each reﬂ ection question.

a video-game The love we have for pizza has a name. It’s called use. When we use something, we apply our own purposes to that thing. In other words, we love pizza because we use it for some system. They get purpose: to make us happy, because it’s delicious, and so forth. Though it is wrong to do so, something out of sometimes we use people too. When we use a person, we dont really see him or her as a person with unique thoughts, feelings, and desires. Instead we see something we can “use for our it. own purpose. When we use another person, we want to get something out of him or her for ourselves, some good feeling or beneﬁ t from that person. Using things is okay, as long as those things are used properly and according to the moral law. Using people is never okay. People are not things to be used.

Reﬂ ection Question

1. Read the situation below and determine why it is an example of using another. Explain your answer on the lines below. Nate doesn’t have a lot of friends in his class. When he gets the newest video-game system for Christmas, his mom says he can invite some people over to play. Nate asks Brandon and amie if they want to come over, but they say no. Next Nate asks Peter. This time he makes sure to say that he has a new video-game system. Peter says yes, he will come over. Brandon and Jamie overhear the conversation and ﬁ nd out that Nate has a new video-game system. ater they come up to Nate and say that they want to come over too.

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Elise is choosing As Catholics, we are called to something different. When Jesus talks about loving other people, what is best for He doesnt mean loving them as if they were pizza. He doesnt mean that we love people only if they make us feel good or we beneﬁ t from them. The deﬁ nition of love for Catholics is “to will Taylor — standing the good of the other.” To “will” is to choose. When we truly love someone, we choose what is best for that person. When we use another person, we choose what is best for ourselves. With up for her — and love, we are looking out for other people. Sometimes this means we wont get something out of what’s best for it right away. It also means that everyone will be taken care of because were helping each other. Shannon — pointing

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behavior isn’t right. 2. Read the situation below and determine why it is an example of love. Explain your answer on the lines below. Taylor, Shannon, and Elise are sitting at the lunch table, oking around. Shannon makes a mean comment about Taylor. Taylor immediately looks sad and hurt. Elise is scared, because Shannon is one of the most popular girls in their class. If she stands up for Taylor, Shannon might be mean to her too. Elise takes a deep breath and says, “Shannon, that’s not nice, and it’s not even true. Don’t talk to Taylor like that. It’s not right.”

Unit 1, lesson 4 47 Answer Key 3. Juan is using

Megan for a When we think about our interactions as boys and girls, understanding the difference better reputation between loving and using are even more important. As we grow up and our bodies change, we are sometimes drawn to other people in a romantic way. When we have romantic feelings with his friends. for another person, it can be diffi cult sometimes to tell the difference between loving and using. Therefore, all of our interactions with others — our friendships, and our romantic Megan is using relationships — should be marked by chastity. Chastity is a special virtue that helps us to choose Juan to make what is best for others, even if our bodies or our emotions want to be selfi sh. Chastity is a moral virtue that helps us manage or control our desires for bodily and spiritual another girl pleasure in the way that God intended. Chastity specifi cally involves self-mastery of sexual mad. Neither is feelings. Every baptized person is called to live a chaste life, whether they are married or single. Our best model of chastity (and of all the virtues!) is Jesus Christ. thinking about what is best for Refl ection Question the other person 3. Read the situation below and determine why it is an example of using another. Then but is using that describe how the people in the situation could show love through chastity. Explain person for his or your answer on the lines below. uan has friends over for a birthday party. They decide to play “Truth or Dare.” When her own purpose. uan chooses “dare,” his friends dare him to kiss Megan. uan thinks Megan is pretty, and he knows that kissing her will make him look good in front of his friends. Megan In kissing Megan, knows one of the other girls likes uan. Megan thinks the other girl is annoying. She Juan lets his knows that kissing uan will make the other girl mad, so she lets uan kiss her. emotions (wanting to be liked by his friends) make him selfish. In kissing Juan, Megan lets her emotions (wanting to make the other girl mad) make her selfish. For both Megan and Juan, not kissing is willing each other’s good (and the good of the other girl, who will be hurt by the action).

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50 © SOPHIA INSTITUTE FOR TEACHERS A Unity of Two

Directions: From the very beginning, human beings were created male and female. We read about this in Genesis 1 and 2. The Catechism of the Catholic Church talks about this in more detail. Let’s discover more about what it means that man and woman form a unity of two. Read the passages from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and then answer the questions that follow each one.

CCC 371 God created man and woman together and willed each for the other. The Word of God gives us to understand this through various features of the sacred text. “It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a helper fit for him.” None of the animals can be man’s partner. The woman God “fashions” from the man’s rib and brings to him elicits on the man’s part a cry of wonder, an exclamation of love and communion: “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” Man discovers woman as another “I,” sharing the same humanity.

1. Willed means “chose.” Now that you know this, rewrite the first sentence of CCC 371 in your own words to explain what it might mean.

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2. Since we are made in the image of God, we know that God makes us as someone, not something. Why couldn’t the animals be a suitable partner for a human being?

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CCC 372 Man and woman were made “for each other” — not that God left them half-made and incomplete: he created them to be a communion of persons, in which each can be “helpmate” to the other, for they are equal as persons (“bone of my bones…”) and complementary as masculine and feminine. In marriage God unites them in such a way that, by forming “one flesh,” they can transmit human life: “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth.” By transmitting human life to their descendants, man and woman as spouses and parents cooperate in a unique way in the Creator’s work.

Unit 1, Lesson 4 25 3. What does it mean to say that men and women are “made for each other”?

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4. What does it mean that two things are “complementary” to each other?

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5. What unique thing are man and woman able to do together, something that no other partnership can?

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CCC 2333 Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept his sexual identity. Physical, moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the flourishing of family life. The harmony of the couple and of society depends in part on the way in which the complementarity, needs, and mutual support between the sexes are lived out.

6. In general, how are men and women different?

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7. How do the differences between men and women benefit others?

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26 Unit 1, Lesson 4 Litany of St. Joseph

Directions: Read through and pray the litany to yourself. Then underline the three titles of St. Joseph that best describe who you want to be. Then, on the next page, write out the titles you chose and explain why you like these traits and how you want to live them out in your life.