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Scripture Stories as Patterns for Our Lives, p. 14 Modesty: A Timeless Principle for All, p. 28 Way Beyond the Help-Wanted Ads, p. 58 Young Women in Ghana: Nova, Vera, Georgina, Karen, and Rebecca, by Richard Hull “We are daughters of our Heavenly Father, who loves us, and we love Him. . . . We strive to live the Young Women values, which are: faith, divine nature, individual worth, knowledge, choice and accountability, good works, integrity, and virtue” (Young Women Theme). JULY 2009 Contents VOLUME 39 • NUMBER 7

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ON THE COVER Front: Esther Adu Asante, MESSAGES FEATURE ARTICLES by Richard Hull. Back: Felicia Opare: Woman of Faith FIRST PRESIDENCY Am I of Worth? and Sacri ce, by Emmalee Glauser; MESSAGE 8 EMILY THEVENIN map by Mountain High Maps What de nes our self-worth? © 1993 Digital Wisdom, Inc. Sugar Beets and the 4 Worth of a Soul PRESIDENT THOMAS S. Fortifying Our Family MONSON 1 2 MARSHA JOHNSON May we reach out to rescue As our family studied the family proclamation, we became those who need our help and spiritually stronger and more uni ed. our love. Scripture Stories as Patterns for Our Lives VISITING TEACHING 1 4 ELDER JAY E. JENSEN MESSAGE Ancient advice for modern times. Qualify for 6 8 and Partake of A Scripture That Changed My Life Temple Worship 2 0 Five members’ powerful experiences with the word of God. DON’T BE A DUMMY STANDARDSARE YOUR SHRINKING?

IF IT’S TOO TIGHT, TOO SHORT, OR TOO REVEALING, A MANNEQUIN WEARS WHATEVER THE WORLD IS SELLING. YOUR STANDARDS ARE HIGHER THANDON’T THAT. STRETCHIT DOESN’T YOUR FITSTANDARDS CHURCH STANDARDS. TO FIT THE WORLD’S. (SEE FOR THE STRENGTH OF YOUTH, 14–16.) 28 52

Standards: One Size Fits All 2 5 DEBBIE TWIGGER In one stake in England, adults recognize that the standards in For the Strength of Youth apply to them as well. A Longing for Peace Modesty: A Timeless Principle for All 52 NAME WITHHELD 2 8 SILVIA H. ALLRED A woman who suffered abuse as a child shares her path Why modesty matters. to healing.

Daddy, Do Not Leave Me Here Way Beyond the Help-Wanted Ads 3 4 BRENT A. BARLOW 5 8 JENNIFER WILLIAMS A pioneer father had been forced to leave the grave of his Looking for work or for a better job? Here’s an rstborn son 12 years earlier in Nauvoo. How would he be often-overlooked resource available to everyone. able to nd it?

DO YOU HAVE A STORY TO TELL? Walking in Their Footsteps In the October 2008 General Conference, Elder Robert D. Hales of the 3 7 SERENA KUGATH Why 111 days became important to our family. Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught about responding to criticism with “Christian courage.” Have you had an experience with demonstrat- ing Christian courage? What did you learn about the power of that kind Pioneers in Ghana of response? Please label your submission “Responding with Christian 4 0 Five artists depict the spirit of the Saints in Ghana. Courage” and submit it by July 31, 2009. We also welcome other submissions that show the gospel of Jesus Getting Beyond “Getting Through It” Christ at work in your life. You can nd this and other calls for articles 4 4 MELISSA MERRILL online at http://ensign.lds.org . I was so eager to return to everything familiar that I almost Ensign Magazine Writers’ Guidelines are posted on the same page missed out on everything new. under “Resources.” Send submissions to [email protected] or Ensign Editorial, 50 The Joseph Smith Papers: The Manuscript E. North Temple Street, Room 2420, Salt Lake City, UT 84150-3220, 4 6 Revelation Books USA. Include your name, address, telephone number, e-mail address, ELDER MARLIN K. JENSEN ward (or branch), and stake (or district). Because of the volume of This volume reproduces the earliest manuscripts of the submissions we receive, we cannot acknowledge receipt. Authors whose Prophet Joseph Smith’s revelations and translations. work is selected for publication will be noti ed. If you would like your manuscript, photos, art, or other material returned, please include a self- addressed, stamped envelope.

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AN OFFICIAL MAGAZINE OF THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SAINTS The First Presidency: Thomas S. Monson, Henry B. Eyring, Dieter F. Uchtdorf The Quorum of the Twelve Apostles: Boyd K. Packer, L. Tom Perry, Russell M. Nelson, Dallin H. Oaks, M. Russell Ballard, Richard G. Scott, Robert D. Hales, Jeffrey R. Holland, David A. Bednar, Quentin L. Cook, D. Todd Christofferson, Neil L. Andersen Editor: Spencer J. Condie Advisers: Gary J. Coleman, Kenneth Johnson, Yoshihiko Kikuchi, W. Douglas Shumway Managing Director: David L. Frischknecht Editorial Director: Victor D. Cave Graphics Director: Allan R. Loyborg Managing Editor: Don L. Searle Assistant Managing Editor: LaRene Porter Gaunt Senior Editors: Matthew D. Flitton, Larry Hiller, Michael R. Morris, Judith M. 20 69 Paller, Joshua J. Perkey Assistant Editor: Melissa Merrill Editorial Staff: Susan Barrett, Ryan Carr, Jenifer L. Greenwood, R. Val Johnson, USING THIS ISSUE DEPARTMENTS GOSPEL TOPICS IN THIS ISSUE Adam C. 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First Presidency Message Sugar Beets and the Worth of a Soul By President Thomas S. Monson

any years ago, Bishop Marvin O. Others are torn by the tide of turbulent Ashton (1883–1946), who served times. Yet others are drawn down and Mas a counselor in the Presiding drowned in the whirlpool of sin. Bishopric, gave an illustration I’d like to This need not be. We have the doctrines share with you. Picture with me, if you will, of truth. We have the programs. We have a farmer driving a large open-bed truck filled the people. We have the power. Our mis- with sugar beets en route to the sugar refin- sion is more than meetings. Our service is ery. As the farmer drives along a bumpy dirt to save souls. road, some of the sugar beets bounce from the truck and are strewn along the roadside. Our Service: Save Souls When he realizes he has lost some of the The Lord emphasized the worth of each The sugar beets beets, he instructs his helpers, “There’s just as man or woman, youth or child when He represent the mem- much sugar in those which have slipped off. declared: bers of this Church Let’s go back and get them!” “The worth of souls is great in the sight for whom we who In my application of this illustration, the of God. . . . are called as leaders sugar beets represent the members of this “And if it so be that you should labor all have responsibility. Church for whom we who are called as your days in crying repentance unto this I say of these souls: leaders have responsibility; and those that people, and bring, save it be one soul unto “There’s just as much have fallen out of the truck represent men me, how great shall be your joy with him in value in those who and women, youth and children who, for the kingdom of my Father! have slipped off. Let’s whatever reason, have fallen from the path of “And now, if your joy will be great with go back and get activity. Paraphrasing the farmer’s comments one soul that you have brought unto me into them!” concerning the sugar beets, I say of these the kingdom of my Father, how great will be souls, precious to our Father and our Master: your joy if you should bring many souls unto “There’s just as much value in those who me!” (D&C 18:10, 15–16). have slipped off. Let’s go back and get them!” Remember that you are entitled to our Right now, today, some of them are Father’s blessings in this work. He did not

i d N e w man photograph by D av i ons by Jeff Ward; Illustrat caught in the current of popular opinion. call you to your privileged post to walk

Ensign JULY 2009 5 ichard alone, without guidance, trusting to luck. On Lessons Engraved on the Heart said that the contrary, He knows your skill, He realizes Should you become discouraged in R the turning your devotion, and He will convert your sup- your efforts, remember that sometimes the point in his life was posed inadequacies to recognized strengths. Lord’s timetable does not coincide with when his bishop He has promised: “I will go before your face. ours. When I was a bishop many years ago, found him hiding I will be on your right hand and on your left, one of the leaders of the young women, in a grease pit and and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and Jessie Cox, came to me and said, “Bishop, helped him to return mine angels round about you, to bear you I am a failure!” When I asked why she felt to activity. up” (D&C 84:88). this way, she said, “I haven’t been able to Primary leaders, do you know the get any of my Mutual girls married in the children you are serving? Young Women temple, as a good teacher would have. I’ve leaders, do you know your young women? tried my very best, but my best apparently Aaronic Priesthood leaders, do you wasn’t good enough.” know the young men? Relief Society and I tried to console Jessie by telling her that Melchizedek Priesthood leaders, do you I, as her bishop, knew that she had done know the women and men over whom you all she could. And as I followed those girls have been called to preside? Do you under- through the years, I found that each one was stand their problems and their perplexi- eventually sealed in the temple. If the lesson ties, their yearnings, ambitions, and hopes? is engraved on the heart, it is not lost. Do you know how far they have traveled, I have learned as I have watched faith- the troubles they have experienced, the ful servants like Jessie Cox that each leader burdens they have carried, the sorrows they can be a true shepherd, serving under the have borne? direction of our great and Good Shepherd, I encourage you to reach out to those you privileged to lead and cherish and care for serve and to love them. When you really love those who know and love His voice (see those you serve, they will not find themselves John 10:2–4). in that dreaded “Never, Never Land”—never the object of concern, never the recipient of Seeking the Wandering Sheep needed aid. It may not be your privilege to May I share an additional experience I open gates of cities or doors of palaces, but had as a bishop. I noted one Sunday morning true happiness and lasting joy will come to that Richard, one of our priests who seldom you and to each one you serve as you take attended, was again missing from priesthood a hand and reach a heart. meeting. I left the quorum in the care of the adviser and visited Richard’s home. His mother said he was working at a local garage servicing automobiles. I drove to the garage in search of Richard and looked everywhere but could not find him. Suddenly, I had the inspiration to gaze down into the old- fashioned grease pit situated at the side of the building. From the darkness I could see two shining names will forever be honored by those whom we reach. eyes. I heard Richard say, “You found me, Bishop! I’ll With all my heart I pray that our Heavenly Father come up.” As Richard and I visited, I told him how much will ever guide us as we strive to serve and to save His we missed him and needed him. I elicited a commitment children. ◼ from him to attend his meetings. His activity improved dramatically. He and his family eventually moved away, but two years later I received an Ideas for Home Teachers invitation to speak in Richard’s ward before he left on a fter prayerfully studying this message, share it using a method mission. In his remarks that day, Richard said that the turn- Athat encourages the participation of those you teach. Following ing point in his life was when his bishop found him hiding are some examples: in a grease pit and helped him to return to activity. 1. For a family with small children, read the section “Seeking My dear brothers and sisters, ours is the responsibil- the Wandering Sheep.” Ask the children to describe what Richard ity, even the solemn duty, to reach out to all of those might have looked like when he was in the grease pit. Then have whose lives we have been called to touch. Our duty is to them describe how Richard would look as a missionary. Ask the guide them to the celestial kingdom of God. May we ever family, “Why do you think it was important for the bishop to look remember that the mantle of leadership is not the cloak of for Richard?” Conclude by reading Doctrine and Covenants 18:10, comfort but rather the robe of responsibility. May we reach 15–16. out to rescue those who need our help and our love. 2. As you begin the lesson, drop a few coins on the floor. Ask, As we succeed, as we bring a woman or man, a girl or “Would it be important for me to pick up the coins? Why?” As you boy back into activity, we will be answering a wife’s or pick them up, explain that people have infinitely more value than the sister’s or mother’s fervent prayer, helping fulfill a hus- coins. Tell the sugar beet story. Ask how we can help “take a hand band’s or brother’s or father’s greatest desire. We will be and reach a heart” to bring people back into Church activity. honoring a loving Father’s direction and following an obe- dient Son’s example (see John 12:26; D&C 59:5). And our

Ensign JULY 2009 7 Am I of Worth? By Emily Thevenin

rowing up, I always enjoyed being involved in fully who I really am. I have learned, and continue to activities. I played sports, participated in clubs, learn each day, that my worth does not depend on my Gworked hard in school, and attended seminary abilities but is founded in the fact that I am His child. and church activities. My participation and success in these I continue to have days when I am discouraged, and I turn activities played a major role in how I viewed myself. As to the story of Job to give me comfort and direction. Despite a missionary in Ireland, I continued to evaluate myself unimaginable difficulties and being judged and misunderstood according to my efforts and relative success. I was blessed by friends, he continued to praise God (see Job 16; 19:14). with the strength to work hard and complete my mission. While overwhelmed with grief, Job proclaimed, “Though he slay Upon returning home, I went back to school and envel- me, yet will I trust in him” ( Job 13:15). oped myself in activities. I find comfort in knowing that Job experi- Shortly thereafter I began to feel very ill. After enced difficulties despite his faithfulness. The I knew where seeing many doctors and undergoing expensive story of Job teaches me that my illness is not tests and painful surgeries, I learned I had a chronic I was going a punishment from God, and that serving as physical illness. Despite my attempts to go on living with my a missionary and living right does not entitle a busy and active life, the illness caught up with me. education, me to a life free of pain and difficulty. The That was more than five years ago. I now career, and health problems I have do not make me less experience constant pain and fatigue, and I future family. valuable to my Heavenly Father. In life we are have forgotten what it feels like to be healthy. How could often rewarded for our accomplishments, our Medications reduce my pain, but they also leave I deal with work, our talents, and our abilities. I now find me unable to do much of anything; some days a chronic comfort in knowing that the Lord will bless me I am not even able to get out of bed. There are illness? for my righteous desires despite my current times when I feel I have lost a significant part physical weakness. of my identity. How can I be of worth if I can’t I I lean on the Lord for support and guidance even get out of bed? in my illness all the time. It is inspiring to feel the impres- As a youth I learned about individual worth. Now I’m sions of the Holy Ghost and know that Heavenly Father is really being tested as to the source of my worth. Is it based teaching me. Through the gift of the Holy Ghost, He gives on my accomplishments, or is it based on the truth that I am a me peace, love, and assurance. I know by these specific child of God? When faced with feelings of inadequacy, I seek impressions that I am of worth. Even if some days all I am guidance through conversing with my Heavenly Father as able to do is lie in bed and pray that the pain lessens, it is well as reading and pondering the scriptures. comforting to know that He cares. I have often asked the Lord if I am still important. As a result of my trials, I am learning a powerful truth— After much prayer and scripture study I have learned that I am a child of God. Now, instead of feeling empty and

Heavenly Father’s closeness helps me understand more alone, I am filled with His love. ◼ Photogra p h by John R ees

8 ensign July 2009 9 “If Thou Endure It Well”

BY ELDER FRANCISCO J. VIÑAS Of the Seventy As we endure our trials and af ictions with diligence, faith- fulness, and prayers of faith, we can learn to have joy through— and despite—our suffering.

ne of the greatest blessings my fam- ily and I have enjoyed was opening O the Argentina Salta Mission. My wife, Cristina, and I arrived on January 1, 1988, with our three children, who were then 13 years, 8 years, and 9 months old. At the time we were expecting our fourth child. A few weeks after arriving, and before we had even settled fully into the city where we

10 would spend the next few years, my wife began to hemor- Argentina to do His will, and we would accept whatever rhage. In the middle of the night, we had to hurry off in He decided. We learned that trials are easier to endure search of a hospital. when we diligently serve the Lord. During that long night the words of the Lord to the Prophet Joseph Smith while he was in Liberty Jail came to Faithfulness my mind: When we strive to keep the commandments, our faith “My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and serves as an anchor that gives us power to move forward and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment; strength to battle adversity. When the doctor tending Cristina “And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt told me there was nothing he could do to stop her from hem- thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes” orrhaging, I asked him if I could enter her room and give her (D&C 121:7–8). a priesthood blessing. A few minutes after the blessing, the Further, the Lord said, “And if thou shouldst be cast hemorrhaging stopped, and her condition began to improve. into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the The Lord gave us the following warning, which I sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into understood better than ever at that moment: “Be diligent the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if in keeping all my commandments, lest judgments come fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather upon you, and your faith fail you, and your enemies tri- blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up umph over you” (D&C 136:42). the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that Prayers of Faith all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good” (D&C 122:7). When sore trials came upon you, I had read and pondered those verses many times, and Did you think to pray? I had used them to provide counsel and comfort to family When your soul was full of sorrow, members and Church members affected by adversity, but Balm of Gilead did you borrow at that moment those words were for me. It was then that I At the gates of day? 1 came to clearly understand that the Lord’s promises about the briefness of adversity, the exaltation that would come, Prayers of faith give us the strength necessary to get and the experience we would gain all hinge on a key through our afflictions. I remember the powerful prayer phrase: “if thou endure it well.” of Alma that gave him and those with him “strength, that How can we endure well the suffering that can come they should suffer no manner of afflictions, save it were from adversity? During the hours that my wife lay in the swallowed up in the joy of Christ. Now this was according hospital, and at other times when adversity has knocked to the prayer of Alma; and this because he prayed in faith” at our door, our family has learned three basic principles (Alma 31:38). that help us endure and overcome. They are found in a I am grateful that Sister Viñas made a complete recovery. revelation given to Joseph Smith: “All victory and glory is The years that followed were ones of incredible joy for our brought to pass unto you through your diligence, faithful- family as we worked with faithful and loyal missionaries in ness, and prayers of faith” (D&C 103:36). sharing the gospel in Argentina. Similar to the missionary experiences of Ammon and his brothers (see Alma 28:8), Diligence our journeyings, sufferings, sorrows, and afflictions in the Adversity can come to us even if we are diligently Argentina Salta Mission led us to incomprehensible joy. serving the Lord. We know, however, that He is “merciful We came to know that as we endure our trials and afflic- and gracious unto those who fear [Him], and delight[s] to tions with diligence, faithfulness, and prayers of faith, we can honor those who serve [Him] in righteousness and in truth learn to have joy through—and despite—our suffering. ◼ unto the end” (D&C 76:5). Note

obert McKay i on by R obert Illustrat That night we put our trust in the Lord. We were in 1. “Did You Think to Pray?” Hymns, no 140.

ensign July 2009 11 Our Family BY MARSHA JOHNSON

s our oldest child approached high school age, In our individual faith-developing experiences, at times our concern for our children increased when we we may need to carry or be carried by our family, and A considered the prevalence of peer pressure and that’s how it should be. As we experience trials of faith social groups pushing agendas inconsistent with Church and even everyday life challenges, we have a built-in standards. I often thought about this, wondering how we support network to rely on for strength. could help our children better understand Church doc- trines, particularly those concerning the family. 2. Use It or Lose It One day I realized that the answers we sought could When we  nished memorizing, we did not know be found in “The Family: A Proclamation to the World.” 1 I what to do next. So we did nothing. After a couple of knew that if our children understood the proclamation, they months we tried to recite the proclamation. Though we could con dently defend the Lord’s de nition of the family. got through, it was painful: our memories were shaky. To At family home evening, I presented a proposal to regain and retain what we had learned, we decided to start memorize the proclamation as a family. After some grum- reciting it each Sunday evening. This is a lot like our faith: bling, everyone agreed. we need to be actively involved in keeping our faith alive, Every Monday evening we had a lesson about a para- or it will weaken from lack of use. graph or sentence of the proclamation, followed by a memo- rization activity. Each morning during family scripture study 3. Hard Work Passes, but the Good Remains we would recite all that we had memorized to that point. As I re ected on the year it took to memorize the family It took almost a year, but we memorized the entire fam- proclamation, I could only remember a few of the memoriza- ily proclamation together. Although this might not be pos- tion activities we did, despite all the time and effort we put sible for every family, it has proven a blessing for ours. True into our study. The same was true for the rest of the family. to our concerns, our children have been exposed to activi- Living the gospel requires a lot of hard work. In the end we ties, debates, and friends that do not support the Lord’s may not remember all the speci cs, but we still have the view of the family. I am so grateful to know that they have blessings we gain along the way. the words of the Lord’s chosen servants when needed. In addition to teaching my children, this process taught 4. Effort Brings Blessings me some important lessons about developing faith in Our initial purpose for learning the proclamation as a Christ as a family. family was to prepare our children with the knowledge they would need to respond appropriately when others 1. We’re Here for Each Other challenged them on gospel principles. Although we were At times one or more of us stumbled over the words particularly concerned about challenges to the traditional we were trying to memorize. The rest of us were able to views of the family, such as same-gender attraction, our

carry on the recitation until everyone was back on track. study has blessed us in many ways, some of which were HENRIE BY CARY PHOTO ILLUSTRATION

12 unexpected. Most important of all, we have become closer Be constructive in your comments to a child—always.” 2 and stronger as a family through this process. The world is not likely to teach our children about God’s plan for families or to have faith in Jesus Christ. Nor can we 5. Tenderness Over Temper expect the few hours of instruction received at church on In 40-plus weeks of family home evenings, we experi- Sundays to provide us with deep, abiding faith. Instruction enced the full gamut of patience and frustration, joy and must happen at home to be truly embedded in our hearts. anger. We always learned lessons better and felt a greater As the end of Joshua’s life was approaching, he called all sense of love when we were gentle and tender rather than Israel together to remind them of the great things the Lord impatient and grumpy. In the April 2007 general conference, had done for them. Joshua’s well-known invitation was to Elder Jeffrey R. Holland spoke about how we ought to use “choose you this day whom ye will serve” ( Joshua 24:15 ). our tongues for good. He said, “We must be so careful in We, like Joshua, can call our families together to teach speaking to a child. What we say or don’t say, how we say them the Lord’s words and say, as Joshua did, “As for me it and when is so very, very important in shaping a child’s and my house, we will serve the Lord” ( Joshua 24:15 ). ◼ view of himself or herself. But it is even more important NOTES 1. See Ensign , Nov. 1995, 102. in shaping that child’s faith in us and their faith in God. 2. Jeffrey R. Holland, “The Tongue of Angels,” Ensign , Apr. 2007, 16–18.

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Scripture Stories as Patterns for Our Lives

BY ELDER JAY E. JENSEN Of the Presidency of the Seventy

s young parents reading the scriptures seminary and institute program, would be with our children, my wife and I visiting our classes that day. We knew that A struggled to make these holy words we had only to invite him to say a few things come alive and have meaning to them. to the students and he would take a good Sometimes we had successful experiences, portion of the class time. Such was the case and other times we did not. One morning when he came into my Old Testament class one of our children said, “Dad, this is bor- that morning. He took a piece of chalk in I have been led ing! I don’t understand what we’re reading.” hand and began with the story of David and to a signi cant Perhaps you have had similar experiences. Goliath. Within seconds he had the class’s scripture study Fortunately, since then I have been led to a full attention, but more important, I knew I pattern that can signi cant scripture study pattern that has was watching a master teacher at work as he help us better helped us individually and as a family to taught the class and me a pattern to make understand the better understand the scriptures. the scriptures relevant using a concept I call scriptures. “bridging the gap.” Bridging the Gap Imagine a bridge. One side of the bridge is I learned this pattern when I was in my anchored in the past and is made up of three second year of teaching in the seminary parts: (1) they—the prophets and people of program of the Church. We were informed the past, (2) there—the place where these that Leland Andersen, a master teacher people lived, and (3) then—the time period and a professional in-service trainer in the when they lived.

14 We can bridge the gap between scripture stories and our lives by recognizing the parallels between the two.

ILLUSTRATIONS BY RICHARD HULL BY RICHARD HULL ILLUSTRATIONS

ENSIGN JULY 2009 15 The other side of the bridge is anchored in the present of David and Goliath. First, he took us to 1 Samuel 17 and is made up of three parallel parts: (1) I—who and pointed out the setting of the con ict between the live in the present, (2) here—the place where I live, and Israelites and the Philistines. He reminded us of the chal- (3) now—the time period I live in. lenge to  nd someone in Israel to  ght Goliath. Full of The goal is to build a bridge from they-there-then to faith, young David volunteered. In that narrative, Brother I-here-now, identifying common parallels between their Andersen identi ed a pattern consisting of four phrases day and ours. from that chapter that parallel our day. They created a Here’s how Brother Andersen did it as he told the story bridge from the past to the present (see table 1).

TABLE 1. PROVING GOD’S ARMOR IN HIS CAUSE (SEE 1 SAMUEL 17)

Verses Phrases from the Scriptures Parallels to Our Day

3 7 “He will deliver me.” The Lord will deliver us today.

3 9 “I have not proved them [the armor].” What armor have I proved, or tested?

4 5 “I come to thee in the name of the Lord.” As covenant people, we come and go in the name of the Lord.

“All the earth may know that 4 6 Our purpose is to help others know there is a God in Israel. there is a God in Israel.”

16 What the Savior experienced as He started His ministry has become for me a true pattern for spiritual growth, a pattern that is found in many other scripture stories, including the experiences of Lehi and Joseph Smith.

Identifying Story Parallels He fasted 40 days and 40 nights and went into the wilder- We can follow the same pattern in our teaching. ness to commune with God (see Joseph Smith Translation, Identifying story parallels is a spiritual matter. As you read Matthew 4:1–11 ). What He experienced has become for and study the scriptures, pray often. Pray before you begin me a true pattern for spiritual growth: studying and, of course, following a study session. Pause • He sensed His sacred responsibility and sought com- at times as you study, and express gratitude for what you munion with God. are learning. Ask for additional light and truth. When you • Revelation and enlightenment came to Him. are reading stories from the scriptures, pray to nd paral- • He was severely tested. lels that will link the past to the present. Most of those that • Passing the test, He proceeded with increased light I have found came through praying, studying, searching, and truth. 1 pondering, and listening to the Spirit. This pattern is found in many other scripture stories. For Brother Andersen developed each of four parallels from example, Lehi sought help (see 1 Nephi 1:5 ); help came the account of David and Goliath by emphasizing the key (see 1 Nephi 1:6 ); he was severely tested (see 1 Nephi phrases, and then he illustrated them with examples from 1:19–20 ); and he proceeded with increased light and truth today. Watching a master teacher develop these four points (see 1 Nephi 2:1 ). opened a door to scripture study for me—that of searching The Prophet Joseph Smith experienced a similar pattern: for a pattern of parallels in stories. • He sought communion (Which church is true?). BY DALE KILBOURN JOSEPH SMITH SEEKS WISDOM FROM THE BIBLE, The following elements are normally present in scripture • An answer came after he read James 1:5 and prayed. stories and can easily be transferred with relevance to our day: • He was severely tested. 1. A story line is followed. • He passed the test and proceeded with increased 2. The story line has a beginning and an ending. light and truth. 3. Phrases or sentences from the story are principles While I have had many experiences in my life that that illustrate eternal truths. follow this pattern, my call as a member of the Seventy

BY MICHAEL JARVIS NELSON; BY MICHAEL JARVIS LISTENING, 4. These phrases or sentences depict truths applicable is illustrative. The call came the rst week of June 1992, both in the past and in our day. and my rst assignment was to serve as a member of the Central America Area Presidency beginning on August 1. A Story Parallel from the New Testament During my vacation time in July, I immersed myself in One of the most useful illustrations of a story line the scriptures, especially the Book of Mormon, and spent came to me as I helped write a New Testament lesson for hours studying, praying, and pondering to help me pre-

RIGHT: PAINTING BY JERRY THOMPSON; BY JERRY PAINTING RIGHT: seminary teachers. When the Savior started His ministry, pare and overcome my feelings of inadequacy.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 17 Based on Matthew 4:1–11 and the Joseph Smith Trans lation counsel and direction. His standing in the Church was of Matthew 4:1–11 , the parallels shown in table 2 came to me. in jeopardy, and his confession to me, a judge in Israel, The Joseph Smith Translation of Matthew 4:11 differs would help him in the repentance process. A story parallel substantively from Matthew 4:11 ; however, the truth taught from Alma 36 helped this ward member begin to repent in the latter—“angels came and ministered unto him”—is a (see table 3). true principle. Note that after Alma was forgiven, he did not remem- You, too, may examine your own life and re ect on times ber his pains, nor was he harrowed up by his sins. How- when you have gone through this pattern of spiritual growth. ever, he did remember his sins (see v. 16). But when he remembered them, he was not troubled by them. The A Story Parallel from the Book of Mormon Lord grants us a memory of sins to help prevent them While I was serving as a bishop, a ward member who from happening again, but He does take away the pain had committed a serious transgression came to me seeking and hurt.

TABLE 2. A PATTERN FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH (SEE MATTHEW 4)

Verses Phrases from the Scriptures Parallels to Our Day

The Savior sensed His sacred I sensed my sacred responsibility and 1 responsibility and sought to sought to commune with God. commune with God.

1 He communed with God. Enlightenment came as I studied, fasted, pondered, and prayed.

3–10 He was tempted and challenged. I was challenged with feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness.

The Holy Ghost comforted, taught, enlightened, and 1 1 Angels ministered to Him. strengthened me to go forward with divine assistance.

18 TABLE 3. REPENTANCE AND FORGIVENESS (SEE ALMA 36)

Verses Phrases from the Scriptures Parallels to Our Day

Alma went about seeking to 6 This member went about sinning. destroy the Church.

6–11 God sent His angel to stop Alma. He was caught in his sin.

Alma was struck with fear; he 11–16 He was tormented, afraid, remorseful, and penitent. was racked with torment.

Alma remembered to have heard his He remembered that his father and mother had taught 1 7 father prophesy of the Atonement. him about the Atonement in family home evening.

1 8 Alma prayed for mercy. He prayed for forgiveness.

1 9 Alma could remember his pains no more. He felt no more pains for his sins.

21–23 Alma received joy, light, and strength. He received joy, light, and strength.

2 4 Alma labored without ceasing to save souls. He labored to save souls.

2 7 Alma was supported in his trials. He was supported in his trials.

For Our Pro t and Learning people who lived in the past—they-there-then— and us in Story parallels begin with stories in the scriptures or our day—I-here-now. Perhaps this is what Nephi meant from the events surrounding them. As you read and study when he said that he “did liken all scriptures unto us, that these stories, you will see a word, a phrase, or a principle it might be for our pro t and learning” ( 1 Nephi 19:23 ). that seems as applicable today as it was in the past. As Furthermore, by so doing we are treasuring up the Lord’s you continue your prayerful study, other principles will words (see Joseph Smith—Matthew 1:37 ). ◼ become apparent. As you put the principles together, you NOTE 1. See Life and Teachings of Jesus (Church Educational System manual, will begin to bridge the gap between the prophets and 1974), 41.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 19 A Scripture That Changed My Life

Ancient and modern prophets have taught about the power that can come into our lives as we read and study the word of God. These members of the Church share experiences about specific verses that have influenced them. Photogra p h by Craig Dimon d

20 Preparation for “Great and THE POWER Mormon and teachings of the Church, Mighty Things” OF THE WORD I recognized the clear, true doctrine of Five years ago I was an active Christ as I understood it according to member of another church. I had been “Success in the Bible. I continued to meet with the reading the Bible frequently, and I was righteousness, the missionaries and asked a lot of ques- growing in my knowledge and testi- power to avoid tions, despite opposition from friends. mony of the Savior. deception and During this time Jeremiah 33:3 again Several times while I was reading resist temptation, guidance in our came to my attention a number of the Bible, Jeremiah 33:3 came to my daily lives, healing of the soul— times—especially when I prayed for attention. It says: “Call unto me, and these are but a few of the promises con rmation of the validity of the mis- I will answer thee, and shew thee the Lord has given to those who will sionaries’ message. I came to realize that great and mighty things, which thou come to His word. Does the Lord the missionaries were not only fellow knowest not.” Shortly after this I met promise and not ful ll? Surely if He Christians, but they were also the key the missionaries from The Church of tells us that these things will come to the “great and mighty things” God Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. To my to us if we lay hold upon His word, wanted to show me—including the surprise, they expressed a sincere testi- then the blessings can be ours. And message that the Lord Jesus Christ has mony of the Savior and also introduced if we do not, then the blessings may restored His Church in our dispensation me to the Book of Mormon. I had not be lost. However diligent we may be through the Prophet Joseph Smith. known that the Book of Mormon was in other areas, certain blessings are I joined the Church on May 14, 2005, “Another Testament of Jesus Christ” to be found only in the scriptures, opening new doors to my potential. and a record of God’s dealings with a only in coming to the word of the My testimony has increased as I have remnant of His people. Rather, many Lord and holding fast to it as we gained knowledge of the restored gos- of my uninformed friends and I had make our way through the mists of pel. I have also received blessings from questioned whether Mormons were darkness to the tree of life.” the Lord through His Church. Christian. But when I read the Book of President Ezra Taft Benson (1899–1994), Brad Godshall, Pennsylvania “The Power of the Word,” Ensign, May 1986, 79.

Jeremiah 33:3 Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 21 I Will Go and Do commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no command- At the end of December 1995 I discovered that I was ments unto the children of men, save he shall prepare a pregnant. My husband and I were not prepared for this way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he news and wondered how we would provide for this child commandeth them.” No sooner had I completed reading as well as for the rest of our young family. Our budget this verse when another thought came to my mind: “This was already stretched beyond its limits. I felt unquali ed applies to children too.” to handle this challenge. I realized I needed Heavenly It then struck me: to multiply and replenish the earth was Father’s guiding hand in my life and more strength than I a commandment! I read the verse again with this speci c could generate on my own. commandment in mind. The revelation In the past my scripture study could came that somehow Heavenly Father was have been described as sporadic. But as going to help us accomplish feeding, cloth- we were coming upon a new year with ing, educating, and providing for another new opportunities for change and growth, child. I shared this newly discovered I decided to rededicate myself to daily revelation with my husband. My faith that scripture study so I could have the Lord’s Heavenly Father’s hand was guiding—and power and in uence in my life. would continue to guide—my life, was ILLUSTRATION BY CLARK KELLEY PRICE ILLUSTRATION On January 3, 1996, I was reading the bolstered. I didn’t know how He was going third chapter of 1 Nephi. I came upon verse 7. I knew to do it, but I knew that He would , and I could put my trust that verse by heart. I had memorized it in seminary. I had in that. sung about it countless times as a Primary teacher during After several years and the birth of another child, I can singing time. So I skimmed it quickly before moving on to say that Heavenly Father has held up His part of the cove- verse 8. Then a thought interrupted my reading: “Go back nant. He has been there to help us provide for, care for, and and read verse 7.” I did. educate our children. I know that He will always be there to It said, “And it came to pass that I, Nephi, said unto my help us accomplish what He commands us to do. father: I will go and do the things which the Lord hath Sheri L. Wilson, Utah

1 Nephi 3:7 And it came to pass that I, Nephi, said unto my father: I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them.

22 A Source of Strength through this verse, He was speaking directly to me. From that As a person suffering from a chronic illness, I often point, rather than being held back by a debilitating disease, I struggled to stay positive when I felt I could do much was able to accept that through my illness, I can learn to be more if I were t and healthy. Then I came across much closer to Heavenly Father. Living life at a pace that is 2 Corinthians 12:9–10 , and it literally changed my life. slower than what most people experience allows me more The verses read, “My grace is suf cient for thee: for my time to pray, study, and meditate. As I rely on those aspects of strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly there- the gospel, I draw nearer to the Source of strength and hope. fore will I glory in my in rmities, that the power of Christ My situation has also helped me to be more aware of may rest upon me. and sensitive to others’ suffering. This helps me “glory in “Therefore I take pleasure in in rmities, in reproaches, my in rmities” rather then dwell negatively on them. This in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s attitude adjustment, which came from studying the scrip- sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.” tures, has truly been life-changing. I felt that the Lord knew of my frustrations and that Name Withheld

2 Corinthians 12:9–10 “My grace is suf cient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weak- ness. . . . Therefore I take pleasure in in rmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong. Real Peace eternal life in the world to come.” Life can be full of anxiety. For me, anxiety came from I have learned that doing “the works of righteousness” family health concerns, the instability of employment in does not mean holding the right position or having a lot the industry in which I worked, and losing a daughter to of money. It is living by the Spirit. Doing so has led me childbirth complications. I sorely needed peace in my life, to a simpler life. I now work in a different, less-stressful so I turned to the scriptures. industry and am enjoying the basics of life, like gardening Many scriptures speak of peace, but a verse I have and spending time with my grandchildren. I am grateful to found particularly helpful is Doctrine and Covenants 59:23 : have learned that in catching my breath and following the “But learn that he who doeth the works of righteousness promptings of the Holy Ghost, I can nd true peace. shall receive his reward, even peace in this world, and Joseph Brierley, Utah

D&C 59:23 But learn that he who doeth the works of righteousness shall receive his reward, even peace in this world, and eternal life in the world to come.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 23 Appreciation for the Savior throne shall feed them, and shall lead them unto living I set a goal at the beginning of 2007 to read the entire fountains of waters: and God shall wipe away all tears New Testament and write answers to the questions in from their eyes.” the New Testament Member Study Guide in my scripture I felt a warm, comforting feeling and received a wit- journal each week. It was a meaningful experience for me ness that no matter what I am called to suffer in this throughout the year and helped me to learn more from the life, the Atonement of Jesus Christ will make it right. New Testament. No matter how dif cult my circumstances, “God shall That year was dif cult for me. I started the year preg- wipe away all tears from [my] eyes.” nant, but I had a miscarriage in early January. After months This scripture changed my outlook and gave me hope. of trying, I became pregnant I felt a new appreciation for the again, only to have another mis- Savior Jesus Christ and a new joy carriage. As the week of Christmas in celebrating His birth. approached, I fought feelings of This experience also helped me frustration and depression. HELPS FOR HOME EVENING to see the value of regular scripture That same week I began to Read and discuss the stories from the study. When we open the scrip- read the book of Revelation. It article. Have each family member write down tures and our hearts, we nd what had always seemed mysterious a favorite scripture. Read these scriptures and we need for our individual situ- and dif cult to understand, and guess which person wrote it down. Invite each ations. When we study the scrip- I felt intimidated. One morning person to share why their scripture is meaning- tures, we give the Holy Ghost an I read chapter 7. As I read verse ful to them and how they have found “power opportunity to testify of truth and 17, the Spirit touched me, and I in the word.” Conclude by reading the quote by bring us closer to Heavenly Father began to cry. It reads, “For the President Ezra Taft Benson. and Jesus Christ. Lamb which is in the midst of the Olivia Dahl Cobián, Nevada ◼

Revelation 7:17 For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them, and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters: and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.

24 STANDARDS: ONE SIZE FITS ALL

Adults in one stake in England are discovering for themselves the blessings that come from paying closer attention to For the Strength of Youth.

BY DEBBIE TWIGGER

arah Edwards, Emily Bowles, and Eleanor McKee love shopping, and when they hit the clothes S shops in Northampton, England, these young Latter-day Saint women take both cash and a certain booklet. That same booklet guides their parents when buying clothes or looking for a lm to view. In the Northampton England Stake, adults as well as teens are taking For the Strength of Youth to heart. It has helped parents evaluate the lms and TV programs they watch and the activities they participate in. It has helped others to live the Sabbath more fully and enjoyably with their families. In fact, the adults of the stake have begun to call it “For the Strength of You ” because it applies equally to them. President Clive Joliffe, who was released as the stake president last year, says, “We discussed and prayed about helping families progress in the gospel and helping to prepare our children for missions and temple marriage, and we were inspired to use the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet. We wanted the whole family to understand the standards that would bring happiness and joy to all mem- bers of the family.” Youth in the stake have noticed—and appreciate—the PHOTOGRAPHS BY SIMON JONES JONES SIMON BY PHOTOGRAPHS ENSIGN JULY 2009 25 with a little sewing or by adding accessories. Charlotte, 19, adds, “Hannah and I never felt that our parents made decisions for us. We knew that our parents followed the prophet and the Savior, and so by following our parents, we would always be living the teachings of the Savior too.” Sarah Edwards, Eleanor McKee, and Emily Bowles have A number of adults say that in addition to providing found For the Strength of Youth to be a handy guide when standards of modesty and wise media choices, the booklet they shop for clothes. benefits them by helping them pay attention to prophetic counsel on Sabbath observance. Sue Preece, Relief Society president in the Kettering Ward, sees For the Strength of difference this emphasis has made in their own families. Youth as a “tool for us to use as we strive for perfection. “It’s really important to uphold standards, and as youth We don’t stop needing those guidelines when we reach 18. we look up to adults, so For the Strength of Youth reminds They prompt me into evaluating how I am doing, and there them of the standards we should all live,” says Eleanor have been some changes made in my life that can only McKee, 19. “It’s good for all of us to be reminded of what bring me closer to my Father in Heaven. For example, the is expected of us and to make sure there are no double Sabbath has become a real oasis to me, just by my making standards.” a minor change in the way that I observe this day.” Seventeen-year-old Daniel Kitsell, of the Huntingdon Sister A. J. Hough, also of the Kettering Ward, tells of Ward, adds, “I like For the Strength of Youth because it is how emphasis on For the Strength of Youth has helped her not just for the youth, but I know my parents are hearing it too, and it helps them keep the standards.” One family that has felt the effects of following this counsel is that of Bishop Richard Auger of the Banbury Ward; his wife, Gill; and their two daughters, Hannah and Charlotte, both recently married in the London England Temple. Bishop Auger, an inspector with Thames Valley Police, is very aware of the world’s poor standards and their effects on youth and their behavior. “Gill and I used For the Strength of Youth to learn about parenting so we could be consistent and based on the scriptures,” he says. “Throughout the girls’ teenage years, we used it as a ready guide and in many different ways. When the girls wanted to shop for their own clothes, it was a worry to us, so we sent them The Auger family—Charlotte, Gill, Richard, and Hannah— out with the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet so they have long recognized that it’s important for parents and could refer to it when making choices.” children to be on the same page where standards are Hannah, 21, says, “We kept the booklet in our purses as concerned. it states clearly what is and what isn’t appropriate.” The sis- ters learned they could make some clothing more modest

26 be a better parent: “Having three each other as children of our Heavenly Father.” teenagers, I wanted to ensure that There is no doubt the members of the Northampton I, too, was living the standards stake feel stronger as individuals and families by follow- completely. I was keen to find ing the guidelines in For the Strength of Youth. President ways I could ‘raise the bar’ and Joliffe sums up his feelings: “The pamphlet is inspired and set a good example. I decided is simply put so each of us can see clearly what Heavenly on the section on ‘Sabbath Father expects from His children. I have tried to live by Day Observance’ and have set the standards so that my children would be encouraged to myself new goals to improve follow my example. I have a strong testimony that we are the example I am personally. I blessed to have clear counsel on how we should live in hope I can be a better influence order to qualify for all the Father has for us.” ◼ to those I love the most—my When Josh Reynolds family. We now use the booklet faced a choice about during family home evening. And Sunday sports participa- whether we’re being creative tion, his parents’ good with our family activities or plan- IDEAS FOR USING FOR THE examples and teaching ning ahead to fully observe the STRENGTH OF YOUTH helped him make the Sabbath, we use these standards • Regularly read and discuss subjects from the booklet in right decision. to guide us.” family home evening. Those kinds of examples are • With the approval of your bishop or branch president, make not lost on the youth of the stake. the booklet a lesson topic for first-Sunday lessons in Relief Like many young men, 16-year- Society and priesthood quorum meetings. old priest Josh Reynolds, from the • Encourage family members to keep a copy with them to help Kettering Ward, loves football and found initial success as a them make correct choices. youngster. But conflict arose when he wanted to play along- • Base youth activities on the guidelines. side some of his friends on a local team whose matches • Use the guidelines as a theme were held on Sundays. “My mum and dad explained why for a single adult activity. and how as members of the Church we need to keep the • Refer to the guidelines when Sabbath day holy. I accepted this and after a while did not buying clothes, choosing a film, For the feel upset. I am extremely grateful to my parents for set- or planning activities. Strength of Youth ting a good example to me and teaching me to keep the • Have regular ward and stake Fullfilling Our Duty to God Sabbath day holy.” youth firesides based on subjects A parent of five children, Heather Slattery, of the from the booklet. Kettering Ward, says, “Sometimes as parents and adults we think of these standards as youth values and forget that we are just as susceptible to temp- tation as the young people are. For the Strength of Youth is a constant reminder that we need to hold on to the iron rod alongside our youth and work together, strengthening and supporting

ensign July 2009 27 Modesty: A Timeless Principle for All BY SILVIA H. ALLRED First Counselor in the Relief Society General Presidency

ne of the challenges members What Is Modesty? of The Church of Jesus Christ of The pamphlet For the Strength of Youth O Latter-day Saints face today is obey- offers basic guidelines for modesty. This ing principles of modesty in an increasingly booklet is valuable for both youth and immodest world. Dif cult though it may be, adults: “Immodest clothing includes short we can show our discipleship to the Savior shorts and skirts, tight clothing, shirts that Jesus Christ by obeying the Church’s stan- do not cover the stomach, and other reveal- The way we dress dards of modesty. Modesty encompasses ing attire. . . . Women should wear cloth- demonstrates our dress, language, thought, and personal con- ing that covers the shoulder and avoid understanding duct, but here I would like to focus on dress. clothing that is low-cut in the front or the of the gospel of Originally, the main purpose of clothing back or revealing in any other manner. . . . Jesus Christ. was to cover our bodies and protect them Men should also maintain modesty in their from the elements. Those purposes continue, appearance. All should avoid extremes in although clothing now serves more complex clothing, appearance, and hairstyle. Always purposes too. Today it can be an expression be neat and clean and avoid being sloppy of many things such as wealth, social status, or inappropriately casual in dress, groom- individuality, or belonging. But clothing also ing, and manners. Ask yourself, ‘Would I feel re ects our attitudes and values. For Latter- comfortable with my appearance if I were in day Saints, the way we dress demonstrates the Lord’s presence?’” 1 our understanding of and commitment to the Seek the guidance of the Spirit as you gospel of Jesus Christ. choose modest apparel. Additionally, as In a world that constantly tries to under- you consider the principles associated with mine our sense of who we are and what we modesty, you might also bene t from asking can become, observing the principle of mod- yourself speci c questions like these: esty can improve our con dence. By living • Am I exposing too much of my body and teaching this principle, we can help instill when I sit down, bend over, reach up,

that same con dence in the next generation. or climb stairs? SMITH CHRISTINA BY PHOTOGRAPH LUKE; JOHN BY PHOTOGRAPH PHOTOGRAPHY; BUSATH BY PHOTOGRAPH LEFT: FROM

28 DON’T BE A DUMMY ARE YOUR

STANDARDSSHRINKING?

A MANNEQUIN WEARS WHATEVER THE WORLD IS SELLING. YOUR STANDARDS ARE HIGHER THAN THAT.

IF IT’S TOO TIGHT, TOO SHORT, OR TOO REVEALING, IT DOESN’T FIT CHURCH STANDARDS. • Do I call attention to myself by wearing clothing DON’T STRETCH YOUR STANDARDS TO FIT THE WORLD’S. that is revealing or provocative? (SEE FOR THE STRENGTH OF YOUTH, 14–16.) • Do I need to adjust, tuck, or rearrange my temple garments in order to wear a particular item?

Why Modesty? When we better understand the doctrine behind the principles of modesty, we realize that modesty is the virtue From the beginning, the Lord has asked His children that guides and moderates action. to cover their bodies. After Adam and Eve partook of the The doctrine behind modesty begins with our knowl- forbidden fruit, their eyes were opened and they became edge that we are children of God, created in His image aware that they were naked. Adam and Eve tried to cover (see Moses 2:27 ). Our bodies are sacred gifts from themselves with simple aprons made of fi g leaves. But the Heavenly Father and have specifi c purposes that He has aprons were not enough, so the Lord made them more planned. As grateful recipients, we acknowledge this gift modest coats of skins. (See Genesis 3:7, 21 .) by treating our bodies as He has asked us to (see D&C God had a higher standard then, just as He does now. 88:33 ). We learn to train, control, and bridle our bodies His standards are not those of the world. As He says in and their physical uses to become like Heavenly Father. Isaiah 55:8–9 :

ENSIGN JULY 2009 29 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are purpose. Do we, like Moses, re ect our feelings of love for your ways my ways, saith the Lord. Heavenly Father by dressing appropriately for worship? “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are As these examples show, “prophets of God have always my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than counseled His children to dress modestly.” 2 In our own your thoughts.” time we have been reminded that “the way you dress is a re ection of what you are on the inside. Your dress and A Timeless Principle grooming send messages about you to others and in u- Because modesty is one of the Lord’s “higher ways” and ence the way you and others act. When you are well not a passing social trend, it has been taught throughout groomed and modestly dressed, you invite the compan- the ages. Consider these other scriptural examples about ionship of the Spirit and can exercise a good in uence clothing and what they teach us about modesty. on those around you.” 3 Modesty shows humility. The Book of Mormon prophet Jacob denounced pride and love of riches. He admon- ished his people to prevent their prideful hearts from destroying their souls. One of the ways they had showed their excessive pride was in their manner of dress. Jacob told them, DON’T “Because some of you have obtained more abundantly than that of your brethren ye are lifted up in the pride of your hearts, and wear SHORTCHANGE stiff necks and high heads because of the YOURSELF costliness of your apparel, and persecute your brethren because ye suppose that ye are bet- ter than they” ( Jacob 2:13 ). The idea of being humble in how we dress is further re ected in Doctrine and Covenants 42:40 : “Thou shalt not be proud in thy heart; let all thy garments be plain.” Does this mean that we cannot dress stylishly? No, we should dress appropriately for the occasion, but we should not consume ourselves with brand names or with always having the latest fashion. It is better to use  nancial resources for more lasting and meaningful purposes. The way we dress for worship shows our reverence for the Lord. The Lord asked Moses to prepare sacred clothing that would be worthy of use in His holy house (see Exodus 28:2 ). It is clear from this commandment that the Lord felt 15.) THE WAY YOU DRESS ADVERTISESFOR THE STRENGTHYOUR STANDARDS. OF YOUTH, SEND THE everyday clothing was inappropriate for such a RIGHT MESSAGE. (SEE

30 STANDARDS

Blessings Associated with Modesty One of the foremost blessings associated with modesty is an increased sense of con - dence. One sister shares the story of a friend who learned—and was blessed by—the principle of modesty in the course of learning about the gospel: “Several summers ago, a colleague attended church with me. She arrived at my home beforehand dressed in what is tradi- tional for our warm climate: a sleeveless sundress. I appreciated her sense of occa- sion in wearing a dress to church, and off we went. Other ward members welcomed her to our congregation, and she returned several times in the ensuing weeks. She even began attending home, family, and personal enrichment meetings and bring- YOU WILL NEVER OUTGROW THEM. (SEE JOHN 14:15 .) ing her several children to Primary and youth activities. During those midweek activities on those hot summer days, she usually wore a sleeveless blouse and shorts that reached mid-thigh. She was not vulgarly dressed, but it was apparent that she did not I thought it had to do with the oncoming yet understand Latter-day Saint standards. autumn weather, but I soon realized that she “After several weeks, I asked her if was simply taking note of how her Latter-day she would be interested in learning more Saint associates dressed. about the Church from the missionaries. “I don’t know that her change in apparel She told me that she was shy and that she was solely responsible for the increase in con- was uncomfortable talking to people she dence I started to notice in her, but I think didn’t know. She wanted simply to continue it was part of it. As she continued to learn to participate in our ward’s worship and gospel principles, such as her divine heritage activities and assured me that if she had any as a daughter of God, her sense of self-worth questions, she would ask me or some of the seemed to escalate. Her con dence increased other people in the ward with whom she was as she began to better understand the reasons already acquainted. behind some of the things we do. And as her “It was interesting to me that as she con- con dence increased, she was eager to learn tinued to come to church and Church activi- more about the gospel—including taking the ties, she began wearing longer skirts, longer missionary discussions, something that had

LEFT: PHOTOGRAPH BY CRAIG DIMOND; RIGHT: PHOTOGRAPH BY EMILY LEISHMAN BEUS BEUS LEISHMAN EMILY BY PHOTOGRAPH RIGHT: DIMOND; CRAIG BY PHOTOGRAPH LEFT: shorts, and shirts that had sleeves. Initially previously made her nervous.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 31 ASPIRE TO SOMETHING DRESS FOR HIGHER SUCCESS

THE LORD INVITES YOU TO PREPARE YOURSELF TO ENTER HIS HOUSE. IT HOLDS GREAT PEACE AND WONDERFUL BLESSINGS. (SEE D&C 88:119 .)

14–16.) DRESS APPROPRIATELY. DON’T LET A BAD CHOICE TRIP YOU UP. (SEE FOR THE STRENGTH OF YOUTH, we too will nd an increased sense of self- worth. Recall the promises of Doctrine and Covenants 121:45–46 : “Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceas- “Her dress was just one aspect of her ingly; then shall thy con dence wax strong in coming to know and understand gospel the presence of God; and the doctrine of the principles and standards, but as she found priesthood shall distil upon thy soul as the she was able to adjust that area of her life, dews from heaven. she saw that she could make more signi cant “The Holy Ghost shall be thy constant changes too. Eventually, these changes led to companion, and thy scepter an unchanging her conversion to the gospel of Jesus Christ scepter of righteousness and truth.” and her joining the Church. Later, she was May we all endeavor to qualify for these endowed in the temple, and her wardrobe blessings. ◼ required no change because she had already 4 NOTES been practicing the principles of modesty.” 1 . For the Strength of Youth (pamphlet, 2001), 15–16. As modesty becomes the virtue that 2 . For the Strength of Youth, 14. 3 . For the Strength of Youth, 14–15.

regulates and moderates action in our lives, 4. Personal correspondence. PHOTOGRAPHS BY CHRISTINA SMITH AND CRAIG DIMOND FROM LEFT:

32 TEACHING MODESTY answers. If you do shy away, your children might go to other TO OUR CHILDREN sources for information—some of which may not be in harmony By Silvia H. Allred with gospel standards. Some of the important concepts we should highlight in our he Family: A Proclamation to the World” declares that teaching include the following: T “parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and • You are a child of God. righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, • Your body is a temple. It is a gift from God. and to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the • Modesty in dress, thought, attitude, and behavior invites the commandments of God, and to be law-abiding citizens wherever companionship of the Holy Ghost and refl ects your personal they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be commitment to the gospel. held accountable before God for the discharge of these obliga- • The way you dress and behave sends messages to others 1 tions.” The Lord has commanded us to about your attitudes and how you feel teach our children important truths, and about yourself. teaching modesty and virtue is one of • You can be attractive without our most vital responsibilities. So how MORE ON MODESTY being immodest. do we do this? o learn more about modest • Part of Heavenly Father’s plan is the We need to teach through word T dress and grooming, visit the attraction that occurs between males and Gospel Library and example. As President Dieter F. at www.lds.org . females. These biological inclinations Modesty Uchtdorf, Second Counselor in the First Look at the entry in the must be controlled. Gospel Topics Presidency, taught: “It has been said, list. You’ll fi nd scrip- As parents, we need to speak frankly ‘Teaching by example is one way to tures, magazine articles, and other about these natural tendencies but also teach.’ I would say, ‘Teaching by example helpful information on this topic. about the importance and value of self- is the best way to teach.’” 2 We can set discipline that Heavenly Father requires a family standard by always dressing us to learn as we overcome the “natural ourselves modestly, appropriately, and man” (see Mosiah 3:19 ). In this case, tastefully. If we are endowed, we should always wear our temple that refers to dressing and acting in a modest manner. garments and treat them with respect and reverence. When we Girls might not recognize that the physical display they as parents and leaders are consistent with what we teach and create when they dress immodestly affects boys more than it what we do, we avoid the confusion we may otherwise cause. does them. Help children, especially daughters, understand that We need to teach from For the Strength of Youth . The prin- attracting someone of the opposite sex solely by physical means ciples taught in this booklet leave room for personal revelation and does not create a lasting relationship. freedom of choice. Our instilling and developing a strong sense of self-worth in Family home evening lessons and personal interviews our children can provide their best defense against immodesty. provide formal opportunities to teach children about modesty. In addition to helping them understand their divine heritage, we Informal teaching is just as important and can be very effec- can encourage con dence based on talents, academics, sports, tive. It might happen unexpectedly during meals, on the way to and positive personal qualities. school, during a walk, or on a shopping trip. Take advantage of NOTES 1. “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102. these opportunities, and do not shy away from giving straight 2. Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “See the End from the Beginning,” Ensign, May 2006, 45.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 33 Daddy,Do BY BRENT A. BARLOW Israel’s letter was in response Not to his wife’s request for him Leave Me ere The blessings of turning the to stop in Nauvoo as he traveled from their home in Salt Lake hearts of the children to the City to his mission in England. Elizabeth wanted Israel to locate fathers will come as we become their little son’s grave and rebury James in the main cemetery familiar with the faith and east of Nauvoo. Israel agreed. trials, joys and sorrows of our ancestors. Searching for the Grave On Wednesday, August 31, 1853, Israel spent the day look- ames Nathaniel Barlow was born on ing for the place where little James Nathaniel was buried but May 8, 1841, in Nauvoo, Illinois, to could not nd it. “The  owers that were around his grave were J Israel and Elizabeth Haven Barlow. all destroyed but the morning glories were spread some two He died a few hours after his birth and rods [33 feet, or 10 meters] or more around his grave,” Israel was buried in a small cemetery in a eld wrote of his search. “They made a very beautiful appearance in Nauvoo. The memory of his short life on the weeds and potatoes that were growing there; however, might have been lost or con ned to sim- they did not aid me in nding the grave.” 1 ply a name, date, and place if his father, The next day Israel sought the help of George Holman, Israel, had not written a letter to his wife, the man who cared for the area. They dug around and

Elizabeth, on September 12, 1853. found the little graves of James and his cousin Mary side by BUNDERSON; STEVEN PHOTOGRAPHY NEWBOLD; GREG BY ILLUSTRATIONS ARCHIVES OF THE CHURCH HISTORY LETTER COURTESY Daddy,Do Not Leaveside. The cof ns were broken and the MeBECOMING before I didere not feel. . . . But this much remains were in disarray. For a moment, ACQUAINTED I will say—that I never was more consci- as Israel gazed upon the scene, he gave “It remains the entious of any duty done in my life.” 2 up on the idea of removing the remains responsibility of to the new cemetery. each individual to Reburying James and Mary “Something spoke, seemingly twice: know his kindred On Friday, September 2, Israel and Mr. Move it, move it,” Israel’s letter continued. dead. . . . Even if Holman took the bodies to the Nauvoo “It seemed quite an undertaking as the [temple] work is done, then it is Burying Ground. “There I interred my my time was mostly spent. . . . I therefore still each person’s responsibility to little boy the second time with Mary, his turned away and concluded that I would study and become acquainted with cousin,” wrote Israel. “There remains now leave them there until the future. . . . his ancestors.” a rude stone to tell where they are with “I had not gone over more than one President Joseph Fielding Smith quoted the letters cut on in a rude and imperfect in Hearts Turned to the Fathers: rod when I heard a voice. Shall I say it A History of the Genealogical Society manner: ‘J. N. Barlow.’ . . . After setting the was not audible, but so distinct to my of Utah, 1894–1994 (1995), 184. stones at the head and foot of the graves, mind that I could [hear] it say, ‘Daddy, the time of my departure had come. do not leave me here.’ I turned about again and walked to the Could I go away? No! There was something that caused my grave and . . . concluded that I would remove my little boy feelings to linger there and bound me fast. . . . I felt a desire to at any rate. I felt a peculiar calm and peace of mind which dedicate myself and all that I might call mine into the hands

ENSIGN JULY 2009 35 of the Lord that I might be counted worthy to How to Go Beyond N a m e s , come forth with [my son] in the morning of the Dates, and Places First Resurrection. . . . The last thread of affec- 1. Visit with relatives. They may have stories, tion I bore till it was broken with tears on his letters, photographs, or heirlooms you could copy. grave. I then closed the ceremony.” 3 2. Go to familysearch.org. Click on the heading When we go beyond finding just the “Library” and a drop down-menu will appear. Click on names, dates, and places of our ancestors, “Library Catalog.” Here you can search the holdings we can truly enjoy the blessings of turning of the family history library in Salt Lake City. A place our hearts to our fathers and, as with Israel search may reveal county histories, which often have Barlow, to our children (see Malachi 4:6). biographies of residents. A surname search may locate Just as this letter gave insight into the lives of a printed family history with stories and photographs of Israel and Elizabeth Barlow, as well as into your ancestors. Copies of these records on microfilm the lives of others who lived during that time can be ordered at local family history centers. period, stories, letters, and heirlooms can help 3. Search online. Many family history sites, such as us come to know our ancestors. We are, after www.rootsweb.ancestry.com, have message boards all, not simply clerks recording their passing. where you can inquire about specific ancestors. We are their family. ◼ 4. Write your own accurate account of an ances-

NOTES tor’s life by finding what details you can and then by 1. Ora H. Barlow, The Israel Barlow Story and Mormon weaving together any local, national, or international Mores (1968), 306; spelling and punctuation modernized. 2. Ora H. Barlow, 306–7. history with the names, dates, and places of their life. 3. Ora H. Barlow, 307–8.

36 Walking in Their

Footsteps Could our broken-down car be an answer to prayer?

By Serena Kugath

hen the Church celebrated the sesquicentennial of the pioneer trek across the plains, my family W“adopted” pioneer ancestors, read accounts of their bravery and sacrifices, and participated in a four-day reenactment of the trek. With our daughters, ages seven, five, and three, we walked a hard and dusty road to Casper, Wyoming, dressed in period clothing, learning quickly to

i ons by gregg thorkelson Illustrat love our fellow travelers. But all too soon it was over.

ensign July 2009 37 hen I saw started seeing blessings. Realizing my oldest I could not always ask friends to W daughter taxi me around, I quickly found carrying her tired a bike trailer at a garage sale and little sister, I tried resumed grocery shopping and to stop her. She told other errands. Transporting gro- me that some of ceries in a bike trailer forced me the pioneer children to be selective in my purchases. carried their No more frivolous extras—I siblings every day. began using our stored powdered milk and making bread at home. Before long I became an expert at substituting anything I was missing because biking to the store for only one item was not Driving home in our comfortable, air-conditioned worth it! Fast food was no longer fast when walking every- vehicle, I thought about the life we were going back to. where, and we found ourselves at home in the evenings Re ecting on our frantic daily schedule, coupled with the more than before, playing games and reading books aloud convenience of easy transportation and fast food, I wanted together. As we walked places together we had time to to emulate the pioneers’ frugal, close, hardy lifestyle. “How talk, listen, laugh, and sing. One of the sweetest moments can I make this experience last?” I asked in prayer. “We was seeing my oldest daughter, Jessica, carry her tired little personally have no pioneer heritage. Wilt Thou give us a sister. When I tried to stop her, she told me that some of pioneer experience this year as we try to teach our chil- dren about the dedicated and devout early settlers of the Church?” The car was dark, the stars bright, and the kids quiet as we quickly and easily covered the miles that night. A few weeks later, that prayer forgotten, we were again on the road, happily anticipating a holiday weekend. Twenty minutes out of town, we began to smell a burning odor. My husband, Steven, and I looked at each other for one long moment, and then the car lost power. The tem- perature gauge had malfunctioned, and the car had over- heated so badly that many parts melted and the engine cracked. We could not add a car payment to our budget, and we had little savings. With no car during the summer, we would just have to walk. I couldn’t get over the feeling that we were being punished. Our small town had no bus system, and we had three young children and another on the way. But as I prayed that night, I felt the sweetest impression that if I would allow it, this experience would bless us and even answer my earlier prayer. With this witness I awoke the next day excited to face our challenge. For the  rst couple of weeks we were all very tired. But as our bodies grew hardier and our attitudes improved, we

38 the pioneer children had carried their siblings every day. around town, and for the  rst time I was not sure how It was certainly hard at times. Living in a college town, much longer I could keep it up. “Lord,” I prayed, “I think I would often see young students driving new vehicles, we’ve learned the lesson of the pioneers. We don’t have and I would have to sti e my grumbles as I pedaled from enough saved for a new car, but wilt Thou help us?” place to place. At the beginning of October the weather The next day my father-in-law called. He had seen began growing colder. One evening I dressed the girls in some good used vehicles in the paper, and within 48 their Sunday best and curled their hair for a special hours of my prayer, we sat in a white van. Not event at my husband’s work. On the until our daughter said it looked like a covered way there, a cold rain began to wagon did I realize that we had been without fall. The faster we walked, a car for almost 111 days—the same number the faster it fell. The of days it took the  rst wagon train to go from wind picked up, and I Winter Quarters to the Salt Lake Valley. 1 ◼ struggled to push the NOTE stroller up the slick grass. 1. See Gordon B. Hinckley, Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley (1997), 450. Muddy and stumbling, I was ready to cry when I remem- ealizing I bered the pioneers scaling could not Rocky Ridge. I laughed R always ask aloud—my life was not friends to taxi me in danger, and I had a around, I quickly warm, dry building a found a bike hundred yards away. trailer at a garage A few weeks later sale and resumed snow began to fall, grocery shopping and I once again and other errands. turned to the Lord. It was no longer safe to bike

ENSIGN JULY 2009 39 Pioneers

in Ghana

hen GayLynn Ribeira, an art 1 student at Brigham Young University, heard the amazing stories W of the pioneer Saints in Ghana, she knew she wanted to create their portraits for her bachelor of ne arts illustration project. 1. Stand Alone—For In the fall of 2005, she began to pursue a Something, Adjoa, by Angela Nelson way to do this. The result was a grant allow- “It is good to be a mem- ing her and three other art students—Jesse ber when we are at home or among people,” says Adjoa Bushnell, Emmalee Glauser Powell, and Amoa-Ampah, who is studying Angela Nelson—to spend May and June of to become a doctor. “But a true Latter-day Saint woman 2006 in Ghana. BYU faculty member Richard can still call herself a member Hull oversaw the project. The ve gathered when she is alone. The Church is sometimes misunderstood, stories and images of not only pioneer Saints so it is important for me to be but newer members also. The wealth of an example of the truth.” information found its way onto canvas in the 2 2 . Joseph William Billy Johnson: Holiness to the Lord, months following the trip and onto the walls by Emmalee Glauser Powell “Gratitude and love of the B. F. Larsen Gallery at BYU in October emanated from him,” the 2007. Following is some of that artwork. artist wrote of Brother Johnson of Cape Coast. “He taught the gospel for 14 years, and over a thousand people were ready for baptism when the mission- aries arrived in 1978. He is a man who consecrates his life and soul to God. He inspired me to strive to make the Christlike attributes of love and charity a part of my being.”

3 . Bitner Johnson: Grandson of the Patriarch, by Jesse Bushnell Named after President Gordon Bitner Hinckley, Bitner Johnson is the son of Brigham Johnson and the grandson of Joseph William Billy Johnson.

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4 . Busua Morning, by GayLynn Ribeira

5 . Bring Up Your Children in Light and Truth, by GayLynn Ribeira Bishop Ko Sosu and his wife, Linda, of Kumasi strengthen their family through regular family prayer, scripture study, and family home evening.

6 . Dr. Emmanuel Kissi—“He Raised the Woman Up,” by Jesse Bushnell In 1983 a poverty-stricken woman with a severely malnourished child came to Latter-day Saint doctor Emmanuel Kissi for help. Dr. Kissi had food items sent to him by the Church to treat those with malnutrition. At no charge, he gave her rice, corn, beans, and cooking oil. The woman fell down in gratitude before the doctor. Dr. Kissi raised the woman up by the hand and said, “This food has been sent to you from God. You must give all your thanks 5 to Him.”

7 . Sisters in Zion, Emma Boateng, by Angela Nelson 6 “It was like we found a long lost sister,” artist Angela Nelson wrote of returned mis- sionary Emma Boateng. “She was our guide in Kumasi and still had that missionary glow about her. Emma was studying journalism, attending insti- tute, had concerns and hopes about dating, and was trying to keep the gospel the center of her life. She was going through the same experiences as we were as young single adults.”

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8. Bishop Ko Sosu and His Father: Forgiveness of Father and Son, by Emmalee Glauser Powell After his mission, Ko wanted to return home, but his father had disowned him. He felt impressed to go anyway. When he arrived, his father saw him and said, “Stop.” So he stopped. “Who are you?” asked his father. “I am your son.” “My son?” “Yes, your son, Ko .” At this he saw tears run- ning down his father’s face. His father stood up and embraced him. “Oh, my son, my son. I am so sorry. I know you did the right thing. I have accepted you as my son.”

9 . William and Charlotte Acquah: One Heart and One Mind, by Emmalee Glauser Powell William and Charlotte (members of 30 years) have grown in the gospel together through many years of hardship and joy. Through it all, they are becoming one with God and with each other. They hold hands to show their love for one another—something William learned from the couple missionaries who taught him to pray and to know that he is a child of God. 9

1 0 . Baptism Beach, by Jesse Bushnell This peaceful beach has been the site of 10 hundreds of Ghanaian baptisms.

1 1 . Theodora Acquah: Third-Generation Daughter, by Jesse Bushnell Theodora is a third-generation Latter-day Saint in Cape Coast, thanks to the faith of her grandmother who joined the Church and taught her children and grandchildren the gospel. As a new Latter-day Saint, Theodora’s grandmother took it upon herself to sweep the meetinghouse, fetch buckets of water to scrub the  oor, and make sure things were clean before church.

42 1 2 . How Firm a Foundation, Kaku Family, by Angela 11 Nelson “When Brother and Sister Kaku invited us into their home in Cape Coast, I felt like I was walking into my own home in Utah,” wrote artist Angela Nelson. “My favorite part was after the commotion of dinner, all the children gathered around their parents with scriptures open. I will never forget being with this family and watching the children look to their parents for guidance and their parents turning to the scriptures for answers.”

12 1 3 . Hannah, by Richard Hull Of this portrait of Hannah Bafuh, a Latter-day Saint in Kumasi, the artist said, “I tried to capture her brilliant, animated personality.”

13 1 4 . Preparing Dinner, Emma Boateng, by Angela Nelson “It was like watching a dance; they were in perfect sync with each other,” wrote Angela Nelson, describing how the Boateng family made the food staple, fufu, from the cassava root. “One would raise the pole high and bring it down with a loud thud while the other would quickly gather the cassava in a ball just in time for the other to pound it again. There is also a rhythm in their daily life, a diligence in keeping the command- ments. Time here is measured in relationships, in helping friends and family, not in objects obtained. I see a steady resolve to be consistent— especially in their testimonies.”

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ng Beyond Getti BY MELISSA MERRILL In the meantime, I prayed for strength to “just get Church Magazines through” those months. I also attended a young single I had been reluctant to get involved adult ward. I dutifully went to the full block of Sunday in my new home and ward, but that meetings and most ward activities, but I didn’t get too Sunday morning I realized I couldn’t comfortable; after all, this was only temporary. put living on hold. Toward the end of that rst month, I accepted a calling he summer before my nal semester of college, to serve as the home, family, and personal enrichment I found myself in an unfamiliar city. I had landed leader and was invited to attend a training meeting. T an internship that would give me valuable expe- I considered skipping it. I had served in other Relief rience in my eld, and I was grateful for and excited Society callings before and knew what my responsibilities about the opportunities that lay ahead. would be. Besides, how many enrichment activities could I found an apartment, moved in, and settled in for a we even hold in the short time I’d be in the area? grand adventure. However, I soon discovered that the job In the end I decided to go. At the meeting our Relief was more demanding than I had anticipated, and I felt a Society president, Laura, welcomed everyone and then deep sense of inadequacy. The city was much larger than shared a brief thought about the early Saints and the any I had lived in for some time, and I frequently got incredible work they accomplished even though they had lost. I had only one roommate. She was nice, but we had spent much of their lives in transition. She talked about opposite schedules. We seldom saw each other for more the temples they built, the cities they created, the com- than 10 minutes a day a couple of times a week. mandments they followed, and the families they raised— I felt overwhelmed—really overwhelmed. This confus- all despite leading lives lled with displacement. ing, lonely situation wasn’t quite the grand adventure I Then she said, “Many of you are here for only a short had imagined. I comforted myself by saying over and over, season. I know some of you are completing internships, “This is only temporary.” I knew that in a mere 15 weeks, and a few of you are here for only a few more weeks I’d return to my familiar college campus, my longtime before you leave on a mission or get married.

ILLUSTRATION BY STEVE KROPP ILLUSTRATION roommates, and a comfortable routine. “No matter how long you’re here, I hope we can nd the

44 ”Gettin g Throug h It” work that our Heavenly Father has for us to do and, like I was blessed in other ways too. Several of the enrich- our pioneer forebears, do it with purpose and enthusiasm.” ment meetings we planned required preparation that took What a wake-up call! Here I was, just trying to “get me all over my new city, so out of necessity I learned through” my life. What might the result have been had the my way around. The intense atmosphere at work didn’t early Saints had my attitude as they crossed oceans and change, but at least I had friends with whom I could relax went from New York to Ohio to Missouri to Illinois to Utah, when I got home. Those friends lled the void I initially felt and from Salt Lake City to the different areas they were that summer and have blessed my life since. called to settle? What if Joseph Smith had put off translating As fall semester approached, I felt almost sad to return scripture until he had a more convenient, permanent situa- to school. Putting down mental, emotional, and spiritual tion? What if the Saints had waited until their routines were roots had made my summer experience rich and full. comfortable, until some future event before they started I soon discovered that the nomadic, temporary life is building their temples, their families—their lives? more common than I had thought, particularly for young Up to that point, my attitude had been a poor one, but adults. Over the next year I nished school, completed that Sunday-morning meeting gave me a new perspec- another internship, and then started my rst job. I lived in tive. I realized there were things I could do better, even if three different apartments, had 12 different roommates, and my circumstances weren’t exactly what I had envisioned. attended four different wards. But it wasn’t a crisis because Over the next 12 weeks my heart—and my life— I had learned how to make the most of any situation, even changed. I tried harder to reach out to my neighbors, temporary ones. In each place I’ve lived since, I’ve been many of whom, like me, were in the ward for only a short blessed by what I learned that summer. time. I sincerely tried to magnify my calling. I did my visit- I am grateful for early Latter-day Saints who didn’t disre- ing teaching with love, not out of a sense of obligation. gard or downplay their opportunities because their situations Not only did I learn a great deal from my companion, but were only temporary. And I’m grateful to a kind Heavenly I also learned that one of the women we visited was an Father who, through an inspired Relief Society president and editor—exactly what I wanted to be. She gave me some friend, reminded me that every season of life has possibilities great advice about seeking work in that eld. for growth and opportunity in doing His work. ◼

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The

Papers: The Manuscript Revelation Books

The manuscript revelation books journals, administrative papers, legal and busi- contain many of the earliest known ness affairs, and revelations and translations. copies of the revelations received by By providing transcriptions (typed versions) Joseph Smith and provide insights of all original documents, The Joseph Smith into the revelatory process. Papers will provide scholars and other inter- ested persons with readable texts while also By Elder Marlin K. Jensen reducing the need to handle and potentially Of the Seventy Church Historian and Recorder damage fragile historical documents. Each transcription undergoes a three-step process n the 1970s Latter-day Saint scholars that meets scholarly standards designed to began to recognize the benefits of col- ensure accurately transcribed texts. The study of these I lecting and making available to the public The study of these historical sources, historical sources documents related to the Prophet Joseph particularly in their earliest forms, provides provides students of Smith’s life and works. The Joseph Smith students of Joseph Smith with an enriched Joseph Smith with an Papers Project is the culmination of this understanding of the Prophet’s life and the enriched understand- decades-long effort. Project scholars development of the restored Church. The ing of the Prophet’s intend to collect all journals, diaries, Joseph Smith Papers will also make detailed life and the develop- correspondence, discourses, revela- historical research easier. Documents housed ment of the restored tions, written histories, notices, and in a variety of locations—including col- Church. legal papers—everything of a written lections held by the Church, universities, nature that Joseph Smith generated historical societies, and private owners—will or directed to be created. be published and available in many loca- When finished, The Joseph Smith tions and eventually on the Internet. Because evelation, by Daniel L ewis Joseph S mith Jr. R eceiving evelation, Papers will consist of about 30 this comprehensive project will offer a deep volumes containing more than 2,000 pool of primary sources, including many that documents. The volumes scholars would not otherwise have been able will be divided into to locate, The Joseph Smith Papers will lift the six series based on standards and accuracy of future scholarship areas of emphasis: dealing with Joseph Smith and early Church documents, history, history.

ensign July 2009 47 One of the Prophet’s The Revelations and Translations Series priorities after the The volumes in the series titled “Revelations organization of the and Translations” will reproduce the earliest Church in 1830 was manuscripts of Joseph Smith’s written revela- the recording and tions and translations, together with the official preservation of editions of these documents as they were pub- his revelations. lished during his lifetime. These publications Below: Revelation include the first edition of the Book of Mormon Joseph and his scribes procured another book Book 1. Above right: (1830); the first publication of a collection of in which to copy revelations. Known as the Revelation Book 2. Joseph Smith’s revelations, called A Book of “Kirtland Revelation Book,” this second book Below right: First Commandments (1833); and the first edition has been labeled as Revelation Book 2 by edition of A Book of the Doctrine and Covenants (1835). the Papers editors. It was created from late of Commandments. One of the Prophet’s priorities after the February or early March 1832 to the end of organization of the Church in 1830 was the 1834. The first volume in the Revelations and recording and preservation of his revelations. Translations Series features these two books Although more comprehensive record keep- of revelation manuscripts. ing did not emerge until 1832, Joseph Smith Through careful study, Joseph Smith Papers and John Whitmer began in the summer of Project scholars have determined that the “Book 1830 to assemble the revelations the Prophet of Commandments and Revelations” served as had received to that point. By at least March the principal source for the 1833 publication of 1831, John Whitmer began copying of A Book of Commandments and that both this early collection of revelation the “Book of Commandments and Revelations” manuscripts into what he titled and the “Kirtland Revelation Book” became the the “Book of Commandments basis for the first edition of the Doctrine and and Revelations.” This manu- Covenants in 1835. These manuscript books script book, which Papers were no longer used after publication of the editors have designated as Doctrine and Covenants but were safely stored Revelation Book 1, contains with other Church records. Later revelations items that were copied from were recorded in Joseph Smith’s journals and around March 1831 to the record books, as well as in the middle of 1835. papers of bishops, Apostles, Commissioned during a November and other followers. 1831 Church conference in Ohio to pub- lish the collected revelations, John Whitmer and Oliver Cowdery carried the “Book of Commandments and Revelations” to Missouri where they, along with W. W. Phelps, set about publishing A Book of Commandments (see D&C 67). By early 1832, with the first

book of revelation manuscripts in Missouri, p hotogra h of a B ook C ommandments by E ldon K . L inschoten; Joseph S mith Jr., D an Weggeland, p ers Pro j ect; of Jose p h S mith Pa Photogra p hs of manuscri t books courtesy M useum of C hurch H istory courtesy

48 Following the publication of the Doctrine Preparing the Manuscript Revelation Books and Covenants in 1835, these two manuscript for Publication during Joseph Smith’s Time books were largely ignored because the One of Joseph Smith’s tasks in reviewing published volumes were available. However, the manuscripts prior to their publication was scholars in recent years have gained a strong to “correct those errors or mistakes which interest in examining early manuscripts of he may discover by the Holy Spirit.” 3 Joseph Joseph Smith’s revelations. Revelation Book 2 knew from experience that the human pro- had not been readily accessible until cess of writing down revelations, copy- the Church published images of the ing them into manuscript books, original manuscripts as part of its and then passing them through 2002 Selected Collections from the various hands in preparation for Archives DVD collection. 1 Also, publication inevitably intro- only in recent years have schol- duced unintentional errors. ars begun to assess the value of Sometimes changes were Revelation Book 1, which had required to clarify wording. been in the possession of the Occasionally, later revela- First Presidency. tions would supersede or Revelation Book 1 contains update previously received the earliest known copies revelations, necessitating the of many revelations and, in editing of documents to alter some cases, the only surviv- previous versions. Various ing early manuscript copies. other changes were also made It was the source for the revela- from time to time. Most of these, tions published in the first issue of such as dividing the text into the Church periodical The Evening verses or clarifying meaning, did and the Morning Star. Four leaves that not involve substantive corrections. had been removed from the book at some Joseph seemed to regard the manu- point are currently owned by the Community script revelations as his best efforts to capture of Christ Library-Archives in Independence, oseph seemed the voice of the Lord condescending to com- Missouri, and are being reproduced with per- to regard the municate in what Joseph called the “crooked, mission in The Joseph Smith Papers. manuscript broken, scattered, and imperfect language” of J 4 Revelation Book 1 is a near comprehen- revelations as his men. The revealed preface to the published sive collection of early revelations, contain- best efforts to cap- revelations also seems to express this prin- ing 64 of the 65 items published in 1833 ture the voice of ciple: “I am God and have spoken it; these in A Book of Commandments 2 as well as the Lord. commandments are of me, and were given 95 of the 103 sections published in 1835 in unto my servants in their weakness, after the the Doctrine and Covenants. Only 10 items manner of their language” (D&C 1:24). from the manuscript book do not appear in Joseph and his associates were appointed by either A Book of Commandments or the 1835 the actions of Church conferences to prepare Doctrine and Covenants. the revelations for publication by correcting

ensign July 2009 49 the texts. Recent analysis of both manuscript instance, had been revealed after the 1833 revelation books reveals how and when many publication and were subsequently added to of the changes were made. For example, some the 1835 publication. changes were made before selected items were Joseph Smith reviewed many of his published in Missouri, while others were made associates’ editorial changes and made slight in Ohio before the 1835 publication of the alterations in his own hand before A Book Doctrine and Covenants. Joseph Smith of Commandments was published in 1833. One common example involves changes He made additional changes, including made by Sidney Rigdon. He often changed adding surnames to individuals mentioned the language in the revelations in the revelations, just before the from the biblical “thee,” “thy,” and Doctrine and Covenants was pub- “thine” to the modern “you,” “your,” lished in 1835. and “yours.” Many of these changes Sidney Rigdon

John Whitmer

were later reversed. He also cor- rected grammar and changed some of the language to clarify and modify words and meaning. In a few cases, more substantive William W. Phelps changes were made as revelations were updated for the 1835 Doctrine Sometime around 1834–35 in and Covenants. For example, section 20 was Kirtland, Ohio, Revelation Book 2 was used originally received in 1830, before much of for the preparation of the 1835 Doctrine and the leadership structure of the Church as we Covenants, and all but eight items in the know it today was revealed to Joseph Smith. manuscript book were published in that 1835 By 1835 Joseph had organized many offices volume. In contrast, just three of the revela- and quorums by revelation. To include this tions copied into the book were published in A newly revealed ecclesiastical order, several Book of Commandments in 1833. Two of the text changes and additions were incorporated manuscript book’s revelations were first pub- into section 20. Our current verses 65–67 lished in the 1844 Doctrine and Covenants. on ordaining men to priesthood offices, for Subsequent editing changes through the

50 1981 edition of the Doctrine and Covenants involved revelation” is not warranted. The Lord’s directive clearly occasional word changes, but the major substantive conditions the successful sale of the copyright on the wor- changes occurred under the Prophet Joseph’s guidance thiness of those seeking to make the sale as well as on the for the 1835 edition. spiritual receptivity of the potential purchasers. 5

New Information The Prophet’s New Understanding In editing these manuscript books, Papers editors have The editing and updating of revelation texts in the early uncovered new information. For example, scholars inter- years of the Church demonstrate the process of continu- ested in the chronology of Joseph Smith’s life have long ing revelation to Joseph Smith. The revelation manuscripts relied upon the generic month-only dating of many early reveal how men grappled in trying to make certain that revelations. Revelation Book 1 provides the specific dates the ideas and doctrines Joseph received were transcribed for many of these revelations. In addition, John Whitmer’s and printed accurately—a process that for the publica- brief historical introductions to many of the revelations also tion of any work risks the introduction of error. In some provide historical context for scholars. instances, when a new revelation changed or updated Through careful analysis, editors have been able to what had previously been received, the Prophet edited the identify the handwriting of most of the editing marks earlier written revelation to reflect the new understanding. on the manuscript pages. When the Revelations and Thus, as his doctrinal knowledge clarified and expanded, Translations Series is published, images of documents so did the recorded revelations. They were characterized will be included with transcriptions on facing pages. by the changing nature of his understanding of the sacred Thus, readers will be able to see the original hand­ subject matter. The Prophet did not believe that revela- writing, editing marks, and even the texture of the docu- tions, once recorded, could not be changed by further ments but will not need to be experts in deciphering revelation. handwriting. The changes made in the original docu- The preservation and publication of these manuscript ments will be color coded in the transcriptions so revelation books provide a significant resource for students readers can identify the handwriting of the individuals of Church history. This project will lead to a greater under- who wrote on each page. standing of how our printed revelations were organized and Another interesting development from work on the published, as well as greater insight into the mind and intent Revelations and Translations Series has been the identification of Joseph Smith. A study of these books of revelations will of a previously unpublished revelation on securing a copy- increase not only our knowledge but also our testimony in right for the Book of Mormon in Canada. David Whitmer, recognizing the Lord’s plan of continuing revelation that pro- after he left the Church, recalled that the revelation promised vides for the ever-changing needs of the growing Church. ◼ success in selling the copyright, but upon return of the men The author acknowledges the assistance of Robin S. Jensen, of the Joseph charged with the duty, Joseph Smith and others were dis­ Smith Papers Project, and Joshua J. Perkey, of Church magazines, in the preparation of this article. appointed by what seemed like failure. Historians have relied Notes upon statements of David Whitmer, Hiram Page, and William 1. Richard E. Turley Jr., ed., Selected Collections from the Archives of The McLellin for decades but have not had the actual text of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (DVD, 2002). 2. The single revelation published in A Book of Commandments but not revelation. Revelation Book 1 will provide it. found in Revelation Book 1 is Revelation, May 1829–B, in A Book of Commandments 11 (see D&C 12). Although we still do not know the whole story, par- 3. Minute Book 2 (also called “Far West Record”), Nov. 8, 1831. ticularly Joseph Smith’s own view of the situation, we 4. Joseph Smith to William W. Phelps, Nov. 27, 1832, in Personal Writings of Joseph Smith, comp. Dean C. Jessee, rev. ed. (2002), 287.

istory M us e um e sy of Chur c h H istory of Jos e ph S mith by Dan W gg lan d , Court Engraving do know that calling the divine communication a “failed 5. See Revelation Book 1, 30–31.

ensign July 2009 51 A Longing

for NAME WITHHELD Peace Could the Atonement really heal a heart broken by abuse and take away the bitterness I had felt for so long?

hat role has the Atonement played in all of we were interrupted, and our conversation was over. My this?” The question came as I sat waiting for my husband and I returned home, but I couldn’t get the dis- Whusband in the foyer of the stake of ces. I was cussion out of my mind. The question was one that I had visiting with the second counselor in the stake presidency, spent much time pondering. What role had the Atonement and I shared with him some of the events that had taken played in my life? place in my life. I grew up in an abusive atmosphere. Pornography was a common vice among the men in our Feelings of Inadequacy home, and its effects were far-reaching. My father was For many years I didn’t even want to discuss the involved in homosexual activities. He was also physically Atonement. I was confused, bitter, and angry. I did not feel and emotionally abusive, particularly to my mother, while worthy to approach Heavenly Father about my feelings, my brother was sexually abusive to my sisters and me. I and I suffered from a deep sense of inadequacy. I couldn’t lived in constant fear and turmoil during my childhood imagine that Heavenly Father or the Savior would want to years. Although the situation changed dramatically with have anything to do with me. my parents’ divorce when I was 12 years old, I spent the Besides that, in my mind the abuse had somehow bulk of my teenage years trying to deal with a haunting become my fault, and I didn’t know how to get rid of sense of worthlessness. the guilt that was so prevalent in my life. My anger was After leaving home and getting married, I found that my not directed toward the Lord so much as it was toward close relationships were being affected by the abuse I had the situation in which I found myself: through a series of suffered as a child. I sought help from many sources, but events that I did not choose, I felt I had become unworthy healing was slow in coming. of feeling close to Him. My sharing the experiences that I had gone through Fortunately, I had enough experience with the Spirit in my quest for peace prompted the second counselor’s that I knew the gospel was true and I couldn’t deny my question about the Atonement. But just as he posed it, testimony. Although I had many questions resulting from

52 spent the bulk of my teenage I years trying to deal with a haunting sense of worthlessness. I couldn’t imagine that Heavenly Father or the Savior would want anything to do with me.

the things I had gone through, I never felt inclined to Seeking Help abandon the Church. Looking back, I know Heavenly After years of struggling with my self-worth, I realized Father sent some amazing people to be a part of my life, I needed help. I sought out a therapist who was also a to help guide me on the dif cult road I had to travel. I had member of the Church. In our rst session together, he a compassionate Beehive adviser, a wonderful seminary pulled out the scriptures, and I got a lesson on forgive- teacher, an institute director who took the time to answer ness. I left that session fuming! I didn’t want to hear about many questions, a therapist who was willing to listen to forgiveness—I wanted a way to bring peace back into my my ranting and raving and then walk me step-by-step life! After a year of meeting with him, I quit going. I wasn’t through the healing process, and a mother who never making any progress, and I was tired of feeling guilty for wavered in her testimony. Most important, I was blessed not being able to forgive my father and my brother. with an incredible husband who has supported me My husband and I had two children by that time. through some dif cult times and helped me to heal from During that period, we were struggling with issues in our some very deep wounds. But the healing came only after marriage directly related to the abuse I had experienced

ABOVE RIGHT: PHOTO ILLUSTRATION BY J. SCOTT KNUDSEN. PHOTOGRAPH BY CRAIG DIMOND. DIMOND. CRAIG BY PHOTOGRAPH KNUDSEN. SCOTT J. BY ILLUSTRATION PHOTO RIGHT: ABOVE ANDERSON NOT MY WILL, BUT THINE, BE DONE, BY HARRY PAINTING, some additional challenges. at the hands of my brother. I was suffering from severe

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“The wicked choice of others cannot completely destroy I had been an active your agency unless you per- member of the Church mit it. Their acts may cause all of my life—grad- pain, anguish, even physical harm, but they uating from semi- cannot destroy your eternal possibilities in nary, participating in this brief but crucial life on earth. You must institute, serving in a understand that you are free to determine to variety of callings, overcome the harmful results of abuse. Your and raising my family attitude can control the change for good in to live by gospel stan- your life. It allows you to have the help the dards—but I had never Lord intends you to receive. No one can take really understood the away your ultimate opportunities when you healing power of understand and live eternal law. The laws the Atonement. of your Heavenly Father and the Atonement of the Lord have made it possible that you will not be robbed of the opportunities which come to the children of God.” Elder Richard G. Scott of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse,” Ensign, May 1992, 31–32.

depression, and our oldest child was experi- began to have a new understanding of what encing signi cant medical problems. Life had the Atonement really was. become sheer drudgery, and I couldn’t see Until then, my understanding of the that it was ever going to get any better. I felt Atonement was limited to repentance and as if I were living in a black hole. forgiveness. I had been an active member of It took several years before my husband the Church all of my life—graduating from nally convinced me to go back to a coun- seminary, participating in institute, serving selor. The woman I worked with the second in a variety of callings, and raising my family time took a more subtle approach to the to live by gospel standards—but I had never counseling process. She was wonderful, but really understood the healing power of the I still didn’t make a lot of progress because Atonement. I had no idea how personal and of my bitterness and anger, and I simply was penetrating it could be, no idea that it could not willing to talk about the Atonement. It heal my broken heart and take away the pain was only when I went to a conference at and hurt and anger and bitterness that I had Brigham Young University and attended a been feeling for so many years. workshop about healing from abuse that I Oh, how I wish I had understood that

54 t wasn’t until I could give Imy pain and anguish to the Lord and let go of the wounds that had been fester- ing within me that I could also begin to forgive my father and my brother. Then the real healing could start to take place.

principle sooner! It wasn’t until I could give my pain and It was at this point that I had the previously mentioned anguish to the Lord and let go of the wounds that had discussion with the counselor in the stake presidency. It left been festering within me that I could also begin to forgive me wondering if I had taken full advantage of the Atonement. my father and my brother. Then the real healing could For many years I had blamed my youthful mistakes on the start to take place. fact that I had been abused. There were some unresolved BY ALBERT BERTEL THORVALDSEN, PHOTOGRAPH PHOTOGRAPH THORVALDSEN, BERTEL ALBERT BY sins in my life that I knew I needed to repent of in order to be Turning to the Savior completely healed. Moreover, I felt that my own repentance

CHRISTUS STATUE, CHRISTUS STATUE, It took some time to work through the issues that I was process was hinging on whether or not I could nally and dealing with, but I began to feel peace in my life. Through completely forgive my father and my brother. my understanding of the Atonement, I was able to move After some intense prayer and scripture study, I came to past the crippling image I had created of myself and understand what I had to do to be healed from the wounds BY ALDO REBECHI; ABOVE RIGHT: PHOTO ILLUSTRATION BY J. SCOTT KNUDSEN. PHOTOGRAPH PHOTOGRAPH KNUDSEN. SCOTT J. BY ILLUSTRATION PHOTO RIGHT: ABOVE REBECHI; ALDO BY ANDERSON NOT MY WILL, BUT THINE, BE DONE, BY HARRY BY CRAIG DIMOND. PAINTING, ABOVE LEFT: DETAIL FROM DETAIL ABOVE LEFT: develop relationships with my family. that had been in icted on me. I spent several weeks

ENSIGN JULY 2009 55 work in my life. He has consistently placed me in situations that have led me to stretch myself and grow closer to Him. After talking to my stake priesthood leader and hearing his counsel, after visiting with my bishop and confessing my own sins, after contacting The atoning sacri ce people I had not seen in 20 years and beg- of our Savior allows ging forgiveness from them, how could I not me to lay my burdens forgive those who had hurt me? The process at His feet and be free of repenting reminded me that the power of from the effects of the Atonement is not just for me but also for others’ sins. those who have committed sins against me. It is for the abused and the abuser alike. No one heals from this type of abuse overnight. In fact, getting to the point in my life where I felt I could forgive those who had sinned against me took more than 20 years—20 years of actively trying to under- stand why these things had taken place and how I could get past them. It has been a long process to learn how to “come unto Christ,” but through that process, I have nally been able to allow Him to become, quite literally, my Savior and His grace was suf cient for me (see Moroni 10:30 , 32 ). tracking down people from my past that I had I still have days when I struggle and won- wronged in some way and trying to make der why I have had to deal with these things restitution as best I could. It was not easy, but in my life. Even though I never would have I knew that I was moving in the right direc- chosen these experiences, I am grateful for tion in correcting things in my life. Once I was my understanding of the Atonement and for able to own my sins and quit blaming them on the healing I have felt. those who had hurt me, I was able to really I know there are many people who are in let them go, to turn them over to the Lord and the same situation that I was in for so many fully repent. Once again, I was amazed at the years. They are longing for something that power of the Atonement to heal my soul and will bring them peace but have no idea where give me the strength to come unto the Savior. to turn. The answer is simple and is talked about often in the Church, but for some rea- The Reach of the Atonement son, it never seemed to apply to my situation. Possibly the most amazing thing about Now, each time I hear a talk or a lesson about this process has been watching the Lord forgiveness or repentance, I want to add my

56 ach time I hear a talk Eor a lesson about forgiveness or repentance, I want to add my testimony about another part of the Atonement: its healing power when we are the victims of someone else’s sinful actions.

testimony about another part of the Atonement: its healing for me to experience true joy and happiness. power when we are the victims of someone else’s sinful I love the Savior and am so grateful for His life and actions. It is something very close to my heart. His Atonement. It is amazing to me that He was not only I have thought often about the question the member willing but also able to take on all of our imperfections of the stake presidency posed to me: “What role has the (see Alma 7:11–13 ). I can’t even begin to comprehend the BY ALBERT BERTEL THORVALDSEN, PHOTOGRAPH PHOTOGRAPH THORVALDSEN, BERTEL ALBERT BY Atonement played in all of this?” As I have learned to suffering that He went through for each one of us. It is my apply the Atonement on a daily basis through prayer, testimony of Him that gives me hope each day and makes

CHRISTUS STATUE, CHRISTUS STATUE, scripture study, and increased temple attendance, I have my life worth living. ◼

found that I can be at peace with the things in my life LDS Family Services offers counseling and other resources to people over which I have no control. The atoning sacri ce of our who have been affected by abuse in any way. If you feel some of your actions toward family members have been questionable, help is Savior allows me to lay my burdens at His feet and be free also available for you. For more information, contact the LDS Family BY ALDO REBECHI; ABOVE RIGHT: PHOTO ILLUSTRATION BY J. SCOTT KNUDSEN. PHOTOGRAPH PHOTOGRAPH KNUDSEN. SCOTT J. BY ILLUSTRATION PHOTO RIGHT: ABOVE REBECHI; ALDO BY ANDERSON NOT MY WILL, BUT THINE, BE DONE, BY HARRY BY CRAIG DIMOND. PAINTING, ABOVE LEFT: DETAIL FROM DETAIL ABOVE LEFT: from the effects of others’ sins. It has also made it possible Services of ce in your area or visit www.ldsfamilyservices.org.

ENSIGN JULY 2009 57 58 PHOTOGRAPH BY STEVE BUNDERSON I h Ads the of work. the obtainthe world blessings ishelping peopleallover Services How LDSEmployment Resource BY JENNIFER WILLIAMS losing hisjob, henever dreamedhe’d have a ally eliminated. Though hehadnotanticipated 25 percent, andRoger’s positionwas eventu- ship changed, the work force was reduced by out his successfulcareer. Butcompanyowner- (ERS). Employment Resource Services Both were toLDS blessedwhenthey turned young children, withonemoreontheway. for mostofherlife andwas themotheroftwo space industries. LaSonjahadbeenhomeless experience inboththeautomotive andaero- talented andhighlyeducatedengineerwith neededwork.both desperately Roger was a dif cult time nding work asanengineer. Roger hadbeenavaluable employee through- very important thing in common—they have been more different. Yet they had one n manyways, Roger andLaSonjacouldnot Roger’s formeremployer provided the assistance of a professional outplacement assistance ofaprofessional outplacement rm. The assuredhimthatwith rm his expert skillsandvaluable expe-his expert rience, unemployment wouldn’t Way Beyond Way Beyond I becamedepressed.” dren. Ifelt myburdenwasand unbearable I would feed myfamilyandcarefor mychil- how situation. Iwas constantlyworried about nearby to offer support. “I was in a desperate for her to deliver her baby. She had no family care for her two children when the time came she didnotknow anyone whocouldhelp culty nding ajob. To make mattersworse, a pregnantwoman shewould have greatdif- to provide for herchildren. Sheworried thatas herandsheneededworkhad left tobeable weeks away fromgivingbirth. Herhusband her own homefor herchildren, shewas just Although she was overjoyed to nally have to receive herown subsidizedapartment. her life butshehadrecentlybeenselected savings were nearlyexhausted. severance packagewere goneandthefamily’s months ofunemployment, fundsfromRoger’s to doso,” heremembers. morethanseven After family, yet being unable to nd anand opportunity experienced enough to provide for my extremely frustrated, knowing I was capable months, andRoger becamediscouraged. “I felt résumé, days intoweeks turned andweeks into the jobmarket anddistributedcopiesofhis last long. AlthoughRoger dutifully searched LaSonja hadbeenhomeless nearlyallof ENSIGN JULY 2009 59 PHOTOGRAPHS BY WELDEN C. ANDERSEN; PHOTOGRAPH OF BOOKLET STEVE BUNDERSON

The Doctrine of Work Professional Placement Program Work is a fundamental principle of the gospel. Adam was The professional placement program is designed to help told, “By the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread” (Moses professionals, managers, and executives nd or upgrade 4:25), a commandment that was given for Adam’s bene t. employment. The program includes a career workshop, President Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985) con rmed, “Work regular networking group meetings, and one-on-one coach- is a spiritual necessity as well as an economic necessity.” 1 ing. Resources are also available for professionals, employ- Though working to provide for ourselves and our families is ers, and recruiters. Facilities and equipment are also made necessary, from time to time it can be dif cult to obtain ade- available for job searching. quate employment. No matter where you live, the job market is After learning of Roger’s struggle, his ward employ- becoming more competitive and more  uid. President Gordon ment adviser encouraged him to participate in the profes- B. Hinckley (1910–2008) observed, “You are moving into the sional placement program at the Detroit Michigan LDS most competitive age the world has ever known. All around you Employment Resource Center. A woman in attendance there is competition.” 2 In a world of increasing competition and at the next weekly networking meeting was looking for economic uncertainty, we all need to be prepared for the possi- employees to work in her manufacturing company. She bility of unemployment or the need to make career adjustments. was impressed by Roger’s valuable skills and experience. The Church has established LDS Employment Resource A job interview followed shortly thereafter and a job Services to assist ward leaders in ful lling their responsibility description was written speci cally to t Roger’s skills. to care for members with employment needs. They also assist individual members as they seek to prepare for and obtain Career Workshop employment. In approximately 300 employment centers oper- The Career Workshop helps develop the skills needed to ating worldwide, services are available to assist those who are achieve career objectives. The workshop takes about 12 hours unemployed, underemployed, or planning to further develop to complete and is taught in four units. During the workshop their careers. It was through these centers that both Roger and participants are taught to search hidden job markets and to LaSonja found the solutions to their employment problems. network during their job searches. They craft short, powerful

60 Left: Employment resource centers “It was dif cult to sup- are an excellent place for job seek- port a family and attend ers to do valuable college on my previous networking. Right, top and income. I was able to center: In more enroll in the Perpetual than 300 centers worldwide, includ- Education Fund to help ing these in Mexico, fund my studies but was Latter-day Saints learn job-search later dismissed from my skills that go far job. It turned out to be a beyond mere searches of news- real blessing. I visited the paper and online employment center the job listings. Below: To nd next day and an employ- LDS Employment ment adviser helped me Resource Centers visit providentliving create a plan of action. .org and click on The Career Workshop “Find Jobs and Other Opportunities” and taught me how to make then select “Find contacts and network an Employment Resource Center.” effectively. The very Career workshops week after I nished The taught at these centers help those Career Workshop courses, members wanting I secured an interview to change or begin careers. with an international company. With the help of my Heavenly Father and the techniques I learned in the workshops, I was able to respond to the employer’s questions in a satisfactory manner and was offered the job. My new salary is now four times greater than my previous salary. I am able to provide a much better life for my family and serve more faithfully in my church callings.” Marcos Elias Lima, Brazil

61 Career workshops, like this one in Salt Lake City, teach how to search for jobs, how to network, and how to present oneself in interviews, providing essential skills as well as hope. PHOTOGRAPHS BY WELDEN C. ANDERSEN; PHOTOGRAPH OF FLYERS AND WORKSHOP BY STEVE BUNDERSON; AND WORKSHOP BY STEVE BUNDERSON; PHOTOGRAPHS BY WELDEN C. ANDERSEN; PHOTOGRAPH OF FLYERS CAINE CAINE PROVIDED BY PAMELA AND PAMELA PHOTOGRAPH OF LASONJA LYMAN

statements that relay talents, completed a strategic job skills, and experience with search, created multiple con dence. Participants also résumés tailored to highlight learn about résumé writing, LaSonja’s various skills, and interviewing techniques, career prepared her for job inter- planning, and even salary and views. “I had always worked bene t negotiation. in order to pay the bills, but LaSonja’s life changed for LDS employment services the better when she partici- taught me to search for pated in the Career Workshop employment opportunities offered at The Chicago Illinois Above: LaSonja Lyman (left) was greatly blessed that used my talents and when her friend Pam Caine pointed her toward LDS LDS Employment Resource Employment Resource Services. interests. When I later got Center. Her journey there began with two eight-year-old a job that I enjoyed, girls. When LaSonja’s daughter Tatiana attended school I found I was happier, more con dent, and a better in their new neighborhood for the rst time, she told her mother at home with my children,” she recalls. teacher that her mom would need help babysitting while It only took LaSonja a matter of days she was at the hospital with their new baby. Emily, a to secure a job in a medical of ce Church-member classmate, asked her mother, Pam, if they that brought her great satisfaction could help. It wasn’t long before Pam and LaSonja became in addition to providing for her close friends and LaSonja learned about the Church’s family. “I am so thankful to Pam Employment Resource Services. for being a wonderful friend,” In The Career Workshop, LaSonja received career LaSonja says. “Because of her kind- coaching from employment advisers Elder and Sister ness in my time of need, I was intro- Lewis, who helped her identify her talents, interests, duced to LDS Employment Resource employment needs, and career goals. Together they Services. Her kindness has changed my

62 Right, top and “Thank you for letting center: At centers like this one in Mexico, me attend The Career members can: Workshop. I learned •Consult current lists of available job many things which openings. helped me secure a good •Use available equipment like job. Before the workshop computers and fax I only received a few job machines for such tasks as researching offers for which I was and applying for overquali ed, offering jobs online, sending application forms, very little salary. I took and printing résumés. The Career Workshop Below: Resource materials like these are courses and my con - available not only at dence grew. I was able the LDS Employment Resource Centers but to secure an interview also at ldsjobs.org or for a wonderful job. providentliving.org. The one who interviewed me was so impressed. I was offered a generous salary with opportuni- ties for promotions in the future. This program is inspired. I pray that many will make use of this opportunity and reach greater heights.” Jaya Prakash Jala, India

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Above: Participants receive coaching suited to their individual needs.

Self-Employment In her small kitchen, the wife prepared delicious samo- The Self-Employment Workshop is a series of courses sas and mandazis, local dishes which they sold outside a designed to help individuals formulate ideas and transform nearby office building for the morning meal. Their baskets those ideas into successful businesses both large and small. were soon emptied and the morning’s earnings were used The courses can even help those with established busi- to purchase ingredients for the noonday meal. nesses to enhance their business by developing a business Before long, their business flourished and became so plan. The workshop is divided into four courses: business popular they were able to obtain a contract to provide ideas, market analysis, market strategies, and financial meals for employees at a large office building. They were analysis. And the principles can be applied anywhere. slowly able to save enough to purchase a refrigerator, In Nairobi, Kenya, one couple had long struggled to food-warming table, and other equipment to improve their find stable employment. The challenge to provide the business. The couple now find great satisfaction in being necessities of life for their children was wearing on them able to provide for their family. With the increased profits both. There seemed to be nowhere to turn, as most of and demands, they have since been able to hire others to their friends and families found themselves in the same help them, creating employment opportunities for others predicament. in their ward. A recent convert to the Church, the husband learned about the free employment services available at the LDS It Works employment center in Nairobi while he was at Church one In 2007, LDS Employment Resource Centers provided Sunday. He visited the center the following Monday. After services to help more than 225,000 people through career attending several career and small-business workshops training, education, improved employment, and self- over the next few weeks, he felt confident he could be employment training. But more than improved employ- successful as an entrepreneur marketing his wife’s cook- ment, LDS Employment Resource Services has helped to ing. With the assistance of an employment specialist, they restore hope, peace, and confidence to individuals and completed a detailed business plan and went to work. families in over 50 countries. “For some, a new job brings

64 “I took the self-employ- ment and small business workshops which helped me to improve my busi- ness. I learned about micro-credit and small loan opportunities and was able to buy equip- ment that helped me add another line of products to my business. Now I am able to better man- age my expenditures, earnings, and produc- tion. I have also learned how to better price my products. Because of these workshops my business is beginning to grow and progress anew. My life isn’t the same. I restore hope, peace, feel important, success- and con dence to ful, and my family also individuals and fami- feels more con dent.” Miriam Estela de Santis lies in over 50 coun- Agazzani, Argentina tries. “For some, a new job brings increased “I am happy to nd self-con dence and that I am still employ- direction that has a able despite my age, far-reaching impact on marital status, and an entire family. We are large gap in employ- truly involved in chang- ment history. The Career ing people’s lives,” says Workshop taught me Gloria Purcell, manager how to handle inter- of the Orlando Florida viewers’ questions LDS Employment Resource about my background Center. disadvantages. I just To learn about volunteer passed a whole day of opportunities at an employ- interview screening ment resource center, contact or and I’m hired! I was visit the center nearest you. To Top: Volunteer couples at LDS Employment even able to negotiate Resource Centers make a signi cant contribution to serve in an employment resource the well-being of others. Sundays off.” Above: New resource materials are available for Arlene Daclan Regalado center as a full- or part-time Church-service Dosdos, Philippines those hoping to start or improve their own small missionary, speak to your bishop or branch business. Contact your local employment center for president. ◼ more information.

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numbers, and colors, so we started TV ACTIVITIES going on “shape searches,” “letter DEALING WITH t’s so easy to let the television be the hunts,” and so forth. To enhance CHRONIC babysitter. When I became pregnant our interest activities, I made a few ILLNESS I with my second child, I didn’t have sensible purchases and checked out the energy to keep up with my toddler. items from the public library. iving with a chronic illness can But I worried that excessive viewing I also made a list of shows that take a toll on the one suffering time might affect his overall develop- bene ted my son; that way I could L and on those who help to care ment. So I developed a plan that can limit his overall TV time to worth- for that person, including the spouse work for children of all ages. while programs. or other family member. As someone First I started to actively watch tele- As f or parents, it’s ever important who has suffered from a chronic vision programs with my son. I noted to be a good example. I try to spend illness for many years, I would like which things genuinely interested what little free time I have produc- to share some insights that have him and which things simply kept his tively, enjoying physical activities, helped me to manage. attention. I then made a list of activi- reading, or learning a new skill. If my Listen to your body. Be aware ties we could do that centered on his children watch anything, I’d rather of changes in how you are feeling. interests. He loved shapes, letters, have them watch Mom. Keep records of how you respond to Alyssa Jensen, Utah a change in activity or medication. Be sure to take your medicine as directed by the doctor, and consult with him or her if adjustments are needed. Pay attention to your diet (including vita- min intake), and get enough rest and exercise (when possible). Find support. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from family or friends. Seek priesthood bless- ings when needed. You might also bene t from attending a support group. See if there’s one in your community or through a hospi- tal. If none is available locally, you may nd support through an online chat group. Carefully select groups with monitored discussions or enforced rules that govern con- structive content. Of course, you’ll want to avoid sharing any informa- tion that might identify you and where you live.

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or “Joseph Smith Prays in took turns drawing paper the Sacred Grove.” I also slips from the containers. included family stories We would sing the songs, like “Daddy’s First Day read or tell the stories, and Build your spiritual strength. on His Mission.” Finally play the games that were Read the scriptures, pray regularly, I filled a third container listed on the slip. serve others, and attend the temple with a variety of children’s We had a well-estab- As Easy as 1-2-3 when you are able. If you prayerfully game ideas: “Duck, Duck, lished pattern for holding hen my children Goose” and “Mother, consistent family home consider your situation, you’ll find that Wwere younger, I May I?” Then on Monday evenings. Having our three everyone has opportunities to serve— made a list of their favor- nights after opening containers on hand made even from a bed. Focus on what you ite Primary songs, as well prayer, our children preparation hassle free. still have and what you can do. as new ones I wanted Lorraine Windsor, Texas to teach them. I cut the Research the most current list into strips and information about your illness. placed the strips in Knowledge is power. Becoming your a container. I filled own expert will help you to better another container communicate with your physician. with titles of Accredited publications and reliable stories from Internet sources, such as material the scriptures such as “Nephi posted from a university, can help Breaks His Bow” you to stay educated about your particular situation. Overcome guilt. Some individu- insert and remove as needed. I begin preserving our family’s heritage. It’s a als might believe they did something with a table of contents, followed by great way for my children to remem- wrong to cause the illness. These a pedigree chart that starts with my ber family members who live far thoughts come from the adversary. parents and goes back two genera- away. Though this project may seem Consider the source, and try to focus tions. Next is a page that explains the daunting at first, you can do it a page instead on what the Savior would meanings and origins of our family or two at a time. Then use it and have you think and do. names. Then I designate a page for share it, but don’t shelve it. Name Withheld each paternal and maternal great- Kelly Toth, New Hampshire grandparent, ending with current fam- Do you have ideas for Random Sampler? Our Family ily members, and I update the pages We invite you to send short (less than when new photos are available. I also 500-word) articles on any of these topics related to practical gospel living: Picture Book tuck in a few blank pages for future • Teaching ideas for home or church, crapbooks shouldn’t just sit on spouses and children, knowing that I especially for family home evening a shelf collecting dust. You can can always insert more as needed. • Personal or family financial Suse them to stay connected Each person’s page contains a management tips with extended family or learn about photo, vital statistics, favorite scripture, • General health and physical fitness tips your ancestors. and favorite dessert. Before each mar- • Home production and storage ideas Since the albums are going to be ried child’s picture, I place a pedigree • Gospel-related holiday traditions that handled a lot, I recommend using a chart of the child’s immediate family. build testimony. convenient size, such as 6 inches by 8 I also share the meanings of maiden Please see the “Do You Have a Story to Tell?” box on p. 2 for submission inches. They should have clear, archi- names or husbands’ last names. instructions.

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for the living and also perform these same ordinances for the redemption QUALIFY FOR AND PARTAKE for the dead. It is for this reason we OF TEMPLE WORSHIP are instructed in the scriptures to build temples and prepare our lives to be Teach these scriptures (“Come to the House of the Lord,” worthy to partake of the sacred temple and quotations or, Ensign, May 1992, 15). ordinances and covenants. . . . if needed, another principle that will bless What Are the Blessings of Qualifying the sisters you visit. Bear testimony of the for and Partaking of Temple doctrine. Invite those you visit to share Worship? what they have felt and learned. D&C 110:7 : “I will manifest myself to my people in mercy in this house.” How Can I Prepare for Temple President Howard W. Hunter Worship? (1907–95): “Let us hasten to the temple Silvia H. Allred, rst counselor in as frequently as time and means and the Relief Society general presidency: personal circumstances allow. Let us “The temple is the house of the Lord. go not only for our kindred dead, but He directs the conditions under let us also go for the personal bless- “The primary purpose of the temple which it may be used, the ordinances ing of temple worship, for the sanctity is to provide the ordinances neces- that should be administered, and the and safety which is provided within sary for our exaltation in the celestial standards that qualify us to enter. . . . those hallowed and consecrated walls. kingdom. Temple ordinances guide us Personal worthiness is an essential The temple is a place of beauty, it is to our Savior and give us the blessings requirement to enjoy the blessings of a place of revelation, it is a place of that come to us through the Atonement the temple. We prepare by obeying peace” (“The Great Symbol of Our of Jesus Christ” (“Temple Blessings,” in the commandments and seeking to Membership,” Tambuli, Nov. 1994, 6; Brigham Young University 2005–2006 do God’s will” (“Holy Temples, Sacred Ensign, Oct. 1994, 5). Speeches [2006], 1, 4). Covenants,” Liahona and Ensign, D&C 38:32 : “I will give unto you my President Gordon B. Hinckley Nov. 2008, 113). law; and there you shall be endowed (1910–2008): “Every man or woman Elder David B. Haight (1906– with power from on high” (see also who goes to the temple in a spirit of

2004) of the Quorum of the Twelve D&C 95:8 ). sincerity and faith leaves the house of Apostles: “We who would attend the Elder Robert D. Hales of the the Lord a better man or woman. There temple must be living in a manner Quorum of the Twelve Apostles: is need for constant improvement in which helps us be worthy to enter “The temple endowment blessings all of our lives. There is need occasion- and fully partake. . . . We examine are as essential for each of us as was ally to leave the noise and the tumult our worthiness to enter the temple our baptism. For this reason we are to of the world and step within the walls in . . . interviews with priesthood prepare ourselves that we may be clean of a sacred house of God, there to feel leaders. Our signature, with theirs, on to enter into the temple of God. Temple His spirit in an environment of holiness our temple recommend testi es of work is an opportunity to perform our and peace” (“Of Missions, Temples, and our worthiness to enter the temple” personal endowments and covenants Stewardship,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 53). ◼ PHOTOGRAPH OF MÉRIDA MEXICO TEMPLE BY MARCOS GONZALEZ. 68 LATTER-DAY SAINT VOICES

CHARITY FILLED would feel better, but she couldn’t understand, what we had read about because she felt so bad. charity. OUR HEARTS When she told me how sorry she After I had nished, both girls By Fiona Maile felt for her part in our quarrel and turned to me with big eyes and then said I was not to blame, oh, what expressed a desire to be lled with y daughters, ages 8 and shame I felt. We talked a while and this great love spoken of in the 10, seemed to be growing then turned to the scrip- scriptures. We then M farther and farther apart. As tures, where I read to her e embraced knelt and, as Mormon their mother, I ached inside to see the about charity, “the pure and expressed counseled, humbly bickering between them and the mean love of Christ” ( Moroni Wour love for asked the Father to looks they often directed at each other. 7:47 ), and shared some each other. At that ll us with this love During this time I was praying of the things I had moment I saw an (see Moroni 7:48 ). earnestly to the Lord to help me with learned. At that point her eternal sisterhood Touched by the my own weaknesses. I prayed that He younger sister looked and friendship begin Spirit, we could not would help me learn what I needed in the room, and we to bloom between my help but weep. We to learn about charity, and I was led to invited her to join us. I daughters. rose from our knees, some beautiful passages of scripture. then explained, in words embraced, and One night things came to a an eight-year-old could expressed our love head with my daughters. I lost my for each other. At that temper and, after ranting and raving moment I saw an at them, stormed outside to cool eternal sisterhood and down and think. After a few friendship begin to bloom between minutes, the Spirit began to my daughters, and I was comforted. soften my heart, prompting Their relationship has continued to me to go inside and apolo- grow since then. They have a greater gize to my eldest daughter, desire to work out their differ- who had caught the worst ences, show more patience, of my temper. and share their belongings. As I entered her I am grateful for their righ- bedroom, I saw my teous desires and efforts. 10-year-old daughter I will always kneeling beside her treasure that experi- bed, weeping. She ence, and I pray looked up at me that there will be with tears in her more like it as eyes and said, “I we continue to don’t know what to strengthen the do.” She told me she bonds of charity wanted to pray and read and love in our

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OUR LITTLE PIECE OF HEAVEN Paulo, Brazil, to serve a mission. While serving, I saw many broken By Roseli de Oliveira Ribeiro homes, but as I studied my patriar- chal blessing, I found the solution fter we were baptized in 1992, In 1995 I decided to receive my for those homes: family home eve- my family did everything patriarchal blessing to learn more ning. Through teaching people A together, including attending of what the Lord expected of me about family home evening, I saw Sunday meetings, Church conferences, and to receive strength. My blessing families strengthened, couples rec- and other activities. But time passed, contained the following promise: onciled, and siblings united. In short, things changed, and I eventually through fasting, prayer, and fam- I saw homes transformed into little found myself alone at church—the ily home evening, I would have my pieces of heaven. rest of my family having become less family “in the gospel.” I constantly “If this can happen to families in active. Thereafter, whenever I heard prayed and fasted for my family, but my mission,” I wondered, “why not someone in church teach about eter- I didn’t follow the counsel to hold to my own family?” nal families, my heart ached and family home evening. After my mission I was determined a profound sadness overcame me. I eventually left my home in São to hold family home evening with my family. At rst, all participated grudg- ingly, and I had trouble nishing my lessons as planned. But I knew the Lord wouldn’t counsel me to do something that wouldn’t be a bless- ing, so I didn’t give up. Eventually, the promise in my patriarchal bless- ing was ful lled. If I didn’t hold family home eve- ning, I heard about it. Family mem- bers all participated with opinions, ideas, and counsel, and they listened attentively to the message. Even though we were older then, when f families I game time came, we had a party! taught on my As a result, members of my family mission could once again began obeying command- I ments they had ignored, and they be strengthened by family home eve- became more active in the Church. ning, why not my I can truly say that my home was own family? transformed into a little bit of heaven, thanks to an inspired program t