Nov. 2020, Vol 1, Number 11 Weekly Newsletter for ELC Tiny Twister Parents

Twister Parent

Teaching Your Child About Respect

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Unfortunately, many kids have not been taught respect or In This Issue choose not to be respectful even though they probably know better. Many parents have not established a firm culture of accountability in their homes. Part of the 1 Teaching Your Child About Respect problem is that parents are often busy, making it much harder to respond immediately to our kids. 2 Activity: Paper-Plate Owl Let’s face it, it’s easier to let things slide when you’re worn out and stressed from working so hard. It is important to be willing to look at your children realistically, noting both their strengths and their areas of weakness. Being realistic allows you to see inappropriate behavior as it happens and address it—and not make excuses or ignore it.

Below are nine things you can do as a parent today to start getting respect from your kids. Nov. 2020, Vol 1, Number 11 Weekly Newsletter for ELC Tiny Twister Parents

Remember That Your Child Is Discuss Disrespect When Your Child is Calm Not Your Friend If your child is or rude, talk about what It’s important to remember that your child is not your happened once things are calm. Talk about how it friend. He’s your child. Your job is to coach him to could have been dealt with differently. A calm function effectively in the world and behave respectfully conversation is a chance for you to listen to your child to others, not just you. and to understand the problem and how it could have been handled differently. Confront Disrespect Early and Often It’s good to confront disrespectful behavior early, if Don’t Take Your Child’s Behavior Personally possible. If your child is rude or disrespectful, don’t One of the biggest mistakes parents can make is to turn a blind eye. Intervene and say: “We don’t talk to take their child’s behavior personally. Your role is to each other that way in this family.” just deal with your child’s behavior as objectively as Giving consequences when your kids are younger is possible. When parents don’t have effective ways to going to pay off in the long run. As a parent, it’s deal, they may overreact or underreact to the crucial that if you see your child being disrespectful situation. to admit it and then try to nip it in the bud. AAAccctttiiivvviiitttyyy::: Parent as a Team It’s beneficial for you and your co-parent to be on the PPPaaapppeeerrr PPPlllaaattteee OOOwwwlll same page when it comes to your child’s behavior. Sit down together and talk about your rules, and then come up with a plan of action—and a list of consequences you might give—if your child breaks the rules. Be Respectful When You Correct Your Child When your child is disrespectful, correct them in a respectful manner. Yelling and getting upset and having your own attitude in response to theirs is not helpful. Instead, you can pull your child aside and give them a clear message of what is acceptable. You don’t need to shout at them or embarrass them. Materials Set Realistic Expectations for Your Child’s Behavior Being realistic about your child’s behavior patterns basic paper plate may mean that you need to lower your expectations. It is often helpful to set limits beforehand. Clear paint expectations will help your child behave and, in some ways, will make them feel safer. They will understand construction paper what is expected of them and will know the scissors consequences if they don’t meet those expectations. If they meet your goals, certainly give them credit, ribbon for hanging (optional) but if they don’t, follow through on whatever consequences you’ve set up for them. glue (tacky glue or hot glue) Clarify the Limits When Things Are Calm When you’re in a situation where your child is disrespectful, that’s not the ideal time to do a lot of talking about limits or consequences. At a later time, you can talk with your child about her behavior and your For the full how-to visit: https://frugalfun4boys.com/paper- plate-owl-craft/ expectations.