Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 RELATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY, PSYCHOANALYSIS AND COUNSELLING Is therapy’s relational turn only something to celebrate? It is a major worldwide trend taking place in all the therapy traditions. But up to now, appreciation of these developments has not been twinned with well-informed and constructive critique. Hence practitioners and students have not been able to engage as fully as they might with the complex questions and issues that relational working presents. Relational Psychotherapy, Psychoanalysis and Counselling: Appraisals and reappraisals seeks to redress this balance. In this unique book, Del Loewenthal and Andrew Samuels bring together the contributions of writers from several countries and many therapy modalities, all of whom have engaged with what ‘relational’ means – whether to espouse the idea, to urge caution or to engage in sceptical refl ection. Relational Psychotherapy, Psychoanalysis and Counselling: Appraisals and reappraisals presents clinical work of the highest standard in a way that is moving and draws the reader in. The more intellectual contributions are accessible and respectful, avoiding the polarising tendencies of the profession. At a time when there has been a decline in the provision and standing of the depth therapies across the globe, this book shows that, whatever the criticisms, there is still creative energy in the fi eld. It is hoped that practitioners and students in psychoanalysis, psychotherapy counselling and counselling psychology will welcome this book for its cutting-edge content and compassionate tone. Del Loewenthal is Professor of Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Director of the Research Centre for Therapeutic Education at the University of Roehampton, Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 where he also convenes Doctoral programmes. He is an analytic psychotherapist, chartered psychologist and photographer. He is founding editor of the European Journal of Psychotherapy and Counselling. He is chair of the Universities Psychotherapy and Counselling Association and former founding chair of the UK Council for Psychotherapy Research committee. His publications include Phototherapy and Therapeutic Photography in a Digital Age (Routledge, 2013), Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling after Postmodernism: The Selected Works of Del Loewenthal (Routledge, forthcoming) and, with Robert Snell, Postmodernism for Psychotherapists (Routledge, 2003), among numerous others. Del also has small private practices in Wimbledon and Brighton. Andrew Samuels has, for 40 years, been evolving a unique blend of post-Jungian, relational psychoanalytic and humanistic approaches to therapy work. He is recognized internationally as a leading commentator from a psychotherapeutic perspective on political and social problems. His work on the father, sexuality, spirituality and countertransference has also been widely appreciated. He is a Founder Board Member of the International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy, past chair of the UK Council for Psychotherapy, and co-founder of Psychotherapists and Counsellors for Social Responsibility and also of the Alliance for Counselling and Psychotherapy. He is Professor of Analytical Psychology at Essex University and holds visiting chairs at New York, London and Roehampton Universities. His many books have been translated into 19 languages, including Jung and the Post-Jungians (Routledge, 1985); A Critical Dictionary of Jungian Analysis (Routledge, 1986); The Plural Psyche: Personality, Morality and the Father (Routledge, 1989); The Political Psyche (Routledge, 1993); and Passions, Persons, Psychotherapy, Politics: The selected works of Andrew Samuels (Routledge, forthcoming). Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 RELATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY, PSYCHOANALYSIS AND COUNSELLING Appraisals and reappraisals Edited by Del Loewenthal and Andrew Samuels Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 Routledge Taylor & Francis Group Routledge LONDON AND NEW YORK First published 2014 by Routledge 27 Church Road, Hove, East Sussex BN3 2FA and by Routledge 711 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10017 Routledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business © 2014 Del Loewenthal and Andrew Samuels The right of the editors to be identifi ed as the authors of the editorial material, and of the authors for their individual chapters, has been asserted in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced or utilised in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publishers. Trademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identifi cation and explanation without intent to infringe. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data Relational psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and counselling appraisals and reappraisals / edited by Del Loewenthal and Andrew Samuels. pages cm 1. Interpersonal psychotherapy. 2. Psychotherapist and patient. 3. Interpersonal relations. I. Loewenthal, Del, 1947– editor of compilation. II. Samuels, Andrew, editor of compilation. RC489.I55R45 2014 616.89'14—dc23 2013046508 ISBN: 978-0-415-72153-0 (hbk) ISBN: 978-0-415-72154-7 (pbk) ISBN: 978-1-315-77415-2 (ebk) Typeset in Times New Roman by Refi neCatch Limited, Bungay, Sufolk Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 CONTENTS List of contributors viii Permissions xiii Acknowledgements xiv PART I Mainly celebrations 1 1 The magic of the relational? An introduction to appraising and reappraising relational psychotherapy, psychoanalysis and counselling 3 DEL LOEWENTHAL 2 Democratizing psychoanalysis 12 SUSIE ORBACH 3 Beloved 27 JANE HABERLIN 4 The primal silence 39 MARSHA NODELMAN Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 5 The intricate intimacies of psychotherapy and questions of self-disclosure 54 WILLIAM F. CORNELL 6 Forgiveness – a relational process: Research and refl ections 65 JUDITH ANDERSON v CONTENTS 7 Mortality in the consulting room 80 SUSAN COWAN-JENSSEN 8 Relational psychotherapy in Europe: A view from across the Atlantic 93 LEWIS ARON 9 Commentary on relational psychoanalysis in Europe: How is this dialogue different? 107 CHANA ULLMAN PART II Mainly critiques 119 10 The relational turn in psychoanalysis: Revolution or regression? 121 ZVI CARMELI AND RACHEL BLASS 11 It’s the stupid relationship 130 IAN PARKER 12 Relational ethics: From existentialism to post-existentialism 140 DEL LOEWENTHAL 13 Ordinary stories of intermingling of worlds and doing what is right: A person-centred view 152 PETE SANDERS 14 Staying in dialogue with CBT 161 TOM STRONG 15 Relational as theory? Relational as a principle? Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 Relational as symbol of integration? 176 HELENA HARGADEN 16 Shadows of the therapy relationship 184 ANDREW SAMUELS vi CONTENTS 17 A critical commentary on ‘the relational turn’ 193 KEITH TUDOR 18 The relational: A postmodern meta-narrative 212 ALISTAIR ROSS 19 Afterword: The personal equation 224 ANDREW SAMUELS Index 228 Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 vii CONTRIBUTORS Judith Anderson is a Jungian Analytical Psychotherapist and Consultant Psychiatrist. She has a private psychotherapy practice working with adults and couples and draws on relational theory for her work. She chaired Psychotherapists and Counsellors for Social Responsibility for some years and is on the Steering Group of the Climate Psychology Alliance (judith.anderson@ btinternet.com; www.leamingtonspapsychotherapy.co.uk). Lewis Aron, PhD, is the Director of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis. He has served as President of the Division of Psychoanalysis (39) of the American Psychological Association; founding President of the International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (IARPP); and founding President of the Division of Psychologist-Psychoanalysts of the New York State Psychological Association (NYSPA). He is the co-founder and co-chair of the Sándor Ferenczi Center at the New School for Social Research. Dr. Aron is one of the founders and is an Associate Editor of Psychoanalytic Dialogues and is the series editor (with Adrienne Harris) of the Relational Perspectives Book Series (Routledge). He is the Editor of the Psychoanalysis & Jewish Life Book Series (The Academic Studies Press); Author of A Meeting of Minds (The Analytic Press, 1996) and co-author, with Karen Starr, of A Psychotherapy for the People: Toward a Progressive Psychoanalysis (Routledge, 2013) (lew.aron@ nyu.edu). Rachel Blass (British Psychoanalytical Society and Israel Psychoanalytic Downloaded by [New York University] at 01:48 15 August 2016 Society) lives and practices in London where she is Professor of Psycho- analysis and of Psychology of Religion at Heythrop College, the University of London and a Visiting Professor at University College London. She is on the board of the International Journal of Psychoanalysis, where she is the editor of the ‘Controversies’ section. She has published