Surviving the Loss of a Loved One

A list of resources compiled by the Science & Technology Division, Akron-Summit County Public Library Akron-Summit County Public Library 2 www.akronlibrary.org Surviving the Loss of a Loved One ______Healing Grief, Finding Peace: After a Loss - 101 Ways to Cope with the Death What to Expect of Your Loved One ______Louis E. LaGrand 2011 African American Grief 155.937 L178h Paul C. Rosenblatt 2005 155.937 R813af In the Presence of Grief: Helping African American beliefs and Family Members Resolve Death, practices. Dying, and Bereavement Issues Dorothy S. Becvar 2001 The Comfort Book 155.937 B398in Jane Seskin 2002 152.4 Se493co The Journey Home: Finishing Thoughts and actions for self- with Joy healing. Bill Bright 2003 A Decembered Grief: Living 267.61092 B855jo with Loss while Others Are Examines the questions and Celebrating anxieties related to what dying will Harold Ivan Smith 1999 be like. 248.866 Sm649d Kaddish The Empty Chair: Handling Leon Wieseltier 1998 Grief on Holidays and Special 296.445 W652k Occasions Jewish prayers of mourning. Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge 2001 248.866 Z87em Making Loss Matter: Creating Meaning in Difficult Times The End Is Just the Beginning: David Wolpe 1999 Lessons in Grieving for African 296.3118 W866m Americans Searching for meaningful ways to Arlene H. Churn 2003 deal with loss. 155.937 C563en Grieving: a Beginner’s Guide The Mourner’s Book of Courage: Jerusha Hull McCormack 2006 30 Days of Encouragement 155.937 M131gr Alan D. Wolfelt 2012 155.937 W855mc Handbook for Those Who Grieve: What You Should Know and The Mourner’s Book of Hope What You Can Do During Times Alan D. Wolfelt 2010 of Loss: a Resource for Family, 155.937 W855m Friends, Ministers, Caregivers, and Colleagues Martin M. Aux 2002 155.937 Au944h Akron-Summit County Public Library 3 www.akronlibrary.org ______Nothing Left Unsaid: Creating a Healing Legacy with Final Words ______Memorial Planning and Letters Mary Polce-Lynch 2006 Baker’s Funeral Handbook: 155.937 P762n Resources for Pastors Ways to express your feelings to Paul E. Engle 1996 loved ones who are approaching 265.85 B168E the end of their lives. The Complete Guide to Funeral On Grief and Grieving: Finding Planning: How to Arrange the the Meaning of Grief through Appropriate Service the Five Stages of Loss Geoffrey C. Carnell 2005 Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 2005 393.9 C289c 155.937 K95on Condolences and Eulogies: Saying Goodbye to Someone Finding the Perfect Words You Love: Your Emotional Bettyanne Gillette 2003 Journey through End of Life and 306.9 G472c Grief A Cross-Cultural Look at Death, Noreen Dresser 2010 Dying and Religion 155.937 D773s Joan K. Parry 1995 Engrossing look at how to 291.23 C951 embrace end of life and grief. A look at the belief systems of The Survivor’s Guide: What You various cultures. Need to Know & What You Need Funeral and Memorial Service to Do when Someone Close to Readings, Poems and Tributes You Dies Rachel R. Baum 1999 V.K. Thornton 2004 808.8035 F981 306.9 T514s An index of poems used in films, Tears of Sorrow, Seeds of Hope: TV or read during the funeral of a a Jewish Spiritual Companion for famous person. Infertility and Pregnancy Loss A Labor of Love: How to Write a Nina Beth Cardin 2007 Eulogy 296.72 T253C Garry Schaeffer Turn My Mourning into Dancing: 808.51 Sch294L Moving through Hard Times Finding the words to share your with Hope memories. Includes samples and Henri Nouwen 2001 poems. 242.4 N934tu Readings for Remembrance: Unattended Sorrow: Recovering a Collection for Funerals and from Loss and Reviving the Memorial Services Heart Eleanor Munro 2000 Stephen Levine 2005 808.8035 R287 155.937 L665u Religious and secular writings for funerals and memorial services.

Akron-Summit County Public Library 4 www.akronlibrary.org Remembering Well: Rituals for After a Parent’s Suicide: Helping Celebrating Life and Mourning Children Heal Death Margo Requarth 2006 Sarah York 2000 155.937 R427a 291.38 Y63r Offers comfort to the bereaved, Planning a traditional or uniquely specific coping strategies, and fitting memorial. insight into what promotes resiliency. The Rituals Resource Book: Alternative Weddings, Funerals, Caring for Your Grieving Child: Holidays, and Other Rites of Engaging Activities Dealing with Passage Loss and Transition Susan M. Mumm 2004 Martha Wakenshaw 2002 291.38 M962r 155.9308 W149c Alternative funerals and other rites of passage. A Child’s View of Grief: a Guide for Parents, Teachers, and Simply Essential Funeral Counselors Planning Kit Alan D. Wolfelt 2004 Don S. Cochrane 2002 155.937 W855c 393.9 C663s Planning a funeral. Children and Grief: Helping Your Child Understand Death The Sorrow Psalms: a Book of Joey O’Connor 2004 Twentieth-century Elegy 248.866 Oc18h Lynn Strongin 2006 821.9108 So714S Companioning the Grieving Poetry. Child: a Soulful Guide for Caregivers Stopping for Death: Poems of Alan D. Wolfelt 2012 Death and Loss 155.937 W855co Carol Ann Duffy 1996 808.8193 St883 Frequently Asked Questions about When a Friend Dies Poems for Funerals Corona Brez 2008 http://www.poets.org/viewmedia. 155.937 B848fr php/prmMID/5858 Information for teenagers about Some suggested funeral elegies. death. ______The Grieving Student: a Help for Children and Teacher’s Guide David J. Schonfeld 2010 ______Teens 155.937 Sch371g 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child The Grieving Teen: a Guide for The Dougy Center 2004 Teenagers and Their Friends 155.937 T447 Helen Fitzgerald 2000 Practical suggestions for 155.937 F553g supporting a grieving child.

Akron-Summit County Public Library 5 www.akronlibrary.org Healing the Hurt, Restoring the Talking with Children and Young Hope: How to Guide Children People about Death and Dying and Teens through Times of Mary Turner 2007 Divorce, Death, and Crisis with 155.937 T146y the Rainbows Approach How to discuss death with children. Suzy Yehl Marta 2003 155.9308 M376h What About the Kids: Understanding their Needs in Helping Children Cope with the Funeral Planning and Services Death of a Parent: a Guide for Dougy Center 1999 the First Year 155.937 W555a Paddy Greenwall Lewis 2004 How to help a child before, during 155.937 L675h and after a funeral service. Identifying and addressing the psychological needs of children. What Children Need When They Grieve: the Four Essentials - Helping Children Grieve Routine, Love, Honesty, and Ruth P. Arent 2005 Security 155.93 Ar681h Julia Wilcox Rathkey 2004 Understanding grief from a child’s 155.937 R234wc point of view. Explores a child’s reaction to death. Helping the Grieving Student: a When a Friend Dies: a Book for Guide for Teachers Teens about Grieving & Healing Dougy Center 2003 Marilyn E. Gootman 2005 155.937 H483g TEEN 155.937 G659w How the school environment can ______provide support and encourage healing. ______Loss of a Parent Helping Teens Cope with Death FatherLoss: How Sons of All Ages Dougy Center 1999 Come to Terms with the Deaths 155.937 H483 of Their Dads How Do We Tell the Children?: a Neil Chethik 2001 Step-by-step Guide for Helping 155.937 C526f Children Two to Teen Cope When Never the Same: Coming to Someone Dies Terms with the Death of a Parent Dan Schaefer and Christine Lyons Donna Schuurman 2004 2001 155.937 Sch396n 155.937 Sch294h The impact of the loss on a child or I Will Remember You: What to Do adolescent immediately and later when Someone You Love Dies: as an adult. a Guidebook through Grief for When Your Father Dies: How a Teens Man Deals with the Loss of His Laura Dower 2001 Father 155.937 D746i Veerman, David 2006 155.937 V419w Akron-Summit County Public Library 6 www.akronlibrary.org ______The Oil of Joy for Mourning: 365 ______Loss of a Sibling Daily Meditations to Comfort the Widowed The Empty Room: Surviving the Jan Sheble 1997 Loss of a Brother or Sister at Any 242.4 Sh5390 Age Elizabeth DeVita Late Wife: Poems 155.937 D496e Claudia Emerson 2005 811.54 Em53L Recovering from the Loss of a A series of poems highlighting Sibling relationships. Katharine Fair Donnelly 1988 155.937 D685r Reflections of a Grieving Spouse Addresses the pain, anger, and H. Norman Wright guilt of losing a sibling. 248.866 W949r Helps the reader work through ______anger and denial toward God’s ______Loss of a Spouse peace. Finding Your Way after Your When a Spouse Dies: What I Spouse Dies Didn’t Know about Helping Marta Felber 2000 Myself and Others through Grief 646.7008 F311fi Barbara Roberts Wheeler 2012 Guide for coping with practical 155.937 W562w issues that face the recently ______widowed. Suicide, Homicide, From One Widow to Another: Accident Conversations on the New You ______Miriam Neff 2009 After a Parent’s Suicide: Helping 248.8434 N383f Children Heal Covers emotional, spiritual, and Margo Requarth 2006 practical issues of widowhood. Offers comfort to the bereaved, Healing a Spouse’s Grieving specific coping strategies, and Heart: 100 Practical Ideas after insight into what promotes Your Husband or Wife Dies resiliency. Alan D. Wolfelt 2003 After Suicide: Living with the 155.937 W855h Questions I’m Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Eileen Kuehn 2001 Young Widows and Widowers 362.283 K95af (Teen Book) Can Cope and Heal Grieving a Suicide: a Loved One’s Linda Sones Feinberg 1994 Search for Comfort, Answers & 155.937 F299i Hope Albert Y. Hsu 2002 248.866 H873gr

Akron-Summit County Public Library 7 www.akronlibrary.org Take the Dimness of My Soul 50 Ways to Cope with the Loss of Away: Healing After a Loved Your Child: a Guide for Grieving One’s Suicide Parents William A. Ritter 2004 Norma Sawyers-Kurz 2010 248.866 R615t 155.937 Sa271f Story of one man’s journey Mechanisms that parents may use through the pain of his son’s to deal with their intense grief, as suicide. well as counsel from grief experts. What to Do when the Police The First Year, the Worst Year: Leave: a Guide to the First Days Coping with the Unexpected of Traumatic Loss Death of Our Grown-up Bill Jenkins 1999 Daughter 155.937 J52w Barbara A. Wilson and Michael Wilson 2004 The Wilderness of Suicide Grief: 155.937 W746f Finding Your Way Alan D. Wolfelt 2010 Heartfelt: a Companion for 155.937 W855wi Bereaved Parents Jeri Rae Miller 2007 Understanding Your Suicide 155.937 M648he Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing I Will Carry You: The Sacred Your Heart Dance of Grief and Joy Alan D. Wolfelt 2009 Angie Smith 2010 155.937 W855us 155.9 Sm642i ______Moving story of a family’s journey in dealing with the loss of their ______When a Child Dies newborn child. Beyond Tears: Living after A Piece of my Heart: Living Losing a Child through the Grief of Miscarriage, Ellen Mitchell 2005 Stillbirth or Infant Death 155.937 B573 Molly Fumia 2000 Nine mothers whose children 155.937 F978p died as young adults lend comfort Fumia was unable to say goodbye and direction to other bereaved to her newborn son. She comes parents. They share what to expect to terms with her unresolved grief in the first year and beyond. through a dialogue with him. Empty Arms: Coping with Losing a Baby Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Sarah Ewing 2005 Death 155.937 Ew95L Sherokee Ilse 2002 Comfort and advice for those who 155.937 IL29e are mourning the loss of a much- Practical suggestions and support wanted child. for decision-making at the time of the loss as well as in the days ahead.

Akron-Summit County Public Library 8 www.akronlibrary.org Tender Fingerprints: a True Story Saying Goodbye to Your Angel of Loss and Resolution Animals: Finding Comfort after Brad Stetson 1999 Losing Your Pet 248.866 St841t Allen and Linda Anderson 2008 The story of a couple’s pregnancy, 155.937 An545s the loss of their son and how they Includes affirmations and learn to live with the suffering meditations to use through the that accompanies their loss and various stages of grief. recognize the preciousness of When a Family Pet Dies: a Guide human life. to Dealing with Children’s Loss JoAnn Tuzeo-Jarolmen 2007 When the Bough Breaks: Forever 155.937 T968w after the Death of a Son or Explains how children grieve and Daughter gives guidelines on how to identify Judith R. Bernstein 1997 signs of grief in children. B531w Excerpts from interviews with ______parents who have lost a child. Books to Help Others Illustrates how parents change in their relationships to others and ______Who Mourn how they adopt different values The Art of Condolence: What to after the loss of a child. Write, What to Say, What to Do at The Worst Loss: How Families a Time of Loss. Heal from the Death of a Child Leonard M. Zunin and Hilary Barbara D. Rosof 1994 Stanton Zunin 1991 155.937 R822w 306.9 Z95a This book will help families who The Bereavement Ministry have lost a child to know what Program: a Comprehensive they are facing, understand what Guide for Churches they are feeling and appreciate Jan Nelson 1998 their own needs and timetables. 259.6 N427b ______Dealing with Grief: Theirs & Ours Jeroid O’Neil Roussell, Jr. 1999 ______Grieving the Loss of a Pet 259.6 R866d Coping with Sorrow on the Loss A Good Friend for Bad Times: of Your Pet Helping Others through Grief Moira Anderson 1994 Deborah E. Bowen 2004 155.937 An548c 2nd ed. 155.937 B786g A caring, practical resource to aid Understanding the grief process, in the healing process. plus practical advice for expressing concern. Grieving the Death of a Pet Handbook for Companioning Betty Carmack 2003 the Mourner: Eleven Essential 155.937 C287g Principles Offers readers a virtual pet-loss Alan D. Wolfelt 2009 support group. 155.937 W855ha Akron-Summit County Public Library 9 www.akronlibrary.org Handbook for Those Who Grieve: The Perfect Strangers Guide to What You Should Know and Funerals and Grieving Practices: What You Can Do During Times A Guide to Etiquette in Other of Loss: a Resource for Family, People’s Religious Ceremonies Friends, Ministers, Caregivers, Stuart M. Matlins 2000 and Colleagues 395.23 P438Ma Martin M. Aux 2002 155.937 Au944h The Understanding Your Grief Support Group Guide: Starting Healing Conversations: What to and Leading a Bereavement Say When You Don’t Know What Support Group to Say Alan D. Wolfelt 2004 Nance Guilmartin 2002 155.937 W855u 153.6 G962h The Unwanted Gift of Grief: a Healing Grief at Work: 100 Ministry Approach Practical Ideas after a Workplace Tim P. VanDuivendyk 2006 is Touched by Loss 259.6 V246u Alan Wolfelt 2005 155.937 W855he ______Helping the Bereaved Celebrate ______Local Support Groups the Holidays: a Sourcebook for Planning Educational and Children’s Hospital Remembrance Events One Perkins Square James E. Miller 1997 Akron, OH 44308 155.937 M648h Bereavement Coordinator 330-543-8837 How Can I Help? How to Support https://www.akronchildrens.org/ Someone Who Is Grieving cms/family_support_list/index.html June Cerza Kolf 1999 155.937 K81h Compassionate Friends, Inc. Attn: Aileen Watkins How to Say It When You Don’t 2495 Columbia Road Know What to Say: the Right Medina, Ohio 44256 Words for Difficult Times or Robbie Miller Kaplan 2004 Attn: Paula Dutton 155.93 K17h 330-699-5054 3275 Marquette Street NW My Deepest Sympathies: Uniontown, OH 44685 Meaningful Sentiments http://www.compassionatefriends. for Condolence Notes and org/ Conversations, Plus a Guide to Eulogies Child Guidance and Family Florence Isaacs 2000 Solutions 395.4 Is74m 312 Locust Street Akron, Ohio 44302-1878 Phone: 330-762-0591 http://www.cgfs.org

Akron-Summit County Public Library 10 www.akronlibrary.org ______Catholic Cemeteries Bereavement Ministry ______Web Sites Holy Cross Cemetery 100 E. Waterloo Road www.medlineplus.gov/ Akron, Ohio 44319 bereavement - An extensive 330-724-1297 listing of resources concerned with http://www.clevelandcatholic all aspects of bereavement. This cemeteries.org/Bereavement%20 site is maintained by the National Ministry%20Service.aspx Library of Medicine. Hospice of Visiting Nurse Service Center for Loss and Hope http://americanhospice.org - 3358 Ridgewood Road Excellent resources for anyone Akron, OH 44333 dealing with dying, death and 330-665-1455 bereavement. Includes special www.vnsa.com resources for helping children and adolescents cope with grief Grief Care Place and the impact of grief in schools. 4499 Darrow Road Other sections deal with grief in Stow OH 44224 the workplace, cultural approaches 330-686-1750 to understanding death and much http://thegriefcareplace.org/ more. Sudden Infant Death Network of Ohio http://www.mentalhelp.net/ 421 Graham Road Suite H selfhelp - American Self-Help Cuyahoga Falls, OH 44221 Group Clearinghouse. 330-929-9911 A starting point for exploring http://www.sidsohio.org/ support groups and networks SeekingSupport.html available throughout the world and in your community. Kelly Reeves Memorial Foundation https://www.akronchildrens. 330-688-2056 org/cgi-bin/tips/search.pl http://kellyreevesmemorial Tips to Grow By – Parenting foundation.org/ information published by Akron Offers individual or group Children’s Hospital bereavement counseling at the Helping Kids Deal with Death I Kent Wellness Center. Helping Kids Deal with Death II Talking to Kids about the Death of a Parent

For additional books on grieving, please contact Akron-Summit County Public Library at 330-643-9075. Books explaining death to children are available in the Children’s Library. Please ask a librarian for assistance in locating these titles.

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